WEBVTT 00:00:20.660 --> 00:00:24.980 Welcome to be real. And a little extra. Do you 00:00:24.980 --> 00:00:28.320 want to do that again? I do not. I do not. It 00:00:28.320 --> 00:00:31.320 is what it is. I was thinking of saying when 00:00:31.320 --> 00:00:33.579 to you because while the intro music that you 00:00:33.579 --> 00:00:36.640 all just heard was going on, she's going, tell 00:00:36.640 --> 00:00:39.899 me when. As if we've never done this before. 00:00:40.469 --> 00:00:42.689 I didn't know if you were holding. I didn't know 00:00:42.689 --> 00:00:45.109 if you were waiting for me to say something. 00:00:45.229 --> 00:00:47.649 True, because you never wait. You just start 00:00:47.649 --> 00:00:50.310 talking. I have things to say. I'm Victoria. 00:00:50.570 --> 00:00:55.850 Hey, guys. I'm Carly. Oh, that was so good. Wait, 00:00:55.850 --> 00:01:00.549 I can't tell. Was that serious? Hey, guys. Told 00:01:00.549 --> 00:01:02.310 you I'm not sleeping, so I don't have a voice. 00:01:02.829 --> 00:01:06.010 I'm trying to save my voice. Only you can control 00:01:06.010 --> 00:01:09.370 forest fires and sleep. Wait, I have a serious 00:01:09.370 --> 00:01:12.409 question. What is the over under, I spill this 00:01:12.409 --> 00:01:17.370 coffee on my white pants? Oh, 100 % yes. Okay. 00:01:17.609 --> 00:01:19.750 Considering you just rested it on the couch and 00:01:19.750 --> 00:01:22.310 it was at like a 45 degree angle tilt because 00:01:22.310 --> 00:01:26.670 she was texting on her phone. So I'm gonna say 00:01:26.670 --> 00:01:31.069 yes. I just, I don't wear white ever for this 00:01:31.069 --> 00:01:33.629 reason. I don't wear white pants. You wear cream 00:01:33.629 --> 00:01:36.930 all the time. On my shirt, but never on my pants. 00:01:36.950 --> 00:01:39.680 You have a matching outfit. You've worn it on 00:01:39.680 --> 00:01:43.379 the show. A white one? Cream? Yeah, yeah, yeah. 00:01:44.120 --> 00:01:46.900 Oh, cream. Yeah, yeah, yeah. But I mean, this 00:01:46.900 --> 00:01:52.980 is like nurse white. I call hospital white. OK, 00:01:53.180 --> 00:01:56.260 OK. Well, this this goes well with what we're 00:01:56.260 --> 00:01:58.400 going to talk about today because we are talking 00:01:58.400 --> 00:02:02.200 about post Labor Day. Oh, I don't like those 00:02:02.200 --> 00:02:04.000 kinds of rules. And apparently there's a rule 00:02:04.000 --> 00:02:05.760 that you can't wear white, white shoes or white 00:02:05.760 --> 00:02:08.889 everything. White. pants. You cannot wear white 00:02:08.889 --> 00:02:13.229 pants after Labor Day. Why? I don't know. I don't 00:02:13.229 --> 00:02:15.849 do that rule because I like winter white. So 00:02:15.849 --> 00:02:17.590 I will wear white pants in the winter. I think 00:02:17.590 --> 00:02:20.310 it's very cute for December Christmas outfit. 00:02:20.770 --> 00:02:24.030 I don't own white. I don't care about that rule. 00:02:24.270 --> 00:02:27.210 It's not in the closet. Not in the drawers. Oh, 00:02:27.270 --> 00:02:29.030 you're white. It's not even on my feet. I just 00:02:29.030 --> 00:02:30.710 I thought you said you weren't in the closet. 00:02:31.750 --> 00:02:38.000 That either. I love them all. So yeah, we're 00:02:38.000 --> 00:02:41.419 talking about the transition of summer to fall 00:02:41.419 --> 00:02:43.699 because we have to. It is officially two weeks 00:02:43.699 --> 00:02:45.759 into August. So can you bring up the elephant 00:02:45.759 --> 00:02:49.460 in the room? It's time beside your white pants. 00:02:50.039 --> 00:02:54.979 Yeah, the blanket that we're sitting on. Yes, 00:02:54.979 --> 00:02:57.979 let me repeat what I said. We're transitioning 00:02:57.979 --> 00:03:01.139 into fall because we're two weeks into August 00:03:01.139 --> 00:03:04.740 and so my Hocus Pocus sweatshirt and my blanket 00:03:04.740 --> 00:03:07.419 that I bought at Michael's in July this season 00:03:07.419 --> 00:03:11.039 because that's what Michael says Have been available 00:03:11.039 --> 00:03:13.780 and ready for the fall since July. I see it. 00:03:13.780 --> 00:03:16.080 I see it now Yeah, I didn't notice your sweatshirt 00:03:16.080 --> 00:03:18.060 before I was worried about my white pants. So 00:03:18.060 --> 00:03:23.379 we know Wasn't looking at you. We know But yeah, 00:03:23.659 --> 00:03:27.900 I'm always ready for fall. Like, even when it's 00:03:27.900 --> 00:03:30.979 May, I'm like, ooh, let's get back to fall. I 00:03:30.979 --> 00:03:32.699 don't like summer, obviously. We've talked about 00:03:32.699 --> 00:03:37.560 it. But now it's getting real. Yeah, I hate it. 00:03:37.919 --> 00:03:41.259 I hate this time of year. I want to go back down 00:03:41.259 --> 00:03:43.400 the short. Can we redo? No, no, I don't want 00:03:43.400 --> 00:03:48.599 to do that. OK. No. I don't like back to school. 00:03:49.500 --> 00:03:55.219 And. I never liked the September. September is 00:03:55.219 --> 00:03:58.039 not a month for me. So you would like to wake 00:03:58.039 --> 00:04:04.120 me up when September ends? Wake me up when September 00:04:04.120 --> 00:04:08.060 ends. You have a good voice for the emo. I do. 00:04:08.699 --> 00:04:10.860 Cry. Wait, I'm going to agree with you. Yeah, 00:04:10.879 --> 00:04:12.699 the emo cry. I don't like September. I'd like 00:04:12.699 --> 00:04:16.639 to skip. I'd go from Labor Day to October. I 00:04:16.639 --> 00:04:19.019 just want to be into fall already. I don't like 00:04:19.019 --> 00:04:21.800 the transition. So you don't want to enjoy the 00:04:21.800 --> 00:04:24.759 journey. You just want the end game. For all 00:04:24.759 --> 00:04:26.579 things in life. That's across the board. Yeah. 00:04:26.579 --> 00:04:29.819 How are you still alive? Like it's a real thing. 00:04:29.819 --> 00:04:32.560 And how are you keeping other humans alive? Wait, 00:04:33.300 --> 00:04:35.259 let's talk about that for a hot second. I told 00:04:35.259 --> 00:04:36.800 Victoria I needed to make this short today. I've 00:04:36.800 --> 00:04:38.579 got a million things to do. She's got a million 00:04:38.579 --> 00:04:40.839 things to do, but I have to I will because you 00:04:40.839 --> 00:04:43.319 just said that. Bring this up. I had to call 00:04:43.319 --> 00:04:46.300 Andrew. We all know Andrew's been away all summer. 00:04:46.379 --> 00:04:50.270 I have not seen him in almost five weeks. And 00:04:50.270 --> 00:04:52.550 I called him like the week after he left and 00:04:52.550 --> 00:04:56.629 was like, what do I do around here? Because you 00:04:56.629 --> 00:04:58.490 clearly I'm doing all these jobs in the house 00:04:58.490 --> 00:05:00.850 that I've never done before. Like what? The trash. 00:05:01.029 --> 00:05:03.370 Oh. How many times I put the trash out in the 00:05:03.370 --> 00:05:04.750 trash can and then bring it down to the end of 00:05:04.750 --> 00:05:07.430 the driveway, making the coffee the night before. 00:05:10.790 --> 00:05:14.170 Like the bane of my existence is making the coffee 00:05:14.170 --> 00:05:15.970 the night before for myself the next day. Like 00:05:15.970 --> 00:05:19.279 I am literally in bed going, gosh. Darn it, I 00:05:19.279 --> 00:05:21.220 gotta go downstairs and got to make the coffee. 00:05:22.040 --> 00:05:24.360 The dishes and the dishwasher. You can make it 00:05:24.360 --> 00:05:26.759 in the morning too, you know that, right? I need 00:05:26.759 --> 00:05:28.959 it to be ready when I wake up. Because you're 00:05:28.959 --> 00:05:31.199 a princess and your husband has done that for 00:05:31.199 --> 00:05:35.019 you for the past 14 years. The dishwasher, I 00:05:35.019 --> 00:05:37.220 have to load it and unload it and put everything 00:05:37.220 --> 00:05:40.259 away. The laundry, he always puts the laundry 00:05:40.259 --> 00:05:42.259 in the dryer. I throw the laundry in the washer 00:05:42.259 --> 00:05:44.079 and then I forget it. It's like you set it and 00:05:44.079 --> 00:05:46.740 forget it. It magically goes into the dryer, 00:05:46.939 --> 00:05:49.810 never knew how. Now I know. Andrew's been putting 00:05:49.810 --> 00:05:52.170 it in the dryer for me for 15 years. Oh, my God. 00:05:52.370 --> 00:05:54.610 So I've been doing the laundry. I've been vacuuming. 00:05:54.750 --> 00:05:56.750 I've been setting ant traps for the ants that 00:05:56.750 --> 00:05:59.629 come in the summer. I've been walking the dogs. 00:06:00.170 --> 00:06:04.009 I've been letting the dogs out. Who let the dogs 00:06:04.009 --> 00:06:06.709 out? Andrew lets the dogs out because it's clearly 00:06:06.709 --> 00:06:12.149 not me. And Drew, Drew, Drew, Drew. I called 00:06:12.149 --> 00:06:17.699 him and I said, what do I do? I... Meaning like, 00:06:17.839 --> 00:06:20.220 how do I do all this stuff? Or like, what's my 00:06:20.220 --> 00:06:24.620 purpose? I'm useless. I have to like cook for 00:06:24.620 --> 00:06:27.079 the kids and feed them. They have missed so many 00:06:27.079 --> 00:06:29.480 meals this summer that I have just been like, 00:06:29.519 --> 00:06:31.519 you don't need lunch today. I feel like you just 00:06:31.519 --> 00:06:33.259 had breakfast. Let's just wait till dinner. Nobody 00:06:33.259 --> 00:06:37.379 calls CPS. They're fine. And he said, he was 00:06:37.379 --> 00:06:40.100 very nice about it. And he was like, you keep 00:06:40.100 --> 00:06:44.160 the kids alive. And I said, I don't think I am 00:06:44.160 --> 00:06:45.959 doing a good job at that either because they're 00:06:45.959 --> 00:06:48.540 skipping meals and eating candy and eating takeout 00:06:48.540 --> 00:06:50.420 and eating in the Seafit kids room because I 00:06:50.420 --> 00:06:53.779 don't have time to make like a vegetable. So 00:06:53.779 --> 00:06:56.019 I don't know if I'm keeping the kids alive. You'll 00:06:56.019 --> 00:06:58.399 have to see when you get home. Well, this is 00:06:58.399 --> 00:07:02.740 a moment to laugh at you. Sure is always is number 00:07:02.740 --> 00:07:05.399 one. Number two, it's a moment to appreciate 00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:09.300 single moms. Oh, my God. I don't know how. Single 00:07:09.300 --> 00:07:11.800 parents. Single parents. There are some single 00:07:11.800 --> 00:07:14.300 dads out there. I don't know how you guys do 00:07:14.300 --> 00:07:18.579 it. I really don't. And also, if this is a fun 00:07:18.579 --> 00:07:22.220 game, let your spouse go away for a week and 00:07:22.220 --> 00:07:26.939 see how little you do around in life, in the 00:07:26.939 --> 00:07:30.660 house. It's a fun game. I've only ever done it 00:07:30.660 --> 00:07:34.220 by myself. So that's not a fun game for me because 00:07:34.220 --> 00:07:38.769 I can do it all. OK. Well, I can't. I've never 00:07:38.769 --> 00:07:41.709 had to. I met Andrew when I was 19. I've never 00:07:41.709 --> 00:07:45.230 taken the trash out in my life. Never. I met 00:07:45.230 --> 00:07:47.810 Andrew when I was 19. I've never made coffee. 00:07:49.689 --> 00:07:51.230 No one feels bad for you. I just want to put 00:07:51.230 --> 00:07:54.350 that, first of all, no one's trying to... She 00:07:54.350 --> 00:07:56.410 doesn't want sympathy. I don't want sympathy. 00:07:57.129 --> 00:08:00.129 I'm shocked at myself. But oh my God. I'm shocked 00:08:00.129 --> 00:08:06.209 at... You pump your own gas. I do. Yay. Yay. 00:08:10.199 --> 00:08:13.879 You make your own food. I I do I make what you 00:08:13.879 --> 00:08:18.019 always make the meals. I yes Do it just bitches 00:08:18.019 --> 00:08:20.600 alarming. Yeah. No, I don't know. I don't this 00:08:20.600 --> 00:08:22.720 I don't breakfast. He makes breakfast He makes 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:24.500 the oatmeal for the kids trying to help you. 00:08:24.819 --> 00:08:28.560 Yeah And I clearly they don't know what lunch 00:08:28.560 --> 00:08:32.559 is anymore because we don't do that. I So I saw 00:08:32.559 --> 00:08:37.019 a thing on One of my one of my Instagram accounts 00:08:37.230 --> 00:08:39.710 the algorithm is a lot of like oh it's fit to 00:08:39.710 --> 00:08:42.210 be real hey the algorithm is a lot of self -help 00:08:42.210 --> 00:08:45.649 and tips and everything we talk about basically 00:08:45.649 --> 00:08:49.269 because you are what you scroll through and they 00:08:49.269 --> 00:08:53.470 there's a theory or a system of the vegetable 00:08:53.470 --> 00:08:58.190 tray for kids have you seen it you put out uh 00:08:58.190 --> 00:09:00.710 on your counter i guess you would do it on the 00:09:00.710 --> 00:09:04.590 island just a tray of open fruit and vegetables 00:09:04.590 --> 00:09:08.990 and they graze because they're grazing on vegetables 00:09:08.990 --> 00:09:11.889 and good stuff, they say, I want a snack. It's 00:09:11.889 --> 00:09:14.009 right there. They'll stop asking you for a snack. 00:09:14.090 --> 00:09:16.909 They're just going to go for it. Well, that's 00:09:16.909 --> 00:09:19.029 a good idea. Christina told me she does that. 00:09:19.210 --> 00:09:20.629 Christina, our Pilates teacher, was like, because 00:09:20.629 --> 00:09:22.929 I was saying how the kids are just eating horribly. 00:09:23.429 --> 00:09:25.730 And she was like, I just put it out on the counter 00:09:25.730 --> 00:09:28.360 and I just put. veggies and like she's like sometimes 00:09:28.360 --> 00:09:30.139 she'll put chocolate covered pretzels as like 00:09:30.139 --> 00:09:32.720 a side but usually it's like vegetables and fruit 00:09:32.720 --> 00:09:34.899 and i was like that sounds good i should do that 00:09:34.899 --> 00:09:37.179 but i need to get the ant traps so i can get 00:09:37.179 --> 00:09:40.059 the ants taken care of before i leave the food 00:09:40.059 --> 00:09:42.960 out but andrew usually does that right right 00:09:42.960 --> 00:09:47.720 right so long story short i like that idea i 00:09:47.720 --> 00:09:49.679 will do that when andrew gets back to take care 00:09:49.679 --> 00:09:56.409 of the house so when andrew does it yeah When's 00:09:56.409 --> 00:09:58.370 trash day for you? I don't know. I have to call 00:09:58.370 --> 00:10:01.830 them every week. I still to this day do not know. 00:10:01.870 --> 00:10:03.750 That sounds like a mental problem. I don't I'm 00:10:03.750 --> 00:10:07.309 not gonna write it down. So I I'm just like just 00:10:07.309 --> 00:10:09.370 can you just remind me when the recycle goes 00:10:09.370 --> 00:10:14.870 out? I can't I don't have a mental capacity for 00:10:14.870 --> 00:10:18.330 the things that I don't To use your thumb and 00:10:18.330 --> 00:10:21.450 type it and write it. No like take a note I know 00:10:21.450 --> 00:10:23.950 this is these jobs aren't forever for me. So 00:10:23.950 --> 00:10:28.110 I don't care to retain. As soon as he comes back, 00:10:28.350 --> 00:10:31.750 I'm out. I'm tapping out. He can take his jobs 00:10:31.750 --> 00:10:35.309 back. Pedro, you picked the right sister. I just 00:10:35.309 --> 00:10:41.309 hope, I hope you're listening. Tap it out. Not 00:10:41.309 --> 00:10:45.350 that you had a choice. Tap it out. Um, Carly. 00:10:45.850 --> 00:10:48.850 I just, I'm done. It's been, it's been two months. 00:10:49.009 --> 00:10:52.870 I'm done. You're done being a human? Yeah. I 00:10:52.870 --> 00:10:55.710 don't want to take the trash out anymore. You've 00:10:55.710 --> 00:10:59.950 done being a homeowner. I'm done being a homeowner. 00:11:01.490 --> 00:11:05.210 She wanted to say homeowner. Homeowner, homeowner. 00:11:05.809 --> 00:11:10.330 Cool. Well. Having said that, all that. The smallest 00:11:10.330 --> 00:11:15.309 violin is playing for you. However, it is an 00:11:15.309 --> 00:11:19.269 interesting vantage point. Because you never 00:11:19.269 --> 00:11:22.039 would have. No. You would never would have really 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:24.480 seen it or realized it all like the little things 00:11:24.480 --> 00:11:27.419 that you probably don't factor. All of us that 00:11:27.419 --> 00:11:28.980 we don't factor into the day. I don't factor 00:11:28.980 --> 00:11:30.960 in my coffee. I just have to make it every day. 00:11:31.080 --> 00:11:34.600 But you, you know, those little moments. I appreciate, 00:11:34.740 --> 00:11:37.000 I always appreciated him. I knew he did a lot. 00:11:37.399 --> 00:11:46.100 We know. I do. We did too. But now it is has 00:11:46.100 --> 00:11:49.179 been seen. I have been living it. We were at 00:11:49.179 --> 00:11:52.669 our uncle's I don't know, last weekend. And he 00:11:52.669 --> 00:11:54.330 usually plays with the kids in the pool while 00:11:54.330 --> 00:11:56.669 I sit and play cards. And I don't really have 00:11:56.669 --> 00:11:58.169 to think about the kids at all because I know 00:11:58.169 --> 00:12:02.070 Andrew's got it. And I'm like a super pool freak 00:12:02.070 --> 00:12:04.309 about the kids being in the water without being 00:12:04.309 --> 00:12:06.769 watched. And I have to sit there and watch the 00:12:06.769 --> 00:12:08.889 kids. Oh, to be fair, we were all making fun 00:12:08.889 --> 00:12:10.649 of her behind her back because we were going, 00:12:10.850 --> 00:12:13.909 why is she sitting crisscross legged, two feet 00:12:13.909 --> 00:12:16.370 away from him at the pool? Now, this pool is 00:12:16.370 --> 00:12:19.110 the size of this living room. Okay, it's not 00:12:19.110 --> 00:12:21.129 very big. You guys are making fun of me. We were 00:12:21.129 --> 00:12:22.950 like, does she have to sit there? Yes. Does she 00:12:22.950 --> 00:12:25.029 have to sit on top of them? They were in the 00:12:25.029 --> 00:12:28.789 deep end. She could, I could have spit into the 00:12:28.789 --> 00:12:31.750 deep end from the other side of the backyard. 00:12:32.570 --> 00:12:35.950 And you were, you literally camped out. She crisscrossed 00:12:35.950 --> 00:12:38.769 her legs, had her phone in her hand, was playing. 00:12:39.409 --> 00:12:41.309 I'm going to pretend to care that they want me 00:12:41.309 --> 00:12:43.899 to watch them jump into the pool. And we were 00:12:43.899 --> 00:12:46.740 all sitting having a grand old adult time watching 00:12:46.740 --> 00:12:49.539 them from two feet away. You couldn't even give 00:12:49.539 --> 00:12:51.940 them space. No, because they just learned how 00:12:51.940 --> 00:12:53.799 to jump off the diving board into the deep end. 00:12:53.919 --> 00:12:57.779 And you had seven adults. I'm not including you. 00:12:57.980 --> 00:13:03.340 Six adults at the ready. Should anything happen? 00:13:03.539 --> 00:13:06.740 You guys are making fun of me. You making fun 00:13:06.740 --> 00:13:13.879 of me, Riz? Yes. Okay, well now that I know, 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:16.120 I will probably do it again this weekend, but 00:13:16.120 --> 00:13:20.659 do not hover! He doesn't do that. He doesn't 00:13:20.659 --> 00:13:22.399 even do that. No, he's jumping off the diving 00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:24.460 board too and playing with them. I sit and play 00:13:24.460 --> 00:13:28.100 cards. Yes, you could have still done that and 00:13:28.100 --> 00:13:30.080 stared at your children with lasers with your 00:13:30.080 --> 00:13:32.840 eyes, just as you did two feet away from them. 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:35.639 I was nervous. We also went, if anything happens, 00:13:35.799 --> 00:13:38.539 she's gonna scream. not jump in the pool, and 00:13:38.539 --> 00:13:40.799 one of us will jump in the pool. So what is the 00:13:40.799 --> 00:13:42.480 big deal about being on top of that? That is 00:13:42.480 --> 00:13:47.179 correct. What do I do? You're a fool. You're 00:13:47.179 --> 00:13:51.980 a fool. Andrew, come home. Andrew. OK. Stay away. 00:13:52.299 --> 00:13:56.360 Well, again, having said all of that, we're going 00:13:56.360 --> 00:13:59.100 to get into the seven tips for dealing with the 00:13:59.100 --> 00:14:01.159 end of summer blues. Because clearly, she should 00:14:01.159 --> 00:14:04.419 be giving you lots of tips. That's what she just 00:14:04.419 --> 00:14:07.889 told us. On how to live your life. Well, I don't 00:14:07.889 --> 00:14:09.850 like the end of summer, so I always have end 00:14:09.850 --> 00:14:17.450 of summer blues. Somebody just said this to me 00:14:17.450 --> 00:14:21.889 on Sunday in class. I have the August scaries. 00:14:23.149 --> 00:14:25.929 Like the Sunday scaries? Yeah. Like gearing up 00:14:25.929 --> 00:14:28.809 for Monday. People are like, oh. But you do it 00:14:28.809 --> 00:14:31.289 all August. August scaries. I mean, I guess that's 00:14:31.289 --> 00:14:33.980 what I do too, because I'm dreading. the school 00:14:33.980 --> 00:14:36.620 emails and the lunches and the uniforms. I'm 00:14:36.620 --> 00:14:38.919 dreading it. I don't want it to happen. It's 00:14:38.919 --> 00:14:41.679 a good thing you had children that have to be 00:14:41.679 --> 00:14:46.580 in the system until they're 17. We'll see. I 00:14:46.580 --> 00:14:50.480 could homeschool. Nobody wants that. Number one. 00:14:50.559 --> 00:14:52.659 Oh my god. You would be the wild thornberries. 00:14:53.480 --> 00:14:56.500 Yeah. Dean is the little Tasmanian devil one. 00:14:58.100 --> 00:15:01.000 Melody is wearing the older teen girl with the 00:15:01.000 --> 00:15:03.539 glasses that's just like super cool. I always 00:15:03.539 --> 00:15:07.799 wanted her outfit. And Louis is there. I think 00:15:07.799 --> 00:15:10.639 there was another son. I can't remember. Yeah. 00:15:10.799 --> 00:15:13.700 I can't remember. They would learn not much. 00:15:14.139 --> 00:15:16.139 They would learn how to make the coffee for me 00:15:16.139 --> 00:15:20.019 in the morning, take out the trash, do the laundry. 00:15:21.100 --> 00:15:22.919 They would learn those things. That's called 00:15:22.919 --> 00:15:28.820 something else. No. Number one, let's deal with 00:15:28.820 --> 00:15:31.620 these blues. Child labor laws. Say it again? 00:15:32.039 --> 00:15:37.259 I can't. Child labor laws. There you go. Vitamin 00:15:37.259 --> 00:15:40.919 D. Get outside. Get outside. The more vitamin 00:15:40.919 --> 00:15:45.000 D you get, it correlates with your positivity. 00:15:45.559 --> 00:15:47.360 It literally gets in your bloodstream, the vitamin 00:15:47.360 --> 00:15:53.639 D. If you avoid it, you know that's like seasonal 00:15:53.639 --> 00:15:56.879 depression. The less vitamin D you get, the more 00:15:56.879 --> 00:15:59.179 seasonal depression you'll get and that's why 00:15:59.179 --> 00:16:01.820 people have these what they call those lights 00:16:01.820 --> 00:16:05.279 that you can have at your house to we talked 00:16:05.279 --> 00:16:07.720 about it the simulated sunrise yeah simulated 00:16:07.720 --> 00:16:10.960 sunrise so while the sun is still out and while 00:16:10.960 --> 00:16:13.360 you can get outside before it gets too cold yeah 00:16:13.360 --> 00:16:16.600 get all the vitamin d you can and it will just 00:16:16.600 --> 00:16:19.899 make you happier but i'm gonna i'm gonna say 00:16:19.899 --> 00:16:24.440 it what i've been walking every day And now is 00:16:24.440 --> 00:16:27.840 the season when even in my moving walks with 00:16:27.840 --> 00:16:32.559 the dog, I got four major bug bites on my butt 00:16:32.559 --> 00:16:35.679 cheeks. I know. Last night. Last night? They're 00:16:35.679 --> 00:16:38.500 still there, they're so big. I was walking and 00:16:38.500 --> 00:16:41.700 I was like, why am I, what is, oh my gosh, while 00:16:41.700 --> 00:16:43.340 I was moving. Did it get like down your pants 00:16:43.340 --> 00:16:45.360 or something? No, I think they just did it through 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:47.080 my pants when you weren't, leggings aren't that 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:50.750 thick. I don't know, four of them. They're huge. 00:16:51.110 --> 00:16:54.330 This season is mosquito season and I, that's 00:16:54.330 --> 00:16:56.649 the only thing I can't handle. I know, but if 00:16:56.649 --> 00:17:00.389 you can, you know what you can do, go to Seafit 00:17:00.389 --> 00:17:02.190 inside where there are no mosquitoes, because 00:17:02.190 --> 00:17:04.029 we had a grand old time in class last night. 00:17:04.150 --> 00:17:07.009 Yeah, so screw tip number one. Tip number two. 00:17:07.269 --> 00:17:11.490 Who cares about vitamin D? Plan a vacation. But 00:17:11.490 --> 00:17:15.119 plan a vacation. During the year I this is one 00:17:15.119 --> 00:17:17.400 of my favorite things to do and we started doing 00:17:17.400 --> 00:17:20.180 it a couple years ago I need things I'm the kind 00:17:20.180 --> 00:17:21.859 of person that needs things to look forward to 00:17:21.859 --> 00:17:25.220 to get me to yeah life Just isn't happy enough. 00:17:25.400 --> 00:17:30.500 No, it makes me nothing to live for there's Come 00:17:30.500 --> 00:17:33.859 on keep it coming one more one more you suck. 00:17:34.099 --> 00:17:39.690 Oh, I Got nothing I need to be like, okay, in 00:17:39.690 --> 00:17:42.109 a month, we're going to New York for the night 00:17:42.109 --> 00:17:45.509 to see a show. In a month, we're doing, we have 00:17:45.509 --> 00:17:47.869 a concert. So it doesn't have to be a vacation. 00:17:47.990 --> 00:17:51.009 I like to have events that I wanna go to because 00:17:51.009 --> 00:17:53.769 so much of life, I know for Victoria and for 00:17:53.769 --> 00:17:55.950 myself, whether you have kids or not, is doing 00:17:55.950 --> 00:17:58.609 things for other people or going to other people's 00:17:58.609 --> 00:18:00.990 events or blah, blah, blah. I like to plan stuff 00:18:00.990 --> 00:18:05.130 that I like to do. Yeah. To get me through those, 00:18:05.130 --> 00:18:07.650 you know the crazy the craziness of the year 00:18:07.650 --> 00:18:10.190 There's a party idea online that I saw that I 00:18:10.190 --> 00:18:12.809 want to do this year. So in my mind I want to 00:18:12.809 --> 00:18:15.230 plan this wait I think I know what it is bring 00:18:15.230 --> 00:18:18.950 your own celebration party. No, it's not it. 00:18:18.990 --> 00:18:21.950 Okay, so We'll talk about what you're talking 00:18:21.950 --> 00:18:24.509 about in a second, but you bring your own reason 00:18:24.509 --> 00:18:27.269 So you you know, I can decorate it however I 00:18:27.269 --> 00:18:30.740 want or whatever But if you pre tell me your 00:18:30.740 --> 00:18:33.579 reason I'll make this banner of everyone's reasons 00:18:33.579 --> 00:18:35.619 and you just get to get I mean It's just a stupid 00:18:35.619 --> 00:18:37.240 reason to get together with people that you want 00:18:37.240 --> 00:18:39.400 to get together with but it kind of just like 00:18:39.400 --> 00:18:42.619 makes a little bit fun I love that idea because 00:18:42.619 --> 00:18:45.539 I always see these reels on Instagram of these 00:18:45.539 --> 00:18:47.839 people having these fun theme parties Yeah, and 00:18:47.839 --> 00:18:49.880 you always are like my birthday's in October 00:18:49.880 --> 00:18:52.079 everything like just have a party it does you 00:18:52.079 --> 00:18:56.250 don't need a reason just Have a fun. I want to 00:18:56.250 --> 00:18:58.289 do the one where it's like pick your favorite 00:18:58.289 --> 00:19:00.670 photo of yourself as a young kid and try and 00:19:00.670 --> 00:19:03.710 re come as it reenacted I've seen that one like 00:19:03.710 --> 00:19:07.910 there I can name five pictures that I Like are 00:19:07.910 --> 00:19:09.829 in rotation in my head when I was like three 00:19:09.829 --> 00:19:12.609 years old I would come dressed as me as the three 00:19:12.609 --> 00:19:13.910 -year -old and that's why you don't know how 00:19:13.910 --> 00:19:16.269 to make coffee because you're thinking about 00:19:16.269 --> 00:19:20.940 photos of yourself Yes. Or I just saw one yesterday 00:19:20.940 --> 00:19:24.420 that was come as your senior year, how you dressed 00:19:24.420 --> 00:19:26.700 as senior year. Oh, God. No, but it's really 00:19:26.700 --> 00:19:30.519 funny because mom would come completely looking 00:19:30.519 --> 00:19:33.039 different than how we would come looking as our 00:19:33.039 --> 00:19:34.940 senior. Like, what did we wear senior year of 00:19:34.940 --> 00:19:37.539 high school? Come with your cow pants and your 00:19:37.539 --> 00:19:39.839 bucket hat. No, that was eighth grade. That was 00:19:39.839 --> 00:19:43.380 yesterday. Yeah. I have a cow bag. But yeah, 00:19:43.440 --> 00:19:45.740 you come as dressed as your senior year, which 00:19:45.740 --> 00:19:49.599 I love. Yeah. There's no, that's the thing. The 00:19:49.599 --> 00:19:52.440 problem is, we have to be serious about these 00:19:52.440 --> 00:19:55.819 things, even though they seem frivolous, because 00:19:55.819 --> 00:19:58.559 then all of a sudden everything's too busy, every 00:19:58.559 --> 00:20:00.299 weekend's taken up, you always have a reason 00:20:00.299 --> 00:20:02.500 as to why it's not a right time, and then now 00:20:02.500 --> 00:20:04.460 the year's over and we're talking about September 00:20:04.460 --> 00:20:07.880 again, you know? So, we just have to do it. I 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:10.200 love that. That's it. So I'm changing it. Plan 00:20:10.200 --> 00:20:13.079 a vacation or plan a party. Yeah, an event. An 00:20:13.079 --> 00:20:15.859 event. Something that you like. I like a concert. 00:20:16.099 --> 00:20:17.880 I went to a lot of concerts last year. Yeah. 00:20:18.039 --> 00:20:20.140 Last year was the year of yes for me, and I'm 00:20:20.140 --> 00:20:23.079 going to redo that. I like that. OK, next one. 00:20:23.180 --> 00:20:28.140 Re -evaluate your goals. I feel like September 00:20:28.140 --> 00:20:32.980 and January are very similar for me. Because 00:20:32.980 --> 00:20:37.460 in January, everybody does the New Year's resolutions 00:20:37.460 --> 00:20:40.619 or the whatever. What do we call them? What do 00:20:40.619 --> 00:20:42.480 you call them? Intentions? Intentions. But I 00:20:42.480 --> 00:20:44.700 feel like I do that in September, too. It's like 00:20:44.700 --> 00:20:47.420 a restart. Even if you don't have kids that are 00:20:47.420 --> 00:20:49.940 school age and you're starting in school, it 00:20:49.940 --> 00:20:52.279 just feels that way. I still think it's back 00:20:52.279 --> 00:20:54.940 to school for me. Yeah. It's like, oh, it's September. 00:20:55.039 --> 00:20:56.740 Things are changing. It just feels like that. 00:20:56.740 --> 00:20:58.420 Yeah. I just had this conversation this morning 00:20:58.420 --> 00:21:04.220 with my clients. January is a reset, but September 00:21:04.220 --> 00:21:06.420 can be a refocus. Oh, that's good. I like that. 00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:10.349 So that. It's not necessarily like all right. 00:21:10.349 --> 00:21:12.529 Let's do it again in January. It's just okay. 00:21:12.670 --> 00:21:14.630 It's September or it's gearing up to September 00:21:14.630 --> 00:21:19.690 What do I want to finish this year out yeah like 00:21:19.690 --> 00:21:22.430 I mean it could be even so much as that we've 00:21:22.430 --> 00:21:24.109 talked about before of looking at your goals 00:21:24.109 --> 00:21:28.809 that you set in past January and like Did they 00:21:28.809 --> 00:21:32.029 pan out? Yeah, did you? Take put them in action. 00:21:32.049 --> 00:21:34.769 Do you have to read like think them so it's just 00:21:34.839 --> 00:21:36.519 different ways to say the same thing. Yeah, I 00:21:36.519 --> 00:21:40.619 like that. But yeah, I agree. September. We haven't 00:21:40.619 --> 00:21:45.019 been in school in how long? Well, 20 years. Oh, 00:21:45.019 --> 00:21:46.960 yeah. Well, I graduated high school 20 years 00:21:46.960 --> 00:21:49.960 ago. Oh, right. So, you know, do the math. I 00:21:49.960 --> 00:21:51.279 went to four colleges, so I'm not going to do 00:21:51.279 --> 00:21:53.339 the math. It's like a decade. And I still am 00:21:53.339 --> 00:21:56.240 like, oh, September. OK. Love a new notebook 00:21:56.240 --> 00:21:59.039 and new pencils. And I love wasting my money 00:21:59.039 --> 00:22:01.359 on things I'm not going to use 100 percent. We're 00:22:01.359 --> 00:22:05.279 both using our phones. My notebook is on the 00:22:05.279 --> 00:22:08.900 coffee table. Yeah, it's right there. Yeah, she's 00:22:08.900 --> 00:22:13.140 doing her best doing my best But yeah, it's really 00:22:13.140 --> 00:22:15.940 things that that you want to make happen. I like 00:22:15.940 --> 00:22:18.420 I like what you said It's like a refocus. I like 00:22:18.420 --> 00:22:22.339 that All right. Next one get excited about it 00:22:22.339 --> 00:22:26.900 even if you're Did I say that get excited about 00:22:26.900 --> 00:22:29.779 it? We are very excited about fall. We are fall 00:22:29.779 --> 00:22:33.339 people if you're not a fall person and you are 00:22:33.339 --> 00:22:37.440 a summer person, find some reasons to get excited 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:40.380 about what's coming. So you really have to do 00:22:40.380 --> 00:22:43.319 that yourself. Look ahead. What are you excited 00:22:43.319 --> 00:22:45.059 about? Are you excited about bonfires? Are you 00:22:45.059 --> 00:22:47.460 excited about the hayrides? If you're not a Halloween 00:22:47.460 --> 00:22:50.059 person, are you excited about Thanksgiving? Try 00:22:50.059 --> 00:22:52.859 and find the good in what's to come. You could 00:22:52.859 --> 00:22:56.480 plan a tropical party in November, December. 00:22:56.559 --> 00:23:01.160 Be like, I want to go back to that mindset. Tiki 00:23:01.160 --> 00:23:04.220 bar it up in the middle of winter. Like what 00:23:04.220 --> 00:23:07.000 are the rules? There are no rules. I like it. 00:23:07.380 --> 00:23:10.160 The next one. I'm very serious about this. I'm 00:23:10.160 --> 00:23:12.539 very serious about my tips. I just think you 00:23:12.539 --> 00:23:16.500 have a lot going on. I'm gonna be completely 00:23:16.500 --> 00:23:21.660 honest. You have a lot going on. Okay, indulge 00:23:21.660 --> 00:23:24.319 in self -care. I don't think there's a timeline 00:23:24.319 --> 00:23:27.640 for this. I think this is an all year long... 00:23:28.079 --> 00:23:31.279 I think it's something we put in every season 00:23:31.279 --> 00:23:33.599 to be like, it's a good time for this, because 00:23:33.599 --> 00:23:36.420 it just doesn't happen. Well, I said that last 00:23:36.420 --> 00:23:39.819 night in class. It's like a hamster wheel, because 00:23:39.819 --> 00:23:42.500 I was like, guys, what is it? Where is everybody 00:23:42.500 --> 00:23:45.059 tonight? Because I had a really small class. 00:23:45.259 --> 00:23:47.819 I said, is it me? And after everybody said yes, 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:51.019 they said, no, no, no, no, no, wait. It's really 00:23:51.019 --> 00:23:54.130 nice out. People are happy. I said, guys. It's 00:23:54.130 --> 00:23:56.210 always something. The Phillies are playing. Then 00:23:56.210 --> 00:23:58.730 the Eagles are playing. Then back to school is 00:23:58.730 --> 00:24:00.849 starting. Then it's the holidays. It's always 00:24:00.849 --> 00:24:05.450 going to be something. So you have to make it 00:24:05.450 --> 00:24:08.589 important enough. I wasn't yelling at the people 00:24:08.589 --> 00:24:09.789 that were actually in class. The people that 00:24:09.789 --> 00:24:11.730 actually signed up for your class don't need 00:24:11.730 --> 00:24:13.289 to hear this. They were like, please don't punish 00:24:13.289 --> 00:24:14.930 us because we're here. And I said, oh no, I'm 00:24:14.930 --> 00:24:16.990 going to punish all the people that didn't show 00:24:16.990 --> 00:24:19.390 up through you guys' class tonight. So you can 00:24:19.390 --> 00:24:22.130 all tell your friends. So it is 100 % you. Like 00:24:22.130 --> 00:24:25.069 you texted me that, and I was like, yes. I've 00:24:25.069 --> 00:24:27.630 been telling you this for months. Yeah, no, it's 00:24:27.630 --> 00:24:30.970 me. But what I'm trying to make the correlation 00:24:30.970 --> 00:24:35.490 here is there is never a good time. There's never 00:24:35.490 --> 00:24:39.450 a bad time. So self -care is all year round, 00:24:39.849 --> 00:24:42.430 and it starts over in September. If you've dropped 00:24:42.430 --> 00:24:44.250 it a little bit over the summer, because yes, 00:24:44.250 --> 00:24:47.029 even the summer is crazy. The fall is crazy too. 00:24:47.569 --> 00:24:50.240 Plan it. Go get that massage. Get your nails 00:24:50.240 --> 00:24:53.420 done. Sign up for the new gym that you've been 00:24:53.420 --> 00:24:54.859 meaning to go to, but you've been down the shore 00:24:54.859 --> 00:25:00.619 all summer. Indulge in it all year long. Agreed. 00:25:01.720 --> 00:25:03.920 This one is one of my favorites because I started 00:25:03.920 --> 00:25:06.480 doing it a couple weeks ago, and I really love 00:25:06.480 --> 00:25:09.380 it. Turn your home into a sanctuary. I don't 00:25:09.380 --> 00:25:12.299 really turn my home into a sanctuary, but what 00:25:12.299 --> 00:25:14.940 that really means is declutter. Get rid of all 00:25:14.940 --> 00:25:18.119 the stuff that you don't need anymore. Go through 00:25:18.119 --> 00:25:20.019 and so you can start fresh like Victoria said 00:25:20.019 --> 00:25:23.759 in September We're both having a hard time talking. 00:25:23.759 --> 00:25:26.940 Yours are a little worse than mine. So I'm a 00:25:26.940 --> 00:25:31.960 little excited about that September is It's a 00:25:31.960 --> 00:25:34.039 new month coming so we'll let you know when it 00:25:34.039 --> 00:25:36.839 drops but uh, September is a really good time 00:25:36.839 --> 00:25:39.880 to purge because you're gonna bring out your 00:25:39.880 --> 00:25:42.640 Halloween stuff and your decoration. That's that's 00:25:42.640 --> 00:25:45.700 what I think I look around I'm like, okay How 00:25:45.700 --> 00:25:47.839 can I possibly add decorations to what already 00:25:47.839 --> 00:25:50.779 feels very cluttered? And it's just getting things 00:25:50.779 --> 00:25:55.579 situated and organized. I have a pack of really 00:25:55.579 --> 00:25:58.799 nice boxes, like storage boxes that I bought 00:25:58.799 --> 00:26:02.420 last year to organize my decorations in the cellar 00:26:02.420 --> 00:26:04.319 downstairs. Still haven't done it. Don't say 00:26:04.319 --> 00:26:07.160 cellar. Like now would be a good time. Basement? 00:26:08.160 --> 00:26:10.480 What do you? It's not a basement from Wizard 00:26:10.480 --> 00:26:14.119 of Oz. Get down there. NEM, get in the cellar. 00:26:17.880 --> 00:26:22.839 I'm gonna need you all to rein in on this one. 00:26:23.779 --> 00:26:29.519 But Vote Cellar, it is a completely cement and 00:26:29.519 --> 00:26:37.539 stone creepy ghost -like empty room with all 00:26:37.539 --> 00:26:39.559 the things you need like the boiler system or 00:26:39.559 --> 00:26:42.240 it's not a boiler but like the water what decade 00:26:42.240 --> 00:26:44.920 what year are you from you have your boiler in 00:26:44.920 --> 00:26:49.740 your cellar yeah you probably do hold on you 00:26:49.740 --> 00:26:51.240 don't even know how to make coffee i don't know 00:26:51.240 --> 00:26:53.579 why i'm trying to fight this i have a cellar 00:26:53.579 --> 00:26:55.619 where i store all my stuff and i would like to 00:26:55.619 --> 00:26:57.500 organize it so now would be a good time to do 00:26:57.500 --> 00:27:01.200 that to set up for you know september an easier 00:27:01.200 --> 00:27:06.400 september and venember and september december 00:27:06.909 --> 00:27:10.089 Well, I have, adding on to that, I have three 00:27:10.089 --> 00:27:12.289 birthdays in the summer. All my kids are in the 00:27:12.289 --> 00:27:16.309 summer. So we have, it's been, it's like Christmas 00:27:16.309 --> 00:27:18.009 all year long. Now I have to gear up for Christmas. 00:27:18.089 --> 00:27:19.849 It's an expensive summer. Oh God, it's horrible. 00:27:20.410 --> 00:27:27.450 But I'm so happy that they're here. Maybe you 00:27:27.450 --> 00:27:30.670 should beat them lunch. No, I'm decluttering. 00:27:35.700 --> 00:27:38.799 But the toys are like overflowing in my house. 00:27:38.799 --> 00:27:41.619 So I love at the end of the summer to get rid 00:27:41.619 --> 00:27:43.220 of the stuff. Like they've got new stuff. So 00:27:43.220 --> 00:27:45.000 to get rid of some of the things they don't play 00:27:45.000 --> 00:27:49.339 with so that we can redo it come Christmas. So 00:27:49.339 --> 00:27:53.339 I love that time of year. You teach them donation. 00:27:53.539 --> 00:27:55.599 Yeah. Oh, yeah. So they have to go through and 00:27:55.599 --> 00:27:57.319 do all that kind of stuff and they have to donate 00:27:57.319 --> 00:27:58.940 the things they don't play with anymore. But 00:27:58.940 --> 00:28:01.200 it's a good feeling. Yeah. Yeah. It's a really 00:28:01.200 --> 00:28:04.000 good feeling. All right, the last one which I 00:28:04.000 --> 00:28:05.839 think you guys are really gonna love and I think 00:28:05.839 --> 00:28:12.819 you all might suggest for me get help If it is 00:28:12.819 --> 00:28:15.559 a and I don't mean this to be funny, but I probably 00:28:15.559 --> 00:28:20.519 need it myself if gearing up for September and 00:28:20.519 --> 00:28:24.059 the restart of the refocus is really so bad that 00:28:24.059 --> 00:28:27.680 you just can't Focus on anything and you really 00:28:27.680 --> 00:28:29.880 don't want to do it seek professional help talk 00:28:29.880 --> 00:28:33.500 to somebody get with somebody that enjoys it. 00:28:33.519 --> 00:28:35.640 Maybe you can find some like commonalities or 00:28:35.640 --> 00:28:40.920 whatever. But for me, just get help. I support 00:28:40.920 --> 00:28:44.880 this more than anything you've ever said, only 00:28:44.880 --> 00:28:47.119 if you're directing that at yourself. But I, 00:28:47.160 --> 00:28:49.640 if I'm going to add to that, I think get help 00:28:49.640 --> 00:28:51.559 could also be if you're overwhelmed with the 00:28:51.559 --> 00:28:53.880 things that you have to do, i .e. normal life 00:28:53.880 --> 00:28:58.829 that is shocking to you. Get help. Get someone 00:28:58.829 --> 00:29:01.369 to come over and walk your dogs. Get help. Ask 00:29:01.369 --> 00:29:03.549 somebody to take the kids to lunch so you can 00:29:03.549 --> 00:29:05.150 get something done. Like, get help that way, 00:29:05.210 --> 00:29:07.710 too. I know. I hate doing that, but yeah. My 00:29:07.710 --> 00:29:11.069 mom is so mad at me at all times this summer 00:29:11.069 --> 00:29:13.970 because I guess I've been saying I got it a lot. 00:29:13.990 --> 00:29:16.349 That's all you say. I got it. And let me tell 00:29:16.349 --> 00:29:19.529 you something. You don't got it. Let me be the 00:29:19.529 --> 00:29:22.269 first and not only to say you do not got it. 00:29:22.289 --> 00:29:26.519 It's just easier if I do it. Is it? Because you 00:29:26.519 --> 00:29:30.140 look tired. You're not sleeping. You tell us 00:29:30.140 --> 00:29:32.400 every week you're not sleeping. I just feel like, 00:29:32.440 --> 00:29:33.660 I'm like, I got it. You're not feeding the children. 00:29:33.680 --> 00:29:35.380 She's like, I'm going to put it on a t -shirt. 00:29:35.680 --> 00:29:37.940 Oh, yeah. Yeah, I'm not feeding the children. 00:29:40.099 --> 00:29:41.740 Again, we're partially kidding. Nobody call. 00:29:41.880 --> 00:29:47.779 Chill out. She's just feeding them junk. So they're 00:29:47.779 --> 00:29:51.039 very happy. Yeah, they're staying up late, sleeping. 00:29:51.240 --> 00:29:53.500 I mean, they're like college kids right now. 00:29:53.579 --> 00:30:00.099 So. But yeah, get help. Okay, yeah. So, I'm gonna 00:30:00.099 --> 00:30:02.059 add a little bit to this list, but we're also 00:30:02.059 --> 00:30:06.000 gonna keep it short. Add immune boosting practices 00:30:06.000 --> 00:30:08.700 to your routine. We have two articles we're attaching 00:30:08.700 --> 00:30:11.019 to this episode. Highly recommend you read them. 00:30:11.859 --> 00:30:15.880 But I read that and I was like, huh? What does 00:30:15.880 --> 00:30:18.240 that mean? And it's similar to what you said. 00:30:18.839 --> 00:30:22.759 Declutter, get all of the seasonal food that... 00:30:24.279 --> 00:30:26.240 Not necessarily like you've bad food in your 00:30:26.240 --> 00:30:28.480 kitchen, but like the spices that come out and 00:30:28.480 --> 00:30:31.960 fall, put them in the front, like reset the rooms 00:30:31.960 --> 00:30:36.460 that are always kind of seasonal. Make it easier 00:30:36.460 --> 00:30:40.019 for yourself. Sorry, is it okay that I hold my 00:30:40.019 --> 00:30:42.859 mic like this? I got some feedback last week 00:30:42.859 --> 00:30:45.680 that some interesting mic holds. I forgot, I 00:30:45.680 --> 00:30:50.039 totally forgot. I don't like it. And also schedule 00:30:50.039 --> 00:30:54.089 your doctor's appointments. Boo I know but I 00:30:54.089 --> 00:30:55.970 haven't done it as soon as the recital ended. 00:30:55.970 --> 00:30:59.049 I was like I'm Calling the dentist. I'm scheduling 00:30:59.049 --> 00:31:01.930 the doctor. I'm doing the gynecologist, but I've 00:31:01.930 --> 00:31:04.930 not made one call. Yeah me either for myself 00:31:04.930 --> 00:31:08.910 for my health and That's a problem. It's a problem 00:31:08.910 --> 00:31:10.430 because now we're gonna get in the season where 00:31:10.430 --> 00:31:13.240 our immune our immune systems like decrease a 00:31:13.240 --> 00:31:15.039 little due to how much we're not taking care 00:31:15.039 --> 00:31:17.619 of ourselves. That and those teachers and nurses 00:31:17.619 --> 00:31:20.400 who are going to be around snotty kids all year. 00:31:20.460 --> 00:31:23.400 I mean, it's just what happens. So if you can 00:31:23.400 --> 00:31:28.119 prevent, try to. Yeah, don't be around children. 00:31:29.299 --> 00:31:33.079 Take a social media break. Yes. Take a social 00:31:33.079 --> 00:31:35.579 media break. I didn't think this was something 00:31:35.579 --> 00:31:38.279 to gear yourself up for September, but I think. 00:31:39.179 --> 00:31:41.920 the reason for this. I mean, they talk about 00:31:41.920 --> 00:31:46.539 it, but it's just more comparison. They had a 00:31:46.539 --> 00:31:48.579 better summer. I didn't do as much this summer 00:31:48.579 --> 00:31:52.099 as other people's. I should make September, October 00:31:52.099 --> 00:31:54.460 the busiest and do all the things and go to all 00:31:54.460 --> 00:31:56.559 the farms and do all the, and then all of a sudden 00:31:56.559 --> 00:31:59.359 you're running yourself ragged in comparison 00:31:59.359 --> 00:32:01.440 of what you did do, what you didn't do, what 00:32:01.440 --> 00:32:04.859 you have to do. And you're now starting the year 00:32:04.859 --> 00:32:08.799 like that. But how am I going to save all the 00:32:08.799 --> 00:32:12.920 Halloween decorations and recipes that I'm never 00:32:12.920 --> 00:32:15.619 going to do if I don't see it on Instagram and 00:32:15.619 --> 00:32:17.880 save it and then forget about it? True. I saw 00:32:17.880 --> 00:32:20.680 a really good one this morning doing it. It happens 00:32:20.680 --> 00:32:25.779 every year. I save about 30 cute recipes, decoration 00:32:25.779 --> 00:32:29.799 ideas, and then it never happens. Well, maybe 00:32:29.799 --> 00:32:32.890 that's part of your self -care. Yeah, like make 00:32:32.890 --> 00:32:35.369 it happen. Yeah, dude one want to make a cheesecake 00:32:35.369 --> 00:32:38.849 with a little spiderweb on it Okay, been there 00:32:38.849 --> 00:32:41.890 done that literally done it for you. Maybe that's 00:32:41.890 --> 00:32:46.230 where I got the idea My memories are your memories 00:32:46.230 --> 00:32:49.730 start a summers and tradition Oh my god, I'm 00:32:49.730 --> 00:32:52.410 gonna hurt you start a summers and tradition 00:32:52.410 --> 00:32:56.650 We all have one. It's Labor Day, right? There's 00:32:56.650 --> 00:33:00.529 one already set. Yeah We also have one in our 00:33:00.529 --> 00:33:02.690 specific family. It's not summer's end technically, 00:33:02.710 --> 00:33:04.269 but like we go down the shore It's a tradition. 00:33:04.269 --> 00:33:07.750 We do it every year. It's Used to be towards 00:33:07.750 --> 00:33:10.049 summer's end. Yeah, it's more midsummer. Yeah, 00:33:10.089 --> 00:33:12.890 but like find something for you and your little 00:33:12.890 --> 00:33:17.250 unit Your people your friends and that's what 00:33:17.250 --> 00:33:19.210 you do at the end of the summer every year Yeah, 00:33:19.210 --> 00:33:20.890 even if it's just like a gathering makes you 00:33:20.890 --> 00:33:23.869 happy Even though something's coming to an end. 00:33:23.869 --> 00:33:26.049 It makes you happy to think about oh I still 00:33:26.049 --> 00:33:27.809 have this coming up and that's gonna be so fun 00:33:28.079 --> 00:33:33.359 But it becomes this tradition. Yeah, there's 00:33:33.359 --> 00:33:36.000 no new thought to that. It just becomes the tradition 00:33:36.000 --> 00:33:37.680 that you get excited for. Well, one of our traditions 00:33:37.680 --> 00:33:41.359 is we go to our uncles in Jersey, and we go to 00:33:41.359 --> 00:33:43.740 their pool. And that's the last hurrah. We sit 00:33:43.740 --> 00:33:45.720 at the pool next to the diving board if your 00:33:45.720 --> 00:33:47.519 kids are just learning how to swim. If you're 00:33:47.519 --> 00:33:51.319 smothering and hovering. That's our last time 00:33:51.319 --> 00:33:53.519 at the pool. It's our last time playing cards. 00:33:54.859 --> 00:33:57.200 for outside for the year. And that's sort of 00:33:57.200 --> 00:33:59.839 the end before school. Yeah. But find that for 00:33:59.839 --> 00:34:02.420 yourself. Yeah. Could be a porch hang with some 00:34:02.420 --> 00:34:03.839 wine with your friends. Yeah. It doesn't have 00:34:03.839 --> 00:34:06.740 to be anything crazy. But I like that. I like 00:34:06.740 --> 00:34:09.920 that, too. And then this one is the last one. 00:34:09.960 --> 00:34:13.019 This one lists like, did you get all your summer 00:34:13.019 --> 00:34:15.380 bucket list stuff done? I didn't even make that 00:34:15.380 --> 00:34:19.400 list. But it also makes a fall bucket list. So 00:34:19.400 --> 00:34:21.969 I think for me, it's more that. at the start 00:34:21.969 --> 00:34:24.690 of each season, make a little bucket list for 00:34:24.690 --> 00:34:27.989 yourself from September to end of November and 00:34:27.989 --> 00:34:32.389 then December to, what, March? Yeah. I don't 00:34:32.389 --> 00:34:34.449 know. Whatever winter months are for you and 00:34:34.449 --> 00:34:36.869 how you want to pack it that way. Maybe it's 00:34:36.869 --> 00:34:38.949 just Christmas. That seems to be its own season. 00:34:39.829 --> 00:34:45.769 Your dog smells so bad right now. I have to walk 00:34:45.769 --> 00:34:52.010 her. Oh, I can't. I can't un -smell her. I don't 00:34:52.010 --> 00:34:55.869 smell it. Oh. Can your bucket list take your 00:34:55.869 --> 00:34:58.570 dog for more walks? She's right next to me. We 00:34:58.570 --> 00:35:01.489 walk for 40 minutes every single day, but I haven't 00:35:01.489 --> 00:35:04.050 done it yet. I've been working and I fed her. 00:35:04.090 --> 00:35:10.530 Oh, I smell it. Yeah. Yeah. Your dog is. Because 00:35:10.530 --> 00:35:14.309 I gave her wet food in the morning. OK, continue. 00:35:14.550 --> 00:35:17.010 You'll feel better soon, Pepper. I promise. No, 00:35:17.010 --> 00:35:19.510 that's it. Create a bucket list for the season. 00:35:19.840 --> 00:35:22.360 Like, I want to go to Dalton Farms. I've been 00:35:22.360 --> 00:35:27.460 saying it since I was 30, because that's when 00:35:27.460 --> 00:35:31.360 I discovered it. Oh my god, she really did. Like, 00:35:31.380 --> 00:35:35.940 I can't focus right now. I cannot focus. It wafted. 00:35:40.539 --> 00:35:42.860 What was I saying? Dalton Farms. Dalton Farms. 00:35:43.139 --> 00:35:49.400 In the fall, you can pay for it. You can pay 00:35:49.400 --> 00:35:52.760 for up to two -hour time slots, which is what 00:35:52.760 --> 00:35:57.059 they started in COVID, to go to, it's all sunflowers. 00:35:57.519 --> 00:36:00.219 Oh, you would like that. But they do food trucks 00:36:00.219 --> 00:36:02.800 and live music. Oh, that's fun. It's this whole 00:36:02.800 --> 00:36:04.179 thing. It's right over the bridge in Jersey. 00:36:04.360 --> 00:36:06.460 I would do that. And in the spring, it's all 00:36:06.460 --> 00:36:08.840 tulips. And you can walk through, you can clip 00:36:08.840 --> 00:36:10.539 them, you can purchase, just like the villa with 00:36:10.539 --> 00:36:14.440 pumpkins and strawberries and stuff. But in the 00:36:14.440 --> 00:36:16.139 fall it's sunflowers because that's when they 00:36:16.139 --> 00:36:18.679 bloom and it looks amazing and it's just yeah 00:36:18.679 --> 00:36:21.460 It's a fun fall thing to do and I want to carve 00:36:21.460 --> 00:36:23.260 pumpkins this year I had didn't do it last year 00:36:23.260 --> 00:36:25.800 didn't do it last year I wanted but like those 00:36:25.800 --> 00:36:27.099 things that you don't think you need to make 00:36:27.099 --> 00:36:29.519 a list for I think you have to Visualize the 00:36:29.519 --> 00:36:32.219 list so you can make sure that they happen. Yeah, 00:36:32.360 --> 00:36:34.219 especially with kids. I know we didn't carve 00:36:34.219 --> 00:36:38.789 pumpkins last year and they remembered like after 00:36:38.789 --> 00:36:40.349 the fact they were like, Halloween's over and 00:36:40.349 --> 00:36:41.730 we didn't carve pumpkins. I was like, there was 00:36:41.730 --> 00:36:45.489 no time. But that's like this, I know, I can't, 00:36:45.489 --> 00:36:49.030 it's in my mouth. I don't even want to talk because 00:36:49.030 --> 00:36:52.889 I don't want my mouth open. Oh, she moved. Don't 00:36:52.889 --> 00:36:55.570 be ashamed. You should definitely be ashamed 00:36:55.570 --> 00:36:57.829 of yourself right now. You're embarrassing yourself. 00:36:59.750 --> 00:37:02.989 She's healthy. Leave her alone. Oh my God. She's 00:37:02.989 --> 00:37:06.489 also rotting from the inside out. But I think 00:37:06.489 --> 00:37:08.349 I think that is what it is for you. You have 00:37:08.349 --> 00:37:11.670 to make the list. Yeah, you can but right Right 00:37:11.670 --> 00:37:13.610 a list. Yeah. Yeah. No, I'll do it. Yeah, I'll 00:37:13.610 --> 00:37:20.469 do it. I'm doing my best It's not great But I 00:37:20.469 --> 00:37:25.869 thought those are your tips your our Tips and 00:37:25.869 --> 00:37:29.210 advice that we also need to take To kind of make 00:37:29.210 --> 00:37:31.710 it a smooth transition or to make it not so sad. 00:37:32.050 --> 00:37:34.429 Yeah, I think that's what it is not to make it 00:37:34.429 --> 00:37:37.489 so devastating that the summer is over and then 00:37:37.489 --> 00:37:40.170 we got to go back to the grind. Like, here we 00:37:40.170 --> 00:37:44.150 go again. I've been grinding. Out here grinding. 00:37:45.989 --> 00:37:50.349 It's not that. I'm grinding. I can see the move. 00:37:52.050 --> 00:37:55.050 Because I'm out here. Stop it. I don't know what 00:37:55.050 --> 00:37:56.989 I'm gonna be. This is how I'm gonna be. It's 00:37:56.989 --> 00:37:59.230 really high. It's really high. You started really 00:37:59.230 --> 00:38:03.000 high. It's one, two, three, me. That's all I 00:38:03.000 --> 00:38:05.659 know. Three punches, one name. I don't know but 00:38:05.659 --> 00:38:11.400 we got the last one. Oh, different song. That's 00:38:11.400 --> 00:38:14.840 a different song. Sorry. Never mind. I don't 00:38:14.840 --> 00:38:21.019 know what they say. I'ma be me. Cause I'm out 00:38:21.019 --> 00:38:25.340 here grinding. Cause I'm out here DJ Khaled. 00:38:31.519 --> 00:38:37.260 There's some bad words in here. There it is. 00:38:40.380 --> 00:38:51.820 It was there. We just couldn't get it out. So 00:38:51.820 --> 00:38:57.699 if you've also been out here grinding. If you 00:38:57.699 --> 00:39:00.929 haven't turned us off yet. And you want to get 00:39:00.929 --> 00:39:07.550 into Semsember. Check out the articles and join 00:39:07.550 --> 00:39:10.750 us in our crusade for just trying to function 00:39:10.750 --> 00:39:13.849 better than we are today. I think that's a great 00:39:13.849 --> 00:39:18.010 name for the podcast. Just trying to function 00:39:18.010 --> 00:39:21.190 better than yesterday. Is that not what you said? 00:39:21.510 --> 00:39:25.090 I mean, it's not, but it also is at the same 00:39:25.090 --> 00:39:27.210 time. I'd listen to that podcast. Which is pretty 00:39:27.210 --> 00:39:29.880 similar to like wanting to be fit to be real 00:39:29.880 --> 00:39:34.179 and not fake it. Sure. Just trying to function 00:39:34.179 --> 00:39:36.519 better than yesterday. Wouldn't that have been 00:39:36.519 --> 00:39:38.880 an awesome time for you to finish the phrase 00:39:38.880 --> 00:39:41.780 like we normally do to finish and do it properly? 00:39:42.019 --> 00:39:43.500 I'm not good at it. Don't you think? That would 00:39:43.500 --> 00:39:45.739 have been nice to tell us to be extra. I can't 00:39:45.739 --> 00:39:49.659 be good at everything. Oh, pick one thing. Pick 00:39:49.659 --> 00:39:55.039 one thing and prove that first. No. Yeah, no 00:39:55.039 --> 00:39:57.920 tips today because they were all tips, so. We 00:39:57.920 --> 00:40:01.300 hope you all - You're S -O -L. We hope you all, 00:40:01.460 --> 00:40:04.699 we are all shit out of luck today, okay? We hope 00:40:04.699 --> 00:40:08.639 you all enjoy the last couple days, weeks of 00:40:08.639 --> 00:40:12.019 summer, right? Don't try to rush them. I'm definitely 00:40:12.019 --> 00:40:16.079 rushing them. But also don't mourn them, because 00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:19.019 it's gonna be a good season, all right? So remember, 00:40:19.059 --> 00:40:22.980 you are always fit to be fucking real. And always 00:40:22.980 --> 00:40:34.530 allowed to be a little extra. For legal reasons, 00:40:34.690 --> 00:40:36.349 we have to tell you that this podcast is meant 00:40:36.349 --> 00:40:38.750 for entertainment and educational purposes only. 00:40:38.809 --> 00:40:41.389 We are not healthcare professionals. For all 00:40:41.389 --> 00:40:43.570 of your health, wellness, fitness, and self -care 00:40:43.570 --> 00:40:45.809 needs, please refer to the medical professional 00:40:45.809 --> 00:40:48.469 in your life, your primary care physician, your 00:40:48.469 --> 00:40:51.050 therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may 00:40:51.050 --> 00:40:53.489 be. And then let us know what they say because 00:40:53.489 --> 00:40:57.829 I guarantee we need to know it too. Okay? Okay, 00:40:57.949 --> 00:40:58.090 bye.