Welcome to fit to be real and a little extra
Help me Save me help me. I'm already I can't
handle it. I Don't know why she can't handle
me today as Opposed to other days. Well, that
was hard. That was really hard. That's why I
can't talk because her House is so cold. I am
trying to warm up. My hands are defrosting. So
I have to hold my coffee. 65 degrees in here.
Every window is open. It's the coldest day of
the year so far. It's 67 degrees. You're a fool.
We went to Carly's house this weekend and I was
sweating. Like I was, I kept taking clothes off.
Yes. And I couldn't handle it. So all I did was
drink more wine to try to handle it. Oh my God.
I had to open the doors, turn on the AC. She
was like I was like, you people live like this?
What is this? Oh my God, it's so cold in here.
Look, my fingers are turning blue. Honestly.
Okay. Well, eat some more fat. I don't know.
I don't know what to tell you. I'm Victoria.
I have enough fat. Oh, Carly. I am very comfortable.
All right. If you have a problem with that, this
seems to be your issue. Just shut the windows.
That's all I'm saying. You went deep. I just
wanted to shut the windows. Hold please. She's
walking over. She's shutting the windows for
those that cannot see. Oh my God, thank you.
It's already 10 degrees warmer. She could have
done this before we turned this on when I asked
her to. I'm upset. I'm annoyed. I'm upset. I
don't, I'm mad. Last night, she was like, what
do you want to do? I said, I don't know. I'm
tapped out. She said, cool. I'm coming over at
this time. We're going to do this. I was like,
OK. Yay. All right. Isn't it part of your sister's
job to say, when you're tapped out, I'm overwhelmed,
to be like, OK, keep going? Or be like, you know
what? I get it. because you're also tapped out,
but for some reason, you like to thrive and burn
out and think it looks good on you and it doesn't.
I mean, this shirt says thug life. And deflect
to say other things that have nothing to do with
anything you're talking about. I don't thrive
that way. I thought I was helping by picking
the subject. Here it is. Here it is, folks. Let's
talk. Okay. What she picked out. With sending
me links, I'm not going to look at these. You're
in charge. It's for my birthday. Hold for reflection.
I was helping. I did the research. Carly's turning
40. And the world is stopping. I never said that.
No. But she is turning 40. And. I don't know.
I hear everyone like their 40s were their best
time. So like to me, it seems like something
exciting, especially since I'm almost there too.
So like, I don't know. I heard people say that
when I was 20 and 30 and I would roll my eyes
saying, I'm never going to get there. So 40 seemed
so far away and it's in a week. When did it feel
so far away? When you were 20? Yes. Or this week?
No, it felt so far away. Like growing up, you
were like... We knew this was coming. You know
how like back in the day it was like over the
hill 40s? It's not like that anymore. I feel
like people don't throw parties called over the
hill anymore. Well, first of all, rude. What
a horrible theme. That used to be a theme for
40 year old birthday parties. I know, but that's
a horrible theme. Another 40 years, you will
be 80. Just think of it that way. So I do think
that's why, I guess. It's like midway, even though
50 feels more midway, even though you're not
making it to 100. You're this cold now, you're
not making it to 100. Wait, do you know what's
really sad? Oh, good. This is Carly's MO. She
got finished teaching Monday, and I was like,
oh my gosh, it was so hard. She was like, did
you see that helicopter crash? I was like, what?
Huh? She loves, you are Carmela to a T. She loves
telling bad news. I feel like this is what mom
started doing in her 40s like being like, oh
something good happened Let me tell you about
Debbie Debbie downer and when she does it now
Carly gets so angry and yet that's Carly's number
one subject matter Well with mom, it's usually
about politics and I'm like mom. I don't have
time for this But it Debbie don't pay attention
to the real -world problems No, we were having
dinner because I get to have dinner with my kids
once every other Monday and we were sitting down
and I was asking them questions from the pack
of, you know, like the cards of questions we
asked one time on a podcast. It was like icebreaker
questions. So I was asking the kids those. Getting
to know your children. Yes, I was getting to
know them because they eat better when they're
distracted. So dinnertime is crazy at our house
and it's just like yelling at them to eat. So
if I distract them with questions, They'll eat.
Fair. So one of the questions was, like, what's
your biggest fear? And Louis said dying. But
we knew this. I know, but I didn't like that
he was like dying. I don't I don't want to die
and I don't want anybody to die. And I was like.
But also why? I'm not surprised by that. You're
so afraid and tell them all the things you're
afraid of. And nine times out of 10, it has to
do with death and that you're going to get murdered.
randomly in your house, or that someone's gonna
steal your children. They know your fears. They're
afraid of water, because you're afraid of water.
You did it to them. Yeah. And I asked him what
his superpower would be. Happy birthday. And
he said to live forever. And I was like, oh God.
I don't know that's a normal kid thing, because
I don't have kids. Yeah. I feel like it might
be. I don't know and I have kids. I don't know
if that's normal. But like I feel like it might
be. Like some kids get obsessed with death and
then they grow out of that phase. Melody's biggest
fear was spiders. Pedro's too. Really? Melody
and Pedro are the same. Oh god. I'm like that's
your biggest fear. I don't know if that's a biggest
fear, but nobody, they don't like spiders. I
don't mind them. I talked to the one that's in
my door frame out back when I let Pepper out.
I'm like, hey. We have mutual respect of like,
you don't come in here and I won't come to you.
Spiders would not be my... I don't like them.
What's your biggest fear? Well, sharks. I have
a phobia of sharks. Yeah, but like a shark is
not gonna come to your door today. What's your
daily, day -to -day biggest fear? I don't live
in... I don't know. I don't live in that. I really
don't. Like I don't wake up being like, gee,
I hope this doesn't happen to me today. If I
die, I die. No fear. K -N -O -W. Capital N -O.
No. No in your brain. Remember when that was
so popular? It was like the coolest. No fear.
Cool. Happy 40th. Hope you don't die. Here's
the thing. Nope. I have no advice. No advice.
You have to stop showing your kids what you're
afraid of. That's it. That's my advice. I was
just like, Oh man, game over. Go to bed. Hopefully
you wake up. All right. Moving on to something
more lively, even though Carly will ruin this,
that's what we've learned in 40 years. Yeah.
Um, one of the links that she sent me was 90s
trivia. Do you know these questions? No, I didn't
look at them. no I know but like 90s trivia so
like do you know the answers to these 90s, 1990s
because you were born in the 1900s I know 1990s
things and I just figured you know would spice
things up a little so we're gonna get help from
our little Dolly Parton I have these two amazing
table books and Dolly if you're out there listening
we love you and we have a buzzer for yes and
a buzzer for no sweet These are my dog buzzers
I Did teach my dog to talk to me, but then it
got annoying so she doesn't do it as much because
I don't allow it This one used to say play with
me, but now it says So if you get it wrong It's
a boo and if you get it right this used to say
yes because she would do a command correctly
Or I would ask her a question and she would tell
me The answer was yes. But now it is. You did
it. Yay. Love it when a you did it is as monotone
as that. That's how I feel. I'm tapped out. I'm
overwhelmed. My sister doesn't care. OK. Wait,
I'm prefacing this with I didn't ask 80s questions
because I was born in 85, but I clearly was a
newborn and have no recollection. or did not
know any trivia from the 80s she was a newborn
for five years between 1985 to 1990 tis true
she's now a toddler what did i say uh once you're
20 it's like you're a toddler adult oh really
and then like 25 to mid early early 30s you're
like a teenage adult Because it's the first time
you're adulting. When do you become an adult?
When you die. I don't know. What am I? In your
40s, you're like... Almost a? Yeah, you're like...
Not a pre -teen adult. You're not a teen adult.
You're like a newbie. Yeah, okay. In your 40s.
And I feel like people in their 70s, i .e. mom
or anyone, they would agree with that because
they're like, yeah. You're young you still don't
have all the answers and you're still figuring
it out like 70. She doesn't have all the answers
Yeah, that's you know, like I think I I forget
that When talking to mom or anybody else of that
generation where it's like they're doing life
for the first time, too Yeah, she's never been
70 before why do I think that they should just
know you know what I mean? Especially with the
phones and stuff. Like why do you just you shouldn't
just know? Well, they know way more than us.
Oh my god. I said that But I know that they've
seen a lot more life than us, but yes, they're
doing it for the first time So like yeah, they
don't have all the answers don't tell my mom
never I take it back. You're a preteen adult
Even though you're in your 40s, you're stunted
you haven't you're not even in the newbie adult
I'm kid you not I was talking to a friend yesterday
and I was texting like an old friend and I was
like Hey, do you mind if I tell my mom that?
Oh my God. She understood though. She was like,
yes, absolutely. You should surround yourself
with other preteen adults. That's true. Okay.
Question number one, about 1990s. If you were
born in this generation, you'll enjoy this. If
not, scroll past this because we're going to
do other things. I can't promise. I'm going to
know any of these answers. She's not. What's
the name of the group responsible for the Macarena?
Macarena. Yeah. I'm just going to say the Vanga
Boys. because they're the only people that I
can think of right now. Hold. Los del Rio? Yeah,
no. But that sounds right to me. I just wouldn't
pick it out. What 1990s teen movie was retitled
after a Britney Spears song? Oh, you know this.
So the title of the movie is a Britney Spears
song that was that popular in. It just says 1990s.
I'm not sure. Toxic was 2000s. The original title
was called Next to You, if that helps. OK. It
wouldn't be Baby One More Time, but that was
90s. Oops, I Did It Again was in the 2000s. I
don't know. I'll go with Oops, I Did It Again.
Drive me crazy. Oh Yes, best video ever with
the little green shirt and the dance pants. She
wore jazz shoes in that She wore black jazz boots
like block. Yeah block What's the infamous why
infamous? I don't know if I agree with infamous.
What's the infamous haircut inspired? By a must
-see TV sitcom. Oh the Rachel from friends But
infamous means you're famous for a negative reason.
Yeah, well, I think that's what you think infamous
means, but I think it just means... I'm sorry,
what? I don't think it's negative. I think that's
what we think infamous means. Hold, please. Are
you looking it up? Yeah, because this is real.
I thought about being Rachel Green from Friends
for Halloween, but... I don't know if they, I
mean, I bet they sell wigs with the Rachel haircut.
I bet, I bet I could find one. Oh, yes. Also,
you're wrong. Okay. Infamous, well -known for
some bad quality or deed. Wicked, abominable.
I'm turning 40. I didn't say I was a wizard.
Preteen adult. A wizard? A wizard? Yeah, the
Rachel, that was a great haircut. Okay. She hated
it, but. She did she does. Yeah. Oh, that's a
shame Whitney Houston had a massive hit in 1992
with a cover of someone else's hit. I will always
love you by Dolly Parton What fashion accessory
was invented by a high school shop teacher Everyone
had one. Everyone had one. We were obsessed with
them when they came out. Could be used as a weapon.
A coupoton. No. If you know what a coupoton is.
A fashion accessory. A fashion accessory could
be used as a weapon. I was going to say jellies,
but no. Ooh, jellies. Jellies were cool in the
90s. A fashion accessory that could be used as
a weapon. I mean, we used it as a weapon. That
was not its purpose. I don't know, what? A key
chain? Slap braces. Hold please. Those are still
popular today. Why are you holding for that?
You can just hit it. Because I had to put my
hand down. I had to put the phone down with all
the answers. Okay. What was the first rap song
to hit? What? To hit number one on the Billboard
Hot 100. The first. rap song ever to hit number
one? Is it a white guy? You got to give me a
hint. Is it a white guy? Yes. Ice Ice Baby. Correct.
You can't ask me that question. You just have
to have an answer. Well, you said yes. Because
what other white rapper at that time? Eminem
was not a thing yet. Right. But if it was not
a white rapper, I would have been lost. Right.
You just answer the question. You did it. All
right. You're not gonna know this. Then don't
ask me. Okay. How old was Notorious B .I .G.
when he was murdered? Yeah, I know he was in
his 20s. I'm gonna go with 28. 29. 24. 24? That's
horrible. What singer broke her own record for
highest ever attendance at the Houston Astrodome
in 1995? Selena. How did you know that? You did
it! Well, the Houston Astrodome is big for Selena
because it's very highly populated Mexican and
she was huge in Houston. I know my Selena. I
did not know she was still alive in 1995, though.
I thought she was killed before then. No, I think
she was killed in 1996, but don't quote me on
that. I got it right. That's all that matters.
I know Selena. I love her. OK. Let's go back
to reality, and you're not going to know this
one. Which actor was one of the first approached
to play Buzz Lightyear in Toy Story? Oh. So not
Tim Allen. Not Tim Allen. The first one, Tim
Hanks is Woody. Who? Tom Hanks is Woody. I'm
gonna just, I'm going on a ledge here. You know
when you go on ledges? Yeah, yeah. Frasier. What
a horrible choice. But very... appropriate because
he was super popular in the 90s. But can you
imagine? Yes, that's why he's not buzzed. To
infinity. Oh, god. No. Billy Crystal. Oh, he
would have been great. He would have been great,
too, yeah. All right. What band is featured on
Beavis's shirt from Beavis and Butthead? Yeah,
we weren't allowed to watch that because my mom
took away MTV because she didn't want our brother
watching it. So I didn't take it away from me.
I just never got it. Yeah. Yeah, I don't know,
because I would never watch the show. Have you
guys turned it off? Like, this is annoying, right?
Stop getting them wrong. Metallica. Yeah, no.
OK. Am I going to get this? I don't know. Probably
not. Tamagotchi. Do you remember Tamagotchi?
Yes. Is a combination. of two Japanese words
that mean what? Tama and gachi. Right, so Tama
most likely means something and then gachi means
something. But think about what a tamagachi is.
Yes, it's an animal that lives in a computer
that you have to take care of virtually. So it's
a virtual animal. Or a tama means animal, gachi
means gotcha. Think of the shape. of what it
is? An egg. Okay, yes. Egg. Egg. And like...
Egg animal. You're not gonna get this. Egg and
friend. It was not happening. Okay, last one
of these questions. I think I failed. Definitely
more booze than yeah. What was the best -selling
rock album? of the 1990s. Rock? You know this,
though. It's not rock like you're thinking Pearl
Jam. OK. It's not Nirvana? Maybe it is. Like,
is it? No, those are, to me, those are different
rocks. So like, Pearl Jam is grunge. Nirvana
is a little, well, it's grunge, but it's a little
more hard. This is not rock in that regard. To
me, I think you're going to think she is more
folky? Oh. But not. But Jewel. But at the same
time rock. It's definitely rock. Oh, Alanis Morissette.
Yes. Do you remember the name of the album? Ironic.
No. As a song. Hold on. Hold on. Alanis Morissette.
Give me the first word. Jagged. Jagged little
pill. Geez. For that? No. All right, last one
because I just read it and I had no idea. Great,
so I'm not gonna get it either. What fad toy
was feared to be a tool for foreign spies? I
wanna say Furby. Oh my god, yes! Is that right?
You did it! Because Furby is our generation's
- What? Labooboo. where Labooboo's got, some
of them have little chips in their neck and are
trying to get data from whoever buys it. Like
Lewis has said, oh, don't buy me a Labooboo.
Does that have a chip in its neck? Because our
mom has scared my kids. Yeah, yeah, definitely
just mom. About Labooboo's. But yeah, Furby is
like the, you know, old school Labooboo. When
you say that like that it makes sense. I just
don't remember I wanted one I had one I killed
it the day I got it hmm I left it in the car
when we went to the movies the day after Christmas
and it froze to death and he never turned on
but mom waited in line for like Hours she waited
in line for hours and didn't get it right Chris
and Don bought it for you right right right?
because my mom Couldn't get couldn't get one
thing. You couldn't get it off the shit on the
shelves Yeah, no, it was yeah more of the story
don't have children If you don't want nice things
don't have children alright, so we're gonna we're
gonna shift past the 90s because I Bombed the
90s you didn't ask any full house questions.
They would have they didn't growing pains family
I would have nailed those like nailed them. They
didn't give me any So what we're gonna do is
we're gonna do what we're good at on this podcast,
and we're gonna ask Carly the uncomfortable questions.
I'll make it awkward. Carly on the spot, spot,
spot, spot. I hate this. That's what happens
in class, by the way, me holding that note until
she's finished talking, because she doesn't hear
when I start speaking, she just starts speaking.
So then I have to wait, and then I'm like, nevermind,
nothing's worth it anymore. So if you heard me
go. Story of my life every time I finish a dance.
That's what happens. I have things to say I've
lots of things to say usually it's like I'm just
good talks that there's no silence and I'm gonna
look at the phone and then Okay, she is a rough
life guys What made you feel the most alive I'm
not answering that I'm not answering that because
I am dead inside so That's why she's so cold.
I'm freezing. I'm wearing my skeleton sweater,
my thug life t -shirt. For those not watching,
the thugs of the life on the t -shirt are the
Sanderson sisters. All right. What did you learn
the hard way this year, this past year? The hard
way. Everything. We do everything the hard way.
Everything we do is the hard way. And then we
realized there are better ways to do things.
That was a cop out because that's generalized.
I'm going to say the let them freaking theory,
you annoying human. I did learn that the hard
way. It took me a very long time. I always come
around, but I take a very long way to get there.
What do you want more of next year? More of next
year, like not... I don't want to say free time
because I feel like I do have enough free time,
but like productive, productive time. Things
that I want to do instead of just like when we
have a free day, nothing, we don't do anything.
You know what I mean? Because our batteries are
out. Right, because our batteries are out. I
don't want to do that next year. When we have
a free day, I want to be like, oh, now I want
to do this project that like I keep saying that
I want to do and I'll do it when we have more
free time. But when I have free time, I'm too
tired to do it. So that means what you want less
of is overworking yourself. Right. But you said,
what do you want more of? So I want to be more
productive and do the things that I keep saying
I don't have enough time for. But you can't do
that if you're Battery is out So you want to
do this thing? But you don't want to change the
fact that you're overworking yourself that on
those free days you physically can't You mentally
can't so what you're saying is well I want to
get over that and I just want to be productive
and do it So then it's like you're you're not
gonna make it. Well, I was saying it's funny
that you said that because on Sunday We had nothing
to do after I taught I told the class I said
Guys, just so you know, I'm taking a shower and
getting back in my pajamas and pretending that
none of these past two hours just happened. But
there's nothing wrong with that. No, I know.
But if we had had plans and we were go, go, go,
it would have been fine and I would have gone
and I would have been fine. But because we had
nothing, I couldn't move. I was like fused to
the couch, kept falling asleep. You know when
your body just like dies? This is a serious question.
You know what I'm saying? The statement, a body
in motion stays in motion. If you had things
to do, you'd keep going. Your body would keep
running. But because I had nothing, I was like,
oh my gosh, a bus hit me. Yes, Karlie, that's
called burnout. Right. So I don't want to do
that next year. I don't want to have a day where
I'm like, I physically can't move, not because
of any other reason than I. cannot see straight
because of whatever. I want to use the time that
I have to do something that I want to do that
I keep putting off. Correct. We get it. Thank
you for explaining. No, you did not. I think
what you need to address is that you can have
that, but you can't have that the way life is
right now. No. Yeah. So I want. You say it to
people all the time when they come to you about
food or Changing their lifestyle or weight changes
you go. Okay. Well what you're doing now doesn't
work So it has to change for you to want something
different. Yeah, same thing Yeah, no, I get that
you are working more than you did in the past
however many years this year is the and by this
year it started in September so really 39 to
40 you're only Couple weeks left but the year
from September to now has been seven years has
been rough for you for you, too Clearly I'm fantastic.
I don't know if you can tell by the state of
my hair All right, yes me an easier one What
do you want to say? No? To more freely. Oh work
stuff It just took us an hour to get to that
point. I just thought you would say something
different. No, I want to say no to Definitely
more work stuff. We do a lot of things Because
we feel like if we don't do it somebody else
is gonna do it We don't want somebody else to
do it sort of like how we lived our life with
acting if we don't take that job Somebody else
is gonna take that job Do you really mean? funny
cuz we're doing a class this Friday evening,
after a full day of work, Carly just wanted to
make it work because she felt bad. And so we
have to do this extra 45 minute horribly hard
class at the end of a Friday because Carly couldn't
say no. Right. I'm not 40 yet. Next Tuesday,
I will say no to that. I'm going to murder. But
at 39. I'm not gonna say, I didn't have the power.
But at 40 I will. Okay. All right. Check back.
She's not gonna make it. No. It's less than a
week until her 40th and I think I actually will
murder dur dur her. Okay. If you could be a kid
again. On your birthday, like on the day of birth.
The day of birth. 21st. What would you do? If
I could be a kid again, I think I would have
like, I don't know why I'm picturing this. Maybe
it's just because it's one of those home videos
that I used to watch all the time. I would have
like an old school birthday party where we all
wore like a dress. sat in the living room, played
Duck Duck Goose or whatever games mom played,
sat around the dining room table and had pizza
and cake and open presents. Carly had a hair
braiding party. Yeah, that was in like sixth,
fifth grade. I had the girls over and my cousins
and her friend came over and French braided our
hair and did our makeup. That was the party.
That was it. I would do that. I would. I was
picturing putt putt. Just because I just remember
that being, you'd just be on top of the world
if you got to go to Putt -Putt. Oh my gosh. Yeah.
And the pizza at Putt -Putt was the best. I remember
that pizza being good. But I would have like
an old school party, but I'd make everybody go
to mom's house. Like, mom, you have it. I want
princess paper plates and an ice cream cake from
Carvel, not Carnival. It was Carvel. Wait, I
just had this conversation with someone. I couldn't
remember which one was first. Carvel. Carvel.
It turned into Carnival. Yeah. And now Carnival
doesn't exist. Really? I guess that's what they
told me. Yeah. But yeah, I'd have an old school
five -year -old birthday party with Simon Says
and Mother May I. Chip Witches. Yes. Doritos.
We didn't have that at our party. Yeah, that
was too expensive. Wait a second. It was probably
called something else and it was the generic
brand at the super fresh you couldn't have Cheetos
you had like half mark orange fuzzy balls But
I do it I'd go back to orange fuzzy balls. Oh
my god Okay, be a fortune teller. Okay and predict
one thing that will happen Before your 41st birthday.
So this year Like in your 40th journey around
the sun. Oh, predict one thing that's going to
happen. I .e. manifest. What do you want? I'm
finally going to make it happen where I save
up for Disney for the kids for their, by the
time I'm 41. Guess that's why we're teaching
this class. Friday evening. I sound like a smoker.
Yeah, but you're not burnout. Your body's not
crying on the inside. No, it's really important
to me That's like I know I've been saying it
for the past three years, but by the time I'm
41 my kids Really want to go and that was all
three of them If you could go one place in the
world, where would you go? And they all said
Disney World last night I think it's really important
Lewis is really into Star Wars Dean's really
into Star Wars and I that's really important
to me. You can say whatever you want about it
not being like Like there's so many other place
in the world to go, but that's really important.
So by 41 At least I would like a plan to see
Can we say that? Just a play only you can prevent
forest fires Carly Also, why is it really important
like what makes it? Really important for you
because I remember loving it so much and it being
the best time And I want them to have that too.
I just, cause I know it will be the best time
of their life. And I want to make sure that they
get to do it. They've been and they don't remember.
Well, I brought them too young. Yes, we know.
We all told you that. Well, mom brought them
too young. Mom paid for it. So listen, mom says,
hey, I'm paying for it. Yeah, I'm in. Why are
you yelling? Hold on. Why are you yelling? Mom
wanted to take us. So I would never say no to
that. I knew they were too young. Cause even
Dean at six. Yeah, I was pregnant. He wouldn't
remember now. Yeah, he would, because I remember.
I remember. I was in second grade when I went.
Yeah. And you weren't under five. I was in second
grade. No, I remember when I was young. We went
before that. You weren't born. Or you were born,
but you were very little. I had to sit, and mom
had to tell me that I was a baby. Said, get on
the plane for free. and I had to sit on mom and
not talk and wear a bonnet and pretend I was.
I don't think that was to Disney. Yeah, it was
to Disney. I don't think you were born. I think
it was just me and Billy, mom and dad. But yeah,
it's important. Add it to the list. What's the
list? Oh, everything I'm going to haunt you guys
for. If you were to write a funny birthday song
for yourself. Oh, come on. What would some of
the lyrics be? Actually, nobody wants to know
that, don't do that one. I can't, I'm not good
at improv like that. Okay. If you were to create
a signature birthday cocktail, this list is wild.
What would be in it? And then what would you
name it? Oh, a birthday cocktail? I... Don't
mess this up. I mean, I'm boring. I like... I
would get like a vodka with a splash of soda
and a little bit of cranberry and I would call
it basic bitch yes yes basic bitchy booze yes
I'm not I'm not fun like that I'm yeah we know
okay I'm so annoyed You didn't even go for like
a real housewives, a Bravo name, anything. You
just gave it basic B. I love that. You are a
toddler adult. You're regressing. Isn't that
what everybody should do as they go get older?
Feel younger. We're moving on. Okay. If you created
a time capsule to open on your next birthday,
which is something could do that would be fun
yeah that would be fun we'll do a podcast of
that okay if you but let's talk about it first
okay uh what three things would you put in your
time capsule and let's not say next birthday
that's one year yeah silly it's funny that you
said that because we one of the questions last
night was if you had to leave the house with
only one item what would you bring like in a
fire or just so i said fire To the kids they
were like and you could only bring one thing
you would bring fire No, I said if the house
was on fire and you could only bring one And
you're you wonder why they're afraid of things
and have this like fear, but I said animals and
Family members don't count like they're already
in the car. We're good and I brought my pictures
All my pictures cuz like what else? Andrew brought
nothing Oh, burn, burn. Legit, he was like, nothing.
I don't need anything. He doesn't need anything.
He doesn't need one material thing. I would put
pictures in my time capsule. The kids all picked
their blankets, Elmo blanket, avocado blanket,
and the tiger blanket, Melody. And Melody brought
Sunny her cat. But yeah, I would bring my pictures.
I would put pictures in the time capsule, I think.
photos, not a phone with picture albums. Like
I would put actual photos in them. You know you
can still print those out. I know, I have to
do that. It's never gonna happen. It's literally
never going to happen. What was the question
again? What would I put my time capsule? Two
more. You have pictures, give me two more things.
There's three things. The kids all like, why
wouldn't you bring your phone? And I was like,
because I don't want it. I would love to chuck
that thing in a fire. looks like we love our
phones, but it is not something that I would
want to bring with me. Two more things. That
just got real. Well, I felt bad that they were
like, you wouldn't bring your phones? You admit
it. You're on your phone a lot. A lot of it's
for work. So it makes it look like you're on
the phone. So they think phones are glorified.
We're always on the phone. If you need a question,
oh, I don't know. Let me look it up. There's
so much that they see that we didn't have that
experience of using this one device to be the
answer for everything. So it's not necessarily
that you're on it all the time, but you are.
I would venture to say when you're watching a
movie, you're also on your phone with them. And
when you go to the movies, you are on your phone
at the movie theater. Why? Because she's texting
me. Yes. I find that I think of great ideas for
work when I'm watching kid movies. or doing other
things. Shocking that you're burnt out. And I'm
like, oh, Victoria, this is a great idea for
a class or we should do this. You need to be
in the moment or else you're going to miss your
life. I'll put that. I'll put being in the moment
in the time capsule. Can you do that? How do
you bottle that up? I'm going to hurt you. I
would put pictures. We know. OK. At my wedding
album. That's a picture. You're a fool. Maybe
one of my favorite mugs, but like, I don't know.
I guess I'm like Andrew in this where like...
No, you're not. You're absolutely not. Oh, you
know what? You know what I would? I would put
some of the letters that the kids wrote me and
some of the letters Andrew used to write me when
we were first dating in there because I would
want to read them again. It is the worst when
that changes. He used to write me letters all
the time. I think it stopped once we got married.
I would put those letters in and letters like
from the kids. Honestly, if he wrote you a letter
now, it would be like, why do you hate me? Why
are you so mean all the time? I just want you
to not be tired. Yeah, I don't want to bring
those letters. I want to bring the nice ones.
Also, I don't know why he's permit the frog.
Sounds like him. All right, last question for
your birthday. There's some good ones. All right,
what is your favorite, we'll keep it not deep
because she's clearly not good at that. What's
your favorite birthday tradition? or ritual that
you look forward to each year for your birthday
specifically? Oh, Andrew and I go out to like
a brunch and get a margarita and then we go to
Nordstrom Rack in King of Prussia and he lets
me buy as much as I want. But you couldn't think
of three things to put in a time capsule? Because
guess what? As much as I love that birthday tradition,
I don't care about... Like I wouldn't put clothes
in my time capsule because in the grand scheme
of things, that stuff doesn't matter. So. So
why don't you save your wallet for the Disney?
Because I we enjoy doing that together. So it's
more of the experience of like I just go to Paladar.
Yeah. Just go to your pressure. And don't go
shopping. No, but I like we love shopping. We
love doing like. you're gonna make fun of me
and I'm prepared for it, but we like doing fashion
shows for each other in the dressing room. Like
I'm like, should I get this? And then he ends
up buying a lot of stuff too, because, you know,
he's there and there are good clothes and he
likes to get dressed up too. So we'll be like,
yes, that, no, that. And so we'd like to do that
for each other. I'm practicing non -judgment
in my 37th year coming up. So. So it's about
the experience. I also like when my mom makes
pesto pasta with sun dried tomatoes. And we used
to have like a big birthday party, like a family
party, which we sort of gotten away from over
the years. But I do love when mom would make
that. Well, maybe we'll make you pesto pasta
in Vegas, because Carly asked for her family
to go to Vegas. And that's what's happening.
So. Are you still going to get clothes and stuff?
No. With a Vegas trip? No, we're going to go,
we're going to let the kids take off. You didn't
give me my tissues today, so. Pedro took them,
because he's also a snotty person. We are letting
the kids stay home from school. We're going to
go to Paladar to get brunch, and then we might
do an escape. I call them escape the rooms. On
your birthday? On my birthday. That was fun.
Yeah, escape the room in King of Prussia. But
I have to teach at 5 .30, so. You don't. I have
to teach at 530. Yeah, I know. No, you don't.
And I have to teach later that night. We'll talk
about this off camera. I have to teach. Oh my
god. But we're going to do that. And the kids
are very excited. Because remember when we used
to celebrate mom's birthday and it was always
so fun? Like, oh, it's mom's birthday. We're
going to do something fun. Really good description.
First of all, fantastic down memory lane. I remember
every piece of that. Uh, second of all, no. Okay.
I don't, I don't remember. I don't know what's
wrong with me. We're gonna look into that because
I listened, I re -listened to the podcast this
morning. I always re -listen to it the week after.
You don't remember anything. I don't. It's concerning.
It's concerning. Yeah. It's possible that I make
stuff up and then she is just like rattling her
brain for no reason because it never happened.
But that's only 50 % of the time I'm making stuff
up. That's not even 50. It's probably 20. The
other percentage she really doesn't remember.
I don't know. I don't know if it's like early
onset dementia. I don't know if it's... It's
not that. I was living in a dissociative, but
like I didn't have major trauma. Nobody has major
trauma. Well, that's not true. No. We did not
have... We did not. Stop yelling. Oh my God.
We did not have major trauma, but like, I don't
know. And then... Yeah, you're definitely making
some things up or you're confusing your memories
with mine. That's true. That happens a lot. But
yeah, I have no. Well, I'll tell you this as
I'm nearing the end. Can't wait. It's not going
to get much better. So fix it now. Ginkgo biloba.
Remember that? That's your rap name. Lil' Ginkgo.
Doesn't that help with memory? I'll never forget
that. I'm dying. I will never forget that. I
was trying to be serious. You sure were. Oh,
I'm crying. Okay. You just yelled, Ginkgo, blow
it at me. And I don't even think you said it
right. It's such a 90s, like, fixer. Like, ailment
fixer. You've snot all over. your sweater because
she wiped her nose with her sweater happy 40th
birthday oh my god i just said little ginkgo
here everybody oh my god coming at you your rap
name oh no that's your porn name never mind never
mind it's like your last name in your street
name that you lived on. All that happens too,
you lose your bladder control in your late 30s.
listening to this and you're in your 20s and
30s, this is what you have to look for. I'm so
sorry. I'm so sorry to find out this way. It
doesn't get any better. Oh, it gets worse. It
gets so much worse. And she's 37. Well, she'll
be 37 in two weeks. And it's not getting any
better for her either. So. Yay! God, what are
we going to do for your 40th? You did it! We'll
see if I make it that far. All right. We said
to make it to Friday. Everybody tune in and check
in with us this Friday, the 17th, around seven
o 'clock. See if we are still existing. Don't
because I have an event right after that that
I'm going to be an hour late for. So check out
on Saturday. You don't because I'm going to kill
you. Okay. But also enjoy. Yeah, you heard it
here folks, Lil' Ginkgo coming at you. Just reminding
you that you're always fit to be real. And always
allowed to be a little extra. It's everything
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