1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Welcome to Fit to Be Real. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:04,000 And a little extra. 3 00:00:04,000 --> 00:00:06,000 It's me! 4 00:00:06,000 --> 00:00:10,000 Hi, I'm the problem, it's me. 5 00:00:10,000 --> 00:00:12,000 At all times. 6 00:00:12,000 --> 00:00:15,000 It's me! 7 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:17,000 This is my episode today. 8 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,000 Victoria let me have a little bit of control and I'm taking over. 9 00:00:20,000 --> 00:00:24,000 She told me how it was going to go and I said, oh, okay. 10 00:00:24,000 --> 00:00:30,000 We are talking holiday survival guide food and family. 11 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:31,000 Yeah. 12 00:00:31,000 --> 00:00:33,000 Surviving. Yeah, isn't that good? 13 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:34,000 Yeah. 14 00:00:34,000 --> 00:00:37,000 And that doesn't mean to say you don't get along with your family. 15 00:00:37,000 --> 00:00:41,000 It's just the holidays are stressful, even if you have the best relationships with your family. 16 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:46,000 So it's just surviving the stress and the holiday food, family, all of it. 17 00:00:46,000 --> 00:00:56,000 I'm Victoria. Hey guys, I'm Carly. 18 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:59,000 And during the holiday season, you need to be you. 19 00:00:59,000 --> 00:01:06,000 And if that means you say your name with a high pitch and super peppy, then you do it. 20 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:07,000 We love a good pep. 21 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:09,000 Put a pep in your step. 22 00:01:09,000 --> 00:01:10,000 Put a pep in your step. 23 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:18,000 All right, first, well, I actually want to say something really quickly that I think everybody needs to know or is thinking. 24 00:01:18,000 --> 00:01:22,000 Why are people decorating earlier and earlier every year? 25 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:24,000 Why do you think that is? 26 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:27,000 I've been thinking about this all week since I decorated. 27 00:01:27,000 --> 00:01:28,000 Carly's. 28 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,000 So here's a fun fact. 29 00:01:30,000 --> 00:01:36,000 Carly's leaving for Thanksgiving to go to her in-laws and we are using Carly's house as usual. 30 00:01:36,000 --> 00:01:40,000 Every time I go up to my in-laws, they usually have Thanksgiving at my house. 31 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:44,000 The biggest house in the family and. 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:45,000 Nope, that's it. 33 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:48,000 And she has now already decorated for Christmas. 34 00:01:48,000 --> 00:01:55,000 So our Thanksgiving is going to be around her elves and her snowmen and all of the red. 35 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,000 It is like full on red, green. 36 00:01:57,000 --> 00:01:59,000 Oh, Christmas vomit at my house. 37 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:02,000 We don't do like the white and the light blue. 38 00:02:02,000 --> 00:02:03,000 That's me. 39 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:04,000 That's very Victoria. 40 00:02:04,000 --> 00:02:08,000 Silver, very gold and like champagne colors. 41 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:14,000 And I'm like red, green, blue, white, like very primary. 42 00:02:14,000 --> 00:02:15,000 Kids. 43 00:02:15,000 --> 00:02:16,000 Yeah, kids, old. 44 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:21,000 I feel like if you went down South Philly, like that street, that is my house. 45 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,000 Old school Italian Christmas. 46 00:02:23,000 --> 00:02:24,000 Yeah. 47 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:25,000 That's how the inside of my house is. 48 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:26,000 So that's how they're going to have Thanksgiving. 49 00:02:26,000 --> 00:02:29,000 And I said, sure, mom, you can have Thanksgiving at my house. 50 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:34,000 Just know for me and my happiness, I am decorating early. 51 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,000 So if you want to have Thanksgiving around my Christmas decorations, that's fine. 52 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:41,000 I think people are decorating early. 53 00:02:41,000 --> 00:02:42,000 Hmm. 54 00:02:42,000 --> 00:02:45,000 I know it's weird, right? 55 00:02:45,000 --> 00:02:46,000 Well, I don't. 56 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:49,000 It's hard to tell because we are getting older. 57 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:58,000 So it's, it's not fair to say it wasn't like this before because we were kids, but it wasn't like if you decorated the day after Thanksgiving. 58 00:02:58,000 --> 00:03:00,000 That was a big deal. 59 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:04,000 And Andrew still, I mean, he gave me a hard time for decorating the day after Thanksgiving. 60 00:03:04,000 --> 00:03:05,000 He'd be like, it's so early. 61 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:06,000 It's not even December. 62 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,000 And that was only a few years ago. 63 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:12,000 Now everyone's decorating as soon as Halloween is over. 64 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:13,000 Yeah. 65 00:03:13,000 --> 00:03:15,000 I think it has to do with technology. 66 00:03:15,000 --> 00:03:16,000 You think? 67 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:23,000 Do you think people are just trying to get more in tune with doing what makes them happy these days and not what other people think? 68 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:28,000 Because I know for me, I, it's like, I don't care what anybody thinks. 69 00:03:28,000 --> 00:03:29,000 This makes me happy. 70 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:30,000 I'm going to do it. 71 00:03:30,000 --> 00:03:31,000 I'm going to decorate. 72 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:32,000 Yeah. 73 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:34,000 But that's just me. 74 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,000 I don't know. 75 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:40,000 Maybe people did decorate in November, but we didn't have social media for posting to know about it. 76 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:41,000 That's true. 77 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:42,000 You know, I don't know. 78 00:03:42,000 --> 00:03:44,000 That was just a thing I've been thinking of this week. 79 00:03:44,000 --> 00:03:46,000 Like, I feel like it's getting earlier and earlier. 80 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:52,000 And while I'm a Christmas person and I'm okay with it, I know some people aren't, but why is it happening earlier and earlier? 81 00:03:52,000 --> 00:03:53,000 Every year. 82 00:03:53,000 --> 00:04:00,000 So you're taking a good spin on it and like people want to tap into truly what makes them happy and not caring. 83 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:06,000 And I think it's because the world is so horrible right now in so many different ways. 84 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:08,000 And social media, we see it. 85 00:04:08,000 --> 00:04:09,000 Right. 86 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:16,000 So there's a lot of, I've seen a lot of celebrities have banned TikTok for their kids because of the videos that are happening about Gaza and everything. 87 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:18,000 And I, every week I want to talk about it. 88 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:20,000 I know, I know, I know. 89 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:23,000 Because we, it's happening in the world. 90 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:24,000 I know. 91 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:29,000 It's happening in the world and we are so privileged to not to be far removed from it. 92 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,000 We're privileged to scroll through it. 93 00:04:31,000 --> 00:04:32,000 Exactly. 94 00:04:32,000 --> 00:04:33,000 Yeah. 95 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:37,000 But with that said, the scroll and it's heartbreaking. 96 00:04:37,000 --> 00:04:47,000 And with that said, the scroll through, I think maybe they're decorating because it's their piece of sanity to a degree. 97 00:04:47,000 --> 00:04:48,000 I mean, the world is crumbling around us. 98 00:04:48,000 --> 00:04:49,000 I know. 99 00:04:49,000 --> 00:04:56,000 And I think that's a little bit of why I don't like, I sit there and I scroll and I look at that stuff and some I have to pass by because I can't read it. 100 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:01,000 I just, I know you call me an ostrich, but no, I can't read it. 101 00:05:01,000 --> 00:05:02,000 It gets me too upset. 102 00:05:02,000 --> 00:05:05,000 So I have to, there's a, there's a mixed bag. 103 00:05:05,000 --> 00:05:06,000 It's a mixed bag. 104 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:13,000 There's so much of it is also media driven that, that you have to be careful of what accounts you're watching and what videos you're seeing. 105 00:05:13,000 --> 00:05:20,000 And at the same time, you want to have knowledge and awareness, but you can't, it can't, it can't crumble. 106 00:05:20,000 --> 00:05:21,000 Right. 107 00:05:21,000 --> 00:05:22,000 It can't crumble your life. 108 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:23,000 So I don't know. 109 00:05:23,000 --> 00:05:24,000 That's, that's, it's hard. 110 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:26,000 I wanted to talk about it so badly. 111 00:05:26,000 --> 00:05:32,000 Just know we know what's going on and it's really hard for everyone to digest and to understand. 112 00:05:32,000 --> 00:05:35,000 And there is no politics involved. 113 00:05:35,000 --> 00:05:36,000 No. 114 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:38,000 I feel it is human beings. 115 00:05:38,000 --> 00:05:40,000 That's, that's what's happening. 116 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:46,000 So, but like, don't, maybe don't bring that up at the Thanksgiving dinner table, which is what we're going to talk about today. 117 00:05:46,000 --> 00:05:47,000 Well, let's, let's get into that. 118 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:48,000 Let's get into that. 119 00:05:48,000 --> 00:05:49,000 Yeah. 120 00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:50,000 Happy Thanksgiving. 121 00:05:50,000 --> 00:05:58,000 We are going to talk about food tips for Thanksgiving, which I think a lot of people have a hard time with. 122 00:05:58,000 --> 00:05:59,000 Yeah. 123 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:03,000 They call, you know, some people think of Thanksgiving as like the last meal. 124 00:06:03,000 --> 00:06:04,000 That's how we feel. 125 00:06:04,000 --> 00:06:05,000 I know. 126 00:06:05,000 --> 00:06:06,000 It's horrible. 127 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:09,000 You feel, you feel horrible at the end of the night. 128 00:06:09,000 --> 00:06:15,000 There's nothing worse and Victoria and I can attest to this multiple times, like every year. 129 00:06:15,000 --> 00:06:17,000 There is nothing worse than being stuffed. 130 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:18,000 Yeah. 131 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:21,000 Honestly, it is so uncomfortable. 132 00:06:21,000 --> 00:06:25,000 Roll like Victoria and I have laid down on the floor. 133 00:06:25,000 --> 00:06:27,000 Oh, we have taken walks. 134 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,000 We've gone around the block with our cousins. 135 00:06:29,000 --> 00:06:32,000 We had to take a lap because it is so uncomfortable. 136 00:06:32,000 --> 00:06:33,000 Who wants to feel like that? 137 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:34,000 Nobody. 138 00:06:34,000 --> 00:06:37,000 I sometimes I'm like, I have, I need to purge. 139 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,000 I know. 140 00:06:38,000 --> 00:06:43,000 I need to regret and go back in time or do something and it's so painful. 141 00:06:43,000 --> 00:06:47,000 But there are so many easy ways to not get, not get that way. 142 00:06:47,000 --> 00:06:52,000 And we're not going to say them because we want you to maintain your weight or lose weight. 143 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:56,000 It's just honestly how to get through Thanksgiving without feeling like a stuffed turkey. 144 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:57,000 It's a very good. 145 00:06:57,000 --> 00:06:58,000 Yeah. 146 00:06:58,000 --> 00:06:59,000 You like that? 147 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:00,000 Yeah, I am. 148 00:07:00,000 --> 00:07:01,000 I didn't even write that down. 149 00:07:01,000 --> 00:07:02,000 I thought of that off my top of my head. 150 00:07:02,000 --> 00:07:03,000 Oh, wow. 151 00:07:03,000 --> 00:07:04,000 I know. 152 00:07:04,000 --> 00:07:05,000 You're like a freestyle rapper. 153 00:07:05,000 --> 00:07:06,000 Wow. 154 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:07,000 Flavor, Flavor. 155 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:08,000 Flavor. 156 00:07:08,000 --> 00:07:09,000 That's amazing. 157 00:07:09,000 --> 00:07:10,000 Okay. 158 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:14,000 Well, tell us what they are. 159 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:15,000 Okay. 160 00:07:15,000 --> 00:07:18,000 It's number one first thing Thanksgiving morning exercise early. 161 00:07:18,000 --> 00:07:21,000 I just said that to my clients this morning. 162 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:22,000 Do it. 163 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:23,000 Oh, yeah. 164 00:07:23,000 --> 00:07:24,000 Okay. 165 00:07:24,000 --> 00:07:25,000 I will. 166 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:29,000 I mean, not to like, you know, say anything but see fit has a 630 a boot camp. 167 00:07:29,000 --> 00:07:32,000 I mean, get up and exercise. 168 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:33,000 It's before the parades. 169 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:37,920 It's before, I know some people actually do breakfast or brunch for Thanksgiving. 170 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:40,000 We never did that, but I know that that's a thing. 171 00:07:40,000 --> 00:07:44,000 So if you get that done before, it's number one, you don't have to think about it. 172 00:07:44,000 --> 00:07:48,240 And number two, you're still keeping yourself healthy and you're getting your metabolism 173 00:07:48,240 --> 00:07:53,200 started so that your body can digest all the foods you're about to eat and you're getting 174 00:07:53,200 --> 00:07:54,200 it done. 175 00:07:54,200 --> 00:07:58,600 You feel so much better and then you're, you know, literally off to the races. 176 00:07:58,600 --> 00:07:59,600 Oh, I know. 177 00:07:59,600 --> 00:08:01,000 I'm crushing it today. 178 00:08:01,000 --> 00:08:02,000 Okay. 179 00:08:02,000 --> 00:08:03,000 I'm going to eat breakfast. 180 00:08:03,000 --> 00:08:04,000 Oh my gosh. 181 00:08:04,000 --> 00:08:07,200 I never do it and I regret it every year. 182 00:08:07,200 --> 00:08:10,480 Every year we will skip breakfast because we're like, oh, I'm going to eat a lot later. 183 00:08:10,480 --> 00:08:13,520 That is like, yeah, the opposite of what you should do. 184 00:08:13,520 --> 00:08:14,520 Yeah, that's the problem. 185 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:19,520 And I think about it every year because what happens is if, for those of you that contribute 186 00:08:19,520 --> 00:08:21,560 to the meal, you're cooking, right? 187 00:08:21,560 --> 00:08:26,040 You wake up and you start making the dishes or the desserts, whatever it is, and you pick 188 00:08:26,040 --> 00:08:29,120 on that and you're looking out at the parade on the TV and then you're picking on that 189 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:31,240 and then you're stuffed and you're like, oh my gosh, it's two o'clock. 190 00:08:31,240 --> 00:08:32,240 I have to go to dinner now. 191 00:08:32,240 --> 00:08:33,240 Right. 192 00:08:33,240 --> 00:08:36,760 When you should have just had breakfast and then cooked and then you wouldn't have eaten 193 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:38,080 your recipe. 194 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:39,080 You wouldn't pick. 195 00:08:39,080 --> 00:08:41,240 Picking is the equivalent. 196 00:08:41,240 --> 00:08:44,640 If you pick all day, you're eating a meal, but it's not all the good things. 197 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:45,640 Like you're not having up. 198 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:46,640 Right. 199 00:08:46,640 --> 00:08:47,640 Guess what? 200 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:48,640 I bet you're not picking on veggies. 201 00:08:48,640 --> 00:08:49,640 Oh, no, no, no, no. 202 00:08:49,640 --> 00:08:52,200 It's the marshmallows on top of the stuffing that you have to make or not the stuffing, 203 00:08:52,200 --> 00:08:53,840 the sweet potatoes, sweet potatoes. 204 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:55,000 But eat breakfast. 205 00:08:55,000 --> 00:09:00,160 You have to start on the right foot or it's going to be on the wrong foot for the rest 206 00:09:00,160 --> 00:09:01,160 of the day. 207 00:09:01,160 --> 00:09:02,160 You have to go. 208 00:09:02,160 --> 00:09:03,160 Amazing. 209 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:06,840 But it's going to make you less hungry. 210 00:09:06,840 --> 00:09:07,840 You're not going to overeat. 211 00:09:07,840 --> 00:09:10,080 That's, I feel like that's a no brainer. 212 00:09:10,080 --> 00:09:11,440 Yeah, but you know what? 213 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:14,400 It's a no brainer, but I don't do it every single center year. 214 00:09:14,400 --> 00:09:15,400 I'm doing it this year. 215 00:09:15,400 --> 00:09:16,400 Yeah, that's doing it. 216 00:09:16,400 --> 00:09:17,400 So make it a brainer. 217 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:18,400 It's happening. 218 00:09:18,400 --> 00:09:19,400 Number three. 219 00:09:19,400 --> 00:09:22,600 Eat the fresh appetizers. 220 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:23,600 Eat the shrimp. 221 00:09:23,600 --> 00:09:24,600 Okay. 222 00:09:24,600 --> 00:09:27,760 Or the veggies with hummus or the stuffed mushrooms. 223 00:09:27,760 --> 00:09:33,120 Try your best if you're going to have appetizers to not go for the heavy cheese bread dips. 224 00:09:33,120 --> 00:09:34,120 Right. 225 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:38,040 That's going to stuff you up and load your stomach before you get to the dinner table. 226 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:40,040 I'm going to stuff you up. 227 00:09:40,040 --> 00:09:43,560 Mama said stuff you up. 228 00:09:43,560 --> 00:09:44,560 Crushing it today. 229 00:09:44,560 --> 00:09:49,200 But that's just a little, it's true, little tip to like just go for the fresh stuff. 230 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:50,200 It's true. 231 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:54,960 It's better for the long run and you know, it's always interesting to me that we have 232 00:09:54,960 --> 00:09:57,560 appetizers for such a big dinner. 233 00:09:57,560 --> 00:09:58,560 Yeah. 234 00:09:58,560 --> 00:09:59,640 But it's about the gathering. 235 00:09:59,640 --> 00:10:05,080 But it, I know, I know, but it's an entire gathering based around food. 236 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:09,040 So if we eliminated, this is not going to happen and I'm not suggesting this, but if 237 00:10:09,040 --> 00:10:12,480 you think about it, if you eliminated the appetizer, you would enjoy the meal so much 238 00:10:12,480 --> 00:10:13,480 more. 239 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:14,480 Right. 240 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:17,200 It's like when you go to the wedding reception and you would gorge yourself with all of 241 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:18,200 the amazing appetizers. 242 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:19,200 A cocktail hour. 243 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:20,200 A cocktail hour. 244 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:22,600 And then you're sitting down to a meal that looks incredible, but you're like, oh my God, 245 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:23,600 I cannot eat this. 246 00:10:23,600 --> 00:10:24,600 I know. 247 00:10:24,600 --> 00:10:27,200 It's the same thing at Thanksgiving and or Christmas, whatever it is. 248 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:29,520 So it's funny that we do that. 249 00:10:29,520 --> 00:10:30,520 But I do. 250 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:31,520 I usually go for the shrimp. 251 00:10:31,520 --> 00:10:33,520 You could forgo the apps. 252 00:10:33,520 --> 00:10:37,920 But if you're sitting there talking to, you know, uncle, yeah, we're not talking to you 253 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:39,720 know, how's uncle Chub doing? 254 00:10:39,720 --> 00:10:41,560 Oh, you said uncle Chip. 255 00:10:41,560 --> 00:10:43,640 I said uncle Chuck, but we do have an uncle chip. 256 00:10:43,640 --> 00:10:45,960 I think it's an uncle Chub. 257 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:47,560 I'm pretty sure it's a Chub. 258 00:10:47,560 --> 00:10:49,080 Oh my gosh. 259 00:10:49,080 --> 00:10:51,840 Well, that's what we're going to get to the next one. 260 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:52,840 Alcohol. 261 00:10:52,840 --> 00:10:54,200 Because we drunk. 262 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:55,200 Alcohol. 263 00:10:55,200 --> 00:10:56,200 Yes. 264 00:10:56,200 --> 00:10:59,120 If you drink, drink. 265 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:00,440 I mean, that's fine. 266 00:11:00,440 --> 00:11:04,040 Just try our suggestion would be our tip would be to lighten it up. 267 00:11:04,040 --> 00:11:09,440 So one of the things that I found that is actually a really cool thing to drink. 268 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:10,440 It's really cool. 269 00:11:10,440 --> 00:11:11,440 It's so cool. 270 00:11:11,440 --> 00:11:13,440 Oh my God. 271 00:11:13,440 --> 00:11:15,120 It actually is. 272 00:11:15,120 --> 00:11:21,680 If you like red wine or white wine, half the wine and make a spritzer put out a seltzer 273 00:11:21,680 --> 00:11:31,160 in there, not like a white claw like a little cray along Island wine and do half wine, half 274 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:35,560 seltzer, throw some limes, throw some lemons in there and you've got a spritzer and it's 275 00:11:35,560 --> 00:11:38,040 so much lighter and will not bog you down. 276 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:40,400 I really like that you chose the words bog you down. 277 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:42,160 I'm going to say that off the bat. 278 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:43,720 Also, I like that. 279 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,280 And then if you're a beer drinker, do the lighter beer. 280 00:11:46,280 --> 00:11:47,600 I mean, yeah, I don't know. 281 00:11:47,600 --> 00:11:54,080 It's hard to say what you prefer is what you prefer, but you're still drinking calories 282 00:11:54,080 --> 00:11:55,840 and that fills up the belly. 283 00:11:55,840 --> 00:12:00,720 So anyway, if you really want to enjoy the meal and have more room for it, lighten up 284 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,960 what you're drinking beforehand at the appetizer portion. 285 00:12:03,960 --> 00:12:04,960 Right. 286 00:12:04,960 --> 00:12:06,760 And I just think like you're going to drink. 287 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:10,000 People are not going to be like, oh man, this Thanksgiving, unless you're Victoria, 288 00:12:10,000 --> 00:12:12,280 I'm not going to drink. 289 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:13,280 So go for it. 290 00:12:13,280 --> 00:12:14,280 We're not telling you not to. 291 00:12:14,280 --> 00:12:20,360 No, no, all these smaller choices or healthier choices will make for a better night. 292 00:12:20,360 --> 00:12:22,040 And that's just one of them more enjoyable. 293 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:26,240 Oh, my next one is called lighten up. 294 00:12:26,240 --> 00:12:34,120 Bring what you are going to eat and you have the control of what's in what you're bringing 295 00:12:34,120 --> 00:12:35,120 to eat. 296 00:12:35,120 --> 00:12:36,560 So you can lighten up those ingredients. 297 00:12:36,560 --> 00:12:41,240 If you were mashed potatoes, calls for heavy, heavy, heavy cream, maybe try and use Greek 298 00:12:41,240 --> 00:12:46,840 yogurt and butter and so it's a little bit less calories, but you have the control of 299 00:12:46,840 --> 00:12:49,720 what you're putting in your dish to bring. 300 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:53,640 Also, if you don't eat something, don't make it and bring it. 301 00:12:53,640 --> 00:12:58,440 But if you don't eat turkey, don't make the turkey. 302 00:12:58,440 --> 00:13:00,560 Oh, yes. 303 00:13:00,560 --> 00:13:04,720 It have control over what you're bringing so you know exactly what's in it and you can 304 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:05,800 eat it. 305 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:10,240 So light, use lower sodium chicken broth in your stuffing. 306 00:13:10,240 --> 00:13:12,680 Have fiber into some of your sweet potatoes. 307 00:13:12,680 --> 00:13:15,640 Yeah, get everyone in the bathroom by the end of the night. 308 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:17,120 It's a really fun party trick. 309 00:13:17,120 --> 00:13:19,760 It'll help you in the long run. 310 00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:23,760 Especially if you're in a house that only has one bathroom, it's a really good tip. 311 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:24,760 Save that one. 312 00:13:24,760 --> 00:13:25,760 Earrmark this section. 313 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:30,040 Okay, well, you're at my house for Thanksgiving and I have multiple bathrooms, so you're fine 314 00:13:30,040 --> 00:13:31,040 and they all work. 315 00:13:31,040 --> 00:13:33,160 Benefiber for the win. 316 00:13:33,160 --> 00:13:35,760 But yes, you have control over it. 317 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:38,960 Bring what you want, what you can eat, what you want to eat. 318 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:39,960 Yeah, that's true. 319 00:13:39,960 --> 00:13:40,960 And lighten up the ingredients. 320 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:44,640 And it could still taste just as delicious. 321 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:46,640 Release your portions. 322 00:13:46,640 --> 00:13:48,360 Yeah, exactly. 323 00:13:48,360 --> 00:13:51,280 It means to just look around the table. 324 00:13:51,280 --> 00:13:53,520 See exactly what you want. 325 00:13:53,520 --> 00:13:54,520 Don't just willy nilly. 326 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:56,000 You know, like willy nilly. 327 00:13:56,000 --> 00:13:57,000 You're crushing it. 328 00:13:57,000 --> 00:13:58,000 I know. 329 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:59,000 I really thought about this. 330 00:13:59,000 --> 00:14:00,200 Just don't put anything on your plate. 331 00:14:00,200 --> 00:14:03,560 If you don't want to eat it, don't put it on your plate because guaranteed you're going 332 00:14:03,560 --> 00:14:07,560 to sit there talking and you're just going to finish whatever's on your plate even if 333 00:14:07,560 --> 00:14:08,960 you didn't really want it. 334 00:14:08,960 --> 00:14:14,800 Yeah, I sometimes do that and I end up like it's still on my plate at the end of the meal 335 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:20,120 and it's when you're sitting around and still talking, but obviously everyone's just not 336 00:14:20,120 --> 00:14:24,840 really eating and I'll start picking at what I don't actually want to eat, but I put it 337 00:14:24,840 --> 00:14:27,040 on my plate because it got passed around. 338 00:14:27,040 --> 00:14:28,320 I'm going to pull a Victoria. 339 00:14:28,320 --> 00:14:33,840 Yeah, I like it the way you said it better. 340 00:14:33,840 --> 00:14:34,840 I'm not explaining. 341 00:14:34,840 --> 00:14:37,200 I'm not re-explaining. 342 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:38,280 I do that. 343 00:14:38,280 --> 00:14:39,280 That is what I do. 344 00:14:39,280 --> 00:14:40,800 I think that's what everybody does. 345 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:42,480 Every single time and it's so silly. 346 00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:44,000 I don't like green bean casserole. 347 00:14:44,000 --> 00:14:45,000 Don't put it on your plate. 348 00:14:45,000 --> 00:14:47,280 That's exactly what that means. 349 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:48,280 I know. 350 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:49,280 I do it. 351 00:14:49,280 --> 00:14:51,880 Don't let Aunt Betty say, but I made the green bean casserole. 352 00:14:51,880 --> 00:14:52,880 You have to try it. 353 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:53,880 No, Aunt Betty. 354 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:55,320 I'm putting my foot down. 355 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:58,520 Betty and Chup, they're a mess. 356 00:14:58,520 --> 00:15:03,560 If you don't want it, don't put it on your plate and take a look around first before you 357 00:15:03,560 --> 00:15:06,280 just start throwing stuff on there. 358 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:09,760 Not connected to the mentality of like, I'm never going to be able to eat this for the 359 00:15:09,760 --> 00:15:11,560 rest of my life again. 360 00:15:11,560 --> 00:15:15,680 You try to get it all in and then you go back for more. 361 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:19,520 Yeah, you realize that Thanksgiving is not your last supper. 362 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,560 It's just not because my next one. 363 00:15:21,560 --> 00:15:22,560 Aren't we lucky? 364 00:15:22,560 --> 00:15:23,560 Yeah. 365 00:15:23,560 --> 00:15:24,560 Exactly. 366 00:15:24,560 --> 00:15:25,560 It goes along with that. 367 00:15:25,560 --> 00:15:27,560 The next one is skip the seconds. 368 00:15:27,560 --> 00:15:28,840 Leftovers are so much better. 369 00:15:28,840 --> 00:15:30,120 Leftovers are the best. 370 00:15:30,120 --> 00:15:34,400 Think about how much better you'll feel the next day if you don't overstuff yourself on 371 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:41,120 seconds and you can enjoy your seconds the next day when you can actually enjoy it and 372 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:42,960 you're not like so stuffed. 373 00:15:42,960 --> 00:15:44,440 It's true. 374 00:15:44,440 --> 00:15:45,840 Skip the seconds. 375 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:47,080 Enjoy the leftovers. 376 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:50,320 A fun little tip about stuffing leftovers. 377 00:15:50,320 --> 00:15:54,880 It is best if you put it in a pan on the stove and not the microwave. 378 00:15:54,880 --> 00:15:55,880 Oh, really? 379 00:15:55,880 --> 00:15:57,080 Because it crisps it up again. 380 00:15:57,080 --> 00:15:58,080 Oh, my gosh. 381 00:15:58,080 --> 00:16:00,920 Instead of making it like, just saved your leftover. 382 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:02,480 I'm not a stuffing fan. 383 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:04,000 Yeah, I'm not. 384 00:16:04,000 --> 00:16:06,240 Mashed potatoes all the way. 385 00:16:06,240 --> 00:16:07,240 I mean, yes. 386 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:10,240 Oh, no, I like a good stuffing. 387 00:16:10,240 --> 00:16:11,240 Next one. 388 00:16:11,240 --> 00:16:12,240 We're getting there. 389 00:16:12,240 --> 00:16:13,740 Go slow and enjoy. 390 00:16:13,740 --> 00:16:15,240 That's so hard. 391 00:16:15,240 --> 00:16:16,240 It is. 392 00:16:16,240 --> 00:16:21,160 Because how often do you sit down to Thanksgiving and within, before the last person sits down 393 00:16:21,160 --> 00:16:22,520 with their plate, you're done. 394 00:16:22,520 --> 00:16:23,520 I know. 395 00:16:23,520 --> 00:16:24,520 Like, you're done. 396 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:25,520 You house it. 397 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:27,680 Because one, you're hungry because you didn't eat breakfast. 398 00:16:27,680 --> 00:16:28,680 Yeah. 399 00:16:28,680 --> 00:16:33,520 Two, you've been drinking probably, so that makes you more hungry. 400 00:16:33,520 --> 00:16:35,800 And three, you just get over excited. 401 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:36,800 Over excited. 402 00:16:36,800 --> 00:16:40,120 And if you're eating the chips, not well, who's having chips, but if you're eating 403 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:43,960 the cracker and cheese, that's empty calories. 404 00:16:43,960 --> 00:16:47,160 So you think it's filling you up, but then all of a sudden, you're, you know, you're 405 00:16:47,160 --> 00:16:48,160 fake hungry again. 406 00:16:48,160 --> 00:16:50,320 So you really do start eating quickly. 407 00:16:50,320 --> 00:16:51,320 Yeah. 408 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:54,080 And then it's over and you're like, oh, all of that. 409 00:16:54,080 --> 00:16:56,000 And I didn't even taste the food. 410 00:16:56,000 --> 00:16:58,840 It's actually, it was called, I wasn't going to say it because I knew Victoria was going 411 00:16:58,840 --> 00:17:00,640 to be like, oh, yeah. 412 00:17:00,640 --> 00:17:02,800 Am I going to look like that? 413 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:03,800 Oh my God. 414 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:05,800 It's called mindful eating. 415 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:06,800 Oh, yes. 416 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:07,800 I know. 417 00:17:07,800 --> 00:17:10,800 I'm, you're annoying. 418 00:17:10,800 --> 00:17:15,600 But yeah, so think about what you're eating and actually enjoy it. 419 00:17:15,600 --> 00:17:16,920 Enjoy the conversation. 420 00:17:16,920 --> 00:17:21,920 Enjoy drinking and also drink water in between. 421 00:17:21,920 --> 00:17:22,920 You know, it's so hard. 422 00:17:22,920 --> 00:17:24,480 I know, but you got to do it. 423 00:17:24,480 --> 00:17:28,160 Yes, it fills you up, but it'll help you out for the rest of the night. 424 00:17:28,160 --> 00:17:29,160 Yeah. 425 00:17:29,160 --> 00:17:32,760 You're eating a lot more sodium, I would assume, from all of the dishes. 426 00:17:32,760 --> 00:17:34,840 And the turkey. 427 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:35,840 So waters. 428 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:36,840 Excuse me. 429 00:17:36,840 --> 00:17:37,840 It's super helpful. 430 00:17:37,840 --> 00:17:43,440 It's, it's hard, but I mean, again, if you even take two of these tips, I think you'll 431 00:17:43,440 --> 00:17:44,440 find a big difference. 432 00:17:44,440 --> 00:17:45,720 I mean, you'll have to do all of them. 433 00:17:45,720 --> 00:17:46,720 You can try. 434 00:17:46,720 --> 00:17:48,240 Last one. 435 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:49,680 Be realistic. 436 00:17:49,680 --> 00:17:51,720 Just be realistic about the night. 437 00:17:51,720 --> 00:17:56,400 You are not going to go into Thanksgiving meal thinking, man, I really hope I lose some 438 00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:57,400 weight tomorrow. 439 00:17:57,400 --> 00:17:58,400 Oh my God. 440 00:17:58,400 --> 00:18:02,720 Like it's all the holiday season is all, unless you have a different mindset. 441 00:18:02,720 --> 00:18:04,080 It's all about maintenance. 442 00:18:04,080 --> 00:18:10,800 It's all about continuing a routine, continuing consistency, doing the best you can, and also 443 00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:12,720 enjoying the holiday season. 444 00:18:12,720 --> 00:18:13,720 Yeah, the balance. 445 00:18:13,720 --> 00:18:14,720 Yeah. 446 00:18:14,720 --> 00:18:15,720 Have the cheesecake. 447 00:18:15,720 --> 00:18:16,720 Absolutely. 448 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:20,440 I didn't even write anything about the dessert because I just want to eat the dessert. 449 00:18:20,440 --> 00:18:22,040 Definitely eat the dessert. 450 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:25,840 And if you do all these tips before the dessert, you'll have room for it. 451 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:27,240 And you will enjoy it. 452 00:18:27,240 --> 00:18:28,240 Right. 453 00:18:28,240 --> 00:18:29,240 But you know what? 454 00:18:29,240 --> 00:18:32,400 With the dessert, and I'm saying this mainly for me, because I'm a dessert person. 455 00:18:32,400 --> 00:18:36,440 I'll go to the meal just for dessert. 456 00:18:36,440 --> 00:18:38,000 You don't have to try all the desserts. 457 00:18:38,000 --> 00:18:39,000 I know. 458 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:40,000 You don't have to. 459 00:18:40,000 --> 00:18:43,640 I don't even like apple pie and I'll put it on my plate because it's there. 460 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:45,280 Someone brought it or someone made it. 461 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:46,280 No, someone brought it. 462 00:18:46,280 --> 00:18:47,280 Someone brought it. 463 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:49,280 Or how somebody brought it. 464 00:18:49,280 --> 00:18:50,280 Yeah. 465 00:18:50,280 --> 00:18:51,280 Yeah. 466 00:18:51,280 --> 00:18:52,280 Yeah. 467 00:18:52,280 --> 00:18:55,360 And it's not my favorite, but I'll put it on my plate and I will eat it because it's 468 00:18:55,360 --> 00:18:57,800 a dessert as an option. 469 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:00,000 And that's just like the sides and everything with the meal. 470 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:01,500 That's ridiculous. 471 00:19:01,500 --> 00:19:03,680 Do not with that piece could be for somebody else. 472 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:07,560 And it's also about not feeling like you have to finish your plate. 473 00:19:07,560 --> 00:19:11,080 Well, that is a generational curse. 474 00:19:11,080 --> 00:19:14,280 We've talked about it before, but there's no difference on Thanksgiving either. 475 00:19:14,280 --> 00:19:15,280 So no. 476 00:19:15,280 --> 00:19:21,600 I mean, go back through this, take a couple, take all of them and let us know how you feel 477 00:19:21,600 --> 00:19:23,200 after Thanksgiving dinner. 478 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:24,720 Were you a stuffed turkey? 479 00:19:24,720 --> 00:19:30,040 Were you just perfect the whole time and you just, you felt okay? 480 00:19:30,040 --> 00:19:31,040 Even keeled? 481 00:19:31,040 --> 00:19:32,040 That's what I meant. 482 00:19:32,040 --> 00:19:33,040 Not perfect. 483 00:19:33,040 --> 00:19:34,040 Even keeled. 484 00:19:34,040 --> 00:19:36,360 Yeah, no one's perfect, Carly. 485 00:19:36,360 --> 00:19:39,200 Let me know how that half wine, half spritzer tastes. 486 00:19:39,200 --> 00:19:40,200 Are you wobbling? 487 00:19:40,200 --> 00:19:44,200 Are you gobbling? 488 00:19:44,200 --> 00:19:49,600 And yeah, that just, those are nine tips for a very fruitful Thanksgiving dinner. 489 00:19:49,600 --> 00:19:51,840 A cornucopia, if you will. 490 00:19:51,840 --> 00:19:54,520 Of tips. 491 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:56,440 But now the real fun. 492 00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:57,440 Oh, no. 493 00:19:57,440 --> 00:20:02,920 Eight tips for getting through the holidays with your family. 494 00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:03,920 Go to Jamaica. 495 00:20:03,920 --> 00:20:04,920 I'm just kidding. 496 00:20:04,920 --> 00:20:10,320 No, and these are just tips, even if you are just so excited to see your family. 497 00:20:10,320 --> 00:20:11,640 Listen, we are too. 498 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:15,440 We don't have any will towards anybody, but the holidays are stressful. 499 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:21,200 It's just a lot of going back and forth, lots of text threads, lots of energy. 500 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:25,000 So it's just, these are just some tips to how to make it easier for yourself. 501 00:20:25,000 --> 00:20:26,280 I cannot wait to hear what you have. 502 00:20:26,280 --> 00:20:30,560 And we will go through them quickly, just like we hope the holiday season goes for you. 503 00:20:30,560 --> 00:20:33,120 JK, I love the holiday season. 504 00:20:33,120 --> 00:20:34,120 I hope it lasts forever. 505 00:20:34,120 --> 00:20:36,520 That's why I decorated on November 1st. 506 00:20:36,520 --> 00:20:38,560 My Halloween decorations are in the corner. 507 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:40,080 They are, they're on a chair. 508 00:20:40,080 --> 00:20:41,080 I can see them. 509 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:43,280 I just haven't had the time, and you know what? 510 00:20:43,280 --> 00:20:47,800 I would be so much happier at the end of all of my long days if I walked into a Christmas-filled 511 00:20:47,800 --> 00:20:48,800 house. 512 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:49,800 I just, I know I would. 513 00:20:49,800 --> 00:20:50,800 I know. 514 00:20:50,800 --> 00:20:53,000 I have to, today, today is going to be the time to at least get them out of the house 515 00:20:53,000 --> 00:20:55,840 and bring them in if I don't decorate. 516 00:20:55,840 --> 00:20:57,560 Have you walked into mine yet? 517 00:20:57,560 --> 00:20:58,560 No. 518 00:20:58,560 --> 00:20:59,560 No, you should. 519 00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:00,560 It'll make you feel good. 520 00:21:00,560 --> 00:21:01,560 No, I know. 521 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:02,560 I know. 522 00:21:02,560 --> 00:21:06,960 And because I have so many decorations, like it's Christmas Village in my house, the rest 523 00:21:06,960 --> 00:21:10,400 of everything is clean, so it doesn't make it look cluttered. 524 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:11,400 I'm not cluttered. 525 00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:12,400 Yeah. 526 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:13,400 So it just makes you happy. 527 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:17,360 You just walk in and the Christmas tree candle is lit and it smells like Christmas. 528 00:21:17,360 --> 00:21:19,720 It just, you know, if you're a Christmas person, it'll make you happy. 529 00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:23,200 I just saw and reposted on our Instagram story. 530 00:21:23,200 --> 00:21:27,520 So by the time this comes out, I'll redo it again, but it's from our Melly R. 531 00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:28,520 Yes. 532 00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:29,520 Mel Robbins. 533 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:31,160 Your bedroom is your sanctuary. 534 00:21:31,160 --> 00:21:34,520 So you have to keep it the way that you feel the best. 535 00:21:34,520 --> 00:21:35,800 Same thing for the house. 536 00:21:35,800 --> 00:21:38,280 So your house is your sanctuary. 537 00:21:38,280 --> 00:21:43,480 You walk in, you want it to reflect and represent a good feeling for yourself. 538 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:49,840 So whether that's decorating early or decorating it all or just keeping it decluttered, that 539 00:21:49,840 --> 00:21:53,840 all affects how you're going to go to sleep and wake up the next day. 540 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:57,760 So I'm going to say it 100% agree. 541 00:21:57,760 --> 00:21:58,760 And 100%. 542 00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:03,320 And one day I'll listen to that Melly R podcast and I'll know what you're talking about. 543 00:22:03,320 --> 00:22:07,200 You won't like her because she's talking right to you. 544 00:22:07,200 --> 00:22:08,200 Okay. 545 00:22:08,200 --> 00:22:12,040 With that being said, let's get through family. 546 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:13,920 Her eyebrows are going crazy. 547 00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:14,920 Okay. 548 00:22:14,920 --> 00:22:18,280 Number one, plan ahead. 549 00:22:18,280 --> 00:22:19,280 Everybody needs a good plan. 550 00:22:19,280 --> 00:22:20,440 With what? 551 00:22:20,440 --> 00:22:26,400 Just have an idea of what might happen if you are going into a family dinner or event. 552 00:22:26,400 --> 00:22:27,840 And this just doesn't have to be on Thanksgiving. 553 00:22:27,840 --> 00:22:32,080 It could be you guys are going to see the Christmas lights in the city or, you know, just a family 554 00:22:32,080 --> 00:22:34,760 event in general. 555 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:38,880 Have answers for questions that maybe you are uncomfortable answering. 556 00:22:38,880 --> 00:22:44,280 So if you have that Aunt Betty that you know gets super personal and you are just not into 557 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:48,080 answering those questions or you're having something going on in your life right now 558 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:53,040 that you know people are going to ask about, have the answers ready, go through them in 559 00:22:53,040 --> 00:22:58,600 your head before plan ahead so that you don't get anxious or nervous or say the wrong thing 560 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:03,000 or give too much information when you might not want to or get angry. 561 00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:04,000 All of those I've done. 562 00:23:04,000 --> 00:23:05,000 Yeah. 563 00:23:05,000 --> 00:23:06,000 All of those I've done. 564 00:23:06,000 --> 00:23:08,840 It's like an initial reaction of being uncomfortable. 565 00:23:08,840 --> 00:23:09,840 Yeah. 566 00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:11,960 That's so accurate. 567 00:23:11,960 --> 00:23:13,680 Know how you would answer that question. 568 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:14,680 That's such a good idea. 569 00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:15,680 Yeah. 570 00:23:15,680 --> 00:23:17,000 And just go through it in your head. 571 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:21,480 And you can have the answers that you might want to say and say it in the mirror and be 572 00:23:21,480 --> 00:23:22,480 like boom, yeah. 573 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:29,520 And then actually do the one that is appropriate and will make it the easiest to get through. 574 00:23:29,520 --> 00:23:30,520 Yeah, I'm Betty. 575 00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:31,520 I'm not going to die alone. 576 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:32,520 God. 577 00:23:32,520 --> 00:23:37,600 Maybe we're like, oh, I'm waiting for the right person Aunt Betty. 578 00:23:37,600 --> 00:23:41,520 No, or just say I don't want to talk about that Aunt Betty. 579 00:23:41,520 --> 00:23:42,520 Shove it. 580 00:23:42,520 --> 00:23:43,520 Oh my God. 581 00:23:43,520 --> 00:23:44,520 That was amazing. 582 00:23:44,520 --> 00:23:45,520 You know what I mean though. 583 00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:46,520 Yeah. 584 00:23:46,520 --> 00:23:48,040 I'm glad you understood that. 585 00:23:48,040 --> 00:23:49,040 Okay. 586 00:23:49,040 --> 00:23:50,040 Number two. 587 00:23:50,040 --> 00:23:52,240 Victoria, you're going to like this. 588 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,040 I said your name and it was really weird. 589 00:23:54,040 --> 00:23:55,560 I feel bad for you. 590 00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,560 Have an escape plan. 591 00:23:57,560 --> 00:23:58,560 What? 592 00:23:58,560 --> 00:24:03,480 But that doesn't mean like just jet on the family dinner. 593 00:24:03,480 --> 00:24:07,720 It means sometimes you need a 10 minute break. 594 00:24:07,720 --> 00:24:08,720 Oh yeah, yeah. 595 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:09,880 There's a lot going on. 596 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,680 There is, you know, roles being thrown across the table. 597 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:13,680 You know, there's lots of... 598 00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:15,600 This is specifically at our house. 599 00:24:15,600 --> 00:24:17,520 And it's actually not roles, it's olives. 600 00:24:17,520 --> 00:24:18,520 Olives, yeah. 601 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,920 And sometimes scallions. 602 00:24:20,920 --> 00:24:25,040 So if there's a kids table, there's kids running around, they're screaming. 603 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,080 Some people cannot handle that. 604 00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:30,040 And they need a 10 minute break. 605 00:24:30,040 --> 00:24:31,040 Escape. 606 00:24:31,040 --> 00:24:33,520 Go outside for a walk for 10 minutes. 607 00:24:33,520 --> 00:24:35,360 Go find a room and read a book. 608 00:24:35,360 --> 00:24:39,520 Or honestly, I know Victoria might not like this, but like sometimes you just need to 609 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:44,760 take your phone and you know, scroll for a minute solely by yourself, but not in the 610 00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,200 house with the one bathroom and don't go to the one bathroom. 611 00:24:47,200 --> 00:24:48,800 Yeah, everyone's eating fiber. 612 00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,920 Definitely don't do that. 613 00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:52,400 I did this at our Halloween party. 614 00:24:52,400 --> 00:24:54,840 I stepped out into your front yard quickly. 615 00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:56,720 Maybe it was five, it wasn't 10 minutes, it was five minutes. 616 00:24:56,720 --> 00:25:01,520 And I just like took a couple of breaths without true chaos ensuing. 617 00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:03,320 And I went right back and it was so fun. 618 00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:04,320 Yeah. 619 00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:08,200 Like you just need that little moment if that's something that you need to do for yourself. 620 00:25:08,200 --> 00:25:09,840 Like I am an energy person. 621 00:25:09,840 --> 00:25:15,320 So when it's a lot of energy for way too long, I get my mood completely shifts. 622 00:25:15,320 --> 00:25:17,320 Yeah, that's a really good thing. 623 00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:19,320 If it's scrolling, scroll. 624 00:25:19,320 --> 00:25:25,240 So escape plan was a little, you know, to the point, but escape for 10 minutes. 625 00:25:25,240 --> 00:25:26,240 Yeah, yeah. 626 00:25:26,240 --> 00:25:28,360 Okay, next one. 627 00:25:28,360 --> 00:25:29,960 Over communicate. 628 00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:36,720 Over communicate ahead of time with your family on exactly what is going to happen with your 629 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:38,720 circle specifically. 630 00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:42,400 So if you're going to your in-laws house, you need to over communicate with either your 631 00:25:42,400 --> 00:25:46,600 spouse or your in-laws on this is what's going to happen. 632 00:25:46,600 --> 00:25:48,320 Yes, we're going to do this with you. 633 00:25:48,320 --> 00:25:49,320 We're going to do this with you. 634 00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:52,320 But for us to be happy as well, this also needs to happen. 635 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:54,080 Basically, like we're leaving by nine. 636 00:25:54,080 --> 00:25:55,080 Correct. 637 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:56,080 Right. 638 00:25:56,080 --> 00:26:00,520 Like do what's right for your family or what's right for you, but you need to over communicate 639 00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:01,520 that. 640 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:04,120 So there's no confusion in the moment. 641 00:26:04,120 --> 00:26:05,120 Exactly. 642 00:26:05,120 --> 00:26:09,320 That's when people start, you know, get their backs up and ask you questions. 643 00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:10,320 That's exactly. 644 00:26:10,320 --> 00:26:12,600 You said you were going to do this at this time, but over communicate. 645 00:26:12,600 --> 00:26:17,040 There's nothing wrong with saying it multiple times, you know, over and over again until, 646 00:26:17,040 --> 00:26:19,040 hey, this everybody knows. 647 00:26:19,040 --> 00:26:20,800 So no one, there's no surprises. 648 00:26:20,800 --> 00:26:22,320 Uncle Chup, scroll back. 649 00:26:22,320 --> 00:26:24,440 There's no Uncle Chup. 650 00:26:24,440 --> 00:26:26,120 This is what I was talking to in the beginning. 651 00:26:26,120 --> 00:26:28,760 The next one, let go of differences. 652 00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:36,040 It is super hard with lots of different views on many different issues in the world right 653 00:26:36,040 --> 00:26:39,880 now to sit at a table and talk politics. 654 00:26:39,880 --> 00:26:43,600 Some people might disagree with me and they'll say, you should be able to talk about anything 655 00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:44,880 and agree to disagree. 656 00:26:44,880 --> 00:26:45,880 Totally. 657 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:46,880 I agree. 658 00:26:46,880 --> 00:26:52,880 I don't believe in my opinion that a big holiday dinner is that space. 659 00:26:52,880 --> 00:26:53,880 Yeah. 660 00:26:53,880 --> 00:26:56,520 But I, people could disagree with me. 661 00:26:56,520 --> 00:26:57,520 I just feel. 662 00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:58,520 Well, here's the thing. 663 00:26:58,520 --> 00:27:04,600 It has to be the problem with what you have with it is not, not bringing it up. 664 00:27:04,600 --> 00:27:07,960 No, no one is able to have a non heated. 665 00:27:07,960 --> 00:27:08,960 Correct. 666 00:27:08,960 --> 00:27:10,720 Conversation of differences. 667 00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:16,560 When there's drinking involved and you've got people so hyped up right now, everybody 668 00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,800 is on high alert on every issue. 669 00:27:19,800 --> 00:27:20,800 Yes. 670 00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:25,480 So it's very hard to have an actual conversation or not conversation, a disagreement. 671 00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:30,960 You can, you can disagree, but it's hard to have a level headed, a level headed disagreement 672 00:27:30,960 --> 00:27:32,320 at a holiday function. 673 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:36,720 So to me, in my opinion, I would say don't go for those issues. 674 00:27:36,720 --> 00:27:37,720 Your opinion? 675 00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:42,160 In my, in my politically correct opinion. 676 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:43,160 Oh, okay. 677 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:44,840 Well, we didn't, you never said it. 678 00:27:44,840 --> 00:27:46,840 So we were confused, you know? 679 00:27:46,840 --> 00:27:47,840 I'm on. 680 00:27:47,840 --> 00:27:48,840 I'm on. 681 00:27:48,840 --> 00:27:53,840 Those are the kind of conversations I have at dinner. 682 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:54,840 Flavor. 683 00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:58,200 What spritzer do you like? 684 00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:04,000 Listen, go take your break with the person you want to talk to and take your 10 minute 685 00:28:04,000 --> 00:28:06,320 discussion and then come back and be with everybody else. 686 00:28:06,320 --> 00:28:11,200 Here's, here's what I think you are saying, but you think you're not articulating. 687 00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,800 So I'm just going to say the exact same thing. 688 00:28:13,800 --> 00:28:18,880 If you know that your family is a heated, passionate conversation type of family and 689 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:24,000 there are differences of political and religious beliefs and whatever is happening in the world 690 00:28:24,000 --> 00:28:29,560 at the time, maybe just wait until the day after Thanksgiving to have those conversations. 691 00:28:29,560 --> 00:28:34,520 Maybe enjoy a meal without blood pressure rising is what you're saying. 692 00:28:34,520 --> 00:28:37,160 I didn't sound like that at all. 693 00:28:37,160 --> 00:28:39,400 We know you did a very good job. 694 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:41,120 In your opinion, we know. 695 00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:47,840 Victoria, she's my commentator or she's my decipherer and that is 100% correct. 696 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:50,960 How she said it is what I sounded like in my head. 697 00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:52,360 Yeah, that is not what came out. 698 00:28:52,360 --> 00:28:53,360 Sure. 699 00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:54,360 I really like that. 700 00:28:54,360 --> 00:29:00,640 I want to walk around with this microphone and record like best in show, but Carly's 701 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:07,720 life like I want to walk around and be like, oh, today she is trotting down Saxor Avenue 702 00:29:07,720 --> 00:29:09,720 and she is on fire. 703 00:29:09,720 --> 00:29:10,720 Oh, she's stopping. 704 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:12,200 Oh, no, she's good. 705 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:13,360 She's still going. 706 00:29:13,360 --> 00:29:14,720 She's making it to the Wawa. 707 00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:16,960 Oh, there's her third cup of coffee today. 708 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:17,960 I am. 709 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:18,960 I am. 710 00:29:18,960 --> 00:29:19,960 And it's 6am. 711 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:20,960 Yeah. 712 00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:22,840 I am very much into that. 713 00:29:22,840 --> 00:29:26,400 And when we get a day, it's going to happen. 714 00:29:26,400 --> 00:29:28,440 Oh, she's taking a body break. 715 00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,280 That's not on the schedule. 716 00:29:30,280 --> 00:29:33,840 Losing some points for that one. 717 00:29:33,840 --> 00:29:35,480 Moving on. 718 00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:36,800 Don't engage. 719 00:29:36,800 --> 00:29:42,360 And if you are Meredith Marks from Housewives of Salt Lake City, don't engage. 720 00:29:42,360 --> 00:29:43,360 What does that mean? 721 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:44,360 She says, I'm disengaging. 722 00:29:44,360 --> 00:29:45,880 That's what she says. 723 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:48,440 And if you're a Housewives fan, you will get that. 724 00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,200 And it sort of goes along with the one right before. 725 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:55,560 But if somebody tries to get into a conversation that you are very uninterested in having at 726 00:29:55,560 --> 00:29:58,080 that time, don't engage in it. 727 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,080 That is so annoying. 728 00:30:00,080 --> 00:30:03,280 It is OK to just nod and say, OK, all right. 729 00:30:03,280 --> 00:30:05,560 Yeah, it's called protecting your peace. 730 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:10,720 It's not any type of appeasing or pushing over or anything like that. 731 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,520 It's protecting your peace. 732 00:30:12,520 --> 00:30:15,640 And sometimes that's just being silent and not engaging. 733 00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:16,720 Yeah, I like it. 734 00:30:16,720 --> 00:30:18,400 I am disengaging. 735 00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:19,720 Thank you, Meredith Marks. 736 00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:22,040 Your jewelry is beautiful. 737 00:30:22,040 --> 00:30:23,040 Next one. 738 00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:24,040 We're so close to the finish line. 739 00:30:24,040 --> 00:30:28,040 Distract quite literally play games with your family. 740 00:30:28,040 --> 00:30:29,160 Just lighten it up a little bit. 741 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:30,440 I know we lightened it up with the food. 742 00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,000 Now we're going to lighten it up at the holiday dinner. 743 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:38,320 We have, I mean, last year's Christmas, we played hungry hippos with people. 744 00:30:38,320 --> 00:30:40,560 Oh my gosh, we did. 745 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,680 So we grabbed a child and we grabbed their legs. 746 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:47,720 We put balls in the center and they each had like a laundry basket and we played hungry 747 00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:49,360 hippos with the children. 748 00:30:49,360 --> 00:30:50,680 And I was sweating. 749 00:30:50,680 --> 00:30:51,680 Yeah. 750 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:57,920 But like what takes off the edge of anything any family might be going through or discussions 751 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,040 than just playing a game, playing a family game? 752 00:31:01,040 --> 00:31:07,120 Sometimes there, you know, holidays happen, but life around you in your family unit or 753 00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:13,080 your individual is not happy and it's not OK and something, something a little less positive 754 00:31:13,080 --> 00:31:14,080 is going on. 755 00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,680 So these little moments are really awesome. 756 00:31:16,680 --> 00:31:23,400 I just found it's in my Amazon cart, the Christmas version to taco cheese, goat cheese pizza. 757 00:31:23,400 --> 00:31:24,400 Yes. 758 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:25,960 And it's like Elf, Santa, reindeer. 759 00:31:25,960 --> 00:31:26,960 Oh, did you get it? 760 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:27,960 It's in my cart. 761 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:28,960 OK, good. 762 00:31:28,960 --> 00:31:29,960 So you're not invited. 763 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:30,960 You're not coming to Thanksgiving. 764 00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:32,120 I'm not coming to Thanksgiving. 765 00:31:32,120 --> 00:31:33,960 You're not going to play. 766 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:39,520 Those moments are great and everyone has fun even if they don't know how to play whatever 767 00:31:39,520 --> 00:31:40,600 game it is. 768 00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:46,320 I mean, we gave our mom a very hard time about playing hungry hippos because we were like 769 00:31:46,320 --> 00:31:54,160 stuffed and we were not ready to pick up children's ankles and, you know, slide them on the hard 770 00:31:54,160 --> 00:31:55,160 wood floor. 771 00:31:55,160 --> 00:32:00,160 I'm telling you, it was like your vacuum cleaner that just kept stuck on that one rug. 772 00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:01,160 I was sweating. 773 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,520 I know they were on a towel, I think, on my hardwood floor. 774 00:32:03,520 --> 00:32:05,800 So we were like going back and forth, but we gave her such a hard time. 775 00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:09,680 But looking back on the video, I was like, I can't believe we did that. 776 00:32:09,680 --> 00:32:10,680 So fun. 777 00:32:10,680 --> 00:32:11,680 So fun. 778 00:32:11,680 --> 00:32:16,040 Carmela is always down for making us do stuff we don't want to do, but in the long run, 779 00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:17,160 it's actually awesome. 780 00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:21,600 And we are always down for giving her a hard time in the moment and laughing about it afterwards. 781 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:22,600 She does not disengage. 782 00:32:22,600 --> 00:32:23,600 She should. 783 00:32:23,600 --> 00:32:27,120 She disengaged with us when we're giving her the hard time. 784 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:28,520 She's jumping up and down right now. 785 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:29,520 She should escape. 786 00:32:29,520 --> 00:32:30,520 She doesn't. 787 00:32:30,520 --> 00:32:31,520 She's so happy. 788 00:32:31,520 --> 00:32:32,520 She is Uncle Betty though. 789 00:32:32,520 --> 00:32:33,520 Uncle Betty? 790 00:32:33,520 --> 00:32:34,520 No, she 100% is Uncle Betty. 791 00:32:34,520 --> 00:32:35,520 Love it. 792 00:32:35,520 --> 00:32:36,520 What's up? 793 00:32:36,520 --> 00:32:37,520 Uncle Betty. 794 00:32:37,520 --> 00:32:38,520 Okay. 795 00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:39,520 I've had a spritzer. 796 00:32:39,520 --> 00:32:40,520 I've had a spritzer. 797 00:32:40,520 --> 00:32:41,520 I've had a spritzer. 798 00:32:41,520 --> 00:32:42,520 I've had a spritzer. 799 00:32:42,520 --> 00:32:43,520 I've had a spritzer. 800 00:32:43,520 --> 00:32:44,520 I've had a spritzer. 801 00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:47,360 I've had a spritzer. 802 00:32:47,360 --> 00:32:48,860 Ask for help. 803 00:32:48,860 --> 00:32:54,840 So if you are the one hosting or you're the one that took on the most planning or whatever, 804 00:32:54,840 --> 00:32:55,840 ask for help. 805 00:32:55,840 --> 00:32:56,840 That's what everybody wants to do. 806 00:32:56,840 --> 00:32:59,080 Do you know when Aunt Betty comes in, she's like, what can I do? 807 00:32:59,080 --> 00:33:00,240 What can I do? 808 00:33:00,240 --> 00:33:01,240 Don't say nothing. 809 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:02,240 Yes. 810 00:33:02,240 --> 00:33:03,240 Give her something. 811 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:05,380 It makes them feel helpful. 812 00:33:05,380 --> 00:33:07,880 You know, nobody wants to sit around and watch you run around the kitchen. 813 00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:09,960 I'm literally talking about myself right now. 814 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:10,960 100%. 815 00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:11,960 You are the worst with this. 816 00:33:11,960 --> 00:33:12,960 I know. 817 00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,000 Ask for help because I just think I can do it faster and better. 818 00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:16,000 You're wrong. 819 00:33:16,000 --> 00:33:17,000 You do it slower and worse. 820 00:33:17,000 --> 00:33:18,800 Faster, better, stronger, wiser. 821 00:33:18,800 --> 00:33:19,800 What's that word? 822 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:20,800 Buy it. 823 00:33:20,800 --> 00:33:22,320 It's the Pentatonic song. 824 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:23,320 Yes. 825 00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:24,320 That's punk. 826 00:33:24,320 --> 00:33:25,320 In our opinion. 827 00:33:25,320 --> 00:33:27,480 You're wrong. 828 00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:30,000 But let Uncle Betty help. 829 00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:33,800 And she really wants to put out the utensils and the napkins. 830 00:33:33,800 --> 00:33:36,440 Just, you know, let people help you. 831 00:33:36,440 --> 00:33:40,640 And if it's done a different way, if their knives are on the left and the forks are on 832 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,960 the right, whatever it is, I mean, let them. 833 00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:44,960 Let them. 834 00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:45,960 Oh my gosh. 835 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:46,960 Let them. 836 00:33:46,960 --> 00:33:51,720 It's true though, because they're going to help in some way anyway, even if you say nothing. 837 00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,640 So it might as well be something you actually need. 838 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:56,120 And then your load lightens. 839 00:33:56,120 --> 00:34:00,400 I mean, I guess this whole thing is about kind of lighting the load in all directions. 840 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:01,400 Yeah. 841 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:02,400 Yeah, that's a big one. 842 00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,560 Definitely for me is letting people help. 843 00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:11,320 That's one which I think for me is the most important and the one I get most excited about. 844 00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:13,960 Give yourself something to look forward to. 845 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:18,520 So after it's all said and done, plan a self care day. 846 00:34:18,520 --> 00:34:23,100 Have like that movie that you're taking the kids to after the holidays are over, after 847 00:34:23,100 --> 00:34:27,520 Thanksgiving is over, have something to look forward to, even if it's just we're getting 848 00:34:27,520 --> 00:34:30,360 in our pajamas and we're going to watch elf. 849 00:34:30,360 --> 00:34:34,040 You know that you have that to look forward to afterwards. 850 00:34:34,040 --> 00:34:36,840 I always need that for myself. 851 00:34:36,840 --> 00:34:42,040 So for Christmas, Andrew gave us a weekend away in January last year. 852 00:34:42,040 --> 00:34:46,920 After Christmas, after we were exhausted, I knew a month after Christmas, we were going 853 00:34:46,920 --> 00:34:50,680 to have a weekend together like snowboarding and whatever. 854 00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,880 That to me was the best Christmas gift I could have ever gotten. 855 00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:54,880 Me too. 856 00:34:54,880 --> 00:34:56,380 I worked. 857 00:34:56,380 --> 00:35:00,080 I love when they do this type of stuff because it's really fun for me. 858 00:35:00,080 --> 00:35:01,640 My life is really, really fun. 859 00:35:01,640 --> 00:35:03,240 It doesn't have to be big like that. 860 00:35:03,240 --> 00:35:08,640 It can literally be grab your Christmas pajamas and know that the day after Thanksgiving, 861 00:35:08,640 --> 00:35:14,280 you guys are all going to sit on the couch, watch elf and have popcorn and like special, 862 00:35:14,280 --> 00:35:15,280 you know, chocolate together. 863 00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:16,920 Didn't we used to go to the movies? 864 00:35:16,920 --> 00:35:21,440 We used to go to the movies on Thanksgiving when there were no kids born yet. 865 00:35:21,440 --> 00:35:22,440 But yeah. 866 00:35:22,440 --> 00:35:25,600 And it's like this at Carly's generation of kids. 867 00:35:25,600 --> 00:35:31,040 And then my favorite and I still do this, whether I do this and people are not. 868 00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:35,360 Because this is my escape and disengaging, but I, this isn't Thanksgiving. 869 00:35:35,360 --> 00:35:37,760 This is Christmas, but watching Harry Potter. 870 00:35:37,760 --> 00:35:38,760 Yes. 871 00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:39,760 The day after Christmas. 872 00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:41,480 We do that together. 873 00:35:41,480 --> 00:35:44,800 We stopped for a little because the kids were so young and it's scary. 874 00:35:44,800 --> 00:35:45,800 So we stopped doing that. 875 00:35:45,800 --> 00:35:51,640 But we would definitely pre-kids, we would watch one to seven in our pajamas eating leftovers 876 00:35:51,640 --> 00:35:53,000 on December 26th. 877 00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,320 On the 26th and not move. 878 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:57,320 No. 879 00:35:57,320 --> 00:35:58,320 And we'd fall asleep. 880 00:35:58,320 --> 00:36:00,320 We'd wake up and be like, oh, man, we're on movie three. 881 00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:01,320 Wow. 882 00:36:01,320 --> 00:36:03,160 I missed the whole second movie. 883 00:36:03,160 --> 00:36:05,760 And we just started to get back into that because the kids are old enough. 884 00:36:05,760 --> 00:36:06,760 Yes. 885 00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:08,260 My kids love Harry Potter now. 886 00:36:08,260 --> 00:36:11,440 Like my, that's what I look forward to. 887 00:36:11,440 --> 00:36:16,440 After the hustle and bustle, do something that slows you down a little bit or something 888 00:36:16,440 --> 00:36:18,600 that, you know, revitalizes you. 889 00:36:18,600 --> 00:36:21,240 Whereas Justin said, recovers you. 890 00:36:21,240 --> 00:36:22,240 Yeah. 891 00:36:22,240 --> 00:36:23,240 That's true. 892 00:36:23,240 --> 00:36:25,760 So one of ours is Disney on Ice. 893 00:36:25,760 --> 00:36:28,920 And I love looking forward to that being like, man, Christmas is over. 894 00:36:28,920 --> 00:36:32,360 And I get Christmas depressed. 895 00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:37,400 I get so excited for Christmas that when the 26th happens, I get very sad because I'm like, 896 00:36:37,400 --> 00:36:39,320 oh my gosh, it's over. 897 00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:43,080 So I love having, you know, something like Disney on Ice to look forward to that still 898 00:36:43,080 --> 00:36:46,520 gets us excited, still sort of Christmas-y. 899 00:36:46,520 --> 00:36:50,000 And I do definitely feel that like, even though I don't, I'm not saying. 900 00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:51,000 Crash. 901 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,000 Yeah. 902 00:36:52,000 --> 00:36:53,000 The crash. 903 00:36:53,000 --> 00:36:54,000 I get very excited. 904 00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:55,000 That's over. 905 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:57,000 I'm like, oh my gosh, we can stop gathering. 906 00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:00,800 I can sit by myself for a while. 907 00:37:00,800 --> 00:37:01,800 Yeah. 908 00:37:01,800 --> 00:37:02,800 But it's true. 909 00:37:02,800 --> 00:37:03,800 That's a really good plan. 910 00:37:03,800 --> 00:37:04,800 And it doesn't have to be monetary. 911 00:37:04,800 --> 00:37:05,800 It doesn't have to be something like that. 912 00:37:05,800 --> 00:37:06,800 No. 913 00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:07,800 It can be on your couch. 914 00:37:07,800 --> 00:37:08,800 Yeah. 915 00:37:08,800 --> 00:37:09,800 At home. 916 00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:10,800 Yeah. 917 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:16,720 So yeah, those are the tips for food and family and how to survive and basically what Victoria 918 00:37:16,720 --> 00:37:22,600 said, finding your piece and what works for you through a really, really crazy busy time. 919 00:37:22,600 --> 00:37:24,960 Just trying to make it all a little bit easier. 920 00:37:24,960 --> 00:37:31,400 And if that means decorating for whatever holiday you choose as early as you want, do it. 921 00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:33,640 Studies have shown it makes you happier. 922 00:37:33,640 --> 00:37:38,000 We lived on a, we grew up on a block of very close neighbors. 923 00:37:38,000 --> 00:37:40,360 It was an open door policy going in and out at any time. 924 00:37:40,360 --> 00:37:41,520 It was also a different time. 925 00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:42,520 Right. 926 00:37:42,520 --> 00:37:44,440 Back in the 90s, early 2000s. 927 00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:46,960 And everybody would start with their Christmas lights. 928 00:37:46,960 --> 00:37:47,960 Mm-hmm. 929 00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:48,960 At an appropriate time. 930 00:37:48,960 --> 00:37:51,480 I don't think it was too early back then for what I remember. 931 00:37:51,480 --> 00:37:52,480 No, it wasn't. 932 00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:53,480 Yeah. 933 00:37:53,480 --> 00:37:59,680 So, at the time of our house, they'd go up on Christmas Eve because Carmelo was very busy. 934 00:37:59,680 --> 00:38:00,680 Very busy. 935 00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:04,320 And really had no time, but it's always got done. 936 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:05,520 It always got done. 937 00:38:05,520 --> 00:38:09,280 And they'd be like, oh, calm just in the nick of time. 938 00:38:09,280 --> 00:38:12,720 And then they would stay up until the next Christmas. 939 00:38:12,720 --> 00:38:17,440 So we always were the last to put our lights up and the last to take them down. 940 00:38:17,440 --> 00:38:18,840 And it was the same inside. 941 00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:25,080 So we have a nativity set, a ceramic nativity set that would get hearts for Valentine's Day 942 00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:29,040 and little Easter eggs and bunny ears to put on the nativity set. 943 00:38:29,040 --> 00:38:32,360 It was just easier to decorate it than to take it down and put it away. 944 00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:35,360 Oh, and it was, but it was like it turned into a joke. 945 00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:36,360 A joke. 946 00:38:36,360 --> 00:38:37,800 And it turned into like fun. 947 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:41,280 I would come home from school and be like, oh my gosh, there's American, Joseph is holding 948 00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:42,280 an American flag. 949 00:38:42,280 --> 00:38:46,200 It's 4th of July. 950 00:38:46,200 --> 00:38:49,160 So protect your piece in any way, whatever that is. 951 00:38:49,160 --> 00:38:51,080 I don't know if that fit it up. 952 00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:52,080 Yeah. 953 00:38:52,080 --> 00:38:56,640 Mom's M.O. or her motto was always like, I'd rather have a dirty cluttered house than 954 00:38:56,640 --> 00:38:59,120 not have time to play with us. 955 00:38:59,120 --> 00:39:00,760 So that's sort of what happened. 956 00:39:00,760 --> 00:39:04,800 Like she would do things with us and that kind of stuff would get pushed to the very 957 00:39:04,800 --> 00:39:09,080 last minute, which was fine because I remember doing fun things. 958 00:39:09,080 --> 00:39:11,400 And also I remember it being decorated. 959 00:39:11,400 --> 00:39:13,920 So I don't really remember that she was super, super busy. 960 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:15,600 But yeah, that was like her M.O. 961 00:39:15,600 --> 00:39:17,720 No, but they was, I just remember Mrs. 962 00:39:17,720 --> 00:39:23,320 McMahon and being like, oh, Christmas Eve, come get those lights up. 963 00:39:23,320 --> 00:39:25,120 Only dark house on the block. 964 00:39:25,120 --> 00:39:28,480 And being like, oh, wow. 965 00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:29,480 Yeah. 966 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:37,800 So this whole episode was tips and tricks and options, but we are still giving you a 967 00:39:37,800 --> 00:39:39,640 real tip and a real extra tip. 968 00:39:39,640 --> 00:39:48,880 So your real tip for this Thanksgiving holiday is to actually practice gratitude. 969 00:39:48,880 --> 00:39:55,480 A good way to do that is a gratitude journal where you take two to five minutes in the 970 00:39:55,480 --> 00:40:00,840 morning or maybe at the end of your day and just write one thing that you're grateful 971 00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:06,240 for as you wake up and or you're grateful for that happened throughout the day so that 972 00:40:06,240 --> 00:40:10,560 when you get to that Thanksgiving dinner, you don't have to do the gratitude circle 973 00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:11,720 around the table. 974 00:40:11,720 --> 00:40:16,680 You can, but it'll sit a little bit different and it'll hit a little bit harder that you 975 00:40:16,680 --> 00:40:22,840 look around the table at all of the good that you have surrounding you and you'll actually 976 00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:23,840 feel it. 977 00:40:23,840 --> 00:40:25,240 But you have to practice. 978 00:40:25,240 --> 00:40:26,840 That's a practice. 979 00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:31,040 Not just let me think of something to say at the dinner table when we go around the table. 980 00:40:31,040 --> 00:40:32,040 Yeah. 981 00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:33,040 Yeah. 982 00:40:33,040 --> 00:40:34,040 You know, because everyone goes, oh, what am I going to say? 983 00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:35,040 Yeah. 984 00:40:35,040 --> 00:40:36,040 Practice it. 985 00:40:36,040 --> 00:40:44,840 And, and it only needs to take about two minutes, you know, so gratitude, no attitude. 986 00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,720 Well, that was very good. 987 00:40:47,720 --> 00:40:51,280 I'm grateful for that. 988 00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:55,320 The real extra tip of the week is mind your manners. 989 00:40:55,320 --> 00:40:58,280 Why did you say it like a witch? 990 00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:01,960 What does mind your manners mean? 991 00:41:01,960 --> 00:41:03,680 It means mind your manners. 992 00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:06,200 Be a good guest. 993 00:41:06,200 --> 00:41:11,400 When you go to an event or a house or a dinner or a gathering, bring something. 994 00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:12,400 Yeah. 995 00:41:12,400 --> 00:41:15,720 Now, I know that's not for everybody, but you know what makes it just like a little bit 996 00:41:15,720 --> 00:41:17,080 easier on you. 997 00:41:17,080 --> 00:41:21,120 If you don't know what they're serving at this gathering, at said gathering, bring something 998 00:41:21,120 --> 00:41:22,600 that you know you're going to eat. 999 00:41:22,600 --> 00:41:27,760 So bring a veggie tray, bring a fruit tray, because you know that there's one thing there 1000 00:41:27,760 --> 00:41:30,600 that you will like to eat or bring your favorite wine. 1001 00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:33,480 You know that's your favorite wine. 1002 00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:39,640 More than likely it will be opened and you will be a very good guest every time you are 1003 00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:44,080 invited somewhere to mind your manners and bring something. 1004 00:41:44,080 --> 00:41:45,080 Yeah. 1005 00:41:45,080 --> 00:41:50,160 It's nice to give the host and then it's also benefiting you as well. 1006 00:41:50,160 --> 00:41:51,160 So that's a really good one. 1007 00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:52,160 I like that. 1008 00:41:52,160 --> 00:41:53,160 Thanks. 1009 00:41:53,160 --> 00:41:54,160 Mind your manners. 1010 00:41:54,160 --> 00:41:56,680 The like you have a green face. 1011 00:41:56,680 --> 00:41:58,360 You got striped stockings. 1012 00:41:58,360 --> 00:41:59,360 I just saw Wicked. 1013 00:41:59,360 --> 00:42:00,680 Trying to drop a house on you. 1014 00:42:00,680 --> 00:42:01,680 I'm in the mood. 1015 00:42:01,680 --> 00:42:02,680 What? 1016 00:42:02,680 --> 00:42:03,680 So. 1017 00:42:03,680 --> 00:42:04,680 End this. 1018 00:42:04,680 --> 00:42:05,680 End it. 1019 00:42:05,680 --> 00:42:09,520 I started it, but you know I can't finish it. 1020 00:42:09,520 --> 00:42:10,680 I can't pull the plug. 1021 00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:12,680 God, I can't pull the plug. 1022 00:42:12,680 --> 00:42:14,360 Harley, escape and disengage. 1023 00:42:14,360 --> 00:42:15,360 Oh, yes. 1024 00:42:15,360 --> 00:42:17,040 I am disengaging. 1025 00:42:17,040 --> 00:42:24,720 With all of that said, we hope you have a beautiful, grateful, truly love-centered Thanksgiving 1026 00:42:24,720 --> 00:42:29,280 season and or meal with the people in your world. 1027 00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:32,640 We really hope you feel fit to be real. 1028 00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:39,640 And always allowed to be a little extra. 1029 00:42:39,640 --> 00:42:45,520 Happy 6th, Devon. 1030 00:42:45,520 --> 00:42:48,720 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 1031 00:42:48,720 --> 00:42:50,520 educational purposes only. 1032 00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:52,720 We are not healthcare professionals. 1033 00:42:52,720 --> 00:42:56,840 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 1034 00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:58,520 professional in your life. 1035 00:42:58,520 --> 00:43:03,640 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 1036 00:43:03,640 --> 00:43:07,480 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to. 1037 00:43:07,480 --> 00:43:08,480 Okay? 1038 00:43:08,480 --> 00:43:09,480 Okay, bye. 1039 00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:28,480 Bye.