1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,600 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:05,300 Part two. 3 00:00:05,300 --> 00:00:06,300 Woo-woo. 4 00:00:06,300 --> 00:00:10,400 If you have not listened to part one, go back. 5 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:11,200 Listen to part one. 6 00:00:11,200 --> 00:00:13,100 Episode 48 is part one. 7 00:00:13,100 --> 00:00:13,800 Or don't. 8 00:00:13,800 --> 00:00:14,900 You do you. 9 00:00:14,900 --> 00:00:16,600 Boo-boo. 10 00:00:16,600 --> 00:00:20,400 Yes, but you really go back and listen to part one. 11 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,300 I'm usually for that, but like do your thing. 12 00:00:23,300 --> 00:00:29,600 But to get to part two and then set really good intentions and goals for 13 00:00:29,600 --> 00:00:34,000 yourself, you have to figure out what didn't work for you, why it didn't work. 14 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:35,600 And that is a part oneer. 15 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:36,500 Okay. 16 00:00:36,500 --> 00:00:38,600 So Carly's got to go do that as well. 17 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:40,300 We love part oneers. 18 00:00:40,300 --> 00:00:43,000 And now we're in a part two or. 19 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:48,400 And now we are going to break down how to set a proper. 20 00:00:48,400 --> 00:01:00,400 Achievable and successful goal for yourself for 2024. 21 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:01,400 I'm Victoria. 22 00:01:01,400 --> 00:01:04,200 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 23 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:06,100 New year. 24 00:01:06,100 --> 00:01:07,000 Same name. 25 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:08,200 Same. 26 00:01:08,200 --> 00:01:12,500 Listen, that was not a goal that I had intended for myself to change. 27 00:01:12,500 --> 00:01:15,100 So we're going to keep that just the way it is. 28 00:01:15,100 --> 00:01:20,000 It's not broke, don't fix it. 29 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:23,800 Our mom used to fix things with duct tape. 30 00:01:23,800 --> 00:01:27,600 Our uniforms in grade school were all hemmed with duct tape. 31 00:01:27,600 --> 00:01:32,300 So in the summer months or the spring months that were very hot, 32 00:01:32,300 --> 00:01:36,600 they would stick to our legs and we sat down. 33 00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:42,000 I had forgotten that memory or maybe pushed it aside deep down somewhere. 34 00:01:42,000 --> 00:01:43,000 You just brought it back up. 35 00:01:43,000 --> 00:01:47,300 I'll never forget because when I needed to wear the exact same from second grade to eighth 36 00:01:47,300 --> 00:01:51,600 grade uniform, she would unduck tape it, but there would be residue. 37 00:01:51,600 --> 00:01:52,600 Yeah, duct tape residue. 38 00:01:52,600 --> 00:01:54,600 Because she would make it longer. 39 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:58,400 And you know, I love therapy. 40 00:01:58,400 --> 00:01:59,400 I'm just kidding. 41 00:01:59,400 --> 00:02:00,400 I'm just kidding. 42 00:02:00,400 --> 00:02:03,400 That is just a fun tidbit. 43 00:02:03,400 --> 00:02:05,400 But let's break down some goal setting. 44 00:02:05,400 --> 00:02:11,400 Well, in our last episode afterwards, we realized that we did not tell you any of our goals 45 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:14,400 and we did not let you in on that little tidbit. 46 00:02:14,400 --> 00:02:15,400 And did you? 47 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:17,800 Well, you said you didn't write anything down. 48 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:19,100 I never do. 49 00:02:19,100 --> 00:02:23,300 And that's why a lot of my goals don't stick because I don't. 50 00:02:23,300 --> 00:02:24,700 I'm not specific enough. 51 00:02:24,700 --> 00:02:27,300 I have very vague goals. 52 00:02:27,300 --> 00:02:29,400 Did you have any for 2023? 53 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:31,000 No, not one. 54 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:32,800 No, I don't think I had. 55 00:02:32,800 --> 00:02:40,700 I didn't set any New Year's resolutions or I think in my mind, I just wanted to be more 56 00:02:40,700 --> 00:02:44,100 with the kids and with the family and less worried about C-Fit. 57 00:02:44,100 --> 00:02:48,600 And I think that was a very general goal I had set for myself. 58 00:02:48,600 --> 00:02:49,600 Passing by. 59 00:02:49,600 --> 00:02:53,800 Yeah, I don't want my life to like, I don't want to be where I am again at the end of 60 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:55,800 the year and be like, nothing changed. 61 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:56,800 Right. 62 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:02,760 Which I think halfway I did towards the end of the year. 63 00:03:02,760 --> 00:03:05,800 I was like, no, I really need to put the phone down. 64 00:03:05,800 --> 00:03:06,800 Right. 65 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:07,800 Right. 66 00:03:07,800 --> 00:03:08,800 Right. 67 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:09,800 Right. 68 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:13,300 I didn't have like a goal or a specific timeline. 69 00:03:13,300 --> 00:03:15,100 Like I want to buy a house in five years. 70 00:03:15,100 --> 00:03:16,600 Like I didn't do one of those. 71 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:17,600 Yeah. 72 00:03:17,600 --> 00:03:18,600 But I think I need to. 73 00:03:18,600 --> 00:03:22,040 I think that's something everybody should do. 74 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:23,540 After all this, we have to. 75 00:03:23,540 --> 00:03:29,600 If you want to change something or add something, I would venture to say one of the, I think 76 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:33,600 it was the Forbes article was don't set a, it's not a New Year's resolution. 77 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:34,600 Don't call it a resolution. 78 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:35,600 It's a goal. 79 00:03:35,600 --> 00:03:37,100 If that's what you want to change. 80 00:03:37,100 --> 00:03:44,040 So a resolution has a connotation that you have to just like with like a diet, you have 81 00:03:44,040 --> 00:03:46,480 to restrict yourself to take something away. 82 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:49,400 Something is negative and you have to fix it. 83 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,760 And that's what a resolution is. 84 00:03:50,760 --> 00:03:52,280 My New Year's resolution. 85 00:03:52,280 --> 00:03:57,800 Usually it's like, I'm going to stop doing this instead of I want to start. 86 00:03:57,800 --> 00:04:00,040 I want to start doing this. 87 00:04:00,040 --> 00:04:05,600 And I've seen that a lot now because I've changed my algorithm on Instagram of what 88 00:04:05,600 --> 00:04:08,040 comes into my feed. 89 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:15,160 And a lot of it is like different ways to look at fitness or your health journey. 90 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:19,760 So instead of setting, I'm going to lose weight, have it, I'm going to get healthy. 91 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:21,000 I wrote that down. 92 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:22,000 You did. 93 00:04:22,000 --> 00:04:25,760 Yeah, I wrote that down being more positive about the goals instead of taking something 94 00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:26,760 away. 95 00:04:26,760 --> 00:04:27,760 That's a resolution. 96 00:04:27,760 --> 00:04:28,760 Yeah. 97 00:04:28,760 --> 00:04:31,840 Trying to resolve something about the year as you start a new year. 98 00:04:31,840 --> 00:04:36,240 And that already sets you up for thinking that you're doing something wrong in life. 99 00:04:36,240 --> 00:04:40,960 Another one, another example of that, of the getting healthy instead of losing weight is 100 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:46,080 to instead of saying, I want to, like for me, I want to stop working so much. 101 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:47,320 That's negative. 102 00:04:47,320 --> 00:04:49,520 I want to stop doing something that I'm doing. 103 00:04:49,520 --> 00:04:51,280 How do you actually flip that? 104 00:04:51,280 --> 00:04:56,000 It's, you know, I want to spend more time with my family or I want to have more time 105 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:00,360 have more time for them or I want to travel more, like change it into a way where it's 106 00:05:00,360 --> 00:05:03,960 not like stop doing this or lose this. 107 00:05:03,960 --> 00:05:05,440 It's the positive spin on that. 108 00:05:05,440 --> 00:05:06,440 I wrote that down. 109 00:05:06,440 --> 00:05:07,440 That's really interesting. 110 00:05:07,440 --> 00:05:08,440 Yeah. 111 00:05:08,440 --> 00:05:14,120 It's all the mindset of how you look at things and believe it or not, if you change your mind, 112 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:15,120 you change your life. 113 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:18,880 I mean, it's so cliche to say, and I think a lot of people just kind of throw that out 114 00:05:18,880 --> 00:05:21,480 there, but it couldn't be more true. 115 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:26,600 How you approach the thought of something is how it will come into fruition for yourself. 116 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:28,080 It's that red car story. 117 00:05:28,080 --> 00:05:29,080 Did you see that? 118 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:30,080 Yeah. 119 00:05:30,080 --> 00:05:38,600 But if you think of red cars, just have a thought about a red car and think about them. 120 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:41,480 That's all you're going to see on the road or red cars. 121 00:05:41,480 --> 00:05:43,720 And it's a thing that your mind does. 122 00:05:43,720 --> 00:05:48,480 It is a actual scientific brainwave that we do to ourselves. 123 00:05:48,480 --> 00:05:53,480 So if you flip that and don't make it a red car and you put it on the, I'm so bad. 124 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:54,480 I can't lose weight. 125 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:56,720 I can't do anything right. 126 00:05:56,720 --> 00:05:57,720 I'm not happy. 127 00:05:57,720 --> 00:05:59,440 Well, that's all you're going to see. 128 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:02,440 And that is all your mind's going to think about. 129 00:06:02,440 --> 00:06:08,120 So you absolutely have to change the way that you're thinking, even if you don't believe 130 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:09,120 it yet. 131 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,960 I didn't set a goal for 2023 because we were coming out of 2022, right? 132 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:13,960 Yep. 133 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:14,960 That would be it. 134 00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:18,920 We talked last time about the years and it's all a blur. 135 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:21,560 Every year I'm confused about what year it actually is. 136 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:23,680 I think I just started writing 2023. 137 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,440 Like you know how you have to erase it and go, darn it. 138 00:06:26,440 --> 00:06:28,520 I feel weird writing 2023. 139 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:34,120 I feel like it's like some EET me sort of year that like we are not even close to. 140 00:06:34,120 --> 00:06:35,120 And I'm writing it. 141 00:06:35,120 --> 00:06:37,040 I know I've said this like back to the future. 142 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:38,160 Like it doesn't really exist. 143 00:06:38,160 --> 00:06:39,800 We're not really in 2023. 144 00:06:39,800 --> 00:06:45,880 I had to start writing 2024 for my clients like when their packages are up and it, I'm 145 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:46,880 not doing it right. 146 00:06:46,880 --> 00:06:47,880 It's like a space age. 147 00:06:47,880 --> 00:06:48,880 I know. 148 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:49,880 I keep doing it wrong. 149 00:06:49,880 --> 00:06:51,080 What was I just saying though before the year? 150 00:06:51,080 --> 00:06:53,640 Oh, getting into 2023. 151 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:54,880 I didn't set any goals. 152 00:06:54,880 --> 00:07:02,440 I was in a much darker place I think for myself and I just, I wanted so many things that I 153 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:07,080 didn't do any of it because it was all so general and vague and there were so many. 154 00:07:07,080 --> 00:07:08,080 It was overwhelming. 155 00:07:08,080 --> 00:07:09,080 It was overwhelming. 156 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:13,520 And I wanted so much to change but I was in such a bad headspace about it that like, 157 00:07:13,520 --> 00:07:15,680 nothing's going to change when you're like that. 158 00:07:15,680 --> 00:07:16,680 No. 159 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:18,360 And so we just took you on a cruise and that didn't help. 160 00:07:18,360 --> 00:07:19,360 Yeah. 161 00:07:19,360 --> 00:07:20,680 Karlie thought buying things would be the best. 162 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:23,760 I thought buying her happiness would help and it clearly did not. 163 00:07:23,760 --> 00:07:25,160 Oh, that was so annoying. 164 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:26,160 Best cruise ever. 165 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:27,160 Best cruise ever. 166 00:07:27,160 --> 00:07:29,040 I want to do it again so badly. 167 00:07:29,040 --> 00:07:30,040 We are. 168 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:31,640 We're going to do it this year in a better headspace. 169 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:32,640 But yeah. 170 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:34,720 But yeah, so I didn't set a goal. 171 00:07:34,720 --> 00:07:36,040 I didn't set a specific one. 172 00:07:36,040 --> 00:07:37,200 I didn't set a vague one. 173 00:07:37,200 --> 00:07:39,280 I just wanted to get through. 174 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:40,280 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 175 00:07:40,280 --> 00:07:45,280 And I think a lot of people do that too once you get to the end of the year or if monumental 176 00:07:45,280 --> 00:07:51,000 things have happened for you, you can actually put more pressure on yourself by trying to 177 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:54,120 set goals because that's what you're supposed to do in the new year. 178 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:58,360 And if survival is just like what you've been trying to do and you've succeeded at just 179 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:01,000 surviving, you are doing amazing. 180 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:02,000 Amazing. 181 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:03,000 Gail DMed us. 182 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:04,000 Unfit to be real. 183 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:05,000 What up Gail? 184 00:08:05,000 --> 00:08:13,680 Because we put something out of like, do your best to not compare to the perfectness. 185 00:08:13,680 --> 00:08:20,880 Basically, I'm paraphrasing of everyone else's Christmas and everyone else's end of year, 186 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:21,880 whatever's. 187 00:08:21,880 --> 00:08:28,520 And if you've just been in survival mode trying to get by and you have been getting by, you're 188 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:29,520 winning. 189 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:30,520 Yeah. 190 00:08:30,520 --> 00:08:31,520 Like that's all you need to do. 191 00:08:31,520 --> 00:08:35,920 And so do your best to not compare when you are scrolling at the end of a long day and 192 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:41,320 it's dark at three o'clock and you just feel like everyone else has it together but you. 193 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:42,320 They don't. 194 00:08:42,320 --> 00:08:43,320 Yeah, they don't. 195 00:08:43,320 --> 00:08:44,320 They just don't. 196 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:46,920 So, Gail, we're with you. 197 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:48,000 But yeah, I didn't set a goal. 198 00:08:48,000 --> 00:08:49,240 I'm doing it this year. 199 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:50,240 You are. 200 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:56,520 100% everything we are about to tell you all, I am going to put pen to paper and do. 201 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:57,520 Same's ease. 202 00:08:57,520 --> 00:08:58,760 And you know what? 203 00:08:58,760 --> 00:09:05,120 Right now, we are going to do a six month check-in on the podcast. 204 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:06,840 I think she's just got real for Carly. 205 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:07,840 No, she doesn't. 206 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:08,840 No, I have to do it. 207 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:09,840 Yeah. 208 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:10,840 How about it? 209 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:11,840 We're going to do a six month check-in. 210 00:09:11,840 --> 00:09:16,440 I think that just is a big factor to it, holding ourselves accountable, holding you each have 211 00:09:16,440 --> 00:09:18,040 to hold yourselves accountable. 212 00:09:18,040 --> 00:09:19,840 That doesn't mean do a buddy system of goals. 213 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:21,680 Do your own goals. 214 00:09:21,680 --> 00:09:24,800 But find a way to make sure it sticks for you. 215 00:09:24,800 --> 00:09:26,040 So let's talk about it. 216 00:09:26,040 --> 00:09:27,040 Let's do it. 217 00:09:27,040 --> 00:09:28,040 Wow. 218 00:09:28,040 --> 00:09:31,880 So you all just found out that we have not set any goals. 219 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:35,120 I haven't set goals in a very long time. 220 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:36,120 We've been in survival. 221 00:09:36,120 --> 00:09:37,480 Yeah, I haven't set goals. 222 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:43,400 I will say though that Andrew made me write down about five years ago, six years ago, 223 00:09:43,400 --> 00:09:47,880 what I wanted out of Seafit because I was so unhappy being like, we work all the time. 224 00:09:47,880 --> 00:09:48,880 We're in a small space. 225 00:09:48,880 --> 00:09:50,040 We don't make any money. 226 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:52,640 And I did write down, I want a bigger space. 227 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:56,360 And before the five year mark, we got our new space. 228 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:57,880 And I don't know if that has anything to do with it. 229 00:09:57,880 --> 00:09:58,880 I actually had to write it down. 230 00:09:58,880 --> 00:09:59,880 Work all the time. 231 00:09:59,880 --> 00:10:02,640 We don't make any money, but we're in a bigger space. 232 00:10:02,640 --> 00:10:04,520 So let's fix the other two. 233 00:10:04,520 --> 00:10:07,160 Well, listen, I could only do one thing at a time. 234 00:10:07,160 --> 00:10:08,160 Great. 235 00:10:08,160 --> 00:10:09,160 I think it's been five years. 236 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:10,160 Every five years. 237 00:10:10,160 --> 00:10:11,160 Yes. 238 00:10:11,160 --> 00:10:12,160 Every five years, we'll do. 239 00:10:12,160 --> 00:10:15,480 Let's work on making money and then we can work on having more time. 240 00:10:15,480 --> 00:10:16,480 Okay. 241 00:10:16,480 --> 00:10:18,880 So honestly, I wrote it down, it happened. 242 00:10:18,880 --> 00:10:21,240 That is something that I think is very important. 243 00:10:21,240 --> 00:10:23,200 But yes, let's get talk about it. 244 00:10:23,200 --> 00:10:24,520 Words are powerful. 245 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:28,080 Writing them down isn't just this cliche thing that you're supposed to do. 246 00:10:28,080 --> 00:10:33,000 And like journaling isn't just this like little girl thing that you do that, you know, everyone 247 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:39,400 likes putting things into space and saying them out loud is as powerful as putting them 248 00:10:39,400 --> 00:10:44,760 ink to paper and doing it over and over and over again. 249 00:10:44,760 --> 00:10:47,000 Writing down a goal. 250 00:10:47,000 --> 00:10:54,480 If you have an actual one goal, like a large one, you can't just... 251 00:10:54,480 --> 00:10:55,480 What is it? 252 00:10:55,480 --> 00:10:56,480 I want to buy a house. 253 00:10:56,480 --> 00:10:57,480 You can't just want to buy a house. 254 00:10:57,480 --> 00:10:58,480 Right. 255 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,160 Like I said, I wanted a bigger space for Seafit. 256 00:11:01,160 --> 00:11:04,320 That's a great goal, but you have to break it down. 257 00:11:04,320 --> 00:11:05,320 Right. 258 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:06,880 There are three ways. 259 00:11:06,880 --> 00:11:12,680 Figure out the long term goal, which would be I want a bigger space than the medium term 260 00:11:12,680 --> 00:11:21,720 goal, which would be how do I get to the halfway mark of getting that bigger space? 261 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:27,360 And then a short term goal, which is daily and weekly practices to get yourself to that 262 00:11:27,360 --> 00:11:31,440 middle place of that stepping stone to get yourself to the long term. 263 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:35,360 So it's A's and B's and C's to add up to these E's, F's, right? 264 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:38,480 You can't just decide, I want the end game. 265 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:39,480 Yeah. 266 00:11:39,480 --> 00:11:40,480 No. 267 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:41,480 I mean, you can. 268 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:46,080 You're not going to get it because if you don't break it down, it's just a pipe dream. 269 00:11:46,080 --> 00:11:48,360 We had pipes in our big space. 270 00:11:48,360 --> 00:11:50,840 There's lots of pipes. 271 00:11:50,840 --> 00:11:56,200 So our long term goal, you want it in years. 272 00:11:56,200 --> 00:12:00,920 Like it's a couple years, a few years, one year, whatever it is. 273 00:12:00,920 --> 00:12:07,640 It's the foundation of like a big change in your life and it has a measurable time frame. 274 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:08,640 Right. 275 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:14,440 So then that medium that we were talking about is just like I said, it's that stepping stone 276 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:18,280 and it also has a specific time frame. 277 00:12:18,280 --> 00:12:20,280 So you want to hit that mark halfway. 278 00:12:20,280 --> 00:12:21,280 Yeah. 279 00:12:21,280 --> 00:12:22,280 Checkpoints. 280 00:12:22,280 --> 00:12:23,280 It's like a checkpoint. 281 00:12:23,280 --> 00:12:24,280 Yeah. 282 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:26,600 And that is just an easier way for you to gauge how well you're doing with it. 283 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:32,480 If you need to shift something in your timeline to get to that medium place and then to, of 284 00:12:32,480 --> 00:12:35,120 course, essentially get to that long term place. 285 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:41,200 And then that short term, they are actionable tasks that you can do daily and then add up 286 00:12:41,200 --> 00:12:46,440 to weekly, which will add up to that medium term goal. 287 00:12:46,440 --> 00:12:49,560 And they just support the big picture. 288 00:12:49,560 --> 00:12:54,720 And that is how you break down in three steps, how to just set the goal. 289 00:12:54,720 --> 00:13:00,400 Because once you set that or once you decide of the big term, long term goal, having trouble 290 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:04,240 with these terms, that you have to break down, how can I approach it? 291 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:05,240 How can I get it? 292 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:07,760 You can't just be like, I want it and I'm going to keep putting it out there, but I'm 293 00:13:07,760 --> 00:13:09,000 not going to do anything about it. 294 00:13:09,000 --> 00:13:10,000 Yeah. 295 00:13:10,000 --> 00:13:11,680 It's just like saying, like, I want to be famous. 296 00:13:11,680 --> 00:13:12,680 Cool. 297 00:13:12,680 --> 00:13:13,680 Yeah. 298 00:13:13,680 --> 00:13:14,680 Awesome. 299 00:13:14,680 --> 00:13:15,680 Like how do you do that? 300 00:13:15,680 --> 00:13:17,040 It's like, that's just a dream. 301 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:18,040 That's a goal. 302 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:21,440 You have to break it down or it's just words. 303 00:13:21,440 --> 00:13:24,520 It really is. 304 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:31,440 So when breaking down the long term, medium term and short term goals, you write them down 305 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:36,680 daily or weekly, not just once. 306 00:13:36,680 --> 00:13:39,240 And that was a big thing that I read in a lot of different places. 307 00:13:39,240 --> 00:13:40,240 Not just once. 308 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:41,920 Like January 1st, you write your goals. 309 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:42,920 That's awesome. 310 00:13:42,920 --> 00:13:44,400 You got to keep doing it. 311 00:13:44,400 --> 00:13:50,000 And a lot of that is really just more reinforcement of what you really want. 312 00:13:50,000 --> 00:13:52,520 And then you either realize, yes, this is exactly what I want. 313 00:13:52,520 --> 00:13:53,560 I want to keep doing this. 314 00:13:53,560 --> 00:13:58,040 Or maybe I want to shift it a little to this so that you're not wasting your time doing 315 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:00,040 that one that you set that one day. 316 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:01,040 That one day. 317 00:14:01,040 --> 00:14:02,040 Yeah. 318 00:14:02,040 --> 00:14:03,840 You got to do it all the time. 319 00:14:03,840 --> 00:14:08,280 And if daily is a little too much for your, you know, it's overwhelming, set time that 320 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:11,040 you're going to write down your goals again Sunday nights. 321 00:14:11,040 --> 00:14:12,040 Yeah. 322 00:14:12,040 --> 00:14:13,040 You're sitting in bed. 323 00:14:13,040 --> 00:14:14,040 Yeah. 324 00:14:14,040 --> 00:14:15,040 Like meal prepping. 325 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:16,040 Instead of scrolling. 326 00:14:16,040 --> 00:14:17,040 Yeah. 327 00:14:17,040 --> 00:14:18,040 I mean, it's a practice too. 328 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:20,900 Like instead of scrolling, which is what I tend to do, get out the journal and write 329 00:14:20,900 --> 00:14:21,900 it again. 330 00:14:21,900 --> 00:14:24,080 Write it over and over and over. 331 00:14:24,080 --> 00:14:30,640 And just designate one little notepad or journal to that so that it's, I can do that. 332 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:31,640 You can do that. 333 00:14:31,640 --> 00:14:32,640 No, I can. 334 00:14:32,640 --> 00:14:33,640 Yeah. 335 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:34,640 Great. 336 00:14:34,640 --> 00:14:35,640 And then plan. 337 00:14:35,640 --> 00:14:36,640 Plan. 338 00:14:36,640 --> 00:14:37,640 Plan ahead. 339 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:38,640 Just like that. 340 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:39,640 Meal prepping. 341 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:40,640 You have to plan. 342 00:14:40,640 --> 00:14:41,640 What am I going to do? 343 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:42,640 What am I going to buy this week? 344 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:44,280 What do I want to make for the week ahead? 345 00:14:44,280 --> 00:14:45,280 Same thing with your goal. 346 00:14:45,280 --> 00:14:46,280 Yeah. 347 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:47,640 What can I do for this, this date? 348 00:14:47,640 --> 00:14:49,320 And then what about this date? 349 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:52,520 Plan it all out. 350 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:58,680 Prioritize the main things that are going to get to where you need to go. 351 00:14:58,680 --> 00:15:02,880 Prioritize them into your schedule, prioritize them into your thoughts, prioritize them into 352 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:06,120 how you wake up every day and go about your days. 353 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,240 They have to be, if that's something that you really want, we say it all the time. 354 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:11,240 If you really want it, you're going to make it work. 355 00:15:11,240 --> 00:15:15,080 If you don't want it, it's going to be something that you're like, oh yeah, I tried. 356 00:15:15,080 --> 00:15:16,080 Oh well. 357 00:15:16,080 --> 00:15:17,520 Because you didn't really want it in the first place. 358 00:15:17,520 --> 00:15:22,760 If you want it just like if somebody texts you, it's just like Carly says this to me 359 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:23,760 all the time. 360 00:15:23,760 --> 00:15:27,240 Actually, I say this all the time. 361 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:31,280 And you go, no, they're really awesome. 362 00:15:31,280 --> 00:15:33,640 Everything is awesome. 363 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:38,760 If you are, you know, you found somebody on Bumble and you are texting and then they don't 364 00:15:38,760 --> 00:15:41,600 text you back for like, what did you just say? 365 00:15:41,600 --> 00:15:42,600 Six days. 366 00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:43,600 Six days. 367 00:15:43,600 --> 00:15:44,600 They're really not that into it. 368 00:15:44,600 --> 00:15:47,100 Because everybody has time to text you. 369 00:15:47,100 --> 00:15:50,640 Maybe not right away because they're in a meeting, but like, I don't know, that day. 370 00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:51,640 That day. 371 00:15:51,640 --> 00:15:52,640 Respond to you. 372 00:15:52,640 --> 00:15:55,480 So you know, if that's what they really want, they're going to show you that they really 373 00:15:55,480 --> 00:15:56,480 want it. 374 00:15:56,480 --> 00:15:59,200 And if you're setting goals that you really want, you're going to show yourself that you 375 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:00,200 really want it. 376 00:16:00,200 --> 00:16:04,520 So writing it down, prioritizing, planning it all out, making lists and schedules is 377 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:05,520 involved in all of that. 378 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:08,480 I mean, that's the big part of it. 379 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:09,480 Yes. 380 00:16:09,480 --> 00:16:10,480 Carly. 381 00:16:10,480 --> 00:16:11,480 What? 382 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:12,480 And then guess what? 383 00:16:12,480 --> 00:16:14,160 It all turns into a habit. 384 00:16:14,160 --> 00:16:16,040 All of it's a habit in a lifestyle. 385 00:16:16,040 --> 00:16:21,680 And now you have made this manifesting station for yourself that what you want, you will 386 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:27,800 get because you have figured out how to achieveably take the steps to do it. 387 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:28,800 Exactly. 388 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:32,960 I mean, they think of the goal as the top of the step is the goal. 389 00:16:32,960 --> 00:16:35,160 You have to walk up the steps. 390 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:36,520 You can't run. 391 00:16:36,520 --> 00:16:38,280 Running is not, you're going to trip and fall. 392 00:16:38,280 --> 00:16:39,520 You can't skip any steps. 393 00:16:39,520 --> 00:16:42,880 No, you can't skip either because it's, you're just going to take you back. 394 00:16:42,880 --> 00:16:44,280 It's going to, you're going to backpedal. 395 00:16:44,280 --> 00:16:47,480 You have to walk up each step to get to the goal. 396 00:16:47,480 --> 00:16:51,640 And there's no, there's no quick fix to goal getting to goal. 397 00:16:51,640 --> 00:16:52,640 Goal getting. 398 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:57,520 I just saw like, I think quite literally that picture where it was a top and a bottom and 399 00:16:57,520 --> 00:17:02,160 the top was like really big steps, like a pencil drawn line. 400 00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:07,840 And it was like two steps high over, two steps high over making that big step. 401 00:17:07,840 --> 00:17:12,160 And the little tiny stick figure was having a hard time jumping up to the steps. 402 00:17:12,160 --> 00:17:17,840 And then the bottom part of it was little normal little baby steps, quite literally 403 00:17:17,840 --> 00:17:23,080 baby steps actually, and he was just able to step up one at a time. 404 00:17:23,080 --> 00:17:25,560 But that guy was trying to skip some steps. 405 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:26,760 And it wasn't working. 406 00:17:26,760 --> 00:17:29,640 And so, I mean, it was like the tortoise and the hare. 407 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:34,800 Because he was taking the exact amount of little baby steps, which I think are hilarious 408 00:17:34,800 --> 00:17:35,800 that we say that. 409 00:17:35,800 --> 00:17:37,200 But they're baby steps. 410 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:40,120 Because when a baby steps for the first couple of times, it's the biggest thing in their 411 00:17:40,120 --> 00:17:41,360 entire lives. 412 00:17:41,360 --> 00:17:42,520 And it's amazing. 413 00:17:42,520 --> 00:17:45,440 And everybody freaks out and yells and it's like so exciting. 414 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:46,440 Celebrates. 415 00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:48,080 It's the video of it. 416 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:51,720 And yet when you get to this like adult age, baby steps are like, ugh. 417 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:52,720 Yeah. 418 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:53,720 It's not happening fast enough. 419 00:17:53,720 --> 00:17:54,720 I need a bigger, bigger, faster. 420 00:17:54,720 --> 00:17:55,720 Yeah. 421 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:56,720 You're not crazy. 422 00:17:56,720 --> 00:17:59,880 I never thought of it like that. 423 00:17:59,880 --> 00:18:04,680 So why don't you tell us about the mistakes? 424 00:18:04,680 --> 00:18:05,680 I love that. 425 00:18:05,680 --> 00:18:06,680 That's my forte. 426 00:18:06,680 --> 00:18:07,680 Let's talk. 427 00:18:07,680 --> 00:18:08,680 Mistakes. 428 00:18:08,680 --> 00:18:09,680 Mistakes. 429 00:18:09,680 --> 00:18:15,200 We're going to talk about how to avoid the mistakes that are very common in setting 430 00:18:15,200 --> 00:18:16,360 goals. 431 00:18:16,360 --> 00:18:21,120 Everybody does it and it's a surefire way to fail at your goals. 432 00:18:21,120 --> 00:18:23,000 So we want to teach you how to avoid them. 433 00:18:23,000 --> 00:18:26,240 And how do we avoid them by realizing what the mistake is? 434 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:27,240 Yeah. 435 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:28,240 Just acknowledging what the mistake is. 436 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:29,240 Exactly. 437 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:31,760 One of the first ones is setting too many goals. 438 00:18:31,760 --> 00:18:32,880 I do that. 439 00:18:32,880 --> 00:18:33,880 We all do it. 440 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:34,880 It's like, I want to lose weight. 441 00:18:34,880 --> 00:18:37,200 I want to go travel more. 442 00:18:37,200 --> 00:18:38,600 I want to stop working so much. 443 00:18:38,600 --> 00:18:43,240 I want to, first of all, all two out of the three are pretty negative. 444 00:18:43,240 --> 00:18:44,240 Setting too many. 445 00:18:44,240 --> 00:18:45,560 You got to pick one or two. 446 00:18:45,560 --> 00:18:46,760 I mean, even two is a lot. 447 00:18:46,760 --> 00:18:51,520 I would pick one goal that you really want and maybe some small goals. 448 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:53,880 But one big goal, that's a lot. 449 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,000 It says up to three is good for the year. 450 00:18:57,000 --> 00:19:00,760 And I think that makes sense if you do a big life changing one, you mean? 451 00:19:00,760 --> 00:19:04,840 And then two, I want to read more books, something like that. 452 00:19:04,840 --> 00:19:07,040 It said quality over quantity. 453 00:19:07,040 --> 00:19:12,400 Like pick goals that mean a lot to you that you really want over 15 goals that you want 454 00:19:12,400 --> 00:19:13,400 to change in your life. 455 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:14,400 You'll never do it. 456 00:19:14,400 --> 00:19:17,040 It'll never happen. 457 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:18,720 Something else to avoid. 458 00:19:18,720 --> 00:19:21,920 Common mistake, negative goals, which we already talked about. 459 00:19:21,920 --> 00:19:22,920 I want to lose weight. 460 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:24,400 I want to stop working so much. 461 00:19:24,400 --> 00:19:27,080 You refrain it and say, I want to get healthy. 462 00:19:27,080 --> 00:19:32,280 So then you can actually take the steps to get healthy because I want to lose weight. 463 00:19:32,280 --> 00:19:35,160 That's very vague, very general, very hard to do. 464 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:38,200 And it's the number one resolution every single year. 465 00:19:38,200 --> 00:19:43,040 And that's why people fail at it by February because it's too much. 466 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:44,120 You can't think of it like that. 467 00:19:44,120 --> 00:19:51,000 It also said, I think under this umbrella of making a balance between a work goal and 468 00:19:51,000 --> 00:19:54,720 a body goal and a creative goal or a financial goal. 469 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:58,240 If they're all work goals, you have no balance. 470 00:19:58,240 --> 00:20:04,640 You want to do a work goal and then you also want to, if you like to draw, set time for 471 00:20:04,640 --> 00:20:08,840 drawing this year because that's creative and that'll give you some good creative flow 472 00:20:08,840 --> 00:20:10,000 into your life. 473 00:20:10,000 --> 00:20:14,680 And then also you want to work on maybe building up your savings account. 474 00:20:14,680 --> 00:20:18,800 You want to keep it balanced in your goals and not have it all be about changing your 475 00:20:18,800 --> 00:20:22,520 body or changing your life, your whole life. 476 00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:23,520 Yeah. 477 00:20:23,520 --> 00:20:24,520 Balance it out. 478 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:25,520 I agree. 479 00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:28,000 Number three, review your progress. 480 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:33,160 So I think what tends to happen a lot is you have this end goal in sight so much that 481 00:20:33,160 --> 00:20:40,400 you neglect to see the little steps that you have and taking note of your progress as you 482 00:20:40,400 --> 00:20:43,360 go along through the journey. 483 00:20:43,360 --> 00:20:47,880 When you set smaller goals, you celebrate them just like the baby steps. 484 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:50,080 You're celebrating those baby steps. 485 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:54,760 If you are just seeing that end goal and you're going to get discouraged when you're not 486 00:20:54,760 --> 00:21:00,600 reaching it in three weeks, celebrate the little steps that make the one big step as 487 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:04,840 you go along and it's a lot easier to get through. 488 00:21:04,840 --> 00:21:09,680 Number four, avoid other people's goals, which we did talk about. 489 00:21:09,680 --> 00:21:13,960 Don't let others influence your goals or what you think your goal should be. 490 00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:14,960 Yeah. 491 00:21:14,960 --> 00:21:16,440 Don't just follow like a trend. 492 00:21:16,440 --> 00:21:17,840 Everybody else is doing it on TikTok. 493 00:21:17,840 --> 00:21:19,440 So me too. 494 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:21,040 Well, that won't stick. 495 00:21:21,040 --> 00:21:22,040 No. 496 00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:23,040 It just won't. 497 00:21:23,040 --> 00:21:24,040 That's why I called it a trend. 498 00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:25,040 Right. 499 00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:27,520 And there's going to be a new one by the time that you are into it. 500 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:28,520 It's over. 501 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:29,520 Trust me. 502 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:30,520 It's okay. 503 00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:33,040 And they don't work. 504 00:21:33,040 --> 00:21:38,800 Or more importantly, maybe not more importantly, but I think something that happens definitely 505 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:40,360 more often. 506 00:21:40,360 --> 00:21:46,840 Do not go off of what a family member wants for you, like what your mom wants for you 507 00:21:46,840 --> 00:21:52,320 this year and what you think will make somebody else happy if you achieve this for yourself, 508 00:21:52,320 --> 00:21:56,360 even though it's not really what's going to bring you joy. 509 00:21:56,360 --> 00:21:58,320 I agree with that. 510 00:21:58,320 --> 00:22:01,040 I'm thinking it doesn't have to be a mom or a sister. 511 00:22:01,040 --> 00:22:03,600 It could be a boss thinking about my life. 512 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:04,600 I'm kidding. 513 00:22:04,600 --> 00:22:05,600 Shut your face. 514 00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:06,840 It could be a boss. 515 00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:08,080 What your boss wants you to achieve. 516 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:12,080 I want you to do this, this and this so that you can get this promotion. 517 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:13,080 If that's not what you want. 518 00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:14,080 Yeah. 519 00:22:14,080 --> 00:22:15,080 That's not your goal. 520 00:22:15,080 --> 00:22:18,000 It's going to be a lot harder for you because you're not going to stick to it. 521 00:22:18,000 --> 00:22:21,200 Somebody else's goal for you. 522 00:22:21,200 --> 00:22:24,320 Number five, underestimating completion time. 523 00:22:24,320 --> 00:22:26,480 And this is a huge one. 524 00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:30,920 If you don't honestly estimate goal times, you'll end up discouraged, just like losing 525 00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:31,920 weight. 526 00:22:31,920 --> 00:22:37,520 If you're not honest with yourself and say, I want to get healthy by this time in an 527 00:22:37,520 --> 00:22:45,720 appropriate amount of time, 100%, you will stop, you will drop, you will roll out the 528 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:46,720 door. 529 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:50,400 You'll be on fire. 530 00:22:50,400 --> 00:22:53,360 Meaning you have three weeks. 531 00:22:53,360 --> 00:22:55,680 You're not going to lose 25 pounds. 532 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,960 In three weeks healthily, you're not going to keep it off. 533 00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:03,040 So don't set a goal for yourself because a wedding that you have to attend is in three 534 00:23:03,040 --> 00:23:07,760 weeks away and you would like to be 25 pounds lighter. 535 00:23:07,760 --> 00:23:10,360 It's an unattainable timeline goal. 536 00:23:10,360 --> 00:23:11,360 That's not real. 537 00:23:11,360 --> 00:23:13,960 You can lose 25, but not in three weeks. 538 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:14,960 Not in three weeks. 539 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,280 And if you're not honest with yourself, you will fail. 540 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:19,320 And that's a common mistake that everybody makes. 541 00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:20,480 You'll gain 25. 542 00:23:20,480 --> 00:23:21,480 Right. 543 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:22,480 Exactly. 544 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:23,480 Yeah. 545 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:25,840 You don't have to add in setback time. 546 00:23:25,840 --> 00:23:28,200 I have written down plan for obstacles. 547 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:29,200 That's what I mean. 548 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:30,200 Plan for obstacles. 549 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:33,080 I know we've read the same article. 550 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:37,680 We wrote down different things, but it's planned for it because it's life and it's messy and 551 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,320 it's going to happen. 552 00:23:39,320 --> 00:23:45,000 There are things that get in the way just because life likes to throw these tests at 553 00:23:45,000 --> 00:23:46,000 you. 554 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:49,760 Whoever is up there, whatever you'd like to believe, God put this in your path, the 555 00:23:49,760 --> 00:23:51,480 universe, whatever. 556 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:57,800 That's how it works so that you can grow in how to get around that obstacle or power 557 00:23:57,800 --> 00:23:59,320 right through that obstacle. 558 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:00,320 It's a growth. 559 00:24:00,320 --> 00:24:01,320 It's a lesson. 560 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:02,680 So you have to plan that they're going to happen. 561 00:24:02,680 --> 00:24:03,680 It's not going to be smooth. 562 00:24:03,680 --> 00:24:07,520 And even if we're talking about not weight at all, say that's not even in your line of 563 00:24:07,520 --> 00:24:09,080 sight is losing weight. 564 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:14,680 If you, your goal or intention is to save money this year and a trip comes up that you 565 00:24:14,680 --> 00:24:18,600 really wanted to take with your friends or you really wanted to go, that's a setback 566 00:24:18,600 --> 00:24:20,520 because you're not going to be able to save as much money. 567 00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:22,160 You have to plan for that. 568 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:27,240 So it just doesn't have to do with losing weight, but those are just some examples. 569 00:24:27,240 --> 00:24:30,400 I would even say like your car breaks down. 570 00:24:30,400 --> 00:24:31,400 You got to take care of that. 571 00:24:31,400 --> 00:24:32,400 Yeah. 572 00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:33,400 Instead of a trip. 573 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:34,400 Yeah. 574 00:24:34,400 --> 00:24:38,120 Just because that's going to happen way more than like a fun trip that your family forces 575 00:24:38,120 --> 00:24:39,640 you to go on a cruise happens. 576 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:40,640 You know? 577 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:42,640 Your face, we didn't pay for that. 578 00:24:42,640 --> 00:24:46,000 Number six, neglecting goals that bring you joy. 579 00:24:46,000 --> 00:24:47,640 If your goals are all about. 580 00:24:47,640 --> 00:24:48,640 Restriction. 581 00:24:48,640 --> 00:24:49,640 Wait. 582 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:50,640 Restriction. 583 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:52,680 Stop working. 584 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:54,320 You have to balance it out. 585 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:56,120 It should be more about like reading books. 586 00:24:56,120 --> 00:24:58,120 My goal is always stop working. 587 00:24:58,120 --> 00:24:59,120 Stop working. 588 00:24:59,120 --> 00:25:00,400 Stop working. 589 00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:07,400 But you should have as just as many personal goals as you do work business goals. 590 00:25:07,400 --> 00:25:11,920 So just like I said, you should, you're one of your goals should be to read more, to travel 591 00:25:11,920 --> 00:25:14,080 more to something that brings you joy. 592 00:25:14,080 --> 00:25:17,760 If you are not interested in it, you're not going to follow through. 593 00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:19,240 You're not. 594 00:25:19,240 --> 00:25:22,640 Number seven, setting unrealistic goals. 595 00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:27,920 What this means is if you want to run a marathon, don't sign up for one that starts on January 596 00:25:27,920 --> 00:25:28,920 5th. 597 00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:30,200 You need to train for it. 598 00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,320 It is something you need to work towards. 599 00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,200 That's a great goal. 600 00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:35,400 Six months from now. 601 00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:41,320 Once you're ready for it, don't set unrealistic goals that you know you're going to fail at. 602 00:25:41,320 --> 00:25:43,120 Everybody needs to work for the goals. 603 00:25:43,120 --> 00:25:44,800 Figure out how to make them happen. 604 00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:46,400 It's not going to happen overnight. 605 00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:47,400 Fun fact. 606 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:52,120 But this is what Carly signed me up for a five mile raise telling me it was a 5K and 607 00:25:52,120 --> 00:25:54,840 then told all of C fit that I was doing it. 608 00:25:54,840 --> 00:25:59,160 So I had to follow through and when I don't remember when it was, I realized that it was 609 00:25:59,160 --> 00:26:03,560 five miles and never run before in my life at the time. 610 00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,280 It was very hefty. 611 00:26:06,280 --> 00:26:09,880 I was pregnant, so I couldn't do it that. 612 00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:10,880 Yeah. 613 00:26:10,880 --> 00:26:12,680 Yup. 614 00:26:12,680 --> 00:26:15,840 My unrealistic goals like Carly can read. 615 00:26:15,840 --> 00:26:21,960 I thought a 5k was 5 miles or I thought 5 miles was 5k you all know I'm not good with numbers 616 00:26:21,960 --> 00:26:25,200 I can be a small goal my goal is to stop trusting her 617 00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:31,520 Was like sure she told me it was this okay, it was uphill too. Oh my god 618 00:26:31,520 --> 00:26:35,720 It's the hardest race in this trip in this area. It was it was I did a great job. Yeah 619 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:38,240 I'm alive 620 00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,280 All right, so the last one yes not 621 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:50,680 appreciating failure is a mistake and like what the heck does that mean yeah and it's basically 622 00:26:51,320 --> 00:26:56,680 Failure doesn't determine your character. So if you fail 623 00:26:57,800 --> 00:27:02,080 That doesn't mean you're not a good person or not good at things 624 00:27:02,440 --> 00:27:08,320 We're not able to do what you set out to do. There are so many other factors 625 00:27:08,320 --> 00:27:13,800 So appreciating the failure is part one episode 48 626 00:27:14,360 --> 00:27:16,360 figuring out how to accept it 627 00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:18,520 reform it replan it and 628 00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:24,360 To get yourself up off the ground when you do fail. It's just a different way to look at failure 629 00:27:24,360 --> 00:27:27,400 Yeah, but I loved that like we do we think when we fail 630 00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,000 It's some sort of 631 00:27:30,120 --> 00:27:35,640 Magnifying glass on who we are as a person and it's not yeah, no it's not it couldn't be farther from that 632 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:40,000 It there's so many, you know weighing factors to why something doesn't work out 633 00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:44,360 I mean, I think that I felt that horribly when I moved home from New York 634 00:27:44,360 --> 00:27:50,640 I when I yeah quote unquote failed at being on Broadway and I was like, oh my gosh 635 00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:56,000 I mean I was very excited to come home and start a family and open see fit here 636 00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:58,680 But to me I didn't even want to talk about 637 00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:03,880 New York because I didn't want anybody asking me because I would have to say that I didn't make it 638 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:06,320 Yeah, you know, I chose to come home 639 00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:14,640 But to me I had failed and I didn't want to talk about it has nothing to do with my talent because I am extremely talented 640 00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:23,680 You've heard it you hear her little songs but there's some pitch every time I 641 00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:28,000 Went into the wrong angle I should have gone into comedy but 642 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:34,160 But that was a big misfire for me where I did not fail 643 00:28:34,160 --> 00:28:39,200 I just chose a different path had I not gone to New York for Broadway 644 00:28:39,200 --> 00:28:42,800 I would never have found fitness and I wouldn't be living the life. I'm living right now 645 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:44,800 So it you wouldn't have met Andrew 646 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:49,840 I wouldn't have met Andrew and I didn't fail but in my mind to everybody else 647 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,840 Which why do we care so much what everybody else thinks I had failed? 648 00:28:52,840 --> 00:28:59,280 You know, yeah, and that's I think the problem with everybody well they ingrained that as a as a theater person 649 00:28:59,280 --> 00:29:03,080 If you're not on Broadway, you're not actually doing theater, right? And that's not true 650 00:29:03,720 --> 00:29:10,160 So yeah failure can look like a lot of different things and I think the biggest part of that is like 651 00:29:11,440 --> 00:29:16,240 Nobody else matters and it's not failure. It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks 652 00:29:17,600 --> 00:29:19,600 Thanks, Carly 653 00:29:20,080 --> 00:29:22,080 Okay 654 00:29:22,080 --> 00:29:23,600 so 655 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:27,240 Those are eight mistakes that I have done all of oh 656 00:29:28,320 --> 00:29:30,320 I feel like I do them every year 657 00:29:31,080 --> 00:29:36,000 I think we all do yeah, you don't actually like sit down and and do your own research on this 658 00:29:36,000 --> 00:29:40,960 How how are you gonna think that you're making a mistake if you don't start a podcast and a year later? 659 00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:47,520 Do an episode on this you're never gonna move forward in life. We're doing it for you. You're welcome 660 00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:52,480 I just want to go Christmas bowling right now. Oh my gosh, Monica 661 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,440 Can I leave you 662 00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:05,800 Can I leave you with something that I read that I thought was a very important 663 00:30:06,360 --> 00:30:10,800 It's a little quote. It was a very important. It was a very important 664 00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:16,600 It's a quote by I don't know who Victoria would call them a nonimous 665 00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:18,600 Okay, it says 666 00:30:18,880 --> 00:30:23,560 Living a life without setting goals is like sailing a ship without a planned course 667 00:30:23,560 --> 00:30:26,160 You are likely to end up nowhere. Oh 668 00:30:26,480 --> 00:30:27,360 and 669 00:30:27,360 --> 00:30:33,000 It's the absolute truth if you don't have goals you are floundering somewhere 670 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:37,040 Yeah, there it's great to have things that you'd like to do that you're interested in 671 00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:43,680 But if you don't have set goals you are on a ship to know where to maybe safe place comfortable place 672 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:46,320 But it's really just circling 673 00:30:46,800 --> 00:30:49,920 That's so true and the scariest part is circling on water 674 00:30:50,400 --> 00:30:56,760 What is that that everybody says my biggest fear is to be in the same place? I am a year from now. Yes 675 00:30:56,760 --> 00:30:59,440 I don't know if everybody says that 676 00:31:00,600 --> 00:31:03,000 I think Michael Angelo Smith said it 677 00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,120 You would need to do part one or to understand that 678 00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:11,480 Yep, gotta gotta listen to the part one or to understand what the Ninja Turtles cousin is 679 00:31:11,480 --> 00:31:15,400 But it's the truth. Nobody wants to be in the same place a year 680 00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:21,960 Later. Yeah, I saw something like that too. It said I am not the person I was last year 681 00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,680 And if nothing else happens that brings me so much peace 682 00:31:24,680 --> 00:31:27,880 Yeah, you were just like a different person and who knows how you know 683 00:31:27,880 --> 00:31:32,320 There's a lot of things that have to happen for you to get any type of change in any type of way 684 00:31:32,480 --> 00:31:38,200 So all of that is good stuff, but can you yeah, I think I think that's where I've been 685 00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:45,120 Where sailing on a ship ship like no route circling just circling and then circling 686 00:31:45,120 --> 00:31:47,000 Maybe my sail was down for a little bit 687 00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:50,400 Then it got up and then it came down, but like I'm not going anywhere. Yeah, and 688 00:31:52,040 --> 00:31:54,560 It's time like it's time to fish them 689 00:31:55,000 --> 00:31:57,320 map out of the bag and start and 690 00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,280 Pick a path pick up north south east or west I 691 00:32:00,920 --> 00:32:02,920 Those are the directions 692 00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:05,840 Never eat those soggy waffles 693 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:09,280 Never eat shredded wheat 694 00:32:10,160 --> 00:32:12,160 Okay, but also 695 00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:19,640 It's very hard to get off the path when you're circling. So we are not above that. We've been there 696 00:32:19,640 --> 00:32:22,720 It is very hard to find a path 697 00:32:23,520 --> 00:32:26,400 It is very hard to get off of the 698 00:32:26,960 --> 00:32:31,480 Circling cycle. Yes to find the path. It's very hard to make words 699 00:32:31,480 --> 00:32:35,960 Sometimes I talk in circles. Let's land the ship 700 00:32:37,200 --> 00:32:39,200 Doc, let's dock the ship 701 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:47,880 It is not above us at all to know that it is very hard 702 00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:51,920 To pick a path. We've done it before we flounder all the time 703 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:56,600 And once you pick the path and you set those goals and you are specific about them 704 00:32:56,600 --> 00:33:00,280 It just makes it so much easier to to get there 705 00:33:00,280 --> 00:33:07,720 Yeah, it's very easy to go round and round and round in the same circle because it's something, you know 706 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,720 It's you've already done it a million times 707 00:33:11,240 --> 00:33:16,200 It's maybe comfortable in a complacent way. No surprises 708 00:33:16,480 --> 00:33:23,320 There is not one obstacle in your path because you know exactly how it's gonna go. It's not the most exciting path 709 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,080 It's probably mundane 710 00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:31,720 Mm-hmm. So when you know, it's time to start hunting for the treasure 711 00:33:33,000 --> 00:33:40,480 You become the captain of that pirate ship. Yes, I like that. It's a pirate ship all of a sudden. Yeah, this little sailboat. Yeah 712 00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,080 I'll do it again for you 713 00:33:47,200 --> 00:33:54,080 Pirate ship is way more exciting and you get to like have a parrot. Yeah for sure that just repeats you 714 00:33:54,080 --> 00:33:58,240 So that is basically how to write out your 715 00:33:59,480 --> 00:34:04,000 2024 treasure map. I like that a treasure map 716 00:34:07,400 --> 00:34:09,400 Your real tip is called 717 00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:14,080 Who is that girl I see reflection? 718 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:17,000 Thank you Mulan 719 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:22,480 Grab yourself a piece of paper and a pen and I suggest that because it just 720 00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:28,020 Resonates a little bit deeper in the body if you are writing it out with your hand versus typing it on your phone 721 00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,600 so get a piece of paper and a pen and 722 00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:38,480 Write out three words to sum up how things are right now for you then write three words to sum up 723 00:34:39,680 --> 00:34:45,280 2023 the whole year and then lastly write three words 724 00:34:46,160 --> 00:34:48,160 For what you want in 725 00:34:48,160 --> 00:34:52,880 2024 not a goal just three words to sum up the year of 2024 and 726 00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:55,960 Then take a moment to meditate on it 727 00:34:55,960 --> 00:34:58,920 Why did you pick those three words kind of break it down for yourself? 728 00:34:59,720 --> 00:35:02,720 Reflection is the first step on moving forward 729 00:35:03,400 --> 00:35:08,220 Love that. I'm actually gonna do that because there's a six-month checkpoint. That's right 730 00:35:08,220 --> 00:35:15,360 And now it's time for your real extra tip of the week. It's called two steps forward 731 00:35:15,360 --> 00:35:17,360 No steps back 732 00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:23,240 We come together when up a sip so chat. Oh my god. Oh my god. It's actually two steps back 733 00:35:23,240 --> 00:35:26,520 But I changed the lyrics to make it. Okay. Thank you for explaining that 734 00:35:27,400 --> 00:35:33,560 This one is for you to put out your intentions to move forward. I'm gonna ask you to do three things 735 00:35:34,120 --> 00:35:37,520 Get a piece of paper and write I love and 736 00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:39,680 Put something that you love 737 00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:45,560 I hope put something that you hope and I choose to let go and then write that as well 738 00:35:45,600 --> 00:35:48,080 Then I want you to take the I choose to let go 739 00:35:48,560 --> 00:35:55,440 Put that piece of paper rip it up throw it in the fire put it in the trash can and actually let go of it 740 00:35:55,440 --> 00:35:59,280 Yeah, do not hold it do not let it linger. Don't think about it 741 00:35:59,280 --> 00:36:05,880 Let it go and stick with the I love and the I hope for the new year and you will move forward with those intentions 742 00:36:05,880 --> 00:36:09,920 We want you to have a wonderful start to 2024 743 00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:15,040 Even if there are obstacles coming your way and setbacks of those steps back 744 00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:19,840 They might happen to plan for them, but we want you to have a successful 745 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:26,800 Set of intentions and goals that are broken down in an actionable way 746 00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:30,720 For you to achieve them all however you need to achieve them 747 00:36:30,720 --> 00:36:37,040 Mm-hmm. It's easier said than done, but you can do it. Everybody can I can do it. I will do it 748 00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:38,880 you have to and 749 00:36:38,880 --> 00:36:41,440 It's just a great way to start the new year 750 00:36:42,000 --> 00:36:45,000 Start off on the right foot small specific 751 00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:50,880 Goals and steps and you're gonna do just fine this year. I think a hoi matey 752 00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:55,440 All right, let's get to that treasure. Let's get naughty 753 00:36:56,040 --> 00:36:58,040 No, oh 754 00:36:58,040 --> 00:37:03,040 Hey, and then na u ti naughty not a cop like not a call 755 00:37:08,840 --> 00:37:13,000 We hope that if this isn't as real as it resonates 756 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:20,240 But we hope you are always fit to be real and always allowed to be a little extra 757 00:37:20,240 --> 00:37:34,360 For legal reasons we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and educational purposes only we are not healthcare professionals 758 00:37:34,400 --> 00:37:37,440 For all of your health wellness fitness and self-care needs 759 00:37:37,440 --> 00:37:43,560 Please refer to the medical professional in your life your primary care physician your therapist a certified coach 760 00:37:43,760 --> 00:37:49,060 Whoever it may be and then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know it, too 761 00:37:49,060 --> 00:37:51,060 Okay 762 00:37:51,060 --> 00:38:19,060 Okay, bye