1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,000 Welcome to Fit to Be Real. 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:09,500 And a little extra, we are transitioning from summer to fall. 3 00:00:09,500 --> 00:00:16,500 But we're talking on a wider spectrum of just all season change because for a lot of people, it's challenging. 4 00:00:16,500 --> 00:00:17,000 It is. 5 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:18,200 Change is hard. 6 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:19,000 Change is hard. 7 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:26,000 Even if it's just going from summer to fall, which I actually, I think that's my favorite transition. 8 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:30,500 We love that it has to do with our birthdays being in the fall. 9 00:00:30,500 --> 00:00:35,000 And I think that has a large part, plays a large part. 10 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:36,500 Don't you? 11 00:00:36,500 --> 00:00:38,500 Yeah. 12 00:00:38,500 --> 00:00:39,500 Yep. 13 00:00:46,500 --> 00:00:47,500 I'm Victoria. 14 00:00:47,500 --> 00:00:50,500 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 15 00:00:50,500 --> 00:00:51,500 You did that in your head voice. 16 00:00:51,500 --> 00:00:52,500 I know. 17 00:00:52,500 --> 00:00:56,000 I look it above like in my nasal. 18 00:00:56,000 --> 00:00:58,000 Hey guys. 19 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,000 Hey guys. 20 00:01:03,500 --> 00:01:06,000 Well, bring it in. 21 00:01:06,000 --> 00:01:08,000 First of all, rain it in. 22 00:01:08,000 --> 00:01:16,000 Second of all, I have to admit, we're recording this within the first week of September and I have already spookified my house. 23 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:17,000 It's not a lot. 24 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:19,000 There's not, I don't decorate a lot for Halloween. 25 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:24,500 I'm more of like, I have a pumpkin crate, so I'll do that right after Halloween of like fall. 26 00:01:24,500 --> 00:01:25,000 Yeah. 27 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:28,000 But my Halloween stuff is minimal, but I'm ready. 28 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:29,000 I'm full-fledged. 29 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:29,500 I'm in it. 30 00:01:29,500 --> 00:01:33,000 She's into skeletons and all that stuff. 31 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:36,500 You have a lot of skeletons in your closet. 32 00:01:36,500 --> 00:01:38,500 Sure do. 33 00:01:38,500 --> 00:01:40,000 And on the coffee table. 34 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:41,000 Yes, I do. 35 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:44,500 It's not, well, yeah, I do like the skull art. 36 00:01:44,500 --> 00:01:45,000 Yeah. 37 00:01:45,000 --> 00:01:51,500 It's the Dia de los Muetes that I like versus like Halloween. 38 00:01:51,500 --> 00:01:56,500 We're Halloween people and that's not to say we love the actual day of Halloween and dressing up. 39 00:01:56,500 --> 00:01:58,500 That's not actually what we like. 40 00:01:58,500 --> 00:02:06,000 We like the season of fall, what it brings, the season of Halloween, the transition from summer into fall. 41 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:06,500 We like that. 42 00:02:06,500 --> 00:02:08,000 That's like, that's our jam. 43 00:02:08,000 --> 00:02:13,500 For us, I would venture to say I can speak for you that it's not, it's not a challenge to do that transition. 44 00:02:13,500 --> 00:02:18,500 It's a little bit hard to get into, I think, winter to spring. 45 00:02:18,500 --> 00:02:20,000 Like, I like winter. 46 00:02:20,000 --> 00:02:21,000 I love it. 47 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:22,500 I'm a winter person. 48 00:02:22,500 --> 00:02:24,500 If you bundle, it's not that bad. 49 00:02:24,500 --> 00:02:27,000 I, you're going to make fun of me. 50 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:28,000 Sure am. 51 00:02:28,000 --> 00:02:34,500 I love my clothes and I love winter, fall and winter clothes. 52 00:02:34,500 --> 00:02:35,500 I just do. 53 00:02:35,500 --> 00:02:37,000 That's my favorite wardrobe. 54 00:02:37,000 --> 00:02:38,000 I love it. 55 00:02:38,000 --> 00:02:46,000 And so I look forward to not going out and not ever wearing it, but knowing that I have a great wardrobe if I ever did go out. 56 00:02:46,000 --> 00:02:46,500 Sure. 57 00:02:46,500 --> 00:02:47,000 Yeah. 58 00:02:47,000 --> 00:02:49,000 That's accurate, actually. 59 00:02:49,000 --> 00:02:50,000 100% accurate. 60 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:52,000 But no, I have no problem with winter. 61 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:53,000 I look forward to Christmas. 62 00:02:53,000 --> 00:02:55,000 Christmas is very big in our family. 63 00:02:55,000 --> 00:03:00,000 So I start decorating early and I don't care who knows it. 64 00:03:00,000 --> 00:03:04,500 Well, that's why me getting into Halloween the first week of September, I mean, I did it on Labor Day. 65 00:03:04,500 --> 00:03:05,000 Yeah. 66 00:03:05,000 --> 00:03:06,500 I decorate for Halloween on Labor Day. 67 00:03:06,500 --> 00:03:08,000 That's really early. 68 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:18,000 It is, but I remember during COVID when there was nothing else to do, I decorated for Christmas before Thanksgiving and I got so much S-H-I-T for it. 69 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:19,000 I shouldn't have posted about it. 70 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:22,500 I should have just done it and like kept it to myself because it made me happy. 71 00:03:22,500 --> 00:03:29,000 But I like posted, oh my God, they came out of the woodwork that I decorated for Christmas before Thanksgiving. 72 00:03:29,000 --> 00:03:31,000 And I was like, why are you trying to take away my joy? 73 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:32,000 How does that affect you? 74 00:03:32,000 --> 00:03:32,500 Yeah. 75 00:03:32,500 --> 00:03:33,500 Well, it doesn't. 76 00:03:33,500 --> 00:03:34,000 Right. 77 00:03:34,000 --> 00:03:35,000 It doesn't. 78 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:41,500 So it's called sad and I don't just mean my closet versus yours. 79 00:03:41,500 --> 00:03:42,500 It's sad. 80 00:03:42,500 --> 00:03:49,000 It's called seasonal effective disorder or seasonal depression, which is like, I think what more people say. 81 00:03:49,000 --> 00:03:49,500 Yeah. 82 00:03:49,500 --> 00:03:50,500 But that's what it is. 83 00:03:50,500 --> 00:04:03,000 It's just you're affected by the season change and a lot of that from what I read because really like other than it getting darker in the morning, like when you wake up and it's still nighttime basically. 84 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:06,500 Or when you're done at the end of the day and it's already dark and it feels night. 85 00:04:06,500 --> 00:04:13,500 So like that to me, I think I feel more than, oh, I'm morning summer because we're in fall. 86 00:04:13,500 --> 00:04:15,500 But a lot of people are affected that way. 87 00:04:15,500 --> 00:04:16,500 That way. 88 00:04:16,500 --> 00:04:20,500 That if the nighttime shift affects me more than the morning. 89 00:04:20,500 --> 00:04:21,000 Yeah. 90 00:04:21,000 --> 00:04:29,500 The, you know, we're still teaching a class and it's 5.30 and it's pitch black and I'm like, oh my God, we have three more classes left to go and it's pitch black already. 91 00:04:29,500 --> 00:04:32,500 And it just makes me want to be home on the couch and not do it. 92 00:04:32,500 --> 00:04:35,500 Which could get into like that dark. 93 00:04:35,500 --> 00:04:36,500 Sad. 94 00:04:36,500 --> 00:04:49,500 The sad place with capital SAD of never wanting to leave the house, never wanting to leave the couch, not wanting to put on your outfits and go out and meet people like there can be a deeper sadness. 95 00:04:49,500 --> 00:04:50,500 I think a lot of people feel that. 96 00:04:50,500 --> 00:04:51,500 Yeah, absolutely. 97 00:04:51,500 --> 00:04:56,000 Especially come February when everyone's just like, oh, is this going to be over yet? 98 00:04:56,000 --> 00:04:58,500 Like in the beginning, I feel like people are excited about it. 99 00:04:58,500 --> 00:05:00,500 Like they're like season of change changing. 100 00:05:00,500 --> 00:05:01,500 It's okay. 101 00:05:01,500 --> 00:05:03,500 And then it lasts a little too long. 102 00:05:03,500 --> 00:05:06,500 Well, January, February, I think are the longest months. 103 00:05:06,500 --> 00:05:08,500 They're like 60 day months. 104 00:05:08,500 --> 00:05:10,500 60 day months. 105 00:05:10,500 --> 00:05:11,500 Okay. 106 00:05:11,500 --> 00:05:14,500 Even though February is technically like the shortest month that we have. 107 00:05:14,500 --> 00:05:15,500 Yes. 108 00:05:15,500 --> 00:05:21,500 It just, there's something about you're ready for winter to be over, but it's taking way too long to get into spring. 109 00:05:21,500 --> 00:05:25,500 And it's that people like you, it's that what am I wearing? 110 00:05:25,500 --> 00:05:26,500 Yeah. 111 00:05:26,500 --> 00:05:27,500 How do I leave my house? 112 00:05:27,500 --> 00:05:28,500 Appropriately. 113 00:05:28,500 --> 00:05:35,500 The fight and battle I have in my head about when to start wearing flip flops is like, is unbelievable. 114 00:05:35,500 --> 00:05:39,500 And I know there are out there, people out there that feel the same way. 115 00:05:39,500 --> 00:05:44,500 If it is not 90 degrees, I'm not wearing flip flops, but like sometimes in April, there's a 90 degree day. 116 00:05:44,500 --> 00:05:45,500 People are in flip flops. 117 00:05:45,500 --> 00:05:49,500 I'm like, it's too soon people, you're going to be wearing boots in two days when it snows. 118 00:05:49,500 --> 00:05:51,500 So put your toes away. 119 00:05:51,500 --> 00:05:52,500 Yeah. 120 00:05:52,500 --> 00:05:53,500 Put your toes away. 121 00:05:53,500 --> 00:05:56,500 So I always have that issue. 122 00:05:56,500 --> 00:05:58,500 Your life is really hard. 123 00:05:58,500 --> 00:05:59,500 I know. 124 00:05:59,500 --> 00:06:01,500 You know, it's a really hard life. 125 00:06:01,500 --> 00:06:04,500 When to wear white pants? 126 00:06:04,500 --> 00:06:05,500 When not to wear. 127 00:06:05,500 --> 00:06:06,500 Do you follow? 128 00:06:06,500 --> 00:06:07,500 No. 129 00:06:07,500 --> 00:06:12,500 I was going to ask her, do you follow that you cannot wear white after Labor Day rule? 130 00:06:12,500 --> 00:06:13,500 No. 131 00:06:13,500 --> 00:06:14,500 I make my own rules. 132 00:06:14,500 --> 00:06:17,500 I love all white outfits. 133 00:06:17,500 --> 00:06:21,500 Like I think that's a really cool winter style all white. 134 00:06:21,500 --> 00:06:23,500 So no, I do not follow that rule. 135 00:06:23,500 --> 00:06:25,500 You cannot put me in a box with my wardrobe. 136 00:06:25,500 --> 00:06:26,500 I do what I want. 137 00:06:26,500 --> 00:06:28,500 I wear what I want. 138 00:06:28,500 --> 00:06:32,500 And yeah, no, I, I rebel against that rule. 139 00:06:32,500 --> 00:06:33,500 I love that. 140 00:06:33,500 --> 00:06:35,500 How come that doesn't pertain to me? 141 00:06:35,500 --> 00:06:37,500 Oh, no, you have to follow what I tell you. 142 00:06:37,500 --> 00:06:40,500 Yeah, I that doesn't seem to work. 143 00:06:40,500 --> 00:06:43,500 Well, let's go through your closet and we'll talk about that. 144 00:06:43,500 --> 00:06:44,500 They're all your throwaways. 145 00:06:44,500 --> 00:06:47,500 No, but it's how you put them together. 146 00:06:47,500 --> 00:06:50,500 Well, we're going to start the episode now. 147 00:06:50,500 --> 00:06:53,500 Oh, okay. 148 00:06:53,500 --> 00:06:56,500 It's time. 149 00:06:56,500 --> 00:07:02,500 We have a mix of things of how to help transition and it doesn't necessarily have to just be 150 00:07:02,500 --> 00:07:03,500 summer to fall. 151 00:07:03,500 --> 00:07:06,500 It can be all seasonal transitions. 152 00:07:06,500 --> 00:07:10,500 There are ways and tips that I actually didn't think about. 153 00:07:10,500 --> 00:07:14,500 There's a lot you can do with your house to help with the, the vibe and the aesthetic 154 00:07:14,500 --> 00:07:17,500 of shifting into something new. 155 00:07:17,500 --> 00:07:22,500 While we don't have a hard time transitioning from summer to fall, I know a lot of you do, 156 00:07:22,500 --> 00:07:23,500 especially the teachers. 157 00:07:23,500 --> 00:07:25,500 And it's a hard shift. 158 00:07:25,500 --> 00:07:30,500 Just this morning, Victoria called Melody and Lewis as they were going to school because 159 00:07:30,500 --> 00:07:33,500 it was their first day of school today and said, you know, are you so excited? 160 00:07:33,500 --> 00:07:34,500 Have a great first day. 161 00:07:34,500 --> 00:07:36,500 And Melody was like, I'm so sad. 162 00:07:36,500 --> 00:07:38,500 I don't want summer to be over. 163 00:07:38,500 --> 00:07:40,500 And I know there's a lot of people like that. 164 00:07:40,500 --> 00:07:41,500 I am one of them. 165 00:07:41,500 --> 00:07:43,500 I want my kids to stay home. 166 00:07:43,500 --> 00:07:44,500 I did not want summer to be over. 167 00:07:44,500 --> 00:07:47,500 I look forward to the next season. 168 00:07:47,500 --> 00:07:49,500 But yeah, nobody wants summer to be over. 169 00:07:49,500 --> 00:07:54,500 If everybody could live in a endless summer, isn't that like a thing, endless summer? 170 00:07:54,500 --> 00:07:55,500 It is a thing. 171 00:07:55,500 --> 00:07:56,500 It is where? 172 00:07:56,500 --> 00:07:57,500 Like Key West? 173 00:07:57,500 --> 00:08:04,500 I think in all beach towns called endless summer because it's, it's a beach town. 174 00:08:04,500 --> 00:08:10,500 Well, you said the key words is look forward, like take those two words and quite literally 175 00:08:10,500 --> 00:08:17,500 look forward towards things that are coming up versus morning, what is now stopping for 176 00:08:17,500 --> 00:08:18,500 yourself. 177 00:08:18,500 --> 00:08:21,500 Morning as in sadness. 178 00:08:21,500 --> 00:08:22,500 Morning like summer is over. 179 00:08:22,500 --> 00:08:23,500 It is finished. 180 00:08:23,500 --> 00:08:28,500 I'm so sad that this season that I love so much. 181 00:08:28,500 --> 00:08:33,500 If you're a summer person that loves summer so, so much and you like thrive, change the 182 00:08:33,500 --> 00:08:35,500 brainwave to look forward. 183 00:08:35,500 --> 00:08:39,500 Like I said to Melody, Halloween, Thanksgiving, birthdays, Christmas. 184 00:08:39,500 --> 00:08:43,500 Now those are actual big events to like put in your calendar. 185 00:08:43,500 --> 00:08:44,500 Right. 186 00:08:44,500 --> 00:08:48,500 And if there's any other little things you can do weekend trips, like you're going to 187 00:08:48,500 --> 00:08:51,500 the Renaissance fair, they go to the Renaissance fair every September. 188 00:08:51,500 --> 00:08:52,500 Yeah, we do. 189 00:08:52,500 --> 00:08:54,000 I really do want to go one of these times. 190 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:55,000 I think it's cool. 191 00:08:55,000 --> 00:08:56,000 You need to come with us. 192 00:08:56,000 --> 00:08:57,000 I know. 193 00:08:57,000 --> 00:08:58,000 It's very fun. 194 00:08:58,000 --> 00:08:59,000 It's very fun. 195 00:08:59,000 --> 00:09:02,000 I would like you to go on a day that's not 95 degrees because usually you go on those days. 196 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:06,000 Usually we go in August, but now we're going to go when it's colder to look because we 197 00:09:06,000 --> 00:09:07,500 needed something to look forward to. 198 00:09:07,500 --> 00:09:11,100 I said to Andrew after we went away for the weekend with the kids, I need more weekends 199 00:09:11,100 --> 00:09:12,100 like this. 200 00:09:12,100 --> 00:09:13,100 Yeah. 201 00:09:13,100 --> 00:09:18,100 I think this is where I have something to look forward to to get me through to the next 202 00:09:18,100 --> 00:09:22,600 whatever, because I think it's really important in life to have things to look forward to. 203 00:09:22,600 --> 00:09:25,100 Now for me, I look forward to decorating. 204 00:09:25,100 --> 00:09:26,100 Yeah. 205 00:09:26,100 --> 00:09:27,100 So do I. 206 00:09:27,100 --> 00:09:30,100 So to me, it's like I can't get to Labor Day fast enough. 207 00:09:30,100 --> 00:09:31,100 I know. 208 00:09:31,100 --> 00:09:32,100 I'm not a summer person though. 209 00:09:32,100 --> 00:09:35,100 Just so you guys know, we're drinking coffee out of Halloween mugs. 210 00:09:35,100 --> 00:09:37,100 Yes, it's September 5th or whatever. 211 00:09:37,100 --> 00:09:38,100 Sure are. 212 00:09:38,100 --> 00:09:42,100 And I'm also going to keep these mugs out all year long because it looks like a skeleton 213 00:09:42,100 --> 00:09:46,100 is the handle and it's holding it, but it's like the jewels, the dazzled. 214 00:09:46,100 --> 00:09:47,100 Yeah. 215 00:09:47,100 --> 00:09:48,100 It's fancy. 216 00:09:48,100 --> 00:09:50,100 It's from a place called home goods. 217 00:09:50,100 --> 00:09:51,100 So it's French. 218 00:09:51,100 --> 00:09:52,100 It's French. 219 00:09:52,100 --> 00:09:54,100 It's French. 220 00:09:54,100 --> 00:09:58,100 Another one that is going to be like, oh my God, I'm going to be trying to obviously 221 00:09:58,100 --> 00:10:00,100 kind of bring this up. 222 00:10:00,100 --> 00:10:04,400 Finding a therapist can help those where it's a little bit harder to look forward to things 223 00:10:04,400 --> 00:10:10,100 that are not in the present moment like this week or next month or, you know, something 224 00:10:10,100 --> 00:10:17,100 tangible and it can help you find the tools to not look back and mourn and mourn and mourn. 225 00:10:17,100 --> 00:10:21,420 And then of course that intern is going to help you with a lot of other things that you're 226 00:10:21,420 --> 00:10:27,300 probably really mourning, but we put it into the season and so it's like that deep layer 227 00:10:27,300 --> 00:10:29,600 of baggage that therapy can help with. 228 00:10:29,600 --> 00:10:35,100 Well, a lot of times people equate seasons with experiences they've had that aren't always 229 00:10:35,100 --> 00:10:36,100 good. 230 00:10:36,100 --> 00:10:40,400 People don't like the holidays for various family reasons and so that they don't look 231 00:10:40,400 --> 00:10:41,400 forward to them. 232 00:10:41,400 --> 00:10:42,400 So yeah. 233 00:10:42,400 --> 00:10:43,400 That's true. 234 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:44,400 You know what? 235 00:10:44,400 --> 00:10:45,400 I didn't think about that. 236 00:10:45,400 --> 00:10:46,400 Some people do not like holidays. 237 00:10:46,400 --> 00:10:47,400 Yeah, that's true. 238 00:10:47,400 --> 00:10:48,400 Yeah. 239 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:52,100 I mean, because if you don't have good memories of it or if your family isn't the celebrating 240 00:10:52,100 --> 00:10:56,820 type, I mean, you might not like it and that's fine too, but that would bring it out. 241 00:10:56,820 --> 00:10:57,940 Therapy would bring it out for sure. 242 00:10:57,940 --> 00:11:02,500 I assumed that everybody loved holidays the way that we love holidays. 243 00:11:02,500 --> 00:11:08,500 And because we were just everybody in the family, cousins alike, we go crazy for Christmas 244 00:11:08,500 --> 00:11:09,500 and Thanksgiving. 245 00:11:09,500 --> 00:11:11,500 Like it's the best family time. 246 00:11:11,500 --> 00:11:15,140 And it's just something to be excited for and Carly can't relate to this, but in the 247 00:11:15,140 --> 00:11:19,140 dating world of meeting different people, I can relate. 248 00:11:19,140 --> 00:11:22,100 I know what you're going to say, but go ahead and I'll tell you how I can relate to this. 249 00:11:22,100 --> 00:11:27,020 A lot of people do not celebrate the same way and or celebrate at all. 250 00:11:27,020 --> 00:11:33,100 Like my last relationship, I in leaving it, realize how much I don't want to change how 251 00:11:33,100 --> 00:11:37,300 I feel about holidays because that's just why not? 252 00:11:37,300 --> 00:11:41,460 Like the little excitement in life, like a holiday can just be such an exciting thing. 253 00:11:41,460 --> 00:11:44,140 We're all so fortunate to have a family that everything's okay. 254 00:11:44,140 --> 00:11:45,540 You know, like we can celebrate. 255 00:11:45,540 --> 00:11:49,780 So that's just something that I really thought I could shift and I can. 256 00:11:49,780 --> 00:11:51,660 I can adapt and I can change. 257 00:11:51,660 --> 00:11:57,820 But you can, but if there's no legitimate reason why you have to change the way you 258 00:11:57,820 --> 00:12:02,060 view a holiday or an event, then don't. 259 00:12:02,060 --> 00:12:03,060 Right. 260 00:12:03,060 --> 00:12:04,060 Yeah. 261 00:12:04,060 --> 00:12:05,060 Right. 262 00:12:05,060 --> 00:12:07,900 Well, that's just something that, you know, in talking through therapy, let's circle back 263 00:12:07,900 --> 00:12:10,060 to what we're talking about, Victoria. 264 00:12:10,060 --> 00:12:11,060 I don't want it. 265 00:12:11,060 --> 00:12:12,060 Yeah. 266 00:12:12,060 --> 00:12:15,900 I don't want to not be excited about little things, which in life, a holiday is a little 267 00:12:15,900 --> 00:12:16,900 thing. 268 00:12:16,900 --> 00:12:22,260 I think that because we grew up the way we grew up, we did not have a lot of money. 269 00:12:22,260 --> 00:12:23,260 We didn't know that. 270 00:12:23,260 --> 00:12:28,580 And I tell this to Andrew all the time, I never knew how little we had because I always 271 00:12:28,580 --> 00:12:34,220 felt and mom and dad always made it feel like we wanted for nothing. 272 00:12:34,220 --> 00:12:35,220 Yeah. 273 00:12:35,220 --> 00:12:37,940 I had no idea if they were struggling money wise. 274 00:12:37,940 --> 00:12:42,180 We had no idea because everything was made a big deal and it didn't have to be like a 275 00:12:42,180 --> 00:12:43,300 PlayStation. 276 00:12:43,300 --> 00:12:44,780 It was the little things. 277 00:12:44,780 --> 00:12:45,780 It never was. 278 00:12:45,780 --> 00:12:46,780 Yeah. 279 00:12:46,780 --> 00:12:47,780 It never was. 280 00:12:47,780 --> 00:12:48,780 But we never knew it. 281 00:12:48,780 --> 00:12:52,500 And I think that's the whole point is to have something to look forward to. 282 00:12:52,500 --> 00:12:54,660 It doesn't have to be material. 283 00:12:54,660 --> 00:12:56,820 It's just a feeling. 284 00:12:56,820 --> 00:12:58,300 It's an excitement. 285 00:12:58,300 --> 00:13:00,060 It doesn't have to be a thing. 286 00:13:00,060 --> 00:13:01,060 Right. 287 00:13:01,060 --> 00:13:04,500 Oh, but piggybacking off of that, Andrew had no idea what he was walking into when 288 00:13:04,500 --> 00:13:07,940 he came to our holidays, which is what you were referring to as well. 289 00:13:07,940 --> 00:13:10,580 It's Christmas vomit at Christmas. 290 00:13:10,580 --> 00:13:15,740 I mean, Christmas vomit at all of our houses and my house is vomit. 291 00:13:15,740 --> 00:13:16,740 Other styles. 292 00:13:16,740 --> 00:13:18,980 Let's change the vomit word to like explosions. 293 00:13:18,980 --> 00:13:19,980 Oh, explosions. 294 00:13:19,980 --> 00:13:20,980 Yeah. 295 00:13:20,980 --> 00:13:21,980 Yeah. 296 00:13:21,980 --> 00:13:22,980 Christmas explosions. 297 00:13:22,980 --> 00:13:23,980 And Halloween. 298 00:13:23,980 --> 00:13:24,980 Like there's no style. 299 00:13:24,980 --> 00:13:27,820 It's just like I saw it at the French store at Home Goods. 300 00:13:27,820 --> 00:13:28,820 And good. 301 00:13:28,820 --> 00:13:30,500 You know, I just I'm like, oh, it doesn't match. 302 00:13:30,500 --> 00:13:31,500 I don't care. 303 00:13:31,500 --> 00:13:32,500 It's Halloween. 304 00:13:32,500 --> 00:13:33,500 That's just how it is. 305 00:13:33,500 --> 00:13:35,660 And a lot of people aren't used to that. 306 00:13:35,660 --> 00:13:36,660 Andrew didn't grow up like that. 307 00:13:36,660 --> 00:13:41,300 I mean, they never wanted for anything, but also wasn't as, you know, we celebrated every 308 00:13:41,300 --> 00:13:44,100 day from December 1st on. 309 00:13:44,100 --> 00:13:47,300 And a lot of people don't do that and are not used to that, but it's something that 310 00:13:47,300 --> 00:13:48,300 we do. 311 00:13:48,300 --> 00:13:49,780 And I will never give that up. 312 00:13:49,780 --> 00:13:54,740 And by celebrating every day from December 1st on, it's like you decorate every inch 313 00:13:54,740 --> 00:13:58,140 of your house as fun as you want and whatever it is. 314 00:13:58,140 --> 00:13:59,820 And like sometimes that's just the celebration. 315 00:13:59,820 --> 00:14:00,820 Yeah. 316 00:14:00,820 --> 00:14:04,020 Like waking up and going into the bathroom and then all of your tantals are Christmas 317 00:14:04,020 --> 00:14:06,980 like, like that's it's not necessarily getting gifts every single day. 318 00:14:06,980 --> 00:14:07,980 No. 319 00:14:07,980 --> 00:14:13,740 And even with Halloween, like getting getting my Halloween mugs out, I'm so excited to 320 00:14:13,740 --> 00:14:16,980 get my pumpkin spice mug out that I only use one time a year. 321 00:14:16,980 --> 00:14:18,700 Like it's the little things like that. 322 00:14:18,700 --> 00:14:19,700 It's true. 323 00:14:19,700 --> 00:14:24,420 So in any case, maybe you get to that therapy, maybe you start to be able to look forward 324 00:14:24,420 --> 00:14:28,460 to things that you create for yourself, putting things in your calendar. 325 00:14:28,460 --> 00:14:32,940 And then you can change the brainwaves to the third way. 326 00:14:32,940 --> 00:14:39,660 So if every season change is a reboot instead of the sadness that we tend to put on it in 327 00:14:39,660 --> 00:14:46,380 whatever way, you take a second, you go through everything that you accomplished maybe in 328 00:14:46,380 --> 00:14:50,300 the summer or the list of things that you wanted to do. 329 00:14:50,300 --> 00:14:53,100 And so you start looking at what you did and what you didn't do. 330 00:14:53,100 --> 00:14:55,180 So now it's an opportunity to do it in this season. 331 00:14:55,180 --> 00:14:56,180 Right. 332 00:14:56,180 --> 00:15:02,220 The things you didn't get to in the last season and kind of reset your house, your body, your 333 00:15:02,220 --> 00:15:09,460 mind and the way you want to do things, maybe with the same exact list that you had in summer. 334 00:15:09,460 --> 00:15:11,020 Well, that's a really good idea. 335 00:15:11,020 --> 00:15:15,620 I was just thinking about all the things I didn't get to this summer. 336 00:15:15,620 --> 00:15:16,620 Yeah. 337 00:15:16,620 --> 00:15:18,980 And like the things I didn't get to do with the kids, why can't I do it in the fall? 338 00:15:18,980 --> 00:15:19,980 You did so many things. 339 00:15:19,980 --> 00:15:20,980 I know, I know, I know. 340 00:15:20,980 --> 00:15:25,500 But just like in general, like, oh man, I really wanted to, you know, put the lights 341 00:15:25,500 --> 00:15:29,220 up in the backyard and we never got to it this summer because we were never home. 342 00:15:29,220 --> 00:15:30,220 Right. 343 00:15:30,220 --> 00:15:31,220 Why can't you do that now? 344 00:15:31,220 --> 00:15:32,420 Well, look at it this way. 345 00:15:32,420 --> 00:15:35,300 Oh, it's fall, school starts, we're going to be home more. 346 00:15:35,300 --> 00:15:36,300 I get to do that. 347 00:15:36,300 --> 00:15:37,300 Right. 348 00:15:37,300 --> 00:15:38,300 And that's how you look at it. 349 00:15:38,300 --> 00:15:42,740 It's like a very easy thing that everybody can do, but it's all about things we've been 350 00:15:42,740 --> 00:15:45,380 talking about since day one, your mindset shifts. 351 00:15:45,380 --> 00:15:46,380 Yeah. 352 00:15:46,380 --> 00:15:47,380 Yeah. 353 00:15:47,380 --> 00:15:48,380 I never thought of it like that. 354 00:15:48,380 --> 00:15:52,260 Like I was just thinking, oh man, I didn't get to so much this summer. 355 00:15:52,260 --> 00:15:54,620 But why can't I do it now? 356 00:15:54,620 --> 00:15:57,300 I thought you went, I didn't get to so much. 357 00:15:57,300 --> 00:15:58,820 Like you didn't get to so. 358 00:15:58,820 --> 00:15:59,820 Heck no. 359 00:15:59,820 --> 00:16:01,820 Needle and thread. 360 00:16:01,820 --> 00:16:03,060 Nope, not me. 361 00:16:03,060 --> 00:16:05,020 I didn't get to so much this summer. 362 00:16:05,020 --> 00:16:07,020 Maybe in the fall. 363 00:16:07,020 --> 00:16:12,980 So those are ways to kind of change yourself and your mind. 364 00:16:12,980 --> 00:16:18,260 There are ways, and I never would have thought of this, that you transition in your house. 365 00:16:18,260 --> 00:16:25,140 Like in your place of coming home every single day, one is pest-proofing your house because 366 00:16:25,140 --> 00:16:26,900 the bugs change. 367 00:16:26,900 --> 00:16:30,380 In the seasons, things you would like to keep out of your house also change. 368 00:16:30,380 --> 00:16:31,380 Yeah. 369 00:16:31,380 --> 00:16:34,980 I mean, it's a thing like in winter months usually because they're trying to keep warm, 370 00:16:34,980 --> 00:16:35,980 you get mice. 371 00:16:35,980 --> 00:16:36,980 Yeah. 372 00:16:36,980 --> 00:16:38,780 You have to think of that way too. 373 00:16:38,780 --> 00:16:40,100 And I never thought of that. 374 00:16:40,100 --> 00:16:41,540 I would never have thought that. 375 00:16:41,540 --> 00:16:44,020 But I'm ready for the flies to be out. 376 00:16:44,020 --> 00:16:45,020 I mean, yeah. 377 00:16:45,020 --> 00:16:46,020 But that's a thing. 378 00:16:46,020 --> 00:16:48,020 They die off and new. 379 00:16:48,020 --> 00:16:49,020 New ones. 380 00:16:49,020 --> 00:16:50,020 New bugs. 381 00:16:50,020 --> 00:16:56,620 It's a great time to change your windows. 382 00:16:56,620 --> 00:17:00,220 Is somebody like, are you getting some money for this? 383 00:17:00,220 --> 00:17:01,220 No. 384 00:17:01,220 --> 00:17:03,220 No, but I guess it goes hand in hand. 385 00:17:03,220 --> 00:17:06,100 I mean, these are things about the house that I never really thought about it. 386 00:17:06,100 --> 00:17:07,380 And it's not necessarily changing them. 387 00:17:07,380 --> 00:17:09,420 It's just replacing and repairing. 388 00:17:09,420 --> 00:17:11,740 Maybe that's on your list of things to do for the summer. 389 00:17:11,740 --> 00:17:14,140 But things get cold in autumn and winter. 390 00:17:14,140 --> 00:17:19,220 And that's when you have to really pay attention to how you can get through because sometimes 391 00:17:19,220 --> 00:17:23,940 you're so cold, you get into that SAD, seasonal depression. 392 00:17:23,940 --> 00:17:24,940 Oh, man. 393 00:17:24,940 --> 00:17:25,940 I hate being cold. 394 00:17:25,940 --> 00:17:26,940 I see. 395 00:17:26,940 --> 00:17:29,100 I'd rather be cold than hot. 396 00:17:29,100 --> 00:17:30,100 Okay. 397 00:17:30,100 --> 00:17:31,100 Let me rephrase that. 398 00:17:31,100 --> 00:17:32,100 Same. 399 00:17:32,100 --> 00:17:37,220 But I mean, yes, nobody likes to be cold. 400 00:17:37,220 --> 00:17:38,900 That chill that you can't get out, you mean? 401 00:17:38,900 --> 00:17:42,260 I actually, let's rephrase that. 402 00:17:42,260 --> 00:17:44,100 I love being hot. 403 00:17:44,100 --> 00:17:45,100 What? 404 00:17:45,100 --> 00:17:51,220 I was just thinking, one of my favorite feelings is getting into a hot car in the summer. 405 00:17:51,220 --> 00:17:52,340 It's one of my favorite feelings. 406 00:17:52,340 --> 00:17:53,620 That's actually accurate. 407 00:17:53,620 --> 00:17:54,620 That's true. 408 00:17:54,620 --> 00:17:58,060 I love that because with cold, you can always bundle. 409 00:17:58,060 --> 00:18:00,340 And so I like, yeah, I hate being cold. 410 00:18:00,340 --> 00:18:01,340 It's annoying. 411 00:18:01,340 --> 00:18:02,980 I also love being hot. 412 00:18:02,980 --> 00:18:06,900 I don't know why I'm going here, but this is where we are. 413 00:18:06,900 --> 00:18:07,900 Cool. 414 00:18:07,900 --> 00:18:08,900 Thanks. 415 00:18:08,900 --> 00:18:09,900 No, hot. 416 00:18:09,900 --> 00:18:10,900 No, hot. 417 00:18:10,900 --> 00:18:11,900 Change your windows. 418 00:18:11,900 --> 00:18:12,900 Okay. 419 00:18:12,900 --> 00:18:13,900 I'm all over the place. 420 00:18:13,900 --> 00:18:16,180 You can change your windows. 421 00:18:16,180 --> 00:18:17,180 And that's okay. 422 00:18:17,180 --> 00:18:19,900 So that's, I feel like it's like a bad, it's like a haircut. 423 00:18:19,900 --> 00:18:21,060 I'm transitioning. 424 00:18:21,060 --> 00:18:22,340 It's a haircut, right? 425 00:18:22,340 --> 00:18:24,140 You cut your hair, you love it. 426 00:18:24,140 --> 00:18:25,540 It's so short. 427 00:18:25,540 --> 00:18:30,140 Then you get to that phase where it's in between being long and being that really short. 428 00:18:30,140 --> 00:18:36,100 And if you could just get past the awkward, uncomfortable transition of a haircut, now 429 00:18:36,100 --> 00:18:38,180 you have long hair and you made it through. 430 00:18:38,180 --> 00:18:40,780 It's the same thing as the seasonal changes. 431 00:18:40,780 --> 00:18:42,500 Yeah, that's true. 432 00:18:42,500 --> 00:18:48,980 I just want to side note, Victoria and I noticed how often we both say 100% in all the podcasts. 433 00:18:48,980 --> 00:18:51,220 I'm really, really thinking about this. 434 00:18:51,220 --> 00:18:52,220 I haven't said it yet. 435 00:18:52,220 --> 00:18:53,860 No, we haven't said it because I've been thinking about it. 436 00:18:53,860 --> 00:18:54,860 Cool. 437 00:18:54,860 --> 00:18:55,860 I haven't thought about it. 438 00:18:55,860 --> 00:18:56,860 Now I'm going to. 439 00:18:56,860 --> 00:18:57,860 Awesome. 440 00:18:57,860 --> 00:18:58,860 Cool. 441 00:18:58,860 --> 00:18:59,860 50%. 442 00:18:59,860 --> 00:19:03,180 Here's another one for your house. 443 00:19:03,180 --> 00:19:05,540 Replacing your air filters in your HVAC system. 444 00:19:05,540 --> 00:19:07,820 You've been using air conditioning all season. 445 00:19:07,820 --> 00:19:08,820 Yeah. 446 00:19:08,820 --> 00:19:13,300 So it's really smart to change them out now to be prepared for when you use them again 447 00:19:13,300 --> 00:19:16,500 when the season change on the back end of things. 448 00:19:16,500 --> 00:19:20,340 And then you don't have to think about it at the time and then really start setting up 449 00:19:20,340 --> 00:19:23,340 your house for your gas or your heat or your oil. 450 00:19:23,340 --> 00:19:25,140 Gosh, you used to have an oil. 451 00:19:25,140 --> 00:19:26,140 Oh my God. 452 00:19:26,140 --> 00:19:28,340 Oil for heat, which was very expensive. 453 00:19:28,340 --> 00:19:31,660 And then the oil would go out and it would be like a Sunday and then we wouldn't be able 454 00:19:31,660 --> 00:19:37,500 to have heat because no oil companies worked on Sundays and shivering. 455 00:19:37,500 --> 00:19:38,500 She shivered when she said shiver. 456 00:19:38,500 --> 00:19:39,500 I just want to put that out there. 457 00:19:39,500 --> 00:19:40,500 I'm a method actor. 458 00:19:40,500 --> 00:19:41,980 I mean, come on. 459 00:19:41,980 --> 00:19:48,780 And then the last one for just kind of your environment in the seasonal change is decluttering 460 00:19:48,780 --> 00:19:49,780 your house. 461 00:19:49,780 --> 00:19:50,780 Yeah. 462 00:19:50,780 --> 00:19:51,780 That's my favorite part. 463 00:19:51,780 --> 00:19:52,780 It's the best part of it. 464 00:19:52,780 --> 00:19:53,780 I think it's a seasonal thing. 465 00:19:53,780 --> 00:19:54,780 Yeah. 466 00:19:54,780 --> 00:19:57,380 I don't think I do it on purpose, but I think that's when I start to purge. 467 00:19:57,380 --> 00:19:59,180 But it's also just not spring. 468 00:19:59,180 --> 00:20:02,340 You know, like spring cleaning, I do it every season. 469 00:20:02,340 --> 00:20:03,340 Oh my God. 470 00:20:03,340 --> 00:20:05,980 I thought about that yesterday when that's what I was doing to my house. 471 00:20:05,980 --> 00:20:06,980 What? 472 00:20:06,980 --> 00:20:07,980 I said that to myself. 473 00:20:07,980 --> 00:20:09,700 I said, this isn't just a spring cleaning thing. 474 00:20:09,700 --> 00:20:11,700 I do this every time the season changes. 475 00:20:11,700 --> 00:20:14,140 I feel so good when it's done. 476 00:20:14,140 --> 00:20:18,340 It's a lot of work, but you feel so good when it's done and you feel like you kind of have 477 00:20:18,340 --> 00:20:19,340 a clean slate. 478 00:20:19,340 --> 00:20:20,340 Yeah. 479 00:20:20,340 --> 00:20:21,340 And you go into the season fresh. 480 00:20:21,340 --> 00:20:22,340 Yeah. 481 00:20:22,340 --> 00:20:23,340 Yeah. 482 00:20:23,340 --> 00:20:26,340 I did it all day yesterday too, getting the kids ready for school because I wait till 483 00:20:26,340 --> 00:20:29,660 the last second because I was in denial that they were going back to school. 484 00:20:29,660 --> 00:20:34,860 So I did it yesterday, but we cleaned from top to bottom throughout things in silence 485 00:20:34,860 --> 00:20:40,740 because I didn't want the kids to see what I was throwing out, but it feels so good today. 486 00:20:40,740 --> 00:20:44,940 I'm going to read you something that I read today that hit me. 487 00:20:44,940 --> 00:20:51,420 Insignificant choices and changes that you make today will change the tide of tomorrow. 488 00:20:51,420 --> 00:20:57,340 So if had I not cleaned and decluttered yesterday, totally would have made this morning a hot 489 00:20:57,340 --> 00:20:58,340 mess. 490 00:20:58,340 --> 00:21:02,380 I would have not been happy with how the kitchen was or that the kids' school bags were everywhere 491 00:21:02,380 --> 00:21:05,380 and I hadn't done what I was supposed to do. 492 00:21:05,380 --> 00:21:09,660 Keeping things in order and keeping things fresh just makes you happy. 493 00:21:09,660 --> 00:21:11,660 And it made me such a happier person today. 494 00:21:11,660 --> 00:21:17,180 Like, all right, now I'm excited for them to go to school because I got my routine, everything's 495 00:21:17,180 --> 00:21:18,180 back. 496 00:21:18,180 --> 00:21:19,180 It looks good. 497 00:21:19,180 --> 00:21:20,180 It feels good. 498 00:21:20,180 --> 00:21:26,860 They're insignificant in the grand scheme of life, small, but it made a big difference 499 00:21:26,860 --> 00:21:27,860 today. 500 00:21:27,860 --> 00:21:29,340 I would say it doesn't make you happy. 501 00:21:29,340 --> 00:21:30,860 It makes you not stressed. 502 00:21:30,860 --> 00:21:31,860 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 503 00:21:31,860 --> 00:21:33,360 Like, you're correct. 504 00:21:33,360 --> 00:21:38,020 I'm just thinking it in a different way because that happiness can come when you're not stressed. 505 00:21:38,020 --> 00:21:42,340 If you were stressed about the unorganized hurry up, get your uniform. 506 00:21:42,340 --> 00:21:47,700 We didn't lay it out or we didn't have your backpacks ready or the clouse. 507 00:21:47,700 --> 00:21:51,900 The house is so cluttered and that, I mean, it's so true. 508 00:21:51,900 --> 00:21:57,140 A cluttered house is a cluttered mind and is a hectic feel all around. 509 00:21:57,140 --> 00:22:00,740 So it's that lack of stress that you didn't have this morning. 510 00:22:00,740 --> 00:22:06,980 Keeping your routine or setting up a routine is one of the easiest ways you can, what you 511 00:22:06,980 --> 00:22:10,940 can do for yourself to make it easy for you to get through the next phase. 512 00:22:10,940 --> 00:22:11,940 Yeah. 513 00:22:11,940 --> 00:22:13,220 Yeah, those are the two options too. 514 00:22:13,220 --> 00:22:17,780 It's either keep every single season your routine, whether it helps because your work 515 00:22:17,780 --> 00:22:18,820 doesn't change, right? 516 00:22:18,820 --> 00:22:22,740 So whatever those hours are for yourself or where you get your workout in and all of that 517 00:22:22,740 --> 00:22:27,060 stays the same and that's how routine some people have to be. 518 00:22:27,060 --> 00:22:29,180 Or every season you switch it up for yourself. 519 00:22:29,180 --> 00:22:32,980 So it's not monotonous and you're still doing a routine, but it's slightly different. 520 00:22:32,980 --> 00:22:35,060 I mean, we do that with our C-Fit schedule. 521 00:22:35,060 --> 00:22:38,780 We change it for the seasons because things tend to change. 522 00:22:38,780 --> 00:22:43,380 So you either change with it or the friction you have by fighting it usually goes in the 523 00:22:43,380 --> 00:22:44,380 south direction. 524 00:22:44,380 --> 00:22:45,380 Yeah. 525 00:22:45,380 --> 00:22:46,380 And we're in that trend. 526 00:22:46,380 --> 00:22:54,500 I said it last episode that we are in a transition phase right now and we go with the people, 527 00:22:54,500 --> 00:23:02,020 but we also try and give our people what they want according to the phase that we're in 528 00:23:02,020 --> 00:23:03,620 or the season that we're in. 529 00:23:03,620 --> 00:23:05,180 And it definitely changes. 530 00:23:05,180 --> 00:23:09,580 What people want in September and October is very different than what they want in the 531 00:23:09,580 --> 00:23:13,740 summer and we sort of have to go with the flow there. 532 00:23:13,740 --> 00:23:16,500 But we're doing it right now too. 533 00:23:16,500 --> 00:23:23,900 Another thing to remember if you are not good in change or changing of the seasons is that 534 00:23:23,900 --> 00:23:27,740 seasons change and they don't last. 535 00:23:27,740 --> 00:23:29,020 They're temporary. 536 00:23:29,020 --> 00:23:30,540 It's not going to last forever. 537 00:23:30,540 --> 00:23:35,620 This too shall pass if you don't like the summer into fall transition, guess what? 538 00:23:35,620 --> 00:23:36,900 It'll be over before you know it. 539 00:23:36,900 --> 00:23:37,900 Oh my God. 540 00:23:37,900 --> 00:23:38,900 Yeah. 541 00:23:38,900 --> 00:23:39,900 Right? 542 00:23:39,900 --> 00:23:41,020 So just get through it. 543 00:23:41,020 --> 00:23:47,140 Do the best you can to have something to look forward to or make things for yourself 544 00:23:47,140 --> 00:23:49,020 that you have to look forward to. 545 00:23:49,020 --> 00:23:53,700 And it'll be over before you know it because such is life. 546 00:23:53,700 --> 00:23:54,860 I don't know who you are. 547 00:23:54,860 --> 00:23:58,220 Oh, I've been listening to this podcast recently. 548 00:23:58,220 --> 00:24:02,420 It's called Fit to Be Real and I listen to it every Tuesday, Monday. 549 00:24:02,420 --> 00:24:05,580 I don't know what it's on. 550 00:24:05,580 --> 00:24:06,580 Yikes. 551 00:24:06,580 --> 00:24:10,300 I think I listen to it on Mondays and I've been learning a lot. 552 00:24:10,300 --> 00:24:11,300 So you think you're smart? 553 00:24:11,300 --> 00:24:12,300 What? 554 00:24:12,300 --> 00:24:13,300 So you think you're smart? 555 00:24:13,300 --> 00:24:16,220 No, it's good. 556 00:24:16,220 --> 00:24:18,700 In saying that, I said that to Melody this morning. 557 00:24:18,700 --> 00:24:23,380 I said, Melody, you are so, you look so pretty in her uniform and she was like, I know I 558 00:24:23,380 --> 00:24:24,380 am. 559 00:24:24,380 --> 00:24:25,460 And I was like, yes. 560 00:24:25,460 --> 00:24:27,580 I said, Melody, you go into school with that confidence. 561 00:24:27,580 --> 00:24:28,580 That's amazing. 562 00:24:28,580 --> 00:24:29,580 I know. 563 00:24:29,580 --> 00:24:31,540 And I was so proud of her because she was like, I know I am. 564 00:24:31,540 --> 00:24:33,220 Yeah, you have to take a lot from her. 565 00:24:33,220 --> 00:24:34,220 I know. 566 00:24:34,220 --> 00:24:36,500 I looked and then I looked in the mirror and I said, I am too. 567 00:24:36,500 --> 00:24:38,020 And she was like, what? 568 00:24:38,020 --> 00:24:41,500 So you think you're pretty? 569 00:24:41,500 --> 00:24:47,940 But anyway, seasons change and you can change along with it or you can fight it. 570 00:24:47,940 --> 00:24:54,140 And fighting it just like anything else, seasonal, emotional is never, never the positive way 571 00:24:54,140 --> 00:24:55,220 to go. 572 00:24:55,220 --> 00:25:00,020 And you just have to remember the joy you felt all summer long if you're a summer person, 573 00:25:00,020 --> 00:25:01,300 it's not going to last. 574 00:25:01,300 --> 00:25:03,940 And you know that it happens every year. 575 00:25:03,940 --> 00:25:09,500 And for us, the joy that happens from September to December, that's not going to last. 576 00:25:09,500 --> 00:25:16,380 So you just have to enjoy it while it's happening and try and adapt to the next phase. 577 00:25:16,380 --> 00:25:18,580 And it's a hard thing to do. 578 00:25:18,580 --> 00:25:20,260 Nothing is permanent seasons. 579 00:25:20,260 --> 00:25:21,260 I wrote that down. 580 00:25:21,260 --> 00:25:22,780 Are not an exception. 581 00:25:22,780 --> 00:25:23,780 Nothing is permanent. 582 00:25:23,780 --> 00:25:26,020 And if you're feeling sad, you're going to be happy again. 583 00:25:26,020 --> 00:25:28,660 If you're feeling happy, you're going to get sad again. 584 00:25:28,660 --> 00:25:33,820 I'm learning through yoga and everything that I'm doing this year, two years. 585 00:25:33,820 --> 00:25:38,900 The purpose of life is not to find happiness because happiness is just an emotion. 586 00:25:38,900 --> 00:25:42,900 It's an emotion that comes in like a wave and it goes out with the tide. 587 00:25:42,900 --> 00:25:47,700 And it's something that I think we are all taught, do things that make you happy. 588 00:25:47,700 --> 00:25:49,340 You're supposed to be happy. 589 00:25:49,340 --> 00:25:51,900 The goal is to look for happiness. 590 00:25:51,900 --> 00:25:53,620 And it's not actually true. 591 00:25:53,620 --> 00:25:59,260 The goal is to look for joy, to find joy because there's joy in the moments that aren't happy 592 00:25:59,260 --> 00:26:01,540 and there's joy in the moments that are happy. 593 00:26:01,540 --> 00:26:09,620 So finding that inner sense of joy truly is the purpose because happiness is not permanent. 594 00:26:09,620 --> 00:26:15,140 We've talked, I know in an episode we've talked about this before that the highs, they are 595 00:26:15,140 --> 00:26:17,300 there, the lows, they are there. 596 00:26:17,300 --> 00:26:20,700 And you have to know when you're at the high that there will be a low. 597 00:26:20,700 --> 00:26:23,780 And when you're at the low, know that there will be a high. 598 00:26:23,780 --> 00:26:29,860 And if you can always keep that on a hamster wheel in your mind and know that it won't 599 00:26:29,860 --> 00:26:34,180 always be this good and it's not always going to be this bad, it's a hamster wheel. 600 00:26:34,180 --> 00:26:38,140 Yeah, I think of that like a not a hamster roller coaster. 601 00:26:38,140 --> 00:26:39,140 Yeah, yeah, yeah. 602 00:26:39,140 --> 00:26:40,140 Hamster wheel is negative. 603 00:26:40,140 --> 00:26:41,140 No, no, no. 604 00:26:41,140 --> 00:26:44,820 Hamster wheel is good because it's cyclical and it goes around and around and around. 605 00:26:44,820 --> 00:26:46,460 So it's always coming back around. 606 00:26:46,460 --> 00:26:52,060 It took me a while to really grasp that temporary is what it is because if you think of it like 607 00:26:52,060 --> 00:26:57,140 a roller coaster, you get in the ride, you strap in because we know what could happen 608 00:26:57,140 --> 00:26:58,140 if you don't strap in. 609 00:26:58,140 --> 00:27:01,820 Do you strap into the roller coaster, right? 610 00:27:01,820 --> 00:27:10,020 And then it slowly usually goes on an incline on the way up and you reach the top. 611 00:27:10,020 --> 00:27:12,900 If you just, if that was it, you're at the top. 612 00:27:12,900 --> 00:27:13,900 Yeah. 613 00:27:13,900 --> 00:27:18,180 If you were at that happiness, how boring would that be? 614 00:27:18,180 --> 00:27:19,180 There's nothing to do. 615 00:27:19,180 --> 00:27:20,180 You made it. 616 00:27:20,180 --> 00:27:21,180 Yeah, you made it. 617 00:27:21,180 --> 00:27:25,500 So if you think of it like that roller coaster, sometimes the best moments come from that 618 00:27:25,500 --> 00:27:28,180 big surge going down. 619 00:27:28,180 --> 00:27:30,180 And then you get to go back up again. 620 00:27:30,180 --> 00:27:33,860 And of course now you've got twists and turns and loops and all the fun stuff. 621 00:27:33,860 --> 00:27:39,860 But if that roller coaster was just a little toddler train ride going two miles an hour 622 00:27:39,860 --> 00:27:43,860 at the high or the low, nobody would have motivation to hang out. 623 00:27:43,860 --> 00:27:44,860 Anything. 624 00:27:44,860 --> 00:27:45,860 Right. 625 00:27:45,860 --> 00:27:47,100 So take that to the bank. 626 00:27:47,100 --> 00:27:50,980 Well, in you saying that, remind me of this, I was listening to Dax Shepard. 627 00:27:50,980 --> 00:27:51,980 I don't know if anybody listened. 628 00:27:51,980 --> 00:27:56,300 I know I've talked about it before, armchair expert and Jake Johnson. 629 00:27:56,300 --> 00:28:00,620 Mr. Jake Johnson, Nick Miller from New Girl was on. 630 00:28:00,620 --> 00:28:03,780 And he has a new podcast and you can thank me later. 631 00:28:03,780 --> 00:28:05,100 It's called We're Here to Help. 632 00:28:05,100 --> 00:28:06,100 So go listen to it. 633 00:28:06,100 --> 00:28:08,980 It's really a hysterical. 634 00:28:08,980 --> 00:28:14,900 But anyway, he said, you know, I came out to LA to be an actor, but he put it this way. 635 00:28:14,900 --> 00:28:20,260 You build sandcastles and they're great and they last and then somebody steps on them. 636 00:28:20,260 --> 00:28:21,260 But what do you do? 637 00:28:21,260 --> 00:28:22,260 You build another sandcastle. 638 00:28:22,260 --> 00:28:23,260 Wow. 639 00:28:23,260 --> 00:28:25,020 And you can do that your entire life. 640 00:28:25,020 --> 00:28:27,940 You can take all the time in the world to build those sandcastles. 641 00:28:27,940 --> 00:28:28,940 They take a lot of time. 642 00:28:28,940 --> 00:28:29,940 You look at them afterwards. 643 00:28:29,940 --> 00:28:30,940 You're really proud of them. 644 00:28:30,940 --> 00:28:32,500 Oh my God, that was amazing. 645 00:28:32,500 --> 00:28:34,240 And then a wave comes and takes it away. 646 00:28:34,240 --> 00:28:35,240 What do you do? 647 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:36,240 You build another one. 648 00:28:36,240 --> 00:28:38,220 And yeah, that's like, it's the same thing. 649 00:28:38,220 --> 00:28:42,420 And that's the most amazing thing from Nick Miller I've ever heard. 650 00:28:42,420 --> 00:28:44,580 From Nick Miller. 651 00:28:44,580 --> 00:28:49,820 In researching this, because I'm a big researcher now and I read articles. 652 00:28:49,820 --> 00:28:53,820 This podcast taught me anything is I have to know a little bit ahead of time what I'm 653 00:28:53,820 --> 00:28:54,820 talking about. 654 00:28:54,820 --> 00:28:55,820 Oh, wonderful. 655 00:28:55,820 --> 00:28:57,820 Lessons all around. 656 00:28:57,820 --> 00:28:58,820 Yeah. 657 00:28:58,820 --> 00:29:03,620 We're just quickly going to talk about the four ways to adapt to the seasons of your 658 00:29:03,620 --> 00:29:07,860 life, the seasons of the year and just seasons in general. 659 00:29:07,860 --> 00:29:08,980 There's four of them. 660 00:29:08,980 --> 00:29:11,900 So it'll be, you know, keep it tight. 661 00:29:11,900 --> 00:29:12,900 100%. 662 00:29:12,900 --> 00:29:17,540 I only want to give that a 50. 663 00:29:17,540 --> 00:29:20,420 Number one, change your attitude. 664 00:29:20,420 --> 00:29:21,420 Change your attitude. 665 00:29:21,420 --> 00:29:22,420 Change your attitude. 666 00:29:22,420 --> 00:29:24,400 Well, you already said this pretty much mindset. 667 00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:26,820 Change your attitude about the changing of the seasons. 668 00:29:26,820 --> 00:29:28,020 And guess what? 669 00:29:28,020 --> 00:29:30,820 You're going to be so much happier life. 670 00:29:30,820 --> 00:29:32,160 Everything in life happens for a reason. 671 00:29:32,160 --> 00:29:34,860 So here's the hard part of that though. 672 00:29:34,860 --> 00:29:35,860 How do you do that? 673 00:29:35,860 --> 00:29:36,860 Right? 674 00:29:36,860 --> 00:29:39,900 You did talk a lot about different ways you can do it. 675 00:29:39,900 --> 00:29:44,860 All that means, what I'm learning is to get rid of expectation. 676 00:29:44,860 --> 00:29:47,060 Yeah, we hate expectations. 677 00:29:47,060 --> 00:29:53,420 No, truly, expectations not necessarily having standards for what you want. 678 00:29:53,420 --> 00:29:57,260 Expectation in the sense of if it doesn't work out the way that you expect. 679 00:29:57,260 --> 00:29:59,420 It's coming down. 680 00:29:59,420 --> 00:30:00,420 Are you raising your hand? 681 00:30:00,420 --> 00:30:01,420 I'm raising my hand. 682 00:30:01,420 --> 00:30:02,420 Oh my God. 683 00:30:02,420 --> 00:30:03,420 Because I was saying, me. 684 00:30:03,420 --> 00:30:08,780 It's the expectations, we put a lot of expectations on things. 685 00:30:08,780 --> 00:30:09,780 Everybody does. 686 00:30:09,780 --> 00:30:13,740 But when they don't turn out the way that you think there should, the quote unquote 687 00:30:13,740 --> 00:30:17,260 word should, that's where disappointment comes into play. 688 00:30:17,260 --> 00:30:18,420 That's where sadness comes in. 689 00:30:18,420 --> 00:30:20,860 That's where depression, anxiety, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. 690 00:30:20,860 --> 00:30:26,100 So when you change your attitude, it's getting rid of the notion of expectation on what the 691 00:30:26,100 --> 00:30:30,060 season should be for yourself or what the phase of your life is that you're in should 692 00:30:30,060 --> 00:30:35,140 be because then you can take the judgment that you get from the expectation not working 693 00:30:35,140 --> 00:30:39,180 out or maybe working out in a different way and you can turn it into an improvement so 694 00:30:39,180 --> 00:30:43,300 that each season improves in different ways. 695 00:30:43,300 --> 00:30:44,300 It's just the mind. 696 00:30:44,300 --> 00:30:47,740 It is the mindset that you're talking about, but it's the attitude changes from like getting 697 00:30:47,740 --> 00:30:49,780 rid of the attachment to expectation. 698 00:30:49,780 --> 00:30:56,620 Oh, I have high expectations all the time and a lot of the time, that's why I get disappointed. 699 00:30:56,620 --> 00:31:00,100 And that's how I've been my whole life and I'm probably never going to change it. 700 00:31:00,100 --> 00:31:06,620 So I expect that, but also that's disappointing. 701 00:31:06,620 --> 00:31:14,900 Number two, you have to gain perspective, examine what's going on in your life, take 702 00:31:14,900 --> 00:31:22,260 a second pause and try and figure out why you're feeling sad with capital SAD and see 703 00:31:22,260 --> 00:31:25,780 and try and figure out ways to change the mindset around it. 704 00:31:25,780 --> 00:31:27,100 So those two sort of go together. 705 00:31:27,100 --> 00:31:28,100 Just reflecting. 706 00:31:28,100 --> 00:31:29,100 I like that. 707 00:31:29,100 --> 00:31:33,820 Number three, be flexible to embrace change. 708 00:31:33,820 --> 00:31:35,020 That I mean, that's pretty straightforward. 709 00:31:35,020 --> 00:31:37,860 You have to be flexible because nothing goes in a straight line. 710 00:31:37,860 --> 00:31:38,860 It's windy. 711 00:31:38,860 --> 00:31:39,860 You got to bend. 712 00:31:39,860 --> 00:31:40,860 Yeah. 713 00:31:40,860 --> 00:31:44,380 I'm talking to myself because I am not very good at being flexible. 714 00:31:44,380 --> 00:31:47,660 Last one, be your own bestie. 715 00:31:47,660 --> 00:31:52,860 Now I read this and I was like, whatever, this is so negative because what it means is like 716 00:31:52,860 --> 00:31:57,260 you can't count on anybody, so you have to count on yourself and hold yourself accountable 717 00:31:57,260 --> 00:32:02,580 because yes, you have family, yes, you have friends, you have people that are there for 718 00:32:02,580 --> 00:32:07,260 you, but no one is there for you as much as you're there for yourself. 719 00:32:07,260 --> 00:32:16,500 You can count the only person you can count on 100% is yourself and only you can get yourself 720 00:32:16,500 --> 00:32:22,820 out of that SAD, capital SAD said, you know, seasonal depression, only you can do that. 721 00:32:22,820 --> 00:32:23,820 Nobody else can do that. 722 00:32:23,820 --> 00:32:24,820 And I thought that was really interesting. 723 00:32:24,820 --> 00:32:26,260 It was like, be your own best friend. 724 00:32:26,260 --> 00:32:28,380 Yeah, no, that's not negative. 725 00:32:28,380 --> 00:32:29,860 That's definitely not negative. 726 00:32:29,860 --> 00:32:34,780 You have to take care of the relationship that you have with yourself to get through the 727 00:32:34,780 --> 00:32:41,980 seasonal relationships, the seasonal seasons, the seasonal phases in your life because at 728 00:32:41,980 --> 00:32:45,180 the end of all of those, you still just have yourself. 729 00:32:45,180 --> 00:32:46,180 Yeah. 730 00:32:46,180 --> 00:32:47,180 Oh, that's 100%. 731 00:32:47,180 --> 00:32:48,180 200%. 732 00:32:48,180 --> 00:32:53,100 200% 200% 733 00:32:53,100 --> 00:32:54,420 Things have to die. 734 00:32:54,420 --> 00:32:55,420 Yeah. 735 00:32:55,420 --> 00:32:57,540 Like the trees, the leaves fall. 736 00:32:57,540 --> 00:33:00,700 We love them because it's pretty and they change color. 737 00:33:00,700 --> 00:33:05,900 But what happens after in autumn, the trees and the leaves change, they die. 738 00:33:05,900 --> 00:33:11,180 They have to fall off the branches to be able to make new leaves that are green and ready 739 00:33:11,180 --> 00:33:16,140 for spring and summer, which we love so much as well when all of the trees start blooming 740 00:33:16,140 --> 00:33:20,940 leaves and the branches don't look so sad and not snow covered. 741 00:33:20,940 --> 00:33:22,260 They have to die. 742 00:33:22,260 --> 00:33:27,260 And if you think of that with relationships, some just have to fade out for you to be able 743 00:33:27,260 --> 00:33:33,820 to grow as yourself a little bit more and expand into something you're supposed to be. 744 00:33:33,820 --> 00:33:37,700 Same thing with the seasons of obviously the seasons. 745 00:33:37,700 --> 00:33:43,580 I don't necessarily mean life has to die, but things have to die in your life for you 746 00:33:43,580 --> 00:33:46,100 to move on and progress. 747 00:33:46,100 --> 00:33:49,500 And the whole purpose is to continue to grow. 748 00:33:49,500 --> 00:33:50,500 I was just- 749 00:33:50,500 --> 00:33:53,660 And you cannot grow in the same environment. 750 00:33:53,660 --> 00:33:59,500 If you put a shark in a fishbowl, it's only going to grow as big as the fishbowl. 751 00:33:59,500 --> 00:34:03,900 So the environment you're in, if you're not growing how you need or feel like you should 752 00:34:03,900 --> 00:34:07,820 be growing, you need to get out and you need to expand it. 753 00:34:07,820 --> 00:34:11,380 And for that to happen, some things have to be let go. 754 00:34:11,380 --> 00:34:12,380 Yeah. 755 00:34:12,380 --> 00:34:17,380 And then you can either to being able to adapt and be flexible and grow bigger than the fishbowl. 756 00:34:17,380 --> 00:34:21,820 I was just going to say, like, like the seasons change, we have to change. 757 00:34:21,820 --> 00:34:24,020 And sometimes it's natural and you don't even know. 758 00:34:24,020 --> 00:34:29,180 The part where it happens and you don't even know, it's because you're not trying so hard. 759 00:34:29,180 --> 00:34:34,180 If you don't try to, just like we said earlier, fight the change, then you don't even know 760 00:34:34,180 --> 00:34:36,700 all the good things that are happening because it's just happening. 761 00:34:36,700 --> 00:34:41,660 And then you can take that reflective moment that you were talking about and be like, wow. 762 00:34:41,660 --> 00:34:45,660 And I'm quite literally sit myself on the surfboard and just let the wave take me like 763 00:34:45,660 --> 00:34:47,020 so much can happen. 764 00:34:47,020 --> 00:34:48,020 Yeah. 765 00:34:48,020 --> 00:34:49,020 Don't fight it. 766 00:34:49,020 --> 00:34:52,820 Just go, everybody needs to be a little more go with the flow and stop going against the 767 00:34:52,820 --> 00:34:59,900 current because if we all did that, everybody would just be a little kinder, a little, we'd 768 00:34:59,900 --> 00:35:01,580 have so much more joy. 769 00:35:01,580 --> 00:35:04,420 My God, things really don't have to be that hard. 770 00:35:04,420 --> 00:35:05,420 That hard. 771 00:35:05,420 --> 00:35:06,420 Yeah. 772 00:35:06,420 --> 00:35:10,300 I also think if everybody just, I think if more people, because not everybody does 773 00:35:10,300 --> 00:35:17,220 this, but if more people just worried about themselves and you do you and not let anybody 774 00:35:17,220 --> 00:35:22,860 else's joy affect them, how much happier would you be if you didn't let other people and 775 00:35:22,860 --> 00:35:24,420 what they do affect you? 776 00:35:24,420 --> 00:35:25,420 There you go. 777 00:35:25,420 --> 00:35:26,420 It's so true. 778 00:35:26,420 --> 00:35:30,740 If you want to have an endless summer in your house and decorate for, you know, Key West 779 00:35:30,740 --> 00:35:33,420 summer on the beach, do it. 780 00:35:33,420 --> 00:35:34,820 Margaritaville all year round. 781 00:35:34,820 --> 00:35:35,820 I'm in. 782 00:35:35,820 --> 00:35:36,820 Margaritaville. 783 00:35:36,820 --> 00:35:37,820 But yeah. 784 00:35:37,820 --> 00:35:39,340 But if that's what you want to do, do it. 785 00:35:39,340 --> 00:35:41,060 No one should care. 786 00:35:41,060 --> 00:35:43,500 That brings that person joy. 787 00:35:43,500 --> 00:35:45,500 Stop being a joy stealer. 788 00:35:45,500 --> 00:35:50,900 I think a lot of people would find more joy in smaller things daily if you just did whatever 789 00:35:50,900 --> 00:35:53,700 you wanted to do, which is what I do with my outfit. 790 00:35:53,700 --> 00:35:54,940 Let's circle back. 791 00:35:54,940 --> 00:36:03,900 What I do with my outfit choices, I let her care and I do whatever I want. 792 00:36:03,900 --> 00:36:07,580 Is this as long as I think it is? 793 00:36:07,580 --> 00:36:13,020 All right, so we think you get it. 794 00:36:13,020 --> 00:36:21,980 At this point, we've got to understand at least a piece of this. 795 00:36:21,980 --> 00:36:25,300 Figure real tip of the today and the season. 796 00:36:25,300 --> 00:36:29,940 Do a deep clean of your house, whether that's just decluttering and organizing or if that's 797 00:36:29,940 --> 00:36:36,220 scrubbing like Cinderella on your hands and knees and reset the clean slate so that you 798 00:36:36,220 --> 00:36:40,780 can make the decisions going from there with a little bit of a clear mind as well. 799 00:36:40,780 --> 00:36:48,660 Now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called can't fight the moonlight. 800 00:36:48,660 --> 00:36:52,420 What does can't fight the moonlight mean? 801 00:36:52,420 --> 00:36:55,180 It means don't fight it. 802 00:36:55,180 --> 00:36:56,460 Go with it. 803 00:36:56,460 --> 00:37:03,740 If you love the seasons each season as it comes, find joy in it. 804 00:37:03,740 --> 00:37:04,980 Lean into it. 805 00:37:04,980 --> 00:37:10,420 Just shy away from it because of what society or other people might say or might think. 806 00:37:10,420 --> 00:37:16,660 If you lean into every season and find little bits of joy in what that season has to bring, 807 00:37:16,660 --> 00:37:21,500 you're going to find that at the end of the year, you are pretty much happy. 808 00:37:21,500 --> 00:37:24,060 Thank you, Leanne Rimes. 809 00:37:24,060 --> 00:37:27,140 Just like I feel like I'm on a bar at Coyote Ugly. 810 00:37:27,140 --> 00:37:29,500 Can't fight the moonlight. 811 00:37:29,500 --> 00:37:30,500 No. 812 00:37:30,500 --> 00:37:33,180 Oh, you can't fight it. 813 00:37:33,180 --> 00:37:37,340 It's got to get to your heart. 814 00:37:37,340 --> 00:37:42,580 May your new season breathe joy when you breathe. 815 00:37:42,580 --> 00:37:48,300 So just breathe through it all and remember that you are always fit to be real and always 816 00:37:48,300 --> 00:37:57,260 allowed to be a little extra. 817 00:37:57,260 --> 00:38:02,380 Carly's wearing overalls today because it brings me joy. 818 00:38:02,380 --> 00:38:03,380 It's okay. 819 00:38:03,380 --> 00:38:04,380 They'll be in my throwaway pile. 820 00:38:04,380 --> 00:38:05,380 You can have them in about six months. 821 00:38:05,380 --> 00:38:06,380 Thanks. 822 00:38:06,380 --> 00:38:11,460 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 823 00:38:11,460 --> 00:38:13,260 educational purposes only. 824 00:38:13,260 --> 00:38:15,460 We are not healthcare professionals. 825 00:38:15,460 --> 00:38:19,580 For all of your health, wellness, fitness, and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 826 00:38:19,580 --> 00:38:24,620 professional in your life, your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, 827 00:38:24,620 --> 00:38:26,340 whoever it may be. 828 00:38:26,340 --> 00:38:30,460 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know what to do. 829 00:38:30,460 --> 00:38:31,460 Okay? 830 00:38:31,460 --> 00:38:32,460 Bye.