WEBVTT 00:00:07.750 --> 00:00:10.730 Welcome to Fit To Be Real. And a little extra. 00:00:10.990 --> 00:00:14.949 I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. And I'm Carmela. 00:00:16.829 --> 00:00:19.730 She's gonna think that she has to yell like she 00:00:19.730 --> 00:00:21.570 does on FaceTime. Carly, that's what you do. 00:00:21.890 --> 00:00:24.289 That's 100 % what you do every single time. I'm 00:00:24.289 --> 00:00:27.010 always like, why are you yelling? We've never 00:00:27.010 --> 00:00:33.439 had Carmela on the YouTube. No. And I'm in control. 00:00:33.899 --> 00:00:36.119 I'm not sure where I'm supposed to look. There 00:00:36.119 --> 00:00:39.820 or there? There. Everywhere. I'm in control of 00:00:39.820 --> 00:00:41.539 her microphone, so if her answers are taking 00:00:41.539 --> 00:00:43.820 too long, I have the ability... She will cut 00:00:43.820 --> 00:00:48.520 me off. ...to take it away. We like to talk over 00:00:48.520 --> 00:00:52.520 each other, so this isn't going to go well. But 00:00:52.520 --> 00:00:55.340 it's going to happen. Especially with two mics. 00:00:55.539 --> 00:00:58.320 And three people. But also remember... You need 00:00:58.320 --> 00:01:00.399 to talk into them. Maybe don't talk until microphones 00:01:00.399 --> 00:01:02.619 in front of your face. Right. Right. Right. Right. 00:01:02.619 --> 00:01:09.700 But also be quick on the reflex. OK. You go. 00:01:09.799 --> 00:01:13.560 I go. You go. I go. Carly basically. Oh, yeah. 00:01:13.560 --> 00:01:16.879 That was cute. Carly basically texted this morning 00:01:16.879 --> 00:01:18.319 and said, are we doing this? What are we talking 00:01:18.319 --> 00:01:20.799 about? We'll have mom on. Hey, mom. I was like, 00:01:22.219 --> 00:01:24.920 I'll be there. And I said, what are you going 00:01:24.920 --> 00:01:29.290 to ask me? I'm afraid of. some of their questions. 00:01:29.909 --> 00:01:33.489 So she said the studio and then that's safe. 00:01:33.670 --> 00:01:34.950 All right, I need to know what questions you're 00:01:34.950 --> 00:01:42.489 afraid of. Pre -kids life. Mom, we would never 00:01:42.489 --> 00:01:44.650 ask you about Studio 54. We already did that. 00:01:44.650 --> 00:01:51.010 Okay, good. And you know, deep heavy thoughts. 00:01:51.870 --> 00:01:53.390 Yeah, we don't like deep heavy thoughts with 00:01:53.390 --> 00:01:58.349 you. I have deep heavy thoughts. You're gonna 00:01:58.349 --> 00:02:02.069 all understand Carly a little bit more today. 00:02:02.969 --> 00:02:06.030 I do have deep heavy thoughts, but nobody ever 00:02:06.030 --> 00:02:09.050 asks. Because you're apparently afraid of them. 00:02:09.409 --> 00:02:11.409 No, I'm not afraid of them. You just said you're 00:02:11.409 --> 00:02:13.810 afraid of them. Well, I don't want to tell the 00:02:13.810 --> 00:02:16.710 world. For the first time, if I'm verbalizing 00:02:16.710 --> 00:02:18.409 them, I don't want the world to find out. For 00:02:18.409 --> 00:02:20.689 the last time, the world is not listening to 00:02:20.689 --> 00:02:25.810 this podcast. One never knows. One never knows. 00:02:25.979 --> 00:02:28.500 Just all the people you know, that's all. I used 00:02:28.500 --> 00:02:30.719 to be deep. Okay, hold on. Microphone girl has 00:02:30.719 --> 00:02:35.219 to be facing her. She's... I used to be deep. 00:02:35.360 --> 00:02:40.020 I did. I liked deep poems. Drink every time she 00:02:40.020 --> 00:02:42.580 says deep. Drink every time we don't know what's 00:02:42.580 --> 00:02:44.919 going on and you're a little confused about where 00:02:44.919 --> 00:02:48.900 the conversation's going. Okay. I don't think 00:02:48.900 --> 00:02:51.740 I... I have nothing to say. Okay, we'll ask you 00:02:51.740 --> 00:02:53.740 some questions. How about that? Good. Okay. Don't 00:02:53.740 --> 00:02:55.180 talk unless you have a microphone in front of 00:02:55.180 --> 00:03:00.419 you, okay? No, you're talking. It's like if we 00:03:00.419 --> 00:03:05.939 had Dean here. No, Dean was really good. Was 00:03:05.939 --> 00:03:10.300 he? This might be one you all want to watch. 00:03:11.199 --> 00:03:12.979 This might be the day that you tune into YouTube 00:03:12.979 --> 00:03:16.139 and not just listen to this in your ears. Oh 00:03:16.139 --> 00:03:21.750 boy. Okay. So just shush for a second. So you 00:03:21.750 --> 00:03:24.229 know that we are in our 15th year of C -Fit, 00:03:24.330 --> 00:03:27.949 but what you might not know is that Miss Carmela 00:03:27.949 --> 00:03:31.270 here is in her 30th year of Carmela's Dance Studio, 00:03:31.669 --> 00:03:35.069 and 30 is a very large number, and one that came 00:03:35.069 --> 00:03:38.990 out of nowhere. Damn. It's a deep number. It's 00:03:38.990 --> 00:03:42.090 a deep number. Yeah, it's a deep number. And 00:03:42.090 --> 00:03:46.129 we did not realize, I guess I can't say we, I 00:03:46.129 --> 00:03:49.669 think. I didn't know, until Christina said it. 00:03:49.900 --> 00:03:52.860 In August, she said, what are we going to do 00:03:52.860 --> 00:03:56.360 for your 30th anniversary? I said, who's what? 00:03:56.840 --> 00:03:59.460 A anniversary for what? She said, it's been five 00:03:59.460 --> 00:04:03.599 years since your 25th. Not a great representation 00:04:03.599 --> 00:04:09.699 of good business work. But it's true. 30 is a 00:04:09.699 --> 00:04:13.680 huge number and it's a deep number and something 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:16.500 that's... I mean, how many businesses do you 00:04:16.500 --> 00:04:20.139 know that have been around for 30 years? Ah. 00:04:20.500 --> 00:04:23.199 There's no right answer. There's no wrong answer. 00:04:23.220 --> 00:04:28.180 She said, if you want to quote this, ah. Just. 00:04:28.500 --> 00:04:31.240 I'm trying to think. I don't know. Okay. There's 00:04:31.240 --> 00:04:33.439 no, yeah, there's no, this wasn't a trick question. 00:04:33.879 --> 00:04:36.920 Woolworths? No, Woolworths is closed. Woolworths 00:04:36.920 --> 00:04:40.720 is closed. Strawberges? Woolworths? Strawberges 00:04:40.720 --> 00:04:44.160 is closed. Sears is closed. Clovers? Clovers 00:04:44.160 --> 00:04:48.600 are closed. Ah. Value City? Value City's closed. 00:04:48.600 --> 00:04:51.600 Wow, you're up on these franchises? Carmela's 00:04:51.600 --> 00:04:54.339 dancing. Clines, Corvettes, they're all closed. 00:04:54.639 --> 00:04:56.839 Stop yelling. And all you people who are watching 00:04:56.839 --> 00:04:59.439 have no idea what the name of these stores are. 00:04:59.839 --> 00:05:02.600 But if anybody's my age, they would know. Yeah, 00:05:02.720 --> 00:05:06.040 your age isn't watching. No. But we are here. 00:05:06.040 --> 00:05:09.079 They can't figure out YouTube. We are here to 00:05:09.079 --> 00:05:12.759 ask our moms some questions about her business 00:05:12.759 --> 00:05:15.240 and what it's like to own a business for 30 years 00:05:15.240 --> 00:05:18.519 because knock on wood, uh, we will. Yep. There 00:05:18.519 --> 00:05:20.639 you go. We will have see fit for 30 years at 00:05:20.639 --> 00:05:23.720 some point. If our bodies are still standing, 00:05:24.000 --> 00:05:26.279 my mom's shaking her head. No, I won't be lasting 00:05:26.279 --> 00:05:29.860 that long, but your bodies are not going to make 00:05:29.860 --> 00:05:32.779 it 30 years. I'm telling you right now, you work 00:05:32.779 --> 00:05:36.579 too long and too hard to keep it up for another 00:05:36.579 --> 00:05:39.579 15 years. Great. So our business is going down. 00:05:41.800 --> 00:05:48.199 Tell me more. No, you're already working for 00:05:48.199 --> 00:05:56.199 five people. Oh my, says the person who has worked 00:05:56.199 --> 00:05:58.939 seven days a week for the past 30 years. Okay. 00:05:59.579 --> 00:06:01.660 So having said that, we're going to ask you some 00:06:01.660 --> 00:06:03.279 questions. We're going to ask you to reflect. 00:06:03.660 --> 00:06:06.839 So I'm going to preface this mom with it's whatever 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:09.819 comes to your head first. That would be the right 00:06:09.819 --> 00:06:13.050 answer. don't think too hard about it okay but 00:06:13.050 --> 00:06:18.689 also i can't edit this why there's no she said 00:06:18.689 --> 00:06:23.310 why why because i don't know how to edit the 00:06:23.310 --> 00:06:26.709 youtube video so if you say something you would 00:06:26.709 --> 00:06:29.769 like me to cut out oh my gosh i can't all right 00:06:29.769 --> 00:06:33.300 i have to be fair This is where you should be 00:06:33.300 --> 00:06:35.199 nervous. So take back what I said and think about 00:06:35.199 --> 00:06:38.060 what you say before you say it. You have 50 -50 00:06:38.060 --> 00:06:40.319 option. It's up to you. All right, here's the 00:06:40.319 --> 00:06:42.060 first question, because it's taken us 10 minutes 00:06:42.060 --> 00:06:47.379 to get here. This one's a hard hitter. What's 00:06:47.379 --> 00:06:50.079 the most valuable lesson you learned that you 00:06:50.079 --> 00:06:52.879 didn't know in your first five years? So what 00:06:52.879 --> 00:06:57.009 have you learned in the past 25? 25. You can 00:06:57.009 --> 00:07:01.850 hold it yourself. Oh my gosh. The first five 00:07:01.850 --> 00:07:15.069 years, uh, I, I, the last, the last 25 years, 00:07:16.829 --> 00:07:24.680 I had learned that. And that's what I learned. 00:07:26.160 --> 00:07:32.220 Perfect. Amazing. Moving on. Moving on. Okay. 00:07:33.060 --> 00:07:36.639 Well, okay. That was a great answer. And, uh, 00:07:37.060 --> 00:07:41.019 Yup. Tough question. Yeah. Okay. What are you 00:07:41.019 --> 00:07:43.920 most proud of looking back over the last 30 years? 00:07:44.399 --> 00:07:48.500 Take a moment. No, I do know what I'm proud of. 00:07:48.779 --> 00:07:53.170 I'm proud of the fact that both of you are extremely 00:07:53.170 --> 00:07:57.490 awesome dance teachers, extremely awesome dance 00:07:57.490 --> 00:08:01.250 teachers, not only dancers, but I watch their 00:08:01.250 --> 00:08:04.829 classes and I'm blown away. It's like the teachers 00:08:04.829 --> 00:08:06.930 become the student and the student has become 00:08:06.930 --> 00:08:10.870 the teacher. Number two, I'm very proud of the 00:08:10.870 --> 00:08:16.670 fact that I'm teaching third generation, second 00:08:16.670 --> 00:08:20.629 and third generations now. And I love that. I 00:08:20.629 --> 00:08:23.410 love that. I look at these little faces and I 00:08:23.410 --> 00:08:27.850 see their mothers 10 years ago, 15 years ago. 00:08:27.990 --> 00:08:30.490 And that really warms the cockles of my heart. 00:08:46.700 --> 00:08:50.799 You're gonna wanna view YouTube. I pulled the 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:57.539 microphone. I pulled the microphone away and 00:08:57.539 --> 00:09:00.820 she brought her head with it. So that I pushed 00:09:00.820 --> 00:09:05.519 her head back. So she was looking at the ceiling 00:09:05.519 --> 00:09:07.759 and the microphone was in her lap and she just 00:09:07.759 --> 00:09:20.580 continued to speak. So the third thing that I 00:09:20.580 --> 00:09:26.639 The third thing that I noticed that I'm proud 00:09:26.639 --> 00:09:31.879 We hope you have some time today because this 00:09:31.879 --> 00:09:34.240 is not something that's gonna go by quickly 20 00:09:34.240 --> 00:09:38.600 minutes The third thing that I was proud of I 00:09:38.600 --> 00:09:43.240 am proud of is that we're still open 30 years 00:09:43.240 --> 00:09:48.840 later and that I can still meet people in the 00:09:48.840 --> 00:09:53.240 store or the street and remember their names. 00:09:54.940 --> 00:09:58.620 And they don't remember me. That's not true. 00:10:00.039 --> 00:10:03.600 I can remember their, almost I can remember the 00:10:03.600 --> 00:10:07.259 dances they did or the costumes they wore in 00:10:07.259 --> 00:10:12.840 the recitals. And I just love the fact that my 00:10:12.840 --> 00:10:20.580 staff teaches the love of dance without intimidation 00:10:20.580 --> 00:10:25.039 and... Except for Carly. I think you should watch, 00:10:25.220 --> 00:10:28.980 observe my glasses more often. And that's what 00:10:28.980 --> 00:10:31.740 I'm proud of. I'm proud of the fact that we're 00:10:31.740 --> 00:10:36.240 still getting the generations up to love dance, 00:10:36.379 --> 00:10:40.059 to love dance. And it's a springboard if they 00:10:40.059 --> 00:10:44.559 want it to be. Good job. Very good answer. We 00:10:44.559 --> 00:10:49.779 gotta cut you off. We need music. I think she 00:10:49.779 --> 00:10:52.700 thinks she's answering these as fast as possible 00:10:52.700 --> 00:10:54.720 because somebody else is gonna hit the buzzer 00:10:54.720 --> 00:10:57.840 and chime in as well. But that's her life. She 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:00.960 talks as if someone's going to stop her talking. 00:11:00.980 --> 00:11:03.200 Because nobody ever listens to me. Oh my god. 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:06.679 I have to talk quickly to get my ideas out. It's 00:11:06.679 --> 00:11:08.080 the best when she's like yeah yeah yeah this 00:11:08.080 --> 00:11:12.429 is what I have to say. Okay, all good answers. 00:11:12.649 --> 00:11:13.830 There's nothing... Wait, she just looked at me 00:11:13.830 --> 00:11:17.490 and went, it's true. But it wasn't on the microphone. 00:11:18.950 --> 00:11:21.450 Nothing she says today is wrong, because this 00:11:21.450 --> 00:11:24.009 is all her opinion. I'm going to ask you one 00:11:24.009 --> 00:11:26.590 more from this little section. If you could go 00:11:26.590 --> 00:11:30.590 back and start over today, how or would you do 00:11:30.590 --> 00:11:38.090 anything differently? Oh, oh. I know, I know, 00:11:38.090 --> 00:11:44.809 I know. do differently. I like the location of 00:11:44.809 --> 00:11:47.409 my studio, but I would like it to be just a little 00:11:47.409 --> 00:11:55.070 bit bigger, physically. Not mentally. The physicality 00:11:55.070 --> 00:11:57.090 of the studio. The physicality of the studio. 00:11:57.309 --> 00:11:59.649 I kept trying to make it bigger and bigger. I 00:11:59.649 --> 00:12:02.429 took the staircase out. I took the music camera, 00:12:02.950 --> 00:12:04.830 grabbing it out. I, you know, tried to make it 00:12:04.830 --> 00:12:07.870 bigger. Also, I... It's okay, Mom. No one's on 00:12:07.870 --> 00:12:14.460 fire. No one's on fire. I would clean out the 00:12:14.460 --> 00:12:15.980 basement. Oh my God, you're the same person. 00:12:16.059 --> 00:12:18.740 Both of you are the same. Both of you are the 00:12:18.740 --> 00:12:21.059 same. I would clean that. Well, I think she lived 00:12:21.059 --> 00:12:23.759 with me for a while. To be fair, I have cleaned 00:12:23.759 --> 00:12:27.460 out that basement twice. It was my summer job. 00:12:27.500 --> 00:12:30.980 I did it once by myself. Didn't do a great job. 00:12:31.440 --> 00:12:34.659 I did. And then she messed it up again. And then 00:12:34.659 --> 00:12:37.000 Andrew and I did it one year. She's saying, yeah, 00:12:37.000 --> 00:12:41.289 she agrees. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So if you could 00:12:41.289 --> 00:12:44.009 do it differently, you would have wanted a bigger 00:12:44.009 --> 00:12:49.029 space. Yes, but in the same location. So everything 00:12:49.029 --> 00:12:54.029 else is fantastic. Uh, yes. So you think you're 00:12:54.029 --> 00:12:59.110 pretty? Yes. Slap me with the pink spotlight 00:12:59.110 --> 00:13:03.850 and I'll be pretty. Mom, that's a mean girl's 00:13:03.850 --> 00:13:06.129 quote, but okay, whatever you think. Wait, what 00:13:06.129 --> 00:13:10.230 were you quoting? Another old Diva movie, but 00:13:10.230 --> 00:13:11.610 I don't even know. Love those old Diva movies. 00:13:11.629 --> 00:13:14.309 Slap me with the pink spotlight and I'll be pretty. 00:13:14.990 --> 00:13:18.289 Wow, you stuttered both times you said it. Wait 00:13:18.289 --> 00:13:23.669 a minute, what I would change. This is, you think 00:13:23.669 --> 00:13:25.830 this is about the studio, this episode, this 00:13:25.830 --> 00:13:29.669 is about ADHD. This whole episode is a lesson 00:13:29.669 --> 00:13:34.870 on ADHD. I think, no, I think I would pay people 00:13:34.870 --> 00:13:39.990 more. I think I would like to change that too. 00:13:40.009 --> 00:13:42.789 We can do that now. That is something you're 00:13:42.789 --> 00:13:45.889 in control of. Okay, you don't have the microphone, 00:13:45.929 --> 00:13:50.090 you can't talk. I love that after 30 years. Everyone's 00:13:50.090 --> 00:13:54.970 getting a raise. I would like to pay people more. 00:13:55.549 --> 00:14:00.669 Same. Okay, all right, next one. I would love 00:14:00.669 --> 00:14:04.350 to hear this answer. I don't know if we're gonna 00:14:04.350 --> 00:14:06.990 get an honest answer here because I didn't give 00:14:06.990 --> 00:14:08.529 her these questions ahead of time, so she had 00:14:08.529 --> 00:14:10.750 no time to think about it. Wow, we couldn't tell. 00:14:12.850 --> 00:14:15.789 But what is the biggest hidden challenge in running 00:14:15.789 --> 00:14:18.850 a business for 30 years that you didn't know 00:14:18.850 --> 00:14:21.750 that you would come across? I know what I think 00:14:21.750 --> 00:14:23.889 it is. Do you want me to say what I think it 00:14:23.889 --> 00:14:29.659 is? Yes, yes. I think... I'm sorry, is there 00:14:29.659 --> 00:14:32.639 a problem? Bad interviewer, but keep going. Oh, 00:14:32.639 --> 00:14:35.879 I know what it is. Okay, go ahead. I think running 00:14:35.879 --> 00:14:40.200 a business and raising children at the same time, 00:14:40.279 --> 00:14:43.679 is that what your thing was? No. But that was 00:14:43.679 --> 00:14:50.220 hard. That was hard way back when because it 00:14:50.220 --> 00:14:54.379 was hard because I had to do my schedules around 00:14:54.379 --> 00:15:00.330 who I know what I would like. You had to do your 00:15:00.330 --> 00:15:02.649 schedules around. I had to do my schedules around 00:15:02.649 --> 00:15:05.570 my three children's schedules and then still 00:15:05.570 --> 00:15:11.110 make everybody happy. What was your other? Challenge? 00:15:11.710 --> 00:15:16.750 Did you say challenge? You cut yourself off to 00:15:16.750 --> 00:15:19.289 think of another hidden challenge. Didn't finish 00:15:19.289 --> 00:15:21.909 that sentence and then said I don't remember 00:15:21.909 --> 00:15:25.179 what the second one was. I think we found the 00:15:25.179 --> 00:15:30.200 challenge, guys. And this is why Vicki keeps 00:15:30.200 --> 00:15:33.960 me grounded, because Vicki is the one who says 00:15:33.960 --> 00:15:38.659 focus, and I focus. Or at least I try. I forget 00:15:38.659 --> 00:15:40.679 what the question was. Okay, so the question 00:15:40.679 --> 00:15:45.269 was... I'm scared. What was your hidden challenge 00:15:45.269 --> 00:15:46.889 in the past 30 years that you didn't think you 00:15:46.889 --> 00:15:49.210 would have to face? I like the children one. 00:15:49.250 --> 00:15:51.690 Yeah. In my... Yeah, we're afraid of the children. 00:15:52.450 --> 00:15:55.690 In my opinion, for my business, I just miss a 00:15:55.690 --> 00:15:58.690 lot of things for the kids. My mom never, that 00:15:58.690 --> 00:16:04.110 I remember, missed anything. She never missed 00:16:04.110 --> 00:16:07.990 anything. What I think the hidden challenge would 00:16:07.990 --> 00:16:11.470 have been would be dealing with... Different 00:16:11.470 --> 00:16:13.950 situations with parents because when you open 00:16:13.950 --> 00:16:16.250 a dance studio, you think you're teaching kids. 00:16:16.610 --> 00:16:19.309 That's all you're doing But I think there's so 00:16:19.309 --> 00:16:22.250 many challenges that when you teach kids that 00:16:22.250 --> 00:16:24.850 the parent that come along with parents I would 00:16:24.850 --> 00:16:27.970 have never thought about that. Okay, so I agree 00:16:27.970 --> 00:16:32.190 with you. I I didn't miss anything because kids 00:16:32.190 --> 00:16:36.360 weren't as active as they are now All of you 00:16:36.360 --> 00:16:39.519 play. We were so boring. Wait a minute. No, all 00:16:39.519 --> 00:16:43.679 of you played a sport, but it had a fall sport, 00:16:43.700 --> 00:16:46.519 a winter sport and a spring sport during this 00:16:46.519 --> 00:16:49.799 during the school year. Now they're on three 00:16:49.799 --> 00:16:53.320 fall sports, three winter sports and three. Plus 00:16:53.320 --> 00:16:57.500 they want to dance. I have to tell you when I 00:16:57.500 --> 00:17:00.679 go to dance teaching conventions. You don't need 00:17:00.679 --> 00:17:04.660 to. No, I want to tell you when I would go to 00:17:04.660 --> 00:17:07.619 dance teaching conventions, I listen to the dance 00:17:07.619 --> 00:17:09.680 teachers and all they do is complain about the 00:17:09.680 --> 00:17:12.099 parents, the parents, the parents. And I sit 00:17:12.099 --> 00:17:15.200 there and my parents are awesome. My parents 00:17:15.200 --> 00:17:20.160 are so supportive. I can name maybe on one hand 00:17:20.160 --> 00:17:25.180 five parents who yelled at me. Did you just look 00:17:25.180 --> 00:17:29.109 at your hand and count your fingers? Right enough 00:17:29.109 --> 00:17:33.730 was four or five. But I can count five parents 00:17:33.730 --> 00:17:38.289 that gave me a hard time in 30 years. I can count 00:17:38.289 --> 00:17:41.339 more. I can count more. Can count some more and 00:17:41.339 --> 00:17:42.839 those parents aren't listening to this podcast 00:17:42.839 --> 00:17:46.460 mom, so you're good Well, I I know the five parents 00:17:46.460 --> 00:17:50.880 that I remember like that I can name right now 00:17:50.880 --> 00:17:54.900 So my parents were not a challenge at all, but 00:17:54.900 --> 00:17:58.660 the kids activities now That's the challenge 00:17:58.660 --> 00:18:02.220 because I'm already getting my child can't do 00:18:02.220 --> 00:18:04.319 that weekend because of this. Can you put her 00:18:04.319 --> 00:18:09.740 around? every sport Everything is an activity, 00:18:10.079 --> 00:18:12.299 and that's what's the challenge to the teachers. 00:18:12.900 --> 00:18:15.480 Attendance. Attendance is a challenge. Yeah. 00:18:15.660 --> 00:18:18.259 You win, Mom. You win. You got it. You got it 00:18:18.259 --> 00:18:20.140 all in. You got it in faster than all of the 00:18:20.140 --> 00:18:21.380 others. I don't know if I'm right or not. No, 00:18:21.400 --> 00:18:22.940 that was the right answer. That was the right 00:18:22.940 --> 00:18:26.400 answer. Attendance. Attendance. She's saying 00:18:26.400 --> 00:18:29.319 over and over. Attendance. Do you have a tick? 00:18:31.740 --> 00:18:35.589 Here's a good one, Mom. What keeps you motivated 00:18:35.589 --> 00:18:38.750 and passionate about teaching dance after 30 00:18:38.750 --> 00:18:43.910 years? Oh my gosh, that's so easy to say. I love 00:18:43.910 --> 00:18:47.230 watching the kids progress from week to week. 00:18:47.650 --> 00:18:50.869 And the fact, if they come to class and their 00:18:50.869 --> 00:18:55.369 attendance is good, then they do improve. Attendance. 00:18:55.970 --> 00:18:59.799 Drink every time I say attendance. No, no, no. 00:18:59.819 --> 00:19:02.480 She's making her own games here. I'm sorry, is 00:19:02.480 --> 00:19:07.839 this your show? And then said, no. I love to 00:19:07.839 --> 00:19:11.180 see the progress. I love to see the kids who 00:19:11.180 --> 00:19:13.779 are there because they want to learn how to dance. 00:19:14.140 --> 00:19:19.299 I love to see how proud they are. I do. But there 00:19:19.299 --> 00:19:23.039 are children questioning you, Mom. Vote for me. 00:19:23.380 --> 00:19:26.720 That sounds hokey and cheesy, but that's what 00:19:26.720 --> 00:19:29.660 keeps me going. That's why when I walk into the 00:19:29.660 --> 00:19:32.079 studio, I go to the studio and I'm like, uh, 00:19:32.579 --> 00:19:35.920 uh, uh. But then, but then. I'm gonna screenshot 00:19:35.920 --> 00:19:40.940 that. When the kids come in and they are excited 00:19:40.940 --> 00:19:44.180 to be there, that makes me forget about the outside 00:19:44.180 --> 00:19:51.089 world. And for that hour, I am consummate in 00:19:51.089 --> 00:19:54.670 my teaching. I don't think about it. Back it 00:19:54.670 --> 00:19:58.369 up. You're. Yeah. All I heard was consummate. 00:19:58.710 --> 00:20:02.329 No, no. Consummate. OK, that's not what I heard. 00:20:02.869 --> 00:20:09.190 I am. I am consummate. Stop saying it. But but 00:20:09.190 --> 00:20:12.329 there are some children. Let it go. There are 00:20:12.329 --> 00:20:14.920 some children who. don't want to be there. They 00:20:14.920 --> 00:20:17.220 only want to be there because their friends are 00:20:17.220 --> 00:20:19.799 there. And you can tell the difference between 00:20:19.799 --> 00:20:22.519 the kids who really want to be there. And that's 00:20:22.519 --> 00:20:24.660 what motivates. The heck was the question? On 00:20:24.660 --> 00:20:27.319 all ages, the three -year -olds all the way up 00:20:27.319 --> 00:20:29.920 to the master classes. Mom, let the microphone 00:20:29.920 --> 00:20:33.099 go. Carly tried to take it and she's strong -armed. 00:20:33.519 --> 00:20:37.119 Well, short answers only. Here's a good one, 00:20:37.279 --> 00:20:39.759 Mom, but listen. I'm going to give you two seconds 00:20:39.759 --> 00:20:41.680 to think about it before you answer. She's shaking. 00:20:41.799 --> 00:20:44.299 She's so excited. I'm so excited somebody's listening 00:20:44.299 --> 00:20:48.640 to me. Because you're yelling. What is the legacy 00:20:48.640 --> 00:20:50.839 you want your business to leave behind? Take 00:20:50.839 --> 00:20:54.559 a moment. Take a hot second, mom. OK. You're 00:20:54.559 --> 00:20:57.960 not actually taking a second. Carmela also doesn't 00:20:57.960 --> 00:21:01.019 like quiet moments. She's acting. So for all 00:21:01.019 --> 00:21:04.660 thoughts, it requires a noise to come out of 00:21:04.660 --> 00:21:08.200 her mouth. What is the legacy you want your business 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:17.099 to leave behind? She died. Sorry. Is the legacy 00:21:17.099 --> 00:21:21.380 would be the love you gave her the moment she 00:21:21.380 --> 00:21:30.000 went is is what is the love of dance, the love 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:34.680 of community, the dance friends that they had. 00:21:34.720 --> 00:21:38.539 growing up. I love, that's what I want it to 00:21:38.539 --> 00:21:40.660 be. Oh, I know what I want it to be. Oh, that 00:21:40.660 --> 00:21:45.220 was a fake answer. A safe, a safe haven from 00:21:45.220 --> 00:21:48.259 the outside world. That's what I want it to be. 00:21:48.420 --> 00:21:52.160 I want them to know that they are safe walking 00:21:52.160 --> 00:21:55.559 in those doors of the dance studio, wherever 00:21:55.559 --> 00:22:00.059 they may be, at Seafit or downstairs or upstairs. 00:22:00.359 --> 00:22:02.769 Then again, please. don't observe my classes 00:22:02.769 --> 00:22:10.490 anytime soon. And that they are important. Each 00:22:10.490 --> 00:22:13.309 student is important. Like the mothers say to 00:22:13.309 --> 00:22:15.670 me, how do you remember everybody? Well, because 00:22:15.670 --> 00:22:19.430 each one of those students are important. And 00:22:19.430 --> 00:22:24.890 I think that has been a forgotten thing. You 00:22:24.890 --> 00:22:29.789 can talk to us too, you know. I can? Yeah. You 00:22:29.789 --> 00:22:36.690 are campaigning to that camera. But I, that's 00:22:36.690 --> 00:22:39.769 my legacy. That each student is important. Which 00:22:39.769 --> 00:22:42.890 one? And I want them to love dance and feel good 00:22:42.890 --> 00:22:47.230 about themselves and self -love. And then safe 00:22:47.230 --> 00:22:51.730 haven. Add that in there too. It's a long legacy. 00:22:51.930 --> 00:22:59.170 And I know that these two will carry it on. Oh 00:22:59.170 --> 00:23:00.910 god, that's a loaded, that's a loaded statement. 00:23:00.970 --> 00:23:03.430 We need to talk about that. Do you know, I just 00:23:03.430 --> 00:23:07.009 would like to hold for a moment. Last year, I 00:23:07.009 --> 00:23:14.009 brought you in to recite your motto off of the 00:23:14.009 --> 00:23:19.190 dance, off of the dance website for a surprise 00:23:19.190 --> 00:23:21.750 choreographed number we were going to insert 00:23:21.750 --> 00:23:26.690 this, this speech into and goddamn she couldn't 00:23:26.690 --> 00:23:32.180 get it out. Like this this was This is natural. 00:23:32.759 --> 00:23:35.039 This is you talking except this would have been 00:23:35.039 --> 00:23:40.500 a little hard. Yeah And the way she sat there 00:23:40.500 --> 00:23:43.279 and Couldn't get any you said safe haven the 00:23:43.279 --> 00:23:44.779 only reason that's triggering me to remind me 00:23:44.779 --> 00:23:46.460 this because part of your motto on the website 00:23:46.460 --> 00:23:49.980 is about it being a safe haven Yes, you don't 00:23:49.980 --> 00:23:51.259 have a microphone. But yeah, that's perfect. 00:23:51.299 --> 00:23:56.650 Wow. Look at the shoulder show But she said The 00:23:56.650 --> 00:24:03.369 motto of the dance studio is, I love dance at 00:24:03.369 --> 00:24:06.089 Safe Haven. And now she's like, well, let me 00:24:06.089 --> 00:24:10.809 tell ya. That's what happens with age and wisdom. 00:24:11.269 --> 00:24:14.029 She's doing a dance for us right now. What happens 00:24:14.029 --> 00:24:20.089 with age and wisdom? You become prolific. She's 00:24:20.089 --> 00:24:24.170 a consummate prolific. She's consummating prolificy. 00:24:27.200 --> 00:24:29.859 Okay, that's a perfect segue, because you know 00:24:29.859 --> 00:24:34.599 I'm a good segueist, into her personal personality, 00:24:34.779 --> 00:24:37.059 which we all know you want to get to know a little 00:24:37.059 --> 00:24:39.140 more of Ms. Carmella's personal personality. 00:24:40.500 --> 00:24:45.920 Nope, none of that. What is your signature dance 00:24:45.920 --> 00:24:55.599 move? I'm gonna hold the microphone. Chuck Kelly. 00:24:56.259 --> 00:24:59.460 Yeah. Chuck Kelly. Yeah. You guys are going to 00:24:59.460 --> 00:25:01.559 want to watch. You're going to want to tune in. 00:25:01.940 --> 00:25:07.099 It's a pelvis move. Could you? I like, I like 00:25:07.099 --> 00:25:10.799 pelvis rocks and pelvis moves. I am not the strongest 00:25:10.799 --> 00:25:12.599 turner. This is why she didn't want us to ask. 00:25:12.799 --> 00:25:19.460 Leaps. I like leaps. And jumps. Bar was never 00:25:19.460 --> 00:25:24.940 my strength. If you're going out on the dance 00:25:24.940 --> 00:25:30.039 floor, what are you doing? Pelvic thrust? Like 00:25:30.039 --> 00:25:33.640 at a wedding? Or at a club? All of the above. 00:25:33.940 --> 00:25:37.740 What club are you going to? You mean right now? 00:25:38.559 --> 00:25:40.700 She likes pelvic thrust. Leave her alone. That's 00:25:40.700 --> 00:25:42.460 her signature dance move. She just listed 20 00:25:42.460 --> 00:25:44.619 things. My signature dance move. One of them 00:25:44.619 --> 00:25:50.960 was the bar. Now is, what's it called? Hollaback 00:25:50.960 --> 00:25:54.859 Girl? Yes, Hollaback Girl. It's the usher move, 00:25:54.900 --> 00:25:56.700 mom, the usher move. She just did peace up, A 00:25:56.700 --> 00:26:02.799 town down. Peace up, A town. Down. Okay, that's 00:26:02.799 --> 00:26:05.259 enough moves. I'm crying. Wait a minute, wait 00:26:05.259 --> 00:26:09.200 a minute. And the other thing, perculator, the 00:26:09.200 --> 00:26:11.579 perculator. I like the perculator. We all like 00:26:11.579 --> 00:26:17.539 the perculator. Victoria's face. I'm crying. 00:26:18.759 --> 00:26:21.980 I thought you meant, I thought you meant trademark 00:26:21.980 --> 00:26:25.690 in. Dance class, like ride out. I did. Like Phil 00:26:25.690 --> 00:26:33.109 Black. I did. Phil Black Lee. Oh God, which animal, 00:26:33.269 --> 00:26:38.190 no. A Jack Colby. A Jack Colby. No, I took it 00:26:38.190 --> 00:26:44.150 away. Which animal best represents your personality? 00:26:48.049 --> 00:26:52.759 That's the one that stumped you? Um. would say 00:26:52.759 --> 00:26:56.759 a mouse no I would not I would I disagree I need 00:26:56.759 --> 00:27:02.660 to know why because mice are and they run and 00:27:02.660 --> 00:27:04.460 they can't catch and they're little and they're 00:27:04.460 --> 00:27:07.720 in everything and they are a little hyperactive 00:27:07.720 --> 00:27:10.900 I think you're thinking of a hamster or any pig 00:27:10.900 --> 00:27:14.200 yes no no a hamster on a hamster wheel yeah yeah 00:27:14.200 --> 00:27:19.509 yeah okay oh good okay What were you thinking 00:27:19.509 --> 00:27:22.490 of? A hamster or a guinea pig? I need a tissue. 00:27:22.630 --> 00:27:26.690 You sure do need a tissue. I'll ask the next 00:27:26.690 --> 00:27:30.029 question. Why don't you go get one? Okay. And 00:27:30.029 --> 00:27:35.809 I have my own mic. Oh, God, I'm dying. Oh, man. 00:27:36.769 --> 00:27:39.549 Yeah, a hamster on a hamster wheel. But, you 00:27:39.549 --> 00:27:41.250 know... No, no, no, we're done. That's it. That's 00:27:41.250 --> 00:27:43.930 all. It's a simple question. I like peace and 00:27:43.930 --> 00:27:47.450 quiet, too. No, you don't. Okay. I do. Question. 00:27:48.519 --> 00:27:53.180 What boundaries have you established to protect 00:27:53.180 --> 00:27:56.380 your personal life over the past 30 years between 00:27:56.380 --> 00:28:00.420 business and personal? Well, I did. No, it's 00:28:00.420 --> 00:28:02.440 good you breathed into the microphone. Sorry. 00:28:04.119 --> 00:28:08.200 I didn't for the first 25 years have any boundaries. 00:28:08.480 --> 00:28:12.220 Just the 25. Yeah, but the last five years I 00:28:12.220 --> 00:28:17.799 have done boundaries. How? Prove it. Like yesterday. 00:28:18.529 --> 00:28:21.589 I worked on the snow day, all day the snow day, 00:28:21.809 --> 00:28:25.009 but I had those things that I could have done 00:28:25.009 --> 00:28:27.930 on Sunday, but I'm not gonna do anything on Sunday. 00:28:28.789 --> 00:28:32.230 Like correspond, I will do the schedule. Well, 00:28:32.230 --> 00:28:34.210 that's good, because Vicki and I do your corresponding. 00:28:35.349 --> 00:28:37.809 I did a lot of corresponding yesterday. That's 00:28:37.809 --> 00:28:42.650 a problem. Because Victoria was unaware? Well, 00:28:42.650 --> 00:28:44.849 I didn't want to bother anybody else on my... 00:28:44.890 --> 00:28:48.990 on a snow day so I did the correspondence on 00:28:48.990 --> 00:28:52.849 but Sundays I am Saturday afternoons at 1230 00:28:52.849 --> 00:28:56.450 I turn off and I don't turn back on till Monday 00:28:56.450 --> 00:28:59.450 morning now. Here's the problem that I have with 00:28:59.450 --> 00:29:04.829 this because there are emails most emails that 00:29:04.829 --> 00:29:09.130 I type faster but I have to get the official 00:29:09.130 --> 00:29:11.210 how do you want to say this how would you like 00:29:11.210 --> 00:29:15.299 to respond from Ms. Carmela. So every email is 00:29:15.299 --> 00:29:18.220 from Miss Carmela, but I type faster, right? 00:29:19.000 --> 00:29:21.339 So sometimes she'll write the email out and send 00:29:21.339 --> 00:29:26.059 it to me and go, just send this. And oh my God, 00:29:26.640 --> 00:29:32.859 not a period to be had, not a letter capitalized 00:29:32.859 --> 00:29:37.779 or a comma. It is a run on sentence, a run on 00:29:37.779 --> 00:29:42.559 four or five paragraphs. with no punctuation, 00:29:42.839 --> 00:29:45.920 and she's like, just send it, just send it. So 00:29:45.920 --> 00:29:48.599 the fact that you did correspondence. Yes, yes, 00:29:48.599 --> 00:29:51.140 yes, I did. All tests today. They were very long 00:29:51.140 --> 00:29:53.500 tests. If there'll be emojis in there. Oh yes. 00:29:53.519 --> 00:29:58.740 Very business. Yes. Yes. Yes! Okay. Yes. Your 00:29:58.740 --> 00:30:01.000 microphone's. Oh, add. Can I say one more thing? 00:30:01.609 --> 00:30:05.390 I've made a lot of friends over 30 years of the 00:30:05.390 --> 00:30:09.190 moms and the students and the dads. I've made 00:30:09.190 --> 00:30:11.670 a lot of friends and I am very grateful for that. 00:30:12.450 --> 00:30:14.369 But nobody asked you a question. No, there's 00:30:14.369 --> 00:30:16.190 no question to answer for that. She just wants 00:30:16.190 --> 00:30:18.150 to make sure she's going to be thinking about 00:30:18.150 --> 00:30:20.910 this all week and what she didn't say and what 00:30:20.910 --> 00:30:23.089 she should have said and what she could have 00:30:23.089 --> 00:30:25.589 said. Do you look at her and think how ridiculous? 00:30:26.529 --> 00:30:31.660 I need to know. Do you? OK, that's my lens. Stop 00:30:31.660 --> 00:30:35.380 saying why. Woman, stop it. Do you know I almost 00:30:35.380 --> 00:30:38.079 wore that sweatshirt today knowing that I should 00:30:38.079 --> 00:30:40.119 have. That's why I wore it. That's why I'm wearing 00:30:40.119 --> 00:30:42.680 the shirt. I have one underneath. Do you want 00:30:42.680 --> 00:30:44.140 to switch? No, I don't want you to take your 00:30:44.140 --> 00:30:46.599 shirt off right now. I have another one. No. 00:30:49.500 --> 00:30:53.680 Oh god. Okay, mom. This is such a good idea. 00:30:54.039 --> 00:30:57.160 I love the toilet paper. Carly, there are four 00:30:57.160 --> 00:30:59.019 boxes of tissues open in this apartment. I can't 00:30:59.019 --> 00:31:04.809 find them. You went into the bed hold on no you 00:31:04.809 --> 00:31:09.730 went into the bathroom Reached above to get a 00:31:09.730 --> 00:31:11.890 toilet paper roll this was on the sink. I just 00:31:11.890 --> 00:31:14.589 grabbed it the tissues are at the window So oh 00:31:14.589 --> 00:31:17.490 I didn't turn around Yeah, I had to get yeah. 00:31:17.490 --> 00:31:26.589 Yeah, thanks mom Well Okay, what trait that you 00:31:26.589 --> 00:31:29.690 have helped you survive 30 years as a business 00:31:29.690 --> 00:31:34.230 owner. Oh, I know. Oh, this one she knows. I 00:31:34.230 --> 00:31:41.789 am able to depart car. I knew it. I knew it. 00:31:41.849 --> 00:31:44.369 I knew it was too good to be true. I knew it. 00:31:46.609 --> 00:31:48.369 Decompartmentalize. I thought you were going 00:31:48.369 --> 00:31:51.250 to tell us you were good at deparking people's 00:31:51.250 --> 00:31:54.230 cars. I can't say it, but I'm able to put things 00:31:54.230 --> 00:31:59.230 away. Just compartmentalize. Hey, hey. Just compartmentalize. 00:31:59.589 --> 00:32:01.630 Compartmentalize. Not de -compartmentalize. And 00:32:01.630 --> 00:32:05.809 also chill out. I am able to forgive and forget. 00:32:06.269 --> 00:32:10.730 I am able to compartmentalize. I am able to be 00:32:10.730 --> 00:32:15.710 flexible. And I am also able to put myself in 00:32:15.710 --> 00:32:18.529 somebody else's shoes. And not get so angry. 00:32:18.529 --> 00:32:21.369 Mom, it's okay. You got the job. You got the 00:32:21.369 --> 00:32:27.390 job. Why is it so urgent? She's so afraid I'm 00:32:27.390 --> 00:32:29.390 going to take the microphone away. She's trying 00:32:29.390 --> 00:32:32.390 to get it out of his face. You got the job. Nobody 00:32:32.390 --> 00:32:35.509 ever listens to me, so I have to say fast. Such 00:32:35.509 --> 00:32:40.549 BS. Such BS. OK, she can compartmentalize. That's 00:32:40.549 --> 00:32:42.210 a great trait that she has. If you didn't get 00:32:42.210 --> 00:32:44.890 anything from what she just said. Of this entire 00:32:44.890 --> 00:32:52.599 time. She is a compartmentalizing hamster. which 00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:55.259 is a very good trait to have because I do not 00:32:55.259 --> 00:32:58.200 have that. She is very, oh, you know that I don't 00:32:58.200 --> 00:33:04.740 have that? Right, so. Oh, and I don't take anything 00:33:04.740 --> 00:33:08.359 personally. Great, I take everything personally, 00:33:08.539 --> 00:33:11.220 so. Also, you should take some things personally. 00:33:11.799 --> 00:33:14.539 I don't. We always get very frustrated with her 00:33:14.539 --> 00:33:19.240 when she doesn't get upset or angry and she just. 00:33:19.339 --> 00:33:22.099 sort of goes, ah, it is what it is. No, no, no, 00:33:22.099 --> 00:33:27.140 no. You get upset and you get angry. But then 00:33:27.140 --> 00:33:30.839 the action to stand up for your business, for 00:33:30.839 --> 00:33:33.359 yourself, for your teacher, for your whatever. 00:33:34.279 --> 00:33:39.059 You start to soften. I do. And there is no. There 00:33:39.059 --> 00:33:41.720 is no not necessarily pushback, but like if there 00:33:41.720 --> 00:33:46.859 is a parent or someone, anyone who is. A little 00:33:46.859 --> 00:33:49.420 bit of it on the attack. towards you or your 00:33:49.420 --> 00:33:55.160 business, you do not... I retreat. Yes, you retreat. 00:33:55.259 --> 00:33:59.619 You do not stand up off the bat for yourself, 00:33:59.700 --> 00:34:01.720 even in a professional manner of how you would 00:34:01.720 --> 00:34:03.039 word it. You just don't do it. No, but I have 00:34:03.039 --> 00:34:06.539 all my teachers backs. She does. She has all 00:34:06.539 --> 00:34:11.460 her teachers backs. Are you good? I'm good. She's 00:34:11.460 --> 00:34:14.019 another one, which is why we are the way we are. 00:34:14.349 --> 00:34:17.050 She keeps it in the family, all of her teachers. 00:34:17.289 --> 00:34:22.070 They stay for years and years, 25 years, 20 years, 00:34:22.110 --> 00:34:23.269 18 years. Which is the same a lot because she 00:34:23.269 --> 00:34:25.409 doesn't pay them that much. But she really wants 00:34:25.409 --> 00:34:26.389 to pay them more. She really wants to pay them 00:34:26.389 --> 00:34:29.130 more. They're sticking around for that raise. 00:34:29.309 --> 00:34:32.469 They're waiting for it. Another 30. But they 00:34:32.469 --> 00:34:35.590 stay for a long time because she does have their 00:34:35.590 --> 00:34:38.849 backs. She never sides, you know. Kids say stuff 00:34:38.849 --> 00:34:42.420 like at school all the time, like and immediately, 00:34:42.539 --> 00:34:44.659 you know, you want to see both sides of the story 00:34:44.659 --> 00:34:46.260 and she will see both sides of the story. She 00:34:46.260 --> 00:34:48.079 won't just say, you know, that the kid is always 00:34:48.079 --> 00:34:50.199 right or the customer is always right. She will 00:34:50.199 --> 00:34:52.579 back up her teachers. So that is she is being 00:34:52.579 --> 00:34:54.659 honest. Yeah, that's not what I meant. I meant 00:34:54.659 --> 00:34:57.000 like if someone's giving well, because that's 00:34:57.000 --> 00:34:59.159 not a that's a not a factor. I was even thinking 00:34:59.159 --> 00:35:01.159 about it. It's always it's always that you don't 00:35:01.159 --> 00:35:03.539 stand up when you're like, I would write the 00:35:03.539 --> 00:35:05.860 email. Thank you so much for your input. But 00:35:05.860 --> 00:35:07.840 I've been in business for 30 years. I do know 00:35:07.840 --> 00:35:10.159 what I'm doing. I appreciate it. But here's what 00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:15.579 like A, B, C and D I stop shortchanging me. I 00:35:15.579 --> 00:35:17.380 don't need your help. You stick to you. I got 00:35:17.380 --> 00:35:19.739 me. You don't do that. You're like, thank you 00:35:19.739 --> 00:35:22.219 so much. I never would have thought of that. 00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:24.639 But then she won't do what the suggestion was. 00:35:24.639 --> 00:35:27.139 She'll never do the suggestion. But it's like. 00:35:27.900 --> 00:35:30.840 Is it a good suggestion? No. It's when people 00:35:30.840 --> 00:35:32.440 are like, oh, Ms. Cromwell doesn't know what 00:35:32.440 --> 00:35:35.739 she's doing. Hey, if you just did this and switched 00:35:35.739 --> 00:35:37.519 these two classes, it's like, I'm sorry. You 00:35:37.519 --> 00:35:40.039 don't know what you're talking about. You don't 00:35:40.039 --> 00:35:43.420 ever send the stay out of my business email. 00:35:43.579 --> 00:35:46.800 So that compartmentalization, we get frustrated 00:35:46.800 --> 00:35:49.300 with because we wish you would stick up for yourself 00:35:49.300 --> 00:35:50.920 more in those moments. But the fact that you're 00:35:50.920 --> 00:35:54.119 in business for 30 years, that's why you do it 00:35:54.119 --> 00:35:57.199 the way you do it. Because I don't get upset 00:35:57.199 --> 00:36:00.960 about it. And if I do, like you said, I'm over 00:36:00.960 --> 00:36:04.780 it. I'm over it by that night or the next day. 00:36:04.920 --> 00:36:07.539 And then I can see it clearly. She also plays 00:36:07.539 --> 00:36:09.980 the long game. And I learned that a long time 00:36:09.980 --> 00:36:13.179 ago when I would get upset when people would 00:36:13.179 --> 00:36:15.579 just not think she knew what she was doing, because, 00:36:15.659 --> 00:36:19.579 you know, we're wacky. And sometimes people think 00:36:19.579 --> 00:36:21.460 that, oh, Ms. Carmichael, just like you said, 00:36:21.820 --> 00:36:25.619 oh, she doesn't know. Do it like this. And I 00:36:25.619 --> 00:36:27.440 would say, Mom, tell them this. And she said, 00:36:28.329 --> 00:36:31.150 I've been in business long enough to know how 00:36:31.150 --> 00:36:33.949 to handle people. I let them think that it's 00:36:33.949 --> 00:36:37.409 their idea, but I'm always getting my way. It's 00:36:37.409 --> 00:36:41.110 funny, you're not representing yourself as such 00:36:41.110 --> 00:36:46.030 right now. My friend Scott Douglas. Did you forget? 00:36:46.449 --> 00:36:49.050 No, I didn't know if I wanted to say his name, 00:36:49.449 --> 00:36:52.730 but my friend Scott Douglas said to me, 30 years 00:36:52.730 --> 00:36:56.699 I... I directed shows at Shawnee Playhouse and 00:36:56.699 --> 00:37:01.960 he said to me, you're a successful director, 00:37:02.159 --> 00:37:08.719 choreographer because you're as dumb as a fox. 00:37:10.239 --> 00:37:14.019 Aren't foxes sly? Right. So you pretend to be 00:37:14.039 --> 00:37:16.860 I mean, you sort of come off as dumb, but you 00:37:16.860 --> 00:37:18.820 know exactly what you're doing. You know how 00:37:18.820 --> 00:37:21.559 to get what you want. And it works. I'll never 00:37:21.559 --> 00:37:24.219 forget that he said that to me. And I looked 00:37:24.219 --> 00:37:26.840 at him and I said, you're right. You're absolutely 00:37:26.840 --> 00:37:29.340 right. Yeah, that's true. That's true. And I 00:37:29.340 --> 00:37:32.920 feel like I'm the same way. It is true. You are. 00:37:33.239 --> 00:37:36.320 Wait, look at Victoria. Yes, no, she is. She's 00:37:36.320 --> 00:37:39.860 so, mom's like, she is so dumb. No, she's as 00:37:39.860 --> 00:37:43.699 dumb as a fox. No, she's just dumb. No, she's 00:37:43.699 --> 00:37:47.539 not. You're gonna get grounded. You think. You 00:37:47.539 --> 00:37:53.300 think. You think. No, she's a lion. She roars 00:37:53.300 --> 00:37:58.199 off the bat and wants to eat your head off. Don't 00:37:58.199 --> 00:38:00.860 change your thought. She's now agreeing with 00:38:00.860 --> 00:38:03.159 me. This is the problem. This is the problem. 00:38:04.039 --> 00:38:08.460 She is a lion, but also an ostrich. Cause you 00:38:08.460 --> 00:38:09.840 just want to put your head in the sand. You don't 00:38:09.840 --> 00:38:12.179 actually want confrontation. I want to roar and 00:38:12.179 --> 00:38:15.039 then hide and have somebody else handle it. Yes. 00:38:15.300 --> 00:38:17.639 Yeah. You're like the lion. Nobody believes you 00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:23.019 anymore. You've agreed with everyone. She'll 00:38:23.019 --> 00:38:25.119 agree with everybody, but ultimately she will 00:38:25.119 --> 00:38:27.440 get what she wants. And so just in case anyone 00:38:27.440 --> 00:38:30.039 was ever underestimating that she actually has 00:38:30.039 --> 00:38:32.519 every, she knows every aspect of the business 00:38:32.519 --> 00:38:35.239 and what she's doing. That's yeah, I know you 00:38:35.239 --> 00:38:38.619 do, but I don't think a lot of people, I mean, 00:38:38.619 --> 00:38:40.840 I know everybody respects you and you've had 00:38:40.840 --> 00:38:42.940 a business for 30 years, but that is something 00:38:42.940 --> 00:38:44.800 that I will always remember when I used to fly 00:38:44.800 --> 00:38:46.940 off the handle earlier and be like, I can't believe 00:38:46.940 --> 00:38:49.900 you won't say this to this person. They're laughing 00:38:49.900 --> 00:38:51.739 at you. And she's like, because I'm going to 00:38:51.739 --> 00:38:54.059 get what I want, but I'll let them get that because 00:38:54.059 --> 00:38:56.579 it's more important to them than it is to me. 00:38:56.619 --> 00:38:59.599 And I'm going to get what I want. You know what 00:38:59.599 --> 00:39:05.670 has gotten me through life at all is I am able 00:39:05.670 --> 00:39:09.710 to laugh at myself. Nothing is, I don't take 00:39:09.710 --> 00:39:14.050 anything too seriously that has to do with me, 00:39:14.369 --> 00:39:19.510 myself, my kids, my studio, my family. There's 00:39:19.510 --> 00:39:25.070 a lot of things. I just, I'm able to, I'm able 00:39:25.070 --> 00:39:28.690 to compartmentalize it. I think we got that, 00:39:28.730 --> 00:39:33.920 thank you. No, I'm not faking anything. I am 00:39:33.920 --> 00:39:38.800 able to laugh at myself. I'm able to laugh at 00:39:38.800 --> 00:39:41.880 myself. So when they take things, like people 00:39:41.880 --> 00:39:45.400 say things to me and they think that I'm not 00:39:45.400 --> 00:39:49.980 capable, I know I am. Like Carly said, I have 00:39:49.980 --> 00:39:53.760 my finger on the pulse of everything at the studio. 00:39:54.099 --> 00:39:58.230 No, she's the one who just said that. She's listening 00:39:58.230 --> 00:40:00.730 to everything too. Just like I said last week, 00:40:00.889 --> 00:40:05.309 I hear everything. Yes, she does. Amazing. Cause 00:40:05.309 --> 00:40:08.670 neither one of you can handle silence. It's amazing. 00:40:09.110 --> 00:40:12.530 Okay. We got that. So we're going to do a couple 00:40:12.530 --> 00:40:15.949 quick. These are quick. So I am no longer the 00:40:15.949 --> 00:40:18.829 hamster. If anybody ever asks me again, one animal, 00:40:19.250 --> 00:40:24.090 I'm a fox. She won. She won the competition that 00:40:24.090 --> 00:40:29.929 she's in with herself. She won. Am I a fox? She 00:40:29.929 --> 00:40:38.789 said, am I a fox? I don't even know if this thing 00:40:38.789 --> 00:40:41.050 is usable today. Like, I don't know if it's watchable. 00:40:41.090 --> 00:40:43.269 I don't know if it's usable, but this will be 00:40:43.269 --> 00:40:46.949 really fun to watch back in 30 years. Oh, okay. 00:40:46.949 --> 00:40:50.510 Oh, yes it will. I won't be here. Oh my God, 00:40:50.530 --> 00:40:56.010 I have to go to the bathroom. Okay. Mom, answer 00:40:56.010 --> 00:41:00.710 these questions. quickly okay one word no she 00:41:00.710 --> 00:41:05.230 said she said one word no okay what dance style 00:41:05.230 --> 00:41:09.550 secretly drives you crazy you can't hold it contemporary 00:41:09.550 --> 00:41:16.590 yes this is rapid fire the whole podcast wasn't 00:41:16.590 --> 00:41:20.449 rapid fire but this is if your studio had a personality 00:41:20.449 --> 00:41:27.150 what would it be friendly love it okay Which 00:41:27.150 --> 00:41:29.670 song have you heard so many times you never want 00:41:29.670 --> 00:41:38.750 to hear it again? Celebration. Come on. Good. 00:41:38.889 --> 00:41:46.570 I hate that one too. Just hold it lower. What's 00:41:46.570 --> 00:41:50.389 the most overused recital song of all time? Oh, 00:41:51.010 --> 00:41:53.889 I don't want to say. Why? Because am I using 00:41:53.889 --> 00:41:59.010 it? I am using it. All right. OK, well, just 00:41:59.010 --> 00:42:02.610 OK. I'll use it all the time because I love it. 00:42:02.789 --> 00:42:04.329 Thank heavens for little girls. That's right. 00:42:04.949 --> 00:42:06.889 Is it really? Yeah, thank heaven. Are you doing 00:42:06.889 --> 00:42:12.269 it this year? I love it. All right. If you could 00:42:12.269 --> 00:42:16.690 redo one recital theme, what would it be? If 00:42:16.690 --> 00:42:19.750 I could, definitely Broadway. Yeah. Yeah, Broadway 00:42:19.750 --> 00:42:22.510 is my favorite. We could do it again. Yeah, we 00:42:22.510 --> 00:42:24.489 can. I'm stealing all of MJ the musical, though. 00:42:24.489 --> 00:42:29.719 Yeah. You've already done almost 90 % of the 00:42:29.719 --> 00:42:32.199 song. This is a conversation for off -screen. 00:42:36.239 --> 00:42:39.940 Okay, this is our last serious question. What 00:42:39.940 --> 00:42:44.840 would be your 10 -year plan for the studio? I 00:42:44.840 --> 00:42:52.010 think we need to know. I think I'm going to move 00:42:52.010 --> 00:42:54.369 to Cancun. I don't think that's a good place 00:42:54.369 --> 00:43:00.909 right now. No, I think I'm going to the 10 year 00:43:00.909 --> 00:43:03.530 plan. Oh my gosh, my friend Don asks me this 00:43:03.530 --> 00:43:07.320 all the time. And I don't know, it's really up 00:43:07.320 --> 00:43:12.179 to you two. I would like to pull back a little 00:43:12.179 --> 00:43:14.860 bit. I would like to take, no, no, I don't want 00:43:14.860 --> 00:43:17.940 to teach. I don't want to stop teaching. I just 00:43:17.940 --> 00:43:22.519 want to don't teach six days a week so that I 00:43:22.519 --> 00:43:26.000 can really appreciate my classes when I do teach. 00:43:26.500 --> 00:43:30.719 So I can't teach four hours in a row anymore. 00:43:31.420 --> 00:43:36.940 So I would like to pull back a little bit. Good. 00:43:38.420 --> 00:43:40.960 Next year in September, just pull back a little 00:43:40.960 --> 00:43:42.780 bit. Got it. If you could write this all down 00:43:42.780 --> 00:43:45.059 for us so we know what your time plan, 10 -year 00:43:45.059 --> 00:43:47.199 plan is, that would be great. And then 10 years, 00:43:47.340 --> 00:43:49.559 what am I going to be? Wait a minute. I'm going 00:43:49.559 --> 00:43:55.800 to be 82 in 10 years. So in 10 years, I don't 00:43:55.800 --> 00:43:58.219 think anybody's going to want to hear from me 00:43:58.219 --> 00:44:03.139 at 80, 81, and 82. I highly doubt that. So I 00:44:03.139 --> 00:44:05.650 think... I would just like to pull back so I 00:44:05.650 --> 00:44:07.829 can appreciate it. We got it. We got it. We got 00:44:07.829 --> 00:44:10.769 it. So the reason we overshare and we repeat 00:44:10.769 --> 00:44:13.989 a lot is because we don't feel heard. We hear 00:44:13.989 --> 00:44:18.289 you. OK, that's true. Yes, I know. Yes, it's 00:44:18.289 --> 00:44:21.329 true. All right. That's what you learn. We learned 00:44:21.329 --> 00:44:23.969 a lot from this entrepreneur. No, you're done, 00:44:24.090 --> 00:44:29.329 mom. Of 30 years. We'll give you your last words 00:44:29.329 --> 00:44:31.849 at the end. Really quickly, we're going to play 00:44:31.849 --> 00:44:37.960 Hot Takes. with the hot tamale. Okay. That's 00:44:37.960 --> 00:44:41.500 you. Oh, I'm the hot tamale! I love the... Okay, 00:44:41.519 --> 00:44:44.719 do you know what a hot take is? No. Okay. She 00:44:44.719 --> 00:44:46.340 doesn't know what a hot take is. What is a hot 00:44:46.340 --> 00:44:49.260 take? I'm gonna say some things. A hot talkie? 00:44:49.539 --> 00:44:52.360 No, it's not a hot talkie. I'm gonna say something, 00:44:52.659 --> 00:44:55.039 and I want you to give me your initial reaction, 00:44:55.440 --> 00:44:59.880 rapid fire reaction, but short, Mom, short. Okay. 00:44:59.880 --> 00:45:02.559 Okay. Ready? Give her... Can I answer more than 00:45:02.559 --> 00:45:05.280 one word? Yes, but you can answer more than one 00:45:05.280 --> 00:45:09.960 word. It's got to be fixed. I'm stretching. I'm 00:45:09.960 --> 00:45:12.099 getting ready for the hot take. OK, these are 00:45:12.099 --> 00:45:14.139 hot takes from not just owning a business. This 00:45:14.139 --> 00:45:19.679 is all inclusive. She thinks she's hitting a 00:45:19.679 --> 00:45:21.960 buzzer, so she's ready to hit the buzzer. Bam. 00:45:24.480 --> 00:45:28.699 OK, ready? Hot take. OK. No, I can't listen to 00:45:28.699 --> 00:45:32.329 that sound. No. What sound? I can't. Oh, God. 00:45:32.909 --> 00:45:38.889 Oh, Victoria. You did it! Okay. Ready? Victoria's 00:45:38.889 --> 00:45:43.070 on sound duty. Okay. Hot takes with the hot tamale. 00:45:43.110 --> 00:45:45.849 You ready? That's you, Mom. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. 00:45:47.469 --> 00:45:51.710 The Beatles are overrated. No! Okay. Elvis stole 00:45:51.710 --> 00:45:55.630 everything. No! Okay. Pop stars don't need to 00:45:55.630 --> 00:45:59.829 write their own songs. Apparently not, even though 00:45:59.829 --> 00:46:02.090 I thought they did. Country music is the best 00:46:02.090 --> 00:46:06.050 genre. No. No. Pop music peaked in the early 00:46:06.050 --> 00:46:10.289 2000s. Pop music peaked in the early 2000s. Pop 00:46:10.289 --> 00:46:13.570 music did. Yeah. Goldfish are the most useless 00:46:13.570 --> 00:46:19.809 pets. No. No, they're not. Reading a book isn't 00:46:19.809 --> 00:46:22.530 always better than watching the movie. Yeah, 00:46:22.530 --> 00:46:27.619 it is. Unless it's Harry Potter and then the 00:46:27.619 --> 00:46:29.940 books were just as good. Audio books count as 00:46:29.940 --> 00:46:33.199 reading. I love audio books, yes. FaceTime is 00:46:33.199 --> 00:46:36.480 awkward. Yeah, mm -hmm. Small talk is a waste 00:46:36.480 --> 00:46:40.159 of time. No, I am a queen of small talk. We know. 00:46:41.139 --> 00:46:43.519 Silence isn't awkward. People just make it awkward. 00:46:46.579 --> 00:46:50.340 Silence... Silence isn't awkward. Yes, yes, yes. 00:46:51.670 --> 00:46:54.550 The best part about being an adult is canceling 00:46:54.550 --> 00:47:02.409 plans, not making them. You did it! The more 00:47:02.409 --> 00:47:04.889 expensive the juice, the more words they use 00:47:04.889 --> 00:47:08.030 to describe pressed. She's gonna ask me to repeat 00:47:08.030 --> 00:47:11.630 that. I have no idea what that means! Thank you! 00:47:11.989 --> 00:47:15.289 The more expensive the juice, the more words 00:47:15.289 --> 00:47:18.369 they use to describe pressed. Like, a pressed 00:47:18.369 --> 00:47:22.440 juice, like... This is the antioxidant pineapple. 00:47:22.940 --> 00:47:25.900 Okay, skip that one. Yeah. The treadmill is just 00:47:25.900 --> 00:47:30.599 a hamster wheel for humans. Yes. She would say 00:47:30.599 --> 00:47:35.039 that because she identifies as a hamster. No, 00:47:35.179 --> 00:47:38.460 it's not. No, Mom, it's whatever you think. Okay. 00:47:38.880 --> 00:47:42.280 I'm still thinking about the juice. Oh, God. 00:47:42.960 --> 00:47:45.559 Vacations are more stressful than relaxing. No. 00:47:46.320 --> 00:47:48.699 Used to be when the kids were little, but not 00:47:48.699 --> 00:47:54.699 now. Texting. Texting is better than calling. 00:47:55.980 --> 00:47:59.920 All depends on the situation. Handwriting doesn't 00:47:59.920 --> 00:48:04.239 need to be taught anymore. Oh, 100 % false handwriting 00:48:04.239 --> 00:48:08.059 should be. It's connected to the brain. I love. 00:48:09.900 --> 00:48:12.659 High school reunions are unnecessary. Now that's 00:48:12.659 --> 00:48:15.739 not true. I'm going to my 55th next month. When 00:48:15.739 --> 00:48:19.099 is it? April 17th. No, no, I don't need the date. 00:48:19.539 --> 00:48:24.519 But you said next week, next month. April 17th. 00:48:24.519 --> 00:48:28.880 Okay, we don't need it. Everyone secretly loves 00:48:28.880 --> 00:48:34.699 spoilers. No. Uh -uh. I don't know what a spoiler 00:48:34.699 --> 00:48:39.440 is. This is why. Is it when you tell the story, 00:48:39.559 --> 00:48:41.420 the ending of the story? Yep. Don't just, no, 00:48:41.460 --> 00:48:42.719 we can't answer these questions. I can't believe 00:48:42.719 --> 00:48:46.820 there's a name to that. Okay. The natural enemy 00:48:46.820 --> 00:48:50.840 of the left sock is the washing machine. No, 00:48:50.840 --> 00:48:53.940 I think it could be the dryer. I think you're 00:48:53.940 --> 00:48:58.699 right about that. Adulthood. Hold on, you couldn't 00:48:58.699 --> 00:49:03.880 answer? What makes you proud of the studio? You 00:49:03.880 --> 00:49:13.710 knew it was the dryer? Okay. Last one. Adulthood 00:49:13.710 --> 00:49:16.570 is saying things will slow down next week until 00:49:16.570 --> 00:49:21.090 you die. Adulthood. Things will slow down next 00:49:21.090 --> 00:49:24.929 week. Yeah. Yeah. I keep thinking next week will 00:49:24.929 --> 00:49:29.110 be freer than this week. If that's what you mean. 00:49:30.150 --> 00:49:32.010 Yeah. Maybe it's because you answer everything 00:49:32.010 --> 00:49:34.849 with urgency. Like everything's on fire. Everything. 00:49:35.269 --> 00:49:39.789 Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, I agree. Okay. She's saying 00:49:39.789 --> 00:49:42.980 a lot of yes. That's a very odd question. Yeah 00:49:42.980 --> 00:49:47.420 I didn't make it up. That's it mom. Oh can I 00:49:47.420 --> 00:49:53.639 say one more thing? You did it! Thank you. Who's 00:49:53.639 --> 00:49:56.460 your favorite CFIT sister? I don't have one and 00:49:56.460 --> 00:50:02.900 you know I don't have one. I love celebrating 00:50:02.900 --> 00:50:06.960 30 years of the dance studio because I love my 00:50:06.960 --> 00:50:13.239 students, my teachers, my parents, and I am so 00:50:13.239 --> 00:50:19.420 very proud, but I also think that my three best 00:50:19.420 --> 00:50:22.440 products are my kids. Wait, why is Billy involved? 00:50:22.659 --> 00:50:24.920 My three best products, because he's my product. 00:50:24.940 --> 00:50:31.059 He does not, that's gross. He does nothing for 00:50:31.059 --> 00:50:34.320 the studio. No, no. In addition to, separate 00:50:34.320 --> 00:50:38.699 from the studio, I am proud, I am, I think that 00:50:38.699 --> 00:50:42.679 I am most proud, yes I'm proud of 30 years of 00:50:42.679 --> 00:50:46.639 the dance studio, but I'm most proud of my three 00:50:46.639 --> 00:50:54.179 children. I have to go to the bathroom so bad. 00:50:54.219 --> 00:50:56.260 I thought they were gonna take my microphone 00:50:56.260 --> 00:51:02.079 away. And I have to thank them for this because 00:51:02.079 --> 00:51:04.380 this is so much fun. Because when I asked them 00:51:04.380 --> 00:51:07.340 to go out for lunch or dinner or breakfast, they 00:51:07.340 --> 00:51:09.599 won't do it. Well, you know why? Because I teach 00:51:09.599 --> 00:51:11.800 12 dance classes a week for you, so I don't have 00:51:11.800 --> 00:51:16.559 time. Yeah, that's true. That's true. And yeah, 00:51:16.800 --> 00:51:20.619 so they're busy. And I get it. And I get it. 00:51:20.619 --> 00:51:23.179 To be fair, the only time you've asked us to 00:51:23.179 --> 00:51:25.460 go get coffee or breakfast was when Carly brought 00:51:25.460 --> 00:51:28.699 us to a performance of Melodies at School that 00:51:28.699 --> 00:51:31.179 did not exist that day. That's right, that's 00:51:31.179 --> 00:51:33.639 right. Oh, but will you go out to help out lunch 00:51:33.639 --> 00:51:41.099 today? I don't, I'm busy. See? She would do this 00:51:41.099 --> 00:51:43.699 in front of people so that we couldn't say no. 00:51:45.519 --> 00:51:49.059 You could go out. a lunch or a drink sometime. 00:51:49.099 --> 00:51:51.699 Yeah, I have five of your classes tonight, so 00:51:51.699 --> 00:51:54.539 let's go out for a drink beforehand. Yes, yeah. 00:51:55.260 --> 00:51:59.639 This has been fun. So anyway, I love, I love, 00:51:59.739 --> 00:52:04.159 I love you. I have no idea who you are, but... 00:52:04.159 --> 00:52:13.559 We know. Thanks for listening. Guess we're done. 00:52:15.340 --> 00:52:17.619 She literally is gonna say when we get home, 00:52:17.760 --> 00:52:23.079 I forgot to mention. You didn't say much. I can't 00:52:23.079 --> 00:52:26.059 remember what I wanted to say. She said a lot. 00:52:26.059 --> 00:52:29.219 It's been a great life. It's a great life. I 00:52:29.219 --> 00:52:33.199 have a great life. I am extremely happy every 00:52:33.199 --> 00:52:35.800 day. There are days, you know, you have your 00:52:35.800 --> 00:52:39.699 ups and downs. You have your ups and downs, but. 00:52:39.920 --> 00:52:41.760 Because you can't be happy every day, because 00:52:41.760 --> 00:52:44.820 then you're a little crazy. But you have joy 00:52:44.820 --> 00:52:48.340 every day, and I do have joy every day, because 00:52:48.340 --> 00:52:55.320 I love my days. It's honest to God, she saves 00:52:55.320 --> 00:52:59.760 it all up. She saves it all up for today. Yes, 00:53:00.139 --> 00:53:02.059 because nobody listens. Because nobody listens. 00:53:02.599 --> 00:53:06.670 Mom, all you do is talk. Everybody listens to 00:53:06.670 --> 00:53:08.349 you because all you do is talk. Victoria, end 00:53:08.349 --> 00:53:15.010 this. I can't. I can't. She said, yeah. Yeah. 00:53:16.690 --> 00:53:20.070 Okay. Well, we were trying to be informative 00:53:20.070 --> 00:53:23.329 over 30 years, but I think all you're going to 00:53:23.329 --> 00:53:27.670 take away from this is that it's okay to be a 00:53:27.670 --> 00:53:33.309 hamster. It's okay to compartmentalize being 00:53:33.309 --> 00:53:36.929 a hamster. And consummate. Your days. And as 00:53:36.929 --> 00:53:41.369 a hamster, you should consummate. No! Yeah, no, 00:53:41.369 --> 00:53:44.030 that's what we took away. Hashtag Kamala's day 00:53:44.030 --> 00:53:50.289 in the studio. Next time you look at her, she 00:53:50.289 --> 00:53:54.889 is... 30 years family. Family. 30 years. 30 years 00:53:54.889 --> 00:53:58.230 family. And you know who made that up? These 00:53:58.230 --> 00:54:04.460 two. Or Victoria. By herself. 30 years family, 00:54:04.760 --> 00:54:10.199 because that's the legacy that I wanted. That 00:54:10.199 --> 00:54:11.739 question was 40 minutes ago. I know, but that's 00:54:11.739 --> 00:54:15.559 true. It's family. It's family. It's family. 00:54:15.559 --> 00:54:18.460 This is what it's like to talk to her at any 00:54:18.460 --> 00:54:21.320 time. You just have to wait for the breath and 00:54:21.320 --> 00:54:24.840 try to get a sound in, but she's gonna keep. 00:54:25.050 --> 00:54:27.710 But also, if anybody has a good idea, it's both 00:54:27.710 --> 00:54:30.809 of ours. It's never just Victorious. I got in 00:54:30.809 --> 00:54:32.849 trouble the other night for ragging on Carly 00:54:32.849 --> 00:54:35.750 too much because it's so easy and she just says 00:54:35.750 --> 00:54:38.369 ridiculous things. And I got yelled at by this 00:54:38.369 --> 00:54:40.750 one. Wait, how was I unaware of this? You were 00:54:40.750 --> 00:54:43.369 standing there. You're about to be very aware. 00:54:43.909 --> 00:54:46.550 And I said, this is not fair. She just texted 00:54:46.550 --> 00:54:48.389 me and said how horrible I was the other day. 00:54:48.469 --> 00:54:51.550 And she said, I didn't say that. And my mom went, 00:54:51.650 --> 00:54:54.210 she wouldn't say that. And Carly went. Yeah, 00:54:54.210 --> 00:54:57.150 I did. I said everything you do is stupid. She 00:54:57.150 --> 00:54:58.909 said what I texted you was that everything you 00:54:58.909 --> 00:55:02.130 did was stupid. But guess what? She didn't get 00:55:02.130 --> 00:55:04.829 in trouble. She got a laugh, a roaring laughter. 00:55:04.949 --> 00:55:11.550 At a funeral. Oh, yeah. They are the same person. 00:55:12.329 --> 00:55:14.690 If Carly's sick, all I have to do is call Carmella 00:55:14.690 --> 00:55:17.429 to come and fill in because it's the same. It's 00:55:17.429 --> 00:55:21.389 the same thing. Oh, no, she's funnier than I 00:55:21.389 --> 00:55:23.030 am. You don't have a microphone. Nobody can hear 00:55:23.030 --> 00:55:27.980 you. Oh no, she's funnier than I am. She is funnier 00:55:27.980 --> 00:55:30.199 than I am. She's amazing. She's quicker. She's 00:55:30.199 --> 00:55:31.519 quick -witted. She's so clever. She's a fox. 00:55:31.559 --> 00:55:35.619 I'm like the slapsticker and she's wittier. Yeah, 00:55:35.619 --> 00:55:38.059 she loves hockey. Yeah, and then she's like, 00:55:38.099 --> 00:55:40.860 bam, she's Sa -see -ch, right in there. No, no, 00:55:40.860 --> 00:55:44.800 she's nothing. Okay. Sa -see -ch. I am Sa -see 00:55:44.800 --> 00:55:46.960 -ch. Yeah, Sa -see -ch. Okay. That's the Italian. 00:55:46.960 --> 00:55:51.260 So we just wish that you would always remember 00:55:51.260 --> 00:55:56.719 to... celebrate your little wins, your big wins, 00:55:56.940 --> 00:56:01.380 your 30 years in any way that you can remember 00:56:01.380 --> 00:56:05.840 to celebrate. And we are proud of you. It is 00:56:05.840 --> 00:56:07.920 a big, it's a big feat. We're not sure how you 00:56:07.920 --> 00:56:10.159 did it. You don't think 30 years is a big feat? 00:56:10.460 --> 00:56:13.619 I did it because of Vicky. Vicky kept me open 00:56:13.619 --> 00:56:16.239 all these years or else I would never be able 00:56:16.239 --> 00:56:20.239 to pay the bills. Vicki and she is the unsung 00:56:20.239 --> 00:56:23.699 hero. Trust me when I tell you, she is the unsung 00:56:23.699 --> 00:56:29.940 hero of the success of the studio. Vicki is the 00:56:29.940 --> 00:56:34.659 one who takes care of all the big problems. When 00:56:34.659 --> 00:56:42.420 I can't care, I give it right to Vicki. But I 00:56:42.420 --> 00:56:45.380 also did it because it takes a village. And I 00:56:45.380 --> 00:56:48.719 didn't do it by myself. I did it because we're 00:56:48.719 --> 00:56:51.860 family. Vicki and I did it together until they 00:56:51.860 --> 00:56:56.340 were old enough to separate the duties, the four, 00:56:56.679 --> 00:56:59.579 and the staff, the teachers, all the teachers, 00:56:59.719 --> 00:57:01.340 Ms. Kristen, Ms. Kristen. No one's left out. 00:57:01.480 --> 00:57:04.679 No one's left out. We got you. Everyone's included. 00:57:04.880 --> 00:57:08.280 Everyone's seen. We all saw you point to your 00:57:08.280 --> 00:57:11.659 boobs. And say family. And Justin. No, Justin 00:57:11.659 --> 00:57:13.500 doesn't even work there anymore, but it's fine. 00:57:14.000 --> 00:57:17.050 Let's shout him out. Family, that's how we started. 00:57:17.170 --> 00:57:21.510 You had your time. It's over. She's thinking 00:57:21.510 --> 00:57:23.309 of all the answers that she wished she had said 00:57:23.309 --> 00:57:25.670 now, but it's too late. That's why she lives 00:57:25.670 --> 00:57:27.769 in a state of urgency. If you want to know who 00:57:27.769 --> 00:57:30.489 Vicki is, go back to like episode 20. You can 00:57:30.489 --> 00:57:33.869 watch the four of us and you can find out who 00:57:33.869 --> 00:57:37.599 Vicki is. Yes. So. Vicki is the other half of 00:57:37.599 --> 00:57:40.400 my brain. Trust me when I tell you that. Stop. 00:57:40.480 --> 00:57:43.059 We don't trust you. Also, it was in that podcast 00:57:43.059 --> 00:57:47.039 that Carmela realized my name was Carmela and 00:57:47.039 --> 00:57:49.880 Victoria's name was Victoria and we are sisters 00:57:49.880 --> 00:57:51.800 and her name is Carmela and her sister's name 00:57:51.800 --> 00:57:55.260 is Victoria and they are sisters. Yeah. She's 00:57:55.260 --> 00:57:58.739 just finding this out. I just, I realized it 00:57:58.739 --> 00:58:01.079 that day. We wonder why people email and go, 00:58:01.219 --> 00:58:04.699 Oh, Carmela doesn't, she doesn't understand things. 00:58:05.019 --> 00:58:10.400 We'll, we'll let her know. Okay. I like being 00:58:10.400 --> 00:58:16.300 me. I like being that way. I like being like 00:58:16.300 --> 00:58:21.530 ADHD. A little flighty. But I like it because 00:58:21.530 --> 00:58:25.110 it's easier. It's easier because you love everybody 00:58:25.110 --> 00:58:28.010 and everything. And nobody's gonna hurt me. Little 00:58:28.010 --> 00:58:36.489 tisms. Right? No one's gonna hurt me. Right? 00:58:36.510 --> 00:58:39.429 If you get nothing else from this, remember you're 00:58:39.429 --> 00:58:43.250 always fit to be Carmella. And always allowed 00:58:43.250 --> 00:58:53.909 to be a lot extra. Bye! That was it. Just say 00:58:53.909 --> 00:58:57.190 goodbye. I love you. No, just say goodbye. Bye. 00:58:57.409 --> 00:59:03.210 Bye. Bye. She had to even it out. Everyone. 20 00:59:03.210 --> 00:59:08.110 minutes. How long is it? Mom, we're still going. 00:59:08.630 --> 00:59:16.489 Goodbye. For legal reasons, we have to tell you 00:59:16.489 --> 00:59:18.130 that this podcast is meant for entertainment 00:59:18.130 --> 00:59:21.179 and educational purposes. Only we are not healthcare 00:59:21.179 --> 00:59:23.559 professionals. For all of your health, wellness, 00:59:23.820 --> 00:59:26.000 fitness, and self -care needs, please refer to 00:59:26.000 --> 00:59:28.500 the medical professional in your life. Your primary 00:59:28.500 --> 00:59:31.199 care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, 00:59:31.519 --> 00:59:33.860 whoever it may be. And then let us know what 00:59:33.860 --> 00:59:36.219 they say because I guarantee we need to know 00:59:36.219 --> 00:59:39.219 it too. Okay? Okay, bye.