1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,000 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:05,080 --> 00:00:07,840 Do you feel like your life is hard? 3 00:00:07,840 --> 00:00:11,420 Do you feel like things could just be a little bit easier? 4 00:00:11,420 --> 00:00:13,040 I do. 5 00:00:13,040 --> 00:00:15,560 Well, do we have a chat for you? 6 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:16,400 Yes. 7 00:00:18,440 --> 00:00:23,440 We have some tips and kind of eye-opening things 8 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:27,240 for you to realize that maybe your life actually 9 00:00:27,240 --> 00:00:28,760 doesn't have to be that hard. 10 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:29,960 It doesn't, it really doesn't. 11 00:00:29,960 --> 00:00:32,400 Small ways to make changes. 12 00:00:32,400 --> 00:00:34,400 There's gotta be a better way. 13 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:35,840 There's always a better way. 14 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:38,480 There's always a better way and an easier way. 15 00:00:38,480 --> 00:00:41,080 We just like to do things the hard way. 16 00:00:48,560 --> 00:00:49,520 I'm Victoria. 17 00:00:49,520 --> 00:00:51,600 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 18 00:00:51,600 --> 00:00:53,360 It's just so aggressive. 19 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,400 It's, there's no breath. 20 00:00:56,400 --> 00:00:58,600 It's cause I take the breath before 21 00:00:58,600 --> 00:01:00,600 and then I get it out in one. 22 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:02,960 How many times do you think we're gonna talk about this? 23 00:01:02,960 --> 00:01:04,640 Every time. 24 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:05,800 It's like Groundhog's Day. 25 00:01:05,800 --> 00:01:08,800 Yeah, but it's always something new that we're discovering. 26 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:14,480 All right, today we're talking about making your life easier. 27 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:17,520 But the best way I can compare this is, 28 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:22,640 you know when you're a kid and you have no responsibility 29 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:24,240 or you don't worry about anything, 30 00:01:24,240 --> 00:01:27,360 you eat when you're hungry, you drink when you're thirsty, 31 00:01:27,360 --> 00:01:29,760 you play when you want to, you go to bed, 32 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:32,520 not when you want to, but you sleep when you're tired. 33 00:01:32,520 --> 00:01:34,320 You fall down, you get back up. 34 00:01:34,320 --> 00:01:36,600 But as you get older, is this a poem? 35 00:01:38,080 --> 00:01:40,200 Is this an epic poem? 36 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:43,360 I will get back up again. 37 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:44,680 That's from Trolls the movie. 38 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:45,520 Oh wow. 39 00:01:45,520 --> 00:01:47,360 Yep, I had to get a song in there first thing. 40 00:01:47,360 --> 00:01:48,200 You kinda ruined the poem. 41 00:01:48,200 --> 00:01:49,040 I'm sorry. 42 00:01:49,040 --> 00:01:50,160 It's okay. 43 00:01:50,160 --> 00:01:53,400 Anyway, as an adult when you fall down, 44 00:01:53,400 --> 00:01:55,920 circling back, you get back up. 45 00:01:55,920 --> 00:01:58,240 It's a little harder to get back up. 46 00:01:58,240 --> 00:01:59,520 And then you stop trying. 47 00:01:59,520 --> 00:02:02,360 You start avoiding the things that are making you fall down. 48 00:02:02,360 --> 00:02:05,480 Instead of learning from it, you just avoid it. 49 00:02:05,480 --> 00:02:07,840 And I feel like I do that. 50 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:09,120 I know- You definitely do that. 51 00:02:09,120 --> 00:02:10,200 Yeah, I'm an avoider. 52 00:02:10,200 --> 00:02:11,640 And that's one of the things we're gonna talk about. 53 00:02:11,640 --> 00:02:12,880 I am an absolute avoider. 54 00:02:12,880 --> 00:02:16,640 But I think life doesn't have to be as hard as we make it. 55 00:02:16,640 --> 00:02:20,320 And we don't even realize sometimes 56 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:22,320 that we're making it harder for ourselves. 57 00:02:22,320 --> 00:02:24,160 Mm-hmm. 58 00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:25,760 How do you feel about that? 59 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:28,600 Good. 60 00:02:28,600 --> 00:02:32,000 No, I don't think you feel good about it. 61 00:02:32,000 --> 00:02:33,120 No, no, no, no. 62 00:02:33,120 --> 00:02:34,760 No, I agree. 63 00:02:34,760 --> 00:02:35,600 I agree. 64 00:02:35,600 --> 00:02:39,800 I actually like directions, same. 65 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:41,320 No, no. 66 00:02:41,320 --> 00:02:43,000 Well, yes, but no. 67 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:44,800 Because what I'm thinking in my head is like, 68 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:46,360 Ikea directions. 69 00:02:46,360 --> 00:02:51,600 Like, I like it laying out and going piece by piece. 70 00:02:51,600 --> 00:02:55,000 Organizing the pieces, starting with step number one, 71 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:56,960 knowing what I need to grab, 72 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:58,520 because I've organized the pieces, 73 00:02:58,520 --> 00:03:01,200 and then doing it from there. 74 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:03,960 Unless we're in a bind and everything's really fast 75 00:03:03,960 --> 00:03:05,000 and you just have to make decisions. 76 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:07,240 But, well, that's me. 77 00:03:07,240 --> 00:03:09,600 That's why I said I agree with you, 78 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:10,440 but I don't agree with you. 79 00:03:10,440 --> 00:03:11,440 You don't like- No. 80 00:03:11,440 --> 00:03:12,920 Like, Ikea, just build it. 81 00:03:12,920 --> 00:03:13,760 Yeah. Just make it. 82 00:03:13,760 --> 00:03:14,600 Yeah. 83 00:03:14,600 --> 00:03:17,760 And that's, I think, your go-to for a lot. 84 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:19,080 I'm like that. 85 00:03:19,080 --> 00:03:20,400 When I'm with you. 86 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:22,760 Do I rub off on you? 87 00:03:22,760 --> 00:03:24,040 I'm trying to think of situations 88 00:03:24,040 --> 00:03:26,400 where I haven't wanted to step by step go-through things, 89 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,760 and it's not in my own world. 90 00:03:28,760 --> 00:03:29,600 It's only with me. 91 00:03:29,600 --> 00:03:30,560 It's in your world. 92 00:03:30,560 --> 00:03:32,680 And I'm like, hurry up, make it fast. 93 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:33,520 Just figure it out. 94 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:34,360 You don't need directions. 95 00:03:34,360 --> 00:03:35,800 Just put it together. 96 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:37,880 I am very much like that. 97 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:38,720 Just do it. 98 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:40,040 We'll figure it out as we go. 99 00:03:40,040 --> 00:03:43,280 Instead of, hey, let's take a second. 100 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:45,720 And it's funny that you brought that up 101 00:03:45,720 --> 00:03:49,640 because this past weekend, life, the game of life, 102 00:03:49,640 --> 00:03:50,480 is big in our house. 103 00:03:50,480 --> 00:03:54,200 And now that Dean is four and he sort of gets it, 104 00:03:54,200 --> 00:03:55,320 he sort of gets life. 105 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:56,640 Does he? 106 00:03:56,640 --> 00:03:58,000 He gets playing. 107 00:03:58,000 --> 00:04:00,880 But we were playing life this weekend. 108 00:04:00,880 --> 00:04:03,680 And I was just telling Andrew, 109 00:04:03,680 --> 00:04:06,000 because Andrew's like, you, he likes to read directions. 110 00:04:06,000 --> 00:04:07,960 I was like, we'll just teach them as we go. 111 00:04:07,960 --> 00:04:09,520 Not when it comes to games, Andrew. 112 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:10,840 I would like to just play the game. 113 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:11,680 Thank you. 114 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:12,680 Well, no, I don't. 115 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:13,520 I don't want to. 116 00:04:13,520 --> 00:04:14,360 I don't want to. 117 00:04:14,360 --> 00:04:17,000 Well, now you're defeating my point. 118 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:18,320 I know, I'm sorry. 119 00:04:18,320 --> 00:04:21,600 Because he was like, no, we have to say the rules 120 00:04:21,600 --> 00:04:23,920 before we play life. 121 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,240 And I was like, no, we're going to learn as we go. 122 00:04:26,240 --> 00:04:29,360 And I was like, whoa, this is deeper than it. 123 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:30,800 Did you start your doors papers? 124 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:31,240 Yeah. 125 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:34,560 And I was like, listen, this is not how I roll. 126 00:04:34,560 --> 00:04:36,640 And it's taken you how long to figure this out? 127 00:04:36,640 --> 00:04:38,600 16 years? 128 00:04:38,600 --> 00:04:40,440 But Dean, you know, we get to the, 129 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:43,800 do you want to get married to that little square? 130 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:46,880 And he looked up and he was like, no, no, no. 131 00:04:46,880 --> 00:04:48,480 And I was like, you don't want to get married. 132 00:04:48,480 --> 00:04:51,400 And he's like, nope, I want to keep going. 133 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:54,920 And I was like, oh, why don't you want to get married? 134 00:04:54,920 --> 00:04:56,160 Were those the two options? 135 00:04:56,160 --> 00:04:58,360 Get married or like keep playing your return? 136 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,800 It was like, get married, keep playing. 137 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:02,280 And he was like, I want to keep playing. 138 00:05:02,280 --> 00:05:05,400 And I was like, why don't you want to get married? 139 00:05:05,400 --> 00:05:06,640 Like, I was like, is there something, 140 00:05:06,640 --> 00:05:07,920 a four-year-old child? 141 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:10,240 Is there something I'm doing that I'm showing you 142 00:05:10,240 --> 00:05:11,440 that you shouldn't get married? 143 00:05:11,440 --> 00:05:12,440 He was like, I want to go. 144 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:18,040 want to go. And I was like, hmm, this would be a really interesting podcast. Now he's 145 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:24,480 four. Okay. He's a go, go, go, go, go. He's not really thinking like, oh, should I get 146 00:05:24,480 --> 00:05:29,040 married? Should I stop? Should I really think about this? Like, what's the next step? But 147 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:36,000 if you haven't played life in a while, it would be really interesting to play after 148 00:05:36,000 --> 00:05:45,120 you listen to this podcast. Cool. Cool. Awesome. Anyway, how to not make your life harder than 149 00:05:45,120 --> 00:05:52,640 it already is, because daily life is hard, but things you are doing can be contributing 150 00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:56,280 to making it harder when it doesn't have to be. So I'm going to name off some things that 151 00:05:56,280 --> 00:06:04,400 you might not even realize that you do. And if you do, if you do do them, Sarah, do do. 152 00:06:04,400 --> 00:06:15,520 If you do do them, don't. Is that easy to stop? Number one, we look to everyone else for the 153 00:06:15,520 --> 00:06:23,440 answers only we can give ourselves, which means what success is and what looks good on you. 154 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:30,560 You are going to other people for their validation or justification instead of listening to yourself. 155 00:06:30,560 --> 00:06:35,400 Yeah. Because when you're constantly looking for other people's opinion, other people's 156 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:41,120 ideas of what you should be doing or what fulfillment and success looks like to you, 157 00:06:41,120 --> 00:06:45,880 you are completely taking yourself out of the situation and you're constantly floundering, 158 00:06:45,880 --> 00:06:51,200 holding on, grasping at straws, basically like, what's this? What's that? And that's 159 00:06:51,200 --> 00:06:59,880 that is exhausting. It's called anxious attachment. Wait for real? Yeah. You're an avoidant attachment. 160 00:06:59,880 --> 00:07:04,280 But people pleasing and looking for validation because you've missed something earlier in 161 00:07:04,280 --> 00:07:10,440 life. It's called anxious attachment. I didn't know that, but I don't have anxiety. Get. 162 00:07:10,440 --> 00:07:18,200 What's the next one? Moving on. The next one, you let others make you feel guilty for living 163 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:26,520 your best life. That's pretty self-explanatory. You make others feel guilty. No, you let others 164 00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:31,720 make you feel guilty. Gotcha. For living your best life. So you make yourself feel guilty. 165 00:07:31,720 --> 00:07:37,320 Yeah. As long as you're not hurting anyone, live your best life. Don't let anybody make 166 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:43,480 you feel guilty. I feel like we need a whole episode on guilt because that is a huge one 167 00:07:43,480 --> 00:07:48,800 that I feel that comes up all the time. Yeah. It's a condition that we've all been conditioned 168 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:55,400 to feel. This is my success. This is what I have achieved and I have done, but I'm not 169 00:07:55,400 --> 00:07:59,080 going to talk much about it because I don't want you to feel bad. I don't want to feel 170 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:03,160 like I'm talking myself up and petting myself in the back. No, it's called confidence. It's 171 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:08,560 called being proud of something that you've done or something that you're passionate 172 00:08:08,560 --> 00:08:12,760 about talking about. But we all kind of cower down and we're like, oh, no, no, no, it's 173 00:08:12,760 --> 00:08:18,080 okay. It's okay. I will constantly say something to Victoria and she'll be like, and I'll say, 174 00:08:18,080 --> 00:08:22,360 oh, I feel so bad. And you're like, well, you're making yourself feel that way. That 175 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:26,960 person isn't making you feel that way. That is the situation. The way you're choosing 176 00:08:26,960 --> 00:08:31,720 to feel about it, that's on you. I mean, I do the same thing too. It's just easier to 177 00:08:31,720 --> 00:08:42,360 yell at you. Well, it's also all of these little steps put extra steps on each situation. 178 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:47,760 That's what makes it hard. Yeah. Instead of just being in it and moving on, you're adding 179 00:08:47,760 --> 00:08:52,080 all these different layers until it's getting harder and harder and harder to get out of 180 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:56,200 it. Do you know what helps though? I'm going to say it starts with Thera and ends with 181 00:08:56,200 --> 00:09:02,400 P. No. I was going to think of a joke, but I couldn't come up with anything. But no, 182 00:09:02,400 --> 00:09:10,520 you're wrong. Taking a minute and breathing and then deciding whatever it is. Right. But 183 00:09:10,520 --> 00:09:15,040 I'm a reactive person. But you don't have to be for the rest of your life. Right. So 184 00:09:15,040 --> 00:09:18,600 I'm making it harder. Because that's your choice to decide I am what I am. This is who 185 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:23,760 I am. It is what it is. You know how much trauma is locked up into that mindset? You 186 00:09:23,760 --> 00:09:29,000 just take a moment and you breathe and you go, no, I'm not going to feel guilty for this. 187 00:09:29,000 --> 00:09:32,520 Yeah. And then you move on. And then that like little steps like that, I guess you don't 188 00:09:32,520 --> 00:09:37,480 have to take those moments so drastically to kind of center yourself and take a breath. 189 00:09:37,480 --> 00:09:42,200 It'll just get easier. Yeah. Right. Yeah. Because it becomes habit. Right. Right. Yeah. 190 00:09:42,200 --> 00:09:46,840 I got to try that. That's really take a lot of breath for I talk to you. 191 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:59,000 I'm going to breathe a machine. Next one. You are part of the drama circle. Oh, did you 192 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:07,440 make this list about yourself? What does that mean? That means gossip. I guess. Yeah. How 193 00:10:07,440 --> 00:10:12,800 would your life be different if every single day you just thought of the best in people 194 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:19,320 instead of gossiped or found yourself at the, what do they call it? The water cooler? Just 195 00:10:19,320 --> 00:10:26,600 like talking about somebody or like imagine your day without that at all. Well, then you'd 196 00:10:26,600 --> 00:10:32,920 have to stop scrolling and clicking on Instagram. That's true. Because I think that's the catalyst 197 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:39,480 to why I feel like that water cooler is more populated these days. Yeah. But I think it's 198 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:44,600 like a social media thing because that's all you do is you scroll, you go, oh my gosh, 199 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:49,320 have you heard about this? I mean, yes, they're celebrities. They're not in your circle, but 200 00:10:49,320 --> 00:10:55,000 it's something to talk about. And I think what I'm getting at is that if we normalize 201 00:10:55,000 --> 00:10:58,920 it in that way, which has been for years and years and years and years and years, and I'm 202 00:10:58,920 --> 00:11:03,480 not saying this is something that can break immediately or will ever. But if we normalize 203 00:11:03,480 --> 00:11:08,200 gossiping about what the media is putting out there about other people that obviously 204 00:11:08,200 --> 00:11:14,920 are untouchable, that trickles into like your own little circle. Then it becomes, oh yeah, 205 00:11:14,920 --> 00:11:19,280 Johnny Depp this. Oh, but guess what about, you know, Francis over there? Oh man, Francis. 206 00:11:19,280 --> 00:11:24,280 Francis. Good night, Francis. Playing with all the animals. It's weird. That was a Catholic 207 00:11:24,280 --> 00:11:33,000 joke. WJD. Mom would be so proud. But it's true. I think that I think that's where that 208 00:11:33,000 --> 00:11:38,840 behavior gets practiced. And then you put it into your own life. And it's, well, why do 209 00:11:38,840 --> 00:11:46,200 I care so much about Frankie? Yeah, Francis. Francis. I'm picking all the names. I don't 210 00:11:46,200 --> 00:11:54,880 know. That Francis. But it's true. We spend so much time, and I know I have in my life, 211 00:11:54,880 --> 00:11:59,320 spent so much time talking about other people. Maybe it's sometimes to make yourself feel 212 00:11:59,320 --> 00:12:04,880 better, but what does it really do? It makes yourself feel worse. It's so negative. Yeah, 213 00:12:04,880 --> 00:12:11,280 it's an endless cycle and an endless circle of like poor energy. And I don't mean financial. 214 00:12:11,280 --> 00:12:17,520 I mean, the lowest vibrating frequency you could like live level, like your base level. 215 00:12:17,520 --> 00:12:20,920 Yeah. Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And I feel like we've talked about this before. 216 00:12:20,920 --> 00:12:26,160 Like, if people don't support you, let it go. Let them go. Ignore it because you can't 217 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:32,320 force anybody to. So stop talking about it and just let it go. In Victoria's words, 218 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:38,040 were really some somebody else's words, I think. Let them. Yeah, definitely not mine. 219 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:45,640 There are very, very well-renowned motivational speaker and podcaster Mel Robbins. Mel Yarr, 220 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:52,880 she says, let them just let them let them be like if there's a water cooler circle walk. 221 00:12:52,880 --> 00:13:00,480 Yeah, I said, water cooler, water walk away. Just just imagine how much more positive your 222 00:13:00,480 --> 00:13:05,400 day will be if you just don't talk about anybody. You really ran with that. Let them 223 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:10,400 theory that I told you. She'll text me all the time. She's like, let them let her let 224 00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:14,880 him like, Oh God, you're saying it all wrong, but I'm very happy that you've attached yourself 225 00:13:14,880 --> 00:13:17,920 to that. Oh my God, I attached hard. Yeah, I attached 226 00:13:17,920 --> 00:13:26,880 hard. You're not anxious at all. Horde, so hard. Stop making your life so hard. Okay, 227 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:33,320 moving on. I can't unsay that. Now I'm going to say it for the rest of the episode. I'm 228 00:13:33,320 --> 00:13:39,520 not cutting that. I'm not making your life so hard. Oh good. Say it again. Okay, next 229 00:13:39,520 --> 00:13:47,520 one. You might be making your life harder if you assign negative intent to other things. 230 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:53,080 Add to other people's actions. Now the easiest way to describe this is like, say somebody 231 00:13:53,080 --> 00:14:01,800 cut you off in traffic and then your car raging. What is that called? Rage driving. Road rage. 232 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:06,800 Rage. I'm rage driving. I don't have this because I'm like a super timid driver. So I 233 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:13,600 don't ever get angry at a car cutting me off. But if I did, what you want to do is try and 234 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:19,600 take that negative energy away and putting it on somebody else and just let them. Let 235 00:14:19,600 --> 00:14:25,920 them cut you off. I'm going to let you keep saying that, but I'm also, this just happened 236 00:14:25,920 --> 00:14:34,080 to me. And for a second, I didn't directly go to like drive rage. What did you just call 237 00:14:34,080 --> 00:14:40,480 it? Driving rage. That's a driving range. Okay, yeah, drive rage. Yeah, that thing. 238 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:44,720 But I was like frustrated and I was annoyed. I was annoyed. I think that's different than 239 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:49,400 rage. I was just like, gotta be kidding me. Yeah. This is so I'm trying to get somewhere, 240 00:14:49,400 --> 00:14:55,800 right? Cause we're all just trying to get somewhere fast always fast. And I truly, I 241 00:14:55,800 --> 00:15:00,000 took a second and I was like, they could be having a really rough day and they're not 242 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:04,560 paying attention and they just want to go, you know, 15 under this speed limit because 243 00:15:04,560 --> 00:15:07,720 they're not paying attention or maybe someone just, you know, I went through all the things 244 00:15:07,720 --> 00:15:12,560 of like their day could be going so much worse than yours. Let them have this. It's not a 245 00:15:12,560 --> 00:15:17,640 big deal. Yeah. I mean, that's the point though. Like that's the point being offended on a 246 00:15:17,640 --> 00:15:23,120 daily basis by people's actions that really have nothing to do with you. It's like, stop 247 00:15:23,120 --> 00:15:29,480 getting so offended that that happens to me a lot. Yeah, I guess I know I get offended 248 00:15:29,480 --> 00:15:34,720 and I take things so personally and then it affects me. And what you always say to me 249 00:15:34,720 --> 00:15:39,000 is like, why are you letting their negativity affect you? You just have to like let it go. 250 00:15:39,000 --> 00:15:45,480 Like you cannot let them affect you. But yeah, it's like being offended and it has nothing 251 00:15:45,480 --> 00:15:51,760 to do with it. That's the key. It has nothing to do with you. I think it's harder to accept 252 00:15:51,760 --> 00:15:56,680 that concept when it comes to like personal relationships to like to keep reminding yourself 253 00:15:56,680 --> 00:16:00,480 their actions don't, you know, it doesn't matter. It's not about me. It's really hard. 254 00:16:00,480 --> 00:16:05,000 And when it when it goes to a broader spectrum like driving or something like that, it's 255 00:16:05,000 --> 00:16:10,360 a lot easier to be like, this is not my problem. Right. Or even something that somebody else's 256 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:16,760 story or somebody else's issue. I think that's something you do too. Where it's it's well, 257 00:16:16,760 --> 00:16:21,520 yeah, we just talked about this. We just talked about me. If I'm doing something or I'm being 258 00:16:21,520 --> 00:16:25,520 affected by something, you're affected by it. Right. And yes, it's funny and we talk 259 00:16:25,520 --> 00:16:31,080 about it and it's like half true. But it's harder for you to detach from that to be like, 260 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:34,800 it's not my problem. Right. This is right. We'll deal with it. We'll do with this. We 261 00:16:34,800 --> 00:16:40,720 just take things on that have nothing to do with us. Yeah. And that makes it a lot harder. 262 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:46,400 Yeah. Because imagine if you didn't take daily offenses by other people who don't mean to 263 00:16:46,400 --> 00:16:51,880 put it on you, what if that was just washed away? How positive and like more freeing and 264 00:16:51,880 --> 00:16:56,320 more light you'd feel. I would feel a lot lighter if you were different. Yeah, it's 265 00:16:56,320 --> 00:17:01,720 true. It's very true. I wouldn't be so offended by everything. You think this is funny? Like 266 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:07,040 I'm laughing because it's true, but I'm also laughing because it's true. It's a double 267 00:17:07,040 --> 00:17:13,080 edge sword there. It's not true. All right. Next one. You're making your life harder. 268 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:17,720 If you are worried that people will steal what you have. Did you make this list? I know. 269 00:17:17,720 --> 00:17:22,680 No, I didn't. Is this about you actually done my research? Harley does this all the time. 270 00:17:22,680 --> 00:17:27,640 I know. I am always worried that I worked super hard and then somebody is going to come 271 00:17:27,640 --> 00:17:32,120 in and swipe it. And that interesting. And I've talked about this before about how there 272 00:17:32,120 --> 00:17:38,760 is enough room for everybody at the table. There just is. And I know that, but it's hard. 273 00:17:38,760 --> 00:17:45,360 It's hard. That's a hard one to swallow because you're attaching yourself so deep to whatever 274 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:50,360 you're achieving. Right. And then that's even, I think, the biggest wash over all of this 275 00:17:50,360 --> 00:17:55,360 is the detachment of what we put on material things and what we put on the successes that 276 00:17:55,360 --> 00:18:03,000 we go through and the grief and all the other stuff. We attach so hard to effort, to whatever 277 00:18:03,000 --> 00:18:10,360 your business, your house. And if we just let that attachment die a little bit, you 278 00:18:10,360 --> 00:18:13,560 wouldn't care if somebody else was going to go do the same thing that you did. No. 279 00:18:13,560 --> 00:18:21,160 Do you know what I mean? Yeah. And I feel like I support the people that support me. 280 00:18:21,160 --> 00:18:28,520 And I want everybody to win. But there are times when you get protective and being protective 281 00:18:28,520 --> 00:18:32,000 and thinking that somebody is just going to come in and like take the rug from under you 282 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:37,160 or two different things. Well, when it's happened to you before, you go with the projected history 283 00:18:37,160 --> 00:18:43,720 of what you know. So that has happened to you when it comes to see fit and teachers and 284 00:18:43,720 --> 00:18:49,640 close friends. So like that's what our brains kind of go to as the default. Yeah. And I 285 00:18:49,640 --> 00:18:57,040 totally agree. And if you feel, thank you, if you feel like every day is a competition, 286 00:18:57,040 --> 00:19:01,080 that's a problem. If you feel like every day is a competition with yourself, that's what 287 00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:06,880 you should be doing. You should always compete to be better than you were before. But when 288 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:11,800 you're competing and comparing to somebody else, that's when it becomes, you know, that's 289 00:19:11,800 --> 00:19:19,400 when it becomes way harder. You can't. Yeah. If you focus on popularity rather than effectiveness. 290 00:19:19,400 --> 00:19:24,240 Now this one was interesting because if sometimes you might be seeking attention rather than 291 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:30,840 respect and attention and respect are two different things. Oh, yeah. Being popular 292 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:36,720 is being liked for a while and being effective means you're making a difference. Yeah. So 293 00:19:36,720 --> 00:19:43,240 that's a hard one. It's a hard one to you're not popular. Is that not popular? Just for 294 00:19:43,240 --> 00:19:52,320 that word alone. I never was popular and I never. Yes, you always want to be popular, 295 00:19:52,320 --> 00:19:56,800 but it wasn't something that I was like, Oh my God, I have to do what these people are 296 00:19:56,800 --> 00:20:00,720 doing because I have to be popular. Like I kind of hate to tell you that you were popular. 297 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:06,400 I was not popular. Okay. That's cute. You were. I wasn't popular. You were. You were 298 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:11,920 a piece of a bunch of different groups and you were well received in each one of those 299 00:20:11,920 --> 00:20:19,200 groups and that's a popular thing for a high schooler or for I mean college was a little 300 00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:25,640 bit different, but you were popular. Yeah. I came to the scene into the same school as 301 00:20:25,640 --> 00:20:30,400 a freshman and everyone knew me because everyone knew you, but everybody knew me because everybody 302 00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:34,480 knew Billy. I'm right and you're wrong. Oh, do you want me to say you're welcome? You 303 00:20:34,480 --> 00:20:41,360 were popular. You're welcome. No, I transferred. I hated it, but thank you for letting me transfer. 304 00:20:41,360 --> 00:20:49,200 I guess she made a difference. She didn't want to be popular. She made a difference and she 305 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:55,200 moved. I wasn't popular. I was wearing horse shirts and chokers. We talked about this. 306 00:20:55,200 --> 00:21:01,160 Yeah. Anyway, not covering up my acne. I was not popular. Don't do that. Don't be popular. 307 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:06,720 Be effective. And that goes, I mean, we just went to a high school place, but that's for 308 00:21:06,720 --> 00:21:12,760 the workplace and just life in general. Who cares how popular you are in the neighborhood 309 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:18,400 of Christmas light decorating? Who cares? Yeah. Do you know what I mean? But no one's 310 00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:23,960 perfect. Are you using solar lights? That's effective. Are you making a difference in 311 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:29,520 the world? Exactly. Yeah. Good one. I like that. Next one. I don't care. I don't care 312 00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:35,360 if you like it. I don't care. Good. I'm happy for you. Your eyebrows say something very 313 00:21:35,360 --> 00:21:42,440 different. I just got them done so they're extra like. Anyway, you might be making your 314 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:48,080 life harder if you are stuck on your mistakes. Well, yeah, I know. That's a pretty straightforward 315 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:52,920 one. Yeah. And it's really hard to not. Yeah. Don't do that. Move on. It's very hard to move 316 00:21:52,920 --> 00:21:58,920 on from negative things in your life. It's like the bird that keeps banging into the 317 00:21:58,920 --> 00:22:04,320 glass door over and over again, not learning to like there's a ledge. I don't talk about 318 00:22:04,320 --> 00:22:11,480 whatty. I'm just saying, like when you keep making the same mistake over, like there's 319 00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:19,040 another way. Find the other way and stop dwelling on your mistakes. Yeah. Isn't that Einstein? 320 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:24,640 The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting like 321 00:22:24,640 --> 00:22:29,240 a different result, which I guess is a little. Yeah. It's similar to what we're talking about, 322 00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:32,960 but the difference is like dwelling on the fact that you're not changing, I guess. Yeah. 323 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:38,680 Which again, breeds negativity, which brings you down, which makes your life harder. It 324 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:44,480 all goes in. Yeah. Now, this next one is one of the Victoria might laugh at me for, but 325 00:22:44,480 --> 00:22:52,520 this one really hit Horde. It is always thinking of worst case scenarios. This is one of my 326 00:22:52,520 --> 00:23:00,120 downfalls and I tend to do this at night in bed as I'm falling asleep, thinking of all 327 00:23:00,120 --> 00:23:04,360 the worst case scenarios that could have happened that day. That might happen tomorrow. Oh my 328 00:23:04,360 --> 00:23:10,360 God. I know. And it keeps me from sleeping. I mean, mostly is with the kids like, you 329 00:23:10,360 --> 00:23:15,840 know, in a pool. I don't know. My mind just races. Like I am a worst case scenario type 330 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:22,040 of person. I know. You don't have anxiety. You're right. I don't know what I was thinking. 331 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:27,600 It's basically your mind wrestling with events that aren't likely. I know what it is also 332 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:33,880 called anxiety, things that aren't real, that haven't happened, that you stress over. We're 333 00:23:33,880 --> 00:23:39,840 moving. That's what we call a mic drop. I won't do that to all of your ears. I will 334 00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:46,440 keep the mic upright. Yeah, yeah, I'm hearing you. I'm hearing it all. That's just I can't 335 00:23:46,440 --> 00:23:50,800 believe you spend a bunch of energy at night doing that. I don't mean to. My mind just 336 00:23:50,800 --> 00:23:55,720 goes there and I need to shut it down. You know what else I do at night? That's not a 337 00:23:55,720 --> 00:23:58,720 good thing. We've talked about this a million times. I mean, I scroll right before I go 338 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:03,920 to bed. So that doesn't help. You're a troll before you go to bed. But really thinking 339 00:24:03,920 --> 00:24:12,480 of the worst case scenario is like looking through a camera of doubt, fear, anxiety. 340 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:16,640 And you can decide if you want to look at it that way or if you want to look at it like 341 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:23,160 with hope and encouragement. And if you switched, you turn that light bulb on and you switched. 342 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:27,840 It would make a world of difference. It's just very hard to make that switch. Another 343 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:36,640 big one, avoid facing the truth makes your life horde. I mean, come on. There's like 344 00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:44,440 she hates me. There is no really explanation for this. If you are a truth avoider that 345 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:51,720 it sits on your chest. It's a burden. What's a truth avoider? You don't want to hear about 346 00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:57,640 like a specific situation or like somebody really evading the truth at all times. What 347 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:03,160 do you mean? The truth about yourself or how you go about your life and if you are just 348 00:25:03,160 --> 00:25:08,880 constantly dodging those truth bombs and you are going around this way, around that way, 349 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:14,400 over the top underneath, you have to face it. So it's like if you get a performance 350 00:25:14,400 --> 00:25:21,360 review from work and your boss is telling you ways that you could improve and need to 351 00:25:21,360 --> 00:25:26,400 improve and how it doesn't coincide with the company, whatever. I don't know. We don't 352 00:25:26,400 --> 00:25:30,920 have this at our company when there's no HR. But I feel like this is something I hear 353 00:25:30,920 --> 00:25:35,080 a lot like performance reviews halfway through the quarter and then the end of it because 354 00:25:35,080 --> 00:25:41,560 it's really important to keep to know what your faults are and where you can improve. 355 00:25:41,560 --> 00:25:47,840 But a truth avoider would read the review and say, oh my gosh, my boss hates me. He's 356 00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:54,000 wrong. I'm right. I'm doing everything opposite of what he said and dwelling on that. 357 00:25:54,000 --> 00:26:00,920 Yeah, that's not true. That's not me. I'm not that when clearly this needed more dissecting 358 00:26:00,920 --> 00:26:06,760 than I thought. I thought this was a no explanation one, but it looks like it needed to be explained. 359 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:11,680 I think because I don't mind the truth. So it's hard. It's hard hearing the truth when 360 00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:17,480 it's about yourself. Yeah, but I don't avoid that. Yeah, yeah, no. I don't avoid that. 361 00:26:17,480 --> 00:26:24,720 Yeah. Even if why are you what? You do. Oh, I'm a truth avoider. I don't mean to be. 362 00:26:24,720 --> 00:26:30,680 It's just I don't mind criticism and I don't mind critique, but I don't like confrontation. 363 00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:34,880 And sometimes they're not the same thing. No, they're different words. I know. I know. 364 00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:47,960 I make it confrontation. Yes. No. The confrontation is in your own head. Yeah. Being being confronted 365 00:26:47,960 --> 00:26:54,480 with constructive criticism is not a you don't need to go to a defense mode and decide that 366 00:26:54,480 --> 00:27:00,120 it's conflict. Yeah. And if I do, you don't take criticism well. No, I do. No, you don't. 367 00:27:00,120 --> 00:27:07,120 No, I do. I'm going to avoid this and move on to the next one. Okay. Do as we say, not 368 00:27:07,120 --> 00:27:14,360 as we do. Last one. You might be making your life harder if you put off making decisions. 369 00:27:14,360 --> 00:27:19,520 And sometimes the bad decisions are better than being indecisive because sometimes the 370 00:27:19,520 --> 00:27:24,760 bad decisions. Right. Now, I'm not saying like life altering bad decisions. I'm just 371 00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:29,800 saying the mistakes you might be making off these bad decisions will actually help you 372 00:27:29,800 --> 00:27:34,280 in the long run and are teaching you lessons. So I'm, you know, don't go jump off a cliff 373 00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:39,880 without a parachute. Please don't do that. But the bad ideas teach us lessons and no 374 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:45,280 regrets that you move on and make another one. It's better to make the mistake than 375 00:27:45,280 --> 00:27:51,680 to not try at all. Oh, yeah. So it's the same thing. The decision making, just make one. 376 00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:55,600 Make one. If it's wrong, it's wrong. You figure it out. You move on and you do it in a better 377 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:59,800 way, whatever you're going, you're looking for in that decision. Yeah. I think the most 378 00:27:59,800 --> 00:28:05,840 annoying thing for me is the back and forth. Even just to wake up and go to yoga early 379 00:28:05,840 --> 00:28:10,280 in the morning, the hour. Sometimes I spend going back and forth, going, should I set 380 00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:13,880 my alarm? Should I not set my alarm? Should I set it? Should I not just make the decision 381 00:28:13,880 --> 00:28:18,320 and sit in it and live with it? Yeah. You know what I mean? Like it'll take, I'll get 382 00:28:18,320 --> 00:28:22,480 that hour back of my life. Like right now I'm deciding to ignore my dog's bells that 383 00:28:22,480 --> 00:28:26,480 she has to go out to go to the bathroom because we're in the middle of something. That's a 384 00:28:26,480 --> 00:28:30,680 decision. And I like that decision, except she's not going to let you hold off for much 385 00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:36,720 longer. Let me, just let me, Pepper. Let her, let her. To quote Michael Scott to finish, 386 00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:43,400 to finish this off and to wrap it all up is you miss 100% of the shots that you do not 387 00:28:43,400 --> 00:28:49,760 take. So take the shots, miss them every single time you will figure out how to make it in 388 00:28:49,760 --> 00:28:54,560 those misses. I'm going to, what did you call it earlier? I'm going to circle back. Yeah. 389 00:28:54,560 --> 00:29:00,160 To that Mellie R, Mel Robbins. She has a theory. It's called the five second rule. So like 390 00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:04,520 getting out of bed in the morning, count down from five, five, four, three, two, one, get 391 00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:08,680 yourself out of bed because there's no decision making. You count down from five, you do it 392 00:29:08,680 --> 00:29:13,040 and then it's done. Yeah. She does that to get herself to the gym. She does that to make 393 00:29:13,040 --> 00:29:18,400 a decision about something. It eliminates that back and forth and then nine times out 394 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:21,640 of 10 when you're going back and forth about making a decision on something, whether it's 395 00:29:21,640 --> 00:29:25,800 really small or whether it's really big, you end up either overthinking and making the 396 00:29:25,800 --> 00:29:30,760 wrong decision because you're just thinking too hard or you don't make any decision and 397 00:29:30,760 --> 00:29:35,360 you procrastinate for however long and now it's worse when you actually have to get to 398 00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:41,240 that decision. So if you count down from five, make it, go with it and then go from there. 399 00:29:41,240 --> 00:29:47,040 Yeah. That's such a good, that's such a good idea. So those are just some realizations 400 00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:52,080 that you might not have noticed that are making your life harder. We're going to talk about 401 00:29:52,080 --> 00:30:00,120 easy tips to help you make your life less hard. Okay. Delegate more. Do it one thing 402 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:06,760 at a time. Leave extra time to get somewhere. Do activities that ground you or that you 403 00:30:06,760 --> 00:30:13,360 enjoy. What does that mean, Carly? It means do things that you enjoy. Moving on. Make 404 00:30:13,360 --> 00:30:21,680 annoying parts of your day more positive. Okay. For lack of a better word. Cool. Cool. 405 00:30:21,680 --> 00:30:26,360 Understand your energy levels. So that means if you're a morning person, try and do your 406 00:30:26,360 --> 00:30:29,720 harder things in the morning when you have more energy. If you're a nighttime person, 407 00:30:29,720 --> 00:30:33,440 go ahead and work out at night when you have more energy. This, not just for working out 408 00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:38,080 for anything, but recognize when you have the most energy and do those harder things 409 00:30:38,080 --> 00:30:46,760 then. Walk and move slower. Remember to play. Yeah. You're a 30 year old someone. You can 410 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:51,880 go on the playground and just sit on the swing. Like you're loud. Yeah. And that's a fun 411 00:30:51,880 --> 00:30:58,140 thing to do. Playing, having more fun. Everything doesn't have to be so serious. Break out the 412 00:30:58,140 --> 00:31:07,480 game of life. Play it. We're going to play a game in the theme of how life is way too 413 00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:14,200 hard and the game is has nothing to do with what we're talking about. Sweet. It's fun. 414 00:31:14,200 --> 00:31:21,360 It's frivolous. It means nothing. And that's what we all need a little bit more of. I think 415 00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:25,040 so. Also, Carly put me in charge of the game and I have no idea what I'm doing. So it's 416 00:31:25,040 --> 00:31:31,600 called You Think You Know, But You Have No Idea. This is the each who Hollywood story 417 00:31:31,600 --> 00:31:39,120 of Carly's brain. It's a true and false game of random. I found a site of the most random 418 00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:47,920 facts. You can get a license to legally hunt unicorns in Michigan. 100% true. True. Chewing 419 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:57,600 gum can boost concentration. False. True. A regular internet user has three social media 420 00:31:57,600 --> 00:32:03,560 accounts. Oh, that is, I want to say false. I feel like they have more. Yeah, false 7.6. 421 00:32:03,560 --> 00:32:08,240 Oh, yeah. Love the point six. Yeah, like a half a Facebook. It's like when you're not 422 00:32:08,240 --> 00:32:14,640 really invested, but you have an account. Laughing 100 times. Not sure how you were calculating 423 00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:20,640 100 left. So like hot, hot, hot, hot, hot, hot. Provides the equivalent of 15 minutes 424 00:32:20,640 --> 00:32:29,000 of exercise on a stationary bike. Stop. If this is true, I'm doing it. True. Yeah, true. 425 00:32:29,000 --> 00:32:36,920 Stop. No, I'm working out. I'm working out. That's not a laugh. 426 00:32:36,920 --> 00:32:52,240 One, two, three. Wow, I should be emaciated. It burns more calories the higher you go to. 427 00:32:52,240 --> 00:33:02,720 Did we just lose all of you? Let's stay on this one. I like this. YouTube was founded 428 00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:11,040 on Valentine's Day. True. Yeah, true. That's weird. The ostrich has the largest eyes in 429 00:33:11,040 --> 00:33:18,160 the world. In the world? No, that's false. Do you know what it is? Hippos. A giant squid. 430 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:28,880 Oh. Milk is 87% water. Like cow's milk? True. True. Yeah. A group of jellyfish is called 431 00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:40,040 a smack. I hope this is true. It is true. Yeah. A smack of jellyfish. Yeah, yeah, yeah. 432 00:33:40,040 --> 00:33:45,960 Give me that smack of jellyfish. Why do you need so many jellyfish? Elephants are the 433 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:52,880 only mammal that can't jump. Oh, true. Yeah. That's why I like them because they can't 434 00:33:52,880 --> 00:33:58,760 jump. I like jumping either. White man can't jump. Elephants can't jump. No. That's false. 435 00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:07,360 White man can't jump. White men are a mammal. I'm moving on from this. I'm making that 436 00:34:07,360 --> 00:34:13,360 decision to move on from this. Goldfish have a three second memory span. No, that's false. 437 00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:21,200 It is false. Several months. Okay. The Mona Lisa has no eyebrows. No, I think she's got 438 00:34:21,200 --> 00:34:27,760 like thin 90s eyebrows. She's got like the thin drawn on 90s. What does she have? Right. 439 00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:34,200 True. She doesn't have any eyebrows. True. The black box in a plane is black. No, it's 440 00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:40,040 like orange. Correct. Really? The answer is false. Orange. Yeah. I read it. You know, 441 00:34:40,040 --> 00:34:48,280 I do a lot of pot. True crime. You do a lot of pot. Are you doing it right now? The name 442 00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:55,760 burrito means little donkey. I really hope this is true. It is. I'm going to be like, 443 00:34:55,760 --> 00:35:03,640 hey kids, you guys want a little donkey for dinner? 50% of taste is determined by smell. 444 00:35:03,640 --> 00:35:13,560 Oh, true. False. Oh yeah. 80%. Oh, the sticker on fruits is edible. No, that is false. True. 445 00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:20,280 It's true. The modern image of Santa Claus was created by the Coca-Cola company. Oh, 446 00:35:20,280 --> 00:35:27,120 true. It's on every bottle. That's 100% true. That is true. 100%. The word which comes from 447 00:35:27,120 --> 00:35:34,880 an old English word, which was spelled W I C C E. That means wise woman. Clearly that's 448 00:35:34,880 --> 00:35:43,080 true. True. And I said that because I'm a witch. Last one. You got 99 problems, but 449 00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:52,880 a witching one. That is so true. Guess what? What? You won the game of nothing. I won the 450 00:35:52,880 --> 00:35:58,640 game of life. The words don't matter and all the points don't mean anything either. Love 451 00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:02,920 that game. Whose line is that anyway? There's one way to find some more joy in your life 452 00:36:02,920 --> 00:36:09,720 that is costless and honest to goodness. So much fun to still watch. I just put it on 453 00:36:09,720 --> 00:36:13,280 the other night and I was like, Oh my gosh, number one, they're brilliant. And number 454 00:36:13,280 --> 00:36:18,440 two, I'm laughing out loud by myself on this couch. Yeah, it's one of the best shows. And 455 00:36:18,440 --> 00:36:22,200 the points don't matter. And the points don't matter. Just like life. The points do not 456 00:36:22,200 --> 00:36:29,080 matter. You do your life the way you want to do it. Stop making it so damn hard. And 457 00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:38,440 God, you really have to stop saying it like that. Like it's okay, acceptable and normal. 458 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:46,840 Well, your real tip of the day is to listen back and take one of these realizations, any 459 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:55,840 of them, one of them that is the hardest for you. No, say it to grasp that is the hardest 460 00:36:55,840 --> 00:37:04,360 for you to grasp. Do your best to start making small changes to adapt that realization into 461 00:37:04,360 --> 00:37:09,040 something a little bit easier for yourself in your life. But you got to pick the one 462 00:37:09,040 --> 00:37:16,200 that that is like, I can't do that. You pick that one and then go from there. Alright, 463 00:37:16,200 --> 00:37:23,720 now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called easy peasy lemon squeezy. What does 464 00:37:23,720 --> 00:37:31,800 easy peasy lemon squeezy mean? Bake a lemon cake. I want you grab the kids, grab your 465 00:37:31,800 --> 00:37:37,240 husband, grab your wife, anybody grab a friend, bake a cake. What do you have to do when you 466 00:37:37,240 --> 00:37:41,320 bake? You have to zone out and you have to look at the directions. You need to follow 467 00:37:41,320 --> 00:37:47,840 the directions step by step and you don't have to think of anything else in that time 468 00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:54,040 frame. Why a lemon cake? Because it soothes anxiety. It improves mental awareness and 469 00:37:54,040 --> 00:38:00,680 it's an endorphin stimulator. And we all know endorphins make people happy and happy people 470 00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:07,400 just don't kill their husbands. So grab that lemon cake recipe, take 40 minutes out of 471 00:38:07,400 --> 00:38:13,200 your week and enjoy zoning out, baking, following directions and do something for you. One, 472 00:38:13,200 --> 00:38:17,520 I have to tell you that she's quoting Lili Blahn about killing her husband. So when something 473 00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:22,240 happens and true crime comes, don't listen back and say that Carly did it. Second, I 474 00:38:22,240 --> 00:38:27,560 made that face when you said easy peasy lemon squeezy because that was the original crossed 475 00:38:27,560 --> 00:38:33,320 out name of my game. Stop it. Yeah. And I had a whole thing about lemons, I was gonna 476 00:38:33,320 --> 00:38:39,200 say. No way. Yes. Why didn't you say it? I just switched it because I was like, she's 477 00:38:39,200 --> 00:38:43,400 gonna make fun of me for saying easy peasy. Why do you care? Why do you care? Well, also 478 00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:48,160 didn't make sense. It didn't make sense to my game. But I did a whole thing. It's just 479 00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:53,760 so weird. I know. We think the same. It's very weird. Stop saying that to try to make 480 00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:59,760 it real. No, I'm trying to make it real extra. Well, I do want to leave you with a quote 481 00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:06,200 from a very, very famous person. His name is Ferris Bueller. And he said, life moves 482 00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:11,360 pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it. It does. 483 00:39:11,360 --> 00:39:18,000 Life moves pretty fast. You got to slow down a little bit and stop making things so damn 484 00:39:18,000 --> 00:39:25,800 hard. So per usual, with all of that said, we hope you make lemon pie, lemon cake, lemonade 485 00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:31,600 out of lemons. And I hope you remember that you are always fit to be real and always allowed 486 00:39:31,600 --> 00:39:46,880 to be a little extra. And now I will let the dog out. Thank God. Pepper. That was so hard. 487 00:39:46,880 --> 00:39:50,120 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 488 00:39:50,120 --> 00:39:55,560 educational purposes only. We are not healthcare professionals. For all of your health, wellness, 489 00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:59,920 fitness and self care needs, please refer to the medical professional in your life, 490 00:39:59,920 --> 00:40:05,040 your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. And 491 00:40:05,040 --> 00:40:17,760 then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do. Okay? Okay, bye.