Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
Part two.
Woo-woo.
If you have not listened to part one, go back.
Listen to part one.
Episode 48 is part one.
Or don't.
You do you.
Boo-boo.
Yes, but you really go back and listen to part one.
I'm usually for that, but like do your thing.
But to get to part two and then set really good intentions and goals for
yourself, you have to figure out what didn't work for you, why it didn't work.
And that is a part oneer.
Okay.
So Carly's got to go do that as well.
We love part oneers.
And now we're in a part two or.
And now we are going to break down how to set a proper.
Achievable and successful goal for yourself for 2024.
I'm Victoria.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
New year.
Same name.
Same.
Listen, that was not a goal that I had intended for myself to change.
So we're going to keep that just the way it is.
It's not broke, don't fix it.
Our mom used to fix things with duct tape.
Our uniforms in grade school were all hemmed with duct tape.
So in the summer months or the spring months that were very hot,
they would stick to our legs and we sat down.
I had forgotten that memory or maybe pushed it aside deep down somewhere.
You just brought it back up.
I'll never forget because when I needed to wear the exact same from second grade to eighth
grade uniform, she would unduck tape it, but there would be residue.
Yeah, duct tape residue.
Because she would make it longer.
And you know, I love therapy.
I'm just kidding.
That is just a fun tidbit.
But let's break down some goal setting.
Well, in our last episode afterwards, we realized that we did not tell you any of our goals
and we did not let you in on that little tidbit.
And did you?
Well, you said you didn't write anything down.
I never do.
And that's why a lot of my goals don't stick because I don't.
I'm not specific enough.
I have very vague goals.
Did you have any for 2023?
No, not one.
No, I don't think I had.
I didn't set any New Year's resolutions or I think in my mind, I just wanted to be more
with the kids and with the family and less worried about C-Fit.
And I think that was a very general goal I had set for myself.
Passing by.
Yeah, I don't want my life to like, I don't want to be where I am again at the end of
the year and be like, nothing changed.
Right.
Which I think halfway I did towards the end of the year.
I was like, no, I really need to put the phone down.
Right.
I didn't have like a goal or a specific timeline.
Like I want to buy a house in five years.
Like I didn't do one of those.
Yeah.
But I think I need to.
I think that's something everybody should do.
After all this, we have to.
If you want to change something or add something, I would venture to say one of the, I think
it was the Forbes article was don't set a, it's not a New Year's resolution.
Don't call it a resolution.
It's a goal.
If that's what you want to change.
So a resolution has a connotation that you have to just like with like a diet, you have
to restrict yourself to take something away.
Something is negative and you have to fix it.
And that's what a resolution is.
My New Year's resolution.
Usually it's like, I'm going to stop doing this instead of I want to start.
I want to start doing this.
And I've seen that a lot now because I've changed my algorithm on Instagram of what
comes into my feed.
And a lot of it is like different ways to look at fitness or your health journey.
So instead of setting, I'm going to lose weight, have it, I'm going to get healthy.
I wrote that down.
You did.
Yeah, I wrote that down being more positive about the goals instead of taking something
away.
That's a resolution.
Yeah.
Trying to resolve something about the year as you start a new year.
And that already sets you up for thinking that you're doing something wrong in life.
Another one, another example of that, of the getting healthy instead of losing weight is
to instead of saying, I want to, like for me, I want to stop working so much.
That's negative.
I want to stop doing something that I'm doing.
How do you actually flip that?
It's, you know, I want to spend more time with my family or I want to have more time
have more time for them or I want to travel more, like change it into a way where it's
not like stop doing this or lose this.
It's the positive spin on that.
I wrote that down.
That's really interesting.
Yeah.
It's all the mindset of how you look at things and believe it or not, if you change your mind,
you change your life.
I mean, it's so cliche to say, and I think a lot of people just kind of throw that out
there, but it couldn't be more true.
How you approach the thought of something is how it will come into fruition for yourself.
It's that red car story.
Did you see that?
Yeah.
But if you think of red cars, just have a thought about a red car and think about them.
That's all you're going to see on the road or red cars.
And it's a thing that your mind does.
It is a actual scientific brainwave that we do to ourselves.
So if you flip that and don't make it a red car and you put it on the, I'm so bad.
I can't lose weight.
I can't do anything right.
I'm not happy.
Well, that's all you're going to see.
And that is all your mind's going to think about.
So you absolutely have to change the way that you're thinking, even if you don't believe
it yet.
I didn't set a goal for 2023 because we were coming out of 2022, right?
Yep.
That would be it.
We talked last time about the years and it's all a blur.
Every year I'm confused about what year it actually is.
I think I just started writing 2023.
Like you know how you have to erase it and go, darn it.
I feel weird writing 2023.
I feel like it's like some EET me sort of year that like we are not even close to.
And I'm writing it.
I know I've said this like back to the future.
Like it doesn't really exist.
We're not really in 2023.
I had to start writing 2024 for my clients like when their packages are up and it, I'm
not doing it right.
It's like a space age.
I know.
I keep doing it wrong.
What was I just saying though before the year?
Oh, getting into 2023.
I didn't set any goals.
I was in a much darker place I think for myself and I just, I wanted so many things that I
didn't do any of it because it was all so general and vague and there were so many.
It was overwhelming.
And I wanted so much to change but I was in such a bad headspace about it that like,
nothing's going to change when you're like that.
No.
And so we just took you on a cruise and that didn't help.
Yeah.
Karlie thought buying things would be the best.
I thought buying her happiness would help and it clearly did not.
Oh, that was so annoying.
Best cruise ever.
I want to do it again so badly.
We are.
We're going to do it this year in a better headspace.
But yeah.
But yeah, so I didn't set a goal.
I didn't set a specific one.
I didn't set a vague one.
I just wanted to get through.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
And I think a lot of people do that too once you get to the end of the year or if monumental
things have happened for you, you can actually put more pressure on yourself by trying to
set goals because that's what you're supposed to do in the new year.
And if survival is just like what you've been trying to do and you've succeeded at just
surviving, you are doing amazing.
Amazing.
Gail DMed us.
Unfit to be real.
What up Gail?
Because we put something out of like, do your best to not compare to the perfectness.
Basically, I'm paraphrasing of everyone else's Christmas and everyone else's end of year,
whatever's.
And if you've just been in survival mode trying to get by and you have been getting by, you're
winning.
Yeah.
Like that's all you need to do.
And so do your best to not compare when you are scrolling at the end of a long day and
it's dark at three o'clock and you just feel like everyone else has it together but you.
They don't.
Yeah, they don't.
They just don't.
So, Gail, we're with you.
But yeah, I didn't set a goal.
I'm doing it this year.
You are.
100% everything we are about to tell you all, I am going to put pen to paper and do.
Same's ease.
And you know what?
Right now, we are going to do a six month check-in on the podcast.
I think she's just got real for Carly.
No, she doesn't.
No, I have to do it.
Yeah.
How about it?
We're going to do a six month check-in.
I think that just is a big factor to it, holding ourselves accountable, holding you each have
to hold yourselves accountable.
That doesn't mean do a buddy system of goals.
Do your own goals.
But find a way to make sure it sticks for you.
So let's talk about it.
Let's do it.
Wow.
So you all just found out that we have not set any goals.
I haven't set goals in a very long time.
We've been in survival.
Yeah, I haven't set goals.
I will say though that Andrew made me write down about five years ago, six years ago,
what I wanted out of Seafit because I was so unhappy being like, we work all the time.
We're in a small space.
We don't make any money.
And I did write down, I want a bigger space.
And before the five year mark, we got our new space.
And I don't know if that has anything to do with it.
I actually had to write it down.
Work all the time.
We don't make any money, but we're in a bigger space.
So let's fix the other two.
Well, listen, I could only do one thing at a time.
Great.
I think it's been five years.
Every five years.
Yes.
Every five years, we'll do.
Let's work on making money and then we can work on having more time.
Okay.
So honestly, I wrote it down, it happened.
That is something that I think is very important.
But yes, let's get talk about it.
Words are powerful.
Writing them down isn't just this cliche thing that you're supposed to do.
And like journaling isn't just this like little girl thing that you do that, you know, everyone
likes putting things into space and saying them out loud is as powerful as putting them
ink to paper and doing it over and over and over again.
Writing down a goal.
If you have an actual one goal, like a large one, you can't just...
What is it?
I want to buy a house.
You can't just want to buy a house.
Right.
Like I said, I wanted a bigger space for Seafit.
That's a great goal, but you have to break it down.
Right.
There are three ways.
Figure out the long term goal, which would be I want a bigger space than the medium term
goal, which would be how do I get to the halfway mark of getting that bigger space?
And then a short term goal, which is daily and weekly practices to get yourself to that
middle place of that stepping stone to get yourself to the long term.
So it's A's and B's and C's to add up to these E's, F's, right?
You can't just decide, I want the end game.
Yeah.
No.
I mean, you can.
You're not going to get it because if you don't break it down, it's just a pipe dream.
We had pipes in our big space.
There's lots of pipes.
So our long term goal, you want it in years.
Like it's a couple years, a few years, one year, whatever it is.
It's the foundation of like a big change in your life and it has a measurable time frame.
Right.
So then that medium that we were talking about is just like I said, it's that stepping stone
and it also has a specific time frame.
So you want to hit that mark halfway.
Yeah.
Checkpoints.
It's like a checkpoint.
Yeah.
And that is just an easier way for you to gauge how well you're doing with it.
If you need to shift something in your timeline to get to that medium place and then to, of
course, essentially get to that long term place.
And then that short term, they are actionable tasks that you can do daily and then add up
to weekly, which will add up to that medium term goal.
And they just support the big picture.
And that is how you break down in three steps, how to just set the goal.
Because once you set that or once you decide of the big term, long term goal, having trouble
with these terms, that you have to break down, how can I approach it?
How can I get it?
You can't just be like, I want it and I'm going to keep putting it out there, but I'm
not going to do anything about it.
Yeah.
It's just like saying, like, I want to be famous.
Cool.
Yeah.
Awesome.
Like how do you do that?
It's like, that's just a dream.
That's a goal.
You have to break it down or it's just words.
It really is.
So when breaking down the long term, medium term and short term goals, you write them down
daily or weekly, not just once.
And that was a big thing that I read in a lot of different places.
Not just once.
Like January 1st, you write your goals.
That's awesome.
You got to keep doing it.
And a lot of that is really just more reinforcement of what you really want.
And then you either realize, yes, this is exactly what I want.
I want to keep doing this.
Or maybe I want to shift it a little to this so that you're not wasting your time doing
that one that you set that one day.
That one day.
Yeah.
You got to do it all the time.
And if daily is a little too much for your, you know, it's overwhelming, set time that
you're going to write down your goals again Sunday nights.
Yeah.
You're sitting in bed.
Yeah.
Like meal prepping.
Instead of scrolling.
Yeah.
I mean, it's a practice too.
Like instead of scrolling, which is what I tend to do, get out the journal and write
it again.
Write it over and over and over.
And just designate one little notepad or journal to that so that it's, I can do that.
You can do that.
No, I can.
Yeah.
Great.
And then plan.
Plan.
Plan ahead.
Just like that.
Meal prepping.
You have to plan.
What am I going to do?
What am I going to buy this week?
What do I want to make for the week ahead?
Same thing with your goal.
Yeah.
What can I do for this, this date?
And then what about this date?
Plan it all out.
Prioritize the main things that are going to get to where you need to go.
Prioritize them into your schedule, prioritize them into your thoughts, prioritize them into
how you wake up every day and go about your days.
They have to be, if that's something that you really want, we say it all the time.
If you really want it, you're going to make it work.
If you don't want it, it's going to be something that you're like, oh yeah, I tried.
Oh well.
Because you didn't really want it in the first place.
If you want it just like if somebody texts you, it's just like Carly says this to me
all the time.
Actually, I say this all the time.
And you go, no, they're really awesome.
Everything is awesome.
If you are, you know, you found somebody on Bumble and you are texting and then they don't
text you back for like, what did you just say?
Six days.
They're really not that into it.
Because everybody has time to text you.
Maybe not right away because they're in a meeting, but like, I don't know, that day.
That day.
Respond to you.
So you know, if that's what they really want, they're going to show you that they really
want it.
And if you're setting goals that you really want, you're going to show yourself that you
really want it.
So writing it down, prioritizing, planning it all out, making lists and schedules is
involved in all of that.
I mean, that's the big part of it.
Yes.
Carly.
What?
And then guess what?
It all turns into a habit.
All of it's a habit in a lifestyle.
And now you have made this manifesting station for yourself that what you want, you will
get because you have figured out how to achieveably take the steps to do it.
Exactly.
I mean, they think of the goal as the top of the step is the goal.
You have to walk up the steps.
You can't run.
Running is not, you're going to trip and fall.
You can't skip any steps.
No, you can't skip either because it's, you're just going to take you back.
It's going to, you're going to backpedal.
You have to walk up each step to get to the goal.
And there's no, there's no quick fix to goal getting to goal.
Goal getting.
I just saw like, I think quite literally that picture where it was a top and a bottom and
the top was like really big steps, like a pencil drawn line.
And it was like two steps high over, two steps high over making that big step.
And the little tiny stick figure was having a hard time jumping up to the steps.
And then the bottom part of it was little normal little baby steps, quite literally
baby steps actually, and he was just able to step up one at a time.
But that guy was trying to skip some steps.
And it wasn't working.
And so, I mean, it was like the tortoise and the hare.
Because he was taking the exact amount of little baby steps, which I think are hilarious
that we say that.
But they're baby steps.
Because when a baby steps for the first couple of times, it's the biggest thing in their
entire lives.
And it's amazing.
And everybody freaks out and yells and it's like so exciting.
Celebrates.
It's the video of it.
And yet when you get to this like adult age, baby steps are like, ugh.
Yeah.
It's not happening fast enough.
I need a bigger, bigger, faster.
Yeah.
You're not crazy.
I never thought of it like that.
So why don't you tell us about the mistakes?
I love that.
That's my forte.
Let's talk.
Mistakes.
We're going to talk about how to avoid the mistakes that are very common in setting
goals.
Everybody does it and it's a surefire way to fail at your goals.
So we want to teach you how to avoid them.
And how do we avoid them by realizing what the mistake is?
Yeah.
Just acknowledging what the mistake is.
Exactly.
One of the first ones is setting too many goals.
I do that.
We all do it.
It's like, I want to lose weight.
I want to go travel more.
I want to stop working so much.
I want to, first of all, all two out of the three are pretty negative.
Setting too many.
You got to pick one or two.
I mean, even two is a lot.
I would pick one goal that you really want and maybe some small goals.
But one big goal, that's a lot.
It says up to three is good for the year.
And I think that makes sense if you do a big life changing one, you mean?
And then two, I want to read more books, something like that.
It said quality over quantity.
Like pick goals that mean a lot to you that you really want over 15 goals that you want
to change in your life.
You'll never do it.
It'll never happen.
Something else to avoid.
Common mistake, negative goals, which we already talked about.
I want to lose weight.
I want to stop working so much.
You refrain it and say, I want to get healthy.
So then you can actually take the steps to get healthy because I want to lose weight.
That's very vague, very general, very hard to do.
And it's the number one resolution every single year.
And that's why people fail at it by February because it's too much.
You can't think of it like that.
It also said, I think under this umbrella of making a balance between a work goal and
a body goal and a creative goal or a financial goal.
If they're all work goals, you have no balance.
You want to do a work goal and then you also want to, if you like to draw, set time for
drawing this year because that's creative and that'll give you some good creative flow
into your life.
And then also you want to work on maybe building up your savings account.
You want to keep it balanced in your goals and not have it all be about changing your
body or changing your life, your whole life.
Yeah.
Balance it out.
I agree.
Number three, review your progress.
So I think what tends to happen a lot is you have this end goal in sight so much that
you neglect to see the little steps that you have and taking note of your progress as you
go along through the journey.
When you set smaller goals, you celebrate them just like the baby steps.
You're celebrating those baby steps.
If you are just seeing that end goal and you're going to get discouraged when you're not
reaching it in three weeks, celebrate the little steps that make the one big step as
you go along and it's a lot easier to get through.
Number four, avoid other people's goals, which we did talk about.
Don't let others influence your goals or what you think your goal should be.
Yeah.
Don't just follow like a trend.
Everybody else is doing it on TikTok.
So me too.
Well, that won't stick.
No.
It just won't.
That's why I called it a trend.
Right.
And there's going to be a new one by the time that you are into it.
It's over.
Trust me.
It's okay.
And they don't work.
Or more importantly, maybe not more importantly, but I think something that happens definitely
more often.
Do not go off of what a family member wants for you, like what your mom wants for you
this year and what you think will make somebody else happy if you achieve this for yourself,
even though it's not really what's going to bring you joy.
I agree with that.
I'm thinking it doesn't have to be a mom or a sister.
It could be a boss thinking about my life.
I'm kidding.
Shut your face.
It could be a boss.
What your boss wants you to achieve.
I want you to do this, this and this so that you can get this promotion.
If that's not what you want.
Yeah.
That's not your goal.
It's going to be a lot harder for you because you're not going to stick to it.
Somebody else's goal for you.
Number five, underestimating completion time.
And this is a huge one.
If you don't honestly estimate goal times, you'll end up discouraged, just like losing
weight.
If you're not honest with yourself and say, I want to get healthy by this time in an
appropriate amount of time, 100%, you will stop, you will drop, you will roll out the
door.
You'll be on fire.
Meaning you have three weeks.
You're not going to lose 25 pounds.
In three weeks healthily, you're not going to keep it off.
So don't set a goal for yourself because a wedding that you have to attend is in three
weeks away and you would like to be 25 pounds lighter.
It's an unattainable timeline goal.
That's not real.
You can lose 25, but not in three weeks.
Not in three weeks.
And if you're not honest with yourself, you will fail.
And that's a common mistake that everybody makes.
You'll gain 25.
Right.
Exactly.
Yeah.
You don't have to add in setback time.
I have written down plan for obstacles.
That's what I mean.
Plan for obstacles.
I know we've read the same article.
We wrote down different things, but it's planned for it because it's life and it's messy and
it's going to happen.
There are things that get in the way just because life likes to throw these tests at
you.
Whoever is up there, whatever you'd like to believe, God put this in your path, the
universe, whatever.
That's how it works so that you can grow in how to get around that obstacle or power
right through that obstacle.
It's a growth.
It's a lesson.
So you have to plan that they're going to happen.
It's not going to be smooth.
And even if we're talking about not weight at all, say that's not even in your line of
sight is losing weight.
If you, your goal or intention is to save money this year and a trip comes up that you
really wanted to take with your friends or you really wanted to go, that's a setback
because you're not going to be able to save as much money.
You have to plan for that.
So it just doesn't have to do with losing weight, but those are just some examples.
I would even say like your car breaks down.
You got to take care of that.
Yeah.
Instead of a trip.
Yeah.
Just because that's going to happen way more than like a fun trip that your family forces
you to go on a cruise happens.
You know?
Your face, we didn't pay for that.
Number six, neglecting goals that bring you joy.
If your goals are all about.
Restriction.
Wait.
Restriction.
Stop working.
You have to balance it out.
It should be more about like reading books.
My goal is always stop working.
Stop working.
But you should have as just as many personal goals as you do work business goals.
So just like I said, you should, you're one of your goals should be to read more, to travel
more to something that brings you joy.
If you are not interested in it, you're not going to follow through.
You're not.
Number seven, setting unrealistic goals.
What this means is if you want to run a marathon, don't sign up for one that starts on January
5th.
You need to train for it.
It is something you need to work towards.
That's a great goal.
Six months from now.
Once you're ready for it, don't set unrealistic goals that you know you're going to fail at.
Everybody needs to work for the goals.
Figure out how to make them happen.
It's not going to happen overnight.
Fun fact.
But this is what Carly signed me up for a five mile raise telling me it was a 5K and
then told all of C fit that I was doing it.
So I had to follow through and when I don't remember when it was, I realized that it was
five miles and never run before in my life at the time.
It was very hefty.
I was pregnant, so I couldn't do it that.
Yeah.
Yup.
My unrealistic goals like Carly can read.
I thought a 5k was 5 miles or I thought 5 miles was 5k you all know I'm not good with numbers
I can be a small goal my goal is to stop trusting her
Was like sure she told me it was this okay, it was uphill too. Oh my god
It's the hardest race in this trip in this area. It was it was I did a great job. Yeah
I'm alive
All right, so the last one yes not
appreciating failure is a mistake and like what the heck does that mean yeah and it's basically
Failure doesn't determine your character. So if you fail
That doesn't mean you're not a good person or not good at things
We're not able to do what you set out to do. There are so many other factors
So appreciating the failure is part one episode 48
figuring out how to accept it
reform it replan it and
To get yourself up off the ground when you do fail. It's just a different way to look at failure
Yeah, but I loved that like we do we think when we fail
It's some sort of
Magnifying glass on who we are as a person and it's not yeah, no it's not it couldn't be farther from that
It there's so many, you know weighing factors to why something doesn't work out
I mean, I think that I felt that horribly when I moved home from New York
I when I yeah quote unquote failed at being on Broadway and I was like, oh my gosh
I mean I was very excited to come home and start a family and open see fit here
But to me I didn't even want to talk about
New York because I didn't want anybody asking me because I would have to say that I didn't make it
Yeah, you know, I chose to come home
But to me I had failed and I didn't want to talk about it has nothing to do with my talent because I am extremely talented
You've heard it you hear her little songs but there's some pitch every time I
Went into the wrong angle I should have gone into comedy but
But that was a big misfire for me where I did not fail
I just chose a different path had I not gone to New York for Broadway
I would never have found fitness and I wouldn't be living the life. I'm living right now
So it you wouldn't have met Andrew
I wouldn't have met Andrew and I didn't fail but in my mind to everybody else
Which why do we care so much what everybody else thinks I had failed?
You know, yeah, and that's I think the problem with everybody well they ingrained that as a as a theater person
If you're not on Broadway, you're not actually doing theater, right? And that's not true
So yeah failure can look like a lot of different things and I think the biggest part of that is like
Nobody else matters and it's not failure. It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks
Thanks, Carly
Okay
so
Those are eight mistakes that I have done all of oh
I feel like I do them every year
I think we all do yeah, you don't actually like sit down and and do your own research on this
How how are you gonna think that you're making a mistake if you don't start a podcast and a year later?
Do an episode on this you're never gonna move forward in life. We're doing it for you. You're welcome
I just want to go Christmas bowling right now. Oh my gosh, Monica
Can I leave you
Can I leave you with something that I read that I thought was a very important
It's a little quote. It was a very important. It was a very important
It's a quote by I don't know who Victoria would call them a nonimous
Okay, it says
Living a life without setting goals is like sailing a ship without a planned course
You are likely to end up nowhere. Oh
and
It's the absolute truth if you don't have goals you are floundering somewhere
Yeah, there it's great to have things that you'd like to do that you're interested in
But if you don't have set goals you are on a ship to know where to maybe safe place comfortable place
But it's really just circling
That's so true and the scariest part is circling on water
What is that that everybody says my biggest fear is to be in the same place? I am a year from now. Yes
I don't know if everybody says that
I think Michael Angelo Smith said it
You would need to do part one or to understand that
Yep, gotta gotta listen to the part one or to understand what the Ninja Turtles cousin is
But it's the truth. Nobody wants to be in the same place a year
Later. Yeah, I saw something like that too. It said I am not the person I was last year
And if nothing else happens that brings me so much peace
Yeah, you were just like a different person and who knows how you know
There's a lot of things that have to happen for you to get any type of change in any type of way
So all of that is good stuff, but can you yeah, I think I think that's where I've been
Where sailing on a ship ship like no route circling just circling and then circling
Maybe my sail was down for a little bit
Then it got up and then it came down, but like I'm not going anywhere. Yeah, and
It's time like it's time to fish them
map out of the bag and start and
Pick a path pick up north south east or west I
Those are the directions
Never eat those soggy waffles
Never eat shredded wheat
Okay, but also
It's very hard to get off the path when you're circling. So we are not above that. We've been there
It is very hard to find a path
It is very hard to get off of the
Circling cycle. Yes to find the path. It's very hard to make words
Sometimes I talk in circles. Let's land the ship
Doc, let's dock the ship
It is not above us at all to know that it is very hard
To pick a path. We've done it before we flounder all the time
And once you pick the path and you set those goals and you are specific about them
It just makes it so much easier to to get there
Yeah, it's very easy to go round and round and round in the same circle because it's something, you know
It's you've already done it a million times
It's maybe comfortable in a complacent way. No surprises
There is not one obstacle in your path because you know exactly how it's gonna go. It's not the most exciting path
It's probably mundane
Mm-hmm. So when you know, it's time to start hunting for the treasure
You become the captain of that pirate ship. Yes, I like that. It's a pirate ship all of a sudden. Yeah, this little sailboat. Yeah
I'll do it again for you
Pirate ship is way more exciting and you get to like have a parrot. Yeah for sure that just repeats you
So that is basically how to write out your
2024 treasure map. I like that a treasure map
Your real tip is called
Who is that girl I see reflection?
Thank you Mulan
Grab yourself a piece of paper and a pen and I suggest that because it just
Resonates a little bit deeper in the body if you are writing it out with your hand versus typing it on your phone
so get a piece of paper and a pen and
Write out three words to sum up how things are right now for you then write three words to sum up
2023 the whole year and then lastly write three words
For what you want in
2024 not a goal just three words to sum up the year of 2024 and
Then take a moment to meditate on it
Why did you pick those three words kind of break it down for yourself?
Reflection is the first step on moving forward
Love that. I'm actually gonna do that because there's a six-month checkpoint. That's right
And now it's time for your real extra tip of the week. It's called two steps forward
No steps back
We come together when up a sip so chat. Oh my god. Oh my god. It's actually two steps back
But I changed the lyrics to make it. Okay. Thank you for explaining that
This one is for you to put out your intentions to move forward. I'm gonna ask you to do three things
Get a piece of paper and write I love and
Put something that you love
I hope put something that you hope and I choose to let go and then write that as well
Then I want you to take the I choose to let go
Put that piece of paper rip it up throw it in the fire put it in the trash can and actually let go of it
Yeah, do not hold it do not let it linger. Don't think about it
Let it go and stick with the I love and the I hope for the new year and you will move forward with those intentions
We want you to have a wonderful start to 2024
Even if there are obstacles coming your way and setbacks of those steps back
They might happen to plan for them, but we want you to have a successful
Set of intentions and goals that are broken down in an actionable way
For you to achieve them all however you need to achieve them
Mm-hmm. It's easier said than done, but you can do it. Everybody can I can do it. I will do it
you have to and
It's just a great way to start the new year
Start off on the right foot small specific
Goals and steps and you're gonna do just fine this year. I think a hoi matey
All right, let's get to that treasure. Let's get naughty
No, oh
Hey, and then na u ti naughty not a cop like not a call
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