1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,600 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:08,200 Today we are talking the working mom. 3 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:10,200 Who works it, mom! 4 00:00:10,200 --> 00:00:12,200 Yes! 5 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:20,400 She is a longtime friend and now owner of multiple restaurants and a farm. 6 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:22,400 I want to talk about the farm. 7 00:00:22,400 --> 00:00:28,000 And she has been in the theater world, so she's definitely got a mindset similar to us. 8 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:31,000 And she's a mom. She's a boy mom. 9 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:34,000 She is a boy. We had a girl dad and now we have a boy mom. 10 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,000 Yes, which is really cool. 11 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:40,000 And this is going to be really eye-opening. 12 00:00:40,000 --> 00:00:42,000 I cannot wait! 13 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:48,000 I'm Victoria. 14 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,000 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 15 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:54,000 And we are here with Christina Piieri. 16 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:56,000 Woo! 17 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:58,000 What's up, Christina? 18 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,000 Hi guys. 19 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,000 I'm sorry, what? 20 00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,000 What was that? 21 00:01:04,000 --> 00:01:06,000 Hey guys! 22 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:08,000 I feel like Carly. 23 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,000 Wait, third time's a charm. 24 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:12,000 Hey! 25 00:01:12,000 --> 00:01:14,000 Amazing. 26 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:18,000 So, Christina, I was trying to think earlier, how long have we known you? 27 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:20,000 I've known your mom longer than I've known you. 28 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,000 That's true. 29 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,000 Christina always says, I had to meet you guys in New York and we're all from Delco. 30 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:26,000 I had to go to New York to meet you. 31 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,000 I had to go to New York to meet your mom. 32 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:32,000 And she, that's right, it was like 20 minutes from my house. 33 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:36,000 But like 15 or 16 years. 34 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:42,000 Because you went to school in New York City and then you were auditioning for shows and got hired. 35 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:44,000 So did Carly. 36 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,000 That's how Carly met mom too. 37 00:01:46,000 --> 00:01:50,000 I did the same thing. I had to go to New York to audition for my own mother forever to hire me. 38 00:01:50,000 --> 00:01:56,000 But Christina did the same thing and your mom hired her and brought her to Shawnee as a working actor. 39 00:01:56,000 --> 00:02:00,000 And then was like, ooh, you're a dancer. You want to come teach for me? 40 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,000 And then Christina started teaching dance. 41 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:04,000 And you never stopped? 42 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:06,000 No. Right, you've been at Carmella's dance studio since then. 43 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:10,000 Since then. It's really hard to leave. 44 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,000 Well, we make it very hard. 45 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:14,000 Carmella doesn't like anybody to leave. 46 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:16,000 I signed a blood contract. 47 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:22,000 Yeah, my mom was having a baby when the show closed at Shawnee and your mom was like, well, this is great. 48 00:02:22,000 --> 00:02:28,000 Because I was going to move back home and help my mom a little bit and make sure my sister knew who I was. 49 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:30,000 Yeah, exactly. Because you were in college. 50 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:38,000 So after Shawnee, that summer I moved home and then I taught the studio and then I did Shawnee's Christmas show. 51 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:40,000 Oh, that's right. 52 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,000 The Christmas show and then would teach and then the rest is history. 53 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:44,000 I've been there ever since. 54 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,000 You grew up with all sisters and now you have all boys. 55 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:48,000 Yes, very different. 56 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:50,000 You know what's really fun? 57 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:58,000 Christina has a son named Dean and Julian and I texted her and was like, if it's a boy, can I name my son Dean? 58 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,000 Oh my gosh. 59 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,000 And I did and I had a boy and I named him Dean. 60 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:04,000 You said yes? 61 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:06,000 Yeah. Not to switch gears. 62 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:12,000 But you completely switched tracks from the theater world into Peeray hospitality. 63 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:16,000 So the joke is always like, oh, you're an actor. What restaurant do you work at? 64 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:18,000 That's true. 65 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:22,000 Because we talked about that when you're a working actor, you work in a restaurant. 66 00:03:22,000 --> 00:03:28,000 Yeah, so I was teaching dance and auditioning and then needed to make money. 67 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:32,000 So I started working at Stone Rose in 2010. 68 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,000 Never left. 69 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:36,000 Christina has a loyal husband. 70 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,000 Got a husband. 71 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:40,000 Family. 72 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:50,000 So I just started to work at the restaurant to make money and then I started managing still always taught dance and then just kind of then you fell in love with Brian transition. 73 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:56,000 Brian, Peeray of Peeray, everything in Contra Hocken. 74 00:03:56,000 --> 00:04:02,000 If you live in Contra Hocken or in the surrounding area and have not been to one of these restaurants. 75 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:04,000 What are you waiting for? 76 00:04:04,000 --> 00:04:08,000 We've got some favorite menu items that I'm sure we will talk about. 77 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:12,000 Give us a name of all your restaurants and everything that you guys provide. 78 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:24,000 So Stone Rose was the first, then Barluca, Barcera, and then we bought the farm, Peeray Farm and Vineyard in 2019. 79 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:28,000 And I just want to say they're Brian's restaurants. 80 00:04:28,000 --> 00:04:32,000 Brian's like Christina, make sure you say. 81 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:38,000 The restaurant thing is his dream. He is a restaurant tour. 82 00:04:38,000 --> 00:04:40,000 But you work there. Yeah. 83 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:42,000 Oh, absolutely. 84 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:48,000 He does 98% of everything restaurants and farm. 85 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:54,000 And then I do all of the event coordinating, catering with another manager. 86 00:04:54,000 --> 00:04:56,000 We work together. 87 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:02,000 And the farm has an Airbnb. So I run the Airbnb and then we have a CSA program at the farm. 88 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:06,000 So I help run the CSA program. 89 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:10,000 I have done the CSA program and the Airbnb. 90 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:16,000 Yep. CSA, Airbnb. I frequent their restaurants and done their catering. Who's a good friend? 91 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:20,000 That's right. Thank you. 92 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:24,000 Having said all that, you do a lot. 93 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:28,000 You're a mom. You're a dance teacher. You work at the restaurants. You manage the restaurants. 94 00:05:28,000 --> 00:05:30,000 You guys have a lot going on. 95 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:38,000 So we're talking today about working moms, how to work it mom, work with the... 96 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:40,000 Can you guess who made the name? Can you guess? 97 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:44,000 And how difficult it is to do it all. 98 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:50,000 It is very difficult to do it all with guilt, without guilt. 99 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:52,000 How do you handle it? 100 00:05:52,000 --> 00:05:54,000 There's a lot going on in your daily day today. 101 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:56,000 Yes, there is. 102 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:58,000 There's no better way to answer that question. 103 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:00,000 Yes, there is. 104 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:02,000 How do you manage it? 105 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:08,000 Well, first of all, Brian and I, I think we make a good team when it comes to who does what. 106 00:06:08,000 --> 00:06:10,000 Yeah. 107 00:06:10,000 --> 00:06:12,000 We're very defined in roles. 108 00:06:12,000 --> 00:06:18,000 Like, he's very hands-on as a dad. And thankfully, where we are now with the restaurants and the farm, 109 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:22,000 he has more of a flexible schedule so he can go in later, come home earlier. 110 00:06:22,000 --> 00:06:26,000 So he's around a lot, which is super helpful. 111 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:30,000 But we have a good team that allows him the flexibility. 112 00:06:30,000 --> 00:06:32,000 So he doesn't have to be there all the time. So that's number one. 113 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:36,000 Number two, I have... Brian always calls it my staff. 114 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:42,000 I have babysitter at school. 115 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:44,000 Christina Piieri staff. 116 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:50,000 So the kids, well, now the kids are in school a lot more, but I do have a babysitter that comes. 117 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:54,000 We just kind of like manage like our priorities. 118 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:56,000 Like he just really focuses restaurants. 119 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,000 Yeah, yeah. 120 00:06:58,000 --> 00:07:00,000 And then I focus kids and then some of it overlaps. 121 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:02,000 But like I have like defined days where I'm working. 122 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:06,000 But as you know, as business owners, like it kind of always just like trickles. 123 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:08,000 It's never like at five o'clock we're done. 124 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:12,000 Right. It's never always kind of around. 125 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:14,000 And I think it was hard when he would be like, oh, I have to like go up. 126 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:18,000 Like there's an issue and I'd be like, why do I always have to like leave and like go in? 127 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:22,000 And like now I'm like, go, go. Yeah, go fix it. Yeah, I get it. 128 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:28,000 Like, but I think it makes more sense because I saw it firsthand working at the restaurant. 129 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:30,000 Right. So I think having help is huge. 130 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:32,000 I mean, we would never be able to do it without help family. 131 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,000 My mom, my sisters, they help a lot. 132 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:36,000 Carm likes to say it takes a village. 133 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:38,000 It really does. 134 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:44,000 And I think being able to like ask for help because I know I can't do it all by myself. 135 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:48,000 So I'm always like, who's coming Monday? Who's coming? 136 00:07:48,000 --> 00:07:50,000 You have no problem asking for help. 137 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:52,000 Because you're giving me the death stare. 138 00:07:52,000 --> 00:07:54,000 No, because I don't like to ask for help. 139 00:07:54,000 --> 00:07:58,000 But I can learn from that. I need to learn to ask for help. 140 00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:04,000 So we had kids around the same time and we love to work out. 141 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:08,000 Some might say we're a little obsessed. 142 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:12,000 But we had talked about this before and while we were going through it, 143 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:16,000 there is no such thing as a snapback for me. 144 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:18,000 Was there a snapback for you? 145 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:22,000 I'm saying snapback with air quotes because you read and you see these things on Instagram 146 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:26,000 where people are like, I'm back in my jeans three weeks after the baby. 147 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,000 I thought a snapback was a hat. 148 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:30,000 It is very confusing for me. 149 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,000 I actually think that it is. 150 00:08:32,000 --> 00:08:42,000 No, a snapback is like a snapback is when you are expected to snapback from baby having a baby bouncing back, bouncing back. 151 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:45,000 But they call it a snapback. The cool kids call it a snapback. 152 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:46,000 The youngest. 153 00:08:46,000 --> 00:08:47,000 The youngest. 154 00:08:47,000 --> 00:08:49,000 I did not snap back. 155 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:51,000 It took me like eight years. 156 00:08:51,000 --> 00:08:56,000 And I know we've talked about this by ourselves, but I want you to say, 157 00:08:56,000 --> 00:09:01,000 what was your experience and how did you feel after having a baby and not snapping back? 158 00:09:01,000 --> 00:09:05,000 So I think that while with Dean, I didn't work out at all. 159 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:07,000 I was actually like, this is my free ticket. 160 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,000 Just live it up. 161 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:10,000 Yeah. 162 00:09:10,000 --> 00:09:18,000 And I had him and you know, when you're like pregnant and then the baby comes out and everything else comes out. 163 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,000 Victoria is so happy right now. 164 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:26,000 You look in the mirror and you're like, oh my God, I'm so thin because you were just so not. 165 00:09:26,000 --> 00:09:28,000 But you're still very not. 166 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:35,000 Like you just feel that way better because you can like, you know, get pants up without like having to sit down and catch your breath. 167 00:09:35,000 --> 00:09:37,000 So like it's very different. 168 00:09:37,000 --> 00:09:49,000 But then like as the months start to go, like you just kind of plateau, at least for me, I did because you're trying to at least with your first kid figure out like feeding like everyone was like, oh, if you breastfeed like all the way, we'll just melt right off. 169 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:50,000 Lies. 170 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:52,000 That was not the case for me either. 171 00:09:52,000 --> 00:10:00,000 Maybe that happens for some people did not because in order to sustain your milk supply, you have to keep your calories. 172 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:01,000 Yeah. 173 00:10:01,000 --> 00:10:06,000 And so I'm also don't have time to like work out for an hour because like the baby's crying. 174 00:10:06,000 --> 00:10:07,000 Right. 175 00:10:07,000 --> 00:10:09,000 So that I didn't really know like what to do. 176 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:13,000 And I think I just kind of sat there being like, well, I'm just going to like lose weight. 177 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:18,000 Like it will just happen because when you're younger, at least for me, I would just like, I don't know, skip dinner. 178 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,000 And then the next morning I'd be like two pounds lighter. 179 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,000 This is amazing. 180 00:10:22,000 --> 00:10:23,000 It doesn't work like that. 181 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:24,000 No. 182 00:10:24,000 --> 00:10:25,000 So then I started cardio. 183 00:10:25,000 --> 00:10:27,000 So I was I got a Peloton. 184 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:28,000 I spun constantly. 185 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:33,000 I was always spinning and I lost weight, but I was still like kind of eating whatever I wanted. 186 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:38,000 So like I was in smaller clothes, but I still didn't feel like great. 187 00:10:38,000 --> 00:10:39,000 Right. 188 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:48,000 Then I got pregnant with Julian and I still was spinning like not like every single day, but I was more active with Julian's pregnancy during your pregnancy. 189 00:10:48,000 --> 00:11:01,000 Then after I had Julian, I started strength training and I was like, wow, yeah, it made like such a huge difference in my body composition that I was like, man, I wish I would have known this before. 190 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,000 Before I know this earlier. 191 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:11,000 Well, I think this is a testament to the sign of the times because I think you two are the common every man in this. 192 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:19,000 And you know, every man, every woman in the situation, you are also of the generation of doing this in the times of social media. 193 00:11:19,000 --> 00:11:20,000 Yeah. 194 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:21,000 And that's not what's portrayed. 195 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:27,000 And I'm not in the mom circuit of those specific accounts and videos and stuff like that. 196 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:29,000 So that's not what pops up for my feed. 197 00:11:29,000 --> 00:11:36,000 But I would assume that you have a little bit more of those types of accounts that you follow due to the commonality. 198 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:49,000 What's crazy is that it is portrayed as how easy look, my whole house is put together and my kid is matching my outfit and everybody's happy and all of the snacks are perfectly organic and everything is homemade. 199 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,000 And I'm not having a mental breakdown. 200 00:11:51,000 --> 00:12:00,000 I blame the Kardashians because surgery, surgery, they just didn't get to be where they are naturally. 201 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:01,000 It's just not. 202 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:06,000 And I'm all for like, if you wouldn't have surgery, go right ahead, but like you have not that you have to. 203 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:19,000 But you should like if you're a public figure, you should be upfront because there's so many eyes on you, especially like young girls who just look at these bodies and go like, wow, like I could just have a baby and literally be right back into my genes. 204 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:25,000 And like without they don't see all the steps in between and genetics have a huge part in that. 205 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:34,000 There are some people who who just have an easier time losing baby weight and a lot of that is genetics and a lot of people have a harder time and I am. 206 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:36,000 And money and money. Yeah. 207 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:39,000 Oh, yeah, I got really intense about the money. 208 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:48,000 I used to read, I remember after Melody, these articles that the celebrities would say, oh, I just run after my kids and the weight just came off. 209 00:12:48,000 --> 00:12:50,000 I just chased after my kids. 210 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:57,000 And like, that's not happening for me. Like I also was working out 21 hours a week and it was not coming off. 211 00:12:57,000 --> 00:13:02,000 I was like, that's all you are doing is running around your kids. That cannot be true. And it wasn't. They had nutritionists. 212 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:04,000 They had daily trainers. 213 00:13:04,000 --> 00:13:06,000 They have all the stuff. 214 00:13:06,000 --> 00:13:09,000 And what I was seeing on Instagram was like, total lie. 215 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:10,000 Oh, yeah. 216 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:13,000 You know, of what you're supposed to look like after you have a baby. 217 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:15,000 And now I feel like it's getting better. 218 00:13:15,000 --> 00:13:19,000 Well, I think for me, I am getting better with who I follow. 219 00:13:19,000 --> 00:13:28,000 I unfollow the people I know are like, it's the lighting, it's the posing, it's this, like I follow the accounts that are like, this is me posed. 220 00:13:28,000 --> 00:13:30,000 This is me not. 221 00:13:30,000 --> 00:13:34,000 Oh, like the same body. I just those accounts are so much more helpful to me. 222 00:13:34,000 --> 00:13:37,000 But like, they also have very real bodies. 223 00:13:37,000 --> 00:13:40,000 Right. They're accountable to the fact that your body's changed after pregnancy. 224 00:13:40,000 --> 00:13:41,000 Right. 225 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:45,000 And it's not going to be, especially if you have multiple children, you both have two and three. 226 00:13:45,000 --> 00:13:50,000 So it's not the same as when you were 20 years old and could eat whatever you want and drop two pounds by the. 227 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:53,000 You know, it's not the same thing, but there are. 228 00:13:53,000 --> 00:13:54,000 And there's skin. 229 00:13:54,000 --> 00:13:55,000 Exactly. 230 00:13:55,000 --> 00:14:00,000 You can stretch all the way out and then go back and just be like, unless you have surgery, right? 231 00:14:00,000 --> 00:14:01,000 There's going to be access. 232 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:06,000 And so I love all the like the accounts where the moms like, look at me. 233 00:14:06,000 --> 00:14:09,000 I'm super fit. And then she like, and it's like her skin. 234 00:14:09,000 --> 00:14:10,000 I'm like, thank you. 235 00:14:10,000 --> 00:14:12,000 Christina, I just did that post this morning. Did you see? 236 00:14:12,000 --> 00:14:14,000 No, I posted it on SheFit. 237 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,000 I did a picture like in good lighting. 238 00:14:16,000 --> 00:14:23,000 And then I did a picture of me grabbing the three children's worth of skin in my stomach because the people that are posting just the good picture, 239 00:14:23,000 --> 00:14:27,000 as soon as they let out a breath and stop sucking it in. 240 00:14:27,000 --> 00:14:28,000 Yeah, there's more skin there. 241 00:14:28,000 --> 00:14:29,000 You want to be humbled? 242 00:14:29,000 --> 00:14:31,000 Look down in a plank. 243 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:32,000 Oh my God. 244 00:14:32,000 --> 00:14:34,000 Look down at yourself in a plank. 245 00:14:34,000 --> 00:14:41,000 You can tighten your core as much as you possibly can, but she's still there, you know, like you can't work that away. 246 00:14:41,000 --> 00:14:42,000 And that's fine. 247 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:43,000 That's part of your body. 248 00:14:43,000 --> 00:14:48,000 So having said all that, how do you think that affected you afterwards? 249 00:14:48,000 --> 00:14:49,000 Like looking at social media? 250 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:50,000 Oh, it's so hard. 251 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,000 Like Brian would even say, like, get off of it. 252 00:14:52,000 --> 00:14:53,000 Like stop looking at it. 253 00:14:53,000 --> 00:14:54,000 No way. 254 00:14:54,000 --> 00:14:57,000 And he's always like, you know, women are so different from men in this aspect. 255 00:14:57,000 --> 00:15:01,000 He's like, I like men don't like look at like other men's bodies. 256 00:15:01,000 --> 00:15:03,000 Like, wow, I really wish I looked like that. 257 00:15:03,000 --> 00:15:05,000 You know, like that's not like the typical, right? 258 00:15:05,000 --> 00:15:10,000 But for girls, it's just, it's so much harder to not compare. 259 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:11,000 Yeah, it just hits you over the head. 260 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:16,000 And I'm not like the, I don't really look at like people's kitchens and go like, oh God, I really wish I had that tile. 261 00:15:16,000 --> 00:15:19,000 Like that's not my like comparison. 262 00:15:19,000 --> 00:15:20,000 What a struggle. 263 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:21,000 Yeah. 264 00:15:21,000 --> 00:15:24,000 It's like the bounce back or like the snapback. 265 00:15:24,000 --> 00:15:27,000 What I hate is the like what I eat in a day. 266 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:32,000 I, I, when I tell you, I cannot stand the what I eat in a day. 267 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:33,000 Am I allowed a curse on here? 268 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:34,000 Yeah, sure. 269 00:15:34,000 --> 00:15:36,000 Bullshit posts. 270 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:38,000 I love that that's the curse that you picked. 271 00:15:38,000 --> 00:15:39,000 That was very tame. 272 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:41,000 I have more patines in the other room. 273 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,000 My Dean is in the other room. 274 00:15:43,000 --> 00:15:44,000 Wait, go ahead. 275 00:15:44,000 --> 00:15:45,000 Tell us more about why you hate that. 276 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:47,000 I hate when people are like what I eat in a day. 277 00:15:47,000 --> 00:15:54,000 And it's like, if you eat this exact meal plan that I had today on Tuesday, you will look just like me. 278 00:15:54,000 --> 00:15:59,000 Like that is so the only thing what I eat in a day is good for is if you're like, oh, I never know. 279 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,000 I could put that granola in my yogurt. 280 00:16:01,000 --> 00:16:07,000 It's a great recipe or oh, I'd love to try that salmon with whatever quinoa like cool. 281 00:16:07,000 --> 00:16:14,000 You will not look like that person if you eat the same exact food that they eat in that day or the next day or the day after that. 282 00:16:14,000 --> 00:16:16,000 And that is everywhere. 283 00:16:16,000 --> 00:16:21,000 It's so it's like get like looking at like hair pictures and be like, oh, I really like I'll always take it to like my style. 284 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:24,000 It's gonna just to give you like I love her hair. 285 00:16:24,000 --> 00:16:29,000 And then like she does my hair and my hair was good, but like I still don't look like Jessica. 286 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:35,000 I'm like, oh, I need like her nose and her mouth and her eyes to can you do that? 287 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:37,000 Like it's just it's not the same thing. 288 00:16:37,000 --> 00:16:43,000 Yeah, I just wish people would be more upfront with that or just stop posting it. 289 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:44,000 Right. 290 00:16:44,000 --> 00:16:52,000 I know it's very difficult to watch because you think and everything everybody thinks is it's instant and it's not instant. 291 00:16:52,000 --> 00:16:54,000 No, it has taken you years. 292 00:16:54,000 --> 00:16:59,000 It's taken me years and I still like I'm I don't know if I'll ever get to a point where like, done. 293 00:16:59,000 --> 00:17:03,000 I'm completely happy with exactly where I want to be right now. 294 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:13,000 That's my body and like I feel like it's always like a constant work in progress and you know, to not become completely obsessed is challenging. 295 00:17:13,000 --> 00:17:14,000 Yeah, wait, hold on. 296 00:17:14,000 --> 00:17:15,000 Hold that thought. 297 00:17:15,000 --> 00:17:24,000 I have been told that I'm obsessed with working out by people and I know that you feel the same way, especially with our watches. 298 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:25,000 Yeah. 299 00:17:25,000 --> 00:17:27,000 So like, how do you feel about? 300 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:29,000 Are you obsessed with working out? 301 00:17:29,000 --> 00:17:34,000 If you forget to turn your watch on while you work out, do you think the workout counts? 302 00:17:34,000 --> 00:17:36,000 Is this a trick question? 303 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:37,000 Oh, no. 304 00:17:37,000 --> 00:17:39,000 Yesterday during yoga, my watch died. 305 00:17:39,000 --> 00:17:41,000 I started it and then it died. 306 00:17:41,000 --> 00:17:46,000 My immediate thought was, yeah, I'm not going to know my metrics. 307 00:17:46,000 --> 00:17:47,000 Right. 308 00:17:47,000 --> 00:17:50,000 And then my also the next very immediate thought was, you idiot. 309 00:17:50,000 --> 00:17:51,000 Yeah. 310 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,000 Who cares? 311 00:17:52,000 --> 00:17:53,000 You still did the class. 312 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:56,000 So I'm getting better at being like, it's fine. 313 00:17:56,000 --> 00:17:57,000 Yeah. 314 00:17:57,000 --> 00:18:05,000 I'm getting better at things that like I need to give my wrist a break too, because my skin, I shouldn't be wearing a watch 24 seven. 315 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:06,000 It's true. 316 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:08,000 You know, and become so fixated on it. 317 00:18:08,000 --> 00:18:10,000 I do like to see my heart rate. 318 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:17,000 I do like to see, you know, when I work out, I use that as a metric when I run, when I spend where I want to get my heart rate to and back down. 319 00:18:17,000 --> 00:18:22,000 But the calorie count is hard and it's also not accurate. 320 00:18:22,000 --> 00:18:25,000 So I know all of these things. 321 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:28,000 I have to constantly remind myself that it's fine. 322 00:18:28,000 --> 00:18:30,000 Where does that come from for both of you? 323 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:37,000 Like, where does that obsession and the need to know the count and to factor in the amount of effort that I just put in is this number? 324 00:18:37,000 --> 00:18:38,000 Yay me. 325 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:41,000 Like, where does I feel a little bit. 326 00:18:41,000 --> 00:18:43,000 I'm in competition with myself. 327 00:18:43,000 --> 00:18:46,000 I like to see, well, I got this number last time in the same class. 328 00:18:46,000 --> 00:18:48,000 Can I beat it a little bit? 329 00:18:48,000 --> 00:18:50,000 That's a head game with myself. 330 00:18:50,000 --> 00:18:51,000 I'm not in competition with you. 331 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:53,000 No, because we're very different. 332 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:58,000 And what I burn is not going to be the same as what you burn, which is not going to be the same with what Victoria burns. 333 00:18:58,000 --> 00:19:05,000 It's just myself, but a little bit I can go overboard with the needing to know. 334 00:19:05,000 --> 00:19:06,000 No. 335 00:19:06,000 --> 00:19:07,000 No. 336 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:10,000 I'm just a little bit extra with everything. 337 00:19:10,000 --> 00:19:15,000 Where does this conditioning and obligation and obsession stem from? 338 00:19:15,000 --> 00:19:18,000 You can pay me a therapy charge later, but just answer the question. 339 00:19:18,000 --> 00:19:19,000 I'm doubling down this week. 340 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:20,000 Christina, you go first. 341 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:24,000 I think like being in the dance world definitely has done that. 342 00:19:24,000 --> 00:19:30,000 But before like smartwatches were a thing, I had no clue how many calories I was burning because I didn't know. 343 00:19:30,000 --> 00:19:33,000 Or even before I had one, like I just didn't know. 344 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:35,000 You just knew off of how you felt. 345 00:19:35,000 --> 00:19:38,000 That was a really good workout because I feel it. 346 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:39,000 Exactly. 347 00:19:39,000 --> 00:19:40,000 Oh, the millennium. 348 00:19:40,000 --> 00:19:41,000 I know. 349 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,000 You know, now it's like go like, oh, you want to go for rock? 350 00:19:43,000 --> 00:19:44,000 Sure. 351 00:19:44,000 --> 00:19:45,000 Hold on. 352 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:46,000 I have to start my watch. 353 00:19:46,000 --> 00:19:47,000 Why? 354 00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:48,000 You know, stop being like that. 355 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:54,000 I think being in the dance world really like kind of expedited this because I didn't grow up that way. 356 00:19:54,000 --> 00:19:55,000 Yeah. 357 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:57,000 We just were active growing up. 358 00:19:57,000 --> 00:19:58,000 Yeah. 359 00:19:58,000 --> 00:20:00,000 No one was ever like in my life like, whoa, you really should. 360 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:04,000 I went to modeling school in eighth grade, which I think was good and bad. 361 00:20:04,000 --> 00:20:08,000 When I went to the doctor, I was like five foot, I think. 362 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:10,000 And I was going to take 100 pounds. 363 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:17,000 And I remember him saying, you're perfect because you take five and you multiply it by the inches. 364 00:20:17,000 --> 00:20:24,000 So if I was five, one, I would be 105 pounds at modeling school, you multiply it by three. 365 00:20:24,000 --> 00:20:30,000 So if I'm five, four to the doctor's standards, I should be 120 pounds in modeling school. 366 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,000 I should be 112 pounds. 367 00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:33,000 Oh my gosh. 368 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:34,000 Yeah. 369 00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:35,000 And they tell you this. 370 00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:37,000 So this was like eighth grade. 371 00:20:37,000 --> 00:20:38,000 Yikes. 372 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,000 Modeling didn't work out. 373 00:20:40,000 --> 00:20:47,000 But I think like to digest that information and then always kind of have those numbers in your head. 374 00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:53,000 It's like, OK, that's like my marker is like, I should be like five times my inches, like whatever. 375 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,000 It's stuck with you a little bit. 376 00:20:55,000 --> 00:21:00,000 And that's something that's difficult to get away from, even though you know, I know. 377 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:01,000 That's not right. 378 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:02,000 Yeah. 379 00:21:02,000 --> 00:21:03,000 It's still in the back of your mind. 380 00:21:03,000 --> 00:21:04,000 Yeah. 381 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:11,000 And I think mine came after the kids and I was like, I just didn't feel good. 382 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:12,000 Yeah. 383 00:21:12,000 --> 00:21:15,000 So that is where my whole journey started. 384 00:21:15,000 --> 00:21:23,000 And I have recently, since this podcast, been self-reflecting because I can get obsessive with my watch. 385 00:21:23,000 --> 00:21:25,000 I can get obsessive with working out. 386 00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:27,000 I know that. 387 00:21:27,000 --> 00:21:30,000 And I've been starting to think, well, what was I like before? 388 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,000 Like before all this? 389 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,000 And I kept like I keep replaying it back my mind. 390 00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:35,000 Like I was happy. 391 00:21:35,000 --> 00:21:36,000 Right. 392 00:21:36,000 --> 00:21:39,000 I didn't know how heavy I was. 393 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:42,000 I just didn't realize until I look at pictures now. 394 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:43,000 I know. 395 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,000 And I'm like, oh my gosh, I knew I was heavy. 396 00:21:45,000 --> 00:21:46,000 I knew I had gained weight. 397 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:48,000 I knew I had gained baby weight. 398 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,000 But I didn't realize how big until I lost the weight. 399 00:21:50,000 --> 00:21:53,000 It's not until now that I was like, but I wasn't miserable. 400 00:21:53,000 --> 00:21:54,000 No. 401 00:21:54,000 --> 00:21:55,000 I wasn't unhappy. 402 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,000 No. 403 00:21:56,000 --> 00:22:01,000 Well, I think good sometimes you don't always have to put a label on like overweight equals unhappy. 404 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:02,000 Right. 405 00:22:02,000 --> 00:22:05,000 Or like not your ideal body goal is unhappy. 406 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:09,000 Like I think there's like a happy balance between the two. 407 00:22:09,000 --> 00:22:11,000 Like there's extremes like you can go super. 408 00:22:11,000 --> 00:22:14,000 And I'm trying to come more to the middle. 409 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:16,000 Like I'll never forget. 410 00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:17,000 It was like a couple of years ago. 411 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:19,000 I mean, still I'm learning all of this. 412 00:22:19,000 --> 00:22:24,000 I'm 35 and I'm not I'm still learning like, wow, I had Chick-fil-A, 413 00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:26,000 which I normally don't eat like on a regular basis. 414 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:28,000 I had a milkshake and chicken nuggets. 415 00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:29,000 Oh my God. 416 00:22:29,000 --> 00:22:30,000 So good. 417 00:22:30,000 --> 00:22:35,000 The next day was my birthday and I got on the scale because I in my mind this is going 418 00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:36,000 to sound so horrible. 419 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:37,000 Say it. 420 00:22:37,000 --> 00:22:40,000 I wanted to be a certain weight on my birthday. 421 00:22:40,000 --> 00:22:41,000 On your birthday. 422 00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:42,000 People do that all the time. 423 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:43,000 Yeah. 424 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:44,000 I got on scale and I was two pounds. 425 00:22:44,000 --> 00:22:46,000 I'm using air quote last lighter. 426 00:22:46,000 --> 00:22:51,000 And I thought, oh my God, Chick-fil-A has cured me. 427 00:22:51,000 --> 00:22:56,000 I'm going to eat Chick-fil-A every day and just continue to lose weight. 428 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:59,000 Not factoring in the time of day I got on the scale. 429 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:02,000 My water retention, the time of month that I got on the scale. 430 00:23:02,000 --> 00:23:08,000 What I ate the day like the morning of before I got like, but it's like such a mind game. 431 00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:09,000 I know. 432 00:23:09,000 --> 00:23:14,000 I'm like, oh my God, Christina, you can have Chick-fil-A and then not be like 10 pounds 433 00:23:14,000 --> 00:23:15,000 heavier the next day. 434 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:16,000 Right. 435 00:23:16,000 --> 00:23:17,000 It's fine. 436 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:18,000 You can work out for 30 minutes. 437 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:21,000 You don't have to do 60 minutes and be fine. 438 00:23:21,000 --> 00:23:25,000 You can take two days off and get back into it and be fine. 439 00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:28,000 And I have to just keep telling myself like it will be fine. 440 00:23:28,000 --> 00:23:29,000 Right. 441 00:23:29,000 --> 00:23:33,000 I was telling you like coming out of 2020 was hard because we do nothing. 442 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:37,000 So I really got into exercise because the kids would nap and I was just home. 443 00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,000 So I would every day for an hour. 444 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:46,000 I was in the basement and once we came out of the pandemic and schedule started to happen 445 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:48,000 again and back to routines and life. 446 00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:51,000 And it was like, oh wait, I got to drive Dean wear. 447 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:52,000 Oh, well, what time is that? 448 00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:54,000 Oh, when am I going to have time to work out? 449 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:55,000 Right. 450 00:23:55,000 --> 00:23:56,000 Oh, here's this. 451 00:23:56,000 --> 00:23:57,000 Oh, I have to go do that. 452 00:23:57,000 --> 00:23:58,000 What am I going to have time to work out? 453 00:23:58,000 --> 00:24:02,000 So then I would like do my day and then at like nine o'clock at night I was like in the 454 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,000 basement for an hour and I'm like, this is stupid. 455 00:24:04,000 --> 00:24:05,000 Right. 456 00:24:05,000 --> 00:24:06,000 Yeah. 457 00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:07,000 Why am I doing this? 458 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:12,500 So it was hard to like transition back to like normal life when in 2020 like that was 459 00:24:12,500 --> 00:24:13,500 all I knew. 460 00:24:13,500 --> 00:24:14,500 That's all we did. 461 00:24:14,500 --> 00:24:15,500 Yeah. 462 00:24:15,500 --> 00:24:18,660 And then to like have to have like normal life routine but then also keep my exercise 463 00:24:18,660 --> 00:24:21,400 routine was like, I don't know how I'm going to do this. 464 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:27,400 But I'm starting to find like a happy medium between it and and like have fun with it. 465 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:28,400 Right. 466 00:24:28,400 --> 00:24:34,960 I think that having fun is the hardest part, which we try like our motto at Seafit is like 467 00:24:34,960 --> 00:24:37,020 you should have fun while you're working out. 468 00:24:37,020 --> 00:24:39,400 It shouldn't be so much of a chore. 469 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:40,400 Yeah. 470 00:24:40,400 --> 00:24:44,720 Which, you know, at times when you're obsessed, it is a chore because it's like, if I don't 471 00:24:44,720 --> 00:24:46,400 get this in my day is ruined. 472 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:47,400 I know. 473 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:48,400 And I have those days. 474 00:24:48,400 --> 00:24:49,400 I have them less and less. 475 00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:50,400 Yeah. 476 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:53,400 I am the person on on vacation that works out. 477 00:24:53,400 --> 00:24:54,800 But you do like that. 478 00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:57,560 But like, for instance, like, you know, we were just away. 479 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,100 There was a morning where I was sitting with Brian like outside like having coffee in the 480 00:25:01,100 --> 00:25:04,760 morning like before the kids were up and I'm like, in my mind, I'm like, this is a great 481 00:25:04,760 --> 00:25:05,760 time for me to go work out. 482 00:25:05,760 --> 00:25:09,880 But then I'm also like, I don't want to miss this time with him because I'm not going to 483 00:25:09,880 --> 00:25:11,120 have this when we get back. 484 00:25:11,120 --> 00:25:12,120 Right. 485 00:25:12,120 --> 00:25:15,920 I'll have exercise later today, another time when I get back. 486 00:25:15,920 --> 00:25:24,000 But like, I need to not substitute those small moments of joy for I need to exercise right 487 00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:25,000 now. 488 00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:26,000 Yeah. 489 00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:27,000 Yeah. 490 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:29,240 There's a relationship balance between food and there's a relationship balance between 491 00:25:29,240 --> 00:25:30,960 exercise. 492 00:25:30,960 --> 00:25:38,280 And I do think the world of social media and instant gratification and fake versus real 493 00:25:38,280 --> 00:25:41,200 is the biggest catalyst to all of this. 494 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:42,200 And I think you're right. 495 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:44,560 COVID definitely was not. 496 00:25:44,560 --> 00:25:48,960 It's not normal what we had during COVID, what we didn't have during COVID and the time 497 00:25:48,960 --> 00:25:53,560 you could a lot to things that you didn't have before and you don't have now. 498 00:25:53,560 --> 00:25:55,720 So it's definitely different. 499 00:25:55,720 --> 00:25:59,480 How do you balance all of that in a restaurant life? 500 00:25:59,480 --> 00:26:04,800 Like if I were you, I would have Nutella donuts every single solitary day, which is a wonderful 501 00:26:04,800 --> 00:26:05,800 happy thing. 502 00:26:05,800 --> 00:26:07,000 But I know I wouldn't be happy in the long run. 503 00:26:07,000 --> 00:26:09,680 But like, how do you is that even an issue for you? 504 00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:12,200 Well, you know, they're always accessible. 505 00:26:12,200 --> 00:26:14,280 So like, I know, like it's always there. 506 00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:18,520 So when I wanted, I can just go down and get it, you know, it's not like this is your 507 00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:19,840 only chance to have Nutella. 508 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:20,840 That's true. 509 00:26:20,840 --> 00:26:21,840 Which is what I do. 510 00:26:21,840 --> 00:26:24,280 I would just eat a thousand and then be like, all right, I'm good for a year. 511 00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:25,280 Yeah. 512 00:26:25,280 --> 00:26:27,440 Just, I guess, just don't over overdo it. 513 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:28,440 We don't overdo it. 514 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:29,440 And it's like in moderation. 515 00:26:29,440 --> 00:26:31,040 Like we don't eat out every night. 516 00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:32,040 We don't eat there every night. 517 00:26:32,040 --> 00:26:34,560 Do you eat your restaurant food every night? 518 00:26:34,560 --> 00:26:36,240 No, you don't. 519 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:41,000 But you also are in the works of growing a winery. 520 00:26:41,000 --> 00:26:44,200 I mean, you're growing a winery that we're all going to go to. 521 00:26:44,200 --> 00:26:45,200 I know it's so cool. 522 00:26:45,200 --> 00:26:46,200 Yeah, I know. 523 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:47,200 So you drink. 524 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:48,200 Mm hmm. 525 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:49,200 I drink. 526 00:26:49,200 --> 00:26:51,080 It's really just about moderation. 527 00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:54,440 And you know, Brian and I have gotten to a place now where we really try and like enjoy 528 00:26:54,440 --> 00:26:56,800 it like we're not drinking just to drink. 529 00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:59,120 We're drinking like we're going to open like a good bottle of wine. 530 00:26:59,120 --> 00:27:00,120 Right. 531 00:27:00,120 --> 00:27:02,480 We're like we're not eating just to eat like we're going to like have like the best pizza 532 00:27:02,480 --> 00:27:05,720 or like the best like pasta dish or whatever it is. 533 00:27:05,720 --> 00:27:06,880 Right. 534 00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:12,360 And really like enjoy it and and like quality over quantity, I think is like a huge in any 535 00:27:12,360 --> 00:27:14,320 aspect of life relationships, whatever. 536 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:18,520 But yeah, with food and drink, I think that's important. 537 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:24,520 Well, to plug in the Peary hospitality, if you want all of that fine dining and way of 538 00:27:24,520 --> 00:27:28,240 life that Christina is talking about, check out any of these restaurants in Contra Hocken 539 00:27:28,240 --> 00:27:31,360 and you will you will be back for more for sure. 540 00:27:31,360 --> 00:27:34,720 And you will definitely feel and taste the difference between. 541 00:27:34,720 --> 00:27:35,720 Yep. 542 00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:36,720 Chick-fil-A food. 543 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:37,720 Which is also great. 544 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:39,720 And the good stuff, right? 545 00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:46,200 Well, having said all that and our obsession with working out, you are in the middle of 546 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:49,280 getting trained to be Pilates teacher. 547 00:27:49,280 --> 00:27:51,120 So how's that going? 548 00:27:51,120 --> 00:27:52,120 It's great. 549 00:27:52,120 --> 00:27:55,520 It's actually because I love dance so much and I love fitness so much. 550 00:27:55,520 --> 00:28:00,520 I feel like it's such a like awesome combination of the two because it's it's a lot of core. 551 00:28:00,520 --> 00:28:01,520 It's a lot of lengthening. 552 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,000 It's a lot of stretching. 553 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:08,840 And I think it's one of those things that over time, like as we age, it will be so good 554 00:28:08,840 --> 00:28:14,160 to continue with because it like for joint send like everything. 555 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:16,680 It's just so good for you as you age. 556 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:18,120 Who's aging here? 557 00:28:18,120 --> 00:28:21,520 I will be the oldest one in this room. 558 00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:22,520 Shut your face. 559 00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:23,520 You are actually. 560 00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,120 Shut your both your faces. 561 00:28:25,120 --> 00:28:27,240 That cactus might be older than you. 562 00:28:27,240 --> 00:28:31,160 I'm not just saying this because Brian's probably going to listen to this, but he is amazing 563 00:28:31,160 --> 00:28:36,440 because he like it's like basically every Sunday for four hours, I'm gone. 564 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:37,440 Right. 565 00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:38,880 I wanted to get this certification. 566 00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:42,600 I had said to him like this is a huge commitment and he's always like, go do it. 567 00:28:42,600 --> 00:28:43,600 Go do it. 568 00:28:43,600 --> 00:28:44,600 We'll figure it out. 569 00:28:44,600 --> 00:28:47,920 Like we have 17 balls in the air right now, but he's like, we'll figure it out. 570 00:28:47,920 --> 00:28:48,920 Same thing with dance. 571 00:28:48,920 --> 00:28:49,920 Like I love dance. 572 00:28:49,920 --> 00:28:50,920 I love to teach dance. 573 00:28:50,920 --> 00:28:53,200 I don't ever want to stop teaching dance. 574 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:54,440 Dance does not pay my bills. 575 00:28:54,440 --> 00:28:55,440 It does. 576 00:28:55,440 --> 00:28:57,440 Everybody out there. 577 00:28:57,440 --> 00:28:59,400 But Brian knows that it's important to me. 578 00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:03,120 So we make it a priority that I can go do it. 579 00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,480 Like if the kids are sick and my sitter can come like he comes from work early so that 580 00:29:06,480 --> 00:29:08,080 I can go teach dance. 581 00:29:08,080 --> 00:29:10,160 So that's a great partnership. 582 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:14,280 You have a wonderful partnership where you're able to do it all. 583 00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:18,480 But I think it's also important to keep doing the things that you love or else the other 584 00:29:18,480 --> 00:29:20,960 things take over. 585 00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:23,680 And then you need our podcast to help you get out of that. 586 00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:24,680 Yeah. 587 00:29:24,680 --> 00:29:25,680 That's right. 588 00:29:25,680 --> 00:29:30,200 So in order to keep doing what you're doing, you have to find those little things to make 589 00:29:30,200 --> 00:29:31,200 you happy. 590 00:29:31,200 --> 00:29:32,200 I know. 591 00:29:32,200 --> 00:29:38,600 So dance benefits you in all aspects as a mom, as a woman, as a dancer, as a manager 592 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:41,560 and in charge of other people and all that stuff. 593 00:29:41,560 --> 00:29:47,680 Like being able to do Pilates that kind of like feed your spirit and dance. 594 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:50,600 It kind of feeds everything else. 595 00:29:50,600 --> 00:29:56,320 Let's play Christina on the spot. 596 00:29:56,320 --> 00:29:58,240 We have titled this. 597 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:00,440 I got a nervous. 598 00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:03,200 Nutella do or Nutella do not. 599 00:30:03,200 --> 00:30:04,200 Do you get it? 600 00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:05,200 Do not. 601 00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:06,200 I love it. 602 00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:07,200 I do get it. 603 00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:08,200 I get it. 604 00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,200 Yeah. 605 00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:14,840 All you have to do is answer the question and say Nutella do or Nutella do not. 606 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:18,160 Going to a restaurant with kids or without kids? 607 00:30:18,160 --> 00:30:21,080 We like to bring our kids everywhere. 608 00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:26,280 Just like control them and make sure they're good. 609 00:30:26,280 --> 00:30:29,120 Coming in with a large party of 10 with no reservation. 610 00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:32,120 Do Monday through Thursday. 611 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:35,120 Do not Friday, Saturday. 612 00:30:35,120 --> 00:30:37,000 Don't not. 613 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:41,480 Sending back food if you are not 100% happy with it. 614 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:42,480 Do. 615 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:43,480 Do? 616 00:30:43,480 --> 00:30:44,480 Yeah. 617 00:30:44,480 --> 00:30:46,960 I don't want anybody to ever be unhappy with what they get. 618 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:51,840 Now, sometimes I can't ever make them happy and we try. 619 00:30:51,840 --> 00:30:54,280 But I think you always send it back. 620 00:30:54,280 --> 00:30:55,640 If you don't like it, send it back. 621 00:30:55,640 --> 00:30:57,480 You should never have to pay for something that you don't like. 622 00:30:57,480 --> 00:30:59,080 You don't have to be mean about it. 623 00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:00,080 Yeah. 624 00:31:00,080 --> 00:31:02,440 Don't throw it at the server. 625 00:31:02,440 --> 00:31:05,240 You should never pay for something that you don't like. 626 00:31:05,240 --> 00:31:06,240 Okay. 627 00:31:06,240 --> 00:31:11,280 Showing up to a restaurant in workout clothes or do not go at all? 628 00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:12,280 Yeah. 629 00:31:12,280 --> 00:31:13,280 Why not? 630 00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:14,280 Make it cute. 631 00:31:14,280 --> 00:31:15,280 Yeah. 632 00:31:15,280 --> 00:31:16,280 Just maybe sit at the bar. 633 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:17,280 I don't understand. 634 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:21,320 I mean, people come in after they exercise all the time for happy hour and stuff. 635 00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:24,760 I think it's great because I don't know. 636 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:28,560 It's fun to work out with your friends and then to continue the party basically after 637 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:31,840 you grab a bite, Nutella do. 638 00:31:31,840 --> 00:31:33,080 All right. 639 00:31:33,080 --> 00:31:35,760 This is one for the signs of the times. 640 00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:42,800 So maybe not in your restaurant, but when you are ordering, say at the Starbucks and 641 00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:48,960 there is a tipping option, even though you're not at a sit down, Nutella do tip. 642 00:31:48,960 --> 00:31:50,920 Nutella do not tip. 643 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:51,920 Nutella do. 644 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:53,440 Nutella do. 645 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,440 I tip everybody. 646 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:58,760 You service jobs in hospitality jobs. 647 00:31:58,760 --> 00:32:02,800 Starbucks is a little different because they get health benefits, but they're still there. 648 00:32:02,800 --> 00:32:04,800 Carly or Victoria. 649 00:32:04,800 --> 00:32:08,480 Oh my God. 650 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:10,000 Just Nutella do not for both. 651 00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:13,000 I do not. 652 00:32:13,000 --> 00:32:15,000 Do not. 653 00:32:15,000 --> 00:32:17,560 Christina, you won. 654 00:32:17,560 --> 00:32:18,560 Yay. 655 00:32:18,560 --> 00:32:22,480 Thank you. 656 00:32:22,480 --> 00:32:28,320 So ending this on a high note, what advice do you have for moms that are trying to get 657 00:32:28,320 --> 00:32:32,680 in that workout or not get in the workout because there's just so much going on and not 658 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:33,800 feeling guilty about it? 659 00:32:33,800 --> 00:32:35,640 What advice do you have for them? 660 00:32:35,640 --> 00:32:38,560 Find the time that works best for you and your family. 661 00:32:38,560 --> 00:32:43,040 So if everybody's working out at 6 a.m., but that doesn't work for you, you don't have 662 00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:45,040 to do a 6 a.m. workout. 663 00:32:45,040 --> 00:32:48,840 I would also say find the exercise that works best for you. 664 00:32:48,840 --> 00:32:51,680 Everybody knows always like, what is the best exercise for weight loss? 665 00:32:51,680 --> 00:32:56,080 What is the best exercise is the one that you enjoy the most that you will be most consistent 666 00:32:56,080 --> 00:32:57,080 with? 667 00:32:57,080 --> 00:32:58,080 And it could be everything. 668 00:32:58,080 --> 00:33:01,560 I mean, I am all over the place. 669 00:33:01,560 --> 00:33:06,240 I like spinning and lifting weights and yoga and boxing and running and dance. 670 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:07,720 I like all of it. 671 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:11,880 And so I do all of it, but I'll wake up in the morning and say, you know what, today 672 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,280 I'm going to do X, whatever it is. 673 00:33:14,280 --> 00:33:19,560 So the best exercise is whatever makes you the happiest doing it to quote my man, Denzel 674 00:33:19,560 --> 00:33:20,560 Washington. 675 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:25,560 So without commitment, you'll never start and without consistency, you'll never finish. 676 00:33:25,560 --> 00:33:27,400 And I think that that is so true. 677 00:33:27,400 --> 00:33:28,400 Say it again. 678 00:33:28,400 --> 00:33:29,400 Say it again. 679 00:33:29,400 --> 00:33:32,840 Without commitment, you'll never start without consistency. 680 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:34,440 You'll never finish it. 681 00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:40,340 You must apply discipline, but more importantly is consistency, because if you are not consistent, 682 00:33:40,340 --> 00:33:41,640 it will just not stay. 683 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:42,640 Yeah. 684 00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:43,640 You have to have a little bit of discipline. 685 00:33:43,640 --> 00:33:44,640 I know. 686 00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:46,680 And I have to commit to it. 687 00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:50,840 Like some people work out for like five days and be like, well, nothing happened. 688 00:33:50,840 --> 00:33:54,440 Like I'm still the same and I you and it's hard. 689 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:55,600 And you guys know this too. 690 00:33:55,600 --> 00:33:57,760 Like it'll be fun for like a couple of days. 691 00:33:57,760 --> 00:34:01,080 And then like the next week, you're like, I'm kind of getting tired of this. 692 00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,680 And then like by week three, you're like, I'm not seeing any changes. 693 00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:04,680 Like I'm done. 694 00:34:04,680 --> 00:34:06,560 This is like a waste of time. 695 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:08,840 You have to like just push through that. 696 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:10,560 Plot almost. 697 00:34:10,560 --> 00:34:14,960 And that's why I feel like mixing up your exercise will help you like will help keep 698 00:34:14,960 --> 00:34:18,280 it fun, mental and muscle confusion. 699 00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:19,280 Yeah. 700 00:34:19,280 --> 00:34:20,440 And keep it consistent. 701 00:34:20,440 --> 00:34:23,320 And then you'll start to see change. 702 00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:29,840 And I would venture to say to tag on what you said in the beginning, follow the appropriate 703 00:34:29,840 --> 00:34:33,800 accounts that just feel real and not fake. 704 00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:37,640 And comparison is the devil. 705 00:34:37,640 --> 00:34:39,240 100 percent. 706 00:34:39,240 --> 00:34:44,240 And say that again to me because as much as I know it, it's so hard not to do it. 707 00:34:44,240 --> 00:34:45,240 It's the hardest part. 708 00:34:45,240 --> 00:34:48,880 I mean, we all know the right things to do. 709 00:34:48,880 --> 00:34:49,880 That's general. 710 00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,240 We mostly know the right things to do. 711 00:34:52,240 --> 00:34:53,440 It's putting it into action. 712 00:34:53,440 --> 00:34:55,320 That's the hardest part, especially for yourself. 713 00:34:55,320 --> 00:34:59,080 I can tell you what to do and what you should be doing, but I'm not going to do it for myself. 714 00:34:59,080 --> 00:35:01,560 Yeah, you know, and that's that's hard. 715 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:03,360 So I think I think that's right. 716 00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:08,400 Unfollow the people that are lying to you basically on Instagram. 717 00:35:08,400 --> 00:35:09,400 They're lying. 718 00:35:09,400 --> 00:35:10,400 It's not. 719 00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:12,480 Social media is not true. 720 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:13,480 It just isn't. 721 00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:17,560 And I wish I knew that after having a baby because I really thought. 722 00:35:17,560 --> 00:35:18,560 Yeah. 723 00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:23,880 And it puts you in such a bad place to you just feel awful and nobody should feel awful 724 00:35:23,880 --> 00:35:25,360 about themselves. 725 00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:26,360 Yeah. 726 00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:28,360 So work it, mom. 727 00:35:28,360 --> 00:35:29,360 Work it, mom. 728 00:35:29,360 --> 00:35:30,360 That's right. 729 00:35:30,360 --> 00:35:31,360 I like how you said it. 730 00:35:31,360 --> 00:35:32,360 That was good. 731 00:35:32,360 --> 00:35:33,360 It was good. 732 00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:35,360 Working moms work it. 733 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:36,920 And I just want to add to that. 734 00:35:36,920 --> 00:35:41,280 Stay at home moms are the hardest working moms and you are working moms as well. 735 00:35:41,280 --> 00:35:42,280 That's right. 736 00:35:42,280 --> 00:35:44,280 So stay at home. 737 00:35:44,280 --> 00:35:45,280 Yes. 738 00:35:45,280 --> 00:35:54,800 For your real tip today, it's called fake news, which is a very good description of 739 00:35:54,800 --> 00:36:00,880 what your news feed in your Instagram or social media accounts might look like right now. 740 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:08,960 So the tip is to filter through fake accounts that just don't feel real and then unfollow 741 00:36:08,960 --> 00:36:14,840 those accounts so that you are now the curator of your news feed of seeing what you want 742 00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:22,600 to see and not comparing yourself to the accounts that are not real life. 743 00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:27,840 And now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called give me a break. 744 00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:33,080 Now, what that means is to give yourself a break from social media this week. 745 00:36:33,080 --> 00:36:35,000 It is wild on social media. 746 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:36,000 There's craziness. 747 00:36:36,000 --> 00:36:37,000 There's fake news. 748 00:36:37,000 --> 00:36:38,000 All of it. 749 00:36:38,000 --> 00:36:39,360 Give yourself a break from it. 750 00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:41,040 Put your phone down. 751 00:36:41,040 --> 00:36:42,240 Look at somebody next to you. 752 00:36:42,240 --> 00:36:43,640 Have a conversation. 753 00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:50,120 Watch TV, zone out, do nothing, read a book, whatever you want without using your phone. 754 00:36:50,120 --> 00:36:55,720 You will be amazed at what the world has to offer out of the screen. 755 00:36:55,720 --> 00:36:58,200 Well, thank you, Christina. 756 00:36:58,200 --> 00:37:02,800 Number one, it was very nice to talk to someone other than Carly. 757 00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:07,960 But it really was, I think it's really important to shed a light on the genuine nature of 758 00:37:07,960 --> 00:37:14,400 what it's like to be out there working, being a mom, being a woman, getting caught up in 759 00:37:14,400 --> 00:37:20,120 the craze and trying to get yourself back out of it into a sustainable way to keep your 760 00:37:20,120 --> 00:37:22,040 mindset and your body and your happiness. 761 00:37:22,040 --> 00:37:23,520 So thank you so much. 762 00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:24,520 Thanks for having me. 763 00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:25,760 Thanks for being real with us. 764 00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:26,760 Anytime. 765 00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:29,600 And Carly, thank you for being extra. 766 00:37:29,600 --> 00:37:30,600 Anytime. 767 00:37:30,600 --> 00:37:33,480 All the time. 768 00:37:33,480 --> 00:37:46,760 Remember, you are always fit to be real and always allowed to be a little extra. 769 00:37:46,760 --> 00:37:49,960 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 770 00:37:49,960 --> 00:37:51,760 educational purposes only. 771 00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:53,960 We are not healthcare professionals. 772 00:37:53,960 --> 00:37:57,720 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the 773 00:37:57,720 --> 00:37:59,760 medical professional in your life. 774 00:37:59,760 --> 00:38:04,880 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 775 00:38:04,880 --> 00:38:08,680 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to. 776 00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:09,680 Okay? 777 00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:29,800 Okay, bye.