WEBVTT 00:00:07.459 --> 00:00:10.140 Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra 00:00:10.140 --> 00:00:13.000 and happy 2026. Oh, did you have to think about 00:00:13.000 --> 00:00:15.140 that? Yeah, I did. Yeah. I wrote it for the first 00:00:15.140 --> 00:00:18.539 time the other day. It was weird. It was weird. 00:00:18.980 --> 00:00:23.039 Yeah. It's hard to believe, which is part of 00:00:23.039 --> 00:00:25.280 what we're talking about today, why it's hard 00:00:25.280 --> 00:00:29.039 to believe that we've hit 2026. But also, I'm 00:00:29.039 --> 00:00:32.920 Victoria. Hey, guys, I'm Carly. And we've been 00:00:32.920 --> 00:00:35.740 away for a while. We have. It's been... It's 00:00:35.740 --> 00:00:38.460 been a holiday season, and I think we're getting 00:00:38.460 --> 00:00:42.979 better at saying, hey, we can't do everything. 00:00:43.979 --> 00:00:47.820 So this needs to whatever we can. Victoria says 00:00:47.820 --> 00:00:50.159 I can't control anything. So whatever we can 00:00:50.159 --> 00:00:54.219 control, we are getting better at not saying 00:00:54.219 --> 00:00:58.439 no. I don't like saying no to this, but you know. 00:00:58.570 --> 00:01:00.850 this is one of the things we can control when 00:01:00.850 --> 00:01:04.189 or if we are doing them or not. Yeah, but saying 00:01:04.189 --> 00:01:05.870 no doesn't mean you don't like it. It just means 00:01:05.870 --> 00:01:09.510 I there's not a ounce left in my cup to fill 00:01:09.510 --> 00:01:12.049 up. Like, yeah, take a minute. But I think even 00:01:12.049 --> 00:01:13.849 two years ago, that wouldn't have happened. We 00:01:13.849 --> 00:01:16.150 would have been like, we need to fit it in. We 00:01:16.150 --> 00:01:18.250 did. We did. Yeah. I thought about it the other 00:01:18.250 --> 00:01:21.909 day. Carly had strep, then Carly Christmas, and 00:01:21.909 --> 00:01:25.049 then Carly had the neurovirus. And while I got 00:01:25.049 --> 00:01:27.950 hungover and then Carly got hungover. And while 00:01:28.079 --> 00:01:31.379 I was covering for that limited week of classes. 00:01:31.640 --> 00:01:33.599 I was like, cool, I'm going to cash this in. 00:01:33.659 --> 00:01:35.299 I'm going to go on vacation and Carly's going 00:01:35.299 --> 00:01:37.819 to cover me. And then I got a back injury. So 00:01:37.819 --> 00:01:40.620 I've already cashed it in. Oh, my God. I taught 00:01:40.620 --> 00:01:44.900 three classes and only one of yours. And it was 00:01:44.900 --> 00:01:46.760 supposed to be both of us. I did nothing extra 00:01:46.760 --> 00:01:50.359 as extra as I am. I did nothing extra for you. 00:01:50.819 --> 00:01:55.000 I just taught by myself, which I know how hard 00:01:55.000 --> 00:01:59.640 that is when it's it's it's a lot anyway. But 00:01:59.640 --> 00:02:01.980 I was thinking about it last night. I was like, 00:02:02.079 --> 00:02:04.760 how did we not miss a hundred weeks? Cause I 00:02:04.760 --> 00:02:07.780 think we went through a hundred, a hundred straight 00:02:07.780 --> 00:02:10.080 weeks of episodes without missing like an episode. 00:02:10.479 --> 00:02:13.080 And then we started to realize how hard that 00:02:13.080 --> 00:02:15.580 was. But like, did we not get sick? Did nothing 00:02:15.580 --> 00:02:19.340 happen? No, we did it sick. We did it when we 00:02:19.340 --> 00:02:22.419 did not want to. We did it when I cried a few 00:02:22.419 --> 00:02:26.060 times. because I was so overwhelmed once. It 00:02:26.060 --> 00:02:27.860 felt like a lot. We keep talking about it though. 00:02:27.939 --> 00:02:31.039 I know because I hate crying in front of people. 00:02:31.680 --> 00:02:38.259 Cool. But we did it at all cost at the cost of 00:02:38.259 --> 00:02:42.219 us. So I think this year we're getting better 00:02:42.219 --> 00:02:44.159 at being like, you know what? It's not going 00:02:44.159 --> 00:02:47.259 to work out this week. And that's cool. Yeah. 00:02:47.379 --> 00:02:52.629 And that's cool. So with that said. Wait, I do 00:02:52.629 --> 00:02:54.550 want to say, can we talk about really quickly? 00:02:54.650 --> 00:02:58.430 I do listen to the podcast back every week. As 00:02:58.430 --> 00:03:00.689 I said before, I want to see if I'm about to 00:03:00.689 --> 00:03:02.050 get canceled or not, because I don't remember 00:03:02.050 --> 00:03:05.129 what I say. But it's a blackout. Can we talk 00:03:05.129 --> 00:03:08.349 about how aggressive these ads are? Like, they're 00:03:08.349 --> 00:03:10.849 aggressive. Like, I'll be like, hey, guys, I 00:03:10.849 --> 00:03:13.789 went to the and it's like, and it's about this 00:03:13.789 --> 00:03:16.129 ad and it comes out of nowhere and it's loud 00:03:16.129 --> 00:03:19.050 and I'm like, oh, God, I wonder if I can manipulate 00:03:19.050 --> 00:03:21.659 that. I'll look into that today. Because I listen 00:03:21.659 --> 00:03:24.620 to other podcasts, like Smart List, which is 00:03:24.620 --> 00:03:26.759 the number one podcast in the world. Professional. 00:03:26.979 --> 00:03:29.080 And they have an enormous team working for them. 00:03:29.080 --> 00:03:31.659 And it's like, and we'll be right back. And ours 00:03:31.659 --> 00:03:34.060 is like, how do you like to sleep at night? Do 00:03:34.060 --> 00:03:36.879 you like your pillows? We like a good nervous 00:03:36.879 --> 00:03:39.319 system shock. Oh my god. I was like, oh god. 00:03:40.180 --> 00:03:41.879 I just want to talk about how aggressive they 00:03:41.879 --> 00:03:45.599 are. I honestly don't play them back. You don't 00:03:45.599 --> 00:03:47.719 like to listen to yourself? I do not play them. 00:03:47.719 --> 00:03:50.319 Well, because I edit them. So I listen to them 00:03:50.319 --> 00:03:54.000 while like I play it back, but it's not post 00:03:54.000 --> 00:03:59.080 like post. I laugh so hard sometimes because 00:03:59.080 --> 00:04:03.500 I forget we're just talking. I don't like, do 00:04:03.500 --> 00:04:05.520 you remember word for word conversations? Let 00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:10.219 me get my script. No, I don't remember. So like 00:04:10.219 --> 00:04:12.340 when I go back and listen to it, it's like, oh 00:04:12.340 --> 00:04:17.899 my God, I am not that dumb. She's not that it's 00:04:17.899 --> 00:04:22.430 such a It's such a character, but it's not. It's 00:04:22.430 --> 00:04:26.110 not a lie. It's just, it's weird. I don't know 00:04:26.110 --> 00:04:28.209 how to describe. I have a filter because there's 00:04:28.209 --> 00:04:30.449 lots of things I want to say that I would never 00:04:30.449 --> 00:04:32.970 say, but I also don't have a filter where I'm 00:04:32.970 --> 00:04:36.129 like, oh God, should I have said that? But way 00:04:36.129 --> 00:04:38.189 after the fact, like two weeks after the fact. 00:04:38.949 --> 00:04:42.750 Oh good, that's overthinking 101. I think it's 00:04:42.750 --> 00:04:44.670 like comfort level. If you were standing at work, 00:04:45.089 --> 00:04:47.589 you would know what you were saying. to the people 00:04:47.589 --> 00:04:51.350 around you and to the group of people in the 00:04:51.350 --> 00:04:54.910 room, you would be very aware. And then if you 00:04:54.910 --> 00:04:56.970 would slip on something, you know how to pull 00:04:56.970 --> 00:05:00.009 it back. You're on, quote unquote on. But here, 00:05:00.189 --> 00:05:03.149 it's not that you're on. Is this thing on? I 00:05:03.149 --> 00:05:05.750 think you just know I'm gonna call me out on 00:05:05.750 --> 00:05:09.149 it. Have you seen me at work? I'm pretty sure 00:05:09.149 --> 00:05:11.920 I've told teenage girls to... drop it and get 00:05:11.920 --> 00:05:15.319 low and things I should not say and work for 00:05:15.319 --> 00:05:19.439 Santa. You should see her like, don't be fooled 00:05:19.439 --> 00:05:22.839 by this wetsuit. What's that meme? That's like, 00:05:23.079 --> 00:05:25.360 I work out seven days a week, multiple times 00:05:25.360 --> 00:05:29.300 a day to dress like this. What's the point? It's 00:05:29.300 --> 00:05:30.680 okay. She doesn't wear any clothes to teach. 00:05:30.939 --> 00:05:34.560 So it evens out, but we digress. Sorry. Here's 00:05:34.560 --> 00:05:37.500 the reason why we're going to talk about the 00:05:37.500 --> 00:05:40.709 mind game of the new year. specifically right 00:05:40.709 --> 00:05:46.850 now in 2026. So what brought this to my attention 00:05:46.850 --> 00:05:49.050 was number one, an Instagram post. And then I, 00:05:49.050 --> 00:05:51.310 I resonated so much with it that I started to 00:05:51.310 --> 00:05:53.829 put it into Google and look for what the research 00:05:53.829 --> 00:05:55.529 was that they found this study and all these 00:05:55.529 --> 00:05:59.290 things. But the, but I think it's universally 00:05:59.290 --> 00:06:04.209 understood that every time somebody came in this 00:06:04.209 --> 00:06:06.759 week post new year, post Christmas, holiday, 00:06:06.920 --> 00:06:09.079 Hanukkah, all of that, like that, all December. 00:06:09.500 --> 00:06:12.980 Holiday season. That the number one thing was, 00:06:13.100 --> 00:06:16.240 can you believe how fast it went? Like, how was 00:06:16.240 --> 00:06:18.360 your holiday? It feels like forever ago. It was 00:06:18.360 --> 00:06:20.339 like three years ago and it was only two weeks 00:06:20.339 --> 00:06:23.319 ago. And like that. And it was 16 days long. 00:06:23.360 --> 00:06:25.259 Right. And it was the same. But it was the same 00:06:25.259 --> 00:06:28.800 conversation for all different. Generations. 00:06:29.300 --> 00:06:32.699 Generations and and phases of life. And it was 00:06:32.699 --> 00:06:35.769 just very collectively. What happened? Yeah. 00:06:36.089 --> 00:06:39.050 Like, are you saying specifically the holiday 00:06:39.050 --> 00:06:42.730 season went by so fast or the 2025? Both. Because 00:06:42.730 --> 00:06:45.029 once the conversation, the initial conversation 00:06:45.029 --> 00:06:47.129 is like, how are your holidays? Oh, my gosh, 00:06:47.129 --> 00:06:49.769 it was a blip. Happy New Year. Can you believe 00:06:49.769 --> 00:06:52.670 it's 2026? No. What happened? The year felt so 00:06:52.670 --> 00:06:55.750 long every day. But as a whole, I can't believe 00:06:55.750 --> 00:06:58.290 we're here. Like I don't believe that. I think 00:06:58.290 --> 00:07:00.970 2025 went very quickly. There have been years 00:07:00.970 --> 00:07:05.170 that I felt were 10 years long. 2025 was fast. 00:07:05.649 --> 00:07:07.569 Right. That's what I'm saying. It was fast, but 00:07:07.569 --> 00:07:10.370 the days were long. Like getting through your 00:07:10.370 --> 00:07:12.050 Wednesday. Carly has a really horrible Wednesday 00:07:12.050 --> 00:07:14.329 schedule this year. Oh, I forgot to say it last 00:07:14.329 --> 00:07:16.550 night because you weren't there. So did you have 00:07:16.550 --> 00:07:18.750 a great Wednesday? No, I just forgot to say, 00:07:18.889 --> 00:07:21.610 oh my God, I hate Wednesdays. She manifests the 00:07:21.610 --> 00:07:24.990 worst negativity ever. I say it every week. Oh 00:07:24.990 --> 00:07:28.350 my God. But that's a long Wednesday. And you 00:07:28.350 --> 00:07:32.370 had it for half or the last September to New 00:07:32.370 --> 00:07:35.199 Year. But it still went by fast. Right, and it, 00:07:35.199 --> 00:07:36.019 yeah, you're right. Do you know what I mean? 00:07:36.100 --> 00:07:38.500 But every Wednesday, like I dread Fridays because 00:07:38.500 --> 00:07:41.500 they're ridiculously long. I hate Fridays too. 00:07:43.180 --> 00:07:45.000 Carly doesn't like anything that ends with a 00:07:45.000 --> 00:07:50.519 Y. For many reasons. But the whole year snapped 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:52.699 its finger, but the days were like, oh my God, 00:07:52.699 --> 00:07:53.699 I don't know how I'm gonna get through this. 00:07:53.699 --> 00:07:56.180 Like it's noon and I have to get to seven. Right. 00:07:56.220 --> 00:07:59.759 Yeah. Right. So it inspired me. I was like, ooh, 00:07:59.759 --> 00:08:03.680 I remember a post that I saw and It's a study. 00:08:03.699 --> 00:08:07.360 I saw the same one. Good. It's a study that said 00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:13.040 time itself changed after 2000 Y2K and again 00:08:13.040 --> 00:08:17.279 in a different way after 2020. So the two big... 00:08:17.279 --> 00:08:21.500 So Y2K was 2000. You said that already? Yeah, 00:08:21.500 --> 00:08:25.800 but you tell them. Okay. That was my jam. Okay, 00:08:25.800 --> 00:08:29.000 2000. But when I read it the first time, I read 00:08:29.000 --> 00:08:34.720 it 2020 to 2026. the year 2000. But those were 00:08:34.720 --> 00:08:39.340 literally not the numbers. Questionable. So, 00:08:39.340 --> 00:08:41.200 okay, we have to revisit this because I read 00:08:41.200 --> 00:08:44.539 it completely wrong. Well, think about what happened. 00:08:44.980 --> 00:08:49.559 If you're of the millennial and up ages, we were 00:08:49.559 --> 00:08:52.519 afraid at year 2000. It was Y2K. They said all 00:08:52.519 --> 00:08:54.860 of our computers were going to blow up the house 00:08:54.860 --> 00:08:57.179 and everything. It was going to be the apocalypse. 00:08:57.659 --> 00:09:01.000 Fear, yeah. And that was such a big universal 00:09:01.960 --> 00:09:05.000 Thing that happened and then it nothing really 00:09:05.000 --> 00:09:08.240 happened that globally until 2020 right was the 00:09:08.240 --> 00:09:11.259 pandemic and that changed time completely in 00:09:11.259 --> 00:09:15.220 a different way, so Here's how hold please. I 00:09:15.220 --> 00:09:16.799 did not write any of this because it's way too 00:09:16.799 --> 00:09:20.940 much And your girl is tired and crampy in the 00:09:20.940 --> 00:09:24.340 back. Oh, by the way, she's sitting on a heating 00:09:24.340 --> 00:09:28.159 pad. She's got lots of painkillers in her system. 00:09:28.419 --> 00:09:30.059 We're looking at my two giant. How about how 00:09:30.059 --> 00:09:31.779 big those are? Yeah, they're enormous. I'm saving 00:09:31.779 --> 00:09:34.639 them. Yeah. They're so big. For what? Well, like, 00:09:34.639 --> 00:09:36.460 they're good bottles. Like, I don't know. I'll 00:09:36.460 --> 00:09:37.820 peel the sticker off, use them for something. 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:40.059 Oh, God. Anyway, she's on painkillers. We don't 00:09:40.059 --> 00:09:42.399 know what she's going to say today. I did. I'm 00:09:42.399 --> 00:09:45.879 a little slurry in my mouth. You wasted? Kind 00:09:45.879 --> 00:09:48.610 of. You want one? You naked wasted? Yeah. Yes. 00:09:48.789 --> 00:09:52.970 Wait, what? You're so not a Bravo person. Naked 00:09:52.970 --> 00:09:56.690 wasted? Gretchen and Tamara naked wasted. Sarah, 00:09:56.690 --> 00:10:00.970 help me out here. We're going to move on. OK. 00:10:01.350 --> 00:10:04.509 So yes, I'm going to read from this because it's 00:10:04.509 --> 00:10:09.549 a lot. So after 2000, we had constant information 00:10:09.549 --> 00:10:13.549 and overload. And so it reduced deep memory form. 00:10:14.110 --> 00:10:16.230 like forming memories because we had computers 00:10:16.230 --> 00:10:18.070 that started to advance things and we weren't 00:10:18.070 --> 00:10:20.110 really in the moment. We were able to search 00:10:20.110 --> 00:10:23.610 and do searches and do all this new stuff that 00:10:23.610 --> 00:10:25.529 kind of changed our brains from having to figure 00:10:25.529 --> 00:10:27.350 it out ourselves. Like there was this thing that 00:10:27.350 --> 00:10:29.570 could do it for us. You didn't have to get, find 00:10:29.570 --> 00:10:31.690 a dictionary, go to the next room, find a dictionary, 00:10:31.809 --> 00:10:33.750 look up the word, write the definition. We had 00:10:33.750 --> 00:10:35.690 to learn how to use a thesaurus. Do you remember 00:10:35.690 --> 00:10:38.259 that? Oh yeah. And now I don't think kids know 00:10:38.259 --> 00:10:40.519 what that word is. We had to look at library 00:10:40.519 --> 00:10:43.399 cards, the index, to find out where they were 00:10:43.399 --> 00:10:46.740 in the library. We got tested on it. Yes. We 00:10:46.740 --> 00:10:48.340 got like, we didn't know how to do it. It's called 00:10:48.340 --> 00:10:52.779 something. Like, you know, the, it was wooden 00:10:52.779 --> 00:10:54.679 and you pull out the card and you have to find 00:10:54.679 --> 00:10:58.039 the author and then you go to like B -17. It 00:10:58.039 --> 00:11:00.679 was wooden, like the, it was a cabinet, like 00:11:00.679 --> 00:11:03.419 an apothecary cabinet basically for library cards. 00:11:03.539 --> 00:11:06.340 Anyway, go ahead. Yeah. That was good. Damn. 00:11:06.340 --> 00:11:12.600 That was good. 2026 might be my year. So yeah, 00:11:13.100 --> 00:11:17.179 2000, it was fewer stored memories makes the 00:11:17.179 --> 00:11:21.440 year feel shorter. Fewer stored memories makes 00:11:21.440 --> 00:11:24.000 the year feel shorter. Why do we have fewer stored 00:11:24.000 --> 00:11:27.899 memories? Wouldn't we have... Because we were 00:11:27.899 --> 00:11:30.870 able to... search for more things. So our brain 00:11:30.870 --> 00:11:33.190 was filled with more things and we had fewer 00:11:33.190 --> 00:11:34.509 stored memories. Okay, I got it. So it's hard 00:11:34.509 --> 00:11:36.809 to remember everything that you're able to take 00:11:36.809 --> 00:11:41.309 in when it was a slower pace, prior to 2000. 00:11:41.389 --> 00:11:44.470 Right. You were kind of more in control of what 00:11:44.470 --> 00:11:46.429 information you took in. Right, but Victoria 00:11:46.429 --> 00:11:48.330 says you're not in control of anything, so yeah. 00:11:49.269 --> 00:11:53.889 You're not. After 220. What? What? What? She 00:11:53.889 --> 00:12:01.080 wasted. After 2020. Prolonged stress shut down 00:12:01.080 --> 00:12:04.120 the brain's planning system, causing days and 00:12:04.120 --> 00:12:06.740 years to blur together. Which is the truth, because 00:12:06.740 --> 00:12:08.580 how many times were you like, wait, when was 00:12:08.580 --> 00:12:12.860 COVID? And what year is it? Yeah. Like, I think 00:12:12.860 --> 00:12:14.700 about all the time, when did we move into new 00:12:14.700 --> 00:12:18.600 CFIT? Because was it 2021? Was it 2022? It was 00:12:18.600 --> 00:12:21.759 2021. But I have to think, because I don't remember 00:12:21.759 --> 00:12:23.460 what year was what year. Because it's a blur. 00:12:23.559 --> 00:12:28.340 Yeah. It's purely all ran together. and felt 00:12:28.340 --> 00:12:31.840 like 10 years. Yes. But it, I mean, 2020 was 00:12:31.840 --> 00:12:34.080 one year, obviously, felt like 10. And then everything 00:12:34.080 --> 00:12:39.120 after, even to 2026, I write things down to remind 00:12:39.120 --> 00:12:41.720 myself, as if I have like a memory loss problem. 00:12:41.740 --> 00:12:45.639 But you do, and we all know this. I know. But 00:12:45.639 --> 00:12:50.259 I write it down because I'm like, my brain doesn't 00:12:50.259 --> 00:12:55.320 process it fully. I can I can 100 % agree that 00:12:55.320 --> 00:12:58.740 between 2020 and at least 2023, I don't know 00:12:58.740 --> 00:13:00.879 what year what happened in what year. It's all 00:13:00.879 --> 00:13:04.639 the same. It's all the same. But but according 00:13:04.639 --> 00:13:09.320 to the study, because 2020 happened post, you 00:13:09.320 --> 00:13:12.419 know, pandemic, it's hard for us to remember 00:13:12.419 --> 00:13:16.460 prior prior memories as well. Yeah. Which is 00:13:16.460 --> 00:13:18.980 why I'm like, I don't know 2013 I graduate no 00:13:18.980 --> 00:13:21.679 2011 I don't you know, I have no recollection 00:13:21.679 --> 00:13:24.220 right the only thing I remember Everyone every 00:13:24.220 --> 00:13:25.940 one of you Millennials are gonna agree with me 00:13:25.940 --> 00:13:29.559 The only thing I remember the year and the moment 00:13:29.559 --> 00:13:32.620 and very clearly is the blizzard of 1996 always 00:13:32.620 --> 00:13:35.519 I was six I brought it up yesterday because it 00:13:35.519 --> 00:13:39.220 would it would be January 6th So January 6th 00:13:39.220 --> 00:13:43.679 was the 30 year 30 year reunion now anniversary 00:13:43.899 --> 00:13:46.820 Not reunion. Let's not reunion that. Of the blizzard 00:13:46.820 --> 00:13:49.220 of 1996. And I brought it up in class yesterday 00:13:49.220 --> 00:13:52.100 to, not to make fun, I say to make fun, but to 00:13:52.100 --> 00:13:53.879 make fun of somebody in class being like, this 00:13:53.879 --> 00:13:56.500 song came out in the blizzard of 96, but you 00:13:56.500 --> 00:13:58.379 weren't even alive. Yes, to make fun. Yeah, I 00:13:58.379 --> 00:14:01.659 was making fun of somebody. God, she is, you 00:14:01.659 --> 00:14:04.240 killed the 20 -year -olds. I was making fun of 00:14:04.240 --> 00:14:06.580 the youths. The youths. And then Michaela came 00:14:06.580 --> 00:14:08.750 up and was like, just so you know. I don't remember 00:14:08.750 --> 00:14:11.110 it either, because I wasn't born. And I was like, 00:14:11.169 --> 00:14:16.129 damn. She was 26, 27? Yeah. So yes, after 2000, 00:14:16.330 --> 00:14:21.590 so 2000 to 2020, that 20 -year stint. 2000 to 00:14:21.590 --> 00:14:25.289 2020, OK. Constant digital input reduced the 00:14:25.289 --> 00:14:27.909 brain's ability to form lasting memories. Yeah, 00:14:28.009 --> 00:14:30.029 yeah, yeah. So that's what it is. I'm just kind 00:14:30.029 --> 00:14:34.629 of redoing it. That's my stomach. Oh my gosh. 00:14:34.669 --> 00:14:38.149 Did you guys hear the monster in Carly's stomach? 00:14:38.509 --> 00:14:40.830 It just I haven't eaten yet It didn't like but 00:14:40.830 --> 00:14:44.009 I've had so much coffee. So let them Carly gave 00:14:44.009 --> 00:14:48.190 me a mug that says let them for Christmas So 00:14:48.190 --> 00:14:49.649 let them know what I should have done I should 00:14:49.649 --> 00:14:54.370 have shattered it and been like Give me my $14 00:14:54.370 --> 00:15:00.070 back Damn So there are fewer time markers between 00:15:00.070 --> 00:15:04.720 2000 and 2020 Less novelty and more routine meant 00:15:04.720 --> 00:15:08.600 fewer unique memory events, making yours seem 00:15:08.600 --> 00:15:12.000 shorter in hindsight. Yeah. I mean, kids these 00:15:12.000 --> 00:15:14.600 days don't know what a dial -up means. You just 00:15:14.600 --> 00:15:18.580 sit there for 20 years. Sorry. Can you tell us 00:15:18.580 --> 00:15:23.960 what that sound is like? That's what your stomach 00:15:23.960 --> 00:15:28.000 sounded like. I could hear it in my nightmares. 00:15:28.120 --> 00:15:31.799 Can I recreate it? No. But after a fifth, sixth 00:15:31.799 --> 00:15:34.100 grade dance, you go home, you get on that dial 00:15:34.100 --> 00:15:36.539 up and wait to talk to everybody at said dance. 00:15:36.960 --> 00:15:39.740 That was like, that was it. That was it. Yeah. 00:15:39.740 --> 00:15:42.019 And then your crush would have their away message. 00:15:42.019 --> 00:15:47.320 Yeah. Like some really moody emo song. Yeah. 00:15:47.320 --> 00:15:49.899 And you're like, oh, he loves me. Yeah. And it's 00:15:49.899 --> 00:15:53.620 like, I know what you did last summer. He tried 00:15:53.620 --> 00:15:59.960 to kill me. I was thinking of the song. I was 00:15:59.960 --> 00:16:02.080 thinking of the song. OK, keep going. Moving 00:16:02.080 --> 00:16:08.600 on. So after 2020, chronic stress. Shocker. Right. 00:16:09.740 --> 00:16:11.519 So prolonged stress from the pandemic shut down 00:16:11.519 --> 00:16:15.440 the brain's future planning systems. Oh, wait, 00:16:15.600 --> 00:16:18.379 why? I wonder, because that's all I want to do 00:16:18.379 --> 00:16:21.059 now. Because it was lack of new experiences and 00:16:21.059 --> 00:16:23.539 constant interruptions and like notifications 00:16:23.539 --> 00:16:25.840 made the days and week blend together. Yeah. 00:16:26.000 --> 00:16:30.509 So. Yeah, it messes up that organizational part 00:16:30.509 --> 00:16:33.029 of your brain. That's my problem. That's where 00:16:33.029 --> 00:16:36.990 it started. That's cute. Which makes us feel 00:16:36.990 --> 00:16:40.990 older. This one's true. It compressed future 00:16:40.990 --> 00:16:44.009 time. Compressed future time makes people feel 00:16:44.009 --> 00:16:47.629 older than they are. Compressed future time. 00:16:47.649 --> 00:16:50.590 What does compressed future time mean? When it 00:16:50.590 --> 00:16:52.710 blurs together. Think of what compressed means. 00:16:52.870 --> 00:16:56.629 Yeah. Right? So it sucks it all in. It's compressing. 00:16:56.840 --> 00:17:01.259 which is how much like 2020 felt like 10 years 00:17:01.259 --> 00:17:07.900 of those compressed time. Made you feel older 00:17:07.900 --> 00:17:10.299 because it's like you aged four years, but it 00:17:10.299 --> 00:17:12.460 was only a year. Yeah, yeah. It's like dog years. 00:17:12.539 --> 00:17:14.299 Yeah, it's like dog years. Yeah, that's a good 00:17:14.299 --> 00:17:16.220 way to put it. Because you're like, where the 00:17:16.220 --> 00:17:18.619 heck did that time go? And how did I get to be 00:17:18.619 --> 00:17:22.259 40? I mean, yeah. Oh, yeah, this is about you. 00:17:22.359 --> 00:17:30.609 Yeah, yeah, yeah. Why haven't you learned that 00:17:30.609 --> 00:17:34.089 every episode is about me? If I don't put it 00:17:34.089 --> 00:17:38.369 in my perspective, there is no perspective. It's 00:17:38.369 --> 00:17:42.549 only mine. Why? I can't wait to hear how loud 00:17:42.549 --> 00:17:45.029 that is in the microphone. I'm sorry for all 00:17:45.029 --> 00:17:49.170 of your ears. But if I don't relate it to myself, 00:17:49.250 --> 00:17:52.460 I don't understand it. This sounds like a personal 00:17:52.460 --> 00:17:58.980 problem. We know. We know very well. OK. So the 00:17:58.980 --> 00:18:01.059 brain's role in this, which is the part that 00:18:01.059 --> 00:18:05.460 I was like, OK, I understand how they're wording 00:18:05.460 --> 00:18:08.779 the compressed time and the blur years and all 00:18:08.779 --> 00:18:11.039 that stuff. But why? What's the brain part of 00:18:11.039 --> 00:18:13.329 it? So the hippocampus, which she's going to 00:18:13.329 --> 00:18:15.509 make fun of. Yes. Oh wait, I can't wait to say 00:18:15.509 --> 00:18:17.190 this the rest of the episode. The hippocampus. 00:18:17.210 --> 00:18:20.549 Good. Yeah. Yell it to the microphone. The hippocampus 00:18:20.549 --> 00:18:23.930 is the, this area is crucial for memory. It gets 00:18:23.930 --> 00:18:27.970 less stimulation from repetitive tasks, creating 00:18:27.970 --> 00:18:32.769 fewer distinctive markers for time. Oh God. I'm 00:18:32.769 --> 00:18:38.700 going to need that. So think of, think of Is 00:18:38.700 --> 00:18:42.160 it near the Vegas nerf? Think of the, yeah. Shut 00:18:42.160 --> 00:18:44.140 up. Think of the easy button. Remember that easy 00:18:44.140 --> 00:18:47.980 button? Yes. She got really excited. Yes, I know 00:18:47.980 --> 00:18:51.759 that. So this is how I'm doing this on the fly 00:18:51.759 --> 00:19:02.549 to try to dumb it down. I'll accept. The hipporambus? 00:19:02.730 --> 00:19:05.450 No, hippocampus. Okay, I was close. This is for 00:19:05.450 --> 00:19:10.049 repetitive tasks. So think of doing like the 00:19:10.049 --> 00:19:12.730 list, you've write a little, she already has 00:19:12.730 --> 00:19:14.150 lost, she doesn't write lists, but like the list 00:19:14.150 --> 00:19:16.130 of things you have to do and some of them are 00:19:16.130 --> 00:19:18.289 daily and some of them are like, I just have 00:19:18.289 --> 00:19:20.009 to do it on this Monday because it's Mondays 00:19:20.009 --> 00:19:21.309 when you have to make this phone call or something 00:19:21.309 --> 00:19:23.730 like that. Yeah, got it. And every time you do 00:19:23.730 --> 00:19:27.269 that random task, you hit the easy button. And 00:19:27.269 --> 00:19:29.789 every time you do the task, any task every day, 00:19:29.809 --> 00:19:32.289 you hit the easy button. So more repetitive, 00:19:32.569 --> 00:19:39.410 easy button things. It that's that's. That's 00:19:39.410 --> 00:19:40.809 what tells the brain, like, you don't have to 00:19:40.809 --> 00:19:42.410 remember this, you don't remember. Right, because 00:19:42.410 --> 00:19:43.730 it's out of my brain now. It's not your brain. 00:19:43.750 --> 00:19:45.789 Yeah. So once once you hit that easy button, 00:19:45.829 --> 00:19:48.509 you never have to remember it again. It's repetitive 00:19:48.509 --> 00:19:50.990 markers that like get a little blurry. It just 00:19:50.990 --> 00:19:55.400 like reminds me of. 1950s cubicle secretaries 00:19:55.400 --> 00:19:57.240 just like typing away on the computer, sort of 00:19:57.240 --> 00:19:59.440 just like hit and repeat, hit and repeat, hit 00:19:59.440 --> 00:20:01.700 and repeat. It would be 1950s for you. I love 00:20:01.700 --> 00:20:04.619 the 1950s. I'm trying to hit and repeat. Really 00:20:04.619 --> 00:20:08.160 upsetting. Take the microphone away from your 00:20:08.160 --> 00:20:11.940 goddamn mouth. This is insane. It's been three 00:20:11.940 --> 00:20:16.339 weeks. You can't forget that easily. Novelty 00:20:16.339 --> 00:20:19.960 in terms of the brain's role, novelty. So new 00:20:19.960 --> 00:20:23.240 experiences and learning. and learning, trigger 00:20:23.240 --> 00:20:26.319 the hippocampus, slowing down subjective time 00:20:26.319 --> 00:20:31.339 perception. Yeah. No, I get that. Slows down 00:20:31.339 --> 00:20:33.799 time. Subjective time perception. Yeah. It's 00:20:33.799 --> 00:20:36.559 hard to understand how much time has passed or 00:20:36.559 --> 00:20:39.259 how much time you've spent on something. It's 00:20:39.259 --> 00:20:43.160 literally Groundhog's Day. You just keep hitting 00:20:43.160 --> 00:20:46.720 and hitting until you're like, what day is it? 00:20:46.880 --> 00:20:50.319 Sort of like Christmas vacation, when you're 00:20:50.319 --> 00:20:53.859 like, Is it Wednesday? That week, the 25th to 00:20:53.859 --> 00:20:56.859 the 31st. Where you don't know what day it is, 00:20:57.839 --> 00:20:59.579 because you're sort of doing the same thing. 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:03.099 Well, not us, but we still had to work, which 00:21:03.099 --> 00:21:05.619 was fine. I actually liked having something to 00:21:05.619 --> 00:21:09.319 get up and go to. But you didn't. No, no, no. 00:21:09.519 --> 00:21:14.019 I know. Harley died. So it's good that you remembered 00:21:14.019 --> 00:21:16.920 doing all the stuff that you didn't do. But it's, 00:21:17.000 --> 00:21:24.430 you know, when you... When you wake up when you 00:21:24.430 --> 00:21:27.369 don't know what day it is because it's sort of 00:21:27.369 --> 00:21:29.329 just like yesterday and it's sort of like the 00:21:29.329 --> 00:21:32.089 day you're going to have tomorrow. And in a lot 00:21:32.089 --> 00:21:34.049 of ways that week, though, it's good, though, 00:21:34.210 --> 00:21:38.049 because sometimes the normal routine, like it 00:21:38.049 --> 00:21:42.069 acts like a reset button for a lot of people. 00:21:42.210 --> 00:21:44.809 It acts like a reset and they actually take off. 00:21:45.000 --> 00:21:47.640 and they get to reset, and they're in their homes, 00:21:47.740 --> 00:21:49.759 and they're just relaxing post -Christmas. You're 00:21:49.759 --> 00:21:51.599 making it sound so nice. I want to do that. We 00:21:51.599 --> 00:21:53.700 don't ever do that. I don't want to do that. 00:21:53.759 --> 00:21:56.019 It doesn't happen for us due to work and due 00:21:56.019 --> 00:21:58.660 to family visiting and wanting to get the most 00:21:58.660 --> 00:22:02.180 time out of seeing our brother's family who come 00:22:02.180 --> 00:22:04.299 in. And it's awesome. I said this all week. I 00:22:04.299 --> 00:22:07.480 said it's so great that it's truly 24 hours a 00:22:07.480 --> 00:22:09.640 day. When you have off time, you go and you just 00:22:09.640 --> 00:22:11.410 stare at them. There's nothing to do. There's 00:22:11.410 --> 00:22:12.930 nothing to say. You don't have to do anything. 00:22:12.970 --> 00:22:14.470 You just have to be in the same room. Yeah. We 00:22:14.470 --> 00:22:18.670 like sit and watch football. Thanks, Billy. It's 00:22:18.670 --> 00:22:22.450 so fun. So there are those moments. Now, the 00:22:22.450 --> 00:22:23.829 reason why it's exhausting for us is because 00:22:23.829 --> 00:22:26.109 we have to go work. And then the moments we could 00:22:26.109 --> 00:22:27.970 take to sit on the couch, you can't. You go to 00:22:27.970 --> 00:22:30.250 Carly's house. You sit on the couch and watch. 00:22:30.410 --> 00:22:33.339 Or get. or everyone's helping me get food together 00:22:33.339 --> 00:22:34.880 to feed all the people. And then once they're 00:22:34.880 --> 00:22:36.420 done, it's the cleanup and then it's getting 00:22:36.420 --> 00:22:38.700 ready for food for the next meal. So it's like 00:22:38.700 --> 00:22:40.940 so it's insane. But it's fine. It's all good. 00:22:41.059 --> 00:22:44.519 But what I meant was like that hitting that easy 00:22:44.519 --> 00:22:48.220 button is sort of like Christmas week. Right. 00:22:48.559 --> 00:22:50.500 I love Christmas week, but I wouldn't want Christmas 00:22:50.500 --> 00:22:54.220 week for 12 months of the year. Exactly, you 00:22:54.220 --> 00:22:56.619 know exactly and that's what some so many of 00:22:56.619 --> 00:22:58.160 those years were I think yeah, which is where 00:22:58.160 --> 00:23:01.319 this is coming from. So taking control How do 00:23:01.319 --> 00:23:04.420 you how do you kind of get the years back or 00:23:04.420 --> 00:23:07.660 the time? Mental game. How do you get that back? 00:23:07.660 --> 00:23:10.319 I know the answer to this. What is it? You can't 00:23:10.319 --> 00:23:13.660 Is that I mean, yes, is it a trick question that 00:23:13.660 --> 00:23:18.119 go back in time? No. Oh All right. Let me rephrase 00:23:18.119 --> 00:23:20.140 taking control of that taking control of how 00:23:20.140 --> 00:23:23.759 your brain processes time. Okay Because that 00:23:23.759 --> 00:23:26.400 you can control. How you perceive things you 00:23:26.400 --> 00:23:28.420 can control. How you receive things you can control. 00:23:28.819 --> 00:23:31.339 However, what you're talking about, you want 00:23:31.339 --> 00:23:34.519 to control. That's a different episode. How much 00:23:34.519 --> 00:23:36.500 do you want to sing the song by Hooting the Blowfish? 00:23:55.180 --> 00:23:58.839 I appreciate the bubbles of marbles because that's 00:23:58.839 --> 00:24:03.380 how every 90s song sounded but oh my god. No? 00:24:03.559 --> 00:24:07.440 Unrecognizable. Okay. So you introduce novelty 00:24:07.440 --> 00:24:11.079 and focus and that can help reclaim a richer 00:24:11.079 --> 00:24:13.440 sense of time of like where you are in the moment 00:24:13.440 --> 00:24:16.210 present. present time and not thinking too far 00:24:16.210 --> 00:24:18.509 ahead, not thinking back, not blurring the lines. 00:24:18.990 --> 00:24:21.410 So what novelty means is just new skills, maybe 00:24:21.410 --> 00:24:24.529 some travel, new experiences. Like you have to, 00:24:24.890 --> 00:24:27.650 you can't hit the easy button for brand new things 00:24:27.650 --> 00:24:29.930 because it's not easy yet. Right. So you have 00:24:29.930 --> 00:24:34.029 to introduce new things to your hippocampus, 00:24:34.049 --> 00:24:38.170 to your brain. She's thinking of saying hippopotamus. 00:24:39.630 --> 00:24:43.829 That's what that look was. I know. But that makes 00:24:43.829 --> 00:24:45.650 a lot of sense. It's like if year after year 00:24:45.650 --> 00:24:47.990 is the same thing over and over, what year is 00:24:47.990 --> 00:24:50.430 what? Who cares? So here's what I'm getting from 00:24:50.430 --> 00:24:53.529 this. Oh, good. You guys want to hear? Because 00:24:53.529 --> 00:24:56.970 this is all about me. Immediately when you said 00:24:56.970 --> 00:25:01.490 that, it made sense because 2020, 2021, no one 00:25:01.490 --> 00:25:04.670 went anywhere. 2022, really nobody went anywhere. 00:25:05.130 --> 00:25:10.150 I don't have a sense of time or how old the kids 00:25:10.150 --> 00:25:13.140 were. in those years because I don't remember. 00:25:14.039 --> 00:25:17.059 Then fast forward to this summer when I took 00:25:17.059 --> 00:25:19.180 the kids to Vegas for the first time and Scotland, 00:25:19.579 --> 00:25:22.180 I will never forget that we went to Scotland 00:25:22.180 --> 00:25:25.259 in 2025 in the summer because that was new. I've 00:25:25.259 --> 00:25:27.519 never done that before. That was like a marker 00:25:27.519 --> 00:25:31.000 in the year that I couldn't hit the easy button. 00:25:31.259 --> 00:25:34.160 But in those three years, 20 to 23, there was 00:25:34.160 --> 00:25:36.619 nothing like that. And like you don't have to 00:25:36.619 --> 00:25:40.589 go to Scotland to like mark it, but like That 00:25:40.589 --> 00:25:42.750 was just something new and different that we'd 00:25:42.750 --> 00:25:45.450 done that came to me off the top of my head that 00:25:45.450 --> 00:25:47.029 there was nothing new and different over those 00:25:47.029 --> 00:25:50.029 years. Right. So I don't remember. So you understand. 00:25:50.670 --> 00:25:53.369 So all that being said, I get what she's saying. 00:25:54.390 --> 00:25:56.910 It's not what I'm saying. These are studies from 00:25:56.910 --> 00:26:01.509 University College of London. And what was the 00:26:01.509 --> 00:26:05.710 other one? We'll put it in the notes. Stanford. 00:26:06.970 --> 00:26:11.089 What was that other small college of no importance? 00:26:11.109 --> 00:26:12.769 The one you never remembered. Stanford. Stanford. 00:26:14.150 --> 00:26:15.609 And then I found articles from the University 00:26:15.609 --> 00:26:17.410 of Michigan. So I'm attaching all of them if 00:26:17.410 --> 00:26:20.769 you really want to not dumb it down and read 00:26:20.769 --> 00:26:25.509 the real science behind it. But it's just so, 00:26:25.630 --> 00:26:29.670 because it's the same conversation I have when 00:26:29.670 --> 00:26:32.470 it's a birthday. I can't believe. What happened 00:26:32.470 --> 00:26:35.910 to time? Time is not real. Time is not real. 00:26:36.269 --> 00:26:38.970 We created a calendar, but like it's not even 00:26:38.970 --> 00:26:44.349 the right calendar. I saw, I saw, I forget what, 00:26:44.349 --> 00:26:48.609 what account, but they were like, why we set 00:26:48.609 --> 00:26:51.470 new goals and intentions in January in the middle 00:26:51.470 --> 00:26:56.130 of winter is beyond me because January is meant 00:26:56.130 --> 00:27:00.069 for hibernation. Winter is meant to close yourself 00:27:00.069 --> 00:27:04.130 in from the world, reset yourself. by relaxation 00:27:04.130 --> 00:27:09.170 and recovery and then spring into a new season. 00:27:09.250 --> 00:27:12.369 Do you think the new year or New Year's resolution 00:27:12.369 --> 00:27:16.369 should be done in April? Yes, it's it's it's 00:27:16.369 --> 00:27:18.769 not that I think it. There is an actual calendar 00:27:18.769 --> 00:27:22.589 of when when you should like, technically. Is 00:27:22.589 --> 00:27:26.410 it the Mayan calendar? Why did you say it like 00:27:26.410 --> 00:27:28.109 that? Because I wanted everybody to know that 00:27:28.109 --> 00:27:32.750 I know that there's a Mayan calendar. It's something 00:27:32.750 --> 00:27:36.450 like that, but the new year isn't January 1st. 00:27:36.450 --> 00:27:39.390 It's much later in January I actually think it's 00:27:39.390 --> 00:27:41.950 the beginning of February in terms of like we 00:27:41.950 --> 00:27:43.869 were just she's gonna make fun of me We were 00:27:43.869 --> 00:27:45.890 just in a snake year. Now. We're going into a 00:27:45.890 --> 00:27:48.809 horse year You would you love horses remember? 00:27:49.630 --> 00:27:52.250 Yeah, it's about me. I made it remember going 00:27:52.250 --> 00:27:55.670 to Dragon Garden. Yes, and you what your birthdate 00:27:55.670 --> 00:27:58.589 was like, uh -huh Whatever animal it was, but 00:27:58.589 --> 00:28:01.069 do you remember what you were? Ah, no. I can't 00:28:01.069 --> 00:28:02.509 remember what I was either. I was a hippocampus. 00:28:06.170 --> 00:28:10.410 I hate you. I think I was like a dragon or something. 00:28:10.529 --> 00:28:13.009 I don't know. I don't remember. I have to look 00:28:13.009 --> 00:28:16.730 it up. But that's the real like new shift for 00:28:16.730 --> 00:28:20.190 the earth and like everything. We just do it. 00:28:21.389 --> 00:28:23.750 Pagan calendar. I don't know. We do it in January 00:28:23.750 --> 00:28:25.890 because somebody created it in January It's just 00:28:25.890 --> 00:28:27.869 like Jesus's birthday is not actually December 00:28:27.869 --> 00:28:31.670 25th. Yeah, but isn't the Chinese New Year in 00:28:31.670 --> 00:28:34.910 I'm looking at all the posters Every single day 00:28:34.910 --> 00:28:36.910 that I lived in New York and that there were 00:28:36.910 --> 00:28:39.269 always those posters of the Chinese New Year 00:28:39.269 --> 00:28:41.569 Yeah, is it it's not in January though. No, is 00:28:41.569 --> 00:28:44.609 it isn't it like in March? I think it's February. 00:28:44.829 --> 00:28:49.130 I think it's February. It's before spring and 00:28:49.130 --> 00:28:51.890 that it makes more sense where you dive into 00:28:51.890 --> 00:28:54.089 that. It makes way more sense because we shouldn't 00:28:54.089 --> 00:28:56.809 be in this state. Like what do you want to do 00:28:56.809 --> 00:29:00.630 in January? You want to just take a moment. Yeah. 00:29:00.890 --> 00:29:03.730 On your couch with your family, have those, you 00:29:03.730 --> 00:29:05.670 know, it's so cold outside. You quite literally 00:29:05.670 --> 00:29:08.609 don't want to go outside. You want to make delicious 00:29:08.609 --> 00:29:12.049 food in your house and stay warm. That's the 00:29:12.049 --> 00:29:13.769 point of winter. That's why bears hibernate. 00:29:13.809 --> 00:29:15.789 Yeah. You only want to go outside for your workout 00:29:15.789 --> 00:29:17.390 class and then you can go back home with your 00:29:17.390 --> 00:29:21.339 families. Okay. That's all. That's the only time 00:29:21.339 --> 00:29:24.079 you need to leave the house. Yes. So I saw a 00:29:24.079 --> 00:29:25.900 second post, and I actually saw it this morning, 00:29:25.940 --> 00:29:28.000 so this wasn't in the plan, but it makes a lot 00:29:28.000 --> 00:29:32.079 of sense to what time means. And it says, January 00:29:32.079 --> 00:29:35.660 is all about rest and hibernation. February is 00:29:35.660 --> 00:29:39.119 all about self love and love, like romance. Duh. 00:29:39.920 --> 00:29:42.980 March is when we prepare for the new year, and 00:29:42.980 --> 00:29:44.960 April is when we spring into action. I mean, 00:29:44.960 --> 00:29:47.880 that makes sense. It makes way more sense than 00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:50.460 telling yourself and your body and your natural 00:29:50.460 --> 00:29:53.079 circadian rhythm, let's do things January 1st. 00:29:53.299 --> 00:29:55.160 Let's reinvent ourselves. It's like your body 00:29:55.160 --> 00:29:57.019 doesn't want to do that. I wonder if that is 00:29:57.019 --> 00:30:00.220 like a hustle culture marketing thing that started. 00:30:00.960 --> 00:30:03.019 I wonder where that started. I don't know where 00:30:03.019 --> 00:30:05.220 it started, but I think that's why people peter 00:30:05.220 --> 00:30:07.569 out. Peter off at the end of January and we don't 00:30:07.569 --> 00:30:09.529 see as many people come February because they 00:30:09.529 --> 00:30:11.890 go so hard of like This is what you're supposed 00:30:11.890 --> 00:30:13.930 to do. I'm gonna do all the workouts and then 00:30:13.930 --> 00:30:17.230 we don't see them Well, I did read that people 00:30:17.230 --> 00:30:21.210 that make workout resolutions The statistic is 00:30:21.210 --> 00:30:24.950 they only last 14 days. That's two weeks They 00:30:24.950 --> 00:30:28.049 last 14 days before they just forget it and I 00:30:28.049 --> 00:30:30.930 think it's because it's January Yeah, and you 00:30:30.930 --> 00:30:33.130 don't your body is like stop making me do these 00:30:33.130 --> 00:30:37.109 like stop wanting me to be something else, and 00:30:37.109 --> 00:30:39.230 then ask me to do this a couple months later, 00:30:39.369 --> 00:30:41.230 and then they're ready to go. You know what I 00:30:41.230 --> 00:30:45.750 mean? So it's an interesting study of time and... 00:30:45.750 --> 00:30:47.049 Stop saying it, because I'm gonna keep singing 00:30:47.049 --> 00:30:50.750 the song. See, I would think you would go to 00:30:50.750 --> 00:30:56.769 time after time. No. Why you punish me? That 00:30:56.769 --> 00:30:59.829 was better. That actually I recognized, Hootie. 00:31:00.190 --> 00:31:05.069 Alright, here's my question. Are you done? Actually, 00:31:05.490 --> 00:31:07.789 those, oh, your back hurts, sorry. She had a 00:31:07.789 --> 00:31:10.490 back spasm a week ago and she's incapacitated. 00:31:10.710 --> 00:31:12.970 You made me laugh so hard. Those were two different 00:31:12.970 --> 00:31:14.970 thoughts. I have something to say, so are you 00:31:14.970 --> 00:31:16.869 done or are you gonna keep going? Oh, I understand. 00:31:17.109 --> 00:31:21.470 Okay. No, I'm done. Okay. So Julia Finio, what's 00:31:21.470 --> 00:31:24.309 up, Jewel, who gave us these lovely wine glasses 00:31:24.309 --> 00:31:27.069 for Christmas. So if you're not watching, one 00:31:27.069 --> 00:31:31.000 says real and one etched extra. And we thought 00:31:31.000 --> 00:31:32.779 that was the cutest thing. I'm going to drink 00:31:32.779 --> 00:31:35.980 my blue water out of it. So we were talking this 00:31:35.980 --> 00:31:40.019 year over the holidays about how we don't feel 00:31:40.019 --> 00:31:43.380 Christmassy this year. And I am obsessed with 00:31:43.380 --> 00:31:45.460 Christmas, like obsessed. Did you talk to Julie 00:31:45.460 --> 00:31:48.779 about this? I'm sure you did in one of your sessions. 00:31:49.140 --> 00:31:50.960 I don't like to divulge information. I know. 00:31:50.980 --> 00:31:53.480 She's like a lockbox. If you ever tell her anything, 00:31:53.680 --> 00:31:55.259 don't assume she's ever going to tell me because 00:31:55.259 --> 00:32:00.380 she won't. It's annoying. But anyway, I feel 00:32:00.380 --> 00:32:03.099 I was less Christmassy this year. Like, I wasn't 00:32:03.099 --> 00:32:06.000 usually. I'm like, Thanksgiving, get the tree 00:32:06.000 --> 00:32:08.440 up. Let's do all the train rides and all the 00:32:08.440 --> 00:32:11.400 things. And it was really late going for me this 00:32:11.400 --> 00:32:14.799 year. I didn't feel 100 % in it. Your work schedule 00:32:14.799 --> 00:32:18.140 was terrible. I know, but I felt less Christmassy. 00:32:18.400 --> 00:32:20.079 And so I don't know how it came up with Julia 00:32:20.079 --> 00:32:22.599 that we were talking about this. I feel like 00:32:22.599 --> 00:32:25.900 in 2020, obviously, nobody could be together. 00:32:27.139 --> 00:32:31.740 So 2021, 22, 23, people went really hard because 00:32:31.740 --> 00:32:34.759 we had felt like we lost at least two years or 00:32:34.759 --> 00:32:37.240 two Christmases. You decorated November 1st for 00:32:37.240 --> 00:32:39.400 Christmas. Oh, yeah. And that's when people started 00:32:39.400 --> 00:32:41.180 posting that they were decorating early, and 00:32:41.180 --> 00:32:43.619 then there was the big divide. Do you do it before 00:32:43.619 --> 00:32:45.440 Thanksgiving or not? Yeah. And people were saying, 00:32:45.539 --> 00:32:47.859 just do whatever makes you happy. But I felt 00:32:47.859 --> 00:32:53.200 like we all went so hard that now it's back to 00:32:53.200 --> 00:32:56.349 normal now. Well, the world is not back to normal, 00:32:56.450 --> 00:33:00.529 but in 2026, it's like we're coming off of a 00:33:00.529 --> 00:33:03.309 sugar high or something. Yeah. Do you feel like 00:33:03.309 --> 00:33:06.549 that is the case? Did you feel less Christmassy 00:33:06.549 --> 00:33:14.650 this year? No. I didn't. I felt more Christmassy 00:33:14.650 --> 00:33:22.720 than I have in years. Oh, OK, fine. Hold the 00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:27.119 thought. But you're gonna make fun of this. Of 00:33:27.119 --> 00:33:30.079 course. But what you're describing is exactly 00:33:30.079 --> 00:33:33.220 what's universally happening. We're getting out 00:33:33.220 --> 00:33:35.660 of the year of the sneak. What you do in the 00:33:35.660 --> 00:33:40.559 year of the sneak, 2025, was shed all of the 00:33:40.559 --> 00:33:43.779 things that you're done with. You're noticing 00:33:43.779 --> 00:33:46.440 what works for you, you notice what doesn't work 00:33:46.440 --> 00:33:49.740 for you, and you leave that behind. And so there's... 00:33:49.259 --> 00:33:51.240 There's such a come down. Yeah, that's where 00:33:51.240 --> 00:33:55.099 I was this year. Right. I know exactly what you're 00:33:55.099 --> 00:33:58.180 describing. Like you are a good textbook example 00:33:58.180 --> 00:34:02.180 of how these witches know what they're talking 00:34:02.180 --> 00:34:05.140 about. OK. What fortune cookie did you read that 00:34:05.140 --> 00:34:09.320 I did not get this year? A lot. Oh, you guys 00:34:09.320 --> 00:34:14.300 did a lot of Asian cooking. What are you talking 00:34:14.300 --> 00:34:18.559 about? This is the quote unquote woo -woo stuff 00:34:18.559 --> 00:34:22.699 people don't subscribe to, but it's so true. 00:34:22.800 --> 00:34:25.280 It's just true. This whole year was, how many 00:34:25.280 --> 00:34:26.880 times it was like, Carly, it doesn't work for 00:34:26.880 --> 00:34:29.119 you. Don't do it. I know. Okay. Like that was 00:34:29.119 --> 00:34:32.260 the year. That was 2025 for you. And I, yeah, 00:34:32.340 --> 00:34:36.659 I agree with that. And I was sick this year of 00:34:36.659 --> 00:34:38.780 all, I wanted to do more things. Like we gave 00:34:38.780 --> 00:34:41.519 the kids experiences for Christmas this year 00:34:41.519 --> 00:34:44.920 from us. Obviously, they got lots of presents 00:34:44.920 --> 00:34:47.639 and more than I wanted to do because this year 00:34:47.639 --> 00:34:49.639 I was like, we're scaling back. I want to do 00:34:49.639 --> 00:34:52.840 experiences, less plastic toys or whatever. We 00:34:52.840 --> 00:34:57.360 did all the plastic toys, but I also, this year 00:34:57.360 --> 00:35:02.739 I wanted to do more things and have less in the 00:35:02.739 --> 00:35:05.599 house. Like I told you, we went to Europe, we 00:35:05.599 --> 00:35:09.480 went to Scotland and they had four plates. Four 00:35:09.480 --> 00:35:12.199 knives, four forks. And I was like, this is the 00:35:12.199 --> 00:35:16.019 way to live. The Airbnb. No, all of Scottly. 00:35:18.019 --> 00:35:20.719 Just the Airbnb. Guys, Carly travels once and 00:35:20.719 --> 00:35:24.159 she thinks she knows it all. The Airbnb had like. 00:35:25.319 --> 00:35:26.940 minimalistic everything. And I was like, this 00:35:26.940 --> 00:35:30.019 is the way to live. So I came back going, I want 00:35:30.019 --> 00:35:33.059 to do that this year. I just want to live minimally, 00:35:33.179 --> 00:35:36.820 but go travel and go do all the things. And that's 00:35:36.820 --> 00:35:39.940 why a little bit I felt less Christmassy, because 00:35:39.940 --> 00:35:42.860 I'm usually all about the like. Overabundance. 00:35:43.360 --> 00:35:48.280 Yes. Yes. So I just wanted to say that. But I 00:35:48.280 --> 00:35:49.980 think so next year, I think it's going to be 00:35:49.980 --> 00:35:51.199 even more different. I think you're going to 00:35:51.199 --> 00:35:55.849 feel the Christmas holiday season spirit in a 00:35:55.849 --> 00:35:57.389 different way in a different way I think it's 00:35:57.389 --> 00:36:00.230 gonna Maybe it'll be more minimalistic, but it'll 00:36:00.230 --> 00:36:02.809 be more genuine. Yes, and that's what you're 00:36:02.809 --> 00:36:05.010 missing I think this year because you experience 00:36:05.010 --> 00:36:07.269 something in Scotland and then you came back 00:36:07.269 --> 00:36:09.570 to like quote -unquote real life, right? And 00:36:09.570 --> 00:36:12.250 it's hustle and bustle and chaos and yeah stuff 00:36:12.250 --> 00:36:14.630 and all the things that add up So then by the 00:36:14.630 --> 00:36:18.519 time I got to Christmas You're too tired to really 00:36:18.519 --> 00:36:20.739 yeah, dive in. That's exactly what it was. I 00:36:20.739 --> 00:36:24.840 was like ready to get rid of the old Way of that 00:36:24.840 --> 00:36:27.139 we've been doing things and yeah, but like the 00:36:27.139 --> 00:36:29.320 year of the snake still keep all the same stuff 00:36:29.320 --> 00:36:32.579 No, yeah year of the snake the shedding we still 00:36:32.579 --> 00:36:34.559 have January to shed the rest of things that 00:36:34.559 --> 00:36:38.280 do not resonate with us and then we catapult 00:36:38.280 --> 00:36:41.980 into the year of the horse, which is like Going 00:36:41.980 --> 00:36:45.579 forth with everything in action, like putting 00:36:45.579 --> 00:36:48.079 every thought to action. Right. Because you've 00:36:48.079 --> 00:36:49.699 gotten rid of the stuff that just doesn't work 00:36:49.699 --> 00:36:52.820 for you. Does that make sense? Yeah. I know it 00:36:52.820 --> 00:36:55.699 really does. I didn't make it up. It's not me. 00:36:56.340 --> 00:37:01.280 It's it's the world. I felt like that was a general. 00:37:02.179 --> 00:37:04.199 It wasn't just me. Like I had talked to people 00:37:04.199 --> 00:37:05.780 about it. I talked to Julie about I talked to 00:37:05.780 --> 00:37:08.940 one person because I don't talk to people, but 00:37:08.940 --> 00:37:11.159 I talked to one person. I just talked to her 00:37:11.159 --> 00:37:15.429 a lot and. It was like, yeah, you feel like this? 00:37:15.449 --> 00:37:18.190 Because I thought I was crazy. So I think more 00:37:18.190 --> 00:37:21.030 people than I thought were feeling that way. 00:37:21.250 --> 00:37:24.289 See, I think I had a hard time. I was definitely 00:37:24.289 --> 00:37:28.190 into Christmas. I decorated. I can't remember 00:37:28.190 --> 00:37:31.110 if I decorated before Thanksgiving or not. You 00:37:31.110 --> 00:37:33.530 did earlier than me. So then before Thanksgiving. 00:37:33.670 --> 00:37:36.349 I decorated before Thanksgiving. And I was so 00:37:36.349 --> 00:37:38.289 ready for it and I was excited and I loved coming 00:37:38.289 --> 00:37:40.849 into my house and it felt homey and Christmassy 00:37:40.849 --> 00:37:43.329 and yada yada But then the moment Christmas happened, 00:37:43.329 --> 00:37:46.250 I was ready to get rid of it. Yeah I didn't let 00:37:46.250 --> 00:37:48.269 it go until January till New Year. I got rid 00:37:48.269 --> 00:37:51.210 of my Christmas stuff I was done and that is 00:37:51.210 --> 00:37:53.630 where maybe I agree where like my Christmas spirit 00:37:53.630 --> 00:37:57.789 was not It was too like scheduled and planned 00:37:57.789 --> 00:37:59.710 of being like cool we're in here cool get rid 00:37:59.710 --> 00:38:02.690 of it and what's next like I that's That's how 00:38:02.690 --> 00:38:05.559 much of my experience was So I wasn't as Christmassy 00:38:05.559 --> 00:38:07.920 in terms of like... You don't have to be like 00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:12.300 me. It's fine. You don't have to do everything 00:38:12.300 --> 00:38:17.340 that I do. It's fine. But yeah, I did do it late 00:38:17.340 --> 00:38:21.360 this year. Boo. But don't boo. It was what it 00:38:21.360 --> 00:38:23.079 was. You still had a great Christmas. The kids 00:38:23.079 --> 00:38:25.900 still loved running around the house and your 00:38:25.900 --> 00:38:29.010 house was, you know... It was pretty darn red, 00:38:29.090 --> 00:38:31.710 green, and silver bells all over. Oh, I went... 00:38:31.710 --> 00:38:35.130 I go full 90s, nostalgic, all the colors. We 00:38:35.130 --> 00:38:38.670 don't do the Victoria white and, like, light 00:38:38.670 --> 00:38:43.110 blue and, you know, pinks and stuff. We do. I 00:38:43.110 --> 00:38:44.670 don't do pinks. You don't? You have, like, a 00:38:44.670 --> 00:38:46.170 couple pinks. Yeah, you gave them to me. Oh, 00:38:46.210 --> 00:38:48.789 yeah, that's right. But I put them out. I do. 00:38:49.349 --> 00:38:51.670 My pink reindeer. I put them out. We do if it's 00:38:51.670 --> 00:38:55.630 not red, green, white, colorful. I mean, it's 00:38:55.630 --> 00:38:58.889 full on. It's full on. But I do love it. And 00:38:58.889 --> 00:39:01.710 I was one of those that got up early in the morning, 00:39:01.909 --> 00:39:03.550 put on the Christmas lights and Michael Buble 00:39:03.550 --> 00:39:05.369 Christmas and sat with my coffee. And I think 00:39:05.369 --> 00:39:08.889 that's the happiest I am in the day because it 00:39:08.889 --> 00:39:12.070 is the best part. But also like how sad. What? 00:39:13.590 --> 00:39:16.090 No, it was just okay. Not the happiest. Wrong 00:39:16.090 --> 00:39:19.070 choice of words. It was the calmest. Also, how 00:39:19.070 --> 00:39:21.630 sad oh my god, but not not in like a you should 00:39:21.630 --> 00:39:23.949 feel better It's just like that's the the grind. 00:39:23.949 --> 00:39:26.769 That's the hustle Yeah that we're in that we're 00:39:26.769 --> 00:39:29.150 trying to get rid of that hustle trying to get 00:39:29.150 --> 00:39:31.530 more of those moments during the day Why can't 00:39:31.530 --> 00:39:33.809 you have that at noon? You know what I mean? 00:39:33.829 --> 00:39:35.610 Yeah, and it's just because of the schedule and 00:39:35.610 --> 00:39:39.250 the nature of How hard our lives are right now 00:39:39.250 --> 00:39:41.690 like I don't I think this year my biggest phrase 00:39:41.690 --> 00:39:45.030 was life shouldn't be this hard Yeah, and it's 00:39:45.030 --> 00:39:48.500 also relative, right? Like we also have the most 00:39:48.500 --> 00:39:51.559 privilege and like I saw something, Donna, what's 00:39:51.559 --> 00:39:53.920 up Donna? Party girl? Yeah, party girl Donna. 00:39:54.300 --> 00:39:57.599 She said it to me and I was like I know exactly 00:39:57.599 --> 00:40:00.260 what post you're talking about and I saved it 00:40:00.260 --> 00:40:02.940 because it said like how lucky and blessed are 00:40:02.940 --> 00:40:05.000 you to have gained weight over the holiday season 00:40:05.000 --> 00:40:07.659 to have the amount of food that you have on your 00:40:07.659 --> 00:40:09.340 plate. Like there's different ways you have to 00:40:09.340 --> 00:40:11.719 look at things. So instead of beating yourself 00:40:11.719 --> 00:40:15.679 up for indulging in the family spread and the 00:40:15.679 --> 00:40:18.199 family parties and having the extra drink or 00:40:18.199 --> 00:40:21.239 whatever it is, how lucky are you? Yeah. Versus 00:40:21.239 --> 00:40:24.900 how beat yourself down for indulging and and 00:40:24.900 --> 00:40:27.239 really being in the moment of these special moments. 00:40:27.659 --> 00:40:31.519 I saw a post like that. That was like how lucky 00:40:31.519 --> 00:40:35.360 I'll say your way. How lucky and blessed are 00:40:35.360 --> 00:40:41.150 you to be exhausted from a job? that you wished 00:40:41.150 --> 00:40:43.929 you had. Hold on, let me do this. I'm sorry, 00:40:43.989 --> 00:40:47.829 what? How lucky are you to be exhausted from 00:40:47.829 --> 00:40:50.250 a job that you wish you had? I just said the 00:40:50.250 --> 00:40:53.269 same thing that you prayed for or something. 00:40:53.829 --> 00:40:56.429 Like, oh, oh, oh. That you wished you had had. 00:40:56.429 --> 00:40:59.690 That you wished preview. This is why I don't 00:40:59.690 --> 00:41:02.010 make up memes. How lucky and blessed are you 00:41:02.010 --> 00:41:04.809 to be exhausted from a job that you used, you 00:41:04.809 --> 00:41:07.269 manifested, that you used to want so badly. You 00:41:07.269 --> 00:41:11.480 now have it and it's killing you. Yes. And you 00:41:11.480 --> 00:41:13.539 don't want it anymore. But how lucky are you? 00:41:13.559 --> 00:41:15.260 But you don't have a choice because you're too 00:41:15.260 --> 00:41:19.739 much in debt. So you can't leave. So that's what 00:41:19.739 --> 00:41:21.840 the meme said. But I didn't want it. Hashtag 00:41:21.840 --> 00:41:27.420 see fit. But I understand. I understand what 00:41:27.420 --> 00:41:29.599 you mean. It's the same thing. It was written 00:41:29.599 --> 00:41:32.460 a different way. All right, guys, I'm not a professional 00:41:32.460 --> 00:41:35.199 meme writer, but I should be. Hold on. Hold on. 00:41:35.530 --> 00:41:38.510 What is this stance? Look at my dog. Look at 00:41:38.510 --> 00:41:41.010 you. If you're watching. Your dog's legs are 00:41:41.010 --> 00:41:44.969 wide open. Screenshot this. She's with the sluttier 00:41:44.969 --> 00:41:50.809 side of the couch. Oh, my God. Amazing. All right. 00:41:51.010 --> 00:41:53.530 I won't quit my day job anytime soon to create 00:41:53.530 --> 00:41:59.469 memes in Silicon Valley. Oh, my God. I know what 00:41:59.469 --> 00:42:01.869 you mean, though. I'm crying. Like, tears are 00:42:01.869 --> 00:42:05.280 coming down my face. How exhausted are you because 00:42:05.280 --> 00:42:07.739 you're so tired and you love your job, but you 00:42:07.739 --> 00:42:10.280 hate it every day But you love the people going 00:42:10.280 --> 00:42:12.780 but you have no money and you're in debt, but 00:42:12.780 --> 00:42:17.860 you're so lucky It's a great meme inspirational 00:42:17.860 --> 00:42:25.420 words for 2026 Yes, yes, we really do have to 00:42:25.420 --> 00:42:27.280 end this I have to go on a really sad girl walk. 00:42:27.280 --> 00:42:30.480 I have to go on lunch duty It's to go yell at 00:42:30.480 --> 00:42:34.829 a bunch of kids So yes, the takeaway that I'm 00:42:34.829 --> 00:42:37.449 taking away from this conversation about time 00:42:37.449 --> 00:42:41.090 and truly feeling like out of control of what 00:42:41.090 --> 00:42:44.630 you can remember and what you can experience 00:42:44.630 --> 00:42:47.809 is that the tip, the real extra tip, the real 00:42:47.809 --> 00:42:53.809 tip, the extra tip is to take more moments of 00:42:53.809 --> 00:42:57.750 like new things. Maybe it's hard with the day 00:42:57.750 --> 00:43:00.309 to day schedule, but maybe it's as simple as 00:43:00.309 --> 00:43:04.039 like, If you're walking and commuting to work 00:43:04.039 --> 00:43:06.079 in a city, take a different route. Turn down 00:43:06.079 --> 00:43:07.880 a different street. You'll still get there, but 00:43:07.880 --> 00:43:09.119 maybe there's something new that you're gonna 00:43:09.119 --> 00:43:12.900 find and you'll remember it more unless you're 00:43:12.900 --> 00:43:14.519 taking the same thing. Like I used to try to 00:43:14.519 --> 00:43:15.679 do that in New York all the time when I was walking 00:43:15.679 --> 00:43:19.360 to work. I knew how to get to 38th Street, but 00:43:19.360 --> 00:43:20.699 I'm gonna take a left this time. I'm not gonna 00:43:20.699 --> 00:43:23.079 take a right. It could be as simple that or it 00:43:23.079 --> 00:43:25.400 could be as simple as book the trip. You know, 00:43:25.480 --> 00:43:28.219 like, take the new experiences and not just hit 00:43:28.219 --> 00:43:30.820 that easy button. Yeah, just go to the Airbnbs 00:43:30.820 --> 00:43:33.900 with only four plates, four forks, four knives. 00:43:33.960 --> 00:43:35.639 You're going to come back a different person. 00:43:35.980 --> 00:43:38.300 Maybe still one, you know, maybe still a knife. 00:43:38.679 --> 00:43:41.599 But that I think is the takeaway that 2026 is 00:43:41.599 --> 00:43:45.519 the year of putting action to what you want and 00:43:45.519 --> 00:43:48.239 what you want your life to be. Like if you look 00:43:48.239 --> 00:43:51.260 around the room or you look around and take a 00:43:51.260 --> 00:43:55.610 moment. Are you living the life that you want? 00:43:56.349 --> 00:43:58.750 Or are you living the life that you are trying 00:43:58.750 --> 00:44:01.170 to have? Or are you just feeling stuck? Like 00:44:01.170 --> 00:44:04.389 you're in control of change in that way. I feel 00:44:04.389 --> 00:44:06.530 like that's a whole nother episode. It is. And 00:44:06.530 --> 00:44:08.309 we've talked about it many times, but like make 00:44:08.309 --> 00:44:12.030 2026 the new experience year. Yeah. In super 00:44:12.030 --> 00:44:14.329 small ways. Like Tuesday night, I hung out with 00:44:14.329 --> 00:44:16.750 my friends on a Tuesday. That's crazy. I know. 00:44:16.969 --> 00:44:18.829 How about how that's crazy? I'm still crying. 00:44:19.010 --> 00:44:21.070 Sorry. Stop yelling at the microphone. God damn. 00:44:21.650 --> 00:44:24.960 But that... That is what I think 2026, like the 00:44:24.960 --> 00:44:27.500 year of the horse, the putting everything in 00:44:27.500 --> 00:44:30.780 motion so that you can remember it by the time 00:44:30.780 --> 00:44:33.860 you get to 2027 and be like, no, 2026 was like 00:44:33.860 --> 00:44:36.519 a year. It was a year I'll remember, that type 00:44:36.519 --> 00:44:38.940 of thing. Yeah. And it doesn't always have to 00:44:38.940 --> 00:44:42.019 be all positive all the time. It's just something 00:44:42.019 --> 00:44:43.760 to remember. You don't always remember the good. 00:44:43.820 --> 00:44:46.019 You don't always remember the bad. It's all of 00:44:46.019 --> 00:44:49.199 it. But between 20 and 23, it was like mostly 00:44:49.199 --> 00:44:52.449 bad. So that's why it's a blur. Yeah, let's not 00:44:52.449 --> 00:44:56.130 have a blurry 20 -26. Yes, let's not. 20 -26. 00:44:58.289 --> 00:45:00.849 Nothing rhymes with six. Maybe only say it when 00:45:00.849 --> 00:45:05.210 you figure it out off the microphone. I keep 00:45:05.210 --> 00:45:07.789 trying, but nothing rhymes with six. No one's 00:45:07.789 --> 00:45:10.269 picking up sticks in 20 -26, unless you're going 00:45:10.269 --> 00:45:13.329 to throw them at Carly. So with that said, we 00:45:13.329 --> 00:45:15.389 hope time slows down a little bit and you stay 00:45:15.389 --> 00:45:17.900 more present in the moment. And remember... that 00:45:17.900 --> 00:45:20.380 you are always fit to be real and always allowed 00:45:20.380 --> 00:45:43.039 to be a little extra. For legal reasons, we have 00:45:43.039 --> 00:45:45.099 to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment 00:45:45.099 --> 00:45:48.119 and educational purposes only. We are not healthcare 00:45:48.119 --> 00:45:50.539 professionals. For all of your health, wellness, 00:45:50.780 --> 00:45:52.940 fitness, and self -care needs, please refer to 00:45:52.940 --> 00:45:55.440 the medical professional in your life. Your primary 00:45:55.440 --> 00:45:58.119 care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, 00:45:58.440 --> 00:46:00.820 whoever it may be. And then let us know what 00:46:00.820 --> 00:46:03.159 they say because I guarantee we need to know 00:46:03.159 --> 00:46:06.159 it too. Okay? Okay, bye.