Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
All right, today is not gonna be the happiest of happy's
Or the saddest of saddest is gonna be informational. I feel like
I feel like every other week just like every other week. Yes
There has been a lot
Recently going on just in this year alone
Well, you would know because you're a date remember. I'm with I'm a no your after date remember
Yeah, when bad things happen, I remember and I and
Right now the space for that. Oh, I know because you don't like negativity. I
ooze negativity
That's not what I mean. I don't ooze it. I don't want to use it
But I'm picturing you as the boogie boogie man. What's that guy the oogie boogie man from the boogie boogie man night before Christmas
Is that that's oozing to me? Yes, and I I think I absorb it because when I hear about something
It sort of sticks with me and this year has been a lot of disasters
Globally, yeah, well, yeah
Heart horrible horrible things. I mean, we're talking the hurricane that's going on right now the mass shootings
The floods I feel like the gates are opening up somewhere and it's all happening
Yeah, and we're gonna talk today about how we can help because sometimes you just feel
Helpless well, didn't it not to get biblical because I don't really know much about the Bible, but didn't it like we got the
Lantern flies and we were like swarmed with bugs like the plague like the plague and the well, no the
The bugs and the Vegas got like crickets and they couldn't walk on the sidewalk
Mm-hmm, and then we got a pandemic which is the plague. Mm-hmm. Yes, right and then I mean it's just like what's next, right?
I'm gonna read the Bible. What's going on mom super happy that you don't know anything about the Bible
But went to Catholic school for 14 years, so
There's that in our nomad a padre you know you hope you do spirit with Santa amen. That's as much as my Spanish good as well
so
It's not that I don't remember if you said it I'd be like oh, yeah, yeah me too. I just
Have better things to put in my mind. Oh, no mom
But mom's with me. I know mom's with me like I have faith. I I don't necessarily put my
Everything I have into like
Collective religion mm-hmm, so like it's in there. I remembered I can see the copy books of Jesus
I can see him or the workbooks the workbooks, but you know, I remember the beatitudes and all the things
I just it's that's what makes me think of it because they're all things that you would think this is never gonna happen
And I feel like they're all happening right it's all that's all that I meant
This is not about religion. No, you just oh mom, you know hundreds of thousands of dollars in religious education
Wow, then that school should be listen. That's what we're talking about. Okay, maybe you like
I
Also went public. Oh, yeah, you did public high school. That's right. I forgot you cost her way more money
I cost her well just as a human in general
This isn't supposed to be funny. It's not okay. So what the reason we're talking about these
catastrophic events is
Because not only are they happening right now, but one just hit a little close to home where our
Our grade school our childhood, you know memories basically our little bubble a little bubble at the time
It's a different bubble now, but I feel like they still feel the same it had a you
Horrible horrible fire last night and I do not think the building can be salvaged the the ceiling collapsed
It was I've never seen it almost looked like a
Cartoon fire
Yes
Like if you look at a picture that somebody took and there's flames coming out of the windows and going up to the sky and kind of like
Yes engulfing but but wrapping around the building
it looked I
Hate to say but it looked fake it looked like what they draw in the kids
Cartoons of fire safety, you know, I went by it this morning. You did. Yeah, you can't drive by it
you can't get near it, but I walked by it and
It's interesting to see through a window that's non-existent and see the sky because there is no
There is no ceiling so it's it's four stone walls because that
Did not burn down the stone did not burn down. Yeah everything inside it from the ground up is gone
Yeah, I
Don't know what could have caused that it took we'll find out when it
Finally got under control because no text me like nine. I texted you at nine and it still was not so and that's four hours later
Karlie was like it was a candle. It's like it was not candle. Oh, I made that up
No, I said what if it was I know but a candle wouldn't do that like they would be able to control a candle fire
Oh my god
And then I was texting me to like all those papers probably from the candle and Victoria's like I don't think probably electoral
That would set it to alarm fire off. That's as much as I know about flames. So
We it's really devastated the community. Yeah, everybody, you know with devastation comes a silver lining of banding together and feeling the community and
wanting to reach out to just give a kind word or go a little bit farther and
Monetary help or you know depending on the situation bringing food
That's like the number one thing to bring food to people especially we're Italian, you know food fixes everything like a funeral
pairs very well with lasagna and
So I'm hoping people are bringing food to the parish
You know what he means well with lasagna. It's it means true. The Palatana brothers are gonna be hitting you up later
Yeah, all your funeral needs
so hopefully people are bringing
Food to the sacristy or you know the priests and the people that live right there. Yeah, and the rectory director
They're out of the rectory the church is closed down for a little bit and but that this is our small little bubble of a devastation
I mean what's going on with the hurricanes right now and with Carolina and Florida is horrific?
I mean, yeah, people are dying. Yeah, and
And Palestine. Yeah, you know like go as far as over there
It's a little bit different to give relief and reach out but
Calling to to have you know have aid and give aid is a universal language
So that's what we're gonna talk about today. How's that for a segue? Yeah, how's that? You did a good job?
I'm gonna try not to backtrack. Let's
Get into it
I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly and that was the longest intro we've ever done. I'm gonna disagree with you the past couple weeks
I have lost
The train of thought for the episode because our intros have been so long and I was like, oh my god
Did we start yet? I just you know, just got a lot of things in my mind
I got a lot of things to say. I have a lot of feelings. You don't even go here
She doesn't even go here. I do I live here
So what made me think of while we were thinking about this a little story that came into my mind
Was that there was a lot going on in Haiti. I can't remember the year. Yes, we had the green Mitsubishi
Mm-hmm. It was Carly's car first that it was mine
So I'm I think that was high school for me. Yeah, maybe getting into college and it was college because I had that car
I mean, I only got my license senior year because I driving so it was you were in college
All right, well, then I had a different green car. This is my prudence the protege
It's a Mazda not that any of that matters, but that's now we know. No, we know what year we're in
So I was in college. So it's between 2011 and 2000
No 2007 2011 and something was going on in Haiti and my mind cannot remember
Exactly what it was but what they were calling for was rice. Oh my god and
You can clearly you know go the grocery store right now you can get
Pounds of rice right in giant bags like it almost looks like sandbags right Costco or BJ's they're enormous
So mom and Carly
had just the most brilliant idea of
Purchasing these bags of rice because you know the thought didn't go past they need rice. I'll go get rice
I can easily buy rice. It's something I can do. It's just you know easy simple whatever
But then she can figure out how to ship the right I wanted to ship the rice to Haiti
But she was like give me an address like it should come here and get food
In her over international waters into Haiti, so it all worked out you ended up helping but the rice stayed here
The rice stayed here in my truck no my trunk bed your trunk of my car and
I traveled around Temple University with a 50-pound bag. What?
I couldn't do that for a second time if I tried a 50 mound fat pack
Nope a
50 pound bag of rice in her long grain white rice in my trunk
And I'm going to you know
Caravan with my friends and we're packing the car and we're doing and they're like why do you race in a car?
Like it was the longest time. I've ever had rice in my car. I can never say in my life
She usually has rice for like shorts amount of time in her car. That was the longest it was in my belly
But then this one didn't so
Then I got a truck and I had to clean out that car and I just transferred that rice into my truck bed
I can't tell you what happened to the rice since then it's not in my truck
But I know I hydroplane a lot uh-huh because now my truck beds very light light. Yeah, and the rice was helpful
Yeah, so I know where the rice is
Where is it I?
Have a sandbag in my V fit personal training room stop and people flip and clean and snatch with it
Okay, I know where the rice so I am helping I'm helping the people still you're helping the people of
Springfield I
Wanted to go a little further, but I'm happy to help the V fit v fitters in Springfield. Oh my god
That just wow that just came yeah right to me well
So how how do we help in a more efficient way?
Shall we say?
Just don't go out and buy some 50 pound bags of rice thinking that you're gonna send them
Usually the number one way in terms of like actual giving of something is to donate money
To the right places to the right places so the Red Cross
the American Red Cross is
Phenomenal and we're gonna attach links of all different sources to reach out and help for any cause because there's usually
Specific places per disaster. Oh, that sounds horrible
I know but it there but it's so incredible that they exist and that there are people that do this and that is their
Life's purpose and thank God for them. So we'll link all of that now. We're not necessarily just talking about our small town
Relatively fixable and nobody got hurt. Yes. Thank goodness
Tragedy but the world right now like if you feel helpless and you're sitting on your couch at night
You're watching the news and you're like gosh why there's nothing I can do like I'm so small in this world
You know all those thoughts that tend to bubble to the surface when
These horrible horrible things happen. You can always donate money. So these links are there
I think this is my personal opinion
But you have to be a part of the tragedy to create a go fund me like I don't understand sometimes when people
So far removed from something create a go fund me for people that they don't even know
Right, like I I would happily donate to that go fund me like I will give my money
Yeah, you got to make sure that where it's going is the end and also go find me is great
If you're talking about large sums of money, I guess, but they do I mean it's it's a service
They take a cut of the proceeds. So you got to remember that. Yeah, you know
You might want to look into picking something not a hundred percent of what you're giving is going to the cause
Yeah, not like 90% because that's a little different
But yeah, you want to be directly involved if you're starting a go fund me like I was not about to start a go fund me for Haiti
Do you didn't have an address?
But you did I believe you you and mom donated I think we instead yeah in lieu of rice in lieu of rice
We're like they were like you keep the rice send us the money. Well, I our own right. Yes, we'll get it
But money is a good good way to do it. Usually there's some economic, you know downfall to whatever
I mean, it's going to take for for our
School fire here. It's gonna take a lot of money to rebuild. It's gonna take a lot of hopefully not a lot of time
Just because they you know, these kids have to go to school. Well in North Carolina Andrew's sister
My sister-in-law and two nieces they were in a shelter
For a week because they couldn't get to their house
Because there were no roads so they were living in a shelter now they're home
But the end of their road is gone
They had no power. They had no internet, you know, like people are displaced people are homeless
Yeah, there are places to volunteer there are places to donate
I mean we can't volunteer. I'm very far away from that
Right, you know, whatever but like you can donate money to that cause but yeah, I mean
Hundreds of thousands of people are out of homes right now. It's it's crazy. Yeah, it's it's devastating
Yeah, it's it's devastating. Yeah, but volunteers the next the next option for lending hand
So volunteer at your local or maybe a larger scale organization
However, and I it's funny that they even have to say this but like you should not self deploy yourself somewhere to go volunteer
Right, so like if something's going on in California, don't just fly over there by yourself
Oh God and and hope to join in on some volunteer
Yeah, you know, whatever efforts do it do it in a proper organized way
Okay
Locally, I think it's something different but I also think volunteer by helping the you know for our situation
I'm gonna keep bringing it back to that because that's why we're even talking about this help the firehouse
Yes, those those guys were so fast to the cause and I'm in so I'm in a different town and I was slowing down my fire truck
And I pulled over I mean I pulled over but I was like they you know everybody yeah gets called to the to the help and me how many
Did you say went by your house I texted you or I texted my cousin and I was like I didn't know Springfield had this many fire trucks because they weren't
Yeah all from Springfield now they're from everywhere and I live next to the police station
Because that's where I love to choose my homes my last home was near police station because I just want to make sure that they're close by
And I like being 100 feet away about 12 cars within minutes of just police cars went by and those they're working overtime right now
Firemen I mean the pictures of these firemen in the flames trying to get it out for hours and hours drop them a lasagna they need to eat
They're working late nights overtime now they've got to figure out how to make this a safe area because it is taped off
Yeah yeah so they're they're a big part of you know the rescue mission is is also a big part of how you can help because they're the ones putting in the manpower
And they're tired and they're and they're working really really hard so even money I mean the firehouse always reaches out throughout the year to ask for donations and help
So that's just another way that you can do it and then there's I like this one which makes I like this one in a sarcastic way
Oh it's educate others yes I love the sarcasm right on no not for that it's preparedness and maybe you know what's happening with her with the hurricanes and how you can help with hurricane relief
But I sarcastically like it because some people aren't meant to do that like they're getting their information from Wikipedia like they're the wrong people tend to put information out there so you just have to be careful
So you know what I mean yeah like it's basically like spilling the tea like you don't want to like spill the tea with wrong information yeah like I just because you think you know exactly yeah I screen shot it it's so funny
I screen shot it so I was looking at the Springfield firehouse Facebook group or yeah Facebook page on Facebook to see what was going on because I was at work about to teach I was trying to figure out why it was smoking outside
It was before you even texted like it was it was confusing I looked there I looked at once I found out I looked at the same Francis of Assisi school page just to see if the information was already out even though it was happening in the moment
Real time yeah so I know people were live streaming it which is absurd to me well the news was too the helicopters over my house
But I took a screenshot because I found a post that the Springfield firehouse had stayed away from these roads we are attending to this fire at St. Francis school
So I clicked on it and there were comments and I was like oh I wonder if people are sharing what is going on like maybe somebody knows what happened
And someone said what happened 12 minutes into this firehouse posting it it clearly an elderly woman said what happened to St. Francis school
Someone said fire thank you and someone responded to that said it burnt down within 10 minutes of the fire starting someone said it burnt down and I screen shot it because I was like that is the problem
Right with any I mean everybody is attracted to disaster they just are sorry it's called you know what does it it's like a train wreck but it can't stop watching
Yeah it's a car crash can't look away and so everybody but don't say things you don't know right so do not educate if you don't know what to educate on or how to educate
That's why I sarcastically cannot articulate what I meant by that but I was like lady it didn't burn down I'm looking at it it's up
And they're fixing it or they're trying to stop it and it's definitely really bad but like what that helps no one people were just like booing it right or like what's the opposite thumbs down
Thumbs down oh my god thumbs down and I just was like you're the problem in the world
Yeah and it's just like me texting Victorian being like I bet it was a candle like you know like I don't know I just am like making assumptions and you know what assumptions mean
Makes an ass out of you and me
Yep there you go explicit
But yeah you don't want to spread false information and I think in a small area like our area that can definitely happen when rumors rumors start and you know
I isn't me am I the drama like ask yourself that question
I do every day I ask myself that because I am a good tea spiller I'm also a good information getter
I mean when these police were whizzing by my house and fire trucks I immediately texted my cousin and I said tell me what's happening in front of my house
And within seconds she wrote back and said you also are a false prophet
You are a little Carmella senior to a degree because you get pieces of the information and then you create a story around it and you tell that
But not to everything not to everything look last night you told me something that was that had three pieces to it 75 cents worth right
One quarter was that you lost power one quarter was that mom's street and house lost power and that was semi true half the street did half the street didn't
And then the last quarter was that the dance studio lost power and all the girls were there in the dark and that they were about to leave because they had to close the studio
So mom didn't know she was coming to class and you and mom walked in the door and I said oh my god I thought the studio lost power and mom went no
And you weren't yeah that's what I thought that's what I thought I thought that she got on the phone and she was like send them home send them home all the girls need to go home
So you decided that there's because they lost power because I lost power mom lost power I assumed four blocks you know four stores down from St. Francis mom lost power too
You're an in person Facebook troll and I like false prophet I really really like that name for me
What are you Book of Mormon yeah I really like that I'm a false prophet I'm okay with that because I get most of the information right it's always going to be my last sentence that's wrong
Billy's so mad right now so mad he is he threw the phone down yeah he's done listening I just know in case of tragedy listen to everything except my last sentence
Because my last sentence will probably be either exaggerated or completely wrong those are the two options
I actually didn't know this about you but now that I know I'm gonna look for it I'm gonna be prepared or I heard it from somebody else and I'm always going to tack it on at the end
Instead of fact checking and then correct you're just gonna say it correct right so then it's their problem because they told you wrong information
But then you have to acknowledge that I am a false prophet and that you should have known that ahead of time and I am not the person to get the information from
I'm the person to get your entertainment from information and entertainment are two different things I think in 90 weeks we figured that out
I think we have just making sure but I appreciate the honesty integrity ability to see myself in a way that others may not for the well others do
We do we do we just keep it silent but now we're gonna flaunt it we are not laughing in the face of tragedy however if you don't have humor you have nothing
Yeah I was so many songs came into my mind to start singing but I couldn't I'm too tired to figure out which one would work the best
Wait there's no animals involved in this disaster that we're specifically talking about
I don't know
No I do know
It's over okay so here's how you can help others through tragedy in terms of grief in terms of they are you know in the heart of it and you are on the outside and you just want to lend a hand
It's not necessarily going to be a monetary or a volunteer effort it is a friend or a family member it's you know how can you help people close to you
Yeah but they're basically their emotional needs in in a the face of tragedy
Number one don't call Carly
Number one Carly's not Carly won't be able to do this list
No
She is incapable unavailable on emotionally physically and mentally unavailable
And her phone is off so really there's no way to get her
Your mom is so mad at you
You're getting grounded
Facts hurt the truth hurts
The first one's listen so already we're off to a good start
You just let people talk let them talk and not give advice just listen they want to cry on your shoulder they want to tell you the horrible thing that happened and don't necessarily want you to try to fix it and I think that's the number one thing that people
I think the biggest construe with listening is that it comes with fixing fixing and giving giving help no the help is just sit there and be an ear just be an ear that's it that's all you have to do and it's such a it's a cathartic help that maybe they don't realize it in the moment
But when they're getting through grief yeah that's all they need and then you know you've done the biggest effort that there is I'm thinking of the movie Robin Hood Men and Tights
And they take off their ears and they all throw it at them
Yep great flick
Yeah definitely don't go to Carly
Oh here's a good one for you except their feelings
Aww
Just allow them to feel the feelings so if it's anger if it's sadness if it's you know despair let them feel it and I think that's a really hard one because we actually just talked about this a couple episodes ago where you
want to pick yourself up the boot from the bootstraps and get out there and and do you have an accent?
Do you have an accent?
I did because I didn't say the R and then I just tried to bypass it
But then you half you half asked your accent
I didn't try to I didn't even know what it was
You gotta pick yourself up from the bootstraps
It's kind of like Cation like New Orleans you know
I do not want to come to me because I will if you say something a little bit off I will call you on it make fun of you
But like humor is is helpful to a degree but you know you are we just talked about how you I needed to feel sad and you were like no come on it's over let's go
So sometimes you just have to let people sit in whatever is happening especially if it just happened
Let them feel the bad feelings let them or else those bad feelings get harbored in the body and then you know the people that you're like wow they haven't even cried yet
Like they didn't cry at the funeral they didn't they didn't get upset they didn't do anything they're so strong they're not strong they're gonna break down later
And in bad way when no one's around to help them that is me to a T
Acknowledge their grief you have a problem with that too
I'd like to ignore it if it's not if if we're
What is it a camel or an ostrich if you put your head in the hay it's not happening it's the sand an ostrich has never you say this all the time and I don't understand why you don't understand
That's our brother's biggest thing to say I don't understand why you don't understand not say ostriches don't put their hand in the hay they put their hand
They have hands
They put their head in the sand you idiot god
What
Where's an emu
No when have you ever seen an ostrich put their head in hay
Well they don't eat sand
They don't eat
They don't eat at all
Continue I can't with you that you say it wrong every time it really bothers me it gets under my skin that you don't know an ostrich you're making fun of me and you're getting it wrong
I put my head in the sand
I accept your feelings
I acknowledge your grief
We're the wrong people to be talking about this
I'm not gonna dismiss your experience or avoid telling you not to worry and that they're lucky oh how about when something happens and it's like well you're lucky it didn't go the other way
You're lucky you're not like this person it happened to that
Yeah we know like we know that
That person knows that they got out of a bad situation in a better way than somebody else or whatever it is telling somebody that they're lucky
Well you know what's hard and stuff
And I've been someone who's done this before
No
When somebody's grandparent dies or somebody older dies and it was not a tragedy it was you know they lived a nice life
Yeah yeah yeah
And somebody going up and saying oh you're so lucky you had them for so long
That's yes but also it doesn't make it any sadder
Right
To lose that person
Or happier
It doesn't make it any happier
It doesn't make anybody I don't know my head was in the sand
To make anybody happier by saying like you were so to hear that
Cause you're like yes but I'm still sad and I'm grieving the loss
Yeah I'm lucky whatever
It's good that your head wasn't in the hay
Your head hits the hay
At the end of the night you hit the hay
You put your head I can't anyway don't say you're lucky cause you're not
Well use their words
So if I say hey you gotta use it
Use their words people describe experiences and feelings differently
So if you can like if you understand that they talk
This one's like kind of a hard one
But if you understand that they talk differently I don't know
They use different vocabulary for things instead of correcting them or trying to insert yourself maybe
Yes and be like you mean this
Right
You're saying this but you mean this
No just let them say it
Yeah
Basically shut up
Carly
Shut up
Offer practical help
Which is like can I make dinner
It's so hard because people when they're going through stuff they don't want help
They really don't
No but you know what I think of
Oh not 10 things I hate about you
The other really good movie
Not How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days
He's just not that into you
Yeah Jennifer Addison
Good one
Right so her it was her dad had a heart attack or a stroke or something like that
She had broken up with the character of Ben Affleck
And everybody's grieving in the house but like everyone's helping out
Right
And she's doing all the work
And she comes downstairs and her ex boyfriend who she ends up marrying
But her ex boyfriend's in the kitchen doing the dishes
Uh huh
Cause he did not come over and say what can I do he just came over and did it
Yeah
And it was like a beautiful moment in the movie and everybody can relate to that
Because that is you know happened somebody just does it instead of offers
Right so if you're depends on the situation and how like close you are
But I don't think you this one has to be let me offer so that you accept
It's just just do it
Just do it yeah
Just like Nike
Just do it
Here's a tough one
Patience
Like if people aren't getting over something or if the grief is taking a little bit too long
Or if they haven't reached out to you
You just have to be patient like let it happen how it's gonna happen
And that's one of the biggest helps
Yeah sometimes that makes you feel helpless though
Exactly
Yeah
But paired with that as the next one which is reach out
So if you're hesitant on whether or not you should reach out to
You know say something happens to somebody that you haven't talked to in a while
But you still have their phone number because you used to be really close
Shoot the text
I know I always think of that
Just do it
Ahh but why not
I could talk to them in forever
I feel weird
I guess I should just like not care
But then they're then it's like I should you know how how long does it take for you to be like
I really should have texted
I wish I had
And all I mean
Everybody's doing it and thinking the same things at some point in life right
So that person that you're afraid to reach out to has thought about that in a different scenario
Or maybe with you as well
So there's nothing wrong with just being overly communicative in the text
To be like hey I know we haven't talked in a while but I really felt like I wanted to reach out
And I just hope you're doing okay
And you know sending whatever, thoughts and whatever
Like if you just say that then it's not weird
Like you're acknowledging we haven't talked in a while
But I really wanted to do this and I would be sad if I didn't so here
Like why don't we do that
Right
It's a lengthy text and the blue bubble is a little too big
Like that's what we think of
I don't think of that
Oh
There are so many texting rules these day with the kids
These day?
There's so many texting rules these day
Pick up your boots
No big big up or ya boot
These day there's so many rules that I just don't care for
So that doesn't bother me
So many other things bother me
Cause you're a one thought texter
And it drives me insane
I actually don't care about looking at it
That there's little blue bubbles that are 10-12 at a time
It's the amount my phone lights up or goes off
Within, I mean you haven't finished the first thought and you're texting the next one
And it's like it just happened this morning
It just happened this morning
I came home
Hold on
I feel like you should be patient with me
No
And never
I came home
I came home it was 6.30 this morning
I came out of my room
I was coming out of my room
I went into the bathroom and my phone went ding ding ding
Ding ding ding
And I was like oh someone's dying
Yeah
It was you
Talking about what shirts to order online
Listen
I text when I'm thinking it
Because if I don't they don't come out
And sometimes it might be 5.30 am
If I know that she's up which I do
Because I know everything that she's doing at all times
I need to text her right away
If anybody wants to send aid or help to me
I please feel free to reach out
Don't she's fine
She doesn't
She's good
She can figure it out
But also don't text me multiple times
So reach out
Send that text or
God forbid make the phone call
I don't know why we don't do that anymore
But don't even get Carly started
Reach out
Don't even get me started
What's that from?
Saturday Night Live
I don't think anything
I didn't give you a chance
It's from Saturday Night Live
Don't get me started
Don't even get me started
Swaddle waddle
There's so many
I can do a whole episode on skits
Swaddle waddle
And then the last one
Talk about it
I can do that
Just speak to others who are also going through it
Just talk about it
Right?
I think
A lot of the time
It's like an unspoken
It's so bad
Now this is specific situations
But the tragedy is so bad
Let's not touch it
Let's not necessarily pretend like it's not happening
But let's just not
And I think it just does the worst
That does the opposite effect
Of like healing
It just stores the sad
And also
I know in situations that I've been in
When you don't talk about it
It creates the elephant in the room
Which makes it more awkward
So you can't hide an elephant in hay
Or sand
Or picket's boots up
I hate you right now
Like I
God
I'm pretty pleased with myself
I'm sure you are
But just get the elephant out of the room
In the room
Get it out
Yeah, get it out of the room
It's too big for the room
It just makes it so much easier
Like the burden, the cloud has been lifted
And
Then you can talk about whatever you want to talk about
But sometimes that lingering cloud
Is just, it went from an elephant to a cloud
And went poofed
That's how you got it out of the room
But I've been in situations like that
Where it's like
Do we bring it up? Do we not bring it up?
Now it's awkward
Oh, you're the most awkward
I?
Most awkward
And the most awkward person alive
And if you're someone like me
Who's just gonna
Properly and appropriately
Speak up about something
With someone like awkward in the room
She ruins it
She makes it awkward for everyone
And I'm like, I'm not being awkward
Because you are
I make jokes
It's that or like you're truly dead silent
Like you pretend like you're Homer Simpson
Falling into the bushes
And that gif
And it's like, well, Karlie, you're the elephant
You are the elephant
You can't just hide into the wall
And now it's awkward for everybody
So thank you so much
Yeah, I agree
Thank God
I do have a question though
And I'm gonna put a poll out there on the Fit to Be Real Instagram
I'm gonna put a poll
I mean, Victoria will
What episode is this?
90
Do you feel you've learned anything from us?
Because I was thinking about it this morning
As I was listening to a previous podcast we've done
I'm unsure if anybody has learned anything from listening
I think the question is, have you?
I feel like I have
Okay, that's all that matters
But I'm not sure if it's transferring
And I feel like people are learning things about me
But maybe not about anything
I agree and disagree with you
But I agree because
What do we know?
No, right
And I disagree because
I have more faith
And I have confidence that I actually
I know this is helping a lot of people in very small ways
And even if it's just the way where they're
Sitting in their car listening going
Oh, me too
Somebody else, oh that's good
And then they go on with their day
Well that I understand
But then I'm listening and Victoria's like
The hemoglobin and the cortisol
And I'm like
Under my umbrella
And I'm like, oh God
I don't think I've ever said hemoglobin
No, amygdala
You said amygdala
You said amygdala, cortisol, adrenaline
You said all these things
But you know hemoglobin
Is that a thing?
I think it's blood
Is it a real word?
Hemoglobin?
Hemoglobin
I think so
I really thought I learned it from you
I learned it from watching you
But then I'm just in the background going
I'm a hustler baby
Oh, you haven't said that in a while
I just did
I'm a hustler baby
Baby
I just want to know if you've learned anything
From the podcast that has helped you
In your life
Because that would mean that I've done some of these
Disaster relief things
Because I'm helping you
Well you haven't listened
You have not accepted emotions
I don't think you use the same vocabulary
But this is just for me in particular
Right
I have support
Nope
I have faith
That we are supported by our listeners
And I will put this pull out
Just to find out
Okay, thanks
Okay, thanks, bye
So yeah, that's all we have for you today
It just, you know
When it's happening and it's something that does not happen
Ever
Something like this fire that truly
It was just a sight
It felt surreal
It's sad
It's horrible
And it was right down the street
You know, we live down the street and
We grew up there
And it's really just the childhood memories of it
I think for me
But it's, because it's going to get fixed
Nobody got hurt
Everything is relatively in the grand scheme
Of what's happening in the world
It's okay, right?
It's okay
It's going to get fixed
Money can be made
And money can be given
And money will, you know, get used
So when you think of it like that
All is well
But when it's something that just doesn't happen
Usually it just feels very, very potent
So we wanted to talk about it
And, you know, helplessness
I think is a very common and frequent feeling
Yeah
For most people
Definitely
There are many, many ways to not feel helpless
And to be hopeful
And to lend a hand
And it doesn't have to be anything more than what you can
Offer somebody
Yes
So with that said
Wow, so much has just happened
With that said
All the emotions happened in today's podcast
And we had, it was like Noah's Ark
We had emus and ostriches
Elephants and clouds
Archer's
Plagues and crickets
Lantern flies and COVID
We hope you're feeling biblical
No, don't
In any Bible you choose to read
Believe in
But what we really hope is that you feel fit to be real
And always allowed to be a little extra
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