Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly.
Why'd you look at me when you said- I don't know. I have no idea. I wanted to make sure I
send my name right. I can't help you. I know. I can't say my name in general. Welcome to cozy Tuesday.
Or someone needs to shower Tuesday. Which one? You pick. I'm wearing a hat. Okay. I just got
to add a shower. You did. And if you can't tell. And if you can't tell, I'm in my JLo era. Okay.
I'm Jenny from The Lock. Yeah. Carly from The Suburbs. Carly from Springfield. I need to do
my hair. I need to do my hair because I have horrible shampoo. Well, and it's straightening my
hair. Mom gave it to me because she didn't like it, but she didn't tell me why she didn't like it.
The sulfate free one. No, it's like keratin. It's the orange bot. No, it's not loose. Yes,
but isn't the keratin, isn't there a treatment called a keratin treatment that straightens
your hair? Yeah. So why are you using it all your curly hair? She gave it to me. She gave me
7000 pounds of it in conditioner and shampoo. So I was like, all right, whatever. I'll use it. And
it's now like the third week and it's straightening my hair. We'll stop using a hair straightening
shampoo on curly hair. Yes. Now I know. Yeah. Okay. That's the point of my story. So I'm wearing
a hat, which I hate. Well, actually, you look better in a hat than I do. I, that's one of my
toxic traits and we'll get to it. Just gave it away. This is Carly's day. Why do you not look
at me when you said that? It's opposite day and everything's a mess. We've been a mess. We were
not here last week because of sickness. Again, it's like we cannot, we, my family cannot catch a
break with sickness, which affects Victoria because I don't want to get her sick. So I just stayed
away. Yeah. She was like, Oh, you want to do that? No, no, I won't, I won't be joining and I,
you're not allowed to come over. Yeah. She was like, I have dinner plans that I do not want to
cancel. So I cannot get sick. I was very happy that I survived to get to that dinner. So that's
why usually we would scramble and make it work or do a 7am recording or a 10pm recording just to
get it in, but we cannot. I don't know. Are we getting older? Are we getting smarter? Like,
nothing is worse. Oh, the lack of sleep and preparation and like to just get something done.
Oh, do you feel prepared today? That's interesting. I mean, we're talking about toxic traits. I'm very
prepared. That's fun. I, yeah, I don't, I'm, I'm gonna go with, I'm gonna go with the, we're older
and wiser. Just agree with me. That's how you're gonna say that. I'm gonna go with that. I agree. I
agree. What would you say? No, I think it's a, it's a part of that of being too tired. I think it's
being too tired to put the energy. I know, but even like two months ago, we would be like, we
have, we can't miss because we broke the seal. Oh, okay. I think we broke the seal and we were
like, no one died. No one died. We missed a week. It was fine. We came back and it was fine. Yeah.
Like, I don't know. I think once we did that, had we not taken one week off, you'd gotten sick
again, or you didn't get sick. Oh no, you didn't get sick again. I died and came back to life. This
is a reincarnation. Carly and her whole family got the neurovirus. So anybody out there who has
also experienced that so far this season, God bless. Yeah. It sounded horrific. It was. I bought
me some Lysol. Oh my God. Anything I touch, she Lysoled. I, well, so I took care, Carly got this
neurovirus on vacation. Yeah. And it was the vacation from hell. I kind of wish you had recorded
it because entertainment, the rest of us. I'm not at the laughing mode yet because we lost a lot
of money and like a vacation I was looking forward to got ruined. So I'm not laughing yet, but one
day I will laugh at the amount of vomit in different rooms of the Airbnb at the same time. Oh, let's
not share where that Airbnb was. Let's keep that a secret. And hopefully nobody ever goes there again.
But yeah, if you have the neurovirus, you have the empathy and the sympathy of knowing what she's
talking about. But if even if you did or didn't Lysol lemon spray, we were told. Yeah. Because we
talked about you a lot every day in class. We talked about it. All of all of our say that is
and I and the lemon Lysol spray that's like in the Windex type bottle is the only thing that
actually kills it off of a surface and it can live on a surface. It's the only virus that can live
on a surface for seven days. So I watched your dogs for one of the days because our mom who also
had it was supposed to watch the dogs, which was not a six one half dozen the other. Like it didn't
matter. But I sprayed your door. I opened your door. I sprayed your inside door. I opened the door.
Did you spray the dogs? It didn't touch them. Okay, I was afraid to touch them because I didn't know
who pet the dog. Oh, you know, I don't. Not you. But Dean also had it when you left. Yeah. Her
five year old had it. I was like, it'll be gone by the time we get there. No. No. I sat I like
stayed there for five hours to play with the dog. Yeah. And I sprayed the chair. I sprayed the table.
I put my computer down. And then every time I went to go do something, which was really just
get the dog a treat. Then I brought my own treats. When I came back at nine o'clock, I brought my
own bag because I was like, this is my bag. I'm not still on the mantle. I thought I was
I used them all. I literally got up this morning and I looked at Andrew and I said, I love when
you leave the dog treats on the dog treats on the mantle. And he goes, they're victorious. And I was
like, Oh, I'm not mad anymore. They're human grade full moon dog treats. You could eat them if you
wanted to. Okay. But I'm not a meat eater. So I can't eat them. Wait, one of my toxic traits
is that I'm not good product placement. I am completely covering the mug that I'm holding.
You do you. It's our it's our mug. You do you. Anyway, so yeah, if you've been sick, so sorry
about it, but it is still the season. So be vigilant, wash your hands, wash anything and
everything you can touch, especially if you've got Petrie dishes living in your house. Otherwise,
known as children. Otherwise known as children. I do think one of our joint toxic traits is that
I think maybe we just got over for the first time in 36 39 years is that if we don't do something we
said we were going to do the world will fall apart and people will be disappointed and we're
you know, all that kind of stuff and it didn't happen when we missed one week. Oh yeah, we're
so we're coming back. Yeah, I'm circling back to that because it is a toxic trait of ours. We don't
like to disappoint or feel even if we didn't disappoint you at all and you're like, Oh,
I didn't even know that's probably what it is. I know. Oh, you guys did took a week off. I'm seven
episodes behind. We feel that when we take a break or we take a day off or we can't do something that
we said we were going to do our toxic trait is that we think the world is going to stop and be
upset with us or disappointed. Oh, I just hold please. Okay, but don't I just posted something
that really triggered what you're saying. Yes, I said triggered deal with it toxic trait. And I
got a lot of a lot of responses on our Fit to be real podcast DMs about it because it's so
so. Did I see this real um well do you follow yet I think I do I think I follow it.
Um, rude. No, I you you've been posting a lot and I've been looking at them but I think I did
read it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Congrats to you're doing a great job. I think I deleted it. Hold on. What?
But it was about that. The gist was oh, you know what Donna what's up Donna you DM'd me and I will
go into our DMs because it'll be in there. It's about that feeling. Here it is. No one's mad at you.
That's just an echo from how you grew up. You're safe. You can let it go. I read that like no one's
going to be mad at you if like you said we don't follow through with something as small as
recording an episode of a podcast that's just fun for us. Right. That's in the grand scheme of life.
Small. Yeah, everything is small. Right. But that's so true. And I saved that well clearly I deleted
it but I saved it for a moment and I was just like yeah, it's a mix of guilt and feeling like
we're going to get in trouble or like people are mad or the disappointment like remember when there
was nothing worse than who cares if mom was mad. Right. If she was like I'm disappointed in you.
Right. World was shattered. Done. And I feel like it's still like that. Oh my god, it's still like
that. Well, we know how you feel. She's afraid that mom's going to ground her. 100%. She's 39.
And she can do it with a look and she can ruin my mood for the rest of the week. We just had this
conversation with a seafit or the other day. My mom, whether she likes to admit it or not,
or she's even aware of it because it's not her problem, it's mine. She knows. I've told her many
times. Okay. Her whatever she says or how what she thinks of like her opinion, it will ruin or make
my day. How sad. For you. She's probably feeling great or oblivious. It's okay. She's like 27 episodes
behind. We won't get here until the summer. She won't get to this. She forgot that she's on it.
She forgot. But it's, but that's true. And that's something you need to work on because that's,
yeah, that's silly. I know. It's somebody. I know. It's not just somebody that was your mom.
Right. It's a little different. I agree. Yeah. To an extent. I agree. I've been changing that.
I don't care about anything. I don't care about anyone, but that's not true. That is not true.
I also saw a post this morning and I believe I saved it, but I'm not going to do what I just
did and look for it. Oh, thank God. Where she was saying like, we have to stop calling it people
pleasing and calling it, um, I'm sacrificing myself for you because people pleasing kind of sounds
fun. Not fun, but like, oh, it's so nice. Yeah. It's a nice thing for you to do. Yeah. You want to
make people happy and you want to go out of your way or you want to do something nice, pay it forward.
But at what expense? That's because that's really what people pleasing is. And so if we just didn't
call it people pleasing and we called it like, I'm sacrificing myself. I'm dishonoring myself for you.
Right. I would not do so many things. Right. I think what you just said is completely false.
No, no, no, not that. No, not the second part. I think you care way too much about other people
to a fault. Like you have so much empathy for other people and their situations where sometimes I'm
like, I have no feeling at all. Like I think, do you know what I mean? So I don't think that's true
about you that you're like, I don't care about anything. I think you care about everything.
I do, but I've been working really hard on not letting it affect my entire day.
And that's very different than me. Yeah. That's, I think what I, yeah, I agree. I totally agree.
I have, all I do is think about the other person, what just happened and what could be, what can I
change and what can I make better? And that's one of my toxic traits. Or how can I help them?
Or how can we make you feel that you need to understand this person's point of view because
you're clearly. Oh, God forbid. Yeah. I do that for you. I know. It's annoying.
Just wants me to dive into all of her irrational anger. Well, my toxic trait is I'll just cut you
off, but you'll smile and talk to their faces. 100%. What a bitch. What a bit. My toxic trait is I'm
a bitch. Cool. Cool. That's new. Well, let's get into some of these toxic traits. Okay. What is
a toxic trait? Victoria recently asked me that, wait, do we have a new book? Yeah. What is this
bougie thing? One of my toxic traits is the more books I buy makes me feel like I will actually
be productive and use it and work harder. Tell me you have kids without telling me of kids.
This cute little fake leather bound book has smiling face stickers all over it. Melody.
And not in great placement. No. So here you go. I buy journals and notebooks a lot to try and like
use them. And I do the same thing with water bottles. I will buy a great water bottle thinking it's
going to increase my water intake when I'm just going to buy a new one when a new color comes out.
And shoes and shirts and pants. We'll get to that. And jackets. What is a toxic trait?
Something you do over and over and over again. The definition of insanity. No, that's a
insanity. That's a different episode. This is a toxic trait. I don't know. Tell us. It is a harmful
behavior that can damage relationships or personal growth. Oh, I did mine wrong. So it could be,
well, some of my toxic traits are for the every man. Like they're sort of funny. Some of them are
serious. Are you made humor out of it? Yeah. Are you being sarcastic? Sure am. Some examples of toxic
traits. Gaslighting. Blaming. Possessiveness. Shut your mouth. Isolation. Drama. Manipulation.
Negativity and victim mentality. So we're not getting into like toxic relationships. We're
not going to be like, sounds so fun. I know, but it's serious. No, I'm being sarcastic. Yeah, okay.
So we're going to talk about some of our personal toxic traits today. And maybe you have the same
ones. Maybe you see them in us and you already know these about us. I feel like our partners have
a lot on the list already. Oh, yeah. Wait, did you pick ones for me? No. No, okay, good. Because I
didn't pick any for you. There's too many. That's a different episode. This was your spearhead.
You told me to do one thing. I did it. Well, you did not leave me a box of tissues.
Would you like a toilet paper or a paper roll? No, I'm good. All right, let's get into it. Toxic
tree number one. This is a more serious one. I'm not going to justify each one, but this one is,
I won't ask for help. But when I get overwhelmed, I get angry that I have no help. Oh my God,
it's so annoying and it's such a cycle. And this is so true. I'm mad.
I will never ask for help. I'm how sad. I know. Listen, tagline to the day.
Real housewife of Springfield. I will never ask for help, but I'll get mad when you don't help me.
I just want to throw an orange at you. No, it's a soft pretzel. I have to hold a soft pretzel.
Okay. Yeah, I'm throwing a natty light at your head. That's better. But yeah, that's a toxic
tree to mine. I will never ask for help and get mad at you when you don't offer. Yeah, we're going
to ignore it because it's so true. I can't understand what I said. Okay. Okay. That's a toxic
tree. I did this two seconds ago. Okay. Using, okay, using half a jar of a condiment or a sauce
and then putting it in the fridge intentionally to be like, okay, well, I'm not going to waste this
money and then watching it grow more sauce, fuzzy style until I throw it out, which I don't want to
do because I've opened it, looked at it and instead of throwing it away, I put it back on the shelf.
And then you buy a new one. Yeah. Yeah. That is a, that's, I think that's what I do with shampoos.
They don't get moldy, but I will use a half a bottle and then when it's too hard to get it out,
I'll just buy a new one. Oh my God. No. Yeah. You open it, you put water in it, you shake it up,
you use it, everything that's onto the sides of it. Why don't you do that with your condiments?
Because they're growing life. They're with child. Do you just use ketchup like sometimes and then
you don't use it for six months? I know ketchup will stay in there forever because it's not real.
So toxic trait, cool. But it's just toxic. It's just no, like, like gravy or a pesto,
a jar, a little jar best pesto or I'm trying to think what's in there right now.
Uh, curry sauce, butter chicken sauce from Target. I have ketchup and mustard.
Lies. I have so many things that I have not opened to 10 years. Okay. I share your toxic trait. I
went in because I was like, Hey, I'm at your house for five hours watching your dog. Let me just like
eat a little snack. Immediately shut the door full to the brim of food going away for four, five
days because I food shop to take it away with us. What did you leave in the refrigerator? All the old
stuff. Why didn't you out? It smelled horrible. Every condiment you have is from BJ. So it's huge.
Yeah. And you can't find anything. And then there I said hello to whoville in some of the
things on the door. So it looks like we share the same toxic trait. Yeah, but yours is way more
intense. Okay. Next one. Oh, okay. This one's another series. I do have fun ones, but this
one's another serious one too. I think Victoria will vouch for me. Prove it. Okay. I go silent when
I'm hurt or bothered and assume you'll figure it out. I go silent, like radio silent. Yeah.
When she's not into something, even if it's like say this isn't like even an anger thing,
it's just like she doesn't agree with what you're doing or she doesn't agree with who you're talking
to or who you're dating. Sorry, this got personal. I like you, Pedro. I like you. I said give you a
chance. I mean, oh no, this isn't about Pedro, but at all. But you would just be, you would just
never talk about it again. No, never bring it up. Never talk about it. If it's anger,
it's there's, there's a glimmer in the eye. Yeah. There's a silence. Silence. I am a silent
fighter. But a glimmer. Yeah. Yeah. You're so healthy. You're the picture of health.
And I'm going to justify it by saying I don't like confrontation. So instead of
confrontating, I go silent. Look it up. It's a word. Instead of confrontating.
I will go silent. Anyway, next one. How does that work out for you? Next one.
And all of your problems. Next one. Okay. My toxic trait is wearing socks to bed in the winter,
but taking them off in my sleep and then not fishing them out when I make the bed every morning.
So I have a sock graveyard. So when I finally wash my sheets, I'm like, oh my God, where are these
these? Wait, I don't, I don't know this about you because I don't sleep here. So
that's disgusting. The other night we went to bed and I was like, wait, what is that? And I pulled
a sock. I went, oh, surprises. Thank God. I found a sock. Oh my God. That's the weirdest thing I've
ever heard. Like you, you're cold. So you put fuzzy socks on comfy, cute fuzzy socks. And I don't,
I get very hot. I'm a furnace. So I get hot in the middle of the night. So I'm in my sleep. I
guess I get hot and then I, oh my God. No one, I'm not awake to do it. No one guaranteed. I'm
putting up a poll on our Instagram. No one shares that toxic trait with you lies. Show out. Let's go.
On the, on the subject of clothes. Blow your nose. Give me some toilet paper. No, I'm good. I'm good.
I'm good. My toxic trait is having a closet of clothes, but wearing the same black shirt and jeans
every time I go out. Yeah. It's either a black turtleneck and jeans with my boots or it's a
black bodysuit and jeans with my boots every single time. I think that's called body dysmorphia.
It is. Cause I know that that looks good. And when I try something else on and it doesn't look as
good, I'm like, I'm just going to go back to what I know. But I have thousands of dollars worth of
clothes in my closet and I will do that. I will put on nine outfits and then end up in the same black
shirt and jeans. I'm going to circle back. Okay. Tens of thousands of dollars in the closet,
not $1,000 in the closet. It's tens of thousands. I could have gone to Disney. Damn it.
Yeah. We all know that. Yeah. I stopped buying clothes. Did you? I did. I bought, I just took
the tags off, but I bought this a while ago. I could never wear anything that said New York
while I was living in New York. So when I left New York, all I do now, anytime I see something that
says New York, I'm like, I can wear this now. So this is, this is like something I've never
gotten to. Your brain is exhausting. I cannot imagine. I was like, I'm a New Yorker. I can't
wear a shirt that says New York. That's such a tourist thing. And now every time I go to New
York, I buy a New York T-shirt. Moving on. Okay. Toxic trait. That was extra.
Making an entire pot of coffee every single day just to have one mug of it and then dumping
it in the morning said rest of coffee every single day to remake an entire pot of coffee.
Are you serious? Here's the thing. I put it under the faucet and then I go try to do a
million other things. And when I go back, the water's filled like so high. So I'm like, all
right, whatever. But I, I stopped drinking multiple cups of coffee in the morning. I just drink one.
And I've done the thing where I put it in a pitcher and I'm like, okay, I'll do cold
iced coffee and I'll refrigerate it. But I don't like that. Oh, I'm, I can't move my face. Fun fact,
iced coffee in the fridge gets moldy. Hi, let's go check. If you didn't know,
what, why don't you just learn how to make one cup? Okay. Okay. Toxic trait. Do you know how to
make coffee at all? No. My toxic trait is I will go buy it. What, what a waste. I know how to make
it. Like I don't measure my coffee. I just dump. I'm like, oh, it looks good. Yeah. Yeah. And, but
it always tastes good. So like I'm really good at it. But this is decent. Well, yours is drowning
in fake dairy cream. So I love fake dairy cream. It's so good. I can't believe you do that. I'm
disappointed that you throw out gold. What do you want me to do with it? Black gold. Drink more
drink more coffee. Oh God, no, I'm trying to live. Well, I'm going to skip this one and go back to
it because my next one is telling others to cut off their coffee intake to help with anxiety
and health issues while I'm drinking coffee. I was thinking back on how many episodes we've told
people to like anybody that has like TMJ, you should, you know, not drink as much coffee. If
you have anxiety, don't drink as much coffee. If you're doing this, don't sleep problems.
While I'm drinking my fifth cup of coffee, that is a toxic trait of mine. Go.
It's cute that you think you're funny. My toxic trait. My toxic traits make me laugh.
Moving on. Okay. My toxic trait. I just got that. Okay. Pedro, this one's for you because this is
a toxic trait you know I have. Are you think is my toxic trait? It's not the sock thing.
No, what? That's endearing. Oh God. Okay. Hearing. Okay. I didn't know how to write this out. So
hearing a yay or an nay of something that you like and going all in on it. So if you're sitting here
and you're like, Oh yeah, I really like blue socks, then I'm going to just only ever buy you
blue. Oh yes. And if you say you don't like something, I like put it on a list of like no, never going
to ever get that for you again. You do not like this. And so where did you get this toxic trait,
Victoria? Who gave you this toxic trait? My mom. Ding, ding, ding. Yeah. Okay. My mom.
But I don't hear it that way. Like I don't. Yeah. I disassociate, I guess. I'm just like,
Oh, they don't like that. I want to make sure that they're happy all the time. So like, I'm never
going to invite that into the conversation or to purchase it or yada, yada, yada. So when there
are things that pop up, I'm like, Oh, no, no, no, you don't like to eat that. And he was like,
What? I know. She said, I love that. When we first met him. Oh, he's not like a sweet person.
And he's like, I never said that. He said, I didn't want it that night. And I don't like,
like I like salty more than sweets, but anytime I'm like, Hey, do you want dessert? Oh, wait,
wait, wait, wait, you're not a sweets person. He's like, I never said that.
And our mom's the same way. If she, if you tell her you like her shirt, she will have it on your
doorstep the next morning in four different colors. I'm just honoring myself for you.
You know, I'm people's pleasing. That is a toxic trait. Yeah. Yeah, I know. I hear you. I hear you.
I'm working on it. Well, we'll see. I'm going to put more cucumbers in the salad. Oh my God.
Oh, this is one that I think a lot of people share with me. I say no worries a lot. For in fact,
I worry a lot. When I say no worries, it means I, that was a high coup. I, I never once in my life
have ever meant the word no worries. So if I say no worries, you shouldn't say no worries. That's
not your vibe. Yeah. Oh, no worries or no problem. It's all the problem and it's all the worry.
So I never mean that. You're a liar. Yeah. Your toxic trait is I'm a bitch and a liar.
I'm a liar. No, I'm a, I'm a, what are you? It's just a mother. I'm just a mother. That's all.
She doesn't curse. Oh, she doesn't know. Just I'm a mother. I'm a, I'm a B. I'm a mother.
I'm a B. Go toxic trait. I spell my curse words, but internally I just want to say the F word.
It's a sad toxic trait for you. Nope. That wasn't mine. I'll just say it out loud.
Okay. Okay. Toxic trait is constantly buying really cute baseball hats, but never wearing them
unless I'm in desperation, i.e. right now. Yeah. But I have a box of hats. A lot of them are beanies
or yeah, beanies, which I love, but I beanies. I do wear beanies, but baseball hats. I hate myself
in a hat. I think you look really cute in a hat because my hair is keratin full and it's straight.
But if I had my normal curly hair, it would be small head and big. Yeah. And it just,
I already have around. I don't know. It's like the things that you look in the mirror for too long
and like nobody else sees it. Yeah. It's body dysmorphia. Oh yeah. I totally have that. Yeah.
Toxic trait. 100%. Yeah. But I love a baseball hat. I think they're cute. I think there,
there's some of them are really clever. I'll go to five below. I'll look at the hats at five below.
Who needs a five below hat? No one. I have five. Yeah. I know. I have a Christmas hat from Michael's
and it's really chunky and big and it's got a cute felt Christmas tree. Do you think I wore it
at Christmas? No. Yeah. But I'm desperate right now. And I didn't want to look like I had a sweatshirt
and a beanie on. So I wore this. I know. I like your beanies too, but you look cute in a hat. So
whatever. Okay. This one Victoria shares with me and she'll, she may deny it, but we'll see.
I'm gonna say making plans way ahead of time and trying desperately to cancel the day of 100%.
I feel like I have liquid courage, even if I'm not drinking, which
this is not on the subject, but I'm not right now just because I don't want to be,
but I have, I know that had nothing to do with anything. Are you okay? Yeah. Yeah.
I feel like I have liquid courage a month ahead of time when I make plans and I'm like,
yes, I'm so excited. And then I have anxiety like four days before, three days before,
and I'm trying to get out of it. And then you go and you have a great time. Yes.
Look in the mirror. You do it too. I 100% agree with this toxic trait.
Why do we do this? Because we're tired. When are we not going to be tired? When we're dead.
When we get close to it, I mean, how many times have we tried to cancel? No, no, to schedule.
And then it doesn't work out because schedules don't align. So what we do as people pleasers is we
go with the least convenient option just to get it done and be like, yeah, okay, it doesn't really
work for us because we're going to be rushing and sweating and gross and try to change,
but let's make it happen. So then it comes up and we're like, oh my God, I cannot believe we
agreed to this. Yeah, why did we do this? Because we never have a morning off on a weekend night
to like fully relax, have fun. So it's always like, I just, I want to be in bed. We have to get
up early. Like there's always something next week to think about. Right. So that's why. Okay, we can
justify that one. Buying a new plant every other time I go to the grocery store. It's so stupid.
They're dead. They're not dead. They're sad. I have to water them. Oh my God. I have to,
they tell you when they're ready and they've been, they've been ready. Here's the thing,
it takes me 25 minutes. So many plants because all I do is buy a new one. Oh my God, they're all dead.
They're not dead. Don't, don't listen to her. You're beautiful. You're beautiful. I sing to them
when I water them because it's a thing. Look it up. And they're just sad. It's on my list of
things to do today. It's on my list of things to do and it won't get done because they really will
die. Oh my God, they're close to death. I'm sorry. They're saying, Hey, it's time. That's what I look
like when I need to be fed. Toxic trait. Oh, this one's a good one. And I think I will,
some of you will say the same telling Andrew that everything in the house only costs $20.
What, what it could have been like 100. Like anytime I come home with a bag, I'm like, Oh my God,
look at this. It was only 20 bucks. Do you think he doesn't know how to read a receipt? I don't,
Oh, I never show him receipts on the credit card. I don't have a credit card. I only have a debit
card. Toxic trait. You're not a part of society. Or he just like, he doesn't check it. I think he
does. Do you remember when he put you on a budget and you were more angry than anything I've ever
seen you angry for? Oh, did you see this couch I bought? It was only $20. Andrew, do you believe
this? Malarkey? Maybe he doesn't believe me anymore. And he just lets me go. It's been 27 years. I
don't think he believes a word you say. Like when the boxes show up on the front porch, I'm like,
Oh my God, I got these sneakers. They're only 20 bucks. He's like sneaker sneakers came. I'm like,
Yeah, they were on sale for 20 bucks. How crazy. Andrew, he doesn't watch us. Andrew.
Toxic trait of Andrews. I don't think that that's too much of a lie. Financial issues are like
number one problem in relationships. Oh, but when we don't have any finances, there's the thing to
lie about. You can like, it's all there. You can see if you really wanted to see it. I just say
that. Are you guys, are you here? Did you hear this? No, I'm saying when you don't have a lot of
money, you really don't have a lot to lose. You know what I mean? So you do when they're on your feet.
Well, or you're sitting on it and you don't need it. They were $20. They're Nike. They were 150.
No, I won't spend that. They were 20. How cute. Hold, look what $20 can buy you. Yeah, $20 can
buy you lies. I just looked down at my phone and Pedro said, I feel heard. Number one, thank you for
watching producer. Number two, I'm trying. No more blue socks for him. Just pick something. No,
I said it was socks. It's usually about food where I'm like, Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
you don't like that. And he's like, what? And I have a list of no's and yeses. When's his birthday?
March 28th. Okay, I will get you a no sugar birthday cake because I know you don't like sweets.
Somebody told me once that you don't like sweets or dessert. He said I didn't like peanut butter,
but it's like, he doesn't prefer Reese's because it's just like all peanut butter. But if peanut
butter is in like, you know, peanut butter ice cream, swirl or whatever, he's like, yeah, I love it.
And I'm like, you don't like peanut butter. He's like, I love peanut butter. My God, Pedro, your
toxic trait is you don't like peanut butter. No, she didn't do. She just heard what she wanted to hear.
Okay, toxic trait. It's a family thing. Oh God, please don't leave. Okay.
Moving on. Okay, this kind of goes on your, your money thing, but I don't lie about money. So,
but maybe it's different. Saving every receipt, like paper receipt, putting it in a box of just
for seeds. I literally have a giant, oh, I know I've seen a box of receipts, but not using those
receipts at tax time using the online online, you know, credit bank reports. Your mom, you are mom.
I know. I just because I'm laughing too. You are snotting. Mom has receipts from 1972 in the basement.
You are her. Well, I don't have a basement. You're going to need a bigger place to house your receipts.
What does that come about? You're going to need a bigger place to house your receipts.
You're going to need a bigger place to house your receipts.
It's not going to hurt you. Wasn't it a commercial? You're going to need a bigger box. You're going to
need a bigger, I don't know. Well, guess what? No one's going to come for you and ask for those
receipts from Rade Aid. No one. You don't know. I do know. It's not for that. It's so that I can
itemize all of my expenses, write offs, but you're not going to do it with paper receipts.
If I paid cash, I will. You won't. You won't. Okay. My taxes. You don't even do your taxes.
You don't even know. Oh God. I don't. I help. I try and help. Yeah. You spend $20.
$20. Okay. This is a big one. This is a big one.
Texting for a straight hour with you, but then when you call, I will immediately decline.
I've never been more angry than hearing that you understand that. Oh, I know. I do it.
I have no problem texting with you for hours and joking and being so funny. We're having
a great conversation and then you call. Who do you do that with? Not me. I will decline.
Who do you have that funny, fun conversation with? I'd like to know. So Christina is a really good
friend and she's screwed that. She always texts me and like is checking in. How do you feel? How
the kids feel? Like she's very good. And we will text, but then she'll call me because she's like,
I'm driving and I can't. And I'm like, no. No. Christina, give up on her. Give up. She's a
horrible friend. She'll text and say, no one's dying, but I can't text anymore because I'm driving.
And I'm like, okay, conversation over. If no one was dying, she still wouldn't answer.
Carly is on my not do not call list. I am crying right now because I know this about me. I know.
Don't call me. Anybody just don't do it. Your mom. Mom loves to talk on the phone.
Mom calls me at six a.m. to start talking on the phone. Yes, but mom, there was a stint of mom's
life where she wasn't a good follow up friend. Oh yeah. Raising kids or whatever. But that's
what I think of. Raising kids. Raising kids. You're right. The TV is, but the TV is doing a
great, the C fit kids room is doing a great job. So just don't call me. Okay. Lesson.
Don't call. I don't understand why you have a goddamn phone. So we can really send funny
memes back and forth. Who do you do that with? I usually get, this is what we're playing tonight.
This is what the playlist is. These are all the things that we have to do for work.
And then she just responds, no, like she'll say, I'm busy. Or like, I'll send her the
playlist and she'll be like, I'm busy. I'll send her a playlist. She'll say, no, thanks.
Talk to you. I don't look at her playlist until I show up and go, Oh, no, no, no,
I'm not doing these after I make her change it. I spent at least an hour perfecting a playlist.
She'll be like, Oh, I didn't look at it. Joke is on you. I'm out of talk to train.
Okay. Perfect. I have one more that I don't know if Victoria shares with me or not.
We don't text. So I wouldn't know. No, but we send memes on Instagram all day long.
At least an hour a day.
What is your toxic trait? Carly wanting to be invited to everything,
but wanting to actually attend nothing. Yeah, I don't want to be invited to everything.
I don't want to decline. Oh yeah. I feel like I always want to be included,
but like I don't actually want to go. I just want to be thought of like, Oh,
we should invite Carly. She's not going to come, but we should just invite her.
But the more you don't come, the more they're like, well, we're not going to invite Carly.
She never shows up. I know, but I want them to know that. Who's them? First of all,
wait, my last toxic trait, my last toxic trait. We don't have friends
because of our stunted personal and relationship growth. Speak for yourself,
except neither one of my friends have called me back in two weeks and I've tried.
I'm dying. Ladies, you know who you are.
No, but that I think is always my toxic trait since I was little. I always want to be invited,
but like I don't necessarily want to go. I don't want to go and I don't want to be invited.
Okay, so you don't share that with me? Because I don't want, like there's nothing worse than
being forced to decline something. So like, mom buys me clothes a lot. Yeah. And I'm like,
please stop buying me clothes. All you do is return what you buy me because I don't want them
and I don't like them and they don't fit. But she keeps doing it because she's thinking of me
as she's being considerate and she's like, oh, I saw this at the store for you. And I'm like, great,
that's great. That's for your other daughter, your third one that you don't have because Carly
would never wear this either. But I don't, it makes me sad to constantly say no. Oh,
yeah. No, I, I get, I get where your head is. I get that. I'm sorry. What?
It's a song. Look it up. She's a admit. I get what your head is. But I also know that mom enjoys
doing that. She just doesn't know who you are. Apparently. I don't think you do either. I do.
I do because I know when I buy stuff for you, I know that you want it, but you would never buy it
for yourself. It depends on when it is. Pedro, don't ever go to Carly and go, I need to buy her
this. What should I do? She's going to think of what she thinks about it. That is true. It's,
it's, she can only do it based on how she likes or doesn't like stuff. Would I want to be seen
with her while wearing this? No, don't buy it. You just got to go with your gut.
Yeah. Just got to go with your gut. You know me. You don't know me decide, but do not call
Carly or Carmella. Well, those are our toxic traits that we could think of. There are plenty more,
but I also have a game. Oh, and it is called is a fast. Did you think, did you think I would
forget your toxic? I'm slipping under. I'm sorry. I'm distracted by the snot coming down your nose.
I've been laughing a lot. Okay. It better be a fast game. It is. It's very fast and we're going
to see what kind of toxic person Victoria is. I got gossip. I'm the gossip. Shocking. So just,
there's that. So we're going to play your toxic. I'm slipping under. You sound just like her.
I always used to describe myself as having Britney Spears legs because we have thick legs.
No, we do. We have thick legs. Okay. I agree. Okay. What kind of toxic are you? Your friend
tells you that they heard someone say that you're rude. You say, well, you know, I heard something
bad about them, or I don't think they can talk. They're the rude one. This is my only true option.
I wouldn't say either of those things. Oh, or this, I wasn't going to give you this option.
I understand that they have a hard life. It's okay for them to be mean sometimes.
That one is annoying. That's not my problem. That's their problem. This is someplace Victoria
would never be. You're at a sleepover. What do you talk about first? True. What each of you got on
the test the other day? How great each one of your friends are? Or how mean someone was to you the
other day? Probably the test. Some yoga test. You're going to hell. It's fine. Oh, hot yoga.
Yeah. In hell. They have hot yoga there. Go Indiana Jones. Let's go. What is your dream job?
Boss of a company therapist. I just want job. Any job. Does it pay any job monies? Uh,
therapists. It's pretty much what you do anyway. You know, it's really easy.
How would you describe yourself? The best conversationalist. I'm just happy to have a
place in the group. The pack leader. I'm a good conversationalist. I can talk to anybody. You can.
I can relate to this called empathy. So I can really tap into. But I'm a good conversationalist
too. You're a good liar. There's a difference. I am. Andrew has told me even though he doesn't need
a wingman. I'm his wife. He says I'm the best wingman at parties. Should we talk about swinging?
You like pineapples? Because I can walk into any party and we, I think because mom is the same way.
Yeah. We can walk into a party and make you feel comfortable and like talk to anybody.
Yeah. You don't sound confident right now, but. Well, I pulled the mic away and forgot.
Okay. Last one. What is your most prized possession? My diary, myself. I love everything I have.
I know what you said. Myself. I did not say that. Okay.
I'm amazing. You're pride. You're a great person, but sometimes you can be a bit full of yourself.
Because I said I like myself. You believe in yourself too much. What is this quiz from girls
magazine? It's like from BuzzFeed. Oh my God. You can never believe in yourself too much unless
your name is a Victoria Mayo. And then you believe in yourself just a little too much.
No, that's R. Kelly. We can't sing that. You are canceled. Too confident. Too confident.
That's okay. It's okay. I got gossip. Yeah. It's fine. No one is going to fight that. No.
Ever. No. You watch Real Housewives. That's the answer. Yes. I don't like to be gossiped about.
It hurts my feelings. Yeah. You can't have that sword. I know. Yeah, I know. I'm working on
being a better person. Are you? I'm working on having more pride and being full of myself.
And you can buy one for 20 bucks. So cheap. God. Exactly. So cheap. So this was fun.
I highly recommend you do it with your friends. But what you should do to make it like level up
is to give your friends what you think their toxic trade is and see if you're still friends after.
Yeah. That's a fun like weed people out game. Yeah. Yeah. Weed people out. Did it work? Well,
we weeded everybody out in our life. So we're good. Trying to weed you. Just kidding. We didn't.
I'm kidding. You know, we have friends. Don't own a business, people. Yeah. If you want to have a life
and friends and see them often, work for someone else. Do not own your own business. Yeah. We
should have prefaced that. That's all it is. We like people. We just don't want to go out. I'm tired.
But we want to be invited. I don't want to be invited. But yes, toxic traits are a good time.
I love the. I think it's a good time. They are. This is a good time. Yeah. There's like a trend
on like red flags, green flags, beige flags or something. What's a beige flag? It's like
kind of what we just did. It's like a flag, but it's a funny flag. It's like a funny flag. It's
not anything. It's just kind of like an in between quirk. It's really a quirk. And usually you talk
about your partner with it. Like my husband's beige flag is this or whatever. That's what I'm
seeing on the Instagram. So I like this trend. Yeah, it's fun. Do it with your friends. If you got them.
I don't know how to wrap things up. Another toxic trait. Yep. We talk about it every week.
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