1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,080 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:07,920 All right, today is not gonna be the happiest of happy's 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:12,340 Or the saddest of saddest is gonna be informational. I feel like 4 00:00:13,760 --> 00:00:16,820 I feel like every other week just like every other week. Yes 5 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:19,520 There has been a lot 6 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:23,360 Recently going on just in this year alone 7 00:00:23,860 --> 00:00:29,020 Well, you would know because you're a date remember. I'm with I'm a no your after date remember 8 00:00:29,020 --> 00:00:33,080 Yeah, when bad things happen, I remember and I and 9 00:00:33,620 --> 00:00:37,780 Right now the space for that. Oh, I know because you don't like negativity. I 10 00:00:38,900 --> 00:00:40,900 ooze negativity 11 00:00:41,780 --> 00:00:45,260 That's not what I mean. I don't ooze it. I don't want to use it 12 00:00:45,580 --> 00:00:53,020 But I'm picturing you as the boogie boogie man. What's that guy the oogie boogie man from the boogie boogie man night before Christmas 13 00:00:53,020 --> 00:01:01,340 Is that that's oozing to me? Yes, and I I think I absorb it because when I hear about something 14 00:01:01,340 --> 00:01:06,620 It sort of sticks with me and this year has been a lot of disasters 15 00:01:07,460 --> 00:01:09,580 Globally, yeah, well, yeah 16 00:01:10,060 --> 00:01:16,140 Heart horrible horrible things. I mean, we're talking the hurricane that's going on right now the mass shootings 17 00:01:16,300 --> 00:01:21,500 The floods I feel like the gates are opening up somewhere and it's all happening 18 00:01:21,500 --> 00:01:26,260 Yeah, and we're gonna talk today about how we can help because sometimes you just feel 19 00:01:27,380 --> 00:01:34,620 Helpless well, didn't it not to get biblical because I don't really know much about the Bible, but didn't it like we got the 20 00:01:35,660 --> 00:01:42,340 Lantern flies and we were like swarmed with bugs like the plague like the plague and the well, no the 21 00:01:43,460 --> 00:01:48,500 The bugs and the Vegas got like crickets and they couldn't walk on the sidewalk 22 00:01:48,500 --> 00:01:55,420 Mm-hmm, and then we got a pandemic which is the plague. Mm-hmm. Yes, right and then I mean it's just like what's next, right? 23 00:01:55,420 --> 00:02:01,300 I'm gonna read the Bible. What's going on mom super happy that you don't know anything about the Bible 24 00:02:01,300 --> 00:02:04,940 But went to Catholic school for 14 years, so 25 00:02:06,020 --> 00:02:13,540 There's that in our nomad a padre you know you hope you do spirit with Santa amen. That's as much as my Spanish good as well 26 00:02:14,180 --> 00:02:15,620 so 27 00:02:15,620 --> 00:02:20,900 It's not that I don't remember if you said it I'd be like oh, yeah, yeah me too. I just 28 00:02:21,700 --> 00:02:25,300 Have better things to put in my mind. Oh, no mom 29 00:02:25,780 --> 00:02:33,740 But mom's with me. I know mom's with me like I have faith. I I don't necessarily put my 30 00:02:35,420 --> 00:02:37,420 Everything I have into like 31 00:02:38,300 --> 00:02:44,540 Collective religion mm-hmm, so like it's in there. I remembered I can see the copy books of Jesus 32 00:02:44,540 --> 00:02:51,540 I can see him or the workbooks the workbooks, but you know, I remember the beatitudes and all the things 33 00:02:51,540 --> 00:02:57,020 I just it's that's what makes me think of it because they're all things that you would think this is never gonna happen 34 00:02:57,260 --> 00:03:00,740 And I feel like they're all happening right it's all that's all that I meant 35 00:03:00,740 --> 00:03:06,460 This is not about religion. No, you just oh mom, you know hundreds of thousands of dollars in religious education 36 00:03:06,940 --> 00:03:11,620 Wow, then that school should be listen. That's what we're talking about. Okay, maybe you like 37 00:03:11,620 --> 00:03:13,620 I 38 00:03:14,340 --> 00:03:20,580 Also went public. Oh, yeah, you did public high school. That's right. I forgot you cost her way more money 39 00:03:20,580 --> 00:03:22,580 I cost her well just as a human in general 40 00:03:23,780 --> 00:03:29,340 This isn't supposed to be funny. It's not okay. So what the reason we're talking about these 41 00:03:30,220 --> 00:03:32,220 catastrophic events is 42 00:03:32,460 --> 00:03:36,660 Because not only are they happening right now, but one just hit a little close to home where our 43 00:03:36,660 --> 00:03:43,980 Our grade school our childhood, you know memories basically our little bubble a little bubble at the time 44 00:03:43,980 --> 00:03:48,700 It's a different bubble now, but I feel like they still feel the same it had a you 45 00:03:49,620 --> 00:03:54,820 Horrible horrible fire last night and I do not think the building can be salvaged the the ceiling collapsed 46 00:03:54,820 --> 00:03:57,380 It was I've never seen it almost looked like a 47 00:03:59,140 --> 00:04:00,420 Cartoon fire 48 00:04:00,420 --> 00:04:00,940 Yes 49 00:04:00,940 --> 00:04:07,900 Like if you look at a picture that somebody took and there's flames coming out of the windows and going up to the sky and kind of like 50 00:04:08,220 --> 00:04:11,740 Yes engulfing but but wrapping around the building 51 00:04:12,180 --> 00:04:13,940 it looked I 52 00:04:13,940 --> 00:04:18,540 Hate to say but it looked fake it looked like what they draw in the kids 53 00:04:19,100 --> 00:04:23,820 Cartoons of fire safety, you know, I went by it this morning. You did. Yeah, you can't drive by it 54 00:04:23,820 --> 00:04:26,300 you can't get near it, but I walked by it and 55 00:04:26,300 --> 00:04:34,060 It's interesting to see through a window that's non-existent and see the sky because there is no 56 00:04:34,900 --> 00:04:39,900 There is no ceiling so it's it's four stone walls because that 57 00:04:40,540 --> 00:04:45,860 Did not burn down the stone did not burn down. Yeah everything inside it from the ground up is gone 58 00:04:47,180 --> 00:04:49,180 Yeah, I 59 00:04:49,180 --> 00:04:55,260 Don't know what could have caused that it took we'll find out when it 60 00:04:55,940 --> 00:05:02,860 Finally got under control because no text me like nine. I texted you at nine and it still was not so and that's four hours later 61 00:05:02,860 --> 00:05:06,540 Karlie was like it was a candle. It's like it was not candle. Oh, I made that up 62 00:05:06,540 --> 00:05:13,460 No, I said what if it was I know but a candle wouldn't do that like they would be able to control a candle fire 63 00:05:13,460 --> 00:05:14,420 Oh my god 64 00:05:14,420 --> 00:05:21,340 And then I was texting me to like all those papers probably from the candle and Victoria's like I don't think probably electoral 65 00:05:21,340 --> 00:05:25,900 That would set it to alarm fire off. That's as much as I know about flames. So 66 00:05:26,540 --> 00:05:35,540 We it's really devastated the community. Yeah, everybody, you know with devastation comes a silver lining of banding together and feeling the community and 67 00:05:35,820 --> 00:05:41,540 wanting to reach out to just give a kind word or go a little bit farther and 68 00:05:41,540 --> 00:05:46,420 Monetary help or you know depending on the situation bringing food 69 00:05:46,420 --> 00:05:52,260 That's like the number one thing to bring food to people especially we're Italian, you know food fixes everything like a funeral 70 00:05:52,500 --> 00:05:54,500 pairs very well with lasagna and 71 00:05:55,700 --> 00:05:58,100 So I'm hoping people are bringing food to the parish 72 00:05:58,420 --> 00:06:04,140 You know what he means well with lasagna. It's it means true. The Palatana brothers are gonna be hitting you up later 73 00:06:04,140 --> 00:06:06,140 Yeah, all your funeral needs 74 00:06:06,340 --> 00:06:08,340 so hopefully people are bringing 75 00:06:08,340 --> 00:06:15,660 Food to the sacristy or you know the priests and the people that live right there. Yeah, and the rectory director 76 00:06:15,660 --> 00:06:22,620 They're out of the rectory the church is closed down for a little bit and but that this is our small little bubble of a devastation 77 00:06:22,820 --> 00:06:28,540 I mean what's going on with the hurricanes right now and with Carolina and Florida is horrific? 78 00:06:28,540 --> 00:06:30,900 I mean, yeah, people are dying. Yeah, and 79 00:06:31,860 --> 00:06:35,940 And Palestine. Yeah, you know like go as far as over there 80 00:06:35,940 --> 00:06:39,660 It's a little bit different to give relief and reach out but 81 00:06:41,860 --> 00:06:47,220 Calling to to have you know have aid and give aid is a universal language 82 00:06:47,460 --> 00:06:53,100 So that's what we're gonna talk about today. How's that for a segue? Yeah, how's that? You did a good job? 83 00:06:53,100 --> 00:06:55,100 I'm gonna try not to backtrack. Let's 84 00:06:55,460 --> 00:06:57,460 Get into it 85 00:06:57,460 --> 00:07:11,220 I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly and that was the longest intro we've ever done. I'm gonna disagree with you the past couple weeks 86 00:07:11,220 --> 00:07:12,900 I have lost 87 00:07:12,900 --> 00:07:18,820 The train of thought for the episode because our intros have been so long and I was like, oh my god 88 00:07:18,820 --> 00:07:22,020 Did we start yet? I just you know, just got a lot of things in my mind 89 00:07:22,020 --> 00:07:27,700 I got a lot of things to say. I have a lot of feelings. You don't even go here 90 00:07:28,740 --> 00:07:32,460 She doesn't even go here. I do I live here 91 00:07:34,380 --> 00:07:40,300 So what made me think of while we were thinking about this a little story that came into my mind 92 00:07:40,300 --> 00:07:46,980 Was that there was a lot going on in Haiti. I can't remember the year. Yes, we had the green Mitsubishi 93 00:07:46,980 --> 00:07:49,620 Mm-hmm. It was Carly's car first that it was mine 94 00:07:49,620 --> 00:07:56,940 So I'm I think that was high school for me. Yeah, maybe getting into college and it was college because I had that car 95 00:07:56,940 --> 00:08:02,180 I mean, I only got my license senior year because I driving so it was you were in college 96 00:08:02,180 --> 00:08:06,180 All right, well, then I had a different green car. This is my prudence the protege 97 00:08:06,700 --> 00:08:12,420 It's a Mazda not that any of that matters, but that's now we know. No, we know what year we're in 98 00:08:12,420 --> 00:08:15,660 So I was in college. So it's between 2011 and 2000 99 00:08:15,660 --> 00:08:21,740 No 2007 2011 and something was going on in Haiti and my mind cannot remember 100 00:08:22,020 --> 00:08:26,540 Exactly what it was but what they were calling for was rice. Oh my god and 101 00:08:28,980 --> 00:08:32,180 You can clearly you know go the grocery store right now you can get 102 00:08:33,340 --> 00:08:39,680 Pounds of rice right in giant bags like it almost looks like sandbags right Costco or BJ's they're enormous 103 00:08:39,980 --> 00:08:41,980 So mom and Carly 104 00:08:41,980 --> 00:08:45,500 had just the most brilliant idea of 105 00:08:47,020 --> 00:08:52,580 Purchasing these bags of rice because you know the thought didn't go past they need rice. I'll go get rice 106 00:08:52,580 --> 00:08:56,340 I can easily buy rice. It's something I can do. It's just you know easy simple whatever 107 00:08:58,060 --> 00:09:02,220 But then she can figure out how to ship the right I wanted to ship the rice to Haiti 108 00:09:02,580 --> 00:09:06,940 But she was like give me an address like it should come here and get food 109 00:09:06,940 --> 00:09:13,700 In her over international waters into Haiti, so it all worked out you ended up helping but the rice stayed here 110 00:09:15,660 --> 00:09:22,180 The rice stayed here in my truck no my trunk bed your trunk of my car and 111 00:09:22,740 --> 00:09:27,780 I traveled around Temple University with a 50-pound bag. What? 112 00:09:27,780 --> 00:09:35,500 I couldn't do that for a second time if I tried a 50 mound fat pack 113 00:09:37,780 --> 00:09:39,780 Nope a 114 00:09:39,780 --> 00:09:45,780 50 pound bag of rice in her long grain white rice in my trunk 115 00:09:45,780 --> 00:09:47,780 And I'm going to you know 116 00:09:48,220 --> 00:09:52,860 Caravan with my friends and we're packing the car and we're doing and they're like why do you race in a car? 117 00:09:52,860 --> 00:09:57,920 Like it was the longest time. I've ever had rice in my car. I can never say in my life 118 00:09:58,340 --> 00:10:02,540 She usually has rice for like shorts amount of time in her car. That was the longest it was in my belly 119 00:10:02,540 --> 00:10:04,540 But then this one didn't so 120 00:10:04,780 --> 00:10:12,340 Then I got a truck and I had to clean out that car and I just transferred that rice into my truck bed 121 00:10:12,340 --> 00:10:15,820 I can't tell you what happened to the rice since then it's not in my truck 122 00:10:15,820 --> 00:10:21,420 But I know I hydroplane a lot uh-huh because now my truck beds very light light. Yeah, and the rice was helpful 123 00:10:21,420 --> 00:10:23,420 Yeah, so I know where the rice is 124 00:10:24,900 --> 00:10:26,580 Where is it I? 125 00:10:26,580 --> 00:10:32,340 Have a sandbag in my V fit personal training room stop and people flip and clean and snatch with it 126 00:10:32,340 --> 00:10:38,460 Okay, I know where the rice so I am helping I'm helping the people still you're helping the people of 127 00:10:39,140 --> 00:10:40,820 Springfield I 128 00:10:40,820 --> 00:10:46,660 Wanted to go a little further, but I'm happy to help the V fit v fitters in Springfield. Oh my god 129 00:10:46,660 --> 00:10:49,520 That just wow that just came yeah right to me well 130 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:53,420 So how how do we help in a more efficient way? 131 00:10:53,980 --> 00:10:55,660 Shall we say? 132 00:10:55,660 --> 00:11:00,620 Just don't go out and buy some 50 pound bags of rice thinking that you're gonna send them 133 00:11:01,740 --> 00:11:08,000 Usually the number one way in terms of like actual giving of something is to donate money 134 00:11:08,980 --> 00:11:11,700 To the right places to the right places so the Red Cross 135 00:11:12,660 --> 00:11:14,460 the American Red Cross is 136 00:11:14,460 --> 00:11:21,860 Phenomenal and we're gonna attach links of all different sources to reach out and help for any cause because there's usually 137 00:11:23,020 --> 00:11:27,020 Specific places per disaster. Oh, that sounds horrible 138 00:11:27,020 --> 00:11:33,180 I know but it there but it's so incredible that they exist and that there are people that do this and that is their 139 00:11:33,820 --> 00:11:41,300 Life's purpose and thank God for them. So we'll link all of that now. We're not necessarily just talking about our small town 140 00:11:41,300 --> 00:11:46,060 Relatively fixable and nobody got hurt. Yes. Thank goodness 141 00:11:47,580 --> 00:11:52,580 Tragedy but the world right now like if you feel helpless and you're sitting on your couch at night 142 00:11:52,580 --> 00:11:57,460 You're watching the news and you're like gosh why there's nothing I can do like I'm so small in this world 143 00:11:57,460 --> 00:12:01,240 You know all those thoughts that tend to bubble to the surface when 144 00:12:01,820 --> 00:12:07,300 These horrible horrible things happen. You can always donate money. So these links are there 145 00:12:07,300 --> 00:12:11,300 I think this is my personal opinion 146 00:12:11,300 --> 00:12:19,060 But you have to be a part of the tragedy to create a go fund me like I don't understand sometimes when people 147 00:12:20,860 --> 00:12:25,740 So far removed from something create a go fund me for people that they don't even know 148 00:12:25,740 --> 00:12:31,100 Right, like I I would happily donate to that go fund me like I will give my money 149 00:12:31,100 --> 00:12:35,740 Yeah, you got to make sure that where it's going is the end and also go find me is great 150 00:12:35,740 --> 00:12:41,100 If you're talking about large sums of money, I guess, but they do I mean it's it's a service 151 00:12:41,420 --> 00:12:46,780 They take a cut of the proceeds. So you got to remember that. Yeah, you know 152 00:12:47,060 --> 00:12:51,980 You might want to look into picking something not a hundred percent of what you're giving is going to the cause 153 00:12:52,220 --> 00:12:55,900 Yeah, not like 90% because that's a little different 154 00:12:56,180 --> 00:13:03,180 But yeah, you want to be directly involved if you're starting a go fund me like I was not about to start a go fund me for Haiti 155 00:13:03,180 --> 00:13:05,180 Do you didn't have an address? 156 00:13:06,660 --> 00:13:13,180 But you did I believe you you and mom donated I think we instead yeah in lieu of rice in lieu of rice 157 00:13:13,180 --> 00:13:18,500 We're like they were like you keep the rice send us the money. Well, I our own right. Yes, we'll get it 158 00:13:19,180 --> 00:13:25,180 But money is a good good way to do it. Usually there's some economic, you know downfall to whatever 159 00:13:25,180 --> 00:13:27,180 I mean, it's going to take for for our 160 00:13:27,180 --> 00:13:32,180 School fire here. It's gonna take a lot of money to rebuild. It's gonna take a lot of hopefully not a lot of time 161 00:13:32,180 --> 00:13:38,180 Just because they you know, these kids have to go to school. Well in North Carolina Andrew's sister 162 00:13:39,180 --> 00:13:42,180 My sister-in-law and two nieces they were in a shelter 163 00:13:43,180 --> 00:13:46,180 For a week because they couldn't get to their house 164 00:13:47,180 --> 00:13:51,180 Because there were no roads so they were living in a shelter now they're home 165 00:13:51,180 --> 00:13:54,180 But the end of their road is gone 166 00:13:54,180 --> 00:13:59,180 They had no power. They had no internet, you know, like people are displaced people are homeless 167 00:13:59,180 --> 00:14:03,180 Yeah, there are places to volunteer there are places to donate 168 00:14:03,180 --> 00:14:06,180 I mean we can't volunteer. I'm very far away from that 169 00:14:07,180 --> 00:14:12,180 Right, you know, whatever but like you can donate money to that cause but yeah, I mean 170 00:14:13,180 --> 00:14:21,180 Hundreds of thousands of people are out of homes right now. It's it's crazy. Yeah, it's it's devastating 171 00:14:21,180 --> 00:14:27,180 Yeah, it's it's devastating. Yeah, but volunteers the next the next option for lending hand 172 00:14:27,180 --> 00:14:32,180 So volunteer at your local or maybe a larger scale organization 173 00:14:32,180 --> 00:14:40,180 However, and I it's funny that they even have to say this but like you should not self deploy yourself somewhere to go volunteer 174 00:14:41,180 --> 00:14:44,180 Right, so like if something's going on in California, don't just fly over there by yourself 175 00:14:44,180 --> 00:14:48,180 Oh God and and hope to join in on some volunteer 176 00:14:48,180 --> 00:14:55,180 Yeah, you know, whatever efforts do it do it in a proper organized way 177 00:14:55,180 --> 00:14:57,180 Okay 178 00:14:57,180 --> 00:15:04,180 Locally, I think it's something different but I also think volunteer by helping the you know for our situation 179 00:15:04,180 --> 00:15:08,180 I'm gonna keep bringing it back to that because that's why we're even talking about this help the firehouse 180 00:15:08,180 --> 00:15:17,180 Yes, those those guys were so fast to the cause and I'm in so I'm in a different town and I was slowing down my fire truck 181 00:15:17,180 --> 00:15:26,180 And I pulled over I mean I pulled over but I was like they you know everybody yeah gets called to the to the help and me how many 182 00:15:26,180 --> 00:15:33,180 Did you say went by your house I texted you or I texted my cousin and I was like I didn't know Springfield had this many fire trucks because they weren't 183 00:15:33,180 --> 00:15:37,180 Yeah all from Springfield now they're from everywhere and I live next to the police station 184 00:15:37,180 --> 00:15:47,180 Because that's where I love to choose my homes my last home was near police station because I just want to make sure that they're close by 185 00:15:47,180 --> 00:15:56,180 And I like being 100 feet away about 12 cars within minutes of just police cars went by and those they're working overtime right now 186 00:15:56,180 --> 00:16:05,180 Firemen I mean the pictures of these firemen in the flames trying to get it out for hours and hours drop them a lasagna they need to eat 187 00:16:05,180 --> 00:16:12,180 They're working late nights overtime now they've got to figure out how to make this a safe area because it is taped off 188 00:16:12,180 --> 00:16:21,180 Yeah yeah so they're they're a big part of you know the rescue mission is is also a big part of how you can help because they're the ones putting in the manpower 189 00:16:21,180 --> 00:16:31,180 And they're tired and they're and they're working really really hard so even money I mean the firehouse always reaches out throughout the year to ask for donations and help 190 00:16:31,180 --> 00:16:40,180 So that's just another way that you can do it and then there's I like this one which makes I like this one in a sarcastic way 191 00:16:40,180 --> 00:16:55,180 Oh it's educate others yes I love the sarcasm right on no not for that it's preparedness and maybe you know what's happening with her with the hurricanes and how you can help with hurricane relief 192 00:16:55,180 --> 00:17:08,180 But I sarcastically like it because some people aren't meant to do that like they're getting their information from Wikipedia like they're the wrong people tend to put information out there so you just have to be careful 193 00:17:08,180 --> 00:17:21,180 So you know what I mean yeah like it's basically like spilling the tea like you don't want to like spill the tea with wrong information yeah like I just because you think you know exactly yeah I screen shot it it's so funny 194 00:17:21,180 --> 00:17:37,180 I screen shot it so I was looking at the Springfield firehouse Facebook group or yeah Facebook page on Facebook to see what was going on because I was at work about to teach I was trying to figure out why it was smoking outside 195 00:17:37,180 --> 00:17:49,180 It was before you even texted like it was it was confusing I looked there I looked at once I found out I looked at the same Francis of Assisi school page just to see if the information was already out even though it was happening in the moment 196 00:17:49,180 --> 00:17:58,180 Real time yeah so I know people were live streaming it which is absurd to me well the news was too the helicopters over my house 197 00:17:58,180 --> 00:18:08,180 But I took a screenshot because I found a post that the Springfield firehouse had stayed away from these roads we are attending to this fire at St. Francis school 198 00:18:08,180 --> 00:18:17,180 So I clicked on it and there were comments and I was like oh I wonder if people are sharing what is going on like maybe somebody knows what happened 199 00:18:17,180 --> 00:18:27,180 And someone said what happened 12 minutes into this firehouse posting it it clearly an elderly woman said what happened to St. Francis school 200 00:18:27,180 --> 00:18:40,180 Someone said fire thank you and someone responded to that said it burnt down within 10 minutes of the fire starting someone said it burnt down and I screen shot it because I was like that is the problem 201 00:18:40,180 --> 00:18:50,180 Right with any I mean everybody is attracted to disaster they just are sorry it's called you know what does it it's like a train wreck but it can't stop watching 202 00:18:50,180 --> 00:19:02,180 Yeah it's a car crash can't look away and so everybody but don't say things you don't know right so do not educate if you don't know what to educate on or how to educate 203 00:19:02,180 --> 00:19:10,180 That's why I sarcastically cannot articulate what I meant by that but I was like lady it didn't burn down I'm looking at it it's up 204 00:19:10,180 --> 00:19:20,180 And they're fixing it or they're trying to stop it and it's definitely really bad but like what that helps no one people were just like booing it right or like what's the opposite thumbs down 205 00:19:20,180 --> 00:19:26,180 Thumbs down oh my god thumbs down and I just was like you're the problem in the world 206 00:19:26,180 --> 00:19:37,180 Yeah and it's just like me texting Victorian being like I bet it was a candle like you know like I don't know I just am like making assumptions and you know what assumptions mean 207 00:19:37,180 --> 00:19:39,180 Makes an ass out of you and me 208 00:19:39,180 --> 00:19:42,180 Yep there you go explicit 209 00:19:42,180 --> 00:19:54,180 But yeah you don't want to spread false information and I think in a small area like our area that can definitely happen when rumors rumors start and you know 210 00:19:54,180 --> 00:19:59,180 I isn't me am I the drama like ask yourself that question 211 00:19:59,180 --> 00:20:07,180 I do every day I ask myself that because I am a good tea spiller I'm also a good information getter 212 00:20:07,180 --> 00:20:17,180 I mean when these police were whizzing by my house and fire trucks I immediately texted my cousin and I said tell me what's happening in front of my house 213 00:20:17,180 --> 00:20:23,180 And within seconds she wrote back and said you also are a false prophet 214 00:20:23,180 --> 00:20:35,180 You are a little Carmella senior to a degree because you get pieces of the information and then you create a story around it and you tell that 215 00:20:35,180 --> 00:20:43,180 But not to everything not to everything look last night you told me something that was that had three pieces to it 75 cents worth right 216 00:20:43,180 --> 00:20:53,180 One quarter was that you lost power one quarter was that mom's street and house lost power and that was semi true half the street did half the street didn't 217 00:20:53,180 --> 00:21:00,180 And then the last quarter was that the dance studio lost power and all the girls were there in the dark and that they were about to leave because they had to close the studio 218 00:21:00,180 --> 00:21:08,180 So mom didn't know she was coming to class and you and mom walked in the door and I said oh my god I thought the studio lost power and mom went no 219 00:21:08,180 --> 00:21:16,180 And you weren't yeah that's what I thought that's what I thought I thought that she got on the phone and she was like send them home send them home all the girls need to go home 220 00:21:16,180 --> 00:21:26,180 So you decided that there's because they lost power because I lost power mom lost power I assumed four blocks you know four stores down from St. Francis mom lost power too 221 00:21:26,180 --> 00:21:33,180 You're an in person Facebook troll and I like false prophet I really really like that name for me 222 00:21:33,180 --> 00:21:45,180 What are you Book of Mormon yeah I really like that I'm a false prophet I'm okay with that because I get most of the information right it's always going to be my last sentence that's wrong 223 00:21:45,180 --> 00:21:59,180 Billy's so mad right now so mad he is he threw the phone down yeah he's done listening I just know in case of tragedy listen to everything except my last sentence 224 00:21:59,180 --> 00:22:06,180 Because my last sentence will probably be either exaggerated or completely wrong those are the two options 225 00:22:06,180 --> 00:22:19,180 I actually didn't know this about you but now that I know I'm gonna look for it I'm gonna be prepared or I heard it from somebody else and I'm always going to tack it on at the end 226 00:22:19,180 --> 00:22:26,180 Instead of fact checking and then correct you're just gonna say it correct right so then it's their problem because they told you wrong information 227 00:22:26,180 --> 00:22:34,180 But then you have to acknowledge that I am a false prophet and that you should have known that ahead of time and I am not the person to get the information from 228 00:22:34,180 --> 00:22:45,180 I'm the person to get your entertainment from information and entertainment are two different things I think in 90 weeks we figured that out 229 00:22:45,180 --> 00:23:01,180 I think we have just making sure but I appreciate the honesty integrity ability to see myself in a way that others may not for the well others do 230 00:23:01,180 --> 00:23:17,180 We do we do we just keep it silent but now we're gonna flaunt it we are not laughing in the face of tragedy however if you don't have humor you have nothing 231 00:23:17,180 --> 00:23:33,180 Yeah I was so many songs came into my mind to start singing but I couldn't I'm too tired to figure out which one would work the best 232 00:23:33,180 --> 00:23:37,180 Wait there's no animals involved in this disaster that we're specifically talking about 233 00:23:37,180 --> 00:23:39,180 I don't know 234 00:23:39,180 --> 00:23:42,180 No I do know 235 00:23:42,180 --> 00:23:56,180 It's over okay so here's how you can help others through tragedy in terms of grief in terms of they are you know in the heart of it and you are on the outside and you just want to lend a hand 236 00:23:56,180 --> 00:24:06,180 It's not necessarily going to be a monetary or a volunteer effort it is a friend or a family member it's you know how can you help people close to you 237 00:24:06,180 --> 00:24:11,180 Yeah but they're basically their emotional needs in in a the face of tragedy 238 00:24:11,180 --> 00:24:14,180 Number one don't call Carly 239 00:24:14,180 --> 00:24:17,180 Number one Carly's not Carly won't be able to do this list 240 00:24:17,180 --> 00:24:18,180 No 241 00:24:18,180 --> 00:24:26,180 She is incapable unavailable on emotionally physically and mentally unavailable 242 00:24:26,180 --> 00:24:29,180 And her phone is off so really there's no way to get her 243 00:24:29,180 --> 00:24:31,180 Your mom is so mad at you 244 00:24:31,180 --> 00:24:32,180 You're getting grounded 245 00:24:32,180 --> 00:24:36,180 Facts hurt the truth hurts 246 00:24:36,180 --> 00:24:39,180 The first one's listen so already we're off to a good start 247 00:24:39,180 --> 00:24:59,180 You just let people talk let them talk and not give advice just listen they want to cry on your shoulder they want to tell you the horrible thing that happened and don't necessarily want you to try to fix it and I think that's the number one thing that people 248 00:24:59,180 --> 00:25:16,180 I think the biggest construe with listening is that it comes with fixing fixing and giving giving help no the help is just sit there and be an ear just be an ear that's it that's all you have to do and it's such a it's a cathartic help that maybe they don't realize it in the moment 249 00:25:16,180 --> 00:25:27,180 But when they're getting through grief yeah that's all they need and then you know you've done the biggest effort that there is I'm thinking of the movie Robin Hood Men and Tights 250 00:25:27,180 --> 00:25:32,180 And they take off their ears and they all throw it at them 251 00:25:32,180 --> 00:25:33,180 Yep great flick 252 00:25:33,180 --> 00:25:36,180 Yeah definitely don't go to Carly 253 00:25:36,180 --> 00:25:40,180 Oh here's a good one for you except their feelings 254 00:25:40,180 --> 00:25:41,180 Aww 255 00:25:41,180 --> 00:25:56,180 Just allow them to feel the feelings so if it's anger if it's sadness if it's you know despair let them feel it and I think that's a really hard one because we actually just talked about this a couple episodes ago where you 256 00:25:56,180 --> 00:26:03,180 want to pick yourself up the boot from the bootstraps and get out there and and do you have an accent? 257 00:26:03,180 --> 00:26:06,180 Do you have an accent? 258 00:26:06,180 --> 00:26:13,180 I did because I didn't say the R and then I just tried to bypass it 259 00:26:13,180 --> 00:26:16,180 But then you half you half asked your accent 260 00:26:16,180 --> 00:26:19,180 I didn't try to I didn't even know what it was 261 00:26:19,180 --> 00:26:22,180 You gotta pick yourself up from the bootstraps 262 00:26:22,180 --> 00:26:27,180 It's kind of like Cation like New Orleans you know 263 00:26:27,180 --> 00:26:36,180 I do not want to come to me because I will if you say something a little bit off I will call you on it make fun of you 264 00:26:36,180 --> 00:26:47,180 But like humor is is helpful to a degree but you know you are we just talked about how you I needed to feel sad and you were like no come on it's over let's go 265 00:26:47,180 --> 00:26:54,180 So sometimes you just have to let people sit in whatever is happening especially if it just happened 266 00:26:54,180 --> 00:27:04,180 Let them feel the bad feelings let them or else those bad feelings get harbored in the body and then you know the people that you're like wow they haven't even cried yet 267 00:27:04,180 --> 00:27:11,180 Like they didn't cry at the funeral they didn't they didn't get upset they didn't do anything they're so strong they're not strong they're gonna break down later 268 00:27:11,180 --> 00:27:17,180 And in bad way when no one's around to help them that is me to a T 269 00:27:20,180 --> 00:27:25,180 Acknowledge their grief you have a problem with that too 270 00:27:25,180 --> 00:27:28,180 I'd like to ignore it if it's not if if we're 271 00:27:28,180 --> 00:27:39,180 What is it a camel or an ostrich if you put your head in the hay it's not happening it's the sand an ostrich has never you say this all the time and I don't understand why you don't understand 272 00:27:39,180 --> 00:27:46,180 That's our brother's biggest thing to say I don't understand why you don't understand not say ostriches don't put their hand in the hay they put their hand 273 00:27:46,180 --> 00:27:47,180 They have hands 274 00:27:53,180 --> 00:27:58,180 They put their head in the sand you idiot god 275 00:27:58,180 --> 00:28:01,180 What 276 00:28:06,180 --> 00:28:08,180 Where's an emu 277 00:28:08,180 --> 00:28:13,180 No when have you ever seen an ostrich put their head in hay 278 00:28:13,180 --> 00:28:15,180 Well they don't eat sand 279 00:28:15,180 --> 00:28:16,180 They don't eat 280 00:28:16,180 --> 00:28:17,180 They don't eat 281 00:28:19,180 --> 00:28:21,180 They don't eat at all 282 00:28:21,180 --> 00:28:31,180 Continue I can't with you that you say it wrong every time it really bothers me it gets under my skin that you don't know an ostrich you're making fun of me and you're getting it wrong 283 00:28:31,180 --> 00:28:33,180 I put my head in the sand 284 00:28:33,180 --> 00:28:35,180 I accept your feelings 285 00:28:37,180 --> 00:28:39,180 I acknowledge your grief 286 00:28:42,180 --> 00:28:45,180 We're the wrong people to be talking about this 287 00:28:45,180 --> 00:28:56,180 I'm not gonna dismiss your experience or avoid telling you not to worry and that they're lucky oh how about when something happens and it's like well you're lucky it didn't go the other way 288 00:28:56,180 --> 00:28:59,180 You're lucky you're not like this person it happened to that 289 00:28:59,180 --> 00:29:01,180 Yeah we know like we know that 290 00:29:01,180 --> 00:29:10,180 That person knows that they got out of a bad situation in a better way than somebody else or whatever it is telling somebody that they're lucky 291 00:29:10,180 --> 00:29:12,180 Well you know what's hard and stuff 292 00:29:12,180 --> 00:29:15,180 And I've been someone who's done this before 293 00:29:15,180 --> 00:29:17,180 No 294 00:29:17,180 --> 00:29:27,180 When somebody's grandparent dies or somebody older dies and it was not a tragedy it was you know they lived a nice life 295 00:29:27,180 --> 00:29:28,180 Yeah yeah yeah 296 00:29:28,180 --> 00:29:33,180 And somebody going up and saying oh you're so lucky you had them for so long 297 00:29:33,180 --> 00:29:37,180 That's yes but also it doesn't make it any sadder 298 00:29:37,180 --> 00:29:38,180 Right 299 00:29:38,180 --> 00:29:39,180 To lose that person 300 00:29:39,180 --> 00:29:40,180 Or happier 301 00:29:40,180 --> 00:29:42,180 It doesn't make it any happier 302 00:29:42,180 --> 00:29:44,180 It doesn't make anybody I don't know my head was in the sand 303 00:29:44,180 --> 00:29:48,180 To make anybody happier by saying like you were so to hear that 304 00:29:48,180 --> 00:29:51,180 Cause you're like yes but I'm still sad and I'm grieving the loss 305 00:29:51,180 --> 00:29:53,180 Yeah I'm lucky whatever 306 00:29:53,180 --> 00:29:55,180 It's good that your head wasn't in the hay 307 00:29:56,180 --> 00:29:58,180 Your head hits the hay 308 00:29:58,180 --> 00:30:02,180 At the end of the night you hit the hay 309 00:30:02,180 --> 00:30:06,180 You put your head I can't anyway don't say you're lucky cause you're not 310 00:30:06,180 --> 00:30:08,180 Well use their words 311 00:30:08,180 --> 00:30:10,180 So if I say hey you gotta use it 312 00:30:10,180 --> 00:30:14,180 Use their words people describe experiences and feelings differently 313 00:30:14,180 --> 00:30:18,180 So if you can like if you understand that they talk 314 00:30:18,180 --> 00:30:20,180 This one's like kind of a hard one 315 00:30:20,180 --> 00:30:23,180 But if you understand that they talk differently I don't know 316 00:30:23,180 --> 00:30:31,180 They use different vocabulary for things instead of correcting them or trying to insert yourself maybe 317 00:30:31,180 --> 00:30:33,180 Yes and be like you mean this 318 00:30:33,180 --> 00:30:34,180 Right 319 00:30:34,180 --> 00:30:35,180 You're saying this but you mean this 320 00:30:35,180 --> 00:30:36,180 No just let them say it 321 00:30:36,180 --> 00:30:37,180 Yeah 322 00:30:37,180 --> 00:30:39,180 Basically shut up 323 00:30:39,180 --> 00:30:40,180 Carly 324 00:30:40,180 --> 00:30:41,180 Shut up 325 00:30:43,180 --> 00:30:45,180 Offer practical help 326 00:30:45,180 --> 00:30:48,180 Which is like can I make dinner 327 00:30:48,180 --> 00:30:51,180 It's so hard because people when they're going through stuff they don't want help 328 00:30:51,180 --> 00:30:53,180 They really don't 329 00:30:53,180 --> 00:30:55,180 No but you know what I think of 330 00:30:58,180 --> 00:31:00,180 Oh not 10 things I hate about you 331 00:31:00,180 --> 00:31:02,180 The other really good movie 332 00:31:03,180 --> 00:31:05,180 Not How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days 333 00:31:05,180 --> 00:31:07,180 He's just not that into you 334 00:31:07,180 --> 00:31:08,180 Yeah Jennifer Addison 335 00:31:08,180 --> 00:31:09,180 Good one 336 00:31:09,180 --> 00:31:13,180 Right so her it was her dad had a heart attack or a stroke or something like that 337 00:31:13,180 --> 00:31:16,180 She had broken up with the character of Ben Affleck 338 00:31:16,180 --> 00:31:21,180 And everybody's grieving in the house but like everyone's helping out 339 00:31:21,180 --> 00:31:22,180 Right 340 00:31:22,180 --> 00:31:23,180 And she's doing all the work 341 00:31:23,180 --> 00:31:27,180 And she comes downstairs and her ex boyfriend who she ends up marrying 342 00:31:27,180 --> 00:31:29,180 But her ex boyfriend's in the kitchen doing the dishes 343 00:31:29,180 --> 00:31:30,180 Uh huh 344 00:31:30,180 --> 00:31:32,180 Cause he did not come over and say what can I do he just came over and did it 345 00:31:32,180 --> 00:31:33,180 Yeah 346 00:31:33,180 --> 00:31:36,180 And it was like a beautiful moment in the movie and everybody can relate to that 347 00:31:36,180 --> 00:31:41,180 Because that is you know happened somebody just does it instead of offers 348 00:31:41,180 --> 00:31:44,180 Right so if you're depends on the situation and how like close you are 349 00:31:44,180 --> 00:31:49,180 But I don't think you this one has to be let me offer so that you accept 350 00:31:49,180 --> 00:31:51,180 It's just just do it 351 00:31:51,180 --> 00:31:52,180 Just do it yeah 352 00:31:52,180 --> 00:31:53,180 Just like Nike 353 00:31:54,180 --> 00:31:55,180 Just do it 354 00:31:56,180 --> 00:31:57,180 Here's a tough one 355 00:31:58,180 --> 00:31:59,180 Patience 356 00:31:59,180 --> 00:32:03,180 Like if people aren't getting over something or if the grief is taking a little bit too long 357 00:32:03,180 --> 00:32:05,180 Or if they haven't reached out to you 358 00:32:05,180 --> 00:32:09,180 You just have to be patient like let it happen how it's gonna happen 359 00:32:09,180 --> 00:32:12,180 And that's one of the biggest helps 360 00:32:13,180 --> 00:32:16,180 Yeah sometimes that makes you feel helpless though 361 00:32:16,180 --> 00:32:17,180 Exactly 362 00:32:17,180 --> 00:32:18,180 Yeah 363 00:32:18,180 --> 00:32:20,180 But paired with that as the next one which is reach out 364 00:32:20,180 --> 00:32:23,180 So if you're hesitant on whether or not you should reach out to 365 00:32:23,180 --> 00:32:26,180 You know say something happens to somebody that you haven't talked to in a while 366 00:32:26,180 --> 00:32:29,180 But you still have their phone number because you used to be really close 367 00:32:29,180 --> 00:32:30,180 Shoot the text 368 00:32:30,180 --> 00:32:31,180 I know I always think of that 369 00:32:31,180 --> 00:32:32,180 Just do it 370 00:32:32,180 --> 00:32:33,180 Ahh but why not 371 00:32:33,180 --> 00:32:34,180 I could talk to them in forever 372 00:32:34,180 --> 00:32:36,180 I feel weird 373 00:32:36,180 --> 00:32:38,180 I guess I should just like not care 374 00:32:38,180 --> 00:32:42,180 But then they're then it's like I should you know how how long does it take for you to be like 375 00:32:42,180 --> 00:32:43,180 I really should have texted 376 00:32:43,180 --> 00:32:44,180 I wish I had 377 00:32:44,180 --> 00:32:45,180 I wish I had 378 00:32:45,180 --> 00:32:46,180 And all I mean 379 00:32:47,180 --> 00:32:52,180 Everybody's doing it and thinking the same things at some point in life right 380 00:32:52,180 --> 00:32:56,180 So that person that you're afraid to reach out to has thought about that in a different scenario 381 00:32:56,180 --> 00:32:57,180 Or maybe with you as well 382 00:32:57,180 --> 00:33:01,180 So there's nothing wrong with just being overly communicative in the text 383 00:33:02,180 --> 00:33:06,180 To be like hey I know we haven't talked in a while but I really felt like I wanted to reach out 384 00:33:06,180 --> 00:33:08,180 And I just hope you're doing okay 385 00:33:08,180 --> 00:33:12,180 And you know sending whatever, thoughts and whatever 386 00:33:12,180 --> 00:33:14,180 Like if you just say that then it's not weird 387 00:33:14,180 --> 00:33:16,180 Like you're acknowledging we haven't talked in a while 388 00:33:16,180 --> 00:33:19,180 But I really wanted to do this and I would be sad if I didn't so here 389 00:33:19,180 --> 00:33:21,180 Like why don't we do that 390 00:33:21,180 --> 00:33:22,180 Right 391 00:33:22,180 --> 00:33:24,180 It's a lengthy text and the blue bubble is a little too big 392 00:33:24,180 --> 00:33:25,180 Like that's what we think of 393 00:33:25,180 --> 00:33:26,180 I don't think of that 394 00:33:26,180 --> 00:33:27,180 Oh 395 00:33:28,180 --> 00:33:31,180 There are so many texting rules these day with the kids 396 00:33:31,180 --> 00:33:32,180 These day? 397 00:33:34,180 --> 00:33:36,180 There's so many texting rules these day 398 00:33:36,180 --> 00:33:37,180 Pick up your boots 399 00:33:37,180 --> 00:33:40,180 No big big up or ya boot 400 00:33:42,180 --> 00:33:48,180 These day there's so many rules that I just don't care for 401 00:33:48,180 --> 00:33:50,180 So that doesn't bother me 402 00:33:50,180 --> 00:33:52,180 So many other things bother me 403 00:33:55,180 --> 00:33:57,180 Cause you're a one thought texter 404 00:33:57,180 --> 00:33:59,180 And it drives me insane 405 00:33:59,180 --> 00:34:01,180 I actually don't care about looking at it 406 00:34:01,180 --> 00:34:05,180 That there's little blue bubbles that are 10-12 at a time 407 00:34:05,180 --> 00:34:08,180 It's the amount my phone lights up or goes off 408 00:34:09,180 --> 00:34:13,180 Within, I mean you haven't finished the first thought and you're texting the next one 409 00:34:13,180 --> 00:34:15,180 And it's like it just happened this morning 410 00:34:15,180 --> 00:34:16,180 It just happened this morning 411 00:34:16,180 --> 00:34:17,180 I came home 412 00:34:17,180 --> 00:34:18,180 Hold on 413 00:34:18,180 --> 00:34:20,180 I feel like you should be patient with me 414 00:34:20,180 --> 00:34:21,180 No 415 00:34:21,180 --> 00:34:22,180 And never 416 00:34:22,180 --> 00:34:24,180 I came home 417 00:34:26,180 --> 00:34:28,180 I came home it was 6.30 this morning 418 00:34:28,180 --> 00:34:29,180 I came out of my room 419 00:34:29,180 --> 00:34:31,180 I was coming out of my room 420 00:34:31,180 --> 00:34:34,180 I went into the bathroom and my phone went ding ding ding 421 00:34:37,180 --> 00:34:38,180 Ding ding ding 422 00:34:38,180 --> 00:34:40,180 And I was like oh someone's dying 423 00:34:40,180 --> 00:34:41,180 Yeah 424 00:34:41,180 --> 00:34:42,180 It was you 425 00:34:42,180 --> 00:34:43,180 It was you 426 00:34:43,180 --> 00:34:47,180 Talking about what shirts to order online 427 00:34:47,180 --> 00:34:48,180 Listen 428 00:34:48,180 --> 00:34:52,180 I text when I'm thinking it 429 00:34:52,180 --> 00:34:54,180 Because if I don't they don't come out 430 00:34:54,180 --> 00:34:57,180 And sometimes it might be 5.30 am 431 00:34:57,180 --> 00:34:59,180 If I know that she's up which I do 432 00:34:59,180 --> 00:35:02,180 Because I know everything that she's doing at all times 433 00:35:02,180 --> 00:35:04,180 I need to text her right away 434 00:35:05,180 --> 00:35:08,180 If anybody wants to send aid or help to me 435 00:35:09,180 --> 00:35:12,180 I please feel free to reach out 436 00:35:14,180 --> 00:35:15,180 Don't she's fine 437 00:35:15,180 --> 00:35:16,180 She doesn't 438 00:35:16,180 --> 00:35:17,180 She's good 439 00:35:17,180 --> 00:35:18,180 She can figure it out 440 00:35:18,180 --> 00:35:20,180 But also don't text me multiple times 441 00:35:20,180 --> 00:35:22,180 So reach out 442 00:35:22,180 --> 00:35:24,180 Send that text or 443 00:35:24,180 --> 00:35:26,180 God forbid make the phone call 444 00:35:26,180 --> 00:35:28,180 I don't know why we don't do that anymore 445 00:35:28,180 --> 00:35:30,180 But don't even get Carly started 446 00:35:30,180 --> 00:35:31,180 Reach out 447 00:35:31,180 --> 00:35:33,180 Don't even get me started 448 00:35:33,180 --> 00:35:34,180 What's that from? 449 00:35:34,180 --> 00:35:35,180 Saturday Night Live 450 00:35:35,180 --> 00:35:36,180 I don't think anything 451 00:35:36,180 --> 00:35:37,180 I didn't give you a chance 452 00:35:37,180 --> 00:35:38,180 It's from Saturday Night Live 453 00:35:38,180 --> 00:35:39,180 Don't get me started 454 00:35:39,180 --> 00:35:41,180 Don't even get me started 455 00:35:41,180 --> 00:35:42,180 Swaddle waddle 456 00:35:42,180 --> 00:35:43,180 Swaddle waddle 457 00:35:43,180 --> 00:35:44,180 There's so many 458 00:35:44,180 --> 00:35:46,180 I can do a whole episode on skits 459 00:35:46,180 --> 00:35:47,180 Swaddle waddle 460 00:35:48,180 --> 00:35:49,180 And then the last one 461 00:35:49,180 --> 00:35:50,180 Talk about it 462 00:35:51,180 --> 00:35:52,180 I can do that 463 00:35:52,180 --> 00:35:55,180 Just speak to others who are also going through it 464 00:35:55,180 --> 00:35:56,180 Just talk about it 465 00:35:56,180 --> 00:35:57,180 Right? 466 00:35:57,180 --> 00:35:58,180 I think 467 00:35:58,180 --> 00:36:00,180 A lot of the time 468 00:36:01,180 --> 00:36:03,180 It's like an unspoken 469 00:36:03,180 --> 00:36:04,180 It's so bad 470 00:36:04,180 --> 00:36:06,180 Now this is specific situations 471 00:36:06,180 --> 00:36:08,180 But the tragedy is so bad 472 00:36:08,180 --> 00:36:09,180 Let's not touch it 473 00:36:09,180 --> 00:36:11,180 Let's not necessarily pretend like it's not happening 474 00:36:11,180 --> 00:36:12,180 But let's just not 475 00:36:12,180 --> 00:36:15,180 And I think it just does the worst 476 00:36:15,180 --> 00:36:16,180 That does the opposite effect 477 00:36:16,180 --> 00:36:17,180 Of like healing 478 00:36:18,180 --> 00:36:19,180 It just stores the sad 479 00:36:20,180 --> 00:36:21,180 And also 480 00:36:21,180 --> 00:36:23,180 I know in situations that I've been in 481 00:36:24,180 --> 00:36:25,180 When you don't talk about it 482 00:36:26,180 --> 00:36:28,180 It creates the elephant in the room 483 00:36:28,180 --> 00:36:29,180 Which makes it more awkward 484 00:36:29,180 --> 00:36:31,180 So you can't hide an elephant in hay 485 00:36:31,180 --> 00:36:32,180 Or sand 486 00:36:33,180 --> 00:36:34,180 Or picket's boots up 487 00:36:34,180 --> 00:36:36,180 I hate you right now 488 00:36:37,180 --> 00:36:38,180 Like I 489 00:36:39,180 --> 00:36:40,180 God 490 00:36:40,180 --> 00:36:43,180 I'm pretty pleased with myself 491 00:36:43,180 --> 00:36:44,180 I'm sure you are 492 00:36:45,180 --> 00:36:47,180 But just get the elephant out of the room 493 00:36:48,180 --> 00:36:49,180 In the room 494 00:36:49,180 --> 00:36:50,180 Get it out 495 00:36:50,180 --> 00:36:51,180 Yeah, get it out of the room 496 00:36:51,180 --> 00:36:52,180 It's too big for the room 497 00:36:52,180 --> 00:36:53,180 It's too big for the room 498 00:36:53,180 --> 00:36:55,180 It just makes it so much easier 499 00:36:55,180 --> 00:36:57,180 Like the burden, the cloud has been lifted 500 00:36:57,180 --> 00:36:58,180 And 501 00:36:59,180 --> 00:37:01,180 Then you can talk about whatever you want to talk about 502 00:37:01,180 --> 00:37:04,180 But sometimes that lingering cloud 503 00:37:04,180 --> 00:37:06,180 Is just, it went from an elephant to a cloud 504 00:37:06,180 --> 00:37:07,180 And went poofed 505 00:37:07,180 --> 00:37:09,180 That's how you got it out of the room 506 00:37:09,180 --> 00:37:11,180 But I've been in situations like that 507 00:37:11,180 --> 00:37:12,180 Where it's like 508 00:37:12,180 --> 00:37:13,180 Do we bring it up? Do we not bring it up? 509 00:37:13,180 --> 00:37:14,180 Now it's awkward 510 00:37:14,180 --> 00:37:15,180 Oh, you're the most awkward 511 00:37:15,180 --> 00:37:16,180 I? 512 00:37:16,180 --> 00:37:17,180 Most awkward 513 00:37:17,180 --> 00:37:20,180 And the most awkward person alive 514 00:37:21,180 --> 00:37:22,180 And if you're someone like me 515 00:37:22,180 --> 00:37:23,180 Who's just gonna 516 00:37:25,180 --> 00:37:27,180 Properly and appropriately 517 00:37:27,180 --> 00:37:28,180 Speak up about something 518 00:37:28,180 --> 00:37:30,180 With someone like awkward in the room 519 00:37:31,180 --> 00:37:32,180 She ruins it 520 00:37:32,180 --> 00:37:33,180 She makes it awkward for everyone 521 00:37:33,180 --> 00:37:34,180 And I'm like, I'm not being awkward 522 00:37:34,180 --> 00:37:35,180 Because you are 523 00:37:35,180 --> 00:37:36,180 I make jokes 524 00:37:36,180 --> 00:37:40,180 It's that or like you're truly dead silent 525 00:37:40,180 --> 00:37:43,180 Like you pretend like you're Homer Simpson 526 00:37:43,180 --> 00:37:44,180 Falling into the bushes 527 00:37:44,180 --> 00:37:45,180 And that gif 528 00:37:45,180 --> 00:37:48,180 And it's like, well, Karlie, you're the elephant 529 00:37:48,180 --> 00:37:50,180 You are the elephant 530 00:37:50,180 --> 00:37:53,180 You can't just hide into the wall 531 00:37:53,180 --> 00:37:55,180 And now it's awkward for everybody 532 00:37:55,180 --> 00:37:56,180 So thank you so much 533 00:37:56,180 --> 00:37:57,180 Yeah, I agree 534 00:38:00,180 --> 00:38:01,180 Thank God 535 00:38:01,180 --> 00:38:03,180 I do have a question though 536 00:38:03,180 --> 00:38:06,180 And I'm gonna put a poll out there on the Fit to Be Real Instagram 537 00:38:06,180 --> 00:38:07,180 I'm gonna put a poll 538 00:38:07,180 --> 00:38:08,180 I'm gonna put a poll 539 00:38:08,180 --> 00:38:10,180 I mean, Victoria will 540 00:38:10,180 --> 00:38:12,180 What episode is this? 541 00:38:12,180 --> 00:38:13,180 90 542 00:38:13,180 --> 00:38:18,180 Do you feel you've learned anything from us? 543 00:38:18,180 --> 00:38:21,180 Because I was thinking about it this morning 544 00:38:21,180 --> 00:38:24,180 As I was listening to a previous podcast we've done 545 00:38:24,180 --> 00:38:30,180 I'm unsure if anybody has learned anything from listening 546 00:38:30,180 --> 00:38:32,180 I think the question is, have you? 547 00:38:32,180 --> 00:38:34,180 I feel like I have 548 00:38:34,180 --> 00:38:35,180 Okay, that's all that matters 549 00:38:35,180 --> 00:38:37,180 But I'm not sure if it's transferring 550 00:38:37,180 --> 00:38:40,180 And I feel like people are learning things about me 551 00:38:40,180 --> 00:38:42,180 But maybe not about anything 552 00:38:44,180 --> 00:38:48,180 I agree and disagree with you 553 00:38:48,180 --> 00:38:49,180 But I agree because 554 00:38:49,180 --> 00:38:50,180 What do we know? 555 00:38:50,180 --> 00:38:52,180 No, right 556 00:38:52,180 --> 00:38:54,180 And I disagree because 557 00:38:56,180 --> 00:38:57,180 I have more faith 558 00:38:57,180 --> 00:38:59,180 And I have confidence that I actually 559 00:38:59,180 --> 00:39:03,180 I know this is helping a lot of people in very small ways 560 00:39:03,180 --> 00:39:05,180 And even if it's just the way where they're 561 00:39:05,180 --> 00:39:07,180 Sitting in their car listening going 562 00:39:07,180 --> 00:39:08,180 Oh, me too 563 00:39:08,180 --> 00:39:09,180 Somebody else, oh that's good 564 00:39:09,180 --> 00:39:10,180 And then they go on with their day 565 00:39:10,180 --> 00:39:11,180 Well that I understand 566 00:39:11,180 --> 00:39:13,180 But then I'm listening and Victoria's like 567 00:39:13,180 --> 00:39:15,180 The hemoglobin and the cortisol 568 00:39:15,180 --> 00:39:16,180 And I'm like 569 00:39:16,180 --> 00:39:18,180 Under my umbrella 570 00:39:18,180 --> 00:39:20,180 And I'm like, oh God 571 00:39:20,180 --> 00:39:22,180 I don't think I've ever said hemoglobin 572 00:39:22,180 --> 00:39:23,180 No, amygdala 573 00:39:23,180 --> 00:39:24,180 You said amygdala 574 00:39:24,180 --> 00:39:28,180 You said amygdala, cortisol, adrenaline 575 00:39:28,180 --> 00:39:29,180 You said all these things 576 00:39:29,180 --> 00:39:30,180 But you know hemoglobin 577 00:39:30,180 --> 00:39:31,180 Is that a thing? 578 00:39:31,180 --> 00:39:32,180 I think it's blood 579 00:39:32,180 --> 00:39:33,180 Is it a real word? 580 00:39:33,180 --> 00:39:34,180 Hemoglobin? 581 00:39:34,180 --> 00:39:35,180 Hemoglobin 582 00:39:35,180 --> 00:39:36,180 Hemoglobin 583 00:39:36,180 --> 00:39:37,180 I think so 584 00:39:37,180 --> 00:39:39,180 I really thought I learned it from you 585 00:39:39,180 --> 00:39:40,180 I learned it from watching you 586 00:39:40,180 --> 00:39:41,180 I learned it from watching you 587 00:39:41,180 --> 00:39:43,180 But then I'm just in the background going 588 00:39:43,180 --> 00:39:44,180 I'm a hustler baby 589 00:39:44,180 --> 00:39:46,180 Oh, you haven't said that in a while 590 00:39:46,180 --> 00:39:47,180 I just did 591 00:39:49,180 --> 00:39:51,180 I'm a hustler baby 592 00:39:51,180 --> 00:39:53,180 Baby 593 00:39:53,180 --> 00:39:55,180 Baby 594 00:39:57,180 --> 00:39:59,180 I just want to know if you've learned anything 595 00:39:59,180 --> 00:40:01,180 From the podcast that has helped you 596 00:40:01,180 --> 00:40:02,180 In your life 597 00:40:02,180 --> 00:40:05,180 Because that would mean that I've done some of these 598 00:40:05,180 --> 00:40:07,180 Disaster relief things 599 00:40:07,180 --> 00:40:09,180 Because I'm helping you 600 00:40:11,180 --> 00:40:12,180 Well you haven't listened 601 00:40:12,180 --> 00:40:14,180 You have not accepted emotions 602 00:40:16,180 --> 00:40:18,180 I don't think you use the same vocabulary 603 00:40:20,180 --> 00:40:22,180 But this is just for me in particular 604 00:40:22,180 --> 00:40:23,180 Right 605 00:40:23,180 --> 00:40:24,180 I have support 606 00:40:24,180 --> 00:40:25,180 Nope 607 00:40:25,180 --> 00:40:26,180 I have faith 608 00:40:26,180 --> 00:40:29,180 That we are supported by our listeners 609 00:40:29,180 --> 00:40:32,180 And I will put this pull out 610 00:40:32,180 --> 00:40:33,180 Just to find out 611 00:40:33,180 --> 00:40:34,180 Okay, thanks 612 00:40:34,180 --> 00:40:36,180 Okay, thanks, bye 613 00:40:36,180 --> 00:40:39,180 So yeah, that's all we have for you today 614 00:40:39,180 --> 00:40:41,180 It just, you know 615 00:40:41,180 --> 00:40:45,180 When it's happening and it's something that does not happen 616 00:40:45,180 --> 00:40:46,180 Ever 617 00:40:46,180 --> 00:40:49,180 Something like this fire that truly 618 00:40:49,180 --> 00:40:50,180 It was just a sight 619 00:40:50,180 --> 00:40:51,180 It felt surreal 620 00:40:51,180 --> 00:40:52,180 It's sad 621 00:40:52,180 --> 00:40:53,180 It's horrible 622 00:40:53,180 --> 00:40:55,180 And it was right down the street 623 00:40:55,180 --> 00:40:57,180 You know, we live down the street and 624 00:40:57,180 --> 00:40:58,180 We grew up there 625 00:40:58,180 --> 00:41:00,180 And it's really just the childhood memories of it 626 00:41:00,180 --> 00:41:01,180 I think for me 627 00:41:01,180 --> 00:41:02,180 But it's, because it's going to get fixed 628 00:41:02,180 --> 00:41:03,180 Nobody got hurt 629 00:41:03,180 --> 00:41:05,180 Everything is relatively in the grand scheme 630 00:41:05,180 --> 00:41:07,180 Of what's happening in the world 631 00:41:07,180 --> 00:41:08,180 It's okay, right? 632 00:41:08,180 --> 00:41:09,180 It's okay 633 00:41:09,180 --> 00:41:10,180 It's going to get fixed 634 00:41:10,180 --> 00:41:12,180 Money can be made 635 00:41:12,180 --> 00:41:14,180 And money can be given 636 00:41:14,180 --> 00:41:16,180 And money will, you know, get used 637 00:41:16,180 --> 00:41:19,180 So when you think of it like that 638 00:41:19,180 --> 00:41:21,180 All is well 639 00:41:21,180 --> 00:41:24,180 But when it's something that just doesn't happen 640 00:41:24,180 --> 00:41:26,180 Usually it just feels very, very potent 641 00:41:26,180 --> 00:41:27,180 So we wanted to talk about it 642 00:41:27,180 --> 00:41:30,180 And, you know, helplessness 643 00:41:30,180 --> 00:41:35,180 I think is a very common and frequent feeling 644 00:41:35,180 --> 00:41:36,180 Yeah 645 00:41:36,180 --> 00:41:37,180 For most people 646 00:41:37,180 --> 00:41:38,180 Definitely 647 00:41:38,180 --> 00:41:40,180 There are many, many ways to not feel helpless 648 00:41:40,180 --> 00:41:42,180 And to be hopeful 649 00:41:42,180 --> 00:41:43,180 And to lend a hand 650 00:41:43,180 --> 00:41:47,180 And it doesn't have to be anything more than what you can 651 00:41:47,180 --> 00:41:49,180 Offer somebody 652 00:41:49,180 --> 00:41:50,180 Yes 653 00:41:50,180 --> 00:41:54,180 So with that said 654 00:41:54,180 --> 00:41:56,180 Wow, so much has just happened 655 00:41:56,180 --> 00:41:57,180 With that said 656 00:41:57,180 --> 00:41:59,180 All the emotions happened in today's podcast 657 00:41:59,180 --> 00:42:01,180 And we had, it was like Noah's Ark 658 00:42:01,180 --> 00:42:03,180 We had emus and ostriches 659 00:42:03,180 --> 00:42:05,180 Elephants and clouds 660 00:42:05,180 --> 00:42:06,180 Archer's 661 00:42:06,180 --> 00:42:08,180 Plagues and crickets 662 00:42:08,180 --> 00:42:11,180 Lantern flies and COVID 663 00:42:11,180 --> 00:42:14,180 We hope you're feeling biblical 664 00:42:14,180 --> 00:42:15,180 No, don't 665 00:42:15,180 --> 00:42:18,180 In any Bible you choose to read 666 00:42:18,180 --> 00:42:19,180 Believe in 667 00:42:19,180 --> 00:42:24,180 But what we really hope is that you feel fit to be real 668 00:42:24,180 --> 00:42:27,180 And always allowed to be a little extra 669 00:42:27,180 --> 00:42:56,180 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and educational purposes only. We are not healthcare professionals. For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self care needs, please refer to the medical professional in your life. Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what they say. 670 00:42:56,180 --> 00:43:01,180 I guarantee we need to know it too. Okay? Okay, bye.