1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Welcome to Fit to Be Real. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,000 And a little extra. 3 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:06,000 And a year later. 4 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:08,000 Woohoo! One full year. 5 00:00:08,000 --> 00:00:12,000 52 straight weeks. 6 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:16,000 No breaks. No breaks. We did not take one rest week. 7 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:20,000 We did not take one week off. We did it. 8 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:22,000 We did bonus episodes. We did. 9 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:26,000 It was a year. It was a jam-packed podcast year. 10 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:28,000 And some weeks were harder than others. 11 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:30,000 It was not all. 12 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,000 Rainbows and sunshine. 13 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,000 No, no. But we did it. 14 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:36,000 Yeah. 15 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:38,000 I'm not surprised, but I am surprised. 16 00:00:38,000 --> 00:00:42,000 Like, I'm not surprised because when we set our minds to do something, like, we do it. 17 00:00:42,000 --> 00:00:44,000 So, that's fact. 18 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:48,000 But I am surprised in two weird ways that it went so fast 19 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,000 and that I can't believe it's been a year. 20 00:00:50,000 --> 00:00:52,000 I can't believe it's been a year since you said, 21 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,000 hey, we're starting a podcast next week. 22 00:00:54,000 --> 00:00:57,000 I made the name and this is what we're going to talk about. 23 00:00:57,000 --> 00:01:00,000 And, okay, let's do it. 24 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:03,000 We tend to do that. 25 00:01:03,000 --> 00:01:05,000 We don't think we do. 26 00:01:05,000 --> 00:01:08,000 It's worked for us for the most part. 27 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:10,000 In everything that we do. 28 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:14,000 We just sort of go all in and then if we fall, we fall. 29 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:20,000 But when you go all in, you sort of go all in. 30 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,000 Oh, wow. 31 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:26,000 Your insights in this past year have just been 32 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,000 mesmerizing. 33 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,000 You know what I mean. 34 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:32,000 When you go all in on something, you're going hard. 35 00:01:32,000 --> 00:01:34,000 You're not going home. Is that better? 36 00:01:34,000 --> 00:01:37,000 I think more times than not, we are, oh, I want to do this. 37 00:01:37,000 --> 00:01:39,000 Okay, I'm going to do this. Oh, I'm doing this tomorrow. 38 00:01:39,000 --> 00:01:41,000 Like, that's it. 39 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:44,000 So, that's how mom is, I guess. 40 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,000 And it's definitely how our brother is. 41 00:01:47,000 --> 00:01:49,000 Yeah. And that's how dad is. 42 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,000 Dad will make it onto the podcast next year. 43 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:54,000 Yeah, 2024, dad is your year. 44 00:01:54,000 --> 00:01:57,000 Woohoo, he is the original podcaster. 45 00:01:57,000 --> 00:02:00,000 I mean, the fact that we have taken, schedules are hard. 46 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:03,000 It's the scheduling issue, but he has a lot of insight on all this too. 47 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:06,000 He's a lot of hair. He's got a lot of insight. 48 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,000 His hair is legendary. 49 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:11,000 He's the same way. When he gets fixated on something, he has to finish that. 50 00:02:11,000 --> 00:02:12,000 At that moment. 51 00:02:12,000 --> 00:02:15,000 At that moment, whether it takes him 14 hours or not. 52 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:19,000 So, we all have this train of not thinking enough, 53 00:02:19,000 --> 00:02:21,000 but then overthinking way too much. 54 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,000 But you know what? If you really want to do something, 55 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:27,000 sometimes I think the best policy is to just go for it. 56 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:31,000 There is maybe a benefit, I'm sure Andrew is the opposite of us, 57 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:35,000 to planning ahead, writing down, making sure it's going to work. 58 00:02:35,000 --> 00:02:40,000 And then going after it, there's definitely benefits to that too. 59 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:42,000 We're just not built that way. 60 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:45,000 Well, yes and no. 61 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:49,000 We balls to the wall for the podcast, but every single week we research. 62 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:51,000 We balls to the wall. Yeah. 63 00:02:51,000 --> 00:02:54,000 We balls to the wall. It's in past tense. 64 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:57,000 So, there's a D. We balls to the wall. 65 00:02:57,000 --> 00:03:00,000 I'm not editing that out. No, you shouldn't. 66 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:02,000 But every week we planned ahead. 67 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:04,000 Oh, sure. You know, sure. 68 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:07,000 I think I mean in like the bigger sense of, 69 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:10,000 hey, I want to open a fitness studio. Let's do it. 70 00:03:10,000 --> 00:03:15,000 I mean, we know for the most part, when it came to the fitness studio, 71 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:17,000 we knew what we were doing. 72 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:20,000 No, no, no, no. We knew how to teach. 73 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:24,000 As far as the business, we're still learning every single day. 74 00:03:24,000 --> 00:03:26,000 But we knew we wanted to do it. 75 00:03:26,000 --> 00:03:28,000 We did it. And same thing with the podcast. 76 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:31,000 It's sort of, Victoria was like, we're doing this thing. 77 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:33,000 And okay, we did it. And it's been a year. 78 00:03:33,000 --> 00:03:36,000 And thank God you were like, okay, what are we talking about? 79 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:38,000 Yeah. What am I going to say? 80 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:41,000 Like I'm not a big knower when it comes. 81 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:44,000 If you want to, yeah, if you want to do it, I'm like, I trust you. 82 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:46,000 Yeah, don't do that. 83 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:48,000 It's easier in twos anyway. 84 00:03:48,000 --> 00:03:51,000 Usually when we do things, it's not solo. 85 00:03:51,000 --> 00:03:55,000 It's, hey, do you want to do this? Hey, we're going to do this. 86 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,000 So it is easier in twos. 87 00:03:57,000 --> 00:04:00,000 If I had, if you had said I'm going to do a podcast by myself, 88 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:02,000 I would have said, oh, I can't wait to listen. 89 00:04:02,000 --> 00:04:05,000 I'm not like, you know what I mean? Like it's not. 90 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:07,000 Damn it. I had that option. 91 00:04:07,000 --> 00:04:12,000 Yeah, but then I wouldn't have cried on air. 92 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,000 I would never have made tears. 93 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:18,000 Oh, we're going to talk about that until 2027. 94 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:22,000 It's the biggest thing that's happened to her. 95 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,000 I just, I just, I've learned so much. 96 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:30,000 I mean, for real though, and I, and I feel like we have so much more 97 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,000 learning to do obviously because there's so much more learning to do, 98 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:40,000 but with the podcast, I think there's so much more we haven't even dove into 99 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:41,000 and we can. 100 00:04:41,000 --> 00:04:47,000 I mean, we work not smarter and harder. 101 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:48,000 We work dumber and slower. 102 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:51,000 So we're going to work on that in 2024. 103 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:58,000 The, the part of us that goes hard real fast and we do it sometimes 104 00:04:58,000 --> 00:04:59,000 isn't the most efficient way. 105 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:03,000 So I think in 2024, we're going to work on this podcast being more efficient 106 00:05:03,000 --> 00:05:05,000 and learning more about that. 107 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:08,000 Al Borland a little less Tim the Twoma and Taylor. 108 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:11,000 If you know that reference, you can stay. 109 00:05:11,000 --> 00:05:12,000 Yeah. 110 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:16,000 And if you know that reference, you know exactly what we're talking about. 111 00:05:16,000 --> 00:05:20,000 But yeah, it's been an awesome year for everybody that listens regularly 112 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:24,000 or just like tunes in everyone's and I want thank you so much. 113 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:29,000 It's such a weird feeling to be like, we're going to do a podcast. 114 00:05:29,000 --> 00:05:32,000 Why does anyone want to listen to us type of thing? 115 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:36,000 You know, I feel like what I like about this and the purpose of this podcast 116 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:41,000 is that people like us could feel heard and seen and be like, oh my God, 117 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:43,000 other people feel like that too. 118 00:05:43,000 --> 00:05:46,000 And when people, yeah, when people come up and say, oh my gosh, 119 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:50,000 I totally resonated with you when you said that. 120 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:54,000 I think that is the sole purpose of why we did it. 121 00:05:54,000 --> 00:05:58,000 And it's nice to hear that because sometimes, I mean, it's just me and you talking here. 122 00:05:58,000 --> 00:06:01,000 So we're going to have more guests in 2024. 123 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:05,000 But yeah, but I think our fitness studio is the same way. 124 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:07,000 Our fitness studio is for the everyday. 125 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:09,000 It's not for the fitness, but it's not. 126 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:14,000 We're not trying to be fitness influencers, you know, and same thing with the podcast. 127 00:06:14,000 --> 00:06:15,000 It's for us. 128 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:16,000 It's for you. 129 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:20,000 It's for normal people going through everyday things and situations. 130 00:06:20,000 --> 00:06:25,000 And it's really nice to hear, oh my gosh, I felt, I felt you when you said that 131 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,000 because I feel the same way. 132 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:28,000 I was like, great. 133 00:06:28,000 --> 00:06:29,000 That's what it's for. 134 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,000 Take note that no one says that about your singing. 135 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:36,000 It's never about that. 136 00:06:36,000 --> 00:06:40,000 But I heard the moon episode was one of the best. 137 00:06:40,000 --> 00:06:41,000 Oh my God. 138 00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:43,000 I'm waiting. 139 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:46,000 Oh, there'll be more singing in 2024. 140 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:49,000 I'm just getting into it. 141 00:06:49,000 --> 00:06:51,000 I feel like a year has gone. 142 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:52,000 You needed to think about that. 143 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:53,000 Yeah. 144 00:06:53,000 --> 00:06:54,000 You needed to think that thought. 145 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,000 I'm going to get more into my vocals. 146 00:06:57,000 --> 00:07:06,000 Oh my gosh. 147 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:07,000 I'm Victoria. 148 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:08,000 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 149 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:10,000 We're doing the ins and outs. 150 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:11,000 We're doing the ins and outs. 151 00:07:11,000 --> 00:07:12,000 Tell us why. 152 00:07:12,000 --> 00:07:13,000 Okay. 153 00:07:13,000 --> 00:07:15,000 Because it's 2024. 154 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:16,000 We've gotten into it a little bit. 155 00:07:16,000 --> 00:07:18,000 It's about a few weeks in. 156 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:20,000 I didn't want to do this. 157 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:21,000 I'm going to be honest with you. 158 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:22,000 It's true. 159 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:23,000 I did not want to do this. 160 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:24,000 I said to Victoria. 161 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:27,000 It's so basic. 162 00:07:27,000 --> 00:07:28,000 Everyone's doing it. 163 00:07:28,000 --> 00:07:30,000 It's so trendy. 164 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:34,000 And I honestly don't care about anybody else's ins and outs. 165 00:07:34,000 --> 00:07:37,000 It's like when people tell me about their dreams, please. 166 00:07:37,000 --> 00:07:39,000 I hate dreams. 167 00:07:39,000 --> 00:07:42,000 When somebody talks to me about a dream that they had. 168 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,000 I'm like, I have no idea what you're talking about. 169 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:45,000 I wasn't there. 170 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:47,000 It doesn't apply to me. 171 00:07:47,000 --> 00:07:50,000 I can't listen to other people's dreams. 172 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:51,000 I'm sorry. 173 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:53,000 That might be an unpopular opinion. 174 00:07:53,000 --> 00:07:58,000 I don't want you telling me your personal dream where like you went into a grocery store 175 00:07:58,000 --> 00:08:00,000 and floated to this. 176 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:01,000 It's like not relevant. 177 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:03,000 I would like to know who you're talking about. 178 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:05,000 Who's having these crazy ass dreams. 179 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:06,000 Lewis actually had that dream. 180 00:08:06,000 --> 00:08:08,000 And I can't say no to him. 181 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:10,000 So I was like, oh honey, that's a great dream. 182 00:08:10,000 --> 00:08:12,000 Look it up. 183 00:08:12,000 --> 00:08:14,000 But that's what the ins and outs were for me. 184 00:08:14,000 --> 00:08:18,000 I was like, well, what you're in and out is, is not my in and out. 185 00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:19,000 Everyone's doing it. 186 00:08:19,000 --> 00:08:20,000 It's super trendy. 187 00:08:20,000 --> 00:08:22,000 It's not really relatable. 188 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:26,000 However, guess what I started doing? 189 00:08:26,000 --> 00:08:28,000 Researching. 190 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:37,000 And in researching, I was like, wow, it's actually very helpful to hear what other people's ins and outs are. 191 00:08:37,000 --> 00:08:40,000 I said to myself like, oh, I want to do that more. 192 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,000 Oh, I definitely don't want to do that more. 193 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:43,000 And it's the same thing. 194 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:45,000 I haven't seen anybody's ins and outs online. 195 00:08:45,000 --> 00:08:48,000 This is something you had to tell me about. 196 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:49,000 Yeah. 197 00:08:49,000 --> 00:08:54,000 So I got lots of ins for you and lots of outs for you. 198 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:57,000 I really just thought it was so basic and trendy. 199 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,000 And I was like, bleh. 200 00:08:58,000 --> 00:09:00,000 But guess what? 201 00:09:00,000 --> 00:09:02,000 I'm super basic. 202 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:03,000 And I love trendy. 203 00:09:03,000 --> 00:09:05,000 So we're doing it. 204 00:09:05,000 --> 00:09:09,000 Ins and outs of 2024. 205 00:09:09,000 --> 00:09:16,000 So one of my ins is saying no more and creating more boundaries. 206 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:18,000 That's my in. 207 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:20,000 My mouth is wide open and I'll tell you why in a minute. 208 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:21,000 But go ahead. 209 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:24,000 And one of my outs is guilt. 210 00:09:24,000 --> 00:09:32,000 Oh, is feeling guilty for having that in or that moment of saying no or being like, no, I don't want to do this. 211 00:09:32,000 --> 00:09:33,000 Why don't you want to do it? 212 00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:34,000 Because I don't want to do it. 213 00:09:34,000 --> 00:09:38,000 Basically, the feeling of Jomo. 214 00:09:38,000 --> 00:09:46,000 The joy of missing out or feeling guilty about wanting to do something that I want to do that nobody else wants to do. 215 00:09:46,000 --> 00:09:48,000 Like, I don't want to feel guilty anymore. 216 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:49,000 I don't want to feel bad. 217 00:09:49,000 --> 00:09:50,000 Say it again. 218 00:09:50,000 --> 00:09:52,000 You want to say no more and create boundaries. 219 00:09:52,000 --> 00:09:54,000 Well, which is like one in the same. 220 00:09:54,000 --> 00:10:00,000 Like saying no to more things that I really don't want to do and not people pleasing, basically. 221 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:05,000 And creating the boundaries around what I actually do want to do and not feeling bad about it. 222 00:10:05,000 --> 00:10:12,000 I think that's the hardest part is you can say no, but then the guilt that comes with it is the worst part. 223 00:10:12,000 --> 00:10:16,000 Because we are very guilt-ridden people sometimes. 224 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:18,000 Well, people... 225 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:20,000 Purple pleasure? 226 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:21,000 Purple pleasure? 227 00:10:21,000 --> 00:10:29,000 People pleasers are mentally bred to think about everybody else first and then about yourself last. 228 00:10:29,000 --> 00:10:32,000 But by the time you think about yourself, you're way too tired. 229 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:43,000 So then it's how many years and how many days go by that you're burnt out over life because you're just focusing on saying yes to everybody else but yourself. 230 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,000 So you want to hear something really funny? 231 00:10:45,000 --> 00:10:47,000 You want to hear my in? 232 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:49,000 Is saying yes more. 233 00:10:49,000 --> 00:10:52,000 So my mouth was wide open. 234 00:10:52,000 --> 00:10:55,000 However, that doesn't mean saying yes to everybody. 235 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:59,000 I just went through a year of I feel like saying no to everything. 236 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:00,000 You really did. 237 00:11:00,000 --> 00:11:02,000 Which is not like me at all. 238 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:07,000 And this year I want to say yes, but yes to more things that I want to do. 239 00:11:07,000 --> 00:11:09,000 So basically saying the same thing. 240 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:10,000 You're saying no politely. 241 00:11:10,000 --> 00:11:11,000 Yeah, I'm saying yes. 242 00:11:11,000 --> 00:11:13,000 I'm not going to do that. 243 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:24,000 No, but we always are saying no to things that we want to do because we have to work because we're too tired because we have other obligations. 244 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:25,000 I don't want to do that anymore. 245 00:11:25,000 --> 00:11:31,000 I want to say yes, I want to do that thing and I'll make it work because I want to do it. 246 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:40,000 So I want to go on that trip or I want to go to that movie or I want to watch that show, you know, like whatever it may be. 247 00:11:40,000 --> 00:11:41,000 You want to do a lot of entertaining things. 248 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:42,000 I want to do. 249 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:43,000 Yes. 250 00:11:43,000 --> 00:11:45,000 Yes, I do. 251 00:11:45,000 --> 00:11:47,000 Because I feel like we haven't. 252 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:57,000 We've been saying no because of all of the things we have to do and I want to say no to the things we have to do and yes to the things that I really want to do. 253 00:11:57,000 --> 00:11:59,000 It's basically living more. 254 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:00,000 Yes. 255 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:01,000 Yes. 256 00:12:01,000 --> 00:12:03,000 Oh, you're going to hate me. 257 00:12:03,000 --> 00:12:13,000 I don't necessarily think and I can't speak for you, but I don't think like we're alive. 258 00:12:13,000 --> 00:12:14,000 Yeah. 259 00:12:14,000 --> 00:12:15,000 But we're not living. 260 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:20,000 Like there's so much that we could be doing to for ourselves to have fun that is frivolous. 261 00:12:20,000 --> 00:12:23,000 That's just like for the sake of doing, but we are. 262 00:12:23,000 --> 00:12:32,000 Yeah, but I have to get up tomorrow for work and I have to work and then it's a 12 hour day and then by the time I get home, I got to take care of ABC and day and I got to do this. 263 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:34,000 So like it's just too much and I'm too tired. 264 00:12:34,000 --> 00:12:35,000 Right. 265 00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:36,000 Like that's life. 266 00:12:36,000 --> 00:12:38,000 And that's so what I don't want to do anymore. 267 00:12:38,000 --> 00:12:39,000 Right. 268 00:12:39,000 --> 00:12:43,000 I want to say yes to living it more and doing the things that I want to do. 269 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:47,000 We just saw a show this week that I absolutely loved. 270 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:49,000 It was called Ain't Too Proud. 271 00:12:49,000 --> 00:12:50,000 We love Broadway. 272 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:51,000 We love shows. 273 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:52,500 We love watching shows. 274 00:12:52,500 --> 00:12:59,000 I rarely get to do that because we always have something or we're always working. 275 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:00,000 Always work. 276 00:13:00,000 --> 00:13:01,000 Yeah. 277 00:13:01,000 --> 00:13:02,000 We're always working. 278 00:13:02,000 --> 00:13:03,000 We're always working. 279 00:13:03,000 --> 00:13:10,560 And so we went and I want to go again on a Tuesday night because we don't even have weekends. 280 00:13:10,560 --> 00:13:14,040 I wanted to go see it again so I came home because Andrew didn't come. 281 00:13:14,040 --> 00:13:15,760 I want Andrew to come see it. 282 00:13:15,760 --> 00:13:20,800 And I said normally I would say, okay, I saw it once as enough but I really want you to 283 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:21,800 see this. 284 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:22,800 Are you going back? 285 00:13:22,800 --> 00:13:23,800 We're going back. 286 00:13:23,800 --> 00:13:25,000 So we are. 287 00:13:25,000 --> 00:13:27,080 And I said, I don't ask for a lot. 288 00:13:27,080 --> 00:13:33,640 I, well, no, I don't ask for a lot for stuff like that, for things that I want. 289 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:35,040 It's always for somebody else. 290 00:13:35,040 --> 00:13:38,560 So I just said I don't ask for much and I really want to go. 291 00:13:38,560 --> 00:13:40,680 It makes me really happy and I want to be happy. 292 00:13:40,680 --> 00:13:42,440 Like I want to do something for me. 293 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:43,440 I want to go again. 294 00:13:43,440 --> 00:13:45,120 And he was like, okay, that's all you have to say. 295 00:13:45,120 --> 00:13:48,120 I want to do something for me and I want to make you go see this show because I think 296 00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:50,040 you're really going to like this show. 297 00:13:50,040 --> 00:13:51,040 I know. 298 00:13:51,040 --> 00:13:52,040 But yes. 299 00:13:52,040 --> 00:13:53,840 And yes, he said yes. 300 00:13:53,840 --> 00:13:59,440 But having said that, my out, that was a long winded in, but my out is trying to please 301 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:00,440 everybody. 302 00:14:00,440 --> 00:14:03,080 So we basically have the same in and out. 303 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:09,600 So my, it's a hard thing to do, especially when your job is to make sure everybody's 304 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:10,600 happy. 305 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:17,600 My therapist says, or has said before, you have to start being comfortable with just 306 00:14:17,600 --> 00:14:18,600 disappointing people. 307 00:14:18,600 --> 00:14:24,200 Yeah, that's so hard because that's where the pleasing comes into place and making sure 308 00:14:24,200 --> 00:14:28,800 everybody is okay with you because you said yes and you're doing what they need you to 309 00:14:28,800 --> 00:14:32,560 do and it's helping them at your sacrifice. 310 00:14:32,560 --> 00:14:38,400 And even though, I mean, this is very aggressive ways to be saying little things like you want 311 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:39,400 to help people. 312 00:14:39,400 --> 00:14:40,960 Oh my gosh, that's why we do what we do. 313 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:49,600 But there's a way and a balance to life that we're missing out on because we're more concerned 314 00:14:49,600 --> 00:14:52,200 of the other versus the self. 315 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:56,760 And so one of the factors of all of that is making sure people not like us. 316 00:14:56,760 --> 00:15:02,920 You know, I don't need people to like me, but I, the disappointment of me saying, no, 317 00:15:02,920 --> 00:15:07,760 I can't do this for you today or I can't let you borrow this or blah, blah, blah, blah, 318 00:15:07,760 --> 00:15:12,040 blah, blah, weighs heavier than just sacrificing my time to go do something. 319 00:15:12,040 --> 00:15:16,640 And I think the way we've been is yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. 320 00:15:16,640 --> 00:15:19,640 So when you start saying, no, that's not going to work. 321 00:15:19,640 --> 00:15:22,040 That's hard because I accept that. 322 00:15:22,040 --> 00:15:23,040 Yeah. 323 00:15:23,040 --> 00:15:26,720 Which I know we've talked about before, but so the people pleasing, I think, is a very 324 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:33,200 big out for me and trying to find the balance, pleasing myself and pleasing other people. 325 00:15:33,200 --> 00:15:34,200 There's a balance there. 326 00:15:34,200 --> 00:15:35,200 Yeah. 327 00:15:35,200 --> 00:15:36,200 But it's hard. 328 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:37,200 It's hard to find. 329 00:15:37,200 --> 00:15:38,200 Yeah, it is. 330 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:42,520 And it's hard to accept in the moment, easy to accept after the fact. 331 00:15:42,520 --> 00:15:46,200 Well, you know, I'm not good with confrontation and I think everything's a confrontation. 332 00:15:46,200 --> 00:15:47,200 Yes. 333 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:51,840 And Victoria will say, this doesn't have to be a situation. 334 00:15:51,840 --> 00:15:53,400 I'm like, oh, but it is. 335 00:15:53,400 --> 00:15:55,520 She's like, no, it's not. 336 00:15:55,520 --> 00:16:01,200 So if you're like me and you have, I'm going to use it, the A word, some anxiety over 337 00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:02,200 confrontation. 338 00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:03,200 Ass. 339 00:16:03,200 --> 00:16:10,400 If you have one of those, no. 340 00:16:10,400 --> 00:16:14,520 Then you think confrontation is in every no and it's not. 341 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:16,600 Wow, good for you. 342 00:16:16,600 --> 00:16:17,600 Yeah. 343 00:16:17,600 --> 00:16:18,600 I'm learning. 344 00:16:18,600 --> 00:16:19,600 However, it doesn't make it any easier. 345 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:20,600 It's not. 346 00:16:20,600 --> 00:16:24,480 I'm not saying that it's easy for me to do, but there is not a confrontation in every 347 00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:25,480 no. 348 00:16:25,480 --> 00:16:27,520 Yeah, that's true. 349 00:16:27,520 --> 00:16:28,520 That's a hard truth. 350 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:30,520 Put it on a T shirt. 351 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:32,960 Oh, so hard. 352 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:36,160 I don't think anybody compliments you on these moments either. 353 00:16:36,160 --> 00:16:37,600 Actually, no one's like, you know what? 354 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:40,400 When you said it's so hard, I was like, feeling that. 355 00:16:40,400 --> 00:16:43,000 No, I don't think anyone has said that yet. 356 00:16:43,000 --> 00:16:45,000 But it's okay. 357 00:16:45,000 --> 00:16:48,000 What's your next one? 358 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:50,360 Moving on. 359 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:55,280 I have the words weirdness slash you do you. 360 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:57,920 I love that, especially for you. 361 00:16:57,920 --> 00:17:02,720 That's an in and I'm weird. 362 00:17:02,720 --> 00:17:05,360 Yes, like a weird. 363 00:17:05,360 --> 00:17:06,600 I like different things. 364 00:17:06,600 --> 00:17:07,680 I like weird things. 365 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:09,480 I like not weird things. 366 00:17:09,480 --> 00:17:17,760 I think a part of my existence has always been trying to come to terms with the fact 367 00:17:17,760 --> 00:17:23,000 that I like the different genres you can be and like. 368 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:28,960 I like emo music and I like pop music and I like video games, but I like reading books 369 00:17:28,960 --> 00:17:32,120 and I like camping and going out in nature. 370 00:17:32,120 --> 00:17:35,040 But I like getting dressed up and going to a show. 371 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:37,880 I like all the different things. 372 00:17:37,880 --> 00:17:42,080 No one has ever said to me that I cannot like all of the different things. 373 00:17:42,080 --> 00:17:43,080 No, no one said that. 374 00:17:43,080 --> 00:17:44,080 Except Carly. 375 00:17:44,080 --> 00:17:45,080 Except actually, that's true. 376 00:17:45,080 --> 00:17:49,040 And it's usually pertaining to what I wear and my outfit choices because I like to wear 377 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:53,040 the smiley faces and the butterflies, but I also want to put some diamonds on and she's 378 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:54,760 just like, no, it's a lot. 379 00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:55,760 It's a lot. 380 00:17:55,760 --> 00:17:58,000 But you do you boo boo. 381 00:17:58,000 --> 00:17:59,960 I don't think you firmly mean that. 382 00:17:59,960 --> 00:18:00,960 No, no, I do. 383 00:18:00,960 --> 00:18:06,200 Just walk a little bit farther away from me. 384 00:18:06,200 --> 00:18:11,680 But that's really what it is, is that I want more of an in for me as to coming to terms 385 00:18:11,680 --> 00:18:17,960 with that like I'm OK with that I like different things, which technically goes under the umbrella 386 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:20,800 of being weird. 387 00:18:20,800 --> 00:18:22,280 And I don't care if any. 388 00:18:22,280 --> 00:18:25,160 I mean, I've never really cared if anybody else cares. 389 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:29,760 But there's a I think it's myself that I've always been like, well, you can't wear that 390 00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:32,760 because you're not actually a goth girl. 391 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:33,760 Right. 392 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:35,200 But you are right, right. 393 00:18:35,200 --> 00:18:36,800 But like I've censored myself. 394 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:37,800 No one has censored me. 395 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:38,800 I've stopped censoring yourself. 396 00:18:38,800 --> 00:18:44,640 So what's in for me is just accepting that like I like different things and I'm allowed 397 00:18:44,640 --> 00:18:45,880 to like different things. 398 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:46,880 Yeah. 399 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:50,120 And I'm allowed to express that I like different random things. 400 00:18:50,120 --> 00:18:56,600 I when we lived in New York, I had a I know I've said this to I had a different wardrobe. 401 00:18:56,600 --> 00:19:00,800 And so when I would come home, some people would say to me, oh, is that a New York outfit? 402 00:19:00,800 --> 00:19:01,800 Yeah. 403 00:19:01,800 --> 00:19:02,800 You're in Delco. 404 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:05,400 And I'm like, no, this is just what I like to wear. 405 00:19:05,400 --> 00:19:09,600 But I stopped wearing the clothes, I guess I got more dressed up in New York because 406 00:19:09,600 --> 00:19:13,680 every day was like a fashion show for me and I love clothes. 407 00:19:13,680 --> 00:19:19,360 And that was a hard, hard thing to change because, you know, it is a little different, 408 00:19:19,360 --> 00:19:20,360 but it doesn't have to be. 409 00:19:20,360 --> 00:19:25,080 No, but if you accept that you truly don't care. 410 00:19:25,080 --> 00:19:26,080 Right. 411 00:19:26,080 --> 00:19:30,800 For yourself or what anybody else thinks, obviously, then you're not even going to notice. 412 00:19:30,800 --> 00:19:32,160 So I that's that. 413 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:37,040 So on the out of that is apologizing for my weirdness. 414 00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:38,040 Yes. 415 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:43,760 My in is accepting that I'm allowed to be, you know, I don't know why weird is the word, 416 00:19:43,760 --> 00:19:45,260 but weird. 417 00:19:45,260 --> 00:19:49,400 And my out is that I'm not going to be like, sorry for it anymore. 418 00:19:49,400 --> 00:19:52,200 Well, I don't think that you're sorry for it. 419 00:19:52,200 --> 00:19:55,360 I just don't think that you do it anymore. 420 00:19:55,360 --> 00:19:59,080 But that's why I think and we don't go anywhere. 421 00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:02,040 And I don't get the opportunity to go anywhere. 422 00:20:02,040 --> 00:20:05,800 I, you know, what's really funny? 423 00:20:05,800 --> 00:20:10,880 Victoria and I did not talk about this before the episode. 424 00:20:10,880 --> 00:20:12,440 She didn't tell me her ins and outs. 425 00:20:12,440 --> 00:20:14,280 I didn't tell her my ins and outs. 426 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:20,440 We just sort of what we normally do is we just sort of go and talk as we talk. 427 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:22,320 My in is being more silly. 428 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:23,320 Oh my God. 429 00:20:23,320 --> 00:20:24,320 I know. 430 00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,320 I feel the same way. 431 00:20:26,320 --> 00:20:30,760 Like you sort of, and I think everybody does this as you get older. 432 00:20:30,760 --> 00:20:35,680 It's like time to be serious or you sort of lose your silliness. 433 00:20:35,680 --> 00:20:39,480 And Andrew will say to me all the time, what happened to your humor? 434 00:20:39,480 --> 00:20:41,680 Because like to me, I'm like, the kids need to do this. 435 00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:42,680 We need to do this. 436 00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:43,680 I need to go to work. 437 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:44,680 We need to get them dressed. 438 00:20:44,680 --> 00:20:45,680 Here's the day. 439 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:46,680 And he's like, what? 440 00:20:46,680 --> 00:20:48,400 You used to be like silly. 441 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:49,760 And I'm not anymore. 442 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:51,760 I am very regimented. 443 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:52,760 Yes. 444 00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:53,760 Yes. 445 00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:55,480 Because we need a routine. 446 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:58,720 And if there's no routine and if we're not doing what we're supposed to be doing, it's 447 00:20:58,720 --> 00:20:59,720 like chaos. 448 00:20:59,720 --> 00:21:00,720 Yeah. 449 00:21:00,720 --> 00:21:01,720 But there's a balance. 450 00:21:01,720 --> 00:21:02,720 Like you need that structure. 451 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:03,720 No, I know. 452 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:06,240 And I miss being silly. 453 00:21:06,240 --> 00:21:09,360 Like and I find it when we are being silly. 454 00:21:09,360 --> 00:21:12,360 And I'm like, oh my gosh, like I'm ridiculous. 455 00:21:12,360 --> 00:21:14,760 But why don't I do that more often? 456 00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:15,760 Yeah. 457 00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:16,760 Like I love being ridiculous. 458 00:21:16,760 --> 00:21:20,560 We're we're, I don't know if Victoria is loud. 459 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:24,560 I'm, I'm a loud, silly, ridiculous person. 460 00:21:24,560 --> 00:21:25,880 She's just weird. 461 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:26,880 But together. 462 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:32,080 We're really fun. 463 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:33,080 But I'm louder. 464 00:21:33,080 --> 00:21:34,080 You know, you are louder. 465 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:35,080 You are louder. 466 00:21:35,080 --> 00:21:36,080 You are louder. 467 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,720 Carly and Andrew will show up to Easter. 468 00:21:37,720 --> 00:21:40,200 One's a carrot and one's a bunny. 469 00:21:40,200 --> 00:21:41,360 You haven't done that a long time. 470 00:21:41,360 --> 00:21:43,760 We haven't done that in a long time. 471 00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:49,360 And yeah, I want to bring back the silly because I think even for the kids, like they 472 00:21:49,360 --> 00:21:55,000 don't know me as like this silly person that's wild and that's dad. 473 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:56,000 That's Andrew. 474 00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:57,600 And now that's definitely him. 475 00:21:57,600 --> 00:21:58,800 And I'm like, it's time for bed. 476 00:21:58,800 --> 00:22:00,560 All right, guys, five more minutes. 477 00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,680 And I want to bring, I want to bring in that silliness back again. 478 00:22:04,680 --> 00:22:05,680 Yeah, that's good. 479 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:06,800 So watch out. 480 00:22:06,800 --> 00:22:09,240 What you're out. 481 00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:11,240 Hustle and grinding. 482 00:22:11,240 --> 00:22:13,320 Not grinding like I can twerk all day. 483 00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:14,840 Like grinding in a high school cafeteria. 484 00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:16,320 That was the best. 485 00:22:16,320 --> 00:22:18,840 Oh man, those are the good days. 486 00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:19,840 Oh, yeah. 487 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:27,400 Like sort of opposite of being silly, the we need to get to the next level. 488 00:22:27,400 --> 00:22:28,400 We need to do this. 489 00:22:28,400 --> 00:22:29,640 I need to hustle more. 490 00:22:29,640 --> 00:22:32,080 If we don't hustle, we're going to lose it. 491 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:33,200 It's not going anywhere. 492 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:34,200 It's not going anywhere. 493 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:36,120 We're not going anywhere. 494 00:22:36,120 --> 00:22:42,240 If I don't let go a little bit and relax, maybe hustle and grind is the wrong. 495 00:22:42,240 --> 00:22:43,760 Just relax a little more. 496 00:22:43,760 --> 00:22:47,960 No, because I think you there's a piece up until this podcast. 497 00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:55,040 There's so much good that came from this back in up until talking about it. 498 00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:57,400 I think there was a piece of pride in the hustle. 499 00:22:57,400 --> 00:22:58,400 Yeah. 500 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,320 And the grind because that's what got us where we are. 501 00:23:01,320 --> 00:23:02,880 That's how our mom is. 502 00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,320 That's to a degree. 503 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:05,320 That's how our dad is. 504 00:23:05,320 --> 00:23:07,240 And it's it's who we are. 505 00:23:07,240 --> 00:23:10,120 But there's so much to letting go of the like, it is who I am. 506 00:23:10,120 --> 00:23:11,120 This is who I am. 507 00:23:11,120 --> 00:23:13,920 Like you can change that. 508 00:23:13,920 --> 00:23:21,400 And so the pride, I think we've hustled and grinded so much and so long and so hard that 509 00:23:21,400 --> 00:23:23,840 we're kind of like turning to dust. 510 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,760 The grind is a little too much. 511 00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:30,440 And so we're finding that that's actually not the way that we want to do it. 512 00:23:30,440 --> 00:23:32,040 And so it's not that it's a bad thing. 513 00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,280 It's just it needs to happen a little less. 514 00:23:35,280 --> 00:23:36,560 Don't. 515 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:39,480 Don't you get it confused. 516 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:40,480 Don't you dare. 517 00:23:40,480 --> 00:23:41,480 I'm a hustler, baby. 518 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:42,480 Sing. 519 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:44,040 I just want you to know. 520 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:46,040 Oh, oh, it's 2024. 521 00:23:46,040 --> 00:23:48,040 I keep adding on. 522 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:51,160 Oh, in 10 years, it's going to be the whole song. 523 00:23:51,160 --> 00:23:52,160 Yes. 524 00:23:52,160 --> 00:23:54,840 I think I like working. 525 00:23:54,840 --> 00:23:56,640 I like doing all that. 526 00:23:56,640 --> 00:24:01,320 But I think a little less is more attainable in a life situation. 527 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:02,320 Long term. 528 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:03,320 Yeah. 529 00:24:03,320 --> 00:24:06,600 The longevity of like being able to function day to day. 530 00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:10,560 Keeping up with everybody, keeping up with keeping up with this world is everybody's 531 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:17,280 hustling and everybody could use a little chill pill and everyone is wound. 532 00:24:17,280 --> 00:24:18,280 Bad burnout. 533 00:24:18,280 --> 00:24:19,280 Yeah. 534 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:20,280 Yeah. 535 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:21,280 So I want to be more silly and a little less. 536 00:24:21,280 --> 00:24:22,280 That's the baby. 537 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:23,280 Just want you to know. 538 00:24:23,280 --> 00:24:24,280 You put your eyebrows away. 539 00:24:24,280 --> 00:24:25,280 I can't. 540 00:24:25,280 --> 00:24:26,280 I can't. 541 00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:27,280 I can't. 542 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:28,280 It's so inappropriate. 543 00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:29,280 All right. 544 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:30,280 Go ahead. 545 00:24:30,280 --> 00:24:31,280 Okay. 546 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:32,280 My third one. 547 00:24:32,280 --> 00:24:37,560 I'm going to go with we wrote down five each, but we're only really going to talk about 548 00:24:37,560 --> 00:24:38,560 three. 549 00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:40,240 And to be honest with you now that I'm reading them. 550 00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:41,240 They're pretty much all the same. 551 00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:43,080 They're kind of all the same. 552 00:24:43,080 --> 00:24:51,160 I have an in is prioritizing me, which I've kind of already, it could be tied in with 553 00:24:51,160 --> 00:25:00,200 saying no and creating boundaries, but prioritizing me to myself, not necessarily at the expense 554 00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:04,520 of saying no or yes to anybody else. 555 00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:05,520 Does that make sense? 556 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:06,520 No. 557 00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:07,520 Say it another way. 558 00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:14,400 I mean, in the sense of like in my own head and my own way of thinking, staying true to 559 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:22,800 me, right, staying true to like my authentic beliefs or thought process and not just like 560 00:25:22,800 --> 00:25:29,000 conforming or just being like a little bit laxadaisical on, say, I'm in a conversation 561 00:25:29,000 --> 00:25:31,600 and I'm like, yeah, I'm going to agree with you just for the sake of it. 562 00:25:31,600 --> 00:25:32,600 Like, right. 563 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:37,320 And that to a degree that's really good because there's no need to do heated debates or non-heated 564 00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,120 debates or talk to talk. 565 00:25:40,120 --> 00:25:41,120 Like that's not who I am. 566 00:25:41,120 --> 00:25:43,440 Yeah, we don't want to walk the walk either. 567 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:44,600 No. 568 00:25:44,600 --> 00:25:48,480 So I think I'm talking through it right now. 569 00:25:48,480 --> 00:25:50,640 Thank you for coming to my therapy session. 570 00:25:50,640 --> 00:25:57,480 I think it's more of like in relationships, like prioritizing, not losing myself in either 571 00:25:57,480 --> 00:26:03,840 platonic relationships, friendships, romantic family relationship, whatever it is, not losing 572 00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:04,840 myself. 573 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:05,840 So prioritizing myself. 574 00:26:05,840 --> 00:26:08,360 So we did that personality episode. 575 00:26:08,360 --> 00:26:11,360 You were the giver. 576 00:26:11,360 --> 00:26:13,720 And that is truly who you are. 577 00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,680 You give so much and you don't get it back. 578 00:26:16,680 --> 00:26:21,040 And that's draining and exhausting and not fair. 579 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:22,440 But you don't care. 580 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:24,840 I care about fair. 581 00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:29,720 You, I don't, I think you care about it, but it never happens. 582 00:26:29,720 --> 00:26:32,200 So you're just like, it is what it is. 583 00:26:32,200 --> 00:26:33,200 And it's exhausting. 584 00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,200 Yeah, that's kind of true. 585 00:26:35,200 --> 00:26:41,440 But that's not going to happen this year because my, my out is second guessing. 586 00:26:41,440 --> 00:26:43,640 Oh, wait, talk about that. 587 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:46,440 My out is second guessing myself. 588 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,960 We all have intuitive, like that gut feeling, right? 589 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:50,960 We talked about it. 590 00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:52,280 Yeah, I see dead people. 591 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:54,840 If you, that's just a sixth sense. 592 00:26:54,840 --> 00:26:55,840 I know. 593 00:26:55,840 --> 00:26:56,840 Oh, right, right, right, right. 594 00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,320 It's kind of, I mean, it is intuitive. 595 00:26:59,320 --> 00:27:03,920 And we'll bring on some of those, but the, the gut feeling, the feeling in your stomach 596 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,040 is intuition, the feeling in your chest is fear. 597 00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:07,040 We talked about that. 598 00:27:07,040 --> 00:27:08,040 Yeah, yeah. 599 00:27:08,040 --> 00:27:09,040 I remember. 600 00:27:09,040 --> 00:27:14,520 So the second guessing is like when I know that I'm right. 601 00:27:14,520 --> 00:27:16,520 And I am someone that does not have to be right. 602 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:17,920 I don't have to be right. 603 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:20,440 And nine times out of 10, I'm wrong. 604 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:22,120 Unless I'm talking to Carly. 605 00:27:22,120 --> 00:27:28,600 And my, my gut feeling has steered me in the right way. 606 00:27:28,600 --> 00:27:30,480 99% of the time. 607 00:27:30,480 --> 00:27:35,200 And I've ignored it 95% of the time due to who knows what. 608 00:27:35,200 --> 00:27:36,200 It's a lot of numbers. 609 00:27:36,200 --> 00:27:38,800 Just let me process for one sec. 610 00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:43,320 Your intuition can tell you exactly if you're on the right path, if you're talking to the 611 00:27:43,320 --> 00:27:48,720 right person, if you are saying no to the right things or saying yes to the right things. 612 00:27:48,720 --> 00:27:56,120 And this past year, I have come back to listening to it more. 613 00:27:56,120 --> 00:27:58,320 I lost it the past couple of years. 614 00:27:58,320 --> 00:28:02,080 I lost that gut feeling of being like, no, this is how I really feel about things or 615 00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:03,960 this is what I really want to do. 616 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,240 Or my gut is telling me that this feels right. 617 00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:09,320 Well, I think people change that. 618 00:28:09,320 --> 00:28:15,600 Like people in your life made you feel like your gut wasn't right. 619 00:28:15,600 --> 00:28:16,600 Right, right, right, right. 620 00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:21,600 I'm on the outs of being under that umbrella, I think, or under that veil of censorship. 621 00:28:21,600 --> 00:28:23,760 It's hard to see that when you're in it. 622 00:28:23,760 --> 00:28:25,760 No matter, you know. 623 00:28:25,760 --> 00:28:26,760 Yeah. 624 00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:32,120 But once you steer away from that gut feeling, it's hard to find it again. 625 00:28:32,120 --> 00:28:33,120 Yeah. 626 00:28:33,120 --> 00:28:37,760 Because you, you know, the body keeps the score if you haven't read that book, read it. 627 00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:39,200 But the body has memory. 628 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:44,640 And like if you've ignored it, that feeling in your stomach, quite literally in your stomach, 629 00:28:44,640 --> 00:28:50,760 if you've ignored it enough times, your brain starts to tell you that that now feels like 630 00:28:50,760 --> 00:28:51,760 something else. 631 00:28:51,760 --> 00:28:52,760 Right. 632 00:28:52,760 --> 00:28:53,760 It means something different. 633 00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:57,000 I did for a long time, I got into that. 634 00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,080 And so I don't want to do that anymore. 635 00:28:59,080 --> 00:29:00,840 Stop second guessing yourself. 636 00:29:00,840 --> 00:29:01,840 I like that. 637 00:29:01,840 --> 00:29:02,840 Yeah. 638 00:29:02,840 --> 00:29:05,760 I'm going to stop third guessing myself. 639 00:29:05,760 --> 00:29:08,120 Like you're talking, like Carly talks about Carly. 640 00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:12,800 Like, like, why are you asking that question, Carly? 641 00:29:12,800 --> 00:29:14,840 Like talking to yourself in the third person. 642 00:29:14,840 --> 00:29:19,080 No, like, I'm going to guess on the first and second, but I probably will trust the 643 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,080 third. 644 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:21,080 Oh my God. 645 00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:26,040 You're like the person that's like, I would like to see a red cardinal. 646 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:27,040 Yes. 647 00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:28,800 God and universe, please show it to me. 648 00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:33,200 And then it comes and you're like, God, I need to see a cardinal or cardinal. 649 00:29:33,200 --> 00:29:35,920 I need something a little more cardinaly. 650 00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:38,280 Give me a signier sign, please. 651 00:29:38,280 --> 00:29:39,280 It's me. 652 00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:40,280 Hi. 653 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,280 That's a good one, though. 654 00:29:42,280 --> 00:29:49,560 I think for a lot of people, because unless you are super confident in all things and 655 00:29:49,560 --> 00:29:55,040 you have the best mental headspace and you just don't second guess yourself, you do what 656 00:29:55,040 --> 00:29:56,280 you do when you want to do it. 657 00:29:56,280 --> 00:29:58,560 And that's the final say. 658 00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,780 Everybody has problems with second guessing themselves. 659 00:30:00,780 --> 00:30:05,680 But if you can feel that feeling of this is not really what I want to be doing. 660 00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:08,800 Or I mean, that you can feel it. 661 00:30:08,800 --> 00:30:10,120 It's hard to listen to it. 662 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:11,120 Yeah. 663 00:30:11,120 --> 00:30:12,120 All right. 664 00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:17,240 My last one, my in is to look forward to 2025. 665 00:30:17,240 --> 00:30:18,240 What is what? 666 00:30:18,240 --> 00:30:19,240 I know. 667 00:30:19,240 --> 00:30:20,240 I know. 668 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:21,240 I know. 669 00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:22,240 It feels like a lot. 670 00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:23,240 Well, why are you not? 671 00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:28,160 Well, I want this year to be the year that I at 2025, I don't say, Oh, God, I'm so happy 672 00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:29,160 this year ended. 673 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:30,240 I can't wait to go to the next one. 674 00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:31,560 And 23 was like that. 675 00:30:31,560 --> 00:30:32,560 Yeah. 676 00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:35,900 I think every year, everyone just goes, Oh, I'm so happy to see it this year. 677 00:30:35,900 --> 00:30:37,120 And I started a new one. 678 00:30:37,120 --> 00:30:38,920 I don't want to do that this year. 679 00:30:38,920 --> 00:30:44,800 I want to say at December 31st, 2024, this was a great year. 680 00:30:44,800 --> 00:30:49,100 And I'm so happy and I can't wait to see what 2025 is. 681 00:30:49,100 --> 00:30:50,900 because this is so good. 682 00:30:50,900 --> 00:30:53,500 It's a daily chore. 683 00:30:53,500 --> 00:30:54,340 That's work. 684 00:30:54,340 --> 00:30:56,540 Because you have to wake up and be positive. 685 00:30:56,540 --> 00:30:58,140 You have to wake up and find the joy 686 00:30:58,140 --> 00:30:59,620 and the things that you don't wanna do. 687 00:30:59,620 --> 00:31:03,860 And you have to do everything we've said for 52 weeks. 688 00:31:03,860 --> 00:31:07,380 Every real tip we've said you have to do every day. 689 00:31:07,380 --> 00:31:11,260 I just feel like I'm so sick and tired of going, 690 00:31:11,260 --> 00:31:14,460 oh, God, can't wait till next year. 691 00:31:14,460 --> 00:31:15,900 Just do it now. 692 00:31:15,900 --> 00:31:17,620 But you know what, I feel like the past couple years 693 00:31:17,620 --> 00:31:20,420 have just, well, they've been like that 694 00:31:20,420 --> 00:31:22,100 because we've been in the middle of the hustle. 695 00:31:22,100 --> 00:31:24,420 So maybe this will be the different. 696 00:31:24,420 --> 00:31:27,860 I think that's why I said my first one was saying yes, 697 00:31:27,860 --> 00:31:31,460 because we've had to say no for five years. 698 00:31:31,460 --> 00:31:35,060 COVID and everything, and there was so many no's. 699 00:31:35,060 --> 00:31:37,540 And then we were allowed to say no 700 00:31:37,540 --> 00:31:39,140 because we had excuses. 701 00:31:39,140 --> 00:31:40,700 If you didn't wanna do something, I was like, 702 00:31:40,700 --> 00:31:42,500 yes, I don't have to do that anymore. 703 00:31:42,500 --> 00:31:43,700 I can say no. 704 00:31:43,700 --> 00:31:46,820 I miss driving by baby showers and wedding showers. 705 00:31:46,820 --> 00:31:49,300 Not that I've been to any this past year, 706 00:31:49,300 --> 00:31:50,380 but like bring those back. 707 00:31:50,380 --> 00:31:51,220 Wait a second. 708 00:31:51,220 --> 00:31:53,100 I'm not saying that my yes is to be like, 709 00:31:53,100 --> 00:31:54,820 yes, I'm gonna go to that shower. 710 00:31:54,820 --> 00:31:57,060 It's like, yes, I'm gonna go see that show again 711 00:31:57,060 --> 00:31:58,300 because I really want to. 712 00:31:58,300 --> 00:32:01,060 Yes, I wanna go to the movies on a Wednesday night. 713 00:32:01,060 --> 00:32:02,860 Yeah, like those are my yeses. 714 00:32:02,860 --> 00:32:07,860 I really wanna go to 2025 thinking this year was so great. 715 00:32:08,500 --> 00:32:09,940 Yes, there's gonna be hard times, 716 00:32:09,940 --> 00:32:11,060 yes, there's gonna be negatives, 717 00:32:11,060 --> 00:32:12,940 there's gonna be things that I wanted to do, 718 00:32:12,940 --> 00:32:16,620 but I couldn't do because of a million other things. 719 00:32:16,620 --> 00:32:21,060 But I want it to be more happy 720 00:32:21,060 --> 00:32:24,180 and more positive than negative this year. 721 00:32:24,180 --> 00:32:25,020 I want it to outweigh. 722 00:32:25,020 --> 00:32:28,300 I think what does that is that the decisions, 723 00:32:28,300 --> 00:32:32,420 whether through the obstacles, the good or the bad, 724 00:32:32,420 --> 00:32:33,460 are yours. 725 00:32:33,460 --> 00:32:34,500 So then at the end of the year, 726 00:32:34,500 --> 00:32:35,900 you feel like you had control of the year 727 00:32:35,900 --> 00:32:38,140 and you made the year that you made. 728 00:32:38,140 --> 00:32:39,940 Maybe that's a good thing. 729 00:32:39,940 --> 00:32:42,100 I wanna take control over my year 730 00:32:42,100 --> 00:32:44,300 and I don't want the year to take control of me. 731 00:32:44,300 --> 00:32:45,140 Right, yeah. 732 00:32:45,140 --> 00:32:47,380 We have always just had to go with the flow 733 00:32:47,380 --> 00:32:49,940 of how hard things are and the burnout. 734 00:32:49,940 --> 00:32:52,900 And it doesn't feel like we're making the decisions. 735 00:32:52,900 --> 00:32:54,700 It just feels like you have to do what you have to do 736 00:32:54,700 --> 00:32:56,780 to get through what you have to get through. 737 00:32:56,780 --> 00:32:58,740 And so this year getting into 2025, 738 00:32:58,740 --> 00:33:03,220 it would be nice to feel a little bit more like the driver. 739 00:33:03,220 --> 00:33:06,420 Yeah, that sounds good. 740 00:33:07,700 --> 00:33:08,740 I wanna do that. 741 00:33:08,740 --> 00:33:09,700 It's true. 742 00:33:09,700 --> 00:33:10,540 It's so true. 743 00:33:10,540 --> 00:33:12,620 But I think saying yes more to the things I wanna do, 744 00:33:12,620 --> 00:33:15,980 being sillier and just relaxing a little bit, 745 00:33:15,980 --> 00:33:18,940 not being so uptight, all those things will just make 746 00:33:18,940 --> 00:33:23,460 a Thursday morning more doable. 747 00:33:23,460 --> 00:33:24,300 You know what I mean? 748 00:33:24,300 --> 00:33:25,140 And that's all it takes. 749 00:33:25,140 --> 00:33:27,020 It's not like I wanna go to Spain. 750 00:33:27,020 --> 00:33:28,540 Like I'm going to Spain this year 751 00:33:28,540 --> 00:33:30,220 and I'm gonna take vacations every weekend. 752 00:33:30,220 --> 00:33:31,060 It's not. 753 00:33:31,060 --> 00:33:34,420 It's just the silly little things every day 754 00:33:34,420 --> 00:33:35,500 that you look back and go, 755 00:33:35,500 --> 00:33:38,340 that was a really good year because it really outweighed 756 00:33:38,340 --> 00:33:40,380 all the things I didn't wanna do. 757 00:33:40,380 --> 00:33:44,620 And my out really does not, my last out, 758 00:33:44,620 --> 00:33:47,060 I guess it does sort of go with it. 759 00:33:47,060 --> 00:33:49,700 Is guess what it's called? 760 00:33:49,700 --> 00:33:50,780 I researched it. 761 00:33:50,780 --> 00:33:51,620 Oh, God. 762 00:33:51,620 --> 00:33:53,180 It's called doom scrolling. 763 00:33:53,180 --> 00:33:54,020 Oh, yeah. 764 00:33:54,020 --> 00:33:54,980 Oh, you knew? 765 00:33:54,980 --> 00:33:56,180 Deum doom scrolling. 766 00:33:56,180 --> 00:33:57,020 Really? 767 00:33:57,020 --> 00:33:58,220 Yes. 768 00:33:58,220 --> 00:34:00,020 Where'd you learn? 769 00:34:00,020 --> 00:34:01,140 Where'd I learn it? 770 00:34:01,140 --> 00:34:01,980 Where'd you learn it? 771 00:34:01,980 --> 00:34:02,820 Where'd you learn it? 772 00:34:02,820 --> 00:34:05,380 I learned it on the internet. 773 00:34:06,900 --> 00:34:07,940 Where'd you learn it? 774 00:34:07,940 --> 00:34:11,460 It's the cyberspace. 775 00:34:11,460 --> 00:34:13,220 I had just learned about it 776 00:34:13,220 --> 00:34:15,620 because I learned that I do it. 777 00:34:15,620 --> 00:34:18,620 And it wastes my time. 778 00:34:18,620 --> 00:34:20,180 And do you know what I did last night? 779 00:34:20,180 --> 00:34:21,900 Wait, explain doom scrolling for people 780 00:34:21,900 --> 00:34:22,820 that maybe don't know. 781 00:34:22,820 --> 00:34:24,660 Oh, it's literally scrolling 782 00:34:24,660 --> 00:34:27,100 and then feeling bad about yourself. 783 00:34:27,100 --> 00:34:28,820 That's basically what it is. 784 00:34:28,820 --> 00:34:30,980 I mean, there are a million ways you can take that, 785 00:34:30,980 --> 00:34:32,540 like wasting your time, 786 00:34:33,380 --> 00:34:35,700 watching things that are negative. 787 00:34:35,700 --> 00:34:37,420 A big ones at the end of the night 788 00:34:37,420 --> 00:34:39,860 where you doom scroll and waste your 789 00:34:39,860 --> 00:34:43,540 off of the clock rest of your nighttime 790 00:34:43,540 --> 00:34:46,940 because you feel like you didn't have enough daytime 791 00:34:46,940 --> 00:34:47,780 for yourself. 792 00:34:47,780 --> 00:34:50,580 So you doom scroll and then you feel horrible about it 793 00:34:50,580 --> 00:34:53,260 because you're now didn't get to sleep on time 794 00:34:53,260 --> 00:34:54,780 and tomorrow's gonna be tiring 795 00:34:54,780 --> 00:34:57,100 and or you feel bad that you just wasted 796 00:34:57,100 --> 00:34:58,100 so much time doing it. 797 00:34:58,100 --> 00:34:58,940 Yeah. 798 00:34:58,940 --> 00:35:01,500 And last night, I was thinking about this 799 00:35:01,500 --> 00:35:05,980 and I put my phone down, watched Bravo. 800 00:35:05,980 --> 00:35:09,100 Bravo, Bravo, Bravo. 801 00:35:09,100 --> 00:35:10,980 Sorry, I couldn't say it was the bad word. 802 00:35:10,980 --> 00:35:13,720 If you're a Bravo person, you know what you say. 803 00:35:14,820 --> 00:35:15,660 I hate everything that's happening. 804 00:35:15,660 --> 00:35:17,300 It's the F word guys, it's the F word. 805 00:35:17,300 --> 00:35:18,660 I hate it. 806 00:35:18,660 --> 00:35:20,500 You know I don't curse. 807 00:35:20,500 --> 00:35:21,940 But that's my guilty pleasure. 808 00:35:21,940 --> 00:35:22,780 I love it. 809 00:35:22,780 --> 00:35:23,620 And I put the phone down. 810 00:35:23,620 --> 00:35:26,620 Usually I'm watching Bravo as I'm scrolling. 811 00:35:26,620 --> 00:35:28,900 I mean, double negatives right there. 812 00:35:28,900 --> 00:35:30,940 But I put the phone down and I did my nails. 813 00:35:30,940 --> 00:35:32,860 And weird attention spin. 814 00:35:32,860 --> 00:35:34,020 Well, there is no attention. 815 00:35:34,020 --> 00:35:36,460 I'm half watching Bravo and I'm half scrolling. 816 00:35:36,460 --> 00:35:38,660 So I don't have an attention span. 817 00:35:40,420 --> 00:35:43,220 But instead I just watched Bravo. 818 00:35:43,220 --> 00:35:47,900 Full, 100%, full out, no stop, no full stop. 819 00:35:47,900 --> 00:35:49,660 No stop, full stop. 820 00:35:49,660 --> 00:35:51,340 I don't know, but your nails look good. 821 00:35:51,340 --> 00:35:55,580 And I did my nails instead of sitting on the phone 822 00:35:55,580 --> 00:35:59,460 and really got into my Bravo show, Salt Lake City. 823 00:35:59,460 --> 00:36:00,900 So good. 824 00:36:00,900 --> 00:36:02,020 And my nails look horrible 825 00:36:02,020 --> 00:36:04,340 because I'm not good at it, but I did it. 826 00:36:04,340 --> 00:36:09,340 And I cut down my doom scrolling by at least 20 minutes. 827 00:36:09,340 --> 00:36:10,380 And I didn't pick up the phone again 828 00:36:10,380 --> 00:36:11,900 because I was like, why do I need to pick up the phone? 829 00:36:11,900 --> 00:36:15,500 So by like an hour, aren't those episodes like an hour? 830 00:36:15,500 --> 00:36:17,260 Well, yeah, but I watched three. 831 00:36:17,260 --> 00:36:19,260 So three hours. 832 00:36:19,260 --> 00:36:20,220 I had a lot of catching up to them. 833 00:36:20,220 --> 00:36:21,740 Not 20 minutes, three hours. 834 00:36:21,740 --> 00:36:23,460 Miami's so good. 835 00:36:23,460 --> 00:36:24,820 Okay. 836 00:36:24,820 --> 00:36:26,820 Anyway, I'm gonna, Bravo. 837 00:36:26,820 --> 00:36:29,540 No, Bravo's always in. 838 00:36:29,540 --> 00:36:32,140 But I am gonna stop scrolling at night. 839 00:36:32,140 --> 00:36:33,380 It doesn't make me feel good. 840 00:36:33,380 --> 00:36:34,860 It's a waste of my time. 841 00:36:34,860 --> 00:36:38,100 And just like that, my brain is gone, overdrive, 842 00:36:38,100 --> 00:36:40,100 trying to listen, trying to scroll. 843 00:36:40,100 --> 00:36:41,180 It's not good for anybody. 844 00:36:41,180 --> 00:36:42,020 It's not good for me. 845 00:36:42,020 --> 00:36:45,940 Which is probably why it takes you longer to go to sleep 846 00:36:45,940 --> 00:36:49,460 or don't sleep well and feel unrested when you wake up 847 00:36:49,460 --> 00:36:52,140 because your brain is like just looking at blue light, 848 00:36:52,140 --> 00:36:55,100 whether it's a big screen or the screen in your hand. 849 00:36:55,100 --> 00:36:56,740 And then you're like, shut your eyes, go to sleep. 850 00:36:56,740 --> 00:36:57,580 You're like, what? 851 00:36:57,580 --> 00:36:58,420 I can't. 852 00:36:58,420 --> 00:37:00,220 Your brain and your eyes are like, 853 00:37:00,220 --> 00:37:01,660 what are you asking me to do? 854 00:37:01,660 --> 00:37:03,100 This is a huge ass. 855 00:37:03,100 --> 00:37:05,380 So I don't want to doom scroll. 856 00:37:05,380 --> 00:37:06,500 Anymo. 857 00:37:06,500 --> 00:37:08,540 Doom scroll, anymo. 858 00:37:08,540 --> 00:37:11,180 Oh, so many outs I have for the podcast. 859 00:37:11,180 --> 00:37:12,340 So I wrote some down. 860 00:37:13,700 --> 00:37:15,820 For Fit to Be Real. 861 00:37:16,940 --> 00:37:20,220 In Carly Readingmore and researching. 862 00:37:20,220 --> 00:37:23,940 It's been really delightful that you have been reading 863 00:37:23,940 --> 00:37:27,140 and learning and coming in, getting excited about things. 864 00:37:27,140 --> 00:37:29,140 Carly out. 865 00:37:29,140 --> 00:37:31,140 Extra tip titles. 866 00:37:31,140 --> 00:37:35,140 Her real extra tip titles could take it down a notch. 867 00:37:36,140 --> 00:37:38,140 Can't stop won't stop. 868 00:37:38,140 --> 00:37:39,140 Carly in. 869 00:37:39,140 --> 00:37:41,140 Learning more. 870 00:37:41,140 --> 00:37:43,140 And then kind of applying it to her life. 871 00:37:43,140 --> 00:37:44,140 Kind of applying. 872 00:37:44,140 --> 00:37:46,140 Thinking about applying. 873 00:37:46,140 --> 00:37:47,140 Hopefully applying. 874 00:37:47,140 --> 00:37:49,140 Well, now some of them you've actually have. 875 00:37:49,140 --> 00:37:51,140 Some of them I need to remind you in a moment. 876 00:37:51,140 --> 00:37:54,140 But it's a process and it's awesome. 877 00:37:54,140 --> 00:37:55,140 Carly out. 878 00:37:55,140 --> 00:37:58,140 Carly out singing hustler baby. 879 00:37:58,140 --> 00:38:01,140 I already did it and I will do it till the day I die. 880 00:38:01,140 --> 00:38:02,140 Carly in. 881 00:38:02,140 --> 00:38:05,140 It's number three and it's blank because I couldn't think of another in. 882 00:38:08,140 --> 00:38:10,140 But I, the intention is there. 883 00:38:10,140 --> 00:38:11,140 Carly out. 884 00:38:11,140 --> 00:38:13,140 The intention is there. 885 00:38:13,140 --> 00:38:15,140 You're such a brat. 886 00:38:15,140 --> 00:38:20,140 Carly out is leaving her half full coffee in the sink when the dishwasher is right next to her. 887 00:38:20,140 --> 00:38:24,140 She leaves, she makes me make her coffee every time that she's here. 888 00:38:24,140 --> 00:38:29,140 And then she has to run out because she's got to go get the kids and she's got to go pick up Dean. 889 00:38:29,140 --> 00:38:33,140 And she's got to go run to the trainer Joe's and she's always got to go to lunch duty. 890 00:38:33,140 --> 00:38:36,140 And she has to go to lunch duty in the recess yard. 891 00:38:36,140 --> 00:38:40,140 So she's always running out the door because we've talked for way too long like we are right now. 892 00:38:40,140 --> 00:38:46,140 And I go into the sink and not only does she not pour out her half drunk and coffee. 893 00:38:46,140 --> 00:38:55,140 She just puts the coffee cup in the sink and the dishwasher 90% of the time is open and ready to be filled. 894 00:38:55,140 --> 00:38:58,140 So you could just put it in there and she just drops it and leaves. 895 00:38:58,140 --> 00:39:00,140 Andrew's not here to do that for me. 896 00:39:00,140 --> 00:39:02,140 And it's an out for me. 897 00:39:02,140 --> 00:39:04,140 It's an out for me. 898 00:39:04,140 --> 00:39:10,140 Well, I don't get to drink the coffee because we're talking and then it cold and then it cold. 899 00:39:10,140 --> 00:39:11,140 It cold. 900 00:39:11,140 --> 00:39:12,140 It cold. 901 00:39:12,140 --> 00:39:13,140 And I can't finish it. 902 00:39:13,140 --> 00:39:15,140 And then yeah, I have to run. 903 00:39:15,140 --> 00:39:17,140 So sue me. 904 00:39:17,140 --> 00:39:19,140 Sue me. 905 00:39:19,140 --> 00:39:20,140 Sue me. 906 00:39:20,140 --> 00:39:22,140 What can you do me? 907 00:39:22,140 --> 00:39:24,140 I love coffee. 908 00:39:24,140 --> 00:39:26,140 That's from guys and dolls. 909 00:39:26,140 --> 00:39:29,140 There's going to be more of that in 2024. 910 00:39:29,140 --> 00:39:31,140 Guys and dolls? 911 00:39:31,140 --> 00:39:32,140 Just singing in general. 912 00:39:32,140 --> 00:39:33,140 I told you I'm warming up the voce. 913 00:39:33,140 --> 00:39:34,140 It's an out. 914 00:39:34,140 --> 00:39:35,140 It's an out. 915 00:39:35,140 --> 00:39:37,140 We are going to have more guests in 2024. 916 00:39:37,140 --> 00:39:39,140 So you don't just have to listen to us. 917 00:39:39,140 --> 00:39:43,140 And we are going to learn more about ourselves. 918 00:39:43,140 --> 00:39:45,140 We all are as a collective whole. 919 00:39:45,140 --> 00:39:46,140 Yeah. 920 00:39:46,140 --> 00:39:51,140 I think I would like to have more fit to be realers on. 921 00:39:51,140 --> 00:39:52,140 Yes. 922 00:39:52,140 --> 00:39:57,140 I'm going to put it out there now that we're going to do a call in question. 923 00:39:57,140 --> 00:39:58,140 Oh my God. 924 00:39:58,140 --> 00:39:59,140 Yes. 925 00:39:59,140 --> 00:40:00,140 Type of situation. 926 00:40:00,140 --> 00:40:05,140 So even if you are working on a Tuesday, I know you're sitting in a desk with a phone next to you. 927 00:40:05,140 --> 00:40:08,140 You can call in and we will answer your questions. 928 00:40:08,140 --> 00:40:09,140 Talk to you live. 929 00:40:09,140 --> 00:40:10,140 Yeah. 930 00:40:10,140 --> 00:40:11,140 I'm nervous. 931 00:40:11,140 --> 00:40:12,140 I'm so young. 932 00:40:12,140 --> 00:40:13,140 I'm not going to improv. 933 00:40:13,140 --> 00:40:14,140 You're not invited. 934 00:40:14,140 --> 00:40:18,140 You're going to make me make coffee. 935 00:40:18,140 --> 00:40:24,140 I hope this was helpful for you. 936 00:40:24,140 --> 00:40:25,140 I liked it. 937 00:40:25,140 --> 00:40:26,880 It's not so basic and trendy. 938 00:40:26,880 --> 00:40:31,140 It's actually good to sit down and think, man, what do I really want to do this year? 939 00:40:31,140 --> 00:40:32,140 It's just reflection. 940 00:40:32,140 --> 00:40:33,140 It's not a goal. 941 00:40:33,140 --> 00:40:34,140 It's not an intention. 942 00:40:34,140 --> 00:40:41,140 It's not a reflection. 943 00:40:41,140 --> 00:40:43,140 But what's, oh my gosh, resolution. 944 00:40:43,140 --> 00:40:48,140 It's just, what do you want more of out of the year and what do you want less of? 945 00:40:48,140 --> 00:40:53,860 And knowing that you are the deciding factor in making that come to fruition. 946 00:40:53,860 --> 00:40:59,500 I think everybody's in should be gaining control of your life again because I know for a fact 947 00:40:59,500 --> 00:41:06,260 that the people that I talk to have lost control of their lives in many ways, not just like 948 00:41:06,260 --> 00:41:13,860 with working out or eating or nutrition in always in schedules, in finding yourself 949 00:41:13,860 --> 00:41:19,260 again in, and you know what is the craziest aspect of that in gaining control of your 950 00:41:19,260 --> 00:41:20,260 life? 951 00:41:20,260 --> 00:41:24,260 You have to let go of control. 952 00:41:24,260 --> 00:41:25,260 Wait what? 953 00:41:25,260 --> 00:41:26,260 No. 954 00:41:26,260 --> 00:41:31,220 To gain control of your life and you feeling like you are the writer, the script writer 955 00:41:31,220 --> 00:41:35,340 of the play of your life and not just the supporting character. 956 00:41:35,340 --> 00:41:37,420 You are writing the script. 957 00:41:37,420 --> 00:41:40,140 You have to let go of control. 958 00:41:40,140 --> 00:41:43,660 You have to let go of the regiment and have more fun. 959 00:41:43,660 --> 00:41:49,700 The routine and have to let go of getting upset when things don't go your way. 960 00:41:49,700 --> 00:41:54,500 And when obstacles present themselves, you let go of the attachment to being so caught 961 00:41:54,500 --> 00:41:56,940 up and it needs to go the way that I want it to go. 962 00:41:56,940 --> 00:41:59,780 Even if it's I want to have more fun and I'm not having more fun. 963 00:41:59,780 --> 00:42:02,420 Now I'm in control of being upset. 964 00:42:02,420 --> 00:42:08,980 If you let go of control and trust that it's all going to work out, you have actually gained 965 00:42:08,980 --> 00:42:11,180 control of your life again. 966 00:42:11,180 --> 00:42:17,660 Do you think I've become better on the whole because I started doing yoga this year? 967 00:42:17,660 --> 00:42:23,460 I think that you have become better as a whole because you're listening to me more. 968 00:42:23,460 --> 00:42:25,940 I'm just kidding. 969 00:42:25,940 --> 00:42:28,220 I do think yoga has plays a part. 970 00:42:28,220 --> 00:42:34,060 There's something to you being forced to slow down that whether you know it or not, trickles 971 00:42:34,060 --> 00:42:36,460 in off the mat into real life. 972 00:42:36,460 --> 00:42:38,020 I was just thinking about that. 973 00:42:38,020 --> 00:42:39,020 I think you breathe more. 974 00:42:39,020 --> 00:42:45,100 I've never stuck to yoga so long in my life and I've dabbled here and there in New York 975 00:42:45,100 --> 00:42:48,420 and I've never stuck to it this long. 976 00:42:48,420 --> 00:42:50,460 And it's become your routine. 977 00:42:50,460 --> 00:42:52,300 I want to go. 978 00:42:52,300 --> 00:42:54,500 It's not something I feel like I have to do. 979 00:42:54,500 --> 00:42:55,900 I really want to go. 980 00:42:55,900 --> 00:43:04,780 I encourage everybody if you haven't tried yoga to go and if you haven't done it consistently 981 00:43:04,780 --> 00:43:09,820 to try and keep it consistent because I'm being 100% serious. 982 00:43:09,820 --> 00:43:11,420 I'm not messing around. 983 00:43:11,420 --> 00:43:19,980 I honestly think yoga has something to do with me just relaxing a tad. 984 00:43:19,980 --> 00:43:20,980 You're welcome. 985 00:43:20,980 --> 00:43:23,980 Be more excited for me. 986 00:43:23,980 --> 00:43:25,500 I'm very excited for you. 987 00:43:25,500 --> 00:43:29,700 I knew that but I'm excited that you have realized that. 988 00:43:29,700 --> 00:43:30,700 Boom. 989 00:43:30,700 --> 00:43:35,220 Because what you have consistently stuck to is not the fitness yoga. 990 00:43:35,220 --> 00:43:42,540 You have consistently stuck to EverFresh and Tyler which is yes, vigorous, albeit a little 991 00:43:42,540 --> 00:43:44,620 bit athletic. 992 00:43:44,620 --> 00:43:49,060 But there's pieces that sink into your subconscious that you're not even thinking about it and 993 00:43:49,060 --> 00:43:53,180 it's the philosophy sometimes he brings in or it's the moments of silence and stillness 994 00:43:53,180 --> 00:43:54,620 that you are not good at. 995 00:43:54,620 --> 00:44:01,260 No, and I'm still trying to not think about my dances for the night class during Shavasana 996 00:44:01,260 --> 00:44:05,020 and the light in you finding me in the universe. 997 00:44:05,020 --> 00:44:06,020 Oh my God. 998 00:44:06,020 --> 00:44:10,180 That is not what Namaste means but close and that's fine. 999 00:44:10,180 --> 00:44:12,460 I was snoring in Shavasana today. 1000 00:44:12,460 --> 00:44:13,460 Stop it. 1001 00:44:13,460 --> 00:44:14,460 Oh yeah. 1002 00:44:14,460 --> 00:44:17,460 I could hear myself doing it and I was like, oh well. 1003 00:44:17,460 --> 00:44:18,460 That's yoga. 1004 00:44:18,460 --> 00:44:19,460 That's yoga baby. 1005 00:44:19,460 --> 00:44:21,740 I was like, I don't even care. 1006 00:44:21,740 --> 00:44:22,740 It feels so good. 1007 00:44:22,740 --> 00:44:23,740 Love it. 1008 00:44:23,740 --> 00:44:24,740 Love it. 1009 00:44:24,740 --> 00:44:29,620 So you'll get to that point if you keep consistent which I think is a big factor. 1010 00:44:29,620 --> 00:44:30,620 Yeah, it really do. 1011 00:44:30,620 --> 00:44:36,180 I think everybody should try it. 1012 00:44:36,180 --> 00:44:42,260 Your real tip and your real extra tip for this 52nd episode is to do your own ins and 1013 00:44:42,260 --> 00:44:46,500 outs if you haven't already of things that you are proud of yourself and want to keep 1014 00:44:46,500 --> 00:44:52,380 and things that you realize don't service who you are and what you want 2024 to be about 1015 00:44:52,380 --> 00:44:55,380 because I didn't think it was a big deal but I think it's pretty cool because now I have 1016 00:44:55,380 --> 00:45:01,220 this list that I can reference and be like, this is not where I wanted it to go. 1017 00:45:01,220 --> 00:45:02,220 Yeah. 1018 00:45:02,220 --> 00:45:03,220 I think it's great. 1019 00:45:03,220 --> 00:45:04,540 And it doesn't have to be that deep. 1020 00:45:04,540 --> 00:45:06,940 It doesn't have to be that hard. 1021 00:45:06,940 --> 00:45:12,620 Honestly, one of my ends is just to be sillier in Victoria's is to just embrace her weirdness. 1022 00:45:12,620 --> 00:45:15,460 I mean, she's going to embrace it. 1023 00:45:15,460 --> 00:45:16,460 Horde. 1024 00:45:16,460 --> 00:45:17,460 Horde. 1025 00:45:17,460 --> 00:45:18,460 The Horde. 1026 00:45:18,460 --> 00:45:20,500 It's so fun to say it like that. 1027 00:45:20,500 --> 00:45:23,820 We hope that you remember that you always fit to be real. 1028 00:45:23,820 --> 00:45:25,820 Are you constipated? 1029 00:45:25,820 --> 00:45:26,820 I don't. 1030 00:45:26,820 --> 00:45:29,260 I'm not sure what's so hard. 1031 00:45:29,260 --> 00:45:30,260 You're so weird. 1032 00:45:30,260 --> 00:45:31,260 I can't. 1033 00:45:31,260 --> 00:45:32,260 I can't with you right now. 1034 00:45:32,260 --> 00:45:33,260 You're so weird. 1035 00:45:33,260 --> 00:45:36,100 I refuse to apologize for that. 1036 00:45:36,100 --> 00:45:38,500 Well, I'll say yes to that. 1037 00:45:38,500 --> 00:45:39,500 Oh my God. 1038 00:45:39,500 --> 00:45:40,500 Goodbye. 1039 00:45:40,500 --> 00:45:45,540 I'm looking forward to the next episode. 1040 00:45:45,540 --> 00:45:53,380 We hope that you also remember that you are fit to be real and always allow to be a little 1041 00:45:53,380 --> 00:45:57,620 extra, extra silly, extra everything. 1042 00:45:57,620 --> 00:46:04,700 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 1043 00:46:04,700 --> 00:46:06,500 educational purposes only. 1044 00:46:06,500 --> 00:46:08,700 We are not healthcare professionals. 1045 00:46:08,700 --> 00:46:12,800 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self care needs, please refer to the medical 1046 00:46:12,800 --> 00:46:14,500 professional in your life. 1047 00:46:14,500 --> 00:46:19,620 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 1048 00:46:19,620 --> 00:46:23,700 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do. 1049 00:46:23,700 --> 00:46:24,700 Okay? 1050 00:46:24,700 --> 00:46:44,700 Bye.