Welcome to fit to be real and a little extra.
I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly Welcome back
to the video if you have been watching us and
then like kind of haven't recently We've had
issues because that is life and we're still learning
and by we I mean Pedro's doing all the work Carly
and I just kind of sit back bat our eyes. I mean
To be fair, Victoria just said, we're going to
do this. And I said, I don't understand. Just
point to me when I'm supposed to talk. And you
know what? I didn't. I didn't. Yeah, you just
started talking. I was like, oh, I guess I guess
it's time. So the whole conversation today is
a Carly on the spot. Spot, spot, spot, spot.
We've done them in a minute. I wasn't aware of
this. We're really just checking in. OK. since
hot girl checkin what what eats baloney no what
that was one of them and that's the only one
i can ever remember hot girl checkin what what
eats baloney i don't know why that's what it
is every time it must have happened oh my god
i don't remember that part at all well it's like
a one -time thing it wasn't like ever i don't
know now i don't now i'm questioning everything
it's a silly thing We're doing a check -in. We're
doing a check -in of not just from January, because
it's not necessarily six months from January.
Nope. I had to count. She counted on her fingers.
And you started with your thumb. Yeah, how do
you start counting? Yeah, never mind, never mind,
never mind, never mind. It's my thumb. Yeah,
it's not weird. For lots of different reasons.
We've, I think, you said this the other day,
that January to now, or like the year so far
to now, Has been so fast the fastest I think
of September to now as my school year. Okay.
Yeah, so not necessarily 2025 Well, yeah, but
like I guess because I Constantly am in school
versus summer mode that I am like September.
Oh my gosh. We're at summer vacation almost How
did we get here? Yeah, and I'm very happy about
super Yeah, super excited about a little break
time. Yeah. Oh Summer's not a break for us, but
the studio closes. So we get ours back. We get
ours back. But then there's dance. I do like
how you're saying everything exactly after I
say it. But I do what you do because yours seems
to work. So yours seems to work. All right. So
since September. So if we take it back to September.
It's been a roller coaster. Yeah. In a good way.
Yeah. No. I was just going through the emotions.
Don't agree just to agree. I was using, I was
method acting. Go ahead. Yeah, yeah. No, it's
been a roller coaster. I don't think anybody
believes you at this point. At this, you've taken
it too far. I don't believe you. There's just,
it's just been such a whirlwind. I think maybe
more so than a roller coaster. Cause like we
haven't had like low lows this year so far. God,
not one would. I mean, January was a long month.
January was the longest January that ever was.
Yeah, we had a lot of sicknesses. Yes. And that's
why I think January was rough. You personally.
Yes. January, February, when was your trip from
hell? February. Wait, tell us about your trip
from hell. I did in an episode. You did? Yeah.
You don't listen to our episodes. I don't listen
to you. It was a neurovirus weekend, right? Yeah,
it was horrible. Everybody was throwing up. in
an Airbnb. It was a disaster. But luckily, knock
on wood, my kids have not gotten sick since February,
but our mom has. So Carm had COVID like 77 times
this year. I don't think she ever got rid of
it. No. Wasn't it supposed to be like, you're
good for six weeks at least after you have COVID
to not get it again. And she'd be like two weeks
later. Guys, I have COVID again. So then it was
false positive stuff. There was something weird.
But she's definitely gotten hit. But I will say,
Carm, you're not watching. No. You're not listening.
No. I know that. She doesn't take care of herself
very well. Yeah. She doesn't sleep well. She
binges at the end of the night of bad TV and
fights herself of like sleeping, like waking
up, sleeping, waking up, and doesn't go to bed.
She doesn't drink water. And just runs herself
ragged, like doesn't sit down, doesn't know how
to, everything we've been talking about on the
podcast for two years has not done anything.
Well, she's definitely listening because she's
doing the break. She's on a take, take a break
from bettering herself. I thought you were going
to make fun of me, but you sort of did. I am.
I did actually. You missed it. I think you missed
it. So yeah, she got hit. I got a lot of sickness
this year, too, for the first time. I haven't
been this sick since COVID. So I don't know.
But none of this is important to talk about.
None of this matters. I think it's important
to do a check -in, whether it's six months into
your year and you're going to go from January
or if it's from September to whatever you want
to constitute your year as. Because I think that's
when all of a sudden the year's over and you're
like, well, what happened? and I didn't do anything
that I wanted to do or you tell yourself those
stories because you do you specifically do too
much. Yes. Like you don't let the kids sit for
a weekend. But I feel like they do. I feel like
I do. But when the times are fast and furious,
it like all hits at once. And when the slow times
are slow, they're slow. Wow. It's just like this
upcoming weekend. Everything is happening. I've
got six things to do in each single day that
I have to get to. But like not every weekend
is like that. I don't particularly love weekends
like this coming up where every hour on the hour
is something. I think it's May. That's May. Yeah,
is that just May? Well, it's communions. If you're
whether you're, you know, Catholic or know a
lot of Catholic people. You have communion parties.
You have end of year graduation parties that
are coming up. I just got another invite. We
have another one in May. You do? I don't. Did
too, but you haven't seen it yet because you
haven't been to the studio because you had a
trip from hell again. She had a second one ending
yesterday and the trip was not, the trip was
not bad. No, it was fast and furious. Who goes
to Kentucky for 36 hours? I'm raising my hand.
We only go to Kentucky for 36 to 48 hours. That's
what our family does. We go, we go for a specific
event to see our brother and his family and like
we peace out. It just so happens that we were
in the airport on Friday and Monday longer. than
we were in Kentucky. Like we spent more time
in the airport trying to get home than we were
actually with the kids and Billy. Oh my God.
Katie, yeah. Although side note, the little time
that we did hang out, Billy and Katie, our brother's
girlfriend, did say. I think you guys should
not call yourself a fitness and wellness podcast.
I think you guys need to rename the podcast and
put it under comedy and fit to be funny or something
like that. I know. And he was like, because you
guys, it's a comedy podcast. Well, because I
don't think we think we're funny. I think that's
why. Right. So that's why we wouldn't do that.
There was a meme, you guys know I like to talk
about memes, that literally said, you posted
it about something about being cringe. Did you
put it to be real? Yeah, if you know, you know,
I'm like, oh no, I know I'm cringe. Yeah, that's
part of my personality. I was born cringe. I
don't like the word cringe. Why isn't it cringy?
Oh, yeah, I was born to be cringy like I that's
that's maybe one of my That's one of my main
personality traits I've been like this my whole
life. I'm okay with it. I don't think it's particularly
funny But Billy was like, no, I think you guys
really need to steer away from the fitness. Does
that mean he's listening? I feel like he and
Katie do, because Katie was like, yeah, you guys
are funny. I mean, when do you guys talk about
the wellness? I was like, da, da, da. I was like,
OK, well, I'm going home now. Fit to be fit.
We'll do little segments. Yeah, we'll do segments.
Yeah. Well, I love that they're listening. Now
we should do some real. Shout out to Katie and
Billy. Shout out to Kentucky. So yeah, they had
such a horrible travel day yesterday that anything
going on in my day that made it a 12 hour long
work day. Because of me. Didn't even matter.
I mean. No, didn't even matter. Because when
you're traveling like that, mind you, they had
three kids with them. who happened to be golden
children to not make it a horrible situation.
Mom told me about it yesterday. No, they were
great. They were great. I didn't have the right
chargers because Andrew was supposed to fly home
with us. But Andrew's flight got all messed up
and he got home at 930 a .m. He was at home and
he was like, what can I do to help? And I have
to say, mid -afternoon he texted me and he was
like, thanks. Thanks for the help with the dogs.
Also, This pineapple rum you got is amazing.
Oh, shut up. Don't even tell me that. Don't even
tell me that. I was like, awesome. And I'm sitting
there with like wanting to, you know, when you've
been up for 17 hours, you just want to brush
your teeth again. I'm in like airplane clothes.
My hair is in a messy bun and I've got Dean crying
because he missed his nap and he's at home drinking
pineapple rum. It's really good rum apparently.
He was supposed to fly home with us and he had
the chargers for the tablets So oh my god, so
we had a 12 -hour fly day with tablets on and
off Like sharing one charger and everybody's
stuff was dying now mind you we did not have
tablets growing up But we didn't fly growing
up. We didn't fly and there There were never
any like major issues like this. Yeah, not like
we were in three airports We were in three states
yesterday. Yeah, it was just and they were great.
It's fine. But I felt bad for you because you
had to teach all the classes when I was supposed
to be home to teach them. Didn't matter every
time you guys would check in and I'd be like,
oh, no, I'm good. I'm good. Everything's fine.
I'll happily do everything that's going on today.
And it's just like airplane. airport food. You
don't you know what I mean? It's just like a
long day of I just want to get home and by seven
o 'clock we finally got home and I was like what
happened to us today? Well everyone at C -Fit
is missing you. Oh yeah why are you horrible?
Last night was rough. Yeah I saw you use one
to two pound weights and kick it. If I did that
I'd be tarred and feathered and they'd say bring
back Victoria. Because I'm the everyman. You're
special. You're the like 1%. How do you get away
with doing stuff like that? Because I'm the everyman.
I know, but that doesn't make any sense. You're
1%. Because I need breaks and get tired and show
it, and also complain about what's going on.
And you are the Energizer Bunny who doesn't really
take account of reading the room about how they're
suffering. And you're like, everything's fine.
I'm fine, we're having a great time, keep going.
And so I'm them and they know that. I think that's
my theater degree where I'm like, things are
happening, just push through. And I tell them,
things are happening, just push through. I think
that's the difference. Like we were doing, it
was a bar and tone, I was teaching bar and tone
on Saturday. we were all still suffering shoulder
-wise from that. But while we were doing this
particular song, I was like, guys, I'm just really
good at faking a smile. But this is horrible.
Like, I'm struggling. This is not fun. I'm not
necessarily having a good time. And then they
were like, oh, I got this. You are like, what,
like it's hard? Your arm's about to fall off
and? But in my mind, I'm going. What am I doing?
But tell them out loud and maybe you won't be
so scary. But that's not me. Honesty? Yeah. Honesty
is just not the best policy sometimes. Just keep
it in, hold it in till you break. I don't like
how you smiled at me. I don't like how you smiled
at me after. That was a horrible, co -gate commercial
smile. No. Anyway. So they're missing you. Okay.
Well, I'm missing my routine, even though I was
only away for 48 hours. It's like, when you're
off, you're off. I did work out at our brother's
gym. It's just very different. It's like a very,
I tried to do, they were doing air squats and
I tried to do hip hops and Billy kept telling
me to stop. Cause that's embarrassing. Had I
known I would have felt embarrassment from here.
We were doing burpees and then it was like, do
27 air squats. And I was like, hip hop, hip hop.
Oh my God. Uh -huh. Billy was like, stop it now.
Stop it now. This is CrossFit. Oh, please. You're
probably listening to Broadway. No, we were listening.
Yeah, we were listening to something music -wise.
That's good. I don't know. I was just dancing.
We've had definitely very different travel years.
Like, your travels are more often in terms of
Vegas. bringing the kids to Shawnee, even if
it was a bad weekend, just like, that's a trip.
You went to Vegas again, I think, maybe two or
three times so far this season. I've gone twice
this year, yeah. Twice this year. Once in September,
once in April. Kentucky, I went to Kentucky,
but it was without children. The flights were
perfectly fine in September, and it was a bourbon
festival. It was very different than the communion
I just sat through at church. So we've tried
and then I went to Puerto Rico and it was smooth
sailing perfection. Great. I'm glad your travel
has just been fantastic this year. Yeah. Yeah,
I do. I go more often for short amount of times.
You go less often for maybe like a day or two
longer. And I don't know which one's better.
Like I think the situation almost like no. But
in Kentucky, everyone was like, oh, where's Victoria?
Why isn't she here? And I was like, well. we
only get one of us because we don't travel together.
Yeah. And they're like, why? I was like, well,
we can't travel together. One of us always has
to be home. Mom was even asking that. She was
like, why can't you come? I don't get it. And
I was like, who's going to teach? Yeah. Who's
going to run the business? So to that, I say
no one open your own business. Everyone work
for someone else and get paid time off. Yeah.
And sick days. Yep. I don't think I was talking
about this with a C fitter, actually. Because
she said, would you encourage acting with your
kids? Because Andrew and I were actors. And I
was like, well, yeah. Because if I said no, I'd
be such a hypocrite. Mom let me do it. But mom
fought us. Or didn't fight us. That's not fair.
I don't know if it was necessarily a sat us down
type of thing. But she was like, I really need
you to think about this. that you wanna major
in this, why don't you major in business? She
gave us the other routes that we should have
100 % done. Hell no. But I think overall, she
was always gonna be supportive. I don't have
to think that. She was always gonna be supportive.
But I do think the good mom, bad mom thing is
you still have to let them make the mistake.
You have to let them do what they wanna do. I
don't think we made mistakes per se. I do think
it would have benefited us a little bit more
to do more of a business side of thing. I think
that if we did what mom suggested and like minored
in theater and majored in business, I would have
dropped out. I mean, I did go to five colleges.
You did drop out. Wait a second. But I finished.
I don't know if I would have finished because
I would have been bored out of my mind. That's
just not the mind and like life. that I just
wouldn't have been able to do. I know myself.
I wouldn't have been able to stick it out. Oh,
yeah. I mean, I said, well, yeah, I agree. To
a degree, I agree. Like, and the reason I was
talking about this with a seafitter is because
my middle son is in film acting classes. He wants
to be a stormtrooper in Star Wars. Just the stormtrooper.
Just the stormtrooper. But he's actually really
creative and likes how things work. And I think
he's really interested in the behind the scenes
of film, which is still a crapshoot. Like it's
very hard to get in any aspect of film, right?
Any of the arts. Yeah. And she said, would you,
are you going to let them do that for like a
career? And I said, I can't not. I was allowed.
I went down a different path eventually, but
I was allowed to do it. I can't say, no, you
can't do it. But I like silently really, really,
really hope they don't and they go work for somebody
else because working for yourself. Mom, I guess
made it look easy. So freaking easy. Because
it's horrible. It's horrible. Now I'm just repeating
you. But I think that's what it is. Mom made
it look easy. And so we were like, oh, we can
do that. And I was like, this is... See? The
problem with someone going, what, like it's hard?
Full circle. So that's what mom did. Mom was
like, what? Like, it's hard? Right. So we were
like, we could do it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We could
definitely do this. Oh, if Melody was like, I
want to own my own business, I'd be like, please
don't. Please. Mind you, mom has a dance studio
that runs like a school. So she has June, July.
And August. August. She still works because she
has to prep for the next season, and it's. Truly
hell. Oh my god. Hear me look at me when I say
this is it is hell for everyone around her But
we don't get that it's like no people's days
off We work harder because that's a huge deal
for us and and time off the summers get busier
Mm -hmm or more effort gets has to be put in
in In a weird way. So yeah, it's 24 -7. Oh good.
I'm yay Summer's coming. That's what I said.
We don't get a break. It's just that the studio
closes and we also work at the studio. Yeah.
So I don't know. I mean, I would hope. I think
the kids don't want to do fitness or dance, so
I don't have to worry about them going into like
the family business. But if they want to open
their own business, I would highly be like, I
don't know, guys. Take your vacation. Take your
401k. Take your all that. Get all that stuff.
Get your paid time off. Get your because it's
got someone was telling me yesterday, a client
of mine about. You know, I'm taking a personal
day or I'm taking a half day for like a doctor's
appointment, things, things that you have to
do. And then she was telling me that she had
an injury. And her paid time off or her sick
days roll over. So 187 days she took for this
now very, very long -term injury that needed
to be taken care of. But 187 days she was getting
paid as if she worked there. Please don't tell
me that. I was like, that's amazing. Don't change
your job. That's amazing. She's a teacher. So
she struggles in a lot of different other ways.
I was like, I don't know that life. I don't know
that life. I will never know that life unless
Carly dies and the whole thing goes on. Which
we're not hoping for. I mean, it could happen.
But I have so many, I don't know. I have so many
thoughts on this because in some ways, we're
able to make our own schedule. Are we? No, because
our schedule surrounds everybody else's lives.
Exactly. Yeah, yeah, that's true. So no, we don't
get to make our own schedule. But in other ways,
we get to take time off, but not together. And
the only time we actually do get to take time
off together is when we physically lock the doors
of CFIT for five days out of the year. and go
down the shore. And make a minimal shifted schedule
for the other week. It's a two week thing. Yeah.
And they're like, we ended up closing those doors
because we didn't have any help one year. Yeah.
That's the only reason we closed. And we were
like, I guess we'll just shut down for this week.
But then people tend to like it. It almost gives
everybody the allowance to reset for one fitness
week of. not necessarily taking off for themselves,
maybe a lot of people do that, but maybe it's
just like, well, I'm gonna walk outside more,
or I'm gonna spend time with my family a little
bit more at dinnertime, or I'm gonna just change
my schedule. And then they're ready to come back
and wrapped up. So it kind of works out for us,
but we don't get that time. And people, we talk
about this all the time. People will come up
and be like, oh, you didn't know? I told Carly
that weeks ago. And I'm like, oh, no. We don't
talk. We don't talk. Are those do that to you?
Like, oh, Victoria doesn't tell anybody about
anything. So Victoria doesn't tell anybody about
anything. I just repeated what you said. I'm
a doctor and it's confidentiality. Though Victoria
has HIPAA laws, she has VFIT laws. They're called
HIPAA. It's a little different. They're HIPAA
laws. Wait, are they? No. No, no, no, no. This
is you are not fit to be funny. That's not what
my brother said. It's meant to be sad. Because
we don't talk. We don't have time to talk. We
talk about this, the podcast. We talk about C
-Fit schedules. The dance studio. Crazy things
that happen in class. Like that's a random not
business talk, but it's still about the business.
We talk about the dance studio and how we can
make every parent happy, which is impossible.
We're going through it right now. That's why
she said that. Going through it. Going through
it. Just be nice to your people. I was just,
when we were talking about what we were going
to talk about today, I was like, can we have
a kindness episode and tell people that when
you're getting a service, just be kind, and it's
not working out the way you want to. Yeah. Just
be nice. You'll get what you want. This is what
I tell my kids. I was going to say freaking.
So I tell my you just said it in a weird way
If you ask for something nicely You're more likely
to get it than if you ask for it rudely or you're
sarcastic or mean Like that's goes for adults,
too. It's a basic common knowledge like you would
think It would be easy. Maybe not for kids because
they're learning kids are learning But these
adults, I mean it's worse. It's worse when it
comes from an adult I know and it you just want
to fight back you want to mmm the things that
I would say and I wanted to post on the Instagram
for the business and I yesterday was an emotionally
physically tolling but emotionally tolling day
of wanting To throw down well remind you Victoria's
at home with our aunt dealing with some issues
that we're having with a business. My mom and
I are going through security with three kids
and 12 bags, and we're throwing stuff on the
security, mom's on the phone going, I don't know,
call them, call them. I'm texting. I'm texting
like Justin being like, not now, Justin. Sorry,
Justin. But I was like, we're we're dealing with
some stuff right now. He was like, I know I'm
one of them. I know. And it is I was like, where
are the cameras? Where are the cameras? Are you
guys at home? Yeah. On us going through security
and like mom's phone, she doesn't like to put
on silent. So, ooh -ee, ooh -ah -ah, ting -tang,
wah -la -bing -bang. Keeps going off constantly
at the airport. And I'm like, Mom, turn your
phone on silent. And she's like, then I won't
hear my phone. And the kids are like, Mom, where's
the charger? So I was like, oh, my God. Don't
want to own your own business. Sounds horrible.
It sounds horrible. Yeah. It sounds horrible.
But it was wild. But those days, I feel like,
are few and far between. Like, the really bad
days, like yesterday with, like, you know, businesses
and problems. But it would be easier to go back
to what we started with, with this specific thing.
Yes, there are a few in between. It would be
easier if people were just understanding and
consider it in kind. Yeah. Like, clearly, a third
party service isn't working out in anyone's favor.
There's a major glitch. We keep saying there's
issues. We're trying to get a hold of them. So
why are you still being so mean? So mean. Like,
it's just to say it plainly, it's just mean.
Yeah. It's rude. It's mean. and it's juvenile.
I think that people are always out for themselves
instead of stepping back for a second and looking
at the whole picture and being like, you're not
gonna be forgotten. You're just, you're not.
But maybe people feel like they are. I mean,
I'll forget you. I might forget you on purpose
because of how you reacted. I'm petty. I will
be petty. Yeah, I think people just need to be
nicer in general, especially. Oh my God, Vicky
had to go on a walk because her blood pressure
got so high. Her blood pressure was so high.
She's, who yells at a 77 year old woman who is
trying, like she's been running this business
for 30 years. They know what they're doing. So
if something's wrong, it's out of her control.
Like screaming at a 77, I was like, I can't.
More than one. More than one. But this is our,
this is what you have to deal with, I guess.
Yeah. We love owning our business Our uncle is
always like so when you guys gonna take over
the dance studio, I was like never Because it's
so much harder to deal with stuff and kids You
know, it's not the kid. It's the parents. Yeah,
okay. It's parents. You're one of them. Oh Well,
I never get the emails because I was taken off
them. You don't read them just like everybody
else you don't read them She'll show up and be
like, when are my kids dancing? I made the charts
miss They've been up since October I need a personal
invitation So yeah, they're they're few and far
between these days, but when they do happen they
happen at the worst times I mean they do happen.
They are high high high intensity Because it
gets emotional when it's people that you've known
for 20, 30 years that are in their 40s and 50s.
And you're just like, bleh. Well, see, what I
want to say in any situation, in any business,
not just necessarily ours, in anything, no one's
dying. Because that's what mom said to everything.
Every time there was an issue, mom, that was
mom's go -to. Really? Oh, this is a trauma response.
Because all I wanna do is say it to mom. I wanted
to say that to mom 70 times yesterday. Oh my
God, say it. Because that's all she said to us.
If I was pouting too much for her, and by pouting
I mean I was in high school, or in my 20s, or
- In my 30s. Last week. Yeah. If you just, if
it's something that she thinks you should be
over, no one's dying. I don't remember that.
Get over it, no one's dying. She would say it.
That was her go -to phrase. I have selective
memory. Ask her about it. She'll tell you. She
wanted to say that yesterday. Just be like, people,
we're talking about dance. No one's dying. Take
a beat. Isn't that a good thing to say? God,
I hate it. No. Oh, it's not? No. Why? Because
that invalidates. I mean, yes, invalidate all
these people that are being rude, but it invalidates
when you're... You texted me. I'm so mad. about
these tickets, about how they were purchased
and the fact that we're in this situation because
basically mom messed up. Yeah, mom messed up.
And you were so angry at the first issue out
of the day of issues of cancellations. You weren't
even on the New York flight yet at 12. Yeah.
And you were going, you were going, you were
going. You just kept saying, I'm so mad. And
I was like, well, at this point, there's nothing
you can do about it. You might as well just go
with the flow. But what if I said, no one's dying
Carly? Then I would feel like I would say, yeah,
you're right. No one's dead. No, you are not
evolved enough for that. You would have been
like so angry. You would have been angry. You
would have been like, okay, cool. Cool. All right.
Thanks. And then you would have not talked to
me anymore because I invalidated you. I didn't
sympathize with you and go, oh my God. Because
in those moments you telling me you're mad. What
did what did you want me to like? You wanted
me to go I would be too is that's horrible Which
is exactly what I said to you because it is but
if I had said no one's dying get over it Your
eyes would have gone crazy and bugged out. I
never would have said get over it. I would have
said no one's dying things will be fixed. But
you wouldn't say it like that. You'd go, ma!
No one is dying. I'm just saying it's something
that in the moment, it's like telling someone
to relax. Just relax, chill out, relax. It's
such an invalidating response when you are in
an emotional state. Usually it's turmoil, an
emotional negative state for someone to just
tell you to cut it off. Whatever. Let them. Let
them. Case in point. The fact that you said that,
I hate it so much. If I lasted too long in breakups
of being sad about it, mom would be like, Tori,
no one died. Yeah. No one's dying. You didn't
like that? All right. I'm just kidding. Game
on. I'm just kidding. Game activated. No, because
next time you say it to me, I'm just going to
laugh because I know that you're going to think
it's a joke. And I'm going to be like, that's
not funny. This isn't a comedy podcast. Yes.
It's coming. I'm going to sneak attack you. Guerrilla
warfare. Here we go. But yes, no one was dying.
Wait until this weekend when I'm stressed out.
And I'm sure she's going to say that to me once
or twice. Communions are so stressful. I'm going
to put it on the cake. No one's dying. Star Wars.
Star Wars. It's a Star Wars cake for a communion.
Let's talk about it. I mean, my Star Wars obsessed
son is having his communion on May the 4th. Be
with you. So there's that. Anyway, technically
someone is dying. It's communion. What? Shut
up. Let them. What are we talking about? Well,
we're about done now. Okay. So, the whole point,
right? This was truly explicit. Shooting the
shit. Yeah. And I thought about a lot of things
that we were gonna talk about today that had
a little more structure to them, had a little
more help for someone thinking of wanting to
better themselves, blah, blah, blah. Boo. No,
not boo, that's the whole, this is our last episode
everyone. We were on a break. But sometimes trying
too hard backfires. Sometimes going into something
because you know it should be a certain way and
you're scrambling for time. It just, it wouldn't
be genuine. This is what we had time for today.
Was to check in on the the year in a very small
Minor way to check in and just talk about the
craziness that ensued recently that's fresh on
our minds so we can move on from it and just
Just talk yeah, I mean sometimes that's all you
need and we never do it and we never do it privately,
so that's why you're here with us. I was just
going to say thank you for letting us talk for
30 minutes because I haven't talked to her all
weekend more than texting. I think we FaceTimed
once. Yes, I went away for 48 hours and I FaceTimed
her. And she passed the phone around. I did.
I passed the phone around so you could see everybody.
Nobody would have talked to me. They were having
too much of a good time. Well, to be fair, we're
going to be honest with you. To be fair. To be
fair. To be fair. I don't know how to come back
on that. I don't know, I don't know. To be fair,
we, and they totally would not care about me
talking about this because they're very open
about it. We have a very modern family in Kentucky.
And our communion this weekend, our brother got
divorced, our sister -in -law, I still call her
my sister -in -law. Angie. Angie. The communion
party was at her mom's house. And we all went
with my brother, who they are no longer married,
and my brother's girlfriend, who he lives with,
and her daughter. So it was like a big, and my
whole family who, you know, we're not related.
related anymore because my brother and auntie
are married well you have blood connection with
these two kids niece and nephew yeah but it was
like we were all sitting around with all of you
know his old in -laws and cousins and family
that we would have been around for 15 years with
them so like we know them very well but you know,
they're not married anymore. And so I was passing
the phone around to all these people we she hadn't
seen in a minute because there was a divorce
happening the past couple of years. And it was
just funny to me as I was passing it around.
I'm like, this is normal. Nobody has an issue
with this. And no one has the issue with looking
at me. No, it's just like I'm sitting my brother's
girlfriend's on my left. My sister -in -law,
ex -sister -in -law is on my right. My brother's
playing basketball with, you know, his like stepdaughter,
basically, Addie. And there's grandma Teresa
over there. And this is normal and it's fine.
And everyone's happy. And I was sitting around
just being like, I wish every family was like
this, because it would be so much easier for
all the kids because our niece and nephew have
it are so lucky. That they have this big family
where everybody can get along now. It took time
It's been three years two years three years,
but it's so nice for them Yeah, and for us that
we can still be a part and not just be like it's
here or it's here Right, right. It was everybody
and that's sort of how we grew up as well with
our parents divorce But like I don't know. It
was so nice that was passing around the phone
Victoria was on the phone. You know, we were
drinking wine but um I was not. She was with
my dogs. I was four hours deep in the parking.
But I was just like, oh, this is so nice. How
modern. I don't know if this is like a modern
family sort of thing or it's like a newer concept
of just sort of everybody getting along. And,
you know, yeah, like you said, it did take time,
but it was just really nice. That's it. I mean,
that was the goal. That's always the goal, I
feel like. Yeah. And mom and dad, I think also
took time. Sure. Yeah, we don't know anything
about it. We don't remember either. We were so
little. I think there was a time. Oh, yes. Yes.
Yes. But it all ended out and it ended out. Yeah,
it ended out well. And had my dad been able to
take time off work, he would have been there,
too. And that would have been like, you know,
more. But it was just really nice. And I hope
all those families out there going through a
divorce can. move past it for the kids, because
it was so nice for the kids to look over at the
church and everybody be there for them. You know
what I mean? Both sides. The energy was good.
Yes. And the kids were getting pictures with
their mom and their stepmom. And that was so
nice. And we were both, we were all making fun
of my brother. So that was really fun. Well,
there is a common denominator. So that makes
it a little bit easier. Yeah. Well, that's good
to hear, because I haven't heard about the trip.
So this, this is the whole point. This is the
whole point. I haven't had time to talk to her
and tell her about that yet. Here's the thing.
We didn't, we could have skipped this week, right?
We did that when I came back from my trip because
we miscalculated how many we needed to prerecord.
Whoops. But that's okay because you know, life
happens and I think you're slowly getting better
at that when it comes to certain things. I, in
terms of stuff that I set for myself goal -wise
like this and doing it every week. I'm slowly
getting better with letting go of that restraint
for that like control of it. So like I was okay
with that. This week, I didn't want to fake it.
I didn't want to be like, we've been researching
for a couple of days and I told this to her last
night. Not that we do that, but like that's what
it would have been like. Yeah, no. So sometimes
you just need a moment or 40 to... to just talk
and we just happen to be doing it with microphones
and making a thing of it. We don't ever talk
without cameras and microphones. So I mean, yes,
she's going to get up off this couch and go run
errands and I'm going to go to a client and like
life goes back to it. Like we're not going to
consider continue just sit and chat. Oh, no,
I don't. Ain't nobody got time for that. Literally.
Yeah. I have a Star Wars communion to plan. I
have a Star Wars cake to make. No, really, I
have to start to actually have to plan this party.
But yeah, so that was the point of today. That
was the point. I hope it was somewhat entertaining.
There's nothing you needed to get out of this
other than listening to other people's problems.
Yeah. You just learned a lot about our family
and our business and the fact that it's not all
sunshine and rainbows all the time, which you
already knew. Yeah. Yeah. And I think it's important,
I think this is something as a real tip. I hate
when you put me on the spot like this. You talk,
I'm not gonna listen, I'm just gonna be thinking.
Okay, as a real tip, set a time out. Don't just
be like, you know what, I'm gonna do this too
with my people, my person, whatever. Actually
schedule in, hey, do you have a 20 minute? free
time to have a phone call or 20 minutes to come
over on the weekend Let's just chat. Let's just
chat grab coffee. I have water because because
and or wine and Just chat just chat about like
whatever Happened the during the week or chat
about something like oh my god. We never got
to talk about this can we talk about this right
now and Then and then keep it short basically
Keep it shorter than what we did because we were
gonna do this for a half hour 30 minutes We were
gonna have a 30 minute talk 42 But I think it's
important. I think it's a mental health thing.
I think it it relieves a lot of Pent up whatever
and the serotonin levels of just you know, not
really having to stress and work hard I would
have stressed about doing anything. I know I
know and I just think that's it's mandatory.
I think it's mandatory And now, for your real
extra tip of the week, it's called FAA My Way.
What does FAA My Way mean? Really, what does
it mean? It means if you're gonna fly, always
fly direct. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever get
a connecting flight. I don't care how much it
costs. Don't ever, ever buy... One stop or two
stops. It's non -stop all the way mother non
-stop all the way so that there's never an issue
of Connecting flights rerouting or three airports
in one day FAA my way. What is the FAA part mean?
That's part of like the airplane FAA Like laws
and stuff like it's called the FAA Airport. I
don't know. Yeah, I don't know what it means.
I just thought you were saying letters BWC With
me I Thought it was FA was F American Airlines.
Yeah. Yeah also that F American Airlines For
what you did to us yesterday. That is real extra
every time we'd get to a new airport. They would
cancel our flight But yeah FAA my way non -stop
or no fly. Yeah, just pay for it Just pay for
it. You can always make money to pay it off mom.
Just pay for it next time. Okay She really wanted
us to go to this communion, so mom, next time
you pay for it. With that said, remember, you're
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