Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
We are 93 weeks into the game.
That is insane to me.
93 weeks.
93,000.
Dollars?
Halla!
Oh, it's 96.
It's 96.
I was going to let you go.
That's annoying.
Yeah, we've done this for, so if you are just tuning in and if you're not, this is our 93rd episode that we have consistently put out once a week.
I am going to pat ourselves on the back for that, no matter vacation, sickness, busy week schedules being crazy.
We're in that right now.
We get it done.
And I feel like the words in sickness and in health come to mind.
We are married to this podcast.
Victoria has listened to my voice nonstop for 93 weeks.
I didn't think working with you and like growing up with you would get worse.
Or like you get more potent.
Potent, yeah.
Okay, we are in the season.
Potency?
Well, yeah, well that and I was thinking potions.
That's a different word.
I know.
That's a completely different word.
But it sounded like, ooh, potent.
I'm a witch is potent.
You are a witch.
Farley's a witch in the not hippie sense.
No, I'm a bad witch.
Ew.
I don't know.
I'm potent.
You've made a potent.
Yeah, I made a potent.
We're a bit dizzy today.
Right.
I think it's something in the air.
It's something in the week.
It's something in the whole season.
Yeah, the whole month.
It's the end of October Halloween as we are recording today.
Halloween is tomorrow.
So I don't know how that happened.
I'm sure and I feel like a lot of people are with us with that sentiment.
Like how did October just fly by but at the same time feel like a very long time.
Like a very long month.
We're only still in October.
I know, but I feel like for the first time in a very long time.
For the first time in forever.
I'm proud of you.
Thank you.
That was for my kids movie.
I'm very proud of you.
I'm a giant child.
I know.
How dare you.
Listen, we know that.
I feel like for the first time in forever.
I have done October the right way.
Oh, wow.
What does that mean?
I got in all the things that I wanted to.
I know you posted a meme about me the other day of the guy from Adam's family.
Uncle Fester.
That is like, this is what I look like because I'm trying to be the mom that's like fitting
it all in and doing it well.
But all year long.
Yeah.
All year long.
But I feel like I actually did do all the fun things that I missed out on the past couple
years because we were so tired and overworked.
And I still am tired.
I'm still overworked, but I'm rearranging things.
So I feel like I've gotten it.
You're living more.
I'm living more and saying yes to the things that I want to do more and no to the things
that I don't want to do because it's messing with my yeses.
I actually agree with that.
Yeah.
For you or for me?
For you.
But also for me.
Yeah.
My goal, if we're going to take it back to the 2024 goals, my goal is to live more this
year and to not necessarily stop working, obviously, but in and among everything you just said, basically,
in and among the regular hustle just to start living, doing things, saying yes.
If you had heard the conversation right before we turned this podcast on to record, you would
not think that we're doing very well, but we're fine.
No, no, it was actually very on par.
What we did before this was a little vent session about what is going on on our day today and
things that bother us and things we haven't talked yet.
So it's 10 a.m.
It's 10 31 on 10 30.
Oh, very good.
Thank you.
And we are now speaking for the first time.
So it was like a vomit of this is everything that's going wrong today.
And usually we speak at 8 30 a.m.
Or before or 6 a.m.
And we have yet to talk to each other today, which is very rare and unusual.
So it was a word vomit when when I walked in.
Usually I ignore your 17 texts at 6 a.m.
while you're having your coffee until like now.
So it's been a day.
But that is what we're talking about today.
Venting, emotional dumpage.
Yeah, and.
And how it's normal and how it's very, very normal.
So tune in.
Here we go.
I'm Victoria.
Hey, guys, I'm Carly.
Emotional dumping isn't a word that I've like.
Heard of before or like a phrase I've heard of before.
I've heard of venting.
Well, yeah, I vent every single day.
But it's very different than emotional dumping.
Yeah, what's emotional dumping exactly.
So emotional dumping.
It's an act of unconsciously sharing your feelings or perspective without
the awareness of the other person and their emotional stator needs.
So it's that like.
It's the person that just complains about everything and doesn't care if
you're actually listening, but they're talking to talk.
They get stuck on something that's really bothering them and they can't talk
about anything else.
Right.
And you just have to sit there and be like, are you kidding me right now?
Like that, I think we all have had that.
I've had that moment before.
Yeah, me too.
But I think people live in that moment.
And I can think of two people in my world that I'm like, oh, they do that
all the time.
Name them.
Name them right now.
You.
For Bravo fans out there, Sarah.
Name them.
There's so many Bravo fans out there that can relate to what I'm saying.
Name them.
Okay.
Anyway, if I could find a sound effect that goes, I would add it, but I can't.
So I just did it.
Name them.
Okay.
I was going to say emotional dumpage sounds pretty negative.
And it is, it's living in a state of negativity.
But we don't say emotional like you're emotionally dumping on me.
I'm going to start.
We don't say that.
We just say, oh my God, you're venting like stop venting.
We do that.
However, there's a difference.
Healthy venting, healthy venting is a thing.
And it's basically just doing it consciously with the other person involved.
A healthy venting session occurs when the listener supports the person venting by offering supportive
responses, empathy for the situation, or just actively listening.
It's, it's honestly just having the open communication of being like, hey, this is bothering me.
Can I just, can I just let her all out right now?
And then you do it and then you don't have to keep doing it.
Right.
So after healthy venting has to come acceptance of the situation.
And or at the moment I'm just being like, okay, I got it out moving on with my day or
else it's just emotional dumpage and like unhealthy venting.
Right.
And I, I feel like there's been times when I've been emotionally dumping where I've
realized it.
I've realized while I'm doing it and think, you know, oh God, how do I stop?
How do I stop myself?
Or how do I get myself out of this?
Yeah.
Without just completely being like, okay, never mind.
Well, I think it just, I think it comes with communication to be like, I just realized
that I just started spewing all of this at you without like talking to you.
Thank you.
I don't need to keep talking.
Like you just have to like talk your way.
I know I'm not a good talker.
You know this.
You're really not.
No.
You're really not.
You talk more in your mind, which talks you out of things that are usually the right
things.
I know.
And in that case, it's like, I think that's what kind of what part of the process of what
we were going to do today, because we have 10 things that we hate about you.
10 things I hate about you.
Do you guys get it?
But really, it's not about the other person or people.
It's just 10 things that we're going to spew off that we believe universally people are
just like, need to vent about sometimes.
I agree.
And that's how it came to be.
Because it's like, it should happen.
If eventing should happen or else you're going to hold it in.
And then it turns into emotional dumpage if you don't.
So it's okay to have those moments.
I think the problem is nobody like what you just said feels comfortable getting out of
those.
Getting out of it.
Yeah.
So then it gets awkward and then it's like, oh, I don't want to do that because I don't
want to feel that feeling again of awkward and like shame.
Oh, you should come into my world.
I feel that at least every 15 minutes awkward and shame, at least awkward.
We all try and live in a positive space daily, but it's impossible to live like that.
There are things that everybody hates and it's okay to have negativity.
Yeah.
You have to have it.
Exactly.
Just like the highs and lows and as we've talked about before.
And I think that we all, like Victoria said, we all don't like a lot of the same things.
So sometimes when you acknowledge it, you can either laugh at it or figure out how to
like it a little more or less or just like being different at that point.
Like some of the things that I'm going to say, but there are things that I'm like, oh
my gosh, we hate these.
How annoying is this?
Right.
And the grand scheme of things like who cares?
Who cares?
Yeah.
But in the moments that you feel the negativity towards these specific things, you feel it
strongly.
But you just have to let it go.
There are so many things in the moment that I just cannot get over.
And then the next day I'm like, oh God, I may have overreacted.
I just, no, I'll never admit it.
I'll never say die.
And I will go harder and harder.
Horter.
You are the most unhealthy person I know.
Oh my God.
It's the season of the witch, y'all.
She's coming out.
I know.
But I've said to you, Dayan, I am aware of all my faults.
I'm aware of what I'm doing.
The back of my brain works so hard to tell me that I'm doing something wrong or saying
something wrong or to let something go.
And I am so good at ignoring it.
Why just the back of your brain?
Because I don't know.
Your pino glands in the front.
Your what?
Say it again.
What's going on?
Say it again.
Oh my God.
How do you name them?
How do you have three children?
I don't know.
What the?
Ten things I hate about you.
Sometimes you just need to vent.
Carly and I are going to rattle off five things each that we hope wherever you are listening
right now, you go, oh my God, me too.
Thank God someone just said it out loud.
Or we hope you resonate with it so that you can be like, you know what?
That's hilarious.
Actually, things don't matter, right?
That's the point of today.
Right?
We are healthily going to vent these things in a brief matter because we're not going
to harbor and stay too long.
Okay.
Yeah, Carly, you're not going to stay too long.
Get out.
All right.
I was going to sing a song.
We don't need sound effects.
You're pretty good at it.
I learned it from Lewis.
Yeah, he's good at it.
All right, I'm going to go first.
Yep.
I'm going to go to the next grade.
What the?
If you are an Apple user, what the fuck?
I don't care that I'm going to put an explice on it.
Your phone just starts stopping like it just stops.
But you know why, right?
I know because they want you to buy more.
They want you to, it's capitalism.
It's all about money.
It's not about what works.
Mom is using a phone.
Oh my God.
That does not accept phone calls and now is starting to not accept text messages.
So she's missing everything.
And as much as like a normal person be like, okay, then go, go fix it.
She can't because she can't find the time, which is her own issue.
That's a separate issue.
Number one.
Hey, mom.
Number two.
Okay, she doesn't listen to this anymore.
She doesn't.
She stopped.
She doesn't have the time.
Number two, if it would just work, it wouldn't be an issue.
Why?
Because they want, I mean, you know what?
They want more money.
They want to make the next big thing, which really the way that like our production system
of American made things or whatever, they're not as good as they used to be.
I know.
The refrigerators from the fifties are still working.
Well, I'm telling you, I had in my old house, everything was old.
It was the best.
I had character.
It was awesome.
I had knob and tube wiring in my house.
And like it's illegal now because it's unsafe.
But it worked with 70 years without having to get an electrician in there to fix it,
which is probably why it's illegal.
Because people can't fix things that aren't broken, right?
So I mean, electricians are great.
That has nothing to do with that.
It's just that's how things are made now.
They're made cheaper.
Stoves are crapping out.
So we're refrigerators.
They're not lasting as long.
Like these things that you have to buy, i.e. Apple phones, a phone, I will never not be
an Apple user.
Yeah, I know I was going to say, well, yeah.
All right, this one's a little bit different and something I absolutely hate and I do it
daily.
So I hope that there are some of you out there that can relate.
I hate washing my face and the water runs down my elbows.
Oh my God, stop it.
What the?
It is the worst.
It's the worst.
It is.
But but sometimes the night sweatshirts that you have, I don't know if that's a thing.
They're not very tight at the wrist.
Yeah.
So when it gets down.
So when you try to pull the sweatshirt up to the elbow and then you're using it, it comes
back down to the wrist and you're like, but I can't touch it now because I'm soapy.
Listen, this is a real problem that every single night I conveniently forget and just
go, oh my God, I didn't want to wash my forearms.
I just trying to wash my face.
It's not the forearms.
It's the fact that your clothes are wet.
Yeah.
It goes all the way.
You put the water on your face and it just runs and then it gets all over the sink and
the floor.
Do you guys watch Regina commercial?
No.
When they splash their face and they look so happy about it.
I'm disgusted.
I agree with you.
Thank you.
That's a legit one.
It's too legit to quit.
Yeah.
We're going to keep doing it.
I have to wash my face.
I get it.
Which is like its own venting.
I hate that I have to wash my face every time.
Oh my God.
That's a sidebar.
It takes forever.
I'm like, I can't even sit down on the couch yet because I have to do my nightly routine.
I know.
And it takes a while.
I hate showering.
I agree though.
I totally agree.
It's a chore.
I hate it.
It's not a luxury.
No.
And so many people are like,
what?
It's so nice after a long time.
No.
Is it?
It prolongs my need to sit down
or my want to sit down.
To get ready for bed
and like cause I'm a night shower
because we teach mostly at night
and I hate it.
Well, no, we start sweating in the morning
and it keeps going until the end of the day.
Sometimes I do two a day.
There's no, I mean.
Two showers.
And it's, that's stupid.
There's such a pain in the neck.
Yeah, that's stupid.
It's the nature of the beast for us.
But at the same time,
everybody showers and it's annoying.
I have to mentally prepare myself to be like,
get up.
Yep.
Just do it.
No, don't sit down.
Yeah.
Don't sit down first.
No, never.
You're never getting back up.
No.
Sometimes I don't.
Yeah.
We know.
We can tell those days.
That's when the hat's gone.
Well, I was gonna say
when I'm putting on a hat,
you know.
Monday morning.
All right.
Oh, I guess I am a creature of habit.
No, you are a something of consistency.
I'm a person of consistency.
There we go.
Couldn't remember the first word.
I said that to one of my little kids at the dance studio.
Somebody asked me something.
I said, I'm a person of consistency.
I said it with a stutter too.
You're a rain man.
I was trying not to say that
and I couldn't think of anything else to say.
That was a better description.
Good job.
I didn't know why you were stuttering so much.
Okay.
Who cares your texting style?
You wanna text one thought per blue bubble?
Fine.
You wanna, you know, keep it a little bit more consistent
and put spaces in so your only texting one's great.
That's fantastic.
One, don't just like my text message.
I know.
Or laugh at my text message.
What the?
No.
This, I didn't know this was a dramatic monologue.
I, cause I hate it so much.
I hate it so much.
I, my phone will go off, I'll look at it
and go, what do you want me to do with that?
Do I have to respond to that?
No, it just is their way of telling you
that they saw your text messages without responding.
Cool.
Don't respond until you can actually text me back.
And the second part of this is in a group thread.
Oh, that's so annoying.
You don't need to like everyone's,
if you're the one who created the group thread
and people are responding to your,
let's say it's like an RSVP or like a,
hey, you're all invited to this thing.
And there's 10 people in the group thread.
And people are one by one going, I can be there.
I can be there.
If you created the thread,
you don't have to like every single I can be there
or I can't be there.
And if you are someone that's in the group thread,
you don't have to like whatever somebody who texted out,
wrote, I'm in so many group threads.
Most of them mom created with the teachers.
Yes, I know.
And the family and the blah, blah, blah.
You don't have to like every then.
I know.
It drives me insane.
90% of my texts are on silent,
but I just, I hate knowing that they're there.
I know because what happens is when your phone goes off
15 times within 30 seconds because one person
just sent a text message and everybody just liked it
or exclamation point or ha ha'd or hearted.
The reason ha ha'd it, the reason I don't like it
is because I think it's, I do it a lot with my younger classes
cause we're all in like group threads.
And to me, it's like, respect me enough.
I just wrote you a text message to talk to you
about something, respect me enough to answer and say,
yes, I received this or I'll be there
or not just like thumbs up.
Cause I'm like, yeah, I think it's rude.
That's what I meant to lazy.
I think it's, yeah, I think it's rude.
I think it's a respect thing to answer with words.
And if you can't in that moment, do it when you can.
So it's like, well, I didn't have time.
Well, then do it when you have time.
Right.
I will sit around and not think about the fact
that you haven't responded to me in a timely manner.
But when you do, I'm be like, oh great, they got back to me.
Freaking like my text message.
Get that.
Well, get out of here.
She clearly is angry about this.
And I'm going to continue on the text.
Yes.
That was, I didn't know you were going to say that.
And my next thing that I hate is when somebody texts me
to say, call me.
What the?
I absolutely hate when somebody texts to say, call me.
So you're just talking to mom here.
Okay.
Mom loves doing that.
No, Andrew does it too.
Sometimes.
Why?
Because I'm not picking up the phone or whatever or.
Yeah, Carly.
What?
You're your own venting session.
Everybody's going to vent about you and your phone.
You shouldn't have one.
I don't like text messages.
You shouldn't have one.
You should not have a phone.
You don't need an upgrade.
You shouldn't have one.
I'll take mom's phone.
You literally don't answer the phone.
Just tell me in a text message what you want
and I will respond.
If you text me and say, call me, I am not calling you.
First of all, he's your husband.
Oh yeah.
Get over it.
Second of all, she's your mother.
Third of all, I understand.
I didn't think we were dissecting each other's
and let me be.
I hate that.
No, because you're annoying.
But I get it.
I don't think anyone's ever, other than mom,
I don't think anyone really does that.
Oh, I've had people in the past,
mothers that I've taught, kids,
hey, can you call me?
No.
Tell me what you want, what you really, really want.
And I will ignore you.
And then sometimes I'm like, no, I'm sorry.
Can you tell me what it is?
Because that makes me uncomfortable
and puts me on the spot.
And if I'm on the spot, I am 100% more likely to give in
to whatever you're asking me
because I have a problem with saying no.
So I know myself.
Well, that's a boundary.
Yeah, your boundary needs to be,
I'm sorry, I don't have enough time
to give you a proper phone call.
Please write it out in the text.
You need to have like a-
Oh, that's really good.
Yeah, I don't have enough time
to give you the proper attention in a phone call.
So if you could please write it out,
I will be happy to talk to you this way
because I have more time to dedicate to you.
What?
Usually I just say no.
That's weird, because you don't like confrontation.
But nobody can say no to that.
No, that's so good.
Play this back and write it down.
I didn't think we were trying to fix each other's stuff today.
We are healthfully venting.
Did you miss the first part?
No, it's just,
but that's if it bothers you that much.
It does.
There you go.
You've helped me once, but that's fine.
Okay.
All right, I know for a fact
that every single solitary human listening to this
and not listening to this is over it.
Okay.
Political texts, political commercials and ads,
politics in general.
But like,
What the?
Don't text me at 10 p.m.
So I'm automated.
There's always like a trigger,
what's it called?
Not a trigger.
And like the first line that pops up.
Yeah, like in your text messages.
It's to pull you in to be like, oh my gosh.
And usually it's like, hey, what are you up to?
And then you open the text
and it's a long political text.
So whatever that first phrase is,
I can't think of what the word is.
The other day,
I should have saved it.
It was like, hey, Victoria, it's Judy.
Judy.
And it was like, I hope to see you spinning with the DJs.
What?
Yeah, I wanna go.
And I was like, Judy, I don't know who you are,
but tell me more.
And so I clicked on the text message
and it was like spinning at the polls in Morton
on November 5th and then like a link
to where your polling places are.
But it was basically saying like,
there's gonna do some DJ spots at the polls in this area
to make it a party so you come out and vote.
Fine, wonderful.
I hope all the DJs are there.
Another one.
I hope all the DJs are there.
Don't text me, Judy.
Like, I'm so over it.
I'm so over it.
And I'm very offended.
Oh, not really.
But like I'm very, I get my nose up
when I'm watching something and I do not pay
for the high price subscription.
So I have all the commercials.
None of us do.
And I don't care about that,
but like when you're watching a show, any type of show,
and then it cuts to commercial
and the first things that's like, he's a rapist.
He's a brapa and they're just trashing or she's a,
and they're just trashing them in the worst,
in the worst way.
I sit there and I'm like, thank God,
I don't have kids sitting next to me.
I was just gonna say you're very lucky
that you don't have kids because my kids say all the time,
I can't wait till the election's over
and we don't have to watch those commercials.
But like even more so of like them being annoyed from it,
how do you explain what they're saying to them
when they're like, mommy, what does that mean?
What's that word mean?
And you're like, well, like have a little class.
Like what happened?
And they're on the billboards
where it's just like these horrible,
horrible things on the highway because it's politics.
It's not politics anymore, it's entertainment and it's gross.
So obviously it's going to end because there is an end date.
That's not something that lasts forever,
but I'm over it.
I agree, I just hit stop on all of my political texts.
I just keep replying stop, stop, stop.
But it doesn't say to reply stop.
Oh, some of them do.
Oh, okay.
And I guess I'm not reading all the way through.
Some of them don't,
but if you hit, if you write stop, they will stop.
Then another text message would be like, you unsubscribed.
And I was like, I never subscribed.
So I don't know how you got my number.
Whatever the system is, it's just, it's annoying.
It's broken.
Obby.
All right, my next one.
Things that I hate.
I, we all know that I hate.
Thank you for the title.
Anyway, anytime.
Anyway.
We all know I don't like the word trigger
and we all know I don't like the word navigate,
but now I'm going to give you another one that I hate.
Don't miss the thing I'm going to read.
I hate, we will say, I need to navigate through this.
No, just do it.
Okay.
Anyway, that's, we've heard this before.
Here's a new one.
I hate when people say, oh my God, you're my favorite human.
What the?
I hate that.
Oh my God.
Who says that?
Well, no one says it to me, but I've heard it.
Is that why you hate it?
I've heard it, yes.
I've heard when people say that, I'm like, no.
Just say you're my favorite person.
Say you're my, oh my gosh, I am enjoying you so much right now
or oh my God, I love you.
When you call somebody a human,
I feel like that's so disingenuous.
We all know you're a human.
Okay.
You're not saying I hate or I, you're my favorite dog.
You know you're a human.
I'm a dog.
No, what I'm saying.
You just said I was a dog.
I'm saying there's no confusion that you are a human.
So would be saying like, oh, you're my favorite person.
Is that different?
No, that's fine.
Why?
You know you're a person.
Because a human is different than a person?
No, a human is a species.
What's a person?
A person is an individual.
Ah.
And I feel like when people say, oh my God,
you're my favorite human, it's like, what?
Okay.
Yeah.
Be there for me.
I am.
Because you are not my favorite human right now.
I am totally there for you.
It's just one of those phrases just like triggered
and navigate that it just when somebody says,
no, again, no one's ever said it to me.
But if somebody did, they're no one's favorite human.
My skin crawls when I hear that.
I just feel like it's a trendy, not genuine thing to say.
When you say you don't like trigger or navigate
and you said navigate like this.
Navi.
Meaning you don't like when people are like,
I don't know, I have to navigate through this.
That means I already negate everything you say after it.
Don't say negate, navigate.
I want, I don't like trendy things.
Are you sure you meant navigate, not narrative?
You don't like when people say change narrative.
I don't like that.
So was it narrative and not navigate?
No, I don't like that either.
Oh, okay.
I definitely, I forgot about narrative,
but I don't like narrative.
Like, oh, I'm changing the narrative on my life.
No, you're changing your life.
You're not changing the net, like, now I'm negating that.
There's something deep inside me
when you speak and say certain things
that I don't know what to do with.
It's like a burn.
It's this deep burn that like makes me wanna scream.
But I have better composure on that.
Don't make you wanna scream, make you wanna scream.
Michael Jackson.
Well, unfortunately, you have to navigate that
for the rest of your life.
It's just words that you don't like.
I know.
But you just want people to say them simpler.
I want them to say it more genuine.
Why is it ingenuine?
I don't think if somebody said to you,
oh my God, you're my favorite human,
that they would mean that seriously.
People say that to me all the time.
First of all.
I just think that's a phrase that is overused,
just like, you know, everything else.
Okay.
Yeah.
Shut up, go to the next one.
You're triggering me.
You can't say you hate something and then use them.
You've been in jest.
Well, I'm showing you how disingenuous I'm being.
We all know.
Oh, okay, just making sure.
Your disingenuity.
Yeah.
Amazing.
Okay.
I think this one's pretty across the board.
People that stand on an airplane in the back of the plate,
like before your row gets there
and they're already standing
and then they have to like,
they make you anxiously try to move so quick
because they're like, I'm waiting.
What the?
But they're behind you.
Like you have to.
You're in the rows behind me.
Why are you standing already?
Yeah.
And like, do you know what I mean?
Yes.
I was in a situation where there was a huge delay.
I was trying to come back to the Philadelphia airport,
but I guess that's like,
there were a lot of like,
that was the last flight out type of deal from,
I guess, where I was coming from to Philadelphia.
And that flight had a lot of connecting options
and Caspillia is international.
So because our delay was so bad,
so many people miss their connecting.
Or were going to have to run off of the plane,
hoping that they could make there.
Like it was sad.
There was a girl crying.
She had to sleep in the airport.
She was like 19 flying by herself.
And they were like, can't help you.
Like it was just such a horrible situation.
She had to navigate that whole situation.
Yes.
And guess what?
She probably took the time to navigate it
and did very well.
And you would have been a trash fire.
Trash fire.
A trash fire.
I have no idea.
A trash fire.
But if you were any type of person on that plane,
you saw all of the people that had to talk to the,
to order it.
Yeah, at the front desk.
They don't call the stores anymore.
Well, at the desk.
Oh, like before getting in.
Yeah.
Over the receptionist at the airport.
Yeah.
Were there the ones being like,
hey, this name, can you come up?
Can we talk to you?
Everyone was like, I have a connecting flight.
You could hear it all.
Even with your headphones.
You were watching people be like, but what do I do?
Like it was the vibe of the whole thing was stress.
And they had people, anybody that had a connecting flight
and were going to miss it or there was gonna be an issue,
please get in line and come talk to me.
So the amount of people on that line, it was the flight.
Yeah.
It was almost the whole flight.
The amount of people that stood and they were like,
please let me get by you.
Please let me get by you.
I have to run.
And these men just like weren't moving.
Was it just men?
The ones I'm picturing my head, it was like, right by me,
it was these three older generational men.
Yeah.
And they were like, I'm raw getting off the same flight.
No, sir.
You don't have a place to run to.
It's just consideration.
It's just like, kindness, that's all of that.
But nine times out of 10,
even if there is no connecting flight issue
and you know the drama that everyone's going through,
don't stand up until it's time for you
to like get off the plane.
I hate that.
I don't care if you clap for the pilot.
People hate that too.
Oh, I love that.
I don't get, people are like,
if you clap for the landing, get out.
Oh my God, I always clap because I'm like,
thank you God and thank you pilot.
Half the world hates you.
And half the world agrees with you.
That's like a whole, that's a whole, really?
Mm-hmm.
Oh God, I'm just so thankful that we made it.
That was a big thing on Bumble.
If you clap for the landing, swipe left.
Like that was a lot of their phrasing.
I would like my kids to clap for me
every time we get to a destination in the car.
I agree with that because it's a crapshoot.
It's a, you know, big risk.
But I don't care about that,
but if you are someone who thinks you are better than ever,
it's basically that you're better than everyone.
You've been on this flight as long as everyone else,
but you need to get off first.
Yeah.
Like get over yourself.
Get over yourself.
Like no, sir.
No, sir.
I hate when people repeat me.
Just kidding.
All right, my next one.
Things I hate.
My next one.
When the next holiday is already out in the store
before the holiday that they were,
that we're about to celebrate hasn't even happened.
What the?
Yeah, Christmas is out right now.
Now, it's been out for three weeks.
But like Thanksgiving and Halloween.
But Halloween was out in August.
Yeah, yeah.
So you know me.
I hate it.
And you know us.
We are huge holiday people.
And I am the first one to text Victoria and say,
pumpkin spice, coffee's out.
Like let's go.
And that's in August.
You just did that for Christmas cups.
Peppermint?
Oh, Christmas cups.
Christmas cups.
Yeah.
So I love that.
Okay.
It makes me happy.
It makes me actually get me excited for this season to start.
Even though like, I, you know, I don't like back to school.
The season, like that's a good thing.
It like helps me get through it.
But when you're celebrating Christmas, October 10th,
and all that stuff is out in the stores, I'm like, wait, I feel rushed.
Yeah, it gives me a little bit of, you know, anxiety because I'm like,
ah, I got missing out.
I'm yeah, I haven't done the pumpkins yet.
And I haven't even had my Halloween party yet.
And Christmas is already out and I don't want to miss like all the bad stuff too.
You're not missing anything.
No, I know.
But I think just the rush of that store sort of craziness.
Yeah.
Because I'm the first one.
I get my tree the day after Thanksgiving.
I love to celebrate the holidays.
Like, isn't it dead by Christmas?
Oh, yes.
Oh, it is.
Yeah.
Especially the way I water plants.
You don't water it.
Exactly.
I don't think you've ever watered a Christmas tree.
So it is dead.
Wow.
But I don't care because I have just spent a month enjoying its life.
And you know, December 27th, it is out the door.
You know, plants are alive, right?
But yes, I know.
Plants are living things.
So what you do is you decorate a dead thing that reaches your ceiling.
Why?
Because I cut it down.
Yeah, it's dead.
No, like Andrew keeps it alive with water and salt or sugar or something.
I'm sorry.
Are you seizing your tree?
Are you mrs. dashing your tree?
No, mrs. dashing.
Yes, I am.
No, it's a dead thing that we all just decorate and put presents under.
Do not take away the joy that I have of smelling that tree for at least five days before it
completely dies on me.
It's basically a scarecrow just laying there.
You're ruining me.
Oh, oh, oh.
I hate you.
Anyway, don't rush my holidays.
I agree.
I would like to feel the joy for as long as I can.
But not before you want to feel the joy.
No, I want the stories to ask me first and I will give them the dates that I am ready
to purchase their things.
I like how you're navigating this.
You are my favorite human right now.
Okay, that's my favorite sound.
Last one for me.
Congrats.
Wow.
What a witch.
She's the snow miser, everyone.
Service fees.
What the hell?
When you buy a ticket to a concert.
Oh, yeah.
Why?
What do you mean why?
No, I was just thinking like tax, but it's not tax.
No, no tax.
It's a service fee.
Not tax.
Tax is tax even though like, you know, tax is like, but when you're like, oh my gosh,
I found these tickets to a show because everything's way too expensive.
You're like, what, it's only $99 for this entire Broadway show.
And then you go to check out and you're like, oh cool.
It's $186.
What like, are you kidding?
Yeah, it's the worst.
I just, I understand everybody has to make their money, but that is just criminal because
there's no need.
There's no need for that.
And I feel like the price of the ticket maybe should have part of that built in so that you
can see what the full price is to know what you're checking out with.
That's not like sticker shock.
And you go to check out.
Yeah.
No, I agree with that.
And it's like $50 plus for like, for what?
For me to click a button for someone to have coded within 30 seconds to make that work
for us.
That's the service we're paying for.
Why are you looking at me like that?
Because I hate it too.
Her nose flared a little bit, but she was also trying not to smile, but her lips were
connected.
Please paint that picture in your mind.
I was very, very unnerving.
However, I appreciate your spirit.
I just, I bought a lot of tickets this year.
Yes, I agree.
And I'm, I, it's so upsetting when you get to that checkout and you're like, I thought
I was, I thought I was actually not going to break the bank on this fun experience.
And half of the bank is because of the service fee.
Yeah.
It's just, I've obviously nobody likes it.
Everybody's going to be like, well, I don't mind, but it just, it irks me that much where
it, it makes me sometimes not even look into tickets because of the giant.
I know.
Cause I'm like, if I could go up and walk up to the place and buy them and not pay the
service fee, but I don't have that opportunity.
Mom used to do that on Broadway because it was such a big difference.
Yeah.
But if we had lived in New York, we did that.
I don't live there.
I don't even getting into Philadelphia.
I'm like, well, that means I'd have to drive to the academy.
Yeah.
I'm not going to do that.
So I'll buy them online, but I'm paying a lot in just having a website name attached
to the ticket.
You know, I know.
Yeah.
No, I agree.
I, I'm still going to buy the tickets though.
Are you mad?
I mean, no, you do you boo.
But I'm going to navigate it for a second.
Oh my God.
I swear.
If she says that all week long, I probably.
I couldn't think of any of the words.
I'll be there for better or worse till death do us.
Oh, that was great.
Anyway.
All right.
Last thing that I hate that Victoria might hate, but you might all hate as well.
Are you ready for it?
It's a big one.
Are you ready for it?
There you go.
There you go, Swifties.
I have never, ever in my life, and this is 100% accurate.
Who put on the fitted sheet correctly the first time.
What?
And I hate that.
I have never done it.
I don't.
I would like the fitted sheet companies to put this end first.
I think some do.
And like on the opposite side, I want them or like this end up.
Like this is the top.
This is the bottom or one corner says first corner and then the bottom other side says
second corner so I can figure it out.
But there's four corners.
Right.
I just need the first two.
I just need the top left and the bottom right.
And then that's fine.
Why?
Why are you putting on a.
Diagonally.
Because if I put it on top and top.
Every single time I've put it on the wrong side.
Like I've put it on the short side instead of the.
See if it's the length first.
Correct.
And I twin bed doesn't matter.
King size bed doesn't matter.
I've put it on wrong and I get so angry.
Have you ever been on a top bunk putting the fitted sheet on wrong?
Oh gosh.
Yeah.
No.
So poor Lewis doesn't get his sheets changed very often because I hate putting on.
I'm like sleep on a sleeping bag.
Because that fitted sheet on the top bunk is so hard.
I totally get it.
So hard.
I used to hate doing that when we lived in New York because the bed was up against.
Yeah.
The two walls.
So you had to fight.
Yes.
To like get it down.
It's different now but I totally agree.
I've done it recently.
The past couple of bed changes.
I've done it successfully and I give myself a cheer because I feel good about it.
That's a really hard thing to do.
But it's like, yeah.
Because it's hard to measure.
They all look the same especially.
If the sheets get bigger.
So if you have a king size, we both have king size beds and it just seems like everything's
the same length.
Yes.
You could sharp be the one like there's a tag in one of the corners.
Yeah.
So if you put bottom left or bottom right then.
That would be very easy.
Oh.
And I feel like you just want to know it.
I just want to be angry every time I make the bed.
You just want to emotional dump on your bed.
Got it.
No, I should do that because the kids have bunk beds.
Melody has one that's up against the sidewall and it's very frustrating to just be cursing
at the sheets.
But not frustrating enough to sharp be on it.
No, no, I'll do it.
I've never done it.
I say it but I've never done it.
And then try folding them.
I was going to say mine isn't even the bed part.
It's folding the sheet.
I have now decided that I just stuff all the sheets in one of the pillowcases.
That's what I do.
Yeah.
Because I there's no rhyme or reason to folding.
Oh, no, I fold them.
No, I fold them and then tuck them into one pillowcase.
Oh, no.
But my folding the fitted sheet is trying and then rolling.
Yes.
And then finding socks in there in the laundry that are stuffed up into the corners of the
fitted sheets.
There's like socks and underwear and like small shirts.
You shake them out.
Yeah.
This takes a lot of time.
What?
I have to go shopping for my holidays and I don't have the time to shake out my fitted
sheets before I take a half hour to put them on the bed.
The best is when Carly goes to yoga with you at 6am and she's got a thong attached to either
her pants or maybe the towel that she's going to lie on her yoga mat.
She's like, oh, that's awkward.
Every time, every time on my yoga mat towel that I roll out, there's at least two thongs
and a sock.
It's very specific, but it's I'm here to tell you it's very accurate.
And sometimes it's attached to Andrew because he's like pulled something out of the laundry
and put it on real quick.
Oh my gosh.
That's so true.
The thong, the thong, the thong, the thong.
That was on me.
I like it when the beat goes.
Let me see you booty go.
Oh, the thong, the thong, the thong, the thong.
Yay.
Cisco.
Leave it at that.
Cisco.
I think what needs to happen is I just need help with the fitted sheets.
I'll pay somebody.
And static cling.
I will pay somebody to put all my all my sheets in my house.
I was a really good one because that is something I forget about when you walk away from it until
you go to do it again.
You know what I mean?
That's something that like it's like labor in like having a baby.
You forget how hard it is and then you're in the labor delivery room and you're like,
Oh my God.
I agree.
I feel the same way.
If I could get an epidural for putting on my fitted sheets, I'd do it in a second.
All right.
Well, that's our 10 things we hate about you.
You being everything.
Listen, we are very.
No, listen, Victoria is a very positive person for the most part.
For the most part, you have, I said for the most part.
Yeah.
And it's impossible to be like that all the time.
And this is just a little bit into, you know, the negative, the negativity of the daily life.
But you know what?
I was really frustrated with the first five hours of my work day today.
Yes.
And then we talked about this and now I feel fine.
Yeah.
Because I think you just, I think there's, there's health to the unhealthy habit in a weird way.
And I just mean like healthy venting is actually a good thing for you.
Well, yeah, it's just like when you want to meet a goal, you write it down.
When you want to get something off your chest, you talk about it.
Yeah.
It's the same thing.
It's once it's out of you, it's out of you.
Yeah.
And then you can figure out what to do with the next step.
Now we're not going to talk about these things anymore, but I will think of all of you when I wash my face.
You can figure it out like.
Stop it.
Navigate.
Navigate the road.
So changing the narrative of this podcast.
No, this is exactly the narrative.
We want to keep this narrative.
Please don't come up to me and tell me that I'm your favorite human.
One, I know that's not true.
Two, I know you're just making fun of me.
And three, it's because Victoria told you to.
I'm definitely going to remind people.
Be like, Hey, do you listen in on Monday?
You know, you got to say.
I actually agree.
I think that my biggest takeaway is that you, I did learn something.
That a person is individualized and human is just way more broad.
I feel like you're being funny.
Funny, like, ha, ha, you just know, like, ha, ha, I just ha ha your text.
No, it didn't boop you.
No, it's like legit because I was like, all right, that doesn't make any sense.
And then you said it and I was like, actually, that makes you are my favorite person.
I know. Thank you.
And I, and I, I'm sorry.
What? Yeah.
And I have other favorite people, but a human is a species.
So that would mean that I am your favorite human in the entire world,
which we all know is not accurate and true.
And that's what I'm just like, speak truths.
Speak truth.
I hate when people are like, but that's not my truth.
Yes. Oh my God, we have to have two E's on this podcast.
Two E's?
He's going to keep eating it.
Shush up. Oh my gosh.
Ew, I hate that. Goodbye, everyone.
Goodbye.
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