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Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.

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We're talking self care, which we've done before,

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but it's special this time because it's on a budget.

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Yes, because we know that's what everybody wants

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in the new year when you're trying to save,

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you're trying to, one of your self care could be

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putting yourself on a budget.

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Everybody after Christmas is on a budget.

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Yeah.

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So this will be fun.

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There's a lot in what we're gonna say

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and I highly, highly recommend to go into the reference notes

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and read this article and there's even more links

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within the article that you can dive into

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the specific self care tip and you should.

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Well, I mean, who thought of this episode?

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Who found the articles?

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I'm just wondering.

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Do you know?

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It's one article.

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Clearly we know the answer by the question

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like Carly is the spearhead behind this.

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I mean, I found a few articles, but this one was the best.

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So it was me.

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Hi, it's me.

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Oh, that's the wrong lyrics.

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It's me.

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Oh, hi.

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Oh, I'm the problem.

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There was so much to unpack in that phrase.

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Listen, member, member?

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My new year's goal is to have more fun.

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So I'm having fun right now.

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So I'm doing it.

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I'm doing the goal.

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I'm reaching the goal.

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This might be the peak of my goal.

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Oh no.

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You're only a weekend of the year.

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Downhill.

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If this is the most fun I'm gonna have in 2024.

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I don't wanna go big or go home.

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I just wanna go home.

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Well, good.

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There's a lot of things we're about to say

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that you can do at home while you're there.

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You're so good at this.

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I know.

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I'm Victoria.

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I'm Victoria.

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Hey guys, I'm Carly.

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And scene.

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So I have to let you know that editing

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has just happened for this intro.

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And it happened three times.

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So please listen to the blooper

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because all of what just happened will be in the blooper.

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And the way that she just said her name

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was the best we could get from her.

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So please go listen to the blooper.

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I'm doing the best that I can.

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And then come back.

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I don't know.

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It's one of those days when you just wake up

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and you wake up and then it's the day.

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What?

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What?

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I need some self care in my life.

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Let's talk about that.

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There are like 100 million.

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No.

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No.

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Her pinky was in her corner of her mouth.

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100 million.

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That's true.

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There were actually not 100.

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There's 99 problems and Carly is one of them.

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But there are 99 different options for self care

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in this specific article that we have kind of ran with.

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We are not going to rattle off on 99.

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What?

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Victoria did.

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She wrote down all 99 of them.

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I walked in up.

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I said 10.

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I said 10.

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I did.

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So do you remember in the first little bit that we said

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and Carly wanted praise for picking the article

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and picking what we were going to talk about?

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She also didn't tell me what she was picking from it.

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So I had to write all of them down

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in case what I picked was what she picked.

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It's me.

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It's me.

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Hi.

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Oh good.

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Yeah, yeah, yeah.

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Stop there.

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Stop there.

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That's good.

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That's good.

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So we are just going to give you 10 each.

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So we're going to be 20 tips.

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The article has way more and truly.

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They're all good.

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They're all phenomenal.

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They're all things that you wouldn't think of.

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And these, again, as we've said before,

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they're not going to be mind blowing

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like things you've learned.

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But it's going to give you a new take on, oh, you're right.

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That is actually self care.

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Things that you wouldn't think of as self care actually are.

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There's one of them that I don't think are on either of our lists

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that I'm going to give an example of what you just said.

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And it was washing your bedding and your pillowcases,

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like the couch pillowcases and stuff like that,

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and curtains if you have, I guess, fabric curtains, washing them.

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And maybe included in that is your clothes, like your laundry.

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Yeah, yeah, definitely do that.

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But it was basically a day of getting your washing done

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and then reading the feeling when you do your bed

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and you're like, I can't wait to get in bed.

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It is the best feeling to get in a bed with clean sheets.

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It's like a brand new bed.

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It's like a hotel. Yes.

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Give us your first favorite self care.

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My first favorite on the budget self care

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is reorganize your closet with this goal.

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You have to have this goal in mind.

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You cannot deviate from this goal.

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The goal is I want to feel joy when I open this door.

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Oh, and that that's what everybody should feel like

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when they look in the closet.

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And that doesn't it means clean the closet.

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It means color coat the closet.

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I like to color code it.

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And it doesn't always end up that way

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because sometimes you just throw in your clothes together.

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But how nice would it be to walk into your closet

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or open the door to your closet?

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And it'd be like a pretty array of rainbow colors all put together

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or just tidy.

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Yeah, that makes you feel good.

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I know for me, my closet right now has a bag of Christmas presents

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that I have not gone through yet to put away.

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Yeah, like an enormous T.J.

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Max bag of everything I got for Christmas,

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just sitting there with like shoes all over it.

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Like it does not look good right now.

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You think you're special.

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You got Christmas gifts.

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Is that what you're trying to say?

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What? Like it's hard.

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Like it's those two different movies, by the way,

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Mean Girls and Legally Blunt.

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Very good.

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But one, it makes your routine of the day go by a little quicker.

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Two, it's just that one second out of the day where you can go,

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that makes me feel good.

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You know, that's nice.

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And isn't that what self care is all about?

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Just that little bit of joy.

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And when you want to open the closet door, you want to feel that.

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OK, I'm putting two together because I think they can be done

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together and not be overwhelming, which is go to produce junction.

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If that is something that you have in your area

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or some sort of produce place or Trader Joe's

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an inexpensive place to get flowers.

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Letal.

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Oh, this is so you.

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And just put flowers in your house.

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I when I go to the grocery store and I usually go to Aldi or Letal.

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A place like that.

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I will pick up a small bouquet or if they're really like 299,

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I'll pick up a few and I will put them around my house.

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One goes on the island in the kitchen, one's on the coffee table.

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Maybe one goes into my bedroom and that's it.

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But they're so nice to look at.

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And why do we only do that when we're having guests over?

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah, you don't even do that.

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I don't do that at all.

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But what you do is the next one that I'm pairing it with,

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which is light a candle.

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Light a candle where you're in a room and then don't leave the house.

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But when you're home, light a candle.

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Right now I have one on the coffee table lit and I have one in the bathroom lit.

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When I walked into Victoria's house this morning,

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I felt immediate joy because I was like, oh, it smells so good in here.

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And it's pumpkin spice.

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Well, it's my favorite.

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All season I do pumpkin.

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I don't care what it's July unless I'm smelling pumpkin spice.

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Those are things that we usually do when we're having guests over

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because it cozies up the house and it makes it nice.

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But we have to bring that into our every day.

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Why not?

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Why are you waiting for?

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Right.

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So if you are someone who likes an inexpensive little bundle of flowers,

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they're not going to last forever because they are a little bit cheaper.

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First up your house.

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Make it vibrant.

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It's dark at 3 p.m.

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Put some sunflowers on your coffee table.

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It's a very easy thing.

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I'm an easy.

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What'd you say?

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I said it's a very you thing.

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Oh, God.

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I kill flowers the day I bring them home.

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All you have to do fun fact.

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Little tip is cut them at the bottom before you put them in the vase

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with the packet of food that it comes with, but cut the bottom of them.

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It gives them more life and then there's nothing else you have to do.

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You will kill them naturally.

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Naturally from there.

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Natural born killer.

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It will take longer.

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Did you hear?

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Yeah.

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We all heard that.

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Listen, if you're lighting candles, do not invite Dini boy over

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because you will walk in and say, can I blow them out?

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He truly does.

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He's not in the door yet and he's like, can I blow out your hand?

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He likes to make the ghosts come up.

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Next one.

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This one is the easiest and I think most detoxifying thing that you could possibly do.

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Oh, you're not going to expect it.

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It's clean out your purse of your everyday bag.

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I certainly don't expect that.

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It feels so good to go through your bag and get every gum wrapper like that you just thrown

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back in there.

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Change.

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You have so much change at the bottom of your bag.

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I mean, a lot of people now carry the Lulu lemon like little cross body bags, but guess

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what goes fill up too.

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You have no idea how many gift cards you have that only like Starbucks cards that only

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have $2 on them, but you've got like a 10 of them in your bag.

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Like go through your everyday purse and see what treasures you have forgotten about.

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It makes you feel so good.

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Sounds like a you problem.

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That is a very me thing.

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With that change, I collect it all and put it in a big jar and I have a very tall three

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foot jar full of change.

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I do it daily.

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My jar is in there.

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I clean it out daily.

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Oh, you do?

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Oh, I do not.

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I wait at least six months.

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My jackets, that's short for you.

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My jackets, my bags, my book.

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I use a book bag daily.

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I clean it out.

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You do have a lot of bags.

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When I get home.

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I love bags.

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I know.

279
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Yeah, you do.

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I love them.

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I had to stop thinking about it so much because I will just buy them because I'm like, oh,

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I love that bag.

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I go nowhere.

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I have a lot of weekend bags.

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A lot of weekender bags.

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I like this one because I do it and it's something that's going to be hard for me because when

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I'm watching, I know what you're going to say.

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I know what you're going to say.

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Okay, when I'm watching Netflix or Hulu, whatever, at the end of the day.

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End of the day.

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I did it last night.

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Did you?

293
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Yeah.

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Wait, side note, to Abbot Elementary.

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So good.

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If you guys have not checked it out, first of all, take any recommendations Victoria gives

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you because they're usually good.

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Second, that is such a good show.

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It's about the Philadelphia area, which makes it, I think, a little bit better.

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A little bit better.

301
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So good.

302
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It's like the office and it's funny and it's all relatable.

303
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Like the things that they say and that they're doing, I'm like, it's scripted.

304
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Oh my God.

305
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And it's got really big players on it.

306
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So like people that you've forgotten about.

307
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Really big players.

308
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Yeah.

309
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And it's written by a partially written by a Temple University grad.

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No.

311
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Oh, yeah, you told me that.

312
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You told me that.

313
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I graduated with her.

314
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She's the nicest, funniest person in the world, but they just, it blew up.

315
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So, watch it, watch it, but go ahead.

316
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Go ahead.

317
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So, I'm doing Abbott Elementary and I don't know how long the episodes are.

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Even if they're long, it doesn't matter.

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You get to that point where you're like, just one more and then I'll go to bed or just one

320
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more and then I'll do task A, whatever it is that you're like kind of procrastinating.

321
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Instead of doing the just one more, when you hit that end of the episode, the credits are

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rolling, immediately turn it off.

323
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And the article suggested read or stretch because we don't do that when we should.

324
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Something that's going to be mindful for you.

325
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And maybe it's another self care tip.

326
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Maybe it's turn it off.

327
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Don't do the just one more episode and give yourself a manicure.

328
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Without noise in the background.

329
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So, you can kind of mix and match these self care tips, but I do the just one more that

330
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gets into the just another one.

331
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Oh, just the last one and then it's 11 and I'm regretting everything because I'm not

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even in bed yet.

333
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So, do not do the just one more.

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Just say no.

335
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Just say no to your mind.

336
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I had to do that last night.

337
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Andrew was like one more and there are like 21 minutes long, 22 minutes long.

338
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And I was like, I can't keep my eyes open.

339
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No, because I don't want to miss it.

340
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And I want to enjoy it and I'm struggling.

341
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Just turn it off.

342
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And it's a waste because then you have to rewatch it the next time anyway.

343
00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:52,720
Who wants to struggle because you're not staying awake.

344
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Yeah.

345
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So, let's do not.

346
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Just, just no more.

347
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All right.

348
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This might be an unpopular opinion, but I have little children in my house and I think

349
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Victoria can vouch for me on this one.

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Play a video game.

351
00:13:06,920 --> 00:13:07,920
Okay.

352
00:13:07,920 --> 00:13:10,360
Now, Victoria, why can you vouch for me on this?

353
00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:11,920
What did you just purchase?

354
00:13:11,920 --> 00:13:14,320
A Nintendo switch.

355
00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:16,400
I had lots of Amazon gift cards.

356
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Just put that out there first.

357
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Speaking of budget, but I've only played twice on my own on your own without my kids, without

358
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your, they haven't been over to play yet.

359
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And I got enough controllers that everybody can do it.

360
00:13:29,000 --> 00:13:32,280
It was mainly for the kids, but I was like, oh, let me just play without the kids yelling

361
00:13:32,280 --> 00:13:33,280
at me the whole time.

362
00:13:33,280 --> 00:13:35,280
See what that feels like.

363
00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:37,320
And it's totally more fun with them yelling at me.

364
00:13:37,320 --> 00:13:39,320
But I don't know.

365
00:13:39,320 --> 00:13:42,320
It was like, you can do the grand prix if you're doing the Mario Kart.

366
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So you do four races to make like one, one go round or whatever.

367
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And then I turned it off.

368
00:13:48,120 --> 00:13:50,960
Well, wait, we're going to settle this debate.

369
00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:51,960
Okay.

370
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M-A-R-I-O.

371
00:13:52,960 --> 00:13:53,960
Mario.

372
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Mario.

373
00:13:54,960 --> 00:13:55,960
Mario.

374
00:13:55,960 --> 00:13:56,960
Mario Kart.

375
00:13:56,960 --> 00:13:57,960
Mario Kart.

376
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It's Mario Kart.

377
00:13:58,960 --> 00:14:00,960
Now I don't know anything in the world.

378
00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:02,960
You've lost all intelligence.

379
00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:04,960
I don't even know if I believe in Mario.

380
00:14:04,960 --> 00:14:05,960
Mario.

381
00:14:05,960 --> 00:14:06,960
It's a me.

382
00:14:06,960 --> 00:14:07,960
It's Mario.

383
00:14:07,960 --> 00:14:08,960
Mario.

384
00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:09,960
No, it's not.

385
00:14:09,960 --> 00:14:10,960
It's me.

386
00:14:10,960 --> 00:14:11,960
It's Mario.

387
00:14:11,960 --> 00:14:12,960
What?

388
00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:13,960
Nobody said that.

389
00:14:13,960 --> 00:14:14,960
Mario Kart.

390
00:14:14,960 --> 00:14:15,960
Mario Kart.

391
00:14:15,960 --> 00:14:16,960
It's a me.

392
00:14:16,960 --> 00:14:17,960
It's a Mario.

393
00:14:17,960 --> 00:14:18,960
Mario and Luigi.

394
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Ooh.

395
00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:20,960
Ooh.

396
00:14:20,960 --> 00:14:21,960
Mario and Luigi.

397
00:14:21,960 --> 00:14:22,960
Yes.

398
00:14:22,960 --> 00:14:23,960
Mario Kart.

399
00:14:23,960 --> 00:14:24,960
Mario Kart.

400
00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:25,960
Mario Kart.

401
00:14:25,960 --> 00:14:26,960
No.

402
00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:27,960
I'm for both.

403
00:14:27,960 --> 00:14:28,960
You're not settling the debate.

404
00:14:28,960 --> 00:14:29,960
I'm for both.

405
00:14:29,960 --> 00:14:32,840
We had this huge debate with our brother over Christmas.

406
00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:34,280
It's a Mario Kart.

407
00:14:34,280 --> 00:14:38,840
I vote that hot dogs are tacos.

408
00:14:38,840 --> 00:14:39,960
That's what I vote with this.

409
00:14:39,960 --> 00:14:42,960
That was so many episodes ago.

410
00:14:42,960 --> 00:14:44,260
Anyway, play a video game.

411
00:14:44,260 --> 00:14:47,960
I, Andrew plays video games all the time with the kids.

412
00:14:47,960 --> 00:14:49,440
I cannot be bothered with it.

413
00:14:49,440 --> 00:14:50,440
It's not my thing.

414
00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:51,440
Why?

415
00:14:51,440 --> 00:14:52,780
I started playing with them because they're like,

416
00:14:52,780 --> 00:14:56,200
oh, you never play Mario Kart with us.

417
00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:57,200
So I played it.

418
00:14:57,200 --> 00:15:00,680
I mean, I was like, you guys are going down.

419
00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:02,640
I have to get better.

420
00:15:02,640 --> 00:15:03,640
I have to get better.

421
00:15:03,640 --> 00:15:04,640
It's so fun.

422
00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:05,640
They're freaking out.

423
00:15:05,640 --> 00:15:06,640
The racing one?

424
00:15:06,640 --> 00:15:07,640
Yeah.

425
00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:08,640
The Mario Kart racing one.

426
00:15:08,640 --> 00:15:09,640
Yeah.

427
00:15:09,640 --> 00:15:10,640
But yeah, play a video game.

428
00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:11,640
One, it's fun.

429
00:15:11,640 --> 00:15:12,640
Two, it's mindless.

430
00:15:12,640 --> 00:15:14,680
If you just need to shut off, you don't have to think about anything else.

431
00:15:14,680 --> 00:15:17,200
Play a video game that could be on your phone.

432
00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,320
Play Download Tetris.

433
00:15:19,320 --> 00:15:20,320
Best game ever.

434
00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:21,320
Stop it.

435
00:15:21,320 --> 00:15:22,320
I have it for the big screen.

436
00:15:22,320 --> 00:15:23,320
I have to hurry up.

437
00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:27,720
I need to play one game before I leave.

438
00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:32,200
Sometimes self-care is just shutting your mind off to everything you think you have

439
00:15:32,200 --> 00:15:38,040
to do and taking 20 minutes to just be mindless and have fun.

440
00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:44,400
This is one that might seem like, why do we have to talk about this?

441
00:15:44,400 --> 00:15:49,600
But I wrote down, I summed up the whole thing, shower your way.

442
00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:50,600
I saw that.

443
00:15:50,600 --> 00:15:52,200
I didn't write that down.

444
00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:57,040
Because I, so we think, I think about showers the same way.

445
00:15:57,040 --> 00:15:58,040
It's a chore.

446
00:15:58,040 --> 00:16:01,200
You just have to, like when you're exhausted, oh my God, I have to shower.

447
00:16:01,200 --> 00:16:02,200
I have to do my hair.

448
00:16:02,200 --> 00:16:05,440
Or like, you know, if you're a female, you don't wash your hair every day.

449
00:16:05,440 --> 00:16:06,440
Maybe you do.

450
00:16:06,440 --> 00:16:07,440
But I do.

451
00:16:07,440 --> 00:16:08,440
I know.

452
00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:10,080
I do not wash my hair every day.

453
00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:14,080
And it's obvious when I don't, and I'm at the point where it's needed.

454
00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:16,880
You should say right now, I just wash my hair.

455
00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:18,880
Oh, oh, oh.

456
00:16:18,880 --> 00:16:20,720
Are you kidding me?

457
00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:22,440
No, I didn't really look at you.

458
00:16:22,440 --> 00:16:24,840
I washed it yesterday and you said, oh, you showered.

459
00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:27,240
Yeah, you're the worst.

460
00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:31,640
Well, usually I look like a founding father when I don't wash my hair because it's in

461
00:16:31,640 --> 00:16:34,520
a low pony and it's, it's a struggle.

462
00:16:34,520 --> 00:16:37,400
But anyway, shower your way.

463
00:16:37,400 --> 00:16:41,840
Sometimes it's nice to take a really long shower and not think about the problems of

464
00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:42,840
the world.

465
00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:47,120
The problems of the world are just, I feel like the way, in the way my brain works of

466
00:16:47,120 --> 00:16:50,120
growing up, it was like, you're wasting water, don't waste water.

467
00:16:50,120 --> 00:16:51,680
That's what, yeah, sort of that's what I mean.

468
00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:55,040
So fast showers was like the only way.

469
00:16:55,040 --> 00:17:01,400
And you know, it's, sometimes it's nice to do that because I'm just tired and I want

470
00:17:01,400 --> 00:17:03,040
to get in bed or I want to chill out in the couch.

471
00:17:03,040 --> 00:17:04,520
I don't want to have to worry about it.

472
00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:09,320
Sometimes on a weekend, it's nice to take a long shower and a very hot one.

473
00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:12,400
And sometimes it's nice to end with a really cold shower punch.

474
00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:15,240
Like do it your way, enjoy the shower.

475
00:17:15,240 --> 00:17:17,320
Andrew does that every day.

476
00:17:17,320 --> 00:17:18,320
Enjoy his showers.

477
00:17:18,320 --> 00:17:19,960
No, hot shower, 30 second cold.

478
00:17:19,960 --> 00:17:24,600
Yes, you can hear, because he's like singing and he's like warming up the voice and then

479
00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:27,880
he's like, oh, I'm like, cold.

480
00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:28,880
You hit the cold.

481
00:17:28,880 --> 00:17:29,880
Guess what?

482
00:17:29,880 --> 00:17:30,880
His nervous system is very regulated.

483
00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:34,480
You have married a very regulated nervous system, which is wonderful.

484
00:17:34,480 --> 00:17:37,560
I do it for about 20 seconds.

485
00:17:37,560 --> 00:17:38,560
Not every time.

486
00:17:38,560 --> 00:17:39,560
I do not do it at all.

487
00:17:39,560 --> 00:17:40,560
Not every time.

488
00:17:40,560 --> 00:17:43,400
I might do a challenge of trying to get through the whole month of February because it's the

489
00:17:43,400 --> 00:17:44,400
shortest month.

490
00:17:44,400 --> 00:17:46,360
But that's not showering my way.

491
00:17:46,360 --> 00:17:48,040
So yeah, you don't have to.

492
00:17:48,040 --> 00:17:50,160
You're a good nervous system.

493
00:17:50,160 --> 00:17:51,920
Be traumatized forever.

494
00:17:51,920 --> 00:17:52,920
It's great.

495
00:17:52,920 --> 00:17:55,120
But yeah, shower your way.

496
00:17:55,120 --> 00:17:56,120
Enjoy them.

497
00:17:56,120 --> 00:17:57,120
Play music.

498
00:17:57,120 --> 00:17:58,120
Why not?

499
00:17:58,120 --> 00:17:59,120
We never did that.

500
00:17:59,120 --> 00:18:00,120
Andrew brings in our wireless speaker.

501
00:18:00,120 --> 00:18:01,120
Yeah.

502
00:18:01,120 --> 00:18:03,400
And he listens to a podcast while he showers.

503
00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:09,760
It's like you can have fun doing mundane or just daily habitual chores.

504
00:18:09,760 --> 00:18:15,040
Well, I think that's what this episode is supposed to be reminding you of, that like taking

505
00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:21,640
a shower your way is actually enhancing your day, boosting your mood, making you a better

506
00:18:21,640 --> 00:18:25,880
person and a more happy person throughout the day.

507
00:18:25,880 --> 00:18:26,880
Yeah.

508
00:18:26,880 --> 00:18:29,760
Well, it's also finding little things that are in your power to do.

509
00:18:29,760 --> 00:18:34,120
Yeah, you know, when you're feeling like it's such a hard day and everything did nothing

510
00:18:34,120 --> 00:18:39,920
went your way and everything was just like another obstacle or like, oh, I lost this.

511
00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:41,120
I can't believe I dropped this.

512
00:18:41,120 --> 00:18:44,320
And then you get in the shower and you can enjoy it.

513
00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,360
You forget about how horrible the day was.

514
00:18:46,360 --> 00:18:47,360
Yeah.

515
00:18:47,360 --> 00:18:50,280
If you're a nighttime shower, you know, but anyway, that's a good one.

516
00:18:50,280 --> 00:18:54,280
I didn't write that down, but now I'm glad you did.

517
00:18:54,280 --> 00:18:56,480
Whip up your favorite meal.

518
00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:58,440
This actually has a two, two parter.

519
00:18:58,440 --> 00:19:03,160
How often do you make your favorite meal of all time, favorite meal of all time?

520
00:19:03,160 --> 00:19:07,400
Now, I know people don't do this every day because we shouldn't because it's probably

521
00:19:07,400 --> 00:19:08,400
gluttonous.

522
00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:09,400
Right.

523
00:19:09,400 --> 00:19:10,400
Exactly.

524
00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:11,400
But that's what I'm saying.

525
00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:12,400
How much would you enjoy it?

526
00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:13,400
Yeah.

527
00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:15,800
Maybe, you know, once in a blue moon.

528
00:19:15,800 --> 00:19:17,760
Remember that episode about blue moons?

529
00:19:17,760 --> 00:19:19,240
Do you know what moon we're in right now?

530
00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:20,760
The one where it's in the sky.

531
00:19:20,760 --> 00:19:21,760
Oh my God.

532
00:19:21,760 --> 00:19:22,760
No.

533
00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:23,760
Keep talking.

534
00:19:23,760 --> 00:19:24,760
Okay.

535
00:19:24,760 --> 00:19:25,760
It's waning.

536
00:19:25,760 --> 00:19:26,760
Don't make me do it.

537
00:19:26,760 --> 00:19:29,120
I'm waning.

538
00:19:29,120 --> 00:19:31,400
That she remembers.

539
00:19:31,400 --> 00:19:32,400
Whip up your favorite meal.

540
00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,280
For me, it is rigatoni.

541
00:19:35,280 --> 00:19:36,920
I was just going to say that.

542
00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:41,680
With sun-dried tomatoes and pesto with a whole bunch of Parmesan cheese.

543
00:19:41,680 --> 00:19:46,120
I don't eat dairy, but I will go off the rails for that meal.

544
00:19:46,120 --> 00:19:50,880
Our mom used to make it every year for our, and we only had it once a year.

545
00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:51,880
Just our birthdays.

546
00:19:51,880 --> 00:19:52,880
Just our birthdays.

547
00:19:52,880 --> 00:19:57,160
Our birthday dinner, our mom would make rigatoni with pesto and sun-dried tomatoes, and it

548
00:19:57,160 --> 00:19:58,160
was the best.

549
00:19:58,160 --> 00:19:59,160
Yeah.

550
00:19:59,160 --> 00:20:03,920
And one, it's a meal that reminds us of our childhood.

551
00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:07,040
Two, we never eat.

552
00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:08,040
We never eat it.

553
00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:09,040
We never get to eat it.

554
00:20:09,040 --> 00:20:12,120
We love to just not feel guilty eating it.

555
00:20:12,120 --> 00:20:17,280
But that's, I think, the part of this self-care is that don't feel guilty eating it.

556
00:20:17,280 --> 00:20:20,520
Enjoy it and move on.

557
00:20:20,520 --> 00:20:24,120
We've talked about that a million times, but that is a part of self-care.

558
00:20:24,120 --> 00:20:25,680
Enjoying what you're eating.

559
00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:26,960
Make your favorite meal.

560
00:20:26,960 --> 00:20:28,200
It means something to you.

561
00:20:28,200 --> 00:20:30,080
It reminds you of something.

562
00:20:30,080 --> 00:20:32,760
Whatever it is, it's important to you.

563
00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:33,760
Do that.

564
00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:43,120
Then leftovers make extra so that you can easily access it later in smaller portions,

565
00:20:43,120 --> 00:20:46,280
less gorging or all in.

566
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,600
Just like, yeah, we'll have a little bit here and there, but always make leftovers.

567
00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:55,840
Well, if you do the little bit here and there in this particular format of leftovers, then

568
00:20:55,840 --> 00:21:01,200
it's not, and I'm going to engorge myself, I never get this meal, because then it happens

569
00:21:01,200 --> 00:21:04,400
a little bit more frequently, even though in a healthy way.

570
00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:05,400
Do you know what I mean?

571
00:21:05,400 --> 00:21:06,400
Yeah, totally.

572
00:21:06,400 --> 00:21:09,760
Like, don't really restrict yourself from something, which is how we are with that meal,

573
00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:12,400
with meals like that.

574
00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:15,840
Then when you have it, you overboard it, and you're like, oh my gosh, I can never have that.

575
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:18,080
And then it's another six months, and you do it again.

576
00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:22,280
But if you leftover it and have it randomly in the next week following, then it's like,

577
00:21:22,280 --> 00:21:24,720
oh, maybe I'll do that in another month or two.

578
00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:25,720
I don't know.

579
00:21:25,720 --> 00:21:26,720
It's not so scary.

580
00:21:26,720 --> 00:21:34,680
We have a seafitter, Sub Jackie with a Q. She will tell us all the time about what she

581
00:21:34,680 --> 00:21:35,680
eats.

582
00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:36,680
She loves food.

583
00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:39,760
She's really good about thinking about what she's eating.

584
00:21:39,760 --> 00:21:40,760
Honey pie pizza.

585
00:21:40,760 --> 00:21:41,760
Honey pie pizza.

586
00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:42,760
She loves it.

587
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:43,760
She loves it.

588
00:21:43,760 --> 00:21:45,680
If you're in the Delco area, check it out.

589
00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:51,120
But she will say, basically, she doesn't discriminate breakfast to breakfast, lunch

590
00:21:51,120 --> 00:21:52,200
to lunch, dinner to dinner.

591
00:21:52,200 --> 00:21:53,400
She will have dinner for breakfast.

592
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:56,040
She'll go full out chicken part for breakfast.

593
00:21:56,040 --> 00:21:57,040
No way.

594
00:21:57,040 --> 00:21:58,400
She will do waffles for dinner.

595
00:21:58,400 --> 00:21:59,920
She will have steak for breakfast.

596
00:21:59,920 --> 00:22:00,920
So it doesn't matter.

597
00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:01,920
It doesn't matter.

598
00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:03,280
What she wants is what she wants.

599
00:22:03,280 --> 00:22:07,040
And I think that is a very important self-care tip.

600
00:22:07,040 --> 00:22:10,000
Do what you want when you want.

601
00:22:10,000 --> 00:22:12,240
Who said waffles are only for breakfast?

602
00:22:12,240 --> 00:22:14,400
Who said steak is only for dinner?

603
00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:20,160
I mean, this is taking a much more mental turn that I'm down for.

604
00:22:20,160 --> 00:22:21,560
You know I love this conversation.

605
00:22:21,560 --> 00:22:23,160
Nobody created those rules.

606
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:24,760
Somebody created them.

607
00:22:24,760 --> 00:22:26,680
We all abide by them in a weird way.

608
00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:27,680
But I love it.

609
00:22:27,680 --> 00:22:29,880
She'll come in and she'll be like, oh my god, I had chicken part for breakfast and it was

610
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:30,880
so good.

611
00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:32,360
I've got pancakes waiting for me for dinner.

612
00:22:32,360 --> 00:22:33,360
I didn't know that.

613
00:22:33,360 --> 00:22:34,360
Yes, Jackie.

614
00:22:34,360 --> 00:22:35,360
I mean, Jackie works out hard.

615
00:22:35,360 --> 00:22:36,360
Horde.

616
00:22:36,360 --> 00:22:37,360
Horde.

617
00:22:37,360 --> 00:22:38,360
Horde.

618
00:22:38,360 --> 00:22:39,360
And she is a huge hiker.

619
00:22:39,360 --> 00:22:40,360
But I just thought that was so awesome.

620
00:22:40,360 --> 00:22:41,360
I was like, yeah, you do you, Jackie.

621
00:22:41,360 --> 00:22:43,840
Jackie, I'm going to adopt that.

622
00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:44,840
I love that.

623
00:22:44,840 --> 00:22:47,720
Jackie, you're my spirit animal.

624
00:22:47,720 --> 00:22:50,440
This kind of goes with stretching.

625
00:22:50,440 --> 00:22:53,720
The importance of stretching, it's something I think I'm talking about a lot more these

626
00:22:53,720 --> 00:22:59,680
days because I need to do it for injuries that I have created for myself and for the

627
00:22:59,680 --> 00:23:05,480
fact that the circulation, I'm going to get yogic, the circulation of the blood, which

628
00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:10,160
is the whole point of the end of any yoga class is when you're going into these postures

629
00:23:10,160 --> 00:23:13,960
that allow the circulation to kind of go all over.

630
00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:19,560
It's, my yoga teacher says, like, I'll let all those good juices that you just kind of

631
00:23:19,560 --> 00:23:21,600
woke up go through the body.

632
00:23:21,600 --> 00:23:25,960
So by the end of class, you're like, that's why you feel so good, right?

633
00:23:25,960 --> 00:23:32,680
So there are two specific postures that you can do anywhere and do not need a yoga mat

634
00:23:32,680 --> 00:23:33,680
for.

635
00:23:33,680 --> 00:23:34,680
One is ragdoll.

636
00:23:34,680 --> 00:23:36,240
Oh, I like ragdoll.

637
00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:39,960
And I know Andrew, he wakes up and does this.

638
00:23:39,960 --> 00:23:43,440
This is part of his morning routine is stretching, but ragdoll is one of them.

639
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:48,900
And it's just bending at the hips and falling forward, right?

640
00:23:48,900 --> 00:23:51,760
So your feet are on the floor, you're bent over at the hips.

641
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:56,240
Some people grab their elbows and add like a little swing to it, or you can just let

642
00:23:56,240 --> 00:24:01,080
it kind of all like gravity do its job and hang down.

643
00:24:01,080 --> 00:24:06,560
So it's great for the spine, the back of the legs and getting all of the blood flow to

644
00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:07,560
your head.

645
00:24:07,560 --> 00:24:08,560
Yeah.

646
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:10,760
At the, especially in the start of the day.

647
00:24:10,760 --> 00:24:13,080
The opposite effect is waterfall.

648
00:24:13,080 --> 00:24:14,440
And there's two ways you could do that.

649
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:19,040
One is unsupported, which is just laying on your back with your feet straight up towards

650
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:20,040
the ceiling.

651
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,600
So you make like the letter L with your body hinging at the hips.

652
00:24:23,600 --> 00:24:28,240
And the other one is a supported waterfall, which is putting your being in that position

653
00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:30,040
or putting your butt up to a wall.

654
00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:31,240
So your feet are on the wall.

655
00:24:31,240 --> 00:24:32,240
Support it.

656
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:33,240
Yeah.

657
00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:34,240
So your legs are supported.

658
00:24:34,240 --> 00:24:35,240
Yes.

659
00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:36,240
Your heels are up again.

660
00:24:36,240 --> 00:24:40,880
Your heels are touching the wall so that you have something to keep them upright, basically.

661
00:24:40,880 --> 00:24:46,360
With her awesome and it allows the circulation to flow through the blood down your legs

662
00:24:46,360 --> 00:24:49,400
to your heart and like flow back up.

663
00:24:49,400 --> 00:24:52,520
So they say you should do five minutes of waterfall every single time.

664
00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:53,960
Five minutes?

665
00:24:53,960 --> 00:24:54,960
It's just laying there.

666
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:57,160
If you're a book reader, you're reading a book while you're doing that.

667
00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:59,520
You're doing two things at once anyway.

668
00:24:59,520 --> 00:25:03,320
If you're Carly yelling at your children, telling them to do stuff, you could do it

669
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:04,320
from that position.

670
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,520
Get your uniform on.

671
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:07,520
I can't help you.

672
00:25:07,520 --> 00:25:08,520
I'm in waterfall.

673
00:25:08,520 --> 00:25:10,760
I mean, what the breakfast?

674
00:25:10,760 --> 00:25:15,280
I don't think you could cook in waterfall or ragdoll, but you think I cook.

675
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:17,680
You're the one who just said make a meal.

676
00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:18,680
Oh, yeah.

677
00:25:18,680 --> 00:25:20,400
I didn't say I was going to make it.

678
00:25:20,400 --> 00:25:22,000
I'm making mom make it.

679
00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:23,000
Oh my God.

680
00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:24,000
Amazing.

681
00:25:24,000 --> 00:25:25,640
I said whip up your favorite meal.

682
00:25:25,640 --> 00:25:29,200
I didn't say who.

683
00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:34,600
Basically coming out of those two types of postures, feeling reset and rejuvenated and

684
00:25:34,600 --> 00:25:40,240
renewed and kind of either starting the day fresh or maybe you're ending the day or hey,

685
00:25:40,240 --> 00:25:41,680
maybe you're doing both.

686
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:45,520
If you're Andrew or an Andrew type person, you're starting the day like that.

687
00:25:45,520 --> 00:25:49,120
Maybe you're ending the day before you get in bed just like that, which I wish I was

688
00:25:49,120 --> 00:25:50,280
better at doing.

689
00:25:50,280 --> 00:25:51,560
You know what?

690
00:25:51,560 --> 00:25:52,760
I'm not going to put it out there.

691
00:25:52,760 --> 00:25:55,360
That's my intention for this year, but I'm going to think about it.

692
00:25:55,360 --> 00:25:57,600
You're going to think about putting it out there.

693
00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:58,600
Yeah.

694
00:25:58,600 --> 00:25:59,600
All right.

695
00:25:59,600 --> 00:26:00,600
Maybe by 2026.

696
00:26:00,600 --> 00:26:02,040
You'll be better at that.

697
00:26:02,040 --> 00:26:05,920
But hey, if we had started that and that was part of a routine, neither of our Achilles

698
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:08,720
tendinitis would have crept up the way that that's true.

699
00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:14,760
We'd had so there's that just no more episode than you go to stretching.

700
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:15,760
Just saying.

701
00:26:15,760 --> 00:26:18,000
No, you could play video games in that position.

702
00:26:18,000 --> 00:26:22,720
Listen, there are so many ways to mesh these all together.

703
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:26,160
No excuses.

704
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:32,400
Make yourself a cup of tea or a cup of coffee and unsubscribe to every unnecessary email

705
00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:33,400
list.

706
00:26:33,400 --> 00:26:36,400
I mean, how good.

707
00:26:36,400 --> 00:26:38,560
I mean, we do self care to make ourselves feel good.

708
00:26:38,560 --> 00:26:39,560
I don't support this.

709
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:40,560
Why?

710
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,800
Because I don't support you saying it specifically.

711
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,360
I have seven over 17,000 unread emails.

712
00:26:46,360 --> 00:26:49,720
So that little red bubble that she has in the corner of her email.

713
00:26:49,720 --> 00:26:50,720
Yeah.

714
00:26:50,720 --> 00:26:51,720
Icon says 17,000.

715
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:52,720
Wait.

716
00:26:52,720 --> 00:26:55,200
So I started doing this and guess what?

717
00:26:55,200 --> 00:27:01,280
It's down to 16,853 because I unsubscribed a couple this week.

718
00:27:01,280 --> 00:27:02,680
Yeah, it's like 200.

719
00:27:02,680 --> 00:27:03,680
Yeah.

720
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,040
It was 17 the last time I looked at it.

721
00:27:06,040 --> 00:27:07,800
So that was that's really good.

722
00:27:07,800 --> 00:27:08,800
It's a chore.

723
00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:13,760
Like it's going to take time, but it does self care is all about making yourself feel

724
00:27:13,760 --> 00:27:15,000
better from the inside out.

725
00:27:15,000 --> 00:27:20,760
And I am telling you, if you are like me and you don't have anxiety looking at that number,

726
00:27:20,760 --> 00:27:22,760
like a lot of people do, I don't.

727
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:26,280
It actually, but it does make me feel good to get rid of them or unsubscribe.

728
00:27:26,280 --> 00:27:31,240
You know how you'd sign up for those one time, 20% off, but then you get the emails for the

729
00:27:31,240 --> 00:27:34,640
rest of your life time.

730
00:27:34,640 --> 00:27:37,040
Just sit there for 10 minutes with a cup of tea.

731
00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:38,040
That's all it takes.

732
00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:42,360
I'm not saying get rid of all 17,000 at once, but you'll, you'll crack away at it and it

733
00:27:42,360 --> 00:27:43,760
will make you feel better.

734
00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:45,720
I love that for you.

735
00:27:45,720 --> 00:27:46,720
Thanks.

736
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:48,400
Specifically because I don't like looking at your phone.

737
00:27:48,400 --> 00:27:49,400
So really it's for me.

738
00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:50,400
It's okay.

739
00:27:50,400 --> 00:27:54,120
I have 171 voicemails on listen to voicemails.

740
00:27:54,120 --> 00:27:56,280
I can't really talk about this anymore.

741
00:27:56,280 --> 00:27:57,280
It's exciting.

742
00:27:57,280 --> 00:27:58,400
I won't listen to them.

743
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:05,680
So if you're one of those 171 voicemails, just know they will be there till I die.

744
00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:06,680
Oh my God.

745
00:28:06,680 --> 00:28:08,040
That's so true too.

746
00:28:08,040 --> 00:28:10,400
She's not even going to try.

747
00:28:10,400 --> 00:28:11,400
Okay.

748
00:28:11,400 --> 00:28:12,400
Read.

749
00:28:12,400 --> 00:28:15,000
Already, I know.

750
00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:16,000
Read.

751
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,000
Yep.

752
00:28:17,000 --> 00:28:25,800
If you are a parent, read a parenting book or a little bit more doable, a parent article.

753
00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:33,080
And if you are not a parent and have a pet, read a pet training something or other.

754
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:40,200
And it is just to, it's basically to keep yourself aware of the habits or the parenting

755
00:28:40,200 --> 00:28:42,480
style that you have.

756
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:47,480
And here maybe a different way it could be approached.

757
00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,880
And maybe you'll find that it's similar and you're like, wow, all right, I'm doing a really

758
00:28:50,880 --> 00:28:51,880
good job.

759
00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:56,440
Or maybe it comes off in the way of, all right, I really want to, I really want to switch

760
00:28:56,440 --> 00:29:02,560
how I correct mistakes or how I try to get them to move faster in the morning.

761
00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:09,080
Or if it's a dog, how I try to get my dog to do paw.

762
00:29:09,080 --> 00:29:12,160
You know, well, Victoria is trying to teach her dog to talk.

763
00:29:12,160 --> 00:29:13,160
So she'll do it.

764
00:29:13,160 --> 00:29:15,280
It's going to happen by 20, 25, 6.

765
00:29:15,280 --> 00:29:17,240
It's going to happen.

766
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:23,120
No, I think that's really good, especially if you and your husband, Andrew, have very

767
00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:25,060
different parenting styles.

768
00:29:25,060 --> 00:29:26,760
That is another piece of it.

769
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:27,760
You have to be on par.

770
00:29:27,760 --> 00:29:28,760
You're very opposite.

771
00:29:28,760 --> 00:29:32,320
Like in the mornings, I'm screaming and yelling, get in the car, get in the car, hurry up faster.

772
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:35,240
And he's like kneeling down, talking through things.

773
00:29:35,240 --> 00:29:36,720
There's a happy medium.

774
00:29:36,720 --> 00:29:39,120
Yes, there's a happy medium, I'm sure.

775
00:29:39,120 --> 00:29:42,520
We were raised on like, hurry, hurry, hurry, hurry.

776
00:29:42,520 --> 00:29:43,800
And he was not.

777
00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:47,020
So like, he's, we're very different in that way.

778
00:29:47,020 --> 00:29:53,200
So I think that there's a very happy medium that would make everybody's lives calmer

779
00:29:53,200 --> 00:29:54,480
if we met in the middle somewhere.

780
00:29:54,480 --> 00:29:58,920
Or if we talked about it, we're read a little more on how to meet in the middle, right?

781
00:29:58,920 --> 00:30:02,200
Instead of like, you should do this because your way is not working.

782
00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:05,000
It'll never, you'll never, you'll get divorced.

783
00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:06,000
Yeah.

784
00:30:06,000 --> 00:30:07,640
Like that way is never the right way.

785
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,120
Oh, I think that this morning.

786
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:10,120
Okay.

787
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:14,720
I just, I think I'm surprised that I, that one popped out for me.

788
00:30:14,720 --> 00:30:15,720
Yeah.

789
00:30:15,720 --> 00:30:22,840
But I do think that there, there's just so much out there that is, people are going

790
00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:27,160
off of their conditioning and how they were raised, even if they know that like that's

791
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:32,440
not necessarily the way that you want it to be done or that it could like, it's not the

792
00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:34,040
only way that things can be done.

793
00:30:34,040 --> 00:30:38,440
So just being informed, I gave Carly a book a long time ago that she still hasn't read

794
00:30:38,440 --> 00:30:43,560
and every time she complains to me or brings up a moment of like, oh my gosh, what do I

795
00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:44,560
do?

796
00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:47,400
I say, hey, remember that book that you saw me giving back?

797
00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:48,400
Answers are in that book.

798
00:30:48,400 --> 00:30:49,400
Do you want it back?

799
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:54,920
It's a very, well, yeah, because I'm going to have to help you with the situation.

800
00:30:54,920 --> 00:31:00,200
But there are ways to deal with everything and I think the awareness comes from like

801
00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:03,040
being informed.

802
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:08,960
Make a Spotify playlist of all your favorite songs, disappear into it and allow the memories

803
00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:10,520
to flood back.

804
00:31:10,520 --> 00:31:14,640
This is probably one of my favorite ones because it would be full of instinct, Britney Spears,

805
00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:18,320
Christina Aguilera, 90 degrees, Backstreet Boys, but guess what?

806
00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:23,880
It would make me so happy to just like, I and Ben Platt and Ben Platt.

807
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:25,480
They're current as well.

808
00:31:25,480 --> 00:31:30,000
So my kids definitely, if I'll say, who do you want to put on Alexa?

809
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:32,000
They'll be like, just put Ben Platt on mom.

810
00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:33,000
We know.

811
00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:35,280
I'm like, no prob.

812
00:31:35,280 --> 00:31:41,360
Put on it Alexa, put on Google and just let your favorite songs play and just instantly

813
00:31:41,360 --> 00:31:43,120
your mood changes.

814
00:31:43,120 --> 00:31:44,120
It just does.

815
00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:45,640
It could be while you're cleaning or cooking.

816
00:31:45,640 --> 00:31:46,640
That's what I mean.

817
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:49,440
We're just around the house doing the laundry on Sundays.

818
00:31:49,440 --> 00:31:56,720
I will, if I'm not teaching the once a month, I will put on Ben Platt as we are around the

819
00:31:56,720 --> 00:32:02,280
house, either cleaning or doing whatever it is and it's so calming.

820
00:32:02,280 --> 00:32:08,600
And I just sometimes not listening to something new and having to think or really listen,

821
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:13,960
but listening to the things that you know so well and you love so well just puts you

822
00:32:13,960 --> 00:32:15,760
in a different mood.

823
00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:16,760
Changes your attitude.

824
00:32:16,760 --> 00:32:18,920
Sometimes I don't like to think.

825
00:32:18,920 --> 00:32:19,920
I know.

826
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:25,400
I don't think you have to say that out loud.

827
00:32:25,400 --> 00:32:32,840
If you have a pet, a cuddly pet, a dog, a cat, not a gecko or a lizard or a snake, hey,

828
00:32:32,840 --> 00:32:35,400
you want to cuddle your snake, you go for it.

829
00:32:35,400 --> 00:32:39,320
Actually rest and cuddle with your pet.

830
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:46,760
That cuddle, that physical touch with another heartbeat releases dopamine, which is the happy

831
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:47,760
feeling.

832
00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:53,200
That's why they have cats and dogs in nursing homes, in assisted livings and in children's

833
00:32:53,200 --> 00:32:56,600
hospitals sometimes for that exact reason.

834
00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:01,960
And it's a good one for you because, Carly specifically, because you're supposed to have

835
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:10,000
like eight hugs a day, physical touch eight hugs a day for optimal stress relief, happy

836
00:33:10,000 --> 00:33:13,720
feeling, living the best life you can.

837
00:33:13,720 --> 00:33:19,480
So if you're not getting eight hugs a day, one hug from a dog is all eight.

838
00:33:19,480 --> 00:33:21,120
That's the same correlation.

839
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,120
Cheen-lacing.

840
00:33:22,120 --> 00:33:23,120
Yes.

841
00:33:23,120 --> 00:33:24,120
Yes.

842
00:33:24,120 --> 00:33:30,520
So yeah, if you have a pet, factor it into your day and you will just feel better.

843
00:33:30,520 --> 00:33:36,800
If you're somebody who has anxiety and panic attacks, while you're having said panic attack,

844
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:43,920
if you are hugging a pet, you will get out of that panic mode a little bit faster.

845
00:33:43,920 --> 00:33:45,560
That's a fact.

846
00:33:45,560 --> 00:33:46,560
I like that.

847
00:33:46,560 --> 00:33:50,960
I do like cuddling with Kuka and Pippi when she's not being annoying.

848
00:33:50,960 --> 00:33:51,960
Thank you for that.

849
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:52,960
Thank you.

850
00:33:52,960 --> 00:33:53,960
That's good.

851
00:33:53,960 --> 00:33:59,480
This next line is a little deeper self care and one that I think is really interesting.

852
00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:02,080
I hope that I do it.

853
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:06,040
It is to hand write a note to your present self.

854
00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:12,160
So what that means is to write a note to yourself about what you want to remember at this moment

855
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:13,240
in time.

856
00:34:13,240 --> 00:34:16,480
What is it about this time?

857
00:34:16,480 --> 00:34:20,080
I'm just going to say it a different way that you want to remember.

858
00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:21,080
Thank you.

859
00:34:21,080 --> 00:34:26,360
But then a year from now, two years from now, basically like a little time capsule to yourself,

860
00:34:26,360 --> 00:34:28,720
think, go back and read it.

861
00:34:28,720 --> 00:34:34,000
What was so important to you right now that maybe is still important to you two years from

862
00:34:34,000 --> 00:34:40,320
now, three years from now or is completely gone and it was not really that important

863
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,320
to begin with.

864
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:42,760
I kind of already done this.

865
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:43,840
Oh, really?

866
00:34:43,840 --> 00:34:49,760
So I it wasn't like a like a baby book of like, this is what I'm into right now.

867
00:34:49,760 --> 00:34:53,640
And this is what I'm listening to and kind of like what you're saying.

868
00:34:53,640 --> 00:35:00,520
But on December 31st, 2022, I wrote myself a goodbye 2022 letter.

869
00:35:00,520 --> 00:35:02,520
Whoa, that sounds very.

870
00:35:02,520 --> 00:35:03,520
Oh no.

871
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:08,040
I was like, this is what I was going through.

872
00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:09,040
This is what happened.

873
00:35:09,040 --> 00:35:10,920
This is how I was feeling.

874
00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,600
This is all the things that I started doing for myself.

875
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:14,960
Blah, blah, blah, blah.

876
00:35:14,960 --> 00:35:16,760
And I forgot that I did it.

877
00:35:16,760 --> 00:35:17,840
And it's in my journal.

878
00:35:17,840 --> 00:35:18,840
It's my daily journal.

879
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:23,400
And so I went in at the start of this year, 2024.

880
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:27,440
And I was like, oh my gosh, I got to do it again.

881
00:35:27,440 --> 00:35:32,160
Was it super different or were you like, oh, do you know what I mean?

882
00:35:32,160 --> 00:35:33,160
Like it was very different.

883
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:36,480
Because the year of 2023 was very different than the year of 2022.

884
00:35:36,480 --> 00:35:37,480
OK.

885
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:40,120
A lot of similarities, a lot of struggles, a lot of things that I went through, a lot

886
00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:41,960
of different things I started doing for myself.

887
00:35:41,960 --> 00:35:45,160
So it was just, it'll be interesting at the end of 2024.

888
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:49,600
I'm going to do it again of goodbye 2024 and kind of the recap.

889
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:50,600
That's the word.

890
00:35:50,600 --> 00:35:51,600
A recap.

891
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:52,800
It was like a recap of the year.

892
00:35:52,800 --> 00:35:59,280
And so I unintentionally started this little tradition for myself and it was eye opening

893
00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:02,840
to remember things that I thought I would never forget.

894
00:36:02,840 --> 00:36:03,840
Yeah.

895
00:36:03,840 --> 00:36:04,840
And you forget.

896
00:36:04,840 --> 00:36:05,840
You forget.

897
00:36:05,840 --> 00:36:06,840
Yeah.

898
00:36:06,840 --> 00:36:10,920
I do it in the kids' books for their birthday every year.

899
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:14,640
I wish I did it more, but every year on their birthday they each have their own book and

900
00:36:14,640 --> 00:36:17,000
I write them a letter on their birthday.

901
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:18,000
Have you been consistent with that?

902
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:19,000
Yeah.

903
00:36:19,000 --> 00:36:20,000
No way.

904
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:24,360
To tell them what they love at this moment, why they're funny things that they said are

905
00:36:24,360 --> 00:36:27,120
or whatever, you know, what they're into.

906
00:36:27,120 --> 00:36:32,680
But I wish I did it more throughout the year because once a year, it's kind of hard.

907
00:36:32,680 --> 00:36:33,680
Because you forget.

908
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:34,680
Yeah.

909
00:36:34,680 --> 00:36:38,960
You forget all the really, really fun, fun things, but I don't do it for myself.

910
00:36:38,960 --> 00:36:41,360
So I'm going to, I might do that.

911
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:42,360
Good.

912
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:49,840
Affirmations are things, mantras that you say to yourself in any aspect of improvement

913
00:36:49,840 --> 00:36:51,000
that you would like.

914
00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:56,920
So if it's I want to feel more self-confident this year, right?

915
00:36:56,920 --> 00:37:00,560
You do have to have like an intention and a goal of wanting to do this.

916
00:37:00,560 --> 00:37:08,400
So if you want to feel more confident, maybe your affirmation is I can do anything I put

917
00:37:08,400 --> 00:37:12,040
my mind to and like every morning that's what you say.

918
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:16,200
Or honestly, I'm a badass boss babe.

919
00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:18,920
Like you say that to yourself every day.

920
00:37:18,920 --> 00:37:22,880
So the hard part and the reason why I'm bringing this one up is finding what affirmation works

921
00:37:22,880 --> 00:37:27,080
for you or one that like it's really just like what I just did.

922
00:37:27,080 --> 00:37:33,920
I kind of struggled to find the right words of what would constitute a good confident booster.

923
00:37:33,920 --> 00:37:36,120
There are Oracle cards that do this for you.

924
00:37:36,120 --> 00:37:42,280
So if you go on Amazon and you look up Oracle, O-R-A-C-L-E.

925
00:37:42,280 --> 00:37:43,280
Thank you.

926
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:46,480
Is it spelled the way you like to spell it or is it different?

927
00:37:46,480 --> 00:37:54,320
So if you go on Amazon and do that, you look up Oracle cards and they have different ones.

928
00:37:54,320 --> 00:37:56,840
So maybe you're not saying the same one every day, but it's different ones.

929
00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:04,160
I have one from Gabby Bernstein who is a motivational and intuitive speaker and it's all different

930
00:38:04,160 --> 00:38:09,000
beautiful artwork of the moon with a universe affirmation or something that can kind of

931
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:11,000
set my day as I go.

932
00:38:11,000 --> 00:38:15,720
So when I wake up, I pull a random card, I read it and it's usually like trust in the

933
00:38:15,720 --> 00:38:16,720
universe.

934
00:38:16,720 --> 00:38:17,720
Everything's going to be fine.

935
00:38:17,720 --> 00:38:19,520
It's going to be a wonderful day like stuff like that.

936
00:38:19,520 --> 00:38:22,320
But you can really narrow it down to what speaks to you.

937
00:38:22,320 --> 00:38:24,360
I got Melody animal cards.

938
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:25,360
Oh my God.

939
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:26,360
I know.

940
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:31,920
I have these amazing animals that have a different spiritual meeting and you pull a card.

941
00:38:31,920 --> 00:38:34,600
I have them as well, which is why she wanted them.

942
00:38:34,600 --> 00:38:36,840
She brings them on every trip we go to.

943
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:37,840
Good.

944
00:38:37,840 --> 00:38:40,400
She's going to be a great friend.

945
00:38:40,400 --> 00:38:47,120
So you pick your spirit animal and then maybe you go around your day and truly this is going

946
00:38:47,120 --> 00:38:50,400
to sound ridiculous, but you're like, yeah, I am an eagle.

947
00:38:50,400 --> 00:38:53,440
I can do this, whatever it is.

948
00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:54,920
It's the mindset that you're giving yourself.

949
00:38:54,920 --> 00:38:59,760
So they have an article card from basically anything and everything.

950
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:07,120
And if you need just something to look at or something to give you the creativity of

951
00:39:07,120 --> 00:39:10,120
how you want to say things, it's there for you.

952
00:39:10,120 --> 00:39:12,360
So I highly recommend doing that.

953
00:39:12,360 --> 00:39:13,960
It's a really good way to start the day.

954
00:39:13,960 --> 00:39:16,600
If you have children, it's a really good day.

955
00:39:16,600 --> 00:39:17,600
Okay.

956
00:39:17,600 --> 00:39:18,600
Who wants to pull the card today?

957
00:39:18,600 --> 00:39:19,600
Oh, Melody loves it.

958
00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:20,600
Pull the card.

959
00:39:20,600 --> 00:39:22,400
That's how we're all starting the day.

960
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:23,400
You know?

961
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:24,400
She's always like, oh, mom.

962
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:25,400
I can't go to school yet.

963
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:28,200
I have to go find out what my spirit animal is for the day.

964
00:39:28,200 --> 00:39:31,080
I'm like, I don't think there's a parenting book that's going to help you with that.

965
00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:32,080
Run, hurry up.

966
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,080
You're going to be late.

967
00:39:34,080 --> 00:39:37,280
God damn it, Victoria.

968
00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:38,360
She's like, you can't see me.

969
00:39:38,360 --> 00:39:40,080
I'm a sloth, mom.

970
00:39:40,080 --> 00:39:47,400
I picked the sloth card, which really probably means that you are just preserving doing things

971
00:39:47,400 --> 00:39:51,080
slowly and how nothing needs to be a rush.

972
00:39:51,080 --> 00:39:53,880
You know, there's spirituality is everywhere.

973
00:39:53,880 --> 00:40:01,440
Well, we hoped you like those self care on a budget and almost all of them.

974
00:40:01,440 --> 00:40:02,440
Guess what?

975
00:40:02,440 --> 00:40:03,440
We're free.

976
00:40:03,440 --> 00:40:04,440
Yeah.

977
00:40:04,440 --> 00:40:11,440
They're just daily things you can do to instantly boost your mood, feel good, and that's all

978
00:40:11,440 --> 00:40:12,480
self care is.

979
00:40:12,480 --> 00:40:15,120
It does not need to cost a lot of money.

980
00:40:15,120 --> 00:40:17,840
It doesn't need to cost any money.

981
00:40:17,840 --> 00:40:22,720
But now we have a game.

982
00:40:22,720 --> 00:40:27,440
Self care is all about having fun in your life.

983
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:30,600
And this is called self care me, Bay.

984
00:40:30,600 --> 00:40:34,600
What what self care me, Bay?

985
00:40:34,600 --> 00:40:38,560
Because another form of self care is just hanging out with your friends doing nothing.

986
00:40:38,560 --> 00:40:44,360
My favorite type of self care is being with my friends in my pajamas, watching a movie

987
00:40:44,360 --> 00:40:47,840
or just sitting around talking and doing absolutely nothing.

988
00:40:47,840 --> 00:40:50,520
It does not have to be like, let's go out to dinner.

989
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:52,680
Let's do, you know, it doesn't have to be that.

990
00:40:52,680 --> 00:40:54,480
And I actually don't.

991
00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:55,800
That's not my favorite kind.

992
00:40:55,800 --> 00:40:58,040
What we do more often is game night, game night.

993
00:40:58,040 --> 00:40:59,200
I love that.

994
00:40:59,200 --> 00:41:03,240
And what's better than sitting around the table asking your friends or your family some

995
00:41:03,240 --> 00:41:07,800
like questions, silly questions, questions that you want to know.

996
00:41:07,800 --> 00:41:09,240
It creates conversation.

997
00:41:09,240 --> 00:41:14,040
It is absolutely free and it's self care may Bay.

998
00:41:14,040 --> 00:41:17,920
Oh, because I forgot to say the self care may Bay.

999
00:41:17,920 --> 00:41:18,920
Nope.

1000
00:41:18,920 --> 00:41:19,920
Doesn't make it better.

1001
00:41:19,920 --> 00:41:20,920
Didn't actually change anything.

1002
00:41:20,920 --> 00:41:24,400
All right, well, Victoria doesn't know about this as usual.

1003
00:41:24,400 --> 00:41:27,240
So I'm going to ask her questions and it's rapid fire.

1004
00:41:27,240 --> 00:41:32,320
And she's not great at this, but in 2024, we're going to teach her how to be quicker

1005
00:41:32,320 --> 00:41:33,320
answering questions.

1006
00:41:33,320 --> 00:41:35,760
I'm a water sign, so fires not really my thing.

1007
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:36,760
God.

1008
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:41,200
All right, Victoria, have you ever met anyone famous?

1009
00:41:41,200 --> 00:41:42,200
Yes.

1010
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:43,200
Tell us.

1011
00:41:43,200 --> 00:41:47,120
Oh, I was doing it fast.

1012
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:48,120
Constantine.

1013
00:41:48,120 --> 00:41:49,120
Oh my God.

1014
00:41:49,120 --> 00:41:50,120
Remember?

1015
00:41:50,120 --> 00:41:51,120
Yeah.

1016
00:41:51,120 --> 00:41:52,120
From American Idol.

1017
00:41:52,120 --> 00:41:53,120
Yeah.

1018
00:41:53,120 --> 00:41:54,120
Rock of Ages.

1019
00:41:54,120 --> 00:41:57,720
He was in Rock of Ages and we all got a picture with him afterwards and it was awesome.

1020
00:41:57,720 --> 00:41:58,720
Yeah.

1021
00:41:58,720 --> 00:42:00,120
That was pretty famous.

1022
00:42:00,120 --> 00:42:01,120
Okay.

1023
00:42:01,120 --> 00:42:02,320
We might not already know this.

1024
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:06,480
What's your latest Netflix or Hulu or Amazon Prime binge?

1025
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:07,480
What's your future?

1026
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:09,000
Oh, I just thought of so many more famous people I met.

1027
00:42:09,000 --> 00:42:10,000
Oh, okay.

1028
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:11,000
Tell us.

1029
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:12,000
Joey Fatone.

1030
00:42:12,000 --> 00:42:13,000
Oh my God.

1031
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:14,000
Yes.

1032
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:15,000
Remember?

1033
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:16,000
From NSYNC.

1034
00:42:16,000 --> 00:42:17,000
Nell Carter.

1035
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:18,000
Nell Carter.

1036
00:42:18,000 --> 00:42:19,000
Norm Lewis, but we know him.

1037
00:42:19,000 --> 00:42:20,000
David Hyde Pierce.

1038
00:42:20,000 --> 00:42:21,000
I met him in the Frasier.

1039
00:42:21,000 --> 00:42:22,000
Hank Azaria.

1040
00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:23,000
Hank Azaria.

1041
00:42:23,000 --> 00:42:24,000
I know.

1042
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:25,000
He was so nice.

1043
00:42:25,000 --> 00:42:26,000
He was so nice.

1044
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:29,040
They were going to a Super Bowl party.

1045
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:30,920
I met Jane Krakowski.

1046
00:42:30,920 --> 00:42:33,720
Did you meet Matthew Morrison?

1047
00:42:33,720 --> 00:42:34,720
Yes.

1048
00:42:34,720 --> 00:42:37,720
He's, but people that aren't into Broadway or he was on Glee.

1049
00:42:37,720 --> 00:42:38,720
He was on Glee.

1050
00:42:38,720 --> 00:42:39,720
Yeah, yeah.

1051
00:42:39,720 --> 00:42:40,720
Might not know him.

1052
00:42:40,720 --> 00:42:42,040
I met Jane Krakowski with Norm Lewis.

1053
00:42:42,040 --> 00:42:43,840
I didn't know that at a bar.

1054
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:45,880
Bill Murray.

1055
00:42:45,880 --> 00:42:46,880
You met Bill Murray?

1056
00:42:46,880 --> 00:42:47,880
I did when I was like 13.

1057
00:42:47,880 --> 00:42:48,880
Oh wow.

1058
00:42:48,880 --> 00:42:50,120
He was very rude.

1059
00:42:50,120 --> 00:42:51,120
I've heard that about him.

1060
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:52,120
Yeah, he was not nice.

1061
00:42:52,120 --> 00:42:53,120
That's a shame.

1062
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:54,120
Joey Fatone.

1063
00:42:54,120 --> 00:42:55,120
That's a big one.

1064
00:42:55,120 --> 00:42:57,600
Yeah, we met him in the dressing room.

1065
00:42:57,600 --> 00:42:58,600
The dressing room.

1066
00:42:58,600 --> 00:42:59,600
Of Hairstory.

1067
00:42:59,600 --> 00:43:00,600
Yep.

1068
00:43:00,600 --> 00:43:04,960
Because our old babysitter, Marissa Jerr-Winokker, the original Broadway Hairstory.

1069
00:43:04,960 --> 00:43:11,080
Anyway, so what's your favorite Netflix Hulu Amazon Prime binge right now?

1070
00:43:11,080 --> 00:43:15,880
I mean, my go-to is always New Girl.

1071
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:18,200
That's your binge?

1072
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:19,200
Like you can watch it all.

1073
00:43:19,200 --> 00:43:20,200
Isn't a binge as if you watch?

1074
00:43:20,200 --> 00:43:22,240
I feel like you should just say Abbot Elementary right now.

1075
00:43:22,240 --> 00:43:23,560
Well, I finished it.

1076
00:43:23,560 --> 00:43:24,560
Oh.

1077
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:28,720
Yes, Abbot Elementary is more new and current, but when in doubt, I put on New Girl.

1078
00:43:28,720 --> 00:43:29,720
Whatever.

1079
00:43:29,720 --> 00:43:30,720
These are your answers, not mine.

1080
00:43:30,720 --> 00:43:31,720
I don't care.

1081
00:43:31,720 --> 00:43:36,560
What was one of your favorite songs in high school?

1082
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:41,800
Either Stacy or Rico or Gavin DeGraw.

1083
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:42,800
Yes.

1084
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:48,800
I don't want to be anything other than what I've been trying to be lately.

1085
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:54,840
I really want for it there.

1086
00:43:54,840 --> 00:43:55,840
Or Stacy or Rico.

1087
00:43:55,840 --> 00:43:56,840
Yeah.

1088
00:43:56,840 --> 00:43:58,840
I can't get out of bed today.

1089
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:01,520
I'll get you off my mind.

1090
00:44:01,520 --> 00:44:02,520
Look her up.

1091
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:04,600
I agree.

1092
00:44:04,600 --> 00:44:09,120
Have you been anywhere new lately that you've never been before?

1093
00:44:09,120 --> 00:44:11,040
We go two places.

1094
00:44:11,040 --> 00:44:13,160
So I'm going to answer that for you.

1095
00:44:13,160 --> 00:44:14,480
No, you have not.

1096
00:44:14,480 --> 00:44:16,120
It's unfortunate.

1097
00:44:16,120 --> 00:44:19,960
What's something you want to do in the next year that you've never done before?

1098
00:44:19,960 --> 00:44:26,840
Well, according to my vision board, I have lots of pictures of mountains and beaches

1099
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,880
and I think Stonehenge is in there.

1100
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:30,880
I want to travel.

1101
00:44:30,880 --> 00:44:31,880
Yeah.

1102
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:32,880
And not that I...

1103
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:33,880
Do you want to go to Italy?

1104
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:35,400
I mean, yes, I have been to Italy before.

1105
00:44:35,400 --> 00:44:36,400
Oh, okay.

1106
00:44:36,400 --> 00:44:43,320
I spent six weeks doing a summer semester in college in Italy, but it was so amazing

1107
00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:44,400
that I would go back to Italy.

1108
00:44:44,400 --> 00:44:47,560
I just want to travel more and it doesn't have to be international.

1109
00:44:47,560 --> 00:44:52,720
It could just be domestic flights anywhere, but you do need to travel and that's one

1110
00:44:52,720 --> 00:44:54,920
of my goals for you this year.

1111
00:44:54,920 --> 00:44:57,960
Seen anything lately that made you smile?

1112
00:44:57,960 --> 00:45:00,760
Oh my God.

1113
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:03,840
You should see the side eye she just gave me.

1114
00:45:03,840 --> 00:45:05,000
Answer it honestly.

1115
00:45:05,000 --> 00:45:06,000
Yes.

1116
00:45:06,000 --> 00:45:09,560
See, anything or anyone can I answer with a person?

1117
00:45:09,560 --> 00:45:10,560
What?

1118
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:11,800
It's your game, whatever you want.

1119
00:45:11,800 --> 00:45:15,000
Oh, we know that that's not a real rule.

1120
00:45:15,000 --> 00:45:21,680
Yes, I take a walk with pepper every single day and I'm always finding things that make

1121
00:45:21,680 --> 00:45:22,680
me smile.

1122
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:25,800
It's usually something that she does or maybe it's honest to God, it's a flower.

1123
00:45:25,800 --> 00:45:27,080
I know what I sound like.

1124
00:45:27,080 --> 00:45:30,680
However, this morning I had to walk her early because it's about to storm and be gross all

1125
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:31,680
day.

1126
00:45:31,680 --> 00:45:37,120
There is a guy that works for the township here where I live and I love him and he's

1127
00:45:37,120 --> 00:45:42,720
just the most friendliest guy ever and every time he drives by or he's around, which is

1128
00:45:42,720 --> 00:45:45,400
where he works is like two steps away from my house.

1129
00:45:45,400 --> 00:45:49,320
He hunks the horn, he rolls his window down, we have a small chat and it's something that

1130
00:45:49,320 --> 00:45:51,800
just like I made him cookies for Christmas.

1131
00:45:51,800 --> 00:45:55,920
He's the nicest guy in the world and it's always silly little things like we have inside

1132
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:59,480
jokes now with talking or just through honking.

1133
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:04,640
Well, I don't have a, I'm walking so I'm not like Hong Kong back to him.

1134
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:11,240
That would be special but no, like talking and I met him and had like even more of a

1135
00:46:11,240 --> 00:46:17,440
conversation one day, voting day and his wife is on the board of morning and like he's just

1136
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:20,320
the nicest man.

1137
00:46:20,320 --> 00:46:22,880
We usually talk about how he's ready to retire.

1138
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:25,080
So it's a fun little thing.

1139
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:26,440
Yeah, it makes me smile.

1140
00:46:26,440 --> 00:46:27,960
He's the nicest guy.

1141
00:46:27,960 --> 00:46:30,560
What is your absolute favorite recipe to make?

1142
00:46:30,560 --> 00:46:33,240
Okay, it's a Mediterranean dish.

1143
00:46:33,240 --> 00:46:35,720
Oh gosh, I should have asked this sooner.

1144
00:46:35,720 --> 00:46:36,720
Make it really simple.

1145
00:46:36,720 --> 00:46:42,800
It's couscous, roasted red peppers, yeah, sugar snap peas, goat cheese.

1146
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:50,360
Sometimes I do honey goat cheese, pesto and raw like red onion or maybe scallions.

1147
00:46:50,360 --> 00:46:51,640
It depends on what I have that day.

1148
00:46:51,640 --> 00:46:53,680
But you put it all together and you've had it.

1149
00:46:53,680 --> 00:46:55,680
It's one of my favorite things that you make.

1150
00:46:55,680 --> 00:46:56,840
I think it's the goat cheese.

1151
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:58,720
I think that's really what does it to be honest with you.

1152
00:46:58,720 --> 00:47:03,960
Yeah, but it's I think it's all of it together and it's oh and either shrimp or yeah, it

1153
00:47:03,960 --> 00:47:09,200
used to be like a the chicken sausage flavored ones like a spicy chicken sausage.

1154
00:47:09,200 --> 00:47:10,200
It is so good.

1155
00:47:10,200 --> 00:47:12,040
Yeah, it's really good.

1156
00:47:12,040 --> 00:47:14,200
And she makes it every year down the shore.

1157
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:15,200
So easy.

1158
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:16,200
Yeah.

1159
00:47:16,200 --> 00:47:18,840
It's like a yeah, it's so easy.

1160
00:47:18,840 --> 00:47:23,920
What is your least favorite household chore?

1161
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:24,920
Crush in it.

1162
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,520
I love cleaning.

1163
00:47:27,520 --> 00:47:30,480
When I'm in the zone, when I'm like I need to clean, I want to clean.

1164
00:47:30,480 --> 00:47:36,560
I could clean for 24 hours straight and scrub the carpets and do all the things.

1165
00:47:36,560 --> 00:47:39,200
But I think it's folding laundry.

1166
00:47:39,200 --> 00:47:40,480
It's not the act of laundry.

1167
00:47:40,480 --> 00:47:41,480
It's the folding part.

1168
00:47:41,480 --> 00:47:44,480
You can just do what I do and clean it and just stuff it in drawers.

1169
00:47:44,480 --> 00:47:47,280
You don't have to fold it if you don't want.

1170
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,040
Yeah, I can't do that.

1171
00:47:50,040 --> 00:47:53,960
I don't know why Victoria and I didn't do well living with each other.

1172
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:54,960
I can't do that.

1173
00:47:54,960 --> 00:47:56,200
Oh my God.

1174
00:47:56,200 --> 00:48:00,280
All I did was clean in that apartment and she was like, bye, go and just stay at Andrews.

1175
00:48:00,280 --> 00:48:02,640
I'll be back to make more dirt later.

1176
00:48:02,640 --> 00:48:04,200
Yeah, good.

1177
00:48:04,200 --> 00:48:08,360
I like laundry, but it moves from my chair to my bed to my chair to my bed.

1178
00:48:08,360 --> 00:48:11,680
It takes forever to fold and I end up picking from it that then the laundry is gone.

1179
00:48:11,680 --> 00:48:12,680
Yes.

1180
00:48:12,680 --> 00:48:13,680
But I haven't folded it.

1181
00:48:13,680 --> 00:48:14,680
But you haven't folded it.

1182
00:48:14,680 --> 00:48:15,680
Yeah, that's like part of the cycle.

1183
00:48:15,680 --> 00:48:16,680
Yeah.

1184
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:17,680
All right, last one.

1185
00:48:17,680 --> 00:48:18,880
Sword, yeah, last one.

1186
00:48:18,880 --> 00:48:25,000
If you want a free all expense paid trip anywhere in the world and you could leave tomorrow,

1187
00:48:25,000 --> 00:48:26,000
where would you go?

1188
00:48:26,000 --> 00:48:31,000
Ireland, Greece, Australia, Iceland, Norway, Sweden, Amsterdam.

1189
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:37,080
Oh, well, if it's all expenses paid, you might as well take advantage of it.

1190
00:48:37,080 --> 00:48:38,080
Yeah.

1191
00:48:38,080 --> 00:48:40,040
No, I think they're the top ones.

1192
00:48:40,040 --> 00:48:42,200
I have a list.

1193
00:48:42,200 --> 00:48:43,200
I want to go to Italy.

1194
00:48:43,200 --> 00:48:44,200
That's like my number.

1195
00:48:44,200 --> 00:48:46,960
Well, I want to go to Disney World.

1196
00:48:46,960 --> 00:48:50,560
Nope, never on the list.

1197
00:48:50,560 --> 00:48:51,800
I want to go to Italy.

1198
00:48:51,800 --> 00:48:53,800
I want to take the kids to Italy.

1199
00:48:53,800 --> 00:48:54,800
It's amazing.

1200
00:48:54,800 --> 00:48:57,160
Victoria is like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

1201
00:48:57,160 --> 00:48:58,800
I thought this was an adult trip.

1202
00:48:58,800 --> 00:48:59,800
All expense.

1203
00:48:59,800 --> 00:49:00,800
Hold on.

1204
00:49:00,800 --> 00:49:04,200
What's at the Pasitano Coast?

1205
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:05,200
Am I saying that right?

1206
00:49:05,200 --> 00:49:06,200
Yeah.

1207
00:49:06,200 --> 00:49:07,200
I don't know.

1208
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:08,200
What are you trying to say?

1209
00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,640
Pasitano Coast, the beach of Italy where White Lotus was filmed.

1210
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:12,640
Oh, Pasitano.

1211
00:49:12,640 --> 00:49:14,140
I don't know.

1212
00:49:14,140 --> 00:49:15,640
I went to Cinque Terre.

1213
00:49:15,640 --> 00:49:16,640
Yeah, you did.

1214
00:49:16,640 --> 00:49:17,640
Is that near that?

1215
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:18,640
I don't know.

1216
00:49:18,640 --> 00:49:19,640
Yeah.

1217
00:49:19,640 --> 00:49:20,640
You kidding?

1218
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:21,640
I don't know how to get home from your house.

1219
00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:24,640
You think I know what's close to the Pasitano Coast?

1220
00:49:24,640 --> 00:49:29,640
Yeah, you won.

1221
00:49:29,640 --> 00:49:33,360
She's hitting the shelves on my wall.

1222
00:49:33,360 --> 00:49:38,640
You won, but isn't it fun to sit around a table asking everybody questions, questions

1223
00:49:38,640 --> 00:49:40,160
that you might know the answers to?

1224
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:41,640
Oh, I want to go to Canada too.

1225
00:49:41,640 --> 00:49:42,640
Okay, no.

1226
00:49:42,640 --> 00:49:43,640
The game is over.

1227
00:49:43,640 --> 00:49:47,360
I want to go to Canada and I want to go to Niagara Falls and I want to go to Yellowstone

1228
00:49:47,360 --> 00:49:48,360
National Park.

1229
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:49,360
I want to go to Niagara Falls.

1230
00:49:49,360 --> 00:49:50,360
You can go with her.

1231
00:49:50,360 --> 00:49:51,360
I know.

1232
00:49:51,360 --> 00:49:52,360
I think we're going to go without you.

1233
00:49:52,360 --> 00:49:53,360
Oh, whoa.

1234
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:54,360
You guys got tattoos without me.

1235
00:49:54,360 --> 00:49:55,360
Fact.

1236
00:49:55,360 --> 00:50:02,960
I mean, I'll calm if she's paying.

1237
00:50:02,960 --> 00:50:07,360
You won.

1238
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,280
This was a form of self-care.

1239
00:50:09,280 --> 00:50:17,280
This podcast recording every week has turned into, I think, a self-care habit that I forced.

1240
00:50:17,280 --> 00:50:25,640
However, that I forced, we ended up finding a routine of recording on Tuesday mornings.

1241
00:50:25,640 --> 00:50:27,680
Just happens to work.

1242
00:50:27,680 --> 00:50:33,880
It's like whatever we're talking about, it's the fun hour of Tuesday.

1243
00:50:33,880 --> 00:50:34,880
Yes.

1244
00:50:34,880 --> 00:50:35,880
For sure.

1245
00:50:35,880 --> 00:50:41,280
Even if it's more of a serious talk or whatever, because we always find, if you can find fun

1246
00:50:41,280 --> 00:50:49,080
in any moment, in any situation that allows fun, listen, it's fun.

1247
00:50:49,080 --> 00:50:55,960
I can find the humor in any awkward situation you throw at me and I enjoy that.

1248
00:50:55,960 --> 00:51:00,600
And honestly, we'll walk in here, maybe not in the best mood.

1249
00:51:00,600 --> 00:51:03,760
Maybe we don't always want to sit down and talk.

1250
00:51:03,760 --> 00:51:08,320
In minutes, we're laughing and sometimes that's what everybody needs.

1251
00:51:08,320 --> 00:51:09,320
That's true.

1252
00:51:09,320 --> 00:51:11,440
A little bit of a force or not a force.

1253
00:51:11,440 --> 00:51:13,480
It's not a force, a push.

1254
00:51:13,480 --> 00:51:19,200
A little bit of a push because people are so scared of stopping to have a good time because

1255
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:20,200
they don't want to.

1256
00:51:20,200 --> 00:51:21,200
We don't have time for that.

1257
00:51:21,200 --> 00:51:22,200
We got to hustle.

1258
00:51:22,200 --> 00:51:23,200
I know.

1259
00:51:23,200 --> 00:51:25,600
I'm a hustler, baby.

1260
00:51:25,600 --> 00:51:28,160
First one in 2024.

1261
00:51:28,160 --> 00:51:32,720
And stopping to laugh and have fun is just not on the to-do list.

1262
00:51:32,720 --> 00:51:36,880
But we make it on our Tuesday to-do list and then we don't do or laugh again until the

1263
00:51:36,880 --> 00:51:37,880
following Tuesday.

1264
00:51:37,880 --> 00:51:38,880
That's not true.

1265
00:51:38,880 --> 00:51:41,200
Well, Victoria sits and edits this.

1266
00:51:41,200 --> 00:51:42,920
So she laughs all week long.

1267
00:51:42,920 --> 00:51:46,200
Oh, it's definitely not laughter that I'm feeling.

1268
00:51:46,200 --> 00:51:49,840
I don't want to listen to your voice anymore after that.

1269
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:57,840
Our tip for you today is to try some of these self-care on a budget, no budget, budget-friendly

1270
00:51:57,840 --> 00:51:58,840
self-care tips.

1271
00:51:58,840 --> 00:51:59,840
Honestly.

1272
00:51:59,840 --> 00:52:04,600
And look at the length that we're attaching in the show notes because there are so many

1273
00:52:04,600 --> 00:52:05,600
more.

1274
00:52:05,600 --> 00:52:08,280
We kind of put a few of them together to get them all in.

1275
00:52:08,280 --> 00:52:12,440
But there's so many and they're so good and there are some that might be just perfect

1276
00:52:12,440 --> 00:52:16,240
for what you need right now as small as it is.

1277
00:52:16,240 --> 00:52:17,320
Maybe it's not a daily thing.

1278
00:52:17,320 --> 00:52:21,640
Maybe it's a weekly thing, but you'll see as the weeks go by, you're just feeling better,

1279
00:52:21,640 --> 00:52:24,800
feeling brighter and feeling like you have more time to do stuff for yourself, which

1280
00:52:24,800 --> 00:52:26,680
is the whole point.

1281
00:52:26,680 --> 00:52:32,160
So we hope that you found a little bit of good with this and something resonated.

1282
00:52:32,160 --> 00:52:37,400
And we hope that you remember that you are always fit to be real and always allowed to

1283
00:52:37,400 --> 00:52:45,960
be a little extra.

1284
00:52:45,960 --> 00:52:49,160
For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and

1285
00:52:49,160 --> 00:52:50,960
educational purposes only.

1286
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We are not healthcare professionals.

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For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the medical

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professional in your life.

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Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be.

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And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do.

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Okay?

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Okay, bye.