1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:04,640 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:04,640 --> 00:00:09,900 We have a very special guest today and she's going to talk to us about confidence and she 3 00:00:09,900 --> 00:00:11,440 radiates it. 4 00:00:11,440 --> 00:00:17,100 How she built it, how she continues to work on that skill of keeping it, creating it, 5 00:00:17,100 --> 00:00:20,040 and then putting it out there for everybody else. 6 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:22,040 And I'm really excited about this. 7 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:23,040 Me too. 8 00:00:23,040 --> 00:00:24,040 I can't wait. 9 00:00:24,040 --> 00:00:31,040 I'm Victoria. 10 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:35,040 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 11 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:42,880 So our guest today is a boss babe in every sense of the word and she has worn many hats 12 00:00:42,880 --> 00:00:44,000 over the years. 13 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,400 She was a long-term care nurse. 14 00:00:46,400 --> 00:00:47,400 She's a school teacher. 15 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:49,720 She volunteered at her children's school. 16 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,980 She's a boy mom and fitness instructor. 17 00:00:52,980 --> 00:00:59,360 She's body by Jacqueline and she teaches at Seafit, which we are so grateful for. 18 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:04,120 And she's here to fill us in on how we can all soak up the confidence that she radiates 19 00:01:04,120 --> 00:01:05,120 every day. 20 00:01:05,120 --> 00:01:07,120 Welcome, Jacqueline McDuffet. 21 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:10,840 Thank you for having me. 22 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,520 Why don't you tell everybody your name? 23 00:01:13,520 --> 00:01:15,120 Hey guys, I'm Jacqueline. 24 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:17,320 Oh my God, that was good. 25 00:01:17,320 --> 00:01:20,200 That was really good. 26 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:21,200 Did I do it? 27 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:22,200 She even did like a little. 28 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:23,200 A little shimmy. 29 00:01:23,200 --> 00:01:24,200 A little shimmy. 30 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:25,200 I bowled over laughing. 31 00:01:25,200 --> 00:01:26,200 I missed it. 32 00:01:26,200 --> 00:01:28,480 I missed it. 33 00:01:28,480 --> 00:01:30,640 We are very excited to have Jacqueline on. 34 00:01:30,640 --> 00:01:32,280 She teaches for us at Seafit. 35 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:36,880 We met her, you, almost two years ago. 36 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:38,840 It'll be two years in August. 37 00:01:38,840 --> 00:01:39,840 Tell them how, Carly. 38 00:01:39,840 --> 00:01:41,720 I'm going to tell you. 39 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:42,720 Guess what? 40 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:48,640 I slid into her DMs and I responded. 41 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:49,880 Here's a really fun story. 42 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:51,840 So I've never done this before. 43 00:01:51,840 --> 00:01:55,520 I didn't actually know it was a thing like sliding into somebody's DMs. 44 00:01:55,520 --> 00:01:57,000 How did you not know? 45 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,360 I've never slid into somebody's DMs before. 46 00:01:59,360 --> 00:02:01,360 But did you know the friend? 47 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:02,360 She's married. 48 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:04,960 Yeah, I just was like, how? 49 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:08,280 Well, first of all, we go to the same pool. 50 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:09,280 So we go to the same pool. 51 00:02:09,280 --> 00:02:10,720 I would see her every day. 52 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:12,720 Would I talk to her? 53 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:13,720 No. 54 00:02:13,720 --> 00:02:17,000 She'd be like, that Rolf Bickrals at the pool. 55 00:02:17,000 --> 00:02:19,240 I would text Victoria to see you from across the pool. 56 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,240 I can tell you what bathing suit you were wearing. 57 00:02:21,240 --> 00:02:22,800 I was wearing a neon green. 58 00:02:22,800 --> 00:02:24,120 Oh, that bathing suit. 59 00:02:24,120 --> 00:02:25,120 Everybody loves that one. 60 00:02:25,120 --> 00:02:26,120 Yeah. 61 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:29,560 Well, she was wearing a neon green bathing suit and I'm texting Victoria going, she's 62 00:02:29,560 --> 00:02:30,560 here. 63 00:02:30,560 --> 00:02:31,720 The girl that I want to teach for us is here. 64 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:33,360 I follow her on Instagram. 65 00:02:33,360 --> 00:02:34,360 She's really good. 66 00:02:34,360 --> 00:02:37,720 She teaches dance fitness and Victoria's like, talk to her. 67 00:02:37,720 --> 00:02:38,720 I was like, yeah. 68 00:02:38,720 --> 00:02:39,720 No. 69 00:02:39,720 --> 00:02:41,120 Like go up to her. 70 00:02:41,120 --> 00:02:42,360 No, never. 71 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:44,480 So guess what I found, Jacqueline? 72 00:02:44,480 --> 00:02:47,480 I found the DM. 73 00:02:47,480 --> 00:02:48,480 She's scrolled. 74 00:02:48,480 --> 00:02:49,480 Are you going to read it? 75 00:02:49,480 --> 00:02:50,480 I did. 76 00:02:50,480 --> 00:02:52,600 She says, hi, Jacqueline. 77 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:56,640 I know we don't know each other personally, but we have a lot of mutual friends and I 78 00:02:56,640 --> 00:02:58,400 feel like I do. 79 00:02:58,400 --> 00:02:59,400 Smiley face. 80 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,840 But like the colon and the parentheses. 81 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:03,840 Not even an emoji. 82 00:03:03,840 --> 00:03:04,840 No, no. 83 00:03:04,840 --> 00:03:06,280 I can't believe you responded to me. 84 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:08,080 And then I was like, can you teach for us? 85 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:11,960 And I said, if you're interested, we'd love to talk to you about a possible fitness teacher 86 00:03:11,960 --> 00:03:12,960 position. 87 00:03:12,960 --> 00:03:13,960 No pressure. 88 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:15,120 I know you have your own thing going. 89 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:16,120 Looks awesome. 90 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:17,120 Let us know. 91 00:03:17,120 --> 00:03:18,120 Is that funny? 92 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:19,120 And she responded. 93 00:03:19,120 --> 00:03:20,120 Why? 94 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:23,320 Even with the no pressure. 95 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:28,320 And she was just as nice in her response, but I was like, I can't possibly talk to her. 96 00:03:28,320 --> 00:03:29,760 You know why? 97 00:03:29,760 --> 00:03:35,320 Because she walks around the pool super confident and I was not super confident and I had a 98 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:36,320 fear of rejection. 99 00:03:36,320 --> 00:03:40,440 So I was like, well, I'll DM her because I was not confident enough to walk up to somebody 100 00:03:40,440 --> 00:03:42,680 else and be like, hey, you teach fitness. 101 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:43,680 You do what I do. 102 00:03:43,680 --> 00:03:44,680 I do what you do. 103 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:45,680 Let's talk. 104 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:46,680 Yeah. 105 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:51,520 I think the reaction would have been a little bit easier if it was through DM and seven person. 106 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:52,520 But right. 107 00:03:52,520 --> 00:03:55,160 But then what would have happened when you go to the pool and you're like, yo, neon bathing 108 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:58,520 says it's so I'm going to stay on this side of the pool. 109 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:01,240 If she had said no, thanks. 110 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:05,440 Well, look at us now. 111 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:06,440 And she did. 112 00:04:06,440 --> 00:04:11,200 She just, if you don't know Jacqueline, she exudes confidence. 113 00:04:11,200 --> 00:04:13,800 That's just who she is. 114 00:04:13,800 --> 00:04:19,200 But we're going to talk about that and how she got that, how she, is that actually how 115 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:24,480 you feel or is that like a thing that you put on because people want to know. 116 00:04:24,480 --> 00:04:25,640 Do they? 117 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:27,040 She's asking for a friend. 118 00:04:27,040 --> 00:04:28,040 A friend. 119 00:04:28,040 --> 00:04:30,040 You can't see me. 120 00:04:30,040 --> 00:04:32,960 But air quotes. 121 00:04:32,960 --> 00:04:37,600 But first, before we get to confidence, let's talk about you are not always a fitness teacher. 122 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:38,600 No, I was not. 123 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:40,000 What were you and why? 124 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:41,000 Okay. 125 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:42,000 Should I start from the beginning? 126 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:43,000 Yeah. 127 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:47,520 I went to college at Westchester University for nursing. 128 00:04:47,520 --> 00:04:48,520 Right. 129 00:04:48,520 --> 00:04:53,520 Third year of nursing school, I failed one class. 130 00:04:53,520 --> 00:04:54,520 What? 131 00:04:54,520 --> 00:04:55,520 Yeah. 132 00:04:55,520 --> 00:04:56,520 Not even a class. 133 00:04:56,520 --> 00:05:02,800 I failed a one test that was a large portion of my grade and ended up failing that class. 134 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:06,640 So I was like, I'm not meant to do this. 135 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:12,960 I changed my major to health science, did another year, finished my senior year. 136 00:05:12,960 --> 00:05:17,920 Finished my senior year, four months pregnant with my 12 year old. 137 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:18,920 Okay. 138 00:05:18,920 --> 00:05:23,120 So I graduated from Westchester, four months pregnant, not with a nursing degree like I 139 00:05:23,120 --> 00:05:26,320 had planned with a health science degree. 140 00:05:26,320 --> 00:05:35,520 So then I got a job throughout the summer, had my oldest son in November, middle of November 141 00:05:35,520 --> 00:05:40,440 of 2010, January 3rd of 2011. 142 00:05:40,440 --> 00:05:44,240 So I had a six week old, I decided to go back to nursing school. 143 00:05:44,240 --> 00:05:46,320 Oh my gosh. 144 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:48,720 So I had a six week old, went back to nursing school. 145 00:05:48,720 --> 00:05:53,240 I went to Delaware County because it was a three semester program for me because I had 146 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:56,160 already had so much background. 147 00:05:56,160 --> 00:05:57,320 Which is a community college. 148 00:05:57,320 --> 00:06:00,040 Yes, Delaware County Community College. 149 00:06:00,040 --> 00:06:04,480 And so then I graduated from Delaware County as a nurse. 150 00:06:04,480 --> 00:06:05,480 So I got there. 151 00:06:05,480 --> 00:06:07,240 It took a little while, but I got there. 152 00:06:07,240 --> 00:06:09,600 And how old was your son at that point? 153 00:06:09,600 --> 00:06:12,600 He was probably 18 months old. 154 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:13,600 Oh my gosh. 155 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:14,600 Yeah. 156 00:06:14,600 --> 00:06:15,600 I'm so impressed right now. 157 00:06:15,600 --> 00:06:16,600 I know. 158 00:06:16,600 --> 00:06:17,600 Actually I didn't notice. 159 00:06:17,600 --> 00:06:18,600 Yeah. 160 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:19,600 It was a lot. 161 00:06:19,600 --> 00:06:21,760 Sometimes I look back and I'm like, how did I do that? 162 00:06:21,760 --> 00:06:22,760 You just survived. 163 00:06:22,760 --> 00:06:24,640 But you just do it because you have to. 164 00:06:24,640 --> 00:06:27,680 And at that time I felt like that's what I needed to do. 165 00:06:27,680 --> 00:06:33,160 Because you were out of high school, you're deciding what you want to be as an adult. 166 00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,960 And I didn't want to derail my plans too much. 167 00:06:35,960 --> 00:06:37,720 So anyway, I finished. 168 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:48,040 I worked as a nurse for a while in long term care and some hospice, had my second son. 169 00:06:48,040 --> 00:06:55,240 And then by the end of my nursing career is when I was pulling into the parking lot to 170 00:06:55,240 --> 00:06:57,360 go to work and my stomach would just drop. 171 00:06:57,360 --> 00:06:58,800 I didn't want to be there. 172 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:01,200 Hated my job. 173 00:07:01,200 --> 00:07:04,360 Probably could have found something else nursing wise that I wanted to do. 174 00:07:04,360 --> 00:07:07,760 But I also really wanted to be home with my kids at the time. 175 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:11,480 And thankfully my husband had a good job and we were able to do it. 176 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:18,480 So I was like, why am I driving to a job that's making me physically ill, leaving my kids 177 00:07:18,480 --> 00:07:20,440 to go do that? 178 00:07:20,440 --> 00:07:26,680 So I eventually stopped working and was a stay at home mom for a very short period of time. 179 00:07:26,680 --> 00:07:29,920 So in all of that you got married and had another baby. 180 00:07:29,920 --> 00:07:30,920 Yes. 181 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:32,440 Got married, had another baby. 182 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:33,440 Wow. 183 00:07:33,440 --> 00:07:40,000 And then my second son, Mason, who's my younger son, was almost three when I stopped working. 184 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:41,720 Oh my gosh. 185 00:07:41,720 --> 00:07:43,760 You worked through the hard years. 186 00:07:43,760 --> 00:07:45,360 Like the formative. 187 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:46,360 Yes. 188 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:48,000 I'm your exhausted years. 189 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:49,000 Jacqueline. 190 00:07:49,000 --> 00:07:50,000 Yeah. 191 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:51,000 Kudos. 192 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:52,000 I know. 193 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:54,720 I can't even imagine because I know how you just don't sleep. 194 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:59,480 And I sometimes I think back to that time and I don't have a ton of memories about even 195 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:06,720 working I think because I tried to block them out because I really I was just going through 196 00:08:06,720 --> 00:08:08,200 the motions every day. 197 00:08:08,200 --> 00:08:11,320 Do you think you didn't like the type of nursing that you were in? 198 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,200 No, I just think that I didn't like nursing in general. 199 00:08:14,200 --> 00:08:16,200 Yeah, you thought you did maybe when you were younger. 200 00:08:16,200 --> 00:08:17,200 I mean, it's hard. 201 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:21,840 I have a strong stomach, blood, none of that bothered me. 202 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:26,680 Not even and this sounds terrible, but people dying didn't really bother me because you 203 00:08:26,680 --> 00:08:32,640 learn how to deal with it, but I just knew in the back of my mind that's not it wasn't 204 00:08:32,640 --> 00:08:35,080 what I wanted to do long for the rest of my life. 205 00:08:35,080 --> 00:08:36,080 Yeah. 206 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:37,080 Did you know what you want to do? 207 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:38,080 You just knew what you didn't want to do. 208 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:39,080 I knew what I didn't want to do. 209 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:40,080 Yeah. 210 00:08:40,080 --> 00:08:44,080 And at the time I was like, well, right now I can just be a mom. 211 00:08:44,080 --> 00:08:45,080 So that's what I did. 212 00:08:45,080 --> 00:08:46,080 Just. 213 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:47,080 Just. 214 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:48,080 Just. 215 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:49,080 It's exhausting. 216 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:51,800 I mean, she is the volunteer queen at school. 217 00:08:51,800 --> 00:08:54,760 She's she's at her kid's school 24 seven. 218 00:08:54,760 --> 00:08:56,640 I was actually there this morning. 219 00:08:56,640 --> 00:08:57,760 You were. 220 00:08:57,760 --> 00:09:04,200 So how long were you at home trying to figure out what it is your next step was? 221 00:09:04,200 --> 00:09:08,120 This is kind of where my I'll get into how I started in fitness because this is kind 222 00:09:08,120 --> 00:09:11,400 of where go for it that all came in. 223 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:13,680 So I was a stay at home mom. 224 00:09:13,680 --> 00:09:17,600 What before I used to go to the gym didn't have time to do that. 225 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:23,560 So I started working out at home with Beachbody workouts, which insanity P90X. 226 00:09:23,560 --> 00:09:27,000 I'm sure you have heard of something that they've done. 227 00:09:27,000 --> 00:09:35,840 So I was working out at home doing those programs and Beachbody has a coaching aspect. 228 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:40,800 So I was like, OK, chance to earn a little bit of income. 229 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:45,560 I decided to sign up to be a coach, but I'm literally the suckiest salesperson in the 230 00:09:45,560 --> 00:09:46,560 world. 231 00:09:46,560 --> 00:09:48,440 So so I was trying it. 232 00:09:48,440 --> 00:09:49,440 I was making money. 233 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:53,040 It was it was fine for what it was. 234 00:09:53,040 --> 00:09:54,600 That's where you have to get people. 235 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:55,600 Yes. 236 00:09:55,600 --> 00:09:57,800 Like for people to slide into each other's DM. 237 00:09:57,800 --> 00:09:59,480 I didn't do that. 238 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:04,920 I was more of kind of what influencers do now would just post about what I was doing. 239 00:10:04,920 --> 00:10:07,480 I wasn't cold messaging people. 240 00:10:07,480 --> 00:10:09,360 I wasn't cold calling people. 241 00:10:09,360 --> 00:10:14,880 I was just sharing and then basically being like an accountability coach to people that 242 00:10:14,880 --> 00:10:17,400 were also doing Beachbody programs. 243 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:18,400 Gotcha. 244 00:10:18,400 --> 00:10:20,760 And like helping them stay on track. 245 00:10:20,760 --> 00:10:29,720 But then in 2019, so Beachbody had their at home workouts, but Beachbody also had a live 246 00:10:29,720 --> 00:10:31,080 component to it. 247 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:37,240 So you could get trained in some of their workout formats to then go teach. 248 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:39,520 Oh, in person. 249 00:10:39,520 --> 00:10:40,520 Enter insanity. 250 00:10:40,520 --> 00:10:41,520 Oh, yes. 251 00:10:41,520 --> 00:10:48,800 So I got certified to teach insanity in 2019, which is the crappiest timing. 252 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:49,800 I know. 253 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:54,320 I got certified in October of 2019. 254 00:10:54,320 --> 00:11:00,440 And from there, the first time I ever taught that class, I was like, this is where I need 255 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:01,440 to be. 256 00:11:01,440 --> 00:11:05,360 I want to be the one leading. 257 00:11:05,360 --> 00:11:13,000 So while I technically am still part of Beachbody because of that background, I shifted my entire 258 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:19,280 fitness regime and moved into teaching instead of just coaching. 259 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:20,280 Right. 260 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:22,560 So insanity is like hit. 261 00:11:22,560 --> 00:11:23,560 Yes. 262 00:11:23,560 --> 00:11:24,560 Right. 263 00:11:24,560 --> 00:11:25,920 And you also teach dance fitness. 264 00:11:25,920 --> 00:11:27,280 I teach dance fitness. 265 00:11:27,280 --> 00:11:29,080 Which word did that come into play? 266 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:33,840 So after I got certified in insanity, that was October of 2019. 267 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:38,800 Then of course, March of 2020, everything went to crap. 268 00:11:38,800 --> 00:11:44,200 And my short stint of teaching in person went away. 269 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:46,560 So I was like, now what do I do? 270 00:11:46,560 --> 00:11:52,120 So then I just started to get certified and other things and started teaching virtually 271 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:54,120 April of 2020. 272 00:11:54,120 --> 00:12:00,680 And then I had heard about, I don't even know how I found out about this, but I heard about 273 00:12:00,680 --> 00:12:03,760 getting certified in turn up. 274 00:12:03,760 --> 00:12:07,600 And it might have been, it was a full year later. 275 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:11,760 So February of 2021, I went through that process. 276 00:12:11,760 --> 00:12:15,560 My God, you did all of this during COVID. 277 00:12:15,560 --> 00:12:16,640 Yeah. 278 00:12:16,640 --> 00:12:24,320 Because I was basically trying to keep momentum in my business of just myself, but keep myself 279 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:28,640 relevant as a fitness instructor at a time where it was super hard to do, especially 280 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:30,000 because I had just started. 281 00:12:30,000 --> 00:12:37,880 But also super great for you because she taught virtually when everybody was teaching 282 00:12:37,880 --> 00:12:38,880 virtually. 283 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:44,680 So you may not have gotten the amount of people that you have now if it weren't for COVID. 284 00:12:44,680 --> 00:12:47,120 So it wasn't all bad for you, I feel. 285 00:12:47,120 --> 00:12:48,120 And I'm still doing it. 286 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:49,120 And she's still doing it. 287 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:51,560 Still doing it virtually because they like it. 288 00:12:51,560 --> 00:12:54,760 Well, you made your basement like a whole home gym, right? 289 00:12:54,760 --> 00:12:55,760 Yeah. 290 00:12:55,760 --> 00:12:56,760 Yeah. 291 00:12:56,760 --> 00:12:59,280 It looks pretty awesome if you go to her Instagram and check it out. 292 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:01,480 The neon lights and a neon bathing suit. 293 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:02,480 There's a theme. 294 00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:03,480 There's a theme. 295 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:06,200 A very bright person. 296 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:09,400 So to teach dance fitness too though, you grew up dancing. 297 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:10,400 I did. 298 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:13,960 I have 25 plus years of dance experience. 299 00:13:13,960 --> 00:13:16,880 To be a good dance fitness instructor, I feel like you have to be. 300 00:13:16,880 --> 00:13:18,520 You have to have a dance background. 301 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:19,520 I agree. 302 00:13:19,520 --> 00:13:20,520 I think it's hard. 303 00:13:20,520 --> 00:13:25,760 I almost bite my tongue when people are like, anybody can do it. 304 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:29,800 And I don't mean I don't want to put anybody down if that's what you want to do great, 305 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:33,400 but you're going to have to work really hard. 306 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:35,800 I don't think anybody can do it. 307 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,080 I think 25 years of dance experience sets you up pretty well. 308 00:13:39,080 --> 00:13:40,080 Right. 309 00:13:40,080 --> 00:13:41,080 So I 100% agree. 310 00:13:41,080 --> 00:13:45,800 I think that we have noticed, as I've told you before, we have gone through a lot of 311 00:13:45,800 --> 00:13:50,560 teachers and we tend to gravitate towards the ones that have been dancers their whole 312 00:13:50,560 --> 00:13:57,840 lives because it's very hard to queue and count and smile and motivate and I'm a sock. 313 00:13:57,840 --> 00:13:58,840 And talk. 314 00:13:58,840 --> 00:13:59,840 Yeah. 315 00:13:59,840 --> 00:14:01,720 I don't motivate people and I've been doing it my whole life. 316 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:02,720 We know. 317 00:14:02,720 --> 00:14:04,920 And remember what you're doing in the process. 318 00:14:04,920 --> 00:14:05,920 What comes next? 319 00:14:05,920 --> 00:14:06,920 Yeah. 320 00:14:06,920 --> 00:14:07,920 Yeah. 321 00:14:07,920 --> 00:14:11,720 It's all very hard, but you you made it work for you during COVID. 322 00:14:11,720 --> 00:14:12,720 It's still working. 323 00:14:12,720 --> 00:14:14,160 Body by Jacqueline is what she does. 324 00:14:14,160 --> 00:14:15,160 You can check it out. 325 00:14:15,160 --> 00:14:16,160 Yeah. 326 00:14:16,160 --> 00:14:18,640 And then you still do it every day today. 327 00:14:18,640 --> 00:14:19,640 Monday, Wednesday, Friday. 328 00:14:19,640 --> 00:14:20,640 Yeah. 329 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:21,640 Then you slid into her DMs. 330 00:14:21,640 --> 00:14:22,640 She did. 331 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:25,480 And she's been a see fit instructor ever since. 332 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:29,960 I can't tell you how nervous I was when you first came. 333 00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:32,600 I was like, oh my God, she's so good. 334 00:14:32,600 --> 00:14:34,360 I don't know. 335 00:14:34,360 --> 00:14:35,360 What is she going to like us? 336 00:14:35,360 --> 00:14:36,560 Is she going to like our styles? 337 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:38,120 The feelings were mutual. 338 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:41,040 She was like going on a first date. 339 00:14:41,040 --> 00:14:42,680 I was like, what are you doing? 340 00:14:42,680 --> 00:14:44,240 I was so nervous. 341 00:14:44,240 --> 00:14:45,600 You don't show it. 342 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:46,600 You don't. 343 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:47,840 You pull it off really well. 344 00:14:47,840 --> 00:14:48,840 You do. 345 00:14:48,840 --> 00:14:52,640 I was nervous, but literally after the first day, I was like, oh, these girls are awesome. 346 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:53,880 I don't know why I was nervous. 347 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:58,160 And it just it has felt like home since then. 348 00:14:58,160 --> 00:15:01,480 But I mean, it's like going into any new job. 349 00:15:01,480 --> 00:15:03,800 You're going to feel a little nervous. 350 00:15:03,800 --> 00:15:04,800 Yeah. 351 00:15:04,800 --> 00:15:05,800 Despite how confident you are. 352 00:15:05,800 --> 00:15:08,120 Well, let's let's talk about that. 353 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:10,160 How do you get the chill vibes? 354 00:15:10,160 --> 00:15:11,520 Have you always had that? 355 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:13,800 Is that the person you've always been? 356 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:14,800 No, no. 357 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:19,600 I don't think that a lot of people are going to like this answer. 358 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:20,600 Great. 359 00:15:20,600 --> 00:15:21,800 Fake it till you make it. 360 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:22,800 Yeah. 361 00:15:22,800 --> 00:15:23,800 Yeah. 362 00:15:23,800 --> 00:15:31,160 I like Carly said you wouldn't know that I'm feeling nervous because I'm faking it. 363 00:15:31,160 --> 00:15:32,720 I'm not anymore. 364 00:15:32,720 --> 00:15:37,640 In the beginning, I was definitely faking the confidence because I was new to all of 365 00:15:37,640 --> 00:15:43,960 this, but you don't want people, even though if you look at paper on paper, I'm new, but 366 00:15:43,960 --> 00:15:47,320 you don't want people to know it by taking your class. 367 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:48,320 Right. 368 00:15:48,320 --> 00:15:49,320 Of course. 369 00:15:49,320 --> 00:15:52,720 I would show up and in my head, I'm like, nobody knows if I mess up. 370 00:15:52,720 --> 00:15:55,640 Nobody knows if I was supposed to do that or not. 371 00:15:55,640 --> 00:15:59,840 Nobody except for you guys because you also do what I do. 372 00:15:59,840 --> 00:16:01,960 Nobody knows how it's supposed to happen. 373 00:16:01,960 --> 00:16:02,960 Really? 374 00:16:02,960 --> 00:16:05,520 I would just go in like, well, nobody knows. 375 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:07,720 I'm just going to do it. 376 00:16:07,720 --> 00:16:13,000 After now two and a half years of that, I'm not nervous. 377 00:16:13,000 --> 00:16:15,200 You're not nervous at all anymore. 378 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:19,160 I also put myself in uncomfortable situations a lot. 379 00:16:19,160 --> 00:16:20,160 On purpose? 380 00:16:20,160 --> 00:16:21,160 On purpose. 381 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:22,160 What? 382 00:16:22,160 --> 00:16:23,160 Yeah. 383 00:16:23,160 --> 00:16:27,080 Things that I a couple of years ago would absolutely say no to. 384 00:16:27,080 --> 00:16:28,080 I do it. 385 00:16:28,080 --> 00:16:31,520 A lot of times it's by myself. 386 00:16:31,520 --> 00:16:36,960 It might be going to do fitness, something fitness related, which I am comfortable with, 387 00:16:36,960 --> 00:16:42,280 but going to do it by myself somewhere else with a group of people that I don't know at 388 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:43,280 all. 389 00:16:43,280 --> 00:16:44,280 Yeah. 390 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:48,880 So that is really good advice because we're completely opposite. 391 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:54,280 So I would do something new and make her come with me, Victoria, come with me because I 392 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:56,160 can't go by myself. 393 00:16:56,160 --> 00:16:57,160 Right. 394 00:16:57,160 --> 00:16:58,160 The first time. 395 00:16:58,160 --> 00:16:59,160 Right. 396 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:04,440 I would never put myself in an uncomfortable situation without making her just as uncomfortable. 397 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:05,440 Right. 398 00:17:05,440 --> 00:17:06,760 And a couple of years ago, I wouldn't either. 399 00:17:06,760 --> 00:17:07,760 Yeah. 400 00:17:07,760 --> 00:17:09,480 But now I do it on purpose. 401 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:10,480 Yeah. 402 00:17:10,480 --> 00:17:11,480 It's like a tool. 403 00:17:11,480 --> 00:17:12,480 It is. 404 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:17,880 That's a skill that you build up over time and each new experience teaches you something 405 00:17:17,880 --> 00:17:21,520 different and then it doesn't necessarily get easier because all the experiences you 406 00:17:21,520 --> 00:17:22,520 do. 407 00:17:22,520 --> 00:17:24,360 I was just going to say, right, it never really gets easier. 408 00:17:24,360 --> 00:17:27,880 You just get used to feeling that way. 409 00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:28,880 Yeah. 410 00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:31,280 That is such a good... 411 00:17:31,280 --> 00:17:32,280 Listen up, everyone. 412 00:17:32,280 --> 00:17:38,080 It's such a good thing to kind of just keep in back of your mind, especially if you are 413 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:44,600 feeling, Carly, that you are not a confident person, which is kind of BS, to be honest 414 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:45,600 with you. 415 00:17:45,600 --> 00:17:46,600 No. 416 00:17:46,600 --> 00:17:47,600 Finish your sentence. 417 00:17:47,600 --> 00:17:49,000 Because you're confident in a lot of ways. 418 00:17:49,000 --> 00:17:54,520 It's really a new thing, like Jacqueline said, that it's out of your comfort zone. 419 00:17:54,520 --> 00:17:55,680 When I'm confident, you can tell. 420 00:17:55,680 --> 00:17:57,560 When I'm not, you can tell. 421 00:17:57,560 --> 00:18:06,960 I just at this point walk into a room and try and act like I own it. 422 00:18:06,960 --> 00:18:10,720 When I am putting myself in those uncomfortable situations, I'm just going to walk in like 423 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:15,760 I am not uncomfortable at all and I'm just going to go for it because nobody else really 424 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:23,560 knows or cares how you feel or what you look like in that situation or what you're doing. 425 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:25,600 Or they're in the same situation. 426 00:18:25,600 --> 00:18:26,600 They're feeling the same things. 427 00:18:26,600 --> 00:18:27,600 I know. 428 00:18:27,600 --> 00:18:28,600 Everyone's faking it. 429 00:18:28,600 --> 00:18:29,600 I know. 430 00:18:29,600 --> 00:18:30,600 Everyone's faking it till we make it. 431 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:31,600 I know. 432 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:33,640 I'm surprised you think people wouldn't like that answer. 433 00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:37,800 I love that answer because that's truly Jacqueline. 434 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:42,840 I think a lot of people that specifically take your class or want to know more about 435 00:18:42,840 --> 00:18:49,600 you would love to hear that, to be like, oh, she does have hard times and it's not as easy 436 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:50,600 as she makes it seem. 437 00:18:50,600 --> 00:18:55,080 Like maybe I could have that confidence too if I did X, Y, and Z. 438 00:18:55,080 --> 00:19:00,480 The amount of progress between when you started and where you are now with the people that 439 00:19:00,480 --> 00:19:04,520 come to your class, they're different people in that class. 440 00:19:04,520 --> 00:19:08,240 It started very maybe tepid of like what is happening? 441 00:19:08,240 --> 00:19:10,160 I don't know if I want to move my body like this. 442 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:11,160 I feel uncomfortable. 443 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:13,560 I'm talking about myself. 444 00:19:13,560 --> 00:19:16,240 And half of them are now taking their shirts off. 445 00:19:16,240 --> 00:19:17,240 Right. 446 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:18,840 And it's like because you do. 447 00:19:18,840 --> 00:19:21,640 Because they kept putting themselves in uncomfortable situations. 448 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:25,640 And then it gets more and more or less uncomfortable, but then what's cool about you is that you 449 00:19:25,640 --> 00:19:26,920 get to that uncomfortable. 450 00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:27,920 And I bring in a little bit more. 451 00:19:27,920 --> 00:19:30,600 And then you just add a little bit more. 452 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:34,400 That's how you build the confidence for yourself. 453 00:19:34,400 --> 00:19:35,400 Right. 454 00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:38,040 That's, Carly, are you taking notes? 455 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:39,040 Oh, nobody can see that. 456 00:19:39,040 --> 00:19:41,720 Nobody can see that you just faked writing on your palm. 457 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:43,640 I faked it and I will make it. 458 00:19:43,640 --> 00:19:45,360 I don't know about that. 459 00:19:45,360 --> 00:19:48,920 I'm one of them though because I know I've told you we've brought you up in a couple 460 00:19:48,920 --> 00:19:53,080 podcasts about confidence and blah, blah, blah. 461 00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:54,400 You know, we talk about blah, blah, blah. 462 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:56,000 I love a blah, blah, blah. 463 00:19:56,000 --> 00:19:59,960 I enjoy your class so much because it is so not me. 464 00:19:59,960 --> 00:20:05,160 I'm a dancer, but that's a different style of dance than what my body is used to. 465 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:10,080 But I love doing it and feeling the way that I do when I do it. 466 00:20:10,080 --> 00:20:12,200 And I don't look great doing it all the time. 467 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:14,840 I, you know, Victoria's taken a couple of all the time you do. 468 00:20:14,840 --> 00:20:17,200 Oh, I thought you were going to say all the time. 469 00:20:17,200 --> 00:20:20,320 You don't, you don't. 470 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:25,640 We sort of talked about this last night at class because we were parading around with 471 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:29,000 our middle fingers up and there were a lot of cursors, which I have the worst mouth 472 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:30,480 in the world in real life. 473 00:20:30,480 --> 00:20:38,800 So I'm not the best person to talk to about this, but I'm also outside of that room, that 474 00:20:38,800 --> 00:20:41,000 45 minute class. 475 00:20:41,000 --> 00:20:45,560 I'm not walking around like doing body rolls and like touching myself and yeah, I'm not 476 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,320 a very sexy person. 477 00:20:47,320 --> 00:20:48,480 That was my favorite last night. 478 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:51,440 She goes, feel your body. 479 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,600 And I was like, oh my God, I believe you. 480 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:55,600 Right. 481 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,600 Like I, there was nothing fake about it. 482 00:20:57,600 --> 00:20:59,000 It's totally. 483 00:20:59,000 --> 00:21:01,280 There is nothing fake about it in that moment. 484 00:21:01,280 --> 00:21:09,040 But I also think it's okay to then turn that off, go home and be the other version of you. 485 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:10,040 Right. 486 00:21:10,040 --> 00:21:12,560 But it's almost like what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. 487 00:21:12,560 --> 00:21:15,200 What happens in turn up class stays in turn up class. 488 00:21:15,200 --> 00:21:18,920 And you can still go to church on Sunday and be fine. 489 00:21:18,920 --> 00:21:19,920 Right. 490 00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:20,920 But that's balance. 491 00:21:20,920 --> 00:21:21,920 Exactly. 492 00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:22,920 That's what we brought up. 493 00:21:22,920 --> 00:21:28,840 I said, people want to hear the two sides of you and they are going to be shocked that 494 00:21:28,840 --> 00:21:31,640 you don't walk around like you teach turn up. 495 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:33,920 You are a very different person. 496 00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:38,800 No, I work at my kid's school in a kindergarten class. 497 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:43,960 She is a hallmark channel loving Sunday church going gal. 498 00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:44,960 That's me. 499 00:21:44,960 --> 00:21:45,960 Right. 500 00:21:45,960 --> 00:21:46,960 Right. 501 00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:48,560 Because that's also me. 502 00:21:48,560 --> 00:21:49,560 Right. 503 00:21:49,560 --> 00:21:53,800 And I think it's a good thing to make sure everybody knows you did not come out of the 504 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:58,120 womb like the badass that you are right now. 505 00:21:58,120 --> 00:21:59,120 It took work. 506 00:21:59,120 --> 00:22:00,560 It takes work. 507 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,440 Everybody needs to work on that kind of progress and confidence and some people just aren't 508 00:22:04,440 --> 00:22:05,440 born with it. 509 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:07,800 But it doesn't mean that you can't have it. 510 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,720 I mean, I feel like I've gotten more confidence in snowing you. 511 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:11,720 I would agree with that. 512 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:14,240 Actually, you in particular. 513 00:22:14,240 --> 00:22:18,160 Yeah, no, I definitely have because it's always been in there. 514 00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:19,240 Jacklyn. 515 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:23,560 But when I'm uncomfortable, I feel like I've gained some confidence this year knowing you 516 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:29,320 and being like, I think that what you're doing, but I don't do what you're doing. 517 00:22:29,320 --> 00:22:30,320 Right. 518 00:22:30,320 --> 00:22:32,600 But now I'm doing more and thinking a little bit less. 519 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:35,960 Guys, isn't it what you want me thinking less? 520 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:37,920 I'm just trying to follow everything you just said. 521 00:22:37,920 --> 00:22:38,920 It was so profound. 522 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:40,560 Yeah, there was so much in there. 523 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:45,160 I mean, like I think about doing some of the things that Jacqueline does, but I don't do 524 00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:46,160 them. 525 00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:51,160 Now, after knowing you're not going to action, right, I'm going to get you a WWE J.D. bracelet. 526 00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:52,160 What would Jacqueline do? 527 00:22:52,160 --> 00:22:53,160 Oh, my gosh. 528 00:22:53,160 --> 00:22:54,160 That is amazing. 529 00:22:54,160 --> 00:23:00,360 But now let me finish my sentence. 530 00:23:00,360 --> 00:23:04,880 Now after knowing her and seeing like she's doing it, why can't I do it? 531 00:23:04,880 --> 00:23:06,280 I don't know how to think about it anymore. 532 00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,200 I can do it too. 533 00:23:08,200 --> 00:23:13,080 I've been doing more things that make me feel maybe uncomfortable. 534 00:23:13,080 --> 00:23:14,080 Good. 535 00:23:14,080 --> 00:23:16,080 Do you understand now? 536 00:23:16,080 --> 00:23:18,080 Yeah, we got it the first time. 537 00:23:18,080 --> 00:23:19,080 Thank you. 538 00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,520 We understood. 539 00:23:21,520 --> 00:23:28,560 I also and I know weight isn't it does not make or break confidence at all. 540 00:23:28,560 --> 00:23:34,080 But I also at one point during all of this lost 22 pounds. 541 00:23:34,080 --> 00:23:35,080 Right. 542 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:42,400 I think it changed me in a good way because if you can't look in the mirror and be like, 543 00:23:42,400 --> 00:23:46,560 I love who that person is, nothing else matters. 544 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:47,560 Right. 545 00:23:47,560 --> 00:23:50,160 And if you will fake it forever, right? 546 00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:51,160 Forever. 547 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:52,160 You won't make it. 548 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:53,160 Yeah. 549 00:23:53,160 --> 00:23:56,760 And you made the changes in your lifestyle to be happy with yourself. 550 00:23:56,760 --> 00:23:57,760 Right. 551 00:23:57,760 --> 00:24:02,040 And hey, listen, you can be happy at yourself at any size and promote that all the time. 552 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:04,920 But if you're not happy, then you have to make a change. 553 00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,480 Yeah, I felt like shit all the time. 554 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:08,480 Yeah, all the time. 555 00:24:08,480 --> 00:24:11,000 My clothes didn't fit right. 556 00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:12,600 I just felt uncomfortable. 557 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,320 I was having health issues. 558 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:20,320 I swore I had a thyroid disorder, went to the doctor and they're like, no, you're fine. 559 00:24:20,320 --> 00:24:21,720 Oh my God, I tried to do that too. 560 00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:23,160 I was like, I can't lose weight. 561 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:24,400 I must have a thyroid problem. 562 00:24:24,400 --> 00:24:25,400 Right. 563 00:24:25,400 --> 00:24:27,080 I was trying to find other reasons. 564 00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:30,440 And then finally, I was like, get your crap together. 565 00:24:30,440 --> 00:24:31,840 This is on you. 566 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:33,440 Make the changes. 567 00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:34,440 So I did. 568 00:24:34,440 --> 00:24:35,440 It was not overnight. 569 00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:38,200 It was months and months and months. 570 00:24:38,200 --> 00:24:44,240 But I looked in the mirror and felt like I love that person because that person feels 571 00:24:44,240 --> 00:24:46,400 good inside and out. 572 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:48,040 It's more about the feeling. 573 00:24:48,040 --> 00:24:50,880 It had nothing to do with the number on the scale. 574 00:24:50,880 --> 00:24:51,880 Yeah. 575 00:24:51,880 --> 00:24:53,120 I mean, look at all three of us. 576 00:24:53,120 --> 00:24:55,640 We're all very fit people. 577 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:58,920 The number on the scale is not going to be the same for any one of us. 578 00:24:58,920 --> 00:24:59,920 Right. 579 00:24:59,920 --> 00:25:00,920 Everybody's different. 580 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:01,920 Yeah. 581 00:25:01,920 --> 00:25:02,920 So we all are fit. 582 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:03,920 Right. 583 00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:07,880 So I'm going to say, if you want to get that number, you should be real. 584 00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:10,560 We didn't even ask her to say that. 585 00:25:10,560 --> 00:25:11,560 She's just that good. 586 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:12,560 But you know what I'm saying? 587 00:25:12,560 --> 00:25:13,560 So the number really doesn't matter. 588 00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:14,560 Yeah. 589 00:25:14,560 --> 00:25:16,800 So you, I'm going to say it, and we're going to get so angry at me. 590 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:17,800 She's a hustler, baby. 591 00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:18,800 Oh my God. 592 00:25:18,800 --> 00:25:19,800 You work for yourself. 593 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:20,800 I do. 594 00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:21,800 You are a mom. 595 00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:22,880 You work 24 seven. 596 00:25:22,880 --> 00:25:25,000 You work at your children's school. 597 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:26,000 You teach there. 598 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,000 You teach for us. 599 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:34,240 You are a all around hustler. 600 00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:35,920 Yes, baby. 601 00:25:35,920 --> 00:25:38,000 And like president of home and school. 602 00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:39,000 I know also. 603 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:40,000 No, thank you. 604 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,000 But good job. 605 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:45,800 I tell you what I how I feel about this. 606 00:25:45,800 --> 00:25:46,800 Yes. 607 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,600 Don't do it. 608 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:51,000 Don't be so busy. 609 00:25:51,000 --> 00:25:52,000 Oh yeah. 610 00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,560 She was where you are losing your mind. 611 00:25:54,560 --> 00:25:59,400 Every time I say yes to somebody else, I say no to myself. 612 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:00,800 Later for the people in the back. 613 00:26:00,800 --> 00:26:01,800 That's right. 614 00:26:01,800 --> 00:26:02,800 Say it again, Jacqueline. 615 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:04,320 I'm actually talking to myself at this point. 616 00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:06,680 I'm trying to give myself advice. 617 00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:11,520 Every time I say yes to somebody else, I say no to myself. 618 00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:15,960 In a situation where I don't want to do whatever it is I'm saying yes to. 619 00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:21,320 And I spent a lot of time the last couple months saying yes to a lot of things I didn't 620 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:25,920 want to do and I was feeling it so much. 621 00:26:25,920 --> 00:26:30,240 I would go home at night and just like sit there and feel like I couldn't get up. 622 00:26:30,240 --> 00:26:33,760 Like there was so much weight on me. 623 00:26:33,760 --> 00:26:37,760 And the thing is I had full control over that. 624 00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:44,480 So my advice is it's it's good to hustle till you get to where you want to be. 625 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,400 And then you decide what it is you want to do. 626 00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:48,400 You've already made it. 627 00:26:48,400 --> 00:26:49,400 Okay. 628 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:50,400 You got to where you want it to be. 629 00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:51,400 It's on you. 630 00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:54,000 Like you pick and choose the things that you want to do. 631 00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,760 If you don't want to do something, don't do it. 632 00:26:56,760 --> 00:26:57,760 Yeah. 633 00:26:57,760 --> 00:26:58,760 Are you listening? 634 00:26:58,760 --> 00:26:59,760 I know. 635 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:00,760 I know. 636 00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:06,640 I think in general, like even the three of us were doers because we know that it will 637 00:27:06,640 --> 00:27:08,400 get done if we do it. 638 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,400 Yeah. 639 00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:10,400 That's control. 640 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:11,400 It is. 641 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:12,400 It's a control thing. 642 00:27:12,400 --> 00:27:19,400 But think about how much happier you or I or you would be if we said no to a couple 643 00:27:19,400 --> 00:27:22,520 things that could be done by somebody else. 644 00:27:22,520 --> 00:27:24,280 They could be done by somebody else. 645 00:27:24,280 --> 00:27:26,280 I started saying no this year. 646 00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:31,760 And the only time it's been really hard is because when people expect you to say yes, 647 00:27:31,760 --> 00:27:32,760 because you've always been the yes man. 648 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:34,040 You've always been that way. 649 00:27:34,040 --> 00:27:38,480 That friction and that pushback of being the no in that moment. 650 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:43,480 It really is the biggest challenge to stick to that no and not go back to being like, 651 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,480 OK, I'm going to people please my way to just whatever. 652 00:27:46,480 --> 00:27:48,000 I'll deal with it later. 653 00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:51,520 And then the later comes and you're sitting there on the couch and you can't get up and 654 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:54,960 you're exhausted and you don't want to deal with the kids because you're just too tired 655 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:58,920 or the dog or the husband or the whatever your life. 656 00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:03,440 That is the biggest part of it is that you've set yourself up for so many years being one 657 00:28:03,440 --> 00:28:08,800 way and the challenges to decide to go to that uncomfortable place. 658 00:28:08,800 --> 00:28:09,800 Right. 659 00:28:09,800 --> 00:28:12,600 I mean, it all is uncomfortable in its own way. 660 00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:16,440 And then your life just kind of changes into this new direction. 661 00:28:16,440 --> 00:28:17,440 But it's hard. 662 00:28:17,440 --> 00:28:19,680 It's really hard to do in the last few months. 663 00:28:19,680 --> 00:28:24,920 I've asked other people to do things for me. 664 00:28:24,920 --> 00:28:27,480 And the answer was no. 665 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:29,200 And I'm like, why? 666 00:28:29,200 --> 00:28:35,160 You know, these are the same people that I say yes to and they have no problem saying 667 00:28:35,160 --> 00:28:36,840 no to me. 668 00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:38,400 So it was like done. 669 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:39,400 Yeah. 670 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:40,400 Yeah. 671 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:41,400 A hundred reciprocity. 672 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:42,400 Yes. 673 00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:46,560 That's not even just those specific people, but that was really like, OK, people have no 674 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:48,600 problem saying no to me. 675 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:50,160 I can be that way too. 676 00:28:50,160 --> 00:28:51,160 Yes. 677 00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:52,160 Yes. 678 00:28:52,160 --> 00:28:54,000 To preserve your mental health, your physical health. 679 00:28:54,000 --> 00:28:55,000 Yes. 680 00:28:55,000 --> 00:28:57,560 I mean, it's exhausting to be a hustler, baby. 681 00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:58,720 A hustler, baby. 682 00:28:58,720 --> 00:28:59,720 Right. 683 00:28:59,720 --> 00:29:00,720 You have to find the balance. 684 00:29:00,720 --> 00:29:01,720 Yeah. 685 00:29:01,720 --> 00:29:02,720 It's OK. 686 00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:04,760 I mean, working hard, there's nothing wrong with working hard. 687 00:29:04,760 --> 00:29:05,760 No. 688 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:09,120 Burning yourself out, which I know you guys already talked about this, is a whole nother 689 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:10,120 story. 690 00:29:10,120 --> 00:29:11,120 And that's where I was headed. 691 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:12,120 Yeah. 692 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:15,480 And that burnout dims your confidence and it dims your ability. 693 00:29:15,480 --> 00:29:16,480 Right. 694 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:21,520 To be able to test yourself and go into those new exciting but uncomfortable situations. 695 00:29:21,520 --> 00:29:22,520 Right. 696 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:24,360 You know, it's so connected. 697 00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:25,360 It's not even funny. 698 00:29:25,360 --> 00:29:26,360 Right. 699 00:29:26,360 --> 00:29:30,440 Like the things that you've found thrill in before are just like, OK, let me go do this 700 00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:31,440 again. 701 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:32,440 Yeah. 702 00:29:32,440 --> 00:29:34,600 And then maybe you're too tired to take care of your body and then you get to that place 703 00:29:34,600 --> 00:29:36,440 where you're like, oh my gosh, I wish I was healthier. 704 00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:37,440 Right. 705 00:29:37,440 --> 00:29:38,440 I wish I, no, no, no. 706 00:29:38,440 --> 00:29:39,440 And then now where are you? 707 00:29:39,440 --> 00:29:41,720 You know, what dark cloud are you sitting under for how long? 708 00:29:41,720 --> 00:29:44,120 So obviously that's the extreme. 709 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:47,400 That's the extreme of like everything trickling through the bad place. 710 00:29:47,400 --> 00:29:53,320 But and also you don't have to explain why you're saying no to somebody. 711 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:54,320 Just so you know. 712 00:29:54,320 --> 00:29:55,320 That's a hard one for me. 713 00:29:55,320 --> 00:29:56,320 But yeah, right. 714 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:57,320 So true. 715 00:29:57,320 --> 00:30:01,640 Because even though I have been saying no more often, I then follow it up with no, I 716 00:30:01,640 --> 00:30:02,640 can't. 717 00:30:02,640 --> 00:30:03,640 I'm sorry. 718 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:04,640 I have X, Y and Z. 719 00:30:04,640 --> 00:30:05,640 Like what? 720 00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:06,640 It's none of their business. 721 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:11,520 First of all, and no period is a complete sentence. 722 00:30:11,520 --> 00:30:12,520 Period. 723 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:13,520 Period. 724 00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:14,520 Period. 725 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:16,520 You ruin everything. 726 00:30:16,520 --> 00:30:22,520 But also it's that is like no, no is a full sentence. 727 00:30:22,520 --> 00:30:23,520 Right. 728 00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:24,520 Right. 729 00:30:24,520 --> 00:30:32,680 OK, so I think confidence is the biggest thread of everything. 730 00:30:32,680 --> 00:30:36,760 And it's also probably the hardest thing for the average person or somebody, you know, 731 00:30:36,760 --> 00:30:41,360 wherever you are in your life to really feel and thrive in. 732 00:30:41,360 --> 00:30:46,280 And you've talked about it a lot and you gave some really good insiders, but just like recap 733 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:53,560 the biggest tip to just start your your path to confidence. 734 00:30:53,560 --> 00:31:00,520 The biggest tip is get comfortable being uncomfortable and don't ever feel less than 735 00:31:00,520 --> 00:31:03,680 anybody else in the room that you're in because you're not. 736 00:31:03,680 --> 00:31:05,280 Everyone's in the same boat. 737 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:06,280 Yep. 738 00:31:06,280 --> 00:31:07,280 That's huge. 739 00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:08,280 Those are huge. 740 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:09,680 Just be nice to yourself. 741 00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:10,680 Geez. 742 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,560 I know, you know. 743 00:31:12,560 --> 00:31:16,920 On that note, I'm going to be nice to Jacqueline right now. 744 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:18,720 Are you? 745 00:31:18,720 --> 00:31:20,520 Are you? 746 00:31:20,520 --> 00:31:25,360 We're going to play a little game we like to call Getting to Know You. 747 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:30,560 DM me back, MacDevitt. 748 00:31:30,560 --> 00:31:33,960 I'm going to ask you what your favorites are and you're going to tell me. 749 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:34,960 And that's the game. 750 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:36,440 But it's rapid fire. 751 00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:38,000 You know how fast we are around here. 752 00:31:38,000 --> 00:31:39,000 OK. 753 00:31:39,000 --> 00:31:40,000 Rapid fire. 754 00:31:40,000 --> 00:31:41,000 Favorite color. 755 00:31:41,000 --> 00:31:42,000 Think. 756 00:31:42,000 --> 00:31:43,000 Favorite movie. 757 00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:46,040 Oh, I don't have a favorite movie. 758 00:31:46,040 --> 00:31:47,160 You don't have one favorite movie. 759 00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:48,160 I don't. 760 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:49,160 She's so angry. 761 00:31:49,160 --> 00:31:50,160 I don't. 762 00:31:50,160 --> 00:31:53,160 She's so dull right now. 763 00:31:53,160 --> 00:31:54,160 OK. 764 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:55,160 What's your favorite vacation? 765 00:31:55,160 --> 00:31:56,160 My sure. 766 00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,080 I knew you're going to say that. 767 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:00,560 Your favorite TV show. 768 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:01,560 Ever. 769 00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:02,560 Parenthood. 770 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:04,480 Oh, style of dance. 771 00:32:04,480 --> 00:32:05,480 Modern. 772 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:08,000 Oh, coffee order. 773 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:11,520 Brown sugar, shake and espresso with oat milk. 774 00:32:11,520 --> 00:32:12,520 There you go. 775 00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:13,520 Favorite meal. 776 00:32:13,520 --> 00:32:14,520 Spaghetti and meatballs. 777 00:32:14,520 --> 00:32:17,240 Homemade spaghetti and meatballs. 778 00:32:17,240 --> 00:32:19,840 Side note, she makes her own spaghetti. 779 00:32:19,840 --> 00:32:20,840 State to visit. 780 00:32:20,840 --> 00:32:26,000 Besides Jersey, Florida, because my little niece is there and my sister. 781 00:32:26,000 --> 00:32:27,000 I like that. 782 00:32:27,000 --> 00:32:28,000 Leggings brand. 783 00:32:28,000 --> 00:32:29,000 Lululemon. 784 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:30,000 Yeah. 785 00:32:30,000 --> 00:32:31,000 Alcoholic drink. 786 00:32:31,000 --> 00:32:33,000 A skinny, spicy margarita. 787 00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:34,000 Oh, specifics. 788 00:32:34,000 --> 00:32:35,000 Yeah. 789 00:32:35,000 --> 00:32:36,000 Workout. 790 00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,400 If you were to go work out with your favorite workout. 791 00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:40,000 I think a circuit. 792 00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:41,560 Favorite song to belt in the car. 793 00:32:41,560 --> 00:32:46,240 OK, this is where my Sunday morning Jesus loving self comes in. 794 00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,240 Oceans by Hillsong United. 795 00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:49,560 Oh, my gosh. 796 00:32:49,560 --> 00:32:52,000 And if you haven't heard of it, listen to it. 797 00:32:52,000 --> 00:32:55,000 If you don't know, now you know. 798 00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:56,000 Restaurant. 799 00:32:56,000 --> 00:33:00,800 I love this place called Yonnie's in Ocean City. 800 00:33:00,800 --> 00:33:01,800 Favorite season. 801 00:33:01,800 --> 00:33:02,800 Summer. 802 00:33:02,800 --> 00:33:04,800 Favorite holiday. 803 00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:06,200 Christmas. 804 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:08,200 Favorite see the sister. 805 00:33:08,200 --> 00:33:10,200 Oh, Victoria. 806 00:33:10,200 --> 00:33:11,200 Yes. 807 00:33:11,200 --> 00:33:14,200 And expletive right now. 808 00:33:14,200 --> 00:33:16,200 Putting my fingers up. 809 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:19,200 And that's what you are. 810 00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,200 I thought you were going to say Justin. 811 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:22,200 Oh, damn it. 812 00:33:22,200 --> 00:33:25,200 I should have said Billy. 813 00:33:25,200 --> 00:33:27,200 Guess what, Jacqueline? 814 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:29,200 I won the game. 815 00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:31,200 You won. 816 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:35,600 So thank you so much. 817 00:33:35,600 --> 00:33:36,600 Thanks for having me. 818 00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:37,600 Yay. 819 00:33:37,600 --> 00:33:38,600 That was fun. 820 00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:44,000 You can find Jacqueline every Wednesday night at Seafit and then also on her own will tag 821 00:33:44,000 --> 00:33:50,040 all of your, you know, handles and how to find you to do body by Jacqueline online anywhere 822 00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:51,040 in the world. 823 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:52,040 Yeah. 824 00:33:52,040 --> 00:33:53,040 Anywhere. 825 00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:58,840 And trust me, you're going to want to. 826 00:33:58,840 --> 00:34:02,600 Our real tip today has already been given to you by Jacqueline. 827 00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:09,680 Go out, do something uncomfortable, do something outside of your comfort zone and then really 828 00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:14,000 take note of how you feel in that moment because that is what you're going to work on. 829 00:34:14,000 --> 00:34:18,760 And that is what you're going to feel a little bit more of every time you do it and it builds 830 00:34:18,760 --> 00:34:21,000 and it gets better and it's easier. 831 00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,400 So you have to continue that cycle. 832 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:25,400 Confidence is a cycle. 833 00:34:25,400 --> 00:34:27,600 It trickles into everything else. 834 00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:34,880 So make that decision, book that class appointment, whatever it is that is uncomfortable for you 835 00:34:34,880 --> 00:34:39,960 and safe and everything and then go do it. 836 00:34:39,960 --> 00:34:43,920 Your real extra tip of the week has also been said by Jacqueline. 837 00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:50,400 She gave us a lot of really awesome stuff today and it is no is a full sentence. 838 00:34:50,400 --> 00:34:52,240 So use that. 839 00:34:52,240 --> 00:34:53,240 Go with it. 840 00:34:53,240 --> 00:34:59,920 Say no if you do not want to do something at a period at the end. 841 00:34:59,920 --> 00:35:00,920 No. 842 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:01,920 Period. 843 00:35:01,920 --> 00:35:02,920 No. 844 00:35:02,920 --> 00:35:06,200 Look, I'm doing it. 845 00:35:06,200 --> 00:35:07,320 And have that be that. 846 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:09,280 Be happy with saying no. 847 00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:12,040 If you do not want to do it, do not do it. 848 00:35:12,040 --> 00:35:14,760 The power of no is a full sentence. 849 00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:17,920 So technically that real tip I gave you, you don't have to do that. 850 00:35:17,920 --> 00:35:18,920 Period. 851 00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:19,920 No. 852 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:21,920 We're setting you up right here. 853 00:35:21,920 --> 00:35:23,480 That's just it. 854 00:35:23,480 --> 00:35:25,480 Thanks Jacqueline. 855 00:35:25,480 --> 00:35:32,280 Well, if nothing else, we hope that this episode specifically today with Jacqueline has taught 856 00:35:32,280 --> 00:35:38,800 you that you are always fit to be real and always allowed to be a little extra. 857 00:35:38,800 --> 00:35:40,800 Okay, bye. 858 00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:41,800 Bye. 859 00:35:41,800 --> 00:35:42,800 Bye. 860 00:35:42,800 --> 00:35:50,600 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 861 00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:52,400 educational purposes only. 862 00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:54,600 We are not healthcare professionals. 863 00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:58,720 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 864 00:35:58,720 --> 00:36:00,400 professional in your life. 865 00:36:00,400 --> 00:36:05,480 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 866 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:09,760 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do. 867 00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:10,760 Okay? 868 00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:20,760 Okay, bye.