Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra,
I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. It's the first
time we ever did that correctly. Or like that.
That was very like... Correct? Yes. Well, considering
last week she didn't even tell me that we were
starting. Oh, and I did just say, I'll let you
know this time. And I didn't. Well, I just sat
here like this for 10 minutes. To be fair, she
said, if I look like this, I was like, I can't
like you, I'm working. I'm doing things. Welcome.
Welcome to The Carly Show. To the mystery, yeah.
It's The Carly Show today. Victoria has no idea
what we're talking about. Turn the spot. Spot,
spot. But it's not about Victoria. It's just
God. OK, story time. I had a revelation yesterday
and I didn't want to call Victoria and tell her
right away because I was like. I'll save it.
And also, I thought she was going to get really
mad at me and hang up. So I didn't tell her.
And I was like, she can't hang up on me if we're
talking about it. I've literally never hung up
on you. No, you're going to have you would hang
up on me if I told you what I'm about to talk
about. OK, OK. I cannot imagine. What it would
be. OK, we're starting off with story time. I
had a really bad day yesterday, like It's been
building and building, and then it was so bad
that I went for a run, which I do sometimes.
Whoa, whoa, whoa. That wasn't to you. Put them
away. That was to everybody else. Put the eyes
away. When I feel like I need to listen to something
and run, I run. And I run really long. and far
yesterday because I was enjoying it. Far is run.
So if you saw me yesterday out for like two hours
and 10 miles, that was me. You know what? I had
an inkling. Because usually she walks in to see
fit when I'm in there with someone and she goes,
hello. Just like that. That's exactly what I
say. And this time she went. Yeah. And she just
smiled silently like the Joker. I had a horrible
day yesterday. You can tell me. I know. I didn't
tell anybody. That's annoying. I felt better
after my run and after the revelation. And I
also knew if I talked to you too much, I would
tell you what happened to me and it would not
be good for today. So I was like, I can't talk
to her too much. Oh, so you made this. OK. OK.
So also, every time you say revelation, I want
to sing a Hamilton song that I don't know the
words to. Where she goes, I saw a revolution.
That's revolution. Don't they say revelation?
You want a revolution? I want, no. You want a
revelation? I want a revolution. Thank you. Revolution.
Something about constitution. Are you having
a bad day today? No, I'm having a much better
day today. It started because Dean and Lewis
hysterically cried as I dropped them off to school,
screaming, don't leave me, mommy, don't leave
me. And I was like, I can't do this. Like, you
don't need school. You don't need to be edumacated.
I can do it at home. Joke number one. Well, we're
in the car and they're sobbing like, Mom, we
want to stay home with you. And I'm like, guys,
I'm not fun. And Dean's going, you are fun. And
I'm like, you've never said that before. But
thank you. Because he's lying. I know. He's totally
lying. But I think it was like a whole thing.
The kids are going back to school. I literally
went home and no one was there. Andrew went to
Atlantic City to work. I walked in the house.
Thank you for saying to work. He went to go gamble
on a Monday and there was nobody there. Like
Dean, usually I drop the kids off at school and
I come home and then I get like an hour and a
half with Dean. We do breakfast. I hang out with
him for a little bit. I take him to school. There
was nobody there for the first time. Sounds amazing.
And yeah, to a lot of people it might, but -
Someone who can't sit alone with her thoughts.
This is what I'm talking about. Yeah. So Andrew
wasn't there. No one was there. I walked in and
I like lost it. I had already lost it as I was,
as Dean was walking into kindergarten. Like I
put my sunglasses on and like I was crying. He
was crying. It was horrible. And Lewis is nine.
He's in third grade. He still cries going to
school. Cause he's bored. You need to. Yeah.
He's bored. I know. I know. He's a, I told, I
can't remember who I talked to yesterday. I remember
I only talked to like one person a week, but
I feel like I talked to you about it. You texted
me. He's a creative. Oh, I talked to Julie, my
cousin. He is a creative person. So he doesn't
like to sit at a desk for eight hours a day.
He needs to be. He's a Montessori kid. Yeah.
When he likes something, you know. And when he
doesn't, you know. And it's rare he likes something.
Yes. He was with Andrew on Sunday at a Star Wars
convention. And Andrew texted me and was like,
chatterbox. I was like, yes. That means he's
happy. Oh, is he just noticing? Andrew, stop
going to Atlantic City. On a Monday. On a Monday.
So long story short, it was horrible. OK. OK.
I knew this was going to come. Everyone's like,
oh, I cried when my kid went to kindergarten.
I didn't with Melody. I didn't with Lewis. Because
you had two more. Yeah. So I did with Dean. So
I went for a run, and I found a podcast. And
I found somebody. that I am obsessed with. And
I don't know if you've ever heard. Oh, no. Her
name is Mellie R. I'm going to punch you in the
face. I'm mad at myself. I'm mad at myself because
I thought it was going to be something different.
I heard. I'm mad. I knew you were going to be
mad. I like I was running and crying and I was
like, why haven't I listened to her? So I didn't
call you. To be fair, she's on my favorite podcast,
Smartless. So it was Jason Bateman, Sean Hayes,
Will Arnett had Mellie R on when talking about
Mel Robbins. And she was talking about the let
them theory. Continue. Okay. So I'm running and
crying. Like listening to Mel Robbins. Via Smartless.
Via SmartList. OK, so she was talking about her
show. She was talking about how she created Let
Them and all this stuff. Oh. But she was also
saying things that were hitting me so hard on
the head that I was laughing at myself for how
much I was crying. Can I also hit you so hard
on the head? That I couldn't stop running because
I wanted to finish. I wanted to finish listening
to her. And I know that if I had read the book,
she probably explains all this in the book, but
she talked about the countdown method. I was
like, where have you been all my life? So I called
Victoria right after and I was like, I got the
podcast. Don't worry about it. Oh my God. You
did. I was like, no, listen, I got it. Like,
I got it. Are you mad? I'm... Because I'm just
going to let them. You can be mad. That's on
you. It's not on me. I hope you enjoy this final
episode of Fit to Be Real because one of us is
really dying today. No, I died inside yesterday.
I am fully alive right now. I had a revelation.
I had to come to Jesus with Melliar. What is
it? What's the revelation? Well, she talked about
stress and we've done a podcast on stress. I
am now having the worst day of my life. We've
had podcasts about stress and gut health and
how it affects you, but what we've never talked
about and what she talked about was positive
stress and how to take that negative stress and
turn it into positive. It's literally called
eustress. not distress, e -u -stress. Eustress.
Eustress? Like a mistress, but a eustress? I
want to die a painful death. And she talked about
you can't, you can only control what you can
control. And if you can't control it, you just
have to let them. And so I'm going to let them.
I couldn't control Dean from crying into kindergarten.
What I could control was my reaction to it. Oh,
my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh, my God. Oh,
my God. This is not real. I mean, I do you know
our first episode? We do. We do. We all very
well know. Our first episode was flipping the
switch, right? Or the second episode or something
like that? Yeah. Well, 128 episodes later. I
flipped the switch. You only know that because
I said 128 right before we started. This is so
not fair. What flip did you switch? I flipped
the switch into being like, oh, Meliars got some
stuff that she knows what she's talking about.
And it like hit me like a ton of bricks while
I was running. OK. So. We're going to talk about
the good stress and the bad stress. You only
listen to a podcast of a podcast. You need to
come back with at least 10. to 15 episodes under
your belt. You should be thanking your lucky
stars that I heard that and they had her on,
or else I would have been like, I'm canceling
today. I can't make it out of bed. But Melliar
taught me how to get out of bed when you're in
a stressful situation. Is this gaslighting? Is
this what gaslighting is? Is this what manipulation
and narcissism is? Can someone phone a friend?
Call me. It's called the countdown method. Well,
I'm going to count right now. Did you guys hear
about it? Look at this. Look at this. Five, four,
three, two, one. I'm gonna punch you in the face.
I did not want to get out of bed yesterday because
I knew that it was going to be a hard day for
me. Our producer has just chimed in. I need you
to breathe. You? Yes. This is why I didn't tell
her what it was going to be about, because I
knew she was going to be mad, Pedro. I know her
like the back of my hand. I know how she's going
to react, even though she's not letting me. She's
not let them ming right now. She's not let them
ming. She's not letting them talk. She's not
letting them do whatever. You and your personalities?
You're the them. All the personalities. I hate
all of them. So the countdown method you ask,
is that what you want to know about Victoria?
Well, if you didn't know, Mellie R. was so depressed.
You guys should do your research on her. Had
no idea. She is fantastic. Yeah. The countdown
method, you count down from five before you make
a decision. Why has no one told me about this?
It helps you with your reactions. to the stress
by counting down five, four, three, two, one.
Instead of one, two, three, four, five, like
a launch or a rocket ship, you count down and
then you make the decision. But if you think
too long about the decision, it's not going to
happen. So that's why she only gives you five
seconds. I mean, the revelation like a ton of
bricks. Yeah. So yesterday I was feeling a lot
of stress. I was feeling very sad, but she taught
me how to change it from distress to... Gaslighting.
This is gaslighting. No, no. It's 100 % gaslighting.
The other stress, how do you pronounce it? I
think it's eustress. Eustress. I don't know.
Like I stress you? Like Carly stress? It's an
understatement. Have you ever felt blood boil?
Have you ever felt... Not before. Did you know
that there's science behind this? She's done
all the research. You can just look it up. She's
done all the research on this. You know, some
people just have to come to terms with it on
their own at their own time. Even she told me
that she was like, you're going to this will
happen on your own time. But when it hits you,
it's going to hit you. And that's when I cried
the hardest. And I was like, Victoria is going
to love this. Mm hmm. Mm -hmm. Yeah. Yeah. This
is an amazing revelation. What is stress? Other
than what Victoria's feeling right now. What
is stress? I think it's stress. I don't think
I'm feeling stress. What are you feeling? Tell
me. Let them. Am I using it wrong? I think I'm
using it wrong. I think I'm feeling... Excitement.
Delusion. Like I'm in a different timeline, a
different universe, and I'm trapped. But I feel
like you should be happy for me. Or do you just
feel like you wasted two years of your life?
I feel like I'm sad for me. I feel like I'm sad
for me. Well, you know what she said? My BFF.
She was like, you waste a lot. She said you,
Carly, through the podcast, waste a lot of time
worrying about. how to control other people's
emotions and how they feel about decisions you
make and how everything in your life, how they
feel about it. And I was like, oh my God, I do.
How do you feel about that? I feel like you owe
me all of the money for my therapist because
all I talk about is how no one listens to me.
No, I feel like you should go back and tell your
therapist she finally got it. I'm so happy for
you. Look, I just got a text from, you know,
a medical bill that's trying to collect money
from me that I will not pay because I don't actually
owe it, and I'm just gonna let them. No, you
did that before. Okay. You did that before this
revelation. You let them... And Andrew is the
them and you're like, he'll deal with it. Usually
I'd get stressed about it and be like, oh my
God, but now I'm just going to be like, no, it's
not happening. Let them. You can text me all
you want. I don't care about anything anymore.
No, I care. But I don't care how you feel about
it. But I care a little bit because I don't want
to hurt your feelings. But I don't care. Very
gray revelation. It's a gray area, this revelation.
Okay, we're learning. Stress is a psychological...
and physiological response to a perceived threat.
Not a threat. What's that mean, Carly? A perceived
threat. Tell the people. I just did. What's it
mean? I just told them. I know. What's the layman's
terms? What's the terms that I would need to
explain it to you? You are stressed out about
something that's never going to happen. Yeah.
Did I get it right? About your perceiving, your
perception, the story you're making up in your
head. Yeah. That's my life. Huh? Countdown, five.
Mama said count to 10. No, Meliar said count
down from five. It's the updated version. Mama
said count to 10 is 1997. Meliar said count down
from five. That's a Footloose reference, by the
way. Okay. All right, so. I'm not going to go
through what you need to do to control your stress
because once again, we already did an episode
on this and what I learned yesterday was that
stress can be a good thing. If you turn it, your
mindset. Change your mindset, change your life.
That's what she said. She did. She did say that.
She also did what I like to call a mic drop quote.
You guys want to hear it? Oh, do we? Don't play
footsies with me. I didn't mean to. She kicked
my foot. Stress isn't the problem. Staying stuck
in stress is. The power is in your response.
Sorry, I didn't mean to do that. Is it a mic
drop if you've had to listen to it over and over
again and maybe the 50th time you've heard it?
I feel like you should have been proud of me
that I didn't completely fall apart yesterday
and ruin the rest of my week. For sending your
kids to school? Listen. Yes. You live a very
privileged life. No, I think it's more the fact
that like They're all in school now all day for
the rest of their lives. Now what do I do? You
have a life. You have to figure out who you are
again. But I did that during COVID. Yeah, find
a new one. Nobody likes her. And now you have
the time. No, now I have the time. You didn't
do that in COVID. You got skinny. You got healthy.
I got healthy. Yeah. That's who you are? Well,
no, but that made me feel better. Okay. Who are
you? What do you like to do? I like NSYNC. But
that was Carly at 16. Carly at 39, soon to be
40. Whoa, whoa, whoa. Hope to God is a different
person than Carly at 16. No, I still like NSYNC.
And I'm not dating gay guys anymore. Yeah, you
married one. Yeah. I was just going to say I
married one. I don't date them anymore. Sorry,
Andrew. He's not gay. He doesn't care. No, he's
not. He's not. The jury's out. But he's not.
You get to discover what you like to do. You
get to discover what you don't like to do. You
get time to read the goddamn books that somebody
gives you. You get time to maybe learn how to
cook for yourself. You get time. I do want to
do that. I do want to learn how to do that. To
figure out anything. You get time. You know what
you gained? You gain time. But do you know what?
He's in school and I'm still here. That hasn't
changed. Like you're still alive? No, I mean
like I'm still doing this. Like I don't feel
like my life's gonna drastically change. I think
I just got very sad that that part of my life
is over and I got very tense and stressed out
and anxiety about it. That that part of my life
is over. Okay. So Mellie really made me think
that that stress and anxiety that I knew was
happening, I can change it into something positive.
What are you going to change it into? Well, I'm
not sure. I didn't get that far. It was only
a one and a half hour podcast. So if there's
a part two, it should be her just talking to
me, telling me what she thinks I should do, because
I clearly need to be hit over the head with it.
But before we talk about that, we're going to
talk about the differences of distress, which
I Okay, distress and eustress, which I think
I live in the distress, but it's not always that.
And I think a lot of people do that. It doesn't
have to be distress. So like examples of eustress
are like big events that are stressful, but they're
positive. It's like starting a new job or having
your kids go to school full day kindergarten
and... starting having a new life or whatever,
not a new life, but like a different normal.
That is a positive stress. It should be a positive
stress. Getting married, that's a positive stress.
It's very stressful, but it's... What? What's
the keyword? It's positive. That's right. It's
positive. Starting a new job, achieving a personal
goal, starting a new exercise. These are all
positive stresses. Now distress Are the bad stresses
Everything that's going wrong everything that
you Perceive to be going wrong So what the difference
is you stress is temporary Distress is not that's
what keeps you in it for a long time. You can't
manage it. So it's What's it called? It rolls
over basically and it never stops. Those are
the differences. Now, when you're starting a
new job and you're stressed out, there's a finality
to it if you allow it. This is what Mellie says.
I have a tendency to not have a finish. It just
rolls over and that's why I live my life distressed
when clearly there's really no reason to me distressed
because I mean there's in the world there's no
reason for me to be distressed. I'm just gonna
let you talk. There is no need for me. I can
see that you're not helping me out at all. You're
not helping me finish words or sentences. No
need. No need. You figured it out. So you stresses
are non -threatening. Just like I'm putting it
back on me. Your kids going to kindergarten is
not threatening. How I perceived to be was my
life is over. My world is ending. This is horrible.
I hate this. I don't want to do this. That's
clearly a perception putting me in distress.
What I want is it to be a fun to have a final
moment. So yesterday I put a pin in it and it's
not going to come out. I put the pin in and that
was it. Mm -hmm, so I went to lunch duty and
I saw him at lunch duty. That's how I that's
literally I'm it's not even a joke I went up
to school and I did lunch duty because that was
how I could control My anxiety or stress to make
me feel better even though it was really for
him and Lewis but that to me was my conclusion
or my solution solution Thank you Roll your eyes
at me again But I think in my life, people tell
me solutions and I don't take them. But I think
I had to do it myself and say, hey, what's going
to make me feel better right now? And how can
I turn this, like Melliar said, into a positive
situation? So I went up to lunch duty and it
completely changed the rest of my day. And I
need to do that every day in different situations.
And honestly, We tell people this all the time.
She's just deadpanning the camera. We tell people
this all the time, but working out last night
at CFIT, even though it was a Monday night, it
was kick -hit, it was really hard, bar and tone,
really hard, made me feel so much better. Now
it always makes me feel good, but it made me
feel good mentally more so than physically. because
of the day I had. No. But I talked to people
afterwards like I do. I talked to a couple people
and they were like, this is my therapy. And I
was like, yes, it is. But, you know, just like
Victoria said, everybody needs a therapist. We're
talking about how I need therapy. And they said,
yes, but a therapist would say you need to do
something for your mental health, which for them
was CFIT. And for the first time, It clicked
and I was like, yes, me too. Correct, but see
if it's not your mental health. It was last night.
But it's not, it can't be. It can't be every
day. That's not your, your therapist would not
tell you that. Your specific therapist would
not tell you that. Why? Cause see if it is your
work. See if it is your job. But I - See if it's
part of the reason why you are very stressed
out. Yes, but I think I put that aside last night
and I was having fun in class. and I was like
not thinking of the horrible day that I had.
But you're not going to do that every day. But
I do. I mean, I go. I see fit every day. Carly,
let me tell you something. If you've learned
nothing. OK. Don't wait another 128 episodes
to hear me right now. All right. All right. I'm
listening. I'm listening. No, there's nothing
else I need to say. Oh, that was it. You can
have a great. I agree. You can have a great class.
on a day that's bad. You can have a great class
on a day that's really good. Your seven day a
week mind reset self care cannot be your job.
No, I didn't. I'm not saying that. I'm just saying
that I understood why fully why when people say,
oh, that made me feel so much better. As I was
like, I needed this tonight. Yes. So I'm not
saying that that is the only thing I'm gonna
do, but I was like, okay, I needed that release
of whatever, endorphins, or just to be with people
that I knew really well and to mess around after
a really bad day was really nice. And then we
happened to talk about therapy afterwards. It
just came up. You have so much time for therapy
now. That's what you've gained. We talked about
that too. And then everything I was saying, I
was like, guys, please don't tell Victoria. I
literally said that. I said, please don't tell
her. Just please don't tell her that I said this.
I know who signed into class last night. I'll
find you. I will find you. Yeah. But some of
the things that she was saying yesterday. So
you haven't changed at all? Is that what we're
really hearing? Oh, I'm not changing. I just
had a revelation. No. Do you know what I mean?
I think it's going to take a lot for me to change.
I think yesterday was the start of it, because
you know when you just need to have a horrible
day to come back from the bottom? You need to.
Oh, so should I take you on a cruise? Well. I
was thinking about that, not about going on a
cruise, but what my BFF said was, you can't change
people's emotions or how they feel. See you later,
guys. We're going to hear this one out. And she's
like, if somebody's having a bad day, you can't
change that. Only they can change it. You can
listen and you can let them, but you have to
let them be and know that you will not be the
cause of anybody's change. You will never be
the cause of anybody's change. And I was like,
and the first thing I thought was when I forced
you to go on a cruise, cause I was like, be happy.
I'm taking you on a cruise. That is how you get
out of depression. You put somebody on a boat
where they cannot escape and do activities. But
that's the first thing I thought of. Also while
they're not drinking. Yes. Oh God. Yeah. But
you had one pina colada. I think I forced you
to have one. I am an enabler in that way. But
she did, she did say like, you have to - Maritime
laws, guys. Doesn't count. It doesn't count.
You have to just let them and have that not affect
you. Now that's why I don't think I can put this
into practice fully because that affects me.
I can't change that. I can't change your stress,
but I can't sit and watch you be unhappy and
not try everything I can to change that for you.
I think what I've realized is nothing I do is
going to until you do it yourself. It was taking
a long time. I'm sorry. My depression was not
timely for you. I could not change her distress
into a eustress. And I realize only she can do
that herself. You know what distresses people
when someone's looking at it and going, be happy.
Why can't you just be happy? Be happier. Did
I say that? Look at all the things that you have.
I think mom said that. I never said that to you.
I would say, you clearly don't know Victoria
well. Don't talk to her like that. Just sit back.
Just buy her tickets to a cruise. that I can
go on as well. I never said I wasn't a selfish
person. Back to you. Okay. But yeah, and I liked
how she said that it like finally hit me. Just
like Victoria telling me, just because she was
telling me doesn't mean that it was going to
get through to me. No. I know. So why are you
so... Because you're acting you're acting like
you've never heard these exact words before like
they were said in a brand new way That's why
it's it's you're acting like Mel Robbins use
her full government name Used different words
when I would write them down and say them to
you So it I get it. I get it super happy for
you. No, you're not But I'm gonna let you. I'm
mad for me. I'm happy for you. I've wasted a
lot of energy. A lot of time I could have done
on other things is what I'm mad about. But you
can change and change is not the right word.
Change is not the right word. There's a lot like
you can shift for your perspective to change
your day today, to change your norm, to change
your mindset, to change your future. But that
it doesn't have to be like you need to change
who you are. No, I didn't get that from her.
Yeah, I know. Because nobody would ever say that.
So when you say, I can't change, I'm not going
to change. I'm not changing. Well, no, you're
not changing, but fixing. If you don't change
anything, i .e. mindset, perception, reaction
to response, then you're going to be right where
you are in the next 128 weeks. Right. And I thought
that I did a really good job of that yesterday.
when I said, okay, well, I don't wanna sit at
home and just cry in the shower, so I will go
up to lunch, make sure he's okay, because that'll
make me feel better. At least you showered. Thank
God. That's a new thing for me too. She is Carmela.
I'm gonna have more time to shower now. Yay!
I think she just said a lot of things at the
right time, at the right moment. and it was like
the perfect storm. And then she brought it, she
brought it all back around to like posting on
Instagram. And I was like, now you're speaking
my language. So bring it on. She's talking about
the countdown method and how like you have to
count down. It's called the five second rule.
Oh yeah. Right? Yeah, yeah. She said that. But
then to me, I was like, oh, that means you drop
food and you have five seconds to eat it. But
yeah, she did call it that. Five second rule.
So you have five seconds to react. And she's
like, because scientifically in your brain, any
more time than that, you will change your whole
trajectory of your thought process. And you're
not going to do it anymore. You're going to talk
yourself out of it. But you have five seconds
to do it. The books in that room, do you want
it? No, I have the one next to my bed. That's
all labeled, which I'm going to look up. No,
I will. But anyway, so she was like, it's just
like a post on Instagram. If you are writing
a post, write it and then post it. Don't write
it backspace, edit it, because you are thinking,
well, how is somebody else going to react to
my post? Just post it. That's what you want to
say. You're going to lose a follower over it.
Who cares? Just let them. You can't control how
somebody Views your post on whatever you're gonna
say. So just do it So just do whatever you're
gonna do and don't edit yourself and I was like
I get that because I do that all the time I'll
write something and then I'll erase it and be
like I wonder like people are gonna think I'm
like this Who cares? Yeah, who cares? Let them
This is a lot I Need to process what it causes
distress, and you'll have so much more positive
stress if you just let them. And what she told
me was, this happened to her at like 41 years
old. She like flipped the switch at 41, right?
She's like a million dollars in debt. She totally
changed. We know the story. We know the story.
Oh, yeah, you know, okay. Yeah, we all know.
I just wanted to let you know. So she thought
of the let them theory. Well, I have made up
my own theory. We know, let them. No. If she
could make millions of dollars on two words,
I'm going to try my go at it. Okay. Okay. And
I'm going to make this famous and you guys will
all be saying this everywhere. It's going to
go, it's going to make me a million dollars.
Do this quickly because my computer is about
to die. That's putting Victoria in distress.
We can't let it. Okay. It's called, it's called
be here. Do you like it? Tell us quickly. We're
on 2%. Be here means... You should have thought
about this before. Be here means... I'm just
kidding. I'm just kidding. Oh my God. You are
allowed to sit in your shower and cry. If you
feel that way, just be in it. Okay, we'll change
it to be in it. She had two words. I'm going
to do three because I'm extra like that. Be in
it. Be in the happy, be in the sad. What you
choose to do after that is on you. I chose to
be in it, cry in it, and go take action. Let's
make it viral, everyone. Be in it. Just rolls
off the tongue, you know? Be in it. Be in it.
Be in it. Kind of like a bayonet. A bayonet.
Mmm, bayonet. I really thought hard about that
and then I just changed it. So I'm really flip
floppy. You mean feel the emotion and then let
it go and move on? Yes. Hmm. Like figure out
how to change. Like, no, I think. You're like,
ban it. What everybody's afraid to do is be in
it. They want to hide it under the rug. You mean
to get through the storm, you have to go through
the storm? Yeah, but that's too many words. But
I like, I think, I like where your head is. Yeah,
these are all phrases everyone's always known.
These are all things. But I mean, let them, everybody
knows, just let them, whatever. But we're gonna
be at it. We're gonna be at it. And then we're
gonna change it. Be in it. Change it. I like
it. I can't help you. So this is why Victoria
always asks me to go through her before I pick
a podcast episode. No, I'm very happy about this.
I'm happy for you. I'm happy about this. I'm
excited for you. I'm happy for you to be in it.
If you're annoyed, I want you to be in it. I'm
not annoyed. No, I want you to feel it. Be in
it. Shut up! This is like shock therapy. No,
be in it. I want you to be in it. Do you think
it'll go viral? Listen, we're really happy, no.
Okay. We're really happy for you. I'm sad you
had a rough day yesterday. I'm stoked for this
new revelation. Truly. No really. But now you
gotta follow through. I'm gonna be in it. I don't
like when you do it. Aren't you happy I did this
all by myself and I didn't call you? Yes. I really
am. I really am. I'm laughing guys. My tone will
change later, but right now my tone is gonna
stay like this because I'm on banit right now.
But later I will be out of it. But it's how you
react to keep you in it. It's how you respond.
It's not a reaction, it's a response. You were
so close. You were so close. Mellie Art? Talk
to us. We're gonna find you. Someone needs a
lot of help. But we're happy that she found you.
On SmartList. Via SmartList and Sean Hayes. If
anybody feels the same way, please chime in.
Let us know. Validate this. Well, I just don't
think there's many people that are gonna be like,
I cried because my kids are in school all day.
No, I think a lot of people do that. I do, especially
with the last child. I think it's very normal.
You need to walk a mile in somebody else's shoes.
No, you literally can't walk a mile in somebody
else's shoes. You need to know that you can never
walk a mile in somebody else's shoes. Because
then you wouldn't be in there, you'd be over
there. I really do like the way you're saying
it. Yeah, thank you. You got to swallow it a
little bit. Keep it down. Keep it suppressed.
This is done. We got to go. We got to go. I'm
applauding you silently because if I let it out.
I'm dying. I can't. I just can't. Super happy
for your new relationship. Guys, it's like 9
a .m. in the morning. We are not drinking. Relationship
status changed, okay? And we're gonna tune in,
we're gonna check in, we're gonna follow up with
her, follow through, make sure these little mind
shift changes are happening. And just remember,
you're always, I got four percent left on the
computer, we're always fit to be real. And always
allowed to be in it. Extra. For legal reasons
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