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Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.

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Hey guys.

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Victoria is so non-enthused and enthused at the same time.

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Good word.

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Thank you.

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I just put a non in front of a word.

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I feel like you can do that for a lot of things.

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Yeah, you also could just say excited and not excited, but you said enthused.

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So, good word.

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Before we get into it, how is Vegas?

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I feel like people need to know where you were and what happened.

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I mean, what happens in Vegas I post about.

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Yeah.

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So, everybody knows it does not stay there.

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If you want to burglarize Carly's house, just look at her Instagram because she's not there.

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You know what?

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Sometimes I post after the fact for that reason.

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I didn't this weekend, but it was awesome.

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Andrew's new show opened the disco show in Vegas.

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So, if you're ever in Vegas, check it out.

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It is so fun and dress up.

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Absolutely dress up because why not?

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Like theme, not just like wear nice clothes.

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Right.

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You don't have to, but it was really fun.

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I had so many outfits.

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I wore three a night.

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Sounds like my nightmare.

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Oh my God.

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It was my dream.

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It was no workout clothes and all fancy.

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And I wore the tallest heels I've ever worn because I no longer care that I towered over Andrew and he didn't care either.

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I was like, you know what?

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I found these amazing disco lace up like all the way up my leg shoes.

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I'm wearing them and Andrew had a mustache.

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So, I mean, if he's going to have a mustache, then I'm going to wear whatever he like a one had a file stash.

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100%.

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Cool.

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Cool.

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Cool.

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Yeah.

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I'm wearing 70s glasses and a deep v-neck.

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Oh, yes.

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I did see that and fliers.

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I swiped pretty quickly.

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I just offended.

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I just was like, I don't understand what's happening and they're having fun and I hate them.

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I know.

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I thought about that as well when I was posting.

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I was like, oh, Victoria's going to be mad.

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You just have to come with me.

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Only if I can wear sweatpants.

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No, they didn't wear sweatpants in the 70s.

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Nope.

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But you know what?

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Some people did do hippie 70s.

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A lot of people did do fringe shirts and like, you know, you hippie dippy like hair, like

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hair.

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With flair bell bottoms, like checkered pad.

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A lot of people did that.

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Do they smell good?

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Well, I don't think they really went for it like method.

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Well, then it should stay in Vegas because they didn't do it right.

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Vegas is so fun though.

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I know it's not everybody's cup of tea and I was dreading going a little bit because

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it's hard to leave.

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Preparing to leave is the hardest part of going anywhere.

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Lunches, kids work.

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Well, yeah.

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Lining everything up and it's just like, this is so exhausting.

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I don't even feel like going anymore.

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But then when you get there, it's a good time.

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If you go with Andrew because he owns Vegas.

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It's amazing what goes on in your brain.

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It's amazing.

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And we're going to leave it at that.

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So if you hear Carly's little rasp today, it's because she just had the best time in

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Vegas screaming at disco balls.

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I did.

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I danced with all my favorite dancers and I shook it, which has nothing to do with what

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we're actually going to talk about today.

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Nothing.

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Unless you'd like to use that disco show as a first date, which might be a great idea.

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Actually it would take a lot of pressure off.

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I feel like you wouldn't be able to talk and be way too loud.

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Yep.

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So if you don't want to know this person, you're in.

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But if you want to go to dinner, I am going to add this little thing.

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It's called diner Ross.

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You get it?

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Diner Ross.

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Yes.

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I understand Diana Ross.

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And if you really look closely that it's based on like an old seventies kitchen, it looks

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exactly like your grandma and grandpups kitchen and you can find baby pictures of everybody

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that works there or old family pictures including.

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Including our family.

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So go look for us.

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I like that a lot.

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So now that we segwayed in and then we just segwayed back out, we're going to segway back

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into what we're talking about, which is just really kind of the vibe of what we're talking

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about as well.

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Because you know, sometimes you want to online date.

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Sometimes you just want to take a break and back and forth and we're going to talk about

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that and we're going to talk about why.

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So there's benefits and there are cons to online dating and the psychological effects.

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And the reason why we're even talking about this is number one, it's my life.

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And number two, we got a lot of requests for help with online dating.

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But I, yeah, I understand that because it is a force right now.

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I mean, I've never done it.

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Victoria reminds me that I've never done it.

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Every time I try and help her do it or I try and do it for her, she's like, you cannot

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do that.

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You have no idea what you're doing.

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So this will be a learning experience for me as well.

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Oh, just get ready.

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I'm Victoria.

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Hey guys, I'm Carly.

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That's how I would say my name on a first date.

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I would walk in and be like, Hey, hey guys, I'm Carly.

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Immediate turnaround.

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He's out.

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Not coming back.

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I think I did say that to Andrew when I met him.

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Hey, I'm Carly.

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You probably you were 19.

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Hey, I'm Carly.

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Oh, no, I think you had a different vibe.

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A little bit.

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Yes, I was a baby.

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So yeah, online dating got a lot of, a lot of hits on the fill out the form for Fit to

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Be Real.

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And if you haven't checked that out, go to our Instagram, click the link tree and a Google

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form of a request or maybe you want us to talk to somebody specific, give us the information,

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we'll reach out, we'll figure it out.

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So we want this podcast to be for you as much as it's for us because we are also learning

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and why not listen to something you want to listen to.

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So we want your feedback.

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So a lot of use wrote in about online dating or just dating in 2024, which I unfortunately

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it's really just online dating like that is dating in 2024.

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Unless you know somebody, unless you know somebody, but I also doesn't happen a lot of

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feel like you are not you specifically maybe other people are different.

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You don't like to be set up on a blind date by somebody else.

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It's not, it's not the blind date part because I will never not see the person before I meet

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somebody.

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So it's not that part.

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It's I don't want the pressure.

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I know you if I this doesn't work out, this is awkward now.

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And a lot of people weigh in on their opinions because they want to rally for somebody else

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or they disagree with like if I'm not interested or whatever.

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That's where it gets muddled and like weird for me.

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But it's not necessarily like a blind date.

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Every first date is blind date.

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Not a blind date.

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I meant you don't like to be set up by somebody else.

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You don't want somebody else's opinion of you and to be like, you should meet this person.

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I'm going to set it up because that is a lot of pressure.

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I feel well nine times that you feel I feel things when I do feel.

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That's what I feel.

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Cool.

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Very not common.

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I would not do well on a blind date.

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Just putting that out there.

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You are very lucky.

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You are just very lucky.

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Well nine times out of 10.

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What happens and it's not malicious.

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It's not there's no like malintention behind it.

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It's people think, oh, this person's single.

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Oh, I know this person.

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They're single.

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They should get together.

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And that's just like doesn't make a match.

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Because people are single doesn't mean that they should go out on a date.

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Even if it's just one date like if that doesn't make it worth it.

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I agree.

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You know what I mean?

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And that's just not a fun position to be in to be like, no thanks.

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I'm good.

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That and that's another thing.

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It's so awkward to reject even the notion of someone trying to set you up because it's

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not has nothing to do with them.

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Well, it does.

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It has to do with them because if you're a client, a friend, a family member, a friend

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of a friend and you're like, oh, I have this guy or I have this girl.

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She's around the same age.

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She's been single.

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Like they give you like the bio.

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And it has nothing to do with who this person is.

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It's just like random facts.

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And because they're single, that's why you guys should get together.

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It's a great idea.

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It might be the only thing that you have in common.

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It's the only thing.

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And it's just something that I'm not interested in.

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And if things are meant to be, things will be and things will work out trying to kind

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of live that way.

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However, don't just set up your friends or your family because you know someone else.

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It's just like also single.

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Even if they're in their 20s and it's like not serious or if they're in their 40s and

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it's like, you know, you got a date with intention.

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Don't do it.

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Just don't do it.

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I, yeah, I agree.

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I think that would be my number one no-no as well.

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I would rather go to a bar with friends and see what the possibilities were than to be

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set up by somebody I know.

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Yeah, I agree.

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Even though do people meet in bars anymore?

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I feel like they don't.

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I think in college in your 20s because that's when you're going to bars to be like, let's

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go out and like meet people or like try to see any guys or there or whatever or girls

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or whatever you're interested in.

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And that's sort of, that changes when you're in your 30s and then that changes when you're

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So like if you're going right now, if we were going to go to a bar restaurant, we're having

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dinner and we're having like a nice time with our girlfriends.

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And that's number one, everyone's married or together or not looking because they've

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got children and there's other things to do.

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Like the phase of life changes as you get to your, I would say late 30s, 40s, 50s.

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As mom would say, you're not looking to hook anymore.

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Looking to hook.

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My God.

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Oh my God.

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I used to say that.

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Oh, you're looking to hook.

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That was cringe before cringe was a thing.

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That meant we were dressed scantily or, you know, like, look nice.

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Oh, you're looking to hook, which means you look like a hooker.

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No, you're looking to hook up.

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Oh, I thought mom was calling us a hooker like a hooker guy.

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You're going to go, are you kidding?

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And I took it as a compliment.

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I was like, thanks mom.

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I do look like a hooker.

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God you met him young.

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God, you, it happened right.

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So, I looked at this up.

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Okay.

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Number one thing you should not say to a single person.

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What do you think it is?

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Are you single?

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Let me try again.

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No, but that's not, it's close.

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Let me try again.

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The number one thing you should know, are you dating anyone?

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No, because I hate that.

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When people say that to you, are you seeing someone?

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It makes me cringe and I want to jump in and be like, that's not a question.

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If she is, she'll tell you.

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There's a reason to ask because it makes her feel uncomfortable and now it's going to make

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you feel uncomfortable.

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I feel to me, it's like asking somebody, oh my God, are you pregnant?

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When they're not.

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Right, right, right.

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Yeah, it's the same connotation.

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I don't like when people ask you that question and I am around.

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So only ask her that question if I am not in the room.

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There was a time where I would get bent out of shape about it because it's usually, that's

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not the end of the conversation.

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So it's not necessarily that particular question.

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It's that I now have to say, no, not right now.

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And then you have to say why.

283
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Why?

284
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And it's like, I've got to make stuff up.

285
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All right, sorry.

286
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What's the number one thing you should never say to a single person?

287
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But the number one thing is, how the heck are you single is what it says.

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That is the number one thing not to say.

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Which is said a lot.

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It's said a lot, which is weird because in turn it's kind of a compliment.

291
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They're saying you're so great.

292
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How are you not with someone who also thinks that you're amazing?

293
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So it's a backhanded way to tell someone that they're a wonderful person.

294
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But single people know they're great.

295
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Right.

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Like, they know.

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They know that they are just waiting for timing and the right person to come around and it's

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just frustrating that it hasn't happened and they're frustrated that they're online.

299
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And so they don't, what do you expect them to say?

300
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I know.

301
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Here are all the things that maybe are my flaws.

302
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Like would you like to help me dissect them?

303
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Like no.

304
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But also it has nothing to do with people's flaws and faults.

305
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It has to do with timing and the right people.

306
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Yeah.

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So I don't know, that's what it said.

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That's the number one thing not to say.

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Do not say that to your single friends or your married friends and say, how the heck are

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you married?

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I say that to you all the time.

312
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I'm just kidding.

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All the time.

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I sort of say it to myself every day.

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I'm just kidding.

316
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You can absolutely say that to me because I don't know either.

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I promote that.

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Do not say that to people.

319
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I promote it.

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I have feel like it's okay to talk about.

321
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Just like think about what you say.

322
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I mean, don't take my advice because you know I don't do this, but like think about what

323
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you say before you say it.

324
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I would never say that to somebody though.

325
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How the heck are you still single?

326
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Well, think of your family members.

327
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Think of your cousins.

328
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Think of people that you know are trying and it's just not working out.

329
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Like if there's somebody that you actually care about, you're not going to go and this

330
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is specific to Carly because I know her, but you're not going to go up to someone you don't

331
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really know and say that.

332
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If you were going to say that, you would say it to someone that you know very, very well.

333
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Even if someone knows me very, very well, it's just so awkward and just like, I know.

334
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I'm amazing.

335
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I hear all the things like, let me list my bio of why I'm awesome and let me tell you

336
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why it hasn't worked out.

337
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It's just like a conversation nobody really wants to have and it makes the single person

338
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just feel worse.

339
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There's no positive to come from that is from what they said.

340
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And it's so true.

341
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I was reading it and I was like, actually, that's true.

342
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It just leaves like a very, I know, type of thing.

343
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So that's fun.

344
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Holidays are coming up.

345
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So now you know what not to say.

346
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But there are some positive and negatives to the psychological effects of online dating.

347
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And the reason why we're kind of honing in on online dating is just because it really

348
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is all there is right now.

349
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I would say there's way more negatives than positives.

350
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Yeah.

351
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Victoria does not like it.

352
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Nobody likes it.

353
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That's the thing.

354
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Nobody likes it.

355
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Like if you're online, you don't like it.

356
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You're not like, ooh, I'm excited.

357
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This is unless you're 20 years old and it's Tinder and you're not trying to date intentionally.

358
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You're trying to just like meet a bunch of people.

359
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And I never did that.

360
00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:55,320
I never even did that.

361
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I've never.

362
00:15:56,320 --> 00:15:57,480
Well, downloaded Tinder.

363
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You were also and I was also very into New York life, which was auditioning, teaching

364
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fitness.

365
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We didn't really do and that was our 20s.

366
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That was our young 20s when other people were like working day jobs and then going to happy

367
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hours and never did happy.

368
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We never did that.

369
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So we were with women constantly because we were teaching fitness or gay men or gay men.

370
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And so I just dated the gay men and until I met Andrew as she tilted my head a little

371
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bit.

372
00:16:34,460 --> 00:16:40,120
But so when, when you say like people did Tinder in their 20s or they go out to bars,

373
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we didn't do that.

374
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And you definitely didn't do that.

375
00:16:42,400 --> 00:16:48,520
We were so focused on acting and musical theater that I feel like we, you skipped that part.

376
00:16:48,520 --> 00:16:52,560
Well, we also had to pay rent and stay alive.

377
00:16:52,560 --> 00:16:57,120
Like it's hard work to live in New York, not just like living in New York.

378
00:16:57,120 --> 00:16:58,520
It's hard to have a life.

379
00:16:58,520 --> 00:16:59,520
Yeah.

380
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It's hard to function because you have to make money to be able to pay to have a house.

381
00:17:03,440 --> 00:17:07,280
So happy hour was not a thing because we had to work.

382
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And that was like my night.

383
00:17:08,280 --> 00:17:09,280
It's funny that you say that.

384
00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:14,960
And that was my number one answer to when I would go on dates because at in my 20s,

385
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I was doing match.com, which wasn't an app.

386
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We've talked about this before.

387
00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:23,320
It was the actual match.com emails on a desktop computer.

388
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I never felt older.

389
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And that's how I had some relationships.

390
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And so obviously things are scheduled and planned.

391
00:17:33,680 --> 00:17:35,040
I still wasn't doing happy hour.

392
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However, when I would meet these people, they would ask the question, Oh my God, how are

393
00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:40,720
you single?

394
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Yeah.

395
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You're blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

396
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This is amazing.

397
00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:50,880
It's like I came from my mind and I would go, Well, I work with a lot of women.

398
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I do theater.

399
00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:55,360
And if I'm going to go to a bar, it's going to be with a bunch of gay men and no straight

400
00:17:55,360 --> 00:17:58,480
male is going to approach me with a bunch of gay men around me.

401
00:17:58,480 --> 00:17:59,480
Yeah.

402
00:17:59,480 --> 00:18:00,480
That's 100% true.

403
00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:01,480
That was my answer.

404
00:18:01,480 --> 00:18:04,920
Every time I got to ask that question and I got to ask that question every time.

405
00:18:04,920 --> 00:18:09,200
And it's not like something to shut people up, but they'd be like, understandable.

406
00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:10,200
Yeah.

407
00:18:10,200 --> 00:18:11,200
Yeah.

408
00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:13,920
I get that because that's exactly what it was in the 20s.

409
00:18:13,920 --> 00:18:14,920
In the 20s.

410
00:18:14,920 --> 00:18:15,920
In the 20s.

411
00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:16,920
In your 20s.

412
00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:17,920
In my 20s.

413
00:18:17,920 --> 00:18:25,360
So, now, so that's just a little backstory on why you didn't do the, the bar scene back

414
00:18:25,360 --> 00:18:28,960
in, you know, when people are in their 20s going to bars and happy hours.

415
00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:29,960
We just didn't do that.

416
00:18:29,960 --> 00:18:33,640
That wasn't in our, in our wheelhouse during that time.

417
00:18:33,640 --> 00:18:34,640
Yeah.

418
00:18:34,640 --> 00:18:37,600
And now it's not in my wheelhouse because I have no one to go out with.

419
00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:39,520
I go out with you.

420
00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:40,720
We never go out.

421
00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:44,440
Well, we don't have time, but if I had time, I would go out with you.

422
00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:45,440
Yes.

423
00:18:45,440 --> 00:18:48,160
I'm not going out to meet people standing next to you.

424
00:18:48,160 --> 00:18:49,160
Well, I'll shut your face.

425
00:18:49,160 --> 00:18:50,160
Number one.

426
00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:51,160
Have you seen your outfits?

427
00:18:51,160 --> 00:18:53,000
So, she's not a great wing person.

428
00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:54,000
She doesn't think ahead.

429
00:18:54,000 --> 00:18:55,000
She thinks about herself.

430
00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:59,080
She doesn't think about what's going to come up to the table.

431
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Number one.

432
00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:01,080
Number two.

433
00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:02,520
I'm looking a hook.

434
00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:05,520
If it's, you are looking to hook and you're hooking a lot.

435
00:19:05,520 --> 00:19:10,920
You're hooking a lot and you're also, you know, catch and release.

436
00:19:10,920 --> 00:19:15,240
It's catch and release for you and it's, it's not fun for the rest.

437
00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:17,560
If I am going out with you, it's not just you.

438
00:19:17,560 --> 00:19:21,240
It's there's other women around and everyone's married with children.

439
00:19:21,240 --> 00:19:22,240
Yeah.

440
00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:25,480
And I love you all, but when you have children, that's all you talk about.

441
00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:26,480
I know.

442
00:19:26,480 --> 00:19:30,320
So it's different in your, in your thirties and any of you in your thirties that are

443
00:19:30,320 --> 00:19:33,920
single, I think you're all nodding your head going, Oh my God.

444
00:19:33,920 --> 00:19:37,320
If you're in your twenties, you have no idea what I'm talking about.

445
00:19:37,320 --> 00:19:39,440
And so it, it's, yeah, it's just different.

446
00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:40,440
It's just something.

447
00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:42,880
So online dating is what it is and you suck.

448
00:19:42,880 --> 00:19:50,920
So, well, I am a bad wing woman because I think everybody is an eligible bachelor and

449
00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:52,120
you're like, Nope, Nope.

450
00:19:52,120 --> 00:19:53,800
And I'm like, No, that person seems nice.

451
00:19:53,800 --> 00:19:57,400
And you're like, Here's why there's red flags and I can see them.

452
00:19:57,400 --> 00:19:59,760
And I just don't get.

453
00:19:59,760 --> 00:20:00,760
I don't know.

454
00:20:00,760 --> 00:20:01,760
Yeah.

455
00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:02,840
So that's what we're going to talk about.

456
00:20:02,840 --> 00:20:04,840
The pros and cons.

457
00:20:04,840 --> 00:20:06,040
I agree with everything you're saying.

458
00:20:06,040 --> 00:20:07,040
I know.

459
00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:08,400
So here's a pro.

460
00:20:08,400 --> 00:20:09,400
Here's a pro.

461
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If you have a social anxiety issue and going to bars with your friends or restaurants or

462
00:20:15,120 --> 00:20:16,440
events, it doesn't have to be a bar.

463
00:20:16,440 --> 00:20:19,280
Like when you say bar that has like a connotation to it too.

464
00:20:19,280 --> 00:20:21,160
So say you're going to a winery or whatever.

465
00:20:21,160 --> 00:20:22,160
I don't know.

466
00:20:22,160 --> 00:20:24,440
I guess that's alcohol either way.

467
00:20:24,440 --> 00:20:28,080
But you don't, you have like a problem with social settings.

468
00:20:28,080 --> 00:20:32,000
And dating is a really good thing for that because you're in control of who you say yes

469
00:20:32,000 --> 00:20:33,560
to who you say no to.

470
00:20:33,560 --> 00:20:36,120
Depending on the app, you're in control of who gets to talk first.

471
00:20:36,120 --> 00:20:41,080
So like there's a lot of, there's a lot of good when it comes to that in terms of your

472
00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,240
self anxieties.

473
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,400
And I kind of understand that.

474
00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:46,640
So here's another pro.

475
00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:51,120
Second pro is that you can online.

476
00:20:51,120 --> 00:20:52,760
And this is seems obvious.

477
00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:58,000
But if you just take a second to think about it, you can create the kind of people.

478
00:20:58,000 --> 00:21:00,720
That are going to come into the net.

479
00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:01,720
Right?

480
00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:04,520
You put filters in of what you're looking for specifics.

481
00:21:04,520 --> 00:21:08,280
Age range, how far away, how close do you want them to live to you?

482
00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:11,040
Geographically desirable is something mom always said.

483
00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:12,600
Are they geographically desirable?

484
00:21:12,600 --> 00:21:14,120
I didn't understand it in my twenties.

485
00:21:14,120 --> 00:21:15,120
Yeah.

486
00:21:15,120 --> 00:21:16,120
I get it now.

487
00:21:16,120 --> 00:21:17,120
I get it now too.

488
00:21:17,120 --> 00:21:18,120
I totally get it.

489
00:21:18,120 --> 00:21:19,600
And that's something that like, oh, this person looks nice.

490
00:21:19,600 --> 00:21:21,920
Oh, they have a lot of the same interests.

491
00:21:21,920 --> 00:21:25,000
Oh, they're in the great, you know, age range for me.

492
00:21:25,000 --> 00:21:29,120
All the, all the yeses and then I see where they live and I'm like way too far.

493
00:21:29,120 --> 00:21:30,120
Yeah.

494
00:21:30,120 --> 00:21:32,480
And it's not, sometimes it's not worth it.

495
00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:36,360
Sometimes it's not worth the conversation in the small talk to be like, oh, you're never

496
00:21:36,360 --> 00:21:38,360
going to move from that area.

497
00:21:38,360 --> 00:21:39,360
Me either.

498
00:21:39,360 --> 00:21:40,360
So waste of time.

499
00:21:40,360 --> 00:21:41,360
Waste of time.

500
00:21:41,360 --> 00:21:43,960
So there's, you know, it, that makes it hard.

501
00:21:43,960 --> 00:21:47,920
However, if you know what you're looking for, which if you're dating, you should know what

502
00:21:47,920 --> 00:21:50,040
you're looking for.

503
00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:54,720
You can do that online because they've thought of everything down to your political

504
00:21:54,720 --> 00:22:01,200
beliefs, down to your religious beliefs, down to your smoking, drinking, pet.

505
00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:02,200
Yeah.

506
00:22:02,200 --> 00:22:03,800
Pet beliefs.

507
00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:05,960
What kind of pet do you like?

508
00:22:05,960 --> 00:22:07,280
There's an option for birds.

509
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,360
Like it's very specific.

510
00:22:09,360 --> 00:22:15,640
So that, that makes online a little bit more controlled.

511
00:22:15,640 --> 00:22:23,600
I, the word that's coming to mind and you're going to laugh at me is Schmurgersborg.

512
00:22:23,600 --> 00:22:29,360
I feel like the online dating app is like a Schmurgers, Schmurgersborg.

513
00:22:29,360 --> 00:22:34,360
Is it Schmurgersborg or Schmurgers, Schmurgersborg.

514
00:22:34,360 --> 00:22:36,360
Oh, Schmurgersborg.

515
00:22:36,360 --> 00:22:38,880
Wait, now please.

516
00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:39,880
The Google.

517
00:22:39,880 --> 00:22:42,280
Now I can't say Schmurg.

518
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:44,520
I don't even know how to spell this into Google.

519
00:22:44,520 --> 00:22:49,400
I was just in Lancaster recently and they have a, that's what reminded me of it.

520
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:50,400
Schmurgersborg.

521
00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,400
Oh no, I think you're re, what is it?

522
00:22:53,400 --> 00:22:55,640
There's one that says Schmurgersborg buffet.

523
00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:56,640
Yep.

524
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:57,640
That's the answer.

525
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:01,200
And there's one that says Schmurgersborg near me.

526
00:23:01,200 --> 00:23:02,200
It's Schmurg.

527
00:23:02,200 --> 00:23:03,360
It's Schmurgersborg.

528
00:23:03,360 --> 00:23:05,680
I'm Schmurgersborg-ing it.

529
00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:07,040
But I think it's Schmurgersborg.

530
00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:09,160
We spent too much time on this word.

531
00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:11,200
It's like a buffet.

532
00:23:11,200 --> 00:23:12,200
Schmurgersborg.

533
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:13,200
Schmurgersborg.

534
00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:14,200
Schmurgersborg.

535
00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:15,200
Schmurgersborg.

536
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:17,200
But there is a Schmurgersborg.

537
00:23:17,200 --> 00:23:18,840
That might be a restaurant though.

538
00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:20,080
But it's not Schmurgersborg.

539
00:23:20,080 --> 00:23:23,200
Do you, how many people turned it off?

540
00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:24,560
Or skipped 15 seconds.

541
00:23:24,560 --> 00:23:27,600
This word has no meaning anywhere.

542
00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:33,120
But it's like the online dating apps, I'm just skipping over all that is, is like an

543
00:23:33,120 --> 00:23:39,840
online buffet you can pick and choose and that you can't do when you're being set up,

544
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:41,960
when you're meeting somebody at a bar.

545
00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:46,840
So I feel like if we are talking pros, because there aren't, I mean, no, that's it for the

546
00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:47,840
pros on this list.

547
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:48,840
I know that's what I mean.

548
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:50,240
Like there aren't that many.

549
00:23:50,240 --> 00:23:55,840
Like there are, it's a Schmurgersborg and you can pick and choose.

550
00:23:55,840 --> 00:23:56,840
The nones.

551
00:23:56,840 --> 00:23:57,840
The negatives.

552
00:23:57,840 --> 00:23:58,840
The cons.

553
00:23:58,840 --> 00:23:59,840
The cons.

554
00:23:59,840 --> 00:24:00,840
The cons.

555
00:24:00,840 --> 00:24:01,840
The nones.

556
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:02,840
Oh God.

557
00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:03,840
Anxiety.

558
00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:15,640
So there was positive social anxiety, which will take you out of the scary too many people

559
00:24:15,640 --> 00:24:21,160
type of setting, but then there's some anxiety that you can get because it's anxiety and

560
00:24:21,160 --> 00:24:22,160
depression.

561
00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:26,320
I'm going to put these two together because it's from like rejection, which everybody

562
00:24:26,320 --> 00:24:27,320
is afraid of rejection.

563
00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:28,320
Right.

564
00:24:28,320 --> 00:24:29,320
I don't care who you are.

565
00:24:29,320 --> 00:24:30,320
No, everybody is.

566
00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:32,960
Even if you're the most confident person in the world, rejection doesn't feel good in

567
00:24:32,960 --> 00:24:38,920
any, even, you know, romantic, platonic workplace, whatever it is.

568
00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,880
So if you really get affected by that and it's like you're liking all these people and

569
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:48,000
no one's liking you back or even if it like you're in conversations and then something

570
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:55,120
comes up and it's like over, there becomes this like cycle of repeated emotions and the

571
00:24:55,120 --> 00:24:59,920
emotion is like fear and sadness and anger.

572
00:24:59,920 --> 00:25:05,040
And it's like all the negative ones, which can turn into anxiety and depression.

573
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:10,920
If you get too into it, which is the next one, which is addiction.

574
00:25:10,920 --> 00:25:14,600
The next step of dating up addiction is a thing.

575
00:25:14,600 --> 00:25:16,760
And it's the same thing that I would say to you.

576
00:25:16,760 --> 00:25:17,760
It's a game.

577
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:18,760
It's a game.

578
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:20,120
People like you'd be like, just get online.

579
00:25:20,120 --> 00:25:21,280
I'm like, it's a game.

580
00:25:21,280 --> 00:25:22,280
You don't understand.

581
00:25:22,280 --> 00:25:24,960
Like people just swipe to swipe nine times out of 10.

582
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:26,960
They're swiping and they're never going to talk to you.

583
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:28,800
It's like doom scrolling at night.

584
00:25:28,800 --> 00:25:32,080
People are just on there like looking at other people, but not really.

585
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:33,080
Nothing's happening.

586
00:25:33,080 --> 00:25:34,080
Yeah.

587
00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:35,080
Yeah.

588
00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:36,080
Nothing's happening.

589
00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:37,080
It's like, oh, nice face.

590
00:25:37,080 --> 00:25:38,080
Yes.

591
00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:39,080
Oh, nice face.

592
00:25:39,080 --> 00:25:40,080
Yes.

593
00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:41,080
You can reach out and talk to you.

594
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,720
You're not contacting them back because it's not about that.

595
00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,080
It's just about like who liked me.

596
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:47,360
All these people liked me back.

597
00:25:47,360 --> 00:25:58,720
Like it's a weird psychological ego boost or ego downfall, which would go into the depression

598
00:25:58,720 --> 00:25:59,720
pocket.

599
00:25:59,720 --> 00:26:03,640
But dating up addiction is like you're not getting your work done because you're sitting

600
00:26:03,640 --> 00:26:05,240
there and you're just swiping.

601
00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:09,880
And at the end of the day with the doom scrolling, you're just swiping.

602
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:13,720
You keep the notification setting on so that your phone is blowing up every time someone

603
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:17,240
has liked you or swiped you or contacted you.

604
00:26:17,240 --> 00:26:21,240
And it just becomes a part of the reason the phone is in your hand.

605
00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:26,880
And it's, I mean, I think that's true for TikTok and Instagram and all the things.

606
00:26:26,880 --> 00:26:29,960
So it just becomes one more app to be addicted to.

607
00:26:29,960 --> 00:26:38,920
I think that over the years as everything gets more tech savvy and elevated, I mean,

608
00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,880
I think about 20 years ago, we didn't have any of this kind of stuff.

609
00:26:41,880 --> 00:26:43,200
It's getting worse and worse.

610
00:26:43,200 --> 00:26:47,080
And I know that you can vouch for that because you've been seeing it.

611
00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:52,840
But I feel like the more we get behind the phone, the harder it is to online date.

612
00:26:52,840 --> 00:26:53,840
Yeah.

613
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:56,080
Because it's just going backwards.

614
00:26:56,080 --> 00:27:00,240
Instead of the apps and online dating helping you, I feel like it's not.

615
00:27:00,240 --> 00:27:03,160
I feel like it's non-help.

616
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:07,560
You can put none in front of anything.

617
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:08,560
That's what I'm noticing.

618
00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:14,680
Well, yeah, because, well, it goes into the next one, which is people are becoming more

619
00:27:14,680 --> 00:27:18,160
impatient and it's all about instant gratification.

620
00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:23,760
So there's this unrealistic expectation on relationships where just like TikTok, you

621
00:27:23,760 --> 00:27:26,520
make a 20 second video, look, I'm a dancer.

622
00:27:26,520 --> 00:27:31,920
It's this weird thing that happens in our minds that now is being melted into the dating

623
00:27:31,920 --> 00:27:35,760
world, which is I can make a relationship instantly.

624
00:27:35,760 --> 00:27:36,760
Right.

625
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:37,760
Snap my fingers.

626
00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:38,760
I can make a relationship.

627
00:27:38,760 --> 00:27:39,760
Snap my fingers.

628
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:41,080
It's going to work out.

629
00:27:41,080 --> 00:27:44,160
And then, but you don't know anything about this person.

630
00:27:44,160 --> 00:27:46,760
You don't know the red flags.

631
00:27:46,760 --> 00:27:47,760
You don't know the baggage.

632
00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:54,360
You don't know how they are in conflict or communication or yada, yada, yada.

633
00:27:54,360 --> 00:28:01,000
And when you like someone and you get instant likes back, yes, that's an ego boost, which

634
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,280
technically isn't a good thing.

635
00:28:03,280 --> 00:28:06,280
But then on top of that, you add these expectations.

636
00:28:06,280 --> 00:28:08,440
Well, yeah, it's, it's fake.

637
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:09,440
It's fake.

638
00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:10,440
It's just like Instagram.

639
00:28:10,440 --> 00:28:17,240
I mean, what you're seeing and what people are seeing out there is not a real representation

640
00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:18,560
of who they are.

641
00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,640
And then you get to meet that person and you're like, Oh, whoa, whoa, whoa.

642
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:26,520
What you post is not actually what I'm meeting.

643
00:28:26,520 --> 00:28:27,520
And that 100%.

644
00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:28,520
Yeah.

645
00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:35,960
I mean, our mom used to online date back in the day, like when she first started dating

646
00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:39,840
and then I think it lasted a hot minute because she was like, nah, I'm good.

647
00:28:39,840 --> 00:28:47,760
But she said on her one date, the person, you know, put that he was 60 or 50 years old

648
00:28:47,760 --> 00:28:49,880
and he showed up and he was like 85.

649
00:28:49,880 --> 00:28:57,840
And that was before people talked about like being afraid of trolls and liars online.

650
00:28:57,840 --> 00:29:02,880
And we had to call her and tell her because she's had like a code word, like she would

651
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:05,200
text us and we, and we called her.

652
00:29:05,200 --> 00:29:07,000
And she came home.

653
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:09,960
She was like basically save me.

654
00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,600
And that was a long time ago.

655
00:29:12,600 --> 00:29:13,840
And it was happening back then.

656
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:18,800
So I can only imagine how much worse that kind of stuff has gotten.

657
00:29:18,800 --> 00:29:23,440
Like you can say whatever you want about yourself on paper, but when you get in front of somebody

658
00:29:23,440 --> 00:29:29,200
else and you're not that person, like you are on Instagram, I think that is such a, that's

659
00:29:29,200 --> 00:29:32,400
such a horrible thing, representation.

660
00:29:32,400 --> 00:29:33,400
Yeah.

661
00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:36,880
So, so these are some negatives, right?

662
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:38,160
So then how do you get out of it?

663
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:41,320
How do you build a strong relationship if you're online dating?

664
00:29:41,320 --> 00:29:46,120
Like say you meet someone that you are talking to, you have the same values, you're having

665
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:47,120
great conversation.

666
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:51,520
I mean, there's so many things that can be green flags for you and they're different

667
00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:54,520
for everybody, especially how people communicate online.

668
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:59,000
I'm looking for someone who knows how to structure a grammatically correct sentence.

669
00:29:59,000 --> 00:30:00,000
I know.

670
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:02,000
Put comments where they're supposed to be, capitalize letters.

671
00:30:02,000 --> 00:30:05,200
Like don't use the letter U for Y-O-U, right?

672
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:06,200
What does that mean?

673
00:30:06,200 --> 00:30:07,200
It's effort.

674
00:30:07,200 --> 00:30:08,200
Put in effort.

675
00:30:08,200 --> 00:30:09,200
It's just effort.

676
00:30:09,200 --> 00:30:10,360
It's not that you're smart or not smart.

677
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:16,400
I don't care if you're, you know, what your intelligence IQ is, but put effort in like

678
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:22,960
putting something out like, that gives you yourself a good representation and doesn't,

679
00:30:22,960 --> 00:30:23,960
like you said, doesn't matter.

680
00:30:23,960 --> 00:30:26,760
I don't care where you went to college, if you went to college, but that you put some

681
00:30:26,760 --> 00:30:31,240
effort into, hey, I want to put on a good representation of myself.

682
00:30:31,240 --> 00:30:32,240
Exactly.

683
00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:33,240
And that says a lot.

684
00:30:33,240 --> 00:30:35,520
It's just like if you're going to show up to a first aid and sweatpants.

685
00:30:35,520 --> 00:30:36,520
Yeah.

686
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:39,840
You're a great guy, but what are you, why?

687
00:30:39,840 --> 00:30:40,840
Why did you not try?

688
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:41,840
Yeah.

689
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:46,240
Like if you're not going to try here in the beginning on day one, then that says a lot

690
00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:47,240
online.

691
00:30:47,240 --> 00:30:50,600
So there are little things like that, but when you're only in communication and you haven't

692
00:30:50,600 --> 00:30:54,200
met the person yet, there's a lot of questions you have to ask yourself and you have to double

693
00:30:54,200 --> 00:30:56,960
check with yourself what your values are.

694
00:30:56,960 --> 00:31:03,280
And your values are going to be across the board, anything, like whatever your values

695
00:31:03,280 --> 00:31:06,520
are, sit there, write them out, think about them.

696
00:31:06,520 --> 00:31:11,680
And then in conversation, if they should come up, I mean, don't, you don't ever want to

697
00:31:11,680 --> 00:31:16,520
interrogate someone and be like, here's a list of one to 10 answer these for me.

698
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:17,520
Yeah.

699
00:31:17,520 --> 00:31:18,520
Nobody wants to do that.

700
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:19,520
No.

701
00:31:19,520 --> 00:31:24,080
But if they naturally come up in conversation and you find that things line up and align,

702
00:31:24,080 --> 00:31:25,080
that's great.

703
00:31:25,080 --> 00:31:26,400
And keep going with it, whatever.

704
00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:30,520
But if they don't, you have to, you can't be afraid to ask the question.

705
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:31,920
Do you know what I mean?

706
00:31:31,920 --> 00:31:32,920
Yes.

707
00:31:32,920 --> 00:31:35,440
You can't be like, well, I will get to that later and we'll keep talking and I'll keep

708
00:31:35,440 --> 00:31:36,440
getting attached.

709
00:31:36,440 --> 00:31:39,560
But that one thing I haven't asked about that is a big deal to me.

710
00:31:39,560 --> 00:31:40,560
Yeah.

711
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:41,800
We're just going to shuffle that underneath the rug.

712
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:42,800
Right.

713
00:31:42,800 --> 00:31:43,800
You know what I mean?

714
00:31:43,800 --> 00:31:44,800
Yeah, no.

715
00:31:44,800 --> 00:31:46,800
I think you get it out in the open and the beginning, especially if you're on, what do you have

716
00:31:46,800 --> 00:31:48,040
to lose?

717
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:49,360
What do you have to lose?

718
00:31:49,360 --> 00:31:55,200
And I think that's something else is that you put in like so many eggs in one basket

719
00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,920
in terms of this is going really well.

720
00:31:57,920 --> 00:31:59,520
It has to be this moment.

721
00:31:59,520 --> 00:32:00,520
I've done it.

722
00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,920
I've 100% done that.

723
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:10,640
It's a little different as you get older because things change if you're dating in, I mean,

724
00:32:10,640 --> 00:32:12,520
yes, I'm only 35.

725
00:32:12,520 --> 00:32:14,240
You're only 35.

726
00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:16,520
In my, but I'm 96.

727
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,040
Well, mentally, yes.

728
00:32:19,040 --> 00:32:24,080
But you're only 35 and you are not dead yet.

729
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:30,480
Oh my God.

730
00:32:30,480 --> 00:32:31,480
Please elaborate.

731
00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:36,680
I mean, because to me, you act very mature.

732
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:40,040
You always have since you were, I don't know, nine.

733
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,320
So well, I'm who I had to be ever against.

734
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:44,320
Yes.

735
00:32:44,320 --> 00:32:47,920
You have always been the older sister, but sometimes I feel when we talk about dating

736
00:32:47,920 --> 00:32:51,880
and all this stuff, it's like, well, I can't do this or I can't do that.

737
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:54,200
I'm like, well, you're only 35.

738
00:32:54,200 --> 00:32:56,040
You're not 85.

739
00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:57,120
You're 35.

740
00:32:57,120 --> 00:32:59,760
You are so young.

741
00:32:59,760 --> 00:33:07,640
And so I feel like sometimes people have to remind themselves, people like you, that

742
00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:08,960
you are not.

743
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:15,080
Yes, you're looking for somebody, but at the same time, you are only 35.

744
00:33:15,080 --> 00:33:20,440
And I feel like you say, oh, I'm 35 and I'm saying you're only 35.

745
00:33:20,440 --> 00:33:22,040
Yes.

746
00:33:22,040 --> 00:33:23,240
Do you understand?

747
00:33:23,240 --> 00:33:25,240
You said that a lot.

748
00:33:25,240 --> 00:33:29,440
I like the different inflections you chose to say the same thing.

749
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:30,440
Yes.

750
00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:32,000
I totally hear you.

751
00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:33,720
I totally hear you.

752
00:33:33,720 --> 00:33:36,080
That's not where I was going with what I said.

753
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:38,200
Oh, but you're not wrong.

754
00:33:38,200 --> 00:33:39,680
You're not wrong at all.

755
00:33:39,680 --> 00:33:42,640
Like there's no life sentence, right?

756
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:50,120
I was going more so of like, once you get up there in age, it's more about not wasting

757
00:33:50,120 --> 00:33:51,120
time.

758
00:33:51,120 --> 00:33:52,120
That's what I meant.

759
00:33:52,120 --> 00:33:53,440
Because you don't want to waste time.

760
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:57,000
So you don't, you know, you want to vet and you want to, you want to like get all the

761
00:33:57,000 --> 00:33:58,400
questions out.

762
00:33:58,400 --> 00:33:59,400
Things move a little faster.

763
00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:01,120
They move a little faster.

764
00:34:01,120 --> 00:34:06,440
It doesn't have to be, or not that it doesn't have to be.

765
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:11,320
It's a little less about having fun and like nothing matters.

766
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:14,360
And it's more of like, I don't want to waste my time anymore.

767
00:34:14,360 --> 00:34:17,200
I don't want to go on first date just for the sake of being like, well, let me get a

768
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:18,720
whole bunch of money on my belt.

769
00:34:18,720 --> 00:34:20,080
No, it doesn't matter anymore.

770
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:24,760
I want to, if I'm going to go out with you on a first date, I want to go out with you

771
00:34:24,760 --> 00:34:27,280
on a first date to see if there's more dates afterwards.

772
00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:29,280
It's not necessarily just like, oh, just go.

773
00:34:29,280 --> 00:34:30,280
I'm free.

774
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:31,280
So let's.

775
00:34:31,280 --> 00:34:32,280
Why not?

776
00:34:32,280 --> 00:34:33,280
Yeah.

777
00:34:33,280 --> 00:34:34,280
It's not like that anymore as you get older.

778
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:35,280
So I meant that too.

779
00:34:35,280 --> 00:34:37,880
But also because I am not dead yet.

780
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:43,400
Does that help?

781
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:49,880
You are young in body and I want you to be young in the mind.

782
00:34:49,880 --> 00:34:52,920
So ask yourself the right questions about values.

783
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:57,040
Ask yourself, how do I want to connect with this person?

784
00:34:57,040 --> 00:35:03,640
Because a lot of people get lost in morphing to what the other person likes.

785
00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:05,880
And I think that that is ageless.

786
00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,120
Everybody can kind of do that.

787
00:35:07,120 --> 00:35:09,680
If you're like, well, I really like this person, yeah.

788
00:35:09,680 --> 00:35:14,120
I don't like these movies as much as he does, but yeah, I like them.

789
00:35:14,120 --> 00:35:18,600
No, stick to what you are, who you are, what you like, what you don't like.

790
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:21,200
And if it's not the right person and then somebody else will come along, you know what

791
00:35:21,200 --> 00:35:22,200
I mean?

792
00:35:22,200 --> 00:35:25,440
So you have to ask yourself those questions, values.

793
00:35:25,440 --> 00:35:26,640
How do I want to connect?

794
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:28,800
Who do you want to present yourself to be?

795
00:35:28,800 --> 00:35:30,960
Because it should be who you are.

796
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:32,400
It shouldn't be a presentation.

797
00:35:32,400 --> 00:35:40,640
I think that's definitely something that is pro with online dating and you, I know from

798
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:44,320
personal experience, I was 25 when I got married.

799
00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:46,080
I was 19 when I met Andrew.

800
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:55,520
I had no idea who I was, what I wanted, who he wanted me to be or who I projected myself

801
00:35:55,520 --> 00:35:57,240
to be was not who I was.

802
00:35:57,240 --> 00:36:00,000
He thought I liked the outdoors and camping and waking up early.

803
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:01,960
Oh my God, I couldn't have been more opposite.

804
00:36:01,960 --> 00:36:03,520
But I morphed myself.

805
00:36:03,520 --> 00:36:05,720
How are you not divorced?

806
00:36:05,720 --> 00:36:10,440
Because eventually I was like, hey, listen, I like to sleep.

807
00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:12,840
I hate the outdoors.

808
00:36:12,840 --> 00:36:18,240
I like to material things at the time, you know, but I didn't know who I was and you

809
00:36:18,240 --> 00:36:25,640
get to be exactly who you are and decide if you want to go forward with somebody else

810
00:36:25,640 --> 00:36:28,480
or not and see if they like exactly who you are.

811
00:36:28,480 --> 00:36:31,080
Like we had to, and which was cool too.

812
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:36,880
We had to grow into the people that we are today, which is why I want a Val renewal at

813
00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:42,360
in 15, on our 15 year anniversary because I just said to him in Vegas the other day,

814
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,640
he's like, why do you want it so badly?

815
00:36:44,640 --> 00:36:49,960
And I said, because when we got married at 25, I appreciated it, but I didn't really

816
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:51,200
know what it meant.

817
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:52,200
Marriage?

818
00:36:52,200 --> 00:36:55,960
Yeah, like at 25, like I knew I wanted, we wanted to get married.

819
00:36:55,960 --> 00:36:58,920
I knew we were going to be together forever, but I just, because what we were supposed

820
00:36:58,920 --> 00:36:59,920
to do.

821
00:36:59,920 --> 00:37:09,960
No, like it didn't mean as much, I think as it will now knowing who I am, you know, it's

822
00:37:09,960 --> 00:37:10,960
way more important now.

823
00:37:10,960 --> 00:37:17,480
At then I was just like excited to get married, you know, so now you get to, it's almost like

824
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:21,400
you're solidifying the decision.

825
00:37:21,400 --> 00:37:23,440
No, no, I'm sure now.

826
00:37:23,440 --> 00:37:24,440
Yeah.

827
00:37:24,440 --> 00:37:27,480
After 20 years together, 21 years together, I think I'm sure now.

828
00:37:27,480 --> 00:37:28,480
That's nice.

829
00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:34,520
I think that is a pro for people online dating going through the, I know it's a lot and I

830
00:37:34,520 --> 00:37:39,000
know it's hard and there are so many cons, but you get to be exactly who you are and

831
00:37:39,000 --> 00:37:41,920
if that person doesn't want that, you move on.

832
00:37:41,920 --> 00:37:49,760
Well, so I'm talking to someone right now, he's 43 with children and a history and just

833
00:37:49,760 --> 00:37:55,040
like everybody in the dating range that I'm looking for, everybody has history, everybody

834
00:37:55,040 --> 00:37:58,360
has baggage and complications, especially when it comes to children.

835
00:37:58,360 --> 00:37:59,360
Right.

836
00:37:59,360 --> 00:38:05,000
And I forget what he was talking about, but it sparked me to be like, I need to ask this

837
00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,000
question.

838
00:38:06,000 --> 00:38:10,600
And so I was like, okay, how are you, what's your stance on being an open book or not?

839
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:14,880
Like are you someone who's going to be cool with talking about you something?

840
00:38:14,880 --> 00:38:15,880
Yeah.

841
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:19,000
You're going to be cool with me asking a question or you want to just like hold off a little

842
00:38:19,000 --> 00:38:20,000
bit.

843
00:38:20,000 --> 00:38:21,000
And he was like 100% open book.

844
00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:24,200
I said, great, how are you with your kid's mother?

845
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:25,880
What's the relationship like?

846
00:38:25,880 --> 00:38:27,040
Because that's a big deal.

847
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:28,040
Yeah, huge.

848
00:38:28,040 --> 00:38:32,800
So the conversation could have ended.

849
00:38:32,800 --> 00:38:38,080
It could have been like, this is a little too much or I don't want to tell you or whatever.

850
00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:41,960
And I would have been like, okay, if you don't want to tell me now, probably not going to

851
00:38:41,960 --> 00:38:42,960
continue this conversation.

852
00:38:42,960 --> 00:38:43,960
Right.

853
00:38:43,960 --> 00:38:47,640
But also, if the answer isn't great, then there's something there too.

854
00:38:47,640 --> 00:38:49,360
So it worked out.

855
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,120
We continue to talk, whatever.

856
00:38:52,120 --> 00:38:54,680
You have to ask the questions.

857
00:38:54,680 --> 00:39:00,680
Even if the conversation was fun and normal and stupid and just like cool to keep texting

858
00:39:00,680 --> 00:39:04,800
somebody new, you have to ask the questions that you need to ask, especially when they

859
00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:05,800
arise.

860
00:39:05,800 --> 00:39:07,800
And it just like naturally comes up, ask the question.

861
00:39:07,800 --> 00:39:08,800
If it's over, it's over.

862
00:39:08,800 --> 00:39:09,960
If it's not, it'll keep going.

863
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:13,800
You are a very good judge of character.

864
00:39:13,800 --> 00:39:16,440
You are though, for the most part.

865
00:39:16,440 --> 00:39:18,120
And okay, sometimes.

866
00:39:18,120 --> 00:39:25,200
I know that when you go on and you meet these people online, you know right away if you

867
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:26,760
want to actually see them.

868
00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:31,720
Sometimes you go on a date just because you're like, all right, fine, I'll go.

869
00:39:31,720 --> 00:39:37,880
But you already know through talking to them whether or not it's going to work out or not.

870
00:39:37,880 --> 00:39:41,040
And I've seen you go on dates and you come back and you're like, I knew it.

871
00:39:41,040 --> 00:39:45,320
Like I knew from talking that it's not what I wanted.

872
00:39:45,320 --> 00:39:48,040
Which is why I say wasting time as you get older.

873
00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:56,360
It's about not wanting to waste even two hours on a Friday night because it's not just time,

874
00:39:56,360 --> 00:39:59,120
it's energy, it's emotional.

875
00:39:59,120 --> 00:40:02,320
It's you know, for us, it's physical by the end of the week.

876
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:03,320
I'm exhausted.

877
00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:04,320
Yeah.

878
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,560
So like I have to really want to get on close.

879
00:40:06,560 --> 00:40:07,560
Yeah.

880
00:40:07,560 --> 00:40:08,880
Whoa, whoa, whoa, you looking to hook?

881
00:40:08,880 --> 00:40:12,000
I'm looking to hook in jeans and a t-shirt.

882
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:13,720
Oh my God, you're putting on jeans?

883
00:40:13,720 --> 00:40:14,720
That's fancy.

884
00:40:14,720 --> 00:40:16,080
That's what I mean.

885
00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:20,040
I'm laying down on a bed trying to get the jeans to shimmy on up.

886
00:40:20,040 --> 00:40:23,480
And if I'm doing that, then I really want to meet you.

887
00:40:23,480 --> 00:40:36,520
So I just, since I've been back online, I've 100% kind of done the I have no chill.

888
00:40:36,520 --> 00:40:37,840
Like I have no chill.

889
00:40:37,840 --> 00:40:39,880
From the person who has all the chill.

890
00:40:39,880 --> 00:40:40,880
Yes.

891
00:40:40,880 --> 00:40:46,040
Well, when it comes to asking the questions, like I'm going to ask it and I don't care.

892
00:40:46,040 --> 00:40:50,480
There was a guy that I almost met up with like this week.

893
00:40:50,480 --> 00:40:53,840
Seemed like a really nice guy.

894
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:57,720
Not 100% attracted to him, but like he could be nice and per, I don't know.

895
00:40:57,720 --> 00:41:00,800
Like it's one of those, like if that's the only reason, don't be stupid.

896
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,560
Just meet this person.

897
00:41:03,560 --> 00:41:09,000
And as we talked, as we talked, we kind of set like something this week, we didn't set

898
00:41:09,000 --> 00:41:10,680
a day, we're figuring it out.

899
00:41:10,680 --> 00:41:14,440
I was just like, I actually don't think I want to meet this person.

900
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:18,400
And then I had to be presented with the, how do I get out of this conversation?

901
00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:19,600
And how do I not be mean?

902
00:41:19,600 --> 00:41:21,440
And I'm not someone that's just going to delete you.

903
00:41:21,440 --> 00:41:24,240
I'm going to tell you, hey, I'm going to go away.

904
00:41:24,240 --> 00:41:25,360
I'm not going to ghost you.

905
00:41:25,360 --> 00:41:27,640
And I'm not going to be like, well, they deleted me.

906
00:41:27,640 --> 00:41:29,600
I wonder why we were having a good conversation.

907
00:41:29,600 --> 00:41:31,160
I just find that rude.

908
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,960
So then I had to have the awkward conversation of like, you know what?

909
00:41:33,960 --> 00:41:35,160
This isn't really what I'm looking for.

910
00:41:35,160 --> 00:41:37,600
You seem like a great guy.

911
00:41:37,600 --> 00:41:42,280
I just, I don't, I don't think I'm going to find the time this week, which really means

912
00:41:42,280 --> 00:41:44,320
I don't want to find the time this week.

913
00:41:44,320 --> 00:41:46,720
Right.

914
00:41:46,720 --> 00:41:52,080
And as much as it's uncomfortable, that, that discomfort goes away because then I did it.

915
00:41:52,080 --> 00:41:53,080
I did it.

916
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:54,080
I didn't waste my time.

917
00:41:54,080 --> 00:41:56,240
I try not to hurt his feelings.

918
00:41:56,240 --> 00:41:58,440
I also think people bounce back.

919
00:41:58,440 --> 00:42:00,240
Like it's not a big deal when you haven't even met.

920
00:42:00,240 --> 00:42:01,240
It's not a big deal.

921
00:42:01,240 --> 00:42:04,640
It, and people bounce back when you're honest and say, I'm not feeling exactly if you're

922
00:42:04,640 --> 00:42:05,640
ghosted.

923
00:42:05,640 --> 00:42:06,640
Exactly.

924
00:42:06,640 --> 00:42:09,640
So that's where my no chill is.

925
00:42:09,640 --> 00:42:13,600
I'm not like, hey guys, it's me, Karina.

926
00:42:13,600 --> 00:42:17,040
How many dates would I have to go on because I just felt bad?

927
00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:20,520
I would be going out every single night of the week because I'd be like, I don't want

928
00:42:20,520 --> 00:42:23,120
to meet this person, but I don't know how to say no.

929
00:42:23,120 --> 00:42:26,160
And so I'm just going to have to go on all these dates that I don't want to go on.

930
00:42:26,160 --> 00:42:28,160
Oh my God, I would be horrible.

931
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,680
I mean, you'd have no time for it.

932
00:42:30,680 --> 00:42:31,680
You would just have no time.

933
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:33,200
I mean, take the children away.

934
00:42:33,200 --> 00:42:37,280
You'd have to be a different human to do all those dates because there's no time for

935
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:38,280
that.

936
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:39,960
Just thinking of all, because I hate confrontation.

937
00:42:39,960 --> 00:42:41,480
I hate hurting people's feelings.

938
00:42:41,480 --> 00:42:42,480
Not confrontation.

939
00:42:42,480 --> 00:42:43,480
I know.

940
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:44,480
I would fight.

941
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:49,040
I know, but I would hate for somebody to feel bad because of something I said.

942
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,680
So I'd be like, yeah, sure, I'll go on a date with you.

943
00:42:51,680 --> 00:42:53,200
And then I'd talk to me.

944
00:42:53,200 --> 00:42:54,800
I talked to a guy on the phone the other day.

945
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:56,760
I was like, he gave me his number.

946
00:42:56,760 --> 00:43:01,480
He was on a long road trip for work and he was like, if you want to just call, call.

947
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,840
We had talked a little bit and I was like, all right, whatever.

948
00:43:03,840 --> 00:43:04,840
I'm going to call.

949
00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:09,000
I'll make it a half hour at most, see what it's like and whatever.

950
00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:10,480
I would have died.

951
00:43:10,480 --> 00:43:11,480
Why?

952
00:43:11,480 --> 00:43:12,480
I hate the phone.

953
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:19,680
I would much rather talk on the phone because in our conversations on the phone texting,

954
00:43:19,680 --> 00:43:20,680
it was fine.

955
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:21,680
The guy knows how to text.

956
00:43:21,680 --> 00:43:22,680
Okay, great.

957
00:43:22,680 --> 00:43:23,680
Hearing his voice.

958
00:43:23,680 --> 00:43:24,920
Oh my God.

959
00:43:24,920 --> 00:43:26,520
I went, oh no, no, no.

960
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:27,520
Stop.

961
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:28,760
I will not be continuing this.

962
00:43:28,760 --> 00:43:29,760
Really?

963
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:33,920
What completely different vibe hearing somebody's voice.

964
00:43:33,920 --> 00:43:36,040
And I was hearing his voice, I was looking at his picture.

965
00:43:36,040 --> 00:43:37,320
I was like, this doesn't match.

966
00:43:37,320 --> 00:43:39,920
And also, oh my God, no.

967
00:43:39,920 --> 00:43:40,920
Oh my God.

968
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:42,840
And then, Bitchie, was it high?

969
00:43:42,840 --> 00:43:48,680
Was he like, it's not necessarily that because that gets very judgmental and superficial.

970
00:43:48,680 --> 00:43:50,200
Like it has nothing to do with that.

971
00:43:50,200 --> 00:43:51,920
It just told me a lot more about him.

972
00:43:51,920 --> 00:43:53,600
Did he call you bruh?

973
00:43:53,600 --> 00:43:54,600
No.

974
00:43:54,600 --> 00:43:57,160
Did he like, no, these people are 45 years old.

975
00:43:57,160 --> 00:44:01,040
If they're calling me bruh, I'm hanging up the phone and I'm ghosting because that's

976
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:02,040
insane.

977
00:44:02,040 --> 00:44:03,360
Hanging out with Lewis and Dean a lot.

978
00:44:03,360 --> 00:44:10,520
No, it was just like, you really get a sense of how they are thinking because there's no

979
00:44:10,520 --> 00:44:12,800
time to sit and go, how do I want to text this back?

980
00:44:12,800 --> 00:44:13,800
He has to just answer.

981
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:15,280
He has to just respond.

982
00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:22,680
So it just was a lot of ADD, a lot of talking about himself, a lot of ways that we will

983
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:25,080
never work out in the real world.

984
00:44:25,080 --> 00:44:26,760
So I'm not even going to humor this.

985
00:44:26,760 --> 00:44:30,600
He continued to try to text me and I was like, listen, there's really nice talking to you.

986
00:44:30,600 --> 00:44:33,760
Glad you made it to your destination.

987
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,120
This isn't something that we're going to continue doing.

988
00:44:36,120 --> 00:44:38,200
So this is a full time job.

989
00:44:38,200 --> 00:44:39,760
Oh, now you get it?

990
00:44:39,760 --> 00:44:41,800
No, I say it all the time.

991
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:45,040
I'm like, I don't have time for this, but I can help you.

992
00:44:45,040 --> 00:44:46,560
I can be your catfish.

993
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:49,160
I think we all hear that you can.

994
00:44:49,160 --> 00:44:52,120
I think we all hear that.

995
00:44:52,120 --> 00:44:58,280
So you go on so many dates on my behalf.

996
00:44:58,280 --> 00:44:59,760
We are not going to play a game.

997
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:06,880
I'm just going to read you some of the most amazing bios off of the bumble that really

998
00:45:06,880 --> 00:45:14,680
will have you all understand the trials and tribulations and not that I'm trying to deter

999
00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:15,680
anybody.

1000
00:45:15,680 --> 00:45:21,560
I want everybody to experience life, however you want to experience life, but just understand.

1001
00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:22,560
That's all.

1002
00:45:22,560 --> 00:45:28,480
So next time you say to somebody, why are you still single?

1003
00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:33,240
This is why because it's so freaking hard to find somebody online.

1004
00:45:33,240 --> 00:45:35,920
So when you do, it's like you've found a piece of gold.

1005
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:37,600
Yeah, well, you know, I'm not dead yet.

1006
00:45:37,600 --> 00:45:39,960
So that's not what I meant.

1007
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:40,960
I know.

1008
00:45:40,960 --> 00:45:42,640
Oh, I hate you so much.

1009
00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:43,640
This is Bill.

1010
00:45:43,640 --> 00:45:44,640
He's 44.

1011
00:45:44,640 --> 00:45:47,680
And he says, I'm a lot like Celery.

1012
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:52,440
No one wants Celery on its own, but in the right situation, it can lend a refreshing,

1013
00:45:52,440 --> 00:45:55,280
herbaceous crunch.

1014
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:56,280
Thanks Bill.

1015
00:45:56,280 --> 00:45:57,880
Oh my gosh.

1016
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:03,560
This is Justin, who somehow figured out how to use a different type of font and put it

1017
00:46:03,560 --> 00:46:04,560
into his profile.

1018
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:06,440
So he must be, oh, he's an IT.

1019
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:07,440
So that makes a lot of sense.

1020
00:46:07,440 --> 00:46:08,440
Clearly.

1021
00:46:08,440 --> 00:46:11,640
My goal in life is to own a goat farm and a roller disco.

1022
00:46:11,640 --> 00:46:12,640
He's 41.

1023
00:46:12,640 --> 00:46:13,800
Yo, I'm into it.

1024
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:14,800
Not the goats.

1025
00:46:14,800 --> 00:46:15,800
You're allergic.

1026
00:46:15,800 --> 00:46:16,800
You could not date him.

1027
00:46:16,800 --> 00:46:17,800
This is true.

1028
00:46:17,800 --> 00:46:18,800
Oh, you're so cute.

1029
00:46:18,800 --> 00:46:19,800
Oh, Jason.

1030
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:21,240
Jason is 43.

1031
00:46:21,240 --> 00:46:26,560
He's one of many I'm going to read off, who is on a journey of self-discovery with his

1032
00:46:26,560 --> 00:46:31,560
partner because they are E-N-M, ethically non-monogamous.

1033
00:46:31,560 --> 00:46:33,600
No.

1034
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:34,960
So there's your non-word.

1035
00:46:34,960 --> 00:46:36,920
Oh, I'd be like sweet.

1036
00:46:36,920 --> 00:46:38,840
Well, it took me a while with E-N-M.

1037
00:46:38,840 --> 00:46:40,560
I was like, wow, these people don't know how to type.

1038
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:42,120
They're just like putting letters together.

1039
00:46:42,120 --> 00:46:44,720
And then I looked it up and I was like, oh, ethically non-monogamous.

1040
00:46:44,720 --> 00:46:50,080
So they are in relationships already looking for a third or individually dating on their

1041
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:51,080
own.

1042
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:52,880
So there's lots of ways to do E-N-M.

1043
00:46:52,880 --> 00:46:53,880
Can't.

1044
00:46:53,880 --> 00:46:57,400
So they're just looking for casual friends and fun, right?

1045
00:46:57,400 --> 00:46:58,400
Okay.

1046
00:46:58,400 --> 00:46:59,400
Nope.

1047
00:46:59,400 --> 00:47:00,400
He's first.

1048
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:01,400
He's first of many.

1049
00:47:01,400 --> 00:47:02,400
What the?

1050
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:03,480
He's in.

1051
00:47:03,480 --> 00:47:04,480
Another one?

1052
00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:05,480
Yep.

1053
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:07,080
He's 45 and he's in an open relationship.

1054
00:47:07,080 --> 00:47:08,840
But he knows it's not for everyone.

1055
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:13,880
But, you know, he likes sentimental redneckie art.

1056
00:47:13,880 --> 00:47:20,840
Wait, I would swipe yes because I want to know what sentimental redneckie art looks like.

1057
00:47:20,840 --> 00:47:22,840
There's no time for that.

1058
00:47:22,840 --> 00:47:23,840
Okay.

1059
00:47:23,840 --> 00:47:29,840
Ryan's 43 and he says, I spent too many years focused on school and only myself when I should

1060
00:47:29,840 --> 00:47:32,560
have been a better boyfriend and prioritized good relationships.

1061
00:47:32,560 --> 00:47:33,560
So very honest.

1062
00:47:33,560 --> 00:47:34,560
I like that.

1063
00:47:34,560 --> 00:47:39,440
But I really love my career and I'm ready to be all in and make someone the happiest

1064
00:47:39,440 --> 00:47:40,440
every day.

1065
00:47:40,440 --> 00:47:41,440
Cool.

1066
00:47:41,440 --> 00:47:44,400
Also, may or may not make the best cheese trays.

1067
00:47:44,400 --> 00:47:47,760
You're so cute.

1068
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,440
So he likes the schmorgasbord of charcuterie.

1069
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:51,440
Exactly.

1070
00:47:51,440 --> 00:47:52,440
That one was just fun.

1071
00:47:52,440 --> 00:47:53,440
That's not offensive.

1072
00:47:53,440 --> 00:47:54,440
Let's wait.

1073
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:55,440
Did you swipe yes?

1074
00:47:55,440 --> 00:47:57,440
Oh, absolutely not.

1075
00:47:57,440 --> 00:48:01,400
So this is Robbie and I'm giving Carly the visual.

1076
00:48:01,400 --> 00:48:02,720
Robbie's 39.

1077
00:48:02,720 --> 00:48:04,280
Can we post Robbie?

1078
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:05,280
No.

1079
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:07,520
No, that's not okay to me.

1080
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,160
Robbie's a furry.

1081
00:48:09,160 --> 00:48:10,160
Robbie looks like a furry.

1082
00:48:10,160 --> 00:48:11,160
Yeah.

1083
00:48:11,160 --> 00:48:12,160
He's just wearing ears.

1084
00:48:12,160 --> 00:48:16,160
He's got a lot of his own fur in a beard and lots of hair.

1085
00:48:16,160 --> 00:48:18,040
He's having a good time.

1086
00:48:18,040 --> 00:48:24,640
And he in his bio has proceeded to tell us that he digs horrible food, great cartoons,

1087
00:48:24,640 --> 00:48:26,480
and competitive napping.

1088
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:29,600
And now he wants us all to enjoy a story about a monkey and a ghost.

1089
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:36,520
And it is a nine line emoji conversation about a monkey and a ghost.

1090
00:48:36,520 --> 00:48:39,120
And there's some bananas involved and some eggplants.

1091
00:48:39,120 --> 00:48:40,320
So take that for what it is.

1092
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,360
I'm not sure if this is a pro or a con.

1093
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:43,360
Oh, it's a con.

1094
00:48:43,360 --> 00:48:44,360
It's a con.

1095
00:48:44,360 --> 00:48:45,920
Oh my gosh.

1096
00:48:45,920 --> 00:48:46,920
Garrett Lee.

1097
00:48:46,920 --> 00:48:47,920
Garrett Lee.

1098
00:48:47,920 --> 00:48:48,920
He's 37.

1099
00:48:48,920 --> 00:48:49,920
He's a young in.

1100
00:48:49,920 --> 00:48:50,920
He is.

1101
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:53,080
He's a former ballet dancer.

1102
00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:56,240
Future eccentric thousandaire.

1103
00:48:56,240 --> 00:48:57,760
He's like what he's trying to do.

1104
00:48:57,760 --> 00:48:59,320
I love thousandaires.

1105
00:48:59,320 --> 00:49:04,840
And he's currently a friendly face of bureaucracy and a nonprofit art, which is all well and

1106
00:49:04,840 --> 00:49:05,840
good.

1107
00:49:05,840 --> 00:49:06,840
He's got cats.

1108
00:49:06,840 --> 00:49:12,040
He's got a pension for English literature and he's a E and M friends only please.

1109
00:49:12,040 --> 00:49:13,680
Oh my gosh.

1110
00:49:13,680 --> 00:49:14,920
I like that it's ethical.

1111
00:49:14,920 --> 00:49:16,800
Well, everybody has to be on board.

1112
00:49:16,800 --> 00:49:17,800
Everyone's on board.

1113
00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:19,440
You know that there's other people involved.

1114
00:49:19,440 --> 00:49:20,440
It's definitely a mindset.

1115
00:49:20,440 --> 00:49:21,440
All right.

1116
00:49:21,440 --> 00:49:22,440
There's no judge.

1117
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:23,440
There's no jealousy.

1118
00:49:23,440 --> 00:49:26,200
Oh, so there's no non ethical, non monogamous.

1119
00:49:26,200 --> 00:49:27,200
Any.

1120
00:49:27,200 --> 00:49:28,200
N.M.

1121
00:49:28,200 --> 00:49:30,200
I think that's called cheating.

1122
00:49:30,200 --> 00:49:33,960
Pretty sure that's called cheating.

1123
00:49:33,960 --> 00:49:36,720
That's way easier to say.

1124
00:49:36,720 --> 00:49:38,400
This this man is 41.

1125
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:40,200
I'm not sure how to say his name.

1126
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:42,800
You fam maybe.

1127
00:49:42,800 --> 00:49:45,800
And his bio says.

1128
00:49:45,800 --> 00:49:48,680
Is it too late to be happy?

1129
00:49:48,680 --> 00:49:54,640
We put that funny.

1130
00:49:54,640 --> 00:49:55,880
But we don't swipe on that.

1131
00:49:55,880 --> 00:49:56,880
No, no, we don't.

1132
00:49:56,880 --> 00:49:57,880
We don't swipe on that.

1133
00:49:57,880 --> 00:49:58,880
No.

1134
00:49:58,880 --> 00:49:59,880
Oh my gosh.

1135
00:49:59,880 --> 00:50:00,880
Dwayne.

1136
00:50:00,880 --> 00:50:01,880
Yes.

1137
00:50:01,880 --> 00:50:02,880
Is the rock Johnson.

1138
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:03,880
Yeah.

1139
00:50:03,880 --> 00:50:08,200
He's holding a pumpkin in his picture and he said just judge me by my pictures.

1140
00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:11,560
That's what I do.

1141
00:50:11,560 --> 00:50:14,000
He's only looking for casual fun dates.

1142
00:50:14,000 --> 00:50:16,240
God, I'd be on so many dates.

1143
00:50:16,240 --> 00:50:18,040
Oh, you're so cute.

1144
00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:19,600
D is 39.

1145
00:50:19,600 --> 00:50:21,440
And this is in all caps.

1146
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:22,440
All cap.

1147
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:25,120
All that matters right now is my bank account.

1148
00:50:25,120 --> 00:50:29,160
Oh my gosh.

1149
00:50:29,160 --> 00:50:31,640
He definitely looks like he's from Delco.

1150
00:50:31,640 --> 00:50:32,640
OK.

1151
00:50:32,640 --> 00:50:33,640
Solomon.

1152
00:50:33,640 --> 00:50:35,600
I feel for Solomon.

1153
00:50:35,600 --> 00:50:36,920
I agree with Solomon.

1154
00:50:36,920 --> 00:50:38,480
He's 38.

1155
00:50:38,480 --> 00:50:40,480
His bio says meh.

1156
00:50:40,480 --> 00:50:41,480
That's it.

1157
00:50:41,480 --> 00:50:45,440
I don't know if it's the way you're reading them or that they're actually funny to me.

1158
00:50:45,440 --> 00:50:48,000
But like I enjoy this.

1159
00:50:48,000 --> 00:50:49,240
Peter is 42.

1160
00:50:49,240 --> 00:50:51,640
His bio says winning.

1161
00:50:51,640 --> 00:50:52,640
He is.

1162
00:50:52,640 --> 00:50:53,640
Is he cute?

1163
00:50:53,640 --> 00:50:55,680
I don't remember.

1164
00:50:55,680 --> 00:50:57,240
I cut off his face.

1165
00:50:57,240 --> 00:50:58,240
OK.

1166
00:50:58,240 --> 00:50:59,240
Jay.

1167
00:50:59,240 --> 00:51:00,240
Jay is 37.

1168
00:51:00,240 --> 00:51:02,680
He's a tow truck driver at AAA.

1169
00:51:02,680 --> 00:51:03,840
And he's just angry.

1170
00:51:03,840 --> 00:51:06,520
Oh, he's angry.

1171
00:51:06,520 --> 00:51:11,720
His bio says now your bio is supposed to have like a little tidbit of who you are.

1172
00:51:11,720 --> 00:51:13,520
Maybe what you're looking for.

1173
00:51:13,520 --> 00:51:16,040
Maybe it's funny.

1174
00:51:16,040 --> 00:51:20,160
Nothing but a bunch of beautiful inconsistent women on here that does the complete opposite

1175
00:51:20,160 --> 00:51:21,920
of what they say on the page.

1176
00:51:21,920 --> 00:51:26,520
At this rate, I'll never get to the meeting stage because y'all suck at communication.

1177
00:51:26,520 --> 00:51:31,320
Why y'all screaming consistency is key and y'all don't have a drop of consistency within.

1178
00:51:31,320 --> 00:51:32,320
Who?

1179
00:51:32,320 --> 00:51:33,320
That's his bio.

1180
00:51:33,320 --> 00:51:34,320
Who swipes on that?

1181
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:35,320
I have no idea.

1182
00:51:35,320 --> 00:51:36,320
He's a murder dirter.

1183
00:51:36,320 --> 00:51:38,880
He's going to murder dirter you.

1184
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:40,040
What the?

1185
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:42,120
This is Thomas.

1186
00:51:42,120 --> 00:51:43,240
Thomas is 39.

1187
00:51:43,240 --> 00:51:49,400
And I know I have a feeling this is pure sarcasm and like meant to be really funny.

1188
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:50,400
I swiped no.

1189
00:51:50,400 --> 00:51:51,400
OK.

1190
00:51:51,400 --> 00:51:57,320
He's looking for fake lips, injected faces, bonus fake breasts and ass implants, preferably

1191
00:51:57,320 --> 00:52:02,560
all filtered pictures, change the eye color, a race of wrinkle or two, but please change

1192
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:05,240
the shape of your face, the neck, the hips and whatever else.

1193
00:52:05,240 --> 00:52:07,760
If you have any real untouched pictures we won't work out.

1194
00:52:07,760 --> 00:52:09,400
I don't like surprises.

1195
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:11,640
That is, I hope that's really funny.

1196
00:52:11,640 --> 00:52:13,760
I think that's meant to be hilarious.

1197
00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:14,760
Yeah.

1198
00:52:14,760 --> 00:52:15,760
Yeah.

1199
00:52:15,760 --> 00:52:16,760
He doesn't know.

1200
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:17,760
He doesn't know.

1201
00:52:17,760 --> 00:52:18,760
OK.

1202
00:52:18,760 --> 00:52:19,760
Rick.

1203
00:52:19,760 --> 00:52:24,840
He's a real gangster and he have a cat and live in South Philly.

1204
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:27,880
Not expecting much from the app, honestly, but how else do you meet people when you don't

1205
00:52:27,880 --> 00:52:29,280
drink?

1206
00:52:29,280 --> 00:52:32,760
If you think my profile is bad, wait until you get a load of women's profiles.

1207
00:52:32,760 --> 00:52:34,760
Oh my God.

1208
00:52:34,760 --> 00:52:35,760
How do we pick?

1209
00:52:35,760 --> 00:52:36,760
I don't know.

1210
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:37,760
They're all so good.

1211
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:40,280
Oh my gosh.

1212
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:41,280
John is 41.

1213
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:43,560
He's never married, no kids, pretty nerdy.

1214
00:52:43,560 --> 00:52:44,560
All that's good.

1215
00:52:44,560 --> 00:52:47,400
I like cooking, arguing about the best captain of the enterprise.

1216
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:48,560
No idea what that is.

1217
00:52:48,560 --> 00:52:51,000
And picking up new hobbies, so that's fun.

1218
00:52:51,000 --> 00:52:54,920
But we should ask him why he has eight fish tanks in his living room.

1219
00:52:54,920 --> 00:52:59,400
We should ask him that because his water bill is up there.

1220
00:52:59,400 --> 00:53:01,760
Oh my gosh.

1221
00:53:01,760 --> 00:53:04,120
Matthew's 42 and he's a plumber.

1222
00:53:04,120 --> 00:53:05,480
No masks for him.

1223
00:53:05,480 --> 00:53:07,680
No, definitely no masks.

1224
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:13,880
Online dating and online is two different words is the best since sliced bread, but it's far

1225
00:53:13,880 --> 00:53:14,880
from it.

1226
00:53:14,880 --> 00:53:16,080
So someone get me off of here.

1227
00:53:16,080 --> 00:53:17,080
Oh my God.

1228
00:53:17,080 --> 00:53:18,360
Let's laugh together.

1229
00:53:18,360 --> 00:53:24,080
I'll say sorry to cast a jokes down to earth, respectful, trusting all the good stuff.

1230
00:53:24,080 --> 00:53:27,760
Not one punctuation.

1231
00:53:27,760 --> 00:53:29,880
I don't know how you do it.

1232
00:53:29,880 --> 00:53:36,320
Eric with a K is 44 and he is a respectable credit square of 725.

1233
00:53:36,320 --> 00:53:38,600
He always puts the shopping cart back no matter what.

1234
00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:39,600
That's important.

1235
00:53:39,600 --> 00:53:41,200
But Wawa's on the decline.

1236
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:42,960
Oh, I'm sorry.

1237
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:43,960
Goodbye.

1238
00:53:43,960 --> 00:53:45,840
But post Malone thumbs up.

1239
00:53:45,840 --> 00:53:46,840
That's his bio.

1240
00:53:46,840 --> 00:53:47,840
No.

1241
00:53:47,840 --> 00:53:49,400
Oh my gosh.

1242
00:53:49,400 --> 00:53:51,400
Pete.

1243
00:53:51,400 --> 00:53:52,400
I love Pete.

1244
00:53:52,400 --> 00:53:53,400
Did you swipe?

1245
00:53:53,400 --> 00:53:54,400
Yes.

1246
00:53:54,400 --> 00:53:55,400
I swiped hell no.

1247
00:53:55,400 --> 00:53:59,840
But Pete is 36 and he is a super kink for Asian girls.

1248
00:53:59,840 --> 00:54:00,840
Oh my God.

1249
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:02,560
And he's not sorry about it.

1250
00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:05,120
It literally says not sorry in all caps.

1251
00:54:05,120 --> 00:54:08,560
Vietnamese, Japanese, Chinese with the eggplant emoji.

1252
00:54:08,560 --> 00:54:12,320
If you thought Ultraman got a big emoji.

1253
00:54:12,320 --> 00:54:15,120
Oh, I work kind of.

1254
00:54:15,120 --> 00:54:16,760
I exercise way too much.

1255
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:18,520
I eat a lot.

1256
00:54:18,520 --> 00:54:22,000
I'm a failed entrepreneur still trying stupid FBI.

1257
00:54:22,000 --> 00:54:23,000
That's gotta be funny.

1258
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:24,360
Hopefully that's a joke.

1259
00:54:24,360 --> 00:54:26,160
I own my house and everything in it.

1260
00:54:26,160 --> 00:54:29,600
I have a huge pianosilin collection.

1261
00:54:29,600 --> 00:54:31,240
Oh my God.

1262
00:54:31,240 --> 00:54:33,640
11 inches.

1263
00:54:33,640 --> 00:54:36,160
Has a girlfriend and she's not.

1264
00:54:36,160 --> 00:54:37,480
I don't know what that means.

1265
00:54:37,480 --> 00:54:40,240
He has a girlfriend but she's not a girl.

1266
00:54:40,240 --> 00:54:41,240
I don't know.

1267
00:54:41,240 --> 00:54:42,240
Maybe she's not alive.

1268
00:54:42,240 --> 00:54:43,240
Maybe.

1269
00:54:43,240 --> 00:54:44,240
Thanks Pete.

1270
00:54:44,240 --> 00:54:45,240
What the?

1271
00:54:45,240 --> 00:54:46,240
Matthew's 44.

1272
00:54:46,240 --> 00:54:47,240
He's a consultant.

1273
00:54:47,240 --> 00:54:49,240
He's a large fool.

1274
00:54:49,240 --> 00:54:52,400
An excellent tipper and he smells lovely.

1275
00:54:52,400 --> 00:54:54,360
And if you want his Instagram handle, it's right here.

1276
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:55,360
Oh my gosh.

1277
00:54:55,360 --> 00:54:57,080
I don't know what to say.

1278
00:54:57,080 --> 00:54:58,080
Oh George.

1279
00:54:58,080 --> 00:54:59,080
George I understand.

1280
00:54:59,080 --> 00:55:02,000
George is a lot like Solomon with the meh.

1281
00:55:02,000 --> 00:55:03,000
George is 41.

1282
00:55:03,000 --> 00:55:05,640
Well, here we are.

1283
00:55:05,640 --> 00:55:06,640
That's it?

1284
00:55:06,640 --> 00:55:07,640
That's his bio.

1285
00:55:07,640 --> 00:55:08,640
That's his bio.

1286
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:09,640
Yeah.

1287
00:55:09,640 --> 00:55:16,120
Pascal is seemingly normal at 6 feet, 6 inches, but he's a male part of an ethical non-monogamous

1288
00:55:16,120 --> 00:55:19,120
polyamory married couple.

1289
00:55:19,120 --> 00:55:20,920
What the?

1290
00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:25,800
I did this one because when you type in usually just bumble, I'm not sure about the other

1291
00:55:25,800 --> 00:55:26,800
apps.

1292
00:55:26,800 --> 00:55:29,440
If when you type your name in, it's something you can't change.

1293
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:32,680
So as soon as you type that in, it goes to the next like, okay, fill this stuff out,

1294
00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:34,400
but you can change most other things.

1295
00:55:34,400 --> 00:55:36,200
You can't change your name or your age.

1296
00:55:36,200 --> 00:55:38,960
So if you put the wrong birthday in, that's it.

1297
00:55:38,960 --> 00:55:39,960
Right.

1298
00:55:39,960 --> 00:55:41,640
So his name is Gish.

1299
00:55:41,640 --> 00:55:43,080
He's 39.

1300
00:55:43,080 --> 00:55:47,800
And his first thing says, name is Josh, but I can't type.

1301
00:55:47,800 --> 00:55:49,200
And he's a bunny dad.

1302
00:55:49,200 --> 00:55:51,440
He is a rabbit.

1303
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:55,520
And everything else seemingly is normal, but he's also in an ethical non-monogamous open

1304
00:55:55,520 --> 00:55:56,520
relationship.

1305
00:55:56,520 --> 00:55:57,520
Oh my God.

1306
00:55:57,520 --> 00:55:58,520
So no.

1307
00:55:58,520 --> 00:56:01,080
Oh, Mr. Handsome.

1308
00:56:01,080 --> 00:56:02,080
He's 41.

1309
00:56:02,080 --> 00:56:03,920
Who knows what your real name is?

1310
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:05,200
He has good credit.

1311
00:56:05,200 --> 00:56:07,160
There's a lot of O's in that good.

1312
00:56:07,160 --> 00:56:09,600
He's very positive.

1313
00:56:09,600 --> 00:56:14,880
He also has great in parentheses, hygiene.

1314
00:56:14,880 --> 00:56:19,440
I use Listerine Advanced All Natural Mouthwash and I use Orobi Electric toothbrush.

1315
00:56:19,440 --> 00:56:23,560
It removes 38% plaque to keep my teeth nice and white and shiny.

1316
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,960
Do you think these guys think they're being funny?

1317
00:56:25,960 --> 00:56:26,960
No.

1318
00:56:26,960 --> 00:56:27,960
Oh.

1319
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:29,400
Anything else you'd like to know, please feel free to ask.

1320
00:56:29,400 --> 00:56:30,400
Oh my gosh.

1321
00:56:30,400 --> 00:56:35,040
You can tell when someone's being funny and when someone is struggling at life.

1322
00:56:35,040 --> 00:56:36,600
Dan is 36.

1323
00:56:36,600 --> 00:56:38,640
Most people are looking for someone to grow old with.

1324
00:56:38,640 --> 00:56:40,320
I'm looking for someone to stay young with.

1325
00:56:40,320 --> 00:56:41,520
I thought he was sweet.

1326
00:56:41,520 --> 00:56:42,520
That's nice.

1327
00:56:42,520 --> 00:56:43,520
Yeah, I still swipe, no.

1328
00:56:43,520 --> 00:56:45,000
Aw, you're so cute.

1329
00:56:45,000 --> 00:56:47,160
Nano is 44 and he's happily married.

1330
00:56:47,160 --> 00:56:49,800
He's dipping his toes in the waters of ethical non-monogamy.

1331
00:56:49,800 --> 00:56:50,800
No.

1332
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:56,120
Looking for casual, but not less meaningful connections for me and or for me and my wife.

1333
00:56:56,120 --> 00:56:59,160
John is 36.

1334
00:56:59,160 --> 00:57:00,800
Never blame someone else for the road you're on.

1335
00:57:00,800 --> 00:57:01,800
That's your own asphalt.

1336
00:57:01,800 --> 00:57:05,840
Let's be honest, if we're on here, neither one of us is at a high point in our lives.

1337
00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:06,840
Oh my God.

1338
00:57:06,840 --> 00:57:11,760
I promise I look better in person by a minimum of 1%.

1339
00:57:11,760 --> 00:57:14,560
He's an oncology infusion technician.

1340
00:57:14,560 --> 00:57:15,960
How are we going to pick?

1341
00:57:15,960 --> 00:57:17,400
Marcos 37.

1342
00:57:17,400 --> 00:57:18,840
And this is all seemingly fine.

1343
00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:21,120
Like he's Italian, he's Greek, Armenian.

1344
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:23,320
He doesn't take selfies at the gym.

1345
00:57:23,320 --> 00:57:24,320
Just progress pictures.

1346
00:57:24,320 --> 00:57:27,680
I don't like dating apps because I believe in romance from like the 1940s, showing up

1347
00:57:27,680 --> 00:57:31,000
at your place, asking your mom permission, yada yada.

1348
00:57:31,000 --> 00:57:32,720
But we all swipe left or right now.

1349
00:57:32,720 --> 00:57:33,720
It's unfortunate.

1350
00:57:33,720 --> 00:57:35,720
Bonus points if you wear leather.

1351
00:57:35,720 --> 00:57:38,720
You just like threw that in at the end.

1352
00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:39,720
What the?

1353
00:57:39,720 --> 00:57:40,720
But you know, I'm not dead yet.

1354
00:57:40,720 --> 00:57:41,720
So never know.

1355
00:57:41,720 --> 00:57:43,720
I am seriously going to murder you.

1356
00:57:43,720 --> 00:57:46,160
You know that's I feel like that's how you feel.

1357
00:57:46,160 --> 00:57:48,600
And I'm trying to tell you that's not how you should feel.

1358
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:49,600
Kevin is 38.

1359
00:57:49,600 --> 00:57:53,840
And how he feels is that he really don't know what to write because he really don't think

1360
00:57:53,840 --> 00:57:54,840
it matters.

1361
00:57:54,840 --> 00:57:58,040
Going to be nothing but disappointment like always.

1362
00:57:58,040 --> 00:58:00,000
Poor Kevin.

1363
00:58:00,000 --> 00:58:01,600
Poor all these guys.

1364
00:58:01,600 --> 00:58:03,480
Nicholas is 37.

1365
00:58:03,480 --> 00:58:07,880
I don't know what having my shit together looks like, but this definitely isn't it.

1366
00:58:07,880 --> 00:58:12,160
Professional musician, cat dad, homeowner, idiot, a little lost.

1367
00:58:12,160 --> 00:58:13,160
I like him.

1368
00:58:13,160 --> 00:58:14,160
He understands.

1369
00:58:14,160 --> 00:58:16,720
Oh my gosh.

1370
00:58:16,720 --> 00:58:17,720
Last one.

1371
00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:18,720
Corey, 43.

1372
00:58:18,720 --> 00:58:21,840
I have eight kids with 17 different women and I live with all of them.

1373
00:58:21,840 --> 00:58:24,840
I've been to prison 34 times and I'm currently on probation.

1374
00:58:24,840 --> 00:58:27,760
It's gotta be a joke.

1375
00:58:27,760 --> 00:58:32,160
This dating pool is drowning.

1376
00:58:32,160 --> 00:58:33,160
Someone pooped in it.

1377
00:58:33,160 --> 00:58:34,160
Somebody pooped in it.

1378
00:58:34,160 --> 00:58:38,040
Get out of the pool, everyone.

1379
00:58:38,040 --> 00:58:42,160
I think if I'm going to pick, I'm going to go with Furry Robbie with the monkey and ghost

1380
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:43,160
story.

1381
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:46,320
No, you're not because I think I want to know.

1382
00:58:46,320 --> 00:58:50,280
I want to know why the ghost likes this banana and I really want to know why the monkey likes

1383
00:58:50,280 --> 00:58:53,200
the heart and the explosive bomb.

1384
00:58:53,200 --> 00:58:58,280
I'm going with the guy who said, meh, Solomon.

1385
00:58:58,280 --> 00:58:59,280
Meh.

1386
00:58:59,280 --> 00:59:00,520
I agree, Solomon.

1387
00:59:00,520 --> 00:59:01,520
Yeah, same.

1388
00:59:01,520 --> 00:59:03,320
I would be like, yeah.

1389
00:59:03,320 --> 00:59:04,320
Meh.

1390
00:59:04,320 --> 00:59:11,040
So if you have not checked out online dating, I don't recommend putting in ages 36 to 45

1391
00:59:11,040 --> 00:59:14,760
as your search because that is what you're going to find for the majority.

1392
00:59:14,760 --> 00:59:15,760
It is a good time though.

1393
00:59:15,760 --> 00:59:17,240
It is very entertaining.

1394
00:59:17,240 --> 00:59:25,160
I think you have to have a good mental head space about it and a sense of humor and somebody

1395
00:59:25,160 --> 00:59:28,200
like me and intelligence.

1396
00:59:28,200 --> 00:59:33,480
To counterbalance somebody like you.

1397
00:59:33,480 --> 00:59:38,080
Garly would have said yes to some of them just for the sake of like, that would be so

1398
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:39,080
funny.

1399
00:59:39,080 --> 00:59:40,080
Oh my God.

1400
00:59:40,080 --> 00:59:41,080
I know.

1401
00:59:41,080 --> 00:59:42,080
That's why I said I wouldn't have.

1402
00:59:42,080 --> 00:59:43,080
I wouldn't.

1403
00:59:43,080 --> 00:59:44,080
I'm not good at it.

1404
00:59:44,080 --> 00:59:46,120
I don't think you needed to say that.

1405
00:59:46,120 --> 00:59:47,120
I can't.

1406
00:59:47,120 --> 00:59:49,560
Victoria, I can't be good at everything.

1407
00:59:49,560 --> 00:59:56,000
Look, this was meant to be helpful, but I now understand that it's turned into like a roast.

1408
00:59:56,000 --> 01:00:01,000
Because it's hard for me not to.

1409
01:00:01,000 --> 01:00:07,920
Whatever your age is, you should, if you want to get out there, you got to get out there.

1410
01:00:07,920 --> 01:00:12,040
You have to weed through every man or female.

1411
01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:16,480
I don't know what the women's looks like, but according to Eric, it's not great.

1412
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:17,680
It's not great.

1413
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:19,920
So you just have to get out there.

1414
01:00:19,920 --> 01:00:21,520
You got to stick to what you want.

1415
01:00:21,520 --> 01:00:22,640
You have to know what you want.

1416
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:25,120
I think that was, that's probably my biggest piece of advice.

1417
01:00:25,120 --> 01:00:32,080
Know what you want and do not settle for anything else because you don't need to.

1418
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:33,080
Yeah.

1419
01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:35,080
Because you're not dead yet.

1420
01:00:35,080 --> 01:00:37,120
God damn it.

1421
01:00:37,120 --> 01:00:42,480
So if you are online dating, recognize the pros.

1422
01:00:42,480 --> 01:00:43,960
Truly recognize the cons.

1423
01:00:43,960 --> 01:00:51,200
Make sure that you keep in a good headspace and not get stuck into comparison or that

1424
01:00:51,200 --> 01:00:58,040
anxiety or depression about scrolling and swiping or anything like that.

1425
01:00:58,040 --> 01:00:59,440
Keep it positive.

1426
01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:03,080
Keep it authentic to yourself and keep it honest because that is the only way you're

1427
01:01:03,080 --> 01:01:07,440
going to get through and not get sucked in and get burnt out.

1428
01:01:07,440 --> 01:01:12,200
And if you need a wing woman, you know where to go.

1429
01:01:12,200 --> 01:01:13,200
Yep.

1430
01:01:13,200 --> 01:01:18,400
You can fly, fly away, fly away.

1431
01:01:18,400 --> 01:01:25,320
And remember, you are always fit to be real and always allowed to be a little extra.

1432
01:01:25,320 --> 01:01:36,520
For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and

1433
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:38,320
educational purposes only.

1434
01:01:38,320 --> 01:01:40,520
We are not healthcare professionals.

1435
01:01:40,520 --> 01:01:44,620
For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self care needs, please refer to the medical

1436
01:01:44,620 --> 01:01:46,280
professional in your life.

1437
01:01:46,280 --> 01:01:51,400
Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be.

1438
01:01:51,400 --> 01:01:55,480
And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do.

1439
01:01:55,480 --> 01:01:56,480
Okay?

1440
01:01:56,480 --> 01:02:16,600
Okay, bye.