Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra.
My mic died. She's talking on a fuzzy little
microphone. Amazing. Connected to the wall. It's
our little mic that has a little fuzzy hat on
it so that I don't pop my peas. Never say that
again. And yet, it has to be plugged into the
wall. But God forbid, Carly used this one. She
asked me to move and sit in her spot. And I said,
absolutely not. I am a creature of habit, a person
of consistency. And I have to sit over here or
else this podcast cannot be done. And nobody
wants that. God, you haven't gotten any better.
Like, it has not improved. Nothing has improved.
It is so cold in Victoria's house. I'm keeping
my vest on. I told her to bundle. It is October.
Heat's not going on until hopefully December.
Oh my god, she is our mom. I'm not paying for
it. It's not happening. I have specific memories.
I lived over the porch, so it was always extra
cold in my room, and our mom did not put the
heat on. It was the master, because god forbid
Carmela have the master in her own house. Well,
what? Yeah, I got two closets in the biggest
bedroom. Middle child. She ruined you. It doesn't
matter because she didn't put the heat on. I
would put the pillow over my head, the covers
all the way up top, and I would breathe extra
heavy under the pillow to make heat so that I
would be warm. And then we had a space heater.
Why put the space heater on? Why don't I just
put the heat on? I would put my uniform over
the space heater so it would be warm when I got
it on my body. You are lucky the house didn't
blow up. Yeah. This was the 90s. Don't say yeah,
like you understand. It was the 90s. Yeah, you'd
wear hats and gloves and sweatshirts. Too bad.
Because, God forbid, we put the heat on before
December. Were you paying for it? Your house
is a sauna. Oh my God, it feels so good. Are
you paying for it? No. Exactly. We're not sure
how things are getting paid. I am a child of
the 90s. I don't know what that means. All right.
Drink every time she says that because I don't
think it's over. Why don't you tell everybody
the t -shirt I got you for your birthday? 90s,
babe. 90s, babe. Because we are 90s, babe. So
what are we talking about today, Victoria? Sorry
our producers telling me that I could be a little
louder because my microphones a little weird
So I'm getting notes and I'm hopefully doing
it better. Give me the high sign if things are
good We are talking about this is a hundred percent
Carly I don't know why you're having me do this
Carly's talking about this because she wants
to know why It's helpful to be nostalgic Because
it's a thing It's a thing. Hold on. We forgot
to tell everybody who we are in case you didn't
know I'm dead. Inside, outside, and I'm Victoria,
but mainly dead. Hey guys, I'm Carly. And she
is stuck in the past. No, I had this conversation
with a couple Seafitters a while ago, a couple
months ago, and I've been meaning to bring it
up. We were saying, I was saying, that they just
don't make music like they did when we were growing
up. And then I said out loud, to like Karen,
who is our mom's generation, a little younger
than our mom's generation. I think she's in her
sixties. Almost Boomer, but not Boomer. Yeah,
I think so. And she said, well, I don't know
if it's your like your generation's music or
just because you were young. And it brings you
back to a good time because I think my music.
I don't think they make music like my music anymore.
And that stuff makes me happy. I think it's generational.
But that's what I was thinking about. And I said,
that's a really good thing to bring up. I think
today's music, and this doesn't have just to
do with music, but the generational, I think
our stuff is the best. And it's only gone downhill
from there, while as the generation before us
thinks it's only gone downhill from them. Do
you know what I mean? Yes. So why aren't we just
staying in the present moment? Why are we going
backwards? Well, I'm so happy you asked because
that's what we're going to talk about today.
The why. Why positive nostalgia is important.
Why are you so beige right now? Because I'm a
basic B. I'm looking at her. She's wearing tan
pants, cream colored tan sweatshirt, brown vest
and And yellow mustard sneakers. So Andrew bought
me this sweatshirt for my birthday. It says October
established 1985. And it matched my beige sweatpants.
And then I never get to wear my yellow sneakers
because I never have anything that matches. And
it matches today. You look like vomit. But you're
happy about it. You look like vomit. You're a
happy vomit. I'm freezing. And Victoria left
a mug out for me and I specifically did not pick
it up because I picked the Temple University
mug because I did go to Temple for a few months
and it made me nostalgic. It's good that you
picked it up and then turned the Temple logo
in towards you. Super helpful. Temple. So yeah,
we're going to talk about the why and the benefits
of nostalgia. Positive. Positive nostalgia. Because
I do believe that we are Of the privileged we
did have a good childhood. We don't have trauma.
We don't have We do not have like the kind you
have small t -trauma You do everyone does our
parents do every single human on the planet has
small t -trauma You you know, unfortunately a
good amount have big t -trauma, which is like
the big stuff This is what you're thinking of
why I don't have that. Yeah, but you have the
small stuff But when I think of the nostalgia...
What you think is wrong. Let's just end it there.
But what I'm trying to say is we don't have things
like... Some people want to get away from their
childhood and never look back, not think about
it. It brings up bad memories. That's big T -trauma.
Right. So we're talking from a space that does
not have that. That's what I'm trying to say.
Correct. Yeah, that's what I said. That's not
what you said, but we are all with me, right?
No, I think they're with me. Everybody loves
a lowercase T. You're talking lowercase T and
big T. Is that what you mean? That's what I was
thinking. Then I was thinking about Mr. T. So
you lost me for a while. There it is. You guys
remember Mr. T. It brought me back. I was feeling
nostalgic while you were talking. What's the
first Y Carly? The first why. Nostalgia is usually
a yearning for our past selves and not just for
a time and place. I agree with that though. Nah.
Because why, okay, bring it back to me, fine.
I'm glad you did that. That feels nostalgic.
When I listen to NSYNC, like you didn't think
I was gonna bring it back to NSYNC, what it brings
me, yes, I love the music. Is it like the best?
harmonies in the world. No, it brings me back
to like hanging out my bedroom, putting up posters,
like looking through. I'm going to age myself
like teen magazine and like a good time. You
spend a lot of time by yourself. Is that what
you're saying? Do you miss that? No, but it's
not just about the music or the band. It's about
the time that it brings you back to. Well, correct.
Right. But that's not what this is saying. This
is saying the past self, like who you, because
the goal is that we evolve every day, if not
every year, right? Maybe not everybody, but yeah.
Exactly. Exactly. I do, I would not want to wish
to go back to that time for me. I don't, no,
I'm not saying I wish to go back. It just, what,
you know. What it says here is that it brings
you back to a more carefree time in your life
or a time that you look And that's what I mean
when I say like I really I didn't have any responsibilities
when I was in my room listening to in sync and
making music videos with my friends to Britney
Spears and Christina Aguilera that were completely
inappropriate at the time I wasn't thinking about
that I was just it brings me back listening to
those songs of a time when I didn't have responsibility,
right? So that's what So you just don't want
responsibility now. I'm gonna debunk the whole
thing. I totally get it. That's good. You're
just gonna be devil's advocate and just poke
holes in my nostalgic behaviors? Well, to quote
Clay Rutledge of one of our, don't you talk about
Clay like that, of one of the articles that you
sent me. Love him. When people reflect on past
meaningful experiences, they become motivated
to prioritize meaning in the present. And I support
that. Okay, hold on. You know I'm a little bit
slower on the intake. Say it again. Well, this
is from Harvard Business School. Say it differently.
Okay. So when you are thinking of your past experiences,
there's stuff that actually means something to
you, right? They're the moments that mean something
that motivates you to prioritize meaningful moments
in your present life. Got it. That I can wrap
my head around wanting to like travel back in
time. So to like get you out of bouts of stress,
anxiety or loneliness that I can get behind.
Are you, but what I'm getting from what you're
saying is I don't care what you're getting from
it. What I'm getting from it is that you try
and bring back those good carefree memories into
your present day to recreate them or in a different
way, maybe. Well, I think for you, because that's
where we're going to go here, right? Is that
you want to keep your Christmas traditions because
that gave you so much joy when you were a kid.
So you want to share them with your kids. Yes.
So those experiences you want to prioritize them
in this present moment because they gave you
meaning then and you're hoping to pass it along.
Yeah. Is that what you said in your quote from
my boy, Clay? Yeah. So just to circle back. Oh,
my God. The reason it's so important for me to
go take my kids to Disney World is because I
loved it so much I want them to experience the
happiness that I got true, but you also have
to be careful of the fine line of Wanting them
to just live the life that you had like you have
to She died behind her eyes She it's complete
glass She is all I said was don't and she was
like nope We're good. I'm right. You're wrong.
I'm big. You're small. I'm smart. You're stupid.
Done. Thank you, Matilda. Mm -hmm. But I am going
to continue. We press on. Okay. All right. Number
two. Oh, no, no. What were you saying? No, don't
worry. I'm sure I'll have an opportunity to come
back to it. Material things. They're transitional
objects. We love material things. I was confused
by this one, but they said that Things that we
come back to like movies or toys Like there's
like a 90s social media page That we pass to
each other all the time and it's like remember
this commercial remember this toy the Furby The
bedazzled hair toy that like when you watched
commercials like I wanted all those things, right?
They were the transitional part of us to be able
to self -regulate ourselves So like we yes we
were if you were able to get those toys and those
things and watch a movie It's because the caregiver
moment the contact we got from whoever was in
charge of us could Start to transition away where
they could go do what they needed to do in the
house But you were regulating yourself you were
entertaining yourself So that's why those things
You're gonna think like oh I love that toy. That
was such a great time. It made me so happy. But
it really, on a deeper level, you were learning
how to get what you want by yourself. I did not.
We know. I think that's fair. I did not look
that deep into it. I was like, oh, yes, I get
that. This item that I kept, like my bunny that
I got in fifth grade when I got my appendix out,
somebody, a couple sent to me that still sleeps
on my bed. I still have it. That was what I was
taking from it. You also can't move on from the
past. So there's like a little bit of a gray
area with you. But I, yes. Well, now my kids
fight to sleep with my bunny. Like, can I sleep
with it tonight? Can I sleep with this night?
Because that would be a material item that means
a lot to me. Now, getting your appendix out surely
is not the nostalgic time that you'd think I
want to remember. No, but that's That's a you
were quite literally self soothing yourself.
Yeah. And that was a help. And so that's what
you connect to that. I guess. Yeah. I was thinking
more like, you know, when when you were talking,
our cousin, Marissa, she's 10 years older than
us. She it was really important to her when we
were younger to show us the movies that she grew
up on. Yep. And 16 Candles, Pretty in Pink, Say
Anything, all those in the boombox. Yep. all
those 80s movies that meant a lot to her, Ferris
Bueller. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. So she would make
it a point to show them to us because they were
important to her and we loved them. But that's
what I was thinking of, like meaning something
to somebody else, passing it along, hoping it
means just as much to those people. But it's
not going to mean the same. No, that's not what
it means. Yeah. But I like it. It kind of like,
yeah, she passed that on. That was a great memory
and moment in experience for her. She wants to
prioritize that in the present moment. So that
was the first moment we talked about. But it's
also, while we're watching it, we're getting
something different. So it's a transitional,
like, if you and I watched it with her and then
we watched it on our own later, that would be
us doing it on our own, just like self -regulating,
self -soothing, self -entertaining, whatever
you want to call it. Which we did. after she
showed us them, we would watch them on repeat.
But yeah, it's the experience and it was nostalgic
for her and now it's nostalgic for us. So it's
like a full circle moment. So like if you read
under the bolded title stuff, it says it. No,
I know. Number three. I want to go ahead with
number three. This one, well, three, four and
five are like the same. They're a mesh. We were
talking about this before. It doesn't sound like
we talked about it before, but we did. I brought
it up because I was like, I don't understand
these last three. I didn't either. I didn't either.
And they're really, it's all about the same thing.
It's moments when you're sad or lonely, mainly
lonely, but I think they're kind of hand in hand.
You use nostalgia to try to reconnect. And so
they're breaking it down in three different ways.
So you're trying to connect loneliness, I'm sorry,
you're trying to correct loneliness by thinking
of the happier times. Which I don't think there's
anything wrong with that. No. But that, and I
think that's the only one that makes sense to
me. Well, here it does say that the nostalgic
and the positive nostalgia was coming. pretty
much to the forefront during COVID. Why? Because
everybody was alone. Everybody was at home. People
were on the internet trying to look for or grasp
at anything that would make them feel less lonely.
And what does that mean? It means watching old
movies that you haven't watched in a while, talking
to people that you haven't talked to in a really
long time because all you can do is zoom and
text and phone call. So I do think there was
my favorite big word to use. I'm going to use
it in like every podcast, a resurgence. of nostalgia
and I don't know if it's our algorithms. Stop
saying big words. Oh my god. Oh my god. Resurgence,
algorithms, memes. But my algorithm is constantly
looking back into the 80s. I sent you one the
other day of what the mall looks like now versus
what the mall looked like at Christmas in the
80s and 90s. And it was amazing. It was like
the place to be. Oh, it was colorful and it looked
like such a happier time. And so it makes me
sad, but it also makes me happy to remember and
sad that we don't live in a world like that anymore.
So I don't know how I feel about sitting at home
alone. That's what I mean. And reminiscing about
all the times that aren't going to happen anymore.
Exactly. Or. Like the number four or three. I
don't know. I put them all in one The lonely
self now reminisces about the connected self
you used to be right like that that to me is
like depressing right? That's not positive But
if they're saying it's in a in a there's a goodness
to that So maybe that will drive you to me step
out of your comfort zone again So this morning
when I went for a run, I was listening to I was
running like somebody was about to come get me
because I was listening to a murder podcast.
And as I was listening, I was running. And then
I was like, you know what? I don't want to do
this. For some reason, it just switched. And
I started listening to The Last Five Years, a
musical that I really, really love. Random. Random.
But it made me so happy because while I was listening
to it, I was thinking of where I was. which is
I lived in New York at the time. Andrew and I
would put that CD on, on a CD player, and listen
to it in our New York apartment. So old. As we
were actors in New York. And I was just like
listening to the music, but also thinking about,
oh, remember what? That was my favorite restaurant
that we used to go to in New York. So I was remembering
all the good things that came along with this
CD. And that's what made me happy. Yeah, I get
that. So it wasn't so much the song as the place
that it brings you back to when you're listening
to it. Well I think we've talked about this uh
this little I don't know tidbit before where
there's like a thing that if the reason you have
a wedding song is because that song brings you
back to that specific person and when you play
it at your wedding and it's a joyous time every
time you hear it post wedding go back to that
moment. We've never talked about this. We have,
go back to episode, no, I can't remember, but
it's the same thing where flowers, if you put
flowers around you at the altar, when you smell
that, it will bring you back. We did talk about
it, it was a while ago though. It was a long
time ago. I did not have flowers at my wedding,
so. They're expensive. Just like the heat, just
like the heat. Heat is a necessity. Ooh, let's
research that later. But it's that's the sensory.
There's sensory things to nostalgia, I think
is what I'm trying to say. No, I get that. Smells
bring you places. Sounds bring you places. Someone
saying a specific word triggers. Oh, my gosh.
I couldn't remember that word earlier because
someone said something that happens to me like
daily. So there that I get. Yeah. The brain's
like a crazy thing. But to quote C .S. Lewis.
a famous Irish writer of the 20th century, known
for things like the Chronicles of Narnia and
the Lion Witch and the Ruridrobe, the past is
frozen and no longer flows. That's not a surprise.
Say it again. The what? Oh, are you not done
the quote? No. OK. Mid quote. Sorry. She's not
listening. She's already tuned out. The past
is frozen and no longer flows and the present
is all lit up. with eternal flames. OK. OK. So
stay in the present moment. I know. And I think
it's really hard. But so OK. Riddle me this.
Riddle me this. Why do we get so excited when
we do classes like Y2K or 2000s classes? We get
so excited and I swear. To Jesus, we burn three
times as many calories because we're having so
much fun. He is rolling over in his tomb. Rolling
over listening to Oops I Did It Again, probably.
Because he literally does it every year. Oh my
god. But that's how like Vicky feels when I do
songs like Can't Harry Love by the Supremes or
you know anything that's a little bit older.
We do like Jackson 5. They love that because
that was their childhood. I think it has something
to do with not having to work that hard mentally.
Like when you know the song so well, then you
can just focus on like what we're asking you
to do. You know what I mean? It's like muscle
memory for the brain muscle of like, I know the
song, I know the words, I know when the chorus
is gonna drop, I know the difference. So you're
not thinking about any of that. and then you
can like have more fun dancing. Yeah. Yeah. You
know, I don't mean it to be just about music,
but that's just what we live and do every day.
So when a good song like Ciara's one, two step
comes on, it immediately takes me back to like
my friend, Janice, when we used to dance to that
song in Philadelphia when I was 18 years old.
And so while we're doing that song, it just makes
me happy. I'm not thinking about you or what
you're doing to it. I'm somewhere else. It just
happened to me this morning. This love has taken
its toll on me. It'll lift off or it's toll?
Honestly, don't know. This love has taken its
toll on me. Yeah, it's not lifting off. It's
not lifting off. It's Maroon 5. Yeah, it's Maroon
5, but that was my first hip hop classic, Crush.
And John has taught that. Yes. And it was that
song. And I was like, wow, this is a hip hop
song. And then the dance was awesome. But that's
what I think of. I remember that. And that was
my friend Janice, who reminds me of One Two Step,
because One Two Step was the first class I ever
took with him. Oh, yeah. That's funny. At crash.
That's so weird. All right. Good story. I didn't
mean to give you the middle finger. She did.
She just itched the outside of her eye with a
WTF. Cool. Cool. Cool. All right. So we're going
to move on. to the benefits. Because moving on
to the present moment is way better, right? But
also remembering the past and enjoying that it
was good is also fine, too. Well, according to
Eckhart Tolle, our German writer and spiritual
leader of self -help guru, do you know him? He's
my bestie. No, really, do you know Eckhart? No.
I don't know Edgar Eckhart. Eckhart. Carhart.
Not Carthart. We live in two different worlds.
Wherever you are, Be there. Totally. Remember
my motto? You don't even remember why. Remember
my motto? Be in it. It's be in it. Just one word.
It's bayonet. It's bayonet. OK, so there are
a couple of benefits. It boosts your mood and
well -being, which I think is your whole point.
Yeah, like the whole thing. point of doing this
episode because I think it's really important.
And I've just been noticing it in myself. Like,
why do I love to go back to those times? Because
it makes me happy. It brings back good memories.
Not for a lot of people, but for me personally,
the 90s were good memories. But is life like
so bad now? No, I just, it's not what it... I
think because of the kids, I have kids, I wanna
- You have kids? Sometimes we're not so sure.
I want them to have what I remember as having
such a good childhood and I don't think the world
is like, I know the world isn't what it used
to be. Right. So I think I think about that a
lot more. in those terms, like in that way, where
I'm like, oh man, this was such a good time.
We didn't have computers, we didn't have internet.
I had to listen to a CD and make up a music video
with my friends, but like they're like texting.
Well, no, Melody is doing that, but with cab
cut. Like she's doing it more, yeah, cap cut.
She's doing it more advanced. I think that makes
a lot of sense, but I also think you're mourning
their childhoods. Like you're already mourning
them, even though they're happening now because
they're not able to happen the way you did it.
Right. Yeah, no, I agree with that. Which can
be dangerous only for the fact that, like, you
can't control what's happening now. You just
have to try to, you know, make them... You don't
want to stunt them, but you also want to, like,
still keep them protected, which is hard. It's
hard. And I think in my mind, I want to have
80s babies. Like... No, you can't. Because you
were 85. No, but I want them to have... the 80s
and 90s. You can't. I know. I know that. They
literally can't. I think that's what you're mourning.
Yeah. Which makes sense. Like when we were talking
about the birthday episode and I just want to
have a cake and party with a couple of like my
friends and my cousins, like that's the childhood
that I want them to look back on and say, I would
just want a cake at mom and dad's house. Then
don't have kids in the summer. All of your children
have summer birthdays and that will never happen.
No, they're gonna say different things like oh
Scotland or oh Vegas like Not with cousins. No,
not with cousins. Not simple. Like I think I
want to go their childhood memories are in Scotland
and Vegas Get the fuck out of here Mine was at
the Springfield mall or the putt putt that still
hasn't changed I, yes, no, I know. I, but what
you're saying, drop Mike. Don't drop your furry
Mike. Um, yeah, no, don't call my micro furry.
Yeah. Oh my God. Don't. Yeah, but no moving on.
That's a great benefit boost. Okay. Increased
feelings of social connectedness, which I think
is just a sign of the times post COVID world.
We are not as socially connected. That's why
we have such a divide politically governmently
Small world in your own individual like bubbles.
We are all very divided and we want to just stay
home. So like I Think that's just in in terms
of like the world. That's And that's another
reason like Like we didn't know anything political
when we were my kids age I had no idea what a
Democrat or Republican was. I didn't know what
our president was. Was he a Democrat or Republican?
I didn't know. My kids know. My six -year -old
knows who was a Republican and who was a Democrat.
At six, I hate that. Thanks, Mom. Carmella taught
them that. Number three. No, but that's the thing.
There's too much information. I want less information.
Yeah, let's all talk less. That's not it. But
I'm saying that's where the divide comes in.
It's like, there's so much out there, whereas
when we were young, there was not. I just think
we were ignorant. Really? Yeah, I think. You
thought six -year -olds in kindergarten knew
political parties? No, we were ignorant. Our
parents didn't talk about it. Back then, it was
a, don't ask me who I voted for. Now, it's a,
I need to know who you're a voter for so I know
if I can, if we're cool. But do you think kindergartners
should know that? information. I don't think
that's ignorant. I think that's just like, not
ignorant. Brilliant. I don't think kindergartners,
first grade, second grade, third grade, fourth
grade, I don't think they should know that information.
But I think the reason we didn't know it was
because of our parents and like we were ignorant
to it because they didn't talk about it. That
wasn't something at that time that you really,
it was like secret. I remember Papa being like
and and mom being like, I don't know who Papa
we don't talk about. Yeah, you don't talk about
it. So like back then, even though the world
had its moments of blowing up because a lot obviously
always history always repeats itself and like
bad things happen. It wasn't talked about as
much as exactly what you're saying. I think that's
why I think it's not your Dean's not ignorant.
We were we were so in a bubble that bubble has
burst. Yeah. That bubble doesn't exist anymore.
Yeah. I think that's what the difference is.
And now it's like, we need to know. Like, he
knows the signs on the lawns. And that, like,
Melody will come home, and Lewis will come home
and say, hey, Mom, do you know that so -and -so
in my class, their parents voted for so -and
-so? And I'm like, don't worry about that. You
can still be friends with them. Like, don't let
that, because it's like a bad thing when they
say it. And I'm like, you don't have to worry
about that. That's not something you have to
worry about. I don't think they should be friends
with them. Personally. But you know, you do you.
Okay, number three provides a sense of meaning,
which we've already talked about. That's a benefit.
It means something to you. That means something's
important and that means you can totally find
some happiness and joy from reminiscing. Number
four, inspires action and optimism. That is a
little trickier. Why? Because it's hard to find.
optimism right now, even when you're thinking
of nostalgic things, because you can think of
them and then you're like, how do I do that now?
You can't. Well, I am overly optimistic that
NSYNC will reunite and I will get a chance to
see them one more time. And I am very optimistic
about that. I'm not paying for that. Because
it will be $1 ,500 as a ticket. It will be. Andrew
knows. Mark my words. I will be going. I don't
care where in the world it is. I am optimistic.
And I do think everyone needs to have a little
bit of optimism, not just about in sync, reuniting.
Just in the world, if there's no optimism and
we don't think things are going to get better,
how the heck do you live day to day? If you don't
think things are going to get better, how do
you go on? Well, that's a good question. My boy,
Siddhartha Gautama. What? Also known as Buddha.
Oh. You know he was a real person, right? I didn't
know his name was Seed Harta. Yeah, something
like that. Seed Harth, Hartha. Did you phonetically
write that in your book? No, those are letters.
Oh, those are just letters put together. I wrote
glyphics. Well, all my writing looks like that.
Yeah, we digress. The secret of health for both
mind and body is not to mourn for the past. Damn
it. Worry about the future. or anticipate troubles,
but to live in the present moment wisely and
earnestly. And Buddha said that, you know, so
Buddha, Buddha, Buddha, Buddha. I am a worst
case scenario person as much as I am. I am an
anomaly. Damn straight. I would love to live
in the past in my carefree responsibility free,
but I am a Worst case scenario, everything bad
is going to happen. But I want to be optimistic
about the future, but I know that something bad
is going to happen. You are a perfect mix of
your mother and father. That's what your anomaly
is. You heard it here first, folks. I'm just
making realizations. I'm living in the moment.
I'm going to be at it. It also helps with different
transitions. I think that's just, that's very
accurate. That's very true. Like when you're
moving from one house to the next, you're going
to reminisce about all the good times you had
in this house. And then you're also going to
be optimistic of like, well, this is what we
can do in the new house, right? That type of,
that type of thing. I was watching a commercial
the other night, uh, the other night meeting
last night and it was, well, it was for Christmas
hoarders. So I know you're not going to know
where I'm going with this, but I, I a little
bit. understood why they hoarded Christmas lights,
decorations, outside decorations, inside decorations,
presents, because they like that feeling. TV
show. A TV show, yeah. I thought it was something
you could purchase. No, it's not a game. It's
not, it does not go under the tree. Could be,
could be a game. Write it down. I felt for them
because they were trying to hold on to a time
from their childhood and it became a disease
where they could not let it go. Yeah. And they
just now live in a house. Very colorful. You
talk about yourself there. No, I mean, floor
to ceiling. Can't walk through the house. Yeah.
Christmas decorations. It's sad. And I know that
it's a disease, but I felt bad for them because
I was like something happened to them where they.
want to remember that childhood time and they
can't let go of it so much. Or they didn't get
it. Or they didn't get it. So they're buying
it all and quite literally hoarding it. Yeah.
And I was like, oh, I understand. I don't ever
want to get that bad, but I... Oh, you will.
I understand. You definitely will. Because it
was either a very good time or something that
they never got. So they're trying to recreate
that... good memory and get those good feelings.
And I can understand that. Or just take it moment
to moment. Yesterday is over. It's gone. Can't
get it back. It's over. Tomorrow, who knows?
It doesn't matter because today, this is all
you have. This moment on this couch with this
amazing blanket. This is the outfit that I die
in? Is that what you're trying to tell me? That
was your choice to look like a poop. That was
your choice. Well, while we're feeling nostalgic,
we're going to play a little game. The game is
called 90s, babe. Victoria doesn't know it, but
I'm going to ask her questions and she has to
have rapid fire answer. She doesn't like rapid
fire games. I know this about her. I'm feeling
nostalgic and not caring. I do not, but I have
to go to work, so we're going to make this quick.
What time is it? 1026. OK, we'll make it just
I mean, it's it's in your court. You make it
quick. Also my birthday. Well, it is not your.
Oh, yeah. Oh, happy birthday. Victoria was her
birthday on Sunday. We won't do an episode about
it, though. She is. We will win your 40, but
you're not. We won't be doing this by then. Oh,
well, you know what? I was just thinking we we
might. I'm just kidding. I don't know. I'm only
living in the moment. Thanksgiving is coming
up. Right. And three years ago, Victoria decided,
oh, well, when you come home for Thanksgiving,
we're going to do a podcast. You're just going
to start something. OK. Last Thanksgiving, she
said, OK, well, you need to buy a weighted vest.
What are you going to do this Thanksgiving? What
are you going to spring on me as I'm driving
upstate to Thanksgiving? Podcast weighted vest.
What's this year? Well, you're nostalgia is close.
It was New Year. Oh, yeah, that's right. But
yes, November was the best. So, you know, stay
tuned. Are you going to text me and be like,
now you must purchase this and do this? Yeah,
but I'm going to send you two. So you buy mine.
90s, babe. Oh, all right. What was your favorite
subject in school? Oh, art. What's the weirdest
thing you've ever eaten as a child? My boogers.
Ew. She did. She gave it up for Lent one year.
Somebody said, what are you giving it for lunch?
She's like, eating my boogies. She's disgusting.
What's your go -to karaoke song? I'm reading
it, but I can't say it out loud. My brain's not
working. Journey. Don't Stop Believing. Don't
stop believing. This doesn't really apply to
us because we didn't have emojis growing up,
but what emoji did you use the most? Just do
it for now because we didn't have emojis. Oh.
Right now I'm probably the laughing one, but
growing up I was probably a peacer. Interesting.
What's your favorite way to celebrate a special
occasion? Like as a child? Wait, what? As a child?
Hold on. What was your favorite way to celebrate
a special occasion? We did family dinners and
family parties for everything. Yeah. Like if
I were Louis, he would say going to Hibachi every
special occasion. He's like, can we go to Hibachi?
You sound crazy. Hibachi, Scotland and Vegas.
Remember that, folks. Good Lord. What's your
favorite holiday season? I know it's a really
hard one. It's spooky season, but it's Christmas
holiday. As a child or now? Like when you were
a kid, what was your favorite season? Well, what
are we talking about? We're talking nostalgia,
90s, babe. Yeah, then Christmas as a kid. I didn't
get witchy until - What was the silliest habit
you had as a child? I mean, I'd wear anything.
I didn't care about anything. Yeah, I would agree
with that. You look like a poop. Don't roll your
eyes at me. As a child, I was baller. in my second
hand champion. What was your favorite childhood
toy? I really liked our cousin's blue phone.
Oh my God. Do you remember that? Yes. We'd get
it out of there. They had like literally a toy
closet and you all of their toys were just like
thrown in there and I would always get the blue.
It had a cord on it and it had a dial like a
circle dial. A dial phone. It was blue. That
was baby blue. Wow. What was your favorite childhood
board game? We played Trivial Pursuit a lot.
We did, and Life. I feel like. I don't remember
Life. Oh, Julie and I, yeah, yeah, yeah. We used
to play Life and get all the friends in the car
and the babies. And you'd be a little in the
car, yeah, yeah, yeah. What was your favorite
TV show? See how she's telling me what my memories
really are? Because this girl's brain is fried
on, I don't know what. Just kidding, she doesn't
do that. Weed. Yeah. I'm not high in this moment,
but thank you. I don't know what the question
was. What the fuck are we talking about now?
What was your favorite TV show? Oh my God. Oh,
Girl of Girl Island does like a kindergartener,
but then Full House. Oh, and Boy Meets World.
I started watching Full House again. Cooper.
Hang in with Mr. Cooper. I did. I started season
one. Full House. They're fuller. Oh, full house.
Like, we're not surprised. I mean, Jesse's mullet
was legit. Okay, a couple more. What were your,
what was your favorite childhood saying? I know
what mine was. Besides cut it out. Yeah. And
like, you got it, dude. I would say smile every
day. I got it tattooed on me. Interesting. I
would write it and I only wrote to my mother
because God forbid, I wouldn't write it to you.
Duh. That's what I would say. Duh. No, you would
say, this isn't about you, but you would say,
she would add an uh to every word. Every single
word she added an uh. Come on. Oh my God. I'm
gonna go outside. I don't want to eat that. Why
did I do that? You did everything. Everything.
No. Stop. Oh, my God. That's so annoying. I hope
Melody never hears this. What was the will? No,
she will not. What was the most ridiculous thing
you did to get your way? I know I didn't. I never
got my way. That is not true. As a kid, I had
to tag along whatever anybody else did. I didn't
get my way ever. Last thing, last thing. What
was the silliest thing you collected as a child?
Keys. I randomly would find keys on the floor
and I would always pick them up outside people's
backyards. I had a collection of metal keys that
opened nothing. Well, you learn something new
every day. I had no idea. I don't think I would
have cared back then. I don't really care right
now, but I did not know that. I was going to
say Pogs. I had Pogs. That was so silly. No,
it was awesome. Pogs were too legit to quit.
They were amazing. And Beanie Babies. We had
all the Beanie Babies because we were going to
be millionaires. Yep. I still have them. Heat's
not on. Princess Bear, Purple Bear is not helping.
Diana, Princess Diana. I have her with her, her
tag protector. Yes, the tag protectors. Oh my
God, when we got tag protectors. And then McDonald's
sold mini Beanie Babies with your - The freaking
platypus. Oh, I have her. Yeah. Worth nothing.
Couldn't play with them back then because we
would get them as presents and then our mom would
take them from us and put them away. And now
she's giving them to your kids. She's like, go
upstairs in the bin. You touch my cat. Melody
probably has my cat. She does have the cat. The
bull. You remember the bull? Yes, I remember
the bull. Listen out there. See, this is a bad
nostalgic moment. I am mad. I am upset. My first
beanie baby was when I was home with my appendectomy
in fifth grade. It was Sparky the Dalmatian.
Sparky. And I took that tag right off, because
we didn't know. The names of them. Sparky. I
loved the dolphin. I took the dolphin everywhere.
I don't remember the name, though. But that reminds
me of a good time. I remember Sparky. I remember
getting my first Beanie Baby. And I enjoyed that.
I was in the moment then. I'm remembering that
moment now. You're not in the moment now. Not
here. I'm back there. Right, that's the problem.
Hold the phone. I agree with all of this because
I can remember all that. What was the thing I
said the other night? When we separated rooms
and I got my own room, the smallest room in the
house, the loft bed and I had cow print inflatable
furniture. That's a great memory. I remember
reading all the books on those inflatable chairs
until they got a hole and then I slowly... but
I had a footstool, I had a table, all cow print.
I remember those. You just can't live in that.
Well, I tried to because for her birthday, why
don't you tell everybody what I got you for your
birthday? I'm really trying to have Victoria
recreate good memories. A denim cow dress. Cow
print. With a sweater that has a horse on the
back and a denim jacket that's mostly a sheep.
It's a Sherpa denim jacket. She wears cow prints.
She is a horse girl, and I knew that she would
like that jeans jacket. Whether she ever wears
it out in public, I'm not sure, but we'll make
sure she wears it next week on this podcast.
If you don't want it, give it to me. I'll wear
it. Worth it. Totally worth it. Well, we don't
have real tips and real extra tips because we
can only do so much, okay? But I would say to
just, I don't know, play an old game. Yeah. Like
pull life out. We all have it. Somebody in the
family has The Game of Life or Monopoly or whatever
we used to play. Or pull out an old CD or Spotify
because nobody has CDs anymore. Watch an old
movie. Like it just will bring you back. I'm
telling you, listening to that CD, well. the
album this morning. It just made me so happy.
I didn't feel like I was getting murdered or
anybody was chasing me. I was running because
I enjoyed it. But then why'd you dress like this?
I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding. She looks
great. If you're not watching, she looks like
Carly. We'll take a picture. It'll last longer.
It sure will because I'm going to try to forget
it. So with that said, we hope that you remember
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