Are you ready? Am I ever ready? No, we just do
it and see what happens. Welcome to Fit to be
Real and a little extra. I'm Victoria. Hey guys,
I'm Carly and we have a very special guest who
has now been with us three times? Four or five
actually. This is our third Four times? Yeah,
because this is our third unpopular opinion and
he did one actual where he taught us something.
So I think this is his fourth. I don't remember
any of that. Hi Justin! Hi! I think that's wrong,
but okay, we'll go with it. Definitely wrong.
Really? We've only done one unpopular opinion.
Yeah. Ever. This is our second. So we're doing
unpopular opinions today! Sorry, it's taken us
about five minutes to get it together so we could
say Where we were today. We're here. We're getting
it together We're we are What's up, Justin? Not
much just questioning everything. So it's good.
We're good. So if you all are our video watchers
You'll know that this is just audio for today.
We're having a little bit of a technical difficulty.
But also know that Justin, it's been since January,
and Justin had no idea we did video. I'm a little
behind. And he had no idea he was in the video.
So if you know, you know. Yeah. Apparently, I've
been in every video, but the one I'm actually
at. So that's exactly right. Yeah. Carly actually
put some microphone up to your face. When I ask
science -based questions and I'm like, I don't
know Let's ask dr. Justin and I put the microphone
literally up to your face. You would know if
you watch them. You're such a great friend I've
decided I'm gonna make a podcast after the podcast
and call it like fit to be discussed or fit to
be analyzed because I Listen to the podcast and
then just make comments on the things you say
and I'm like, oh Carly Wait like a reaction video.
Yes, I need to look into this. Is it like a fact
-checking like Carly you're wrong like fact -checking
or just the commentary? Yes, but it's never like,
not about the content. You're always right about
the content. It's just the random things you
say about nothing that is - So it's my personality
you want to comment on. Yeah. Yeah. Okay. That's
pretty much it. I think you can just do an Instagram
video. Yeah, I think I should do that. I don't
think you'd do a whole pocket. I mean, you can,
but I think you need an Instagram dedicated to
it. A what? Okay. An Instagram. I didn't give
you the microphone so hopefully we couldn't hear
you. We were sharing two microphones out of three
people and I'm in charge. I'm the captain now.
Guys, this is how it's been for the past five
minutes and we could not record because we were
laughing so hard. So that's about how this is
gonna go down today. Why are you yelling? I don't
know. We're all like huddled together around
a campfire, heads are touching and she is yelling.
I have a concussion, guys. I hit my head putting
Easter decorations away and Justin rolled up
and I was like. Dr. Justin, feel my head. Do
I have a concussion? I wasn't even out of the
car yet. I know. He was like, yes, you have to
teach tonight. You're fine. Oh my god, the fact
that you can't teach alone, Justin. I want to
teach alone. And so does my class. No one asks
for Carly up there. No, I feel like they do with
their eyes. Unpopular opinion. Yeah, there you
go. All right, let's get actually into it. So
unpopular opinions for the second only time is
What because I needed another refresher. Okay
unpopular opinions are Justin go Something you
believe or you feel or you think that most of
the population does not agree with right that's
an unpopular opinion I struggle with this because
I like to be popular. So I had to look deep in
my soul. You want to be popular. Yeah, we know.
What, like it's hard? I object. Okay. Dustin,
you go first. All right. So I feel kind of weird
talking about this because... Can't wait. Crozier
is closing. Did you hear about this? Yeah. So
I had made this before. Now I feel weird saying
it. But searching for new jobs can be fun. is
my opinion. Not, I know, not if you're in the
point where your job is closing and you need
a job, but if you have the opportunity to be
looking for a job while you have a job, I think
that can be fun and exciting. Do you work at
Crozier? No. Then why are we talking, why do
you, oh, because Crozier's closing and a lot
of nurses have to go find a job right now, but
you don't work there. Yes, Carly. Okay, all right.
Yes to everything you said. Okay. Yes. Thank
you. So outside of that, I think searching for
a job can be fun because you're, to me it's almost
like reading a book, right? Like it's thinking
of a different reality. And so you're imagining
what your life will be if you have this different
job. And I think that's exciting thinking of
all the possibilities and things like that. Again,
that's if you have the ability to not. be in
jeopardy of not having a job. Yeah, I think there's
privilege involved with that mindset. Yes, 100%.
Unpopular. Yes. Why are you yelling it? I feel
like that's unpopular, especially to me because
my career was searching for jobs every time we
went to an audition and it was like we never
were secure in a job. We never knew where our
next paycheck was coming from. Yes. Nothing has
changed. That's so true. Apparently, I like that.
But when you never know when your next paycheck
is coming from the act of searching for another
job is horrendous. 100%. Yes. And I can't imagine
what everyone's going through right now with
Crozier closing and all of that. You should feel
weird saying that. It's true. OK. Well, how many
times have you looked for a job? Oh, a bunch.
When I left my first hospital and went to the
second hospital, I looked at a bunch of different
organizations to go to and different opportunities
and things like that. Do you like switching positions
in jobs? Thank you for adding that at the end.
Oh my God. Yes. Because I get bored very easily.
Oh my God. Moving on. That was very unpopular.
OK. You ready? Feel like this one. Yes, Carly
We are ready. I just want to be heard. Well,
my ears haven't popped from the airplane. So
actually it's helpful. Okay All right, this is
gonna be very unpopular and I think every generation
feels this way so Music today is just not as
good as it used to be agreed Come on I don't
know think of like think of Celine Dion Whitney
Houston like all the the male singing groups
back in the day and now it's like no offense
i do love Justin Bieber but like he can't sing
like they can like so Michael Jackson like that
from the 80s and 90s, but now I feel like every
generation feels that their generation of music
is the best. Yeah. I definitely think there is
some music today that is horrible. Like the mumble
rapping, I hate. I and Caden loves it and it
just drives me crazy. The heck is mumble rapping?
Like think of all the rappers that literally
just mumble through their lyrics and you can't
understand what they're saying. Not like, you
know, Eminem raps and he like goes so fast. But
you can hear the words that he's saying. Mumble
rappers just like sound like they have cotton
balls in their mouth when they're quote unquote
rapping. And Kaden likes that. Yes, because that's
what's popular right now. Yeah, that's all he
knows. Yeah. I also so I also think there's more
options for music today. I think there was a
lot of gatekeeping with artists previously because
they didn't have the platforms to get their music
out there like there is today. There's so many
artists who are just popular on Spotify or YouTube
or things like that. We have so many options
to listen to actually really good artists like
Benson Boone. He's amazing. But he was one of
the first ones I thought of and I was like, yeah,
but he's just a reincarnation of Queen. We already
had Queen. And Harry Styles. He's trying to be
Harry Styles. Are you saying he's a reincarnation
of Queen because he... like has a mustache and
His outfit choices or his talent. Yeah. Well
not not I don't think he's as good a singer as
Queen was Freddie Mercury. Yeah, she does have
a concussion No, I feel like he is that's her
persona is like the jumpsuit the bell bottom
the mustache She's trying to redo the like his
personality is that 70s redo right now Right
now, I would say. But I don't think his music
is like Queen. No, but like I think he's good,
but I don't think he can hold a candle to like
all those 80s hair bands that can sing. Here's
the thing. Because of technology and videos and
social media platforms and I mean, I think it
stems even before social media became a thing
when it comes to computers and stuff and how
artists, like what you're saying, get out there
even without like a record label. Yeah. If you
go back, I don't know if 50s, I would say. I
would say like 60s, 70s, 80s, you didn't have
to look nice, you just had to be talented. Yeah.
So those artists are just pure talent. Look at.
Look at Phil Collins. Stop it. But no, for real.
Look at him in his beginning. He's just a normal
guy. You would also think he was just your neighbor's
handyman guy who lived next door, who happened
to be this crazy talent. So that's it's now not
about talent. It's about look and the whole package
versus it's the brand versus the talent. And
I think with that, it used to be storytelling
with music. And now it's not it's not meatloaf.
No one's telling a story. They're just singing
about a subject. So that's, I don't know if that
agrees with you or not. No, it does because I
feel like, I do feel like because we work with
music so often that people's faces light up even
the younger generation when I put some of the
older stuff on. Now, yes, they like the Nicki
Minaj, Cardi B, like that's fun too. But like
when we do Sierra, One Two Step or like not even
Like a little Missy Elliott or some of the stuff
that's a little farther back. I feel like everybody
gets excited. Oh my god. Did you see the Coachella
video of Missy Elliott? No. So she comes out
at Coachella and the whole crowd is young and
like no one. No. It's not that they didn't cheer.
Like people were filming and stuff but like can
you imagine if it was our generation? So there's
so many TikTok videos or Instagram videos that
are our generation. Talking about how much they
don't appreciate and don't understand like What
happened on stage? Yeah. Oh my god. Yes. She
came out She did all of her she did everything
I would have died my god, but I feel like 20
years from now people are gonna say the same
thing Yeah, their music generation from now is
the best. I just don't agree. I Yeah, yeah, I
hear you. Do we all are we all agreed on this?
I'm doing today is not as good. We don't need
to What what I thought it was to like sway everybody
else's opinion towards mine No Hold on insert
cricket sound effect Cool Okay. Um, all right
unpopular opinion Now that we are entering Spring
I don't know. It's been really nice outside actually,
but like summer season. I'm not a summer person
I would much rather be cold than be hot. Unpopular.
You would rather be cold. No, I'd rather be hot.
So you agree with me. Oh, no, no, no, no. No,
she's, yeah. No, yeah, you're going against me.
You're right. You're right. I love getting into
a, we've talked about this before, I love getting
into a hot car with leather seats. Like, I don't
know what it is, but I don't mind getting into
like a really hot car. So you're a sociopath
who hasn't murdered yet. Yeah, you need therapy
I Get when I am Overheating internally. I can't
function like mentally. I can't talk to you.
I don't care about anything Don't talk to me
because now you're annoying like I get overwhelmed
and overstimulated But if I'm cold, I'm just
cold So I would rather be cold Yeah, hot. I needed
a cut like Pedro and I had a code word from when
I got over. I'm really did a vacation. Yes, because
it has nothing to do with who I'm with. Like
we're with you. Well, I would just be mad and
yell at you. But like if I was with people that
like they weren't necessarily annoying me or
saying the wrong things, I can't function. I
literally can't function in hot, overstimulating
weather when I don't want to be sweating. I get
that. See, My issue is I sweat more, I think,
in the colder seasons with the clothes. Does
that make sense? I feel like you have a gland
problem. Are you just wearing a lot of clothes?
Well, like just having to, I don't like to wear
pants. I like shorts. I like shorts. It's not
like I go pantless. But I don't like long sleeves.
I don't like pants. Like Abby knows this about
me. I don't like jeans. I like shorts. Is that
better? I don't like clothes. because I sweat
a lot. Unpopular opinion number two. I agree,
I'm a furnace. Yes, yes. I agree. All the time.
I need to have, like, right now I have slippers
and socks on. I'm usually barefoot. I don't want,
I can't have the, I need the air. No, no, no,
no. I am in sneakers from the moment I get up
until the moment I go to bed. You're not grounded
then. I like at least three inch platform sneaker
in between me and the floor at all. You're not
centered then. I mean, we know that. You're not
connected. I get up at 5 a .m. and I will get
fully dressed with sneakers on. Really? Yeah.
And I, you know, there's no way. No. No. I hate
sandals. I don't like feet. Really? I hate socks
and shoes, so. No, I don't want to see, I don't
necessarily like people's feet. Oh, yeah, no.
Like, that's not, that has nothing to do with
it. Don't turn it around. Concussion. Your concussion
is showing. I'm concussed. You're concussed.
But yeah, it's that air it's not airflow you
need I need all my extremities need to be out
I need to be yeah, I need to be cool. Give me
a hundred and ten Humidity, I don't care. I love
the heat I don't necessarily love the summer
months like I am a fall person, but I will take
heat any day I think there's something wrong
with your brain. Yeah, I'm concussed. Yeah We're
moving on cuz we don't agree with you. Yeah.
Okay. All right Cemeteries are a waste of space.
What? Agreed. No. Yes. No. There's no point.
There's no point to having a cemetery. What do
you suggest? I'm sorry, I'm concussed. What do
you suggest that we do with the bodies? Creamate
everyone. Creamate. No, never. Never. Why? Don't
you dare creamate me. Why? I don't. You just
want to be in a box in the ground? You want to
deteriorate? Inside the box. Where you're useless.
Yeah. For the... You're useless. And no one's
coming to visit you. Right, exactly. Maybe people
will come the first couple of years. When's the
last time you visited your grandfather, Carly?
Melody went the other day. When's the last time
you visited your grandfather, Carly? That was
the question. Mom probably took Melody. She did.
Yeah. When did, when, what's the point? It's
thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars
for a headstone. For what purpose? I think cemeteries.
Cemeteries are for the living. Like, clearly,
cemeteries are for the living. It's because we
can't let go of the person we lost, and we want
some idea that they are there and we have this
connection to them, which you can have a connection
to them. You still have a connection when you
leave that cemetery with that person that you
lost. They don't need to be physically... Well,
they're not there. Right, true, true. Their bones
are. I think, like, the act of being buried with...
Like I want to be buried with Andrew. I want
to be buried with why why your body needs to
be near another Well your bones because your
body is actually gonna disintegrate, right? So
your bone and actually part of your body has
already been sucked out You're yeah making it
sound but horrible, but think about it Like you're
not thinking about what happens the fermentation
process of a funeral home Look it up No, I will
not do research. I just want to die in peace
and be laid to rest with Andrew who's not Catholic
so he can't be buried in the cemetery. He also
doesn't want you. He doesn't care about where
you are when he dies. Let the man go. You've
been clinging on to him for so long. I think
cremation. I think cremation. 100 % Where you
have options? Okay, buy an urn you want to you
want to have an urn then you can have your own
little Service or not service you still do a
funeral but like have your own Cemetery altar
for your people. Maybe it's in the back garden.
Who knows you could do what you want They could
be close to you. Yeah, or some people wear it
around their necks, which I like I'm not really
into that I Think throw me in the ocean. Yeah
put me over a cliff where I'm dusted around,
coming back to the earth, earth to earth, dust
to dust. Literally, that's what that means. Yes.
100%. Boo. Same page right here. Also, I have
a crazy fear of being buried alive. So that's
why I want to be burned alive instead if I'm
still living. Oh, yeah, yeah. Just burn yourself
alive. I do like the heat. But there you go.
Our mom, you know this, wants to have a destination
funeral where she is cremated and we take her
into the swim up bar pool in an urn and we all
pass her around in the pool. That's what she's
been saying for at least 15 years. Yeah. I love
Carmela. What's your point? Well, we're not the
same person. I don't want you guys to do that
to me. No one wants to have a party with you.
First of all, second of all. Sure as shit, Andrew's
not gonna be partying with you. Unpopular Justin.
No, I 100 % agree with that. Thank you. No. Okay,
unpopular opinion. I believe... Oh, God. Too
much information is too much information. Correct.
I think we all know too much. I think we are
inundated with so much information and it's all...
I know the more you know, the better. But I don't
actually don't believe that. It's so depressing
and so like debilitating sometimes. Yeah. I agree.
We're not meant to know what's going on. We're
meant to know actual big news. Yeah. But the
day to day strife of human existence. constantly
being told by someone's biased opinion, not necessarily
news and facts, 100%. We're not meant to know
what's going on every little place, every five
seconds of the day. I agree. Do we all agree?
Unfortunately, yes. What were you gonna say?
I was just gonna say, that's how it used to be
years ago before social media, before you had
information literally at your fingertips in every
venue, whether it's on your phone or on the TV
or on the computer. I think it was simpler back
then. I think simple living, even though that's
not sometimes how I portray myself, is I would,
you know, I love the 50s, not... That women should
be seen and not heard but like the simpler and
you know segregation yes, I don't want to go
that route but like The simpler you had less
things you had things that worked that were sturdy
But less of it. Yeah, you know what? I mean things
were made better back then It's not just like
a bunch of plastic stuff, right? Kids you like
valued their toys because they didn't have many
you repaired like that now you could yeah You
could stop buying. We did a whole episode on
stop buying. Some of the things with that, like,
you used to be able to repair things. Now it's
more expensive to get things repaired versus
just buying a whole new one. Like, Abby's uncle
used to own a vacuum repair store and would repair
vacuums. Nowadays, that's more expensive. Your
vacuum breaks. You buy a new vacuum. I know.
It's crazy. Yeah, which reminds me. I dropped
off a shoe at the shoe store before Christmas,
and I have forgotten to pick it up. I got to
go pick that up. Time out. I totally forgot.
What shoe and what shoe store? Not a shoe store,
a cobbler. Yeah. There's still cobblers around?
Lawrence Park Shopping Center, Pennsylvania.
But like, and you walk in and the smell of leather
and like shoe polish. Yeah. But also they never
called me to come pick it up. That shoe's gone.
They definitely did. You didn't answer because
you didn't have the number. You didn't listen
to the voicemail because you probably had way
too many. And it's not. Anyone else's fall up
ears? How many voicemails do I have? 199. What?
Yeah, I don't think anyone should be listening
to your opinion on anything. Moving on. Moving
on. Too much information is too much. Don't tell
me anymore. I don't want to know. I cannot comprehend.
I mean, that makes so much sense. That makes
so much sense. That's a different opinion. Oh,
God. I hate you guys. Yeah. Back at you. Okay,
I have an unpopular. I don't know if this is
popular or unpopular and I also don't know if
I have a solution Okay, I have an observation.
I like observations there should be a vetting
system in some way and I don't know if it's raise
the price or lower the price or have to fill
out paperwork to who lives in the exit, who lives,
who sits in the exit row of an airplane. I agree.
Yes. Yeah. Being on one where we did Southwest
and you had to in groupings, you don't have seats
until you get on the plane. You have to pick
your seat and fight for it. Yeah. I mean, no,
it wasn't really a fight. And luckily, we got
the exit row, which is what he wanted to get
for his long legs or whatever. But looking at
who was in the exit rows with us, I would trust
me, I would trust him. I looked around and I
was like, no way. There's no way that 86 year
old man who agreed, you have to agree, you have
to say yes. They come to you and say, can you
serve in this role? Exactly. You get sworn in.
That's so well and good that they're asking that
question. But the people that were saying yes,
you're like, can you believe you? And there was
a man who needed a seatbelt extender but chose
the exit row. Never got a leg room. Watched him.
Watched him. Never asked for the extender. Put
a put his sweatshirt around him to hide the fact
that he couldn't belt his seatbelt. Oh, God.
And. He. He couldn't help anyone. I didn't feel
safe. It didn't keep me awake. I watched the
movie. It wasn't that type of thing, but with
all the planes right now and things that are
going on, I'm looking around. There was a woman
who didn't speak English, which made sense. We
were coming from Puerto Rico, didn't speak English.
The whole flight was translated. But she moved.
because she didn't understand that you need to
say yes or a no to this and so then she had to
say it in Spanish and she got up and she she
picked a different seat and I was like yes thank
you yeah that's wonderful you I appreciate that
she was also older so like yeah she wouldn't
have been able to to help anyway now they did
have a rule 15 and under Which is why we got
the exit rows because it was a lot of kids on
the plane Yeah, so families couldn't sit like
they had to pick the proper seats. So luckily
for us So if that's the rule 15 and under there
has to be another Yeah, there has to be another
rule and I don't know how to implement that but
yeah I think that's a good that's it. I agree.
I agree. I'm amazing Justin let's see how unpopular
you are. Oh, please Okay, I say this all the
time. Cold weather doesn't make you sick. What?
Oh, like you're going to catch a cold. Yes. Like
don't go out without a jacket. You're going to
catch a cold, blah, blah, blah. Do you have scientific
evidence to prove that or that's just your opinion?
No, I mean, yes. What makes you sick, Carly?
I don't know, Dr. Justin. Viruses and bacteria.
Yeah. The reason you may get more sick in the
winter time if you're going outside and you're
cold is that your body's then using energy to
make you warm so you're shivering like you're
expending energy in that way and your body doesn't
have the energy to put toward your immune system
which makes you more susceptible to getting sick.
But the cold itself does not make you sick. Or
else cryotherapy wouldn't be a thing. True story.
I so... Nope, you're wrong. Also like winter
time you're inside more, you're around people
more, it's easier for viruses to spread. So I
should just send my kids out in the snow with
no jackets and be like you won't get sick. You're
fine Okay, when they have frostbite and have
to get their fingers amputated. No Carly. I'm
not saying that Why are you an extremist? Right
exactly. You're an extremist. You're you're black
or white. There's no gray understanding There's
no rainbow. Don't make me sing it. Please don't.
I have the microphone. Don't give it to her.
Don't give it to her. I'm just saying the cold
itself is not what makes people sick Because
I think there is a misconception in that Okay,
I think your mom's actually said that to me multiple
times because I've left see fit after teaching
without the jacket your mom Who are you? Like
why are you offended by this? He said your mom
so I was like your mom How how old are we how
old are you turning this year 40? Unpopular that's
okay. We know you are ready my next one Go for
it. I had a whole speech lined up. Stop yelling.
Sorry. I had a whole speech lined up to preface
this, and Victoria looked at my phone ahead of
time. I was going to say, this is going to be
very, very unpopular with the person sitting
next to me. And I feel like popular with you,
Justin. Oh, OK. I think we, maybe I don't know
you as well as I think I do. You probably don't.
Given the history. I don't know. I thought you
worked at Crozier. I'm not sure. Okay. Ready?
I'm on the edge of the couch, literally. Big
lead up here. Not working on yourself all the
time is okay. Do you agree? I do agree. I do
agree. Let me explain. I feel like all we do
is constantly better ourselves, which obviously
I'm not saying not to do. You're not doing it,
first of all. You haven't started. I start and
then I stop. I know what I should do, but I feel
like sometimes it's okay to just be and just,
unless you're a horrible human being, but sometimes
you just need to coast for a minute before you
start working on something else. I feel like
we're constantly working and grasping for the
next thing instead of just being. I think that's
a good excuse for you not to do any of the things
that you're not following through with. You know,
like this podcast for the past 115 plus weeks
that you have not implemented any of the things.
I think that's a good excuse. No, it's not an
excuse and tell me why you agree with me and
all my other opinions. Okay. I've actually -
No, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. It's not, that's
not what it is. It's chop out in half. I have
actually thought of saying something like this,
but I didn't want to say it in the setting, so
I'm so glad you said it in the setting. Oh yeah,
I don't care about the setting. Yeah, clearly
we know. I think it's okay to give yourself some
grace for a short amount of time to say, I'm
being pulled in so many different directions.
I just need a minute to catch my breath, right?
And I felt like this. last year when I was trying
to prioritize my mental health and my physical
health and my position as a husband and my position
as a father and trying to be the best father
and the best husband and the best boss and I
was having two different units at work and I
felt so overwhelmed because there was so much
in my life that I could not stay on top of it
all and so I said to myself like it's okay to
just take You know, you don't have to wake up
at 5 30 every morning and work out. You don't
have to push yourself to be in that Like lead
that work at work. You don't have to Feel bad
for saying no to your kids to like take them
on a bike ride and then take them to the park
and then play this game with them. Like it's
OK to say no and just give yourself a break.
I think if you do that, it needs to be a very
short amount of time. Like it's just to get your
head above water and breathe because the fear,
and I'm sure you'll agree with this, is if you
do that, then it will just continue and it will
be hard to get back into it. So I agree, but
like it has to be just a quick come up for breath.
and then get back into it. Yeah, or else it's
just excuses. Yeah. Then you're just living off
of excuses. Right. And I don't mean it to be
an excuse. I mean it to be like sometimes, like
even I was putting it towards like comparing
it to see fit, like in the fitness industry,
you're always trying to do the next best thing.
You're always trying to like, well, what's this?
gym doing or what's the next new workout what
should we be doing now it's never we're never
just a steady line we can never coast we're always
having to look to the next thing do you feel
like what i feel like you're always doing that
because i'm always telling you Don't pick something
that's not broke. No, I know, but I feel like
just in any business, you're always trying to
look at what the next best thing is. And I feel
that for myself. Sometimes I'm always like, oh,
God, I got to drink this protein coffee and I
got to do this and I got to do that when sometimes
it would be just better to just be like, OK,
just let me be up for a minute, figure out what's
working, what's not working so that I can stop
trying to be better and figure out what better
is. Right. You know? I get it. And like that's,
I don't know. I don't, and yeah, also it's an
excuse to just like sit down for a minute. I
think, I think it's, I can see you having that
mindset, especially in the fitness industry,
because I feel like things do change very quickly
and fads come in. Yeah. And I think it's important
to stay on top of like what fads are, like what
is just a fad, right? And it's not realistic
and it's not helpful. versus what is going to
be that next industry that pops up that you're
going to want to be a part of. So like Zumba
came in real strong. Yeah. And like no one really
does. It's still out there, but it's not as popular
now as it was. Right. It's morphed into different
things. And I feel like that's it's continued
to do that. Right. Like jazzercise used to be
a thing and that morphed and it's constantly
changing. But I can get why you feel like you
need to stay on top of it so much because the
industry is literally always changing. Yeah,
and I feel like Mellie R is like calling my name
and she's, I just want to be like, let them.
Let them. Shut up. You have officially. You're
just trying to throw out. No. You've wasted like
$34 .99 on a book, on a hardback book that I
bought her to read. Let them. Did you read it?
Let him know and I read something other than
the cover I went through the book and underlined
and gave tabs that she didn't have to read the
whole book Just read these sections. Do you know
she hasn't opened the goddamn book? So talk about
an excuse. That's why I don't buy this I don't
buy it because you haven't tried you're too tired
at the end of the night instead of doing things
that could actually better you Sometimes isn't
every night. That's not sometimes that's every
night. Yeah Sometimes it's not every night. She's
so mad. She's so mad, guys. She's so mad. OK,
moving on. Unpopular opinion. Go. That's actually
probably popular. But if you can't keep a plant
alive, you shouldn't have children. What? Wait,
but I can't. I know. If you cannot keep something
that is sentient, that doesn't speak. and only
needs the basic necessities, if you cannot keep
that alive, you should not raise children, have
children, raise children, be a part of something
that can speak and live and have a brain and
be a part of the next generation, you shouldn't
have kids. You think that's popular? Oh yeah,
I don't. I wish the video was on right now to
see my face. Justin and I are speechless. This
is worse than my coffee opinion, I think. No,
you shouldn't. If you get a bouquet of flowers
and you can't keep it alive past a week, I think
there should be some sort of vetting process.
And I know you're all about the vetting process
because you look at the state of the world. I
mean, I agree. There's there's. I don't want
to. There's too much information. I don't want
it. Well, putting your head in the sand doesn't
help. There's definitely people having kids that
should probably not have kids. Kids are having
kids. Well, that's true. Here's the other thing.
Kids have always had kids. And don't be mad at
me for saying this. I don't care about plants.
But neither do I. And then she gets really upset.
So this isn't about caring about plants. This
isn't about caring about children. If you are
unable to keep something alive that only needs
food and water and not education and not money.
But what if I don't want to? Yes. Here's my thing.
If somebody said you must take care of this plant
to be able to have children, I would take care
of the plant to the best of my ability and that
plant would be alive. If somebody said take care
of this plant has nothing to do with having kids,
I would let it probably die. I understand what
you're saying. It just, looking around... Looking
around this garden that we're sitting in right
now? No, no, no. Looking around the world with
watching people at restaurants with their children,
don't have kids, the amount of kids that were
on headphones and tablets or phones in public
places on the vacation or the airplane. I understand
an airplane. You need to entertain them. Yeah.
I get it. There are times and places for everything.
Yep. But you can't sit and have a meal with your
kid. Yeah, we move have kids. Yeah, we moved
away from that Pretty early on when having kids
because we would see it all the time So now every
time we go to dinner Abby always has games in
her purse And then we tell the kids like bring
a couple toys like that's what if you're bored
at dinner that's what you're gonna do and we
always bring like Uno or old maid or something
like that and we'll play a game or um apples
to apples we'll play a game at the table while
we're waiting for our food because you bring
legit games like apples to apples like there's
like a little travel one that we have um because
yeah that drives like that drives me crazy when
they're just sitting on the tablet we do do it
for planes but yeah planes are a little different
but yeah it's just the amount of And you see
this at dance class, the amount of kids that
have no social skills, who have no respect, who
have no manners, it's because of the parents,
it's not about the kids. So if you don't want
them and can't take care of them properly, don't
have them. I don't think it's about not wanting
them or not being able to take care of them.
I think there should be some sort of process,
but I don't think it's about not wanting, you
don't know how to deal with them until they're
there. So some people don't know that they shouldn't
or didn't want or don't know how to take care
of them until they're there. So try keeping plants
alive. Thank you. You are correct. If you cannot
keep a plant alive, that should be a little indication
that it's possible your maternal, paternal instincts
of just keeping something alive is not there,
and it is probably not the best description.
I just am over watching the world parent. Yeah.
I will say parent. And Carly. I'm over watching
Carly parent. Just kidding. My kids are not allowed
to play the tablet at the table. Parenting is
so hard. I am not the parent I thought I was
going to be. Oh my god, me either. 100%. I feel
like you have all these plans and dreams, and
this is what my kid's going to do, and that's
what my kid's going to do. And then we were literally
talking about this yesterday, on Sunday. At Easter
dinner, we were talking about this, that we have
three deans. You have three deans? Literally,
we've had this conversation. So happy Dean came
up on your Easter conversation. Yeah, yeah. I
remember why we were talking about it. We were
talking about just having like, Parenting kids
in general and how it's so difficult and it's
not what you expect and especially now like Kaden
is going to be 10 He wants a cell phone his friends
are having cell phones his friends are having
sleepovers and I'm yeah Yeah, I'm not okay He
was in the play and a bunch of the boys in his
class were having a sleepover One night of the
play and it was this huge blow up because we
didn't let him have it night We tried to explain
the best that we could like yeah At the end of
the day, we're looking out for your best interests.
We want you to be safe, both physically and mentally.
And that's hard to understand when you're nine
and a half years old, you know? But at the end
of the day, we need to make those decisions to
to keep him safe. I can't imagine him having
a cell phone right now. And his friends have
cell phones. Oh, yes. And they're in text like
group chats. And God only knows what is said.
And, you know, what little innocent thing may
be said that then puts a mental toll on them
when they're growing up. I am against sleepovers
and Melody knows this. Dean and Lewis don't even
ask. I mean, all three kids sleep in my bedroom.
I don't think they're going to be asking to sleep
over anytime soon. If their friends want to sleep
over, I don't think their parents are going to
want them all sleeping in my bedroom. We're good
there. You need to plan. You need to plan. Go
ahead, Justin. Okay. Victoria was unpopular.
Alright. Always. So just stay with me. I don't
know what you two will think of this one, but
the first step that you take isn't the most important,
right? So like I feel like we always say... The
first cut is the deepest. No thank you. The first
cut is the deepest. That's all I know. That's
all I know. What happened to your voice? It goes
up, I think. Sorry, go. What? Oh, you're still
here? Unpopular. Still here. Explain. All right.
So the first step you take isn't the most important.
And I feel like as fitness instructors, we're
always saying, just take that first class. Like
once you start taking it, Like that's the hardest,
which it can be the hardest sometimes, but it's
not the most important. That's literally my speech
to a new person. Yes. The most important step
is always the next one. What? I read this in
a book, so it's not my it's not my. Wait, this
isn't like outlandish. I'm confused. I don't
know if I agree. I think for me, that was just
like a flip in how I viewed things, you know,
like the next step, that next class, that next
meal. whatever the next is in your journey for
your mental health or your physical health, the
next one is always the most important because
that's what is going to keep you moving forward
in your journey. And I thought you're both not
working on yourselves. Shut up. No, I mean, like
I'm just taking a five minute break because I
work on myself all the time. I just need a break
because I'm enough. Is that what is when no progress
is being made? Is that what your therapist told
you? Yes, Victoria. Victoria once told me I'm
enough. I mean, I take it back. Yes and no. I
completely agree with it and think it's not a
wild thought. Like day one is just one day if
you keep going. So it's always the next move
that you're going to make is is the next move
because it's every decision is a fork in the
road. Every single decision. Can I be devil's
advocate? You always are. Uh -huh. I'm gonna
be devil's advocate. I'm doing signs. Please
don't. Okay. I do think taking the first step
is... Oh, well, you said the most important,
right? It is the hardest. Maybe those are two
different things. Yes. Okay. So maybe I do agree
with you. I do think taking the first step in
anything is the hardest. Yeah. Like starting
a new lifestyle eating wise or taking the first...
work out or I do so hardest and important or
very two different things. I mean, they're they're
two different words. So yes, they are two different
things. But yeah, you're right. Yeah. I only
50 % agree with you. Right. It's hard to we always
say it hardest part was walking in the door.
Yeah. Yeah. Which is true. Which is so true.
Like the unknown is always. Exactly. Exactly.
And every decision is unknown. Yeah. So every
time you make that decision. OK. I had a healthy
meal, this meal. What's my next meal going to
be? Well, what's the choice to have another healthy
meal? That's a hard decision. Because I feel
like people will be like, oh, I ate healthy.
So now I can have like I can cheat and do this
because I I'm rewarding myself for eating healthy,
which, yes, you can have those like small moments,
but you always have to keep that mindset of like,
OK, I did great. Now, moving forward, that next
meal, I still need to continue to to do good.
So. I think that's unpopularly popular. Okay,
I'll take it. Because people don't do that because
things are hard. Yeah. But it's important. And
important and hard are two different words we've
learned. We're learning so much. Oh! That's what
happens when you take the back seat to bettering
yourself. Vocab. I also don't think you listen
to what I said. and just heard what you thought
I said, which is kind of your MO. That's her
only MO. Yeah. Yeah. I'm working on it. No, you're
not. Are you? You're literally not. Literally.
But that's a really good segue into what it was.
But then you guys kept talking, so my segue's
gone. OK. She's a segueist. I love a good segue,
but the moment has passed to my last unpopular
opinion, which has nothing to do with anything
good. And I know that you guys are going to have
no idea what I'm talking about. Stop disclaiming.
OK, but everybody is going to understand. I believe
that the New York housewives are the superior
housewives. What? I don't care. I don't think
any of them are superior in what sense. You can
give your moment. I believe that the original,
let me say it again, the original New York City
Housewives are the superior Housewives. Nothing
else needs to be said. That's my opinion. Okay.
Well, that's my opinion. Except that was OC Housewives.
Nobody knows what you're talking about. Nobody
cares what you're talking about. HBO, look up
the documentary Demons of Hollywood. Episode
I just watched, yeah, it's really good. Episode
I just watched yesterday was on The Housewives.
Jenna, Gina. Which one? J -E -A -N -A, the original.
Oh, Gina, she's from OC. Watch it. Okay. Wait,
I think you were telling me about the - You won't,
you won't wanna keep watching it. What were you
gonna say? I think you were talking about a different
documentary recently, were you? About the Power
Rangers? Yes. Demons of Hollywood. I got to watch
it. Okay. Demons of Hollywood. I just wanted
to get that out there for the masses, that like
housewives that I believe, OG, NYC, superiority.
What just happened? There's also a rehab specialist
on the documentary who talks a lot about what's
going on. I can't, I need a tissue. For your
issues? Yes, we love haikus here. Do you know
what a haiku is? Oh, our haiku corner is coming
up. I forgot. Melody is really into haikus right
now. Is she? So we're going to do a haiku corner
moment. And I forgot. In the podcast, you're
having a haiku corner moment. She very much wants
to be back on the podcast because it was two
years ago and she was talking about her ex -boyfriends
and her life has changed since then. So she would
like to come back and talk about something else.
But that's a popular opinion. Anyway, anyone
last popular opinions? Get them out while you
can. Are you last calling right now? I know.
Is it 2 a .m.? Are the ugly lights coming on?
I think that's for me to say. Closing time. You
don't have to go home, but you can't stay here.
I think it's because it was my last one and I
feel like, you know, if it was my last one. I
think there should be not a license, but a medical
alcohol card, like there's a medical marijuana
card. That you have to be approved to be allowed
to drink. I could support that Yeah, I I can
definitely support it, but I don't believe that's
ever gonna happen. Oh god. No, it's not No, but
you need a medical marijuana card to go into
Marijuana stores to purchase the drug. I mean
here in Pennsylvania you do in New Jersey. You
do not Correct Justin usually goes so clearly
he knows correct there. Yeah, you needed a man
Puerto Rico Did you? Yeah. So it depends on where
you are. Correct. It depends on whatever. We
do not go into one just to put that out there.
I like the idea. It just, it's, yeah. But don't,
isn't that just a license for alcohol? You need
a license to order alcohol, buy it, order? Order?
Jesus, get it out. No, you need to be approved.
You have to have a mental health reason to have
a marijuana card. Like you... would need to show
a diagnosis of anxiety or inflammation and arthritis
and pain. There's a medical reason that's why
it's called a medical marijuana card. So you
would need a medical card saying you don't have
any of those things and you are allowed to drink
alcohol. Basically a reverse medical marijuana
card. I don't have mental illness. I don't have
depression. I don't have all these things because
When I do, when I have alcohol, bad things happen.
You would need a free and clear to consume alcohol
card. Yeah. I'm out. I'm out. We know. Yeah,
but God forbid she take a hit. Yeah. Because
she's like, oh my God, people who smoke weed.
Oh my God. Oh my God. You're so dog. But crack
open those surf sides. Yeah. Throw them back.
Not so much anymore, but. uh back in my heyday
yes i could have used a card yeah i should have
used a card yeah 99 bananas and 99 oranges did
me dirty back in college boon's farm sounds horrible
that sounds so gross oh god popular i was popular
i don't think you were no i i think we know We
don't have to think. We know. Now Justin, did
you know my name first or me first? Did you like
hear my name through the halls of school and
you're like, man, I really want to be friends
with her. No. He knew me. Yeah. And I said, that's
my sister. True story. Yep. Anyway, you got another
one? I don't think so. Oh, really? So you said
you had 17. He's mispronounced. I like to whisper,
too. Can we ask Justin's picture? Yes. Ask Dr.
Justin. OK, no. You don't have any more. You
can say no. I have one, but that's. You don't
have to better yourself. You can say no. OK.
I mean, I say no to you all the time, so I'm
well aware. OK, so do you have one or no? Fine,
I'll say one. OK. I think we should ban the term,
and I may have said this before. Mr. Mom. Why?
I hate the term Mr. Mom because I think it's
degrading to both parents. Who says Mr. Mom?
There's a movie. One of my favorite movies is
Mr. Mom with Michael Keaton. Yeah. Came out early
90s, late 80s, early 90s, something like that.
He was the one that, it was a stay -at -home
mom who took care of the kids. Stay -at -home
dad. Stay -at -home dad who took care of the
kids. And right there. It's just right like the
gender biases and gender norms that Say women
should the one be the ones taking care of kids
and that if dads are then they're not really
the dad They're more the mom role Right. So there's
no equal. There's a you're doing the mom role
right now, right? and I also think right like
dads can do the bare minimum and society will
be like, they are such a good dad. And meanwhile,
moms are literally killing themselves, sacrificing
their mental and physical health for their family.
And they do one wrong thing and they get criticized
for not being the best mother or wife. I was
looking around on spring break. We went to Candyland.
um that you went to candy land we went to candy
land and delco um which is like a little bouncy
house jumpy like ball pit thing and i was sitting
there looking around at how many dads brought
their kids so i don't know if they were off because
of spring spring break or where the moms were
but almost all of the people there were dads
and their kids yeah um which i was thinking wow
how cool but maybe not how cool because that
should be normal. Yeah. And I think it is getting
more normal now. We're definitely at an age.
I think our age groups specifically are at a
point where it's not abnormal for both parents
to be working and both parents to take a more
active role in child rearing and all of those
things that were typically the woman's job, quote
unquote. Right. So wait, why was that cool? Well,
no, not cool. I was just thinking how interesting
like, oh, all these dads are really involved.
Whereas 50 years ago, like our grandpa, he wouldn't
have taken the kids to Candyland. I don't feel
like because he would have been working or he
would have been like, no, you know what I mean?
And how today it was like almost all dads and
their kids. I was like, what a change. Yeah.
Like because I feel like now so many dads are
way more involved than they were. 50 years ago.
Yep. And I was also like, well, where's Andrew?
Do I have to be here? Well, what if it's not
because they're more involved and it's I'm not
around. I'll take you. Give mom a break. Yeah.
It could be totally that as well. But I was thinking
just like I was just noticing it looking around.
Yeah. And I think, you know, wipe your nose.
Sorry. I've been laughing too much. I forgot
you're allergic to laughing. Because she's never
laughing around you. Yeah. She's usually yelling
at me. Wow, you wipe real hard. Real hard. Real
hard. Say it again. Say it again. Say it again.
Never again. Real hard. OK, that's enough. Wow,
your eyes bug out when you do that. That's an
interesting visual. I'll be sure not to call
you Mr. Mom then. Thank you. Who calls you Mr.
Mom? When Kaden was little, I think I was at
the grocery store, and this old woman said, like,
oh, Mr. Mom, blah, blah, blah. And I got so pissed.
And it's so stupid to be pissed about, like,
a 70 -year -old woman who has no idea, right?
Like, when she was younger. Generational. Yeah,
exactly. It's the same thing when people at the
grocery store say to me, oh, you've got your
hands full, because I have three kids. And I'm
like, yeah. I'm good. This is right. This is
just my life. Oh, well, then you don't know what
you look like. We're like, good luck. Like when
they see Dean and they're like, good luck. I
hate that. I'm like, I don't need luck. Right.
No, but it's those things like the same thing.
Mr. Mom, good luck. Or, you know, you got your
hands full. It's all. It's all words. It comes
from a, I think it comes from a place of like
a good -natured place. Like it's not like from
a... No, it's conditioning. Yeah. Yeah. I think
that's good -natured. I think that's conditioning.
Yeah. That just happened in not a child format,
right? One of our, the dance teachers got engaged
and she doesn't have a diamond. She picked a
different jewel, a gem. And one of her older
clients gave her a hard time about it. It was
like, you're not really engaged. It's not a diamond.
It's conditioning. Unfortunately, I want to say
it's the older generation, but it trickles down.
So I've heard young people say similar type of
stupid things. Yeah, no, I agree. Generational
trauma. And it's the same thing when they're
like, oh, it's... The dad babysitting? No, he's
just - That happens all the time. He's just watching
them. Yeah, people always say, not people, not
always, but I've heard multiple people - Whoa,
whoa. That's a lie. You're lying. I know. I've
heard multiple people say, like, men, oh, I can't,
I'm babysitting my kids, or the moms say, oh,
my husband's babysitting the kids. No, they're
just dadding. They're your kids. They're dadding.
You're just, they're just your kids. It's just
your life. They're dadding? Did I make that?
Is that gonna become a trend? No, not at all.
No, because it sounds stupid. Sorry, guys. I'm
just dadding today. I'm just moming. They're
parenting. What are you doing? I'm moming. I
think that's what you were looking for. But you
wouldn't say like, oh, no, I can't, guys. I'm
parenting tonight. You would be like, no, I got
a dad. Nope. You would just say like, no, I have
my kids. I have a father. I have a father. But
yeah, it's a same thing. Yeah, that drives me
crazy when people say that. OK, fine. I agree.
Thank you. Yep. That physically looked hard for
you to say, but I appreciate it. I do what I
can. It's just because her nose is full. Popular
opinion episode. No, unpopular opinion episode
number three in the books. This is number two.
Number two. Wow. Wait, she was dead serious.
She was dead serious. Because I was trying to
correct myself in the beginning. Yeah, you said
four. Oh. Dos. Dos. Dos Equis? She said Dos Equis.
My god, that was the whitest thing you've ever
said and you've said so many white things Every
time you say alcohol I'm saying there every time
Justin has told me to get therapy you guys need
to drink at home He said I like 15 times Sometimes
it should sink in at some point you would think
but we're a break from bettering myself right
now. Leave me alone Would you at least blow your
nose? I think you have to start before you take
a break Just kidding. Let them hate. Haters gonna
hate. There you go. With that said, thanks for
tuning in. If you're still here, if you are still
here, I think you need therapy. But we appreciate
you. We do. Don't take a break on us. No. We're
going to thank Justin for taking off from work
today. Uh, yeah. Did you? Yeah. Yeah. I did.
Just for you. Just for us. That's what we're
going to tell ourselves. And, you know, come
back. I will. For the fourth and fifth and sixth
and seventh episode. Now for the third. I think
it's been over a year since I've been here. Yeah.
You haven't given us the time, so thank you for
giving us the time today. Sorry, I was very busy.
You have cut out of work a lot though. Yeah,
I'm thinking of dropping my second job, so I'll
have more time for you. With that being said,
oh shit, we're the second job. That's fine. Carly
helps you teach anyway. Tuesday nights with the
duo. I won't be there. Carly strong arms me into
her teaching during my class. Are you saying
I'm strong? And Carly tells me, Carly tells me
it's you. Literally, I'll, I have the receipts.
I will show you. All I heard was Justin thinks
I'm strong. He said I strong arm him. Okay. As
usual, remember, but you don't have to, because
apparently you can take a break to be fit, to
be real. But like, remember, you don't have to
do that. And a little extra. Thanks, Justin.
Thank you. I feel like you don't mean that. Carly,
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