WEBVTT 00:00:07.280 --> 00:00:10.500 Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra. 00:00:11.939 --> 00:00:18.600 My mic died. She's talking on a fuzzy little 00:00:18.600 --> 00:00:23.960 microphone. Amazing. Connected to the wall. It's 00:00:23.960 --> 00:00:26.960 our little mic that has a little fuzzy hat on 00:00:26.960 --> 00:00:31.329 it so that I don't pop my peas. Never say that 00:00:31.329 --> 00:00:33.090 again. And yet, it has to be plugged into the 00:00:33.090 --> 00:00:35.609 wall. But God forbid, Carly used this one. She 00:00:35.609 --> 00:00:37.250 asked me to move and sit in her spot. And I said, 00:00:37.369 --> 00:00:40.549 absolutely not. I am a creature of habit, a person 00:00:40.549 --> 00:00:44.009 of consistency. And I have to sit over here or 00:00:44.009 --> 00:00:47.969 else this podcast cannot be done. And nobody 00:00:47.969 --> 00:00:50.310 wants that. God, you haven't gotten any better. 00:00:51.109 --> 00:00:54.810 Like, it has not improved. Nothing has improved. 00:00:55.009 --> 00:00:57.710 It is so cold in Victoria's house. I'm keeping 00:00:57.710 --> 00:01:02.840 my vest on. I told her to bundle. It is October. 00:01:03.700 --> 00:01:05.400 Heat's not going on until hopefully December. 00:01:05.480 --> 00:01:08.879 Oh my god, she is our mom. I'm not paying for 00:01:08.879 --> 00:01:11.180 it. It's not happening. I have specific memories. 00:01:12.700 --> 00:01:15.760 I lived over the porch, so it was always extra 00:01:15.760 --> 00:01:17.840 cold in my room, and our mom did not put the 00:01:17.840 --> 00:01:19.920 heat on. It was the master, because god forbid 00:01:19.920 --> 00:01:22.140 Carmela have the master in her own house. Well, 00:01:22.180 --> 00:01:24.780 what? Yeah, I got two closets in the biggest 00:01:24.780 --> 00:01:29.170 bedroom. Middle child. She ruined you. It doesn't 00:01:29.170 --> 00:01:31.469 matter because she didn't put the heat on. I 00:01:31.469 --> 00:01:34.390 would put the pillow over my head, the covers 00:01:34.390 --> 00:01:37.170 all the way up top, and I would breathe extra 00:01:37.170 --> 00:01:39.829 heavy under the pillow to make heat so that I 00:01:39.829 --> 00:01:45.349 would be warm. And then we had a space heater. 00:01:45.950 --> 00:01:47.609 Why put the space heater on? Why don't I just 00:01:47.609 --> 00:01:50.150 put the heat on? I would put my uniform over 00:01:50.150 --> 00:01:52.430 the space heater so it would be warm when I got 00:01:52.430 --> 00:01:54.890 it on my body. You are lucky the house didn't 00:01:54.890 --> 00:01:57.959 blow up. Yeah. This was the 90s. Don't say yeah, 00:01:57.980 --> 00:02:05.459 like you understand. It was the 90s. Yeah, you'd 00:02:05.459 --> 00:02:08.819 wear hats and gloves and sweatshirts. Too bad. 00:02:10.020 --> 00:02:12.280 Because, God forbid, we put the heat on before 00:02:12.280 --> 00:02:15.740 December. Were you paying for it? Your house 00:02:15.740 --> 00:02:19.360 is a sauna. Oh my God, it feels so good. Are 00:02:19.360 --> 00:02:24.860 you paying for it? No. Exactly. We're not sure 00:02:24.860 --> 00:02:28.060 how things are getting paid. I am a child of 00:02:28.060 --> 00:02:31.460 the 90s. I don't know what that means. All right. 00:02:31.460 --> 00:02:34.680 Drink every time she says that because I don't 00:02:34.680 --> 00:02:36.139 think it's over. Why don't you tell everybody 00:02:36.139 --> 00:02:39.060 the t -shirt I got you for your birthday? 90s, 00:02:39.080 --> 00:02:43.099 babe. 90s, babe. Because we are 90s, babe. So 00:02:43.099 --> 00:02:45.930 what are we talking about today, Victoria? Sorry 00:02:45.930 --> 00:02:47.550 our producers telling me that I could be a little 00:02:47.550 --> 00:02:49.550 louder because my microphones a little weird 00:02:49.550 --> 00:02:53.229 So I'm getting notes and I'm hopefully doing 00:02:53.229 --> 00:02:55.610 it better. Give me the high sign if things are 00:02:55.610 --> 00:02:59.250 good We are talking about this is a hundred percent 00:02:59.250 --> 00:03:00.969 Carly I don't know why you're having me do this 00:03:00.969 --> 00:03:03.090 Carly's talking about this because she wants 00:03:03.090 --> 00:03:08.689 to know why It's helpful to be nostalgic Because 00:03:08.689 --> 00:03:11.789 it's a thing It's a thing. Hold on. We forgot 00:03:11.789 --> 00:03:13.469 to tell everybody who we are in case you didn't 00:03:13.469 --> 00:03:21.139 know I'm dead. Inside, outside, and I'm Victoria, 00:03:21.360 --> 00:03:25.199 but mainly dead. Hey guys, I'm Carly. And she 00:03:25.199 --> 00:03:28.479 is stuck in the past. No, I had this conversation 00:03:28.479 --> 00:03:31.259 with a couple Seafitters a while ago, a couple 00:03:31.259 --> 00:03:33.419 months ago, and I've been meaning to bring it 00:03:33.419 --> 00:03:38.400 up. We were saying, I was saying, that they just 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:41.159 don't make music like they did when we were growing 00:03:41.159 --> 00:03:44.780 up. And then I said out loud, to like Karen, 00:03:45.000 --> 00:03:47.020 who is our mom's generation, a little younger 00:03:47.020 --> 00:03:48.639 than our mom's generation. I think she's in her 00:03:48.639 --> 00:03:51.379 sixties. Almost Boomer, but not Boomer. Yeah, 00:03:51.479 --> 00:03:55.060 I think so. And she said, well, I don't know 00:03:55.060 --> 00:03:58.419 if it's your like your generation's music or 00:03:58.419 --> 00:04:02.080 just because you were young. And it brings you 00:04:02.080 --> 00:04:04.280 back to a good time because I think my music. 00:04:04.909 --> 00:04:07.349 I don't think they make music like my music anymore. 00:04:07.430 --> 00:04:09.490 And that stuff makes me happy. I think it's generational. 00:04:09.909 --> 00:04:11.849 But that's what I was thinking about. And I said, 00:04:11.870 --> 00:04:14.729 that's a really good thing to bring up. I think 00:04:14.729 --> 00:04:17.410 today's music, and this doesn't have just to 00:04:17.410 --> 00:04:21.529 do with music, but the generational, I think 00:04:21.529 --> 00:04:24.709 our stuff is the best. And it's only gone downhill 00:04:24.709 --> 00:04:27.209 from there, while as the generation before us 00:04:27.209 --> 00:04:29.509 thinks it's only gone downhill from them. Do 00:04:29.509 --> 00:04:31.990 you know what I mean? Yes. So why aren't we just 00:04:31.990 --> 00:04:34.009 staying in the present moment? Why are we going 00:04:34.009 --> 00:04:38.810 backwards? Well, I'm so happy you asked because 00:04:38.810 --> 00:04:40.329 that's what we're going to talk about today. 00:04:41.050 --> 00:04:45.250 The why. Why positive nostalgia is important. 00:04:45.490 --> 00:04:49.029 Why are you so beige right now? Because I'm a 00:04:49.029 --> 00:04:51.910 basic B. I'm looking at her. She's wearing tan 00:04:51.910 --> 00:04:57.569 pants, cream colored tan sweatshirt, brown vest 00:04:57.569 --> 00:05:01.170 and And yellow mustard sneakers. So Andrew bought 00:05:01.170 --> 00:05:03.990 me this sweatshirt for my birthday. It says October 00:05:03.990 --> 00:05:09.569 established 1985. And it matched my beige sweatpants. 00:05:09.649 --> 00:05:11.589 And then I never get to wear my yellow sneakers 00:05:11.589 --> 00:05:13.829 because I never have anything that matches. And 00:05:13.829 --> 00:05:19.810 it matches today. You look like vomit. But you're 00:05:19.810 --> 00:05:22.410 happy about it. You look like vomit. You're a 00:05:22.410 --> 00:05:27.300 happy vomit. I'm freezing. And Victoria left 00:05:27.300 --> 00:05:29.560 a mug out for me and I specifically did not pick 00:05:29.560 --> 00:05:32.180 it up because I picked the Temple University 00:05:32.180 --> 00:05:35.579 mug because I did go to Temple for a few months 00:05:35.579 --> 00:05:38.259 and it made me nostalgic. It's good that you 00:05:38.259 --> 00:05:39.860 picked it up and then turned the Temple logo 00:05:39.860 --> 00:05:45.519 in towards you. Super helpful. Temple. So yeah, 00:05:45.819 --> 00:05:47.939 we're going to talk about the why and the benefits 00:05:47.939 --> 00:05:52.439 of nostalgia. Positive. Positive nostalgia. Because 00:05:52.439 --> 00:05:57.069 I do believe that we are Of the privileged we 00:05:57.069 --> 00:06:00.430 did have a good childhood. We don't have trauma. 00:06:00.430 --> 00:06:04.990 We don't have We do not have like the kind you 00:06:04.990 --> 00:06:07.529 have small t -trauma You do everyone does our 00:06:07.529 --> 00:06:10.949 parents do every single human on the planet has 00:06:10.949 --> 00:06:15.350 small t -trauma You you know, unfortunately a 00:06:15.350 --> 00:06:18.189 good amount have big t -trauma, which is like 00:06:18.189 --> 00:06:20.430 the big stuff This is what you're thinking of 00:06:20.430 --> 00:06:22.290 why I don't have that. Yeah, but you have the 00:06:22.290 --> 00:06:25.740 small stuff But when I think of the nostalgia... 00:06:25.740 --> 00:06:28.980 What you think is wrong. Let's just end it there. 00:06:29.139 --> 00:06:33.720 But what I'm trying to say is we don't have things 00:06:33.720 --> 00:06:35.660 like... Some people want to get away from their 00:06:35.660 --> 00:06:38.300 childhood and never look back, not think about 00:06:38.300 --> 00:06:40.500 it. It brings up bad memories. That's big T -trauma. 00:06:40.620 --> 00:06:43.540 Right. So we're talking from a space that does 00:06:43.540 --> 00:06:45.060 not have that. That's what I'm trying to say. 00:06:45.319 --> 00:06:48.779 Correct. Yeah, that's what I said. That's not 00:06:48.779 --> 00:06:50.459 what you said, but we are all with me, right? 00:06:51.180 --> 00:06:53.600 No, I think they're with me. Everybody loves 00:06:53.600 --> 00:07:00.660 a lowercase T. You're talking lowercase T and 00:07:00.660 --> 00:07:03.079 big T. Is that what you mean? That's what I was 00:07:03.079 --> 00:07:05.560 thinking. Then I was thinking about Mr. T. So 00:07:05.560 --> 00:07:11.079 you lost me for a while. There it is. You guys 00:07:11.079 --> 00:07:13.319 remember Mr. T. It brought me back. I was feeling 00:07:13.319 --> 00:07:17.360 nostalgic while you were talking. What's the 00:07:17.360 --> 00:07:25.939 first Y Carly? The first why. Nostalgia is usually 00:07:25.939 --> 00:07:28.399 a yearning for our past selves and not just for 00:07:28.399 --> 00:07:32.040 a time and place. I agree with that though. Nah. 00:07:32.220 --> 00:07:35.879 Because why, okay, bring it back to me, fine. 00:07:36.279 --> 00:07:39.279 I'm glad you did that. That feels nostalgic. 00:07:39.939 --> 00:07:43.139 When I listen to NSYNC, like you didn't think 00:07:43.139 --> 00:07:45.779 I was gonna bring it back to NSYNC, what it brings 00:07:45.779 --> 00:07:49.000 me, yes, I love the music. Is it like the best? 00:07:49.779 --> 00:07:51.819 harmonies in the world. No, it brings me back 00:07:51.819 --> 00:07:55.019 to like hanging out my bedroom, putting up posters, 00:07:55.259 --> 00:07:57.839 like looking through. I'm going to age myself 00:07:57.839 --> 00:08:02.019 like teen magazine and like a good time. You 00:08:02.019 --> 00:08:04.379 spend a lot of time by yourself. Is that what 00:08:04.379 --> 00:08:10.139 you're saying? Do you miss that? No, but it's 00:08:10.139 --> 00:08:13.779 not just about the music or the band. It's about 00:08:13.779 --> 00:08:17.740 the time that it brings you back to. Well, correct. 00:08:17.779 --> 00:08:21.529 Right. But that's not what this is saying. This 00:08:21.529 --> 00:08:25.730 is saying the past self, like who you, because 00:08:25.730 --> 00:08:30.329 the goal is that we evolve every day, if not 00:08:30.329 --> 00:08:33.330 every year, right? Maybe not everybody, but yeah. 00:08:33.950 --> 00:08:40.470 Exactly. Exactly. I do, I would not want to wish 00:08:40.470 --> 00:08:43.330 to go back to that time for me. I don't, no, 00:08:43.330 --> 00:08:46.149 I'm not saying I wish to go back. It just, what, 00:08:46.149 --> 00:08:49.399 you know. What it says here is that it brings 00:08:49.399 --> 00:08:52.580 you back to a more carefree time in your life 00:08:52.580 --> 00:08:55.919 or a time that you look And that's what I mean 00:08:55.919 --> 00:08:58.960 when I say like I really I didn't have any responsibilities 00:08:58.960 --> 00:09:01.039 when I was in my room listening to in sync and 00:09:01.039 --> 00:09:03.759 making music videos with my friends to Britney 00:09:03.759 --> 00:09:06.559 Spears and Christina Aguilera that were completely 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:10.100 inappropriate at the time I wasn't thinking about 00:09:10.100 --> 00:09:12.440 that I was just it brings me back listening to 00:09:12.440 --> 00:09:14.659 those songs of a time when I didn't have responsibility, 00:09:14.659 --> 00:09:17.870 right? So that's what So you just don't want 00:09:17.870 --> 00:09:21.710 responsibility now. I'm gonna debunk the whole 00:09:21.710 --> 00:09:24.230 thing. I totally get it. That's good. You're 00:09:24.230 --> 00:09:26.710 just gonna be devil's advocate and just poke 00:09:26.710 --> 00:09:33.169 holes in my nostalgic behaviors? Well, to quote 00:09:33.169 --> 00:09:37.429 Clay Rutledge of one of our, don't you talk about 00:09:37.429 --> 00:09:40.029 Clay like that, of one of the articles that you 00:09:40.029 --> 00:09:45.570 sent me. Love him. When people reflect on past 00:09:45.570 --> 00:09:48.929 meaningful experiences, they become motivated 00:09:48.929 --> 00:09:53.669 to prioritize meaning in the present. And I support 00:09:53.669 --> 00:09:59.269 that. Okay, hold on. You know I'm a little bit 00:09:59.269 --> 00:10:02.029 slower on the intake. Say it again. Well, this 00:10:02.029 --> 00:10:04.889 is from Harvard Business School. Say it differently. 00:10:05.950 --> 00:10:10.830 Okay. So when you are thinking of your past experiences, 00:10:11.230 --> 00:10:12.750 there's stuff that actually means something to 00:10:12.750 --> 00:10:15.129 you, right? They're the moments that mean something 00:10:15.129 --> 00:10:19.389 that motivates you to prioritize meaningful moments 00:10:19.389 --> 00:10:22.470 in your present life. Got it. That I can wrap 00:10:22.470 --> 00:10:25.029 my head around wanting to like travel back in 00:10:25.029 --> 00:10:28.769 time. So to like get you out of bouts of stress, 00:10:29.149 --> 00:10:31.529 anxiety or loneliness that I can get behind. 00:10:31.669 --> 00:10:34.250 Are you, but what I'm getting from what you're 00:10:34.250 --> 00:10:37.830 saying is I don't care what you're getting from 00:10:37.830 --> 00:10:42.330 it. What I'm getting from it is that you try 00:10:42.330 --> 00:10:47.590 and bring back those good carefree memories into 00:10:47.590 --> 00:10:50.909 your present day to recreate them or in a different 00:10:50.909 --> 00:10:53.570 way, maybe. Well, I think for you, because that's 00:10:53.570 --> 00:10:56.950 where we're going to go here, right? Is that 00:10:56.950 --> 00:10:58.929 you want to keep your Christmas traditions because 00:10:58.929 --> 00:11:00.809 that gave you so much joy when you were a kid. 00:11:00.830 --> 00:11:02.509 So you want to share them with your kids. Yes. 00:11:02.590 --> 00:11:06.330 So those experiences you want to prioritize them 00:11:06.330 --> 00:11:10.529 in this present moment because they gave you 00:11:10.529 --> 00:11:13.850 meaning then and you're hoping to pass it along. 00:11:14.309 --> 00:11:18.490 Yeah. Is that what you said in your quote from 00:11:18.490 --> 00:11:24.549 my boy, Clay? Yeah. So just to circle back. Oh, 00:11:24.549 --> 00:11:28.700 my God. The reason it's so important for me to 00:11:28.700 --> 00:11:31.460 go take my kids to Disney World is because I 00:11:31.460 --> 00:11:35.220 loved it so much I want them to experience the 00:11:35.220 --> 00:11:38.539 happiness that I got true, but you also have 00:11:38.539 --> 00:11:42.340 to be careful of the fine line of Wanting them 00:11:42.340 --> 00:11:44.899 to just live the life that you had like you have 00:11:44.899 --> 00:11:50.220 to She died behind her eyes She it's complete 00:11:50.220 --> 00:11:53.960 glass She is all I said was don't and she was 00:11:53.960 --> 00:11:57.889 like nope We're good. I'm right. You're wrong. 00:11:57.970 --> 00:11:59.610 I'm big. You're small. I'm smart. You're stupid. 00:11:59.850 --> 00:12:03.789 Done. Thank you, Matilda. Mm -hmm. But I am going 00:12:03.789 --> 00:12:07.350 to continue. We press on. Okay. All right. Number 00:12:07.350 --> 00:12:10.789 two. Oh, no, no. What were you saying? No, don't 00:12:10.789 --> 00:12:12.610 worry. I'm sure I'll have an opportunity to come 00:12:12.610 --> 00:12:17.509 back to it. Material things. They're transitional 00:12:17.509 --> 00:12:20.730 objects. We love material things. I was confused 00:12:20.730 --> 00:12:28.600 by this one, but they said that Things that we 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:33.820 come back to like movies or toys Like there's 00:12:33.820 --> 00:12:38.179 like a 90s social media page That we pass to 00:12:38.179 --> 00:12:39.879 each other all the time and it's like remember 00:12:39.879 --> 00:12:43.940 this commercial remember this toy the Furby The 00:12:43.940 --> 00:12:46.720 bedazzled hair toy that like when you watched 00:12:46.720 --> 00:12:49.000 commercials like I wanted all those things, right? 00:12:50.430 --> 00:12:53.909 They were the transitional part of us to be able 00:12:53.909 --> 00:12:56.250 to self -regulate ourselves So like we yes we 00:12:56.250 --> 00:12:58.470 were if you were able to get those toys and those 00:12:58.470 --> 00:13:01.809 things and watch a movie It's because the caregiver 00:13:01.809 --> 00:13:05.090 moment the contact we got from whoever was in 00:13:05.090 --> 00:13:08.809 charge of us could Start to transition away where 00:13:08.809 --> 00:13:11.289 they could go do what they needed to do in the 00:13:11.289 --> 00:13:13.330 house But you were regulating yourself you were 00:13:13.330 --> 00:13:16.590 entertaining yourself So that's why those things 00:13:16.590 --> 00:13:19.480 You're gonna think like oh I love that toy. That 00:13:19.480 --> 00:13:21.399 was such a great time. It made me so happy. But 00:13:21.399 --> 00:13:24.139 it really, on a deeper level, you were learning 00:13:24.139 --> 00:13:29.639 how to get what you want by yourself. I did not. 00:13:30.100 --> 00:13:35.139 We know. I think that's fair. I did not look 00:13:35.139 --> 00:13:37.820 that deep into it. I was like, oh, yes, I get 00:13:37.820 --> 00:13:41.240 that. This item that I kept, like my bunny that 00:13:41.240 --> 00:13:43.320 I got in fifth grade when I got my appendix out, 00:13:43.480 --> 00:13:47.379 somebody, a couple sent to me that still sleeps 00:13:47.379 --> 00:13:49.799 on my bed. I still have it. That was what I was 00:13:49.799 --> 00:13:51.460 taking from it. You also can't move on from the 00:13:51.460 --> 00:13:54.059 past. So there's like a little bit of a gray 00:13:54.059 --> 00:13:56.940 area with you. But I, yes. Well, now my kids 00:13:56.940 --> 00:14:00.080 fight to sleep with my bunny. Like, can I sleep 00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:01.299 with it tonight? Can I sleep with this night? 00:14:01.580 --> 00:14:04.740 Because that would be a material item that means 00:14:04.740 --> 00:14:07.799 a lot to me. Now, getting your appendix out surely 00:14:07.799 --> 00:14:11.679 is not the nostalgic time that you'd think I 00:14:11.679 --> 00:14:14.580 want to remember. No, but that's That's a you 00:14:14.580 --> 00:14:16.899 were quite literally self soothing yourself. 00:14:17.059 --> 00:14:18.759 Yeah. And that was a help. And so that's what 00:14:18.759 --> 00:14:21.519 you connect to that. I guess. Yeah. I was thinking 00:14:21.519 --> 00:14:23.700 more like, you know, when when you were talking, 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:26.019 our cousin, Marissa, she's 10 years older than 00:14:26.019 --> 00:14:29.419 us. She it was really important to her when we 00:14:29.419 --> 00:14:33.039 were younger to show us the movies that she grew 00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:38.820 up on. Yep. And 16 Candles, Pretty in Pink, Say 00:14:38.820 --> 00:14:42.490 Anything, all those in the boombox. Yep. all 00:14:42.490 --> 00:14:45.190 those 80s movies that meant a lot to her, Ferris 00:14:45.190 --> 00:14:48.690 Bueller. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. So she would make 00:14:48.690 --> 00:14:51.309 it a point to show them to us because they were 00:14:51.309 --> 00:14:54.210 important to her and we loved them. But that's 00:14:54.210 --> 00:14:57.590 what I was thinking of, like meaning something 00:14:57.590 --> 00:15:00.629 to somebody else, passing it along, hoping it 00:15:00.629 --> 00:15:03.049 means just as much to those people. But it's 00:15:03.049 --> 00:15:06.750 not going to mean the same. No, that's not what 00:15:06.750 --> 00:15:12.059 it means. Yeah. But I like it. It kind of like, 00:15:12.139 --> 00:15:15.120 yeah, she passed that on. That was a great memory 00:15:15.120 --> 00:15:16.799 and moment in experience for her. She wants to 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:18.200 prioritize that in the present moment. So that 00:15:18.200 --> 00:15:20.659 was the first moment we talked about. But it's 00:15:20.659 --> 00:15:22.279 also, while we're watching it, we're getting 00:15:22.279 --> 00:15:24.480 something different. So it's a transitional, 00:15:25.100 --> 00:15:27.419 like, if you and I watched it with her and then 00:15:27.419 --> 00:15:30.159 we watched it on our own later, that would be 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:34.019 us doing it on our own, just like self -regulating, 00:15:34.299 --> 00:15:36.299 self -soothing, self -entertaining, whatever 00:15:36.299 --> 00:15:38.610 you want to call it. Which we did. after she 00:15:38.610 --> 00:15:41.230 showed us them, we would watch them on repeat. 00:15:41.830 --> 00:15:44.889 But yeah, it's the experience and it was nostalgic 00:15:44.889 --> 00:15:47.370 for her and now it's nostalgic for us. So it's 00:15:47.370 --> 00:15:50.990 like a full circle moment. So like if you read 00:15:50.990 --> 00:15:56.889 under the bolded title stuff, it says it. No, 00:15:57.009 --> 00:16:04.750 I know. Number three. I want to go ahead with 00:16:04.750 --> 00:16:09.259 number three. This one, well, three, four and 00:16:09.259 --> 00:16:11.799 five are like the same. They're a mesh. We were 00:16:11.799 --> 00:16:14.340 talking about this before. It doesn't sound like 00:16:14.340 --> 00:16:16.379 we talked about it before, but we did. I brought 00:16:16.379 --> 00:16:18.240 it up because I was like, I don't understand 00:16:18.240 --> 00:16:20.440 these last three. I didn't either. I didn't either. 00:16:20.759 --> 00:16:22.340 And they're really, it's all about the same thing. 00:16:23.480 --> 00:16:26.399 It's moments when you're sad or lonely, mainly 00:16:26.399 --> 00:16:28.799 lonely, but I think they're kind of hand in hand. 00:16:30.460 --> 00:16:34.549 You use nostalgia to try to reconnect. And so 00:16:34.549 --> 00:16:36.389 they're breaking it down in three different ways. 00:16:36.429 --> 00:16:39.149 So you're trying to connect loneliness, I'm sorry, 00:16:39.250 --> 00:16:42.230 you're trying to correct loneliness by thinking 00:16:42.230 --> 00:16:44.929 of the happier times. Which I don't think there's 00:16:44.929 --> 00:16:47.690 anything wrong with that. No. But that, and I 00:16:47.690 --> 00:16:48.769 think that's the only one that makes sense to 00:16:48.769 --> 00:16:53.789 me. Well, here it does say that the nostalgic 00:16:53.789 --> 00:16:57.370 and the positive nostalgia was coming. pretty 00:16:57.370 --> 00:17:00.029 much to the forefront during COVID. Why? Because 00:17:00.029 --> 00:17:02.929 everybody was alone. Everybody was at home. People 00:17:02.929 --> 00:17:06.589 were on the internet trying to look for or grasp 00:17:06.589 --> 00:17:08.809 at anything that would make them feel less lonely. 00:17:09.089 --> 00:17:11.829 And what does that mean? It means watching old 00:17:11.829 --> 00:17:14.210 movies that you haven't watched in a while, talking 00:17:14.210 --> 00:17:16.029 to people that you haven't talked to in a really 00:17:16.029 --> 00:17:17.950 long time because all you can do is zoom and 00:17:17.950 --> 00:17:21.470 text and phone call. So I do think there was 00:17:21.470 --> 00:17:23.750 my favorite big word to use. I'm going to use 00:17:23.750 --> 00:17:28.319 it in like every podcast, a resurgence. of nostalgia 00:17:28.319 --> 00:17:31.839 and I don't know if it's our algorithms. Stop 00:17:31.839 --> 00:17:34.339 saying big words. Oh my god. Oh my god. Resurgence, 00:17:34.619 --> 00:17:42.420 algorithms, memes. But my algorithm is constantly 00:17:42.420 --> 00:17:45.910 looking back into the 80s. I sent you one the 00:17:45.910 --> 00:17:48.069 other day of what the mall looks like now versus 00:17:48.069 --> 00:17:50.009 what the mall looked like at Christmas in the 00:17:50.009 --> 00:17:52.829 80s and 90s. And it was amazing. It was like 00:17:52.829 --> 00:17:55.910 the place to be. Oh, it was colorful and it looked 00:17:55.910 --> 00:17:58.849 like such a happier time. And so it makes me 00:17:58.849 --> 00:18:01.950 sad, but it also makes me happy to remember and 00:18:01.950 --> 00:18:04.250 sad that we don't live in a world like that anymore. 00:18:04.250 --> 00:18:06.750 So I don't know how I feel about sitting at home 00:18:06.750 --> 00:18:09.349 alone. That's what I mean. And reminiscing about 00:18:09.349 --> 00:18:10.970 all the times that aren't going to happen anymore. 00:18:11.069 --> 00:18:15.319 Exactly. Or. Like the number four or three. I 00:18:15.319 --> 00:18:18.000 don't know. I put them all in one The lonely 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:20.799 self now reminisces about the connected self 00:18:20.799 --> 00:18:23.319 you used to be right like that that to me is 00:18:23.319 --> 00:18:26.579 like depressing right? That's not positive But 00:18:26.579 --> 00:18:29.519 if they're saying it's in a in a there's a goodness 00:18:29.519 --> 00:18:32.740 to that So maybe that will drive you to me step 00:18:32.740 --> 00:18:35.079 out of your comfort zone again So this morning 00:18:35.079 --> 00:18:37.940 when I went for a run, I was listening to I was 00:18:37.940 --> 00:18:40.670 running like somebody was about to come get me 00:18:40.670 --> 00:18:43.109 because I was listening to a murder podcast. 00:18:43.690 --> 00:18:45.390 And as I was listening, I was running. And then 00:18:45.390 --> 00:18:46.650 I was like, you know what? I don't want to do 00:18:46.650 --> 00:18:49.490 this. For some reason, it just switched. And 00:18:49.490 --> 00:18:52.950 I started listening to The Last Five Years, a 00:18:52.950 --> 00:18:55.930 musical that I really, really love. Random. Random. 00:18:56.369 --> 00:19:00.450 But it made me so happy because while I was listening 00:19:00.450 --> 00:19:03.460 to it, I was thinking of where I was. which is 00:19:03.460 --> 00:19:05.539 I lived in New York at the time. Andrew and I 00:19:05.539 --> 00:19:09.319 would put that CD on, on a CD player, and listen 00:19:09.319 --> 00:19:11.740 to it in our New York apartment. So old. As we 00:19:11.740 --> 00:19:14.240 were actors in New York. And I was just like 00:19:14.240 --> 00:19:16.319 listening to the music, but also thinking about, 00:19:16.319 --> 00:19:18.279 oh, remember what? That was my favorite restaurant 00:19:18.279 --> 00:19:21.940 that we used to go to in New York. So I was remembering 00:19:21.940 --> 00:19:24.759 all the good things that came along with this 00:19:24.759 --> 00:19:28.400 CD. And that's what made me happy. Yeah, I get 00:19:28.400 --> 00:19:32.799 that. So it wasn't so much the song as the place 00:19:32.799 --> 00:19:35.200 that it brings you back to when you're listening 00:19:35.200 --> 00:19:37.680 to it. Well I think we've talked about this uh 00:19:37.680 --> 00:19:41.440 this little I don't know tidbit before where 00:19:41.440 --> 00:19:44.900 there's like a thing that if the reason you have 00:19:44.900 --> 00:19:47.740 a wedding song is because that song brings you 00:19:47.740 --> 00:19:49.640 back to that specific person and when you play 00:19:49.640 --> 00:19:53.400 it at your wedding and it's a joyous time every 00:19:53.400 --> 00:19:56.420 time you hear it post wedding go back to that 00:19:56.420 --> 00:19:59.640 moment. We've never talked about this. We have, 00:19:59.680 --> 00:20:02.460 go back to episode, no, I can't remember, but 00:20:02.460 --> 00:20:05.740 it's the same thing where flowers, if you put 00:20:05.740 --> 00:20:08.740 flowers around you at the altar, when you smell 00:20:08.740 --> 00:20:11.480 that, it will bring you back. We did talk about 00:20:11.480 --> 00:20:13.000 it, it was a while ago though. It was a long 00:20:13.000 --> 00:20:14.500 time ago. I did not have flowers at my wedding, 00:20:15.099 --> 00:20:18.059 so. They're expensive. Just like the heat, just 00:20:18.059 --> 00:20:23.900 like the heat. Heat is a necessity. Ooh, let's 00:20:23.900 --> 00:20:28.400 research that later. But it's that's the sensory. 00:20:30.019 --> 00:20:32.160 There's sensory things to nostalgia, I think 00:20:32.160 --> 00:20:34.680 is what I'm trying to say. No, I get that. Smells 00:20:34.680 --> 00:20:39.319 bring you places. Sounds bring you places. Someone 00:20:39.319 --> 00:20:41.559 saying a specific word triggers. Oh, my gosh. 00:20:41.740 --> 00:20:43.279 I couldn't remember that word earlier because 00:20:43.279 --> 00:20:44.980 someone said something that happens to me like 00:20:44.980 --> 00:20:49.240 daily. So there that I get. Yeah. The brain's 00:20:49.240 --> 00:20:54.599 like a crazy thing. But to quote C .S. Lewis. 00:20:55.099 --> 00:20:59.000 a famous Irish writer of the 20th century, known 00:20:59.000 --> 00:21:00.839 for things like the Chronicles of Narnia and 00:21:00.839 --> 00:21:03.539 the Lion Witch and the Ruridrobe, the past is 00:21:03.539 --> 00:21:07.480 frozen and no longer flows. That's not a surprise. 00:21:07.900 --> 00:21:09.759 Say it again. The what? Oh, are you not done 00:21:09.759 --> 00:21:15.539 the quote? No. OK. Mid quote. Sorry. She's not 00:21:15.539 --> 00:21:18.859 listening. She's already tuned out. The past 00:21:18.859 --> 00:21:21.440 is frozen and no longer flows and the present 00:21:21.440 --> 00:21:31.329 is all lit up. with eternal flames. OK. OK. So 00:21:31.329 --> 00:21:33.269 stay in the present moment. I know. And I think 00:21:33.269 --> 00:21:37.650 it's really hard. But so OK. Riddle me this. 00:21:38.390 --> 00:21:43.950 Riddle me this. Why do we get so excited when 00:21:43.950 --> 00:21:48.170 we do classes like Y2K or 2000s classes? We get 00:21:48.170 --> 00:21:53.690 so excited and I swear. To Jesus, we burn three 00:21:53.690 --> 00:21:56.069 times as many calories because we're having so 00:21:56.069 --> 00:22:00.130 much fun. He is rolling over in his tomb. Rolling 00:22:00.130 --> 00:22:02.710 over listening to Oops I Did It Again, probably. 00:22:03.009 --> 00:22:06.009 Because he literally does it every year. Oh my 00:22:06.009 --> 00:22:09.509 god. But that's how like Vicky feels when I do 00:22:09.509 --> 00:22:13.410 songs like Can't Harry Love by the Supremes or 00:22:13.410 --> 00:22:15.190 you know anything that's a little bit older. 00:22:15.250 --> 00:22:17.970 We do like Jackson 5. They love that because 00:22:17.970 --> 00:22:21.259 that was their childhood. I think it has something 00:22:21.259 --> 00:22:25.400 to do with not having to work that hard mentally. 00:22:25.680 --> 00:22:27.980 Like when you know the song so well, then you 00:22:27.980 --> 00:22:30.259 can just focus on like what we're asking you 00:22:30.259 --> 00:22:33.400 to do. You know what I mean? It's like muscle 00:22:33.400 --> 00:22:35.740 memory for the brain muscle of like, I know the 00:22:35.740 --> 00:22:37.740 song, I know the words, I know when the chorus 00:22:37.740 --> 00:22:40.359 is gonna drop, I know the difference. So you're 00:22:40.359 --> 00:22:42.599 not thinking about any of that. and then you 00:22:42.599 --> 00:22:45.880 can like have more fun dancing. Yeah. Yeah. You 00:22:45.880 --> 00:22:47.819 know, I don't mean it to be just about music, 00:22:47.819 --> 00:22:50.180 but that's just what we live and do every day. 00:22:50.180 --> 00:22:53.059 So when a good song like Ciara's one, two step 00:22:53.059 --> 00:22:55.880 comes on, it immediately takes me back to like 00:22:55.880 --> 00:22:57.819 my friend, Janice, when we used to dance to that 00:22:57.819 --> 00:23:00.279 song in Philadelphia when I was 18 years old. 00:23:00.480 --> 00:23:04.259 And so while we're doing that song, it just makes 00:23:04.259 --> 00:23:06.440 me happy. I'm not thinking about you or what 00:23:06.440 --> 00:23:09.480 you're doing to it. I'm somewhere else. It just 00:23:09.480 --> 00:23:13.460 happened to me this morning. This love has taken 00:23:13.460 --> 00:23:15.940 its toll on me. It'll lift off or it's toll? 00:23:16.039 --> 00:23:21.019 Honestly, don't know. This love has taken its 00:23:21.019 --> 00:23:23.160 toll on me. Yeah, it's not lifting off. It's 00:23:23.160 --> 00:23:25.859 not lifting off. It's Maroon 5. Yeah, it's Maroon 00:23:25.859 --> 00:23:28.900 5, but that was my first hip hop classic, Crush. 00:23:29.559 --> 00:23:32.240 And John has taught that. Yes. And it was that 00:23:32.240 --> 00:23:33.839 song. And I was like, wow, this is a hip hop 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:37.259 song. And then the dance was awesome. But that's 00:23:37.259 --> 00:23:39.400 what I think of. I remember that. And that was 00:23:39.400 --> 00:23:41.519 my friend Janice, who reminds me of One Two Step, 00:23:41.680 --> 00:23:44.059 because One Two Step was the first class I ever 00:23:44.059 --> 00:23:46.059 took with him. Oh, yeah. That's funny. At crash. 00:23:46.180 --> 00:23:50.059 That's so weird. All right. Good story. I didn't 00:23:50.059 --> 00:23:51.799 mean to give you the middle finger. She did. 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:55.859 She just itched the outside of her eye with a 00:23:55.859 --> 00:23:59.259 WTF. Cool. Cool. Cool. All right. So we're going 00:23:59.259 --> 00:24:01.660 to move on. to the benefits. Because moving on 00:24:01.660 --> 00:24:03.819 to the present moment is way better, right? But 00:24:03.819 --> 00:24:06.339 also remembering the past and enjoying that it 00:24:06.339 --> 00:24:09.500 was good is also fine, too. Well, according to 00:24:09.500 --> 00:24:13.200 Eckhart Tolle, our German writer and spiritual 00:24:13.200 --> 00:24:17.160 leader of self -help guru, do you know him? He's 00:24:17.160 --> 00:24:20.200 my bestie. No, really, do you know Eckhart? No. 00:24:20.700 --> 00:24:23.500 I don't know Edgar Eckhart. Eckhart. Carhart. 00:24:23.839 --> 00:24:27.359 Not Carthart. We live in two different worlds. 00:24:28.259 --> 00:24:34.269 Wherever you are, Be there. Totally. Remember 00:24:34.269 --> 00:24:40.990 my motto? You don't even remember why. Remember 00:24:40.990 --> 00:24:47.670 my motto? Be in it. It's be in it. Just one word. 00:24:47.670 --> 00:24:51.410 It's bayonet. It's bayonet. OK, so there are 00:24:51.410 --> 00:24:54.849 a couple of benefits. It boosts your mood and 00:24:54.849 --> 00:24:56.630 well -being, which I think is your whole point. 00:24:56.650 --> 00:25:00.210 Yeah, like the whole thing. point of doing this 00:25:00.210 --> 00:25:02.650 episode because I think it's really important. 00:25:03.430 --> 00:25:06.329 And I've just been noticing it in myself. Like, 00:25:06.329 --> 00:25:09.650 why do I love to go back to those times? Because 00:25:09.650 --> 00:25:13.470 it makes me happy. It brings back good memories. 00:25:13.589 --> 00:25:15.809 Not for a lot of people, but for me personally, 00:25:16.609 --> 00:25:18.809 the 90s were good memories. But is life like 00:25:18.809 --> 00:25:24.450 so bad now? No, I just, it's not what it... I 00:25:24.450 --> 00:25:27.109 think because of the kids, I have kids, I wanna 00:25:27.109 --> 00:25:30.269 - You have kids? Sometimes we're not so sure. 00:25:31.369 --> 00:25:35.250 I want them to have what I remember as having 00:25:35.250 --> 00:25:37.849 such a good childhood and I don't think the world 00:25:37.849 --> 00:25:41.069 is like, I know the world isn't what it used 00:25:41.069 --> 00:25:45.269 to be. Right. So I think I think about that a 00:25:45.269 --> 00:25:49.119 lot more. in those terms, like in that way, where 00:25:49.119 --> 00:25:50.599 I'm like, oh man, this was such a good time. 00:25:50.619 --> 00:25:52.140 We didn't have computers, we didn't have internet. 00:25:52.480 --> 00:25:55.440 I had to listen to a CD and make up a music video 00:25:55.440 --> 00:25:58.500 with my friends, but like they're like texting. 00:25:59.319 --> 00:26:01.859 Well, no, Melody is doing that, but with cab 00:26:01.859 --> 00:26:04.660 cut. Like she's doing it more, yeah, cap cut. 00:26:04.980 --> 00:26:07.720 She's doing it more advanced. I think that makes 00:26:07.720 --> 00:26:09.460 a lot of sense, but I also think you're mourning 00:26:09.460 --> 00:26:11.700 their childhoods. Like you're already mourning 00:26:11.700 --> 00:26:13.440 them, even though they're happening now because 00:26:13.440 --> 00:26:15.500 they're not able to happen the way you did it. 00:26:15.500 --> 00:26:18.779 Right. Yeah, no, I agree with that. Which can 00:26:18.779 --> 00:26:24.880 be dangerous only for the fact that, like, you 00:26:24.880 --> 00:26:26.700 can't control what's happening now. You just 00:26:26.700 --> 00:26:31.700 have to try to, you know, make them... You don't 00:26:31.700 --> 00:26:34.059 want to stunt them, but you also want to, like, 00:26:34.119 --> 00:26:35.880 still keep them protected, which is hard. It's 00:26:35.880 --> 00:26:37.720 hard. And I think in my mind, I want to have 00:26:37.720 --> 00:26:41.960 80s babies. Like... No, you can't. Because you 00:26:41.960 --> 00:26:46.970 were 85. No, but I want them to have... the 80s 00:26:46.970 --> 00:26:49.470 and 90s. You can't. I know. I know that. They 00:26:49.470 --> 00:26:52.029 literally can't. I think that's what you're mourning. 00:26:52.109 --> 00:26:55.450 Yeah. Which makes sense. Like when we were talking 00:26:55.450 --> 00:26:57.390 about the birthday episode and I just want to 00:26:57.390 --> 00:27:00.730 have a cake and party with a couple of like my 00:27:00.730 --> 00:27:02.930 friends and my cousins, like that's the childhood 00:27:02.930 --> 00:27:05.730 that I want them to look back on and say, I would 00:27:05.730 --> 00:27:08.430 just want a cake at mom and dad's house. Then 00:27:08.430 --> 00:27:12.000 don't have kids in the summer. All of your children 00:27:12.000 --> 00:27:14.059 have summer birthdays and that will never happen. 00:27:14.359 --> 00:27:16.579 No, they're gonna say different things like oh 00:27:16.579 --> 00:27:21.400 Scotland or oh Vegas like Not with cousins. No, 00:27:21.559 --> 00:27:24.000 not with cousins. Not simple. Like I think I 00:27:24.000 --> 00:27:29.500 want to go their childhood memories are in Scotland 00:27:29.500 --> 00:27:34.380 and Vegas Get the fuck out of here Mine was at 00:27:34.380 --> 00:27:36.960 the Springfield mall or the putt putt that still 00:27:36.960 --> 00:27:40.859 hasn't changed I, yes, no, I know. I, but what 00:27:40.859 --> 00:27:46.000 you're saying, drop Mike. Don't drop your furry 00:27:46.000 --> 00:27:50.059 Mike. Um, yeah, no, don't call my micro furry. 00:27:50.259 --> 00:27:52.759 Yeah. Oh my God. Don't. Yeah, but no moving on. 00:27:52.859 --> 00:27:58.740 That's a great benefit boost. Okay. Increased 00:27:58.740 --> 00:28:01.660 feelings of social connectedness, which I think 00:28:01.660 --> 00:28:05.339 is just a sign of the times post COVID world. 00:28:05.720 --> 00:28:08.980 We are not as socially connected. That's why 00:28:08.980 --> 00:28:13.380 we have such a divide politically governmently 00:28:13.380 --> 00:28:16.619 Small world in your own individual like bubbles. 00:28:16.619 --> 00:28:19.559 We are all very divided and we want to just stay 00:28:19.559 --> 00:28:23.539 home. So like I Think that's just in in terms 00:28:23.539 --> 00:28:27.119 of like the world. That's And that's another 00:28:27.119 --> 00:28:31.140 reason like Like we didn't know anything political 00:28:31.140 --> 00:28:34.180 when we were my kids age I had no idea what a 00:28:34.180 --> 00:28:36.220 Democrat or Republican was. I didn't know what 00:28:36.220 --> 00:28:38.579 our president was. Was he a Democrat or Republican? 00:28:38.660 --> 00:28:42.079 I didn't know. My kids know. My six -year -old 00:28:42.079 --> 00:28:45.380 knows who was a Republican and who was a Democrat. 00:28:45.700 --> 00:28:51.640 At six, I hate that. Thanks, Mom. Carmella taught 00:28:51.640 --> 00:28:55.039 them that. Number three. No, but that's the thing. 00:28:55.519 --> 00:28:58.359 There's too much information. I want less information. 00:28:59.019 --> 00:29:03.960 Yeah, let's all talk less. That's not it. But 00:29:03.960 --> 00:29:06.079 I'm saying that's where the divide comes in. 00:29:06.400 --> 00:29:09.000 It's like, there's so much out there, whereas 00:29:09.000 --> 00:29:11.599 when we were young, there was not. I just think 00:29:11.599 --> 00:29:14.779 we were ignorant. Really? Yeah, I think. You 00:29:14.779 --> 00:29:16.819 thought six -year -olds in kindergarten knew 00:29:16.819 --> 00:29:20.480 political parties? No, we were ignorant. Our 00:29:20.480 --> 00:29:22.339 parents didn't talk about it. Back then, it was 00:29:22.339 --> 00:29:24.759 a, don't ask me who I voted for. Now, it's a, 00:29:24.900 --> 00:29:26.220 I need to know who you're a voter for so I know 00:29:26.220 --> 00:29:29.819 if I can, if we're cool. But do you think kindergartners 00:29:29.819 --> 00:29:33.470 should know that? information. I don't think 00:29:33.470 --> 00:29:38.190 that's ignorant. I think that's just like, not 00:29:38.190 --> 00:29:43.009 ignorant. Brilliant. I don't think kindergartners, 00:29:43.009 --> 00:29:44.670 first grade, second grade, third grade, fourth 00:29:44.670 --> 00:29:46.150 grade, I don't think they should know that information. 00:29:46.450 --> 00:29:49.150 But I think the reason we didn't know it was 00:29:49.150 --> 00:29:51.450 because of our parents and like we were ignorant 00:29:51.450 --> 00:29:53.390 to it because they didn't talk about it. That 00:29:53.390 --> 00:29:56.650 wasn't something at that time that you really, 00:29:57.869 --> 00:30:02.200 it was like secret. I remember Papa being like 00:30:02.200 --> 00:30:04.220 and and mom being like, I don't know who Papa 00:30:04.220 --> 00:30:06.779 we don't talk about. Yeah, you don't talk about 00:30:06.779 --> 00:30:09.480 it. So like back then, even though the world 00:30:09.480 --> 00:30:12.700 had its moments of blowing up because a lot obviously 00:30:12.700 --> 00:30:15.420 always history always repeats itself and like 00:30:15.420 --> 00:30:18.119 bad things happen. It wasn't talked about as 00:30:18.119 --> 00:30:20.039 much as exactly what you're saying. I think that's 00:30:20.039 --> 00:30:23.140 why I think it's not your Dean's not ignorant. 00:30:23.579 --> 00:30:28.339 We were we were so in a bubble that bubble has 00:30:28.339 --> 00:30:31.299 burst. Yeah. That bubble doesn't exist anymore. 00:30:31.420 --> 00:30:34.259 Yeah. I think that's what the difference is. 00:30:34.259 --> 00:30:37.599 And now it's like, we need to know. Like, he 00:30:37.599 --> 00:30:40.500 knows the signs on the lawns. And that, like, 00:30:40.500 --> 00:30:42.160 Melody will come home, and Lewis will come home 00:30:42.160 --> 00:30:44.880 and say, hey, Mom, do you know that so -and -so 00:30:44.880 --> 00:30:47.920 in my class, their parents voted for so -and 00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:50.900 -so? And I'm like, don't worry about that. You 00:30:50.900 --> 00:30:52.819 can still be friends with them. Like, don't let 00:30:52.819 --> 00:30:55.380 that, because it's like a bad thing when they 00:30:55.380 --> 00:30:57.380 say it. And I'm like, you don't have to worry 00:30:57.380 --> 00:30:59.390 about that. That's not something you have to 00:30:59.390 --> 00:31:00.750 worry about. I don't think they should be friends 00:31:00.750 --> 00:31:05.390 with them. Personally. But you know, you do you. 00:31:06.450 --> 00:31:09.930 Okay, number three provides a sense of meaning, 00:31:09.950 --> 00:31:11.910 which we've already talked about. That's a benefit. 00:31:12.789 --> 00:31:15.710 It means something to you. That means something's 00:31:15.710 --> 00:31:18.390 important and that means you can totally find 00:31:18.390 --> 00:31:20.710 some happiness and joy from reminiscing. Number 00:31:20.710 --> 00:31:24.450 four, inspires action and optimism. That is a 00:31:24.450 --> 00:31:27.369 little trickier. Why? Because it's hard to find. 00:31:29.659 --> 00:31:31.880 optimism right now, even when you're thinking 00:31:31.880 --> 00:31:34.240 of nostalgic things, because you can think of 00:31:34.240 --> 00:31:35.740 them and then you're like, how do I do that now? 00:31:35.819 --> 00:31:39.880 You can't. Well, I am overly optimistic that 00:31:39.880 --> 00:31:43.059 NSYNC will reunite and I will get a chance to 00:31:43.059 --> 00:31:45.380 see them one more time. And I am very optimistic 00:31:45.380 --> 00:31:48.680 about that. I'm not paying for that. Because 00:31:48.680 --> 00:31:54.160 it will be $1 ,500 as a ticket. It will be. Andrew 00:31:54.160 --> 00:31:57.960 knows. Mark my words. I will be going. I don't 00:31:57.960 --> 00:32:00.880 care where in the world it is. I am optimistic. 00:32:01.160 --> 00:32:04.000 And I do think everyone needs to have a little 00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:07.259 bit of optimism, not just about in sync, reuniting. 00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:09.599 Just in the world, if there's no optimism and 00:32:09.599 --> 00:32:11.240 we don't think things are going to get better, 00:32:11.339 --> 00:32:14.200 how the heck do you live day to day? If you don't 00:32:14.200 --> 00:32:17.859 think things are going to get better, how do 00:32:17.859 --> 00:32:22.259 you go on? Well, that's a good question. My boy, 00:32:23.640 --> 00:32:28.980 Siddhartha Gautama. What? Also known as Buddha. 00:32:29.599 --> 00:32:33.039 Oh. You know he was a real person, right? I didn't 00:32:33.039 --> 00:32:34.880 know his name was Seed Harta. Yeah, something 00:32:34.880 --> 00:32:38.400 like that. Seed Harth, Hartha. Did you phonetically 00:32:38.400 --> 00:32:40.500 write that in your book? No, those are letters. 00:32:40.660 --> 00:32:43.240 Oh, those are just letters put together. I wrote 00:32:43.240 --> 00:32:45.279 glyphics. Well, all my writing looks like that. 00:32:45.279 --> 00:32:48.720 Yeah, we digress. The secret of health for both 00:32:48.720 --> 00:32:52.359 mind and body is not to mourn for the past. Damn 00:32:52.359 --> 00:32:57.289 it. Worry about the future. or anticipate troubles, 00:32:58.230 --> 00:33:01.670 but to live in the present moment wisely and 00:33:01.670 --> 00:33:05.569 earnestly. And Buddha said that, you know, so 00:33:05.569 --> 00:33:10.289 Buddha, Buddha, Buddha, Buddha. I am a worst 00:33:10.289 --> 00:33:13.869 case scenario person as much as I am. I am an 00:33:13.869 --> 00:33:20.769 anomaly. Damn straight. I would love to live 00:33:20.769 --> 00:33:23.650 in the past in my carefree responsibility free, 00:33:23.670 --> 00:33:26.920 but I am a Worst case scenario, everything bad 00:33:26.920 --> 00:33:29.019 is going to happen. But I want to be optimistic 00:33:29.019 --> 00:33:31.960 about the future, but I know that something bad 00:33:31.960 --> 00:33:34.119 is going to happen. You are a perfect mix of 00:33:34.119 --> 00:33:37.480 your mother and father. That's what your anomaly 00:33:37.480 --> 00:33:42.500 is. You heard it here first, folks. I'm just 00:33:42.500 --> 00:33:44.259 making realizations. I'm living in the moment. 00:33:44.339 --> 00:33:50.380 I'm going to be at it. It also helps with different 00:33:50.380 --> 00:33:55.289 transitions. I think that's just, that's very 00:33:55.289 --> 00:33:57.130 accurate. That's very true. Like when you're 00:33:57.130 --> 00:33:58.769 moving from one house to the next, you're going 00:33:58.769 --> 00:34:00.069 to reminisce about all the good times you had 00:34:00.069 --> 00:34:01.690 in this house. And then you're also going to 00:34:01.690 --> 00:34:03.990 be optimistic of like, well, this is what we 00:34:03.990 --> 00:34:06.190 can do in the new house, right? That type of, 00:34:06.190 --> 00:34:09.130 that type of thing. I was watching a commercial 00:34:09.130 --> 00:34:11.369 the other night, uh, the other night meeting 00:34:11.369 --> 00:34:14.849 last night and it was, well, it was for Christmas 00:34:14.849 --> 00:34:18.570 hoarders. So I know you're not going to know 00:34:18.570 --> 00:34:22.889 where I'm going with this, but I, I a little 00:34:22.889 --> 00:34:28.320 bit. understood why they hoarded Christmas lights, 00:34:28.980 --> 00:34:32.400 decorations, outside decorations, inside decorations, 00:34:32.619 --> 00:34:35.500 presents, because they like that feeling. TV 00:34:35.500 --> 00:34:38.599 show. A TV show, yeah. I thought it was something 00:34:38.599 --> 00:34:41.900 you could purchase. No, it's not a game. It's 00:34:41.900 --> 00:34:44.739 not, it does not go under the tree. Could be, 00:34:44.800 --> 00:34:51.079 could be a game. Write it down. I felt for them 00:34:51.079 --> 00:34:53.619 because they were trying to hold on to a time 00:34:53.619 --> 00:34:56.059 from their childhood and it became a disease 00:34:56.059 --> 00:34:59.260 where they could not let it go. Yeah. And they 00:34:59.260 --> 00:35:03.820 just now live in a house. Very colorful. You 00:35:03.820 --> 00:35:07.139 talk about yourself there. No, I mean, floor 00:35:07.139 --> 00:35:09.900 to ceiling. Can't walk through the house. Yeah. 00:35:09.900 --> 00:35:12.659 Christmas decorations. It's sad. And I know that 00:35:12.659 --> 00:35:15.099 it's a disease, but I felt bad for them because 00:35:15.099 --> 00:35:17.579 I was like something happened to them where they. 00:35:17.929 --> 00:35:20.849 want to remember that childhood time and they 00:35:20.849 --> 00:35:23.510 can't let go of it so much. Or they didn't get 00:35:23.510 --> 00:35:25.269 it. Or they didn't get it. So they're buying 00:35:25.269 --> 00:35:27.909 it all and quite literally hoarding it. Yeah. 00:35:27.949 --> 00:35:32.269 And I was like, oh, I understand. I don't ever 00:35:32.269 --> 00:35:34.929 want to get that bad, but I... Oh, you will. 00:35:35.710 --> 00:35:38.969 I understand. You definitely will. Because it 00:35:38.969 --> 00:35:41.170 was either a very good time or something that 00:35:41.170 --> 00:35:43.909 they never got. So they're trying to recreate 00:35:43.909 --> 00:35:48.150 that... good memory and get those good feelings. 00:35:48.150 --> 00:35:52.190 And I can understand that. Or just take it moment 00:35:52.190 --> 00:35:55.989 to moment. Yesterday is over. It's gone. Can't 00:35:55.989 --> 00:35:59.829 get it back. It's over. Tomorrow, who knows? 00:35:59.849 --> 00:36:01.329 It doesn't matter because today, this is all 00:36:01.329 --> 00:36:03.610 you have. This moment on this couch with this 00:36:03.610 --> 00:36:07.090 amazing blanket. This is the outfit that I die 00:36:07.090 --> 00:36:08.889 in? Is that what you're trying to tell me? That 00:36:08.889 --> 00:36:15.510 was your choice to look like a poop. That was 00:36:15.510 --> 00:36:17.710 your choice. Well, while we're feeling nostalgic, 00:36:17.710 --> 00:36:21.230 we're going to play a little game. The game is 00:36:21.230 --> 00:36:25.610 called 90s, babe. Victoria doesn't know it, but 00:36:25.610 --> 00:36:27.269 I'm going to ask her questions and she has to 00:36:27.269 --> 00:36:29.889 have rapid fire answer. She doesn't like rapid 00:36:29.889 --> 00:36:32.809 fire games. I know this about her. I'm feeling 00:36:32.809 --> 00:36:35.070 nostalgic and not caring. I do not, but I have 00:36:35.070 --> 00:36:36.849 to go to work, so we're going to make this quick. 00:36:37.269 --> 00:36:40.469 What time is it? 1026. OK, we'll make it just 00:36:40.469 --> 00:36:43.030 I mean, it's it's in your court. You make it 00:36:43.030 --> 00:36:45.920 quick. Also my birthday. Well, it is not your. 00:36:46.320 --> 00:36:48.559 Oh, yeah. Oh, happy birthday. Victoria was her 00:36:48.559 --> 00:36:51.099 birthday on Sunday. We won't do an episode about 00:36:51.099 --> 00:36:54.719 it, though. She is. We will win your 40, but 00:36:54.719 --> 00:36:57.800 you're not. We won't be doing this by then. Oh, 00:36:57.840 --> 00:37:01.340 well, you know what? I was just thinking we we 00:37:01.340 --> 00:37:03.119 might. I'm just kidding. I don't know. I'm only 00:37:03.119 --> 00:37:04.719 living in the moment. Thanksgiving is coming 00:37:04.719 --> 00:37:09.420 up. Right. And three years ago, Victoria decided, 00:37:09.639 --> 00:37:11.440 oh, well, when you come home for Thanksgiving, 00:37:11.599 --> 00:37:13.460 we're going to do a podcast. You're just going 00:37:13.460 --> 00:37:15.860 to start something. OK. Last Thanksgiving, she 00:37:15.860 --> 00:37:19.539 said, OK, well, you need to buy a weighted vest. 00:37:19.760 --> 00:37:21.480 What are you going to do this Thanksgiving? What 00:37:21.480 --> 00:37:23.579 are you going to spring on me as I'm driving 00:37:23.579 --> 00:37:27.440 upstate to Thanksgiving? Podcast weighted vest. 00:37:27.579 --> 00:37:32.059 What's this year? Well, you're nostalgia is close. 00:37:33.360 --> 00:37:36.179 It was New Year. Oh, yeah, that's right. But 00:37:36.179 --> 00:37:41.019 yes, November was the best. So, you know, stay 00:37:41.019 --> 00:37:43.239 tuned. Are you going to text me and be like, 00:37:43.360 --> 00:37:47.300 now you must purchase this and do this? Yeah, 00:37:47.300 --> 00:37:51.400 but I'm going to send you two. So you buy mine. 00:37:51.780 --> 00:37:54.960 90s, babe. Oh, all right. What was your favorite 00:37:54.960 --> 00:38:00.420 subject in school? Oh, art. What's the weirdest 00:38:00.420 --> 00:38:04.079 thing you've ever eaten as a child? My boogers. 00:38:04.320 --> 00:38:06.940 Ew. She did. She gave it up for Lent one year. 00:38:08.940 --> 00:38:10.300 Somebody said, what are you giving it for lunch? 00:38:10.340 --> 00:38:13.039 She's like, eating my boogies. She's disgusting. 00:38:13.360 --> 00:38:19.320 What's your go -to karaoke song? I'm reading 00:38:19.320 --> 00:38:20.860 it, but I can't say it out loud. My brain's not 00:38:20.860 --> 00:38:25.800 working. Journey. Don't Stop Believing. Don't 00:38:25.800 --> 00:38:29.179 stop believing. This doesn't really apply to 00:38:29.179 --> 00:38:30.900 us because we didn't have emojis growing up, 00:38:30.900 --> 00:38:34.039 but what emoji did you use the most? Just do 00:38:34.039 --> 00:38:37.599 it for now because we didn't have emojis. Oh. 00:38:38.309 --> 00:38:41.090 Right now I'm probably the laughing one, but 00:38:41.090 --> 00:38:43.929 growing up I was probably a peacer. Interesting. 00:38:44.429 --> 00:38:46.869 What's your favorite way to celebrate a special 00:38:46.869 --> 00:38:50.949 occasion? Like as a child? Wait, what? As a child? 00:38:51.269 --> 00:38:55.869 Hold on. What was your favorite way to celebrate 00:38:55.869 --> 00:38:59.590 a special occasion? We did family dinners and 00:38:59.590 --> 00:39:01.610 family parties for everything. Yeah. Like if 00:39:01.610 --> 00:39:04.769 I were Louis, he would say going to Hibachi every 00:39:04.769 --> 00:39:06.289 special occasion. He's like, can we go to Hibachi? 00:39:06.630 --> 00:39:13.650 You sound crazy. Hibachi, Scotland and Vegas. 00:39:13.829 --> 00:39:17.429 Remember that, folks. Good Lord. What's your 00:39:17.429 --> 00:39:21.230 favorite holiday season? I know it's a really 00:39:21.230 --> 00:39:24.670 hard one. It's spooky season, but it's Christmas 00:39:24.670 --> 00:39:27.760 holiday. As a child or now? Like when you were 00:39:27.760 --> 00:39:29.679 a kid, what was your favorite season? Well, what 00:39:29.679 --> 00:39:31.780 are we talking about? We're talking nostalgia, 00:39:32.099 --> 00:39:38.480 90s, babe. Yeah, then Christmas as a kid. I didn't 00:39:38.480 --> 00:39:42.059 get witchy until - What was the silliest habit 00:39:42.059 --> 00:39:46.320 you had as a child? I mean, I'd wear anything. 00:39:46.360 --> 00:39:48.960 I didn't care about anything. Yeah, I would agree 00:39:48.960 --> 00:39:53.760 with that. You look like a poop. Don't roll your 00:39:53.760 --> 00:39:56.800 eyes at me. As a child, I was baller. in my second 00:39:56.800 --> 00:39:59.059 hand champion. What was your favorite childhood 00:39:59.059 --> 00:40:06.340 toy? I really liked our cousin's blue phone. 00:40:07.260 --> 00:40:09.519 Oh my God. Do you remember that? Yes. We'd get 00:40:09.519 --> 00:40:11.219 it out of there. They had like literally a toy 00:40:11.219 --> 00:40:13.960 closet and you all of their toys were just like 00:40:13.960 --> 00:40:16.280 thrown in there and I would always get the blue. 00:40:16.760 --> 00:40:19.599 It had a cord on it and it had a dial like a 00:40:19.599 --> 00:40:21.260 circle dial. A dial phone. It was blue. That 00:40:21.260 --> 00:40:24.739 was baby blue. Wow. What was your favorite childhood 00:40:24.739 --> 00:40:29.920 board game? We played Trivial Pursuit a lot. 00:40:30.079 --> 00:40:33.320 We did, and Life. I feel like. I don't remember 00:40:33.320 --> 00:40:35.880 Life. Oh, Julie and I, yeah, yeah, yeah. We used 00:40:35.880 --> 00:40:37.739 to play Life and get all the friends in the car 00:40:37.739 --> 00:40:38.760 and the babies. And you'd be a little in the 00:40:38.760 --> 00:40:40.659 car, yeah, yeah, yeah. What was your favorite 00:40:40.659 --> 00:40:42.960 TV show? See how she's telling me what my memories 00:40:42.960 --> 00:40:45.719 really are? Because this girl's brain is fried 00:40:45.719 --> 00:40:50.260 on, I don't know what. Just kidding, she doesn't 00:40:50.260 --> 00:40:54.360 do that. Weed. Yeah. I'm not high in this moment, 00:40:54.679 --> 00:40:57.460 but thank you. I don't know what the question 00:40:57.460 --> 00:40:59.739 was. What the fuck are we talking about now? 00:41:00.860 --> 00:41:04.500 What was your favorite TV show? Oh my God. Oh, 00:41:04.519 --> 00:41:06.480 Girl of Girl Island does like a kindergartener, 00:41:06.599 --> 00:41:09.860 but then Full House. Oh, and Boy Meets World. 00:41:10.099 --> 00:41:12.039 I started watching Full House again. Cooper. 00:41:12.599 --> 00:41:17.320 Hang in with Mr. Cooper. I did. I started season 00:41:17.320 --> 00:41:20.980 one. Full House. They're fuller. Oh, full house. 00:41:22.019 --> 00:41:25.219 Like, we're not surprised. I mean, Jesse's mullet 00:41:25.219 --> 00:41:28.579 was legit. Okay, a couple more. What were your, 00:41:28.659 --> 00:41:33.159 what was your favorite childhood saying? I know 00:41:33.159 --> 00:41:35.659 what mine was. Besides cut it out. Yeah. And 00:41:35.659 --> 00:41:39.139 like, you got it, dude. I would say smile every 00:41:39.139 --> 00:41:42.980 day. I got it tattooed on me. Interesting. I 00:41:42.980 --> 00:41:45.079 would write it and I only wrote to my mother 00:41:45.079 --> 00:41:48.960 because God forbid, I wouldn't write it to you. 00:41:49.219 --> 00:41:54.440 Duh. That's what I would say. Duh. No, you would 00:41:54.440 --> 00:41:58.300 say, this isn't about you, but you would say, 00:41:59.320 --> 00:42:02.340 she would add an uh to every word. Every single 00:42:02.340 --> 00:42:06.880 word she added an uh. Come on. Oh my God. I'm 00:42:06.880 --> 00:42:12.699 gonna go outside. I don't want to eat that. Why 00:42:12.699 --> 00:42:16.920 did I do that? You did everything. Everything. 00:42:17.559 --> 00:42:23.460 No. Stop. Oh, my God. That's so annoying. I hope 00:42:23.460 --> 00:42:28.179 Melody never hears this. What was the will? No, 00:42:28.260 --> 00:42:32.980 she will not. What was the most ridiculous thing 00:42:32.980 --> 00:42:36.300 you did to get your way? I know I didn't. I never 00:42:36.300 --> 00:42:40.570 got my way. That is not true. As a kid, I had 00:42:40.570 --> 00:42:42.610 to tag along whatever anybody else did. I didn't 00:42:42.610 --> 00:42:45.469 get my way ever. Last thing, last thing. What 00:42:45.469 --> 00:42:48.110 was the silliest thing you collected as a child? 00:42:49.610 --> 00:42:56.050 Keys. I randomly would find keys on the floor 00:42:56.050 --> 00:42:59.230 and I would always pick them up outside people's 00:42:59.230 --> 00:43:02.690 backyards. I had a collection of metal keys that 00:43:02.690 --> 00:43:04.710 opened nothing. Well, you learn something new 00:43:04.710 --> 00:43:07.849 every day. I had no idea. I don't think I would 00:43:07.849 --> 00:43:09.849 have cared back then. I don't really care right 00:43:09.849 --> 00:43:13.690 now, but I did not know that. I was going to 00:43:13.690 --> 00:43:18.230 say Pogs. I had Pogs. That was so silly. No, 00:43:18.250 --> 00:43:21.250 it was awesome. Pogs were too legit to quit. 00:43:21.429 --> 00:43:23.230 They were amazing. And Beanie Babies. We had 00:43:23.230 --> 00:43:24.690 all the Beanie Babies because we were going to 00:43:24.690 --> 00:43:28.650 be millionaires. Yep. I still have them. Heat's 00:43:28.650 --> 00:43:35.369 not on. Princess Bear, Purple Bear is not helping. 00:43:35.750 --> 00:43:39.949 Diana, Princess Diana. I have her with her, her 00:43:39.949 --> 00:43:43.010 tag protector. Yes, the tag protectors. Oh my 00:43:43.010 --> 00:43:45.590 God, when we got tag protectors. And then McDonald's 00:43:45.590 --> 00:43:47.789 sold mini Beanie Babies with your - The freaking 00:43:47.789 --> 00:43:52.269 platypus. Oh, I have her. Yeah. Worth nothing. 00:43:52.989 --> 00:43:54.449 Couldn't play with them back then because we 00:43:54.449 --> 00:43:56.190 would get them as presents and then our mom would 00:43:56.190 --> 00:43:59.320 take them from us and put them away. And now 00:43:59.320 --> 00:44:01.199 she's giving them to your kids. She's like, go 00:44:01.199 --> 00:44:04.159 upstairs in the bin. You touch my cat. Melody 00:44:04.159 --> 00:44:05.780 probably has my cat. She does have the cat. The 00:44:05.780 --> 00:44:07.360 bull. You remember the bull? Yes, I remember 00:44:07.360 --> 00:44:10.139 the bull. Listen out there. See, this is a bad 00:44:10.139 --> 00:44:13.860 nostalgic moment. I am mad. I am upset. My first 00:44:13.860 --> 00:44:17.380 beanie baby was when I was home with my appendectomy 00:44:17.380 --> 00:44:20.500 in fifth grade. It was Sparky the Dalmatian. 00:44:20.579 --> 00:44:23.650 Sparky. And I took that tag right off, because 00:44:23.650 --> 00:44:26.230 we didn't know. The names of them. Sparky. I 00:44:26.230 --> 00:44:28.889 loved the dolphin. I took the dolphin everywhere. 00:44:29.070 --> 00:44:31.949 I don't remember the name, though. But that reminds 00:44:31.949 --> 00:44:34.429 me of a good time. I remember Sparky. I remember 00:44:34.429 --> 00:44:38.030 getting my first Beanie Baby. And I enjoyed that. 00:44:38.150 --> 00:44:40.030 I was in the moment then. I'm remembering that 00:44:40.030 --> 00:44:43.309 moment now. You're not in the moment now. Not 00:44:43.309 --> 00:44:46.860 here. I'm back there. Right, that's the problem. 00:44:47.340 --> 00:44:50.840 Hold the phone. I agree with all of this because 00:44:50.840 --> 00:44:52.900 I can remember all that. What was the thing I 00:44:52.900 --> 00:44:56.780 said the other night? When we separated rooms 00:44:56.780 --> 00:44:59.119 and I got my own room, the smallest room in the 00:44:59.119 --> 00:45:04.940 house, the loft bed and I had cow print inflatable 00:45:04.940 --> 00:45:08.780 furniture. That's a great memory. I remember 00:45:08.780 --> 00:45:11.239 reading all the books on those inflatable chairs 00:45:11.239 --> 00:45:15.179 until they got a hole and then I slowly... but 00:45:15.179 --> 00:45:17.719 I had a footstool, I had a table, all cow print. 00:45:17.860 --> 00:45:20.079 I remember those. You just can't live in that. 00:45:20.639 --> 00:45:22.539 Well, I tried to because for her birthday, why 00:45:22.539 --> 00:45:24.280 don't you tell everybody what I got you for your 00:45:24.280 --> 00:45:26.860 birthday? I'm really trying to have Victoria 00:45:26.860 --> 00:45:30.719 recreate good memories. A denim cow dress. Cow 00:45:30.719 --> 00:45:34.159 print. With a sweater that has a horse on the 00:45:34.159 --> 00:45:38.039 back and a denim jacket that's mostly a sheep. 00:45:39.179 --> 00:45:42.679 It's a Sherpa denim jacket. She wears cow prints. 00:45:42.960 --> 00:45:45.820 She is a horse girl, and I knew that she would 00:45:45.820 --> 00:45:47.860 like that jeans jacket. Whether she ever wears 00:45:47.860 --> 00:45:50.000 it out in public, I'm not sure, but we'll make 00:45:50.000 --> 00:45:52.199 sure she wears it next week on this podcast. 00:45:55.940 --> 00:45:57.820 If you don't want it, give it to me. I'll wear 00:45:57.820 --> 00:46:12.500 it. Worth it. Totally worth it. Well, we don't 00:46:12.500 --> 00:46:14.099 have real tips and real extra tips because we 00:46:14.099 --> 00:46:18.619 can only do so much, okay? But I would say to 00:46:18.619 --> 00:46:22.360 just, I don't know, play an old game. Yeah. Like 00:46:22.360 --> 00:46:24.460 pull life out. We all have it. Somebody in the 00:46:24.460 --> 00:46:26.880 family has The Game of Life or Monopoly or whatever 00:46:26.880 --> 00:46:29.780 we used to play. Or pull out an old CD or Spotify 00:46:29.780 --> 00:46:32.000 because nobody has CDs anymore. Watch an old 00:46:32.000 --> 00:46:34.579 movie. Like it just will bring you back. I'm 00:46:34.579 --> 00:46:36.860 telling you, listening to that CD, well. the 00:46:36.860 --> 00:46:39.480 album this morning. It just made me so happy. 00:46:39.539 --> 00:46:41.400 I didn't feel like I was getting murdered or 00:46:41.400 --> 00:46:43.679 anybody was chasing me. I was running because 00:46:43.679 --> 00:46:46.440 I enjoyed it. But then why'd you dress like this? 00:46:46.739 --> 00:46:48.099 I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. She looks 00:46:48.099 --> 00:46:50.760 great. If you're not watching, she looks like 00:46:50.760 --> 00:46:52.239 Carly. We'll take a picture. It'll last longer. 00:46:53.400 --> 00:46:54.840 It sure will because I'm going to try to forget 00:46:54.840 --> 00:47:00.739 it. So with that said, we hope that you remember 00:47:00.739 --> 00:47:03.360 you're always fit to be real and always allowed 00:47:03.360 --> 00:47:13.900 to be a little extra. For legal reasons, we have 00:47:13.900 --> 00:47:15.960 to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment 00:47:15.960 --> 00:47:18.980 and educational purposes only. We are not healthcare 00:47:18.980 --> 00:47:21.400 professionals. For all of your health, wellness, 00:47:21.639 --> 00:47:23.800 fitness, and self -care needs, please refer to 00:47:23.800 --> 00:47:26.320 the medical professional in your life, your primary 00:47:26.320 --> 00:47:29.000 care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, 00:47:29.300 --> 00:47:31.679 whoever it may be. And then let us know what 00:47:31.679 --> 00:47:34.000 they say because I guarantee we need to know 00:47:34.000 --> 00:47:37.059 it too. Okay? Okay, bye.