1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,580 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:03,580 --> 00:00:05,580 Are you looking at your phone right now? 3 00:00:05,580 --> 00:00:07,080 I hope not. 4 00:00:07,080 --> 00:00:09,080 Are your eyes locked on a screen? 5 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:09,780 We're talking. 6 00:00:09,780 --> 00:00:10,780 Pay attention. 7 00:00:10,780 --> 00:00:20,820 Well, let's talk about how much time you spend on your phone or on a tablet or on the computer 8 00:00:20,820 --> 00:00:24,480 throughout your day and how much time over your lifetime. 9 00:00:24,480 --> 00:00:25,480 That's what you're staring at. 10 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:26,480 Yeah. 11 00:00:26,480 --> 00:00:28,600 All the life you're losing. 12 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:32,280 And then let's talk about how your kids are watching you do that. 13 00:00:32,280 --> 00:00:33,280 Yeah. 14 00:00:33,280 --> 00:00:35,040 And then we'll talk about how to fix it. 15 00:00:35,040 --> 00:00:38,040 Plot twist. 16 00:00:38,040 --> 00:00:39,040 Plot twist. 17 00:00:39,040 --> 00:00:40,040 We will try and help you. 18 00:00:40,040 --> 00:00:43,160 We have to help ourselves first. 19 00:00:43,160 --> 00:00:44,680 You don't know how true that statement is. 20 00:00:44,680 --> 00:00:46,960 I think you're worse at it than I am. 21 00:00:46,960 --> 00:00:48,680 Oh, I am horrendous. 22 00:00:48,680 --> 00:00:50,680 Carly's like a what? 23 00:00:50,680 --> 00:00:55,560 I was just saying a bug on her phone, but I'm not even sure what that meant. 24 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:56,560 A bug on her phone? 25 00:00:56,560 --> 00:00:57,560 Yeah. 26 00:00:57,560 --> 00:00:58,800 A bug on her phone. 27 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,000 It's otherwise known as addiction. 28 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:04,240 A bug on her phone. 29 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:05,880 Yes. 30 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:06,880 I would put. 31 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:07,880 Are you scrolling? 32 00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,240 No, I'm working. 33 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:11,400 I'm not scrolling. 34 00:01:11,400 --> 00:01:12,840 What are you working? 35 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:16,800 I think it's more of working less scrolling. 36 00:01:16,800 --> 00:01:20,880 I mean, I do both, you know, by the amount of reels that I sent you. 37 00:01:20,880 --> 00:01:23,160 They've died down a little. 38 00:01:23,160 --> 00:01:26,360 Well, it depends on the week and we'll talk about that. 39 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:34,320 So let's just get into it. 40 00:01:34,320 --> 00:01:35,320 I'm Victoria. 41 00:01:35,320 --> 00:01:37,280 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 42 00:01:37,280 --> 00:01:41,200 And today we're talking about screen time in adults. 43 00:01:41,200 --> 00:01:46,320 So we could do episode after episode about screen time in kids and the negative effects 44 00:01:46,320 --> 00:01:48,520 and all that stuff. 45 00:01:48,520 --> 00:01:50,280 We're not we're talking adults today. 46 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:52,120 We'll do a little bit. 47 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:56,320 I'll give you some statistics on some kids, but it's mainly us. 48 00:01:56,320 --> 00:01:57,840 We are the problem. 49 00:01:57,840 --> 00:01:58,840 Statistics on some kids. 50 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:01,880 I'll give you some statistics on kids. 51 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:03,560 But it's it's an us problem. 52 00:02:03,560 --> 00:02:06,240 It's an adult problem just as much as it is a kids problem. 53 00:02:06,240 --> 00:02:07,240 Oh, yeah. 54 00:02:07,240 --> 00:02:08,240 I see. 55 00:02:08,240 --> 00:02:13,080 Well, mom says it all the time at like the baby classes with the moms watching. 56 00:02:13,080 --> 00:02:18,440 So if there's a baby class at Carmel's Day in Studio is up to like three year old, a 57 00:02:18,440 --> 00:02:22,760 two and a half, three, four year olds to kindergarten and you sit and you watch. 58 00:02:22,760 --> 00:02:23,760 It's a 45 minute class. 59 00:02:23,760 --> 00:02:24,760 It's ballet. 60 00:02:24,760 --> 00:02:25,760 It's super cute. 61 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,640 And it's 45 minutes of your life. 62 00:02:28,640 --> 00:02:32,520 And these parents, the majority of them just have their face in their phone. 63 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:37,800 They're not even watching like what's happening, watching their child, seeing how they learn, 64 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:42,600 seeing if they need a little bit more discipline and more focus or if they're doing a great 65 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:46,520 job, their faces are in their phones at all times. 66 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:53,000 And I have been guilty of watching my kids and also, you know, sneaking to watch my phone, 67 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:57,040 not watch anything, but like respond to emails because I'm like, oh, man, I get 45 minutes 68 00:02:57,040 --> 00:02:59,480 to sit and I'm made to sit down. 69 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:00,720 So I'm not running around. 70 00:03:00,720 --> 00:03:05,600 So this is some time that I can respond to some text messages or some emails. 71 00:03:05,600 --> 00:03:10,880 And then I see my child, whichever one it is, is looking at me to see if I'm watching them. 72 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:11,880 Yeah. 73 00:03:11,880 --> 00:03:13,120 And it's like, oh, God, put it down, put it down. 74 00:03:13,120 --> 00:03:14,400 Like, I know I see it. 75 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,200 My mom yells at me all the time, our mom yells at me all the time, but I see it. 76 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:18,200 I'm aware of it. 77 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,200 She's your mom today. 78 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:21,760 All right. 79 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:23,760 Here we go. 80 00:03:23,760 --> 00:03:24,760 We're going to start. 81 00:03:24,760 --> 00:03:25,760 We've started. 82 00:03:25,760 --> 00:03:26,760 I think we're in it. 83 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:36,000 So there's not, there aren't many studies on how much it affects adults as there is for 84 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:37,000 kids. 85 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:40,000 You weren't ready for that sentence. 86 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,000 Not even a little bit. 87 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:47,560 There's not as much research on adult screen time as there are for kids right now because 88 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:52,080 we're trying to fix the problem in the kids first. 89 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:54,320 What I am going on. 90 00:03:54,320 --> 00:03:55,800 You're struggling hard. 91 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:56,800 Number one. 92 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:58,200 Number two, isn't it like a cycle? 93 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:03,480 Because I would say parents that are honed in on their own phones are just giving phones 94 00:04:03,480 --> 00:04:07,160 to their children to keep them occupied so that they can do other things, i.e. look at 95 00:04:07,160 --> 00:04:08,160 their own phone. 96 00:04:08,160 --> 00:04:09,160 Yeah. 97 00:04:09,160 --> 00:04:10,160 It's like a hamster wheel. 98 00:04:10,160 --> 00:04:11,160 Right. 99 00:04:11,160 --> 00:04:12,160 And kids do what they see. 100 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,600 Monkey see monkey do. 101 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:18,360 So if you're on it all day, your kid's going to be like, well, if you get to do it, why 102 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:19,360 can't I do it? 103 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:20,360 Yeah, sure. 104 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:24,880 I actually just was watching Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen. 105 00:04:24,880 --> 00:04:30,440 And one of the questions I think he was asking one of the women was, you know, are you, how 106 00:04:30,440 --> 00:04:32,400 is your screen time with your kids at home? 107 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:35,160 So you can learn stuff on Bravo. 108 00:04:35,160 --> 00:04:39,200 But she said, well, it's hard because I work from my phone. 109 00:04:39,200 --> 00:04:41,800 She was a newscaster and she said, I work from my phone 24 seven. 110 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:43,360 So how can I say to them? 111 00:04:43,360 --> 00:04:48,040 You can't be on it, but I can when, you know, it's a hard thing to do. 112 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:50,000 But you could say, I'm not having fun. 113 00:04:50,000 --> 00:04:52,040 Yeah, I'm just looking at my phone. 114 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:54,200 Not watching dog videos. 115 00:04:54,200 --> 00:04:55,760 No, but that's the thing. 116 00:04:55,760 --> 00:04:56,760 I'm not. 117 00:04:56,760 --> 00:05:00,960 I'm not like at the end of the night is when I was called not doom scrolling. 118 00:05:00,960 --> 00:05:01,960 Is that what it's called? 119 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:08,120 Yeah, you're preventing a healthy sleep cycle by wanting to zone out and get like your me 120 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,560 time in doom scrolling. 121 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:12,840 That's mostly when I do it is at night. 122 00:05:12,840 --> 00:05:18,720 So same, same or in the morning when I first wake up, which I know is horrible or midday. 123 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:20,840 No, I mean, morning. 124 00:05:20,840 --> 00:05:21,840 Yeah. 125 00:05:21,840 --> 00:05:22,840 All right. 126 00:05:22,840 --> 00:05:24,480 Any hour of the day, early evening. 127 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:30,400 So a few, I'm ignoring that a few years ago, the average now think about this, the average 128 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:35,040 amount an adult spent on a screen was 11 hours a day. 129 00:05:35,040 --> 00:05:39,200 11 11 out of 24 a day where eight of them are sleeping. 130 00:05:39,200 --> 00:05:40,960 Let's say in a perfect world. 131 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:42,640 So what? 132 00:05:42,640 --> 00:05:46,240 So since COVID, the average now this is average. 133 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,440 So it's more to right. 134 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:49,440 Right. 135 00:05:49,440 --> 00:05:50,440 19 hours a day. 136 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:51,840 19 hours a day. 137 00:05:51,840 --> 00:05:56,440 People spend 11 hours was pre COVID 19 hours post COVID. 138 00:05:56,440 --> 00:05:57,440 Yikes. 139 00:05:57,440 --> 00:06:03,120 And about 30% of adults say that they're online almost constantly all day long. 140 00:06:03,120 --> 00:06:07,640 That's 30% are all the time online. 141 00:06:07,640 --> 00:06:08,640 That's tragic. 142 00:06:08,640 --> 00:06:10,280 It's like attached to their hand. 143 00:06:10,280 --> 00:06:11,280 Yeah. 144 00:06:11,280 --> 00:06:12,280 That's tragic. 145 00:06:12,280 --> 00:06:14,400 I mean, you watch a lot of TV as we're talking about screen time. 146 00:06:14,400 --> 00:06:17,000 I don't, but I do. 147 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:23,840 And Jason Bateman was on a talk show and he said, my kids have a hard time because they 148 00:06:23,840 --> 00:06:28,240 can't be at a stoplight when we're in the car and not pick up their phone because they 149 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:31,680 don't know how to sit at a stoplight and not do anything. 150 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,640 Just look around and observe the world around you. 151 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:35,640 Yeah. 152 00:06:35,640 --> 00:06:36,640 Isn't that crazy? 153 00:06:36,640 --> 00:06:38,920 And he also said, and I have that problem too. 154 00:06:38,920 --> 00:06:39,920 Yeah. 155 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:40,920 Because like think about it. 156 00:06:40,920 --> 00:06:43,920 In the car, how many times at a stoplight do you pull out your phone and you just scroll 157 00:06:43,920 --> 00:06:48,840 real quick until the green light or get beeped at because you didn't notice it turned green. 158 00:06:48,840 --> 00:06:49,840 Exactly. 159 00:06:49,840 --> 00:06:51,760 That just happened to me yesterday actually. 160 00:06:51,760 --> 00:06:54,840 So it's a horrible, horrible problem. 161 00:06:54,840 --> 00:07:00,200 And so there are clear guidelines for how much screen time kids should have, but there 162 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:04,680 are no guidelines for adults. 163 00:07:04,680 --> 00:07:10,800 And they say the average that adults should be on or watching a screen, including work 164 00:07:10,800 --> 00:07:13,680 time, the average should be six hours. 165 00:07:13,680 --> 00:07:15,200 What do you mean, including work time? 166 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:17,520 Like people work on their computers. 167 00:07:17,520 --> 00:07:18,600 You're looking at a screen. 168 00:07:18,600 --> 00:07:19,600 That is screen time. 169 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:20,600 That counts as screen time. 170 00:07:20,600 --> 00:07:21,600 Yes. 171 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:22,600 Yeah. 172 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:24,920 This is not primarily just an iPhone like on Instagram. 173 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:25,920 Right. 174 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:26,920 Like this is screen time. 175 00:07:26,920 --> 00:07:29,760 We're going to talk about this, but it's so bad for your eyesight. 176 00:07:29,760 --> 00:07:36,720 So the average that an adult should be on any type of technology is six hours a day. 177 00:07:36,720 --> 00:07:39,760 And right now we're averaging 19. 178 00:07:39,760 --> 00:07:45,120 So that, but then, but then that means there's only four hours. 179 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:46,120 I know. 180 00:07:46,120 --> 00:07:47,120 Or five hours left. 181 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:48,120 I know. 182 00:07:48,120 --> 00:07:49,120 Is that the sleeping time? 183 00:07:49,120 --> 00:07:50,120 Yeah. 184 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:52,440 That means the whole day is on the phone from morning to night. 185 00:07:52,440 --> 00:07:53,440 Oh my God. 186 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:54,440 No wonder. 187 00:07:54,440 --> 00:07:56,880 But like no wonder. 188 00:07:56,880 --> 00:07:58,600 It's hard to make connections with people. 189 00:07:58,600 --> 00:08:00,880 Nobody does how to do that anywhere. 190 00:08:00,880 --> 00:08:01,880 No. 191 00:08:01,880 --> 00:08:02,880 Nobody does how to eye contact. 192 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:07,840 Well, that's because people just have relationships behind the phone and they're not real and 193 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:09,640 there's so many trolls out there. 194 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:12,360 And not the good kind with the gem in their belly button. 195 00:08:12,360 --> 00:08:13,360 Okay. 196 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:14,360 The bad kind. 197 00:08:14,360 --> 00:08:18,800 If you're a kid in the eighties and nineties, you know what kind of trolls I'm talking about. 198 00:08:18,800 --> 00:08:22,320 But the gem in their belly button. 199 00:08:22,320 --> 00:08:23,320 I love this thing. 200 00:08:23,320 --> 00:08:24,320 So true. 201 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,000 We had many of them. 202 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:29,280 So there are so many negative effects of too much screen time. 203 00:08:29,280 --> 00:08:34,040 So let's go over some of them that you might not have known was related to screen time. 204 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:37,520 This one, I hope you know, affects you a hundred percent. 205 00:08:37,520 --> 00:08:39,880 And that's insomnia and poor sleep. 206 00:08:39,880 --> 00:08:40,880 Yeah. 207 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:45,560 It'll keep you up to see what's going on out there or comparing to someone you think has 208 00:08:45,560 --> 00:08:50,560 got it better than you or looks better or whatever the case may be. 209 00:08:50,560 --> 00:08:53,160 The light from screen signals. 210 00:08:53,160 --> 00:08:54,160 Just the light. 211 00:08:54,160 --> 00:08:56,240 Don't even think about what you're looking at. 212 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,040 The light from the screen signals keeps your brain awake. 213 00:08:59,040 --> 00:09:00,040 Yeah. 214 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:02,800 I say no more than an hour. 215 00:09:02,800 --> 00:09:08,320 Like you should take yourself away from the screen an hour plus before you try to go to 216 00:09:08,320 --> 00:09:13,200 sleep, like looking at your phone and then putting it down and rolling over is like the 217 00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:16,680 worst thing you can do for your brain and your eyes and your nervous system to like 218 00:09:16,680 --> 00:09:17,680 shut down. 219 00:09:17,680 --> 00:09:18,680 Yeah. 220 00:09:18,680 --> 00:09:19,680 And I do it every night. 221 00:09:19,680 --> 00:09:24,640 That's like the last thing I do before I go to sleep. 222 00:09:24,640 --> 00:09:25,640 It's such a bad habit. 223 00:09:25,640 --> 00:09:26,640 I've gotten better. 224 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:30,760 But when I'm really tired, I found I'll do it when I'm like exhausted. 225 00:09:30,760 --> 00:09:32,960 And you like lose your routine. 226 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:33,960 Oh, I'm sorry. 227 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:34,960 Can you say that again? 228 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:37,040 I should do it. 229 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:38,640 You lose your routine, I guess when you're tired. 230 00:09:38,640 --> 00:09:39,640 I don't know. 231 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:46,160 But I've noticed that in my like extreme exhaustion, I can't stop looking at the phone. 232 00:09:46,160 --> 00:09:47,160 Yeah. 233 00:09:47,160 --> 00:09:48,600 That's an addiction. 234 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:51,920 That's when you cannot put it down. 235 00:09:51,920 --> 00:09:54,760 Just think of any addiction that comes to mind. 236 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:58,920 When you cannot put it down, it's a problem. 237 00:09:58,920 --> 00:10:00,200 I'm not saying just for you. 238 00:10:00,200 --> 00:10:01,880 I'm just saying for many people. 239 00:10:01,880 --> 00:10:02,880 Come at me, Carly. 240 00:10:02,880 --> 00:10:03,880 Back off. 241 00:10:03,880 --> 00:10:04,880 Step out. 242 00:10:04,880 --> 00:10:05,880 Step out. 243 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:11,040 The next negative effect is eye strain and headaches. 244 00:10:11,040 --> 00:10:15,280 That's why I bought 27,000 pairs of blue light glasses in COVID. 245 00:10:15,280 --> 00:10:16,280 Do you use them? 246 00:10:16,280 --> 00:10:17,280 Yeah, you do. 247 00:10:17,280 --> 00:10:18,280 They're right here. 248 00:10:18,280 --> 00:10:23,800 And then I have one at Seafit and I have two in my room. 249 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:24,800 I enjoy them. 250 00:10:24,800 --> 00:10:25,800 It makes me look smarter. 251 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:27,880 I feel smarter. 252 00:10:27,880 --> 00:10:32,280 And I do, especially since COVID, I was on the screen a lot more with doing clients over 253 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:33,280 the phone. 254 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:35,960 I think everybody was, but that was new for me. 255 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:39,720 And my eyes would be so tired at the end of the day, which I thought was like a problem. 256 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:40,920 I was like, my God, I have COVID. 257 00:10:40,920 --> 00:10:42,760 No, it's the glare of the screen. 258 00:10:42,760 --> 00:10:43,760 But it was the blue light. 259 00:10:43,760 --> 00:10:46,440 So I got these glasses and I really, really loved them. 260 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:48,440 And now I just look amazing. 261 00:10:48,440 --> 00:10:53,360 But because I've been editing so much as well once we started this podcast, I really do wear 262 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:59,360 them anytime I open a screen and I wear it if I'm just sitting on my couch watching TV. 263 00:10:59,360 --> 00:11:01,200 I know that's interesting. 264 00:11:01,200 --> 00:11:04,840 They say the TV, just because you're far away from your TV, it doesn't mean anything. 265 00:11:04,840 --> 00:11:05,840 Right. 266 00:11:05,840 --> 00:11:10,760 Mom's getting surgery on her eyes because, well, because of the sun, apparently the 267 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:17,920 sun is what would not bring sun less is a big factor as to why the eyes started to deteriorate, 268 00:11:17,920 --> 00:11:20,320 which they will as you age either way. 269 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:26,120 But I believe it's a big part with how much screen time you add into your aging eyes as 270 00:11:26,120 --> 00:11:27,120 well. 271 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:28,960 I believe as well. 272 00:11:28,960 --> 00:11:32,880 But um, folks, you heard it here first. 273 00:11:32,880 --> 00:11:38,520 She is a lover of the Instagram reel and scrolling as well. 274 00:11:38,520 --> 00:11:41,400 I don't know why we ever showed her Instagram. 275 00:11:41,400 --> 00:11:47,000 Well, to be fair, we showed her when we learned it and then it took her years to bring it 276 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:48,000 up. 277 00:11:48,000 --> 00:11:49,640 So good job, mom. 278 00:11:49,640 --> 00:11:55,080 You did it on your own because we all stopped trying to help. 279 00:11:55,080 --> 00:12:00,880 The next one is the now, I think this is a huge one, addictive behaviors, social media 280 00:12:00,880 --> 00:12:02,080 and smartphones. 281 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:03,880 You know, they've been around. 282 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:04,880 Listen to this. 283 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:07,000 They've been around for less than 20 years. 284 00:12:07,000 --> 00:12:08,000 Yes. 285 00:12:08,000 --> 00:12:09,000 Yes. 286 00:12:09,000 --> 00:12:14,080 Smartphones and social media to the pop general population 2004. 287 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:19,640 You've been around for less than 20 years and think about the people that need it and 288 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:21,400 constantly and that crave it. 289 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:22,400 That's an addiction. 290 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:23,400 Yeah. 291 00:12:23,400 --> 00:12:24,400 Well, that's a drug. 292 00:12:24,400 --> 00:12:25,400 It's a drug. 293 00:12:25,400 --> 00:12:29,800 Plus created addiction within the last 20 years. 294 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:30,800 That's insane. 295 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:31,800 Yeah, that is insane. 296 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:35,000 And watching things on Instagram and TikTok, it dictates your mood. 297 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:36,000 Oh, yeah. 298 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:38,120 Addictions dictate your mood. 299 00:12:38,120 --> 00:12:39,120 You have to have it. 300 00:12:39,120 --> 00:12:40,120 You crave it. 301 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:44,320 You're not the type of person that you wouldn't normally do so that you're able to use this 302 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:54,020 drug of choice and this drug of choice being the phone or screen for the brain or not for 303 00:12:54,020 --> 00:12:55,020 the brain. 304 00:12:55,020 --> 00:12:57,160 That is the question. 305 00:12:57,160 --> 00:13:01,400 I can't look at you with those glasses on because you're so blue. 306 00:13:01,400 --> 00:13:05,760 Oh, this one's a big one. 307 00:13:05,760 --> 00:13:09,400 Oh, as I sit up nice and tall, the next shoulder and back pain. 308 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:10,400 It's like, oh, I'm going to get over it. 309 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:15,560 When you finally notice and you sit up straight, you're like, oh my God, you grew like four 310 00:13:15,560 --> 00:13:16,560 inches. 311 00:13:16,560 --> 00:13:18,480 You're like my neck, my back. 312 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,000 Stop it right now. 313 00:13:21,000 --> 00:13:23,200 Get out of my house. 314 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:25,440 Get yourself up off my couch and walk out. 315 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:29,480 I was sort of so excited to see this on my research because I was like, oh yeah, she's 316 00:13:29,480 --> 00:13:30,880 going to hate this. 317 00:13:30,880 --> 00:13:33,760 Oh my gosh. 318 00:13:33,760 --> 00:13:34,760 You guys finish it. 319 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:35,760 My neck. 320 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:36,760 No. 321 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:37,760 Explicit. 322 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:38,760 Get out of here. 323 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:40,240 Anyway, you know the drill. 324 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:46,200 When you're hunched over your neck, your back, everything, it's out of line. 325 00:13:46,200 --> 00:13:49,040 For lack of a better word, it's out of whack. 326 00:13:49,040 --> 00:13:51,080 I'm going to punch you. 327 00:13:51,080 --> 00:13:52,280 I'm crushing it today. 328 00:13:52,280 --> 00:13:53,440 I'm going to punch you. 329 00:13:53,440 --> 00:13:58,880 Does that involve or include, I should say, your thumb and your wrist? 330 00:13:58,880 --> 00:13:59,880 I don't know. 331 00:13:59,880 --> 00:14:04,720 It doesn't say that here, but I would say yes. 332 00:14:04,720 --> 00:14:10,680 I was with somebody this weekend that is having joint pain in their thumb and she said, I 333 00:14:10,680 --> 00:14:12,320 think it's from my scrolling. 334 00:14:12,320 --> 00:14:14,000 It's called scrolling thumb. 335 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:15,000 Stop it. 336 00:14:15,000 --> 00:14:16,280 I mean, that's what the doctor has said it for. 337 00:14:16,280 --> 00:14:21,080 I'm pretty sure he told mom that and then I was told that when my carpal tunnel was 338 00:14:21,080 --> 00:14:25,600 really acting up for many other worse reasons. 339 00:14:25,600 --> 00:14:29,280 But like, I noticed it when I would hold my phone and then my carpal tunnel would make 340 00:14:29,280 --> 00:14:31,680 my hand fall asleep and my thumb would cramp. 341 00:14:31,680 --> 00:14:33,960 And it's because you hold it and the phones are so big now. 342 00:14:33,960 --> 00:14:35,200 Yeah, and they're heavy. 343 00:14:35,200 --> 00:14:36,680 Mine has my wallet on it. 344 00:14:36,680 --> 00:14:37,680 Yeah. 345 00:14:37,680 --> 00:14:38,680 Yes. 346 00:14:38,680 --> 00:14:41,520 So that's a lot of weight and how long you're holding it up. 347 00:14:41,520 --> 00:14:46,600 I don't rest my phone down on a table and type on it or scroll. 348 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:48,240 I'm holding it at all times. 349 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:50,600 So it's just not natural for the hand. 350 00:14:50,600 --> 00:14:51,680 It's called scrolling thumb. 351 00:14:51,680 --> 00:14:52,880 I did not know that. 352 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:53,920 You can strain it. 353 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:54,920 You can bruise it. 354 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:57,200 And then in turn, you can create carpal tunnel. 355 00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,280 So jeez. 356 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:01,280 That's horrible. 357 00:15:01,280 --> 00:15:03,600 There's no song about that, but there should be. 358 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:07,760 My thumb, my thumb, my wrist. 359 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:08,760 Don't finish it. 360 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:09,760 That's dirty. 361 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:10,760 Okay. 362 00:15:10,760 --> 00:15:11,760 Next one. 363 00:15:11,760 --> 00:15:14,840 Changes in cognition, which I think is primarily. 364 00:15:14,840 --> 00:15:15,840 Oh, it hurts. 365 00:15:15,840 --> 00:15:16,840 Now I'm pissed. 366 00:15:16,840 --> 00:15:17,840 No, shut up. 367 00:15:17,840 --> 00:15:18,840 We're already pissed. 368 00:15:18,840 --> 00:15:20,840 I had to finish it. 369 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:26,680 I think it's primarily geared toward the younger generation because it can have to, 370 00:15:26,680 --> 00:15:28,520 whoa, maybe it's for me too. 371 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:29,520 I don't know. 372 00:15:29,520 --> 00:15:30,840 Maybe it's for 38 year olds. 373 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:37,280 You can experience developmental delays and changes in behavior and all of that kind of 374 00:15:37,280 --> 00:15:38,280 stuff. 375 00:15:38,280 --> 00:15:43,120 People, actually a 2020 study found that people have been diagnosed with smartphone addiction, 376 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:48,600 had problems with part of their brain responsible for transmitting messages and giving poorer 377 00:15:48,600 --> 00:15:51,760 performance and testing. 378 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:55,760 Transmitting messages from understanding comprehension comprehension. 379 00:15:55,760 --> 00:15:57,680 Because what are you just so used to doing? 380 00:15:57,680 --> 00:15:59,440 Oh, what's X plus X? 381 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:02,640 I'll just go on my calculator, on my phone. 382 00:16:02,640 --> 00:16:04,000 What's the answer to this question? 383 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:05,000 I don't know. 384 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:06,000 I'll just go Google it. 385 00:16:06,000 --> 00:16:08,560 Hey, Mrs. Miller, when you told me there would be no calculators in her pocket at a 386 00:16:08,560 --> 00:16:12,120 moment's notice in the grocery store, you were wrong. 387 00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:14,560 I don't need a T89, but I got it. 388 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:16,360 I know, but isn't that a shame? 389 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:17,360 It's pretty horrible. 390 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:23,920 And that is affecting our brains that we can no longer do simple math or answer simple 391 00:16:23,920 --> 00:16:25,520 questions. 392 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:31,760 I am very thankful for my phone when it comes to directions because we all know I'm directionally 393 00:16:31,760 --> 00:16:32,760 challenged. 394 00:16:32,760 --> 00:16:35,960 GPS is a magic thing. 395 00:16:35,960 --> 00:16:41,640 But ask me how to read a map correctly and I don't know. 396 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,920 I would have to, it would take me a minute. 397 00:16:43,920 --> 00:16:47,840 I haven't read a map in 20 years. 398 00:16:47,840 --> 00:16:53,480 You know, so that's the problem with the younger generation is they're not figuring this out. 399 00:16:53,480 --> 00:17:01,320 There was this comedy special, this comedian, she was a woman and she said, I bet my child. 400 00:17:01,320 --> 00:17:02,320 I think I told you this before. 401 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:09,040 I bet my child a new smartphone that if he could tell me who was president during World 402 00:17:09,040 --> 00:17:12,480 War II, I would buy him a new smartphone. 403 00:17:12,480 --> 00:17:14,280 But he wasn't allowed to go on Google. 404 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:16,720 He had to find out. 405 00:17:16,720 --> 00:17:20,480 So he went to the Tsarist, the dictionary or encyclopedia. 406 00:17:20,480 --> 00:17:21,480 Wow, good. 407 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:22,480 You know those words. 408 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:23,480 I know them. 409 00:17:23,480 --> 00:17:25,280 I just wanted to say all those people. 410 00:17:25,280 --> 00:17:27,480 You're so smart. 411 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:32,920 And he went to the W's and she's like, oh my God, he's going to look up World War II 412 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:35,480 and I got to buy him a new smartphone. 413 00:17:35,480 --> 00:17:37,600 Like I underestimated him. 414 00:17:37,600 --> 00:17:41,160 He went to the word who he wanted to go to. 415 00:17:41,160 --> 00:17:45,360 Who was the president of World War II? 416 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:48,320 Because you type that in because that's what you type into Google. 417 00:17:48,320 --> 00:17:49,560 Who was the president of World War II? 418 00:17:49,560 --> 00:17:50,560 And the answer comes up. 419 00:17:50,560 --> 00:17:53,840 That's what he went to in the book, W for Who. 420 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:56,200 And that is the whole problem. 421 00:17:56,200 --> 00:18:01,800 They don't even know how to look up things in a book. 422 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:04,680 So clearly he did not get the smartphone and she was in luck. 423 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:06,680 But that, yeah. 424 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:09,760 Well, there's a couple of factors in that. 425 00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:16,800 I think retaining information is a no for the developmental part of children. 426 00:18:16,800 --> 00:18:22,240 You can't read something and remember it because their attention spans are so short. 427 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:30,320 And then the process of if I A to get to B, then it'll equal C in terms of even just looking 428 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,440 up something that isn't mathematically related. 429 00:18:33,440 --> 00:18:34,440 They don't have that. 430 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:36,440 We had all that, but we lost it. 431 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:37,440 We lost it. 432 00:18:37,440 --> 00:18:38,440 Yeah. 433 00:18:38,440 --> 00:18:39,440 So like, I think it's equal. 434 00:18:39,440 --> 00:18:41,920 We're at equal playing field right now. 435 00:18:41,920 --> 00:18:42,920 Yeah. 436 00:18:42,920 --> 00:18:47,640 So we really have to tap into hold on, let me figure this out and like slow your mind. 437 00:18:47,640 --> 00:18:48,800 You have to slow down. 438 00:18:48,800 --> 00:18:50,440 Slow your roll. 439 00:18:50,440 --> 00:18:52,440 Roll tide. 440 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:55,440 Yeah, no. 441 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,840 I'm just thinking of all things with roll. 442 00:18:58,840 --> 00:18:59,840 Yeah. 443 00:18:59,840 --> 00:19:00,840 Okay. 444 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,840 Mom does all math in her head still. 445 00:19:02,840 --> 00:19:04,880 But see, we were never going to math. 446 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:06,840 So this isn't a smartphone problem. 447 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:07,840 Okay. 448 00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:08,840 This is an OS problem. 449 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:15,720 The T189 or whatever number it was, I didn't know how to do simple math. 450 00:19:15,720 --> 00:19:19,680 And I, you know, so kind of my fingers when I have to. 451 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:23,560 But yeah, she, some people just have a good math brain. 452 00:19:23,560 --> 00:19:24,560 Yeah. 453 00:19:24,560 --> 00:19:28,720 Some people are more grammar, you know, related, not me clearly. 454 00:19:28,720 --> 00:19:30,560 I'm having great sentence structure today. 455 00:19:30,560 --> 00:19:34,640 Oh no, you're drunk at all times. 456 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:35,640 Your thumbs are drunk. 457 00:19:35,640 --> 00:19:36,640 Your mouth is drunk. 458 00:19:36,640 --> 00:19:37,640 Oh my God. 459 00:19:37,640 --> 00:19:40,040 I'm not that fat fingers because I cannot type. 460 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:43,760 But it's like not even, it's not even funny anymore. 461 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:48,280 It's like I won't respond to that because not one, there wasn't a direct object. 462 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:50,760 I don't understand where you're going with this. 463 00:19:50,760 --> 00:19:52,600 None of the names are correct. 464 00:19:52,600 --> 00:19:54,680 And you're not concerned. 465 00:19:54,680 --> 00:19:57,480 She always texts me right back and says, make this make sense. 466 00:19:57,480 --> 00:19:59,000 Say try it again, Carly. 467 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:00,240 Just try it again. 468 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:01,240 All right. 469 00:20:01,240 --> 00:20:05,160 Before we get ahead of ourselves, our last one is reduced physical activity levels. 470 00:20:05,160 --> 00:20:07,000 I mean, like you're on the phone. 471 00:20:07,000 --> 00:20:08,000 So you're not moving. 472 00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:09,000 Yes. 473 00:20:09,000 --> 00:20:10,240 You're living a sedentary lifestyle. 474 00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:11,240 You are sitting down. 475 00:20:11,240 --> 00:20:14,720 You are working at the computer just to go home to sit on your phone. 476 00:20:14,720 --> 00:20:15,720 Yeah. 477 00:20:15,720 --> 00:20:18,960 I mean, it's negative all any way you look at it. 478 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:26,520 So as I said before, the experts, you know, they say there is no clear research on how 479 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:29,480 many hours we should be on it a day. 480 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:34,960 But they do suggest, this is this justice suggestion, that you only spend two hours on 481 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:37,600 your phone, not work related. 482 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:43,880 So free time, free time scrolling, but still to me, that sounds like a lot. 483 00:20:43,880 --> 00:20:47,480 Two hours of free time scrolling in addition to your workday. 484 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:48,480 Yeah. 485 00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,040 But maybe it's not sit down for two hours. 486 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:54,200 Maybe it's 10 minutes here, 10 minutes there adds up to two hours throughout your day. 487 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,880 Then it's not as two hour chunk. 488 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:57,880 Wait. 489 00:20:57,880 --> 00:21:00,000 I forgot to tell you this. 490 00:21:00,000 --> 00:21:03,320 And this was important for me when I read this. 491 00:21:03,320 --> 00:21:08,880 There's an actual negative relation between the screen and your skin. 492 00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:09,880 What? 493 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:10,960 Yeah. 494 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:18,120 From the blue light, it can change your DNA and cause inflammation and break down collagen 495 00:21:18,120 --> 00:21:19,120 in your face. 496 00:21:19,120 --> 00:21:21,280 From like the radiation in the phone? 497 00:21:21,280 --> 00:21:22,280 From the blue light. 498 00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:23,280 Yeah. 499 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:27,360 From the radiation from the prolonged exposure to the blue light and digital screens. 500 00:21:27,360 --> 00:21:28,360 Yo. 501 00:21:28,360 --> 00:21:29,360 I mean. 502 00:21:29,360 --> 00:21:30,360 I'm not the problem. 503 00:21:30,360 --> 00:21:31,360 My phone. 504 00:21:31,360 --> 00:21:35,880 My phone is why I look like a 13 year old prepubescent. 505 00:21:35,880 --> 00:21:36,880 Yeah. 506 00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,000 Let's blame it on that. 507 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:40,000 Let's blame it on that. 508 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:41,000 That's actually alarming. 509 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:42,000 I know. 510 00:21:42,000 --> 00:21:47,000 Well, to quote my boy, Albee. 511 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:48,000 Oh, Albee. 512 00:21:48,000 --> 00:21:50,080 Let's bring him back. 513 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:53,240 He said, I feed and this is Albert Einstein. 514 00:21:53,240 --> 00:21:55,000 Remember the time of Albert Einstein? 515 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,000 I always think he's in like the Renaissance time. 516 00:21:57,000 --> 00:21:58,800 He's so old, but he's not. 517 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:01,240 He was around relatively recently. 518 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:02,240 Go Google it. 519 00:22:02,240 --> 00:22:03,800 But before, go Google it. 520 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:11,320 But before any type of phone, smartphone, computer in the way we know them was made, 521 00:22:11,320 --> 00:22:15,720 he said, I fear the day when the technology overlaps with our humanity. 522 00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:20,120 The world would only have a generation of idiots. 523 00:22:20,120 --> 00:22:21,120 Look at us now, Albee. 524 00:22:21,120 --> 00:22:22,120 I know. 525 00:22:22,120 --> 00:22:23,120 We're dumb. 526 00:22:23,120 --> 00:22:27,600 We're dumb and now it's getting worse with AI because we don't know what's real and what's 527 00:22:27,600 --> 00:22:28,600 fake. 528 00:22:28,600 --> 00:22:29,600 We could do a whole other episode on that. 529 00:22:29,600 --> 00:22:30,600 I hate. 530 00:22:30,600 --> 00:22:31,600 I know. 531 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:32,600 AI. 532 00:22:32,600 --> 00:22:33,600 I know. 533 00:22:33,600 --> 00:22:35,840 In every capacity of AI. 534 00:22:35,840 --> 00:22:40,400 And you know what's scary about that is that you can type in or say, write my essay on 535 00:22:40,400 --> 00:22:47,480 this topic and a very well written generated essay. 536 00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:49,920 And so these kids really will be learning nothing. 537 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:55,640 And how do the teachers know what's written by like a student who can do it well and what's 538 00:22:55,640 --> 00:22:56,760 a computer generated? 539 00:22:56,760 --> 00:22:57,920 Like, how do you grade that? 540 00:22:57,920 --> 00:22:59,720 So we really will have a generation of idiots. 541 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:04,480 I mean, back in my day, we would just be nice to a kid that was really, really, really smart 542 00:23:04,480 --> 00:23:06,160 and make them do our paper for them. 543 00:23:06,160 --> 00:23:09,720 Carly did a lot of papers for people. 544 00:23:09,720 --> 00:23:12,720 I was thinking the other way around. 545 00:23:12,720 --> 00:23:15,400 Yeah, you're right. 546 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:19,360 Anyway, so let's talk about how we can fix it. 547 00:23:19,360 --> 00:23:21,240 Throw our phones out. 548 00:23:21,240 --> 00:23:22,480 Throw them in the river. 549 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:23,480 I wish. 550 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:24,480 I wish. 551 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:32,480 Now, before we say this, I was with my nephew who is going to college next year. 552 00:23:32,480 --> 00:23:38,680 And he said, wait for as long as you can before you give Melody a phone. 553 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:40,000 It's not even on my radar. 554 00:23:40,000 --> 00:23:44,520 Like she just turned 10 and I was telling my class last night, she didn't ask for it. 555 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:45,680 She's still into stuffed animals. 556 00:23:45,680 --> 00:23:47,080 She's a very young 10. 557 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,760 So phone is not really on her radar. 558 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:52,120 But he said, don't do it. 559 00:23:52,120 --> 00:23:55,680 I wish I didn't have a phone in high school. 560 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:59,320 Yeah, I wish I had a phone to like call my parents or like call my friends. 561 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,840 But as far as apps, don't do it. 562 00:24:02,840 --> 00:24:07,320 It would have been such a different experience for me and I hate it. 563 00:24:07,320 --> 00:24:08,680 And he's 20, but too. 564 00:24:08,680 --> 00:24:09,680 He's 18. 565 00:24:09,680 --> 00:24:10,680 Oh, he's 18. 566 00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:12,520 He just graduated high school. 567 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:18,640 And we were with our friend this weekend and she said to her daughter, give me your 568 00:24:18,640 --> 00:24:19,640 phone. 569 00:24:19,640 --> 00:24:20,640 You're going to take a shower. 570 00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:21,640 I want your phone. 571 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:23,640 I'm not going on the phone for the rest of the night. 572 00:24:23,640 --> 00:24:27,680 And instead of getting mad at this girl's a freshman in high school, she gave her mom 573 00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:29,040 her phone and said here. 574 00:24:29,040 --> 00:24:30,040 Thank you. 575 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:31,040 Yeah, thanks. 576 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:36,040 Because sometimes you just need to be told like kids, they don't want to willingly give 577 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:39,360 it up, but they want you to give like give them the option. 578 00:24:39,360 --> 00:24:40,360 Yeah. 579 00:24:40,360 --> 00:24:45,160 You know, and that's just that was so sad to me because I'm like, man, these kids. 580 00:24:45,160 --> 00:24:49,160 It's interesting because she knew that it was something she didn't want to be doing, 581 00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:50,160 but like couldn't stop. 582 00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,160 Couldn't stop. 583 00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:55,760 You can't stop checking in on where your friends are because apparently you gotta share where 584 00:24:55,760 --> 00:25:00,240 you are in the world and you can't stop checking in on what they're doing that you weren't invited 585 00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:01,240 to. 586 00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:05,720 And like it's just like this downward spiral of self deprecation. 587 00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:06,720 Yeah. 588 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:10,800 So like I think there's a piece of that the kids are like, please someone take like take 589 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:11,800 this on my hand. 590 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:12,800 Help me. 591 00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:13,800 Yeah. 592 00:25:13,800 --> 00:25:20,040 So and so those two stories are the number one and two reason that Melody will not be 593 00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:23,160 getting a phone in for social media. 594 00:25:23,160 --> 00:25:26,480 Now I can't, I do want her to be able to call if she's in an emergency at some point. 595 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:31,000 So I don't know when we're going to give her the phone for that, but as far as apps and 596 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:34,320 everything, it's not, she's not getting them in high school. 597 00:25:34,320 --> 00:25:41,320 They should make a preteen phone that is just a phone the way that we had it. 598 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:42,320 They do. 599 00:25:42,320 --> 00:25:43,400 It's just a phone. 600 00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:44,440 It's called a gab phone. 601 00:25:44,440 --> 00:25:46,160 You know how my kids have gab watches? 602 00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:47,160 Yes. 603 00:25:47,160 --> 00:25:53,120 The next level is gab phone where they can just call their five contacts or 10 contacts 604 00:25:53,120 --> 00:25:54,480 or whatever and texts. 605 00:25:54,480 --> 00:25:58,640 So it'd be you, me, you know, family in need of emergency. 606 00:25:58,640 --> 00:26:02,600 No Instagram, no Tik Tok, but they can't even text their friends. 607 00:26:02,600 --> 00:26:05,280 If they're not on that list, it doesn't work. 608 00:26:05,280 --> 00:26:06,560 It doesn't work. 609 00:26:06,560 --> 00:26:12,960 So that is something we'll look into maybe when she gets older, but no, I'm, I'm 100% 610 00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:15,040 you heard it first here. 611 00:26:15,040 --> 00:26:19,920 There will be no Tik Tok Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook for my kids in high school and they 612 00:26:19,920 --> 00:26:21,320 can, they can hate me. 613 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:22,320 You first, Carly. 614 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:23,320 You first. 615 00:26:23,320 --> 00:26:27,360 Hey, listen, if it comes to that and she comes to me and says, then you have to get off of 616 00:26:27,360 --> 00:26:28,360 it. 617 00:26:28,360 --> 00:26:29,360 If I can't have it, you can't have it. 618 00:26:29,360 --> 00:26:34,640 I will say let's do it together then because if that's what it takes for her to be okay 619 00:26:34,640 --> 00:26:36,560 with it and me to get off it. 620 00:26:36,560 --> 00:26:39,840 Melody, let's talk tomorrow. 621 00:26:39,840 --> 00:26:41,080 I hate it so much. 622 00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:42,080 I hate it. 623 00:26:42,080 --> 00:26:43,080 I hate it. 624 00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:49,720 Okay, let's talk about how to combat adult screen time or help ourselves, maybe use it 625 00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:55,000 less, get off it all together because cold turkey is just not really a thing. 626 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:56,000 No. 627 00:26:56,000 --> 00:26:58,200 I mean, we work on our phones. 628 00:26:58,200 --> 00:26:59,200 How? 629 00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,720 How is cold turkey going to work? 630 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:06,160 I prefer cold fish, but yeah, no, you're right. 631 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:10,400 I mean, just this morning, the amount of work I had to do on my phone, I was so mad that 632 00:27:10,400 --> 00:27:11,400 I had to do it. 633 00:27:11,400 --> 00:27:16,120 I was like, I want to be doing something else, just enjoying coffee without my phone in my 634 00:27:16,120 --> 00:27:17,120 hand. 635 00:27:17,120 --> 00:27:18,120 So I agree. 636 00:27:18,120 --> 00:27:19,120 I know. 637 00:27:19,120 --> 00:27:20,120 It's so hard. 638 00:27:20,120 --> 00:27:23,360 So, oh, this is a good one. 639 00:27:23,360 --> 00:27:30,480 Use the phone for video calls when you can because they say it's a lot better than reading 640 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:33,800 and texting and even up to your ear. 641 00:27:33,800 --> 00:27:37,480 I don't put the phone up to my ear, but what do you mean video? 642 00:27:37,480 --> 00:27:38,480 Like a face time? 643 00:27:38,480 --> 00:27:43,760 If you're going to call or do long calls or do stuff like that, do it on FaceTime so it's 644 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:45,720 not close to your face. 645 00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:47,480 It's not in your hands. 646 00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:51,960 You can just put it in FaceTime, which I think, hey, listen, you're getting some human connection 647 00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:52,960 there as well. 648 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:53,960 That's facial expressions. 649 00:27:53,960 --> 00:27:57,720 They don't really look presentable at all times. 650 00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:58,720 We know. 651 00:27:58,720 --> 00:28:03,880 But I heard that. 652 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:10,200 But I agree with that because I actually heard the AirPods, earbuds, AirPods. 653 00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:11,200 AirPods. 654 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:12,800 I don't know what they're called. 655 00:28:12,800 --> 00:28:15,000 That has radiation in there too. 656 00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:16,680 And I'm like, oh, well, I just have that in. 657 00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:18,760 I don't have my phone up to my ear. 658 00:28:18,760 --> 00:28:21,440 I'll just keep this in my ear as I walk for an hour and I do all this stuff. 659 00:28:21,440 --> 00:28:23,120 But like, that's actually really bad for you too. 660 00:28:23,120 --> 00:28:24,120 So bad. 661 00:28:24,120 --> 00:28:26,120 So that's a good idea. 662 00:28:26,120 --> 00:28:30,320 Andrew walks around the house listening to podcasts 24 hours a day. 663 00:28:30,320 --> 00:28:33,400 And number one, I hate it because I have to say, did you hear me? 664 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:35,240 He'll be like, he'll take it out and be like, what? 665 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:36,840 I'm like, I hate that. 666 00:28:36,840 --> 00:28:38,560 He wears them for a reason. 667 00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,040 And two, because I think it's really bad. 668 00:28:40,040 --> 00:28:45,400 I don't know the actual research on the radiation in an AirPods, but I know it's not good for 669 00:28:45,400 --> 00:28:46,400 you. 670 00:28:46,400 --> 00:28:47,400 It isn't good. 671 00:28:47,400 --> 00:28:49,400 Okay, this is new for me. 672 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:50,400 Shocking. 673 00:28:50,400 --> 00:28:53,120 Something to help you limit your time. 674 00:28:53,120 --> 00:28:54,120 Stop fubbing. 675 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:55,120 Fubbing. 676 00:28:55,120 --> 00:28:56,120 Fubbing. 677 00:28:56,120 --> 00:28:57,120 P-H-U-B-B-I-N-G. 678 00:28:57,120 --> 00:28:58,120 Fubbing. 679 00:28:58,120 --> 00:29:02,760 It's short for phone snubbing. 680 00:29:02,760 --> 00:29:04,920 It's dismissing people because you're on your phone. 681 00:29:04,920 --> 00:29:10,160 Occurs when one person is being ignored because the other person is on their phone. 682 00:29:10,160 --> 00:29:13,320 How often do you fub? 683 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,640 I don't. 684 00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:17,320 If I'm with somebody? 685 00:29:17,320 --> 00:29:20,640 No, you do it and I do it. 686 00:29:20,640 --> 00:29:21,640 When? 687 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:25,200 When we're out with people, you for a second look at your phone or you're texting somebody 688 00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:29,160 back and then you're half listening to the conversation that you're in at the table, but 689 00:29:29,160 --> 00:29:32,160 you're also being, and like you're laughing and you're like, yeah, yeah, yeah. 690 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:35,840 But you're also you're on the phone responding to a text message. 691 00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:36,840 That is fubbing. 692 00:29:36,840 --> 00:29:39,320 I only really do that to you. 693 00:29:39,320 --> 00:29:42,680 If I'm meeting somebody new, I don't get my phone out. 694 00:29:42,680 --> 00:29:45,760 If I'm in an experience, I want to be present. 695 00:29:45,760 --> 00:29:48,200 Like I try to, I don't even like record things anymore. 696 00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:49,200 Like at a concert. 697 00:29:49,200 --> 00:29:50,200 Yeah. 698 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:53,680 I go into the Ben Platt, I took that one video for Dean. 699 00:29:53,680 --> 00:29:54,680 Yeah, can I have it? 700 00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:55,680 You never sent it to me. 701 00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,520 Yeah, because I forgot about it because I wanted to just sit there and be there in the 702 00:29:58,520 --> 00:29:59,520 moment. 703 00:29:59,520 --> 00:30:02,320 So that's the only video I took for the whole concert. 704 00:30:02,320 --> 00:30:05,960 So like I'm trying not to get the phone out, but like I'm with you all the time. 705 00:30:05,960 --> 00:30:07,680 So like, you're not trying to fub. 706 00:30:07,680 --> 00:30:10,440 No, I'm trying to fub you. 707 00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:11,880 I fub you. 708 00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:18,560 Well, they say that fubbing, those that are experienced it or exposed to it are more 709 00:30:18,560 --> 00:30:22,800 apt for loneliness and psychological distress because what are you doing? 710 00:30:22,800 --> 00:30:25,320 You're ignoring somebody or you're being ignored. 711 00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:26,320 Right. 712 00:30:26,320 --> 00:30:30,320 You've got all the kids that are like, mom, dad, dad, dad. 713 00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,840 And then on the fourth time you answer and you look up from your phone. 714 00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,480 Are you talking about your children? 715 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:35,480 Yes. 716 00:30:35,480 --> 00:30:36,480 Yeah. 717 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:41,120 Like if Dean says my name five times, because sometimes I'm just blind to it because all 718 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:42,480 he does is talk. 719 00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,000 So sometimes it's not my fault. 720 00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:45,000 All right. 721 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:46,000 It's Dean's fault. 722 00:30:46,000 --> 00:30:47,000 Okay. 723 00:30:47,000 --> 00:30:48,000 It's a five year old's fault. 724 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:51,440 But other times I'm working and I'm emailing or I just need to send this text and I'm like, 725 00:30:51,440 --> 00:30:52,640 what Dean? 726 00:30:52,640 --> 00:30:54,640 But he felt he wasn't heard. 727 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,120 He had to say my name five times. 728 00:30:57,120 --> 00:30:59,080 He is a product of fubbing. 729 00:30:59,080 --> 00:31:00,360 Dean the Thubman. 730 00:31:00,360 --> 00:31:02,480 So don't do that. 731 00:31:02,480 --> 00:31:03,800 It says be more present. 732 00:31:03,800 --> 00:31:04,800 Yeah. 733 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:05,800 Yeah, that's a good one. 734 00:31:05,800 --> 00:31:08,320 I've never heard that term, but it's accurate. 735 00:31:08,320 --> 00:31:11,240 The next one, turn off unneeded notifications. 736 00:31:11,240 --> 00:31:12,240 I do that. 737 00:31:12,240 --> 00:31:16,760 I don't have any notifications, which is why you all yell at me when you say I don't respond 738 00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:18,120 to your texts or your phone calls. 739 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,760 Well, you don't put it on sound like ever. 740 00:31:21,760 --> 00:31:24,560 That's a notification just to like, oh, my phone went off. 741 00:31:24,560 --> 00:31:25,560 Let me go check it. 742 00:31:25,560 --> 00:31:26,560 Great. 743 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:27,560 I turned that off. 744 00:31:27,560 --> 00:31:28,560 That's not what that is. 745 00:31:28,560 --> 00:31:32,680 It's the banners that come down when yours is like, tells you all the news. 746 00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:36,480 First of all, get over yourself or Instagram. 747 00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,360 Somebody like this, like I don't have that one. 748 00:31:38,360 --> 00:31:39,640 I don't have that one or Facebook. 749 00:31:39,640 --> 00:31:43,400 I don't even have Facebook on my phone or Messenger. 750 00:31:43,400 --> 00:31:46,680 So those types of banners. 751 00:31:46,680 --> 00:31:50,920 And when it asks like, oh, go into your settings, you download a new app, go into your settings 752 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:51,920 and put notifications. 753 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:52,920 Do the notifications. 754 00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:56,360 I'm always like later because I will, I won't do it. 755 00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:57,360 Yeah. 756 00:31:57,360 --> 00:31:58,560 That would go off every five seconds. 757 00:31:58,560 --> 00:31:59,560 I know. 758 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:00,560 Yeah. 759 00:32:00,560 --> 00:32:07,200 No, I usually don't have those notifications or my sound on or my phone in a place where 760 00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:08,200 I'm going to answer the phone. 761 00:32:08,200 --> 00:32:09,200 So I don't do any of that. 762 00:32:09,200 --> 00:32:11,360 So why do you have a phone to scroll? 763 00:32:11,360 --> 00:32:14,200 No, I don't scroll all the time. 764 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:15,200 God. 765 00:32:15,200 --> 00:32:16,200 Okay. 766 00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:22,600 Set time limits for all your devices, including TV and electronic readers because while 767 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:24,960 e-readers are great like Kindle. 768 00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:25,960 Yeah. 769 00:32:25,960 --> 00:32:26,960 Pick up a real book. 770 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:27,960 I know. 771 00:32:27,960 --> 00:32:28,960 100%. 772 00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:29,960 Julia Finneo. 773 00:32:29,960 --> 00:32:30,960 Julia on the shelf. 774 00:32:30,960 --> 00:32:31,960 Wait, what's her Instagram handle? 775 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:32,960 Jules shelf. 776 00:32:32,960 --> 00:32:33,960 Jules shelf. 777 00:32:33,960 --> 00:32:34,960 Not Julia on the shelf. 778 00:32:34,960 --> 00:32:35,960 Julia on the shelf. 779 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:39,200 Get your Julia on the shelf today. 780 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:43,760 She would tell you pick up a real book because even e-readers strain your eyes. 781 00:32:43,760 --> 00:32:44,760 Come on. 782 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:45,760 They smell better anyway. 783 00:32:45,760 --> 00:32:46,760 Especially a book from the library. 784 00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:47,760 Yes. 785 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:53,400 With the cover on the front because they covered all their books to save them and you can hear 786 00:32:53,400 --> 00:32:54,960 the crackle of the plastic. 787 00:32:54,960 --> 00:32:55,960 Yes. 788 00:32:55,960 --> 00:32:56,960 Oh, that's the best. 789 00:32:56,960 --> 00:32:57,960 That is the best. 790 00:32:57,960 --> 00:33:00,400 Establish a curfew for four devices. 791 00:33:00,400 --> 00:33:05,200 So not only put them on a timer where they automatically turn off. 792 00:33:05,200 --> 00:33:06,200 Establish a curfew. 793 00:33:06,200 --> 00:33:11,160 I will not look at my phone past 10 p.m. if I go to bed at 11. 794 00:33:11,160 --> 00:33:15,200 I will only look at my phone for 30 minutes at lunch. 795 00:33:15,200 --> 00:33:16,200 Right. 796 00:33:16,200 --> 00:33:19,200 You have to establish those just like you would any other routine. 797 00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:20,200 Yeah. 798 00:33:20,200 --> 00:33:21,200 Yeah. 799 00:33:21,200 --> 00:33:25,080 You have to schedule them in so that you follow through like a workout or a meal plan 800 00:33:25,080 --> 00:33:29,160 or making a lunch date. 801 00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:30,680 Victoria is going to love this. 802 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,680 Don't eat while using your phone. 803 00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:34,840 Mindfulness. 804 00:33:34,840 --> 00:33:38,880 We haven't gotten to the point yet where we have to like take the kids phones during 805 00:33:38,880 --> 00:33:42,080 dinner or while we're together because we don't just don't have any. 806 00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:46,960 But Andrew and I are very good at when we eat dinner with the kids, the phones are off 807 00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:47,960 the table. 808 00:33:47,960 --> 00:33:53,920 Just put them off the table and then you won't have the, you know, want to look and see if 809 00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:54,920 anybody texted you. 810 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:55,920 Just put them off the table and study. 811 00:33:55,920 --> 00:33:58,360 You'll just go, hey, Google, tell us. 812 00:33:58,360 --> 00:33:59,360 Okay. 813 00:33:59,360 --> 00:34:02,080 Google is on there, but it creates conversation too. 814 00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:03,080 It's true. 815 00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:04,080 It's true. 816 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:05,600 Skip screens in the bedroom all together. 817 00:34:05,600 --> 00:34:06,600 Yeah. 818 00:34:06,600 --> 00:34:07,800 I don't even have a TV in my room. 819 00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:14,280 I do and I go to sleep to it, but I find this hard because in an emergency, what do you 820 00:34:14,280 --> 00:34:15,280 need? 821 00:34:15,280 --> 00:34:16,280 You need your phone. 822 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:17,280 They say don't put it by your bedside. 823 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:21,160 But if in an emergency, am I running across the room to get my phone? 824 00:34:21,160 --> 00:34:23,480 Like, I don't, they make it so hard. 825 00:34:23,480 --> 00:34:24,480 I know. 826 00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:25,480 I, I do have it. 827 00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:26,480 So I have a king size bed. 828 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:27,800 I tried to sleep in the center of it. 829 00:34:27,800 --> 00:34:31,040 My dog ruins that, but I have it on the side of the phone. 830 00:34:31,040 --> 00:34:37,720 So to me, it feels far away, but I can't not put it in the room with me. 831 00:34:37,720 --> 00:34:38,720 I live by myself. 832 00:34:38,720 --> 00:34:39,720 I know. 833 00:34:39,720 --> 00:34:43,480 Like it just feels like it's a lifeline in some, in some ways. 834 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:44,480 Right. 835 00:34:44,480 --> 00:34:46,960 So I, yeah, I don't know what to do with that. 836 00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:47,960 Maybe on the bureau. 837 00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:53,400 So like you do have to get up and out to like handle the phone and it'll make you second 838 00:34:53,400 --> 00:34:56,120 guess whether or not you want to go check the phone to scroll. 839 00:34:56,120 --> 00:34:58,640 But if someone's really needing you, like you're going to get yourself out of bed to 840 00:34:58,640 --> 00:34:59,640 go check it. 841 00:34:59,640 --> 00:35:01,560 Maybe I could try that. 842 00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:02,560 Try it. 843 00:35:02,560 --> 00:35:03,800 Let me know how it goes. 844 00:35:03,800 --> 00:35:05,800 I'll pretend to break in and we can see the worst. 845 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,300 You're just silent. 846 00:35:07,300 --> 00:35:11,200 You're the last person anyone's calling in an emergency, but think about this though. 847 00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:16,200 I have the charger next to my bed that charges my work phone, my regular phone and my Apple 848 00:35:16,200 --> 00:35:18,400 watch all radiation and it's right by my bed. 849 00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:19,400 You got to move it. 850 00:35:19,400 --> 00:35:20,400 I know. 851 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:21,400 Put it in the bathroom. 852 00:35:21,400 --> 00:35:22,400 I know. 853 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:23,400 So your brain is shrinking. 854 00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:25,360 But my phone is my alarm. 855 00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:27,080 So I'm like, I'm, this is a work in progress. 856 00:35:27,080 --> 00:35:28,640 I'm working it all out right now. 857 00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:34,920 But technically they say to get an alarm that has like a simulation of the sun to wake you 858 00:35:34,920 --> 00:35:38,880 up for your circadian rhythm, you know, you know what I'm talking about? 859 00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:40,880 Circadian or circadian? 860 00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:41,880 Circadian stop. 861 00:35:41,880 --> 00:35:42,880 Oh, circranium. 862 00:35:42,880 --> 00:35:43,880 No, I said it wrong. 863 00:35:43,880 --> 00:35:47,880 You were being a brat and I continued with what I said. 864 00:35:47,880 --> 00:35:49,880 And I believed you. 865 00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:50,880 I know. 866 00:35:50,880 --> 00:35:51,880 Circadian. 867 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:52,880 Thank you. 868 00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:55,880 The, the rhythm of waking up. 869 00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,880 I night you. 870 00:35:57,880 --> 00:35:58,880 Circranium. 871 00:35:58,880 --> 00:35:59,880 Oh my God. 872 00:35:59,880 --> 00:36:00,880 I'm dying. 873 00:36:00,880 --> 00:36:05,880 I'm dying. 874 00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:06,880 Circranium. 875 00:36:06,880 --> 00:36:11,320 I totally would have believed you if you were like, no, you idiot. 876 00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:12,320 It's circranium. 877 00:36:12,320 --> 00:36:13,320 Yeah, mom. 878 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:15,320 I called her an idiot. 879 00:36:15,320 --> 00:36:22,120 Circranium is not even what I said. 880 00:36:22,120 --> 00:36:23,120 Moving on. 881 00:36:23,120 --> 00:36:24,120 Okay. 882 00:36:24,120 --> 00:36:26,920 You're supposed to have an alarm clock itself, like old school. 883 00:36:26,920 --> 00:36:33,200 Yes, but it like puts the sunrise in your room and that's how you should naturally like 884 00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:34,400 wake up type of thing. 885 00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:38,720 So maybe we need to invest in just like a regular alarm clock so that the phone can 886 00:36:38,720 --> 00:36:39,880 be in the room, but away. 887 00:36:39,880 --> 00:36:40,880 Right. 888 00:36:40,880 --> 00:36:43,680 And you wake up with something that's not going to emit radiation. 889 00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:44,680 Right. 890 00:36:44,680 --> 00:36:46,920 You know, it's not a, it's not a bad idea. 891 00:36:46,920 --> 00:36:47,920 Yeah. 892 00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:48,920 And you can try all these things. 893 00:36:48,920 --> 00:36:52,720 It's never a perfect plan, but we got to get, I feel like we got to go back because 894 00:36:52,720 --> 00:36:54,800 something's got to change. 895 00:36:54,800 --> 00:36:57,480 It's getting worse and worse. 896 00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:02,600 The last one is take a break from the screen every 30 minutes, even at work, if that means 897 00:37:02,600 --> 00:37:06,000 get up to go to the bathroom, if that means to get up and get some water, if that means 898 00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:08,320 to get up and take a walk around the office. 899 00:37:08,320 --> 00:37:13,200 I mean, it's easier at home because you can get up and do whatever you can get up and 900 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:18,680 make yourself a snack, but they say every 30 minutes, give your eyes and your neck and 901 00:37:18,680 --> 00:37:19,920 your back. 902 00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:20,920 That's not the rhythm. 903 00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:22,320 That wasn't the rhythm of the song. 904 00:37:22,320 --> 00:37:24,040 So I approve. 905 00:37:24,040 --> 00:37:27,520 Give it a break every 30 minutes. 906 00:37:27,520 --> 00:37:32,640 So those are ways that you can slowly help yourself from getting out of this hellhole 907 00:37:32,640 --> 00:37:37,480 of the iPhone or screen that we are in right now. 908 00:37:37,480 --> 00:37:42,520 Having said that, researchers have said, and we will link the articles that we got all 909 00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:46,400 this information from, because it was really, really interesting, that for the past 10 to 910 00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:54,000 15 years, what's been challenging is limiting by, by limited, but I'm sorry, by going to 911 00:37:54,000 --> 00:38:00,400 the phone more, we are limiting face to face contact, which is causing mental problems, 912 00:38:00,400 --> 00:38:02,960 mental illness, all of that stuff. 913 00:38:02,960 --> 00:38:05,000 Are you having a mental problem right now? 914 00:38:05,000 --> 00:38:06,760 I'm having a cognitive problem. 915 00:38:06,760 --> 00:38:08,560 That's mental. 916 00:38:08,560 --> 00:38:09,560 Crushing it though. 917 00:38:09,560 --> 00:38:13,560 But yeah, so that's been happening in the past 10 to 15 years. 918 00:38:13,560 --> 00:38:17,480 Mental illness has skyrocketed for all the obvious reasons. 919 00:38:17,480 --> 00:38:20,200 Yeah, it doesn't seem like rocket science. 920 00:38:20,200 --> 00:38:21,200 No. 921 00:38:21,200 --> 00:38:22,200 Social media. 922 00:38:22,200 --> 00:38:23,200 I mean, come on. 923 00:38:23,200 --> 00:38:28,840 One of the advice tips that they said to do is follow your friends. 924 00:38:28,840 --> 00:38:30,240 Follow what they're doing. 925 00:38:30,240 --> 00:38:31,240 Don't follow celebrities. 926 00:38:31,240 --> 00:38:34,880 I know it's hard, but celebrities aren't real life. 927 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:39,880 So especially for the younger kids that don't know that that's not real life, they suggest 928 00:38:39,880 --> 00:38:42,200 that they only follow their friends. 929 00:38:42,200 --> 00:38:44,880 Celebrities aren't even in charge of their own Instagrams. 930 00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:45,880 Right. 931 00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:46,960 And influencers and stuff. 932 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:53,180 So if you have a child in their teens or younger or even for you, just follow people 933 00:38:53,180 --> 00:38:55,720 that you know because they're posting. 934 00:38:55,720 --> 00:39:01,720 Hopefully, I mean, everybody's posting fake stuff, but it's way less than celebrities. 935 00:39:01,720 --> 00:39:05,840 No one's trying to sell you stuff and just have them follow people that they know. 936 00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:06,840 Yeah. 937 00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:10,480 And that's like a safety tip too. 938 00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:11,480 Yeah. 939 00:39:11,480 --> 00:39:12,480 Yeah. 940 00:39:12,480 --> 00:39:21,760 Well, to quote my buddy, Princey P. Oh wait, hold on. 941 00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:22,760 Prince. 942 00:39:22,760 --> 00:39:23,760 It's from 1999. 943 00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:24,760 Oh my God. 944 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:25,760 1999. 945 00:39:25,760 --> 00:39:26,760 Ancient. 946 00:39:26,760 --> 00:39:30,120 It's from the 1900s. 947 00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:38,440 And it was when like right, 1999, we had computers, but it was like just the precipice of what 948 00:39:38,440 --> 00:39:42,880 was about to happen in, you know, Y2K that we all thought we were going to die. 949 00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:43,880 Ugh. 950 00:39:43,880 --> 00:39:44,880 Stop. 951 00:39:44,880 --> 00:39:48,040 And he said, one thing I wanted to say is don't be fooled by the internet. 952 00:39:48,040 --> 00:39:52,480 It's cool to get on the computer, but don't let the computer get on you. 953 00:39:52,480 --> 00:39:54,360 It's cool to use the computer. 954 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:56,280 Don't let the computer use you. 955 00:39:56,280 --> 00:39:58,320 Y'all saw the matrix. 956 00:39:58,320 --> 00:39:59,680 There's a war going on. 957 00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:03,320 The battlefield's in the mind and the prize is the soul. 958 00:40:03,320 --> 00:40:04,400 So just be careful. 959 00:40:04,400 --> 00:40:05,640 Be very careful. 960 00:40:05,640 --> 00:40:06,640 Yeah. 961 00:40:06,640 --> 00:40:08,760 I mean, come on, Prince. 962 00:40:08,760 --> 00:40:09,760 Yes. 963 00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:12,360 He had some, he had some advice. 964 00:40:12,360 --> 00:40:17,080 I mean, if you really, really think about that, it's so true. 965 00:40:17,080 --> 00:40:18,520 Don't let the computer use you. 966 00:40:18,520 --> 00:40:19,520 You use the computer. 967 00:40:19,520 --> 00:40:20,520 It is an asset. 968 00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:22,680 It is not life. 969 00:40:22,680 --> 00:40:24,320 It is not a piece of you. 970 00:40:24,320 --> 00:40:25,320 Yeah. 971 00:40:25,320 --> 00:40:26,480 That eventually takes over. 972 00:40:26,480 --> 00:40:34,240 It's every like robot movie where they end up taking over the world and humanity dies. 973 00:40:34,240 --> 00:40:39,840 Like that's relic living in it in a small way and it's about to get a lot bigger, I think 974 00:40:39,840 --> 00:40:45,280 with AI, but in any case, I think that we lived in a generation where we didn't have 975 00:40:45,280 --> 00:40:47,480 it and now we have it. 976 00:40:47,480 --> 00:40:49,800 This generation has only had it. 977 00:40:49,800 --> 00:40:50,800 It's very different. 978 00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:53,640 So it's scary too because they don't know life without it. 979 00:40:53,640 --> 00:40:56,320 We know what it was like to not live with phones and computers. 980 00:40:56,320 --> 00:40:57,320 We're the last generation. 981 00:40:57,320 --> 00:40:58,320 Yeah. 982 00:40:58,320 --> 00:41:02,680 Little did we know our childhood would be the last childhood of innocence. 983 00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:03,680 Yeah. 984 00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:05,280 That is so sad to think of too. 985 00:41:05,280 --> 00:41:09,840 And it's also, it should catapult you into trying to figure out how to get some of that 986 00:41:09,840 --> 00:41:14,920 back, not only for you, but for, you know, for the next generation and for the kids. 987 00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:20,440 I think that there are more people that think the way we think. 988 00:41:20,440 --> 00:41:23,680 It's just very hard to act on it. 989 00:41:23,680 --> 00:41:24,680 Yeah. 990 00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:25,680 You know? 991 00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:34,120 Well, because if you don't and you quote unquote go off the grid a little bit more than the 992 00:41:34,120 --> 00:41:37,240 norm, you're out of the loop. 993 00:41:37,240 --> 00:41:38,240 Right. 994 00:41:38,240 --> 00:41:39,240 You're out of the loop. 995 00:41:39,240 --> 00:41:40,240 You miss things. 996 00:41:40,240 --> 00:41:46,720 You are not obviously in with like what's going on in the world and you're kind of looked 997 00:41:46,720 --> 00:41:49,240 down upon because you're now weird. 998 00:41:49,240 --> 00:41:50,240 Right. 999 00:41:50,240 --> 00:41:55,280 And you have to have a strong mind to go against that and not care and go against the grain. 1000 00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:59,600 And I think there are a lot of people that do do that, but do do. 1001 00:41:59,600 --> 00:42:03,600 But there's definitely a piece of societal pressure. 1002 00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:04,600 Yes. 1003 00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:06,400 Especially on kids too. 1004 00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:13,560 I feel like I could go off of it and it wouldn't be a big deal. 1005 00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:19,400 If kids go off of it just like, you know, my nephew who's going to college, it's like 1006 00:42:19,400 --> 00:42:20,640 he's out of the loop. 1007 00:42:20,640 --> 00:42:23,180 That's why he needs it. 1008 00:42:23,180 --> 00:42:24,680 But you don't need it. 1009 00:42:24,680 --> 00:42:26,720 But you need to be in the loop. 1010 00:42:26,720 --> 00:42:30,520 No, but as a 15, 16 year old or you feel like you do. 1011 00:42:30,520 --> 00:42:33,440 Well, the world is very small at that time. 1012 00:42:33,440 --> 00:42:38,200 So I get, I mean, I can understand it looking out of that. 1013 00:42:38,200 --> 00:42:39,200 It doesn't matter. 1014 00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:40,200 You'll be fine. 1015 00:42:40,200 --> 00:42:41,200 Right. 1016 00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:43,480 We walked home from school and we said goodbye to our friends. 1017 00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:49,040 And if we were having a rough day at school with the girls, because girls stink at like 1018 00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:50,920 fifth, sixth, seventh grade. 1019 00:42:50,920 --> 00:42:54,520 We got to not think about it from three o'clock on. 1020 00:42:54,520 --> 00:42:57,640 But like now it follows them home. 1021 00:42:57,640 --> 00:43:00,760 These mean girls are in their bedroom because they're on the phone. 1022 00:43:00,760 --> 00:43:05,840 You know, so it's very hard and just like him, he was like, I wish I didn't have it. 1023 00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,200 And that's like, they don't want it. 1024 00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:15,600 So just like, I'm going to try to just not give it to her and see, see how long I can 1025 00:43:15,600 --> 00:43:17,640 stand it or how long she can stand it. 1026 00:43:17,640 --> 00:43:21,080 Keep their childhoods, a childhood as long as you can. 1027 00:43:21,080 --> 00:43:23,840 So we're going to leave you with this. 1028 00:43:23,840 --> 00:43:28,120 It's a little bit scary and depressing, but I it's very important. 1029 00:43:28,120 --> 00:43:32,560 It's a little bit funny. 1030 00:43:32,560 --> 00:43:36,280 In 2016, this was pre pandemic, right? 1031 00:43:36,280 --> 00:43:38,000 Pre pandemic 2016. 1032 00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:44,320 A U.S. study found that people who spend more than seven hours per day on screens are four 1033 00:43:44,320 --> 00:43:47,600 times as likely to be diagnosed with depression. 1034 00:43:47,600 --> 00:43:49,720 That was in 2016. 1035 00:43:49,720 --> 00:43:52,800 And that was seven hours a day diagnosed with depression. 1036 00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:53,800 Look where we are now. 1037 00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:54,800 I know. 1038 00:43:54,800 --> 00:43:55,800 Yeah. 1039 00:43:55,800 --> 00:44:02,320 In two majors, a study found that the suicide rate went up 56 percent. 1040 00:44:02,320 --> 00:44:03,320 56 percent. 1041 00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:04,320 Mm hmm. 1042 00:44:04,320 --> 00:44:05,320 In 2022. 1043 00:44:05,320 --> 00:44:07,320 Yo, 56 percent. 1044 00:44:07,320 --> 00:44:08,600 56 percent. 1045 00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:09,800 Because what are they doing? 1046 00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:10,800 They're online. 1047 00:44:10,800 --> 00:44:11,800 They're looking at things. 1048 00:44:11,800 --> 00:44:13,000 They're figuring out how to do it. 1049 00:44:13,000 --> 00:44:17,680 Number one, if I were a kid at that time, I wouldn't even had to know. 1050 00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:22,640 Like I wouldn't have had the ability or awareness to know how or what suicide was. 1051 00:44:22,640 --> 00:44:25,760 I didn't know what that word was because we didn't have to look at it on our phone. 1052 00:44:25,760 --> 00:44:29,720 But now people are giving tips and tricks on how to do it. 1053 00:44:29,720 --> 00:44:30,720 Yeah. 1054 00:44:30,720 --> 00:44:33,760 There's a trick to do anything and everything in this world. 1055 00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:35,960 So 56 percent rise. 1056 00:44:35,960 --> 00:44:38,880 So that it's just so sad. 1057 00:44:38,880 --> 00:44:40,800 And that just I'm just pointing that out there. 1058 00:44:40,800 --> 00:44:44,280 I hate to leave you with such a depressing thing, but that's how serious it is. 1059 00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:46,400 But it's yeah, it's very it's real. 1060 00:44:46,400 --> 00:44:49,200 So it's it's not only real. 1061 00:44:49,200 --> 00:44:59,520 It is imperative that the small change you can make in your own household with your unit 1062 00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:04,320 needs to be done because one house at a time can can definitely help that statistic, hopefully 1063 00:45:04,320 --> 00:45:05,320 lower. 1064 00:45:05,320 --> 00:45:06,320 Yeah. 1065 00:45:06,320 --> 00:45:07,320 Oh, that's horrible. 1066 00:45:07,320 --> 00:45:08,320 I know. 1067 00:45:08,320 --> 00:45:09,320 It made me sad when I read it. 1068 00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:12,120 I was just like, this isn't what I want for the kids. 1069 00:45:12,120 --> 00:45:14,920 This isn't what I want for anybody's kids, not just mine. 1070 00:45:14,920 --> 00:45:15,920 You have feelings. 1071 00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:16,920 I do have feelings. 1072 00:45:16,920 --> 00:45:19,240 This is what I want for myself, either. 1073 00:45:19,240 --> 00:45:21,120 I don't want to be scrolling. 1074 00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:24,480 I don't want to be looking me scrolling. 1075 00:45:24,480 --> 00:45:27,480 They hated. 1076 00:45:27,480 --> 00:45:28,480 Right in dirt. 1077 00:45:28,480 --> 00:45:31,040 I don't know the middle part, but trolling. 1078 00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:36,800 But I like the pause that you took because I didn't know that. 1079 00:45:36,800 --> 00:45:37,800 Right in dirt. 1080 00:45:37,800 --> 00:45:41,400 Do you notice how low how much lower our voices got? 1081 00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:42,400 They see me rolling. 1082 00:45:42,400 --> 00:45:45,640 You can't do it up here. 1083 00:45:45,640 --> 00:45:49,040 Oh, well, we hope you've learned something. 1084 00:45:49,040 --> 00:45:58,520 You were shocked and alarmed and really passionate enough to make some sort of difference in 1085 00:45:58,520 --> 00:46:02,040 your own phone and habit. 1086 00:46:02,040 --> 00:46:08,080 So yeah, there's really nothing else we can say about this. 1087 00:46:08,080 --> 00:46:09,080 Take this in. 1088 00:46:09,080 --> 00:46:15,600 Do one of the things that we suggested and see if that makes your day a little bit lighter 1089 00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:18,520 with, I feel like, bogged down on the phone. 1090 00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:22,120 Maybe that's what you meant, bugged out or bugged down on the phone. 1091 00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:23,120 That was a long time ago. 1092 00:46:23,120 --> 00:46:24,120 I know. 1093 00:46:24,120 --> 00:46:25,120 That's the first thing you said. 1094 00:46:25,120 --> 00:46:26,600 I think bogged down by the phone. 1095 00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:28,000 You are not a slave to your phone. 1096 00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:29,880 You are not a slave to the computer. 1097 00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:31,840 So take back your control. 1098 00:46:31,840 --> 00:46:35,600 I'm going to try and do that too because I don't want my kids to think that the phone 1099 00:46:35,600 --> 00:46:37,120 is more important than them. 1100 00:46:37,120 --> 00:46:38,120 Yeah. 1101 00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:39,520 I think that's the most important thing. 1102 00:46:39,520 --> 00:46:43,480 I'm going, my thing is going to be buying an alarm clock, putting my phone on my bureau 1103 00:46:43,480 --> 00:46:50,160 away from my head and hoping that I said alarms correctly. 1104 00:46:50,160 --> 00:46:59,200 So with that said, per usual, we hope that you remember you are always fit to be real 1105 00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:10,200 and always allowed to be a little extra. 1106 00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:13,440 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 1107 00:47:13,440 --> 00:47:15,240 educational purposes only. 1108 00:47:15,240 --> 00:47:17,440 We are not healthcare professionals. 1109 00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:21,520 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 1110 00:47:21,520 --> 00:47:26,600 professional in your life, your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, 1111 00:47:26,600 --> 00:47:28,320 whoever it may be. 1112 00:47:28,320 --> 00:47:32,160 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know it too. 1113 00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:40,160 Okay?