1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,840 Welcome to fit to be real and a little extra 2 00:00:04,120 --> 00:00:07,440 So before we get into what we're gonna talk about I 3 00:00:08,360 --> 00:00:11,980 Just had my first sip of wowas pumpkin spice coffee 4 00:00:12,880 --> 00:00:14,880 I'm so happy 5 00:00:15,240 --> 00:00:17,240 I'm so happy 6 00:00:18,600 --> 00:00:24,920 This is my genuinely the first sip of this season well it is 95 degrees out so not in here 7 00:00:24,920 --> 00:00:32,440 No, not in here the air is on yeah, it's a mess around. Oh, yeah, we don't mess around we drink pumpkin spice in the AC 8 00:00:32,520 --> 00:00:33,640 Yeah 9 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:37,540 With our pumpkin candle. That's well that's all year around for you 10 00:00:38,800 --> 00:00:45,560 100% that that one sip just like it hit. Yeah, well, I'm happy for you 11 00:00:45,560 --> 00:00:50,840 I shipped it and now it already ready welcome. I didn't know that's all it took for you 12 00:00:50,840 --> 00:00:57,040 I should just be force feeding it to you all year long like in an IV. Yeah, all took for me for what? 13 00:00:59,280 --> 00:01:01,280 To be ready 14 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:07,040 I was choosing my words carefully nervous she wants to say happy 15 00:01:09,840 --> 00:01:11,840 Not happy 16 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:14,760 Just happy yeah 17 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaking of happy we're talking about something a little controversial. I think it's con 18 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:25,400 Well, first of all, I can't say the word controversial 19 00:01:26,560 --> 00:01:28,560 controversial 20 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:34,040 Contra controversial now it doesn't make it doesn't it's not a word. Yeah controversial 21 00:01:34,640 --> 00:01:36,640 No, no 22 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,000 Controversial controversial 23 00:01:39,800 --> 00:01:41,800 Controversial 24 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:58,120 It's only that for some people that have an issue with it. Yeah, I think that's the majority though. Yeah, I guess I believe I feel like that's the majority and I do to think that that is 25 00:01:58,880 --> 00:02:04,200 Shifting you'll you know, we'll talk about that a little bit. I think it's shifting into this new generation 26 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:06,840 Oh, I know there's so many names for this too 27 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:13,720 It's really yes, and it actually gets a little under my skin because it's like 28 00:02:14,680 --> 00:02:16,680 Sometimes people make up words 29 00:02:17,280 --> 00:02:19,280 That we're already there 30 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:22,780 But now they're just trendy trendy sort of like 31 00:02:23,680 --> 00:02:27,360 Anyway, they have no idea what we're talking about. Let's get into it. Yeah, they didn't read the title 32 00:02:27,360 --> 00:02:29,360 I 33 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:42,240 I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly and we're talking about alcohol today and we are 34 00:02:43,640 --> 00:02:45,640 100% sober 35 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,520 Today in this moment 36 00:02:49,240 --> 00:02:54,440 Astring at the bottom in this fine print in this moment in this moment in the early morning 37 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:59,480 We are sober. That's another word. I have a hard time with my brain sober. No, oh 38 00:03:00,320 --> 00:03:03,360 Ask is it a strict or a stress? 39 00:03:04,760 --> 00:03:06,520 Astric 40 00:03:06,520 --> 00:03:10,720 Astric a strict no, that's what I mean. What is it a strict? 41 00:03:11,560 --> 00:03:14,840 No a strict. Why are you the athletic? 42 00:03:15,600 --> 00:03:21,080 Athletic I don't know now. I'm all confused. I don't know what's up or down so controversial 43 00:03:21,080 --> 00:03:27,880 So yeah, we're talking about alcohol today because I kind of did a little experiment 44 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:36,200 slash competition with myself and so we're just gonna kind of unfold it because maybe you're out there and you were thinking about 45 00:03:37,360 --> 00:03:39,360 kind of stopping 46 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:43,760 drinking for a little bit or permanently or whatever the case may be and 47 00:03:43,760 --> 00:03:51,680 You know want to see if it's worth it or whatever so I stopped drinking. What was that Thanksgiving? 48 00:03:52,760 --> 00:03:59,280 2022 it was mid COVID so yeah, but we were all together so it was like opening up COVID 49 00:04:00,360 --> 00:04:07,000 2020 21 22 it was Thanksgiving 2022. Okay, and I had it was Thanksgiving 50 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:12,160 I had a half of a glass of wine and I put it down. I had one sip. I put it down 51 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,440 I said, I don't I don't think I want to do this anymore and 52 00:04:15,760 --> 00:04:17,760 For context I 53 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,840 Was in a bad headspace. This is after a 54 00:04:23,280 --> 00:04:28,400 breakup, but I was still being manipulated post breakup and 55 00:04:29,440 --> 00:04:31,440 I 56 00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:36,480 Specifically remember so that Thanksgiving this old relationship had 57 00:04:36,480 --> 00:04:42,320 many empty promises mm-hmm many many empty promises that at the time I 58 00:04:42,640 --> 00:04:48,280 believed and one of them on Thanksgiving was that maybe for dessert they would come, you know 59 00:04:49,280 --> 00:04:51,280 Show up. Yeah, and 60 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:57,480 I basically got ghosted, but we've now arrived at our family's house for Thanksgiving and I'm looking at my phone 61 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:02,320 I'm very confused. I've been believing things since who knows when about 62 00:05:02,320 --> 00:05:08,400 things I should be looking out for and getting ready for and you know all the positive 63 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,580 Reinforcement that turned out to be a facade and 64 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:14,800 then I end up getting ahold of him and 65 00:05:15,480 --> 00:05:17,480 fast forward how many months 66 00:05:17,920 --> 00:05:23,680 Almost a year plus later. I find out what he was at another girls were Thanksgiving and 67 00:05:24,280 --> 00:05:29,800 So all of the lies and all of that and I felt so bad because he told me his best friend that he was gonna spend Thanksgiving with 68 00:05:29,800 --> 00:05:36,360 Didn't actually want to do anything so like the holiday was gonna be a wash and you know poor me poor me 69 00:05:36,360 --> 00:05:38,360 Yeah, yeah, yeah 70 00:05:38,480 --> 00:05:42,840 And it turns out it wasn't like that at all. So in any I didn't know that at the time though 71 00:05:42,840 --> 00:05:45,280 I just knew I was being ghosted and like 72 00:05:46,840 --> 00:05:49,240 confused yet again and like a 73 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:54,520 Gray cloud was constantly just like over my phone and my head at all times 74 00:05:54,640 --> 00:05:57,680 So when I took that sip, I put it down. It was like I don't want to do this 75 00:05:57,680 --> 00:06:03,320 I don't wanna I'm drinking just to drink at this point because it's like what you do on a holiday 76 00:06:03,320 --> 00:06:07,160 Yeah, it doesn't even taste good. It doesn't taste good. It wasn't I 77 00:06:08,360 --> 00:06:12,720 Now our genetics we do not farewell to the alcohol 78 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:15,160 we 79 00:06:15,160 --> 00:06:17,160 We vomit 80 00:06:17,640 --> 00:06:19,640 Let's just be direct 81 00:06:20,280 --> 00:06:26,120 The mayows are vomitors. Oh my god, even our brother who you think looks like he can handle it is 82 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:31,280 Is the lightest weight? Yeah, I mean Andrew can Billy would not agree 83 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:37,000 But we've seen it time and time again Andrew can drink him under the table now. Yeah, not a 84 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:40,640 prize that we like to win all the time, but 85 00:06:41,240 --> 00:06:46,840 Just because we look like we can handle it. Yeah, we actually are very lightweight. I think that's 86 00:06:47,520 --> 00:06:53,000 Partially genetics like I don't know if you can actually build your immune system up to drink 87 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:59,800 I mean, yeah, you can build your tolerance. So tolerance. That's yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, that is a thing and we don't have a good tolerance because 88 00:07:00,440 --> 00:07:05,420 What we do for a living and what we've done since we were of drinking age 89 00:07:05,420 --> 00:07:06,680 We were actors and dancers 90 00:07:06,680 --> 00:07:12,360 We didn't drink often because we couldn't we couldn't get up to audition for the next day if we were drinking the night before 91 00:07:12,560 --> 00:07:18,760 So we just didn't drink a lot. So when we would go out on that rare every four months 92 00:07:18,760 --> 00:07:25,480 We would have a drink it would be like go hard or go home because it we make we don't know when we're gonna be able to go out 93 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:28,640 And have fun again because of our jobs and it was fun 94 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:34,480 It wasn't even just you know, you end up having fun you start forgetting how much fun you're having and it just turns into 95 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:40,200 Horrible decisions maybe shots even you know like it just it kind of spirals 96 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:42,880 But fast rewind even more 97 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:47,520 We weren't drinkers in high school. No when people kind of experiment and do all of that 98 00:07:47,520 --> 00:07:54,880 I I think that was mom's doing. Yeah, I told you that what she said if she ever found us drinking 99 00:07:54,880 --> 00:08:01,080 She would lose the studio and lose the house. So we were scared to death. Yeah, I wasn't scared too much 100 00:08:02,080 --> 00:08:07,580 I think it was she allowed us to have like a little bit of wine on Christmas 101 00:08:08,440 --> 00:08:10,400 post 16 16 up 102 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:12,240 I would I remember having like last month 103 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:17,720 She was like here try it and I remember not liking it and then in my in personally for me in my head 104 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:22,280 I was like, what's the big? Why are you all going to the woods to drink? Yeah big deal 105 00:08:22,280 --> 00:08:25,480 Like to me it was not this built-up forbidden thing, right? 106 00:08:25,720 --> 00:08:31,560 So like our eighth grade. Sorry mom our eighth grade my eighth grade cruise that we went on. Oh, yeah 107 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:36,080 I had a pinot glada. Oh, yeah, I had a lime Ricky. I had I tried all the little things 108 00:08:36,080 --> 00:08:39,760 Yeah, I was a sophomore in high school and she let me have a whiskey sour. No whiskey sour 109 00:08:39,760 --> 00:08:44,920 Yeah, and I mean they served it to us and that was very tasty as a sophomore in high school 110 00:08:44,920 --> 00:08:50,680 I remember liking pinot collat. They were in like shop. It was small. But however, it wasn't a big deal anymore 111 00:08:50,680 --> 00:08:54,400 We were sitting next to our mom. It was one time and it was one drink 112 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:58,360 So never happened to never happen again, but to me in my head is what I'm saying 113 00:08:58,360 --> 00:09:03,720 I think it like de-escalated the I want to do this. I want to yeah, I want to go sneak out and 114 00:09:03,720 --> 00:09:05,720 And 115 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:10,160 Be ridiculous with a bunch of high school kids that aren't really my friend like yeah 116 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:13,320 I never was into the into that we were the designated drivers 117 00:09:13,320 --> 00:09:18,960 Yeah, I would get a call at like 12 or one from a bunch of kids that would say I'm behind the gas station 118 00:09:18,960 --> 00:09:21,760 We just ran from the cops. Can you come pick us up and take us home? 119 00:09:21,760 --> 00:09:24,840 And that was my Friday and Saturday I'd get out of bed 120 00:09:24,840 --> 00:09:27,320 I'd wake up mom and say hey mom I'm going to pick them up 121 00:09:27,320 --> 00:09:32,200 I would pick them up off the street and drive them home and go back to bed. Yeah, cuz I was cool 122 00:09:32,200 --> 00:09:35,360 But like yeah, and then look at us now I 123 00:09:36,520 --> 00:09:42,680 Will I will say senior week was wild I I was bald so off for senior week same from what I remember 124 00:09:42,680 --> 00:09:48,440 I don't remember much which is horrible and we're gonna get to why why our brains do that to us when it comes to alcohol 125 00:09:48,720 --> 00:09:55,120 But I say all of that because I wasn't a big drinker COVID happen. We drank wine on Sundays 126 00:09:55,120 --> 00:10:00,600 I didn't drink wine by myself in my condo not for the first six months. We did not drink during COVID 127 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:04,400 No post post getting healthy. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Yeah, we would have 128 00:10:05,120 --> 00:10:07,360 Like one of us would bring a bottle bottle of wine 129 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:11,720 Yeah, and we would just have like one bottle between how many adults like it wasn't like crazy, right? 130 00:10:11,800 --> 00:10:14,960 But that was a lot to me. Yeah, I wasn't a big drinker before 131 00:10:16,120 --> 00:10:24,600 So then add add all of the mental headspace of like a breakup and a horrible emotional abuse aspect to it. I 132 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:30,800 Knew for myself that when I'm not happy, but then I drink the drinking isn't a happy experience 133 00:10:31,080 --> 00:10:32,240 Right. Yeah, of course 134 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:35,960 You just like harbor on all the things that are going wrong, right? 135 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:40,600 Some people just get happy and like forget about everything. I don't I like harbor. Yeah, it 136 00:10:40,960 --> 00:10:46,920 Makes you have anxiety and stress. That's one of the negative effects that alcohol has on you 137 00:10:46,920 --> 00:10:53,600 Some people it makes them happy some people it makes them sad and stressed out. Yeah, some people get angry. Yeah 138 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:54,960 I 139 00:10:54,960 --> 00:10:58,920 Would just want to I want to know the answers to these problems from that person immediately 140 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:04,800 Right, like answer them right now. Yeah, like and I then you find that if you find the answers 141 00:11:04,800 --> 00:11:08,640 They're not what you want to hear. Yeah, like it just wasn't a good time. Yeah, she yeah 142 00:11:08,720 --> 00:11:15,120 So I decided on that Thanksgiving 2022. I'm just I'm not gonna drink right now. I'm not gonna drink and 143 00:11:15,640 --> 00:11:17,560 I'm going to 144 00:11:17,560 --> 00:11:21,800 That's the only honestly. That's the only decision. There wasn't like a ABC and D 145 00:11:21,800 --> 00:11:24,920 It was just stop drinking right you weren't like I have a problem. I 146 00:11:25,520 --> 00:11:28,880 Do that you were just like I don't like this. I'm not gonna do it. I don't like it 147 00:11:28,880 --> 00:11:34,000 I've always been on that stance of I'd rather have a cookie than a glass of yeah, I'm opposite 148 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:39,080 I'd rather have a glass of wine than a cookie. Give me a good. Give me Nicole's chocolate chip cookie 149 00:11:39,080 --> 00:11:46,600 So what so good what I was gonna say earlier is that there's a new word for what you did Victoria 150 00:11:46,600 --> 00:11:51,720 Had stopped cold turkey because she didn't have a problem with alcohol 151 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:58,400 It was very easy for her to put it down and say I don't want this anymore. Yeah, what's it called sober curious? 152 00:11:58,760 --> 00:12:06,640 What it's I'm sorry for those that that are sober curious. I don't get the name. It's just called being sober sober 153 00:12:06,800 --> 00:12:08,800 It's like I might I 154 00:12:09,280 --> 00:12:13,720 Might quit alcohol, but I'm just like testing it. I'm wondering what can I do it for a week? 155 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:18,720 I'm gonna I'm sober curious. Can I be sober for a week and like maybe I'll drink on the weekend? 156 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:25,160 No, you're either sober or you're not or you're just not a big drinker or you are there's no like 157 00:12:26,120 --> 00:12:28,120 in my opinion 158 00:12:28,280 --> 00:12:35,800 Sober curious sorry Vanderpump rules not a thing sounds very California to me it is but sober competition is what I did 159 00:12:36,560 --> 00:12:39,000 She did she had a sober competition with herself 160 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:43,880 Well, could you get to that point where you're like, oh, I'm at a hundred days right how much farther can I go? 161 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:49,200 Oh, I'm at 265. Can I do another hundred? Yeah, oh, I made it a year like you for me 162 00:12:49,200 --> 00:12:55,200 That was more fun in my brain and it was not a problem for me to stop 163 00:12:55,480 --> 00:12:59,440 So I do I do have to stress that this is not an addiction on 164 00:12:59,920 --> 00:13:04,760 My part of it so it's very if you do have an addiction if you know somebody with an addiction 165 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:12,240 That is a very different brainwave. Yeah of stopping and starting with alcohol and the effects and all that stuff. This was 166 00:13:13,720 --> 00:13:16,520 100% not addiction based so I 167 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:21,840 Might say that a few more times to remind because this is a very touchy subject like a mental health 168 00:13:22,560 --> 00:13:27,840 Reason and also a you know can I you just were testing your limits? 169 00:13:27,840 --> 00:13:30,920 See if you could do it. Well, it turned out like when people would ask me I'd be like 170 00:13:30,920 --> 00:13:36,460 I'm just trying to see how far I can go now. Yeah, because that's 100% the truth. Well, you said it before I 171 00:13:37,440 --> 00:13:41,000 Don't have a problem with not drinking other people have a problem with me not drinking 172 00:13:41,000 --> 00:13:47,200 So I'm gonna list the five things that I've learned in the so 2022 November 2022 173 00:13:48,680 --> 00:13:55,320 When was Candice's wedding August August August second August second 2024 174 00:13:55,320 --> 00:14:00,880 That was my span. I had a glass of wine at the exact same house that I stopped that 175 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:05,940 Is the exact same cousin's house that I started and by started I had one 176 00:14:06,400 --> 00:14:09,840 Glass of wine. I know I tried to get her to have two. She's like no, I'm good 177 00:14:09,840 --> 00:14:14,560 It's been two years one is fine for me. Well, they talked about how good the one it was like 178 00:14:15,800 --> 00:14:17,960 expensive wine. Yes, like it was good wine and 179 00:14:18,800 --> 00:14:20,200 I 180 00:14:20,200 --> 00:14:24,440 Just was like I think I'm good. Like I'm in a good spot. I'm in a good headspace 181 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:27,480 I feel like I did the work for myself over the past 182 00:14:28,840 --> 00:14:36,080 Two plus years like I did it. Yeah, and so that was kind of why I stopped because I I wasn't there, right? 183 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:43,140 And then I I graduated to doing the work. I mean paid enough therapy for it like I did the work and so I 184 00:14:44,040 --> 00:14:46,040 remember texting 185 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:51,720 Texting them on a picture of me drinking it and I was like, it's official. Yeah, I guess it's official 186 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:56,800 Yeah, and I'm in a good, you know, the response was you're in a good place with good people. You're feeling good 187 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:03,640 Yeah, celebrate. Yeah, it happens and it was a good glass of wine. It wasn't you know 188 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:06,920 It wasn't like barefoot. Yeah, sorry barefoot 189 00:15:08,040 --> 00:15:10,040 Sponsor I'll talk better about you 190 00:15:10,920 --> 00:15:15,280 But yeah, it was in a safe place where I poured the glass of wine 191 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:18,240 Maybe bigger than she would have liked 192 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:22,960 She was like it's because you're looking at the glass and the glass is just smaller that bigger and it me me me 193 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:25,280 Look at the glass half full would you because it is 194 00:15:26,240 --> 00:15:28,240 It was way more than it 195 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:34,640 All right, so five things that I learned since 2022 from my 196 00:15:35,960 --> 00:15:42,640 sober curious competition no dry January plus eleven other months. Oh my god 197 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:45,680 times two 198 00:15:45,680 --> 00:15:48,520 So some of these are gonna be completely obvious 199 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:55,440 But I think if you've never cut out alcohol, it's not really something that you constantly think about while you're 200 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:59,560 Continuously drinking alcohol, right? So you can tell me if that's true or not 201 00:16:01,600 --> 00:16:03,600 Well, let me say it. Okay 202 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:14,560 Your restaurant bills your vacation bills your concerts your experiences your just normal new 203 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:21,240 Just normal night out all of your bills are cut down. Yeah by more than half 204 00:16:21,760 --> 00:16:26,480 Mmm more than half if you look at a restaurant one dinner out meal 205 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:32,720 Take away the alcohol from it and then add the total and I didn't think that none of this was factored into like my main 206 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,640 Decision, but I took a moment to be like, what did I learn? 207 00:16:36,440 --> 00:16:41,480 You save money. Yeah, and over inflation over since 2022 to 2024 208 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:46,080 Drinks are like 20 to 25 a drink now. Mm-hmm depending on where you go 209 00:16:46,080 --> 00:16:52,040 I'm like what you're drinking in a see fit class is only 15. So I mean you get wasted in a completely different way 210 00:16:52,840 --> 00:16:59,720 At see fit, but I think money is a big factor like yeah, we say it a lot of people use that as the why are you smoking? 211 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:01,720 It's so expensive 212 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:04,800 Why are you drinking? It's so expensive. It's the same thing, right? 213 00:17:05,560 --> 00:17:07,720 We've gotten not to bring it back to see fit 214 00:17:07,720 --> 00:17:14,600 But we've gotten complaints that they can't afford it, but they can what I always I never say it because it's not my 215 00:17:14,840 --> 00:17:16,360 Place to say 216 00:17:16,360 --> 00:17:19,320 Like I'm right now. I'm judging people's decision 217 00:17:19,320 --> 00:17:23,480 No, but if you can go out on the weekends and spend a hundred dollars on a bar bill 218 00:17:23,520 --> 00:17:30,200 But you think a fifteen dollar class is too expensive for your health. That's not expensive. That's that's your choice 219 00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:33,600 That's your priority hundred and thirty nine for the month, right? 220 00:17:33,600 --> 00:17:37,800 That bar bills a hundred for the night, right and they're like well that the membership is too much. Yeah 221 00:17:38,240 --> 00:17:44,600 It's just priorities and if that's but say that I know but my priority isn't here right now 222 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:49,800 Yeah, you know like I why nobody's gonna say that nobody's gonna say that to me because somebody said that to me 223 00:17:49,800 --> 00:17:56,240 I'd be like I understand that but if when somebody says oh, I can't afford it. I'm like that. I don't understand like hmm 224 00:17:56,600 --> 00:17:58,600 Yeah, what you wearing? 225 00:17:58,600 --> 00:18:04,680 So yeah when it comes to money that's a big factor. Yeah, there's a big change and 226 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:08,220 That's a positive. That's a positive change. Yeah 227 00:18:09,840 --> 00:18:13,520 Sure, so it's a good bottle of wine, but go ahead 228 00:18:14,280 --> 00:18:19,960 Let's just be clear. I did not do this for the past. No, but you cut back. I cut back 229 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:22,320 enormous 230 00:18:22,320 --> 00:18:24,320 I was gonna say enormously 231 00:18:24,320 --> 00:18:29,380 And what two words were you trying to say enormously and 232 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:36,880 Enormously nope. No, I swear. I'm sober is there Zimbouca in that coffee 233 00:18:38,520 --> 00:18:45,480 No, I cut back a lot when Victoria cut back all of it. I was like, okay, I'll go down by half 234 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:49,120 Honestly, but I do think that's cuz when I would come over for like 235 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:52,400 You know one of the kids birthdays something Sunday dinner 236 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:54,880 Yeah, and everybody was invited to it was just something small 237 00:18:54,880 --> 00:18:58,220 You would have normally had a glass of wine with mom or Andrew and you and me 238 00:18:58,220 --> 00:19:02,440 Yeah, and so when I'd be like, oh no, I'm good. Well, nobody offered it to me anymore to be honest with you 239 00:19:02,440 --> 00:19:07,920 I know we stopped it was annoying which was amazing. Oh so helpful for me. No, who wants to say no all the time? 240 00:19:07,920 --> 00:19:11,640 Yeah, but yeah, when you stopped, you know when I was not a part of the equation 241 00:19:11,640 --> 00:19:18,160 You'd be like, I'd rather I'd rather have another helping of yeah, yeah, you know side or whatever mashed potatoes. Yeah 242 00:19:18,160 --> 00:19:22,480 We never had no we never had mashed potatoes, but I liked where you were going with it 243 00:19:22,480 --> 00:19:28,640 But yeah, I also went down a lot and I you know, there's we'll talk about the benefits 244 00:19:28,640 --> 00:19:33,240 But it just makes you feel so much better. Your number one was like, I feel I don't I like waking up the next month 245 00:19:33,240 --> 00:19:36,400 Oh my god, that's a different experience. That is the best feeling 246 00:19:37,600 --> 00:19:44,280 So my number two is that there are actually a lot of non-alcoholic options out. Oh 247 00:19:44,280 --> 00:19:48,440 Yeah, there are so many non-alcoholic beers 248 00:19:49,440 --> 00:19:55,760 Mocktails, obviously, there's lemonade and iced teas that I it has to be worth it for me to do something other than water 249 00:19:55,760 --> 00:20:02,280 Because it's there's lots of sugar in it so much sugar. Yeah, but when I would start I can't remember what it was in 250 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:09,160 2024 I'm picturing 320 market where someone was like, oh, there's high-nickin zero or 251 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:14,800 You know a beer with abs a Guinness. It was a Guinness. Yeah, love Guinness. I know you do 252 00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:22,680 I love stout and I love Guinness and it was a Guinness with no not even like I think O'Doald has a point something alcohol 253 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:30,600 Which is not enough for any addict to you know ruin their progress, but now they're doing absolutely zero percent and 254 00:20:31,560 --> 00:20:35,640 Guinness is one of them that makes a Guinness zero. Yeah, and I was like, oh, I'm gonna 255 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:39,120 This is my first time trying a non-alcoholic in this process 256 00:20:39,120 --> 00:20:44,160 And it tasted exactly like a Guinness and I was so happy. Yeah, I didn't get to lose that 257 00:20:44,160 --> 00:20:47,480 we ended up buying it often for parties because 258 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:54,600 We had you know pregnant people in our family, so we were like, oh, let's get those Guinness zeros and everybody likes them 259 00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:59,760 But it tastes exactly the same if it's a beer that you like and it comes in zero and you're like, well, I don't want to drink tonight 260 00:20:59,840 --> 00:21:02,480 There's an option. Yeah, so that was just something that I noticed that 261 00:21:02,480 --> 00:21:08,600 There are so many more options out there than you think of like, oh, you're going out. I can't go out. I don't drink 262 00:21:08,600 --> 00:21:10,600 No, you can yeah first of all you can get water 263 00:21:10,600 --> 00:21:16,320 But also there are other options for you, which I thought was cool like iron Hill has it's called hop water. Oh, really? 264 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,320 It's basically a non-alcoholic 265 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:24,280 Water water beer that tastes hoppy. That's cool. Yeah, I had no idea the one night. I went they didn't have it 266 00:21:24,280 --> 00:21:26,280 But it was there 267 00:21:27,040 --> 00:21:30,760 Number three be questionable morning afters it is 268 00:21:30,760 --> 00:21:36,040 By far the most hated thing in my life. I hate waking up 269 00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:43,240 Not feeling good not even hungover like some I don't drink a lot of the time enough to be hung over. It's just blah 270 00:21:43,720 --> 00:21:45,720 Well for you, I 271 00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,400 Believe this is what you've said in the past at least year 272 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:55,800 Correct me, but like you as you've gotten older. It's more like anxiety. Yeah, you wake up or I wake up in the in the middle 273 00:21:55,800 --> 00:21:58,560 Of the night and I know a lot of this happens to a lot of people when you drink 274 00:21:58,560 --> 00:22:02,480 You wake up in the middle of the night because your sleep is horrible and I have anxiety 275 00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:10,360 And it's called anxiety sleep where you're like half awake half asleep thinking of things that you would never think of had you not had the 276 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:16,800 Interrupted alcohol wake up and then I can't fall asleep for the rest of the night because like my heart's racing 277 00:22:16,920 --> 00:22:21,560 It's all all of that is rolled into one. I hate that so much that it 278 00:22:22,360 --> 00:22:24,360 That I will not drink 279 00:22:24,560 --> 00:22:26,560 For that reason because I don't want to feel it 280 00:22:26,560 --> 00:22:29,200 So I have a science behind that sweet 281 00:22:29,960 --> 00:22:35,000 I mean, I didn't create it. I found like I found it rats. I'm a scientist now 282 00:22:35,400 --> 00:22:38,960 That's a no alcohol does she's a lot extra time on her hands 283 00:22:40,480 --> 00:22:44,160 She has no friends JK. I'm just kidding. I'm just kidding 284 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:49,920 The joke is that the alcohol did that the truth is this is how it is 285 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:57,120 So one drink just one so you're having one glass of wine. You're having one gin and tonic one state side 286 00:22:57,120 --> 00:23:01,760 Those are big. Yeah has the effect in your brain to do something called neuron 287 00:23:02,440 --> 00:23:09,880 Degeneration what that is the degeneration part is that the cell of their neuron dies? Okay, it absolutely dies 288 00:23:09,880 --> 00:23:14,200 It's not broken. It's not torn. It dies. Yeah, it is gone and 289 00:23:14,200 --> 00:23:22,160 As adults we cannot repair them nor can we grow a new one no way so when people are like killing your brain cells 290 00:23:22,160 --> 00:23:25,520 No, that's exactly what it is. Yeah called neuron degeneration 291 00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:27,960 All of your parents were right 292 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:33,720 Your brain cells are dying and that's from one drink so imagine one of those nights out. Wait a second 293 00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:40,040 I've had so many of those nights out. I'm 38. Well, we're hearing every week what what that effect is for you 294 00:23:40,040 --> 00:23:45,400 With the brain cells dying you're enormously. She's enormously 295 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:52,680 You know, I'm kidding. No, yeah, we cannot repair or regrow neurons. It's impossible for the body 296 00:23:52,840 --> 00:23:56,360 Why all the all the good things that the body can do which is pretty amazing 297 00:23:56,360 --> 00:24:00,840 We can't do that but alcohol is what kills them. Okay. Yeah, that makes sense 298 00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:07,720 so then that effect of anxiety yes or bad decision-making of needing like 299 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:15,200 Validation ie texting your ex. Oh my god. Wait, how many times have I woken up and looked at my phone and said who the heck 300 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:19,920 Did I text last night? Right? Not even I'm not even talking exes. I'm just talking about people 301 00:24:19,920 --> 00:24:24,960 I haven't talked to in 20 years that came to my mind and I was like, hey, what's up? Let's get dinner next week 302 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:26,960 And I'm like gosh, why did I say that? 303 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:31,720 Yeah, horrible idea. I know second ball your ex is Pat and you probably text him anyway 304 00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:37,640 Oh, I do and he's always like are you drinking I can tell I'm like shut up Pat. You're like, I'm happy 305 00:24:38,360 --> 00:24:42,760 So alcohol affects the dopamine system. So dopamine is like happy, right? 306 00:24:43,800 --> 00:24:46,920 But it's a volatile effect because it's like 307 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:51,800 A high a dopamine sugar rush and then a crash 308 00:24:52,440 --> 00:24:53,880 And the crash is the anxiety 309 00:24:53,880 --> 00:24:54,440 Yeah 310 00:24:54,440 --> 00:25:00,120 So when the dopamine gets affected because it's now been on this roller coaster that has not only done like very high highs 311 00:25:00,120 --> 00:25:04,680 And very low lows, but it's done the twists and it's done the loops and it's like your stomachs and knots 312 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:07,760 So the crash is the complete dopamine like 313 00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:12,080 Crash and that's where all those bad decisions come from. Yeah 314 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,560 Especially the morning after because that's the biggest crash 315 00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:21,440 It's when it's like trying to get out of the body and it's still there because alcohol lingers for eight days 316 00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:26,040 What eight days alcohol stays in your body. What if you just keep drinking? 317 00:25:26,040 --> 00:25:31,960 Exactly, you just add on days. It just never it never leaves the body i.e. 318 00:25:32,520 --> 00:25:37,080 Addix yeah where they need it you end up needing the effect of wow 319 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,680 So eight days. Yeah, it's um, hold on. I have 320 00:25:42,200 --> 00:25:43,800 I have proof 321 00:25:43,800 --> 00:25:47,880 No, I believe you no, no, no this this explains a lot of other things with it 322 00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:53,320 Gluten oh, yeah is in the body for three to four months read that 323 00:25:53,320 --> 00:25:58,120 Sugar two weeks coffee three weeks 324 00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:00,840 alcohol eight days 325 00:26:01,400 --> 00:26:03,400 Spices one whole week which is shocking. Oh 326 00:26:04,360 --> 00:26:06,360 meat two to three months 327 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:11,320 Because that's the protein so sometimes that's a good thing. That doesn't mean it's a bad thing dairy three weeks 328 00:26:12,040 --> 00:26:13,320 oils 329 00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:15,320 Up to six months. Whoa 330 00:26:15,320 --> 00:26:19,240 oils all of them not just like the good ones the bad ones so 331 00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:24,120 So when you're constantly going bad being like oh, I stopped for a week, but I'm going back 332 00:26:24,200 --> 00:26:28,840 You're you're constantly doing the cycle over and over and over again when it comes to alcohol when it comes to all those things 333 00:26:28,920 --> 00:26:30,920 But today we're talking about alcohol. Yeah 334 00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:36,520 So that's that's what the dopamine anxiety like sleep is it's crashing so it wakes you up 335 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:43,160 Yes, oh my gosh and then and as your mind takes over and as you get older you don't recover as quickly 336 00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:49,240 And it lasts. I mean now that makes sense why when like if I'm going out out 337 00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:56,040 Which is so rare these days rare when I go. Yes. Oh my gosh that because I stopped myself before I 338 00:26:56,920 --> 00:26:59,240 Get to that point because I don't want to feel that way the next day 339 00:26:59,240 --> 00:27:03,560 But sometimes it happens and you know, there's nothing you can do there is but whatever 340 00:27:04,120 --> 00:27:06,520 Um, we're watching a neuron right now 341 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:15,800 But I it takes me like three days because I've lost sleep. Yeah, I've had anxiety and 342 00:27:16,360 --> 00:27:19,640 My body is just tired and sluggish for literally three days 343 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:23,720 I think that also happens. I don't know about the sciences, but like as you get older 344 00:27:23,960 --> 00:27:28,520 Yeah, because like the body it works a little harder to do things I think like metabolize and all that stuff 345 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:31,880 So I think those crashes hit harder and the highs hit harder 346 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:38,040 But everything's just more elevated and that's not science. That's um fit to be real science. So 347 00:27:38,920 --> 00:27:40,920 You know, don't look that up. Yeah 348 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:47,640 Yeah, it's rare rare that we're right, right? Also, I want to add in before she finishes her what she's learned 349 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,440 We are not saying stop drinking. Oh 350 00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:54,440 At all. I'm gonna get it again. Yeah. We didn't get there 351 00:27:55,160 --> 00:28:00,680 Yeah, we did. Oh, we did the wedding. Oh, right. You started drinking again. Okay. Um, we love alcohol 352 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:02,680 Um, we 353 00:28:03,320 --> 00:28:06,760 We we love peary winery to sponsor us. That would be great 354 00:28:07,640 --> 00:28:13,080 If you are looking for good wine or winery in the area look up peary farms. They make their own wine 355 00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:19,240 Um, but eight hundred five eight eight two three hundred empire today 356 00:28:20,120 --> 00:28:22,120 That's different 357 00:28:22,120 --> 00:28:28,520 But yes, we we're not saying you should stop drinking we drink. Uh, well, I drink she's a newbie and 358 00:28:28,520 --> 00:28:30,520 We 359 00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:36,600 Are just want to put that out there. Yeah, we're not saying that judging or saying it's bad or this isn't a public service announcement 360 00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:41,000 To stop anybody. It's just this is what I've learned. These are the facts. I've looked up 361 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,040 It's all fascinating. You do with it what you will. Mm-hmm 362 00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:46,840 And just laugh it us along the way, you know 363 00:28:48,280 --> 00:28:51,080 All right, the fourth out of five things that I've learned 364 00:28:52,040 --> 00:28:54,040 is that 365 00:28:54,040 --> 00:29:00,120 Unhappiness can be fed by any vice. Oh, yeah, absolutely any vice 366 00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:06,680 Meaning I gave up alcohol and I replaced it with food. Mm-hmm. So it's not 367 00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,640 It's not the fact that like what what do you see like dr 368 00:29:11,720 --> 00:29:17,000 Stop drinking alcohol. You'll lose all this weight all this weight the addiction gets just put into a different compartment, right? 369 00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:19,640 So for me, this wasn't addiction based 370 00:29:20,120 --> 00:29:23,080 But alcohol is a drug. Yeah, it is a drug 371 00:29:23,080 --> 00:29:29,480 No matter whether you're addicted to it or not. It's a drug and so stopping that drug. I needed another one to fill 372 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:34,360 The happy void. Uh-huh. Not that I was you. I mean it was kind of using it for that 373 00:29:34,360 --> 00:29:39,960 But it also put me in a dark place, which is why I stopped. So I was like, well, I'm not gonna drink all right. Well 374 00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:45,880 They're all drink. I'll have another piece of pie. Mm-hmm. So like I put it into that got really heavy 375 00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:49,800 Yeah, hated everything and still wasn't happy and still wasn't happy 376 00:29:49,800 --> 00:29:53,800 Even though I was doing the work on my happiness and like my inner work, blah, blah, blah, blah 377 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:56,360 the revelation was that 378 00:29:57,560 --> 00:30:03,160 Alcohol is not gonna fix things whether you're drinking it or not drinking it sugar is not gonna fix things whether you're drinking it or not 379 00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:10,280 Ordering out Mexican food tacos all the things that I love that I was like, I'm gonna make this is gonna make me feel better 380 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:14,520 I'm just gonna whatever. I'll just eat it. I'll feel better. Well, guess what? I still crashed afterwards 381 00:30:14,520 --> 00:30:17,480 Yeah, so mad at myself that I did it. So it's a cycle 382 00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,360 Whatever drug you want to use for it. So 383 00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:23,240 Take that for what it's worth 384 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:25,320 but that was like a big thing for me because I was like 385 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:29,000 All I kept saying it was so amazing. It's like the phone's listening 386 00:30:29,560 --> 00:30:35,000 So the instagrams were like alcohol related and I would listen to them or I would look at them and I would read them and be like 387 00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:42,360 I'm not losing 25 50 pounds. I'm gaining. Yeah. Well, why because I put all the things that you drink for I put it into food 388 00:30:43,240 --> 00:30:46,680 And then I got tired and then I wouldn't want to work out as much then I got lazy 389 00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:49,480 So like it all affects the body and the mind 390 00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:57,960 You're not necessarily going to lose so much weight if you're gonna put all of the weight of alcohol into something 391 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:01,320 Yeah, that makes sense. I I agree. Thank you 392 00:31:02,360 --> 00:31:04,360 the number one revelation 393 00:31:04,680 --> 00:31:10,440 That I learned is that people are more concerned about what's in your cup than what's in their cup 394 00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:12,920 that was the 395 00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:14,680 most heartbreaking 396 00:31:14,680 --> 00:31:19,160 and shocking thing that happened in in all that time because 397 00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,800 The question is oh, you're not having a drink. Why? 398 00:31:22,440 --> 00:31:25,000 Which is okay. That's fine. You know when I ask that question is that question 399 00:31:25,160 --> 00:31:30,280 But you have to take my answer for what it is. Yeah, so then if my answer was I'm just not drinking right now 400 00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:37,800 I just kind of stopped why you have a problem. Yeah, like the amount of people that thought why do you have a problem was an appropriate 401 00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:39,720 question 402 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:46,040 Is was like what if I did yeah, like what if I actually did have a problem then what do you say you have to be really comfortable with yourself 403 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:49,560 Yeah, and your addiction or your sober to be able to answer that question 404 00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:54,280 But when you say you're not drinking it immediately means there's a problem with you 405 00:31:55,560 --> 00:31:59,240 And you can't drink not that you're opting out to drink 406 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:06,360 And because I would not drink some people would be like oh well then I can't drink because that's awkward why 407 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:09,160 Do what you want to do right? Yeah 408 00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:16,680 Yeah, my decision should have absolutely nothing to do with any of your decisions like I never imposed that on people 409 00:32:16,920 --> 00:32:18,920 No, I think people 410 00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:24,440 impose it on themselves sometimes unintentionally because I do know that if 411 00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:27,320 You're not drinking 412 00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:31,400 I didn't drink maybe I wanted one, but I was like do I need it? No, I don't need it 413 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:38,040 Some people are social drinkers. So when they go out socially right and somebody's not drinking 414 00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:45,400 Well, that's the only social thing that they know how to do so then they're like oh, then I can't now that's not somebody that 415 00:32:46,040 --> 00:32:48,040 might be confident in 416 00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:50,200 Themselves, right? 417 00:32:50,200 --> 00:32:56,840 So it just depends. Yeah, but I do know that when people would be like is Victoria. Okay. Why isn't she drinking? I'm like she's fine 418 00:32:57,800 --> 00:33:01,880 She or some like we'd have an event like oh well Victoria's not drinking is that okay? 419 00:33:01,880 --> 00:33:08,760 I'm like it's okay for her. The best is that no one assumed I was pregnant. No, no 420 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:13,480 It was a win. No, and that's my go-to with all of our cousins when everyone was having babies 421 00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:15,400 I was like what's in your drink? 422 00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:21,000 Yeah, Carly was the biggest culprit because I would always know when somebody was pregnant 423 00:33:21,000 --> 00:33:26,680 God forbid someone keep a secret and not tell you and want to try to hide it Carly will out you and ruin your day 424 00:33:26,920 --> 00:33:28,920 Oh, thank you. Yeah 425 00:33:29,320 --> 00:33:31,320 That's a good trait 426 00:33:31,320 --> 00:33:35,880 Um, but yeah, I just I found that people definitely were more affected 427 00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:42,280 By me not drinking then I think I was yeah, I'd be like go have a drink the espresso martinis are amazing 428 00:33:42,280 --> 00:33:48,200 You should go on like I stop it. I don't care. So I I had to end up making people feel comfortable right 429 00:33:49,080 --> 00:33:51,080 To have their own drinks 430 00:33:51,160 --> 00:33:54,680 Around you is wild, you know, it's just such a wild concept didn't 431 00:33:55,400 --> 00:33:57,960 It didn't bother me like it was mostly family because of my mouth 432 00:33:57,960 --> 00:34:01,320 I was with family. Yeah, but it was it was just like amazing 433 00:34:03,320 --> 00:34:05,320 That it was a consistent pattern 434 00:34:06,280 --> 00:34:09,720 Of nights out or moments at you know a party to 435 00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:15,480 I would have to put the lime on the side so they assumed I would you know, just so I didn't have to have the conversation 436 00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:16,760 Yeah 437 00:34:16,760 --> 00:34:21,080 No, I remember when I started dating that was a big that was a big thing 438 00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:26,520 I said you're going to iron hill. Are you gonna tell this person that like you don't drink? 439 00:34:26,520 --> 00:34:30,840 Is that gonna be a problem and you were like if it is it's his problem. Yeah 440 00:34:31,880 --> 00:34:33,880 Yeah, well, I had some people 441 00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:41,160 Ask me via like the app like they would oh, you know, that was one of their questions of I guess 442 00:34:41,960 --> 00:34:43,960 priorities or importance 443 00:34:44,280 --> 00:34:47,560 And I'd be like, ah, actually I'm not really drinking right now. I've made it this many days 444 00:34:47,720 --> 00:34:52,280 It's like a fun. I'd have to do the whole spiel like it's like a competition at this point someday. I've drank again 445 00:34:52,280 --> 00:34:57,800 I'm sure but like whatever and some of the conversations would fizzle out. Yeah, some of them would stop on a dime 446 00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:00,360 One of them deleted me immediately stop it 447 00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:06,200 Like deleted like this person is gone and the best when it comes to bumble if any of you out there have been on bumble 448 00:35:06,520 --> 00:35:10,520 When that happens when someone like deletes the match and or the conversation 449 00:35:11,240 --> 00:35:15,880 You can click on it. It just says delete it so you can click on it and it says oh, don't worry 450 00:35:15,880 --> 00:35:21,960 So and so just deleted you and you can't see any of the conversations you've had so far. Oh my gosh keep searching 451 00:35:22,280 --> 00:35:25,240 But it's so funny because it's like don't worry. Yeah, don't worry 452 00:35:25,240 --> 00:35:26,520 I would laugh it make me laugh 453 00:35:26,520 --> 00:35:31,640 But that only one person did that and then I met two people out and neither of them 454 00:35:32,200 --> 00:35:36,120 Cared neither of them cared. Yeah, I it didn't work out with that first guy. Thank god 455 00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:39,720 Yes, I remember many reasons that I was like bye 456 00:35:40,600 --> 00:35:43,240 But he didn't care he didn't care about that. Yeah 457 00:35:43,240 --> 00:35:46,520 Well, that's good because it's not it shouldn't be a central 458 00:35:47,160 --> 00:35:52,040 It is because we live in the world today, but it shouldn't be like the central thing 459 00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:55,160 In a conversation or a date or an outing 460 00:35:56,360 --> 00:36:04,520 I noticed when I stopped drinking for six months during covid. I was doing it for losing weight, right? Um 461 00:36:05,480 --> 00:36:06,680 Which 462 00:36:06,680 --> 00:36:08,840 Helped. I mean it helped. I 463 00:36:08,840 --> 00:36:15,560 My suggestion from personal experience if you are trying to lose weight or a significant amount of weight 464 00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:17,320 I would 465 00:36:17,320 --> 00:36:23,800 Cut it out of your life. Yeah, it doesn't help it. It definitely hurts you if you're in your fitness program 466 00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:26,200 I would cut it out 467 00:36:26,200 --> 00:36:32,520 You see all these things online influencers say you can eat the same way and you can go out and have fun and have this cocktail 468 00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:34,360 For me 469 00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:39,720 And what I have learned just cut it out if you are not an addict and you don't need it 470 00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:44,200 you can absolutely have fun going out in social settings and 471 00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,960 Continue to lose weight without alcohol. You don't need it 472 00:36:48,120 --> 00:36:52,840 And that's what I learned when I stopped drinking like it stopped being like, oh, where are we going to go? 473 00:36:52,920 --> 00:36:59,800 What am I going to drink right or looking forward to a friday and saturday or whatever it because I didn't care because 474 00:36:59,800 --> 00:37:06,760 I stopped drinking so it was looking forward to other things like where were we going and being present in what we were doing 475 00:37:07,160 --> 00:37:10,440 And I was like, wow, I really like that it changed the priority 476 00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:13,000 And then I stopped that and I went back to drinking but 477 00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,560 um 478 00:37:16,680 --> 00:37:21,080 But definitely shifted and I would say for anybody trying to lose a significant amount of weight 479 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,880 Cut it out completely and then slowly add it back in. It's just like anything else 480 00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:31,000 So I want to clarify because earlier I said because you stopped drinking doesn't mean you're going to lose weight 481 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,240 what we're saying now 482 00:37:33,240 --> 00:37:39,720 Is that if you cut out drinking in addition to changing your healthy lifestyle, you're going to lose weight 483 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:44,920 If you cut out drinking and continue to eat the exact same way that you're eating which is clearly not 484 00:37:45,720 --> 00:37:50,920 Helping your weight loss process. You're not going to lose weight. Right. So it's paired with your food lifestyle 485 00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:57,480 Right, but if you've already started on the healthy track, but you're still drinking every single weekend and you're like, why is the scale not moving? 486 00:37:57,960 --> 00:38:01,800 Try. Yeah, try cutting out your give yourself however many weeks 487 00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:03,480 to 488 00:38:03,480 --> 00:38:11,960 Kind of reset and detoxify. It's like such an ovaries word now. I'm detoxing from this. Oh, I'm I'm detoxing from toxicity 489 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:13,880 I'm detailed 490 00:38:14,600 --> 00:38:18,840 Actually detoxify because after eight days it will be out of the system 491 00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:22,840 How much farther can you go and see what your body reacts to them? I? 492 00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:26,760 Second that and on that note. Let's talk about 493 00:38:27,480 --> 00:38:28,760 a couple 494 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:31,560 negative effects that it has on your fitness journey 495 00:38:32,280 --> 00:38:38,120 Only not in your life just in your fitness journey. Yeah, so the number one is a slower recovery 496 00:38:38,600 --> 00:38:44,440 So drinking alcohol, it's not going to like kill your process, but you're going to be sore 497 00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:46,520 longer 498 00:38:46,520 --> 00:38:47,800 it's 499 00:38:47,800 --> 00:38:49,800 It's the bad kind of carbs 500 00:38:50,120 --> 00:38:54,920 So if you're a beer drinker, we always say carbs are good carbs are good. Don't cut it out 501 00:38:55,080 --> 00:38:59,240 But that's a bad carb just like there's good fats and bad fats. That is a bad carb 502 00:38:59,640 --> 00:39:02,200 It's gonna do nothing for you. It is empty 503 00:39:02,920 --> 00:39:04,120 so 504 00:39:04,120 --> 00:39:06,360 Your recovery time is going to be 505 00:39:07,400 --> 00:39:11,400 Miles slower than if you just cut it out cut it out 506 00:39:12,920 --> 00:39:14,920 It stretches your heart 507 00:39:14,920 --> 00:39:20,200 Your heart is a muscle alcohol stretches the heart and as much as you're supposed to like stretch your muscle 508 00:39:20,360 --> 00:39:22,360 That's not a muscle to stretch 509 00:39:22,360 --> 00:39:27,000 That does only bad things and only has bad effects for the heart and in long term 510 00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:31,560 The heart is the reason we're exercising and working out right? It's for our future 511 00:39:32,040 --> 00:39:35,400 It's to keep us healthier longer. That's what exercise is for 512 00:39:35,960 --> 00:39:37,080 and so 513 00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:42,200 When you're exercising and you're doing such a good job, but then every Friday Saturday Sunday is drinking alcohol 514 00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:47,240 You are reversing all of the hard work that you just did and your heart is like 515 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:52,200 You're damaging your heart. So yeah, that's a big one. That is a big one 516 00:39:52,600 --> 00:39:57,160 You're gonna pack on the calories and how that happens is you know 517 00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:02,200 We've talked about amino acids before and how good they are for you. Sometimes people put them in their water 518 00:40:02,200 --> 00:40:04,760 They there's a packet you put amino acids in your water 519 00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:08,520 So alcohol breaks them down so that you don't have them anymore 520 00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:12,440 Yeah in your muscles like specifically in your legs and your glutes 521 00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:18,440 You don't you just don't have them anymore because the alcohol obliterates them just like the neurons in the brain 522 00:40:19,320 --> 00:40:26,680 So because of that it really bulks up the fat and the calories and so you don't you I mean just that alone 523 00:40:27,320 --> 00:40:30,920 If you are trying to lose weight that alone would should make you maybe 524 00:40:31,640 --> 00:40:35,000 Think of another way just think about working out so hard 525 00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:39,880 So hard Monday to Friday and then Friday to Sunday you're drinking so hard 526 00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:45,960 And it is a hamster wheel of nothing. Yeah, nothing is happening. Yeah, and it nothing's gonna happen 527 00:40:46,600 --> 00:40:52,360 My god, what a waste. What a waste. I'm like picturing it. You just work so hard, but the hamster is cute. Okay 528 00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:59,080 It weakens your immune system and wreaks absolute havoc on your sleep cycle 529 00:40:59,960 --> 00:41:01,480 which 530 00:41:01,480 --> 00:41:07,400 We've learned at this point in all of these episodes. They go hand in hand with progress weight loss health 531 00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:11,400 Whatever you want to do hormones hormones. Oh my gosh, it messes up the hormone system 532 00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:18,600 Like none other so if you're in any stages of like confusion of what the heck is going on with my body 533 00:41:18,680 --> 00:41:21,960 I'm doing abcnd right. I don't understand 534 00:41:22,520 --> 00:41:24,520 Or maybe you know exactly what's happening 535 00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:27,320 Your sleep cycle is affected 536 00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:34,200 It's depleting that wreaks havoc on your immune system your immune system is what keeps you healthy to be able to go to the next workout 537 00:41:34,200 --> 00:41:36,520 to be able to make the good healthy food choices and 538 00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:43,320 Then your hormones are completely fluctuating doing the highs and the crashes and the lows and 539 00:41:44,520 --> 00:41:50,440 Nothing is going right. That's breaking. What's a hormone your cortisol levels your cortisol levels is your stress level 540 00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:52,680 So your stress levels are rising 541 00:41:52,680 --> 00:41:56,680 Stress levels are rising 542 00:41:57,720 --> 00:42:02,760 And only us found knew what was happening there and we're not gonna explain it. That's fine. It's fine. No, we're not gonna explain it 543 00:42:03,480 --> 00:42:07,880 and so all of that is affected to your fitness journey your fitness lifestyle and 544 00:42:08,760 --> 00:42:10,840 And just overall health. Yeah 545 00:42:11,640 --> 00:42:16,920 I I agree with that. Thank you. My last one is depleted water and nutrients. So 546 00:42:17,480 --> 00:42:20,760 What happens you've all said it you've all done it 547 00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:25,880 You drink so much you have to go to the bathroom and once you break the seal, there's no going back 548 00:42:26,360 --> 00:42:31,560 I mean once you go to the bathroom that first time when you're in a night of drinking it is non-stop 549 00:42:31,880 --> 00:42:36,520 So what are you doing? You are dehydrating yourself. The alcohol is 550 00:42:37,720 --> 00:42:45,400 Irritating the stomach lining. So all of the nutrients every time you go to the bathroom when you are drinking the nutrients are getting flushed out 551 00:42:46,120 --> 00:42:48,120 And then you drink again, right? 552 00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:52,360 So then yeah, so then you're dehydrating yourself with that 553 00:42:53,160 --> 00:42:56,440 Cocktail or that beer or whatever instead of water, right? 554 00:42:56,680 --> 00:42:59,080 So when you're going to the bathroom with water, that's fine 555 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:03,960 The nutrients are not being irritated in your stomach. They are staying when you're drinking alcohol 556 00:43:04,040 --> 00:43:07,400 The nutrients are getting flushed out and you're dehydrating yourself 557 00:43:07,720 --> 00:43:13,080 So think of two nights in a row where you've had five drinks you've non-stop go to the bathroom 558 00:43:13,480 --> 00:43:16,600 And you're just all those nutrients are just gone 559 00:43:16,600 --> 00:43:21,400 So if you're not having a drink of water in between each alcoholic drink 560 00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:26,200 You are severely dehydrated and that is just horrible for any fitness journey 561 00:43:26,280 --> 00:43:29,640 We'll think while you're saying this what I'm picturing in my mind is that 562 00:43:31,400 --> 00:43:35,640 The more alcohol you drink, right? There's a stick figure in my mind and it's 563 00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:38,760 pounding it's just pounding him down 564 00:43:39,880 --> 00:43:44,520 And so but it's think of it as outlined, right? So it's like a glass of water this this 565 00:43:44,520 --> 00:43:52,040 stick figure and it's filling up with red every time it takes a drink of some sort of alcohol 566 00:43:52,840 --> 00:43:58,120 And then out of the feet is the blue. It's all the water draining from having to go to the bathroom 567 00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:05,080 Depleting yourself, but the red like a battery is filling up up up up up. That's how you're getting drunk right drunk drunk drunk 568 00:44:05,160 --> 00:44:10,360 My brain is poisoned. I cannot think straight all these bad things still going to the bathroom 569 00:44:10,360 --> 00:44:13,000 But not flushing out the good stuff right water, right? 570 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:16,680 And then it gets to that max level of like 571 00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:22,040 Blackout vomiting bad decisions danger, right? Right danger. Yeah 572 00:44:23,080 --> 00:44:28,600 That's wild. I actually didn't understand that process. I never did either until I looked into it because when they were saying like 573 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:33,160 Break like I put that when you break the seal because that's just what I think of all the time 574 00:44:33,160 --> 00:44:36,920 Oh, yeah, no one ever wants to go to the bathroom and then when you do you cannot stop 575 00:44:37,400 --> 00:44:41,480 Um, which is the worst when you're in a crowded bar every time it's every time 576 00:44:41,480 --> 00:44:46,920 So what you want to do if you're in that situation is have water 577 00:44:47,160 --> 00:44:52,840 I know it's hard. Nobody wants to do it. Have water in between each drink. I mean again 578 00:44:52,840 --> 00:44:56,280 We're not telling you not to drink. We're just saying do it better 579 00:44:57,080 --> 00:44:58,840 Yeah, do it better 580 00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:05,880 Well, it keeps your body with the nutrients in it and also stops the process of the toxicity to the brain 581 00:45:06,200 --> 00:45:10,440 So it like slows down your your drunk factor. Yeah, and it also helps your sleep 582 00:45:10,440 --> 00:45:13,960 And then yeah in turn helps helps your sleep. So 583 00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:21,000 Why all of that ties into this last one, which is for the fitness journey your mental health 584 00:45:21,560 --> 00:45:23,560 Alcohol is a depressant 585 00:45:23,640 --> 00:45:25,640 It is a crusher, right? 586 00:45:26,200 --> 00:45:28,200 What's a depressant a drug? 587 00:45:28,520 --> 00:45:34,760 Like we I don't think as a society we think about alcohol as a drug. No, we think we go exactly we think of drugs as drugs, right? 588 00:45:36,120 --> 00:45:38,120 But all drugs are poison 589 00:45:38,120 --> 00:45:40,120 Alcohol is just an accepted poison 590 00:45:40,920 --> 00:45:43,720 That comes in different flavors for different people's 591 00:45:45,000 --> 00:45:47,000 Likes 592 00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:53,720 That it's more uncommon and outlandish for you to not drink this poison than for you to drink this poison, right? 593 00:45:54,280 --> 00:46:01,480 Just like sugar. Just like sugar sugar is a drug drugs are drugs, but alcohol is something 594 00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:07,160 That is governmently it's legal 595 00:46:07,160 --> 00:46:14,680 Legal. Mm-hmm to drink can't do anything with it. You don't get behind a car. Yeah, right, but you are allowed to drink 596 00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:16,840 Here's the age. You're allowed to drink this poison 597 00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:23,800 And whatever happens after that's up to you. Yeah wild and so so wild there are 598 00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:25,960 studies 599 00:46:25,960 --> 00:46:28,760 That there are some benefits like I know some people 600 00:46:29,240 --> 00:46:33,000 And I've read and I've known some people to go to the doctor and it thins your blood 601 00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:37,400 So anybody that has like heart issues where their blood is 602 00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:43,240 Coagulating and they need to thin it out. They suggest that you drink wine. You just grew a neuron 603 00:46:44,120 --> 00:46:50,520 How'd you do that? Wait, it's a new science. It's called fit to be real. I'm regenerating those neurons. I lost during my drinking days 604 00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:58,440 Um, amazing, but yeah, so it thins your blood and so they you know, the doctor will suggest that you drink x amount of wine 605 00:46:58,440 --> 00:47:03,320 Or red wine. Yes, and then you know, some people say that Guinness 606 00:47:03,800 --> 00:47:08,680 Helps with milk production when you're nursing and it you know for me it worked 607 00:47:09,160 --> 00:47:13,960 But I don't know if that's a wives tale or you know, some people just want to think that the Irish created that one 608 00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,400 but um 609 00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:20,920 You know, there are some benefits, but there it's a might be or a may or a 610 00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:25,000 We're not sure yet because the studies doesn't show this is 100 accurate 611 00:47:25,000 --> 00:47:32,200 So, you know take that with what you will like I feel my blood coagulating right now. So I feel like I need some 612 00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:37,160 You know, yeah, that's thinning wine. That's the drug of caffeine that you're chugging 613 00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:41,160 It's probably not your first 20 ounce of the day. No, it's not 614 00:47:42,280 --> 00:47:44,280 um, but think of it like this 615 00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:46,920 those benefits 616 00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:51,000 That we don't want you to run off with no don't don't be like fit to be real said I need 617 00:47:51,000 --> 00:47:58,280 I'll all good for you and I am all for going out and having some wine or some drinks and you know, I 618 00:47:59,000 --> 00:48:05,320 Who doesn't go to dutch wonderland and have some beers? I mean, that's what I think you're only allowed to I know you're only 619 00:48:05,560 --> 00:48:09,640 But why right because they don't want you to get drunk 620 00:48:10,280 --> 00:48:18,280 At a kids amusement park. So at dutch wonderland per ID you can only buy two drinks for the day 621 00:48:18,280 --> 00:48:22,520 It's kind of brilliant. It's amazing. I never knew that at first. We were like, um 622 00:48:23,720 --> 00:48:26,840 Why because that's four drinks between me and Andrew 623 00:48:28,040 --> 00:48:32,440 And they were like because we don't want any drunk parents around the kids and I was like, oh, that's amazing 624 00:48:32,680 --> 00:48:35,320 Because a lot of people cannot stop themselves 625 00:48:35,880 --> 00:48:39,720 You know, I have an expired license. So I couldn't buy any beer, but whatever 626 00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:44,200 To know I had a really good bartender and I was like, oh god 627 00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:50,680 You gotta you gotta have the schmooze factor. She was like, you don't look 21. So I'm gonna serve you you look 40 628 00:48:51,560 --> 00:48:53,560 You look like you need more than two 629 00:48:54,600 --> 00:49:03,720 But I mean I'm I like to enjoy the beverage now and then but I so much prefer to wake up clearheaded 630 00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:07,880 Than anything else. I think the clarity was the biggest thing I could get through 631 00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:14,760 Situations with more of a clear head to be like no, that's not how I feel my mind just telling me that I feel like this 632 00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:16,840 I feel different. I feel this or I 633 00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:22,120 You heard that that's not what I heard and my head was clear to be like, no, trust me. This isn't exactly what happens 634 00:49:22,200 --> 00:49:26,520 Right exactly because I was there like I was present. I was there. I was not 635 00:49:27,480 --> 00:49:32,360 I was not under any influence of anything. So that part of it was 636 00:49:33,240 --> 00:49:36,600 Not always fun. No, I know always fun, but 637 00:49:36,600 --> 00:49:42,200 In the long run, I was like, well, I'm glad I didn't I'm so glad that I didn't I'm so glad I don't feel like you 638 00:49:42,280 --> 00:49:44,920 I'm so glad, you know, like there's so many good things to it 639 00:49:45,480 --> 00:49:47,480 Fun fun fact fun story 640 00:49:48,760 --> 00:49:55,560 Hmm Victoria and I we have some pretty heavy medication we go on once a month. Oh god and 641 00:49:56,040 --> 00:50:01,640 It's heavy. It's prescribed. We need it or else we wouldn't be able to teach or function 642 00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,360 For a while. It's about our period 643 00:50:04,360 --> 00:50:06,360 What's up, Justin? 644 00:50:06,680 --> 00:50:08,680 Hey dad and 645 00:50:08,760 --> 00:50:10,600 So Victoria 646 00:50:10,600 --> 00:50:15,320 Went out with friends to a very famous gay bar in the city called woodies 647 00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:23,880 And she had this prescribed pain medication one. I took one out of two one and then she drank 648 00:50:25,000 --> 00:50:28,840 One then she got carried out of woodies and asked never to return 649 00:50:28,840 --> 00:50:34,760 And the people she was with were kind enough to call our mother and say can you pick up victoria? 650 00:50:35,000 --> 00:50:42,840 She can't make words kind enough. I told them to okay. That's that's good. I roofied myself. So in clear carmella fashion 651 00:50:43,400 --> 00:50:44,840 they are 652 00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:49,080 Handing victoria over to carmella on the side of the road in philadelphia 653 00:50:49,480 --> 00:50:56,680 She's stumbling into the car and carmella looks at her friends and goes she needed this guys. Thank you. She needed this 654 00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:02,520 It's not like my daughter is stumbling and just got kicked out of a bar for being on 655 00:51:03,080 --> 00:51:08,200 Pain medication and alcohol. No, she needed this guys. She needed it talk about drugs 656 00:51:08,760 --> 00:51:12,440 I didn't realize to be clear. I did not understand 657 00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:15,480 What would have happened? I was like, hey 658 00:51:15,960 --> 00:51:21,160 I'm at intermission of the show that I'm in and I know we're all going out after I'm gonna take this now 659 00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:27,320 So I don't get horrible cramps and like ruin my night and then out. I was like, yes, I will have a double gin and tonic 660 00:51:28,520 --> 00:51:29,960 Sure will 661 00:51:29,960 --> 00:51:31,960 Because I never go out 662 00:51:32,040 --> 00:51:36,200 Well, it's one gin and tonic. We had a show the next day. I was throwing up in the bushes outside 663 00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:43,480 There was like potted potted trees and I was vomiting in them. I knew I knew something was wrong though because I was there 664 00:51:43,720 --> 00:51:49,880 Yeah, my body was not okay. My mind was okay. I told lauren to get a plastic bag so I could throw up in the plastic bag 665 00:51:49,880 --> 00:51:51,880 I told 666 00:51:52,280 --> 00:51:56,680 Sarah to get water because I needed water. I got kicked out. I couldn't have access anymore 667 00:51:57,240 --> 00:52:02,040 Erica was holding me up. She's who I told to call mom and it was like I'm not calling your mother 668 00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:03,880 I was like call my mom 669 00:52:03,880 --> 00:52:06,440 She'll be here in a minute and she was 670 00:52:07,160 --> 00:52:10,600 The best part of that that you forgot is that our microwave broke 671 00:52:11,480 --> 00:52:12,200 Oh 672 00:52:12,200 --> 00:52:15,880 And so she pulls up and I opened the passenger door in the back 673 00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:18,920 Of the driver's side and there was a microwave right there 674 00:52:18,920 --> 00:52:20,920 and 675 00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:21,800 Nick 676 00:52:21,800 --> 00:52:22,600 Oh 677 00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:27,720 Nick was going to walk me around to the other side of the car and put me in the open seat and I went no 678 00:52:28,440 --> 00:52:33,080 And I put both hands on the microwave and I shoved it to the other side of the car 679 00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:40,280 With that like strength you you have. Yes. For what reason? I don't know and he went. Oh my god 680 00:52:41,320 --> 00:52:46,440 And I ruined the car the car had um like the metal tore the the seats up in the back 681 00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:49,400 And that's when Carmela was like thanks guys. She needed this 682 00:52:50,600 --> 00:52:52,360 It was like a movie 683 00:52:52,360 --> 00:52:57,000 But my body was not there. That's the crazy thing is that my body had no control 684 00:52:57,240 --> 00:53:00,440 Yeah, they had to help me go down the stairs of woody's from the second floor 685 00:53:00,440 --> 00:53:04,520 If you know woody's you know how many stairs and how steep that is I couldn't do it myself 686 00:53:05,080 --> 00:53:10,120 I didn't get sick until I left so I don't know why I got kicked out. Well, we're unsure. We're not unsure 687 00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:13,320 But you were good enough to get kicked out. Yes 688 00:53:13,320 --> 00:53:19,080 I I'll be back woody's. I'll be back. No your picture's on the wall. You are banned from the wall 689 00:53:19,320 --> 00:53:24,280 But yeah, I did roofing myself because that's how horrible when you mix things with alcohol 690 00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:30,280 Yeah, and now I know but that is my roofy uh my roofy story. She needed this guys. Thanks guys 691 00:53:33,640 --> 00:53:35,800 We're gonna play a fun game. I like to call 692 00:53:36,600 --> 00:53:38,600 booze clues. Oh my god 693 00:53:38,600 --> 00:53:45,240 We're gonna ask victoria some alcoholic questions now that she's back in the game fantastic and see if she knows the answer 694 00:53:45,240 --> 00:53:47,560 It's a short little short little game. Okay 695 00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:50,040 all right 696 00:53:50,040 --> 00:53:52,040 booze clues 697 00:53:52,120 --> 00:53:57,800 The uk's top doctors recommend no more than 14 units of alcohol a week 698 00:53:58,040 --> 00:54:00,840 But what's the unit? Oh god one pint of beer 699 00:54:01,640 --> 00:54:03,640 a cupboard where I keep my drinks 700 00:54:03,640 --> 00:54:07,880 Or 10 milliliters of pure alcohol within a given drink 701 00:54:09,560 --> 00:54:14,360 Pine a beer a cupboard where I keep my drinks or 10 milliliters of pure alcohol, but 14 of these things 702 00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:20,680 So a pint? No, you're incorrect. No, you're correct. No, you're incorrect 703 00:54:21,720 --> 00:54:23,720 I'm drunk. I'm super curious. I'm not sure 704 00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:28,600 No, it's 10 milliliters of pure alcohol within a given drink 705 00:54:28,600 --> 00:54:33,000 Yeah 14 a week. Mm-hmm. That's in the uk 706 00:54:33,960 --> 00:54:35,560 Well, that makes a lot of sense. Yeah, okay 707 00:54:35,800 --> 00:54:39,960 How long does it take the body to break down one unit of alcohol? 708 00:54:40,600 --> 00:54:44,440 It depends on whether I've been drinking beer wine or vodka around an hour 709 00:54:44,760 --> 00:54:48,440 It takes no time at all because I've built up a good tolerance about an hour 710 00:54:49,880 --> 00:54:51,960 Correct. Yeah, it was the only actual science 711 00:54:52,600 --> 00:54:55,400 Option what is the best way to cure a hangover? 712 00:54:55,400 --> 00:55:01,240 Go for a five mile run allow enough time for your body to process the alcohol or hair of the dog 713 00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:06,600 I've heard hair of the dog even though I've never ever ever been able to do that myself either 714 00:55:06,680 --> 00:55:08,680 I can't smell or think about 715 00:55:09,160 --> 00:55:11,160 Yeah, the morning after 716 00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:15,640 I think it's the second thing you said which I already can't allow enough time. Yes for your body to 717 00:55:16,600 --> 00:55:18,360 process 718 00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:21,640 Is drinking red wine good for the heart? Yes. It's complicated 719 00:55:21,640 --> 00:55:27,000 No way. Gin agrees with me more. Yeah. Yes because it helps you fall in love. Oh 720 00:55:29,080 --> 00:55:33,720 What um, I agree with the gin, but I'm gonna go yes 721 00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:38,760 So it's complicated. It's complicated. Okay. Go with that one because while 722 00:55:39,800 --> 00:55:45,000 In my krigados it's exactly right. There's all studies that show that there is no health benefits 723 00:55:45,080 --> 00:55:49,240 But there are some studies that show that there are some health benefits. So it is complicated 724 00:55:49,240 --> 00:55:55,960 Studies get your stuff together. How many calories are there in a pint of beer? Oh my god, none 725 00:55:56,200 --> 00:56:00,600 It's mainly water after all more than a can of coke. I have no idea 726 00:56:01,720 --> 00:56:07,000 Oh, definitely more than a can of coke. Yeah for beer. Mm-hmm. I would say upwards of 727 00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:09,640 200 plus 728 00:56:09,640 --> 00:56:11,640 You are correct 729 00:56:11,640 --> 00:56:17,080 Yeah, yeah, that's absolutely right. I'm sober. I'm amazing. I'm sober. You're not sober curious 730 00:56:17,080 --> 00:56:19,080 I'm sober confident 731 00:56:21,080 --> 00:56:27,080 All right, what grape is used in red french burgundy wine a red french burgundy grape 732 00:56:27,800 --> 00:56:31,960 Merlot cab pino or sarah. Oh, Merlot cab 733 00:56:32,840 --> 00:56:34,360 Pino no 734 00:56:34,360 --> 00:56:36,360 Oh, I thought you said cab 735 00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:43,480 It's pino. I was naming them. I thought you picked cavernade. It was pino. He said no 736 00:56:43,480 --> 00:56:49,000 Again, you can hit up Christina. Pieri for all your wine needs for their new winery 737 00:56:52,360 --> 00:56:56,120 During what years did the United States go through prohibition? 738 00:56:56,760 --> 00:57:02,280 No options really. I mean pick a decade in the 1900s or 18 late 1800s 739 00:57:03,640 --> 00:57:07,800 1920s, you got it. You did it. You got that one. I know 740 00:57:08,520 --> 00:57:11,400 What is the alcohol in beer wine and whiskey? 741 00:57:11,400 --> 00:57:13,400 Butanol ethanol methanol 742 00:57:13,960 --> 00:57:17,960 Ethanol you are correct. Yeah, ethanol is a carcinogen 743 00:57:18,760 --> 00:57:20,760 What is James Bond's favorite cocktail? 744 00:57:21,480 --> 00:57:27,160 A martini. Oh, you knew that? Yeah, it's James Bond. Oh my gosh 745 00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:32,120 Wow, okay. Which of the following cocktails does not contain orange juice? 746 00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:37,800 Tequila sunrise screwdriver fuzzy navel pina colada pina colada 747 00:57:37,800 --> 00:57:40,840 If you like pina colada 748 00:57:42,520 --> 00:57:44,520 Getting caught in the ring 749 00:57:47,320 --> 00:57:49,560 Which beer brand spells its light beer? 750 00:57:50,200 --> 00:57:54,920 L-I-T-E Miller. Oh, you didn't even need a suggestion. No 751 00:57:55,720 --> 00:57:59,000 Which of the following whiskies is made in Kentucky? Burban 752 00:58:00,120 --> 00:58:04,680 Okay, jack daniels crown royal jameson or jim beam 753 00:58:04,680 --> 00:58:10,280 Oh, oh, oh say it again. Sorry jack daniels crown royal jameson jim beam 754 00:58:10,840 --> 00:58:14,760 I feel like I should know this. Um whiskies in Kentucky. Come on pick one 755 00:58:15,560 --> 00:58:20,280 Jim beam Jim beam you are correct. That only took 20 years off my life. Honest to god 756 00:58:20,280 --> 00:58:25,080 That was a guess. I know which of the following grapes is used in making white wine. Oh trash 757 00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:27,960 Malbec, grinache 758 00:58:28,280 --> 00:58:31,400 Or two other things I can't pronounce two other things I can't pronounce 759 00:58:31,400 --> 00:58:33,880 Okay, yeah, vagonier 760 00:58:36,040 --> 00:58:43,320 This is a good question. This is like this is like you doing Bravo questions. I can't pronounce these french words 761 00:58:45,800 --> 00:58:52,120 Gin is flavored with it's probably something like chavon where it really means pino, but it spells something completely different 762 00:58:52,120 --> 00:58:54,120 Like what's that irish name sorcy 763 00:58:55,560 --> 00:58:56,920 Seircy 764 00:58:56,920 --> 00:58:58,920 S-A-I-O-R-S-E 765 00:58:58,920 --> 00:59:00,920 Sersha 766 00:59:02,520 --> 00:59:09,320 Look it up. There's an irish name. That's like soleil. No, that's not irish. That's like spelled s-a-i-o or something like that 767 00:59:09,320 --> 00:59:19,000 It's like schwarz. Chavon. No, that's s-b-h or whatever. Okay. Anyway, gin is flavored with juniper berries anise orange peels or black currants 768 00:59:20,360 --> 00:59:21,560 gin 769 00:59:21,560 --> 00:59:23,560 Juniper bellies 770 00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:27,000 Juniper juniper black. You're horrible. I don't know 771 00:59:27,000 --> 00:59:32,040 What is the legal age for drinking wine in beer drinking wine and beer in Germany? 772 00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:34,600 1819 1716 two 773 00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:36,200 no 774 00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:37,400 uh 775 00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:39,400 1819 17 776 00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:41,800 16 777 00:59:41,800 --> 00:59:44,280 16 you can drink in Germany. Is it really uh-huh? 778 00:59:45,320 --> 00:59:47,320 Oh my gosh. Okay last question. You ready? 779 00:59:48,040 --> 00:59:52,440 At what blood alcohol percentage does a driver become legally intoxicated? 780 00:59:52,440 --> 00:59:58,760 0.065 0.12 0.08 0.10. I don't know this 781 00:59:59,400 --> 01:00:00,920 um 782 01:00:00,920 --> 01:00:02,920 It's 0.1 something 783 01:00:03,400 --> 01:00:07,720 No 0.08 a 0.0. Not even 0.1. Yeah, guess what? 784 01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,400 For the first time in fit to be real history 785 01:00:12,120 --> 01:00:18,440 You lost. No, I didn't. Yes, you did. I got way more right. You got 35 percent. Oh 786 01:00:18,440 --> 01:00:26,200 No, that's because you couldn't pronounce anything and I usually round up and like if you got 51 percent, I would say you won 787 01:00:27,080 --> 01:00:30,520 But you got 35 percent. You don't know your s 788 01:00:31,000 --> 01:00:33,000 H it about alcohol 789 01:00:33,080 --> 01:00:35,080 You know, I think I'm okay with that actually 790 01:00:35,480 --> 01:00:39,160 She just started drinking very small doses. So uh, we'll give her that 791 01:00:39,960 --> 01:00:41,720 listen 792 01:00:41,720 --> 01:00:43,720 We're gonna say again 793 01:00:43,720 --> 01:00:50,760 This is not about somebody with an addiction and this is not a deterrent for you to stop drinking alcohol 794 01:00:50,840 --> 01:00:55,160 We're not trying to do that. That is not the plan. This is an experience that I went through 795 01:00:55,480 --> 01:01:00,760 These are all the things that we learned in the process and it's just sharing information that you can 796 01:01:01,720 --> 01:01:05,560 Do with what you want, right? I think it's fascinating clearly 797 01:01:07,320 --> 01:01:12,840 I started drinking again. Yeah, so it's not something that like I'm doing this you should do it too, right? 798 01:01:12,840 --> 01:01:20,040 I've never crossfitted or veganed to anyone about my alcohol. Uh-huh. She's never judged if you do or don't drink 799 01:01:20,040 --> 01:01:27,560 She's never judged, you know, so that's not I mean I sometimes do but she definitely doesn't oh you did every single time 800 01:01:27,800 --> 01:01:29,320 Are you kidding me? 801 01:01:29,320 --> 01:01:36,440 um, no, there is no judgment involved and I'm sure I'll go through another, you know phase of not wanting to do it but 802 01:01:37,080 --> 01:01:41,960 One glass in a month. I think yeah is like what my life is if I really want it 803 01:01:41,960 --> 01:01:44,600 I think now it's like I know all the bad things about it 804 01:01:45,320 --> 01:01:48,360 So I have to really want to have that glass of wine 805 01:01:48,440 --> 01:01:53,720 You have to really want it has to be good and it has to be in a situation that you're comfortable in 806 01:01:54,760 --> 01:01:56,760 No heavy drugs needed 807 01:01:57,160 --> 01:02:02,920 No, and it has to be your decision. Yeah, like I was out on that ironhill date 808 01:02:03,240 --> 01:02:07,880 And I was like, you know, I might I might I don't know I might have I've been thinking about it 809 01:02:08,600 --> 01:02:10,200 and he was like 810 01:02:10,200 --> 01:02:15,480 I don't want any decision. Yeah made based on me. I don't want to be the reason you started drinking 811 01:02:15,560 --> 01:02:19,160 Yeah, you do it and I didn't have it that night and at the wedding with my family 812 01:02:19,160 --> 01:02:22,840 I was like I want to have a glass of wine like it was my decision. I was not 813 01:02:23,880 --> 01:02:27,560 Coerced I was not guilted. It was like what I wanted to do is what I did 814 01:02:27,800 --> 01:02:32,680 Just stop and start had she been coerced or guilted it would have happened over the those two plus years 815 01:02:32,680 --> 01:02:34,680 So I think that you have to have a strong 816 01:02:35,240 --> 01:02:38,760 mental head about you if you are going to do something like that 817 01:02:38,760 --> 01:02:40,360 Um 818 01:02:40,360 --> 01:02:45,640 Because you're you could be easily coerced. Yeah, and just think those those 819 01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:47,960 22 820 01:02:47,960 --> 01:02:53,800 I don't know. I can't put a full time frame on it the majority of 22 all of 23. I was in 821 01:02:54,760 --> 01:02:59,800 Some sort of depressive state. Mm-hmm. I can only imagine what alcohol would have done on top of that guys 822 01:02:59,800 --> 01:03:01,720 She went on two cruises and didn't drink 823 01:03:01,720 --> 01:03:09,160 I mean you have to be strong headed and strong willed in a competition with yourself to not go on a full cruise 824 01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:13,320 With drinks and we're all drinking or I'm an idiot 825 01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:16,760 That's the other option 826 01:03:16,760 --> 01:03:22,520 I mean, she was with people that drank from sun up to sundown and it was fun and she still had fun 827 01:03:22,600 --> 01:03:24,840 and I think that's the point that like you have to be 828 01:03:25,960 --> 01:03:30,200 Wanting to do it for nobody other than yourself because if it's for somebody else 829 01:03:30,200 --> 01:03:37,000 It's not gonna you're not gonna stick to it. Yeah, but I also wanted to start because of me too. Yeah, so I'm I'm glad I 830 01:03:37,560 --> 01:03:39,560 Nobody guilted me into that. I'm amazing 831 01:03:40,600 --> 01:03:42,760 I am just the strongest human in the world 832 01:03:44,520 --> 01:03:46,200 Her usual 833 01:03:46,200 --> 01:03:48,200 We just want to remind you 834 01:03:48,200 --> 01:04:00,680 That you are always fit to be real and you are always allowed to be a little extra 835 01:04:03,160 --> 01:04:09,560 For legal reasons we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and educational purposes only we are not health care 836 01:04:09,720 --> 01:04:13,320 Professionals for all of your health wellness fitness and self-care needs 837 01:04:13,320 --> 01:04:19,400 Please refer to the medical professional in your life your primary care physician your therapist a certified coach 838 01:04:19,640 --> 01:04:24,920 Whoever it may be and then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know it too 839 01:04:25,560 --> 01:04:27,080 Okay 840 01:04:27,080 --> 01:04:45,080 Okay, bye