Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
Do you feel like your life is hard?
Do you feel like things could just be a little bit easier?
I do.
Well, do we have a chat for you?
Yes.
We have some tips and kind of eye-opening things
for you to realize that maybe your life actually
doesn't have to be that hard.
It doesn't, it really doesn't.
Small ways to make changes.
There's gotta be a better way.
There's always a better way.
There's always a better way and an easier way.
We just like to do things the hard way.
I'm Victoria.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
It's just so aggressive.
It's, there's no breath.
It's cause I take the breath before
and then I get it out in one.
How many times do you think we're gonna talk about this?
Every time.
It's like Groundhog's Day.
Yeah, but it's always something new that we're discovering.
All right, today we're talking about making your life easier.
But the best way I can compare this is,
you know when you're a kid and you have no responsibility
or you don't worry about anything,
you eat when you're hungry, you drink when you're thirsty,
you play when you want to, you go to bed,
not when you want to, but you sleep when you're tired.
You fall down, you get back up.
But as you get older, is this a poem?
Is this an epic poem?
I will get back up again.
That's from Trolls the movie.
Oh wow.
Yep, I had to get a song in there first thing.
You kinda ruined the poem.
I'm sorry.
It's okay.
Anyway, as an adult when you fall down,
circling back, you get back up.
It's a little harder to get back up.
And then you stop trying.
You start avoiding the things that are making you fall down.
Instead of learning from it, you just avoid it.
And I feel like I do that.
I know- You definitely do that.
Yeah, I'm an avoider.
And that's one of the things we're gonna talk about.
I am an absolute avoider.
But I think life doesn't have to be as hard as we make it.
And we don't even realize sometimes
that we're making it harder for ourselves.
Mm-hmm.
How do you feel about that?
Good.
No, I don't think you feel good about it.
No, no, no, no.
No, I agree.
I agree.
I actually like directions, same.
No, no.
Well, yes, but no.
Because what I'm thinking in my head is like,
Ikea directions.
Like, I like it laying out and going piece by piece.
Organizing the pieces, starting with step number one,
knowing what I need to grab,
because I've organized the pieces,
and then doing it from there.
Unless we're in a bind and everything's really fast
and you just have to make decisions.
But, well, that's me.
That's why I said I agree with you,
but I don't agree with you.
You don't like- No.
Like, Ikea, just build it.
Yeah. Just make it.
Yeah.
And that's, I think, your go-to for a lot.
I'm like that.
When I'm with you.
Do I rub off on you?
I'm trying to think of situations
where I haven't wanted to step by step go-through things,
and it's not in my own world.
It's only with me.
It's in your world.
And I'm like, hurry up, make it fast.
Just figure it out.
You don't need directions.
Just put it together.
I am very much like that.
Just do it.
We'll figure it out as we go.
Instead of, hey, let's take a second.
And it's funny that you brought that up
because this past weekend, life, the game of life,
is big in our house.
And now that Dean is four and he sort of gets it,
he sort of gets life.
Does he?
He gets playing.
But we were playing life this weekend.
And I was just telling Andrew,
because Andrew's like, you, he likes to read directions.
I was like, we'll just teach them as we go.
Not when it comes to games, Andrew.
I would like to just play the game.
Thank you.
Well, no, I don't.
I don't want to.
Well, now you're defeating my point.
I know, I'm sorry.
Because he was like, no, we have to say the rules
before we play life.
And I was like, no, we're going to learn as we go.
And I was like, whoa, this is deeper than it.
Did you start your doors papers?
Yeah.
And I was like, listen, this is not how I roll.
And it's taken you how long to figure this out?
16 years?
But Dean, you know, we get to the,
do you want to get married to that little square?
And he looked up and he was like, no, no, no.
And I was like, you don't want to get married.
And he's like, nope, I want to keep going.
And I was like, oh, why don't you want to get married?
Were those the two options?
Get married or like keep playing your return?
It was like, get married, keep playing.
And he was like, I want to keep playing.
And I was like, why don't you want to get married?
Like, I was like, is there something,
a four-year-old child?
Is there something I'm doing that I'm showing you
that you shouldn't get married?
He was like, I want to go.
want to go. And I was like, hmm, this would be a really interesting podcast. Now he's
four. Okay. He's a go, go, go, go, go. He's not really thinking like, oh, should I get
married? Should I stop? Should I really think about this? Like, what's the next step? But
if you haven't played life in a while, it would be really interesting to play after
you listen to this podcast. Cool. Cool. Awesome. Anyway, how to not make your life harder than
it already is, because daily life is hard, but things you are doing can be contributing
to making it harder when it doesn't have to be. So I'm going to name off some things that
you might not even realize that you do. And if you do, if you do do them, Sarah, do do.
If you do do them, don't. Is that easy to stop? Number one, we look to everyone else for the
answers only we can give ourselves, which means what success is and what looks good on you.
You are going to other people for their validation or justification instead of listening to yourself.
Yeah. Because when you're constantly looking for other people's opinion, other people's
ideas of what you should be doing or what fulfillment and success looks like to you,
you are completely taking yourself out of the situation and you're constantly floundering,
holding on, grasping at straws, basically like, what's this? What's that? And that's
that is exhausting. It's called anxious attachment. Wait for real? Yeah. You're an avoidant attachment.
But people pleasing and looking for validation because you've missed something earlier in
life. It's called anxious attachment. I didn't know that, but I don't have anxiety. Get.
What's the next one? Moving on. The next one, you let others make you feel guilty for living
your best life. That's pretty self-explanatory. You make others feel guilty. No, you let others
make you feel guilty. Gotcha. For living your best life. So you make yourself feel guilty.
Yeah. As long as you're not hurting anyone, live your best life. Don't let anybody make
you feel guilty. I feel like we need a whole episode on guilt because that is a huge one
that I feel that comes up all the time. Yeah. It's a condition that we've all been conditioned
to feel. This is my success. This is what I have achieved and I have done, but I'm not
going to talk much about it because I don't want you to feel bad. I don't want to feel
like I'm talking myself up and petting myself in the back. No, it's called confidence. It's
called being proud of something that you've done or something that you're passionate
about talking about. But we all kind of cower down and we're like, oh, no, no, no, it's
okay. It's okay. I will constantly say something to Victoria and she'll be like, and I'll say,
oh, I feel so bad. And you're like, well, you're making yourself feel that way. That
person isn't making you feel that way. That is the situation. The way you're choosing
to feel about it, that's on you. I mean, I do the same thing too. It's just easier to
yell at you. Well, it's also all of these little steps put extra steps on each situation.
That's what makes it hard. Yeah. Instead of just being in it and moving on, you're adding
all these different layers until it's getting harder and harder and harder to get out of
it. Do you know what helps though? I'm going to say it starts with Thera and ends with
P. No. I was going to think of a joke, but I couldn't come up with anything. But no,
you're wrong. Taking a minute and breathing and then deciding whatever it is. Right. But
I'm a reactive person. But you don't have to be for the rest of your life. Right. So
I'm making it harder. Because that's your choice to decide I am what I am. This is who
I am. It is what it is. You know how much trauma is locked up into that mindset? You
just take a moment and you breathe and you go, no, I'm not going to feel guilty for this.
Yeah. And then you move on. And then that like little steps like that, I guess you don't
have to take those moments so drastically to kind of center yourself and take a breath.
It'll just get easier. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because it becomes habit. Right. Right. Yeah.
I got to try that. That's really take a lot of breath for I talk to you.
I'm going to breathe a machine. Next one. You are part of the drama circle. Oh, did you
make this list about yourself? What does that mean? That means gossip. I guess. Yeah. How
would your life be different if every single day you just thought of the best in people
instead of gossiped or found yourself at the, what do they call it? The water cooler? Just
like talking about somebody or like imagine your day without that at all. Well, then you'd
have to stop scrolling and clicking on Instagram. That's true. Because I think that's the catalyst
to why I feel like that water cooler is more populated these days. Yeah. But I think it's
like a social media thing because that's all you do is you scroll, you go, oh my gosh,
have you heard about this? I mean, yes, they're celebrities. They're not in your circle, but
it's something to talk about. And I think what I'm getting at is that if we normalize
it in that way, which has been for years and years and years and years and years, and I'm
not saying this is something that can break immediately or will ever. But if we normalize
gossiping about what the media is putting out there about other people that obviously
are untouchable, that trickles into like your own little circle. Then it becomes, oh yeah,
Johnny Depp this. Oh, but guess what about, you know, Francis over there? Oh man, Francis.
Francis. Good night, Francis. Playing with all the animals. It's weird. That was a Catholic
joke. WJD. Mom would be so proud. But it's true. I think that I think that's where that
behavior gets practiced. And then you put it into your own life. And it's, well, why do
I care so much about Frankie? Yeah, Francis. Francis. I'm picking all the names. I don't
know. That Francis. But it's true. We spend so much time, and I know I have in my life,
spent so much time talking about other people. Maybe it's sometimes to make yourself feel
better, but what does it really do? It makes yourself feel worse. It's so negative. Yeah,
it's an endless cycle and an endless circle of like poor energy. And I don't mean financial.
I mean, the lowest vibrating frequency you could like live level, like your base level.
Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And I feel like we've talked about this before.
Like, if people don't support you, let it go. Let them go. Ignore it because you can't
force anybody to. So stop talking about it and just let it go. In Victoria's words,
were really some somebody else's words, I think. Let them. Yeah, definitely not mine.
There are very, very well-renowned motivational speaker and podcaster Mel Robbins. Mel Yarr,
she says, let them just let them let them be like if there's a water cooler circle walk.
Yeah, I said, water cooler, water walk away. Just just imagine how much more positive your
day will be if you just don't talk about anybody. You really ran with that. Let them
theory that I told you. She'll text me all the time. She's like, let them let her let
him like, Oh God, you're saying it all wrong, but I'm very happy that you've attached yourself
to that. Oh my God, I attached hard. Yeah, I attached
hard. You're not anxious at all. Horde, so hard. Stop making your life so hard. Okay,
moving on. I can't unsay that. Now I'm going to say it for the rest of the episode. I'm
not cutting that. I'm not making your life so hard. Oh good. Say it again. Okay, next
one. You might be making your life harder if you assign negative intent to other things.
Add to other people's actions. Now the easiest way to describe this is like, say somebody
cut you off in traffic and then your car raging. What is that called? Rage driving. Road rage.
Rage. I'm rage driving. I don't have this because I'm like a super timid driver. So I
don't ever get angry at a car cutting me off. But if I did, what you want to do is try and
take that negative energy away and putting it on somebody else and just let them. Let
them cut you off. I'm going to let you keep saying that, but I'm also, this just happened
to me. And for a second, I didn't directly go to like drive rage. What did you just call
it? Driving rage. That's a driving range. Okay, yeah, drive rage. Yeah, that thing.
But I was like frustrated and I was annoyed. I was annoyed. I think that's different than
rage. I was just like, gotta be kidding me. Yeah. This is so I'm trying to get somewhere,
right? Cause we're all just trying to get somewhere fast always fast. And I truly, I
took a second and I was like, they could be having a really rough day and they're not
paying attention and they just want to go, you know, 15 under this speed limit because
they're not paying attention or maybe someone just, you know, I went through all the things
of like their day could be going so much worse than yours. Let them have this. It's not a
big deal. Yeah. I mean, that's the point though. Like that's the point being offended on a
daily basis by people's actions that really have nothing to do with you. It's like, stop
getting so offended that that happens to me a lot. Yeah, I guess I know I get offended
and I take things so personally and then it affects me. And what you always say to me
is like, why are you letting their negativity affect you? You just have to like let it go.
Like you cannot let them affect you. But yeah, it's like being offended and it has nothing
to do with it. That's the key. It has nothing to do with you. I think it's harder to accept
that concept when it comes to like personal relationships to like to keep reminding yourself
their actions don't, you know, it doesn't matter. It's not about me. It's really hard.
And when it when it goes to a broader spectrum like driving or something like that, it's
a lot easier to be like, this is not my problem. Right. Or even something that somebody else's
story or somebody else's issue. I think that's something you do too. Where it's it's well,
yeah, we just talked about this. We just talked about me. If I'm doing something or I'm being
affected by something, you're affected by it. Right. And yes, it's funny and we talk
about it and it's like half true. But it's harder for you to detach from that to be like,
it's not my problem. Right. This is right. We'll deal with it. We'll do with this. We
just take things on that have nothing to do with us. Yeah. And that makes it a lot harder.
Yeah. Because imagine if you didn't take daily offenses by other people who don't mean to
put it on you, what if that was just washed away? How positive and like more freeing and
more light you'd feel. I would feel a lot lighter if you were different. Yeah, it's
true. It's very true. I wouldn't be so offended by everything. You think this is funny? Like
I'm laughing because it's true, but I'm also laughing because it's true. It's a double
edge sword there. It's not true. All right. Next one. You're making your life harder.
If you are worried that people will steal what you have. Did you make this list? I know.
No, I didn't. Is this about you actually done my research? Harley does this all the time.
I know. I am always worried that I worked super hard and then somebody is going to come
in and swipe it. And that interesting. And I've talked about this before about how there
is enough room for everybody at the table. There just is. And I know that, but it's hard.
It's hard. That's a hard one to swallow because you're attaching yourself so deep to whatever
you're achieving. Right. And then that's even, I think, the biggest wash over all of this
is the detachment of what we put on material things and what we put on the successes that
we go through and the grief and all the other stuff. We attach so hard to effort, to whatever
your business, your house. And if we just let that attachment die a little bit, you
wouldn't care if somebody else was going to go do the same thing that you did. No.
Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And I feel like I support the people that support me.
And I want everybody to win. But there are times when you get protective and being protective
and thinking that somebody is just going to come in and like take the rug from under you
or two different things. Well, when it's happened to you before, you go with the projected history
of what you know. So that has happened to you when it comes to see fit and teachers and
close friends. So like that's what our brains kind of go to as the default. Yeah. And I
totally agree. And if you feel, thank you, if you feel like every day is a competition,
that's a problem. If you feel like every day is a competition with yourself, that's what
you should be doing. You should always compete to be better than you were before. But when
you're competing and comparing to somebody else, that's when it becomes, you know, that's
when it becomes way harder. You can't. Yeah. If you focus on popularity rather than effectiveness.
Now this one was interesting because if sometimes you might be seeking attention rather than
respect and attention and respect are two different things. Oh, yeah. Being popular
is being liked for a while and being effective means you're making a difference. Yeah. So
that's a hard one. It's a hard one to you're not popular. Is that not popular? Just for
that word alone. I never was popular and I never. Yes, you always want to be popular,
but it wasn't something that I was like, Oh my God, I have to do what these people are
doing because I have to be popular. Like I kind of hate to tell you that you were popular.
I was not popular. Okay. That's cute. You were. I wasn't popular. You were. You were
a piece of a bunch of different groups and you were well received in each one of those
groups and that's a popular thing for a high schooler or for I mean college was a little
bit different, but you were popular. Yeah. I came to the scene into the same school as
a freshman and everyone knew me because everyone knew you, but everybody knew me because everybody
knew Billy. I'm right and you're wrong. Oh, do you want me to say you're welcome? You
were popular. You're welcome. No, I transferred. I hated it, but thank you for letting me transfer.
I guess she made a difference. She didn't want to be popular. She made a difference and she
moved. I wasn't popular. I was wearing horse shirts and chokers. We talked about this.
Yeah. Anyway, not covering up my acne. I was not popular. Don't do that. Don't be popular.
Be effective. And that goes, I mean, we just went to a high school place, but that's for
the workplace and just life in general. Who cares how popular you are in the neighborhood
of Christmas light decorating? Who cares? Yeah. Do you know what I mean? But no one's
perfect. Are you using solar lights? That's effective. Are you making a difference in
the world? Exactly. Yeah. Good one. I like that. Next one. I don't care. I don't care
if you like it. I don't care. Good. I'm happy for you. Your eyebrows say something very
different. I just got them done so they're extra like. Anyway, you might be making your
life harder if you are stuck on your mistakes. Well, yeah, I know. That's a pretty straightforward
one. Yeah. And it's really hard to not. Yeah. Don't do that. Move on. It's very hard to move
on from negative things in your life. It's like the bird that keeps banging into the
glass door over and over again, not learning to like there's a ledge. I don't talk about
whatty. I'm just saying, like when you keep making the same mistake over, like there's
another way. Find the other way and stop dwelling on your mistakes. Yeah. Isn't that Einstein?
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting like
a different result, which I guess is a little. Yeah. It's similar to what we're talking about,
but the difference is like dwelling on the fact that you're not changing, I guess. Yeah.
Which again, breeds negativity, which brings you down, which makes your life harder. It
all goes in. Yeah. Now, this next one is one of the Victoria might laugh at me for, but
this one really hit Horde. It is always thinking of worst case scenarios. This is one of my
downfalls and I tend to do this at night in bed as I'm falling asleep, thinking of all
the worst case scenarios that could have happened that day. That might happen tomorrow. Oh my
God. I know. And it keeps me from sleeping. I mean, mostly is with the kids like, you
know, in a pool. I don't know. My mind just races. Like I am a worst case scenario type
of person. I know. You don't have anxiety. You're right. I don't know what I was thinking.
It's basically your mind wrestling with events that aren't likely. I know what it is also
called anxiety, things that aren't real, that haven't happened, that you stress over. We're
moving. That's what we call a mic drop. I won't do that to all of your ears. I will
keep the mic upright. Yeah, yeah, I'm hearing you. I'm hearing it all. That's just I can't
believe you spend a bunch of energy at night doing that. I don't mean to. My mind just
goes there and I need to shut it down. You know what else I do at night? That's not a
good thing. We've talked about this a million times. I mean, I scroll right before I go
to bed. So that doesn't help. You're a troll before you go to bed. But really thinking
of the worst case scenario is like looking through a camera of doubt, fear, anxiety.
And you can decide if you want to look at it that way or if you want to look at it like
with hope and encouragement. And if you switched, you turn that light bulb on and you switched.
It would make a world of difference. It's just very hard to make that switch. Another
big one, avoid facing the truth makes your life horde. I mean, come on. There's like
she hates me. There is no really explanation for this. If you are a truth avoider that
it sits on your chest. It's a burden. What's a truth avoider? You don't want to hear about
like a specific situation or like somebody really evading the truth at all times. What
do you mean? The truth about yourself or how you go about your life and if you are just
constantly dodging those truth bombs and you are going around this way, around that way,
over the top underneath, you have to face it. So it's like if you get a performance
review from work and your boss is telling you ways that you could improve and need to
improve and how it doesn't coincide with the company, whatever. I don't know. We don't
have this at our company when there's no HR. But I feel like this is something I hear
a lot like performance reviews halfway through the quarter and then the end of it because
it's really important to keep to know what your faults are and where you can improve.
But a truth avoider would read the review and say, oh my gosh, my boss hates me. He's
wrong. I'm right. I'm doing everything opposite of what he said and dwelling on that.
Yeah, that's not true. That's not me. I'm not that when clearly this needed more dissecting
than I thought. I thought this was a no explanation one, but it looks like it needed to be explained.
I think because I don't mind the truth. So it's hard. It's hard hearing the truth when
it's about yourself. Yeah, but I don't avoid that. Yeah, yeah, no. I don't avoid that.
Yeah. Even if why are you what? You do. Oh, I'm a truth avoider. I don't mean to be.
It's just I don't mind criticism and I don't mind critique, but I don't like confrontation.
And sometimes they're not the same thing. No, they're different words. I know. I know.
I make it confrontation. Yes. No. The confrontation is in your own head. Yeah. Being being confronted
with constructive criticism is not a you don't need to go to a defense mode and decide that
it's conflict. Yeah. And if I do, you don't take criticism well. No, I do. No, you don't.
No, I do. I'm going to avoid this and move on to the next one. Okay. Do as we say, not
as we do. Last one. You might be making your life harder if you put off making decisions.
And sometimes the bad decisions are better than being indecisive because sometimes the
bad decisions. Right. Now, I'm not saying like life altering bad decisions. I'm just
saying the mistakes you might be making off these bad decisions will actually help you
in the long run and are teaching you lessons. So I'm, you know, don't go jump off a cliff
without a parachute. Please don't do that. But the bad ideas teach us lessons and no
regrets that you move on and make another one. It's better to make the mistake than
to not try at all. Oh, yeah. So it's the same thing. The decision making, just make one.
Make one. If it's wrong, it's wrong. You figure it out. You move on and you do it in a better
way, whatever you're going, you're looking for in that decision. Yeah. I think the most
annoying thing for me is the back and forth. Even just to wake up and go to yoga early
in the morning, the hour. Sometimes I spend going back and forth, going, should I set
my alarm? Should I not set my alarm? Should I set it? Should I not just make the decision
and sit in it and live with it? Yeah. You know what I mean? Like it'll take, I'll get
that hour back of my life. Like right now I'm deciding to ignore my dog's bells that
she has to go out to go to the bathroom because we're in the middle of something. That's a
decision. And I like that decision, except she's not going to let you hold off for much
longer. Let me, just let me, Pepper. Let her, let her. To quote Michael Scott to finish,
to finish this off and to wrap it all up is you miss 100% of the shots that you do not
take. So take the shots, miss them every single time you will figure out how to make it in
those misses. I'm going to, what did you call it earlier? I'm going to circle back. Yeah.
To that Mellie R, Mel Robbins. She has a theory. It's called the five second rule. So like
getting out of bed in the morning, count down from five, five, four, three, two, one, get
yourself out of bed because there's no decision making. You count down from five, you do it
and then it's done. Yeah. She does that to get herself to the gym. She does that to make
a decision about something. It eliminates that back and forth and then nine times out
of 10 when you're going back and forth about making a decision on something, whether it's
really small or whether it's really big, you end up either overthinking and making the
wrong decision because you're just thinking too hard or you don't make any decision and
you procrastinate for however long and now it's worse when you actually have to get to
that decision. So if you count down from five, make it, go with it and then go from there.
Yeah. That's such a good, that's such a good idea. So those are just some realizations
that you might not have noticed that are making your life harder. We're going to talk about
easy tips to help you make your life less hard. Okay. Delegate more. Do it one thing
at a time. Leave extra time to get somewhere. Do activities that ground you or that you
enjoy. What does that mean, Carly? It means do things that you enjoy. Moving on. Make
annoying parts of your day more positive. Okay. For lack of a better word. Cool. Cool.
Understand your energy levels. So that means if you're a morning person, try and do your
harder things in the morning when you have more energy. If you're a nighttime person,
go ahead and work out at night when you have more energy. This, not just for working out
for anything, but recognize when you have the most energy and do those harder things
then. Walk and move slower. Remember to play. Yeah. You're a 30 year old someone. You can
go on the playground and just sit on the swing. Like you're loud. Yeah. And that's a fun
thing to do. Playing, having more fun. Everything doesn't have to be so serious. Break out the
game of life. Play it. We're going to play a game in the theme of how life is way too
hard and the game is has nothing to do with what we're talking about. Sweet. It's fun.
It's frivolous. It means nothing. And that's what we all need a little bit more of. I think
so. Also, Carly put me in charge of the game and I have no idea what I'm doing. So it's
called You Think You Know, But You Have No Idea. This is the each who Hollywood story
of Carly's brain. It's a true and false game of random. I found a site of the most random
facts. You can get a license to legally hunt unicorns in Michigan. 100% true. True. Chewing
gum can boost concentration. False. True. A regular internet user has three social media
accounts. Oh, that is, I want to say false. I feel like they have more. Yeah, false 7.6.
Oh, yeah. Love the point six. Yeah, like a half a Facebook. It's like when you're not
really invested, but you have an account. Laughing 100 times. Not sure how you were calculating
100 left. So like hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot. Provides the equivalent of 15 minutes
of exercise on a stationary bike. Stop. If this is true, I'm doing it. True. Yeah, true.
Stop. No, I'm working out. I'm working out. That's not a laugh.
One, two, three. Wow, I should be emaciated. It burns more calories the higher you go to.
Did we just lose all of you? Let's stay on this one. I like this. YouTube was founded
on Valentine's Day. True. Yeah, true. That's weird. The ostrich has the largest eyes in
the world. In the world? No, that's false. Do you know what it is? Hippos. A giant squid.
Oh. Milk is 87% water. Like cow's milk? True. True. Yeah. A group of jellyfish is called
a smack. I hope this is true. It is true. Yeah. A smack of jellyfish. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Give me that smack of jellyfish. Why do you need so many jellyfish? Elephants are the
only mammal that can't jump. Oh, true. Yeah. That's why I like them because they can't
jump. I like jumping either. White man can't jump. Elephants can't jump. No. That's false.
White man can't jump. White men are a mammal. I'm moving on from this. I'm making that
decision to move on from this. Goldfish have a three second memory span. No, that's false.
It is false. Several months. Okay. The Mona Lisa has no eyebrows. No, I think she's got
like thin 90s eyebrows. She's got like the thin drawn on 90s. What does she have? Right.
True. She doesn't have any eyebrows. True. The black box in a plane is black. No, it's
like orange. Correct. Really? The answer is false. Orange. Yeah. I read it. You know,
I do a lot of pot. True crime. You do a lot of pot. Are you doing it right now? The name
burrito means little donkey. I really hope this is true. It is. I'm going to be like,
hey kids, you guys want a little donkey for dinner? 50% of taste is determined by smell.
Oh, true. False. Oh yeah. 80%. Oh, the sticker on fruits is edible. No, that is false. True.
It's true. The modern image of Santa Claus was created by the Coca-Cola company. Oh,
true. It's on every bottle. That's 100% true. That is true. 100%. The word which comes from
an old English word, which was spelled W I C C E. That means wise woman. Clearly that's
true. True. And I said that because I'm a witch. Last one. You got 99 problems, but
a witching one. That is so true. Guess what? What? You won the game of nothing. I won the
game of life. The words don't matter and all the points don't mean anything either. Love
that game. Whose line is that anyway? There's one way to find some more joy in your life
that is costless and honest to goodness. So much fun to still watch. I just put it on
the other night and I was like, Oh my gosh, number one, they're brilliant. And number
two, I'm laughing out loud by myself on this couch. Yeah, it's one of the best shows. And
the points don't matter. And the points don't matter. Just like life. The points do not
matter. You do your life the way you want to do it. Stop making it so damn hard. And
God, you really have to stop saying it like that. Like it's okay, acceptable and normal.
Well, your real tip of the day is to listen back and take one of these realizations, any
of them, one of them that is the hardest for you. No, say it to grasp that is the hardest
for you to grasp. Do your best to start making small changes to adapt that realization into
something a little bit easier for yourself in your life. But you got to pick the one
that that is like, I can't do that. You pick that one and then go from there. Alright,
now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called easy peasy lemon squeezy. What does
easy peasy lemon squeezy mean? Bake a lemon cake. I want you grab the kids, grab your
husband, grab your wife, anybody grab a friend, bake a cake. What do you have to do when you
bake? You have to zone out and you have to look at the directions. You need to follow
the directions step by step and you don't have to think of anything else in that time
frame. Why a lemon cake? Because it soothes anxiety. It improves mental awareness and
it's an endorphin stimulator. And we all know endorphins make people happy and happy people
just don't kill their husbands. So grab that lemon cake recipe, take 40 minutes out of
your week and enjoy zoning out, baking, following directions and do something for you. One,
I have to tell you that she's quoting Lili Blahn about killing her husband. So when something
happens and true crime comes, don't listen back and say that Carly did it. Second, I
made that face when you said easy peasy lemon squeezy because that was the original crossed
out name of my game. Stop it. Yeah. And I had a whole thing about lemons, I was gonna
say. No way. Yes. Why didn't you say it? I just switched it because I was like, she's
gonna make fun of me for saying easy peasy. Why do you care? Why do you care? Well, also
didn't make sense. It didn't make sense to my game. But I did a whole thing. It's just
so weird. I know. We think the same. It's very weird. Stop saying that to try to make
it real. No, I'm trying to make it real extra. Well, I do want to leave you with a quote
from a very, very famous person. His name is Ferris Bueller. And he said, life moves
pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. It does.
Life moves pretty fast. You got to slow down a little bit and stop making things so damn
hard. So per usual, with all of that said, we hope you make lemon pie, lemon cake, lemonade
out of lemons. And I hope you remember that you are always fit to be real and always allowed
to be a little extra. And now I will let the dog out. Thank God. Pepper. That was so hard.
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