Welcome to Fit To Be Real. And a little extra.
I almost forgot how to say it. Well, it's been
a minute. It's been two full weeks. Which is
the longest time that we've been away for a little
bit. And not told anyone about it. We ghosted
you all. Yeah. And Victoria is, she does not
like ghosting. I'm an anti -ghost. I can't believe
you did that. I can't believe you did that to
everybody. I am embarrassed. for you. You didn't
even know. I said, Carly, we didn't record this
week. She went, oh my god. I knew I had an extra
hour on Tuesday. I didn't know why. Here's what
happened. Explain. We have a father and a mother.
That's basically the gist. And we work for them.
And we work for them. No, seriously. We came
off the recital and we talked to you guys about
it. Yeah, we did. Probably for a few weeks, maybe.
Time is weird. Time is weird. And then our dad
had a musical theater camp that sucked our lives
dry. Yeah, we both worked there. And then Carmella
had a dance camp that also crushed our souls.
Yep. And now this is the one week we have...
before another dance camp next week. So for those
of you that think that we just do one 30 -minute
class on a Tuesday, please think again. We work
all day every day because we're poor. No. Hustlers,
baby. God damn it. The complete opposite of what
you were saying. And poor. We're hustling poor.
Carly though is leaving today for Vegas on her
one -week interim from camps Yes, I am but it
is for sad reasons So sad we are dropping Andrew
off there for the summer. He's going to summer
camp in Vegas And then Scotland Scotland Scotland,
but don't you worry all those people that watched
our chief Madonna podcast There are cameras all
over my house right now I don't think anyone
was thinking about that. Okay. It is the first
thing when he was like, Hey, listen, work's taking
me away for two and a half months. I was like,
and cameras, please. So we spent a lot of time
putting cameras all over my house. Just so you
all know, or else I wouldn't have been telling
you that he's going away to begin with. So what
you could watch yourself on. Not inside outside
on. I have many, many, many doors on my house.
We put a camera on all the doors. Wait, how'd
you do that? Not inside. How did you get, how
did you do that? It's all my special skills on
my resume. Play the rewind. Not inside. I can't
even do it. I can't even do it. You'll be fine.
You'll be fine. Yeah. But we are going to Vegas
to leave him there and I am pray for me. I'm
flying home alone with the kids, which should
be fine. Your kids are fine. I know. You know
what? Planes today, they're making me a little
scared. Not going to lie. Oh, it's the planes.
Yeah. Your kids, remember the last time you traveled,
you didn't have the chargers for the iPad. Oh,
my god. Yeah, it was the travel day from hell.
Yeah. And the kids were fine. I know. I know.
But it's planes, I think. Every day, a new plane
issue is happening. Every day, you hear something
new. And I don't know. I did ask somebody, is
this new? Is this like trending? What I know
like are we hearing about it more now because
of social media or does this always happen? And
we just didn't know about it That's a good question
and nobody can answer me that's a good question
so I because who's gonna admit that it's an on
a Reoccurring problem. Yeah, I don't know. I
just know that I do have a lockbox in my house
with all the details of what to do with everything
I'm busy. That's that. No, really, I'm busy.
Victoria will be holding down the fort at Seafit.
She says nobody will miss me. I agree because
everybody has said they'll be fine. I agree.
Literally, they shouted, we'll be fine without
you. See you in a couple of days. Because now
we're going to... just do like a really good
workout instead of a soul crushing workout every
single day of the goddamn week. Now we're just
going to have like a really good workout every
day. So there's a difference. That's fantastic.
And we are going to get into what we're talking
about today, which has something to do with that.
But I saw something on the Instagram that said,
There's this guy that I follow in Arizona, and
he does dance fitness, and he's really fun to
watch. Not the best dancer, but he's a good teacher.
Sometimes you don't have to be the best dancer
to be a really good teacher. Carly's proof of
that. Not raising my hand. But I know that was
cringy. It's OK. I'm 39. And he said. He said.
I want this to be the best part of your day.
And I agree with that. We, I think, have always
felt that way, but Mamie didn't say it in those
words, that we wish... You mean smoothly and
articulately? No, not at all. Or could have been
explained in one sentence that I'm doing a paragraph
to do. We want your workouts at Seafit to be
the best part of the day. That's something that
you look forward to. Whether or not it's hard...
or not, and you're like, man, I hate this class
so much, but I'm going to go. When you get there,
it's the most fun part. Prove it. I tried last
night, and I could not prove it. Everybody hated
me. Because you don't think about the class.
Well, I was. You think about you. I was cracking
jokes like a mofo. Prove it. Nobody cared. Nobody
was laughing at my jokes. Wait. First of all,
you said mofo. I know. I'm 39. Second of all.
I'll make up a couple more months to make that
excuse. Fact. Yeah. Six more months to be exact.
Yeah. What kind of jokes are we talking about
during kick -hit and a bar class? Kick -box and
bar. Yeah. Oh man, I was making so many. I was
saying no cap. I was saying sus. Okay. How old
were the people in class? It was range of ages.
Okay. I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. It's
been a minute. Anyway, we hope that you have
the best part of your day at CFIT, and we are
talking about working out today. Yes, and they
will this week. Okay. We'll see. Lots of rest.
Yeah, we are talking about workout today for
our fitness podcast that we have. We have two
methods that... are kind of obvious. I think
they're, one is obvious, one is not as obvious.
Those are more mental. Yeah. I don't think, I
think we can just tell them. Yeah. We haven't
really talked about it. Clearly we haven't talked
about this. It's not a secret. So we're going
to start with the three C's of fitness or taking
your fitness seriously, which are two very different
things, I think. Explain. Well, you can be like,
yeah, yeah, I work out. Yeah, I own a gym membership.
Yeah, I have my little key card at Planet Fitness
on my key ring, but I've never gone. You're not
into it, but you buy all the clothes. There's
a serious aspect of your fitness journey, and
then there's a lackadaisable or fair weather.
When things get hard, you bow out. Yeah, yeah,
yeah. So the three C's, she's like, shut up and
keep going. No, no, no, no. I agree. I was thinking,
honestly, if you want to know what I was thinking,
I'm a fair weather sports fan. You said fair
weather and I immediately thought of sports because
I'm so sporty. Sports. Sports. OK, anyway. That's
true. That's true. The three C's. Carly, Carly,
and Carmela. Catastrophic. The first one. I cannot
remember. Okay. It is commitment. Commitment.
Oh, that's the second one. Oh, commitment's the
first one. It's commitment, consistency, and
conscientiousness. I tried to say conscientiousness
in my head about three times before I said it
out loud. Was it a problem? It was a problem.
It's a really long word. Have you ever tried
to spell it? C -O -N -S -E -I -E -N -C. Nope.
I -O -U -S -N -E -S -S. It's con science. No,
it's con, C -O -N -C -I -E -N -T -I -O -U -S.
Oh, it's a T, not a C. T. Okay. It's con science
-ness. Cool. We love a good sidetrack. So commitment
seems pretty obvious. But. It is, it is pretty
obvious. You have to commit to yourself. So the
way I liked this, it's kind of like a blog, it's
not like a real article, but I like how she said
it where it, you sign up or you make an appointment
for yourself, for the doctor, for the dentist,
for a massage, even though that's a little bit
more luxurious, for things that you have to do
for yourself as humans. Right? There are different
doctor, females have to go to the gynecologist.
Like there's things that you do, but you have
to, speaking of, I have to make that appointment.
Okay. You have to make those appointments and
you keep them. You keep them number one, because
they're usually six to eight months out these
days. And so it's such a very important thing
to keep or else it's going to be another six
to eight months before you can do it. But the
commitment to yourself is making the appointment
to yourself for each one of your workouts and
you plan them, you schedule them, you write them
down. You are. I think it's 50 % or more likely
to follow through if you write it down. Even
in your scheduled stuff. I need to do that. I
need to write everything down. Or else it's not.
You don't do it. Like you need to start. I know
mentally if it is not written down on pen and
paper, it's not going to happen. I won't do it.
But I know that if I do do it. Do do. Do do.
That it will get done. I just need to actually
do it. There's a lot of do's and do's in there,
I don't know. But yes, write it down, schedule
it, you write down your appointments, write down
the time of the day, the workout, the class you're
doing, and then the consistency is next, which
is the follow through. And I think this is just
my opinion. That's good, because that's what
this podcast is. This is our opinion. This is
not scientific fact. This is just trial and error.
on my part, my entire life. When you are consistent,
you cannot fail. Now, when you're consistently
doing the correct things, when you are consistently
eating burgers and ice cream every night, you
are consistently doing that. And that's great.
When you are consistently eating well and working
out, you cannot fail. You will see progress,
but it takes time. I don't think I'm not consistent.
I'm committed. Yes, but I'm not consistent. Because
life happens, and I understand that life happens,
but you are consistent. What are you talking
about? You can't, whoa. First of all, you can't
agree with me and then fully go against what
you believe. Because then I thought about it
and I'm like, you are so consistent with your
workouts every day. Yeah, but I'm not consistent
with my health journey. I'm not. You're like,
yeah. I ebb and flow with the food aspect of
it. Yeah, or else I wouldn't have gained weight
or I wouldn't have lost weight like so pretty
dramatically And I was looking at our mother
the other day. Oh and That's a hundred percent
how she functions as well. What do you mean?
She's very on it or she's very often it yeah,
and was specifically with food Uh -huh, not necessarily
workouts. She never had to work out. She danced
which was very different path Had we stayed in
it maybe that would have been our fitness like
health journey, right? Who knows but like we
shifted there but the food aspect she's like
I said 100 % on or 100 % off and I I'm very much
that and our dad Has an addictive personality.
I think mom has an addictive personality too.
Yes, and I have that from Thank you, guys. Thanks,
Mom. Thanks, Dad. I'm a very addictive person.
Thankfully, I am addicted to working out and
eating healthy, but it can go the wrong way,
which we've talked about and I have done before.
So the gifts that they give us just keep on giving,
I feel like. Yeah, we got some varicose veins
coming at us, too. Thanks, Dad. Side of the family.
Yeah, yeah, that's a good pause. I like to pause
at the apostrophe of possessiveness. That's good.
But yeah, I think that's, I don't know why I
even had the thought. I don't even know why it
came to me, but it was such a revelation of like,
yeah, there's a piece of this that is ingrained
in my conditioning, but it's a hundred percent
on me to break it. And I'm ready to break it.
And I can talk about this until I'm blue in the
face. It's up until consistency and action. that
I can prove it to myself and to everybody that
I keep telling this to. But there's a piece of
that that made me feel a little bit better. Oh,
God, what? No, that it's not like, why can you
do it and I can't do it? We're related. We grew
up the same. We have the same type of lifestyle.
Because we're two different people. Yes, I know.
Shut up. But we are on two different sides of
the spectrum when it comes to keeping the consistency.
and not, and I'm going with the flow of life
and you stop life for what you want. Well, for
my addictions. I will plan. Yes, that's exactly
right. I will stop my life for my addictions,
which is an addict. I'm not addicted to alcohol.
I'm not addicted to drugs. I'm addicted to working
out and I'm addicted to making sure that I eat
healthy. That being said, I just read an article
and by read an article I saw on Instagram that
somebody, this really actually slapped me in
the face and I got a little nervous. She had
a brain aneurysm from working over exercising.
And she didn't know it was there. She just thought
her body was sore. My body's sore all the time.
And she was getting headaches. I don't get headaches.
She went to the doctor and they're like, oh,
you're about to have a brain aneurysm from working
out too much. I need to know the science behind
that. I didn't read that part. I just read. I
only read half of it. I got to the over -exercising
part and I was like, oh, God, it's me. That's
how it works. She reads the word she wants to
read. She swipes because now her attention span
has gone. And then she talks about it like it's
Bible and law. That I get from my mom. 100%.
Hey, at least I'm consistent. Yeah. Yeah. Third
one. Conscientiousness. I hope you guys missed
us. Conscientiousness. Now the way that this
blog article talks about it is she, the author
is a little heady, but she physically, while
she's training or working out, thinks about what
that movement is doing at the cellular level
and the muscular level of her life. It keeps
her focused. It basically is how she keeps focused
into what she's doing. If she's doing, you know,
front squats, she's thinking about her quads
because that's the muscle it's targeting. And
then that kind of pushes her to go harder or
continue to not stop when she gets fatigued.
So basically, conscientiousness, that wouldn't
work for me. No. But it's being present. the
moment in the workout and I I start all of my
yoga classes with the same sort of Mantras or
speech whatever It varies but it's always like
do your best to keep your mind in this moment
Like there's nowhere else you need to be Your
body is here. Your mind is here and it's meant
to be here So put the lists you have to do aside
Everything you didn't get done in the day or
everything you have to still do depending on
when this class is Put it aside be here Be on
your mat. Don't go anywhere else. And if you
do, all the yoga things to come back. But that's
basically what conscientiousness means. I 100
% agree with that theory and thought that when
you walk in the door to do any type of workout,
I'm using Seafit as an example. Be in that 45
minutes for the 45 minutes. We want you to escape
the outside world. enjoy yourself or work really
hard. I mean, you're not going to love every
second of the workout, but think about the workout
while you're doing it or think about the room
or what's happening inside the room at that moment.
And number one, it'll go by faster. I tried to
say last night, I was like, how quickly did that
workout go? None of them thought it went quickly.
Mom agreed with me, obviously. But if you're
thinking about what is happening in that class
at that time, It goes by way quicker. You're
working harder. You're thinking about what your
feet are doing, what your arms are doing. I do
have to say, I have been known to say, if you
think about the muscle when you're using it,
you'll feel it. Yeah. Yeah, when you're not focused
on abdominals, you feel it in your neck. Yes.
Or your hip flexors or your back. And that's
because you're just thinking about how hard it
is versus like, what am I doing? It's body awareness.
It's just having full awareness of you and the
space that you're in and the class that you're
in. That's what conscientiousness basically means.
Yeah, don't think about the grocery list you
have to do in the middle of your workout. Do
that after. Yeah. And then I think working out
becomes your oasis. I hope so. Yeah, if you're
present in that and then you walk out the door
at the end and you get all the texts and the
phone calls of like, Are you going to come pick
me up? Are you going to do this? What's for dinner?
Blah, blah, blah. It's like you get that 45 to
an hour at C -Fit to like hour and a half, two
hours of your therapy or your little bubble.
I like to think of C -Fit. You walk in the door,
it becomes a bubble. And then you can deal with
whatever you need to deal with afterwards. You
know, like leave it at the door and come in,
do your thing and leave. However, when I go to
Victoria's yoga class and she says be present
on the mat, she's specifically talking to me
and I sometimes I laugh and she tells me I'm
doing yoga wrong. So because we're going through
breath work, which is what you do to start a
yoga class is to center yourself and connect
to your body and your mind. It's the whole point
of yoga. You don't need to move your body. It's
supposed to be about your mind. And she looks,
this is, first of all, if you're listening to
this on audio, tune into the video for this moment,
because this is what she looks like. She's on
her mat. She's hunched over like this, because
she can't stretch forward because God forbid
she stretches in her life. And so she's like
this and I'm telling them to breathe. And she
looks her eyes up and she's like, she becomes
this little demon. And I have to ignore it because.
What the hell? Because her class is always full
because everybody loves her class. And I'm there
making fun of her, probably 90 % of the yoga
class. She also is like the moment I start talking,
that's when she puts her phone down. Like, don't
bring your phone into a heated studio, number
one. Why are you doing that? But I'm present.
I put it down. I was texting Andrew something.
I had to tell him. Yeah. You always blame Andrew.
Andrew's not looking at his phone. He's not answering
you. He doesn't even know he's married to you.
So why are you bringing your phone into the hot
Room emergencies. No, no. Anyway, go take her
class. You'll be very present. I do some of my
best choreography during her Shavasana. I did
teach. I just want to throw things at your head
and I want it to hurt you. I taught stretch the
other day and I ended the class and everybody
this is this is reason number 175 why I don't
teach yoga. I was there's more than 175 reasons.
Everybody was laying there like and it was everyone
told me I did a great stretch class by the way
and I went Shavasana Namasle. That's how I ended
my class. They laughed. They laughed at that
one. Every Hindu God is rolling over in their
grade Buddha. Buddha's pissed. I cannot. That's
number 175. Why? I do not teach yoga. There's
a reason you can't say the word conscientiousness.
Let alone, okay. So there's your method for how
to take yourself and your workouts seriously
if you need to lay it all out, right? So the
three C's, commitment, commit yourself to yourself
and to avoiding Carly at all costs. Consistency,
put action to the commitment or else what the
heck are you doing? What's the point? And consistently
ignore Carly. Conscientiously be present in your
workout, in your moment, whatever you're doing,
be there, honor yourself by being there. And
tune Carly out. I forgot that I was doing that.
Those are your three Cs. She wasn't present.
Fitness, I wasn't. Then there's the method. Where's
my tissue box? It's in my room on Pager's side
because he's also a sniffler. Oh, I read about
this, but go ahead. Yeah, no, it's good when
you put the microphone in your nostrils and then
take a good whiff. And by read, I mean Victoria
sent me an Instagram. I knew that's what you
meant. I knew that's what you meant. What a fool.
We are all fools for thinking she actually read
an article. I sent her a video about someone
explaining the science behind the reaction your
body has to alcohol. So it's not actually an
allergy? No, it's a reaction from the sulfates
and the other things that are in alcohol. And
that's why I get a stuffy nose. Are you drinking
right now? No, you haven't sent me an Instagram
reel about being allergic to laughing. So when
you do, I'll tell everybody I read about that.
Because you are the 10th percent of the world
that that happens to. I'm allergic to fun, even
though I am the party. Nope. Okay. Donna is the
party. Donna is the party, party girl. All right.
So there's the 321 method. in terms of, I think
you can, if we pair these together, this is the
commitment. Three, two, one. One is the commitment
part of the three Cs. Three workouts of your
week, three days, is strength, meaning weights,
body conditioning, anything like that. Two days,
two workouts are Pilates. I like to add yoga
or bar into that mix. It doesn't have to be Pilates,
but you get the gist of what we're doing. And
then one is cardio, like hardcore cardio, cardio
only, impact the body. Strict, strict cardio.
So for us at T -Fit, that would be like your
just dance mega class, mix up class, nothing
with kick hit, just pure cardio, vascular fitness.
And then One rest, recover day. Those are seven
days of your week. Three, two, one, one. And
then you have your week covered. Yeah, this is
for somebody that needs a breakdown. If you feel
like you flounder when it comes to scheduling
or picking or - I'm floundering. I'm floundering.
I'm weaning. I'll never get over that. Damn,
sometimes I'm funny. All right. Three. And you
ruined it. I, especially in the beginning, had
no idea what I was doing. And so I think Victoria
and I have both been there where I thought you
were talking about weaning. No. Talking about
working out. This is a fitness podcast. Didn't
you know? I thought you were talking about the
episode. With the moons? With the moons. And
that's when you were like, I had no idea what
I was doing. I mean, yes, that is true. But we're
a fitness podcast, so I'm trying to talk about
fitness. I'm sorry. I'm sorry. I'm back from
my conscientious state. As I said, we were lost.
Yeah. And I know what it's like to be like, I
think I'm lifting weights. I don't know if this
is working. And then you sort of fall off because
you have no idea what you're doing. This is a
great way to put a plan, which would be the,
you know, consistency and put it to action of
the three, two, one. So that way, at least you
know you have a starting point because I believe
you need more cardio than one day of cardio.
I believe. Yes. But I think, I think it's for
To not overwhelm to think of it that way. So
like say your strength the three days a week
or strength for us it would be Cuts in cardio
which is half cardio half weights and Then hardcore
stretch where you're getting some abs in there
So like that covers bases your heart rates getting
up your lifting weights that covers that so I
think when it breaks it down to the three two
one Give yourself one day of just cardio, no
weights. Right, right, right. So you can add
cardio to all of it. But one day, do not stress
the muscles out with heavy lifting, whatever
heavy lifting is for you. Right. Not necessarily.
Only do cardio once. And you should not be lifting
six days a week either. No, no, no. And I know
we've talked about this in different episodes.
The calories burned between cardio sessions and
weight training sessions are completely different.
So. Both are good, but both are different. So
you might only burn 150 calories in a 610 class,
even less maybe, but you're lifting and it was
really hard, you might burn 400 calories in one
of the cardio, strict cardio classes. And that's
not a reason to be like, well, now I need to
take cardio every day because I want to burn
400 calories. The weight training is just as
if not more important, even though the calories
are less. So I know people get tripped up with
that. Yeah. It was a lot of numbers. It was a
lot of numbers. Also, are you okay? Because you
can't really get words out on the first try.
There's like two or three tries to get some of
those words out. It's a big day. She's flying
later. It's a big day. Listen, I'm nervous about
the planes. I'm not present right now. I'm not
conscious. Conscious. Conscious. We might need
to get you some alcohol. That might help. But
it's true. Weight training, the calories continue
to burn after. and cardio calories burn in the
moment only. So remember that 400 calories in
that 145 minute class. Awesome. But it's not
going to continue burning throughout the day.
610 will give you 150. And then by the end of
the day, you've burned a lot more because the
muscles continue to burn. So both good, both
awesome. One's not better than the other. You
just have to do both. Yeah. And that's why the
321 really is a good jumping off point or a good
consistent point where you're like, this is how
I'm going to schedule out my week, especially
in the summer. I think that's great. Yeah. So
610 is a class that we have, not just a number.
If you are not a C fit person, 610 is a weightlifting
class. You're a fool. Yeah. Just kidding. All
right. Now we're going to talk about the benefits
of 321. Isn't that exciting? Number one, which
is I think we already just said it, is you know
exactly what you're doing. So you have a schedule.
You have a plan. You're not going to mess it
up. You're scheduling those workouts. You know
you're taking knees this week, and it's like
an appointment. Done. Done. Done. This one, I
think we have said before. I know we've said
before, which we pride ourselves on. The variety
will not bore you. You're switching it up. You're
doing weights. You're doing cardio. You're doing
Pilates. You're doing yoga. It's impossible to
be bored when you're constantly doing different
things. Yeah. You are a big help right now. But
you're saying it. It's spot on. Less is more.
You got it. That was 2024. We're in 2025. It's
time to thrive. By doing less. Because it's more.
It hits every part of your fitness. It hits the
rest. It hits the strength. It hits the cardio.
It hits the muscle build. It hits the lean toning.
It literally hits every part. The rest is what
you started with. I want to point that out. Well,
I'm working on it. Because there has to be a
rest day. We're going to come back to the rest
part. I have a theory. Do you? I do. OK. Next
one. It fits your life. I sits. What is that
from? If I fits, I sits. I don't know. I thought
we made it up. Oh, no, I know. I know. Everybody
says it. Yeah, I thought we thought we made it
up. I thought Billy made it up, actually. No,
no. OK, if it says it. No, I think it's an SNL
thing. Maybe is that OK? Anyway, it it fits.
It fits into your schedule. So you are booking
those classes or you are putting it to your schedule,
not the other way around. And I think that's
one of the biggest components of being consistent
is that it fits in your, I can't stop saying,
thinking it fits. If it's part of your daily
routine, you're making, you're basically calling
the shots. Yeah, that's what we said about, we
said it in a little bit. I said it in a positive
way. You said it in a negative way about your
addictive. personality with it where you make
it work for your life. Right. It's not what is
it? They said about clothes. It's not wearing
you. You're wearing it. Yes. So think about that
for fitness. It's basically what that theory
like that means. Yes. And this is sort of going
into the next one, which is it's flexible intensity.
So on the days that you're not feeling like you
can put all of your eggs in that cardio basket.
then you're doing strength. You know you're doing
it. So you can push really, really hard in the
strength and lifting weights, but you can't jump
around that day. That's great because it fits
in your schedule and you're flexible. And you
can say, oh, I'm not feeling the cardio today.
I'm going to switch Thursday and Friday's workouts
because I need more sleep tonight or something
like that. You know what I mean? This is sort
of what I said earlier. guaranteed progress over
time if you are consistent and you do something
like this method and you put it on your schedule
and you are consistent, you will get the progress
you want. You cannot fail when you are consistent,
depending on what you're consistent with. I just
thought you said that so much I don't know what
that means. I'm saying like if you're consistently
eating ice cream every night oh it's not yeah
you're consistent with it but it's not going
to get you one if you are consistently doing
the right thing something healthy you're going
to see the progress I just yes I just talked
to I'm going to keep this really short side tangent
AJ what's up we talked about this this morning
and I'm going to share it with everybody because
it's a really good tip so with AJ, and she said
she was comfortable with me telling people things.
Oh, good. Do we have that in writing? No. Dun,
dun, dun. No, no, no. She likes the reward system,
which we've talked about on an episode before,
like having a reward system for cleaning the
house. Like I did this chore, I get this reward.
Like it doesn't have to be food related, but
the reward system for prioritizing yourself,
the reward system for getting your workout in.
things that are hard for you. You need to make
that little like gold star that you put, that
you got at school next to your name. How many
stickers can you rack up? Like truly that simple
system as an adult. And I had a brilliant idea
that I'm now going to adopt when now she's going
to do it when she does something. And I'm saying,
AJ, I'm telling everybody this and how you have
to do it. Accountability, baby. that when she
does something for herself, not necessarily workout
related, but for herself, prioritizing herself,
you need to be rewarded. You have to reward yourself
for that. For me, I'm doing it. I would agree.
Every time I work out on my own, not at my job
for my workout. So when I do my own workout by
myself, I'm going to reward myself. How am I
going to do that? Me, I don't know about AJ.
Me, I'm giving myself a dollar. Oh. Or up to
five bucks. AJ, I think we said five bucks. I
went down for me. I went down to a dollar. I'm
more realistic on my budget. But every time I
do it, and then give me 365 days of giving myself
that dollar for when I show up for myself and
I am consistent with my own workouts, who knows
how much money I'll have? I'll put that towards
a vacation. That's a good idea. That's the reward.
So it's not a food -related system. Which I think
is important. Super important. Yeah, because
how can you stay consistent with that? Food is
a reward for you. You're not going to see the
progress that you're working so hard for. Also,
you're putting a really dangerous mentality around
enjoying gluttonous things or healthy things.
Yeah, and you're putting a dangerous focus on,
I cannot have that bowl of ice cream unless I
burn X amount of calories. Until I earn it, which
is not true. Yeah, not how you should think of
it. That's a disorder. Yeah. So the reward system,
when it comes to this, like if I keep consistent,
if I plan my workouts, if I am flexible, seven
days go by, I did it, what's my reward? Find
that reward for yourself. Maybe it is the monetary
prize because, you know, I throw, you do the
same thing. I throw all my change in a bucket,
whatever. That's when I have change and I want
to empty my wallet. And it's like, cool, how
much can I rack up in a year or two years or
10 years, whatever. This is specific. I did what
I told myself I was going to do, and now I'm
rewarding myself for said task. And in 365 days,
what's my prize? And it's doable. Besides feeling
better. Well, that and I need to see things.
I need that dollar in my hand in a jar. I need
to see daily that that Jar is getting bigger
and bigger with money in order for me to continue
going if it's like the kids are the same way
We're trying to you know, Andrew's going away
So we're trying to do a chore list and I we got
out a couple hundred dollars from the bank in
ones Because they will not and I agree did they
side are you did they say? I was like we're going
to Vegas. Can I have 200 ones? For my children
Was your Dree String hanging out of your pants?
Not specifically on that day. But if the kids
don't have the dollar in their hands, they're
not as likely to do their chore. And I understand
that. Oh, sure. You know what I mean? So it's
the same with working out. And I did not get
approval from the C -Fitter to talk about this.
So. Maybe I won't say her name, but there is
a C -Fitter who is newer, but we love her. And
she got new sneakers. She wanted to hit her goal.
And she asked me what kind of sneakers, because
she wants to buy herself a really nice pair of
sneakers when she hits the certain goal. Brilliant.
Yes. And I gave her my suggestion. She loves
them. And she bought herself a really nice pair
of sneakers when she hit her fitness goal. That
is only going to enhance her next fitness goal.
and keep her feet feeling good. That's amazing.
That's an awesome. Don't you think that's a good
idea? I didn't know that. Every week she'd be
like, I'm so close, but I backslid a little bit.
And so she didn't get them. She didn't cheat.
And she wasn't like, I'm one thing away from
it. She didn't get them. She did the work. She
hit her goal. And then she got them. Yeah. I
think that has to be a part of all of this. The
reward system, it's something that we know as
kids and I don't, for some reason we let it go
as adults. We don't give ourselves those stickers.
So then it's like, my willpower is just not good.
Well, no, there's no system that you're not working
smarter, you're working harder. So if this is
an easy way that doesn't clutter your house with
buying stuff, that doesn't waste money on buying
stupid things or make food a big part of it.
Make it 50 cents like go with your budget right
AJ. I gave you five bucks. You do what you do
But at the same time a lot of people I don't
have that every time I work out some people do
So if that's your if that's a great indicator
You could actually go on an entire trip instead
of just put something towards a trip like that's
awesome I would suggest going to the bank and
taking out some money and look specifically for
that and paying yourself like you're a child
doing a chore and went and put that dollar in
a jar. Really. So you can see it. When you see
the progress, you're likely to stick to it. What's
up, Abby? It was Abby. She bought sneakers. Whoa.
That took a turn. We love you, Abby. Congratulations.
So that was my small tangent that turned in big.
But the 321, did we go through all the benefits?
No, we have one more. It's the last benefit of
the 321 is built for the long game. What that
means is you're not burning yourself out. on
three cardio's a day. You're not burning yourself
out on five days of heavy lifting and you really,
you know, you need that rest day. So built for
the long game means it's tangible, it's doable.
You can stick to it, which all comes back to
the three C's. So those are the benefits of the
three, two, one, which I think is really important.
And I think the most important one is the least
popular one. If you are someone with the addictive
personality or someone who never gives themselves
a break in life or someone who doesn't boost
their own self -confidence and worth up, the
rest day is just as important as the three, the
two, and the one. That's that last seventh number
to make the seven -day work week. It's got to
be a rest and recovery day. And on the seventh
day, he rests. I don't know why I said it like
that, because that's literally the words. I have
to use that degree that I'm still paying off
at some point. About Jesus? About God? My acting
degree. Here's what I wanted to save. I saw this
last night and I shared this with AJ this morning.
I'm going to share it with you. Oh, God. Let
them. I won't make it. Thank you. Thank you so
much. I said something about a therapist, but
it's basically the way that you think about rest.
Tell me if I'm wrong, but be honest. Fine. I
don't know why you shut your eyes for that, but
that's okay. She looked away and shut her eyes.
Rest equals laziness. Laziness equals failure.
And for you, weakness. Failure. equals unworthiness.
Sure. We're going to need more than a sure. We're
going to need more than a sure. Say it again.
Okay. If you take a rest day, I'm going to say
it in different words that make that. Oh, I can't
wait. Okay. If you take a rest day, it means
you're being lazy. I agree with that. And if
you're being lazy, you're not living up to your
potential, you're failing at something, which
is a weakness. You're being weak. And if you're
weak, you're not worthy. I like the first and
the last one. I have no problem failing at things.
This is for me personally. That is a really good
thing. I definitely think taking a rest is being
lazy. And I think being lazy has to deal with
unworthiness. OK, so you don't need the failure
part. No, no, I'm fine with failing. We know.
I've failed multiple times. But that's also not
true, because you don't like when people correct
you. You don't like being wrong. I don't like
being wrong, but I don't mind if something didn't
work out. I failed at trying to go to Broadway,
but I know why that happened. I did not try hard
enough. So yes, I failed at that, but I know
why. But you're failing at taking rest days.
Because I think that is a sign of laziness, which
means that I feel that I'm not good enough. So
you're okay with failing because you know why.
Your system sucks. Take a goddamn rest day. You
unworthy piece of shit. I like that, though,
because I do agree with it. Don't like that.
I think it... Don't like that. No, but I... Oh,
why? Because that's a bad way of thinking about
rest. No. I texted you this morning. I did, I'm
having an issue with my feet again. I have my
injury again, which I doing to myself. My injury,
we don't talk about it. We don't talk about it.
I have 10, like, what is it? What do I have?
Achilles tendonitis in my foot. What do I have?
Yeah. Yeah. That's what I have. And it's in my
other foot now. So we got it taken care of on
the one. I've been good for like a year and now
I have it in the other. I don't know. It's from
working out. It's from not putting your heels
on the floor. to stretch the calf muscle from
the Achilles in the bottom of the foot. So when
I yell at you in class, it's not just because
you're so annoying and you're too peppy and people
can't live up to your cardio standard. It's because
you need to actually flatten the foot down so
that you're not keeping the muscle. The calf
is in a constant state of contraction. So when
you're heel toeing it, you're And that's why
it's a shooting pain. Same with me, I now have
it in both of my feet again. Also our shoes are
a piece of it. Like we need, well, I don't know
about you, you have a bunch of new shoes. I need
like proper shoes, but that's why. So merengue
with your heels down. All of that just so I merengue
with my heels down? And everything else. I don't
have the energy. to show everybody you merengue
with your what a salsa for carly is and what
a salsa in the real world is but they're very
different things anyway my injury or my calf
formerly known as we don't talk about bruno no
no no i forget where it's going oh i can't run
anymore so um Now shut your face. So I have been
going on walks, OK, forcibly because I can't
run so that my body has been telling me you must
walk now. You did the thing we say. Do it now
before you're forced to do it to do it right
like. Be healthy now before you're forced to
pay hospital bills. Take the rest now before
you're forced to get the Achilles tendon that
your body is like listen bitch. I'm tired. I
can't wait for mom to listen to this. She won't,
but. She cursed. My mom just said, you know what?
Listen, bitch, your feet are tired. But that's
the truth. And I've been going on walks. And
for me, that's a rest. And I don't love it. I
listen to my podcast. It's an active rest. That's
a good thing. It's active rest. Yeah. I'm not
even walking that fast. You're not sitting on
the couch. For you, that's the lazy part. But
keep the active rest. That's still good. That
counts as a rest and recovery day. It doesn't
have to be sitting on your bum. It could be just
going for a walk. You said bitch, but then you
had to say bum. Yeah, I didn't say it had logic.
Anyway, I've been getting better with my rests.
Yes, it was forced upon me, but I've been getting
better with it. And now I'm a walker. Basically
she failed and she's okay with it because she
knows why. I'm totally fine with failing. She
failed at doing it beforehand. So she didn't
get the injury. No problem. But now she's listened
to her body Hmm, maybe if she would just learn
that and condition that in yoga class to listen
to your body this wouldn't have happened I'm
texting usually when you're saying that so fact
I Missed that part She does play power ballads
in her yoga class. So it is the best playlist
ever and it if you're not a yoga person It'll
make you one. Sorry, but I thought that was good.
You're all doing yoga wrong. I thought that was
a good point. I wouldn't use that music if I
didn't work at the place that I work. I would
use different music. For me, I need no lyrics
in my yoga class. I don't want lyrics. I don't
want songs I know. I want Hindi, Hindu music.
I'm pretty sure I am downward dogging to the
beat in yoga. Okay, so Nothing angers me more
than when you don't get out of your own way And
I can't do it for you, but I have to watch it
and I have to listen to it. Let them You're not
you're not doing the let them theory then No,
I'm not let them Punch you, no, punch you in
the face right now. She's gonna miss me so much
this week. She's not gonna know what to do without
me for like four days. It's gonna be so quiet.
It is and she's gonna hate it. She complains
about it. I love it. But she's going to be like,
when are you coming back? Yes, because mom's
gonna be on my butt. Not because it's quiet.
That's gonna be amazing. But because mom and
dad have no one else to go to. I do have a question
though. I can't watch your dogs. Oh, damn it.
I already talked to mom about it. Damn it. All
right, nevermind. Yeah, I'll be there on Thursday.
I've already - No, no, no. She's going away Saturday
for the day. Thursday's fine. She's got it Thursday.
We can talk about this later. Don't have dogs
if you can't take care of them. Don't have plants
if you can't water them. Don't have children
if you can't parent them. You've got one out
of the three. And yes, it is the children, if
you're all wondering. Well. That's it for us
today. I gotta work for you and teach for other...
You don't work for me. I do work for you. No,
you do not. Everybody knows who the boss is.
And then I gotta watch your dogs? No, you don't.
I just want you to, like, watch my dogs. Just
one day. It's really fun when your mom says she
can take care of everything, and then when you
go away, she's like, oh, wait, I forgot. I can't.
Thanks, Mom. So your real tip... Your real extra
tip is don't work with your family. Don't ask
them for things. And adopt these three Cs and
the three two one. They're really simple. They
are. They're super simple. They're methods, but
like. I think people can get way too much in
their heads, and I talked to Christina about
this, the new thing, the new trend, what's this
happening? And everyone's trying different things
and you're not staying consistent with one thing
because you keep going off to a different path
to see what else works or what are they doing?
Just keep it simple and that will work. And I
think the three, two, one is so simple. It can't
fail. It's simply the best. And if you do fail,
who cares? Yeah, I mean, yes, but we don't like
how you mean it. But yes, technically the words
coming out of our mouth. Can you see the words
coming out of my mouth? Can you understand the
words coming out of my mouth? And he goes, man,
nobody can understand the words coming out of
your mouth. You've never seen Rush Hour. Why
are you even quoting it? Do you know the two
actors? Chris Rock? No. Chris Rock and the other
Chris. Jackie Chan? Yeah. Yes, the other Chris
Jackie Chan. On that note, we hope that you always
remember that you are fit to be real. And I hope
the plane rides there and back are a success.
And I see you next week. And you are always allowed
to be a little extra. Holy shit. We have it now
forever. Just in case, just in case, just in
case. This will play in your memorial. She knew.
She knew. We will raise you up on eagle's way.
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