WEBVTT 00:00:07.789 --> 00:00:10.830 Welcome to fit to be real and a little extra. 00:00:10.949 --> 00:00:15.970 I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly Welcome back 00:00:15.970 --> 00:00:19.329 to the video if you have been watching us and 00:00:19.329 --> 00:00:21.510 then like kind of haven't recently We've had 00:00:21.510 --> 00:00:24.589 issues because that is life and we're still learning 00:00:24.589 --> 00:00:27.649 and by we I mean Pedro's doing all the work Carly 00:00:27.649 --> 00:00:29.969 and I just kind of sit back bat our eyes. I mean 00:00:30.239 --> 00:00:32.159 To be fair, Victoria just said, we're going to 00:00:32.159 --> 00:00:34.020 do this. And I said, I don't understand. Just 00:00:34.020 --> 00:00:36.500 point to me when I'm supposed to talk. And you 00:00:36.500 --> 00:00:40.740 know what? I didn't. I didn't. Yeah, you just 00:00:40.740 --> 00:00:42.500 started talking. I was like, oh, I guess I guess 00:00:42.500 --> 00:00:48.700 it's time. So the whole conversation today is 00:00:48.700 --> 00:00:52.240 a Carly on the spot. Spot, spot, spot, spot. 00:00:53.020 --> 00:00:54.799 We've done them in a minute. I wasn't aware of 00:00:54.799 --> 00:01:00.700 this. We're really just checking in. OK. since 00:01:00.700 --> 00:01:07.000 hot girl checkin what what eats baloney no what 00:01:07.000 --> 00:01:09.140 that was one of them and that's the only one 00:01:09.140 --> 00:01:13.400 i can ever remember hot girl checkin what what 00:01:13.400 --> 00:01:16.159 eats baloney i don't know why that's what it 00:01:16.159 --> 00:01:17.879 is every time it must have happened oh my god 00:01:17.879 --> 00:01:20.159 i don't remember that part at all well it's like 00:01:20.159 --> 00:01:22.280 a one -time thing it wasn't like ever i don't 00:01:22.280 --> 00:01:24.319 know now i don't now i'm questioning everything 00:01:24.319 --> 00:01:27.989 it's a silly thing We're doing a check -in. We're 00:01:27.989 --> 00:01:31.189 doing a check -in of not just from January, because 00:01:31.189 --> 00:01:33.329 it's not necessarily six months from January. 00:01:34.870 --> 00:01:38.390 Nope. I had to count. She counted on her fingers. 00:01:38.709 --> 00:01:40.890 And you started with your thumb. Yeah, how do 00:01:40.890 --> 00:01:43.590 you start counting? Yeah, never mind, never mind, 00:01:43.590 --> 00:01:45.090 never mind, never mind. It's my thumb. Yeah, 00:01:45.090 --> 00:01:48.409 it's not weird. For lots of different reasons. 00:01:49.069 --> 00:01:51.250 We've, I think, you said this the other day, 00:01:51.390 --> 00:01:54.329 that January to now, or like the year so far 00:01:54.329 --> 00:01:59.040 to now, Has been so fast the fastest I think 00:01:59.040 --> 00:02:02.060 of September to now as my school year. Okay. 00:02:02.079 --> 00:02:06.000 Yeah, so not necessarily 2025 Well, yeah, but 00:02:06.000 --> 00:02:11.099 like I guess because I Constantly am in school 00:02:11.099 --> 00:02:14.280 versus summer mode that I am like September. 00:02:14.280 --> 00:02:16.860 Oh my gosh. We're at summer vacation almost How 00:02:16.860 --> 00:02:20.199 did we get here? Yeah, and I'm very happy about 00:02:20.199 --> 00:02:23.759 super Yeah, super excited about a little break 00:02:23.759 --> 00:02:27.490 time. Yeah. Oh Summer's not a break for us, but 00:02:27.490 --> 00:02:30.069 the studio closes. So we get ours back. We get 00:02:30.069 --> 00:02:32.169 ours back. But then there's dance. I do like 00:02:32.169 --> 00:02:34.150 how you're saying everything exactly after I 00:02:34.150 --> 00:02:37.990 say it. But I do what you do because yours seems 00:02:37.990 --> 00:02:44.550 to work. So yours seems to work. All right. So 00:02:44.550 --> 00:02:47.509 since September. So if we take it back to September. 00:02:49.569 --> 00:02:53.870 It's been a roller coaster. Yeah. In a good way. 00:02:53.930 --> 00:02:56.580 Yeah. No. I was just going through the emotions. 00:02:57.000 --> 00:03:02.039 Don't agree just to agree. I was using, I was 00:03:02.039 --> 00:03:03.560 method acting. Go ahead. Yeah, yeah. No, it's 00:03:03.560 --> 00:03:06.159 been a roller coaster. I don't think anybody 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:09.139 believes you at this point. At this, you've taken 00:03:09.139 --> 00:03:12.379 it too far. I don't believe you. There's just, 00:03:12.520 --> 00:03:16.060 it's just been such a whirlwind. I think maybe 00:03:16.060 --> 00:03:17.659 more so than a roller coaster. Cause like we 00:03:17.659 --> 00:03:20.580 haven't had like low lows this year so far. God, 00:03:20.879 --> 00:03:23.400 not one would. I mean, January was a long month. 00:03:24.000 --> 00:03:27.439 January was the longest January that ever was. 00:03:27.719 --> 00:03:31.000 Yeah, we had a lot of sicknesses. Yes. And that's 00:03:31.000 --> 00:03:33.620 why I think January was rough. You personally. 00:03:33.680 --> 00:03:36.159 Yes. January, February, when was your trip from 00:03:36.159 --> 00:03:39.560 hell? February. Wait, tell us about your trip 00:03:39.560 --> 00:03:42.479 from hell. I did in an episode. You did? Yeah. 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:44.759 You don't listen to our episodes. I don't listen 00:03:44.759 --> 00:03:48.360 to you. It was a neurovirus weekend, right? Yeah, 00:03:48.360 --> 00:03:51.340 it was horrible. Everybody was throwing up. in 00:03:51.340 --> 00:03:57.020 an Airbnb. It was a disaster. But luckily, knock 00:03:57.020 --> 00:03:59.340 on wood, my kids have not gotten sick since February, 00:03:59.460 --> 00:04:03.939 but our mom has. So Carm had COVID like 77 times 00:04:03.939 --> 00:04:06.580 this year. I don't think she ever got rid of 00:04:06.580 --> 00:04:10.620 it. No. Wasn't it supposed to be like, you're 00:04:10.620 --> 00:04:13.979 good for six weeks at least after you have COVID 00:04:13.979 --> 00:04:16.319 to not get it again. And she'd be like two weeks 00:04:16.319 --> 00:04:18.810 later. Guys, I have COVID again. So then it was 00:04:18.810 --> 00:04:20.870 false positive stuff. There was something weird. 00:04:21.029 --> 00:04:25.029 But she's definitely gotten hit. But I will say, 00:04:25.269 --> 00:04:27.449 Carm, you're not watching. No. You're not listening. 00:04:27.589 --> 00:04:29.829 No. I know that. She doesn't take care of herself 00:04:29.829 --> 00:04:32.870 very well. Yeah. She doesn't sleep well. She 00:04:32.870 --> 00:04:37.850 binges at the end of the night of bad TV and 00:04:37.899 --> 00:04:40.699 fights herself of like sleeping, like waking 00:04:40.699 --> 00:04:42.740 up, sleeping, waking up, and doesn't go to bed. 00:04:43.019 --> 00:04:45.779 She doesn't drink water. And just runs herself 00:04:45.779 --> 00:04:48.240 ragged, like doesn't sit down, doesn't know how 00:04:48.240 --> 00:04:50.000 to, everything we've been talking about on the 00:04:50.000 --> 00:04:52.120 podcast for two years has not done anything. 00:04:52.360 --> 00:04:55.040 Well, she's definitely listening because she's 00:04:55.040 --> 00:04:58.500 doing the break. She's on a take, take a break 00:04:58.500 --> 00:05:00.600 from bettering herself. I thought you were going 00:05:00.600 --> 00:05:02.939 to make fun of me, but you sort of did. I am. 00:05:03.000 --> 00:05:05.500 I did actually. You missed it. I think you missed 00:05:05.500 --> 00:05:10.149 it. So yeah, she got hit. I got a lot of sickness 00:05:10.149 --> 00:05:12.529 this year, too, for the first time. I haven't 00:05:12.529 --> 00:05:15.290 been this sick since COVID. So I don't know. 00:05:15.949 --> 00:05:17.670 But none of this is important to talk about. 00:05:17.670 --> 00:05:20.829 None of this matters. I think it's important 00:05:20.829 --> 00:05:24.889 to do a check -in, whether it's six months into 00:05:24.889 --> 00:05:26.709 your year and you're going to go from January 00:05:26.709 --> 00:05:29.129 or if it's from September to whatever you want 00:05:29.129 --> 00:05:32.829 to constitute your year as. Because I think that's 00:05:32.829 --> 00:05:34.990 when all of a sudden the year's over and you're 00:05:34.990 --> 00:05:37.569 like, well, what happened? and I didn't do anything 00:05:37.569 --> 00:05:41.189 that I wanted to do or you tell yourself those 00:05:41.189 --> 00:05:44.230 stories because you do you specifically do too 00:05:44.230 --> 00:05:47.430 much. Yes. Like you don't let the kids sit for 00:05:47.430 --> 00:05:50.149 a weekend. But I feel like they do. I feel like 00:05:50.149 --> 00:05:54.610 I do. But when the times are fast and furious, 00:05:54.709 --> 00:05:57.550 it like all hits at once. And when the slow times 00:05:57.550 --> 00:06:06.029 are slow, they're slow. Wow. It's just like this 00:06:06.029 --> 00:06:08.850 upcoming weekend. Everything is happening. I've 00:06:08.850 --> 00:06:12.110 got six things to do in each single day that 00:06:12.110 --> 00:06:14.430 I have to get to. But like not every weekend 00:06:14.430 --> 00:06:17.550 is like that. I don't particularly love weekends 00:06:17.550 --> 00:06:20.670 like this coming up where every hour on the hour 00:06:20.670 --> 00:06:23.769 is something. I think it's May. That's May. Yeah, 00:06:23.829 --> 00:06:26.889 is that just May? Well, it's communions. If you're 00:06:26.889 --> 00:06:29.850 whether you're, you know, Catholic or know a 00:06:29.850 --> 00:06:31.529 lot of Catholic people. You have communion parties. 00:06:32.089 --> 00:06:34.569 You have end of year graduation parties that 00:06:34.569 --> 00:06:36.930 are coming up. I just got another invite. We 00:06:36.930 --> 00:06:39.620 have another one in May. You do? I don't. Did 00:06:39.620 --> 00:06:41.120 too, but you haven't seen it yet because you 00:06:41.120 --> 00:06:42.579 haven't been to the studio because you had a 00:06:42.579 --> 00:06:46.980 trip from hell again. She had a second one ending 00:06:46.980 --> 00:06:49.160 yesterday and the trip was not, the trip was 00:06:49.160 --> 00:06:51.319 not bad. No, it was fast and furious. Who goes 00:06:51.319 --> 00:06:54.259 to Kentucky for 36 hours? I'm raising my hand. 00:06:54.379 --> 00:06:58.259 We only go to Kentucky for 36 to 48 hours. That's 00:06:58.259 --> 00:07:00.620 what our family does. We go, we go for a specific 00:07:00.620 --> 00:07:02.579 event to see our brother and his family and like 00:07:02.579 --> 00:07:05.660 we peace out. It just so happens that we were 00:07:05.660 --> 00:07:08.759 in the airport on Friday and Monday longer. than 00:07:08.759 --> 00:07:11.459 we were in Kentucky. Like we spent more time 00:07:11.459 --> 00:07:13.600 in the airport trying to get home than we were 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:17.019 actually with the kids and Billy. Oh my God. 00:07:17.160 --> 00:07:21.100 Katie, yeah. Although side note, the little time 00:07:21.100 --> 00:07:24.540 that we did hang out, Billy and Katie, our brother's 00:07:24.540 --> 00:07:29.519 girlfriend, did say. I think you guys should 00:07:29.519 --> 00:07:32.500 not call yourself a fitness and wellness podcast. 00:07:32.600 --> 00:07:35.019 I think you guys need to rename the podcast and 00:07:35.019 --> 00:07:41.160 put it under comedy and fit to be funny or something 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:43.620 like that. I know. And he was like, because you 00:07:43.620 --> 00:07:46.060 guys, it's a comedy podcast. Well, because I 00:07:46.060 --> 00:07:48.199 don't think we think we're funny. I think that's 00:07:48.199 --> 00:07:51.439 why. Right. So that's why we wouldn't do that. 00:07:51.959 --> 00:07:53.800 There was a meme, you guys know I like to talk 00:07:53.800 --> 00:07:56.079 about memes, that literally said, you posted 00:07:56.079 --> 00:07:59.009 it about something about being cringe. Did you 00:07:59.009 --> 00:08:01.209 put it to be real? Yeah, if you know, you know, 00:08:01.209 --> 00:08:04.149 I'm like, oh no, I know I'm cringe. Yeah, that's 00:08:04.149 --> 00:08:07.230 part of my personality. I was born cringe. I 00:08:07.230 --> 00:08:09.449 don't like the word cringe. Why isn't it cringy? 00:08:09.550 --> 00:08:12.810 Oh, yeah, I was born to be cringy like I that's 00:08:12.810 --> 00:08:19.569 that's maybe one of my That's one of my main 00:08:19.569 --> 00:08:21.810 personality traits I've been like this my whole 00:08:21.810 --> 00:08:24.269 life. I'm okay with it. I don't think it's particularly 00:08:24.269 --> 00:08:31.629 funny But Billy was like, no, I think you guys 00:08:31.629 --> 00:08:34.289 really need to steer away from the fitness. Does 00:08:34.289 --> 00:08:36.350 that mean he's listening? I feel like he and 00:08:36.350 --> 00:08:38.289 Katie do, because Katie was like, yeah, you guys 00:08:38.289 --> 00:08:40.990 are funny. I mean, when do you guys talk about 00:08:40.990 --> 00:08:46.129 the wellness? I was like, da, da, da. I was like, 00:08:46.250 --> 00:08:48.850 OK, well, I'm going home now. Fit to be fit. 00:08:48.990 --> 00:08:51.210 We'll do little segments. Yeah, we'll do segments. 00:08:53.090 --> 00:08:57.129 Yeah. Well, I love that they're listening. Now 00:08:57.129 --> 00:09:01.269 we should do some real. Shout out to Katie and 00:09:01.269 --> 00:09:03.909 Billy. Shout out to Kentucky. So yeah, they had 00:09:03.909 --> 00:09:07.710 such a horrible travel day yesterday that anything 00:09:07.710 --> 00:09:11.350 going on in my day that made it a 12 hour long 00:09:11.350 --> 00:09:13.809 work day. Because of me. Didn't even matter. 00:09:14.169 --> 00:09:16.389 I mean. No, didn't even matter. Because when 00:09:16.389 --> 00:09:19.690 you're traveling like that, mind you, they had 00:09:19.690 --> 00:09:22.570 three kids with them. who happened to be golden 00:09:22.570 --> 00:09:24.809 children to not make it a horrible situation. 00:09:24.950 --> 00:09:28.110 Mom told me about it yesterday. No, they were 00:09:28.110 --> 00:09:30.970 great. They were great. I didn't have the right 00:09:30.970 --> 00:09:33.850 chargers because Andrew was supposed to fly home 00:09:33.850 --> 00:09:36.909 with us. But Andrew's flight got all messed up 00:09:36.909 --> 00:09:40.769 and he got home at 930 a .m. He was at home and 00:09:40.769 --> 00:09:43.590 he was like, what can I do to help? And I have 00:09:43.590 --> 00:09:46.710 to say, mid -afternoon he texted me and he was 00:09:46.710 --> 00:09:48.470 like, thanks. Thanks for the help with the dogs. 00:09:48.649 --> 00:09:51.139 Also, This pineapple rum you got is amazing. 00:09:51.460 --> 00:09:53.500 Oh, shut up. Don't even tell me that. Don't even 00:09:53.500 --> 00:09:58.320 tell me that. I was like, awesome. And I'm sitting 00:09:58.320 --> 00:10:00.240 there with like wanting to, you know, when you've 00:10:00.240 --> 00:10:02.200 been up for 17 hours, you just want to brush 00:10:02.200 --> 00:10:04.620 your teeth again. I'm in like airplane clothes. 00:10:04.720 --> 00:10:07.159 My hair is in a messy bun and I've got Dean crying 00:10:07.159 --> 00:10:10.039 because he missed his nap and he's at home drinking 00:10:10.039 --> 00:10:13.840 pineapple rum. It's really good rum apparently. 00:10:13.840 --> 00:10:16.019 He was supposed to fly home with us and he had 00:10:16.019 --> 00:10:19.360 the chargers for the tablets So oh my god, so 00:10:19.360 --> 00:10:23.200 we had a 12 -hour fly day with tablets on and 00:10:23.200 --> 00:10:27.179 off Like sharing one charger and everybody's 00:10:27.179 --> 00:10:29.299 stuff was dying now mind you we did not have 00:10:29.299 --> 00:10:31.820 tablets growing up But we didn't fly growing 00:10:31.820 --> 00:10:35.779 up. We didn't fly and there There were never 00:10:35.779 --> 00:10:38.460 any like major issues like this. Yeah, not like 00:10:38.460 --> 00:10:41.539 we were in three airports We were in three states 00:10:41.539 --> 00:10:44.740 yesterday. Yeah, it was just and they were great. 00:10:44.740 --> 00:10:47.159 It's fine. But I felt bad for you because you 00:10:47.159 --> 00:10:48.940 had to teach all the classes when I was supposed 00:10:48.940 --> 00:10:52.399 to be home to teach them. Didn't matter every 00:10:52.399 --> 00:10:54.299 time you guys would check in and I'd be like, 00:10:54.360 --> 00:10:56.480 oh, no, I'm good. I'm good. Everything's fine. 00:10:57.059 --> 00:10:59.980 I'll happily do everything that's going on today. 00:11:01.039 --> 00:11:04.539 And it's just like airplane. airport food. You 00:11:04.539 --> 00:11:06.159 don't you know what I mean? It's just like a 00:11:06.159 --> 00:11:08.960 long day of I just want to get home and by seven 00:11:08.960 --> 00:11:12.139 o 'clock we finally got home and I was like what 00:11:12.139 --> 00:11:15.320 happened to us today? Well everyone at C -Fit 00:11:15.320 --> 00:11:17.600 is missing you. Oh yeah why are you horrible? 00:11:19.000 --> 00:11:21.559 Last night was rough. Yeah I saw you use one 00:11:21.559 --> 00:11:23.820 to two pound weights and kick it. If I did that 00:11:23.820 --> 00:11:26.080 I'd be tarred and feathered and they'd say bring 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:31.139 back Victoria. Because I'm the everyman. You're 00:11:31.139 --> 00:11:37.360 special. You're the like 1%. How do you get away 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:40.059 with doing stuff like that? Because I'm the everyman. 00:11:40.059 --> 00:11:42.460 I know, but that doesn't make any sense. You're 00:11:42.460 --> 00:11:48.200 1%. Because I need breaks and get tired and show 00:11:48.200 --> 00:11:52.100 it, and also complain about what's going on. 00:11:52.480 --> 00:11:56.200 And you are the Energizer Bunny who doesn't really 00:11:56.200 --> 00:11:58.899 take account of reading the room about how they're 00:11:58.899 --> 00:12:00.639 suffering. And you're like, everything's fine. 00:12:00.940 --> 00:12:03.840 I'm fine, we're having a great time, keep going. 00:12:04.580 --> 00:12:09.519 And so I'm them and they know that. I think that's 00:12:09.519 --> 00:12:14.000 my theater degree where I'm like, things are 00:12:14.000 --> 00:12:17.820 happening, just push through. And I tell them, 00:12:18.139 --> 00:12:20.120 things are happening, just push through. I think 00:12:20.120 --> 00:12:22.100 that's the difference. Like we were doing, it 00:12:22.100 --> 00:12:24.899 was a bar and tone, I was teaching bar and tone 00:12:24.899 --> 00:12:29.440 on Saturday. we were all still suffering shoulder 00:12:29.440 --> 00:12:32.879 -wise from that. But while we were doing this 00:12:32.879 --> 00:12:35.679 particular song, I was like, guys, I'm just really 00:12:35.679 --> 00:12:38.500 good at faking a smile. But this is horrible. 00:12:38.759 --> 00:12:41.559 Like, I'm struggling. This is not fun. I'm not 00:12:41.559 --> 00:12:43.500 necessarily having a good time. And then they 00:12:43.500 --> 00:12:47.980 were like, oh, I got this. You are like, what, 00:12:48.000 --> 00:12:51.039 like it's hard? Your arm's about to fall off 00:12:51.039 --> 00:12:54.730 and? But in my mind, I'm going. What am I doing? 00:12:54.929 --> 00:12:57.110 But tell them out loud and maybe you won't be 00:12:57.110 --> 00:13:05.429 so scary. But that's not me. Honesty? Yeah. Honesty 00:13:05.429 --> 00:13:08.210 is just not the best policy sometimes. Just keep 00:13:08.210 --> 00:13:12.110 it in, hold it in till you break. I don't like 00:13:12.110 --> 00:13:14.070 how you smiled at me. I don't like how you smiled 00:13:14.070 --> 00:13:17.070 at me after. That was a horrible, co -gate commercial 00:13:17.070 --> 00:13:22.110 smile. No. Anyway. So they're missing you. Okay. 00:13:22.129 --> 00:13:24.679 Well, I'm missing my routine, even though I was 00:13:24.679 --> 00:13:27.940 only away for 48 hours. It's like, when you're 00:13:27.940 --> 00:13:30.240 off, you're off. I did work out at our brother's 00:13:30.240 --> 00:13:32.620 gym. It's just very different. It's like a very, 00:13:32.779 --> 00:13:34.899 I tried to do, they were doing air squats and 00:13:34.899 --> 00:13:37.720 I tried to do hip hops and Billy kept telling 00:13:37.720 --> 00:13:42.080 me to stop. Cause that's embarrassing. Had I 00:13:42.080 --> 00:13:44.080 known I would have felt embarrassment from here. 00:13:44.100 --> 00:13:46.200 We were doing burpees and then it was like, do 00:13:46.200 --> 00:13:49.980 27 air squats. And I was like, hip hop, hip hop. 00:13:51.259 --> 00:13:54.960 Oh my God. Uh -huh. Billy was like, stop it now. 00:13:54.980 --> 00:13:57.480 Stop it now. This is CrossFit. Oh, please. You're 00:13:57.480 --> 00:13:59.899 probably listening to Broadway. No, we were listening. 00:14:00.200 --> 00:14:03.440 Yeah, we were listening to something music -wise. 00:14:03.879 --> 00:14:06.019 That's good. I don't know. I was just dancing. 00:14:07.039 --> 00:14:11.360 We've had definitely very different travel years. 00:14:11.940 --> 00:14:15.559 Like, your travels are more often in terms of 00:14:15.559 --> 00:14:18.940 Vegas. bringing the kids to Shawnee, even if 00:14:18.940 --> 00:14:20.639 it was a bad weekend, just like, that's a trip. 00:14:20.720 --> 00:14:23.100 You went to Vegas again, I think, maybe two or 00:14:23.100 --> 00:14:24.820 three times so far this season. I've gone twice 00:14:24.820 --> 00:14:26.480 this year, yeah. Twice this year. Once in September, 00:14:26.580 --> 00:14:31.179 once in April. Kentucky, I went to Kentucky, 00:14:31.279 --> 00:14:34.220 but it was without children. The flights were 00:14:34.220 --> 00:14:37.360 perfectly fine in September, and it was a bourbon 00:14:37.360 --> 00:14:40.960 festival. It was very different than the communion 00:14:40.960 --> 00:14:44.830 I just sat through at church. So we've tried 00:14:44.830 --> 00:14:47.090 and then I went to Puerto Rico and it was smooth 00:14:47.090 --> 00:14:49.909 sailing perfection. Great. I'm glad your travel 00:14:49.909 --> 00:14:52.990 has just been fantastic this year. Yeah. Yeah, 00:14:53.169 --> 00:14:56.250 I do. I go more often for short amount of times. 00:14:56.769 --> 00:15:00.330 You go less often for maybe like a day or two 00:15:00.330 --> 00:15:01.889 longer. And I don't know which one's better. 00:15:02.330 --> 00:15:05.330 Like I think the situation almost like no. But 00:15:05.330 --> 00:15:07.210 in Kentucky, everyone was like, oh, where's Victoria? 00:15:07.350 --> 00:15:09.159 Why isn't she here? And I was like, well. we 00:15:09.159 --> 00:15:11.500 only get one of us because we don't travel together. 00:15:11.519 --> 00:15:13.019 Yeah. And they're like, why? I was like, well, 00:15:13.019 --> 00:15:15.340 we can't travel together. One of us always has 00:15:15.340 --> 00:15:18.559 to be home. Mom was even asking that. She was 00:15:18.559 --> 00:15:21.039 like, why can't you come? I don't get it. And 00:15:21.039 --> 00:15:23.320 I was like, who's going to teach? Yeah. Who's 00:15:23.320 --> 00:15:26.279 going to run the business? So to that, I say 00:15:26.279 --> 00:15:29.279 no one open your own business. Everyone work 00:15:29.279 --> 00:15:31.580 for someone else and get paid time off. Yeah. 00:15:32.080 --> 00:15:35.980 And sick days. Yep. I don't think I was talking 00:15:35.980 --> 00:15:38.590 about this with a C fitter, actually. Because 00:15:38.590 --> 00:15:43.870 she said, would you encourage acting with your 00:15:43.870 --> 00:15:46.450 kids? Because Andrew and I were actors. And I 00:15:46.450 --> 00:15:50.769 was like, well, yeah. Because if I said no, I'd 00:15:50.769 --> 00:15:55.490 be such a hypocrite. Mom let me do it. But mom 00:15:55.490 --> 00:15:58.090 fought us. Or didn't fight us. That's not fair. 00:16:00.610 --> 00:16:03.350 I don't know if it was necessarily a sat us down 00:16:03.350 --> 00:16:05.429 type of thing. But she was like, I really need 00:16:05.429 --> 00:16:08.139 you to think about this. that you wanna major 00:16:08.139 --> 00:16:11.220 in this, why don't you major in business? She 00:16:11.220 --> 00:16:13.820 gave us the other routes that we should have 00:16:13.820 --> 00:16:19.659 100 % done. Hell no. But I think overall, she 00:16:19.659 --> 00:16:21.120 was always gonna be supportive. I don't have 00:16:21.120 --> 00:16:23.019 to think that. She was always gonna be supportive. 00:16:23.460 --> 00:16:29.460 But I do think the good mom, bad mom thing is 00:16:29.460 --> 00:16:31.039 you still have to let them make the mistake. 00:16:31.179 --> 00:16:33.019 You have to let them do what they wanna do. I 00:16:33.019 --> 00:16:37.200 don't think we made mistakes per se. I do think 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:39.039 it would have benefited us a little bit more 00:16:39.039 --> 00:16:42.899 to do more of a business side of thing. I think 00:16:42.899 --> 00:16:46.580 that if we did what mom suggested and like minored 00:16:46.580 --> 00:16:48.340 in theater and majored in business, I would have 00:16:48.340 --> 00:16:51.100 dropped out. I mean, I did go to five colleges. 00:16:51.100 --> 00:16:54.460 You did drop out. Wait a second. But I finished. 00:16:54.539 --> 00:16:56.820 I don't know if I would have finished because 00:16:56.820 --> 00:16:58.720 I would have been bored out of my mind. That's 00:16:58.720 --> 00:17:03.679 just not the mind and like life. that I just 00:17:03.679 --> 00:17:05.599 wouldn't have been able to do. I know myself. 00:17:05.599 --> 00:17:08.559 I wouldn't have been able to stick it out. Oh, 00:17:08.559 --> 00:17:11.079 yeah. I mean, I said, well, yeah, I agree. To 00:17:11.079 --> 00:17:13.839 a degree, I agree. Like, and the reason I was 00:17:13.839 --> 00:17:15.480 talking about this with a seafitter is because 00:17:15.480 --> 00:17:18.619 my middle son is in film acting classes. He wants 00:17:18.619 --> 00:17:21.680 to be a stormtrooper in Star Wars. Just the stormtrooper. 00:17:21.720 --> 00:17:23.420 Just the stormtrooper. But he's actually really 00:17:23.420 --> 00:17:25.700 creative and likes how things work. And I think 00:17:25.700 --> 00:17:27.680 he's really interested in the behind the scenes 00:17:27.680 --> 00:17:31.299 of film, which is still a crapshoot. Like it's 00:17:31.299 --> 00:17:34.000 very hard to get in any aspect of film, right? 00:17:34.059 --> 00:17:36.619 Any of the arts. Yeah. And she said, would you, 00:17:36.700 --> 00:17:38.579 are you going to let them do that for like a 00:17:38.579 --> 00:17:41.640 career? And I said, I can't not. I was allowed. 00:17:42.480 --> 00:17:44.799 I went down a different path eventually, but 00:17:44.799 --> 00:17:46.759 I was allowed to do it. I can't say, no, you 00:17:46.759 --> 00:17:51.819 can't do it. But I like silently really, really, 00:17:52.259 --> 00:17:54.440 really hope they don't and they go work for somebody 00:17:54.440 --> 00:17:58.119 else because working for yourself. Mom, I guess 00:17:58.119 --> 00:18:02.440 made it look easy. So freaking easy. Because 00:18:02.440 --> 00:18:07.220 it's horrible. It's horrible. Now I'm just repeating 00:18:07.220 --> 00:18:12.099 you. But I think that's what it is. Mom made 00:18:12.099 --> 00:18:15.059 it look easy. And so we were like, oh, we can 00:18:15.059 --> 00:18:18.460 do that. And I was like, this is... See? The 00:18:18.460 --> 00:18:21.180 problem with someone going, what, like it's hard? 00:18:22.420 --> 00:18:25.430 Full circle. So that's what mom did. Mom was 00:18:25.430 --> 00:18:26.730 like, what? Like, it's hard? Right. So we were 00:18:26.730 --> 00:18:28.230 like, we could do it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We could 00:18:28.230 --> 00:18:30.630 definitely do this. Oh, if Melody was like, I 00:18:30.630 --> 00:18:33.869 want to own my own business, I'd be like, please 00:18:33.869 --> 00:18:38.910 don't. Please. Mind you, mom has a dance studio 00:18:38.910 --> 00:18:43.089 that runs like a school. So she has June, July. 00:18:43.250 --> 00:18:46.609 And August. August. She still works because she 00:18:46.609 --> 00:18:50.700 has to prep for the next season, and it's. Truly 00:18:50.700 --> 00:18:52.779 hell. Oh my god. Hear me look at me when I say 00:18:52.779 --> 00:18:57.359 this is it is hell for everyone around her But 00:18:57.359 --> 00:18:59.839 we don't get that it's like no people's days 00:18:59.839 --> 00:19:01.920 off We work harder because that's a huge deal 00:19:01.920 --> 00:19:05.539 for us and and time off the summers get busier 00:19:05.539 --> 00:19:08.779 Mm -hmm or more effort gets has to be put in 00:19:08.779 --> 00:19:13.000 in In a weird way. So yeah, it's 24 -7. Oh good. 00:19:13.240 --> 00:19:16.769 I'm yay Summer's coming. That's what I said. 00:19:16.890 --> 00:19:19.410 We don't get a break. It's just that the studio 00:19:19.410 --> 00:19:21.450 closes and we also work at the studio. Yeah. 00:19:21.630 --> 00:19:24.930 So I don't know. I mean, I would hope. I think 00:19:24.930 --> 00:19:27.750 the kids don't want to do fitness or dance, so 00:19:27.750 --> 00:19:31.569 I don't have to worry about them going into like 00:19:31.569 --> 00:19:34.410 the family business. But if they want to open 00:19:34.410 --> 00:19:37.569 their own business, I would highly be like, I 00:19:37.569 --> 00:19:40.900 don't know, guys. Take your vacation. Take your 00:19:40.900 --> 00:19:44.180 401k. Take your all that. Get all that stuff. 00:19:44.220 --> 00:19:48.440 Get your paid time off. Get your because it's 00:19:48.440 --> 00:19:50.960 got someone was telling me yesterday, a client 00:19:50.960 --> 00:19:55.039 of mine about. You know, I'm taking a personal 00:19:55.039 --> 00:19:57.500 day or I'm taking a half day for like a doctor's 00:19:57.500 --> 00:19:58.880 appointment, things, things that you have to 00:19:58.880 --> 00:20:02.519 do. And then she was telling me that she had 00:20:02.519 --> 00:20:07.000 an injury. And her paid time off or her sick 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:12.359 days roll over. So 187 days she took for this 00:20:12.359 --> 00:20:15.920 now very, very long -term injury that needed 00:20:15.920 --> 00:20:20.019 to be taken care of. But 187 days she was getting 00:20:20.019 --> 00:20:23.259 paid as if she worked there. Please don't tell 00:20:23.259 --> 00:20:27.799 me that. I was like, that's amazing. Don't change 00:20:27.799 --> 00:20:31.579 your job. That's amazing. She's a teacher. So 00:20:31.579 --> 00:20:34.440 she struggles in a lot of different other ways. 00:20:35.589 --> 00:20:38.069 I was like, I don't know that life. I don't know 00:20:38.069 --> 00:20:42.529 that life. I will never know that life unless 00:20:42.529 --> 00:20:46.329 Carly dies and the whole thing goes on. Which 00:20:46.329 --> 00:20:51.990 we're not hoping for. I mean, it could happen. 00:20:53.170 --> 00:20:57.250 But I have so many, I don't know. I have so many 00:20:57.250 --> 00:21:00.470 thoughts on this because in some ways, we're 00:21:00.470 --> 00:21:04.079 able to make our own schedule. Are we? No, because 00:21:04.079 --> 00:21:06.039 our schedule surrounds everybody else's lives. 00:21:06.279 --> 00:21:08.740 Exactly. Yeah, yeah, that's true. So no, we don't 00:21:08.740 --> 00:21:15.019 get to make our own schedule. But in other ways, 00:21:15.700 --> 00:21:19.059 we get to take time off, but not together. And 00:21:19.059 --> 00:21:21.059 the only time we actually do get to take time 00:21:21.059 --> 00:21:23.599 off together is when we physically lock the doors 00:21:23.599 --> 00:21:26.859 of CFIT for five days out of the year. and go 00:21:26.859 --> 00:21:30.599 down the shore. And make a minimal shifted schedule 00:21:30.599 --> 00:21:33.140 for the other week. It's a two week thing. Yeah. 00:21:33.460 --> 00:21:35.779 And they're like, we ended up closing those doors 00:21:35.779 --> 00:21:38.519 because we didn't have any help one year. Yeah. 00:21:38.680 --> 00:21:40.460 That's the only reason we closed. And we were 00:21:40.460 --> 00:21:42.240 like, I guess we'll just shut down for this week. 00:21:42.339 --> 00:21:44.700 But then people tend to like it. It almost gives 00:21:44.700 --> 00:21:50.680 everybody the allowance to reset for one fitness 00:21:50.680 --> 00:21:54.880 week of. not necessarily taking off for themselves, 00:21:55.039 --> 00:21:56.559 maybe a lot of people do that, but maybe it's 00:21:56.559 --> 00:21:58.039 just like, well, I'm gonna walk outside more, 00:21:58.140 --> 00:22:00.200 or I'm gonna spend time with my family a little 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:02.299 bit more at dinnertime, or I'm gonna just change 00:22:02.299 --> 00:22:04.140 my schedule. And then they're ready to come back 00:22:04.140 --> 00:22:06.220 and wrapped up. So it kind of works out for us, 00:22:06.819 --> 00:22:09.900 but we don't get that time. And people, we talk 00:22:09.900 --> 00:22:12.259 about this all the time. People will come up 00:22:12.259 --> 00:22:15.160 and be like, oh, you didn't know? I told Carly 00:22:15.160 --> 00:22:18.920 that weeks ago. And I'm like, oh, no. We don't 00:22:18.920 --> 00:22:21.119 talk. We don't talk. Are those do that to you? 00:22:21.400 --> 00:22:23.279 Like, oh, Victoria doesn't tell anybody about 00:22:23.279 --> 00:22:25.859 anything. So Victoria doesn't tell anybody about 00:22:25.859 --> 00:22:29.539 anything. I just repeated what you said. I'm 00:22:29.539 --> 00:22:32.859 a doctor and it's confidentiality. Though Victoria 00:22:32.859 --> 00:22:35.980 has HIPAA laws, she has VFIT laws. They're called 00:22:35.980 --> 00:22:38.660 HIPAA. It's a little different. They're HIPAA 00:22:38.660 --> 00:22:42.500 laws. Wait, are they? No. No, no, no, no. This 00:22:42.500 --> 00:22:46.900 is you are not fit to be funny. That's not what 00:22:46.900 --> 00:22:51.940 my brother said. It's meant to be sad. Because 00:22:51.940 --> 00:22:53.740 we don't talk. We don't have time to talk. We 00:22:53.740 --> 00:22:56.660 talk about this, the podcast. We talk about C 00:22:56.660 --> 00:23:00.640 -Fit schedules. The dance studio. Crazy things 00:23:00.640 --> 00:23:04.259 that happen in class. Like that's a random not 00:23:04.259 --> 00:23:06.240 business talk, but it's still about the business. 00:23:06.259 --> 00:23:08.680 We talk about the dance studio and how we can 00:23:08.680 --> 00:23:12.799 make every parent happy, which is impossible. 00:23:13.879 --> 00:23:15.380 We're going through it right now. That's why 00:23:15.380 --> 00:23:17.220 she said that. Going through it. Going through 00:23:17.220 --> 00:23:20.119 it. Just be nice to your people. I was just, 00:23:20.619 --> 00:23:22.099 when we were talking about what we were going 00:23:22.099 --> 00:23:23.559 to talk about today, I was like, can we have 00:23:23.559 --> 00:23:27.640 a kindness episode and tell people that when 00:23:27.640 --> 00:23:30.480 you're getting a service, just be kind, and it's 00:23:30.480 --> 00:23:33.799 not working out the way you want to. Yeah. Just 00:23:33.799 --> 00:23:38.099 be nice. You'll get what you want. This is what 00:23:38.099 --> 00:23:40.680 I tell my kids. I was going to say freaking. 00:23:41.200 --> 00:23:44.500 So I tell my you just said it in a weird way 00:23:44.500 --> 00:23:49.519 If you ask for something nicely You're more likely 00:23:49.519 --> 00:23:53.579 to get it than if you ask for it rudely or you're 00:23:53.579 --> 00:23:57.660 sarcastic or mean Like that's goes for adults, 00:23:58.099 --> 00:24:03.680 too. It's a basic common knowledge like you would 00:24:03.680 --> 00:24:07.039 think It would be easy. Maybe not for kids because 00:24:07.039 --> 00:24:10.269 they're learning kids are learning But these 00:24:10.269 --> 00:24:12.930 adults, I mean it's worse. It's worse when it 00:24:12.930 --> 00:24:16.809 comes from an adult I know and it you just want 00:24:16.809 --> 00:24:20.150 to fight back you want to mmm the things that 00:24:20.150 --> 00:24:23.509 I would say and I wanted to post on the Instagram 00:24:23.509 --> 00:24:28.069 for the business and I yesterday was an emotionally 00:24:28.069 --> 00:24:31.910 physically tolling but emotionally tolling day 00:24:31.910 --> 00:24:38.819 of wanting To throw down well remind you Victoria's 00:24:38.819 --> 00:24:42.400 at home with our aunt dealing with some issues 00:24:42.400 --> 00:24:44.900 that we're having with a business. My mom and 00:24:44.900 --> 00:24:47.440 I are going through security with three kids 00:24:47.440 --> 00:24:51.359 and 12 bags, and we're throwing stuff on the 00:24:51.359 --> 00:24:53.940 security, mom's on the phone going, I don't know, 00:24:54.380 --> 00:24:57.339 call them, call them. I'm texting. I'm texting 00:24:57.339 --> 00:25:00.380 like Justin being like, not now, Justin. Sorry, 00:25:00.599 --> 00:25:03.019 Justin. But I was like, we're we're dealing with 00:25:03.019 --> 00:25:05.059 some stuff right now. He was like, I know I'm 00:25:05.059 --> 00:25:08.420 one of them. I know. And it is I was like, where 00:25:08.420 --> 00:25:11.259 are the cameras? Where are the cameras? Are you 00:25:11.259 --> 00:25:14.259 guys at home? Yeah. On us going through security 00:25:14.259 --> 00:25:16.519 and like mom's phone, she doesn't like to put 00:25:16.519 --> 00:25:20.490 on silent. So, ooh -ee, ooh -ah -ah, ting -tang, 00:25:20.589 --> 00:25:22.609 wah -la -bing -bang. Keeps going off constantly 00:25:22.609 --> 00:25:25.470 at the airport. And I'm like, Mom, turn your 00:25:25.470 --> 00:25:27.309 phone on silent. And she's like, then I won't 00:25:27.309 --> 00:25:30.990 hear my phone. And the kids are like, Mom, where's 00:25:30.990 --> 00:25:33.630 the charger? So I was like, oh, my God. Don't 00:25:33.630 --> 00:25:35.309 want to own your own business. Sounds horrible. 00:25:35.569 --> 00:25:37.769 It sounds horrible. Yeah. It sounds horrible. 00:25:37.769 --> 00:25:40.670 But it was wild. But those days, I feel like, 00:25:40.769 --> 00:25:43.690 are few and far between. Like, the really bad 00:25:43.690 --> 00:25:46.769 days, like yesterday with, like, you know, businesses 00:25:46.769 --> 00:25:49.690 and problems. But it would be easier to go back 00:25:49.690 --> 00:25:51.650 to what we started with, with this specific thing. 00:25:51.769 --> 00:25:52.950 Yes, there are a few in between. It would be 00:25:52.950 --> 00:25:54.910 easier if people were just understanding and 00:25:54.910 --> 00:25:58.529 consider it in kind. Yeah. Like, clearly, a third 00:25:58.529 --> 00:26:01.150 party service isn't working out in anyone's favor. 00:26:01.230 --> 00:26:03.309 There's a major glitch. We keep saying there's 00:26:03.309 --> 00:26:05.710 issues. We're trying to get a hold of them. So 00:26:05.710 --> 00:26:09.210 why are you still being so mean? So mean. Like, 00:26:09.349 --> 00:26:11.250 it's just to say it plainly, it's just mean. 00:26:11.349 --> 00:26:15.089 Yeah. It's rude. It's mean. and it's juvenile. 00:26:15.190 --> 00:26:17.769 I think that people are always out for themselves 00:26:17.769 --> 00:26:20.289 instead of stepping back for a second and looking 00:26:20.289 --> 00:26:22.910 at the whole picture and being like, you're not 00:26:22.910 --> 00:26:26.049 gonna be forgotten. You're just, you're not. 00:26:26.509 --> 00:26:28.430 But maybe people feel like they are. I mean, 00:26:28.430 --> 00:26:30.690 I'll forget you. I might forget you on purpose 00:26:30.690 --> 00:26:33.069 because of how you reacted. I'm petty. I will 00:26:33.069 --> 00:26:35.329 be petty. Yeah, I think people just need to be 00:26:35.329 --> 00:26:37.930 nicer in general, especially. Oh my God, Vicky 00:26:37.930 --> 00:26:41.190 had to go on a walk because her blood pressure 00:26:41.190 --> 00:26:42.750 got so high. Her blood pressure was so high. 00:26:44.009 --> 00:26:49.190 She's, who yells at a 77 year old woman who is 00:26:49.190 --> 00:26:51.230 trying, like she's been running this business 00:26:51.230 --> 00:26:53.809 for 30 years. They know what they're doing. So 00:26:53.809 --> 00:26:57.450 if something's wrong, it's out of her control. 00:26:57.990 --> 00:27:01.849 Like screaming at a 77, I was like, I can't. 00:27:01.930 --> 00:27:05.849 More than one. More than one. But this is our, 00:27:06.089 --> 00:27:08.509 this is what you have to deal with, I guess. 00:27:08.549 --> 00:27:14.460 Yeah. We love owning our business Our uncle is 00:27:14.460 --> 00:27:15.859 always like so when you guys gonna take over 00:27:15.859 --> 00:27:19.779 the dance studio, I was like never Because it's 00:27:19.779 --> 00:27:24.960 so much harder to deal with stuff and kids You 00:27:24.960 --> 00:27:27.619 know, it's not the kid. It's the parents. Yeah, 00:27:27.779 --> 00:27:30.880 okay. It's parents. You're one of them. Oh Well, 00:27:30.880 --> 00:27:32.599 I never get the emails because I was taken off 00:27:32.599 --> 00:27:34.660 them. You don't read them just like everybody 00:27:34.660 --> 00:27:37.539 else you don't read them She'll show up and be 00:27:37.539 --> 00:27:40.799 like, when are my kids dancing? I made the charts 00:27:40.799 --> 00:27:46.599 miss They've been up since October I need a personal 00:27:46.599 --> 00:27:49.700 invitation So yeah, they're they're few and far 00:27:49.700 --> 00:27:52.160 between these days, but when they do happen they 00:27:52.160 --> 00:27:53.880 happen at the worst times I mean they do happen. 00:27:53.880 --> 00:27:58.160 They are high high high intensity Because it 00:27:58.160 --> 00:28:00.779 gets emotional when it's people that you've known 00:28:00.779 --> 00:28:05.099 for 20, 30 years that are in their 40s and 50s. 00:28:05.180 --> 00:28:08.440 And you're just like, bleh. Well, see, what I 00:28:08.440 --> 00:28:10.759 want to say in any situation, in any business, 00:28:10.940 --> 00:28:15.500 not just necessarily ours, in anything, no one's 00:28:15.500 --> 00:28:18.900 dying. Because that's what mom said to everything. 00:28:19.339 --> 00:28:21.299 Every time there was an issue, mom, that was 00:28:21.299 --> 00:28:24.309 mom's go -to. Really? Oh, this is a trauma response. 00:28:24.630 --> 00:28:26.849 Because all I wanna do is say it to mom. I wanted 00:28:26.849 --> 00:28:28.549 to say that to mom 70 times yesterday. Oh my 00:28:28.549 --> 00:28:31.329 God, say it. Because that's all she said to us. 00:28:31.710 --> 00:28:35.589 If I was pouting too much for her, and by pouting 00:28:35.589 --> 00:28:40.369 I mean I was in high school, or in my 20s, or 00:28:40.369 --> 00:28:43.809 - In my 30s. Last week. Yeah. If you just, if 00:28:43.809 --> 00:28:45.190 it's something that she thinks you should be 00:28:45.190 --> 00:28:47.970 over, no one's dying. I don't remember that. 00:28:47.970 --> 00:28:50.660 Get over it, no one's dying. She would say it. 00:28:50.660 --> 00:28:52.740 That was her go -to phrase. I have selective 00:28:52.740 --> 00:28:54.799 memory. Ask her about it. She'll tell you. She 00:28:54.799 --> 00:28:56.539 wanted to say that yesterday. Just be like, people, 00:28:57.000 --> 00:29:00.500 we're talking about dance. No one's dying. Take 00:29:00.500 --> 00:29:03.779 a beat. Isn't that a good thing to say? God, 00:29:03.799 --> 00:29:07.299 I hate it. No. Oh, it's not? No. Why? Because 00:29:07.299 --> 00:29:10.640 that invalidates. I mean, yes, invalidate all 00:29:10.640 --> 00:29:13.039 these people that are being rude, but it invalidates 00:29:13.039 --> 00:29:18.960 when you're... You texted me. I'm so mad. about 00:29:18.960 --> 00:29:21.720 these tickets, about how they were purchased 00:29:21.720 --> 00:29:23.740 and the fact that we're in this situation because 00:29:23.740 --> 00:29:26.839 basically mom messed up. Yeah, mom messed up. 00:29:27.579 --> 00:29:31.140 And you were so angry at the first issue out 00:29:31.140 --> 00:29:34.839 of the day of issues of cancellations. You weren't 00:29:34.839 --> 00:29:38.200 even on the New York flight yet at 12. Yeah. 00:29:38.660 --> 00:29:40.180 And you were going, you were going, you were 00:29:40.180 --> 00:29:41.859 going. You just kept saying, I'm so mad. And 00:29:41.859 --> 00:29:43.559 I was like, well, at this point, there's nothing 00:29:43.559 --> 00:29:45.579 you can do about it. You might as well just go 00:29:45.579 --> 00:29:48.849 with the flow. But what if I said, no one's dying 00:29:48.849 --> 00:29:52.650 Carly? Then I would feel like I would say, yeah, 00:29:52.650 --> 00:29:56.250 you're right. No one's dead. No, you are not 00:29:56.250 --> 00:30:00.990 evolved enough for that. You would have been 00:30:00.990 --> 00:30:05.410 like so angry. You would have been angry. You 00:30:05.410 --> 00:30:08.130 would have been like, okay, cool. Cool. All right. 00:30:08.230 --> 00:30:09.829 Thanks. And then you would have not talked to 00:30:09.829 --> 00:30:13.369 me anymore because I invalidated you. I didn't 00:30:13.369 --> 00:30:16.470 sympathize with you and go, oh my God. Because 00:30:16.470 --> 00:30:18.809 in those moments you telling me you're mad. What 00:30:18.809 --> 00:30:21.190 did what did you want me to like? You wanted 00:30:21.190 --> 00:30:24.210 me to go I would be too is that's horrible Which 00:30:24.210 --> 00:30:27.289 is exactly what I said to you because it is but 00:30:27.289 --> 00:30:31.309 if I had said no one's dying get over it Your 00:30:31.309 --> 00:30:33.950 eyes would have gone crazy and bugged out. I 00:30:33.950 --> 00:30:35.849 never would have said get over it. I would have 00:30:35.849 --> 00:30:40.259 said no one's dying things will be fixed. But 00:30:40.259 --> 00:30:42.140 you wouldn't say it like that. You'd go, ma! 00:30:43.700 --> 00:30:47.079 No one is dying. I'm just saying it's something 00:30:47.079 --> 00:30:49.000 that in the moment, it's like telling someone 00:30:49.000 --> 00:30:53.019 to relax. Just relax, chill out, relax. It's 00:30:53.019 --> 00:30:56.599 such an invalidating response when you are in 00:30:56.599 --> 00:31:00.660 an emotional state. Usually it's turmoil, an 00:31:00.660 --> 00:31:03.359 emotional negative state for someone to just 00:31:03.359 --> 00:31:10.279 tell you to cut it off. Whatever. Let them. Let 00:31:10.279 --> 00:31:14.599 them. Case in point. The fact that you said that, 00:31:14.839 --> 00:31:20.519 I hate it so much. If I lasted too long in breakups 00:31:20.519 --> 00:31:23.079 of being sad about it, mom would be like, Tori, 00:31:23.140 --> 00:31:26.359 no one died. Yeah. No one's dying. You didn't 00:31:26.359 --> 00:31:37.180 like that? All right. I'm just kidding. Game 00:31:37.180 --> 00:31:40.779 on. I'm just kidding. Game activated. No, because 00:31:40.779 --> 00:31:42.440 next time you say it to me, I'm just going to 00:31:42.440 --> 00:31:44.059 laugh because I know that you're going to think 00:31:44.059 --> 00:31:45.819 it's a joke. And I'm going to be like, that's 00:31:45.819 --> 00:31:50.400 not funny. This isn't a comedy podcast. Yes. 00:31:51.259 --> 00:31:54.299 It's coming. I'm going to sneak attack you. Guerrilla 00:31:54.299 --> 00:31:59.000 warfare. Here we go. But yes, no one was dying. 00:31:59.000 --> 00:32:00.720 Wait until this weekend when I'm stressed out. 00:32:00.720 --> 00:32:02.539 And I'm sure she's going to say that to me once 00:32:02.539 --> 00:32:05.460 or twice. Communions are so stressful. I'm going 00:32:05.460 --> 00:32:10.160 to put it on the cake. No one's dying. Star Wars. 00:32:10.180 --> 00:32:12.740 Star Wars. It's a Star Wars cake for a communion. 00:32:13.059 --> 00:32:16.099 Let's talk about it. I mean, my Star Wars obsessed 00:32:16.099 --> 00:32:18.759 son is having his communion on May the 4th. Be 00:32:18.759 --> 00:32:25.740 with you. So there's that. Anyway, technically 00:32:25.740 --> 00:32:28.579 someone is dying. It's communion. What? Shut 00:32:28.579 --> 00:32:34.619 up. Let them. What are we talking about? Well, 00:32:34.720 --> 00:32:37.799 we're about done now. Okay. So, the whole point, 00:32:37.920 --> 00:32:41.759 right? This was truly explicit. Shooting the 00:32:41.759 --> 00:32:46.180 shit. Yeah. And I thought about a lot of things 00:32:46.180 --> 00:32:48.220 that we were gonna talk about today that had 00:32:48.220 --> 00:32:50.420 a little more structure to them, had a little 00:32:50.420 --> 00:32:53.200 more help for someone thinking of wanting to 00:32:53.200 --> 00:32:57.799 better themselves, blah, blah, blah. Boo. No, 00:32:57.940 --> 00:32:59.839 not boo, that's the whole, this is our last episode 00:32:59.839 --> 00:33:08.099 everyone. We were on a break. But sometimes trying 00:33:08.099 --> 00:33:12.480 too hard backfires. Sometimes going into something 00:33:12.480 --> 00:33:15.599 because you know it should be a certain way and 00:33:15.599 --> 00:33:20.119 you're scrambling for time. It just, it wouldn't 00:33:20.119 --> 00:33:22.980 be genuine. This is what we had time for today. 00:33:23.819 --> 00:33:28.059 Was to check in on the the year in a very small 00:33:28.059 --> 00:33:31.640 Minor way to check in and just talk about the 00:33:31.640 --> 00:33:34.940 craziness that ensued recently that's fresh on 00:33:34.940 --> 00:33:38.339 our minds so we can move on from it and just 00:33:38.339 --> 00:33:42.400 Just talk yeah, I mean sometimes that's all you 00:33:42.400 --> 00:33:46.920 need and we never do it and we never do it privately, 00:33:47.039 --> 00:33:48.640 so that's why you're here with us. I was just 00:33:48.640 --> 00:33:50.779 going to say thank you for letting us talk for 00:33:50.779 --> 00:33:52.839 30 minutes because I haven't talked to her all 00:33:52.839 --> 00:33:55.539 weekend more than texting. I think we FaceTimed 00:33:55.539 --> 00:33:57.859 once. Yes, I went away for 48 hours and I FaceTimed 00:33:57.859 --> 00:33:59.400 her. And she passed the phone around. I did. 00:33:59.539 --> 00:34:01.059 I passed the phone around so you could see everybody. 00:34:01.220 --> 00:34:02.900 Nobody would have talked to me. They were having 00:34:02.900 --> 00:34:06.059 too much of a good time. Well, to be fair, we're 00:34:06.059 --> 00:34:07.920 going to be honest with you. To be fair. To be 00:34:07.920 --> 00:34:26.099 fair. To be fair. I don't know how to come back 00:34:26.099 --> 00:34:31.179 on that. I don't know, I don't know. To be fair, 00:34:34.719 --> 00:34:39.739 we, and they totally would not care about me 00:34:39.739 --> 00:34:41.079 talking about this because they're very open 00:34:41.079 --> 00:34:43.880 about it. We have a very modern family in Kentucky. 00:34:44.429 --> 00:34:47.969 And our communion this weekend, our brother got 00:34:47.969 --> 00:34:51.030 divorced, our sister -in -law, I still call her 00:34:51.030 --> 00:34:54.949 my sister -in -law. Angie. Angie. The communion 00:34:54.949 --> 00:34:59.829 party was at her mom's house. And we all went 00:34:59.829 --> 00:35:02.510 with my brother, who they are no longer married, 00:35:02.650 --> 00:35:05.269 and my brother's girlfriend, who he lives with, 00:35:05.389 --> 00:35:09.449 and her daughter. So it was like a big, and my 00:35:09.449 --> 00:35:11.630 whole family who, you know, we're not related. 00:35:12.010 --> 00:35:14.329 related anymore because my brother and auntie 00:35:14.329 --> 00:35:18.150 are married well you have blood connection with 00:35:18.150 --> 00:35:20.750 these two kids niece and nephew yeah but it was 00:35:20.750 --> 00:35:24.190 like we were all sitting around with all of you 00:35:24.190 --> 00:35:27.190 know his old in -laws and cousins and family 00:35:27.190 --> 00:35:29.670 that we would have been around for 15 years with 00:35:29.670 --> 00:35:31.920 them so like we know them very well but you know, 00:35:31.920 --> 00:35:33.619 they're not married anymore. And so I was passing 00:35:33.619 --> 00:35:36.659 the phone around to all these people we she hadn't 00:35:36.659 --> 00:35:39.559 seen in a minute because there was a divorce 00:35:39.559 --> 00:35:41.699 happening the past couple of years. And it was 00:35:41.699 --> 00:35:43.239 just funny to me as I was passing it around. 00:35:43.239 --> 00:35:45.619 I'm like, this is normal. Nobody has an issue 00:35:45.619 --> 00:35:48.920 with this. And no one has the issue with looking 00:35:48.920 --> 00:35:54.500 at me. No, it's just like I'm sitting my brother's 00:35:54.500 --> 00:35:57.019 girlfriend's on my left. My sister -in -law, 00:35:57.380 --> 00:35:59.400 ex -sister -in -law is on my right. My brother's 00:35:59.400 --> 00:36:04.199 playing basketball with, you know, his like stepdaughter, 00:36:04.320 --> 00:36:07.679 basically, Addie. And there's grandma Teresa 00:36:07.679 --> 00:36:10.559 over there. And this is normal and it's fine. 00:36:10.760 --> 00:36:13.239 And everyone's happy. And I was sitting around 00:36:13.239 --> 00:36:15.179 just being like, I wish every family was like 00:36:15.179 --> 00:36:17.519 this, because it would be so much easier for 00:36:17.519 --> 00:36:19.940 all the kids because our niece and nephew have 00:36:19.940 --> 00:36:24.619 it are so lucky. That they have this big family 00:36:24.619 --> 00:36:27.380 where everybody can get along now. It took time 00:36:27.380 --> 00:36:30.000 It's been three years two years three years, 00:36:30.300 --> 00:36:33.719 but it's so nice for them Yeah, and for us that 00:36:33.719 --> 00:36:36.380 we can still be a part and not just be like it's 00:36:36.380 --> 00:36:38.960 here or it's here Right, right. It was everybody 00:36:38.960 --> 00:36:41.659 and that's sort of how we grew up as well with 00:36:41.659 --> 00:36:43.900 our parents divorce But like I don't know. It 00:36:43.900 --> 00:36:45.480 was so nice that was passing around the phone 00:36:45.480 --> 00:36:47.260 Victoria was on the phone. You know, we were 00:36:47.260 --> 00:36:49.760 drinking wine but um I was not. She was with 00:36:49.760 --> 00:36:53.159 my dogs. I was four hours deep in the parking. 00:36:54.460 --> 00:36:56.800 But I was just like, oh, this is so nice. How 00:36:56.800 --> 00:36:59.139 modern. I don't know if this is like a modern 00:36:59.139 --> 00:37:02.960 family sort of thing or it's like a newer concept 00:37:02.960 --> 00:37:05.840 of just sort of everybody getting along. And, 00:37:06.079 --> 00:37:07.800 you know, yeah, like you said, it did take time, 00:37:07.820 --> 00:37:09.940 but it was just really nice. That's it. I mean, 00:37:10.400 --> 00:37:12.480 that was the goal. That's always the goal, I 00:37:12.480 --> 00:37:16.139 feel like. Yeah. And mom and dad, I think also 00:37:16.139 --> 00:37:19.010 took time. Sure. Yeah, we don't know anything 00:37:19.010 --> 00:37:21.309 about it. We don't remember either. We were so 00:37:21.309 --> 00:37:24.550 little. I think there was a time. Oh, yes. Yes. 00:37:24.630 --> 00:37:29.250 Yes. But it all ended out and it ended out. Yeah, 00:37:29.409 --> 00:37:33.610 it ended out well. And had my dad been able to 00:37:33.610 --> 00:37:34.869 take time off work, he would have been there, 00:37:34.869 --> 00:37:37.849 too. And that would have been like, you know, 00:37:37.989 --> 00:37:40.949 more. But it was just really nice. And I hope 00:37:40.949 --> 00:37:43.210 all those families out there going through a 00:37:43.210 --> 00:37:46.179 divorce can. move past it for the kids, because 00:37:46.179 --> 00:37:48.679 it was so nice for the kids to look over at the 00:37:48.679 --> 00:37:52.019 church and everybody be there for them. You know 00:37:52.019 --> 00:37:54.019 what I mean? Both sides. The energy was good. 00:37:54.300 --> 00:37:56.539 Yes. And the kids were getting pictures with 00:37:56.539 --> 00:37:59.880 their mom and their stepmom. And that was so 00:37:59.880 --> 00:38:03.019 nice. And we were both, we were all making fun 00:38:03.019 --> 00:38:05.440 of my brother. So that was really fun. Well, 00:38:05.440 --> 00:38:07.579 there is a common denominator. So that makes 00:38:07.579 --> 00:38:11.639 it a little bit easier. Yeah. Well, that's good 00:38:11.639 --> 00:38:13.159 to hear, because I haven't heard about the trip. 00:38:13.289 --> 00:38:15.869 So this, this is the whole point. This is the 00:38:15.869 --> 00:38:17.630 whole point. I haven't had time to talk to her 00:38:17.630 --> 00:38:20.590 and tell her about that yet. Here's the thing. 00:38:22.789 --> 00:38:26.070 We didn't, we could have skipped this week, right? 00:38:26.130 --> 00:38:29.010 We did that when I came back from my trip because 00:38:29.010 --> 00:38:31.789 we miscalculated how many we needed to prerecord. 00:38:32.130 --> 00:38:34.590 Whoops. But that's okay because you know, life 00:38:34.590 --> 00:38:39.389 happens and I think you're slowly getting better 00:38:39.389 --> 00:38:41.909 at that when it comes to certain things. I, in 00:38:41.909 --> 00:38:45.039 terms of stuff that I set for myself goal -wise 00:38:45.039 --> 00:38:47.800 like this and doing it every week. I'm slowly 00:38:47.800 --> 00:38:50.300 getting better with letting go of that restraint 00:38:50.300 --> 00:38:52.719 for that like control of it. So like I was okay 00:38:52.719 --> 00:38:55.739 with that. This week, I didn't want to fake it. 00:38:55.739 --> 00:38:57.659 I didn't want to be like, we've been researching 00:38:57.659 --> 00:39:00.260 for a couple of days and I told this to her last 00:39:00.260 --> 00:39:02.119 night. Not that we do that, but like that's what 00:39:02.119 --> 00:39:05.860 it would have been like. Yeah, no. So sometimes 00:39:05.860 --> 00:39:14.800 you just need a moment or 40 to... to just talk 00:39:14.800 --> 00:39:17.059 and we just happen to be doing it with microphones 00:39:17.059 --> 00:39:20.659 and making a thing of it. We don't ever talk 00:39:20.659 --> 00:39:23.739 without cameras and microphones. So I mean, yes, 00:39:23.940 --> 00:39:26.500 she's going to get up off this couch and go run 00:39:26.500 --> 00:39:28.539 errands and I'm going to go to a client and like 00:39:28.539 --> 00:39:30.460 life goes back to it. Like we're not going to 00:39:30.460 --> 00:39:32.539 consider continue just sit and chat. Oh, no, 00:39:32.559 --> 00:39:35.920 I don't. Ain't nobody got time for that. Literally. 00:39:36.519 --> 00:39:40.269 Yeah. I have a Star Wars communion to plan. I 00:39:40.269 --> 00:39:45.469 have a Star Wars cake to make. No, really, I 00:39:45.469 --> 00:39:47.469 have to start to actually have to plan this party. 00:39:47.909 --> 00:39:49.590 But yeah, so that was the point of today. That 00:39:49.590 --> 00:39:52.449 was the point. I hope it was somewhat entertaining. 00:39:53.610 --> 00:39:55.389 There's nothing you needed to get out of this 00:39:55.389 --> 00:39:57.429 other than listening to other people's problems. 00:39:57.510 --> 00:39:59.869 Yeah. You just learned a lot about our family 00:39:59.869 --> 00:40:02.909 and our business and the fact that it's not all 00:40:02.909 --> 00:40:04.590 sunshine and rainbows all the time, which you 00:40:04.590 --> 00:40:08.780 already knew. Yeah. Yeah. And I think it's important, 00:40:08.800 --> 00:40:16.219 I think this is something as a real tip. I hate 00:40:16.219 --> 00:40:20.719 when you put me on the spot like this. You talk, 00:40:20.840 --> 00:40:22.199 I'm not gonna listen, I'm just gonna be thinking. 00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:27.099 Okay, as a real tip, set a time out. Don't just 00:40:27.099 --> 00:40:28.579 be like, you know what, I'm gonna do this too 00:40:28.579 --> 00:40:31.360 with my people, my person, whatever. Actually 00:40:31.360 --> 00:40:36.190 schedule in, hey, do you have a 20 minute? free 00:40:36.190 --> 00:40:39.750 time to have a phone call or 20 minutes to come 00:40:39.750 --> 00:40:42.949 over on the weekend Let's just chat. Let's just 00:40:42.949 --> 00:40:47.210 chat grab coffee. I have water because because 00:40:47.210 --> 00:40:52.789 and or wine and Just chat just chat about like 00:40:52.789 --> 00:40:56.010 whatever Happened the during the week or chat 00:40:56.010 --> 00:40:57.670 about something like oh my god. We never got 00:40:57.670 --> 00:40:59.210 to talk about this can we talk about this right 00:40:59.210 --> 00:41:03.030 now and Then and then keep it short basically 00:41:03.559 --> 00:41:06.159 Keep it shorter than what we did because we were 00:41:06.159 --> 00:41:07.780 gonna do this for a half hour 30 minutes We were 00:41:07.780 --> 00:41:11.760 gonna have a 30 minute talk 42 But I think it's 00:41:11.760 --> 00:41:13.260 important. I think it's a mental health thing. 00:41:13.260 --> 00:41:18.519 I think it it relieves a lot of Pent up whatever 00:41:18.519 --> 00:41:21.579 and the serotonin levels of just you know, not 00:41:21.579 --> 00:41:24.559 really having to stress and work hard I would 00:41:24.559 --> 00:41:27.039 have stressed about doing anything. I know I 00:41:27.039 --> 00:41:30.000 know and I just think that's it's mandatory. 00:41:30.099 --> 00:41:33.119 I think it's mandatory And now, for your real 00:41:33.119 --> 00:41:38.480 extra tip of the week, it's called FAA My Way. 00:41:39.500 --> 00:41:42.659 What does FAA My Way mean? Really, what does 00:41:42.659 --> 00:41:44.440 it mean? It means if you're gonna fly, always 00:41:44.440 --> 00:41:47.000 fly direct. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever get 00:41:47.000 --> 00:41:49.800 a connecting flight. I don't care how much it 00:41:49.800 --> 00:41:55.949 costs. Don't ever, ever buy... One stop or two 00:41:55.949 --> 00:41:59.190 stops. It's non -stop all the way mother non 00:41:59.190 --> 00:42:01.869 -stop all the way so that there's never an issue 00:42:01.869 --> 00:42:04.710 of Connecting flights rerouting or three airports 00:42:04.710 --> 00:42:08.510 in one day FAA my way. What is the FAA part mean? 00:42:08.570 --> 00:42:13.210 That's part of like the airplane FAA Like laws 00:42:13.210 --> 00:42:16.730 and stuff like it's called the FAA Airport. I 00:42:16.730 --> 00:42:18.429 don't know. Yeah, I don't know what it means. 00:42:18.429 --> 00:42:23.659 I just thought you were saying letters BWC With 00:42:23.659 --> 00:42:29.500 me I Thought it was FA was F American Airlines. 00:42:30.000 --> 00:42:33.800 Yeah. Yeah also that F American Airlines For 00:42:33.800 --> 00:42:36.239 what you did to us yesterday. That is real extra 00:42:36.239 --> 00:42:37.719 every time we'd get to a new airport. They would 00:42:37.719 --> 00:42:41.539 cancel our flight But yeah FAA my way non -stop 00:42:41.539 --> 00:42:44.179 or no fly. Yeah, just pay for it Just pay for 00:42:44.179 --> 00:42:46.139 it. You can always make money to pay it off mom. 00:42:46.139 --> 00:42:51.070 Just pay for it next time. Okay She really wanted 00:42:51.070 --> 00:42:52.969 us to go to this communion, so mom, next time 00:42:52.969 --> 00:42:58.809 you pay for it. With that said, remember, you're 00:42:58.809 --> 00:43:03.510 always fit to be real and always allowed to be 00:43:03.510 --> 00:43:16.059 extra funny. For legal reasons, we have to tell 00:43:16.059 --> 00:43:17.860 you that this podcast is meant for entertainment 00:43:17.860 --> 00:43:20.880 and educational purposes only. We are not healthcare 00:43:20.880 --> 00:43:23.280 professionals. 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