Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
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Well, it's also hey baby.
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We're okay.
We're all right.
So we were on vacation.
The past three episodes were minis, slash not really minis, but super fun.
Not minis at all.
Well, they were the first two were minis last episode 79 was 42 minutes, but we thought
it was gonna be a mini felt so fun that it went by so quickly that we were like, oh,
that was so short.
It's the only Bravo thing I support.
If you haven't listened to it and you either are or aren't a Bravo fan, you should truly
go back and listen to episode 79.
Oh God, we're not okay.
We're still on vacation mode.
But that is what we're talking about today.
Oh, very good segue.
You like that?
Very good segue.
We went down the shore.
We went to the beach.
And if you're from Delco, you say down the shore.
And it was, I think a true turn off.
Like we turned off.
We zoned out.
I will say, and we tell everybody this, we do work out every day and that doesn't turn
off however it is very, very, very different than teaching a class or working out with
other people.
We don't, not that we don't go as hard.
It's just very different and it's very hard to explain.
Well, for instance, if we work all day long and we teach a class or two in the morning
and a few classes at night and we're running around doing other things in the middle of
the day or clients or whatever it is, that's a day.
So then going on vacation when you run three to six miles one time in the morning and then
sit on a beach chair all day long.
So it's not that you don't work hard in that run or we did some weights as well afterwards.
That's great.
But then we were sedentary.
Yeah.
Then we sat on a beach chair.
So like the calorie burns out the same.
The amount of activity level is not that even if you're running around on the beach, going
in the ocean, none of these things hardly do.
Carly do none.
None of these things.
They hardly do.
Carly sits on a beach chair and watches Andrew and Victoria play with her children.
I am not as active as Andrew is.
I build a sand castle.
Many a sand castle this vacation.
And I go in the ocean with them.
Yeah.
Oh yeah, you do go in the ocean.
I watch from afar.
I don't go in the ocean.
But I did sit and have a great time.
But that's the point, right?
So that's point of vacation, whether you're going somewhere like, you know, picking up
the stuff in your house and taking it to another house and living in another house on a beach
with the same exact same people that you live life with or going on like a cruise or a destination
vacation, like whatever it is, it's literally called vacation mode for a reason.
It's just different than real life.
And I think that working out on our own time whenever we felt like it was is also different.
We're not on a schedule.
Yeah.
We're not on a schedule.
And I'm sure you all do too.
On vacation, you have no schedule.
So whenever you feel like you want to do it, that's when you work out, which is also very
different for us.
Well, you still got up bright and early.
I did.
I didn't do it early.
Like, I mean, I did it first thing in the morning too, but I had coffee in South like
kids outside or on the couch and watching the one picks in the morning.
Like I took my time.
Yes.
Which is nice.
I did that the second week.
The first week I got up at four, did my workout by five, 36.
And then I waited for everybody else to get up.
Well, to be fair, the first week, I wasn't there for a few days, but the first week is
like you want to get to the beach early.
Yes.
You want to get the day started and especially with kids.
It's just like a different schedule.
And you're still in lunchtime and lunchtime stuff.
Still sort of in home mode where you're like trying to figure out how to relax.
Yeah.
So you're still like, oh, go, I got to keep going.
I got to keep going.
And then the second week was total relaxation.
Well, the second week we got sucked into the Olympics.
Oh my God.
So good.
So like beach time started at two or three.
Whenever gymnastics or track or swimming or skateboarding or snoop or snoop was over.
That is when we went to the beach.
I mean, there was a day the family was texting me like, what beach are you?
Let's all meet.
We were like, hold please.
We're watching the Olympics and we're in it.
Yeah.
So we'll meet either.
Yeah.
Well, we'll get there when we get there.
We're doing a vacation.
So what's so hard is coming back.
Yeah.
And that's what we're going to talk about today.
Even if you're ready for it.
Like, you know, at the end of sometimes you had just said it to me, like some years it's
like, I'm ready to get back to my routine.
It's time to get off vacation mode.
I'm like that every year.
I was not like that this year.
You weren't.
But even if you are and I was, I was ready to get back to like my normal eating routine
and like the food that is easy for me and, you know, not eating dinner at the times we
would eat dinner and stuff like that.
It's your own thing.
Not necessarily getting back to like life and work or whatever.
But it's still really challenging.
Even if you want it, it's just a challenge.
So we're going to talk through that and we're going to, you know, tell you all the things
that we're not doing now that we're back home and it's been only, it's only been three
days.
I know.
Since we've been home, but it's felt like a week.
I know that's what's so horrible about coming home from vacation.
The days seem longer.
All right.
Let's do the thing.
I'm Victoria.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
That will always come home from vacation with me.
Yeah, how come that doesn't have a vacation mood?
It doesn't meet.
I never flipped that switch.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
It's in my voice box.
Her eyes just rolled to the back of her head.
As she said that, she turned into something else.
I think it's because I hate saying my name so much.
Carly.
I hate when I have to introduce myself and say I'm Carly.
It's so weird.
I just want to go, Hey, I'm Carly.
And then it feels normal.
It's like when you have, I don't know, real life voice versus phone voice.
You know, you get on a phone and you're like, Hi.
Yes.
Like, I don't talk like this in real life.
You do that and I do that when we meet new people at Tfit.
It's like, Hi, I'm Carly.
I have a total different.
We don't talk like that.
No, I'm usually like, Hey, what's up?
And then we meet them and then we teach them.
We're like, You'll never get that again.
You'll never hear that voice again.
That won't happen.
But it was nice while it lasted.
Touch like vacation.
I honestly think a part of your dismay is that you in particular and a lot of people can
also vouch for this of their lives.
You have kids that are have to get ready for school.
So it's not that vacation's over and there's only three and a half, three and a half weeks
left until September like that.
Well, that to me like, wow, that's a lot.
To you, it's not a lot of time.
And Carly's a mom who doesn't particularly want her kids to go away.
No, like some moms you hear like, I can't wait for them to get back to school.
Carly's not that mom.
And so coming off a vacation, you're now in crunch time.
So it's a different come home.
Oh, I spent about an hour yesterday printing out, printing out school worksheets that
I had not have my kids do yet because I have been putting it off.
My kids have not been putting it off their summer work.
I have.
Yeah, I would have done that immediately.
Yeah.
No, I have been like, as soon as you get out of school, I don't want you thinking about
school.
Let's go into summer.
And then it just so happens.
All my kids' birthdays are in the summer and it just gets later and later and later.
And so we came home from vacation and I printed out all their schoolwork and it is over well
main.
How much a second grader and a fourth grader have to do.
And it's totally my fault.
I waited.
But we didn't have to do that.
Oh, they have so much work to do.
We didn't.
Oh, I know.
I had to read a book, I think.
Oh, I know.
They have to read a bunch of books and like I knew this, like I know this.
I just didn't want to think about it.
I didn't want to think about school.
You set them up for failure.
Well, they're not going to fail because I'll do it if they don't finish it.
But.
Right, right, right.
But they will because you're going to do it.
But yeah, that's me.
I don't like coming home from vacation and them being like uniforms, schoolwork, school
sneakers like I'm just like, I agree.
I think I'm ready for spooky season, but I don't have kids to get ready to like start
the year.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, well, it's a little different.
Don't think I didn't just buy Melody and I to matching pumpkin sweaters online this
morning.
I'm very excited.
I mean, they're the cutest sweaters with pumpkins all over it and they're matching because I
love that season.
I don't like September.
I want just to get I want to go from August to October.
Everybody settled.
The season has started.
The fun stuff happens.
It's the September with the back to school.
Sorry, teachers back to school.
I mean, they don't like it either.
I know, I know, but it's just like it's overwhelming.
I saw a meme and we are going to start talking about real things, but no, we're not.
Yeah, I saw a meme that was like writing out the months, but how it feels.
So like February was like February.
Yes, we don't like so long.
I sent it to you.
Oh, no, I sent you the guy saying each month as it sounds.
Yes.
In somebody's head.
Yes.
This was a description of like how the month is.
So like February was really drawn out.
March was even worse.
It is.
And like April and then it was like May, June, July.
August, like all one month because it feels so short.
Yeah, it was funny.
It was a good time for me.
No, I agree though.
I agree.
But that's why it's so when you do come home from vacation, it's so hard to get back into
it and a lot of other things fall away to like the wayside because it's so overwhelming.
Responsibilities.
Yeah.
Oh, yeah.
So let's talk about some tips to help you get back on track.
And this is good for, yes, we're in August of 2024 right now, whenever you're listening
to this.
But this is good for January.
Like if you go on vacation in the middle of the winter and it's a week vacation or even
a four day vacation and you come back and it's winter, which I think is a little bit
worse.
Yeah.
But it's just helpful things to not make life feel like the like life.
Like life.
Yeah.
Exactly.
Like you need to, what's that?
You live for the weekends type of phrase or whatever.
Yes.
You live for the weekends.
Yeah.
You should be living every day.
Yes, exactly.
So that's the point of this is though that vacation can yes be vacation, but coming home
doesn't feel like a defeat.
Right.
Because that just makes for an every day problem.
Yeah.
You don't want to have to be like, oh, I don't get to feel this good until next year when
I go on vacation again.
So before we even get into tips on how to like fix the mindset, I guess, describing
why like what it is as to why you feel like you need help getting back into your routine.
It's called a vacation hangover.
And sure is doesn't necessarily mean just because you drank a lot of alcohol.
No, we didn't.
Well, we didn't.
We took a picture.
I usually I didn't drink at all.
No, Victoria didn't.
I and I did less drinking than I do at home.
Yeah.
Being honest.
Yeah.
We usually take a picture of the bar that we bring to vacation and it looks like a wine
store slash beer distributor slash.
It's embarrassing.
But we take a picture because we think it's funny and usually it's gone at the end of
two weeks.
Our bar this year consisted of spin drifts, La Croix bottles of water, any type of non-alcoholic
seltzer.
And yes, we finished it.
Totally finished it.
There was a few.
There's a few bottles of few bottles of wine, few bottles of vodka and like brown liquors
that were just for our brother.
But it was a very different experience.
But let's pretend like it was how it used to be with all the alcohol and we could pretend
it was like it was this time.
It doesn't matter.
A vacation hangover is just exactly what we've been describing so far for the past 13 minutes
when you're home and you're just feeling, oh my gosh, the fun time is over.
Like that's the hangover that we all, I think, collectively feel coming home from any type
of vacation.
So that's why.
That's the why as to why you need to find some tips to help yourself get out.
Sometimes you had so much fun doing nothing and now you have to do absolutely every single
thing on a list.
You have to make lists.
You have to cross things off the list.
You have to make sure that you respond to emails at work.
Depending on what you've let go at work, that's a different beast, let alone the home life
stuff.
Feeding off that going into the next one, I love the way they wrote this because this
is exactly how I felt.
Reentry into shock because you are reentering into a world that you left, whether it was
for four days or two weeks and it is shocking coming back from vacation and it hits you
like a ton of bricks.
I felt on Monday like I had been hit by a bus.
Yeah.
Because I just wish back into it, back into the grind and I was exhausted from vacation.
Well, technically, technically, we came home and immediately started teaching and had a
see fit birthday party to set.
Like life just started.
It wasn't eased back in.
It wasn't slow and steady, which is another way to say eased back in.
Yeah.
You don't get the rest of the weekend.
It was like, oh, you're home.
Okay.
One of our see fitters said this to me as I was fiercely setting up for an early see
fit party after our double.
She was like, what's up, Liz?
You guys really love doing this.
You just get right back into it, don't you?
And I was like, I think we do it to ourselves.
I don't know how we do it to ourselves, but we do this every time when we come back, we
come back hard.
I know how.
Okay.
You.
Oh.
You.
We came home early from a vacation to do a family wedding.
And instead of getting subs for the morning or maybe for one of our classes, Carly's
like, now we got this.
We're going to teach.
Now we got this.
Oh, guess what?
I just booked us a party.
Oh, I know exactly how.
It's you.
Well, okay.
Next one.
Personal issues.
If you feel.
Should I talk about it somewhere?
Yeah, go ahead.
I personally have an issue with you.
If you are feeling like you had personal issues on said vacation, it can be hard to leave those
behind and sort of move on.
Yes, you're in a different place as you were on vacation, but it's all filters through.
And if you are going on vacation with family and you had some personal issues or you had
personal issues before vacation and you are now coming back to them, it's a heart.
It's like, it's just hard.
There's no other way to say it.
Yeah.
Well, you start to feel the, I think it's procrastination of dealing with them.
Just like if you were, you know, if you were in school and you were waiting to write the
paper and now it's all of a sudden to do.
You didn't deal with it before vacation.
You didn't deal with it on vacation, but now there's nothing to be like, oh, well, I'm
going away if you know you're home.
It happens.
So now you have to deal with it.
So all of your, you know, all the weight on your shoulder starts to feel really heavy.
So Carly and I will talk about all of our personal issues later.
We spend every day all day together and then we go on vacation and then live in the same
house every day, all day together.
And then we come home from vacation and go right back into spending every day all day
together.
So that's us.
That's our personal issue.
I have to go vomit.
Sounds like a personal problem.
Okay.
So yeah, yeah.
Now we're going to talk about how to deal with all those tips on how to get the vacation
hangover, the re-entry into shock, how to deal with the overwhelming feelings.
We're going to talk about that, how to help you.
So the first one, I actually proudly say I do.
I plan ahead.
Good for you.
I know.
I'm great.
I guess like Simone Biles.
Oh, thank you so much.
Oh my God.
I do plan ahead.
I make sure my house is clean.
And I think you do this too.
You clean your house before you go on vacation.
So when you come home, that's one thing you don't have to deal with.
I love that.
Like that's a small way to plan ahead.
That's not something outlandish where like you can't really do that yourself.
No, you can.
Right?
Get your trash done.
There's nothing in the dishwasher, vacuum, dust, clean.
Do the things in your house that when you come home, all you have to do is unpack and
then get to other things that you have to do.
I have a question for you.
Hold that thought.
There is like a viral trend going online or meme that's saying like, what person are
you?
Are you the person that comes home and those suitcases are still packed for two weeks?
Or are you a person that comes home and unpacks immediately?
Well two weeks is a dramatic time.
So no for that.
But I came home.
They stayed in my little guest room and maybe two days later I started to like unpack.
So no, that's not me.
You unpacked immediately.
I unpacked with my entire house was unpacked within an hour.
Nope, of coming home.
No, I did another thing.
But I looked at that room and was like, I got to do that for like two days.
You planned to unpack.
You planned ahead.
I took me two days.
That was my plan ahead.
Yeah.
I do think that's two different people.
And you did that and then went to a wedding.
Yes.
See, I was home and I was like, after once I like relax, I will do all of the unpacking.
I knew we had a double to teach the next day and I knew we had a Seafit party and I knew
it was Louis's birthday.
So I was like, if I don't get it done now, we're not going to get it done until Monday
and I cannot sit and look at this.
Like I can't.
We went away for two weeks.
I had a mound of things done.
Well, that's also the difference there too.
I didn't have as much stuff weighing on me to do as much as you did.
You had five people to unpack.
I'm an unpacker immediately.
I unpacked easy things.
Once I got to my clothes.
Don't justify it.
You didn't do it.
It stays there.
You didn't do it.
Justifying, explaining, God.
Anyway, plan ahead.
Even if it comes to work, work things.
Write the emails you want to write and then put on your do not disturb so that you deal
with it when you come home and get right back into it that way.
But don't just be like, oh, I'll deal with it after vacation.
Deal with it before.
Plan ahead before.
And then it's not so bad when you get home.
So the next one kind of goes along with that and it is take it slow.
So what we're saying is don't be like us.
Don't come home and just can a poll.
Can a poll.
Can and can.
I wanted to say can and ball yourself and also cat a poll.
Cat a poll.
Not can and poll.
Hold on.
This is a Google problem.
This is a question for the Google.
Don't throw yourself into work like we did.
That's basically what I want to say and take it slow and with that planning ahead.
What is it?
Did you find it?
This is real time.
Cat a poll.
I knew it wasn't can and poll.
Anyway, find ways that you can ease yourself back in.
So today on Monday, I'm going to respond to emails tomorrow on Tuesday.
I'm going to unpack Wednesday.
I'm going to clean up a little bit and clean the kitchen, maybe clean up the house on 30,
you know, break it up so that it's not like what I do and what Victoria does go back 150%
right away because that is overwhelming.
I actually think our next one should have been right before what you said because it's
reflect on it.
It says reflect on the vacation, but not like, oh, let's think of all the good times.
Right.
We just had a vacation.
It's take the last day of vacation to write out how you're going to take it easy and get
back into the week.
So I'm not sure why it's that order.
We can do whatever we want.
Let's change it.
Yeah.
Ignore everything Carly said for one second.
I'm talking now.
We're reflecting.
So that last day of vacation right before you start packing up the house, which is also
really traumatic.
You write out like all of, okay, excuse me, we come back on Saturday on Sunday.
I'm going to unpack.
Let's pretend for me in the situation.
I'm going to unpack on Sunday.
That's my, that's my task on Monday.
I'm going to answer all the emails for work right on Tuesday.
So on the last day of vacation, write it all out so that you know when you're home.
So you don't have to sit at home and be like, oh my gosh, now I'm home.
I'm overwhelmed.
Yeah.
So you want to reflect on that last day of vacation.
Then you want to go back and listen to everything Carly just said about take it slow and ease
your way in.
And into that one is going to be connect, basically connect with all the people that
you left behind on vacation.
Okay.
So I know I did this on Sunday.
I responded to all the text messages that people texted me on vacation that I did not
respond to.
Now everybody knows I'm a bad texture in general.
I don't text back.
And I even got a text message back that said, wow, I can't believe you responded to me so
quickly.
Sup Christina.
And I responded to everybody's text messages.
So that is important.
If you have gone on vacation and left everything behind like I did, that's part of taking it
slow and starting to reconnect with the people that you left behind.
You know what's good?
I'm going to find a silver lining in your horrible text.
Cool.
Life.
You don't have anxiety about it.
Like if someone texts me and I don't want to answer their question or they text me and
I don't necessarily want to text right back or like I'm in the middle of seven thousand.
I have like anxiety about or the anticipation of having to text them back.
Like I think about it too long.
I'm like whatever.
That's honestly I think why I just text back right back because I feel like I have an obligation
to text back.
I have so much anxiety on other things that there's nothing left for that.
The phone.
Well, I take back my silver lining.
No, no, that's exactly.
That's what it is.
I don't feel bad because I know that life can get in the way.
I know that everybody's busy.
If it's listen, if you need an answer by five o'clock, I will text you back.
But now we know everybody when you text Carly say please respond by five.
It's important and then she'll do it.
Even if you don't even if the question is like, hey, how do you feel about hot dogs?
Okay.
By five o'clock.
I need to know this.
Don't worry as to why.
She doesn't like hot dogs.
No, okay.
Hot dogs.
So after you connect and you reconnect to life, set boundaries.
Yeah, set them boundaries.
So that's a hard one.
We've had many an episode about boundary setting anyway and how hard it is, especially if you're
a people pleaser.
And this isn't necessarily just with like people.
This boundary setting is within yourself.
You've to set boundaries within yourself on your productivity of getting back into real
life.
So for instance, in my unpacking, even if it was not leisurely, but like I spread it
out and I was like, oh, I'll do all the food stuff and all the pantry stuff and then I'll
get to clothes.
Clothes gives me anxiety because that means I have to do laundry, like whatever.
I gave myself breaks.
Like I sat down and was like, oh, I'm winded.
Oh my God.
And I took a break and I sat down and I was like, oh, and instead of doing what I normally
do with was like, oh, I have free time.
I can't sit down.
That's wasting time.
Right.
I can't.
That's unproductive.
I allowed myself to take a break.
I'm being so dramatic.
I didn't actually get winded from like doing my laundry.
You have like two freaking suitcases.
I know.
I was just saying, like I'm lying.
But in the tasks that you have to perform, take a second and reset or relax and that
is the boundary you have to set with yourself or else that taking it slow and easing back
in, you're not doing it.
Yeah.
You just, you can't be too hard on yourself coming off a vacation.
That basically is what she's saying.
That's the next one.
Oh shoot.
It is.
Oh.
I thought you were saying, don't beat yourself up.
Yeah.
I thought you were better segwaying.
Oh, no.
I wasn't that good.
I thought I only do it once.
It was like brilliant.
So I thought, yeah, I supported you.
I can't.
I'm not that good.
No regrets.
Don't beat yourself up.
Take long winded breaks in between each suitcase and don't feel bad about it.
Basically what that is.
Coming off any type of 48 hour vacation because sometimes those vacations are the highest
intensity because you're doing so much in 48 hours or the leisurely two weeks, it's
all the same.
It's all overwhelming.
Just do a little by little by little and don't beat yourself up.
I think every vacation and maybe it's just the ones we've taken are like an extreme sport.
Yeah.
You need another, well, we need.
That doesn't mean we get, but you get home and you're like, oh, I need another week.
I know.
Just to reset and get back into it because vacation wasn't actually relaxing.
It was, oh my God, minute to minute trying to get all the things in that you can't do
because you usually work a nine to five drop.
You know what I mean?
I think there are people that sit on the beach and read a book.
We, I brought one, are not that family.
I didn't do that because even though they're my kids and our brother's kids, Victoria spends
the most time with them.
So she's just as tired as we are and it's exhausting.
Vacation is exhausting.
Yeah.
Now that they get older though, they just want to play with each other.
They're in that a nine, 10, 11 and they like Billy just want to play football.
No, I wasn't playing football.
True.
They wanted to go in the ocean.
And I was like, yeah, no, that, that I did go with.
Yeah, yeah.
She'll take in.
Stay organized after you stop beating yourself up and giving yourself grace.
Maybe that time of sitting down on the couch is just to reorganize.
So maybe.
Yes.
So you reset that list and you're like, you know what, I'm actually not going to get to
these things.
I'm going to reset.
If I go here, then maybe it's easier to go to this next store so that when I come home,
I can just be home for the rest of the day, like organize yourself.
I took this as getting back to what?
Do you need to reorganize?
I need to.
I took a long winded break and I'm not going to beat myself up over it.
But on Sunday, I was very excited to go food shopping to get my fridge organized so that
we could eat better.
Because you know, when you come home from vacation, I already told the kids, sugar is
out.
We are eating healthy smoothies every day because we ate a lot of junk, especially the kids.
And for me, getting organized was number one, getting the kitchen organized with good foods.
We got lots of fresh foods and that made me really happy.
Did you clean out the stuff that you had left in the refrigerator?
Yes.
We cleaned it out.
Your refrigerator is usually, I mean, it's stocked.
This year, we took a lot of our food to the shore and we were lucky enough to have a fridge
on vacation.
So we brought a lot of things.
But yeah, we cleaned out the fridge and I went to the grocery store and then I went
to the fresh produce store and I got all the fruits and vegetables.
We're going to make juice.
We're going to make smoothies.
This is my routine every year.
And in about five days, it'll go down the tubes.
But at least we're going to start, get ready now.
I disagree.
I don't think it's going to go down the tubes.
I don't.
I'm going to wish that for you.
I'm going to manifest that for you.
We'll talk next week and we'll see what happens.
I have to go to the grocery store today because that's my half meal prepped yesterday because
I spread it out.
So now I have to do the second part of the meal prep.
So going to the fresh produce is my mind to do list today.
And I, but I think that's exciting.
It is.
I think that's an organizational part that feels good.
It does.
And looking at my fridge right now, I'm like, okay, we got this guys.
We can do this.
No more junk.
Let's get ready for the year with good food, good nutrition.
And that, that made me very happy.
And the Oregon, I say I'm an, I'm like a container store junkie.
So like the organization part of it all, I think is a big factor of there's something
like a big serotonin dump when you, you can see this side of the refrigerator is this
stuff and these, you know, drawers hold this and you know where everything is and it feels
good.
It feels healthy.
Why are you, why are you doing that?
I just, I mean, I bought all the things.
It's just in my fridge.
Oh, got it.
I organized our nutrition.
I never said I organized the fridge.
Gotcha.
We're very different people.
Very different, but that's good.
That's good.
I get sucked into those Instagram videos of like, I would never do it.
I actually think it's a super waste of product and bad for the environment, but I like watching
it and they take all the, your pantry is kind of like this and I actually like that, but
they take all the things out of the refrigerator and put it in clear containers or something
like that.
Like, aesthetically please the, the visual of the refrigerator.
I don't do that, but I like watching it.
Yeah.
So I organize my refrigerator as in the original containers, but like kind of like that because
it just feels easier.
Yeah.
To grab and go.
I agree.
So the next one is seek support.
So what I'm going to do is seek support in Victoria to organize my fridge.
I would love to because when I come over, I hate your fridge.
I know.
I can't find, she's like, oh yeah, you want to LaCroix go in the refrigerator and you
open it and it's just like, dun dun dun happens when the refrigerator opens because Godspeed.
If things aren't falling out, my fridge is not full enough.
I have to go to the store and fill it.
Like you put like these giant milk, almond milk cartons in the front and then you got
to look to things to see what's behind them.
They're the seltzers in the back.
It's usually moldy.
No, it's not.
Well, sometimes.
Well, I'm going to seek support and have you come over and do my fridge.
Oh, I'm busy.
I'm busy.
No, I can do that.
I can absolutely do that.
All right.
Next one is something that we are, we talk about all the time.
Get some good sleep.
Did you sleep on vacation?
No.
Well, no, because that first week you got up really early.
Yeah.
You never did you take naps?
When Dean would sleep on me on the beach, I would like conk out for like 20 minutes,
but like not a good decent nap.
I slept the second week.
I slept until like 637 and that was nice.
That's big for me.
Yeah.
No, that's big for me too.
I definitely slept in and I took naps on the beach.
So I did my part there.
However, part of my brain in that was like, do it now because when you go home, you're
not going to sleep well and you're not going to get as much sleep and you certainly aren't
going to take naps.
Yeah.
You take more naps with Dean here than you did on the beach.
Yes.
I'm a hover smother.
You know that my kids are in the ocean and on the beach, I am watching them like a hawk.
If I close my eyes, I'm like, I can't do it.
I can't do it.
Everybody else was watching them.
But when everybody else, when you think everybody else is watching, that's when no one's watching.
So yeah, so I did that.
I was like napping.
I was like panic napping.
Yeah.
Because I knew coming home, all of that would go out the window.
You were trying to like bank some naps.
Try to bank sleep time, which is not how it works.
So when you come home, you have to make sure you prioritize sleep, which is part of that
boundary setting too, like rest when you need to rest, sleep when you need to sleep.
Make sure your nighttime routine is just as important as your nutrition routine of organizing
all that.
Do you know how hard that is with the Olympics on?
The past two nights, Andrew and I have been going to sleep in bed at eight o'clock.
Go us a sleep at 11.30.
Watching the Olympics.
Yeah.
It's just so hard.
You have to make that work for you.
I did sleep till 6.30 today.
So I was like, all right, I got it.
I got enough sleep.
That's pretty good.
I know.
But it is the Olympics are really throwing our game off.
I have not put it on since I've been home.
I think I'm a group mentality Olympicer.
Really?
Yeah.
You're like a crowd.
What's that called?
I am a crowd pleaser.
Thank you.
What's it called when you're a fair weather fan?
Yeah.
Why did you belt that at me?
You're a fair weather fan.
I went up and then went down.
Apparently in Oklahoma.
I just know I think it was one of those things I slept in on vacation and got up late and
Olympics were already on.
Yeah.
Because Billy was up.
So it was like, ooh, I'm going to get sucked in because somebody already made this decision
and it was a good one.
Yeah.
Here, that's the last thing I'm doing is watching the Olympics at the end of the night.
Oh, it's just so good.
I know.
I'm glad I didn't because I was sleeping.
I'm going to say lastly.
Is lastly a word?
Sure is.
Okay.
Lastly.
No.
Lastly.
Yeah.
What am I saying?
Lastly.
Like, lastly.
Lastly.
Now I can't say it.
Exactly.
I hate that.
Exactly.
Lastly.
What is it, Curly?
Okay.
Exercise and eat well.
When you are going, when you're coming home from vacation, you want to get those workouts
back in.
If you have not worked out at all on vacation, totally fine.
That's what vacation is for.
If you did workout, get right back into it.
Just like I said, go to the grocery store, get your nutrition on point again if you went
way off, which again is totally fine on vacation.
Yeah.
But just get it back together, people.
That's what you want to do.
Having said that, very good.
You're going into some tips on how to get your motivation back to working out.
Now this, I feel, doesn't just apply for vacation.
Sometimes, personally, I've seen people stop coming to work out in May and then they miss
a week and then they miss two weeks and then they miss three weeks and then it's just so
hard to get back.
And then the summer is gone and you're like, oh my gosh, I haven't been here.
I'm so sorry.
I haven't been here since May.
I'm like, it's totally fine.
That happens.
Life happens.
All drives to yourself.
Yeah.
This doesn't just apply for vacation.
This applies for all summer.
Summer's crazy.
So here's where I think sometimes I have this mindset when I quote unquote, and I say the
only way because I know everyone will know what I mean by this, but I don't like this
word, but I quote unquote cheat in my food lifestyle.
You do this thing where you have the cookie even though you shouldn't have that cookie
because it's like a Monday, right?
And then you're like, well, I might as well just keep going hard.
I'm going to have chips.
I'm going to have pretzel.
I'm going to have to do all this just because I ruined it with this one cookie.
So it's the same thing with like, oh, I wasn't great on vacation or I took a week off from
working out.
I might as well just not go back.
I might as well not eat well now because I've ruined it.
Like that's not true.
That's not true.
You had a good time on vacation.
That doesn't mean you negated all the good work you did before a vacation.
You might have gained a little.
That's okay.
You can get right back in it.
So just get back in it.
Yeah.
Right?
So that mindset kind of has to switch.
You give yourself as much grace here as well.
I have to do that for myself because I totally gained on vacation and I had been doing so
well.
Yes.
And you had been, but guess what?
Did you enjoy vacation?
No.
Oh my gosh.
Just kidding.
Yes, I totally did.
I totally did.
We don't eat pretzels.
It's just not something we eat in our daily routine.
We ended up them.
Yes.
And we ate pretzels and chips every night watching the Olympics.
And I enjoyed that sitting around 10 o'clock at night with our brother and some of the
kids that were still up and our mom and watching the Olympics and Andrew and watching the Olympics
and just like chowing down on some pretzels.
And that might not seem like a lot to some people.
Pretzel rods gone.
But it was so good.
It's just not something that we do daily, but that doesn't mean that your progress is erased.
No, it doesn't erase it.
It may have stopped the progress.
Right.
I mean, it's where you have to be smart here.
It totally stopped it.
We gained a little, but that doesn't mean we can't come back to where we started, which
is exactly the next one.
Don't stress about gaining a few pounds.
That's what vacation is for, enjoying yourself.
And if you were enjoying yourself like you were on vacation every single day, where would
you be?
Right?
So what we do normal day to day on vacation, it's for indulging.
It's for relaxing.
It's for doing the things that you don't normally do at home.
That's why it's called vacation.
So don't stress.
And then just like getting back into real life from vacation, you got to take it easy.
Take it easy on getting back into your food and workout routine.
Meaning don't overwhelm yourself on day one because then you really won't commit and follow
through and keep it going.
Just like how you did on day one of working out ever, pre or post vacation or getting
into a good nutrition lifestyle.
You have to, yes, buy the food, get yourself organized and prepare yourself.
But you know what?
If you have that pretzel because you're like, oh, that's okay.
Just make sure you're getting back into it slowly.
If it's too hard too soon, it won't last.
For anything.
Don't come back the week you get home.
Don't do what we did.
Yes, please don't.
Don't come back when you get home from vacation and go so hard in your workouts you can't
move because then you need to take a few days off and then maybe it'll be a week and then
maybe it'll be two weeks.
So taper yourself back into both food and workout lifestyles.
And then in doing that, the next one is set a post vacation goal.
Sort of like going to that grocery store and making your family say, hey, we're going to
try and nix some of this sugar that you've been eating and healthy, making your family.
Yeah, I'm making them.
They would eat pure cane sugar at all meals if they could.
Set a goal for yourself in your workouts and your nutrition just like you would if it was
January and you were making a resolution or an intention.
Do it now after vacation.
All right, I'm back in it.
Flip that switch.
I'm going to set a new goal.
Goals are fun.
Goals are fun to, what's it called?
To keep.
Not to keep.
Goals are fun to hit.
Set.
Hit.
Yay.
No, setting goals are not so fun.
Hitting goals are fun.
Sure.
So make a goal that you know that you can hit.
Take it slow.
Don't be like, I want to lose 20 pounds this week that I gained on vacation.
Oh, come on.
Number one, you didn't gain 20 pounds on vacation.
It's impossible.
Number two, that's an unrealistic goal.
So make a good goal and it'll be a little bit more fun trying to hit it and then quit
it.
Hit it in.
Yes, but don't quit it.
Don't quit it until you go on vacation again.
Just kidding.
So this next one took me a second to understand what it meant and it's called leverage external
factors that affect your exercise or food lifestyle routine.
So leveraging them is where I was like, wait, what?
It basically means organize the things that will affect you being successful into getting
back.
So here's an example.
So when we're on vacation, a lot of things fall to the wayside.
One of them being down the shore is drinking water.
Yes.
Because why?
Because you're sitting on the beach.
You don't want to have to walk the three or four blocks, whatever it is, to get back
to your house to go to the bathroom every, what, 15 minutes.
That's the day.
And you're hot and you're sandy and it's like all the things.
And we are very good water drinkers here on land.
But that really killed me.
Like I felt gross.
I felt bloated.
Eating salt.
So we were eating salt and not drinking the water and it was a total mix.
It's end sitting on a beach by salt water.
It's a lot of absorption that way too that we don't think about.
I was feeling it when we would walk.
I'd be like, wow, my fingers are blowing up right now.
So all of that comes into play.
So coming home, what's going to get you to feel better?
Start the water routine.
Go to the class in three days, but start the water routine now.
So reintroduce yourself, get your body back into going to the bathroom every 15 minutes
because then that tapers off naturally.
That's the hard part about drinking water is that everyone's like, yeah, but I go to the
bathroom so much that'll stop.
You just have to keep it consistent for a while.
So get yourself back into that, you'll start to feel better, going to work out will feel
better.
Like it all kind of ripple affects it.
So that's what leverage those external factors means.
Organize step one, drink water.
Step two, start eating more protein and salads at lunch so that you can have that one good
vegetable meal because you haven't eaten vegetables for two weeks, right?
Whatever it is, whatever it is, do it that way.
And then the working out and depending on what you're doing, right?
Depending on if you need to focus on the workout routine or if you really need to focus on
the nutrition or maybe it's both, do it in pieces and then it will be easier to get through
the fitness class.
Because nothing feels good when you are a salty bloated mess and you think you've never
worked out before because that's what your body's telling you, but it's not true.
So take it step by step, I would say wherever you are, start with water.
Yes, I agree.
Thank you.
Thank you so much.
Welcome.
The last one and I think the most important one is enjoy yourself.
The only way to get the motivation back, to get back on your fitness routine is to make
sure you like doing it.
Because nothing is harder than doing a workout that you absolutely hate, but you feel like
you have to.
It's the worst stuff.
It is the absolute worst.
So whether that's cardio, whether that's weights, whether that's doing a run outside
in nature, do something that you will enjoy, that you will stick with to make it consistent
and whether that's you haven't come or worked out since May or you just went on a weekend
vacation.
Do something that you enjoy or else you're never going to stick to it.
And if you haven't worked out all summer long, don't let that stop you from starting tomorrow.
You don't have to wait for September.
Yes.
I still have a school mentality where September is the beginning of my year.
A lot of people do.
I'm 35.
A lot of people do though.
They'll be like, I didn't work out all summer.
I really should get back because I'm home now, but there's two weeks left to August.
So I'll just start in September.
Don't do that.
It'll be two weeks harder in September.
It just will be.
I mean, just start tomorrow.
And once September comes, you'll be like, oh, well, you know, I'll wait another two
weeks.
It'll just keep happening.
Monday never comes.
That was actually helpful for me.
I feel pretty motivated right now.
I mean, that was the point of it, how to get the motivation back if you've lost it.
Your groove, if you will, Stella's groove.
How'd she get it back?
We're trying.
She got hers back in a different way, but we're not going to talk about that.
Let's get into our real tip and our real extra tip.
So your real tip is to go to the dollar store just because that to me is the easiest way
and get a magnetic list pad and put it on your refrigerator so that you can do one of two
things.
And it's up to you whether or not one of these is what you need, but you write out the things
that you need in the refrigerator.
So now it's a very easy thing to rip off, go to the grocery store, get these vegetables
that you need or milk or whatever products it is.
It's there.
It's organized.
And it's a to-do list that you can easily take it slow and get done.
Or write out your meals.
And my plan for Sunday is this, my plan for Tuesday is this so that you can visualize
them and keep it achievable.
And it's not so overwhelming.
I love that because I used to do that when I only had one kid.
I would do that and I would put the meals in the freezer with the date written on them
and I'd throw them in the crock pot in the morning.
It'd be like Monday, we're having this baggie of whatever I made.
Tuesday, we're having this.
I love meal prepping.
And I think that's a perfect way to get it done where it actually works.
You have to write it down.
If you're just like, I'm going to meal prep, but you have no right organizational part
to it, then you're not actually going to do it.
I like that one.
And I write everything out in hand.
I love a to-do list with my pen and paper versus like, if you're more of a phone person,
then maybe do it that way.
I'm not.
So that's why I think get yourself a pad, put it on the refrigerator where you can at
a level look at it every single day.
Yeah, I love doing it in my head and that's where it stays.
Okay.
What's your extra tip?
Now for your real extra tip of the day, it's called to each his own.
What does to each his own mean?
It changed titles.
It changed titles within less than 10 seconds.
To each his own.
That's what it is.
Okay.
That's what it's going to stay.
Cool.
What does that mean?
If you are getting back into your fitness routine after vacation, after a summer off,
pick two.
Pick two workouts a week, put them on the calendar, put them on that pad that you just
bought at the dollar store, write them down and do two because guaranteed in a month, you'll
be up to four.
And that is the most consistent four to five.
That's about how much you should be working out a week, but start with two.
If you overwhelm yourself, you will not get back.
That's like we said, you go hard seven days a week, you're not coming back.
So you mean pick two days a week or two different workouts?
Two days a week.
Okay.
Pick two days a week that you are going to work out whatever, that workout that you
pick that you really, really enjoy, whether it's dancing, whether it's weights, whether
it's a circuit, whatever it is, pick two to start.
And that will ease yourself back in and that will get you motivated to keep it going and
up to three.
To three his own.
To four.
No, two is TWA.
It's a play on the two.
Not the his or the four.
We're all confused.
Pick two.
You pick two.
That would have been so much better.
I love Panera.
You pick two.
No, no.
Don't eat his own.
Or for each his own.
To each her own.
Yeah, you want his.
Because it's to each his own.
I think we're glitching.
Okay.
We're officially glitched because we bit off more than we could chew and we did all the
opposite things that we just told you not to do.
So that, that's great.
That is our M.O.
We do like to chew a lot.
I like big bites and I cannot lie.
You other brothers can't do that.
I won't finish it.
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