Welcome to Fit to Be Real.
And a little extra, we are transitioning from summer to fall.
But we're talking on a wider spectrum of just all season change because for a lot of people, it's challenging.
It is.
Change is hard.
Even if it's just going from summer to fall, which I actually, I think that's my favorite transition.
We love that it has to do with our birthdays being in the fall.
And I think that has a large part, plays a large part.
Don't you?
Yeah.
Yep.
I'm Victoria.
Hey guys, I'm Carly.
You did that in your head voice.
I know.
I look it above like in my nasal.
Hey guys.
Well, bring it in.
First of all, rain it in.
Second of all, I have to admit, we're recording this within the first week of September and I have already spookified my house.
It's not a lot.
There's not, I don't decorate a lot for Halloween.
I'm more of like, I have a pumpkin crate, so I'll do that right after Halloween of like fall.
Yeah.
But my Halloween stuff is minimal, but I'm ready.
I'm full-fledged.
I'm in it.
She's into skeletons and all that stuff.
You have a lot of skeletons in your closet.
Sure do.
And on the coffee table.
Yes, I do.
It's not, well, yeah, I do like the skull art.
Yeah.
It's the Dia de los Muetes that I like versus like Halloween.
We're Halloween people and that's not to say we love the actual day of Halloween and dressing up.
That's not actually what we like.
We like the season of fall, what it brings, the season of Halloween, the transition from summer into fall.
We like that.
That's like, that's our jam.
For us, I would venture to say I can speak for you that it's not, it's not a challenge to do that transition.
It's a little bit hard to get into, I think, winter to spring.
Like, I like winter.
I love it.
I'm a winter person.
If you bundle, it's not that bad.
I, you're going to make fun of me.
Sure am.
I love my clothes and I love winter, fall and winter clothes.
I just do.
That's my favorite wardrobe.
I love it.
And so I look forward to not going out and not ever wearing it, but knowing that I have a great wardrobe if I ever did go out.
Sure.
Yeah.
That's accurate, actually.
100% accurate.
But no, I have no problem with winter.
I look forward to Christmas.
Christmas is very big in our family.
So I start decorating early and I don't care who knows it.
Well, that's why me getting into Halloween the first week of September, I mean, I did it on Labor Day.
Yeah.
I decorate for Halloween on Labor Day.
That's really early.
It is, but I remember during COVID when there was nothing else to do, I decorated for Christmas before Thanksgiving and I got so much S-H-I-T for it.
I shouldn't have posted about it.
I should have just done it and like kept it to myself because it made me happy.
But I like posted, oh my God, they came out of the woodwork that I decorated for Christmas before Thanksgiving.
And I was like, why are you trying to take away my joy?
How does that affect you?
Yeah.
Well, it doesn't.
Right.
It doesn't.
So it's called sad and I don't just mean my closet versus yours.
It's sad.
It's called seasonal effective disorder or seasonal depression, which is like, I think what more people say.
Yeah.
But that's what it is.
It's just you're affected by the season change and a lot of that from what I read because really like other than it getting darker in the morning, like when you wake up and it's still nighttime basically.
Or when you're done at the end of the day and it's already dark and it feels night.
So like that to me, I think I feel more than, oh, I'm morning summer because we're in fall.
But a lot of people are affected that way.
That way.
That if the nighttime shift affects me more than the morning.
Yeah.
The, you know, we're still teaching a class and it's 5.30 and it's pitch black and I'm like, oh my God, we have three more classes left to go and it's pitch black already.
And it just makes me want to be home on the couch and not do it.
Which could get into like that dark.
Sad.
The sad place with capital SAD of never wanting to leave the house, never wanting to leave the couch, not wanting to put on your outfits and go out and meet people like there can be a deeper sadness.
I think a lot of people feel that.
Yeah, absolutely.
Especially come February when everyone's just like, oh, is this going to be over yet?
Like in the beginning, I feel like people are excited about it.
Like they're like season of change changing.
It's okay.
And then it lasts a little too long.
Well, January, February, I think are the longest months.
They're like 60 day months.
60 day months.
Okay.
Even though February is technically like the shortest month that we have.
Yes.
It just, there's something about you're ready for winter to be over, but it's taking way too long to get into spring.
And it's that people like you, it's that what am I wearing?
Yeah.
How do I leave my house?
Appropriately.
The fight and battle I have in my head about when to start wearing flip flops is like, is unbelievable.
And I know there are out there, people out there that feel the same way.
If it is not 90 degrees, I'm not wearing flip flops, but like sometimes in April, there's a 90 degree day.
People are in flip flops.
I'm like, it's too soon people, you're going to be wearing boots in two days when it snows.
So put your toes away.
Yeah.
Put your toes away.
So I always have that issue.
Your life is really hard.
I know.
You know, it's a really hard life.
When to wear white pants?
When not to wear.
Do you follow?
No.
I was going to ask her, do you follow that you cannot wear white after Labor Day rule?
No.
I make my own rules.
I love all white outfits.
Like I think that's a really cool winter style all white.
So no, I do not follow that rule.
You cannot put me in a box with my wardrobe.
I do what I want.
I wear what I want.
And yeah, no, I, I rebel against that rule.
I love that.
How come that doesn't pertain to me?
Oh, no, you have to follow what I tell you.
Yeah, I that doesn't seem to work.
Well, let's go through your closet and we'll talk about that.
They're all your throwaways.
No, but it's how you put them together.
Well, we're going to start the episode now.
Oh, okay.
It's time.
We have a mix of things of how to help transition and it doesn't necessarily have to just be
summer to fall.
It can be all seasonal transitions.
There are ways and tips that I actually didn't think about.
There's a lot you can do with your house to help with the, the vibe and the aesthetic
of shifting into something new.
While we don't have a hard time transitioning from summer to fall, I know a lot of you do,
especially the teachers.
And it's a hard shift.
Just this morning, Victoria called Melody and Lewis as they were going to school because
it was their first day of school today and said, you know, are you so excited?
Have a great first day.
And Melody was like, I'm so sad.
I don't want summer to be over.
And I know there's a lot of people like that.
I am one of them.
I want my kids to stay home.
I did not want summer to be over.
I look forward to the next season.
But yeah, nobody wants summer to be over.
If everybody could live in a endless summer, isn't that like a thing, endless summer?
It is a thing.
It is where?
Like Key West?
I think in all beach towns called endless summer because it's, it's a beach town.
Well, you said the key words is look forward, like take those two words and quite literally
look forward towards things that are coming up versus morning, what is now stopping for
yourself.
Morning as in sadness.
Morning like summer is over.
It is finished.
I'm so sad that this season that I love so much.
If you're a summer person that loves summer so, so much and you like thrive, change the
brainwave to look forward.
Like I said to Melody, Halloween, Thanksgiving, birthdays, Christmas.
Now those are actual big events to like put in your calendar.
Right.
And if there's any other little things you can do weekend trips, like you're going to
the Renaissance fair, they go to the Renaissance fair every September.
Yeah, we do.
I really do want to go one of these times.
I think it's cool.
You need to come with us.
I know.
It's very fun.
I would like you to go on a day that's not 95 degrees because usually you go on those days.
Usually we go in August, but now we're going to go when it's colder to look because we
needed something to look forward to.
I said to Andrew after we went away for the weekend with the kids, I need more weekends
like this.
Yeah.
I think this is where I have something to look forward to to get me through to the next
whatever, because I think it's really important in life to have things to look forward to.
Now for me, I look forward to decorating.
Yeah.
So do I.
So to me, it's like I can't get to Labor Day fast enough.
I know.
I'm not a summer person though.
Just so you guys know, we're drinking coffee out of Halloween mugs.
Yes, it's September 5th or whatever.
Sure are.
And I'm also going to keep these mugs out all year long because it looks like a skeleton
is the handle and it's holding it, but it's like the jewels, the dazzled.
Yeah.
It's fancy.
It's from a place called home goods.
So it's French.
It's French.
Another one that is going to be like, oh my God, I'm going to be trying to obviously
kind of bring this up.
Finding a therapist can help those where it's a little bit harder to look forward to things
that are not in the present moment like this week or next month or, you know, something
tangible and it can help you find the tools to not look back and mourn and mourn and mourn.
And then of course that intern is going to help you with a lot of other things that you're
probably really mourning, but we put it into the season and so it's like that deep layer
of baggage that therapy can help with.
Well, a lot of times people equate seasons with experiences they've had that aren't always
good.
People don't like the holidays for various family reasons and so that they don't look
forward to them.
So yeah.
That's true.
You know what?
I didn't think about that.
Some people do not like holidays.
Yeah, that's true.
Yeah.
I mean, because if you don't have good memories of it or if your family isn't the celebrating
type, I mean, you might not like it and that's fine too, but that would bring it out.
Therapy would bring it out for sure.
I assumed that everybody loved holidays the way that we love holidays.
And because we were just everybody in the family, cousins alike, we go crazy for Christmas
and Thanksgiving.
Like it's the best family time.
And it's just something to be excited for and Carly can't relate to this, but in the
dating world of meeting different people, I can relate.
I know what you're going to say, but go ahead and I'll tell you how I can relate to this.
A lot of people do not celebrate the same way and or celebrate at all.
Like my last relationship, I in leaving it, realize how much I don't want to change how
I feel about holidays because that's just why not?
Like the little excitement in life, like a holiday can just be such an exciting thing.
We're all so fortunate to have a family that everything's okay.
You know, like we can celebrate.
So that's just something that I really thought I could shift and I can.
I can adapt and I can change.
But you can, but if there's no legitimate reason why you have to change the way you
view a holiday or an event, then don't.
Right.
Yeah.
Right.
Well, that's just something that, you know, in talking through therapy, let's circle back
to what we're talking about, Victoria.
I don't want it.
Yeah.
I don't want to not be excited about little things, which in life, a holiday is a little
thing.
I think that because we grew up the way we grew up, we did not have a lot of money.
We didn't know that.
And I tell this to Andrew all the time, I never knew how little we had because I always
felt and mom and dad always made it feel like we wanted for nothing.
Yeah.
I had no idea if they were struggling money wise.
We had no idea because everything was made a big deal and it didn't have to be like a
PlayStation.
It was the little things.
It never was.
Yeah.
It never was.
But we never knew it.
And I think that's the whole point is to have something to look forward to.
It doesn't have to be material.
It's just a feeling.
It's an excitement.
It doesn't have to be a thing.
Right.
Oh, but piggybacking off of that, Andrew had no idea what he was walking into when
he came to our holidays, which is what you were referring to as well.
It's Christmas vomit at Christmas.
I mean, Christmas vomit at all of our houses and my house is vomit.
Other styles.
Let's change the vomit word to like explosions.
Oh, explosions.
Yeah.
Christmas explosions.
And Halloween.
Like there's no style.
It's just like I saw it at the French store at Home Goods.
And good.
You know, I just I'm like, oh, it doesn't match.
I don't care.
It's Halloween.
That's just how it is.
And a lot of people aren't used to that.
Andrew didn't grow up like that.
I mean, they never wanted for anything, but also wasn't as, you know, we celebrated every
day from December 1st on.
And a lot of people don't do that and are not used to that, but it's something that
we do.
And I will never give that up.
And by celebrating every day from December 1st on, it's like you decorate every inch
of your house as fun as you want and whatever it is.
And like sometimes that's just the celebration.
Yeah.
Like waking up and going into the bathroom and then all of your tantals are Christmas
like, like that's it's not necessarily getting gifts every single day.
No.
And even with Halloween, like getting getting my Halloween mugs out, I'm so excited to
get my pumpkin spice mug out that I only use one time a year.
Like it's the little things like that.
It's true.
So in any case, maybe you get to that therapy, maybe you start to be able to look forward
to things that you create for yourself, putting things in your calendar.
And then you can change the brainwaves to the third way.
So if every season change is a reboot instead of the sadness that we tend to put on it in
whatever way, you take a second, you go through everything that you accomplished maybe in
the summer or the list of things that you wanted to do.
And so you start looking at what you did and what you didn't do.
So now it's an opportunity to do it in this season.
Right.
The things you didn't get to in the last season and kind of reset your house, your body, your
mind and the way you want to do things, maybe with the same exact list that you had in summer.
Well, that's a really good idea.
I was just thinking about all the things I didn't get to this summer.
Yeah.
And like the things I didn't get to do with the kids, why can't I do it in the fall?
You did so many things.
I know, I know, I know.
But just like in general, like, oh man, I really wanted to, you know, put the lights
up in the backyard and we never got to it this summer because we were never home.
Right.
Why can't you do that now?
Well, look at it this way.
Oh, it's fall, school starts, we're going to be home more.
I get to do that.
Right.
And that's how you look at it.
It's like a very easy thing that everybody can do, but it's all about things we've been
talking about since day one, your mindset shifts.
Yeah.
I never thought of it like that.
Like I was just thinking, oh man, I didn't get to so much this summer.
But why can't I do it now?
I thought you went, I didn't get to so much.
Like you didn't get to so.
Heck no.
Needle and thread.
Nope, not me.
I didn't get to so much this summer.
Maybe in the fall.
So those are ways to kind of change yourself and your mind.
There are ways, and I never would have thought of this, that you transition in your house.
Like in your place of coming home every single day, one is pest-proofing your house because
the bugs change.
In the seasons, things you would like to keep out of your house also change.
Yeah.
I mean, it's a thing like in winter months usually because they're trying to keep warm,
you get mice.
Yeah.
You have to think of that way too.
And I never thought of that.
I would never have thought that.
But I'm ready for the flies to be out.
I mean, yeah.
But that's a thing.
They die off and new.
New ones.
New bugs.
It's a great time to change your windows.
Is somebody like, are you getting some money for this?
No.
No, but I guess it goes hand in hand.
I mean, these are things about the house that I never really thought about it.
And it's not necessarily changing them.
It's just replacing and repairing.
Maybe that's on your list of things to do for the summer.
But things get cold in autumn and winter.
And that's when you have to really pay attention to how you can get through because sometimes
you're so cold, you get into that SAD, seasonal depression.
Oh, man.
I hate being cold.
I see.
I'd rather be cold than hot.
Okay.
Let me rephrase that.
Same.
But I mean, yes, nobody likes to be cold.
That chill that you can't get out, you mean?
I actually, let's rephrase that.
I love being hot.
What?
I was just thinking, one of my favorite feelings is getting into a hot car in the summer.
It's one of my favorite feelings.
That's actually accurate.
That's true.
I love that because with cold, you can always bundle.
And so I like, yeah, I hate being cold.
It's annoying.
I also love being hot.
I don't know why I'm going here, but this is where we are.
Cool.
Thanks.
No, hot.
Change your windows.
Okay.
I'm all over the place.
You can change your windows.
And that's okay.
So that's, I feel like it's like a bad, it's like a haircut.
I'm transitioning.
It's a haircut, right?
You cut your hair, you love it.
It's so short.
Then you get to that phase where it's in between being long and being that really short.
And if you could just get past the awkward, uncomfortable transition of a haircut, now
you have long hair and you made it through.
It's the same thing as the seasonal changes.
Yeah, that's true.
I just want to side note, Victoria and I noticed how often we both say 100% in all the podcasts.
I'm really, really thinking about this.
I haven't said it yet.
No, we haven't said it because I've been thinking about it.
Cool.
I haven't thought about it.
Now I'm going to.
Awesome.
Cool.
50%.
Here's another one for your house.
Replacing your air filters in your HVAC system.
You've been using air conditioning all season.
Yeah.
So it's really smart to change them out now to be prepared for when you use them again
when the season change on the back end of things.
And then you don't have to think about it at the time and then really start setting up
your house for your gas or your heat or your oil.
Gosh, you used to have an oil.
Oh my God.
Oil for heat, which was very expensive.
And then the oil would go out and it would be like a Sunday and then we wouldn't be able
to have heat because no oil companies worked on Sundays and shivering.
She shivered when she said shiver.
I just want to put that out there.
I'm a method actor.
I mean, come on.
And then the last one for just kind of your environment in the seasonal change is decluttering
your house.
Yeah.
That's my favorite part.
It's the best part of it.
I think it's a seasonal thing.
Yeah.
I don't think I do it on purpose, but I think that's when I start to purge.
But it's also just not spring.
You know, like spring cleaning, I do it every season.
Oh my God.
I thought about that yesterday when that's what I was doing to my house.
What?
I said that to myself.
I said, this isn't just a spring cleaning thing.
I do this every time the season changes.
I feel so good when it's done.
It's a lot of work, but you feel so good when it's done and you feel like you kind of have
a clean slate.
Yeah.
And you go into the season fresh.
Yeah.
I did it all day yesterday too, getting the kids ready for school because I wait till
the last second because I was in denial that they were going back to school.
So I did it yesterday, but we cleaned from top to bottom throughout things in silence
because I didn't want the kids to see what I was throwing out, but it feels so good today.
I'm going to read you something that I read today that hit me.
Insignificant choices and changes that you make today will change the tide of tomorrow.
So if had I not cleaned and decluttered yesterday, totally would have made this morning a hot
mess.
I would have not been happy with how the kitchen was or that the kids' school bags were everywhere
and I hadn't done what I was supposed to do.
Keeping things in order and keeping things fresh just makes you happy.
And it made me such a happier person today.
Like, all right, now I'm excited for them to go to school because I got my routine, everything's
back.
It looks good.
It feels good.
They're insignificant in the grand scheme of life, small, but it made a big difference
today.
I would say it doesn't make you happy.
It makes you not stressed.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Like, you're correct.
I'm just thinking it in a different way because that happiness can come when you're not stressed.
If you were stressed about the unorganized hurry up, get your uniform.
We didn't lay it out or we didn't have your backpacks ready or the clouse.
The house is so cluttered and that, I mean, it's so true.
A cluttered house is a cluttered mind and is a hectic feel all around.
So it's that lack of stress that you didn't have this morning.
Keeping your routine or setting up a routine is one of the easiest ways you can, what you
can do for yourself to make it easy for you to get through the next phase.
Yeah.
Yeah, those are the two options too.
It's either keep every single season your routine, whether it helps because your work
doesn't change, right?
So whatever those hours are for yourself or where you get your workout in and all of that
stays the same and that's how routine some people have to be.
Or every season you switch it up for yourself.
So it's not monotonous and you're still doing a routine, but it's slightly different.
I mean, we do that with our C-Fit schedule.
We change it for the seasons because things tend to change.
So you either change with it or the friction you have by fighting it usually goes in the
south direction.
Yeah.
And we're in that trend.
I said it last episode that we are in a transition phase right now and we go with the people,
but we also try and give our people what they want according to the phase that we're in
or the season that we're in.
And it definitely changes.
What people want in September and October is very different than what they want in the
summer and we sort of have to go with the flow there.
But we're doing it right now too.
Another thing to remember if you are not good in change or changing of the seasons is that
seasons change and they don't last.
They're temporary.
It's not going to last forever.
This too shall pass if you don't like the summer into fall transition, guess what?
It'll be over before you know it.
Oh my God.
Yeah.
Right?
So just get through it.
Do the best you can to have something to look forward to or make things for yourself
that you have to look forward to.
And it'll be over before you know it because such is life.
I don't know who you are.
Oh, I've been listening to this podcast recently.
It's called Fit to Be Real and I listen to it every Tuesday, Monday.
I don't know what it's on.
Yikes.
I think I listen to it on Mondays and I've been learning a lot.
So you think you're smart?
What?
So you think you're smart?
No, it's good.
In saying that, I said that to Melody this morning.
I said, Melody, you are so, you look so pretty in her uniform and she was like, I know I
am.
And I was like, yes.
I said, Melody, you go into school with that confidence.
That's amazing.
I know.
And I was so proud of her because she was like, I know I am.
Yeah, you have to take a lot from her.
I know.
I looked and then I looked in the mirror and I said, I am too.
And she was like, what?
So you think you're pretty?
But anyway, seasons change and you can change along with it or you can fight it.
And fighting it just like anything else, seasonal, emotional is never, never the positive way
to go.
And you just have to remember the joy you felt all summer long if you're a summer person,
it's not going to last.
And you know that it happens every year.
And for us, the joy that happens from September to December, that's not going to last.
So you just have to enjoy it while it's happening and try and adapt to the next phase.
And it's a hard thing to do.
Nothing is permanent seasons.
I wrote that down.
Are not an exception.
Nothing is permanent.
And if you're feeling sad, you're going to be happy again.
If you're feeling happy, you're going to get sad again.
I'm learning through yoga and everything that I'm doing this year, two years.
The purpose of life is not to find happiness because happiness is just an emotion.
It's an emotion that comes in like a wave and it goes out with the tide.
And it's something that I think we are all taught, do things that make you happy.
You're supposed to be happy.
The goal is to look for happiness.
And it's not actually true.
The goal is to look for joy, to find joy because there's joy in the moments that aren't happy
and there's joy in the moments that are happy.
So finding that inner sense of joy truly is the purpose because happiness is not permanent.
We've talked, I know in an episode we've talked about this before that the highs, they are
there, the lows, they are there.
And you have to know when you're at the high that there will be a low.
And when you're at the low, know that there will be a high.
And if you can always keep that on a hamster wheel in your mind and know that it won't
always be this good and it's not always going to be this bad, it's a hamster wheel.
Yeah, I think of that like a not a hamster roller coaster.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Hamster wheel is negative.
No, no, no.
Hamster wheel is good because it's cyclical and it goes around and around and around.
So it's always coming back around.
It took me a while to really grasp that temporary is what it is because if you think of it like
a roller coaster, you get in the ride, you strap in because we know what could happen
if you don't strap in.
Do you strap into the roller coaster, right?
And then it slowly usually goes on an incline on the way up and you reach the top.
If you just, if that was it, you're at the top.
Yeah.
If you were at that happiness, how boring would that be?
There's nothing to do.
You made it.
Yeah, you made it.
So if you think of it like that roller coaster, sometimes the best moments come from that
big surge going down.
And then you get to go back up again.
And of course now you've got twists and turns and loops and all the fun stuff.
But if that roller coaster was just a little toddler train ride going two miles an hour
at the high or the low, nobody would have motivation to hang out.
Anything.
Right.
So take that to the bank.
Well, in you saying that, remind me of this, I was listening to Dax Shepard.
I don't know if anybody listened.
I know I've talked about it before, armchair expert and Jake Johnson.
Mr. Jake Johnson, Nick Miller from New Girl was on.
And he has a new podcast and you can thank me later.
It's called We're Here to Help.
So go listen to it.
It's really a hysterical.
But anyway, he said, you know, I came out to LA to be an actor, but he put it this way.
You build sandcastles and they're great and they last and then somebody steps on them.
But what do you do?
You build another sandcastle.
Wow.
And you can do that your entire life.
You can take all the time in the world to build those sandcastles.
They take a lot of time.
You look at them afterwards.
You're really proud of them.
Oh my God, that was amazing.
And then a wave comes and takes it away.
What do you do?
You build another one.
And yeah, that's like, it's the same thing.
And that's the most amazing thing from Nick Miller I've ever heard.
From Nick Miller.
In researching this, because I'm a big researcher now and I read articles.
This podcast taught me anything is I have to know a little bit ahead of time what I'm
talking about.
Oh, wonderful.
Lessons all around.
Yeah.
We're just quickly going to talk about the four ways to adapt to the seasons of your
life, the seasons of the year and just seasons in general.
There's four of them.
So it'll be, you know, keep it tight.
100%.
I only want to give that a 50.
Number one, change your attitude.
Change your attitude.
Well, you already said this pretty much mindset.
Change your attitude about the changing of the seasons.
And guess what?
You're going to be so much happier life.
Everything in life happens for a reason.
So here's the hard part of that though.
How do you do that?
Right?
You did talk a lot about different ways you can do it.
All that means, what I'm learning is to get rid of expectation.
Yeah, we hate expectations.
No, truly, expectations not necessarily having standards for what you want.
Expectation in the sense of if it doesn't work out the way that you expect.
It's coming down.
Are you raising your hand?
I'm raising my hand.
Oh my God.
Because I was saying, me.
It's the expectations, we put a lot of expectations on things.
Everybody does.
But when they don't turn out the way that you think there should, the quote unquote
word should, that's where disappointment comes into play.
That's where sadness comes in.
That's where depression, anxiety, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
So when you change your attitude, it's getting rid of the notion of expectation on what the
season should be for yourself or what the phase of your life is that you're in should
be because then you can take the judgment that you get from the expectation not working
out or maybe working out in a different way and you can turn it into an improvement so
that each season improves in different ways.
It's just the mind.
It is the mindset that you're talking about, but it's the attitude changes from like getting
rid of the attachment to expectation.
Oh, I have high expectations all the time and a lot of the time, that's why I get disappointed.
And that's how I've been my whole life and I'm probably never going to change it.
So I expect that, but also that's disappointing.
Number two, you have to gain perspective, examine what's going on in your life, take
a second pause and try and figure out why you're feeling sad with capital SAD and see
and try and figure out ways to change the mindset around it.
So those two sort of go together.
Just reflecting.
I like that.
Number three, be flexible to embrace change.
That I mean, that's pretty straightforward.
You have to be flexible because nothing goes in a straight line.
It's windy.
You got to bend.
Yeah.
I'm talking to myself because I am not very good at being flexible.
Last one, be your own bestie.
Now I read this and I was like, whatever, this is so negative because what it means is like
you can't count on anybody, so you have to count on yourself and hold yourself accountable
because yes, you have family, yes, you have friends, you have people that are there for
you, but no one is there for you as much as you're there for yourself.
You can count the only person you can count on 100% is yourself and only you can get yourself
out of that SAD, capital SAD said, you know, seasonal depression, only you can do that.
Nobody else can do that.
And I thought that was really interesting.
It was like, be your own best friend.
Yeah, no, that's not negative.
That's definitely not negative.
You have to take care of the relationship that you have with yourself to get through the
seasonal relationships, the seasonal seasons, the seasonal phases in your life because at
the end of all of those, you still just have yourself.
Yeah.
Oh, that's 100%.
200%.
200% 200%
Things have to die.
Yeah.
Like the trees, the leaves fall.
We love them because it's pretty and they change color.
But what happens after in autumn, the trees and the leaves change, they die.
They have to fall off the branches to be able to make new leaves that are green and ready
for spring and summer, which we love so much as well when all of the trees start blooming
leaves and the branches don't look so sad and not snow covered.
They have to die.
And if you think of that with relationships, some just have to fade out for you to be able
to grow as yourself a little bit more and expand into something you're supposed to be.
Same thing with the seasons of obviously the seasons.
I don't necessarily mean life has to die, but things have to die in your life for you
to move on and progress.
And the whole purpose is to continue to grow.
I was just-
And you cannot grow in the same environment.
If you put a shark in a fishbowl, it's only going to grow as big as the fishbowl.
So the environment you're in, if you're not growing how you need or feel like you should
be growing, you need to get out and you need to expand it.
And for that to happen, some things have to be let go.
Yeah.
And then you can either to being able to adapt and be flexible and grow bigger than the fishbowl.
I was just going to say, like, like the seasons change, we have to change.
And sometimes it's natural and you don't even know.
The part where it happens and you don't even know, it's because you're not trying so hard.
If you don't try to, just like we said earlier, fight the change, then you don't even know
all the good things that are happening because it's just happening.
And then you can take that reflective moment that you were talking about and be like, wow.
And I'm quite literally sit myself on the surfboard and just let the wave take me like
so much can happen.
Yeah.
Don't fight it.
Just go, everybody needs to be a little more go with the flow and stop going against the
current because if we all did that, everybody would just be a little kinder, a little, we'd
have so much more joy.
My God, things really don't have to be that hard.
That hard.
Yeah.
I also think if everybody just, I think if more people, because not everybody does
this, but if more people just worried about themselves and you do you and not let anybody
else's joy affect them, how much happier would you be if you didn't let other people and
what they do affect you?
There you go.
It's so true.
If you want to have an endless summer in your house and decorate for, you know, Key West
summer on the beach, do it.
Margaritaville all year round.
I'm in.
Margaritaville.
But yeah.
But if that's what you want to do, do it.
No one should care.
That brings that person joy.
Stop being a joy stealer.
I think a lot of people would find more joy in smaller things daily if you just did whatever
you wanted to do, which is what I do with my outfit.
Let's circle back.
What I do with my outfit choices, I let her care and I do whatever I want.
Is this as long as I think it is?
All right, so we think you get it.
At this point, we've got to understand at least a piece of this.
Figure real tip of the today and the season.
Do a deep clean of your house, whether that's just decluttering and organizing or if that's
scrubbing like Cinderella on your hands and knees and reset the clean slate so that you
can make the decisions going from there with a little bit of a clear mind as well.
Now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called can't fight the moonlight.
What does can't fight the moonlight mean?
It means don't fight it.
Go with it.
If you love the seasons each season as it comes, find joy in it.
Lean into it.
Just shy away from it because of what society or other people might say or might think.
If you lean into every season and find little bits of joy in what that season has to bring,
you're going to find that at the end of the year, you are pretty much happy.
Thank you, Leanne Rimes.
Just like I feel like I'm on a bar at Coyote Ugly.
Can't fight the moonlight.
No.
Oh, you can't fight it.
It's got to get to your heart.
May your new season breathe joy when you breathe.
So just breathe through it all and remember that you are always fit to be real and always
allowed to be a little extra.
Carly's wearing overalls today because it brings me joy.
It's okay.
They'll be in my throwaway pile.
You can have them in about six months.
Thanks.
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