1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:13,280 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. 2 00:00:13,280 --> 00:00:19,600 Why'd you look at me when you said- I don't know. I have no idea. I wanted to make sure I 3 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:28,520 send my name right. I can't help you. I know. I can't say my name in general. Welcome to cozy Tuesday. 4 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:39,960 Or someone needs to shower Tuesday. Which one? You pick. I'm wearing a hat. Okay. I just got 5 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:48,200 to add a shower. You did. And if you can't tell. And if you can't tell, I'm in my JLo era. Okay. 6 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:58,320 I'm Jenny from The Lock. Yeah. Carly from The Suburbs. Carly from Springfield. I need to do 7 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:03,680 my hair. I need to do my hair because I have horrible shampoo. Well, and it's straightening my 8 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:07,120 hair. Mom gave it to me because she didn't like it, but she didn't tell me why she didn't like it. 9 00:01:07,120 --> 00:01:13,400 The sulfate free one. No, it's like keratin. It's the orange bot. No, it's not loose. Yes, 10 00:01:13,400 --> 00:01:17,400 but isn't the keratin, isn't there a treatment called a keratin treatment that straightens 11 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:21,120 your hair? Yeah. So why are you using it all your curly hair? She gave it to me. She gave me 12 00:01:21,120 --> 00:01:26,880 7000 pounds of it in conditioner and shampoo. So I was like, all right, whatever. I'll use it. And 13 00:01:26,880 --> 00:01:32,640 it's now like the third week and it's straightening my hair. We'll stop using a hair straightening 14 00:01:32,640 --> 00:01:38,160 shampoo on curly hair. Yes. Now I know. Yeah. Okay. That's the point of my story. So I'm wearing 15 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:43,560 a hat, which I hate. Well, actually, you look better in a hat than I do. I, that's one of my 16 00:01:43,560 --> 00:01:51,200 toxic traits and we'll get to it. Just gave it away. This is Carly's day. Why do you not look 17 00:01:51,200 --> 00:01:59,600 at me when you said that? It's opposite day and everything's a mess. We've been a mess. We were 18 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:07,840 not here last week because of sickness. Again, it's like we cannot, we, my family cannot catch a 19 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:13,440 break with sickness, which affects Victoria because I don't want to get her sick. So I just stayed 20 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:18,880 away. Yeah. She was like, Oh, you want to do that? No, no, I won't, I won't be joining and I, 21 00:02:18,880 --> 00:02:22,560 you're not allowed to come over. Yeah. She was like, I have dinner plans that I do not want to 22 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:29,880 cancel. So I cannot get sick. I was very happy that I survived to get to that dinner. So that's 23 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:36,560 why usually we would scramble and make it work or do a 7am recording or a 10pm recording just to 24 00:02:36,560 --> 00:02:41,560 get it in, but we cannot. I don't know. Are we getting older? Are we getting smarter? Like, 25 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:49,840 nothing is worse. Oh, the lack of sleep and preparation and like to just get something done. 26 00:02:49,840 --> 00:02:55,760 Oh, do you feel prepared today? That's interesting. I mean, we're talking about toxic traits. I'm very 27 00:02:55,760 --> 00:03:08,440 prepared. That's fun. I, yeah, I don't, I'm, I'm gonna go with, I'm gonna go with the, we're older 28 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:14,240 and wiser. Just agree with me. That's how you're gonna say that. I'm gonna go with that. I agree. I 29 00:03:14,240 --> 00:03:25,320 agree. What would you say? No, I think it's a, it's a part of that of being too tired. I think it's 30 00:03:25,320 --> 00:03:32,640 being too tired to put the energy. I know, but even like two months ago, we would be like, we 31 00:03:32,640 --> 00:03:37,560 have, we can't miss because we broke the seal. Oh, okay. I think we broke the seal and we were 32 00:03:37,560 --> 00:03:44,680 like, no one died. No one died. We missed a week. It was fine. We came back and it was fine. Yeah. 33 00:03:44,680 --> 00:03:51,280 Like, I don't know. I think once we did that, had we not taken one week off, you'd gotten sick 34 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:56,480 again, or you didn't get sick. Oh no, you didn't get sick again. I died and came back to life. This 35 00:03:56,480 --> 00:04:01,800 is a reincarnation. Carly and her whole family got the neurovirus. So anybody out there who has 36 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:08,840 also experienced that so far this season, God bless. Yeah. It sounded horrific. It was. I bought 37 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:16,600 me some Lysol. Oh my God. Anything I touch, she Lysoled. I, well, so I took care, Carly got this 38 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:21,000 neurovirus on vacation. Yeah. And it was the vacation from hell. I kind of wish you had recorded 39 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:26,920 it because entertainment, the rest of us. I'm not at the laughing mode yet because we lost a lot 40 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:32,440 of money and like a vacation I was looking forward to got ruined. So I'm not laughing yet, but one 41 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:39,080 day I will laugh at the amount of vomit in different rooms of the Airbnb at the same time. Oh, let's 42 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:45,400 not share where that Airbnb was. Let's keep that a secret. And hopefully nobody ever goes there again. 43 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:52,440 But yeah, if you have the neurovirus, you have the empathy and the sympathy of knowing what she's 44 00:04:52,440 --> 00:05:00,760 talking about. But if even if you did or didn't Lysol lemon spray, we were told. Yeah. Because we 45 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:05,640 talked about you a lot every day in class. We talked about it. All of all of our say that is 46 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:12,360 and I and the lemon Lysol spray that's like in the Windex type bottle is the only thing that 47 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:17,560 actually kills it off of a surface and it can live on a surface. It's the only virus that can live 48 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:24,840 on a surface for seven days. So I watched your dogs for one of the days because our mom who also 49 00:05:24,840 --> 00:05:30,280 had it was supposed to watch the dogs, which was not a six one half dozen the other. Like it didn't 50 00:05:30,280 --> 00:05:35,320 matter. But I sprayed your door. I opened your door. I sprayed your inside door. I opened the door. 51 00:05:35,320 --> 00:05:43,000 Did you spray the dogs? It didn't touch them. Okay, I was afraid to touch them because I didn't know 52 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:49,000 who pet the dog. Oh, you know, I don't. Not you. But Dean also had it when you left. Yeah. Her 53 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:55,320 five year old had it. I was like, it'll be gone by the time we get there. No. No. I sat I like 54 00:05:55,320 --> 00:05:59,320 stayed there for five hours to play with the dog. Yeah. And I sprayed the chair. I sprayed the table. 55 00:05:59,320 --> 00:06:04,920 I put my computer down. And then every time I went to go do something, which was really just 56 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:10,520 get the dog a treat. Then I brought my own treats. When I came back at nine o'clock, I brought my 57 00:06:10,520 --> 00:06:15,560 own bag because I was like, this is my bag. I'm not still on the mantle. I thought I was 58 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:19,400 I used them all. I literally got up this morning and I looked at Andrew and I said, I love when 59 00:06:19,400 --> 00:06:25,080 you leave the dog treats on the dog treats on the mantle. And he goes, they're victorious. And I was 60 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:31,800 like, Oh, I'm not mad anymore. They're human grade full moon dog treats. You could eat them if you 61 00:06:31,800 --> 00:06:37,320 wanted to. Okay. But I'm not a meat eater. So I can't eat them. Wait, one of my toxic traits 62 00:06:37,320 --> 00:06:43,320 is that I'm not good product placement. I am completely covering the mug that I'm holding. 63 00:06:44,680 --> 00:06:51,320 You do you. It's our it's our mug. You do you. Anyway, so yeah, if you've been sick, so sorry 64 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:58,200 about it, but it is still the season. So be vigilant, wash your hands, wash anything and 65 00:06:58,200 --> 00:07:03,320 everything you can touch, especially if you've got Petrie dishes living in your house. Otherwise, 66 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:10,040 known as children. Otherwise known as children. I do think one of our joint toxic traits is that 67 00:07:10,040 --> 00:07:16,840 I think maybe we just got over for the first time in 36 39 years is that if we don't do something we 68 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:22,440 said we were going to do the world will fall apart and people will be disappointed and we're 69 00:07:23,240 --> 00:07:28,520 you know, all that kind of stuff and it didn't happen when we missed one week. Oh yeah, we're 70 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:34,680 so we're coming back. Yeah, I'm circling back to that because it is a toxic trait of ours. We don't 71 00:07:35,320 --> 00:07:39,080 like to disappoint or feel even if we didn't disappoint you at all and you're like, Oh, 72 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:45,320 I didn't even know that's probably what it is. I know. Oh, you guys did took a week off. I'm seven 73 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:53,160 episodes behind. We feel that when we take a break or we take a day off or we can't do something that 74 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:57,720 we said we were going to do our toxic trait is that we think the world is going to stop and be 75 00:07:57,720 --> 00:08:09,160 upset with us or disappointed. Oh, I just hold please. Okay, but don't I just posted something 76 00:08:09,160 --> 00:08:14,520 that really triggered what you're saying. Yes, I said triggered deal with it toxic trait. And I 77 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:19,960 got a lot of a lot of responses on our Fit to be real podcast DMs about it because it's so 78 00:08:19,960 --> 00:08:28,840 so. Did I see this real um well do you follow yet I think I do I think I follow it. 79 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:36,200 Um, rude. No, I you you've been posting a lot and I've been looking at them but I think I did 80 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:42,120 read it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Congrats to you're doing a great job. I think I deleted it. Hold on. What? 81 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:49,560 But it was about that. The gist was oh, you know what Donna what's up Donna you DM'd me and I will 82 00:08:49,560 --> 00:08:56,920 go into our DMs because it'll be in there. It's about that feeling. Here it is. No one's mad at you. 83 00:08:57,480 --> 00:09:01,960 That's just an echo from how you grew up. You're safe. You can let it go. I read that like no one's 84 00:09:01,960 --> 00:09:07,880 going to be mad at you if like you said we don't follow through with something as small as 85 00:09:08,920 --> 00:09:13,400 recording an episode of a podcast that's just fun for us. Right. That's in the grand scheme of life. 86 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:19,160 Small. Yeah, everything is small. Right. But that's so true. And I saved that well clearly I deleted 87 00:09:19,160 --> 00:09:29,560 it but I saved it for a moment and I was just like yeah, it's a mix of guilt and feeling like 88 00:09:29,560 --> 00:09:34,840 we're going to get in trouble or like people are mad or the disappointment like remember when there 89 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:40,440 was nothing worse than who cares if mom was mad. Right. If she was like I'm disappointed in you. 90 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:44,840 Right. World was shattered. Done. And I feel like it's still like that. Oh my god, it's still like 91 00:09:44,840 --> 00:09:52,600 that. Well, we know how you feel. She's afraid that mom's going to ground her. 100%. She's 39. 92 00:09:52,600 --> 00:09:59,240 And she can do it with a look and she can ruin my mood for the rest of the week. We just had this 93 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:05,080 conversation with a seafit or the other day. My mom, whether she likes to admit it or not, 94 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,600 or she's even aware of it because it's not her problem, it's mine. She knows. I've told her many 95 00:10:08,600 --> 00:10:16,920 times. Okay. Her whatever she says or how what she thinks of like her opinion, it will ruin or make 96 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:29,240 my day. How sad. For you. She's probably feeling great or oblivious. It's okay. She's like 27 episodes 97 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:33,960 behind. We won't get here until the summer. She won't get to this. She forgot that she's on it. 98 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:39,720 She forgot. But it's, but that's true. And that's something you need to work on because that's, 99 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:44,360 yeah, that's silly. I know. It's somebody. I know. It's not just somebody that was your mom. 100 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:50,440 Right. It's a little different. I agree. Yeah. To an extent. I agree. I've been changing that. 101 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:55,240 I don't care about anything. I don't care about anyone, but that's not true. That is not true. 102 00:10:55,240 --> 00:11:00,200 I also saw a post this morning and I believe I saved it, but I'm not going to do what I just 103 00:11:00,200 --> 00:11:04,040 did and look for it. Oh, thank God. Where she was saying like, we have to stop calling it people 104 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:10,200 pleasing and calling it, um, I'm sacrificing myself for you because people pleasing kind of sounds 105 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:14,520 fun. Not fun, but like, oh, it's so nice. Yeah. It's a nice thing for you to do. Yeah. You want to 106 00:11:14,520 --> 00:11:19,160 make people happy and you want to go out of your way or you want to do something nice, pay it forward. 107 00:11:19,720 --> 00:11:24,680 But at what expense? That's because that's really what people pleasing is. And so if we just didn't 108 00:11:24,680 --> 00:11:29,480 call it people pleasing and we called it like, I'm sacrificing myself. I'm dishonoring myself for you. 109 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:35,560 Right. I would not do so many things. Right. I think what you just said is completely false. 110 00:11:36,360 --> 00:11:43,560 No, no, no, not that. No, not the second part. I think you care way too much about other people 111 00:11:43,560 --> 00:11:49,720 to a fault. Like you have so much empathy for other people and their situations where sometimes I'm 112 00:11:49,720 --> 00:11:55,560 like, I have no feeling at all. Like I think, do you know what I mean? So I don't think that's true 113 00:11:55,560 --> 00:11:58,840 about you that you're like, I don't care about anything. I think you care about everything. 114 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:02,520 I do, but I've been working really hard on not letting it affect my entire day. 115 00:12:02,520 --> 00:12:06,760 And that's very different than me. Yeah. That's, I think what I, yeah, I agree. I totally agree. 116 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:12,840 I have, all I do is think about the other person, what just happened and what could be, what can I 117 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:18,360 change and what can I make better? And that's one of my toxic traits. Or how can I help them? 118 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:23,720 Or how can we make you feel that you need to understand this person's point of view because 119 00:12:23,720 --> 00:12:28,040 you're clearly. Oh, God forbid. Yeah. I do that for you. I know. It's annoying. 120 00:12:28,040 --> 00:12:35,240 Just wants me to dive into all of her irrational anger. Well, my toxic trait is I'll just cut you 121 00:12:35,240 --> 00:12:45,720 off, but you'll smile and talk to their faces. 100%. What a bitch. What a bit. My toxic trait is I'm 122 00:12:45,720 --> 00:12:53,720 a bitch. Cool. Cool. That's new. Well, let's get into some of these toxic traits. Okay. What is 123 00:12:53,720 --> 00:12:59,400 a toxic trait? Victoria recently asked me that, wait, do we have a new book? Yeah. What is this 124 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:06,360 bougie thing? One of my toxic traits is the more books I buy makes me feel like I will actually 125 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:10,280 be productive and use it and work harder. Tell me you have kids without telling me of kids. 126 00:13:10,920 --> 00:13:16,840 This cute little fake leather bound book has smiling face stickers all over it. Melody. 127 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:25,320 And not in great placement. No. So here you go. I buy journals and notebooks a lot to try and like 128 00:13:25,320 --> 00:13:30,360 use them. And I do the same thing with water bottles. I will buy a great water bottle thinking it's 129 00:13:30,360 --> 00:13:34,840 going to increase my water intake when I'm just going to buy a new one when a new color comes out. 130 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:41,800 And shoes and shirts and pants. We'll get to that. And jackets. What is a toxic trait? 131 00:13:41,800 --> 00:13:47,720 Something you do over and over and over again. The definition of insanity. No, that's a 132 00:13:47,720 --> 00:13:52,440 insanity. That's a different episode. This is a toxic trait. I don't know. Tell us. It is a harmful 133 00:13:52,440 --> 00:13:58,520 behavior that can damage relationships or personal growth. Oh, I did mine wrong. So it could be, 134 00:13:58,520 --> 00:14:03,960 well, some of my toxic traits are for the every man. Like they're sort of funny. Some of them are 135 00:14:03,960 --> 00:14:13,400 serious. Are you made humor out of it? Yeah. Are you being sarcastic? Sure am. Some examples of toxic 136 00:14:13,400 --> 00:14:23,960 traits. Gaslighting. Blaming. Possessiveness. Shut your mouth. Isolation. Drama. Manipulation. 137 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:30,040 Negativity and victim mentality. So we're not getting into like toxic relationships. We're 138 00:14:30,040 --> 00:14:36,520 not going to be like, sounds so fun. I know, but it's serious. No, I'm being sarcastic. Yeah, okay. 139 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:42,920 So we're going to talk about some of our personal toxic traits today. And maybe you have the same 140 00:14:42,920 --> 00:14:50,200 ones. Maybe you see them in us and you already know these about us. I feel like our partners have 141 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:58,680 a lot on the list already. Oh, yeah. Wait, did you pick ones for me? No. No, okay, good. Because I 142 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:02,760 didn't pick any for you. There's too many. That's a different episode. This was your spearhead. 143 00:15:03,320 --> 00:15:07,880 You told me to do one thing. I did it. Well, you did not leave me a box of tissues. 144 00:15:09,880 --> 00:15:14,120 Would you like a toilet paper or a paper roll? No, I'm good. All right, let's get into it. Toxic 145 00:15:14,120 --> 00:15:21,080 tree number one. This is a more serious one. I'm not going to justify each one, but this one is, 146 00:15:21,080 --> 00:15:26,360 I won't ask for help. But when I get overwhelmed, I get angry that I have no help. Oh my God, 147 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:31,240 it's so annoying and it's such a cycle. And this is so true. I'm mad. 148 00:15:33,880 --> 00:15:41,240 I will never ask for help. I'm how sad. I know. Listen, tagline to the day. 149 00:15:42,840 --> 00:15:47,880 Real housewife of Springfield. I will never ask for help, but I'll get mad when you don't help me. 150 00:15:47,880 --> 00:15:57,320 I just want to throw an orange at you. No, it's a soft pretzel. I have to hold a soft pretzel. 151 00:15:57,320 --> 00:16:03,080 Okay. Yeah, I'm throwing a natty light at your head. That's better. But yeah, that's a toxic 152 00:16:03,080 --> 00:16:07,960 tree to mine. I will never ask for help and get mad at you when you don't offer. Yeah, we're going 153 00:16:07,960 --> 00:16:16,840 to ignore it because it's so true. I can't understand what I said. Okay. Okay. That's a toxic 154 00:16:16,840 --> 00:16:25,640 tree. I did this two seconds ago. Okay. Using, okay, using half a jar of a condiment or a sauce 155 00:16:26,440 --> 00:16:30,360 and then putting it in the fridge intentionally to be like, okay, well, I'm not going to waste this 156 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:38,600 money and then watching it grow more sauce, fuzzy style until I throw it out, which I don't want to 157 00:16:38,600 --> 00:16:42,680 do because I've opened it, looked at it and instead of throwing it away, I put it back on the shelf. 158 00:16:42,680 --> 00:16:50,360 And then you buy a new one. Yeah. Yeah. That is a, that's, I think that's what I do with shampoos. 159 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:57,240 They don't get moldy, but I will use a half a bottle and then when it's too hard to get it out, 160 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:02,520 I'll just buy a new one. Oh my God. No. Yeah. You open it, you put water in it, you shake it up, 161 00:17:02,520 --> 00:17:06,440 you use it, everything that's onto the sides of it. Why don't you do that with your condiments? 162 00:17:06,440 --> 00:17:14,920 Because they're growing life. They're with child. Do you just use ketchup like sometimes and then 163 00:17:14,920 --> 00:17:18,600 you don't use it for six months? I know ketchup will stay in there forever because it's not real. 164 00:17:18,600 --> 00:17:27,400 So toxic trait, cool. But it's just toxic. It's just no, like, like gravy or a pesto, 165 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:32,360 a jar, a little jar best pesto or I'm trying to think what's in there right now. 166 00:17:32,360 --> 00:17:39,880 Uh, curry sauce, butter chicken sauce from Target. I have ketchup and mustard. 167 00:17:41,960 --> 00:17:46,520 Lies. I have so many things that I have not opened to 10 years. Okay. I share your toxic trait. I 168 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:50,600 went in because I was like, Hey, I'm at your house for five hours watching your dog. Let me just like 169 00:17:50,600 --> 00:17:57,720 eat a little snack. Immediately shut the door full to the brim of food going away for four, five 170 00:17:57,720 --> 00:18:02,840 days because I food shop to take it away with us. What did you leave in the refrigerator? All the old 171 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:10,280 stuff. Why didn't you out? It smelled horrible. Every condiment you have is from BJ. So it's huge. 172 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:17,640 Yeah. And you can't find anything. And then there I said hello to whoville in some of the 173 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:23,320 things on the door. So it looks like we share the same toxic trait. Yeah, but yours is way more 174 00:18:23,320 --> 00:18:31,560 intense. Okay. Next one. Oh, okay. This one's another series. I do have fun ones, but this 175 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:37,160 one's another serious one too. I think Victoria will vouch for me. Prove it. Okay. I go silent when 176 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:44,120 I'm hurt or bothered and assume you'll figure it out. I go silent, like radio silent. Yeah. 177 00:18:44,120 --> 00:18:49,720 When she's not into something, even if it's like say this isn't like even an anger thing, 178 00:18:49,720 --> 00:18:54,520 it's just like she doesn't agree with what you're doing or she doesn't agree with who you're talking 179 00:18:54,520 --> 00:19:02,520 to or who you're dating. Sorry, this got personal. I like you, Pedro. I like you. I said give you a 180 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:09,560 chance. I mean, oh no, this isn't about Pedro, but at all. But you would just be, you would just 181 00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:13,240 never talk about it again. No, never bring it up. Never talk about it. If it's anger, 182 00:19:13,240 --> 00:19:20,040 it's there's, there's a glimmer in the eye. Yeah. There's a silence. Silence. I am a silent 183 00:19:20,920 --> 00:19:27,480 fighter. But a glimmer. Yeah. Yeah. You're so healthy. You're the picture of health. 184 00:19:28,200 --> 00:19:31,720 And I'm going to justify it by saying I don't like confrontation. So instead of 185 00:19:31,720 --> 00:19:38,280 confrontating, I go silent. Look it up. It's a word. Instead of confrontating. 186 00:19:38,280 --> 00:19:44,280 I will go silent. Anyway, next one. How does that work out for you? Next one. 187 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:52,040 And all of your problems. Next one. Okay. My toxic trait is wearing socks to bed in the winter, 188 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:58,040 but taking them off in my sleep and then not fishing them out when I make the bed every morning. 189 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:05,240 So I have a sock graveyard. So when I finally wash my sheets, I'm like, oh my God, where are these 190 00:20:05,240 --> 00:20:10,360 these? Wait, I don't, I don't know this about you because I don't sleep here. So 191 00:20:13,400 --> 00:20:18,280 that's disgusting. The other night we went to bed and I was like, wait, what is that? And I pulled 192 00:20:18,280 --> 00:20:24,440 a sock. I went, oh, surprises. Thank God. I found a sock. Oh my God. That's the weirdest thing I've 193 00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:29,880 ever heard. Like you, you're cold. So you put fuzzy socks on comfy, cute fuzzy socks. And I don't, 194 00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:34,120 I get very hot. I'm a furnace. So I get hot in the middle of the night. So I'm in my sleep. I 195 00:20:34,120 --> 00:20:40,600 guess I get hot and then I, oh my God. No one, I'm not awake to do it. No one guaranteed. I'm 196 00:20:40,600 --> 00:20:47,160 putting up a poll on our Instagram. No one shares that toxic trait with you lies. Show out. Let's go. 197 00:20:48,360 --> 00:20:55,000 On the, on the subject of clothes. Blow your nose. Give me some toilet paper. No, I'm good. I'm good. 198 00:20:55,000 --> 00:21:01,720 I'm good. My toxic trait is having a closet of clothes, but wearing the same black shirt and jeans 199 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:08,280 every time I go out. Yeah. It's either a black turtleneck and jeans with my boots or it's a 200 00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:13,720 black bodysuit and jeans with my boots every single time. I think that's called body dysmorphia. 201 00:21:14,600 --> 00:21:19,240 It is. Cause I know that that looks good. And when I try something else on and it doesn't look as 202 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:23,400 good, I'm like, I'm just going to go back to what I know. But I have thousands of dollars worth of 203 00:21:23,400 --> 00:21:32,120 clothes in my closet and I will do that. I will put on nine outfits and then end up in the same black 204 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:38,440 shirt and jeans. I'm going to circle back. Okay. Tens of thousands of dollars in the closet, 205 00:21:39,320 --> 00:21:46,440 not $1,000 in the closet. It's tens of thousands. I could have gone to Disney. Damn it. 206 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:56,840 Yeah. We all know that. Yeah. I stopped buying clothes. Did you? I did. I bought, I just took 207 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:01,320 the tags off, but I bought this a while ago. I could never wear anything that said New York 208 00:22:01,320 --> 00:22:06,120 while I was living in New York. So when I left New York, all I do now, anytime I see something that 209 00:22:06,120 --> 00:22:11,960 says New York, I'm like, I can wear this now. So this is, this is like something I've never 210 00:22:11,960 --> 00:22:18,840 gotten to. Your brain is exhausting. I cannot imagine. I was like, I'm a New Yorker. I can't 211 00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:22,120 wear a shirt that says New York. That's such a tourist thing. And now every time I go to New 212 00:22:22,120 --> 00:22:25,720 York, I buy a New York T-shirt. Moving on. Okay. Toxic trait. That was extra. 213 00:22:32,360 --> 00:22:38,840 Making an entire pot of coffee every single day just to have one mug of it and then dumping 214 00:22:38,840 --> 00:22:44,760 it in the morning said rest of coffee every single day to remake an entire pot of coffee. 215 00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:51,880 Are you serious? Here's the thing. I put it under the faucet and then I go try to do a 216 00:22:51,880 --> 00:22:56,280 million other things. And when I go back, the water's filled like so high. So I'm like, all 217 00:22:56,280 --> 00:23:00,760 right, whatever. But I, I stopped drinking multiple cups of coffee in the morning. I just drink one. 218 00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:07,400 And I've done the thing where I put it in a pitcher and I'm like, okay, I'll do cold 219 00:23:07,400 --> 00:23:16,200 iced coffee and I'll refrigerate it. But I don't like that. Oh, I'm, I can't move my face. Fun fact, 220 00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:22,600 iced coffee in the fridge gets moldy. Hi, let's go check. If you didn't know, 221 00:23:24,120 --> 00:23:33,480 what, why don't you just learn how to make one cup? Okay. Okay. Toxic trait. Do you know how to 222 00:23:33,480 --> 00:23:41,160 make coffee at all? No. My toxic trait is I will go buy it. What, what a waste. I know how to make 223 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:46,600 it. Like I don't measure my coffee. I just dump. I'm like, oh, it looks good. Yeah. Yeah. And, but 224 00:23:46,600 --> 00:23:55,000 it always tastes good. So like I'm really good at it. But this is decent. Well, yours is drowning 225 00:23:55,000 --> 00:24:01,640 in fake dairy cream. So I love fake dairy cream. It's so good. I can't believe you do that. I'm 226 00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:08,360 disappointed that you throw out gold. What do you want me to do with it? Black gold. Drink more 227 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:16,040 drink more coffee. Oh God, no, I'm trying to live. Well, I'm going to skip this one and go back to 228 00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:22,840 it because my next one is telling others to cut off their coffee intake to help with anxiety 229 00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:31,800 and health issues while I'm drinking coffee. I was thinking back on how many episodes we've told 230 00:24:31,800 --> 00:24:37,800 people to like anybody that has like TMJ, you should, you know, not drink as much coffee. If 231 00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:41,720 you have anxiety, don't drink as much coffee. If you're doing this, don't sleep problems. 232 00:24:41,720 --> 00:24:47,400 While I'm drinking my fifth cup of coffee, that is a toxic trait of mine. Go. 233 00:24:47,400 --> 00:24:56,920 It's cute that you think you're funny. My toxic trait. My toxic traits make me laugh. 234 00:24:58,920 --> 00:25:06,360 Moving on. Okay. My toxic trait. I just got that. Okay. Pedro, this one's for you because this is 235 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:12,760 a toxic trait you know I have. Are you think is my toxic trait? It's not the sock thing. 236 00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:21,480 No, what? That's endearing. Oh God. Okay. Hearing. Okay. I didn't know how to write this out. So 237 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:29,000 hearing a yay or an nay of something that you like and going all in on it. So if you're sitting here 238 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:37,720 and you're like, Oh yeah, I really like blue socks, then I'm going to just only ever buy you 239 00:25:37,720 --> 00:25:43,160 blue. Oh yes. And if you say you don't like something, I like put it on a list of like no, never going 240 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:50,440 to ever get that for you again. You do not like this. And so where did you get this toxic trait, 241 00:25:50,440 --> 00:25:59,240 Victoria? Who gave you this toxic trait? My mom. Ding, ding, ding. Yeah. Okay. My mom. 242 00:25:59,240 --> 00:26:09,160 But I don't hear it that way. Like I don't. Yeah. I disassociate, I guess. I'm just like, 243 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:13,480 Oh, they don't like that. I want to make sure that they're happy all the time. So like, I'm never 244 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:19,320 going to invite that into the conversation or to purchase it or yada, yada, yada. So when there 245 00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:22,280 are things that pop up, I'm like, Oh, no, no, no, you don't like to eat that. And he was like, 246 00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:28,040 What? I know. She said, I love that. When we first met him. Oh, he's not like a sweet person. 247 00:26:28,040 --> 00:26:33,560 And he's like, I never said that. He said, I didn't want it that night. And I don't like, 248 00:26:33,560 --> 00:26:37,240 like I like salty more than sweets, but anytime I'm like, Hey, do you want dessert? Oh, wait, 249 00:26:37,240 --> 00:26:40,520 wait, wait, wait, you're not a sweets person. He's like, I never said that. 250 00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:50,920 And our mom's the same way. If she, if you tell her you like her shirt, she will have it on your 251 00:26:50,920 --> 00:26:55,960 doorstep the next morning in four different colors. I'm just honoring myself for you. 252 00:26:55,960 --> 00:27:02,760 You know, I'm people's pleasing. That is a toxic trait. Yeah. Yeah, I know. I hear you. I hear you. 253 00:27:03,320 --> 00:27:08,440 I'm working on it. Well, we'll see. I'm going to put more cucumbers in the salad. Oh my God. 254 00:27:11,080 --> 00:27:19,960 Oh, this is one that I think a lot of people share with me. I say no worries a lot. For in fact, 255 00:27:19,960 --> 00:27:30,360 I worry a lot. When I say no worries, it means I, that was a high coup. I, I never once in my life 256 00:27:30,360 --> 00:27:35,160 have ever meant the word no worries. So if I say no worries, you shouldn't say no worries. That's 257 00:27:35,160 --> 00:27:40,280 not your vibe. Yeah. Oh, no worries or no problem. It's all the problem and it's all the worry. 258 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:45,320 So I never mean that. You're a liar. Yeah. Your toxic trait is I'm a bitch and a liar. 259 00:27:45,320 --> 00:27:59,400 I'm a liar. No, I'm a, I'm a, what are you? It's just a mother. I'm just a mother. That's all. 260 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:05,560 She doesn't curse. Oh, she doesn't know. Just I'm a mother. I'm a, I'm a B. I'm a mother. 261 00:28:05,560 --> 00:28:15,000 I'm a B. Go toxic trait. I spell my curse words, but internally I just want to say the F word. 262 00:28:16,200 --> 00:28:20,840 It's a sad toxic trait for you. Nope. That wasn't mine. I'll just say it out loud. 263 00:28:23,160 --> 00:28:30,520 Okay. Okay. Toxic trait is constantly buying really cute baseball hats, but never wearing them 264 00:28:30,520 --> 00:28:36,840 unless I'm in desperation, i.e. right now. Yeah. But I have a box of hats. A lot of them are beanies 265 00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:43,560 or yeah, beanies, which I love, but I beanies. I do wear beanies, but baseball hats. I hate myself 266 00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:49,400 in a hat. I think you look really cute in a hat because my hair is keratin full and it's straight. 267 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:55,960 But if I had my normal curly hair, it would be small head and big. Yeah. And it just, 268 00:28:55,960 --> 00:29:00,440 I already have around. I don't know. It's like the things that you look in the mirror for too long 269 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:04,920 and like nobody else sees it. Yeah. It's body dysmorphia. Oh yeah. I totally have that. Yeah. 270 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:13,480 Toxic trait. 100%. Yeah. But I love a baseball hat. I think they're cute. I think there, 271 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,920 there's some of them are really clever. I'll go to five below. I'll look at the hats at five below. 272 00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:23,320 Who needs a five below hat? No one. I have five. Yeah. I know. I have a Christmas hat from Michael's 273 00:29:23,320 --> 00:29:29,320 and it's really chunky and big and it's got a cute felt Christmas tree. Do you think I wore it 274 00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:36,920 at Christmas? No. Yeah. But I'm desperate right now. And I didn't want to look like I had a sweatshirt 275 00:29:36,920 --> 00:29:41,480 and a beanie on. So I wore this. I know. I like your beanies too, but you look cute in a hat. So 276 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:50,680 whatever. Okay. This one Victoria shares with me and she'll, she may deny it, but we'll see. 277 00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:55,960 I'm gonna say making plans way ahead of time and trying desperately to cancel the day of 100%. 278 00:29:57,960 --> 00:30:01,640 I feel like I have liquid courage, even if I'm not drinking, which 279 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:07,960 this is not on the subject, but I'm not right now just because I don't want to be, 280 00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:13,080 but I have, I know that had nothing to do with anything. Are you okay? Yeah. Yeah. 281 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:19,640 I feel like I have liquid courage a month ahead of time when I make plans and I'm like, 282 00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:24,520 yes, I'm so excited. And then I have anxiety like four days before, three days before, 283 00:30:25,240 --> 00:30:28,600 and I'm trying to get out of it. And then you go and you have a great time. Yes. 284 00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:36,040 Look in the mirror. You do it too. I 100% agree with this toxic trait. 285 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:43,800 Why do we do this? Because we're tired. When are we not going to be tired? When we're dead. 286 00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:54,760 When we get close to it, I mean, how many times have we tried to cancel? No, no, to schedule. 287 00:30:54,760 --> 00:31:00,040 And then it doesn't work out because schedules don't align. So what we do as people pleasers is we 288 00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:06,840 go with the least convenient option just to get it done and be like, yeah, okay, it doesn't really 289 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,680 work for us because we're going to be rushing and sweating and gross and try to change, 290 00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:14,360 but let's make it happen. So then it comes up and we're like, oh my God, I cannot believe we 291 00:31:14,360 --> 00:31:19,960 agreed to this. Yeah, why did we do this? Because we never have a morning off on a weekend night 292 00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:26,200 to like fully relax, have fun. So it's always like, I just, I want to be in bed. We have to get 293 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:34,200 up early. Like there's always something next week to think about. Right. So that's why. Okay, we can 294 00:31:34,200 --> 00:31:42,120 justify that one. Buying a new plant every other time I go to the grocery store. It's so stupid. 295 00:31:42,680 --> 00:31:47,560 They're dead. They're not dead. They're sad. I have to water them. Oh my God. I have to, 296 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,680 they tell you when they're ready and they've been, they've been ready. Here's the thing, 297 00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:55,160 it takes me 25 minutes. So many plants because all I do is buy a new one. Oh my God, they're all dead. 298 00:31:55,160 --> 00:32:03,800 They're not dead. Don't, don't listen to her. You're beautiful. You're beautiful. I sing to them 299 00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:08,440 when I water them because it's a thing. Look it up. And they're just sad. It's on my list of 300 00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:13,320 things to do today. It's on my list of things to do and it won't get done because they really will 301 00:32:13,320 --> 00:32:19,240 die. Oh my God, they're close to death. I'm sorry. They're saying, Hey, it's time. That's what I look 302 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:26,280 like when I need to be fed. Toxic trait. Oh, this one's a good one. And I think I will, 303 00:32:26,280 --> 00:32:32,760 some of you will say the same telling Andrew that everything in the house only costs $20. 304 00:32:32,760 --> 00:32:38,680 What, what it could have been like 100. Like anytime I come home with a bag, I'm like, Oh my God, 305 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:42,600 look at this. It was only 20 bucks. Do you think he doesn't know how to read a receipt? I don't, 306 00:32:42,600 --> 00:32:49,400 Oh, I never show him receipts on the credit card. I don't have a credit card. I only have a debit 307 00:32:49,400 --> 00:33:00,440 card. Toxic trait. You're not a part of society. Or he just like, he doesn't check it. I think he 308 00:33:00,440 --> 00:33:06,680 does. Do you remember when he put you on a budget and you were more angry than anything I've ever 309 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:13,560 seen you angry for? Oh, did you see this couch I bought? It was only $20. Andrew, do you believe 310 00:33:13,560 --> 00:33:20,440 this? Malarkey? Maybe he doesn't believe me anymore. And he just lets me go. It's been 27 years. I 311 00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:24,440 don't think he believes a word you say. Like when the boxes show up on the front porch, I'm like, 312 00:33:24,440 --> 00:33:28,120 Oh my God, I got these sneakers. They're only 20 bucks. He's like sneaker sneakers came. I'm like, 313 00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:37,880 Yeah, they were on sale for 20 bucks. How crazy. Andrew, he doesn't watch us. Andrew. 314 00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:47,720 Toxic trait of Andrews. I don't think that that's too much of a lie. Financial issues are like 315 00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:54,600 number one problem in relationships. Oh, but when we don't have any finances, there's the thing to 316 00:33:54,600 --> 00:34:00,040 lie about. You can like, it's all there. You can see if you really wanted to see it. I just say 317 00:34:00,040 --> 00:34:04,840 that. Are you guys, are you here? Did you hear this? No, I'm saying when you don't have a lot of 318 00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:11,640 money, you really don't have a lot to lose. You know what I mean? So you do when they're on your feet. 319 00:34:12,680 --> 00:34:20,760 Well, or you're sitting on it and you don't need it. They were $20. They're Nike. They were 150. 320 00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:32,440 No, I won't spend that. They were 20. How cute. Hold, look what $20 can buy you. Yeah, $20 can 321 00:34:32,440 --> 00:34:40,280 buy you lies. I just looked down at my phone and Pedro said, I feel heard. Number one, thank you for 322 00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:47,400 watching producer. Number two, I'm trying. No more blue socks for him. Just pick something. No, 323 00:34:47,400 --> 00:34:51,880 I said it was socks. It's usually about food where I'm like, Oh, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 324 00:34:51,880 --> 00:34:58,120 you don't like that. And he's like, what? And I have a list of no's and yeses. When's his birthday? 325 00:34:58,120 --> 00:35:05,400 March 28th. Okay, I will get you a no sugar birthday cake because I know you don't like sweets. 326 00:35:07,320 --> 00:35:12,760 Somebody told me once that you don't like sweets or dessert. He said I didn't like peanut butter, 327 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:17,400 but it's like, he doesn't prefer Reese's because it's just like all peanut butter. But if peanut 328 00:35:17,400 --> 00:35:21,640 butter is in like, you know, peanut butter ice cream, swirl or whatever, he's like, yeah, I love it. 329 00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:25,240 And I'm like, you don't like peanut butter. He's like, I love peanut butter. My God, Pedro, your 330 00:35:25,240 --> 00:35:30,840 toxic trait is you don't like peanut butter. No, she didn't do. She just heard what she wanted to hear. 331 00:35:30,840 --> 00:35:35,000 Okay, toxic trait. It's a family thing. Oh God, please don't leave. Okay. 332 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:43,000 Moving on. Okay, this kind of goes on your, your money thing, but I don't lie about money. So, 333 00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:51,240 but maybe it's different. Saving every receipt, like paper receipt, putting it in a box of just 334 00:35:51,240 --> 00:35:57,160 for seeds. I literally have a giant, oh, I know I've seen a box of receipts, but not using those 335 00:35:57,160 --> 00:36:08,200 receipts at tax time using the online online, you know, credit bank reports. Your mom, you are mom. 336 00:36:09,080 --> 00:36:17,880 I know. I just because I'm laughing too. You are snotting. Mom has receipts from 1972 in the basement. 337 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:24,120 You are her. Well, I don't have a basement. You're going to need a bigger place to house your receipts. 338 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:29,160 What does that come about? You're going to need a bigger place to house your receipts. 339 00:36:30,680 --> 00:36:34,600 You're going to need a bigger place to house your receipts. 340 00:36:34,600 --> 00:36:39,320 It's not going to hurt you. Wasn't it a commercial? You're going to need a bigger box. You're going to 341 00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:46,440 need a bigger, I don't know. Well, guess what? No one's going to come for you and ask for those 342 00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:53,880 receipts from Rade Aid. No one. You don't know. I do know. It's not for that. It's so that I can 343 00:36:53,880 --> 00:36:59,320 itemize all of my expenses, write offs, but you're not going to do it with paper receipts. 344 00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:07,400 If I paid cash, I will. You won't. You won't. Okay. My taxes. You don't even do your taxes. 345 00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:15,400 You don't even know. Oh God. I don't. I help. I try and help. Yeah. You spend $20. 346 00:37:15,400 --> 00:37:21,800 $20. Okay. This is a big one. This is a big one. 347 00:37:23,560 --> 00:37:27,880 Texting for a straight hour with you, but then when you call, I will immediately decline. 348 00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:36,680 I've never been more angry than hearing that you understand that. Oh, I know. I do it. 349 00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:41,720 I have no problem texting with you for hours and joking and being so funny. We're having 350 00:37:41,720 --> 00:37:49,400 a great conversation and then you call. Who do you do that with? Not me. I will decline. 351 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:54,520 Who do you have that funny, fun conversation with? I'd like to know. So Christina is a really good 352 00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:59,560 friend and she's screwed that. She always texts me and like is checking in. How do you feel? How 353 00:37:59,560 --> 00:38:04,200 the kids feel? Like she's very good. And we will text, but then she'll call me because she's like, 354 00:38:04,200 --> 00:38:12,600 I'm driving and I can't. And I'm like, no. No. Christina, give up on her. Give up. She's a 355 00:38:12,600 --> 00:38:17,480 horrible friend. She'll text and say, no one's dying, but I can't text anymore because I'm driving. 356 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:21,400 And I'm like, okay, conversation over. If no one was dying, she still wouldn't answer. 357 00:38:21,400 --> 00:38:28,360 Carly is on my not do not call list. I am crying right now because I know this about me. I know. 358 00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:34,440 Don't call me. Anybody just don't do it. Your mom. Mom loves to talk on the phone. 359 00:38:34,440 --> 00:38:40,200 Mom calls me at six a.m. to start talking on the phone. Yes, but mom, there was a stint of mom's 360 00:38:40,200 --> 00:38:47,000 life where she wasn't a good follow up friend. Oh yeah. Raising kids or whatever. But that's 361 00:38:47,000 --> 00:39:02,040 what I think of. Raising kids. Raising kids. You're right. The TV is, but the TV is doing a 362 00:39:02,040 --> 00:39:10,440 great, the C fit kids room is doing a great job. So just don't call me. Okay. Lesson. 363 00:39:10,440 --> 00:39:17,080 Don't call. I don't understand why you have a goddamn phone. So we can really send funny 364 00:39:17,080 --> 00:39:22,920 memes back and forth. Who do you do that with? I usually get, this is what we're playing tonight. 365 00:39:22,920 --> 00:39:26,840 This is what the playlist is. These are all the things that we have to do for work. 366 00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:32,200 And then she just responds, no, like she'll say, I'm busy. Or like, I'll send her the 367 00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:37,160 playlist and she'll be like, I'm busy. I'll send her a playlist. She'll say, no, thanks. 368 00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:40,840 Talk to you. I don't look at her playlist until I show up and go, Oh, no, no, no, 369 00:39:40,840 --> 00:39:47,240 I'm not doing these after I make her change it. I spent at least an hour perfecting a playlist. 370 00:39:47,240 --> 00:39:52,600 She'll be like, Oh, I didn't look at it. Joke is on you. I'm out of talk to train. 371 00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:57,000 Okay. Perfect. I have one more that I don't know if Victoria shares with me or not. 372 00:39:58,040 --> 00:40:04,440 We don't text. So I wouldn't know. No, but we send memes on Instagram all day long. 373 00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:07,480 At least an hour a day. 374 00:40:09,880 --> 00:40:14,200 What is your toxic trait? Carly wanting to be invited to everything, 375 00:40:14,200 --> 00:40:18,680 but wanting to actually attend nothing. Yeah, I don't want to be invited to everything. 376 00:40:18,680 --> 00:40:25,000 I don't want to decline. Oh yeah. I feel like I always want to be included, 377 00:40:25,000 --> 00:40:28,760 but like I don't actually want to go. I just want to be thought of like, Oh, 378 00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:33,320 we should invite Carly. She's not going to come, but we should just invite her. 379 00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:36,600 But the more you don't come, the more they're like, well, we're not going to invite Carly. 380 00:40:36,600 --> 00:40:42,120 She never shows up. I know, but I want them to know that. Who's them? First of all, 381 00:40:43,000 --> 00:40:47,080 wait, my last toxic trait, my last toxic trait. We don't have friends 382 00:40:49,000 --> 00:40:55,560 because of our stunted personal and relationship growth. Speak for yourself, 383 00:40:56,920 --> 00:41:01,160 except neither one of my friends have called me back in two weeks and I've tried. 384 00:41:01,160 --> 00:41:05,080 I'm dying. Ladies, you know who you are. 385 00:41:06,680 --> 00:41:11,480 No, but that I think is always my toxic trait since I was little. I always want to be invited, 386 00:41:11,480 --> 00:41:16,600 but like I don't necessarily want to go. I don't want to go and I don't want to be invited. 387 00:41:16,600 --> 00:41:20,680 Okay, so you don't share that with me? Because I don't want, like there's nothing worse than 388 00:41:20,680 --> 00:41:27,400 being forced to decline something. So like, mom buys me clothes a lot. Yeah. And I'm like, 389 00:41:27,400 --> 00:41:32,920 please stop buying me clothes. All you do is return what you buy me because I don't want them 390 00:41:32,920 --> 00:41:39,560 and I don't like them and they don't fit. But she keeps doing it because she's thinking of me 391 00:41:39,560 --> 00:41:44,520 as she's being considerate and she's like, oh, I saw this at the store for you. And I'm like, great, 392 00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:48,600 that's great. That's for your other daughter, your third one that you don't have because Carly 393 00:41:48,600 --> 00:41:55,640 would never wear this either. But I don't, it makes me sad to constantly say no. Oh, 394 00:41:55,640 --> 00:42:07,640 yeah. No, I, I get, I get where your head is. I get that. I'm sorry. What? 395 00:42:08,360 --> 00:42:14,760 It's a song. Look it up. She's a admit. I get what your head is. But I also know that mom enjoys 396 00:42:14,760 --> 00:42:21,560 doing that. She just doesn't know who you are. Apparently. I don't think you do either. I do. 397 00:42:21,560 --> 00:42:27,480 I do because I know when I buy stuff for you, I know that you want it, but you would never buy it 398 00:42:27,480 --> 00:42:33,240 for yourself. It depends on when it is. Pedro, don't ever go to Carly and go, I need to buy her 399 00:42:33,240 --> 00:42:38,760 this. What should I do? She's going to think of what she thinks about it. That is true. It's, 400 00:42:38,760 --> 00:42:45,080 it's, she can only do it based on how she likes or doesn't like stuff. Would I want to be seen 401 00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:49,720 with her while wearing this? No, don't buy it. You just got to go with your gut. 402 00:42:49,720 --> 00:42:55,240 Yeah. Just got to go with your gut. You know me. You don't know me decide, but do not call 403 00:42:55,240 --> 00:43:03,480 Carly or Carmella. Well, those are our toxic traits that we could think of. There are plenty more, 404 00:43:03,480 --> 00:43:11,640 but I also have a game. Oh, and it is called is a fast. Did you think, did you think I would 405 00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:19,160 forget your toxic? I'm slipping under. I'm sorry. I'm distracted by the snot coming down your nose. 406 00:43:19,160 --> 00:43:22,920 I've been laughing a lot. Okay. It better be a fast game. It is. It's very fast and we're going 407 00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:29,400 to see what kind of toxic person Victoria is. I got gossip. I'm the gossip. Shocking. So just, 408 00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:36,360 there's that. So we're going to play your toxic. I'm slipping under. You sound just like her. 409 00:43:38,120 --> 00:43:43,720 I always used to describe myself as having Britney Spears legs because we have thick legs. 410 00:43:43,720 --> 00:43:56,440 No, we do. We have thick legs. Okay. I agree. Okay. What kind of toxic are you? Your friend 411 00:43:56,440 --> 00:44:02,040 tells you that they heard someone say that you're rude. You say, well, you know, I heard something 412 00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:07,560 bad about them, or I don't think they can talk. They're the rude one. This is my only true option. 413 00:44:08,440 --> 00:44:12,760 I wouldn't say either of those things. Oh, or this, I wasn't going to give you this option. 414 00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,960 I understand that they have a hard life. It's okay for them to be mean sometimes. 415 00:44:16,680 --> 00:44:21,080 That one is annoying. That's not my problem. That's their problem. This is someplace Victoria 416 00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:27,400 would never be. You're at a sleepover. What do you talk about first? True. What each of you got on 417 00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:33,800 the test the other day? How great each one of your friends are? Or how mean someone was to you the 418 00:44:33,800 --> 00:44:44,280 other day? Probably the test. Some yoga test. You're going to hell. It's fine. Oh, hot yoga. 419 00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:53,080 Yeah. In hell. They have hot yoga there. Go Indiana Jones. Let's go. What is your dream job? 420 00:44:53,080 --> 00:45:03,880 Boss of a company therapist. I just want job. Any job. Does it pay any job monies? Uh, 421 00:45:03,880 --> 00:45:08,200 therapists. It's pretty much what you do anyway. You know, it's really easy. 422 00:45:10,120 --> 00:45:15,160 How would you describe yourself? The best conversationalist. I'm just happy to have a 423 00:45:15,160 --> 00:45:22,440 place in the group. The pack leader. I'm a good conversationalist. I can talk to anybody. You can. 424 00:45:23,160 --> 00:45:29,000 I can relate to this called empathy. So I can really tap into. But I'm a good conversationalist 425 00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:35,320 too. You're a good liar. There's a difference. I am. Andrew has told me even though he doesn't need 426 00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:42,360 a wingman. I'm his wife. He says I'm the best wingman at parties. Should we talk about swinging? 427 00:45:42,360 --> 00:45:49,880 You like pineapples? Because I can walk into any party and we, I think because mom is the same way. 428 00:45:50,440 --> 00:45:56,520 Yeah. We can walk into a party and make you feel comfortable and like talk to anybody. 429 00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,640 Yeah. You don't sound confident right now, but. Well, I pulled the mic away and forgot. 430 00:46:01,720 --> 00:46:09,800 Okay. Last one. What is your most prized possession? My diary, myself. I love everything I have. 431 00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:15,240 I know what you said. Myself. I did not say that. Okay. 432 00:46:17,480 --> 00:46:24,600 I'm amazing. You're pride. You're a great person, but sometimes you can be a bit full of yourself. 433 00:46:24,600 --> 00:46:30,200 Because I said I like myself. You believe in yourself too much. What is this quiz from girls 434 00:46:30,200 --> 00:46:36,840 magazine? It's like from BuzzFeed. Oh my God. You can never believe in yourself too much unless 435 00:46:36,840 --> 00:46:40,920 your name is a Victoria Mayo. And then you believe in yourself just a little too much. 436 00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:49,080 No, that's R. Kelly. We can't sing that. You are canceled. Too confident. Too confident. 437 00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:56,920 That's okay. It's okay. I got gossip. Yeah. It's fine. No one is going to fight that. No. 438 00:46:58,920 --> 00:47:05,320 Ever. No. You watch Real Housewives. That's the answer. Yes. I don't like to be gossiped about. 439 00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:11,400 It hurts my feelings. Yeah. You can't have that sword. I know. Yeah, I know. I'm working on 440 00:47:11,400 --> 00:47:15,320 being a better person. Are you? I'm working on having more pride and being full of myself. 441 00:47:15,320 --> 00:47:25,400 And you can buy one for 20 bucks. So cheap. God. Exactly. So cheap. So this was fun. 442 00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:36,040 I highly recommend you do it with your friends. But what you should do to make it like level up 443 00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:41,000 is to give your friends what you think their toxic trade is and see if you're still friends after. 444 00:47:41,000 --> 00:47:46,840 Yeah. That's a fun like weed people out game. Yeah. Yeah. Weed people out. Did it work? Well, 445 00:47:46,840 --> 00:47:53,880 we weeded everybody out in our life. So we're good. Trying to weed you. Just kidding. We didn't. 446 00:47:53,880 --> 00:47:57,720 I'm kidding. You know, we have friends. Don't own a business, people. Yeah. If you want to have a life 447 00:47:57,720 --> 00:48:04,280 and friends and see them often, work for someone else. Do not own your own business. Yeah. We 448 00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:11,080 should have prefaced that. That's all it is. We like people. We just don't want to go out. I'm tired. 449 00:48:13,240 --> 00:48:19,160 But we want to be invited. I don't want to be invited. But yes, toxic traits are a good time. 450 00:48:19,160 --> 00:48:25,240 I love the. I think it's a good time. They are. This is a good time. Yeah. There's like a trend 451 00:48:25,240 --> 00:48:30,200 on like red flags, green flags, beige flags or something. What's a beige flag? It's like 452 00:48:30,920 --> 00:48:35,560 kind of what we just did. It's like a flag, but it's a funny flag. It's like a funny flag. It's 453 00:48:35,560 --> 00:48:40,280 not anything. It's just kind of like an in between quirk. It's really a quirk. And usually you talk 454 00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:46,040 about your partner with it. Like my husband's beige flag is this or whatever. That's what I'm 455 00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:52,840 seeing on the Instagram. So I like this trend. Yeah, it's fun. Do it with your friends. If you got them. 456 00:48:57,800 --> 00:49:01,400 I don't know how to wrap things up. Another toxic trait. Yep. We talk about it every week. 457 00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:11,720 Toxic trait. So just remember to buy our merch. Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay. It's coming to the 458 00:49:11,720 --> 00:49:18,760 website soon. Just have to figure it out. And you know, that you're always fit to be real and always 459 00:49:18,760 --> 00:49:32,680 allowed to be a little extra. For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for 460 00:49:32,680 --> 00:49:37,800 entertainment and educational purposes only. We are not healthcare professionals for all of your 461 00:49:37,800 --> 00:49:42,440 health, wellness, fitness and self care needs. Please refer to the medical professional in your 462 00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:48,280 life, your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. And then 463 00:49:48,280 --> 00:50:08,760 let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do. Okay. Okay, bye.