Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
This is our first episode of going completely off script and putting it in the hands of you.
Yeah.
You all, all of our listeners, all of our real extras.
That is what we are now dubbing.
All of you, that is your title, hashtag, I'm a real extra.
Wait, she can't do it with a straight face.
Oh my God.
Hold on.
That was genuinely Victoria laughing before the words actually came out of her mouth.
What she meant to say was hashtag, I'm a real extra or I'm real extra.
No, it sounds good.
I made it up.
It sounds good.
Are you a real extra?
Real extra?
I mean, you have to lean into it.
Like I said last week in our real tip, you've got to really go for it.
Like let's lean into it.
You are real extra and it is okay.
100% you are real extra.
But it's like one word.
If you're a real extra, you're a real extra.
You're a real extra?
You're a real extra.
That sounds like a medication.
This is why we need a script.
Real extra.
Here are all the things that it could do wrong for you.
You know, there's commercials where they're like, this is going to help you, but here are all the ways that you could die.
But you should still buy this product.
Just like us.
Real extra.
Coming to pharmacies near you.
Over the counter only.
Real extra.
Guys, we haven't even started yet.
We need a script.
I can't improv like this.
This is too much for me.
Oh my God.
We put down on our Instagram, which we will do again because I think this is going to be a lot of fun.
Putting it all on the line for you to ask any type of question you want in terms of our business, in terms of this podcast, in terms of our personal lives.
Just like anything in general.
And you guys came through.
You came through.
You were real extra.
Returning it to something.
No, no, no.
You guys are real extra.
That's what it is.
You know, everybody has their squad.
Our squad is the real extra squad.
I'm Victoria.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
And we're going to dive right into it.
Let's do it.
Okay.
Who's older?
This is a question we get all the time.
Also a question that Carly asks new people.
Guess who thinks older?
Who do you think is older?
I do.
It's funny that somebody asked this because I always, when somebody meets us, oh, you guys are sisters.
And I said, yeah, who's older?
So it's funny that somebody asked this, but who's older?
I mean, clearly it should be me, but it's not.
Like I just was a little bit late to the earth game.
No, didn't you see those memes that we keep sending them back and forth?
They're like, are there little reels on Instagram of like the older sister being shy and quiet and not being able to stand up for herself.
And then the younger sister coming in like with a fire and guns blazing taking care of the situation.
That's pretty much what it is.
I am older.
Victoria is three years younger than me.
And nobody asked this, but we also have a brother that's three years older than me.
How did you get into fitness?
We were and have been dancers our whole life.
So activity and pushing our bodies is super natural and normal for us.
Number one.
I like that answer.
Number two.
But like that's that's the thing.
Like some people get into fitness and they've all they've done is sit on the couch or do walks their whole life.
So it's like a brand new game.
It was not a brand new game for us because we've been, we were training.
We were training for theater.
That's really physical as well.
So Carmella, mom, told us to get certified in this really long certification that we left it her for.
And we did it.
And then we never stopped.
No, the moment.
Honest to God, I think the moment we did that, we never stopped teaching.
No, once we got certified for Zumba, we started teaching it at my mom's.
We started teaching in New York and it morphed into what Tifa is today.
I laughed at Zumba.
But if it weren't for Zumba and mom's crazy idea, we would not have see fit.
Yeah, that's true.
But that's how we were dancers and it sort of just was the easy transition.
Yeah, it just went one and together.
I work out hard six days a week and haven't lost a pound.
What else can I do?
Everything.
Everything else.
Yeah.
It's not about working out six days a week.
You can work out seven days a week for 365 days and gain weight.
It depends on what you're eating at home and the amount of it's called a negative energy balance.
So you have to be taking in less than you're exerting.
You have to be exerting more for actual weight loss.
Maintenance is a different thing.
Gaining is a different thing.
But if you're going to the gym to work out and you're doing it six days a week and you're not seeing any results,
the gym isn't what you need to be focusing on, don't stop that,
but definitely change what the habits you have in your kitchen.
Yes.
And I do feel that a lot of people have that same mentality.
I'm at see fit seven days a week, but my body hasn't changed.
It has changed.
Your endurance is building, but what you're doing at home, it has not changed.
You need to change both.
And then also see, you know, depending on how long you've been working out and your safety level,
see if you can up your weight, see if you've kind of been coasting on, you know, those eight pound weights for so long.
It's time to up to 10.
Push yourself.
You can do it.
So check out what's going on in your cabinet, sink refrigerator and seek advice if you need it for specific individual needs.
This next one is was read as not so much a question, but more of a statement to be answered.
Mistakes and or successes as business owners.
Yes.
Next question.
Plenty.
Let's see.
I'm going to do our biggest success and mistake is the same thing.
Oh, we tend to do instead of think we are like, OK, we got to do this right now.
Let's do it because if we think too much about it, we're not going to do it.
We're going to scare ourselves out of it.
So we, so that is a mistake and also how we became successful.
And then, you know, Andrew gets mad at Victoria and I for that, but it's sort of ingrained in us that we're just like, all right, we got to do it.
You're going to do it.
Pustle.
Do it.
Because I think I'd rather do it and do it wrong and then learn from it than be afraid to do it at all and talk myself out of anything.
So I don't know if I can pinpoint a specific mistake we've made.
I think as business owners, a mistake that we are slowly and and but strongly slowly, but strongly transitioning away from is not saying.
Is not standing up for ourselves and what we want and we want our brand, what we want our brand to be versus where we're being pulled or told to go.
And I think that's probably the biggest mistake.
Yes, we've done many decisions on a whim, which is what you're talking about.
I mean, in a good way.
But at the same time, there have been so many times that we've gone through with stuff that we didn't really want to do, but we were advised to and we didn't really stick to our guns.
So like, we're slowly, but strongly not doing that anymore.
Yes.
If I could, I would have minored in business and I will definitely suggest that for anybody.
For anybody, even if you want to, you know, we didn't know we'd end up here, but.
Yeah, but nobody knows where you're going to end up.
It would have been very helpful.
Well, if mom told me to do business, I would she did.
I was like, that's funny.
I'm going to dance.
Me too.
I'm going to sing and I'm going to do it half ass.
And I'm going to be a success.
So hey, no regards.
We had a great time doing that.
But yeah, I think I think that would have been it's not it's not technically a mistake, but something that I wish we knew more of.
At a younger age to help us where we are now.
There are some mistakes in that way, but it all works out.
Well, that's, I was just going to say to spin it.
That was all like sort of negative mistakes.
The successes have been the community that we've created.
I think is the biggest success and that is not really our success.
Yes, we put the space together and we do what we do.
But the people that come to see fit and have created lasting friendships.
I mean, we've been open. This is we're going into our 13th year and these people, you know, they hang out, they go to family parties.
We have people over at Christmas sometimes, you know, like the community of people is the biggest success I can think of.
Community fit.
Yeah.
No.
Yeah.
Community fit.
That's right.
Mistake moving on.
Do you miss old see fit?
I do don't.
I do don't old see fit is sort of where our community started to grow.
And we started to form exactly who we were.
Yeah, that's true.
So I, I miss it for that reason.
Like, man, we used to pack 30 people in 425 square feet.
Now, just as a reference, our new studio is almost 5000 square feet.
So it's a big difference.
Yeah.
We're in the space.
However, I lived in the basement of that space because I didn't actually live in the basement.
No, I was just going to say, rephrase that.
We did have a couch down there, but our desks are down there.
I would have clients.
We didn't have a lot of space and my clients were in the basement with me on my rug with the desk surrounding us.
It's just such a different, I think I'm just nostalgic about it, but I don't necessarily miss it.
That's a good word.
You're nostalgic about it.
Yeah.
All right.
Carly, will you ever change how you say your name on the podcast?
Hey guys, probably not.
I have to say to watch her do it in person, there's a wind up.
All right.
Her neck protrudes before sound comes out and then you can see around her navel, her abs pulled in so that she can create the sound that quite literally projectiles out through her neck and her mouth.
And, and it's a sight.
Hey guys, it's Carly.
Oh, that wasn't how I do it.
Stop.
Hey guys.
Now I'm all messed up because you just smiled first.
That was weird.
Guys, it's Carly.
No, I will never stop.
If you have a cold or are really tired, should you work out or rest?
This is an individual answer because it depends on the person and it depends on the illness.
So if you have a cold in the stages of being contagious, no, stay home.
That's just supported for your community and to keep yourself from really kind of getting worse in your immune system, you know, not working to the best of its ability.
If it's a cold, like you just have like, you know, congested sinuses and stuff like that, working out kind of breaks it all up.
So you in turn end up feeling a little bit better towards the end and you're able to get through class.
So if you have the energy and it's just a cold, working out can help you build through the cold so that maybe you don't have the illness for as long as you would have.
That's not for everybody and that's not for every illness.
So please take this with, you know, grain of salt.
Resting also is a really good way to heal yourself.
So if you really need the rest, you should take the rest.
You just kind of have to listen to yourself.
There's no wrong way to do it.
I agree. When I have a really hard workout, sometimes my nose starts to run and that's because it's breaking everything up through the inside and sometimes that's OK.
I'm going to say something that's going to make Carly eye roll and maybe all of you will be interested.
So the very, very, very, very beginnings of the thought process of yoga was just to release your body of mucus.
Really?
And it was just seated meditation with different types of breathing and it was to snot out of your body and that was closer to like enlightenment, the less mucus you have.
I'm enlightened every time I teach.
Carly is also allergic to alcohol and she's allergic to laughing.
So anytime and they don't necessarily go together.
So if she has a glass of wine, she's going to all of a sudden be stuffy.
And if she's laughing with friends and no wine is involved, she's still going to be stuffy and congested.
I don't know what it is. I'm just amazing that way.
I think you need yoga.
What is your hardest class?
Depends on how hard you're pushing.
I personally don't think there is a hardist class. It depends on the level at which you are rising to the occasion.
I agree. I think hard is subjective.
It also depends on what you're used to.
I'll throw Billy under the bus to a degree. He's a crossfitter so he can lift really, really heavy things and he has lots and lots and lots of muscles and strength.
But he can't get through our C-Fit step class because the cardio factor is way too much even though he does a lot of cardio.
It's just the different way that he works his cardiovascular system versus pure cardio that we do.
It depends on the body and it depends on how much you're putting into it.
I think one of the most ridiculous things people have said to us right before a class is make this a hard one.
No offense but that is a little bit of an insult.
Tell us why.
Because every class is as hard as you want it to be.
And it gives it a connotation that the class before wasn't hard.
The last time they did the class wasn't correct.
That's where the insult comes in.
We're giving you the tools. It's up to you to kind of run with it.
What are your pet peeves?
I have so many.
In life or with just C-Fit you think.
It just says what are your pet peeves?
Alright so I do believe honoring people's time is very important.
Come on time.
If that means a little bit early to be prepared, great, but don't come late because I find that to be rude.
I find I think a little bit more on my like, oh my gosh take a deep breath side of things is if someone is significantly early
and then stands there waiting for you to say something or talk because now the time that I had to kind of center myself
and get ready for my night which could be hours or it could just be one.
It's now to be on the clock for you.
Agreed.
And coming way too early is just as rude as coming late for something that you have planned as the instructor or the person in charge.
I think that goes for like parties too.
Do you ever like have a party and then that person comes a half hour before the party time and you're still, your hair is not done, your makeup's not done, you're running around still trying to, yeah.
I think that can go for anything.
I thought of something that had nothing to do with work.
I have so many pet peeves at work but same.
When I have gotten the kids dressed and me dressed and I put out everything and I planned everything and we're running late and we're getting in the car and then Andrew goes to get the clippers to cut his nails.
Like that is my biggest pet peeve and he does it every time.
Like my blood boils because I'm like you, I did everything.
You did nothing but get yourself dressed.
And you've had two hours but you decided to cut the lawn and do all that other stuff instead of just cut your nails.
And now we're getting in the car and you want a minute to cut your nails that is by far and he will vouch for me.
He's like, when do you want me to do it?
I'm like, any other time than when I'm rushing to get the kids in the car.
And it's like literally that is my biggest pet peeve.
That counts.
Do not cut your nails right before you have to get out of the house.
That's very specific to Andrew.
I just want to put that out there.
That's very specific.
Chilling with your mouth open.
Can't handle that sound.
Loud noises.
Can't really handle that.
Loud noises.
Victoria is not good with loud noises and you would not think that because we blast our music at Seafit.
I hate when she does that.
I know she does.
She always tells me Siri is telling me I'm too loud on her watch.
In my defense, we don't face our speakers towards us so it's really hard to tell.
I'm giving you a little bit of credit, but you're too loud.
But in general, if there's loud noises in the house, she is not good with loud noises.
All right.
My last one in terms of the business because my personal ones, we could talk about that later.
Looking out in a crowd of people that you're putting 150 or 200% in to make them do 70%?
Right, right.
That's just how it works.
We know that.
That's the point.
But if you're putting 0% into it and then giving the eye rolls and the attitude towards
us for doing something you signed up for, that gets under my skin.
It does.
It's something that I'm trying to, I'm actually actively working on breathing through and
I have a conversation with myself when I see these moments in class, which happen a lot
because people are in their own worlds.
Half the time has nothing to do with us at all.
Right.
The thought that goes through my brain or the sentence I put is like, I'm not going
to your job and yawning in your face.
Right, right, right.
Which is not equal at all.
But I think if you're going to sign up and put yourself in a position to be with people
that just want to support you and that's the community aspect we were talking about before,
even if you have to fake the mood that you're in, it's going to make you feel better.
So you can't have a fun workout and look miserable and present yourself as like, I hate it here.
I don't want to be here, but come back tomorrow.
Type of thing.
There's something about that that irks me.
Do you miss performing?
No until I'm watching a performance.
That's interesting.
You know what I mean?
Yeah.
I don't think about it much until or unless I'm sitting and listening to live theater
or live concert or if I'm watching something really, like sometimes it's just scrolling
because I don't go to a lot of events anymore.
But scrolling on Instagram and seeing like a performance, it's usually just Broadway.
And I'm like, that was I wish I could do that.
I could do that.
Like I wish I had, you know, yeah, but it's fleeting.
It goes away.
As soon as you scroll down, it goes away.
I love curtain call at the very end when everyone in the entire audience is clapping
their hardest for something that they have enjoyed for like an hour and a half, two hours
and the people on stage get to feel like I miss that feeling.
Not the praise because it's not praise.
It's really just the energy of the room.
It's the energy.
Excitement of what just happened.
And I don't know.
It's not praise in my head.
It feels more like thank you for allowing me to be here and like forget the world and
the claps just get louder and louder.
And there's something about that that I can feel like my skin kind of, you know, get goose
bumps and sometimes I cry.
Well, that happens a lot when you're the lead in every show, but being in the ensemble of
every show, I don't know if I feel the same way.
I'm talking about as an audience member.
But yes, on stage as well.
No, I'm sorry.
Is the lead in every show she was ever in.
And I was always like, I'm in the ensemble because I can sing and dance.
I'm talking about being an audience member.
I will like embarrassingly cry during curtain call.
Oh, so will I.
I cried at the Lion King the other day with Lewis at the opening number because it's the
best.
Oh my gosh, it is the best.
But I've seen it four times now and I've cried every time.
And it's just something about the energy, the energy.
Yeah.
And everyone goes at the same time.
And that's that.
Yes.
Okay.
I miss I miss that too.
I don't miss the anxiety of performing and like never knowing like we cram.
We're crammers when we put on cabarets.
We pretty much practiced the day before and every time we turn to each other, we go, why
do we do this?
We hate this.
And afterwards after it's all said and done, we're like, oh, that was fun.
Yeah.
Why, why, why should do that again?
Let's put us through that anxiety, but it's the energy.
You're right.
It's the energy and I, you can feel it just when you're talking about it.
I got the chills.
Yeah.
This is a long-winded answer for yes and no.
Where did you get your kids' names?
Well, Melody, her name's Carmella.
My name is Carmella.
My mom's name is Carmella.
My grandmom's name is Carmella.
So we got her name is Carmella.
So we took the Mella from Carmella and the D from her last name, Dykeman, and made Melody
because no one calls me Carmella.
I am nicknamed as well.
It's spelled Melody, but we say Melody like a rapper.
Like Melody.
Melody.
What'd it do?
But honestly, no one calls me Carmella because my mom did not want to be called Big Carmella.
She was a dancer.
And this is why she was a dancer and did not want to be referred to as Big Carmella and
Little Carmella.
So she nicknamed me Carly.
I didn't have that issue.
I was just like, oh my gosh, we're singers.
Both of her parents are singers.
Melody and it works together.
Lewis is our grandpa.
So I named my daughter after my grandma and my son after my grandpa.
And then Dean is just Dean.
She loves Dean Martin.
We could honestly, I wanted so many other names and Andrew didn't like any of them.
And that's the only one we could come up with that we both absolutely loved.
And honestly, he couldn't be any other name.
He's a Dean.
He's a cool cat.
That Dean.
How many tattoos do you have?
11.
All right.
This was not asked, but I'm going to add on to this.
Are you planning on getting any more?
Oh yes, very much.
Yeah.
Our mom just got a tattoo the other day and didn't tell us.
Two.
Yeah, two tattoos.
And nobody asked me, but I have three.
Maybe this was for both of us.
I don't know.
I have three.
She has three, but she forgot about one.
So really it's like two and a half.
If you can't see a tattoo, you forget about it.
I have one on my neck and I can't see it.
I want two behind my ears.
I want one right in the middle of my chest.
I think I want one on my leg, but I'm figured out where.
And then I'm thinking about going down my spine.
Nope.
I'm good for three.
I'm a, I think I tapped out.
I'm on brand for you.
Yeah.
It is.
It's on brand for me.
But there might be a chance I want one more.
That's on brand for me too.
Yeah, it's not going to happen.
It's not on Andrew's brand.
It's on my brand.
You and Andrew are two different people.
Oh, I thought we were getting, I thought that question was deeper.
Like it was my brand.
Like I have three kids.
I stopped.
I have three tattoos.
I stopped.
I stopped you, but like go for it.
That's why I said that was on brand, but like I might want one more.
What are we talking about?
Tattoos or kids?
I don't know.
Andrew, definitely.
No, we didn't get, we didn't go there.
Where do you come up?
This is great.
Where do you come up with the topics for your podcast because they're very relatable.
We're very relatable people because we don't know what the hell is going on in life, in
the world.
And we are just like you.
So things that we're going through, if they're relatable, that means they're hitting home
for you as well.
And it's just because it's like we're all going through it.
So we look stuff up online of like the very beginning with like the TikTok trends.
We don't, I don't know TikTok.
No, neither do I.
So that stuff like we look into, right?
The other stuff is stuff that we're going through or stuff that maybe has been brought
up frequently in conversation.
And it'll like, I'll have a conversation with someone that has absolutely nothing to do
with the podcast or maybe even work.
It's just like anything.
And I'll get a spark of like, oh, you know what?
That would be a really good topic.
And I'll write it down and then kind of take it from there.
Your suggestions help us.
And also, yeah, what Victoria said, if we're going through it, you're probably going through
it.
And we talk about things that we are happening to us right now.
This is a great one.
How can you wear your hair down when you work out?
Not many people do or like to, but we wear our hair down when we work out.
And I never thought about it.
Oh, please.
You used to make fun of me and call me out for it.
You didn't start doing that until recently.
Yeah.
Maybe old, old T-fit.
My hair was falling out.
Like the tips of my hair was breaking.
And my hairdresser was like, you got it.
This is my memory.
Oh, this is my story.
Oh, shoot.
It was my hair.
It was my hairdresser.
It was her suggestion to tell me if you don't, because the style was to pull your hair really,
really, really, really, really tight and then have a big poofy ponytail.
And that's what we did.
And that's what I did all of the time.
And sometimes we would brush gel in the hair on like the scalp so that it was quite literally
like straight hair and then a poofy ponytail.
And she was like, you got to stop working out like this or else you're not going to
have any hair left.
That wasn't me.
That was not you.
And then I never wore my hair up again and brought it home when I moved home from New
York.
And everybody thought I was insane.
But I do what she does.
That's not your memory.
Well, my memory is your memory.
And if you, it happened to you that that's why I started doing it.
I thought my hair was breaking.
I couldn't believe you just said that.
I couldn't.
I was looking at your mouth moving and going, what?
But the question wasn't why do you?
How can you?
Oh, you don't really feel, I don't feel it.
No, I like whipping my head back and forth.
That's part of my, that's part of my thing.
So I, I don't ever feel, I don't ever feel it because we never stop moving really.
How often, if at all do you guys fight?
We're doing it right now.
You just can't tell where good actresses.
I like that song.
Thank you.
It's a good song.
When it comes to business, we don't, we're very on par in terms of see fit and where
we want it to go and kind of what we want to do with classes and all that stuff.
So we don't really have business confrontation.
It didn't say business specifically.
I was getting there.
Okay.
Being sisters is the problem.
The other part because Carly's part mom.
Yes.
The other part, not part sister.
Well, no, no, it's 50-50.
So too many percent, but yes.
Carly didn't start liking me until after I graduated college.
People 100%.
I want you to know this.
She did not enjoy my existence until I graduated college and I don't even think it was like
right then.
I think it was a little bit later.
Listen, you are annoying.
You were my little sister who did everything that I did and we're better at it.
So it was always just like, go away.
But you have annoying little sister.
I lived in New York with Carly when I graduated high school.
I went to one semester at Hunter College in New York City and hated it and left.
I gained the freshman 80 and I was cleaning out Carly's emails because if you've ever
seen Carly's phone, she's got, are you in the double digits now?
Oh, it's over 15,000.
15,000.
Unread emails.
Is that just emails?
That's just emails.
I have 146 missed calls and not, sorry, voice mails.
Cool.
That bothers me so much.
I actually can't function.
I can't believe you're going to tell the story, but go ahead.
So I was cleaning out her emails and I found an email from Carly to Carm about how much
she hated living with me and how much she wished I wasn't there.
I can't remember the details.
It was rough.
We got over that.
Yeah.
She started therapy.
She started her journey into therapy.
20 years later.
I mean, we were young.
That's your excuse.
Oh my God.
I don't know.
Yeah.
We, I always say that when, when I see sisters or people have little girls and like, oh,
I want them to end up just like you two.
You guys do everything together.
And I'm like, yes.
But I like, if Victoria would sing in the house, I'm like, shut up.
Stop singing.
You're annoying.
Like I was brutal to her, but I treat Victoria a little bit less of a sister and more like
a mom.
Like I treat her like one of my kids, which is mainly the only thing that we'll have
little disputes about is that I am still trying to protect her instead of treating her like,
I don't know, a grown person.
Well, no, this sounds really harsh.
I wouldn't even say the mom.
I kind of said the mom thing as like partial.
No, but it's protection.
Yeah.
You're, you're a protector.
And if I'm in pain, Carly's in pain type of thing instead of being like, oh, my sister's
in pain.
Carly's like, me too.
I'm in so much pain too.
It's like, what the heck?
That's so true.
So like right now I'm going through it and Carly's like, me too.
I'm going to help you.
Like, geez, my God.
And then there's mom going, oh, you're not feeling great.
Oh, I had no idea.
I'm crying.
Listen, listen.
And I'm not sick.
I just am laughing so hard because it's so true.
She's allergic to it.
Oh my God.
I think I did a, let's do the math here, people.
A 360 or a 180?
I don't know.
What are you trying to say?
I don't want to go twice around.
I just want to do one.
I think that's a 180.
I went from being like, oh my gosh, get away from me to like, oh my gosh, why aren't you
with me?
I think that's a 180.
Right?
I'm not responding.
I just want you to keep going.
So circling back 360.
Oh my God.
Stop.
Do we fight?
We don't like scream in each other's faces, but we'll have little disputes that are hot,
but fizzle out pretty quickly because we figure it out.
We just figure it out.
That's kind of how our family is, which is alarming for most people that try to come
into it.
I would say the word is passionate.
Sure.
That's nice.
Well, our disputes are passionate because we care a lot.
We care a lot and if you're not the loudest one, you're not heard.
So everybody yells, but we confront it and then we don't have to deal with it because
we talked it through and then action is being taken to kind of address the situation.
We do not stay silent.
If something is bothering one of us, we talk about it.
Sometimes it's loud because it takes longer to hear, but we don't have any issues.
We just kind of get through the little moments.
Yeah.
No longstanding issues is not something that we hold on to.
I'm honest to God, if you walked into one of our fights, you'd be like, this family
is broken up.
They're never talking again.
This is it for them.
And we're like five seconds later, we're playing cards and perfectly fine because you have
to let it go and you have to let it out and then let it go.
And the more you hold it in, the more there's major issues within the system.
So that's kind of just how we work.
If it's bothering one of us, it's bothering all of us, which can go either way.
Yes.
That's 100% true.
But it is 100%.
You're right.
That's the only number we know.
I will say this.
You can tell if we're fighting on stage as we're teaching, not fighting, bickering.
We will bicker through our comments to each other or they know how we teach.
I think sometimes they know.
Sometimes it's rough.
Very obvious.
Shoot.
We're like, we'll do it with a smile, but we will fight with our music and we will fight
with our teaching.
Oh, you don't want that?
Guess what song I'm going to do.
Oh, you're tired today?
Oh, I'm going to do this one.
Guess what?
All of that is from Carly Stance.
None of that is for me.
I don't have control of the music.
I don't think anyone's weak for being tired.
Oh, well, guess what?
She fights with me on stage in other ways.
So yeah, we bicker as sisters, but not as business partners.
Yes.
And nine times out of 10, it's like opinion based.
Yes.
Because we're very different people.
We're very different people.
If you haven't figured that out, we are very different people.
But it works.
With different laughs.
When can Carmella come back to the podcast?
And we have a four hour block open for her to talk.
Soon.
We'll have her on soon.
She's got like 97 million other stories that range from her losing her clothes at Wawa to
stuff that we're saving for her eulogy.
So I mean, she'll be back to Barry's.
There was not a question, a statement that just said, spill the tea.
You have any tea to spill about yourself?
I don't know anything that the young ones would want to know about me.
Honestly, like the young ones know everything because I posted all on social media.
They know I have a lot of tea.
I have a lot of tea about me.
Let me hear.
I don't know how much I don't ever talk to you.
So tell me that there's some tea.
We don't talk.
I love that you're saying it too, though.
Oh, I know we don't.
I'm just going to do what you're doing.
Okay.
Hold on.
I'm going to do it.
Carly is a shadow.
We're about to fight.
No, we don't talk.
When people are like, oh my gosh, I can't believe you shouldn't tell you.
I'm like, we talk business over text all day long.
And then we talk real quickly before class of something like, hey, guess what?
We're just like, we have to teach and I can't think about this right now.
But we don't like talk or we're talking here.
The most that we talk is when we record, honestly, because one, we don't have time.
Two, it's always about see fit and three, it's about the kids.
So I'm like, Victoria, can you do this with the kids or can you, you know, can I come
late and you open like it's always that kind of stuff.
If you asked me what was going on in Victoria's life right now, I would only know 40%.
I'm loving your numbers today.
Because I don't know because we don't like, we don't go out to dinner or she doesn't come
over and we like sit over coffee and chat.
There's no time for that.
Ain't nobody got time for that.
No, I'm pretty sure other siblings do that.
I think they do.
Let us know.
That feels very not natural to like come over and like hang out, whether if it's not like
a family party or work.
Yeah.
Like we don't, well, we don't have time to.
I also thought it was not natural.
I like to go shopping and I would go shopping with Victoria, but she doesn't like to go
shopping.
So whatever.
That's like a nightmare.
That's like a torture chamber for me.
But yeah, she'll be there for six hours.
If you like, if you find yourself saying to me, oh, you know, Victoria didn't tell you,
just no, no, she didn't.
Number one, she's a lockbox.
Anything you tell her, she will go to the grave with that is number one.
That's some good tea.
Number two, there's no time to talk.
So no, she did not tell me.
No, no, God no.
Oh, I know that we don't talk.
Did you think I know we talked?
I know we don't talk.
No, why are you yelling at me?
Why are you, why are you reprimanding me, mom?
I was making fun of you earlier because you quite literally said every word I said, but
after me, that's true.
I say whatever she says, but better because I said it.
That's a trend.
So yeah, I do have tea, but I'm, I think it's a different episode.
Just tea in general.
I think well, I have been asked to, because we have mentioned it a few times, all of my
relationship situations.
Hey, we're spitballing here, right?
Because that's what we do on the podcast.
You want to know how we think of topics for the podcast?
We're doing it right now.
But but but.
Oh, did you do that before you came today?
Some people do think I do the crack cocaine, but I don't.
I don't do the crack cocaine.
Meth and crack cocaine are very different, I think.
I'm not sure.
But I just do the coffee.
I overdo the coffee, but there's no crack cocaine in going on.
It's called crack caffeine.
That's right.
But anyway, you were spitballing.
We're spitballing.
You guys are all involved.
So let's spitball together.
We're going to do an episode of spilling the tea of Victoria's relationship and dating
stuff.
I really like this.
I just said that.
I know, but I said it again.
Oh, I better.
We were waiting for you to say something new.
And oh my God, ever since I had said there was something that happened to me in my life
that like I'm still trying to like get over, everyone's asked me what it is.
Oh, people are so nosy.
A lot of people do know what it is, but I've never talked about it because it.
Why would you?
Why would I bring it up?
I don't mind bringing it up because I think it'll help other people.
There's two things, actually.
And I am happy to talk about that because I have no qualms about it.
And if only if Victoria will talk about her relationships and her tea in the dating, like
her dating relationships to say yes, because I think they really want to hear both my nose
is running because I've been laughing so hard.
But there's so much manic energy happening right now.
I don't really know what to do with it.
Can I spit the balls back at you?
All right.
Well, those were our questions from our real extras.
What?
Here's the deal.
We are going to put out Ask Us Your Questions again because this is so fun and honestly,
some of the stuff I wouldn't have thought of.
So it's really, we want to give you what the people want.
All right?
We want to give you what you want.
So we'll do this again.
Make sure you team it in for that.
And then anytime you want to ask us to do it, we can do it.
But I would say for your real tip and your real extra tip is just talk.
Yeah.
Talk to your friends, talk to your family, talk to your sisters, talk to your sister
moms, and you know, just start a conversation about nothing, about nothing and see where
it goes.
Like nine times out of 10, we talk about nothing.
I mean, we see where it goes.
I think they got nut by episode 34.
They realized.
We want you to be a real extra with no side effects.
Yeah.
Real extra.
We hope you are wiggling in your seat as much as Carly is as she whispers to me she has
to go to the bathroom.
And we hope that you remember that you're always fit to be real and always allowed to
be a little extra and run to the bathroom.
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We are not healthcare professionals.
For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self care needs, please refer to the
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