Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra.
I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. It's been
a while since we did that, right? Wait, that
was really good. I know. We have an agenda. Yeah,
we do. We have an agenda. We've got things to
do. We got places to be. But we are sporting
our new Fit to Be Real merch. We love good merch.
This t -shirt's really comfortable. And so is
the sweatshirt. And it's got this cute little
extra on the sleeve. No, it's a little extra.
Get it? It's a little extra. I got the play on
words. Victoria designed it. The mug is the same.
There's a little extra. But it's okay if you're
a lot. It is on the CFIT Fitness website and
you can also go to our Instagram and find a link
there. So if you can get all your Fit to be real
merch. That was good. I know. She wasn't sure
if any of that was true, but it is. That's why
I didn't look at you, because I was like, I didn't
want you to look over and be like, no, you can't.
You said Instagram. I was like, where is she
going with this? But it was good. There's a link
tree. It has it all. We have commercials now
in our podcast, so I feel like I need to be a
little more profesh. I really do love when the
commercials cut us off mid -sentence, though.
I'm sure I have control over that. I don't know
what I'm doing yet, but give me six months. Yeah,
I'll figure it out. It's funny. I'll find time
to figure it out. Well, I listened back to our
episode last week, as I do every week, just to
make sure I didn't say something completely.
It's too late. It doesn't matter. Canceling like
that I'm going to get canceled for. I say many
things every week that I should get canceled
for, but I really enjoy us. I want to be friends
with us. Wait, so Donna Donna's the party the
party girl Donna texted me and was like I just
want to sit in on it I just want to sit and watch
I was like, you know what whenever you want we
don't know. We have to have you on anyway Oh,
yes part. We definitely do we've had somebody
sit in when chief Madonna was here His wife sat
in the corner and was loving life. Oh man, we
should charge tickets actually speaking of Kind
of none of that, but you you are all going to
be a part of an episode, if you so choose. And
I think we should do it on our 150th. We are
at 136 right now, so it'll give us time to figure
it out how to do this. Holy smokes. Are we doing
a live? We're going to do a live call -in. Phone
a friend. Love it. Phone two friends, because
there's two of us. So yeah, give us 20 more episodes
to figure out how, but 150 will be our call -in
live. Fit To Be Real. I just watched the Call
Her Daddy documentary on her podcast. Do you
know who Call Her Daddy is? Yeah, yeah. I see
clips of it, but I haven't like... Well, she's
from here. She's like from Malvern. So I watched
her documentary and she does like a whole live
at Madison Square Garden where she has like dancers
and stuff and then she talks. We should totally
do that at C -Fit. We should get up on the stage,
have two seats. Oh my God, we have those two
chairs. Oh my God, we have a stage. We have a
stage. We should do a live podcast. We have those
two Ikea chairs. This is all pretty perfect.
We're going to have backup dancers as well, just
like Alex Harrell. Yeah, they're going to be
at the ripe age of 8 to 12. They're going to
do their own choreography. Michael Jackson impersonators.
Galore, they are. Yep, a cat. It's going to be
great. We have a little cat. Yep. Perfect. So
look forward to that in around 200 or 300. We
need some time to work on that. Oh, I'm not going
to make it to 300. OK. I might be dead by then.
So last week was Victoria's podcast, and now
this week, it's my time now. I'm the captain
now. There it is. Couldn't find it. Also, there
is salt in this coffee, but you creamed it, didn't
you? Yeah. Yeah. Never mind. I think it tastes
great. No, I creamed my coffee. I don't like
how you said it. I take it back. You said it.
You made it weird. I know. I have a special talent.
I should have put that when I was an actor on
my resume under special talents, making situations
awkward. Honestly, they would have booked you
for it. That's how they would have been like,
that girl's funny. Yeah. I should have done that.
Mine was like, I don't know. Can say all 50 states
in alphabetical order. I should have put. My
mom my mom your mom just mine in this moment.
She's just mine. She told me to put has a driver's
license for a special skill. I have a driver's
license. Tell me you don't have any confidence
in me without telling me you don't have any confidence.
To be fair, people in New York that were actors
normally don't drive. Right, so if it's a regional
theater in the boonies. Yeah, they want to know
that you can drive around like maybe that can
help your chances of getting a job. Mom had confidence
in you, more confidence in you than she did in
me. That's another episode. You know what? This
is too much. Ken, we are going to start what
we're doing. We're having a fun episode today,
by the way, but I do want to say - Are you not
having fun yet? I saw Wicked last night. She
has not - Victoria has not seen it yet. Wicked
- I've heard some things. So somebody DMed me
afterward and said they heard mixed reviews and
wanted to know what I thought about it. I've
not heard mixed reviews, and I don't know what
anybody could say that would be mixed about it.
They added songs. I did not like the added songs.
I'll say that. Why the heck would you add songs
to this perfect show? Because I think they needed
to add time to make a second movie. They needed
the they needed the minutes. And then I heard.
So have a shorter movie, whatever, it's fine.
Then I heard. Which I think is valid because
act two on the stage is all. I know is dark.
Yes, it's dark. This is not as dark as it should
be. It's not as heavy as it should be. It's all
of a sudden it's slow, it's slow, it's slow.
And then there's a scene that everything just
revs up and amps up and all of a sudden the movie
is over because they're running out of time type
of thing. That's the reviews that I heard. I
would agree. I would agree with that. I would
say it's definitely dark and slower than the
first movie, because we talked about it with
the kids on the way home, because the first act
is all dancey and colorful. It's painting the
picture, so that's a lot of information. But
this explains all of Wizard of Oz in the second
act. Right. So that is exciting, because even
I forgot. I mean, I've seen Wicked six times,
and I even saw it a couple of years ago in Philadelphia.
But they explain more of it, and I will say.
I know there's a lot of you out there. I am on
the Jonathan Bailey train. Oh my God. I love
them. First of all, that was rough. Sorry, I've
been singing Wicked last night on the way home
and on the car ride to school this morning. I've
been having, we've been having karaoke parties
in the car. It has nothing to do with her screaming
into a microphone every single day. Well, that's
why, yeah, no, that too. Even though the purpose
of a microphone is to stop the screaming, but
that's fine. I am on, I'm on that train and I
am full steam ahead. Wait, funny story about
what's his name? Jonathan Bailey. Jonathan Bailey.
So the trailer came on for the second movie on
like a commercial ad or whatever. And Pedro and
I, sorry, Pedro, Pedro and I are talking and
I was like, oh, he just won sexiest man alive.
Yes. Pedro goes, ah, good for Jeff Goldblum.
I was like, what? He was runner up. He took a
second and he was like, yeah, good for him. Good
for him. No, Pedro, not Jeff Goldblum. I'm sure
he was sexy. He's great. In his day. He does
have more to do in the second movie, which I
was like, oh, he's good. Jeff Goldblum, he's
real good. I don't. Yeah, I'd have to say it.
I don't remember the second act as well as I
remember the first act because those are the
songs that you play. Yeah, but I think we listen
to the duet between as long as your mind. Yes.
Like six times this morning on the way to school.
How far is your commute? Well, I remembered why
I married a singer because I was like, oh, Andrew
could have done this. This is so Andrew. OK,
Carmela. OK, Billy is rolling his eyes in an
open grave, even though he's not in it yet. Somewhere.
I literally was like, oh, my God, yes. All right.
Well, I have to say it. Hopefully, I'll say it
faster than I saw the Barbie movie. You still
haven't seen it? Haven't seen it. OK. Well, See
Wicked Part 2, it will, I was going to say put
you in the Christmas spirit, but it definitely
won't. Oh, my God. I hope it doesn't. It's not.
What kind of Christmas is that? That's glampus.
What's it called? Crumpus. Crampus? Crampus?
Iodized? Ionized? Tumeric? Tumeric? All right,
so what are we doing today? Not talking about
Wicked, go see it. We are, last, actually the
past two years, we've been playing a little get
to know you game because we've been saying, hey,
you should do this around the Thanksgiving table
after dinner. And it's a good thing, you know,
as you're digesting your meal. You're gonna be
seeing this after, or watching, hearing, wherever
you get it, after Thanksgiving. So we're gonna
say do this at Christmas. Oh yeah, yeah, yeah.
Because Thanksgiving will have passed by the
time you get this. Wow, that was a long scenic
route to the reason for that sentence. Got it.
But it's always fun. We were talking about this
with Julia, one of our C -Fit squad teachers,
about Grab the Mic, which is a fun song game
you could play with your family after a dinner
or around the holidays where you have to think
of song titles. We are going to ask each other
questions today because I know that I certainly
don't spend enough time with Victoria. 24 hours,
seven days a week is just not enough. We don't
talk though. No we don't. This is the most we
talk. Everything else is about CFIT, about studio,
complaining about CFIT, complaining about the
studio, and you know, our parents. Alright, so
what do I need the star card? So do the star
cards you ask me one first I will ask you I have
not looked at these cards yet I picked them from
the middle of the pile and we're gonna do this
really quickly because I feel like I know all
there is to know about her but I could be I Could
be surprised. You're a fool. The theme of this
game is called talking point. It's to get people
talking and it's a great game Oh, we're bringing
out the dong -dong the let's let's test it out
You're wrong It works. Go. At what age do you
think kids should have a cell phone and why?
Boring. Oh, never. Never, never. Love that answer
question. Oh, out of all of your relatives, who
would you like to get to know better? And why?
Okay, go ahead. Dean. Because I spent an entire
day with Dean. And he's funny. I know. And he's
funny. And he's not trying to be funny. And he's
also like, when he's by himself, he's himself.
When he's with his siblings, he's them. Yeah.
And so it's hard to separate what's actually
his behavior and what isn't his behavior. He
was so cute. When you took him out and excited
and a kid he was a kid. He wasn't trying to be
older He was just Dean. Yeah, so I want more
conversations of just Dean his facial expressions
are like something He's like out of a movie last
night during wicked Elphaba sings. I'm not that
and he goes girl By himself and then looks at
me and Andrew and goes Like I got it. I was like,
oh my god. How'd you know that? I'll surprise
you though. All right, I'll let you get to know
Thank you. You were there watching him come out
as he was born. Just saying. If you could time
travel for a day, what would you do? Erase that
memory is what I would do. I would not be there.
If I could time travel? I mean, I'm gonna say
go back to, you know this, you're gonna make
fun of me, 1950s, like let's go to the hop. Like
the privileged white women you are. No, I just
wanna get dressed up and like go to a dance and
square dance and like let's go to the hop. Like
Grease times. That's 60s. No, that's 50s was
Grease. They did not wear pants in the 60s. At
the end of the, yeah they did. They wore, that
was like the pedal pushers. Don't. Don't mess
with my decades. All right, maybe that was like
61. I want the dresses in the hop. It's my turn.
Who do you like spending time with at home? Pepper.
Duh. Sorry, Pedro. Look at her. Oh, I'm Pedro.
All the P's. Look at her. She's a pretty little
baby. OK. If you could have any animal as a...
Ugh, what is your favorite outfit right now?
The one I'm currently wearing, fit to be real
with matching sweatpants. Found locally, online.
I don't like this one. The really fun thing about
this game is you can do it every one. Oh, would
you rather... Get to stay up really late or sleep
really late sleep sleep really late. It's not
even a question. I've always been like that What
do you like about the city you live in and what
don't you like about city you live in? Oh, I
Love that we live far enough from the city where
we're not in the city And I love that we can
get there in 20 minutes and do like I cannot
wait I just talked to you about this the other
day and you said I said too many words I really
can't wait to go to Miracle on 13th Street in
South Philly and go to Love Park and do the ice
skating and all that stuff. And it's so close
to us. I love that for us. I'm happy for you.
Thank you. What don't you like about the city?
The city. In general. That's good. That's good.
Yeah, just the city in general. I love that we
live far enough where we don't live in the city,
but can get there at any time. I feel like that's
a good answer and you should be satisfied. If
you could choose, if you could choose what we
did for a day, what would we do? Me and you,
not you and Pepper. So not my preference. Oh,
but we used to do the day after Christmas and
just sit and watch Harry Potter movies because
Now all we do is talk work and future work and
how much we need to work more. And I'm tired
of that. All right, I'll do that. What do you
think is the best part about being a kid? What
did you did you make sure these were curated
for you? This question. What was the question?
What do you think is the best part about being
a kid? Oh. Just hold on to that no responsibility
for as long as you possibly can. Stay on your
parents' phone plan. Stay on their insurance.
Carly's still doing it. No, I'm not on their
insurance, but phone plan. You don't know what
you have until you don't have it anymore. Take
the naps. No responsibility. Man, those were
the good old days. Thumbs up approval. All right.
Oh, this is a good one. Take a sip. Chug a lug.
Chug a lug. Chug a lug. Because you're going
to need it. What three words best describe our
family? I love this. Come on. Loud? OK. I like
that that's the first one. Excitable. OK. Are
you just being nice? Yeah. OK. Mom's going to
be so upset with you. Why? These are amazing.
Loud and excitable. Loud. The parties are loud.
We're talking loud. You have to be loud in this
family to be heard. Excitable. We do a lot of
exciting things. We're not boring. We get excited
easily. I think we. I think that comes from mom
when you're like, oh, look what I made. She's
like, you made this? I guess that could be dramatic.
Not excitable. Well, but yes, I don't mean it
in a bad way. We do exciting things. We try to
keep things exciting. It's never boring. Not
even like a normal Sunday dinner. It's never
boring. There's always something we're playing
games. It's loud. You know, that's all that's
all the thing I love. And then. Third one. Close.
Yeah. And that's just because I want a good Christmas
present. I'm just kidding. No, we are. We are
close. We're not doing Christmas presents this
year. Just as long as you remember. I mean, I
got whatever. We're not talking about it. Our
brother's getting married in Mexico, so we're
not doing Christmas presents. And Carly turned
40 and got a party and a trip. So we're not doing
Christmas presents. You heard it here first and
last. I mean... Go ahead. What's your favorite
movie? Ah... Three. I'm gonna name you three.
No. No. Incorrect. I'm gonna name you five. No,
three. I don't do ones. I don't like that question.
And this is my game. So Notting Hill, Avi, Dirty
Dancing, Avi, and Oh My God. It's not a movie.
Not a movie. Oh my God. What is it? Not a song.
Yeah, it is. Baby, let me love you down. Get
out of my house. There's so many ways to love
you. That is your key these days. I know. My
God. I've been singing the Fiyero part. Andrew's
been singing the Elphaba. What is my favorite
Christmas movie? Elf? No! White Christmas? No.
I love White Christmas. I know. Oh my god, no.
With all the... Love Actually. Love Actually
is really the worst movie. Well, listen. When
you break it down, my god. Oh my God. I think
it's cause it's here. You're singing my glottal.
From your apple. I don't have an apple. I'm a
girl. You do today. Oh, okay. I'm not going to
do it again. What is your favorite Christmas
tradition? If you had to pick one. I don't think
I've had a same Christmas. Like, I don't do anything
religiously every Christmas. Right. To have the,
hmm. Actually, I like the night that I, because
I've already been wrapped for a long time. Are
you joking me? Because we're not doing presents.
No, no. So you didn't wrap anything because we're
not doing presents. Let me talk. Oh my god. Sorry,
you have to be louder than that in this family.
I, when I am already, usually already wrapped
because I'm better than you, okay? I like the
night that I... have all of mom's presents and
whatever ones that you need wrapped. Like I like
to wrap them. So Victoria, that's a great tradition.
I love that for me. I really do. I really enjoy
that as well because when Victoria, Victoria
is always ready extra early and she's like, I
got to wrap mom's presents tonight. What do you
need? I'm like, well, I need all of these wrapped.
They give me their paper because that's important
and very important. And I judge them. for everything
that I'm wrapping. And then I get upset for the
ob, long ob shaped things that they want me to
wrap well. And then it used to be watching Christmas
movies and now it's watching True Crime at Christmas
time. So it's evolved. Wait, that should be a
thing, True Crime at Christmas time. Santa's
got a brand new bag. Love it. Yeah. Last star
card for you and then pick up the other pile.
If you could speak a different language, which
one would you choose and why? Oh, Spanish in
a second. It's just, I want to say like Italian
because I think it's like a pretty language to
listen to, but Spanish is so necessary. I'm trying
so hard. Yeah. You got Spanish lessons for Christmas
last year. Yeah, I got Spanish lessons. I got
an app. How you doing? Hola. Horrible. Como esta
mi amigo? That wasn't technically wrong, but
you couldn't have sound whiter. I had babble
and it just was like flashcards. So like, yes,
I know words, but then I can't understand when
they try to put them in sentences or like when
someone in the app is talking. So now I'm on
jump speak. Oh, and then I'm going to go to Duolingo.
I'm going to try to figure this out. Duolingo
sounds like a rapper. I'm sorry. Something Duolingo.
That's in a song. Probably. Duolingo. Or it's
Dua Lipa. No, it's Duolingo. Somebody tell me
what that song is. But yeah, okay, enjoy. I'm
trying. I actually do enjoy it, but then I tense
up when the app's trying to talk in conversation.
Like, Barbara, she needs help. Barbara, who was
on our podcast, she is a Spanish teacher. Barbara
only talked to me in Spanish. That's how we thought
we were going to raise our kids. Because Andrew
speaks Spanish slang. He went to Mexico a lot
when we were younger and worked there. So he
picked up Spanish slang. He doesn't know how
to like conjugate a sentence or anything. So
we were like, when we had Melody, we're like,
you're going to speak to her in Spanish on the
weekends, only Spanish. That never happened.
That never happened one day. Not even one day.
It never happened. So don't make promises to
your kids that you can't keep. I don't think
anybody made that promise to that child. She
doesn't know Spanish. Okay. Oh, this just got
deep. Oh my God, literally the card says deep.
What is a mistake people often make about you?
I said it got deep. Yeah. People often, that
means I'm aware of it. Like I know that they're
making that mistake. Yeah, I know. I mean, I
know like that. That everyone thinks I'm like
mean. Yeah. I wouldn't say mean. I think everybody
thinks you're tougher than me. Like you are more
like black or white. It's this way or this way.
I think that's what people think about you when
it's the complete opposite. I am that way, and
she is nothing like that. Because I'm better
than you. Why is that the funniest thing I've
ever said? Because it's not true. That's why
it's funny. I would say that is what people think
about you. Yeah, I would think so. And I think
that's because I'm not loud. I'm a lot quieter,
and I'm not in people's faces. Carly's like,
where were you? Why haven't you been here? When
are you going to be here more often? And I'm
like, go do your life. Have a great time. You
do you, boo. Yeah. And I think in class, we're
specifically talking in class times, I'll be
like, come on, guys. And Victoria's like, you're
here for yourself. If you're not doing the work,
you're not doing the work. Yeah, I'm not doing
it for you. I said it last night. You did? Oh
my god. Yeah, Monday nights are a great time.
They're crazy hard. Yeah. But like, you know,
you get to the certain point where you're like,
I don't want to be here anymore. This is hard.
I'm tired. We keep doing hard things and you
just have to talk yourself out of that. But also,
like, if you want to half ass it, that's good.
You do you. Right. And that's very much her.
And I'm like, I this isn't about me. So go ahead.
What was about you? Side eye to the camera, y
'all. Yeah, I would say that would be it, I guess.
I don't know. I don't really care what people
think. Think it away. I used to care. I don't
care anymore. Experiences. What is your worst
habit? My worst habit? Top five. We only do five.
It says one, so I'm going to pick one. We don't
have the time for five, guys. We don't have the
time to dive deep into that. You're right. Victoria
says deep dive. I would say. Externally, my worst
habit is picking the skin around my fingers.
Externally, I appreciate your specificity. Yes.
Internally, too many to name. Externally, I have
a very, since the second grade, my anxiety. What
happened in the second grade? Nothing. My stepmom
cut my hair before communion. Therapy, what a
bitch. Queen Gwen. Therapy wood. maybe help you
stop doing that. Your nails look horrible. Oh,
horrible. And I do it until they bleed. And then
99 .9 % of the time, I don't know I'm doing it,
because that's what a habit is. You don't know
you're doing it. Then I bleed, and then I realize.
It's a - We all realize, because snow. A dead
skin is coming from your hands while you're talking.
We're sitting in someone's car. But you know
what I've justified? That's how you will trace
my body when I get murdered. You will find my
skin and my DNA everywhere I go and that's how
you'll find my body. Or that's how you're going
to be convicted for murder because your skin
is everywhere. You fool. I can't do the internal
habits. We know them. It's fine. Okay. What was
the hard - This is a really fun game to play
with family around the table. We're getting deep.
What was the hardest decision you've ever had
to make? Oh my god. I don't know. What shirt
I was wearing this morning? No, I can think of
mine. I know mine right off the top of my head.
I don't - hardest decision? I - Honestly, don't
think I've had... You really don't? I don't know.
Do you want me to tell you mine and maybe it'll
catapult you with yours? Yeah, we're not the
same, but yes. Moving home from New York. That
was a really hard decision because I knew moving
home from New York meant it was over for me.
For trying to... You look dead. It's true. I
knew that when I said we're going, we're moving
home that like I was never going to do a show
again. So that was hard. Yeah. You and mom made
me move home. So that wasn't my decision, but
it needed to happen. I didn't make you. I, it
was a bad, it was a bad, I was going through
like a horrible, horrible breakup. All of them
are, but I needed to get out of it. I needed
to, everything needed to change. Yeah. My whole
life needed to change. So I think I would have
stayed because Moving home meant failure. Yeah
in our minds and not like you and mom mom literally
packed up my apartment Yeah, sent me to Kentucky.
She and dad packed up my apartment and I never
went back Yeah, so like that wasn't as hard because
it was not your decision. It was not But but
in a good way that's like a positive thing, um,
I get that though But that's not yours So what
was your heart decision? You don't know. I don't
know. Um Okay, well maybe you haven't I think
I I mean I'm I'm not good on the spot we know
this and I know that there have been many but
I my brain doesn't Work like that. I can't wait
till every day She tells me a new hard decision
cuz she's thought about it after the fact It's
my ode to Ariana, oh yeah mic up Okay, you have
you've not made a hard decision that you can
I mean I if I'm gonna be like Make it easy and
simple. I'm like I decided To find a therapist
on my own. Yeah, and like make the phone call
and I remember my heart beating for that Being
nervous about it cuz like I don't know but that's
not I mean, that's not the hardest decision I've
ever made in my life, right? So I don't know
I get my get back to okay get back to us on that.
That was a long -winded get back to you They're
over there because Pepper ate them all. But look
how juicy he is. These are stupid. What's one
of your pet peeves about you? No. Rude. In general.
In general. One of my pet peeves. All right.
I'm going to think of Andrew because that's just
the easiest. Oh my God. One of my pet peeves
is when I'm talking to him. And then he talks
and says something else on top of me. And I was
like, Andrew, I was talking to you. And he's
like, oh, I didn't even realize. Because he says
I'm talking at him. And so he sort of tunes me
out. But it is the most annoying thing when I'm
talking. And then he talks over me. This is major
marital issues here. We're out of time. But it's
not major. It's just a small thing that I absolutely,
I'm always like, Andrew. He's like, oh, I didn't
realize. Wait, what'd you say? or talking over
you like I'll be like hey today you have to pick
up the kids at two o 'clock blah blah blah and
he's like did you put the laundry in like while
I'm talking and I'm like did you hear any I'm
talking oh you know what I mean and he's he wasn't
listening because he tuned me out because I'm
always talking well no but that specific thing
isn't talking that is schedule relaying right
and he wishes I would turn write it down And
if it's written down in the schedule, I wouldn't
have to tell him. That's false. Andrew, I'm a
big supporter. But I'm a big supporter. That
is a lie. The other one is when he wears ear
pods in the house all day long because he's listening
to his Dungeons and Dragons podcast. And I'm
like, hey, Andrew, can you grab this for me?
Dungeons and Dragons, get the dong dong. And
I'm like, Andrew, hello. And he's like, oh, he
takes the air pod out. And he's like, what? I'm
like, I can't. Yeah, I don't think he likes you,
bro. Like, no cap. I don't think he likes you.
OK, that might be true. OK, we're going to move
on from that. If you could do anything in the
next year, what would it be? What do you want
to do this year? Next year, meaning like a couple
of weeks. In 2026 to 20... Wait, what year are
we in? We're going to 2025 or 2026? We're going
to 2026. We're in 2025 right now. What do you
want to do between 2026 and 2027? It doesn't
have to be that like... I don't know. I don't
know. I want to be financially stable. OK. Unfortunately,
that has a lot to do with you. I'm just kidding.
I'm just kidding. No, I want to be. It does.
It's hard. That's like a tall order. And if I
already think of it like that, then it's not
going to happen. So I got to rewire that. But
we're in an inflated world. We haven't raised
our prices because we don't think that's right.
There's so many factors. Yeah, I think it's just
like you want to pay for your Disney trip. I
don't necessarily want to like Save for something.
I just want to be able to not Freak them out.
You want to go to the grocery store and and be
okay with spending Money at the grocery store
and not being like man. That's gonna kill me.
Exactly. Yeah, I always say I wait for the day
that I can just go to TJ Maxx or Marshalls. I'm
saying TJ Maxx and Marshalls. I'm not even saying
Nordstrom and Bloomingdale's and just be like,
yeah, I want this and I don't care. I wouldn't
overly spend, but I just. Don't lie. No, don't
lie. I just want to not have a heart attack every
time I get up to the counter. So I agree. I understand
that. I just second guess every. Every single
thing like going to get gas and and that's just
There's so many factors to that, but I think
that would be number one. Yeah, I Like that.
I'll take that. Yeah, if you know, I already
asked you a question. It's my turn now These
are dumb What's something you will never and
never is an all Caps, do again. Something I'll
never do again. Never in all caps, do again.
Oh, Lord. Something I'll never. Wow, that was
a hard R. Oh, Lord. Oh, Lord. You're really singing
from the Adam's apple. I'm all about the singing
right now. I mean, you should have seen me in
the car with the kids this morning. Whoever drove
in front or behind me, you got a performance.
Something I'll never do again. No, never in all
caps again. Yeah. Oh God. I feel like there's
so many things and also I can't think of one.
Something I'll never do again. Sucks, doesn't
it? I want to say, this is something so stupid,
Victoria's going to laugh at me, but I'll never
get a connecting flight after seeing your travel
and going through my own travel experiences.
You're the bougiest. Honest to God. Oh, Victoria,
tell me you weren't stressed out coming home
from Vegas and crying and had a breakdown because
you just wanted to get home. That was about the
Motel 6. That wasn't about the travel day. But
you wouldn't have had to get a Motel 6 if you
didn't have the travel problem. Right, but also
that's because of the government. It was a shutdown.
So we only ever do connecting flights because
it saves money. So in this extreme situation,
it messed us up. And yeah, it was stressful,
but also we had a lot of fun. There were a lot
of factors. My panic attack came from the Motel
6, which was probably, you know, wrapped up with
everything mixed in one, but we travel well together.
We have a good time, so. Oh, wait, okay. I'll
never do that because we always have bad travel.
Well, he doesn't listen to you and he's always
talking over you, so I get that. Pedro or Andrew?
Andrew. Oh, okay. Pedro would never. One thing
I'll never do again, I will never go go -karting
again, ever in my life. Carly Berger face. I
broke my jaw. Almost had to get it wired shut
when I was 30. That would have been so nice.
But I went through a cement wall. It was bad.
I will never go extreme go -karting again. Or
go -karting, I would imagine. No, never. Anything
you would never do? Splash, it goes one mile
an hour on the Rio Road. I will never. It's hard,
right? I don't know. You could probably think
of so many things, but nothing at the same time.
I will never date the wrong guy again. Thank
God. I mean, I mean, I mean, we that's life.
Thank God. I'm trying to work at my acting chops,
too. Like, I'm really back into it right now.
Not going well. Ah, this is hard. This is OK.
I love your disclaimers today. What opportunity
for love or money have you given up? And do you
regret it? Money every fucking day doing this
job. Wait, but it's not like you had money and
you gave it up to do this job. You weren't, you
didn't have money as an actor either. So what
have you? I actually had a lot more money as
an actor. That's true. Yeah. What have you given
up that you regret now? Regret giving up? Nothing.
Nothing. There is nothing that is not, that has
been a part of my past that I wish were here
today. Yeah. For the reason that I understand
things leave for a reason. In the moment, it's
never like that. It's absolutely never like that.
Don't get me wrong. But since we're in hindsight,
we are in 2020. Hindset. Hindset? Nope. Elm's
tooth? It's a different word. That's definitely
a different word. I don't think there's anything,
if it's not here and it used to be, it's not
supposed to be here. You're good like that. Even
people. Yeah. You're very good like that. I'm
like, I regret how I said hello last night. Because
I'm better than you. I regret how I said hello
last night. No, I mean, that's being very dramatic,
but I'm always like... Oh, I mean, I have those
thoughts, of course. Like, oh, I made that weird
or whatever. But... That also happened, like
you can't take it back. No, but you're also very
lucky. You spend a lot of your time with me and
you're like, oh, you made that weird. So I don't
have to. I just let her talk. I like don't say
much. I don't have to. Yeah, I think I used to
have a lot more money, and that's gone. I could
have that again. But I still feel like that's
not a regret, because you didn't like that life
anymore. It wasn't working for you. Oh, yeah,
no, no, no. So it's not technically. I was being
funny. God. No one can ever tell. But I'm bummed.
All right, one more from you, one more from me.
I don't like you being in charge. I love it.
Andrew, I get it. L is for the way. Go ahead.
Don't tell me what to do. Sorry. You were in
the middle of singing anyway, and I don't like
that card. The answer is Pat Joyce. We don't
really know. Oh, what did it say? Who was your
first gay boyfriend? Yep. I know all these answers
and they're not fun. Wait, this has a typo in
it. Yes. What do the first 30 months of your
typical day look like? Should say minutes. Oh.
Minutes. It's M -U -N -S unless that's a word.
I don't know. What are the first 30 minutes of
your typical day? The first 30 minutes of my
typical day is getting up and getting fully dressed,
head to toe, sneakers, everything, going downstairs,
having my coffee, sitting under, putting my robe
on top of my full clothes with my sneakers. That
makes me so uncomfortable to hear this. Sitting
in my favorite chair, putting on Michael Buble
Christmas or Michael Buble anything on very low
on Alexa. Stupid. Drinking my coffee and making
the post for the day. uncomfortably lame. Or
making a list of things I have to ask Victoria
in my notes on my phone. In individual text messages,
individual text messages. But that is the first
30 minutes. I will get up and fully dress myself
down to my sneakers, put my robe back on. That's
good. I don't want to talk about that anymore.
I want to ask you this. What's your love language?
That's what I want to know. Planning and surprising.
That's not a love language. No, like actions.
Actions. Actions of service. The fact that you
thought about me ahead of time. Like, you wanted
to do, like, do you know what I mean? Yo, you
married the wrong guy. That poor guy is not,
that doesn't... Just kidding, I'm just kidding,
I'm just kidding. It's like not, it's the, hey,
guess what? I booked a reservation, we're going
out to dinner tomorrow night. He thought... And
then I'll say, no, I really don't want to be
fair. Hold on. Every time he's done that, which,
Andrew, I support you, happens a lot, especially
around gift season, holiday, birthday. She ruins
it. You ruin it. I do. I'm always, yeah, I'm
always like, oh, I can't. You're a ruiner. Yeah.
But I love when he's like for Christmas, he'll
be like, we're going to New York in March. to
see this show that I got tickets for. And then
March comes and you're like, I can't believe
we have to do this. I don't want to do this.
I'm tired. I know. But I do love the thought
that he thought enough about what I would like.
I like actions. Do you like when he prints it
out the day before with not a lot of ink in the
printer? It's OK. Last couple of Christmases
ago, he made up a song and played it on the guitar
on Christmas morning to tell me what my Christmas
presents were. And I do love that kind of stuff.
Yeah. Yeah. So acts of service acts of service.
Yeah, love that Love it. Definitely don't touch
her And definitely don't talk to her because
she doesn't like when you talk cuz she's probably
talking So it's not communication and it's not
touching. I Don't know how to respond quality
time I guess quality time and acts of service
that might be it too except if you plan something
for her She really doesn't want to spend it with
you because she's tired. She wants to go to bed
She wants to watch a Bravo. So she's not it's
not quality time guys I'm amazing. Oh my god,
I did do this to him one time. He got me tickets
to Countess Luanne's cabaret. And I was like,
I don't wanna go. You've wasted so much of this
guy's money. I don't, I was like, I love, and
he knows that I love Bravo. He knows I love Housewives
of New York. I don't really wanna see them live.
It's just not my, I like to watch them on TV.
But I appreciate that he knew that I loved the
housewives. So like, do the act of service, but
I might not follow through. Just like, invite
me to the party, but I'm not gonna come. That's
your life motto. I'm a very easy person. Invite
me, that's your bravo. Invite me to the party,
but I'm not gonna come. Oh yeah, wait, we did
have good taglines that one day, remember? We
did have good taglines. We good taglines. All
right, last one. What's something you believed
earlier in your life, but think very differently
about it now? It's a real easy, uncomplicated
question. Jesus, Mary and Joseph. Say it again.
What's something you believed earlier in your
life, but think very differently about it now?
I can think of one for you. That every... That
life isn't happening to me. Things don't happen
to me. Yeah. They happen for me, even if I don't
like them. But it's not like... I think I was
in very much a... Woe is me. Mm -hmm. Yeah. Like,
it's not going my way. It's not because of something
I did. It's because something, you know, this
person... Why is this happening to me? Mm -hmm.
Yeah. And like, life isn't fair and blah, blah,
blah, blah. Um... now I I'm very much aware that
life is not fair and It's hard to believe It's
hard to believe in the moment when things are
happening, but it's it's I'm creating whatever
is happening. Like I'm writing that story So
if it's something that goes wrong, there's a
reason for it and it's not because it's not fair
to me. It's something that I Need to happen so
that I can do what's meant for me. Like what's
meant for me is not passing me by in that moment.
I think that's a young versus like getting older
viewpoint. That's really good words. I was trying
to think of the word viewpoint. I was young and
now you're old. Don't worry, I'll always be older
than you. What were you going to say? I know
one for you. What was I going to say? how basically
that like your life you think you grow up thinking
your life is gonna be one way and then it's not
that way ever yeah what every year ever oh ever
ever ever because I know I've I felt the same
way like you grow up thinking you want this this
and this and it doesn't work out like that but
then you realize that's okay what hasn't worked
out for you out of curiosity Other than, like,
theater? Yeah, theater. Theater. I don't necessarily
miss it. I loved doing it when I was doing it,
but so many things haven't worked out for me.
Like? Prove it. You're, like, honest to God,
the worst sister in the world. What? I'm helping
you realize all the things that you should be
thankful for. I am very thankful in this thankful
season that my life is the way it is. And I am
like you, or I did not know that at 40 this is
where my life was going to be, but I'm very happy
about it. But is that why when I said, what are
your pet peeves, you said, OK, Andrew. I'm very
thankful for him. I am the most thankful for
him. There's nobody in the world that could deal
with my shiz the way he does. I mean, nobody.
That's so true. And I'm aware of this. I don't
vocalize it. He never hears that. What's his
love language? He would like me to hug him 24
seven. He would like me. to, so yeah, screw him.
She definitely doesn't do that. So she's like,
I don't care about your love language, but this
is what I need. I'm going to go home and hug
him. Here's something I learned. And it's only
recently. And it's not something I used to think
of. Well, maybe I did in like a subconscious
way, but people need to be loved in their way,
not how you want it. So like if your, if your
love language is, I want acts of service. That
sounds so selfish. I want you to do things for
me. No. Do the dishes, and I don't have to ask
you. Right. Do the laundry. I don't have to ask
you. He does that. Remember to pick up the children.
But if I need acts of service, I'm going to give
you acts of service. But that's not what he wants.
He wants hugs. Right. He wants touch. Right.
You're just saying something that I've just realized.
Every birthday and Christmas, I'm giving him
something that I know I would want. Andrew, there's
a support group. It's called Dads of Divorce.
I can help you. Oh, is Victoria the head of the
Dads of Divorce Club? I will help find you that
group. I'm sorry. I didn't know you were the
leader of the dads that are soon to be divorced.
There's a lot you don't know about me. I just
realized that every birthday and Christmas, I'm
giving him show tickets or a night out for the
two of us that we can do together. Those are
acts of service that you wish you were given.
Yes. I know. I got to change my ways after 21
years. You can't love someone the way you want
to be loved. You have to love them how they want
to be loved. Oh, this just got deep. You stupid.
I love that that just made you cackle like the
witch you are. Guys. The funny fact is she can
actually do that for real. Oh, mic drop, dong
-gong. I don't like this. Call the dong -gong.
Do this with your family around the table. You
may learn something about your husband through
your sister I'm not a part of that one Andrew
I want to go home and give you a hug. I'm coming.
I just go to Target first Give me your credit
card. And then I will come and give you a hug.
You need to go home. Is he home? Yes. We're together
all the time. He works from home. Yes, he's home.
What was the question? Oh my God, I have to go.
I have a client. I literally have to go. I know.
We said 20 minutes. We said this was going to
be 20 minutes. I don't know. Just remember. Be
grateful, be thankful for your families all year
round, but especially in this Christmas Thanksgiving
seasonal time. Play with your family. Play games
with your family. What are you saying? Just remember
that you are always fit to be real. And always
allowed to be a little extra. And me. And this
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