Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
We're doing a hot girl check-in.
What, what?
What's that from? BH1 or MTV?
Hot girl check-in.
Well, we weren't allowed to watch MTV, so I'm going with BH1.
Yeah, I don't know.
Mom actually got the channel taken off of our TV.
MTV. Because of Beavis and Butthead.
Yeah.
We live a very sheltered life.
We're doing a six month check-in to be more accurate.
Six month check-in.
There you go.
What, what?
It is July.
It's the beginning of July.
So we have now gone through the six months as an entirety of June.
That's crazy.
Of 2024.
I feel like we were just here talking about our goals.
Well, it's weird.
Like January, to me, feels like two years ago.
Like think of Christmas and New Year's Eve.
Yeah.
I can't believe we're in July.
Like it happened really fast.
I feel like just yesterday we went on our cruise, like our family cruise.
And that was in April.
April.
Yeah, no.
April was a very long time ago.
I think that was three years ago.
Yeah.
That's, and that's, time is a weird thing.
Time is a very weird thing.
And I think it gets weirder as we get older.
There's that saying that I know I can't remember exactly how it goes.
That says the days.
Wait, it's a very famous saying.
The days are long, but the years are short.
Did we hear that one?
The years are flying, but when you're in it, it seems like 16 hour days.
We're doing our check-ins of our new year's intentions and goals.
And hopefully you're just like that and you haven't done it.
Because that's kind of where we are, but we want to talk about it because I feel like
that's really normal.
I feel like six months flies by and you think you're going to do all these things and you
have the intentions and you start out really strong and then it fizzles out.
And we talked about that in our new year episode of talking of how to even figure out what
kind of goal you want to set.
I also, we're going to go through some questions to ask yourself so that you don't, if you
have fallen off of your intentions or goals, that you don't fall off for the next six months
as well.
I'm Victoria.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
Oh, that was very felt very normal.
Did it?
Yeah.
Okay.
Well, I think for all of the goals that you wrote down, that's the only one that stayed
the same.
Was keep saying my name the same way.
And louder.
Yeah.
I had two goals in my mind that I wrote down and I only stuck to one of them.
So for me, your mind personally, wait, wait, what?
That's a win-win because I've never really stuck to any of them.
So to stick with 50% of them, I consider a win.
Okay.
Well, my first one, I'm going to tell you the one that is not coming to fruition in
the first six months is I want to take my kids to Disney World, but I want to pay for
it solely by myself.
I don't want Andrew's help.
I don't want, I don't remember talking about that.
I never, I didn't say it out loud.
Oh.
That was my goal.
I was like, by the end of the year, I will have saved up my own money to take the kids
to Disney World.
But we have to get paid for that.
Yes.
That happened.
Yeah.
I remember your one goal was, was about finances with Seafit or something like that.
So that was all tied together.
Yes.
I was like, I want to be able to afford this alone by myself with no help.
And if you said it out loud, it would have worked.
It would have happened.
But I have not yet started to save.
So we're six months in.
I have, have you started to earn?
No, I haven't started to earn or save.
But that's the thing.
I didn't write it down on paper.
I wrote it down in my mind.
So therefore I feel that could have been one of the problems because we talked about that.
You have to write it down.
You have to keep writing it down.
You have to write it down repeatedly.
Yeah.
And, you know, maybe that's why it didn't work for me.
I did the right down, but I only lasted.
Let's look.
Oh God.
From January 2nd, 2024 to January 29, 2024.
Hey, that's a good long time.
Not consistently within that timeframe.
Okay.
Listen, I, these are hard goals, intentions.
They're hard to stick to daily, but I think they're hard if you don't really want them.
Well, that's not true.
No, that's not true.
Because I did want these.
Yeah.
And I really do want to do that.
I think that's really important for me to be able to take my kids on a vacation that
Andrew didn't have anything to do with.
Maybe you don't pick up a vacation that's going to be $25,000 to $30,000.
I know.
But I just, you know what?
I remember mom working all those bar mitzvahs and bat mitzvahs and like she did all those
side jobs.
She could afford Disney for us.
And I was like, I can do that.
Yeah, but it was different.
Mom did it.
I can do it.
But it was different.
I think it's a different cost now.
Yeah.
And even if you want to go into like the equal out what the average cost was back in the
nineties versus now, it still wasn't even close to the percentage of what it is now.
I know.
I just feel like that I want to do that for me.
And maybe it won't be Disney.
Maybe it'll be something else, but I want to pay for a vacation or something that I
want for the kids all by myself.
And if that means I just have to take out a credit card and just put it all in the credit
card.
No.
Maybe that's how I bypass the savings.
No.
There's always a loophole.
Because then, you know, and just going to have to help you with the debt.
And then like, I don't know.
But I will have filled out the paperwork for a credit card all on my own.
Oh, stop it.
She's painting a horrible picture.
She does a lot on her own.
Here's the thing for park passes.
Yes, 70s a long time.
I don't know if you would bring your kids.
Yeah, that's a long time.
But you have five people unless you're ditching Andrew.
Wait, I said I wanted to take my kids to Disney all by myself.
But even then that's still four and they don't do like, oh, under this age for Disney.
It's like, you know, this is what it is.
Yeah.
This is what it costs for a day pass to one park for a few hours.
It's like insane.
Yeah.
That's all post COVID.
It was not like that pre COVID.
So go to the beach for a day.
All right.
So there's nothing wrong with changing or manipulating your intentions a little bit.
Adapt.
Why are we manipulating our intentions?
Are they tricking you?
Are you tricking them?
Manipulating.
You know what I mean.
I know exactly what you meant.
I meant changing in a good way.
To me, that's manipulating.
Oh my God.
But I think that's what the six month check in is for, is to reevaluate.
That's really what I wanted to say.
Whipping out all the big words.
Yeah.
Re-evaluate.
I think you're manipulating us.
That's clear.
What you have set for yourself, is it working?
Is it not working?
Clearly, it wasn't working for me because I never started.
But we had said that.
You have to write them down at the six month you check in.
And it's just something that you're like, I actually don't care about this.
Right.
There's no point in pursuing it for another six months.
Something that was so important to you.
January 1st, 2024, it could be irrelevant right now.
And right now it is because that's not on our radar right now.
You could start now for the six months getting into 2025.
If you really cared about it and was like, okay, I just didn't give it the priority that
I wanted to, I still actually care about this.
This is now your January 1st.
I think I care about the point of it.
Maybe Disney's not the thing, but I care about the whole picture of it.
Maybe that $30,000 Disney trip could just be a second car for your family of five.
No, I love asking you and mom for your cars when we need to.
That's a really fun, fun thing that we do.
The best is that you don't actually ask.
You just suffer and then afterwards tell us how horrible it was.
And we go, hey dummy, why didn't you say anything?
Didn't know about the struggle.
No, because we can usually figure it out.
It's when we can't that I'm like, hey, can I use your car?
You're like, he's going to pick me up.
I'm going to walk to this spot at this time.
He'll pick me up off the street.
Hopefully I get in the car.
Then we'll go drop this one kid off, but then immediately turn around and go back and get
that one and then drop the other.
It's like insane.
That is not a priority.
A car?
Meh.
We're not car people.
You should be.
You absolutely should be.
Call it a Disney trip.
Every time you get in the car.
We'll just call it the Disney car in the fast pass.
Oh, no, you drive with me.
You know I don't do fast pass.
Victoria yelled at me yesterday because I was going too slow.
My God.
She's backing out of her driveway and her car was 14 miles away and she was like, I'll
wait.
I was like, why aren't you backing out?
That car has not only ample amount of time to stop said car and give you enough room
to pull out.
I mean, no, that's pretty much it.
She was so angry and I live on a main road and the back of my car has my kids in it and
that's what's sticking out.
So I take my time pulling out of my driveway.
There was no difference from having not one car around to that car that was 14 miles away
for you being able to pull out.
Which that Austin powers at the end when there's the big machine in like the storage unit and
Austin powers is like, no.
And he's putting his hand out and it's like a mile away and he just is saying no for like
10 minutes.
She was like, this is how I pull out of my driveway.
It's my driveway.
I was like, my God, you're so annoying.
I'm teaching your children how to drive.
I was like, Victoria, go sit in the back and I'll stick my car out onto the main road.
You sit in the back.
I could have gotten out, gotten into the car that was 14 miles away and you still wouldn't
have pulled out.
So I don't even want to.
Okay.
We're not car people.
Moving on.
You suck.
Well, that was a question.
Because I did not expect you to say that.
Okay.
All right.
Well, then we'll move on to one of mine.
Okay.
That I did succeed at.
I'm continuing to succeed.
Congrats.
Go you.
I'll tell you what I wrote down because I did write these down.
So remember we did it via long term, medium term and short term of the same goal.
So each goal should have been broken down that way.
So the long term goal, it just is healthy.
My medium term was six months, June 2024.
Oh God.
And my short term goal was food and like my, what I had to focus on was food and fitness.
To attain the health.
So the health for me was ridding or minimizing my carpal tunnel.
Yes.
Which you did.
Which I did.
Yeah.
Riding or minimizing my Achilles tendonitis.
Did we do that?
Which I did.
I don't think about my foot.
Yeah.
I think about jumping up and down, but I stretch more.
So I think that's why I don't have the.
Yeah.
When you have that, we've talked about it.
It's like a shooting pain that goes up to your leg.
Horrible.
And it like feels like, oh, if I do that one more time, I'm going to snap it.
That's how close to the edge it is.
And it hurts.
I mean, it hurts.
Close to the edge.
We're trying not to lose.
I like how you did that.
That was a choice.
I didn't know the words before close to the edge.
So I had to start there.
It's almost like you say things and then your brain goes, oh, you're saying this out loud.
You should probably keep going.
Do you know what you're doing?
Oh no.
My brain is constantly saying you should stop.
But I ignore it.
Like everything else.
Continue.
You succeeded.
Okay.
And then lose 40 pounds by 2025.
That was the long term.
I gave myself a year.
I was going to say that's a lot.
Now here's the deal.
My medium term for that was that I would be down 20 pounds by June.
And technically that's that happened.
What happened?
I didn't start in January though.
I yeah.
My 20 pounds was long after January.
So it wasn't a consistent thing from January on.
I am at that point.
I'm at my halfway mark.
But does it matter?
You still did what you said you were going to do.
I don't know.
No.
I just wanted to be truthful of like this wasn't something that I clicked the switch
on January 1st and consistently.
It took me, I wrote it down for the entire month of January but I didn't start that in
January.
Yeah.
You know, it really does matter if it clicks in your brain.
Because you can write it down for 29 days.
But if something's not right up there it's not going to come, it's not going to happen.
And it didn't.
So you, but you did it though.
And you lost your 20 pounds by June.
And now you've got six more months to lose another 20.
And what you just did in three months you now have six months to do.
Right.
And I, once you, once you consistently do anything for three months it becomes habit
and routine.
Like I won't be turning that around just because I've hit my halfway park.
Some people maybe that will happen.
But that's not, that's not going to happen here.
That's not going to happen here folks.
It's not going to happen here.
Honestly because of the, the actual physical issues that I was going through.
I mean it was so bad.
She would cry every day because her wrists hurt, her fingers would go numb, her heel
hurts, her shoulders hurt and it all relates to diet and like the stress you're putting
on your body.
And weight was so bad.
We couldn't take days off.
So she wasn't helping herself by taking a rest day.
She didn't have a rest day.
So it was, it was horrible.
And then it was the mental health factor of it where because of the no rest days and
having to be in front of people while feeling like that.
I was messed up.
Yeah.
I do want to put out there.
It is a very big struggle when you don't feel good about yourself to get up on a stage
with mirrors and be in front of other people with a smile on your face.
And then stand next to Carly.
No.
She was jumping up and down like an insane person going, my heel hurts too.
I'm in pain too.
I was like, I'm going to throw, I'm going to kill you.
That is very, I'm laughing, but it's so hard and it's so true.
I mask it a little different than Victoria does.
She mask it.
No, I mask it at all times in general.
But Victoria was in so much pain and it mentally and physically and it's very hard.
It's hard to watch and it's hard to be like in it.
It brought my whole thing brought you down and I knew it was happening.
Yeah.
There's nothing I can do about it.
No, there isn't nothing you can do about it.
And it was just, you know, it was the nature of the beast of I think the career that we
have had.
Had I got to work from home remotely, done it like quarantine, I was wishing for quarantine.
I know.
Because that's how we got healthy the first time.
Yep.
Yes, we were doing videos.
So like, I guess we weren't alone.
I actually am going to post one of our first videos before we both lost a lot of weight
because not just to say, be like, Hey, look at us now.
It's to help other people see that it's possible and you can absolutely do it.
If you click on that thing in your brain to say, Hey, listen, I want to get healthy.
We were able to do it in front of people on it.
That's extremely hard to do it while people are watching.
We had no events to go to.
We had nobody to see in person.
Like it was an ideal situation where others might have felt isolated.
We felt like, yes, this is our time.
We can really get healthy and not have to deal with anybody else.
So it depends.
But I was wishing for it the past entire year, 2023 into 2024 when it really got really
bad and then from January after until or until it clicked.
So then once it does, it does.
But I know she wore a bathing suit on the cruise for the first time and I was very proud
of you.
It was horrible.
No, it was not.
I'm looking.
No, it wasn't.
It's okay.
It's totally okay.
Carly doesn't like to admit it.
I thought you look great.
Oh my God, it was horrible.
Look back at those pictures.
You're not.
You don't let people take pictures of you.
So we don't have any pictures.
I've got 12 on my phone, so I'm not sure what camera you were looking at.
But it was one of those things where I was like, if I don't accept this like this, I'm
going to ruin another vacation for myself, even though the first one we went on, I looked
at me.
Oh my God, I was looking at that cruise from like last two years ago.
Yeah.
Two years ago being like, what were you upset about?
You idiot.
What's that?
I love bringing up quotes that I don't actually know the words for.
This is a good episode for that.
But it's like, I wish I was as heavy as the first time I thought I was heavy, which was
I was not heavy.
Yeah.
It's not that quote at all.
I don't think it's even close to that.
But you get you get my drift, but you're on the right track.
But I agree with you.
But yeah, so I wore the bathing suit.
I had to buy a few.
They definitely didn't fit.
I felt like a fish out of water.
I felt like everyone was staring at me, but I but I did it.
And it also was the switch that I needed because I got home and I was like, I'm done.
I'm done.
Yeah.
I keep saying I'm done.
But I'm done, done.
And I was done.
You were a fish out of water because we were on a cruise.
So you were a fish moving on.
Okay.
What was the one that you actually succeeded?
The one I succeeded and it sort of goes along with Victoria's, except it was the opposite.
I wanted to work out less.
And I have definitely succeeded in that.
I have worked out so much less since January than I did the past five years.
I was in such a, what's that called?
I had blinders on.
And I was like, this needs to happen.
And then I got, became addicted.
And then the addiction was like, I was working out like three hours a day.
Addicted to working.
To working out.
Yeah.
Like hard.
Yeah.
And what's that meme on Instagram?
All those influencers are always like, I was doing six hours of cardio a day and I was
eating zero calories and I don't, don't understand why I wasn't losing weight.
I was like, that was me.
That's every, every person that gets into fitness and like loses a lot of weight does
this thing where you over exercise until you realize, guess what?
That doesn't actually work.
And now you're overdoing it.
You can't sustain it healthily.
Yeah.
For you, it turned into like a mental issue, not a physical issue.
Oh yeah.
And then it turned into our friend Christina, who's our Pilates teacher, the other day about
it and just how like it's a blessing and a curse because yes, I am very healthy and
I, you know, I love to work out and like lucky that I get to work out for a job, but at
the same time I lost weight and now I can't get that out of my head.
I always must look or feel the way that I felt went at my best.
And it's like a constant hamster wheel of like, I need that all the time.
Yes.
It's like, it's a quote, your best.
It wasn't healthy.
Right.
Like that's the kicker.
But that's all a mental thing.
So once you can stop and I did, like I was looking and I told you, and I told everybody
this, I wanted to spend more time with my kids and my family because I was spending way
more time working out or thinking about what my next meal was or like when we go away,
and can I work out on our trip, then I was like sitting on the beach and watching my
kids play.
I mean, if I can be candid and if not, we can cut this.
No, you can be candid.
We tried to intervention with you.
Yeah.
Like, which sounds really aggressive.
We just try to talk to you.
No, that's true.
I think an intervention is the right word.
And you were not having it because shock and Carly did not receive that well.
I don't know why.
I was just alarming that she did not receive it well and that isn't what actually did it
anyway.
No.
It changed nothing.
Because nothing people will say, and I was saying this to Christina at the pool, she
was like, Carly, look in the mirror, look at you in a bathing suit.
And I was like, I hear what you're saying, but I, it's not.
Body dysmorphia.
Right.
It's body dysmorphia and it's nothing anybody else can say can fix what's going on your
mind until I fix it in my own mind and I, and I said, January, that's going to start.
And I've been slowly cutting out workouts by the week.
Like definitely I spend way less time working out.
I joke, but it's totally true.
And I mean, I have, I've gained, listen, I said this the other day too.
I've gained five pounds.
I know nobody can tell.
I can tell, but I don't care.
And that would have been huge for me just like last year.
I would have been like six months ago.
It would have been a detrimental don't talk to me until I lose it again.
And like I, my body is different right now than it was last year.
And just like we were talking about in Gail's podcast, when she was saying like I'm 40 and
I'm going to go through pre-monopausal and stuff that happened five years ago, doesn't
work for me anymore.
And I'm feeling that way too.
Not, I mean, I'm 38, but like things that I did to lose weight five years ago is not
working for me right now.
And I, because I overdid it and I, I don't want to overdo it anymore.
Well, you, you were fine in the healthy way to do it.
And then you got so afraid of gaining it back that it turned into an unhealthy routine.
Yeah.
So I think, I mean, I see the difference, but we were very, very tumultuous together.
Oh yeah.
Yeah.
Because Carly would send her 27th workout of the day and I'd be like, I hate you because
I'm going to go eat more and I'm not going to feel bad about it.
Because my overworkout would make her feel horrible.
And so she didn't do whatever she said she was going to do or like, yeah, I totally
guess who knows what it was.
I totally get that.
And it was, yeah, it was, I guess it was, it was definitely one ended on my end of being
like, wow, this year affecting me.
I'm affecting myself.
No, it's not one ended because I always get affected when you're in a bad mood and me
working out.
Why are we laughing?
Because I was the one in the bad mood.
I know, but I am not affected when you're in a bad mood.
I'm like, get over yourself.
I know she does.
No, that's not what I mean.
I mean, like in my head, I was overworking out to mentally too.
Like it, I would listen to something so I would forget about what I had to do or like,
do you know what I mean?
So I would justify it by saying that's my alone time.
Like I don't need six hours of alone time a day.
You know, that's what I would say to myself.
So yeah, I think, shut up.
It is.
Yeah.
No, it's the same on two different ends of the spectrum of problems that we had within
ourselves in terms of health and fitness.
It was the same level of, hey, something's got to give.
Yeah.
And I just did two different ways.
I hope that helps people because I don't want anybody to be like, I can't believe you
think that about yourself when you look in the mirror because you look like that.
Nobody has the right to say that.
No, but I mean, except I said it to you every day.
I was like, stop showing me the belly you don't have while I can't fit into my clothes.
Yeah.
And that, I mean, this is what you guys don't see in the office and at our house.
But like, this is what would happen every day.
And then we'd be like, come on guys, let's go work out in front of people.
After we had just fought in the office and they were like waving to our people like,
hey guys, let's work out together.
We're fine.
We're very healthy in the head.
What a real Barbie workout video.
But I'm saying this because everybody has different issues in their head about how they
feel, how they look.
And just because somebody looks one way doesn't mean anything.
Like you have no idea what other people are thinking about themselves, even though you
might think they look great.
Like I have never, I never had body dysmorphia until I lost weight.
Yeah, you thought you were looking real good.
I know.
You thought, I think most of your life you thought you were amazing.
I did.
And I said this, I keep bringing up Christina because we just had this conversation.
But I was like, when I was super heavy, I was happy.
I had no idea.
It wasn't until I, after Dean that I was like, I do not feel good.
Like there's a not feeling good and also a feeling great about yourself.
Yeah.
I was very unhealthy.
Because it was a lot of ice cream and burgers.
But I look back and I'm like, I am smiling.
So like I didn't need to take 10 pictures back then.
I took one and done.
Now I need to take 30.
And I hate that.
You know, yeah.
The shift is horrible.
Yeah.
But the, the, you know, six months checking in, you've made the change.
You just have to keep going with that.
Yeah.
I have to keep not going.
Right.
I have to keep.
And I have to not stop.
I'm just kidding.
I'm dying because I'm dead serious.
We're genuinely laughing because we know how true this is.
And it is, it's our daily life.
And I think a lot of people can relate to one of us, if not both at some point.
Yeah.
It's definitely sensitive.
It's sensitive.
If you're listening to this and this, you know, touches a chord for you and it's vulnerable
for us to even say it because we know a lot of you come to class and think probably one
way versus the other.
Right.
So now you know, as much as we, as much as we preach the, you know, be fit to be real
and a little extra, we're a hundred percent serious.
Like there's, there, this couldn't be more real.
I look, I know, I look and I said to poor Christina, I'm just throwing our conversation
under the bus.
I can preach it all day long and tell you what you should do, what you, oh my God, that
you look amazing.
And I genuinely believe that because like we said in Maggie's podcast last week, how we
see you is not how you see you.
And I am not just saying things to say things like I genuinely believe what I say and what
I tell you to do.
I have a hard time believing it and seeing that reflection in myself like other people
do.
And that it's the same thing.
Yeah.
And I don't think it's just like, fake or, you know, anything like that.
It's just, you don't see you like other people see you.
No, it's always hard, especially when you're good at giving advice.
So I'm not talking about you.
Yeah.
I know.
I know we're definitely talking about you now.
But like when you're good at dishing it out and making other people feel good, it's,
that doesn't mean you can easily do it to yourself.
And I think everybody kind of feels that in some, whether it's business or creative way
or personal way, like everyone kind of does that like, oh, you can do that.
I'm really bad at that.
Yeah.
And it's like, well, no, you're not.
Right.
So it's definitely genuine if it's coming from people who are working on it for themselves.
That doesn't mean it's disingenuous if they're telling you, you know, on the opposite end
of it.
So what's that Instagram meme?
It goes, check on your strong friends.
Sometimes they're not okay.
So some intentions and goals we crushed or are crushing and some we didn't even attempt.
So right now we're going to do a mid year check in.
What, what?
Mid year check in.
What, what?
Six questions to ask yourself mid year to see how you're doing.
And you know, even if you want to move forward with the goals that you had planned.
So the first one is how are you honoring the goals you had for yourself at the start of
the year?
So you really have to think, I mean, maybe that means write it down.
Maybe that means, you know, how are you, how are you honoring them?
What are you doing to get like for me?
Like I wasn't doing anything to save for it.
Yeah.
Disney.
What's your follow through basically?
Right.
So I didn't honor them.
How dare you?
But you really have to ask yourself that question.
And if you're not, then either change it or move on.
Yeah.
The next one, how did you make space for joy and play in the last six months?
Move on.
So you really just have to, you know, what did you enjoy most?
You can even go down the list.
How did you want to prioritize your joys and play in the next six months?
If you haven't started doing that already, if you've noticed that, hey, I haven't been
going to those concerts.
I haven't, did I say concerts?
Right?
Yeah.
Did I skip a letter?
Oh, did you say it correctly?
I don't know.
Did you say it at all?
Yes.
Okay.
Did you go to those concerts?
Did you have two drinks and just let yourself have fun?
Right.
Or did you say, no, I can't.
I have X, Y, and Z. Here are the excuses.
Why not?
I've been trying to do that more.
So I would say, yes, I have been doing that.
I would like to do it more though.
And I know Victoria needs to do it at all.
I'm very joyous right now.
She's lying.
Okay.
How did you intentionally plan for and prioritize rest?
Because when you are setting goals and intentions, rest is super important because you can't
just go, go, go.
You can't.
Yeah.
And I would venture to say, if you don't have rest, it's going to be really hard to find
joy.
Yeah.
Because nothing's happy.
Nothing's, you know, feeling easy to do.
Yeah.
Like tired is tired.
Yeah.
So you really have to sit down and think, did I intentionally take days of rest or say
no to things that I really wanted to say no to because I wasn't, you know, getting the
rest that I needed.
You really have to ask yourself that.
Next one, how did you discover and integrate joy into your life in the last six months?
So how specifically?
There were ways that you might have wanted to like, hey, I want to do these things, but
actually sit down and write how you did it, what got you to those decisions, write it
down, see it on paper.
I think that's my biggest.
Yeah.
My biggest.
You got to visualize it.
You got to update that list because what happened last month is not going to be the
same as what happens this month.
So you just have to keep updating it.
And I think the key to all these questions is just like, move it along.
Just keep trucking.
Victoria is going to like question number five.
What rituals, I have a hard time saying that word, rituals kept you grounded over the last
six months because it says grounded.
So I knew you'd love that.
Just for the word grounded.
And you're grounded because you love things that are grounded.
I like when you're grounded and I mean confined to a room out of punishment.
I don't necessarily mean in the graph.
Well, because you know, I can't do that.
That's a good one because I think sometimes even with all of the goal setting and the
follow through, it's like, it's hard to, you just want to like do the list of things you
need to do, but you're not really like in it mentally.
So I like that check in.
So what rituals kept you grounded and when was it easy to use them?
Those rituals and when did you struggle?
Which is like meditation or journaling or writing things down to keep them in track.
Yeah.
Listing, going through your short term, medium term and long term goals.
Like stuff like that would be a ritual, not necessarily like it's a practice, you know,
rain dancing to the moon, you know.
Well, that's very you.
But yeah, it's the whole practice of getting done what you set out to do.
Last one you need to ask yourself mid year.
How do you want your life to feel over the next six months?
How do you want it to feel?
And I think that's hard.
Rushed, easy, enjoy.
I mean, nobody wants to feel rushed.
Well, I mean, no, not feel rushed, but like, is that how you feel now and you don't want
it to be the next six months?
Yeah.
That's what I was thinking.
And I think the mid, I keep calling it a midlife check in, but it's not.
It's a mid year check in.
Midlife crisis.
Yeah, I know.
Yeah.
I know.
The mid year check in is so good because it gets away from you.
Like just like we said, we can't believe it's six months in.
And if you keep letting it go without checking in and reevaluating or manipulating things,
then it's hard.
It'll be 2025.
And I know I remember saying, I don't want to wish that 2024 is over.
I want to say, man, that was a really good year.
Yes.
Man, I'm so happy it's over.
I can't wait till the next one, which is what we've been doing.
I think most people, most people do.
And midlife check in or midyear check in, I currently don't feel that way.
I feel like it's getting away from me, but I don't feel like it has been a bad.
You're wishing it to be over.
Right.
So I'm, I'm going in the right path, I think we're all very happy for you.
Thank you.
This is all about me.
So if you want to feel like Carly, you can buy it for $19.99.
No, you need to be a better way.
That's our infomercial line with our friend from New York.
Well, he's actually from here, but we used to say, there's gotta be a better way.
The number one selling point.
But you know what?
It's a great, it's a great point for your six months check in.
There's gotta be a better way if it's not working out for you now.
To find the better way and maybe that means just eliminating what you've been trying to
do and go in a different route.
So I love it.
Yeah.
And I like that you have to ask yourself those questions and especially on the last one,
you know, if you're not feeling it, what do you need to do to feel it?
You know, like you got to figure that out.
Yeah.
And if you haven't figured it out, figure it out.
Like surprise, I like that.
I like it because 50% of my two goals isn't working.
But you don't like feelings.
No, I don't like feelings.
I'm so glad you said it so differently.
I like feelings.
I just don't show them a lot.
I, you know, like I'm, I don't like feeling.
I'm upset.
No, I like them.
I just don't like to show them a lot.
I like that you just keep changing nothing when you speak.
I'm not grounded.
So you are not grounded.
Those are really good questions.
So play it back, write them down, check in with yourself, put them in a, you know, theme
paper or a journal and actually write it out.
Well, if you say journal to some people, they're like, that's too much work.
Just write it on a post-it and figure out what the answers are.
Yeah.
I love those mirrors that I see with post-its all over it.
I have them until people come over and they take them down because I'm like, get out of
my head.
Stop.
You don't need to know.
Well, I think we all know you're on a podcast where you tell us.
Well, one of my posts, it says, get rid of Carly sometimes.
You just shouldn't see that.
No, I feel it.
We're getting sidetracked.
We just wanted to raise some awareness of your own six month check-in, midlife check-in
crisis of how your 2024 is going because believe it or not, 2025 is around the corner
and that sounds wild to say, but it's the truth.
So, hunker down, hunker down, everybody, and really start to question yourself.
I mean, you've got to be honest.
You just have to be honest.
Yeah, that's it.
That's a feeling so sudden and new.
I felt the moment.
I laid eyes on you.
My pulse is rushing.
My face is reeling.
What?
Something is flushing.
What is this feeling?
My head is really flushing.
Oh, yeah.
My face is flushing.
My pulse is flushing.
My pulse is rushing.
What is this feeling?
Okay.
Well, that was wicked.
We ruined wicked.
So now we know how our 2024 is six month check-in is going.
Do it for yourself and then change your goals.
Keep them, reset them, update them, manipulate them, renew them, manipulate them.
And then get yourself into gear for the next six months because it could be a very, very
different six months for yourself.
So that's exciting.
That's exciting in the long run.
Yeah, do it.
It's change it.
But you know what?
It is scary to admit to yourself, I kind of failed for six months.
I failed.
I did.
Yeah.
I know.
We heard it.
Yeah, I have no problem saying that.
But me too.
But it's a, some people have a hard time admitting that to themselves in silence on their own,
let alone, you know, putting it out there on a piece of paper.
So you just have to be okay with that.
But know that if you do that, it means you're going to change something and that's a good
thing.
So we, we're going to sign off now.
We're putting it in your hands.
Yes.
Move it along.
Keep on moving.
May the odds be ever in your favor.
Godspeed.
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