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Welcome to Fit To Be Real. And a little extra.

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A 3 -2 -1 would be nice sometimes. Like, hey,

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we're almost ready. I was looking at myself in

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the mirror from the side. That seems like a you

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problem. Like, 100%. You can see the computer.

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You can see everything that's happening. But

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you're looking at yourself. I was just. Is that

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what we're saying? Just the 321 next time. No!

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We're in 144 now. Maybe you can just give...

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You think you just understand. Hello everyone

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in the stratosphere. Help me get through the

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next... Always 20 minutes. 20 minutes. We say

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20 minutes before every episode. We say 20 minutes,

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no editing, and it's 57. Yeah, last week's was

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an hour, but... It was an hour and 15. Yeah,

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but... It's my thinkers today and we all know

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it's gonna take 20 minutes Not a lot of thinking

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there's not a lot of thinking going on. I respect

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it. I respect it Do you want to tell us how your

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vacation was this time? Oh my god, it was so

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much better. I was telling people That I've been

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asking because they all remember because when

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you're with the same people, you know, you're

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in and you're out We know each other very well.

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And they're like, oh, last year I had neurovirus.

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I like that you had to describe that to us. Yeah.

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Friendship. Friendship is when you see the same

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people. What a thinker. Starting off strong.

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Actually, there's a lot of friendship thinkers

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in this one. But I said this year, we didn't,

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as I had said last week, we didn't over schedule.

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So we left room in case kids were tired or like

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I was tired or So we didn't lose any money this

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year in case somebody got sick. We lost a lot

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of money last year booking things that we couldn't

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get refunds on because of the norovirus. So it

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was way chiller, way calmer and the perfect like

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we got a lot done, but we also rested. That's

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nice. Victoria held down the fort and I texted

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her incessantly and she would always text me

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back. I'm like, hey, how you doing? She's like,

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amazing, fantastic, couldn't be better. What

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do you want me to say? The building's on fire,

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Carly. Be like rude. Come home, fix the fire.

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No. And also, Carly lives with the phone in her

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hand. Unless you're sleeping. I think that's

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when your phone is not in your hand. Yeah, it's

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not. Yeah. So I don't do that in case somebody

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needs me nobody needs you and you don't ever

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look at your phone So it's BS. No, I do look

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at my phone. I just ignore everybody. Yes, I

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don't ignore I just don't always respond but

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I see and like if I want to know what's going

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on I Would so you take a minute to get back if

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you feel like you need to take the mate to get

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back, right? Yeah, okay. So when I do that Because

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I literally don't screen your texts. I just don't

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Look at my phone every five seconds. She has

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the gall, the gall after I'm the one teaching

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to go, good talk. Honestly, I'll give you a buffer

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within 10 minutes of not responding. I'll give

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you 10 minutes, even though it's really five.

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Good talk. Oh, she was so mad. And then she was

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like, what did you say? I wanted to say contrary

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to popular belief. I do not have the phone in

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my hand. Instead, I said, I'm not sitting on

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my phone, LOL, because I'm a millennial. And

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I said LOL, and she said rude. And I said, no,

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no, this is a different part of the conversation.

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I can't. Where she's trying to schedule things

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while she's on vacation with her family. She

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didn't want to get. from the pool. The bacterial

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wave pool at the aquatopia. Understandable, but

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also let's not plan things for May, June, July

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while you're on vacation. I looked at my phone

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and went, haha, we don't have to do this right

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now. Why don't you enjoy vacation? And she said,

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LOL, which to her is F you. That's the two different

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parts of this story that she's going to try to

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make me the bad guy. And she said, rude. And

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I said, sure. And she knows I hate. And she gets

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so mad when I text her. So that, yeah, it was

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a good weekend. Yeah, good talk. Okay, I will

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say, if you've ever gone to a kid's water park,

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Victoria wouldn't survive five minutes. I wouldn't

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go. She wouldn't survive. Like, all the things

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that we were doing. Why? My god other than the

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fact that like I think it's gross. It's because

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it's gross. Yeah, like just the kids in the wave

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pool and like the You know, the floors wet. Yeah

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people go to the bathroom without sandals, which

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I don't know how people do that and there's like

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hair Yeah, yeah. Okay. Okay. Okay. She just she

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would not survive Just gagged I look I may not

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seem like I could care less about a lot of things

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other people care less about, but I that doesn't

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bother me. I care that it's hard to hear you

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talk. I care about it's it's a struggle to get

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your thoughts out. Well, because we're doing

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a lot of thinking today. Now, last week, we did

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victorious thinkers, which I think my thinkers

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are a little different than her. It's like my

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drink every time we say think. Think I think

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our algorithm. Damn it. I'm aware that our algorithms

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are different. Oh my God. What's your first one

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Carly? So these are ones that I don't run the

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fit to be real Instagram. So I don't usually

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post this stuff. You send me stuff that I'll

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repost, but I never say that it came from you.

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But I don't really post it on my personal ones.

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I usually do nostalgic, like 1999 posts. I have

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trauma, here's me laughing about it type of therapeutic

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memes. So, but as Victoria says, contrary to

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popular belief. I said it once. And it was in

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jest. I deep think, no, I deep dive. We don't

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think you deep think. I actually don't think

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you deep think. I think that's the problem. No,

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I think I do, but I just don't tell you that

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I do. OK. I wish you could see Victoria's face

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right now. This isn't really a deep one, OK?

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No disclaimers. I'm not allowed to disclaim.

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I don't know. I did every time. OK, you did.

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All right, but this isn't really a thinker. Just

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think about it. OK. Everyone's drunk already.

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If you're playing the game, we're schwaisty.

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Should we see it again? Too many people buy things

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they don't need with money they don't have trying

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to impress people they don't even like. And that

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seems so simple and it is. Like that's literally

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the world. Everyone's trying to impress people

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that don't even matter. It's social media. Do

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you think? Yes, because how would we know otherwise?

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Like in the 50s, you know, I love to go back

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to the 50s. It was house parties or dinner parties.

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Like you saw what other people had. And you're

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like, well, I want that too. But back then, if

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you didn't have it, you couldn't pay for it.

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That's true. There was no credit. Like, I mean,

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there was credit, I'm sure. But to the degree

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that we are living in now, I think that's a little

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bit different. I think in the 90s, it's like

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you knew your bubble. We knew our mall. We knew

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who was going where when and what. clothes they

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were wearing to the St. Kevin's dances, but we

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didn't know the wide scope of like, people at

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Ridley. Right. Like you didn't know that far.

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Now you know everything. And I would have fights

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with our mom about my clothes for people that

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I don't even talk to anymore because I was trying

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to impress my friends who I haven't spoken to

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in 20 years. And at the same token, you have

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your quote unquote finger quotes New York wardrobe

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that you won't wear here because you're not in

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New York. Right. Who cares? Who cares? Like,

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why not? You're going to die. Oh, at some point.

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At some point. So why not wear the outfit? When

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your husband kills you? Do you know something

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I don't know? I let it slip. Dun, dun, dun. No,

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the same thing. I think somebody said on the

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podcast, the red lipstick theory. Like, wear

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the red lipstick. You're going to the grocery

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store. Just wear it. Yeah. Who cares? So it's

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the same that I like that thinker because it

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goes both ways. Don't impress anyone, but also

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do what you want. Do what you want. Who cares?

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Yeah. Who cares? Yeah. I'm going to wear my New

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York wardrobe. Like you want Melody to wear dresses

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more. You would like her to wear. She used to

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wear dresses and like the big bows and all that

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stuff. But she's not in that phase right now.

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She also doesn't see you wearing it. I know.

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You wear jeans. That's true. So like she thinks

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jeans are fancy clothes. Which they are. And

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so does Lewis. Lewis will be like, no, it's fancy.

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And I'm like, dude, it's blue jeans. Like, it's

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not super fancy. Life is different. But I agree,

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just because I don't like to wear jeans. But

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you have the wardrobe to not just wear jeans

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and a sweater. Like, you could funk it up a little.

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I could funk it up a little. I'd funk it up a

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lot. I don't like how you really punch the F

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there. You don't really funk it up a lot. Yeah,

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that's true. You see what, nope, you do what

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you say sometimes. Monkey see, monkey do. And

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mom dressed differently. And I think that's why

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I, my growing up, I always wanted to dress differently.

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Wait, mom dressed differently? She wore flannels

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and jeans and baseball hats and other moms were

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dressed like coals. Like coals, yeah. And our

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mom was not a coals mom. It wasn't different.

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Yes, it was. She wore short dresses and tights

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with... like Doc Martens. Yeah, she was a lesbian.

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She was a 90s grunge lesbian, but none of the

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above were true. Yeah, but she dressed differently

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and I always was like, I want to dress differently.

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I never wanted to dress like everybody else.

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I always wanted to dress differently. And somehow

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I'm the only one who gets flack for it. Well,

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because I wasn't dressing in cow pants. I looked

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it up on Amazon the other day. They exist. I

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bought a pajama set. Oh, and my slippers. Oh,

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I saw them when I walked in. My new slippers.

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I decided to ignore them. Look how great they

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are. Moo, bitch. We're getting explicit more

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and more towards the beginning of the episode.

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So as long as you know that. Merica. Merica.

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All right. All right. This one I actually don't

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love. After I thought about it, I was like, oh,

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that's a good one. And then I was like, I actually

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don't agree with this. Oh, OK. If it doesn't

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open, it's not your door. How do you not agree

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with that? Because I don't believe that if it

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doesn't open for you, that that's not your door.

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Try again. Go, like, do you know what I mean?

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Like, to me, that was so, all right, if that

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doesn't work for you, do something else. But

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no, just keep trying. It's jammed. Well, right.

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It's not the right door. But there's a door for

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you. It's not the right door. Yeah, but. It's

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not that that's the only door. There's probably

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a window. There's no door. There could be a window

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right next to it. Well, you're really thinking.

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I was just I read it and I was like, oh, I like

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that one. And I was like, wait a second. If it's

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not your door. No, if it doesn't open, it's not

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your door just means try harder to get it open.

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Don't abandon. Don't abandon door. All right.

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I'll give you try. like try, try again. But what

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if that try, try again is trying like all the

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doorknobs until the one, the right one opens.

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And it might be a little different than the first

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one you were trying, but that one's actually

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the best option. You were just trying for the

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wrong door. I mean, I see that side too. That's

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why I liked it initially. I think that's what

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it means. I don't think it means like just give

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up. Like give up. But you took it there. I did.

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And then now I'm thinking, why would somebody

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put that quote out to be motivational if it meant

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kill up? Because that's your type of motivation.

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Moving on. But I see what you mean, though. OK,

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this one I understand. Oh, no. But I like the

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way they put it. Never give from the depths of

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your well, but from your overflow. Like, you

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cannot give to somebody when you don't have it

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fulfilled. You have to be overflowing with something

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to give it. Right. Yeah. I think that's important

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and nobody does that. I think everybody gives

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from an empty well. I don't think anyone's ever

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cup overfloweth. Like, I don't think we live

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in that. And that's not fair. No, I think we

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don't live like that. Yeah. We give from an empty

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well most of the time. Yeah. But you shouldn't

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give unless you are filled yourself. Yeah. Yeah.

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I like that a lot. I'm going to... Can't drink

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from an empty cup. Is that the... Sort of same

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thing. Say yours again. Oh, what I made up was

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never give from the depths of your well, but

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from the overflow. You didn't make that up. It

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says depths. You would say never give from the

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bottom of the place that you hold a lot of water

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and there's no water there That's what you would

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say single single double Sometimes she cues and

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she just says go I looked here today. I said

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doing boy She was like, you got this, go. I said,

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you taught us once. I don't got this. I don't,

00:14:20.960 --> 00:14:23.980
nobody got this. Delko Heckler was in class today

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and I haven't taught in four days. So I was new

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again and she did not give me a break. Cause

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you were the one telling us what to do and you

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were taking breaks from that. It's behind you.

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You fool. I don't have enough to give you from

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my empty cup. My bucket for the deficit. It's

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not a well anymore. It's just a bucket. It's

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a slop bucket. A throw up bucket. Mirka. Mirka.

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Sounds about right. Okay. Oh, I like that one.

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I think it's that's. Yeah. Yeah, it's great.

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100%. This one I really liked moving on. Yeah.

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Because I think this is just another way to say.

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you know, you got to walk in somebody else's

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shoes. Every Saint has a past and every sinner

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has a future. Like, I love that. Every Saint

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used to be a sinner and every sinner could be

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a Saint. Could turn into a Saint. Yeah, like

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it doesn't define you because you were one way

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at one time. Like you can change, you know? Yeah,

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yeah, yeah. Oh, I, I, yes. I didn't take it like

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that. But I don't know why I didn't take it like

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that initially. Every saint has a past and every

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sinner has a future. Yeah, that's exactly what

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that means. It's pretty straightforward. You

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don't really have to think about that one. That's

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what I like. That's the one you don't have to

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think about. Cup runneth over. She was like,

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let's dissect it. No, I think that every... I'm

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not explaining that. It's self -explanatory.

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You'd be a great teacher. Like, I actually think

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you would be teacher of the year. I would be

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like, kids, I don't understand why you don't

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understand. Our brother says that to us all the

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time. I say that in my head to some of my dance

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students. I don't understand why you don't understand.

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I don't understand how to help you. I will look

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at a child and go, help me help you. And then

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usually they have an answer. Because if you say,

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what part don't you understand, their answer

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is going to be, I don't know. I don't get it

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or I don't know. I'm like, but what part? I don't

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know. So then I have to, like, incite questions.

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And I'm like, how do I help you? And then they're

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like, oh, you do this. I'm like, that's funny.

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Thank you. Wow. You'd be a really great teacher.

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Horrible. Horrible. Horrible. Oh, wow. You are

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a horrible teacher. Yes. All right. This one,

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actually, people don't think this about me. I

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love the disclaimers. But this is me. Prove it.

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Okay. The quieter you become, the more you're

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able to hear. So, okay, my... She's laughing

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because she knows it's true. I may not seem quiet,

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but I'm watching everything. I can hear everything.

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And I'm always watching. And I might not come

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across as... I come across loud and wild and

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psycho, but I have, growing up, I can see and

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hear everything and I, that's, I'm quiet up here,

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but not in my mouth. I was pointing to my head.

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That's what you took from that quote? Yeah. Say

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it again. The quieter you become, the more you're

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able to hear. You need to quiet the noise and

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you can hear. Right, but you're taking it as

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like I don't I I hear everything I don't miss

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a beat. No, I'm an observer That's what I took

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that as. I'm I'm actually quiet as a person.

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Then how come you can't handle silence? You are

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incapable of a silent moment where you think

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it's uncomfortable and awkward and like you absolutely

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just have to talk Like somebody has to make noise.

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I don't do that when I'm with you guys. I do

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that at work That's when you're with us guys

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I'm at family. I can be completely silent for

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three days with my family that I don't like silence

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at CFIT Let's move on I'm upset But I do I do

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agree with this the quieter you become the more

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you're able to hear if you're constantly telling

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people what you're doing all the time like That's

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one of my biggest pet peeves when people are

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constantly talking and saying what they're gonna

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do and this, and then it never happens because

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you're just being loud and you're talking. Be

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quiet and prove what you're gonna do. Don't like

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posting your vacations or like posting your kids

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or like your everyday move. What does that have

00:19:13.539 --> 00:19:16.279
to do with anything? Yeah, it's loud. It's a

00:19:16.279 --> 00:19:20.759
loud world. It's a loud, loud world. I don't

00:19:20.759 --> 00:19:24.470
agree with that, but we'll move on. All right.

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Let them. If you're a giver, remember to learn

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your limits because the takers don't have any.

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Ooh, sucks to be a taker. Yeah. If you're a giver,

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remember to learn your limits because the takers

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don't have any. I 100 % agree with that. It's

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the same as you can't give from an empty cup.

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No. I think this means like this is all about

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boundaries. If you're constantly giving. Does

00:20:01.539 --> 00:20:03.880
a cup not have a boundary? You can't. You can't.

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What? Yeah, I think it's it's similar because

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it's it's just the other side of the bucket.

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Yeah. It's the outside of the bucket constantly

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taking because they have no boundaries. Right.

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They're not going to stop you from getting a

00:20:19.359 --> 00:20:22.359
benefit from you. They're benefiting. They're

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gonna stop you doing that. But you also, yeah,

00:20:27.619 --> 00:20:29.480
you have to create boundaries. You have to fill

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your cup up first. Yeah, I'm not great with boundaries.

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Or thinkers. I think my thinkers are good. This

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one is short and sweet. Is that the thinker?

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Yes. No, no, that wasn't it. That's what she

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said. Be valuable, not available. I think that

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is the shortest yet most important quote that

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I have today. Because the more you value your

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time, your efforts, yourself, you're not gonna

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be as available. If you're constantly available,

00:21:08.009 --> 00:21:12.170
you have nothing left. Yes, you can't give from

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an empty cup. So wait, they're all the same thing.

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See, I'm making you think. that they're different,

00:21:22.250 --> 00:21:25.069
but they're all the same. Oh, my God. Oh, my

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God. It's true, though. I like how this one is

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worded. Because it's short and sweet. Short and

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sweet. But it's the same thing. Sorry, I'm going

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to cut you off. It's the same thing, not with

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just time. I think it's with advice. Like people

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will value your advice more if you don't give

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it every five right right right yeah, and they'll

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value your time more if you're not always gonna

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Accommodate and be available because well she'll

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do it of course she'll do it right because you

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will right so it's stuff like that I actually

00:22:01.480 --> 00:22:03.960
am using that when people ask me for stuff. I'm

00:22:03.960 --> 00:22:06.579
like oh, I have to I'm absolutely as long as

00:22:06.579 --> 00:22:09.920
I'm available Not like oh, yeah, we'll figure

00:22:09.920 --> 00:22:12.220
it out. It's like as long as I'm available so

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that when I'm not available It's because I'm

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not available, but like I will definitely see

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if there's a way to figure that out But instead

00:22:20.190 --> 00:22:22.289
of saying it because that gives them the like

00:22:22.289 --> 00:22:24.109
a work. She's gonna figure it out, right? It's

00:22:24.109 --> 00:22:26.289
like well, I'll do it if I'm available She said

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that to me three times this week Start somewhere

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Okay, this one's a long one so I went really

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short to really long you ready You're overthinking

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because you really care what happens next. You

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don't want to fail. You don't want to let people

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down. But no amount of planning, worrying, or

00:22:51.720 --> 00:22:54.279
overanalyzing can give you control over what

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happens next. Yeah. I mean, you really have to

00:22:58.819 --> 00:23:02.019
think about that if you're an overthinker. I

00:23:02.019 --> 00:23:05.960
don't think you do. Yeah. If you're an overthinker

00:23:05.960 --> 00:23:08.000
because you really care about what happens next.

00:23:08.599 --> 00:23:10.279
Overthinkers just care about what happens next.

00:23:10.279 --> 00:23:13.269
They don't get to the next sentence. I don't

00:23:13.269 --> 00:23:17.170
care about the next sentence, usually. I just

00:23:17.170 --> 00:23:19.650
overthink because I care about what happens next.

00:23:20.589 --> 00:23:22.670
But isn't the next sentence what's next? You

00:23:22.670 --> 00:23:24.210
don't want to fail. You don't want to let people

00:23:24.210 --> 00:23:26.950
down. But no amount of planning, worrying, or

00:23:26.950 --> 00:23:29.309
overanalyzing can give you control over what

00:23:29.309 --> 00:23:32.250
happens next. And that's the truth. But as an

00:23:32.250 --> 00:23:36.670
overthinker, I don't think about that part. But

00:23:36.670 --> 00:23:39.390
you have to remind yourself that no amount of

00:23:39.390 --> 00:23:46.170
overthinking is going to change it. Yep. Yeah.

00:23:47.329 --> 00:23:51.069
She's the worst today, honestly. Are you overthinking

00:23:51.069 --> 00:23:54.630
this? I'm going to. She's so angry. Oh my god,

00:23:54.630 --> 00:23:58.349
she's so annoying. If you're watching, if you're

00:23:58.349 --> 00:24:01.130
not watching, tune in. Rewind like three seconds.

00:24:01.789 --> 00:24:04.809
Check out her eyes. That's how you know she's

00:24:04.809 --> 00:24:07.710
actually annoyed. Well, I have been getting on

00:24:07.710 --> 00:24:12.000
top of Melody for that because Melody. cannot

00:24:12.000 --> 00:24:16.359
stop rolling her eyes and like doing that to

00:24:16.359 --> 00:24:19.339
me. And I was like, ah, shoot, it's happening.

00:24:19.980 --> 00:24:23.700
I don't think you do that. Yeah, I do. Well,

00:24:23.859 --> 00:24:27.339
you just did it. You just did it in response.

00:24:28.079 --> 00:24:31.559
Rude. But yeah. And she, I guess, learned it

00:24:31.559 --> 00:24:36.000
from me. I like this one because. Shut up. It's

00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:40.410
a different way. No. It's a different way to

00:24:40.410 --> 00:24:42.710
just say anxiety is just worrying about the future.

00:24:42.970 --> 00:24:46.769
Yeah, but you're saying it's caring So you're

00:24:46.769 --> 00:24:51.329
saying it in a really long way You're saying

00:24:51.329 --> 00:24:54.230
anxiety and overthinking isn't worrying about

00:24:54.230 --> 00:24:56.069
fear It's because you care so much about the

00:24:56.069 --> 00:24:58.490
outcome that you care about the future, right?

00:24:58.789 --> 00:25:01.029
You're spinning it in a positive way, but still

00:25:01.029 --> 00:25:03.650
need to be yet. But but yeah, but it's still

00:25:03.650 --> 00:25:08.789
wrong You care about the future sure but No amount

00:25:08.789 --> 00:25:11.269
of worrying is going to change that. So you got

00:25:11.269 --> 00:25:14.230
to let it go. Right. But overthinkers don't like

00:25:14.230 --> 00:25:16.829
to let things go. They like to worry and overanalyze.

00:25:16.910 --> 00:25:19.230
Should we think about it some more? Yes. Yes.

00:25:19.410 --> 00:25:22.529
No, this one's for Victoria. Oh, if you don't

00:25:22.529 --> 00:25:24.630
- Whoa, whoa, whoa. Personal one? Yeah. I got

00:25:24.630 --> 00:25:26.690
a personal one for Victoria. If you don't know

00:25:26.690 --> 00:25:36.210
the whole story, shut up. Yes. No objection.

00:25:37.619 --> 00:25:40.759
Sustained. No notes. No notes. If you don't know

00:25:40.759 --> 00:25:43.519
the whole story, shut up. Shut up. This wasn't

00:25:43.519 --> 00:25:46.059
really for Victoria, but shut up. Just shut up.

00:25:46.099 --> 00:25:51.420
Shut up. Shut it up. Just shut up. Shut up. It's

00:25:51.420 --> 00:25:53.660
so true. Why do we talk about things that you

00:25:53.660 --> 00:25:56.380
don't know? Why? Because people do it all the

00:25:56.380 --> 00:26:00.460
time. That's what the world is right now. I know.

00:26:00.779 --> 00:26:03.339
That doesn't mean I have to accept it. Just shut

00:26:03.339 --> 00:26:05.619
up. If you don't know the whole story, just shut

00:26:05.619 --> 00:26:09.799
up. Shut up. That was a minimal thinker. That's

00:26:09.799 --> 00:26:12.619
what we call a minimal thinker. She's a minimalist.

00:26:13.440 --> 00:26:17.640
Minimalist. She's actually a maximalist. Yes,

00:26:18.160 --> 00:26:26.980
I am a TJ maximalist. I knew. I knew she was

00:26:26.980 --> 00:26:31.359
going to say that. Insert I roll here. I don't

00:26:31.359 --> 00:26:34.539
have to insert. I'll just do it. This one is

00:26:34.539 --> 00:26:39.839
for Victoria because Now this is how she thinks

00:26:39.839 --> 00:26:42.220
and this is how I would like to think more would

00:26:42.220 --> 00:26:45.299
you say I think I said I don't believe you but

00:26:45.299 --> 00:26:48.720
honestly, I don't remember and it was two seconds

00:26:48.720 --> 00:26:53.359
ago. I'm not sure Okay Anything you lose by speaking

00:26:53.359 --> 00:26:58.680
your truth isn't a loss Anything you lose, anything

00:26:58.680 --> 00:27:00.740
you lose by speaking your truth isn't a loss.

00:27:00.799 --> 00:27:02.779
I didn't say the last part. It's an alignment.

00:27:03.619 --> 00:27:07.619
You can't dissect the thinker. It's an alignment.

00:27:07.740 --> 00:27:10.319
Yeah. And that's very Victoria. Just say what

00:27:10.319 --> 00:27:16.420
you mean. And oh, well. Yeah. If they don't join

00:27:16.420 --> 00:27:20.660
you, then they weren't meant to be in your, at

00:27:20.660 --> 00:27:22.960
your dinner table. Right. You know, like if they...

00:27:23.079 --> 00:27:25.299
Want to uninvite themselves because you stood

00:27:25.299 --> 00:27:27.440
up for yourself and your thought and your idea

00:27:27.440 --> 00:27:30.140
and your whatever then Let them go. Let them

00:27:30.140 --> 00:27:32.480
go. Yeah, that doesn't make it confrontational

00:27:32.480 --> 00:27:33.920
youth. They just think it's confrontation. Well,

00:27:33.920 --> 00:27:39.279
I took it more as like Like we don't We don't

00:27:39.279 --> 00:27:42.099
post stuff. We've talked about this before we

00:27:42.099 --> 00:27:45.339
don't post stuff But if we did and people chose

00:27:45.339 --> 00:27:49.920
to unfollow us for it, that's not a loss We don't

00:27:49.920 --> 00:27:53.039
post political stuff. We don't post political

00:27:53.039 --> 00:27:56.319
things we believe in, like not just politics.

00:27:56.799 --> 00:27:58.640
Faith. Faith. The stuff that people have strong

00:27:58.640 --> 00:28:00.720
opinions about. The things you don't talk about

00:28:00.720 --> 00:28:04.099
at Thanksgiving dinner. Unless you all think

00:28:04.099 --> 00:28:06.720
the same way. Unless, right. But if there's a

00:28:06.720 --> 00:28:08.759
disagreement, we tend to not post about those

00:28:08.759 --> 00:28:13.519
things. And if we did, and we lost people for

00:28:13.519 --> 00:28:15.599
it, then those people weren't for us anyway.

00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:22.640
Right. Take for instance If anyone came in if

00:28:22.640 --> 00:28:25.799
we were this kind of happened if if someone was

00:28:25.799 --> 00:28:29.420
talking about Super Bowl halftime and how amazing

00:28:29.420 --> 00:28:31.359
bed bunny was and like how entertaining was and

00:28:31.359 --> 00:28:34.079
if someone came in thinking the opposite Due

00:28:34.079 --> 00:28:37.279
to the fact that this is what the you know two

00:28:37.279 --> 00:28:43.240
-sided thought was about it. Oh Well, oh well,

00:28:43.339 --> 00:28:49.039
yeah, goodbye don't it's a I'll pay your monthly.

00:28:49.920 --> 00:28:53.019
I'll pay Carly the monthly. You can go and don't

00:28:53.019 --> 00:28:58.859
come back. You know what I mean? I don't see

00:28:58.859 --> 00:29:01.319
the loss. Right. And that's why I thought of

00:29:01.319 --> 00:29:03.579
Victoria for that one because I was like, I get

00:29:03.579 --> 00:29:06.680
so worried. Oh God, the loss. And she's like,

00:29:06.779 --> 00:29:08.319
then they're not for us anyway, so it's not a

00:29:08.319 --> 00:29:13.299
loss. So there's that. And this next one I picked

00:29:13.299 --> 00:29:20.279
for our brother. Nice face. But you'll understand

00:29:20.279 --> 00:29:24.180
when I read it. It's only too late if you're

00:29:24.180 --> 00:29:26.640
too convinced that it is. You can start right

00:29:26.640 --> 00:29:29.680
now and still create a dream. Like, whoa, whoa,

00:29:29.799 --> 00:29:32.180
whoa, whoa. Say it again. It's only too late

00:29:32.180 --> 00:29:35.619
if you're too convinced that it is. You can start

00:29:35.619 --> 00:29:38.480
right now and still create a dream. Pedro, what

00:29:38.480 --> 00:29:41.160
is he saying? Oh, no, no, no, no, no. This is

00:29:41.160 --> 00:29:44.559
Steve Fitz CEO Andrew. Oh, God. What did he say?

00:29:46.220 --> 00:29:54.220
Sorry to bother. I forget where my wife is. Is

00:29:54.220 --> 00:29:58.539
she with you? I need to grab the easy pass out

00:29:58.539 --> 00:30:05.099
of the pilot. Yes, she's here. I forget where

00:30:05.099 --> 00:30:09.579
my wife is. I'm going to kill him. Sorry to bother.

00:30:11.359 --> 00:30:14.779
I'm at Victoria's. I said, yes, she's here. I

00:30:14.779 --> 00:30:18.240
made it happy though. Literally recording. I

00:30:18.240 --> 00:30:21.819
didn't say she's laughing at you. We just read

00:30:21.819 --> 00:30:26.140
your text message on the podcast. Like, are you

00:30:26.140 --> 00:30:31.680
serious? All about honesty here. Pager said,

00:30:31.799 --> 00:30:37.680
is this the Carly is deep episode? Trying. Thinking.

00:30:39.440 --> 00:30:44.099
Thinking. OK. I'm sorry. Before my husband was

00:30:44.099 --> 00:30:46.480
looking for me and didn't know where I was when

00:30:46.480 --> 00:30:49.240
I said, hey, I'm going to Victoria's. You say,

00:30:49.440 --> 00:30:51.940
no, no, no. Sorry to bother. Sorry to bother.

00:30:52.099 --> 00:30:53.400
It's not even sorry to bother you. Just sorry

00:30:53.400 --> 00:30:56.160
to bother. I forget where my wife is. I'm never

00:30:56.160 --> 00:31:00.319
deleting that text. Oh God. What were you saying?

00:31:01.440 --> 00:31:05.759
Okay. And that is our life in a nutshell. So

00:31:05.759 --> 00:31:08.460
he did call me twice that I ignored him. We're

00:31:08.460 --> 00:31:10.420
recording. I was ignoring his calls. Come on.

00:31:10.989 --> 00:31:17.470
Be smarter. It's only too late if you're convinced

00:31:17.470 --> 00:31:19.950
that it is. You can start right now and still

00:31:19.950 --> 00:31:21.710
create a dream. And I thought of our brother

00:31:21.710 --> 00:31:24.869
because he never thinks it's too late and he

00:31:24.869 --> 00:31:29.049
will start over at whatever, whenever. Like,

00:31:29.049 --> 00:31:31.150
he was a cheerleader. Then he was like, I'm not

00:31:31.150 --> 00:31:32.250
gonna do this anymore. I'm gonna be a police

00:31:32.250 --> 00:31:34.349
officer. And he's like, I cannot physically and

00:31:34.349 --> 00:31:36.109
mentally do this. I'm gonna be a pilot. And he

00:31:36.109 --> 00:31:40.259
is crushing it. And I feel like and that was

00:31:40.259 --> 00:31:43.539
when he was 40 41. Yeah, I was just this weekend.

00:31:43.539 --> 00:31:48.960
We met a pilot in a pilot in the Poconos and

00:31:48.960 --> 00:31:50.859
he's been a pilot for 20 years and he's about

00:31:50.859 --> 00:31:54.180
to retire. And I was talking about Billy and,

00:31:54.180 --> 00:31:56.460
you know, Andrew was like, well, he's 43. He

00:31:56.460 --> 00:31:59.460
said, who cares? We would love to have a 43 year

00:31:59.460 --> 00:32:02.259
old pilot like usually they come right out of.

00:32:02.319 --> 00:32:06.000
the Army or the Air Force, and they're super

00:32:06.000 --> 00:32:08.359
young. But this guy, if he wants to be a pilot

00:32:08.359 --> 00:32:10.799
at 43, he wants to be a pilot. Right, right,

00:32:10.799 --> 00:32:13.819
right. Yeah. So I love that one because just

00:32:13.819 --> 00:32:16.460
even with working out, if you think it's too

00:32:16.460 --> 00:32:19.059
late, then yeah, it's too late. You convinced

00:32:19.059 --> 00:32:20.980
yourself that it's too late, then it is. Right.

00:32:20.980 --> 00:32:24.559
But if you don't, start over. Start now. Do something

00:32:24.559 --> 00:32:26.700
different. Well, they say that every commercial

00:32:26.700 --> 00:32:30.440
for every online college, like Phoenix or whatever,

00:32:30.900 --> 00:32:33.500
start today. Like you're not too late to go back

00:32:33.500 --> 00:32:36.680
to school. You're never too old to go back to

00:32:36.680 --> 00:32:39.599
school. It feels like we are because society

00:32:39.599 --> 00:32:41.839
says that you have to have babies by this time

00:32:41.839 --> 00:32:43.799
and that life should be like this by this time.

00:32:44.279 --> 00:32:47.039
So like we're kind of trained. Trained that way.

00:32:47.559 --> 00:32:50.720
But it's not true. I love the thing that goes

00:32:50.720 --> 00:32:53.019
around like Harrison Ford didn't get his first

00:32:53.019 --> 00:32:55.460
whatever until this age and like it lists so

00:32:55.460 --> 00:32:58.059
many of the names that we think. have been doing

00:32:58.059 --> 00:33:00.299
this for so long, but really we didn't know them

00:33:00.299 --> 00:33:02.440
until they were in their mid to late 40s, 50s.

00:33:02.680 --> 00:33:05.039
Harrison Ford was a carpenter and a construction

00:33:05.039 --> 00:33:08.539
worker until he was 42. Oh, yeah. And then he

00:33:08.539 --> 00:33:12.380
became famous. So you can do whatever you want

00:33:12.380 --> 00:33:15.039
at any age, as long as you tell yourself that

00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:18.240
you can. And it's not too late to get yourself

00:33:18.240 --> 00:33:22.539
back out there if you are too exhausted to try

00:33:22.539 --> 00:33:25.160
getting into a new relationship. It's whatever

00:33:25.160 --> 00:33:28.109
you talk yourself into. Yeah. you have to convince

00:33:28.109 --> 00:33:29.829
yourself. That's the only person that you need

00:33:29.829 --> 00:33:32.990
to convince. So I liked that. Billy, good job

00:33:32.990 --> 00:33:37.609
at that. I will say, it's good to have a good

00:33:37.609 --> 00:33:39.849
support system no matter what, though. Yeah.

00:33:40.750 --> 00:33:44.509
Why? I thought you were gonna elaborate. Well,

00:33:44.509 --> 00:33:46.210
you can convince yourself to do anything, but

00:33:46.210 --> 00:33:49.190
it's super, way more helpful when you have your

00:33:49.190 --> 00:33:52.950
people backing you up. Right. And like, I'm pretty

00:33:52.950 --> 00:33:57.980
sure... I could be wrong, but I think mom helped

00:33:57.980 --> 00:34:00.319
convince him that like, you can do this. You

00:34:00.319 --> 00:34:03.319
have to have someone in your corner to drown

00:34:03.319 --> 00:34:04.859
the noise that you're putting in your own head,

00:34:05.059 --> 00:34:08.320
that overthinking. Yeah. The noise that I'm really

00:34:08.320 --> 00:34:10.219
quiet in my head about, you got to drown that

00:34:10.219 --> 00:34:12.119
out because when you're really loud, it doesn't

00:34:12.119 --> 00:34:14.159
work. But when you're quiet from within, just

00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:18.619
trying to drown you at all. All right. This one's

00:34:18.619 --> 00:34:20.500
really deep, Pedro's. I don't know if you can

00:34:20.500 --> 00:34:23.579
handle it. Let me know. Let me hear from you

00:34:23.579 --> 00:34:26.230
if you can handle it. He's probably tuned out.

00:34:26.630 --> 00:34:30.630
Okay. But I really hope he's not. Everything

00:34:30.630 --> 00:34:37.190
that is at some point wasn't. I like that you

00:34:37.190 --> 00:34:39.050
look at me like you've invented this thought.

00:34:39.969 --> 00:34:42.389
I've invented all. I am the first one to read

00:34:42.389 --> 00:34:46.090
all of these. But also say it again. This one

00:34:46.090 --> 00:34:49.030
was easy. Say it. Everything that is at some

00:34:49.030 --> 00:34:52.969
point wasn't. And you have, I thought about CFIT

00:34:52.969 --> 00:34:55.889
because I was like, Man, if somebody had told

00:34:55.889 --> 00:34:58.949
me 15 years ago where we would be today, I'd

00:34:58.949 --> 00:35:01.789
be like, there's no way. We're at mom's dance

00:35:01.789 --> 00:35:05.010
studio. I'm doing two hours a day, one morning,

00:35:05.050 --> 00:35:09.070
one night. There's two people in class. At one

00:35:09.070 --> 00:35:11.590
point, there was no C -Fit, and now look at it.

00:35:11.630 --> 00:35:15.949
It's very interesting to think about. To think

00:35:15.949 --> 00:35:20.570
about. Victoria's like, I really wish there wasn't.

00:35:21.210 --> 00:35:27.429
Be kind, rewind, you know? Be kind to rewind.

00:35:28.530 --> 00:35:32.010
I was living the dream in New York, which I also

00:35:32.010 --> 00:35:39.130
hated. Yeah, I mean, I feel like it's so basic

00:35:39.130 --> 00:35:41.869
I'm making it complicated by thinking it's harder

00:35:41.869 --> 00:35:43.510
than it is. Yeah, you don't have to think about

00:35:43.510 --> 00:35:47.389
it. So glad we're at the thinkers. Don't think

00:35:47.389 --> 00:35:50.610
about this. But I think the basic ones are the

00:35:50.610 --> 00:35:53.630
hardest. That hit you the hardest, the basic

00:35:53.630 --> 00:35:57.309
ones. Yeah, basic ones. Like bees. The basic

00:35:57.309 --> 00:36:00.570
ones. The basic bees. Hit you the hardest. Yeah,

00:36:00.650 --> 00:36:03.630
everything that wasn't there didn't exist at

00:36:03.630 --> 00:36:05.550
a time. So if you think of it, it could happen.

00:36:06.929 --> 00:36:10.230
Yes, that's what that means. Manifest it. Ooh.

00:36:11.269 --> 00:36:13.610
You don't watch Bravo. We can't talk about Amanda

00:36:13.610 --> 00:36:17.449
and her manifestations. Aw. Another day. We'll

00:36:17.449 --> 00:36:19.750
get somebody on here that likes Bravo. OK, this

00:36:19.750 --> 00:36:25.179
one hurt my feelings. I cannot wait. You were

00:36:25.179 --> 00:36:29.940
offended. I was. No, it hurt my feelings. I wasn't

00:36:29.940 --> 00:36:32.820
offended. Okay. But it hurt my feelings. The

00:36:32.820 --> 00:36:36.179
day we fret about the future is the day we leave

00:36:36.179 --> 00:36:41.760
our childhood behind. The day. The day we worry

00:36:41.760 --> 00:36:43.800
about the future. I like that you just changed

00:36:43.800 --> 00:36:45.380
fret with worry. I did it for you. That's good.

00:36:45.559 --> 00:36:50.099
That's good. G. Okay. Is the day we leave our

00:36:50.099 --> 00:36:52.530
childhood behind. It's like the day you start

00:36:52.530 --> 00:36:56.699
worrying about the future. Now, I know that's

00:36:56.699 --> 00:37:00.519
not exactly true. Your childhood isn't over because

00:37:00.519 --> 00:37:04.579
you worry about a test in two weeks. No, but

00:37:04.579 --> 00:37:08.019
think about the education system now. I talk

00:37:08.019 --> 00:37:10.179
to the seventh and eighth graders. They're trying

00:37:10.179 --> 00:37:12.159
to take college courses to get the credits in

00:37:12.159 --> 00:37:15.239
so that they can get their credits into high

00:37:15.239 --> 00:37:16.340
school. And then when you're in high school,

00:37:16.440 --> 00:37:18.380
you're taking AP classes. And it's so hard. And

00:37:18.380 --> 00:37:19.960
all I do is study. And I don't really go out

00:37:19.960 --> 00:37:21.699
because I'm studying because I want to get those.

00:37:21.929 --> 00:37:25.690
College courses. Be a high schooler. Go to the

00:37:25.690 --> 00:37:29.170
homecoming. Stop. You have the rest of your life

00:37:29.170 --> 00:37:32.329
to worry about all these markers coming up. Yeah,

00:37:32.329 --> 00:37:34.949
and I agree with that. I think that is happening

00:37:34.949 --> 00:37:38.250
younger in the school system than we had. Well,

00:37:38.250 --> 00:37:40.429
just think about all the kids in second and third

00:37:40.429 --> 00:37:42.289
grade that come in saying they have anxiety.

00:37:44.429 --> 00:37:46.969
When we all get emails from parents, she can't

00:37:46.969 --> 00:37:49.269
come to class today because she's having an anxiety

00:37:49.269 --> 00:37:54.190
attack. Like, why? She's 10. Even younger. Even

00:37:54.190 --> 00:37:56.869
younger. That did not happen when we were young.

00:37:56.889 --> 00:37:59.769
Or maybe if it did, it was very rare. So I know

00:37:59.769 --> 00:38:03.489
it has to do with social media. But I think about

00:38:03.489 --> 00:38:06.590
Melody. I do have two sons. I talk about Melody

00:38:06.590 --> 00:38:10.030
a lot. But she's of age of social media, everybody

00:38:10.030 --> 00:38:13.030
around her. Like, Louis and Dina are really no.

00:38:14.860 --> 00:38:17.639
They're worried about Super Mario Brothers and

00:38:17.639 --> 00:38:21.099
stuff like that. But the day that we fret about

00:38:21.099 --> 00:38:22.840
the future is the day we lose our childhood.

00:38:22.900 --> 00:38:25.639
And I was like, oh my god, that sounds horrible.

00:38:25.860 --> 00:38:27.480
But there are parameters to that, like you said.

00:38:28.099 --> 00:38:30.280
It's not like, oh, I'm worrying about the game

00:38:30.280 --> 00:38:34.019
on Saturday. That's the future. Or like a project.

00:38:34.079 --> 00:38:36.079
I want the game to go well. Yeah, I want to get

00:38:36.079 --> 00:38:38.500
this project done. But it's not like, well, if

00:38:38.500 --> 00:38:41.159
I don't do this by this. then I won't be able

00:38:41.159 --> 00:38:42.500
to get into this college. If I don't get into

00:38:42.500 --> 00:38:44.219
this college, then I can't do that. Like, that's

00:38:44.219 --> 00:38:46.980
where it trickles into like, oh, you don't have

00:38:46.980 --> 00:38:50.300
innocent like brains anymore. Yeah. Innocent

00:38:50.300 --> 00:38:55.219
brains. No innocent brains for you anymore. Harrison

00:38:55.219 --> 00:38:59.679
Ford ate those in like Temple of Doom. Circling

00:38:59.679 --> 00:39:05.320
back. Temple of Doom, Indiana Jones, please don't

00:39:05.320 --> 00:39:08.599
cancel or cite us. Harrison Ford does not eat

00:39:08.599 --> 00:39:12.760
people. Okay, my childhood is over. I have to

00:39:12.760 --> 00:39:17.659
move on. This one? Yeah, you're 40. Your childhood

00:39:17.659 --> 00:39:24.239
is over. But you're an adult teenager. I'm an

00:39:24.239 --> 00:39:26.079
adult teenager? Right? Isn't that what we said?

00:39:26.380 --> 00:39:27.659
Oh god, that was a while ago. It's like when

00:39:27.659 --> 00:39:31.679
you turn to be an adult in your 20s, you're like

00:39:31.679 --> 00:39:33.219
a baby adult. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then you're

00:39:33.219 --> 00:39:35.630
a toddler adult, then you're in... Teenager adult

00:39:35.630 --> 00:39:37.510
I thought about that the other day because I

00:39:37.510 --> 00:39:39.090
was listening to the podcast and I was like,

00:39:39.090 --> 00:39:43.489
oh what do the kids say and then I was like Now

00:39:43.489 --> 00:39:46.050
if somebody that was 70 is listening to our podcast

00:39:46.050 --> 00:39:48.789
they would think that I was a kid. Yes Which

00:39:48.789 --> 00:39:50.829
is something I never understood when mom would

00:39:50.829 --> 00:39:53.269
be like, oh, you're a baby. You're a baby I'd

00:39:53.269 --> 00:39:55.409
be like what? Yeah, what are you two? Why are

00:39:55.409 --> 00:39:58.449
you saying that to them? They're 30. Yeah, they're

00:39:58.449 --> 00:40:01.389
30 Oh my god, and then now that you know, you're

00:40:01.389 --> 00:40:04.349
of that eat. I'm like, wow, yeah I have a hard

00:40:04.349 --> 00:40:06.130
time remembering it for myself, but I can look

00:40:06.130 --> 00:40:07.929
at my friends and be like, but you're so young.

00:40:07.949 --> 00:40:10.889
I know. I think everybody, a lot of people could

00:40:10.889 --> 00:40:12.369
do that because I can look at you and be like,

00:40:12.389 --> 00:40:15.730
oh my God, she's only 37. She's got so much time,

00:40:15.730 --> 00:40:18.989
but I'm close to death. No, but you are though.

00:40:19.510 --> 00:40:22.590
Have you seen the black under your eyes? I thought

00:40:22.590 --> 00:40:25.469
I hit that today. Lots of mascara running down

00:40:25.469 --> 00:40:28.690
the face right now. Lots of eyeliner just sitting

00:40:28.690 --> 00:40:32.670
under there. All right. This is not a thinker.

00:40:33.469 --> 00:40:39.150
This is a straight forward. Small circle, private

00:40:39.150 --> 00:40:42.909
life, clear mind. Was this Friday Night Lights?

00:40:45.590 --> 00:40:48.230
Keep your circle small, keep your life private,

00:40:48.269 --> 00:40:50.730
you'll have a clear mind. I got two of those,

00:40:51.250 --> 00:40:55.070
one of those. What do you got? I only have small

00:40:55.070 --> 00:40:58.170
circle and that's by choice. Don't talk about

00:40:58.170 --> 00:41:02.239
your chest like that. I'm self -deprecating.

00:41:02.880 --> 00:41:05.460
Who invited her to my thinker party? At least

00:41:05.460 --> 00:41:08.539
you have two small circles. Your thinker party.

00:41:11.340 --> 00:41:14.260
Small circle. What was the second one? Private

00:41:14.260 --> 00:41:17.920
life, clear mind. And the reason that I thought

00:41:17.920 --> 00:41:19.760
about this was because, as I've said before,

00:41:19.880 --> 00:41:23.860
people have said we keep our business and the

00:41:23.860 --> 00:41:27.159
family as an insult. And I was like, no, I like

00:41:27.159 --> 00:41:31.130
our small circle. It's worked for us. Now, sometimes

00:41:31.130 --> 00:41:33.210
I think it's too small because I look and I,

00:41:33.210 --> 00:41:35.590
Victoria is my only friend and I'm like, damn,

00:41:35.610 --> 00:41:42.409
I really kept it small. Super tired. It's exhausting.

00:41:42.590 --> 00:41:48.730
LOL. Good talk. So when, when she's mad at me,

00:41:48.730 --> 00:41:51.170
when I text, I have nobody else to text. Don't

00:41:51.170 --> 00:41:55.269
text anyone. Be private. Go sit in a circle.

00:41:56.309 --> 00:41:58.230
This goes, there's nothing to think about that.

00:41:58.250 --> 00:42:03.519
Just do that. This one, I wish my mom was sitting

00:42:03.519 --> 00:42:06.260
right here because she would say, I have been

00:42:06.260 --> 00:42:07.780
saying this to you since you were a teenager.

00:42:07.840 --> 00:42:10.980
Oh my God. Beast from the East? Yes. It literally

00:42:10.980 --> 00:42:13.460
just says beast from the East. It's a vibe. You

00:42:13.460 --> 00:42:15.760
should, that's a good thinker. Like what does

00:42:15.760 --> 00:42:20.920
it mean? It's just my picture. Okay. This is

00:42:20.920 --> 00:42:25.280
nobody's thinking about you. Thanks mom. Mom

00:42:25.280 --> 00:42:28.039
would say, I've been telling you this, mom sounds

00:42:28.039 --> 00:42:32.199
horrible. No. that like nobody was ever thinking

00:42:32.199 --> 00:42:37.300
about you. They aren't. No, listen, let me finish.

00:42:37.340 --> 00:42:42.059
Let me finish. They aren't. They weren't. They

00:42:42.059 --> 00:42:44.840
never were. Oh my God, there's really more to

00:42:44.840 --> 00:42:48.559
this? People are just thinking about themselves.

00:42:49.039 --> 00:42:51.320
People don't have time to worry about what you're

00:42:51.320 --> 00:42:53.400
doing or how well you're doing it because they're

00:42:53.400 --> 00:42:56.320
caught up in their own drama. I saw this yesterday

00:42:56.320 --> 00:42:58.559
or maybe this morning. Really? Yeah. I just read

00:42:58.559 --> 00:43:00.820
it. So it sounds harsh. Nobody's thinking about

00:43:00.820 --> 00:43:03.039
you. But the reason my mom always used to say

00:43:03.039 --> 00:43:07.079
that, not in those words exactly. Nobody's thinking

00:43:07.079 --> 00:43:09.639
about you. But everybody's worried about themselves.

00:43:09.760 --> 00:43:11.599
I think I called that out in class today. I said,

00:43:11.599 --> 00:43:13.659
nobody likes you. Nobody likes you. That's very

00:43:13.659 --> 00:43:18.000
different. Shanna's doing really ridiculous stuff

00:43:18.000 --> 00:43:19.559
that she was like, look what I can do. Look what

00:43:19.559 --> 00:43:21.400
I can do. I was like, literally no one likes

00:43:21.400 --> 00:43:23.559
you right now. Not one person is doing what you're

00:43:23.559 --> 00:43:26.340
doing. Look around the room. Read the room. I

00:43:26.340 --> 00:43:29.599
said, go at your own pace. She was like, she

00:43:29.599 --> 00:43:31.960
looked like a crazy person. But nobody was thinking

00:43:31.960 --> 00:43:33.880
about me, so it didn't matter. They were thinking

00:43:33.880 --> 00:43:36.960
about you and not the way you wanted. But yes,

00:43:37.119 --> 00:43:42.179
yeah, it's like, I mean, so many different ways.

00:43:42.320 --> 00:43:44.059
It's the same thing we said about wear the outfit.

00:43:44.159 --> 00:43:46.079
No one's thinking about you. And if they do in

00:43:46.079 --> 00:43:48.679
something like that, it's like, oh, wow, that

00:43:48.679 --> 00:43:51.179
was different. Or I wish I could wear that or

00:43:51.179 --> 00:43:53.579
whatever. And then they're thinking about themselves

00:43:53.579 --> 00:43:55.909
again. Right. Like everyone's thinking about

00:43:55.909 --> 00:43:59.730
themselves to a degree. Yeah. But there's so

00:43:59.730 --> 00:44:01.530
many of it. I'm thinking about the dark under

00:44:01.530 --> 00:44:05.369
your eyes. I think there's so many times that

00:44:05.369 --> 00:44:08.829
like, I mean, everyone does this. You cannot

00:44:08.829 --> 00:44:10.409
out there. You cannot tell me that you don't

00:44:10.409 --> 00:44:13.349
do this. What? but you'll overthink an interaction

00:44:13.349 --> 00:44:14.829
where you're like, wow, that was really awkward.

00:44:14.949 --> 00:44:16.389
I can't believe I said that. Oh, do you think

00:44:16.389 --> 00:44:18.530
they took it this way? And then you overthink

00:44:18.530 --> 00:44:20.829
it for days and you go to that person, which

00:44:20.829 --> 00:44:23.070
I've totally done and gone, I'm so sorry about

00:44:23.070 --> 00:44:25.130
the other day. And they're like, huh? What are

00:44:25.130 --> 00:44:25.989
you talking about? Yeah, what are you talking

00:44:25.989 --> 00:44:28.030
about? They have no idea. Yeah. But I've now

00:44:28.030 --> 00:44:31.550
wasted three days thinking about it. Yeah. Nobody's

00:44:31.550 --> 00:44:33.449
thinking about you. Such a waste of time. It's

00:44:33.449 --> 00:44:35.489
a harsh way to say it, but really everyone's

00:44:35.489 --> 00:44:37.010
thinking about themselves and trying to get through

00:44:37.010 --> 00:44:39.829
life. And nobody's thinking about you. Yeah.

00:44:40.000 --> 00:44:41.980
No one's thinking about what you look like. No

00:44:41.980 --> 00:44:43.440
one's thinking about your body. No one's thinking

00:44:43.440 --> 00:44:46.780
about just think about the order that you're

00:44:46.780 --> 00:44:48.300
ordering at the front of the counter. No one

00:44:48.300 --> 00:44:50.380
behind you is thinking about what you just ordered.

00:44:50.699 --> 00:44:51.820
You know, like those little thoughts that you

00:44:51.820 --> 00:44:54.679
don't own. Right now, you're not even registering.

00:44:54.780 --> 00:44:56.579
Yeah. But like, oh, I won't order that because

00:44:56.579 --> 00:44:58.099
then people will think I'm going to have the

00:44:58.099 --> 00:45:00.219
donut and I shouldn't be eating a donut. Right.

00:45:00.239 --> 00:45:02.880
What are you talking about? No one's even thought

00:45:02.880 --> 00:45:05.139
about you in this line right now. Yeah, there's

00:45:05.139 --> 00:45:08.099
life is too busy and chaotic and crazy. Everyone's

00:45:08.099 --> 00:45:10.570
thinking about themselves. Carly's certainly

00:45:10.570 --> 00:45:14.809
thinking about herself. I mean, 100%. Okay, this

00:45:14.809 --> 00:45:20.750
was my whole thing growing up. I hated when people

00:45:20.750 --> 00:45:24.690
would call me typical. You're a typical teenager.

00:45:24.969 --> 00:45:27.769
You're typical. I hated that. I wanted to be

00:45:27.769 --> 00:45:29.829
different, not in the way Victoria wanted to

00:45:29.829 --> 00:45:32.489
be different. Hold on, I don't want to be different.

00:45:32.570 --> 00:45:36.070
I wanted to stand out. I just was. And I got

00:45:36.070 --> 00:45:38.510
berated for it by my sister. Well, that was so

00:45:38.510 --> 00:45:40.570
annoying because she just was different and I

00:45:40.570 --> 00:45:44.469
wanted to be different. And so this quote is

00:45:44.469 --> 00:45:48.929
for both of us. No, make it different for me.

00:45:50.849 --> 00:45:55.010
Inspired by the fear of being average. So you're

00:45:55.010 --> 00:46:00.489
inspired by the fear of being average. The pauses,

00:46:00.949 --> 00:46:07.989
change. everything. But it's true. I never wanted

00:46:07.989 --> 00:46:12.630
to be normal and average and just like regular.

00:46:12.690 --> 00:46:14.849
I always wanted to stand out and that was like

00:46:14.849 --> 00:46:17.230
a big fear of mine. Why? What's that symptom?

00:46:17.909 --> 00:46:21.329
Not a fear. I just think because I wanted to

00:46:21.329 --> 00:46:24.989
move to New York and I felt very happy there

00:46:24.989 --> 00:46:28.710
and like... That was different. That was different.

00:46:28.750 --> 00:46:30.750
It was different. I knew I was always going to

00:46:30.750 --> 00:46:33.239
move back home and nothing about Delco. I mean,

00:46:33.440 --> 00:46:35.880
obviously, I love it here and I came back here.

00:46:36.159 --> 00:46:38.559
But I knew that I wanted something different.

00:46:38.679 --> 00:46:43.659
But at that age where we grew up, if you're not

00:46:43.659 --> 00:46:44.840
around here, there were like two places that

00:46:44.840 --> 00:46:46.159
you went. You went to Westchester University

00:46:46.159 --> 00:46:49.400
or you went to Penn State University. And you

00:46:49.400 --> 00:46:51.320
basically redid high school again just with a

00:46:51.320 --> 00:46:55.019
lot more people in these two places. so i remember

00:46:55.019 --> 00:46:57.159
being like i i don't want to go there i don't

00:46:57.159 --> 00:47:00.239
want to go like i want to do something else and

00:47:00.239 --> 00:47:01.900
that doesn't necessarily make it like the right

00:47:01.900 --> 00:47:03.619
i clearly made the wrong choice i ended up having

00:47:03.619 --> 00:47:08.139
to transfer but oh oh pepper's yelling at me

00:47:08.139 --> 00:47:13.389
but um that's what you mean by like There's nothing

00:47:13.389 --> 00:47:15.369
wrong with Delco. It's just that's what you did.

00:47:15.590 --> 00:47:17.489
Right. And I wanted something different. And

00:47:17.489 --> 00:47:19.789
I felt very comfortable in New York and always

00:47:19.789 --> 00:47:21.530
had, even when I was a kid, because our mom would

00:47:21.530 --> 00:47:24.090
take us there. But I like that quote because

00:47:24.090 --> 00:47:28.570
it takes a more positive spin. You're inspired

00:47:28.570 --> 00:47:32.590
by the fear of being average. Yeah, if only you'd

00:47:32.590 --> 00:47:34.150
thought about it like that back then. Right.

00:47:34.150 --> 00:47:36.550
But nobody does when you're 16, 17 years old.

00:47:36.550 --> 00:47:38.969
Yeah, nobody does. Nobody does. Yeah, defense

00:47:38.969 --> 00:47:41.590
mode. Nobody's thinking about you. Nobody cares.

00:47:42.079 --> 00:47:43.739
I don't think that quote said, nobody cares.

00:47:47.320 --> 00:47:49.840
That's a different thinker. Nobody cares about

00:47:49.840 --> 00:47:52.440
you, Carly. That's a mom, a lovely past time

00:47:52.440 --> 00:47:54.139
from our mother. Nobody cares about you, Carly.

00:47:55.360 --> 00:47:57.739
No, she never said that. She also said, nobody

00:47:57.739 --> 00:48:01.880
cares about you. Nope. No, we just established

00:48:01.880 --> 00:48:05.219
she didn't say that. This is too much thinking.

00:48:05.360 --> 00:48:07.340
My brain's about to explode. She going, Kate,

00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:10.480
I have to say this. I'm crying. I have to say

00:48:10.480 --> 00:48:13.420
this next. Her tears have wiped away the makeup

00:48:13.420 --> 00:48:16.820
under her eye. So this is a win. Andrew's texted

00:48:16.820 --> 00:48:19.079
me twice. I'll answer it later. He needs the

00:48:19.079 --> 00:48:20.880
easy pass. OK, he can come get it. He knows where

00:48:20.880 --> 00:48:25.480
I am now. He found me. All right, I have to say

00:48:25.480 --> 00:48:28.519
this the way it's written. I would hope so. Ready?

00:48:29.500 --> 00:48:32.559
Sis. Some people are never going to clap for

00:48:32.559 --> 00:48:36.110
you. I don't like how you said that. That was

00:48:36.110 --> 00:48:38.809
a bad cold read. Please try it again. That's

00:48:38.809 --> 00:48:40.429
why I had to move home from New York. I was never

00:48:40.429 --> 00:48:42.190
good at cold reads. We'll see if you get the

00:48:42.190 --> 00:48:46.449
callback. Nobody cares about you. Okay. Sis.

00:48:46.650 --> 00:48:59.289
Already no. Sis. Try it again. Victoria. Okay.

00:49:00.590 --> 00:49:06.199
Oh no. I'm dying. Sis. Okay. Some people are

00:49:06.199 --> 00:49:10.960
never going to clap for you when anyway. Sorry.

00:49:11.360 --> 00:49:13.579
Thank you. Thank you for the snip. Did it say

00:49:13.579 --> 00:49:16.300
in parentheses sniff to make it more believable?

00:49:16.380 --> 00:49:21.440
Got it. Those are the stage directions as she

00:49:21.440 --> 00:49:25.079
slowly walks off stage left and does a slow clap

00:49:25.079 --> 00:49:29.039
for myself. I mean, but that that's definitely

00:49:29.039 --> 00:49:31.400
what that like clap for yourself. You don't if

00:49:31.400 --> 00:49:32.840
you're expecting other people to clap for you

00:49:32.840 --> 00:49:34.559
to get through it, then it's going to be way

00:49:34.559 --> 00:49:37.440
harder to get through. And also people might

00:49:37.440 --> 00:49:40.059
not show up for that. So don't do that. Well,

00:49:40.119 --> 00:49:41.599
I don't worry about that. I think when you're

00:49:41.599 --> 00:49:46.219
younger, you're waiting for. Approval or like

00:49:46.219 --> 00:49:52.739
the what I can't think of words. Yeah, I can't.

00:49:52.800 --> 00:49:57.639
I can't help you. You're waiting for that validation.

00:49:58.460 --> 00:50:01.820
Validation from other people, but you just validate

00:50:01.820 --> 00:50:04.260
yourself. Clap for yourself. You don't need anybody

00:50:04.260 --> 00:50:10.320
to clap for you. Yeah, what she said. Agreed.

00:50:12.139 --> 00:50:15.019
This is like sort of the same thing, but sort

00:50:15.019 --> 00:50:18.920
of different. I'm definitely not clapping for

00:50:18.920 --> 00:50:21.599
you. Don't worry about the people that aren't

00:50:21.599 --> 00:50:23.940
happy for you. They aren't happy for themselves

00:50:23.940 --> 00:50:29.119
either. Oh, mic drop burn. But again. No. Oh,

00:50:29.199 --> 00:50:31.780
no, no. Don't do it twice. That's what a mic

00:50:31.780 --> 00:50:35.340
drop is. But OK, yeah, keep going. Things that

00:50:35.340 --> 00:50:40.099
you wish that you thought of in your 20s that

00:50:40.099 --> 00:50:44.280
hit harder when you're in your 40s. But I like

00:50:44.280 --> 00:50:47.599
this because all of this is more available to

00:50:47.599 --> 00:50:49.679
kids in their 20s and their teens because of

00:50:49.679 --> 00:50:53.179
social media. I didn't have an algorithm where

00:50:53.179 --> 00:50:55.380
this would pop up for me. You'd have to go to

00:50:55.380 --> 00:50:59.489
the self. help section of the library. Borders

00:50:59.489 --> 00:51:03.710
or Barnes and Noble? Yeah, so the more you see

00:51:03.710 --> 00:51:06.750
it, the more you believe it. Which was embarrassing.

00:51:07.489 --> 00:51:11.050
Yeah. Oh, yeah. That aisle is like for some reason

00:51:11.050 --> 00:51:13.489
has this taboo stigma. So like, of course, in

00:51:13.489 --> 00:51:15.449
your 20s, you're not going to go get a self -help

00:51:15.449 --> 00:51:18.570
book, which is all we had. So this is definitely

00:51:18.570 --> 00:51:22.010
a better alternative of positivity in the social

00:51:22.010 --> 00:51:25.210
media world. Yeah. And in terms of kids today

00:51:25.210 --> 00:51:28.630
or younger people today. Adult babies. Adult

00:51:28.630 --> 00:51:32.320
babies today. It's just the same people like

00:51:32.320 --> 00:51:34.320
you see that they look at your stories But they're

00:51:34.320 --> 00:51:36.559
never gonna like it or you see they look at your

00:51:36.559 --> 00:51:38.099
post But they're not gonna like it because they're

00:51:38.099 --> 00:51:41.039
not happy for you, but who cares they're they

00:51:41.039 --> 00:51:43.059
may not be happy with themselves. They're looking

00:51:43.059 --> 00:51:49.420
But let them let them let them You clap for yourself

00:51:49.420 --> 00:51:50.840
you looking at who's looking at your stories

00:51:50.840 --> 00:51:55.460
no, but I but honestly I do see people that constantly

00:51:55.460 --> 00:51:58.559
look at our stuff and they will never like it

00:51:58.559 --> 00:52:01.780
and it's people that we know very well. So that's

00:52:01.780 --> 00:52:04.019
interesting. That's always been interesting to

00:52:04.019 --> 00:52:06.980
me and always been like a thing for us. Sometimes

00:52:06.980 --> 00:52:11.719
your closest people are not. No, sometimes your

00:52:11.719 --> 00:52:13.920
biggest supporters are not your closest people.

00:52:13.980 --> 00:52:19.360
Uh huh. Yeah. So, um, so yeah, I notice it because

00:52:19.360 --> 00:52:21.500
when I'm quiet in my head, I notice everything

00:52:21.500 --> 00:52:24.219
and I observe that you're quiet with your mouth,

00:52:24.239 --> 00:52:28.460
but your head is never quiet. I can hear the

00:52:28.460 --> 00:52:34.650
static from here. This one. Is your last one?

00:52:34.750 --> 00:52:41.610
Yeah. And it's a thinker. Oh good. I don't know

00:52:41.610 --> 00:52:44.849
if I want to end on, it's not negative, but I

00:52:44.849 --> 00:52:47.070
know this is very me. Oh my God, just say it.

00:52:47.110 --> 00:52:49.789
Okay. I know once I leave, I don't come back.

00:52:49.869 --> 00:52:54.769
That's why I try so hard to stay. I have a problem.

00:52:55.610 --> 00:52:57.789
I know, I'm not gonna leave on the negative one,

00:52:57.929 --> 00:53:01.849
but I... Yep, I disagree. You disagree that I'm

00:53:01.849 --> 00:53:06.130
like that? What? It's about me. Oh, I thought

00:53:06.130 --> 00:53:09.369
this was a concept. How is this about you? I

00:53:09.369 --> 00:53:11.210
know once I leave, I don't come back. That's

00:53:11.210 --> 00:53:14.170
why I try so hard to stay. I know, once I die...

00:53:14.170 --> 00:53:19.110
No. Oh. Not at all. Okay, then tell me more.

00:53:19.909 --> 00:53:25.039
Think harder. But the children love the books.

00:53:26.179 --> 00:53:28.480
Just think about a relationship, a friendship.

00:53:29.440 --> 00:53:34.400
Okay. I don't cut people off, but once I leave,

00:53:34.500 --> 00:53:36.579
it's very hard for me to come back, so I really

00:53:36.579 --> 00:53:38.599
try hard to stay for as long as I can. Oh, yes,

00:53:38.800 --> 00:53:41.380
yes, 100%. Do you know what I mean? I'm not really

00:53:41.380 --> 00:53:43.639
ever mad at anybody that I cut them off, but,

00:53:43.639 --> 00:53:50.300
you know, life. So that's... I do. Yeah. Ah,

00:53:50.300 --> 00:53:56.900
you do. But you do. Yeah. You don't need to sit

00:53:56.900 --> 00:53:59.320
at my table. You can eat. You don't sit at my

00:53:59.320 --> 00:54:05.179
table. Yeah. Sis! Why are you not good at that?

00:54:05.820 --> 00:54:07.900
I'm gonna end on a positive note. That one I

00:54:07.900 --> 00:54:09.820
just like because that made me really think like,

00:54:09.820 --> 00:54:12.719
whoo, that hit me hard. But I think that's an

00:54:12.719 --> 00:54:15.599
attribute that you try and try again, but I do

00:54:15.599 --> 00:54:17.760
think sometimes it's at your detriment. Yeah.

00:54:17.860 --> 00:54:19.940
It's not at your benefit. Yeah. Anybody's not

00:54:19.940 --> 00:54:23.659
just mine. But we're talking about you. And I

00:54:23.659 --> 00:54:27.900
also thought it was about death. Because I know

00:54:27.900 --> 00:54:31.780
you're afraid to die. And you don't want to die,

00:54:31.800 --> 00:54:33.760
so you're trying to stay here a little bit longer.

00:54:34.019 --> 00:54:36.960
That is not where that was going. But I disagree

00:54:36.960 --> 00:54:38.900
that this is it. When you leave, this is it.

00:54:39.000 --> 00:54:40.960
When you die, this is it. So I was like, no.

00:54:41.199 --> 00:54:45.300
I think I'm thinking more and more that way as

00:54:45.300 --> 00:54:48.559
I get older. Or I'm hoping. So since like two

00:54:48.559 --> 00:54:52.150
weeks ago? Yeah. Since October. Pretty sure you're

00:54:52.150 --> 00:54:54.489
afraid of that. Oh, wait, did I send you? No,

00:54:54.590 --> 00:54:57.610
I sent Andrew and it was like just know that

00:54:57.610 --> 00:54:59.750
when I die and it's like this happy couple and

00:54:59.750 --> 00:55:02.570
it's like I'm gonna haunt the out of you and

00:55:02.570 --> 00:55:06.510
it's like all these pictures of like demons under

00:55:06.510 --> 00:55:10.050
the bed. It's just gonna be you saying Real Housewife

00:55:10.050 --> 00:55:13.670
entrance quotes to everyone in their ear. That's

00:55:13.670 --> 00:55:18.570
it. I am going to haunt the CRAP out of Andrew

00:55:18.570 --> 00:55:21.219
when I die. when he kills me. You're haunting

00:55:21.219 --> 00:55:24.179
him now. You won't answer him like you've already

00:55:24.179 --> 00:55:27.039
ghosted him. Sorry to bother. I can't find my

00:55:27.039 --> 00:55:30.340
wife. Now I feel bad for him. I can't find my

00:55:30.340 --> 00:55:34.400
wife. I forget where my wife is. It's honesty.

00:55:35.619 --> 00:55:38.420
He could have been like, Carly's completely left

00:55:38.420 --> 00:55:43.539
and I don't know where she went. Last one. We're

00:55:43.539 --> 00:55:47.980
gonna end on a positive note. I'm weird. I'm

00:55:47.980 --> 00:55:52.340
real though. Why'd you say it like that? Sis.

00:55:52.559 --> 00:55:56.440
She said I'm real. But I'm real though. Because

00:55:56.440 --> 00:55:58.219
it's a picture of a black sheep in the middle

00:55:58.219 --> 00:55:59.980
of all these white sheep and I was picturing

00:55:59.980 --> 00:56:02.159
myself being the black sheep. You're a white

00:56:02.159 --> 00:56:06.219
sheep. You fool. You basic sheep. You typical

00:56:06.219 --> 00:56:11.179
average basic white sheep. If anything, cream

00:56:11.179 --> 00:56:13.159
colored. That is the biggest insult you could

00:56:13.159 --> 00:56:16.179
ever give me. You are not a black sheep. No,

00:56:16.179 --> 00:56:18.800
I liked the quote. I was trying to pretend my

00:56:18.800 --> 00:56:20.940
voice sounded like the black sheep. I am not

00:56:20.940 --> 00:56:23.340
a black sheep. Success. Victoria is the black

00:56:23.340 --> 00:56:27.119
sheep. I'm weird. I'm real though. I'm right

00:56:27.119 --> 00:56:32.059
here. I'm weird. I'm right here. Something happens

00:56:32.059 --> 00:56:34.480
to your jaw. I think it's because you broke it.

00:56:37.199 --> 00:56:44.030
Be weird. Stay alive. What is it? Be rude. Be

00:56:44.030 --> 00:56:46.570
rude. Stay rude. Be weird. Be rude. Stay rude.

00:56:46.889 --> 00:56:50.570
Stay rude. Be real. Stay alive. No, be weird.

00:56:52.309 --> 00:56:56.349
But I'm real, though. OK, well, we were saying

00:56:56.349 --> 00:56:59.530
crime junkies, for those of you that know, and

00:56:59.530 --> 00:57:02.150
also don't know, because we took that too far.

00:57:02.210 --> 00:57:04.409
I have a t -shirt with that quote on it. I gave

00:57:04.409 --> 00:57:08.349
it to you. Yeah. Yeah, I'm weird, but I'm real.

00:57:08.510 --> 00:57:11.070
Same thing as my thinker last year. Awkward people

00:57:11.070 --> 00:57:15.739
are just genuine. Yeah. So awkward is weird and

00:57:15.739 --> 00:57:19.679
genuine is real Lewis Melody and Dean will call

00:57:19.679 --> 00:57:22.079
Lewis weird and how all the time thank God I

00:57:22.079 --> 00:57:23.599
don't know where he gets it from because I was

00:57:23.599 --> 00:57:25.420
always super sensitive about being weird growing

00:57:25.420 --> 00:57:27.900
up But he's like why is that a bad thing Lewis

00:57:27.900 --> 00:57:30.559
will say that like it's great thing. What let

00:57:30.559 --> 00:57:34.619
people let them call you weird who cares It's

00:57:34.619 --> 00:57:36.079
not a bad thing. It's a great thing. You want

00:57:36.079 --> 00:57:38.440
to be weird weird people are interesting and

00:57:38.440 --> 00:57:42.869
weird people aren't really weird That's a thinker.

00:57:43.110 --> 00:57:46.070
Ding, ding, ding. But yeah, I'm proud of that

00:57:46.070 --> 00:57:47.929
nine -year -old who was like, and why is that

00:57:47.929 --> 00:57:50.250
a bad thing? I'm weird. Yeah, good for him. Yeah.

00:57:50.989 --> 00:57:53.130
I hope he keeps that, but that's, that's. Yeah,

00:57:53.150 --> 00:57:57.769
maybe school those other two kids up. Maybe school

00:57:57.769 --> 00:58:01.849
those other two kids. You lose insight of them.

00:58:02.170 --> 00:58:03.550
Oh God, they're all weird and they're different

00:58:03.550 --> 00:58:06.190
ways, but he's, you know. Well, that's how I

00:58:06.190 --> 00:58:08.710
think part of school, that's part of age. We

00:58:08.710 --> 00:58:11.130
all learned that at a young age. The weird kid

00:58:11.130 --> 00:58:15.570
is the weird kid. Yeah. Usually the quiet, really

00:58:15.570 --> 00:58:17.829
smart kid is the weird kid in school. Right.

00:58:17.829 --> 00:58:20.309
Yeah. That's the truth. Louis draws at recess.

00:58:20.469 --> 00:58:22.449
I don't think he does anymore. Not anymore, but

00:58:22.449 --> 00:58:26.329
he draws at all times of the day on his tests

00:58:26.329 --> 00:58:32.090
constantly. But think about, I can picture three

00:58:32.090 --> 00:58:36.929
of the quote unquote quiet, weird kids from my

00:58:36.929 --> 00:58:40.010
grade. I know their names. Yeah. And I'm pretty

00:58:40.010 --> 00:58:42.610
sure they're all in tech. And successful. And

00:58:42.610 --> 00:58:44.389
I want them to stay weird. We were at the bar,

00:58:44.389 --> 00:58:47.849
and it was blaring music. At 10 o 'clock at night,

00:58:47.929 --> 00:58:49.250
the band was playing, and he's sitting drawing

00:58:49.250 --> 00:58:52.550
on his, you know, pad of paper. You guys are

00:58:52.550 --> 00:58:55.710
really boring. That's all that tells me. Well,

00:58:55.730 --> 00:58:57.429
the other two were playing arcade games, and

00:58:57.429 --> 00:58:59.949
he was sitting there drawing a panda eating a

00:58:59.949 --> 00:59:02.389
banana. And I was like, oh, cool. Yeah, they

00:59:02.389 --> 00:59:09.309
won't be in tech. Nope. Maybe tech week. But

00:59:09.309 --> 00:59:11.409
no. Oh, I asked him what he wanted to be when

00:59:11.409 --> 00:59:15.510
he grew up. And he keeps saying actor. No. I

00:59:15.510 --> 00:59:19.030
know. Andrew says no. I say do whatever you want.

00:59:20.130 --> 00:59:22.710
But Andrew's like, no. But how can you say no

00:59:22.710 --> 00:59:25.309
when both your parents were actors and your family

00:59:25.309 --> 00:59:31.210
were all actors? Show him your work. Both of

00:59:31.210 --> 00:59:34.949
you. Show him your work. He'll take it back real

00:59:34.949 --> 00:59:39.059
quick. When his parents were actors, yeah, look

00:59:39.059 --> 00:59:42.480
at him now. I'm dying. Show him your work. Successful.

00:59:42.719 --> 00:59:45.679
Oh, God. Well, to be clear, he wants to be in

00:59:45.679 --> 00:59:47.599
Star Wars. I told him I don't think they're making

00:59:47.599 --> 00:59:51.920
any more movies. I thought he wanted to costume

00:59:51.920 --> 00:59:53.860
Star Wars. He did, but now he wants to be an

00:59:53.860 --> 00:59:57.320
actor in them. Guys, I've been crying so much.

00:59:57.500 --> 00:59:59.679
Like, my nose is so stuffy. I'm crying so hard.

00:59:59.960 --> 01:00:04.710
Your body's literally trying to let it go. Your

01:00:04.710 --> 01:00:07.130
cup runneth over. Wait, I have to be quiet and

01:00:07.130 --> 01:00:15.130
listen. I'm real though. Right, y 'all. I'm real

01:00:15.130 --> 01:00:18.710
though. Wow. Was that your last thinker? Yep,

01:00:18.710 --> 01:00:22.550
that was my last thinker. Very good. Lots of

01:00:22.550 --> 01:00:25.130
thinkers. Lots of things to think about. Well,

01:00:25.130 --> 01:00:30.170
yeah. Well, don't cry. You did it. You're successful.

01:00:30.469 --> 01:00:36.110
You did it. You did it. You've bored my dog to

01:00:36.110 --> 01:00:42.210
tears, but I'm still here. Oh, I wrote, I'm at

01:00:42.210 --> 01:00:44.230
Victoria's literally recording. We just read

01:00:44.230 --> 01:00:46.170
your text message on the podcast. He said, oh

01:00:46.170 --> 01:00:49.489
good. Oh, I guess he doesn't need me that badly.

01:00:49.690 --> 01:00:54.889
He didn't answer me. He didn't respond to me.

01:00:56.369 --> 01:00:58.630
Pedro, did you answer me? No, he's tuned out.

01:00:58.630 --> 01:01:01.730
Okay. He tuned out before you said, hey, answer

01:01:01.730 --> 01:01:05.460
this Pedro. I'll get him later. Like, we're cool.

01:01:05.719 --> 01:01:08.559
I also didn't tell him we were doing this. Oh.

01:01:09.599 --> 01:01:11.400
I hope it works, because I can't do this again.

01:01:11.599 --> 01:01:14.099
The mystery is how he knew we were doing it.

01:01:15.460 --> 01:01:18.280
What a good producer. Maybe Andrew called Pedro

01:01:18.280 --> 01:01:21.159
looking for me. It's very possible. Do you know

01:01:21.159 --> 01:01:25.559
where my wife is? Sorry to bother. I forget where

01:01:25.559 --> 01:01:27.639
my wife is. Oh, my God. Does he live with these

01:01:27.639 --> 01:01:29.880
sheep? Does Andrew live with these sheep? I'm

01:01:29.880 --> 01:01:36.480
weird, though. What? Nevermind. What? The sheep

01:01:36.480 --> 01:01:40.760
on the picture. I'm weird, but I'm real though

01:01:40.760 --> 01:01:43.019
was a picture of sheep with one black sheep in

01:01:43.019 --> 01:01:44.900
the middle. Yeah. I was asking if they lived

01:01:44.900 --> 01:01:48.500
with the sheep. No, we heard you. It was, it's

01:01:48.500 --> 01:01:51.800
still not good. Think about it. Picture eyes.

01:01:52.039 --> 01:01:57.059
I can't. Wipe your eyes. I can't. End this please.

01:01:57.179 --> 01:02:00.940
End me. Oh no. He said I didn't tune out. Wait,

01:02:00.940 --> 01:02:08.199
that's worse. He didn't answer. Bad Bunny. He

01:02:08.199 --> 01:02:13.139
chose to forget you. That's my safe word. Carly

01:02:13.139 --> 01:02:19.400
equals white sheep. There's an emoji of a white

01:02:19.400 --> 01:02:23.739
sheep. Oh, I'm real though. He did say last week,

01:02:23.900 --> 01:02:27.139
Bad Bunny is my safe word. Might've been the

01:02:27.139 --> 01:02:28.659
greatest thing you've ever said of all time.

01:02:29.320 --> 01:02:32.360
And I don't disagree. I don't get political,

01:02:32.739 --> 01:02:35.739
but Bad Bunny's my safe word. I get political

01:02:35.739 --> 01:02:39.659
bad bunny stoma is a word. Love it. I think when

01:02:39.659 --> 01:02:41.440
I re -listened back I was like bad bunny bad

01:02:41.440 --> 01:02:45.840
bunny when I felt unsafe. Victoria made me feel

01:02:45.840 --> 01:02:51.079
unsafe. Yeah but have you seen the Have you seen

01:02:51.079 --> 01:02:52.960
the videos of people being like it's not bad

01:02:52.960 --> 01:02:55.739
bunny you white person is bad bunny. Oh my god

01:02:55.739 --> 01:02:59.130
that's how Andrew says it. Bad Bunny. Yeah. Andrew

01:02:59.130 --> 01:03:01.550
goes anytime I say, oh, like kids, like you want

01:03:01.550 --> 01:03:02.849
to listen because we listen to Bad Bunny all

01:03:02.849 --> 01:03:05.449
weekend. He was like, Bad Bunny. Bad Bunny. Yeah.

01:03:06.150 --> 01:03:11.570
Yeah. He's German. Bad Bunny is all inclusive.

01:03:11.809 --> 01:03:16.510
Bad Bunny is all inclusive. Bad Bunny. You are

01:03:16.510 --> 01:03:20.630
a bad bunny. Oh, my God. We have to go. That

01:03:20.630 --> 01:03:23.969
that was it for me. I have to redo my makeup.

01:03:24.409 --> 01:03:26.889
You have to find your husband. Where the hell

01:03:26.889 --> 01:03:33.250
is my husband? What is taking him so long to

01:03:33.250 --> 01:03:39.550
find me? You could have gone into the song at

01:03:39.550 --> 01:03:41.190
that part. We were doing it at the monologue.

01:03:41.590 --> 01:03:45.309
Me? Me? Me? OK. Yep. Yep. We're right, y 'all.

01:03:45.429 --> 01:03:47.849
You see my work. And we hope, oh my god, show

01:03:47.849 --> 01:03:52.030
him your work. Never forget that. And when he

01:03:52.030 --> 01:03:55.159
can't handle it. Remember, bed bunnies are safe

01:03:55.159 --> 01:04:00.519
word. We hope you've also had some thought -provoking

01:04:00.519 --> 01:04:04.300
thinkers from the internet. We promise not to

01:04:04.300 --> 01:04:07.539
do this again. We can't promise that. We can't

01:04:07.539 --> 01:04:10.159
promise that. But we will get other people to

01:04:10.159 --> 01:04:12.420
bring in their thinkers. It is interesting to

01:04:12.420 --> 01:04:15.500
see what is thought -provoking to different people.

01:04:15.519 --> 01:04:18.739
And also the interpretations of different people.

01:04:18.860 --> 01:04:21.199
You can read something and take it two different

01:04:21.199 --> 01:04:25.809
ways. Yeah, I did that a lot today. That doesn't

01:04:25.809 --> 01:04:30.809
make me right. But we did do that. So yeah, as

01:04:30.809 --> 01:04:33.070
a reminder, per usual, this wasn't 20 minutes.

01:04:35.210 --> 01:04:39.250
And we hope you remember that you're always fit

01:04:39.250 --> 01:04:42.869
to be real and always allowed to be a little

01:04:42.869 --> 01:05:02.949
extra. For legal reasons, we have to tell you

01:05:02.949 --> 01:05:04.590
that this podcast is meant for entertainment

01:05:04.590 --> 01:05:07.610
and educational purposes only. We are not healthcare

01:05:07.610 --> 01:05:10.030
professionals. For all of your health, wellness,

01:05:10.269 --> 01:05:12.449
fitness, and self -care needs, please refer to

01:05:12.449 --> 01:05:14.929
the medical professional in your life, your primary

01:05:14.929 --> 01:05:17.670
care physician, your therapist, a certified coach,

01:05:17.929 --> 01:05:20.320
whoever it may be. and then let us know what

01:05:20.320 --> 01:05:22.659
they say because I guarantee we need to know

01:05:22.659 --> 01:05:25.679
it too. Okay? Okay, bye.