Welcome to fit to be real and a little extra
And you're never going to believe
That this conversation was Carly's idea
You I agree with that. It was my idea and you will not believe it. Yeah, we're talking about energy and
It's not actually a topic that I am like gung-ho about but I'm starting to
Believe in it more Victoria's gonna make I know she's making a face. What not that
I don't believe in energy, but I've never been like
What Victoria says is like to me when we talk about like energy. It's like hippie-dippy. It's like very you and I'm like
Yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever
You call yourself hippie-dippy so I am hippie. Yeah, I disagree with everything you just said
You can't there it's not like a concept energy's not a
Concept I know it's science. Yeah, so
Yeah, and I'm starting to
Realize this so we went to a medium. Oh
That I believe it like a look that doesn't make any sense
Oh, I believe in all of that that doesn't make any sense because they are working off of energy
Right. Yeah, and psychics work off of energy. So you have to believe in energy because it's not a belief system, but
Yeah, I think with when we talk about energy
Like what's that saying your vibe attracts your tribe?
Like yeah, like that. I'm like very like
Yeah, about but I but as I as I get older I'm feeling that that's actually a thing
Maybe not the phrase your vibe attracts your tribe, but like yeah
But the the people that you what did mom used to say with us when we were little you are who you hang with mm-hmm
That's the same thing. I I know yeah, it's the exact same different phraseology
I took it as a negative when we were growing up because that was mom's way of telling us like if you're hanging around bad kids
You even if you're not doing bad things you are associated with them that makes you bad and
So surround yourself with good people
That you know will keep you out of trouble basically, but that was that was such a negative to me
I was like mom leave me alone. I want to hang with whoever I want to hang with but now I get it
Right. Yeah, your vibe attracts your tribe. It's the same thing. Yeah, like you are who you hang with and that I can get
wrap my head around a little more than like
Surround yourself with the energy. I
Think when you sit down and think about it you think it's like
So overwhelming and and so heady to think about that you're just like I whatever
But you you use it all the time. Do I lose it?
I don't think you found it yet
But you use it all the time if I would go on dates that I was like I am I know this is not right
You'd be like you have to go in there being excited about it and then you can see from there
It's the same thing. How if I go in being negative. It's gonna be the worst negative experience
Well, yeah, if I go in being positive then it might not be something I want to do again
But it'll be a good time. Yeah, that's true. And that's like your number one way. I said that to you. I'm so
Good to you. Oh
So good to you. I need a new tribe
But so that's what I mean though like you
You can get behind this and you well first of all, you don't have an option because it's science
But you can get behind it because you do believe it if you break it down in little ways as a whole
I think you think it's like hippie-dippy, right? That's I think we gotta break this down
We're gonna rock the town what show what movie?
Everyone around
It's a good thing we were born into this
Because I don't think I would choose to be your tribe
It's the descendants so
Oh, get behind that and that's
I'm just kidding mom. I'm just kidding relax. Yeah, I'm so upset. She's texting me right now
So yeah, we are talking about energy
how energy works in terms of
When you meet new people when you are feeling
Gloomy and down all the time or if you're feeling up or when you walk into a new place or the law of
Attraction right we'll break that down
it's basically
Exactly that phrase that I cringe at your vibe attracts your tribe and I think you're what you put out there is what you get back
Wait, but I don't see that phrase on any t-shirts or memes because you said it a little rough, but it's true
I would like that on a t-shirt. You are what you get back
Just put like a cute font on that and I feel like that would sell send it to Darrell if you know you know I
Don't know Vanderpump rules. Oh god. Okay. Let's get into it
I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. That's some real energy right there. I
You always have the energy but yeah, but we've talked about this before it's not fake energy. I
Am certainly not a happy. Hey guys, it's Carly all the time at all
Actually, my family would probably say I'm the complete opposite. So the energy that I put it out there when I'm at work
It's still my energy, but it's not that is not me all the time because I don't think anybody can be
Like that all the time. No, no, no
If you're at that level
From morning noon tonight with every single person in situation you go through then you're lying to yourself
Yeah, you're definitely lying to yourself
I know what you mean though because I think everybody has that misconception when it comes to us at
See fit because we have to be yeah
There's a mix of you have to be because why would you want to come to a dance fitness class with the most miserable?
Instructor like why would you continue to show up for that? Yeah? Yeah? Yeah?
And also so there's a piece of that when we really don't want to do it
Yeah, you got a you got a force that positive energy on yourself and then you start feeling it right and then the second part to that is
That it is your energy. It's not fake. You want to have a good time
You want the people that are coming into your space to have a good time?
So it's quite literally the law of attraction. You are putting out what you want to get back
You want them to give you a good time as well? Yeah?
Good time my god
So that's the energy where you're like, but it's I it's not fake. It's not fake. No, that's why it's you
But that doesn't mean it's you all the time right right on the off time
Your monster
I would say that when I walk in the door my kids would be like that's not
You're we're getting two different people here you like the see fit work mommy and the you know at home
It's like get your homework done. Hurry up. We're late two very different people
Um, but also the same person but two very different situations true debt. You're not trying to
Get everybody in your class to put their backpacks on at the same time and get out the door
That could be a workout though. We just getting ready for fricking school is a workout
Yeah, we should we should look into that new concept coming 2025. I think door the explorer might have done that before
We
Pack
But anyway, you you said it before but I want to do a Victoria deep dive. What is the law of attraction? Oh
Like attracts like is a simple way to put it that would be on the t-shirt. Okay, right like attracts like
So one's thoughts determine their reality
Say it again
She blinked and she did this head nod like she was trying to look for the thought and it was you couldn't find it
It was blank attracts blank. I did not get that one
So your thoughts determine your reality. So we've said this before the the red car theory
You think about a red car you're gonna see red cars everywhere. So if your thoughts are
self
Decrating self doubt full of fear completely intrusive thoughts and anxious thoughts that are that's who you embody
That's who you are. That's what you're gonna attract
Right, you're gonna attract all this negative stuff to you because all you're putting out is negativity
So it's your vibe. I hate that we're gonna say this hour. I honestly hate it your vibe
Attracts your tribe and that doesn't necessarily just mean people and the people that you hang with you're going your tribe in that phrase could represent
The opportunities coming to you in terms of your career your job or the relationships coming to you in terms of romantic or friendships or just
The type of energy that you sit with alone on your couch at the end of the night
Could that be could karma be wrapped up in that?
Like you put good karma out you get good karma back
Or yeah, I mean it's all connected. So karma like the biggest phrase for karma is like karma's karma's a bee
Yeah, I can't believe you can't even say it. Well, I don't I feel really bad when I have to put the
Like contains explicit content because you said the B word. Yeah, whatever karma's a bitch
and
That is like not true karma is fair
Karma's fair because karma is reacting to the response or responding to the reaction that you're having in the world. Oh
If that makes sense
It does make sense. I I'm trying
Desperately to think of and I hope I will by the end of this episode. I'm good think of a different phrase for your vibe attracts your tribe
I don't know why I have such like a visceral reaction to that phrase
But I think it's cuz it's so popular or it's popular and it's very like
gimmicky and tick-tocky so it just feels like cliche. Yeah
me the people that you hang out with are the ones that
You should be with no no your vibe
Your energy what you what you decide to be who you decide to be in the world is what?
Will be what will you will attract to come towards you? Yeah, so if you are a giant ball like an e-word
You're gonna attract yours into your life
Don't ever pillage if you want a good village
That one good no
That is nothing to do with anything. Yeah, you want a good village around wait
I am gonna side note for a second and tell you that a
Funny story has to do with Carmella. I know you guys are all shocked by that
But at my wedding shower
my mom our mom stood up and did a speech in front of like all of our family all of our friends and
You know, she's really great speaker and
She said I
I just want to thank you all for touching my child
You all put your hand on my child and you touched her and I want to thank you that thank you for that
You've been touching her since she was a little girl and I could not have done it without you all and we were all like
And I remember everyone just like falling on the ground laughing and my mom had no idea why everyone was laughing
But the way she phrased it by everybody had a hand on me since I was a little child
She meant she had a very good village took a village. It took a that's what she wanted to say
It took a village to raise just Carly just
So true, but instead she said thank you for touching my child. Oh my god. It's so school rock
It's very school. You know the movie school of rock with Jack Black
That is Carmella. Anyway, that was a side note. I'll never forget that. So yeah, you will
Misread and misunderstand every phrase
Due to your genetics
All right, so we were let's bring you back into the wheelhouse of what we're talking about I want to do
There ain't no party like an S Club party Victoria is not feeling great today and you can tell it in her baritone
My energy is low in my sore throat. So I sound
like the vibrato of Vicki I
Was gonna say a little Marvin Gaye ish
Let's get it. Oh my gosh. I know I actually didn't know if I'd be able to do that. You're very close
Okay, I said you will
We're gonna go back to karma real quick
I was just like ferociously scrolling through Instagram because I know I saved a quote that made so much
sense to explain karma karma is a bitch. Oh
No, honey
Karma is a classy wise elder that will calmly sit you down and serve you a tea
You later realize was laced with the same poison you served others for years
Boom that makes sense. Yes. That's karma. So so it's not a bitch. It's like this is yeah
I'll serve you put out. Yeah, I'm gonna give you the same thing
I'll serve you either good tea. That's what you've been putting out or I'm gonna serve you poison tea
Cuz that's what you've been putting out, right? So positive or negative. Yeah, and I just I've saved that because I was like that is
The only way to describe karma in terms of like everybody can understand that's not heady or hippie-dippy
You know what I mean? Yeah, that makes so much sense, right? Yeah, that makes so much sense
so the law of attraction one's thoughts determine their reality is
is
Basically, you're manifesting you manifest your life you manifest and the word manifests is where everyone's like, yeah
Me too. Yeah, your eyes just like like glossed over. Yeah, you're like, oh
You lost me
So when it comes to the law of attraction
there must be intention to focus on positive thought and
That will create more positive energy thoughts for emotion to be applied. I
think
This all takes work just like everything else in life. You can't just be like I wish that's a wish. Yeah, I wish for
Good, I don't know. Give me something a million dollars. I wish for a million dollars and then do absolutely nothing
Right to try to get the million dollars the intention and the focus on the positivity of it is part of the law of attraction
However, there are steps to take
Because you have to create action
So you have to when it comes to manifesting
It's not just a wish. It's believing that you already have a million dollars
Right because if you believe you already have a million dollars then you're going to take the steps to
In your visualization keep the million dollars which really in action in real life is is the steps to make a million dollars
There it's total. It's a mind game
It's a head it's a head game that you have to play with yourself
And there was something that I read recently that I think is
Good for this but also you could tell me if it does not apply at all which it could totally not apply at all
But it said everything you have right now you've wished for yeah
So even though you're sitting here saying I want this still I want this still I want
You know more more
Everything you have at this moment right now is something that you dreamt or manifested or wanted for yourself
Previously without like
Obsessing over it right to realize that you got what you got what you wanted
So like sort of be happy and like take a second and just say oh, yeah, I did in
Victoria's words
Manifest this at one point and now you're going now you're trying to get
Something else or more or whatever it is so and I thought that was really cool gratitude
Yes for what you have and what where you are right now in the present moment and that will bring you more abundance
These are some words that yeah good words
All right, I've got another one that makes a little bit more sense to the law of attraction as well
And we're all we're gonna tie this into your energy in terms of what you can do daily
in a second
So everything in the world is made of particles of energy, which is why when you're like
I don't know if I believe in it. Well, you can't not believe in it. Sorry. Do I sound like that? Yeah?
I don't know if I believe in it. Yeah
That's what you sound like when you say stupid things
So if the world is made of particles of energy and
Each one of those particles
Vibrate at a different frequency because energy is basically vibrations of frequency
So like you vibrate at a specific frequency I vibrate vibrate the goal to
Kind of move up in the ranks of like I'm gonna say another word that you don't like enlightenment like being
you know the conscious being that you are is
Is trying to vibrate higher in the frequency. So that's my like your vibe your vibration your vibration
It's not just like a cool trendy word. No, so your vibration attracts your tribation
That doesn't go so well
I want that t-shirt, okay
If we all vibrate at different frequencies when we send out positive thoughts of gratitude and abundance
Which vibrate at a specific free frequency?
We'll attract that positive energy into our lives
We'll attract that frequency back into our bodies into our minds and then that creates the world which which is the reality
That we thought about why thoughts determine our reality
Which you have to put into action. Would you have to put in that? Yeah
But it's frequency and well I have a tip on how frequency can help you clean your energy right now
Well, I think what we'll get there people misunderstand or just choose to ignore is
You can't put out negative energy negative
Talking to yourself or to others and then expect positivity back
It doesn't happen. Oh, no, but I think that's what people think like you can't talk badly
and gossip and just constantly
Just the negativity is like a thick shield and then expect people to give you good positive energy back
It is a wall. It's a negative. That's an impossible. Yeah
But I think people think that yeah and don't get us wrong
Negativity is a part of like you have to have the negative in order to have the positive or else positive wouldn't exist
If there was not one negative thing one negative thought or just the word negativity
Positivity wouldn't be a thing. Mm-hmm. So you it's just like yin and yang
Dark and light you need the other to create the one like you can't have one without the other am I yin or yang?
That was a legit question. Oh, yeah, you can't but see you're both. Okay, that's what I literally just said
Sorry my vibration you are more young. No, you're more like movement and like change and
And yin is a little bit more chill. So I would say you need to balance your your yin up a little but
You can't yeah, you can't you know, we can't eliminate negative
We're not trying to say you can't have a negative thought ever
No, just like we've always said you need to feel all of the emotions. So you can't
Move past anything without being in the moment and feeling them even if they're bad or right unhappy or
Negative you have to feel them and move on right. You just don't want to be doing that 24-7
Well, because then you're not letting them flow through you're just
encompassing the negativity or you are
Embodying that's the word I want embodying. Yeah the negative depression
For all intensive purposes, I understand that get out of here. All right talk us through
The ways that you can change your energy
All right, let's do that
One little helpful tip or not even a tip just something that you should be aware of
When you're living in a negative headspace or you feel like you're emitting all this negative energy
What you have to do is change the tone of your thoughts and that is
very easy to say and
Not easy to do well, that's the law of attraction. That's basically a different way of saying the law of attraction really just like you just
Gotta change your thoughts
Yeah, you have to put you have to put the positive you want and the positivity out there for you to get it back
So you have to change the tone you know, I like the way that said has changed the tone of your thoughts
Because if you just say change change with the way you're thinking. Yeah, it's like well, that's nice
We've said this in our New Year's resolution or our New Year's intention episode
You just have to put the a different spin on it instead of saying like I don't want to feel so negative or something
Something really hard is coming up at work and I don't want to do it and I can't do it and blah blah blah
You just have to say I know what's coming up is going to be very challenging and so I that's okay
Now I'm gonna make a list of how that I can overcome the challenge
So you just have to put a different spin not even a positive spin just a spin on it so that it's not so
Down and so impossible. Yeah, just put it a little spin
Should be spin it. I'm doing it with my hands. It's your she's like a dreidel
She got like a dreidel in her hand. Hmm
It's so basically don't allow yourself to wallow in pessimistic
Thoughts spin it. Oh my god. I am cutting you off
Speaking of cutting off. Oh my god cut off. You're welcome negative influences. So if you
Find the attention and the awareness that the people surrounding you even if they are blood related
The people that surround you in your day-to-day life are negative influences. They bring about those
Constant negativity they go to the negative first before you can find the positive thought in the moment
They gossip all the time. They make you feel bad. You leave them and you're like wow
I just feel really drained heavy. Yeah, and heavy cut them out cut them out as harsh as that sounds to say you
You your life deserves
Way more than making them feel okay by not cutting them off, right?
Is it that yeah, I mean I think sometimes you can't help you you can't help other people's
Vibration get higher. I mean I'm thinking that no rooms of people
Understand like everybody wants to move to the next level right? Don't you want your vibration to be higher?
Everybody wants that you can't help somebody else do that. You can only help yourself exactly so exactly so then
With that tip you expand your circle
So you find people that are aware of that because if you expand your circle you find like-minded people that are not
100% positive all the time, but they're not that negative heaviness that you cut out and they give you that balance and they're also trying to
They're also trying to get into that headspace of raising the vibration. I
went to New York this weekend and I
Anytime I'm in a new place or a new city or I'm in a city for a wedding or just any anything
I love to try fitness classes that do what we do because I want to see
How they do it and if I can learn something from them
I went to a class this weekend that I was had been looking forward to because I've been watching them online for a while
Since we moved from New York
Their energy was so
How do you say palpable
Tentagious, how do you say it in English? It's contagious. I
Read somewhere that if you can't find the right word you say, how do I say it in English?
I would like to know what language you were trying to say it in wait. Did it work? Oh
Wait, I don't know the English word for it, but you can't say that when you're speaking English
I know, but I thought I'd try I feel like you have to say it. How do you say it in Spanish? I don't know
But you say it contagious in English
All right, so it didn't work for me, but their energy was so contagious from moment one that I was I was just it
Instantly put me in a better mood
Instantly and I was like, I don't even care what they do their energy is so great
you know and
It affected me like their energy and that's what made me even think about this because I was like their energy affected
My energy Wow
Wow, what a concept. I was like, oh god, I can only hope that we do that to other people
That is our sole purpose. We say it in a different way that makes Carly feel comfortable. Okay, of
That it's you know when it comes to see fit and what we want is we just want people to feel good about themselves
We want them to walk out feeling different than the way that they walked in. Yeah, it's that we want our high
inclusive positive energy to
Rub off on our clients in class so that they leave into the world just feeling better
And even for 45 minutes and that's what one of the teacher there were two teachers and I told you reminded
Me of us because there were two of them and they were like going crazy
And it was so fun and the last thing she said was I hope you feel better walking out than you did walking in
She's like that was that was our goal that you feel better and I was like I do yeah
And it was nice to not be the teacher and have them affect me instead of me affect
Them you know what I mean? Well you weren't in charge right and it just it was crazy to me
I don't know it's like an eye-opening thing that their energy affected me and the rest of my day
I was like oh my gosh, I could take all get anything right now, which I think even goes farther past that feeling in that moment in that day
Because I think it's gonna change how you teach now
Yeah, I want to give you a little bit of momentum
Yeah spice up how you're feeling when you get to the same job you've been doing now for how many years type of thing
So we do this Carly doesn't wear off and because Carly travels a little bit more than I do where she tests out other
Fitness places and other classes and not in our area because we know what we do only SH it well
You don't travel in this area. So when you travel you leave this area. Hopefully
traveling isn't down the road, but
Yes, so she tests them out some of them you don't have that experience a lot of them. I don't
Yeah, I you know, I wouldn't have done it this way or I just it didn't feel like high energy
like we'll talk about it and then sometimes we're like okay, but so I like how we do it because it just like gives us that
circulation a little bit of
Momentum to either pat ourselves in the back and be like this is I really stand in how we are and yeah how we do things
But like this weekend when you went and you were like, oh my god, you have to go you have to take them
Yeah, they're so good. This is amazing. I feel like
It changes how you approach your day-to-day job now because you end it with a little bit more happiness or you know
Something like that. Yeah, I think it's a continual learning thing like I know Victoria and I constantly are
Trying to be better at what we do. I hope everybody does that in their job
But we we want to be better and we want to bring everybody
The energy that we feel that they should have and I I enjoy that when I take somebody's class
And I also enjoy when I it doesn't go like I expected and I don't love it as much because just like you said it gives me a
Little bit of justification that what we're doing is there is a good thing and then what we have is a good thing
But I I do love learning about other people's ways and how other people do it and we will never stop learning
I mean, we've been doing this now for I don't know almost 20 years. Yeah, and
We will never stop taking class and we will never stop trying to be better
Because what I mean, why would you not well? That's part of raising
Your own vibration and frequency is knowing that you have not reached the top
Oh, we never will like you're we're not a master of
Seafit or fitness because it's constantly evolving and changing and
Everyone does it differently. So it's really nice to experience
And this goes for any job
We just happen to be in the industry that we're into but if you continually learn and
continually take other people and
And and see what you can get from them and it's not stealing in terms of like I'm going to do exactly what they are doing
Oh, heck no, this is my life now and I want to be them and da da da. That's the wrong way to go about it
That's where it gets into that like
It's actually not flattering. It's you're stealing. Yeah, you're stealing
but
If you can take it be like, okay
The energy of this is something that I really like why and you break it down to see how you can
either
adapt to become that type of thing that you're so longing to be or
Not or be like, you know, that's not the way I want to go. I want to know this is who I am
I'd like to be this way. We're kind of molding two different things and in terms of our industry and
What we find and energy because it's all connected and it's all the same
Listen, I am all about emulating good energy, but emulate is different than trying to be
Well, that's fake right and that's what we're trying to talk through it's it's you
You don't want to put fakeness out into the world. You want to truly embody?
Yeah, the good energy. Yeah, and and that's by
Surrounding yourself and with people that are I mean like-minded sure but also they don't have to be like-minded
They can just be like energy true, you know the frequencies are similar
Yeah, and you definitely I feel like we we try and do our best with that trying to surround ourselves just like our mom said, you know, you're
You are who you hang with and luckily our seafitters are like the coolest in the world
But it always is nice to go out and try and see what other people's energy is like and I I was surrounded by a room full of
Energy this weekend that I was like this is you know amazing and I want our
People and I want people that are in my circle to feel that because I want them to feel this good. I mean
You took that on a Sunday. You came back to it on Monday, and I was like are you okay?
We didn't take a couple days off you did are you good? This is a lot
So you definitely yeah felt something
Well go out and continue to learn if you if you feel like you've made it and you got that certificate
And then you stop learning don't do that. Yeah, continue to learn because you will never I know for us
We will never reach the top. We will always continue to learn in what we do and that's exciting. Yeah, that's really exciting
So another way we're gonna bring it back to where we were
We went on a tangent. Thank you for our Ted doc is
Is to embrace compassion and kindness and
That is basically that phrase of pay it forward
Right, it's the exact same thing of law of attraction
What you put out is so important and if you're gonna put out anything put out compassion and kindness and kindness is different than niceness
Whoa being a nice person is definitely different than being a kind person
So being a nice person is is that like smiling at someone come please? Yeah, and is kind the action word?
Yes, yeah, and being kind is fully embodying
Not just smiling, but I'm gonna hold the door open for you and I'm not gonna expect you to do it back to me guys
That's not why I held the door for you, right?
Like that's the the deeper version of kind right being nice is wonderful. There are nice things that we can all do
But being a kind person is the action. Yeah, right?
So being thankful is an is being like oh, thank you. That was nice of you
But being grateful and having gratitude is a much deeper feeling, right?
So if we can embrace that that is a huge way to change the energy in your own field
Which we just sort of touched on the next one is cultivate gratitude
Which basically means to practice it like we said in the beginning this is this is work
You don't wake up and just feel the joy and feel grateful
You need to like being thankful is one thing but the action word
This is how I took it is gratitude right you have to journal or you know say it out loud
Say what you are grateful for in the morning out loud
There's the action look at yourself in the mirror and be like I am so happy to be alive today
There I'm grateful for that. I did that this morning. I like opened my eyes the third time my alarm went off
Because I wasn't feeling great and I was like oh
This is one morning that I could like put this news on for a little bit longer
And so I did that too many times and then I finally had to get up
But I just open my eyes and I laid there and I never do that when I turn the alarm off and get out of bed
Yeah, because I
But I wasn't feeling well
So I opened my eyes I laid there and I was like oh you got to get up
This is gonna be such a long day if you already don't feel well like I started doing those thoughts of like yikes and then
With the way my bed's positioned I was looking out the window. Yeah to this gorgeous beautiful pink tree
And I was like wow the Sun's already out. It looks really pretty and it's only seven
That's good. The Sun is up like then my thoughts started to change and I was like, alright
Let's get out of bed. Maybe take a shower. You'll feel better. So then it just completely rewired
The steps of me quite literally stepping out of bed and starting my day, right?
And it just took one thought of wow that tree looks really pretty this morning. Oh the Sun. Oh, you know it was a
Avalanche I think people think it it's harder than it needs to be but that's yeah
That was basically going back to to one which is retrain your thoughts or just change the tone of you completely change the tone of your day
in a couple thoughts
The next one we're getting close to the end here is find your inner strength
So that has a lot to do with good energy. I feel like because insecurity is a it's like a weed killer
Yeah, you know like being insecure is one of the easiest things to be and
It is such a mood killer. Yeah, can it changes your life? Well, I think I think this is what you mean by weed killer, so
The weeds
Look at a garden or look at your grass look at mine specifically
You're like yours is just mud
So let's say that there is a yard of grass and then those weeds which
Do look deceiving because they're yellow, right?
They're dandelions and yes, that's a flower and I still look at them and I'm like, oh, they're so pretty
But technically that's a weed. So that's the same thing as our thought
There's a weed that pops up the dandelion popped up that's self-doubt a dandelion over here popped up
That's fear a dandelion over here that popped up. That's worrying about the future. That's anxiety a dandelion here is
Complete no self-love because you hate the way your body looks and you'll never change it and that so think of all of those thoughts
the weed killer is
everything we said rewiring your thoughts there's a spray that gets them to go away and then
Gratitude there's there's a couple sprays there gratitude's a big one
So that that gets them to go away a little bit and so the more you rewire and you you
Change your inner strength with each spray that you do to get rid of those dandelions and now you have a
Beautiful green guardian and every once in a while dandelion it'll pop up and that's inevitable
Yeah, yeah, you know how to spray it away with all of the positivity and all of the rewiring and all the gratitude I
Would love to meet somebody that has absolute. I don't think I have ever met anybody that has absolutely no
sense of insecurity at all I
The Dalai Lama, maybe yeah, maybe I mean everybody's got a
Dandelion or two not 20 some people I know have about 20 popping up all the time
Sometimes I do yeah popping up all the time, but I
The I think the goal is to have the least amount of dandelions in your garden so that be able to prune them
It's really just be able to yeah keep them in check keep them in check. Yeah, so do this when they pop up and you know
Just like anything else. It's seasonal dandelions pop up. It's seasonal and you have those good energy feelings too
Right totally takes them away from you
So the inner strength comes in with knowing how to manage life basically and that is just
All of these in a culmination of one tip. I know that was a lot. It was a lot. I know alright real quick
Here we go. We're almost there
Align your current self with your future self and already Carly is checked out
You don't know me because I don't know me I said the word align yep, and then I talked about the future and
One million percent correct we need a little
Fit to be real podcast words to not say so Carly stays in check here everything we've said so far well for today. Yes
Yeah, so align it really I mean come on. That's just
The same thing you said earlier you can't put negative out and expect someone to give you a hundred percent positivity
While you're just yeah, I'm down with like the worst of the worst
So you have to align if you are currently a negative person
You have to law of attraction style
Embodied who you want to be in the future even if you don't feel like it right now
We say it a lot fake until you make it so you make it which we don't want you to be a fake person and have fake energy and
But that doesn't mean that and until you make it until you make it exactly so you have to
You know if I'm an ear and I'm down and I have all of these horrible thoughts day to day every single day morning
Noon and night, but I really do want to be a different person next year
And I have those on my intention list for 2024 to 2025. I
Have to start I have to wake up and force myself to read
Affirmations of who I want to be next year, but start right now, right?
That's all that that means train training your brain
You're in training season. You are in training season to align your current self to be your future self
That's all that means. Yeah, well that you can get behind that I understand right that
makes it
Understandable wonderful
I'm the bar. I love it. Well, how do you say it in English? I
Understand it
Last one I'm telling you I read that somewhere
Act in good faith. You need to treat everybody you meet with kindness
There's like Victoria said there's one thing
But being nice
it's another thing to act on it and
You basically have to act the way you want to be acted upon
I mean, that's that's basically what that is. I
I think I got that nice and kind
Concept now that what you just said just kind of brought it back
I heard it on a podcast and I actually don't remember who so sorry, but
Nice is California
Mm-hmm kind is Delco is New York City
Hold on which sounds completely wrong because New York City is like the harshest
People right why is so they explained it that nice is what you'll get in California. It's a bunch of facade
They're gonna they're gonna be real nice to you. Yeah, they're gonna tell you what you want to tell you would yeah
It's Hollywood type of nice. It's and that's of course if you are from California
This is a general statement an explanation and I think this is more geared toward like LA
Yes, I would say California
Where it is a lot of you're gonna be nice to get what you want and to go to the next step and it's yeah
It's nice. It's definitely a version of being nice, but it's not deep down. It's not kind you go to New York City
And there's some of the most harsh people they're gonna yell at you from across the street
They're gonna tap the cab because it went into the crosswalk and they're gonna yell profanities
But they're gonna save you
Mm-hmm when the bikes going too fast and they're gonna pull you out of the way because they don't want you to get hurt
They have absolutely no idea who you are. Mm-hmm. They're kind and that and I was like oh my god
I've never I lived in Manhattan. I never thought of kind, but that's true
I would I mean it a manhattan a manhattan or yeah, okay a manhattan night
Yeah, I would trust a manhattan. They're very tasty
A New Yorker I would trust it
How you saying English I mean New York is pretty good. It's not just Manhattan Queens district, right?
It's a New Yorker that that's where the kind comes in and that is trusting in good faith, which is exactly what you're saying
It's trusting where somebody that you don't know on the street. I would trust that they're gonna help you a good smaritan
Yeah, do the kindness of just
Hopefully someone would do that back to me, right? Right thing and not acting in good faith is also
acting
With that good energy and not expecting it back in return doing it because that's just what you do and that's how you feel you should
You know emit that energy but not at all expecting it back, right? I read something about
Wawa
You're gonna laugh and I know I bring this up a lot, but Wawa will never get automatic doors
because
Wawa
Stands behind people pulling open doors for other people when they're holding their coffee or their stuff
They will never ever get automatic doors for that reason. No way, huh?
If you ever go to a while
Notice that people hold the doors for you and you hold the doors for them and that's just what happens and it's not a surprise
No, but in the parking lot parking. I'm gonna run you down
Parking lot is a different story
So those are just some ways and we took a lot of long scenic routes to finish how much
Tips how many tips there are to well
There's a lot of good energy out there and I did want to talk about one
Trend on tick tock. Okay. There's a trend about what color person you are
Yeah, I want to hear about which is about your energy and the energy you give out determines
What kind of what color you are?
So I want to find out
What color Victoria is
It's really interesting that you say that
Because I'm gonna know I'm blue
I'm a blue person, but I'm gonna read
I didn't realize that you could determine somebody's whole life through a color, but here you go, okay, Victoria
Are you ready? Yes, you are black
for sure
It reveals that you are a strong willed determined confident independent
Wrist-taker kind of individual you can also appear serious intimidating
Authoritative both at work and as well in relationships
You are conservative individual who exudes mysteriousness elegance intensity dignity and politeness
Your appearance shows that you are in total control of your reality. However, you could be quite insecure on the inside
You make bold moves, but not in anticipation of being praised
You do like attention, but you are often envied for your lifestyle
At work you have an uncanny ability to make anything a success and you are always on to the next big thing
You would hear to professionalism and you will try to do everything by yourself
And you have a hard time asking for help and you rebel against authorities
career choices actor actress entrepreneur
Key traits you are a strong will determined confident
Emotionally guarded an ability to make anything a success and independent
So this tiktok on trend you pick your favorite color and it you are supposed to be attracted to
You know what makes you that color and I thought that was really interesting. What's blue? What's blue?
blue
Doesn't know vocabulary in English blue
It reveals that I look for meaning and significance in life and
You have a need to care encourage and contribute to your surroundings and your relationships and you want to feel authentic
But it is a little bit hard for you
You value integrity and unity in relationships and I have I am a natural romantic
I enjoy nurturing people. Yeah, and as a child I saw recognition and were quite sensitive to rejection
Oh, I know right all because of a freaking color, but they think they know me I
Have a difficult time adjusting to
Yes things out of the ordinary and I'm a highly imaginative. Yeah, I am constantly in a quest to discover myself
Wow, I know it's not crazy at work. I am systematic
Analytical and attentive to details. I'm sorry that I am not you are good at motivating and communicating ideas with people and I tend to offer
Guidance and have a positive influence on others. Oh my god. Yeah. Yeah, I'm good at resolving conflicts between people or not having conflicts at all
It doesn't say because I try and avoid them. Yeah, I don't like them. Yeah, and I'm happy to help and nurture other
People my career choices teacher social worker
healthcare and the arts
Don't ask her the arts
Yeah, I think social worker. I that's all the service industry though. So like yes
I am attentive my key traits are attentive to detail truly romantic and good at resolving conflicts
So I thought they were pretty spot-on. It's hilarious. I know but I just find it very funny that kids kids these days
Try and find their person through
true colors
So
What a see you
Like is that it is that all your goodness
So what is there like a compatibility color? Yes, okay?
Like you can have you I don't know what our compatibility colors would be but you can take these quizzes and and find out and find out
That's just another I mean that's like a horoscope and a zodiac sign
Yeah, I think that's just like the you know the RAM is
Connected to cancer you should marry a cancer and you know Gemini should marry a you know, whatever
I don't know I it's so much that was one that's like so overwhelming to me because there's so much information that like I want to
Know it but I but also it's like it is like reading your horoscope. It's
Not a hundred percent true, but it's so close that you're like, oh, that's gotta be real
But I do like that the younger generation is big on energy and
colors and
colors
love it
So really quickly all of this energy talk is all well and good
But what if you don't know how to get rid of the energy that you have right now?
Oh, and that's not just to say like the way to change your energy is everything we said before
But I mean cleanse and protect yourself daily from energy that you do not want to attach to yourself and or
Just want to avoid all together on your day-to-day
One is music. Okay, just listening to music can change your energy
Change the frequency that you're vibing at
mm-hmm and
That yes, you can play you know, it depends on the songs it depends on the music
You cannot put on hard harsh rap and be like I want to have a positive energy
Well, no while you're listening to like Eminem completely just like rip people apart, right?
Yeah, I just picked Eminem, but anybody like that
The only reason I'm saying one word answers is because I feel like if you are a person that that hypes you up
You might listen to Eminem, but the lyrics are very important. Oh, okay
So when it comes to music and listening all all together
Yes, there's songs that are like super exciting and we love but if you really listen to the words
Mm-hmm do this all the time with like the early 2000s. We're like, oh my god really please listen to this
They're saying these really really nice things. Oh my god
The words are really important when your goal and intention is to change your frequency
You have to take note of the lyrics because words are spells and
You have to take note of the music itself
The an extra tip for this is to listen to music. That's at a frequency of 432 Hertz
I know that sounds like what is that supposed to mean? Yeah, I don't know
It's a magic spell this kind of this specific hurt 432
It heightens your perception and promotes mental clarity
Western music where we are in the world we listen to 440. Oh
Eastern
Hemisphere Eastern music
432 really that's
Buddha that's India that's Tibetan singing bowls. That's crystal bowls. That's there's a specific hurts that
Absolutely can transcend you a little bit. So you can look up on Spotify or Pandora or Apple music
432 Hertz and it'll give you playlists of specific frequency
Western music though not so much which makes so much sense if you think of the world and how yeah, how things kind of mentally go
But moving on walk in the sunlight. We say that all the time. I don't know how else to say it
I'm believing it honest to God in English though. How do you say it? Well?
How do you say it in English? Yeah walk in the sunlight? I think I think that's it
I have been doing it more and
I think because I've that same thing we've been saying it so much that my brain is starting to listen
I'm subconsciously only took 62 episodes. No, and I'm like, oh I get I get why people do this. Yeah, I get it
Light vibrates at rates depending on color
So that's like infrared, you know when you go to infrared or saunas where you can pick the color while you sit in there light
Make such a difference and light means different things
So like yellow light will give you different vibrations versus green light or red light or purple light
I think the light from the Sun is like the biggest most
Right the strongest one
That's interesting. I think that's what the tiktok trend was trying like I think what the kids are trying to do is
Yeah, meet the light from the person like what aura color are you that I am connecting with
I think that's what that trend is supposed to be
crystals
Yeah, yeah, yeah stop scrunching your nose
Crystals I thought we could bypass this today. They vibrate at
32,768 Hertz whatever that means for you doesn't matter what it really means is that wearing certain crystals
Each have their own vibration
Or just having crystals around your home
It can change the energy around you. I wear black onyx every single solitary day
That's why you're black around my neck black onyx
protects me
from negative energy and
Storing other people's energy. You're gonna make fun of me. I have one in my belly button as well. Oh, that's right
You do you're gonna make fun of me, but
Kyle Richards on Real Housewives of Beverly Hills at the reunion was holding crystals in her hands during the reunion to protect her from
The other ladies. I'm not making fun of that. It's probably the smartest thing you've ever said about a real housewife. I
Support her I made fun of her but go ahead. I
Have an entire room dedicated to crystals and I need to sit into it more
Well, she also takes my daughter to crystal gem shows and melody is super into crystals
You're welcome
What move your body or your house, okay, your body move your body
Uh engaging your muscles creates positive kinetic energy
Exercise disrupts negative energy that has attached to your aura moving your body
Quite literally shakes off the the energy that somebody else may have imposed on you or is around you
And so moving your body and creating that kinetic energy in your muscles
Completely can eradicate
Which is why you go to a class with us at Seafit and you feel better when you leave because you have shaken off
Yes, all of the it's basically like taking a shower for your energy. Mm-hmm, which is why
before we started teaching yoga at
Seafit a medium told me I need to sage
Seafit regularly because of the energy that comes in the door because what happens is they're working out
They're ridding of all the negative energy and it's staying in the space and you're in the space so much
But and just like the space as a whole so people are walking in to that type of space
So now we do incense which does the same thing so we kind of cleared out naturally with yoga class. Thank god
But that's why thank god
All right, here's one that you're gonna absolutely hate and it's the last one
Creative visualization
That is a big piece of it people like Oprah Winfrey have done this who?
Oprah Winfrey, what's her name? Oprah Winfrey, but I thought you said okra winfrey. I was like I do love okra
No Oprah Winfrey Arnold sports and agar
I said that right. I know but the fact that you can't get these words out is great
I want to thank you all for touching my children
So a creative visualization
Is creating something in your mind that you can see and that you believe because that's what you're creating in your mind
I'm not making fun of this. I believe this no no no wait wait till I okay. Okay? Okay? So before you leave the house in the morning
I've heard of two different things one have a dance party
Not a long one. You don't put music on
Shake your body. It's actually a really good thing to do with with kids before you leave the house
You shake it up. Yes, you're running around forcing them to put backpacks on making them eat fast
Put on your socks. Hurry up. Hurry up before you leave the door
Do a little dance party
Be on your way. Yeah, it changes the vibration of how you're starting your day without having to be like
Okay, now children think of a thought in your mind like there's no time for that number one
number two
Maybe that's not who you are and that's like too much carly. No
We used to do it every single morning at my old house when Andrew would go to the train
Melody Lewis and I and Andrew would have a dance party to Hamilton
And that's how she learned Hamilton. That's how she learned the Skyler sisters bring it back
We had a dance party every single morning bring it back. Yeah, that's like a huge. We never did it with Dean
Sorry, why not? Yeah, I I forgot until you said that we had a dance party every morning
They said that's like such a great way to start with kids to before you leave the house and adults and adults
And the greatest showman we would dance the greatest showman in the morning. So
If you're not with child
I don't know
Before you leave the house take a few deep breaths
You can be standing at the door before you actually walk out of your home
close your eyes
And imagine a shield around you
So you're either putting yourself in
You know armor or a bubble around you and pick a color to represent this shield. So it's all again. It's all about light
So give it a color that makes you feel good that makes you feel protected, you know
Sometimes I do this some days it's pink which is shocking to me and some days it's like yellow
Which isn't so shocking to me, but I create a bubble. I don't actually picture myself holding armor or being an armor
I like can't go that doesn't make sense to me. Yeah, it's like a little too much
But some people need that like quite literal shield
And then three times to yourself or out loud, whatever it is
You say as I go through my day
This shield will protect me strengthen me and help light my way
You say that three times you say three times you walk out the door
and it's
I mean, yes, if you want to think of this as like super witchy, but like why not do that? Why not set yourself up for
Being protected so that things are bouncing off of you and then you don't actually internalize what somebody just said to you at work
And if that is all you need
To tell yourself that you're not going to take that personally or take people's anything personally. Why not do that?
I I'm not going to make fun of you for that. I completely agree
No, and I think that's really smart and if you think it's silly try it for a week
Right and see if it works right now. Nobody knows but you yeah, that was gonna be my real tip
Oh, really try it try that so I'm gonna change my real tip, but I really do think you should try that because
It truly in all of this why not?
End of end of it. Just let them why not let them let them let you come on melliar let them
I um just be
And I have such a hard time with people's energy
And taking it with me throughout the day taking it home to my own space
They say you should clean out your space when people leave every time you have a party
You should be staging your house and opening your windows and letting the energy leave so that it doesn't sit in your house
Depending on who was at your house and they say you should do the same thing for your car. Oh god
People that well, they're not saying clean your car from the crumbs because that's a different thing
That's just energy that I just do not have though. They're they're it's alive
your car is alive
but
Incense cleans out energy sage smudging your house cleans out energy and all you have to do there's no like magic
Oh, you have to say
You know these this crazy phrasing of a spell. No you say negative energy leave. Please leave my house spelly. Almost
Is that not okay?
That works too might make you feel better. It might make you feel better use a wand
But I would have trouble after seeing people on people on people and people talking to me telling me their bad stories telling me
How horrible life is telling me whatever it is like it's a million different things
It's not all the same, but I would it would stick to me like a sponge
Oh, I know
It still does but I have a better gauge on how to like handle it and some of it one of it
My therapist told me is in the shower, which I do every night
I wash it all away like it's a visualization of washing it away like literally in your mind. You're watching
As you're washing the emotions of other people or the whatever off
I stand in the water and I shut my eyes and she said envision the water. It's just like white light water
It's just white light and it's coming down and it is just washing and then when you look down
In your mind of all the water that goes down the drain. It's black
It's black in your mind. Yeah in your mind and it's I mean, I'm not that dirty
But it's you envision all the negativity all the stagnant energy everything that is not yours the problems
They return to the people that they are they're not your problems
I should do that and they wash away in the tub shower
And it's it's so easy to do shower. You should shower. Hold on
I thought we'd bypass that
No, I think showering at night is good for that. Yeah, um a morning shower
I should switch it to nighttime so that I'm a night shower. I do do that. Yeah
So that I do do that
How do you say in English? I do do that. I think that's french. I do do
But yeah, no, I think maybe just small changes like that
Make a big difference
If you're with a lot of people i.e
There's a lot of people in the community who are not really nurses that you're in and out of a lot of different emotions and energy
We're teachers with kids or college student whatever it is. You're with a lot of people. We are with a lot of people all the time
You're with a lot of people in one condensed time. Yeah, I don't do one on ones
And that's just as that's a lot of energy talk about energy
That's a lot of energy and you can tell when someone's coming in with like bad energy. Yes
Or leaving with good or whatever so even one on ones whatever it is
But I get affected by that because I know if somebody's coming and it's a bad energy
I freak out for days and I will tell victoria and she's like
She doesn't help me
I don't help you because when it comes to your business, what are you gonna do number one? No, no, she does
She was like you gotta stop. You gotta just let it go. Let it go. She's a big let it goer
And I'm a big hold on to it. Well, yeah, it's easy to say. No, no, no
I think it's easy to do if you do it
Like it isn't that hard to let go of those feelings or those emotions or that energy
If you get your mind right about it
You know what I mean? Like I tend to hold on to all that stuff
And it makes it so much worse and so much more heightened than it needs to be
I I hate
I'm like a hype man for myself in sometimes the wrong ways
But yeah, I think everybody
I think everybody has a piece of that into them
So me too when I when that happens or I know bad energy is coming or and that's not just at work
That's in my life
Yeah, like if I'm about to be around people or somebody that I'm not looking forward to or it doesn't make me comfortable
It's very hard to get out of that
energy feeling of like
Walking into bad energy. Yeah, you know, you're about to walk into it and there's nothing you can do
But there is something that you can do you put a shield on right you visualize a shield to put on and go
Nothing can touch me and then mentally that switches for you. But
And and yes, I do that now when I know I have long days of clients
And in between clients if I have the time and they don't come later come earlier
You know, give me the five minutes of peace. I have to
Brush the energy off of my body
Actually physically like I wipe my hands as if I have dirt on my sleeves and my hands
And I do it to my thighs and my legs and then I shake I shake my wrists
I shake my hands. Are you doing that? I shake my feet and what that's doing is it's expelling
Any energy that is attached to myself
Do you say expelliamos?
As you're doing it. I have a cape you could wear. I was I was balling for myself
That's another day you said expel I had to say it but you do you brush it off and
Weather and and let it be silly like I feel ridiculous when I'm doing it. I'm like really this is like a thing
But the more I do it the more I'm like, okay
I'm refreshed I'm me and I'm ready to take on the next person that comes in the door
And then I get rid of that person and then I'm like, okay. I'm okay. Yeah, I got this
I feel like the more you do it the more it becomes natural anyway, and it's not a thing in between classes
I would have to there was a time where it was really bad and I would go into the office and I would shake and people would come
In and talk to me. I'd be like, hold on give me a second
I'm trying to like shake off whatever and then go out and teach so that I can be me and not be other people
Right because you have so many other people's energy on you that you like don't it's like traffic like you don't know which way to go
right
It's like traffic but cars are hitting you
Like I'm at the crosswalk and I'm trying to direct traffic but they're just hitting me and then they're getting attached
And I'm like
cool
I'm now a transformer. I make fun of her a lot for all of this stuff. I really do like I
I enjoy it
It makes me laugh. I don't know if you remember but you're an empath as well. I yes, but I also
am empathetic to
Everything you're saying today and I'm taking it in and I'm soaking it in and I understand it and I will never
Stop making fun of you for it. It's not going to happen in my visual lease visit visual lesion
Sorry, I got to find the English word
visualization
And my manifestation I will never stop making fun of you
but
I do agree with what you're saying and I see how it does work and I see how it can make all of our lives better
If we just did a few of them at a time or one of them at a time or you know
Or maybe teach your sensitive kids how to do these things
Maybe that would help. Um, that's what your job is
Minds to make fun of them for it. Your job is to help them
Like the worst kind of empath because you don't want to fully admit that you are one
She is one. She is very different empaths can be different versions like Andrew's an empath. Yeah, but in a very different way
He doesn't he is a permanent shield
Absolutely, nothing can touch him
But he is completely empathetic to a lot of degrees that some people can't be empathetic to
And I think that's why you two match a lot because he
Touches on your empathy and then that's when you kind of wake up to be like, okay, right, right, right
but your empathy is the social worker in that color and the wanting to you want to put out good
That's your empathic
field
And Carly wants to put out good so much so that it's almost that sacrifice to herself and that's a very
Maybe that's the type of your your empatheticness
As the listener there's a lot of different ways you can be empathetic. My empathy
Is taking in take everyone else's issues and I had I known this as a teenager and a child growing up
I would have had a different experience in life because I never knew why I was so sad
Well, I can tell you why you had a sister that made fun of you for it every day of your life
You make fun of me. You would have had to talk to me to do that. That's true. I really hated me
But I think it's because you would try to be really like fun and happy and maybe I just like was gloomy
I honestly don't know I dissociated. I don't think I understood you
And I was like, why don't you like what I like and why aren't you doing what I'm doing?
But also don't do it with me because I don't want you near me because you're annoying
But like do what I'm doing
But just not near me
But then I would do it and she'd be like, oh, I have a little sister. Yeah, like, oh, she's freaking better than me
Stop singing. Just stop dancing and stop singing because you're better. Do it five years after me
Well, if you wanted to play that game
That's to show how different it is. Carly's. Yeah, Carly's empathy and Carly's talents
Or like what you would get mad at me for which I didn't know
Was what came easy to me, right? Technically and you had to work harder for me. Yeah, I had to work so much harder
And that I think
I don't even know how to word that that is the same in English. How do I say this in English?
The things that came easy to me that you're naming and describing are
Surface level uh-huh singing
Uh dancing dancing name all the things I'm gonna okay. Hold on singing dancing being confident
Going uh, well you acted confident
Um going for what you want and not caring what other people thought okay. Yeah, okay things like that. Yeah, super surface level
What Carly's good at that comes completely easy to her
is love
And that's hard for a really a deep empathetic person like me. What do you mean? Like I'm I'm really good at love
I feel like I have other attributes
You you have a lot of good I can say the 50 states in alphabetical order
You picked love. No, no. No. Oh my god. First of all, let's shut your mouth. Second of all, yes Carly's just naturally good at so many things
I can't wear situations amazing out of awkwardness. That is definitely what I'm good at
This is not to be awkward. You're good at love. You found love. It's a good thing
You're good at love. You found love. It's easy for you to be yourself in love
Right because Carly puts out exactly who she is
And doesn't take on somebody else's
Trauma or issues or or whatever so you being in relationship with not just romantic platonic
Family whatever relationship you're good at being authentically in love with yourself and also putting out what you want in your relationship
I just take it all in that I just want to fix things and I can't you're a fixer
I'm not good in love because that doesn't come easy for me. Right. So like way your
Way the pros and cons type of thing, right? Right. I would have liked maybe to be a better singer and dancer
But whatever, I mean that's everybody's different
Oh my god
I wouldn't mind dying alone
If I could just sing and dance if I could just belt to the high heavens like it was
You know a monday morning and it was no big deal
And you know whatever
But to each his own for all intensive purposes
Empathy is different for everybody. Some people have absolutely none. They're called narcissists
So everyone technically unless you are really really narcissistic has a version of being an empath or empathy
but some of the deeper
parts of the spectrum of it are people like me and it's
It's hard. It's hard. That's why you don't like big crowds too though. No, I don't I don't at all big crowds are are tough
I think we need to do a whole episode on empaths
And get and get somebody on here that knows
I'm more about it and can you know explain it to me
And I have to help Lewis. I have a few I have a few that's a good idea now that we've said it now that we're putting it out there
Yeah, and we are talking it into
The future it will happen. Yeah, okay, cool because I have to
My real tip for you do the shower meditation
And if I say meditate shower meditation, maybe that sounds like oh my gosh. No, I'm not doing that. I do the visualization in the shower of
Washing away the negativity from your day. It's a one day at a time type of situation
It couldn't take more than 30 seconds and it is
It's a reset. It's so easy and now for your real extra tip of the week. It's called
When in doubt dance it out. Oh my god
What that means is
Just like we said, I think that's an absolutely perfect extra tip
Try having a dance party with your kids in the morning or with your
You know significant other or by yourself have a dance party put on your favorite music
It will immediately elevate your mood and I know that we I used to do that when the kids were little but what we do
Now is in the car on our drive to school
We blast music and we dance and I had one of my little dancers come in and say
My mom saw you drive your kids to school the other day. I said, what was I doing?
She said you were dancing
And I was dancing because we're on like a street that has a lot of one-way traffic
So she must have been going the other way
I was going crazy dancing in the car and Melody and Lewis were
Completely embarrassed, but they were laughing. Yeah, we were having fun
Yeah, yeah, and so if you can't do a dance party in your house before you leave
But you have a little bit of a drive do a dance party with your kids in the car even if it embarrasses them
It's super fun. Look what that does
They I bet you they had a conversation in the car being like, oh my gosh. Look at Miss Carly dancing
Yeah, we can we put music on like it it has a ripple effect right and you know what happened is
I went in and told all the dancers this and I said girls
Would you dance with me in the car if I danced with you?
And of course they all said yes because I'm not their mom and it wasn't embarrassing
And Melody was like, no you wouldn't and they said show us what your mom was doing
So I was doing like little finger guns and it ended up in the dance because they all thought it was so funny and fun
That we ended up putting it in their hip-hop dance and it's like a thing now like did you go?
No, that's what you would have done
You know how to make like a really cool step not cool anymore. That's a special talent
Aww
I'm so lucky
Went in doubt, danced it out so anytime you can during the day shake it off
Um and dance dance off all of those anxiety ridden vibes and bring in some good energy
Yes
Wow, this was a long one today. Your vibration attracts your tribation. Oh my god
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