1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,680 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:03,680 --> 00:00:05,680 We're not holding back today. 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:06,920 No, we are not. 4 00:00:06,920 --> 00:00:09,140 There's nothing holding me back. 5 00:00:09,140 --> 00:00:14,220 I can find a song for anything. 6 00:00:14,220 --> 00:00:17,900 There's no difference from any other podcast episode, 7 00:00:17,900 --> 00:00:21,360 according to Carly, where she will just sing song. 8 00:00:21,360 --> 00:00:22,480 Sing song. 9 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:24,400 I will not be held back today. 10 00:00:24,400 --> 00:00:27,100 If you have not caught on to the theme, 11 00:00:27,100 --> 00:00:29,460 it's about holding us back. 12 00:00:29,460 --> 00:00:30,960 And the things that do that. 13 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:31,640 Yeah. 14 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:33,140 We don't want anything holding you back, 15 00:00:33,140 --> 00:00:36,000 and we're going to go through the things that might be, 16 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:39,960 or if you're unsure, we're going to put a name to those feelings. 17 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:42,560 And they are called Carly. 18 00:00:52,100 --> 00:00:53,040 I'm Victoria. 19 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:54,400 Hey, guys, I'm Carly. 20 00:00:54,400 --> 00:00:56,900 And I have to say, 21 00:00:56,900 --> 00:01:01,500 I've never noticed your maniacal laugh until we started doing this. 22 00:01:01,500 --> 00:01:02,640 Really? 23 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:03,940 Carly, it is. 24 00:01:03,940 --> 00:01:05,780 No, you have that you have a laugh, 25 00:01:05,780 --> 00:01:09,380 but when I play it back 17 hours straight of editing and it goes. 26 00:01:11,680 --> 00:01:15,000 Like you go through the octave, you go up, you bring it back down. 27 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:16,780 I think I'm just going. 28 00:01:16,780 --> 00:01:19,000 It's like a vocal warm up. 29 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:20,780 I'm going through. 30 00:01:20,780 --> 00:01:21,940 Sure is. 31 00:01:21,940 --> 00:01:27,540 Years of training of voice training of like laughing safely. 32 00:01:27,540 --> 00:01:30,340 And then there's Victoria, who's like. 33 00:01:31,740 --> 00:01:33,640 Carly picked this one. 34 00:01:33,640 --> 00:01:34,440 Why are you? 35 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:36,840 Is there something you're particularly holding back in your life? 36 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:38,140 You like to talk about? 37 00:01:38,140 --> 00:01:38,940 No, not. 38 00:01:38,940 --> 00:01:40,540 I think, well. 39 00:01:43,240 --> 00:01:46,680 I think we all hold back and I think things scare us 40 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,680 and we are going through a transitional time right now. 41 00:01:49,680 --> 00:01:53,280 Victoria and I, I think with Seafit and our business 42 00:01:53,280 --> 00:01:57,880 and we are always trying to make things better and it's hard to change. 43 00:01:57,880 --> 00:01:58,780 And. 44 00:01:59,880 --> 00:02:02,680 You are really the only thing holding yourself back. 45 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:07,180 And in doing this podcast in general, not this episode, 46 00:02:07,180 --> 00:02:13,280 but this podcast, it is made me realize and open up my eyes to the things 47 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:14,880 that I want to change. 48 00:02:14,880 --> 00:02:17,380 I know Victoria might not believe me, but I see it. 49 00:02:17,380 --> 00:02:20,480 I hear myself talking and I'm like, damn, that's good. 50 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:21,580 I should do that. 51 00:02:21,580 --> 00:02:22,880 Oh my God. 52 00:02:24,180 --> 00:02:27,980 So in one of the previous podcasts, I think it was the last one. 53 00:02:27,980 --> 00:02:28,980 Episodes, episodes. 54 00:02:29,980 --> 00:02:32,480 We said something about, is it better? 55 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:33,580 I mean, it was. 56 00:02:34,380 --> 00:02:34,780 Silly. 57 00:02:34,780 --> 00:02:36,380 Is it better to be smart or lucky? 58 00:02:36,380 --> 00:02:39,980 And when I was writing that question or I was looking it up, 59 00:02:39,980 --> 00:02:42,480 I was really researching it. 60 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:44,580 Is it better to be smart or lucky? 61 00:02:44,580 --> 00:02:47,680 And they really said there is no such thing as luck. 62 00:02:47,680 --> 00:02:48,680 There really isn't. 63 00:02:48,680 --> 00:02:49,680 There's coincidences. 64 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:54,980 There is, but just like I said last week, you can have 7000 degrees 65 00:02:54,980 --> 00:02:58,180 and the person next to you can be more successful, but there's a reason. 66 00:02:58,180 --> 00:03:01,580 And it got me thinking like, well, what is the reason? 67 00:03:01,580 --> 00:03:04,380 What's holding the person back like and all this stuff. 68 00:03:04,380 --> 00:03:05,980 So then we started diving into that. 69 00:03:05,980 --> 00:03:11,280 And I think there are a lot of things holding everybody back and they just 70 00:03:11,280 --> 00:03:16,580 can't put a name to it or they can't put their finger on what exactly it is. 71 00:03:16,580 --> 00:03:22,580 And maybe this episode will help them put a finger or an earmark to be like, 72 00:03:22,580 --> 00:03:24,080 Oh yeah, I definitely do that. 73 00:03:24,580 --> 00:03:25,780 How do I not do that? 74 00:03:26,580 --> 00:03:27,080 Yeah. 75 00:03:28,080 --> 00:03:28,880 I think that's great. 76 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:32,680 The number one thing that hold that is holding you back is you. 77 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:36,380 After the research I've done, that is the first thing everybody says is. 78 00:03:36,380 --> 00:03:37,980 Oh, you needed research for that? 79 00:03:37,980 --> 00:03:38,480 Yeah. 80 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:40,680 I'm so cute. 81 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:43,280 She needed research for that. 82 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:47,080 No, it was just the one thing that kept repeating like every. 83 00:03:47,280 --> 00:03:48,280 It just said Carly. 84 00:03:48,380 --> 00:03:50,080 Yeah, it said Carly, you're holding yourself back. 85 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:51,280 Carly, you're holding yourself back. 86 00:03:52,380 --> 00:03:55,980 But it's you and if you like look in the mirror, you are holding yourself back. 87 00:03:55,980 --> 00:03:59,680 You're the only person that can change or the like nobody will. 88 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:00,780 What? 89 00:04:04,780 --> 00:04:05,680 Only Tuesday. 90 00:04:05,680 --> 00:04:06,080 What are you? 91 00:04:06,080 --> 00:04:08,380 Lafou from the movie. 92 00:04:10,380 --> 00:04:11,380 L'imposso. 93 00:04:12,380 --> 00:04:13,380 Oh, that's not Lafou. 94 00:04:13,380 --> 00:04:14,780 Lafou's from Beauty and the Beast. 95 00:04:14,780 --> 00:04:15,580 God damn it. 96 00:04:15,780 --> 00:04:17,180 It's only Tuesday. 97 00:04:17,180 --> 00:04:19,880 Oh, yes, but it's a full moon week. 98 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:21,580 It's a super blue moon. 99 00:04:23,180 --> 00:04:24,280 Let's start with number one. 100 00:04:24,380 --> 00:04:29,880 Fear, which is the basis of I think anything else we're going to say. 101 00:04:29,980 --> 00:04:31,680 I think fear is the base in all of them. 102 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:32,280 Of all of it. 103 00:04:32,280 --> 00:04:32,680 Yeah. 104 00:04:32,780 --> 00:04:34,680 You can look at fear in a couple different ways. 105 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:39,080 So an acronym for it is false emotions appearing real. 106 00:04:40,480 --> 00:04:44,680 F E A R false emotions appearing real. 107 00:04:44,680 --> 00:04:45,480 And that's the truth. 108 00:04:45,480 --> 00:04:49,480 Yeah, that I just love that one because I was like, oh fact. 109 00:04:51,280 --> 00:04:57,180 So if you look at it as I'm scared, I'm in fear, forget everything and run 110 00:04:57,480 --> 00:04:58,980 because that's what fear is. 111 00:04:58,980 --> 00:04:59,480 Uh huh. 112 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:02,480 And if you can flip that, which is what we'll talk about today in ways 113 00:05:02,480 --> 00:05:05,480 that we can do that face everything and rise. 114 00:05:05,880 --> 00:05:07,880 I mean, I like the second one. 115 00:05:07,880 --> 00:05:08,480 Well, of course. 116 00:05:08,480 --> 00:05:11,880 Yeah, but it's we all go to the forget everything and run first. 117 00:05:11,880 --> 00:05:13,080 That's the point of fear. 118 00:05:13,480 --> 00:05:17,480 So if you can think that there's a way out of that and fear doesn't have to mean 119 00:05:17,480 --> 00:05:21,780 fear, like you can sit in it and understand, try to understand what it is 120 00:05:21,780 --> 00:05:24,880 you're actually feeling and then rise to the occasion. 121 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:28,380 Yeah, I mean, if we could all recognize. 122 00:05:28,380 --> 00:05:34,380 You better recognize instead of push it away, like recognize that you're fearful 123 00:05:34,380 --> 00:05:39,380 and then write down what what is it that scares you, acknowledge it and then figure 124 00:05:39,380 --> 00:05:41,780 out ways to to change it. 125 00:05:41,780 --> 00:05:42,280 Yeah. 126 00:05:42,280 --> 00:05:44,380 But but I feel like I mean, myself included. 127 00:05:44,380 --> 00:05:44,980 I don't do that. 128 00:05:44,980 --> 00:05:46,380 I just go, oh no, I can't do that. 129 00:05:46,380 --> 00:05:50,980 Andrew was a huge believer in writing stuff down and I am a huge believer in 130 00:05:50,980 --> 00:05:52,180 keeping it all in your head. 131 00:05:52,180 --> 00:05:53,780 God, that explains so much. 132 00:05:53,780 --> 00:06:00,380 If we wrote down more like what we were fearful of and then try and cross it off 133 00:06:00,380 --> 00:06:00,780 the list. 134 00:06:00,780 --> 00:06:04,580 Fear is the thing that's holding you back and it's your biggest competitor 135 00:06:04,580 --> 00:06:05,980 and it's in yourself. 136 00:06:05,980 --> 00:06:08,980 My friend, Teddy D. Teddy D. Roosevelt. 137 00:06:08,980 --> 00:06:10,380 Oh, oh, yeah. 138 00:06:10,380 --> 00:06:12,580 Teddy D. Teddy D. Teddy D. 139 00:06:12,580 --> 00:06:14,180 Said, what did you do? 140 00:06:14,180 --> 00:06:17,180 I mean, it's the most famous quote in the whole world. 141 00:06:17,180 --> 00:06:19,580 The only thing we have to fear is fear itself. 142 00:06:19,580 --> 00:06:23,780 And you learn that like the posters are all up when you're a kid in school and 143 00:06:23,780 --> 00:06:25,380 you don't really look at it. 144 00:06:25,380 --> 00:06:26,980 You're just like, oh, I know that quote. 145 00:06:26,980 --> 00:06:31,580 But if you think about it, everybody is just afraid of fear and fear is the only 146 00:06:31,580 --> 00:06:33,380 thing to be afraid of and hit it. 147 00:06:33,380 --> 00:06:34,580 Just get rid of it. 148 00:06:34,580 --> 00:06:35,380 Get rid of it. 149 00:06:35,380 --> 00:06:36,380 If we could get rid of it. 150 00:06:36,380 --> 00:06:38,980 Teddy D. was like on point back in the day. 151 00:06:38,980 --> 00:06:44,380 Another thing that might be holding you back, not having confidence in yourself 152 00:06:44,380 --> 00:06:45,980 and your skills. 153 00:06:45,980 --> 00:06:50,780 If you don't have confidence and a good relationship with what you can do and 154 00:06:50,780 --> 00:06:54,780 a relationship with you, it is very hard to connect with other people. 155 00:06:54,780 --> 00:06:59,180 I rather quote from my favorite person, Anani Moose. 156 00:06:59,180 --> 00:07:00,580 Because I don't know who said this. 157 00:07:00,580 --> 00:07:01,580 So it's anonymous. 158 00:07:01,580 --> 00:07:04,380 Anani Moose. 159 00:07:04,380 --> 00:07:05,780 Oh my God. 160 00:07:05,780 --> 00:07:06,180 Excuse me. 161 00:07:06,180 --> 00:07:07,380 It's Anani Moose. 162 00:07:07,380 --> 00:07:07,780 Thank you. 163 00:07:07,780 --> 00:07:08,980 Oh my God. 164 00:07:08,980 --> 00:07:14,380 But it goes with this, I think, because if you're not confident, there's a self-esteem 165 00:07:14,380 --> 00:07:17,980 factor that is lacking, which means you find yourself unworthy. 166 00:07:17,980 --> 00:07:22,180 You find yourself, all these self-derogatory things, right? 167 00:07:22,180 --> 00:07:27,380 We can't hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love. 168 00:07:27,380 --> 00:07:28,580 Say it again. 169 00:07:28,580 --> 00:07:34,180 We can't hate ourselves into a version of ourselves we can love. 170 00:07:34,180 --> 00:07:38,180 So if you're even sitting here listening to us going, yeah, I want to change. 171 00:07:38,180 --> 00:07:38,780 I want to change. 172 00:07:38,780 --> 00:07:43,380 But you're not changing any of the thoughts that you have about yourself on the daily. 173 00:07:43,380 --> 00:07:46,980 Then you're never going to be the person you want to be because you're going to, 174 00:07:46,980 --> 00:07:48,180 that's what's holding you back. 175 00:07:48,180 --> 00:07:48,780 Right. 176 00:07:48,780 --> 00:07:53,380 And so that confidence, like how would you expect to be confident when you're 177 00:07:53,380 --> 00:07:57,980 constantly putting yourself down in your head, even if you're smiling on the outside? 178 00:07:57,980 --> 00:07:58,380 Right. 179 00:07:58,380 --> 00:08:01,780 And that's what I meant by the two, because I think this goes with the next one, 180 00:08:01,780 --> 00:08:03,180 which is feeling unworthy. 181 00:08:03,180 --> 00:08:08,780 And it's about, you know, the more you brush off compliments and put yourself down, 182 00:08:08,780 --> 00:08:09,780 you begin to believe it. 183 00:08:09,780 --> 00:08:13,180 So like when somebody says, oh my gosh, I love you. 184 00:08:13,180 --> 00:08:14,780 I love that you did that or congrats. 185 00:08:14,780 --> 00:08:18,980 Don't self-deprecation is not a form of being humble. 186 00:08:18,980 --> 00:08:20,580 It's self-deprecating. 187 00:08:20,580 --> 00:08:24,380 Like there's a difference between being humble and putting yourself down. 188 00:08:24,380 --> 00:08:24,780 Yeah. 189 00:08:24,780 --> 00:08:26,580 Like I'm not good at taking compliments. 190 00:08:26,580 --> 00:08:28,780 I know that when somebody says, oh my God, that was amazing. 191 00:08:28,780 --> 00:08:31,380 I'm like, oh my God, that was horrendous. 192 00:08:31,380 --> 00:08:34,580 Like the more you say that, the more you believe it. 193 00:08:34,580 --> 00:08:37,980 And then then the confidence is then you don't have confidence. 194 00:08:37,980 --> 00:08:41,780 So I think those two go together feeling unworthy and the lack of confidence and the 195 00:08:41,780 --> 00:08:47,580 unworthy factor of it all is so important because that's how you are with the relationship 196 00:08:47,580 --> 00:08:48,180 with yourself. 197 00:08:48,180 --> 00:08:51,780 And then that's how you are with the relationships with others, whether it's romantic or your 198 00:08:51,780 --> 00:08:53,980 family relationship or your friends. 199 00:08:53,980 --> 00:09:02,880 Your ability to lift yourself up and like have yourself worth be so strong is the basis 200 00:09:02,880 --> 00:09:08,580 of how you're representing yourself for everybody else and how you treat others in those relationships. 201 00:09:08,580 --> 00:09:10,180 Like, oh my gosh, this is great. 202 00:09:10,180 --> 00:09:11,580 We're knocking out all my quotes. 203 00:09:11,580 --> 00:09:13,780 This is another one by Anani Moose. 204 00:09:13,780 --> 00:09:23,480 It says, I forgive myself for receiving someone's lack of reciprocation in my relationship as 205 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:27,280 a challenge to convince them of my worth. 206 00:09:27,280 --> 00:09:28,080 I forgive myself. 207 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:31,680 That part is like you're recognizing that you feel unworthy. 208 00:09:31,680 --> 00:09:31,880 Yeah. 209 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:33,580 So we're talking about that. 210 00:09:33,580 --> 00:09:36,380 That's why this is coming up for me to say it. 211 00:09:36,380 --> 00:09:41,480 You forgive yourself for someone else in a relationship that you have that doesn't reciprocate 212 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:42,780 how you treat them. 213 00:09:42,780 --> 00:09:47,780 You forgive yourself from taking that lack of appreciation and lack of relationship that 214 00:09:47,780 --> 00:09:49,080 they're giving you. 215 00:09:49,080 --> 00:09:53,180 You take that as a challenge to constantly try to prove yourself to them. 216 00:09:53,180 --> 00:09:53,980 Okay, I got you. 217 00:09:53,980 --> 00:09:57,080 Instead of acknowledging that like, no, I'm worth it. 218 00:09:57,080 --> 00:09:57,880 I'm better than this. 219 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:00,080 You're giving me nothing. 220 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:01,080 I'm giving you everything. 221 00:10:01,080 --> 00:10:02,480 I'm on board with it now. 222 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:08,980 So that worthiness that you have for yourself or unworthiness that you have for yourself 223 00:10:08,980 --> 00:10:11,080 is something to really look into. 224 00:10:11,080 --> 00:10:12,880 Yeah, 100% agree. 225 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:16,180 And what you put out there is what you're telling yourself. 226 00:10:16,180 --> 00:10:21,180 And if you're telling yourself not positive things, that's what you're going to put out there. 227 00:10:21,180 --> 00:10:24,680 There are days I don't do a very good job of it, but when someone compliments like my 228 00:10:24,680 --> 00:10:29,080 hair, for instance, instead of doing my go-to, which is, thank you, I showered. 229 00:10:29,080 --> 00:10:34,880 Yeah, because that's a compliment, but also like a joke that is to make it stop, to make 230 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:35,180 it. 231 00:10:35,180 --> 00:10:37,280 Yeah, because I'm uncomfortable, uncomfortable with compliments. 232 00:10:37,280 --> 00:10:38,080 100%. 233 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:39,980 I just go, thank you so much. 234 00:10:39,980 --> 00:10:41,280 And it's really hard to do. 235 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:42,080 It is hard. 236 00:10:42,080 --> 00:10:44,880 It is hard for me to accept a compliment. 237 00:10:44,880 --> 00:10:47,280 I just kept thinking of mean girls. 238 00:10:47,280 --> 00:10:49,280 Like, oh, you're really pretty. 239 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:50,880 And she says thank you. 240 00:10:50,880 --> 00:10:51,580 And she goes, oh, what? 241 00:10:51,580 --> 00:10:52,580 So you think you're pretty? 242 00:10:52,580 --> 00:10:53,780 Oh my gosh. 243 00:10:53,780 --> 00:11:00,280 And I was just like, yeah, that's sort of what people think of when you get complimented. 244 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,280 Like you don't want to sound like, yeah, oh, thank you. 245 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:05,880 I am pretty because you're thinking that other person person is like, oh, what? 246 00:11:05,880 --> 00:11:07,080 So you think you're pretty? 247 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:11,780 Well, maybe think of it in a different way of saying, I'm going to say thank you and 248 00:11:11,780 --> 00:11:16,280 I'm going to take that compliment and maybe somebody can hear me and go, oh, wow. 249 00:11:16,280 --> 00:11:16,880 Yeah. 250 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:19,380 So that maybe they're now going to try to be confident. 251 00:11:19,380 --> 00:11:19,680 Yeah. 252 00:11:19,680 --> 00:11:20,280 100%. 253 00:11:20,280 --> 00:11:22,980 But I just kept thinking, I was like, oh my God, this is so mean girls. 254 00:11:22,980 --> 00:11:23,380 Oh, what? 255 00:11:23,380 --> 00:11:24,680 So you think you're pretty? 256 00:11:24,680 --> 00:11:25,080 Yeah. 257 00:11:25,080 --> 00:11:27,380 Trying to make better work. 258 00:11:27,380 --> 00:11:28,380 Happen. 259 00:11:28,380 --> 00:11:29,580 Oh. 260 00:11:29,580 --> 00:11:31,480 Okay. 261 00:11:31,480 --> 00:11:31,780 So what? 262 00:11:31,780 --> 00:11:33,780 You think you're pretty? 263 00:11:33,780 --> 00:11:34,080 Yes. 264 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:35,080 Thank you. 265 00:11:35,080 --> 00:11:36,080 On certain days. 266 00:11:36,080 --> 00:11:38,080 See, don't do that. 267 00:11:38,080 --> 00:11:38,380 Okay. 268 00:11:38,380 --> 00:11:44,280 I'm going to go into lack of self care because how can you move forward in something that 269 00:11:44,280 --> 00:11:47,280 you want to without taking care of yourself? 270 00:11:47,280 --> 00:11:48,880 So yes, that is what's holding you back. 271 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:52,680 The lack of self care, which I also think is lack of self love. 272 00:11:52,680 --> 00:11:54,380 I agree. 273 00:11:54,380 --> 00:11:59,380 And I also wrote down for lack of self care because it had, it did talk about burnout 274 00:11:59,380 --> 00:12:04,980 because when you are burnout, you cannot take care of yourself and they talked about toxic productivity. 275 00:12:04,980 --> 00:12:11,080 So talk, what that is is when you feel you have to be productive all hours of the day, 276 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:15,880 24, 7, 7 days a week, because if you're not being productive, there's no way you're going 277 00:12:15,880 --> 00:12:17,680 to get to those goals that you want. 278 00:12:17,680 --> 00:12:19,480 That's actually bad for you. 279 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:20,780 You need to self care. 280 00:12:20,780 --> 00:12:22,480 You need to take a day of rest. 281 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:27,780 You need to get your mind off your goals for a hot minute so that you can take care of 282 00:12:27,780 --> 00:12:28,480 yourself. 283 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:30,480 And sometimes that's just sitting and doing nothing. 284 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:30,780 Yes. 285 00:12:30,780 --> 00:12:31,880 And like, that's okay. 286 00:12:31,880 --> 00:12:33,980 That doesn't mean I have a really hard time with that. 287 00:12:33,980 --> 00:12:34,580 You do. 288 00:12:34,580 --> 00:12:35,580 You do. 289 00:12:35,580 --> 00:12:36,080 You do. 290 00:12:36,080 --> 00:12:37,580 Yeah, same. 291 00:12:37,580 --> 00:12:38,780 Don't ever. 292 00:12:38,780 --> 00:12:40,980 I do what you do. 293 00:12:40,980 --> 00:12:41,880 And she has a hard time with it. 294 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:42,880 I have a hard time with it. 295 00:12:42,880 --> 00:12:45,080 Oh my God. 296 00:12:45,080 --> 00:12:47,680 So much therapy that needs to happen right now. 297 00:12:47,680 --> 00:12:49,280 But it's true. 298 00:12:49,280 --> 00:12:56,380 It's obviously we make the joke of like hustler life in the grind is what we try to do, but 299 00:12:56,380 --> 00:12:58,080 it's really not good. 300 00:12:58,080 --> 00:12:59,380 I'm a hustler, baby. 301 00:12:59,380 --> 00:13:00,180 Yeah, I know. 302 00:13:00,180 --> 00:13:00,880 I was waiting for you. 303 00:13:00,880 --> 00:13:01,880 Your breath was going to happen. 304 00:13:01,880 --> 00:13:07,480 I was trying not to take a breath so you could do it, but that hustle is what keeps you from 305 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:09,280 thinking. 306 00:13:09,280 --> 00:13:15,880 I'm going to take a moment to relax, reset, recoup, recover all of the Rs because I need 307 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:17,380 that for myself. 308 00:13:17,380 --> 00:13:20,780 And it keeps you from letting that happen because you're like, there's something else 309 00:13:20,780 --> 00:13:21,480 I could be doing. 310 00:13:21,480 --> 00:13:22,380 I'm missing something. 311 00:13:22,380 --> 00:13:23,880 I don't have the time for this. 312 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:26,080 I don't have the money to sit down and relax. 313 00:13:26,080 --> 00:13:30,980 There's so many things we tell ourselves and not even one says back again and self love 314 00:13:30,980 --> 00:13:35,280 is asking yourself what you need and then making sure that you receive it. 315 00:13:35,280 --> 00:13:36,480 Yeah, that's true. 316 00:13:36,480 --> 00:13:37,480 What do I need in this moment? 317 00:13:37,480 --> 00:13:39,980 I need to sit down and do absolutely nothing. 318 00:13:39,980 --> 00:13:40,980 Make sure that happens. 319 00:13:40,980 --> 00:13:44,680 Hey, creativity happens when you are not doing anything. 320 00:13:44,680 --> 00:13:51,880 How do you expect to be creative or imaginative or think about your next goal if you're constantly 321 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:52,880 on the go? 322 00:13:52,880 --> 00:13:53,380 Yeah. 323 00:13:53,380 --> 00:13:55,480 Are you going to answer that for yourself? 324 00:13:55,480 --> 00:13:56,480 Are you asking yourself? 325 00:13:56,480 --> 00:13:58,780 I'm too busy. 326 00:13:58,780 --> 00:14:02,580 And I think a lot of people have this and it's the fear of being found out. 327 00:14:02,580 --> 00:14:07,580 The skills that you have, the talents you have are never good enough or not on par where 328 00:14:07,580 --> 00:14:11,480 they're supposed to be or that you don't belong there or you're not educated enough. 329 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:17,180 Like you're always under the bar and you're faking it basically. 330 00:14:17,180 --> 00:14:19,680 The fake it till you make it is imposter syndrome. 331 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:23,380 But on the reverse, I feel like we fake it till we make it all the time. 332 00:14:23,380 --> 00:14:25,780 Like we're constantly learning as we're doing. 333 00:14:25,780 --> 00:14:28,880 Well, there's two different ways to fake it till you make it, right? 334 00:14:28,880 --> 00:14:34,320 So there's fake it till you make it in the way of, okay, yes, I don't exactly know what 335 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:38,080 I'm going to do, but I'm going to jump in with two feet and figure it out as we go. 336 00:14:38,080 --> 00:14:40,160 And the ball will roll and things will work out. 337 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:43,380 And I have this positive mindset about it, fake it till you make it. 338 00:14:43,380 --> 00:14:46,980 And then there's fake it till you make it in this self doubting. 339 00:14:46,980 --> 00:14:48,060 I don't deserve to be here. 340 00:14:48,060 --> 00:14:49,140 I don't belong here. 341 00:14:49,140 --> 00:14:50,280 They're going to figure me out. 342 00:14:50,280 --> 00:14:53,180 I'm not even going to try. 343 00:14:53,180 --> 00:14:55,020 And when I do try, I'm going to fail. 344 00:14:55,020 --> 00:14:57,480 And then there's that negative ball that's rolling. 345 00:14:57,480 --> 00:14:59,380 That's a different way to fake it till you make it. 346 00:14:59,380 --> 00:15:02,780 Self doubt is self deprecating itself. 347 00:15:02,780 --> 00:15:05,680 It's just, you know, it's all of this. 348 00:15:05,680 --> 00:15:07,460 I know they all roll into one. 349 00:15:07,460 --> 00:15:08,460 They all roll into fear. 350 00:15:08,460 --> 00:15:13,140 I mean, it's all different forms of fear, basically is what holds you back. 351 00:15:13,140 --> 00:15:15,820 And I saw this awesome meme. 352 00:15:15,820 --> 00:15:17,460 You know, I love Instagram memes. 353 00:15:17,460 --> 00:15:18,460 Her name is mime. 354 00:15:18,460 --> 00:15:19,460 Mime. 355 00:15:19,460 --> 00:15:20,460 Mime. 356 00:15:20,460 --> 00:15:22,840 I saw her on Instagram. 357 00:15:22,840 --> 00:15:27,020 It was about imposter syndrome being like, oh my gosh, I'm going to get found out. 358 00:15:27,020 --> 00:15:28,340 I don't know what I'm talking about. 359 00:15:28,340 --> 00:15:32,380 I hope nobody sees me and I just want to fly under the radar or you can refocus it and say, 360 00:15:32,380 --> 00:15:37,140 I don't know everything yet, but I am willing to learn as I go. 361 00:15:37,140 --> 00:15:41,620 And that that's basically how you need to treat your imposter syndrome so you don't 362 00:15:41,620 --> 00:15:43,020 have it anymore. 363 00:15:43,020 --> 00:15:45,460 Well, Albie, Albie. 364 00:15:45,460 --> 00:15:47,980 Is that Albert Einstein? 365 00:15:47,980 --> 00:15:49,620 Sure is. 366 00:15:49,620 --> 00:15:53,500 The measure of intelligence is the ability to change. 367 00:15:53,500 --> 00:15:54,500 100%. 368 00:15:54,500 --> 00:15:55,500 100%. 369 00:15:55,500 --> 00:15:59,540 The ability, not changing and advancing and success. 370 00:15:59,540 --> 00:16:03,180 It's just the ability to adapt yourself. 371 00:16:03,180 --> 00:16:04,660 That is the level of intelligence. 372 00:16:04,660 --> 00:16:06,540 It's not how many books you can read. 373 00:16:06,540 --> 00:16:08,740 It's not all the tests you can pass. 374 00:16:08,740 --> 00:16:09,980 Just the ability to change. 375 00:16:09,980 --> 00:16:16,620 I used to be very insecure about my college education because I went to four colleges 376 00:16:16,620 --> 00:16:23,060 and I, when people would ask me, Andrew went to an Ivy League school, very, very smart. 377 00:16:23,060 --> 00:16:24,420 Andrew was very book smart. 378 00:16:24,420 --> 00:16:26,620 I am, Victoria's going to laugh. 379 00:16:26,620 --> 00:16:29,620 I'm people smart and I am street smart. 380 00:16:29,620 --> 00:16:30,940 I went to four colleges. 381 00:16:30,940 --> 00:16:32,340 I have a college education. 382 00:16:32,340 --> 00:16:33,460 I didn't like college. 383 00:16:33,460 --> 00:16:34,780 I just wanted to go out and work. 384 00:16:34,780 --> 00:16:38,700 I just wanted to dance and be an actor and tour and travel. 385 00:16:38,700 --> 00:16:40,740 So it, what you did, I did. 386 00:16:40,740 --> 00:16:42,540 And I did it all while I went to school. 387 00:16:42,540 --> 00:16:50,460 So I never felt that I was as intelligent as other people. 388 00:16:50,460 --> 00:16:54,940 And that's why I think I did have a little bit of imposter syndrome back in the day and 389 00:16:54,940 --> 00:16:56,340 a little bit now still. 390 00:16:56,340 --> 00:16:57,780 We all do. 391 00:16:57,780 --> 00:17:03,820 But the ability to change is still where I am working on. 392 00:17:03,820 --> 00:17:07,860 So maybe my intelligence factor from Albee, Albee, we're getting there. 393 00:17:07,860 --> 00:17:08,860 But that's true. 394 00:17:08,860 --> 00:17:12,980 I agree, and I think that's also a piece of society and the collective of like, if you 395 00:17:12,980 --> 00:17:15,580 don't go to college, you're not smart. 396 00:17:15,580 --> 00:17:19,980 And that is, couldn't be farther from the truth. 397 00:17:19,980 --> 00:17:23,700 And you transferring to four colleges, it's ingrained in you. 398 00:17:23,700 --> 00:17:24,860 You have to know what you want to do. 399 00:17:24,860 --> 00:17:25,860 You have to pick a college. 400 00:17:25,860 --> 00:17:26,940 You have to go for four years. 401 00:17:26,940 --> 00:17:29,300 You have to now excel in that career you've chosen. 402 00:17:29,300 --> 00:17:30,300 You've chosen it. 403 00:17:30,300 --> 00:17:31,300 So you better do it. 404 00:17:31,300 --> 00:17:32,300 Yeah. 405 00:17:32,300 --> 00:17:36,740 It's the most ridiculous setup that we put the human species through. 406 00:17:36,740 --> 00:17:43,260 However, the fact that you can acknowledge what that was and what that used to be for 407 00:17:43,260 --> 00:17:47,020 you, 100% is the sign of intelligence because you have changed a lot. 408 00:17:47,020 --> 00:17:48,020 Yeah. 409 00:17:48,020 --> 00:17:49,020 I used to joke about it all the time. 410 00:17:49,020 --> 00:17:51,900 Like I want to sweatshirt with all the colleges that I went to on it. 411 00:17:51,900 --> 00:17:52,900 You should still do that. 412 00:17:52,900 --> 00:17:53,900 No, I should definitely still do that. 413 00:17:53,900 --> 00:17:55,700 I loved my college experience. 414 00:17:55,700 --> 00:18:01,860 I'm not saying that, but people feel insecure about things that they've gone through and 415 00:18:01,860 --> 00:18:04,740 that's why they have that fear and imposter syndrome. 416 00:18:04,740 --> 00:18:10,900 But if you can change or have the ability or even the want, I feel like if people have 417 00:18:10,900 --> 00:18:12,860 the want to change that is the first step. 418 00:18:12,860 --> 00:18:13,860 Oh yeah. 419 00:18:13,860 --> 00:18:17,420 Well, because nothing's going to change if someone else is forcing you to do it. 420 00:18:17,420 --> 00:18:18,420 You have that. 421 00:18:18,420 --> 00:18:19,420 It's like, it's AA. 422 00:18:19,420 --> 00:18:22,740 It's any type of therapy that someone's trying to get. 423 00:18:22,740 --> 00:18:23,740 You need therapy. 424 00:18:23,740 --> 00:18:24,740 You need to do it for yourself. 425 00:18:24,740 --> 00:18:25,740 Yeah. 426 00:18:25,740 --> 00:18:26,740 If you're not doing it for yourself, number one, it's not going to stick. 427 00:18:26,740 --> 00:18:31,820 And number two, there's so many other pieces attached to that that is reasons why it's not 428 00:18:31,820 --> 00:18:32,820 going to work. 429 00:18:32,820 --> 00:18:33,820 Yeah. 430 00:18:33,820 --> 00:18:36,260 It is 100% step one. 431 00:18:36,260 --> 00:18:39,620 We've digressed a little bit, but I just wanted to get that out there. 432 00:18:39,620 --> 00:18:40,620 A big one. 433 00:18:40,620 --> 00:18:42,780 I think it holds us back, me back. 434 00:18:42,780 --> 00:18:45,340 I'm not going to speak for Victoria, but people pleasing. 435 00:18:45,340 --> 00:18:46,340 That would be a first. 436 00:18:46,340 --> 00:18:48,100 I do speak for Victoria. 437 00:18:48,100 --> 00:18:50,100 I was actually going to just say people pleasing. 438 00:18:50,100 --> 00:18:51,100 Yeah. 439 00:18:51,100 --> 00:18:55,860 It's a big hindrance because you cannot make everybody happy and we're still learning 440 00:18:55,860 --> 00:18:56,860 that. 441 00:18:56,860 --> 00:18:57,860 You cannot make everybody happy. 442 00:18:57,860 --> 00:18:58,860 You just can't. 443 00:18:58,860 --> 00:18:59,860 It's impossible. 444 00:18:59,860 --> 00:19:01,900 There's a piece of that that's a service. 445 00:19:01,900 --> 00:19:04,980 Being in service of others, first of all, that's the purpose of life. 446 00:19:04,980 --> 00:19:09,380 Being in service to others to benefit all and yourself. 447 00:19:09,380 --> 00:19:10,380 There it is. 448 00:19:10,380 --> 00:19:11,380 You don't need to go read the Bible. 449 00:19:11,380 --> 00:19:15,660 I just figured it out for you. 450 00:19:15,660 --> 00:19:24,540 There is trauma attached when that service to others supersedes service to yourself and 451 00:19:24,540 --> 00:19:26,260 the greater picture. 452 00:19:26,260 --> 00:19:27,620 That's what people pleasing is. 453 00:19:27,620 --> 00:19:33,380 If you go on Instagram and you look up the holistic psychologist, number one, thank me 454 00:19:33,380 --> 00:19:35,420 because I just changed your life. 455 00:19:35,420 --> 00:19:39,620 Number two, I changed the algorithm of your Instagram and you're going to see more positive 456 00:19:39,620 --> 00:19:43,660 and helpful behavioral life things. 457 00:19:43,660 --> 00:19:48,940 Number three, I don't remember what I was saying. 458 00:19:48,940 --> 00:19:49,940 People pleasing. 459 00:19:49,940 --> 00:19:51,940 She says a lot of good stuff. 460 00:19:51,940 --> 00:19:57,820 People pleasing holds deep in a highly sensitive person. 461 00:19:57,820 --> 00:20:08,460 People pleasers are empaths of some nature that need to hear that you are not a burden. 462 00:20:08,460 --> 00:20:14,340 You do not need to explain yourself or over explain yourself. 463 00:20:14,340 --> 00:20:16,620 What do you need right now? 464 00:20:16,620 --> 00:20:20,060 Those are the three things that she says people pleasers need to hear that you are not a burden 465 00:20:20,060 --> 00:20:21,060 in life. 466 00:20:21,060 --> 00:20:24,380 You need to know why you want to make everybody happy because you feel like there's something 467 00:20:24,380 --> 00:20:27,300 missing for you that you need to prove yourself. 468 00:20:27,300 --> 00:20:30,300 There's that unworthy piece to it. 469 00:20:30,300 --> 00:20:31,900 You don't need to explain yourself. 470 00:20:31,900 --> 00:20:34,500 Gosh, we over explain everything. 471 00:20:34,500 --> 00:20:35,500 Everything. 472 00:20:35,500 --> 00:20:36,500 Everything. 473 00:20:36,500 --> 00:20:41,100 That comes from not really feeling heard and wanting to make sure that that other person, 474 00:20:41,100 --> 00:20:44,420 just like, you were just saying this the other day, saying no to someone. 475 00:20:44,420 --> 00:20:46,620 You can't just say no. 476 00:20:46,620 --> 00:20:50,220 You have to say why and all the million reasons why the answer is no. 477 00:20:50,220 --> 00:20:53,980 You have to be acceptable for them to approve of your no. 478 00:20:53,980 --> 00:20:59,740 We're going to say this in every episode until we all get it, that no is a complete sentence. 479 00:20:59,740 --> 00:21:05,020 Yeah, really until we get it, to be honest with you. 480 00:21:05,020 --> 00:21:06,660 And then what do you need right now? 481 00:21:06,660 --> 00:21:10,900 Because that's a piece that has been missing. 482 00:21:10,900 --> 00:21:12,740 What do you need? 483 00:21:12,740 --> 00:21:17,620 Put yourself on the pedestal of what you're giving out. 484 00:21:17,620 --> 00:21:20,420 And I think it comes with the self-confidence, it comes with the self-esteem. 485 00:21:20,420 --> 00:21:21,420 It's all to team. 486 00:21:21,420 --> 00:21:22,420 It all goes together. 487 00:21:22,420 --> 00:21:26,180 Yeah, people pleasing is actually a really, really horrible trait for yourself. 488 00:21:26,180 --> 00:21:30,980 When you're putting other people's opinions or values above your own to try and make them 489 00:21:30,980 --> 00:21:35,380 happy, you are diminishing your opinions and values and your life. 490 00:21:35,380 --> 00:21:39,900 And you're not going to be happy because you're every day just trying to make everybody else 491 00:21:39,900 --> 00:21:40,900 happy. 492 00:21:40,900 --> 00:21:42,440 But that and that's another thing. 493 00:21:42,440 --> 00:21:45,820 People pleasing tends to come down the line of generation. 494 00:21:45,820 --> 00:21:46,820 For sure. 495 00:21:46,820 --> 00:21:53,500 So, so hear this and know that you have another generation underneath you. 496 00:21:53,500 --> 00:22:04,220 So maybe, maybe start heeding your own advice in changing the tone so that the next generation 497 00:22:04,220 --> 00:22:08,500 doesn't start their own podcast and start figuring things out and then talking about 498 00:22:08,500 --> 00:22:10,020 you on it. 499 00:22:10,020 --> 00:22:11,020 Done. 500 00:22:11,020 --> 00:22:12,020 But it's true. 501 00:22:12,020 --> 00:22:16,780 And there's nothing, all moms, all parents, all grandparents, there is nothing against 502 00:22:16,780 --> 00:22:23,300 the ability you had with what you were given to start the next generation. 503 00:22:23,300 --> 00:22:29,260 And there's, once you can, once you can find that acknowledgement and awareness that there 504 00:22:29,260 --> 00:22:31,500 is no blame to give. 505 00:22:31,500 --> 00:22:39,340 You were raised how the cards played out and now it is up to you and your intelligence 506 00:22:39,340 --> 00:22:40,900 with the ability to change. 507 00:22:40,900 --> 00:22:43,140 Oh yeah, bring it back, bring it back. 508 00:22:43,140 --> 00:22:46,740 Me and Albie, I tell you. 509 00:22:46,740 --> 00:22:49,900 That's where the next generation comes into play. 510 00:22:49,900 --> 00:22:55,020 You can either keep with the hand that was dealt to you and dealt, deal that to the next 511 00:22:55,020 --> 00:22:57,340 or change the hand. 512 00:22:57,340 --> 00:23:00,060 And there's nothing wrong with just because you're changing something doesn't mean there's 513 00:23:00,060 --> 00:23:01,860 something wrong with the system. 514 00:23:01,860 --> 00:23:03,780 I think that's where you come into play. 515 00:23:03,780 --> 00:23:09,220 100% because I'm a traditionalist and I am like, this is how it is. 516 00:23:09,220 --> 00:23:10,220 This is how we grew up. 517 00:23:10,220 --> 00:23:11,220 We're going to do it the same way. 518 00:23:11,220 --> 00:23:16,300 I'm now seeing that maybe things can be done a little different and that's not to say better 519 00:23:16,300 --> 00:23:17,300 or worse. 520 00:23:17,300 --> 00:23:18,300 Exactly. 521 00:23:18,300 --> 00:23:19,300 It's just different. 522 00:23:19,300 --> 00:23:20,300 It's just different. 523 00:23:20,300 --> 00:23:21,300 That's all. 524 00:23:21,300 --> 00:23:24,820 And it holds you back when you decide that it is only black or white and there is no 525 00:23:24,820 --> 00:23:25,820 gray area. 526 00:23:25,820 --> 00:23:26,820 Yeah. 527 00:23:26,820 --> 00:23:27,820 Yeah. 528 00:23:27,820 --> 00:23:30,180 That's me in a nutshell. 529 00:23:30,180 --> 00:23:33,660 The fact that you're even talking about it and can acknowledge that for yourself. 530 00:23:33,660 --> 00:23:35,140 I've never been able to acknowledge it. 531 00:23:35,140 --> 00:23:36,700 I'm like, huge. 532 00:23:36,700 --> 00:23:37,700 But that's huge. 533 00:23:37,700 --> 00:23:38,860 That's huge. 534 00:23:38,860 --> 00:23:43,540 And I thank the freaking lord. 535 00:23:43,540 --> 00:23:45,500 It's working guys. 536 00:23:45,500 --> 00:23:47,500 This podcast is working. 537 00:23:47,500 --> 00:23:50,020 Clap your hands if you believe. 538 00:23:50,020 --> 00:23:51,020 Oh my God. 539 00:23:51,020 --> 00:23:55,500 We said we weren't going to talk long today. 540 00:23:55,500 --> 00:23:56,500 Moving on. 541 00:23:56,500 --> 00:23:57,500 Okay. 542 00:23:57,500 --> 00:23:58,500 Waiting for the right time. 543 00:23:58,500 --> 00:23:59,940 I was just going to say that one. 544 00:23:59,940 --> 00:24:04,420 And I'm quoting right time because let me tell you there's no freaking right time. 545 00:24:04,420 --> 00:24:06,300 They say it all the time. 546 00:24:06,300 --> 00:24:07,540 There's no right time to get married. 547 00:24:07,540 --> 00:24:08,940 There's no right time to have a baby. 548 00:24:08,940 --> 00:24:09,940 Yeah. 549 00:24:09,940 --> 00:24:11,260 There's no right time to make an investment. 550 00:24:11,260 --> 00:24:14,460 There's no right time to make the decision for a lunch. 551 00:24:14,460 --> 00:24:19,460 It doesn't matter how small it is and it doesn't matter how big you're thinking for the decision. 552 00:24:19,460 --> 00:24:20,460 There's no right time. 553 00:24:20,460 --> 00:24:21,460 Wait. 554 00:24:21,460 --> 00:24:24,180 Tell us how you really feel because this one I'm yelling at myself. 555 00:24:24,180 --> 00:24:27,940 I'm yelling at myself because I'm always like, okay, well, when I get to this, then 556 00:24:27,940 --> 00:24:28,940 then it'll be all right. 557 00:24:28,940 --> 00:24:30,340 And then I'll do this. 558 00:24:30,340 --> 00:24:34,380 There's always that A to B to C just to get to D step. 559 00:24:34,380 --> 00:24:35,980 And it's BS. 560 00:24:35,980 --> 00:24:36,980 It is BS. 561 00:24:36,980 --> 00:24:38,220 Let's all the letters. 562 00:24:38,220 --> 00:24:39,220 It is ABC. 563 00:24:39,220 --> 00:24:45,780 It's BS because it's just ridiculous. 564 00:24:45,780 --> 00:24:47,380 It's ridiculous that we wait. 565 00:24:47,380 --> 00:24:48,860 I started wearing mom. 566 00:24:48,860 --> 00:24:53,460 I asked mom, I said, listen, if you want to get me a birthday present, I need my perfume. 567 00:24:53,460 --> 00:24:59,340 Mom, we have refillable perfumes and it's the thing that mom does for a birthday. 568 00:24:59,340 --> 00:25:00,340 And I need them. 569 00:25:00,340 --> 00:25:03,140 But she just got me one for Christmas and she got one for it and she was like, oh my 570 00:25:03,140 --> 00:25:04,500 gosh, you're going through your perfume. 571 00:25:04,500 --> 00:25:06,420 I said, what am I waiting for? 572 00:25:06,420 --> 00:25:07,420 Yeah. 573 00:25:07,420 --> 00:25:08,420 I'm saving it for a rainy day. 574 00:25:08,420 --> 00:25:09,420 Exactly. 575 00:25:09,420 --> 00:25:11,860 But I feel like that's how I used to think like, oh, I'm going to sit. 576 00:25:11,860 --> 00:25:12,860 That's expensive. 577 00:25:12,860 --> 00:25:13,860 Yeah. 578 00:25:13,860 --> 00:25:16,540 So I'm going to only wear it when I'm going out to important things. 579 00:25:16,540 --> 00:25:19,820 But I'm putting it on before I sweat at yoga because I want to. 580 00:25:19,820 --> 00:25:20,820 I want to. 581 00:25:20,820 --> 00:25:21,820 Because you want to. 582 00:25:21,820 --> 00:25:23,500 And that's why I'm running through it so quickly. 583 00:25:23,500 --> 00:25:25,140 But like, what are we waiting for? 584 00:25:25,140 --> 00:25:27,100 And this is such a minor thing. 585 00:25:27,100 --> 00:25:29,380 No, but it is minor. 586 00:25:29,380 --> 00:25:34,660 But in the grand scheme of things, there's a lot of minor daily things that add up. 587 00:25:34,660 --> 00:25:35,660 Yeah. 588 00:25:35,660 --> 00:25:36,660 Yeah. 589 00:25:36,660 --> 00:25:37,660 That's just one of them. 590 00:25:37,660 --> 00:25:40,300 I'm going to hear a quote that I found from Anonymous. 591 00:25:40,300 --> 00:25:42,940 Anonymous is killing it today. 592 00:25:42,940 --> 00:25:44,860 She on fire. 593 00:25:44,860 --> 00:25:48,300 The timing becomes right when you are ready for it to be. 594 00:25:48,300 --> 00:25:49,300 Hey. 595 00:25:49,300 --> 00:25:52,620 So like the right time is when you decide it's the right time. 596 00:25:52,620 --> 00:25:53,620 Yeah. 597 00:25:53,620 --> 00:25:57,380 Now people can can take that and say, well, the right time is when the universe puts 598 00:25:57,380 --> 00:25:58,380 it out for you. 599 00:25:58,380 --> 00:25:59,940 Yes and no. 600 00:25:59,940 --> 00:26:03,580 You decide when the right time for anything is for you to be. 601 00:26:03,580 --> 00:26:04,580 Yeah. 602 00:26:04,580 --> 00:26:05,580 That's the right time. 603 00:26:05,580 --> 00:26:08,260 That's what the universe put out for you. 604 00:26:08,260 --> 00:26:10,780 For you to decide when the right time is. 605 00:26:10,780 --> 00:26:17,860 You have to trust in the divine timing of the universe, which is exactly the same thing. 606 00:26:17,860 --> 00:26:21,380 Trusting putting in your mind, I trust the universe, whatever will happen is meant for 607 00:26:21,380 --> 00:26:22,780 me today. 608 00:26:22,780 --> 00:26:27,900 And that just means if you make that decision of like screw it, I want to do it now. 609 00:26:27,900 --> 00:26:29,260 That's called divine timing. 610 00:26:29,260 --> 00:26:31,380 That's the right time for you to do that. 611 00:26:31,380 --> 00:26:36,980 I'm going to say something else that is a little derivative of what mom used to say. 612 00:26:36,980 --> 00:26:41,380 I think she said it in different words, but like life is not handing you an invitation. 613 00:26:41,380 --> 00:26:42,380 Like go out and get it. 614 00:26:42,380 --> 00:26:43,980 And she used to say something like that. 615 00:26:43,980 --> 00:26:45,100 She's like, get up and do it. 616 00:26:45,100 --> 00:26:47,460 Like if you want it, go do it. 617 00:26:47,460 --> 00:26:49,740 And it life is not just going to like here. 618 00:26:49,740 --> 00:26:50,740 Here's your evite. 619 00:26:50,740 --> 00:26:51,740 It's time now. 620 00:26:51,740 --> 00:26:53,260 No, go make your evite. 621 00:26:53,260 --> 00:26:54,260 Yeah. 622 00:26:54,260 --> 00:26:55,260 Do it. 623 00:26:55,260 --> 00:26:56,500 Well, it goes back to those cardinals. 624 00:26:56,500 --> 00:26:57,500 Yeah. 625 00:26:57,500 --> 00:27:00,180 It's like when you see one, you're like, oh, that was the sign I've been waiting for. 626 00:27:00,180 --> 00:27:02,580 Like, give me a signier sign. 627 00:27:02,580 --> 00:27:04,580 Give me a signier sign. 628 00:27:04,580 --> 00:27:05,580 Give me a signier sign. 629 00:27:05,580 --> 00:27:08,060 Just like, I just want to be 100% sure. 630 00:27:08,060 --> 00:27:09,060 Uh-uh. 631 00:27:09,060 --> 00:27:10,060 No. 632 00:27:10,060 --> 00:27:11,060 Do it. 633 00:27:11,060 --> 00:27:12,060 That is all you need. 634 00:27:12,060 --> 00:27:13,060 Whatever it is. 635 00:27:13,060 --> 00:27:16,740 And sometimes the sign is just a feeling in your gut, not your chest. 636 00:27:16,740 --> 00:27:20,580 If we remember, what's the feeling in your chest? 637 00:27:20,580 --> 00:27:22,620 Fear. 638 00:27:22,620 --> 00:27:24,540 And what's the feeling in your gut? 639 00:27:24,540 --> 00:27:25,540 Intuition. 640 00:27:25,540 --> 00:27:26,540 Yes. 641 00:27:26,540 --> 00:27:27,540 Yes. 642 00:27:27,540 --> 00:27:28,540 I didn't even make you. 643 00:27:28,540 --> 00:27:29,540 I didn't cheat for you. 644 00:27:29,540 --> 00:27:34,500 Hold on to yourself again while I like it. 645 00:27:34,500 --> 00:27:36,740 Not having clear goals. 646 00:27:36,740 --> 00:27:40,440 And this sort of goes with writing stuff down. 647 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,140 You got as, what did Andrew? 648 00:27:42,140 --> 00:27:47,300 Andrew told me to like sit down one day and do five-year plan versus 10-year plan. 649 00:27:47,300 --> 00:27:51,140 And actually, it worked because the five-year plan was to get a bigger space. 650 00:27:51,140 --> 00:27:52,140 Yeah. 651 00:27:52,140 --> 00:27:54,460 And we got that bigger space within the five-year goal. 652 00:27:54,460 --> 00:27:57,980 Now I have to sit down and write goals for the next five years because we're sort of 653 00:27:57,980 --> 00:27:59,700 like all over the place right now. 654 00:27:59,700 --> 00:28:01,420 Yeah, they're short term goals. 655 00:28:01,420 --> 00:28:02,420 Yes. 656 00:28:02,420 --> 00:28:03,420 That's what it's called. 657 00:28:03,420 --> 00:28:04,420 You set those small goals. 658 00:28:04,420 --> 00:28:08,260 It might take you in a completely different direction, but you'll get to where you want 659 00:28:08,260 --> 00:28:10,580 to be, where it brought you to. 660 00:28:10,580 --> 00:28:11,580 Exactly. 661 00:28:11,580 --> 00:28:13,380 Which is where you are supposed to be. 662 00:28:13,380 --> 00:28:15,380 In divine timing. 663 00:28:15,380 --> 00:28:18,540 Actually, not a but on bump. 664 00:28:18,540 --> 00:28:19,540 That wasn't a joke. 665 00:28:19,540 --> 00:28:20,540 That was legit. 666 00:28:20,540 --> 00:28:21,540 Yeah. 667 00:28:21,540 --> 00:28:22,540 Oh my God. 668 00:28:22,540 --> 00:28:23,540 Maybe we wouldn't clean up in New York. 669 00:28:23,540 --> 00:28:27,220 We don't know if we're funny or if we're dramatic or drunk. 670 00:28:27,220 --> 00:28:28,220 Yeah. 671 00:28:28,220 --> 00:28:32,220 This goes with that though. 672 00:28:32,220 --> 00:28:40,500 So to meet your soul's purpose or to meet your goal, it requires letting go of your mind's 673 00:28:40,500 --> 00:28:41,500 dreams. 674 00:28:41,500 --> 00:28:46,620 So it requires of letting go of the exact thing that you want in the end. 675 00:28:46,620 --> 00:28:52,300 You just have to let go of how you want to get there and you just have to let it get 676 00:28:52,300 --> 00:28:53,300 there. 677 00:28:53,300 --> 00:28:54,300 Yeah. 678 00:28:54,300 --> 00:28:57,740 Yeah, because if we would be miserable if we were like, man, we should be on Broadway 679 00:28:57,740 --> 00:28:58,980 right now and blah, blah, blah. 680 00:28:58,980 --> 00:28:59,980 Why didn't we get there? 681 00:28:59,980 --> 00:29:00,980 Yeah. 682 00:29:00,980 --> 00:29:03,100 I mean, we do 20 shows a week. 683 00:29:03,100 --> 00:29:05,380 Our own shows at Seafit. 684 00:29:05,380 --> 00:29:06,380 God we're cheap. 685 00:29:06,380 --> 00:29:10,380 Yeah, our tickets are cheap. 686 00:29:10,380 --> 00:29:14,140 But really, I mean, we're doing what we like to do. 687 00:29:14,140 --> 00:29:16,020 We literally built ourselves a stage. 688 00:29:16,020 --> 00:29:17,020 Stop saying we. 689 00:29:17,020 --> 00:29:18,220 I have nothing to do with that. 690 00:29:18,220 --> 00:29:19,500 But you wanted a stage too. 691 00:29:19,500 --> 00:29:20,500 I want a stage. 692 00:29:20,500 --> 00:29:25,860 Your goals changed when you change, we just made different goals. 693 00:29:25,860 --> 00:29:26,860 Yeah. 694 00:29:26,860 --> 00:29:33,780 All right, I'm going to mesh a few of them together to finish us off for if we have 695 00:29:33,780 --> 00:29:37,260 forgot what we're talking about. 696 00:29:37,260 --> 00:29:40,420 It's the things in life that are holding you back. 697 00:29:40,420 --> 00:29:42,020 There it is. 698 00:29:42,020 --> 00:29:43,020 Yeah. 699 00:29:43,020 --> 00:29:46,820 So pulling the reins back in excuses and quitting too easily. 700 00:29:46,820 --> 00:29:50,460 And I really do think that's the same because if you're quitting too easily, you're making 701 00:29:50,460 --> 00:29:55,020 some sort of excuse for yourself as to why that's an OK thing for you to quit. 702 00:29:55,020 --> 00:29:58,460 That's one thing I cannot stand just quitting because it's hard. 703 00:29:58,460 --> 00:30:00,580 Wait, can I add something? 704 00:30:00,580 --> 00:30:01,580 Yeah. 705 00:30:01,580 --> 00:30:02,860 There was a study done. 706 00:30:02,860 --> 00:30:09,980 There's 43% of New Year resolution people that have set goals for them quit in three 707 00:30:09,980 --> 00:30:10,980 weeks. 708 00:30:10,980 --> 00:30:16,620 43% of you that make New Year's resolutions quit within three weeks. 709 00:30:16,620 --> 00:30:20,820 So from January 1st to let's give it a home to February. 710 00:30:20,820 --> 00:30:21,820 Yeah. 711 00:30:21,820 --> 00:30:22,820 You guys quit. 712 00:30:22,820 --> 00:30:23,820 Yeah. 713 00:30:23,820 --> 00:30:24,820 Because it got hard. 714 00:30:24,820 --> 00:30:29,140 That is like, it's mind blowing to me. 715 00:30:29,140 --> 00:30:30,140 I mean, I've done it. 716 00:30:30,140 --> 00:30:31,140 I've done it. 717 00:30:31,140 --> 00:30:32,140 I've done it. 718 00:30:32,140 --> 00:30:33,140 I've done it too. 719 00:30:33,140 --> 00:30:34,140 I've done it too. 720 00:30:34,140 --> 00:30:38,340 But I think because I've gotten over that hump now, you just don't set goals. 721 00:30:38,340 --> 00:30:39,540 Yeah, I don't set goals. 722 00:30:39,540 --> 00:30:40,540 I crush them. 723 00:30:40,540 --> 00:30:42,860 She's like, Happy New Year. 724 00:30:42,860 --> 00:30:46,820 I'm not doing a resolution because I'm just going to quit. 725 00:30:46,820 --> 00:30:50,220 That's my resolution. 726 00:30:50,220 --> 00:30:53,820 Resolutions all year, all day. 727 00:30:53,820 --> 00:30:59,100 That's such a horrible percentage and that's really sad, but it's very, very true that 728 00:30:59,100 --> 00:31:04,620 you make an excuse usually when obstacles start to arise and when the challenge presents 729 00:31:04,620 --> 00:31:09,740 itself and instead of breathing through the obstacle or whatever is standing in your way 730 00:31:09,740 --> 00:31:14,420 and getting through it or getting over it or getting around it, you don't actually have 731 00:31:14,420 --> 00:31:15,980 to drive through it. 732 00:31:15,980 --> 00:31:21,420 There's so many other different ways you can achieve past the obstacle in front of you. 733 00:31:21,420 --> 00:31:22,420 You just quit. 734 00:31:22,420 --> 00:31:23,420 Yeah. 735 00:31:23,420 --> 00:31:29,540 And then you're just constantly in the cycle of never getting farther or better or changing 736 00:31:29,540 --> 00:31:32,860 more, whatever it is you are. 737 00:31:32,860 --> 00:31:33,860 There it is. 738 00:31:33,860 --> 00:31:36,340 You are holding yourself back. 739 00:31:36,340 --> 00:31:43,620 And I also, what goes along with that with excuses is you excuse yourself from said goal 740 00:31:43,620 --> 00:31:45,060 by blaming others. 741 00:31:45,060 --> 00:31:46,300 You put it on the other person. 742 00:31:46,300 --> 00:31:48,940 You put it on, oh, well, this person did this. 743 00:31:48,940 --> 00:31:49,940 That's why I can't. 744 00:31:49,940 --> 00:31:53,980 That's why I couldn't do it or like this, you know, whatever, you're blaming others 745 00:31:53,980 --> 00:31:58,300 as a part of your excuse to why you're quitting and that negativity is not going to make anybody 746 00:31:58,300 --> 00:31:59,300 win. 747 00:31:59,300 --> 00:32:05,060 Do you want me to bring this, shall I say, full circle? 748 00:32:05,060 --> 00:32:06,060 Love it. 749 00:32:06,060 --> 00:32:08,860 You are the reason you are holding yourself back. 750 00:32:08,860 --> 00:32:14,180 All of the things that we said today have to do with you and no one else. 751 00:32:14,180 --> 00:32:15,740 No one else is in your way. 752 00:32:15,740 --> 00:32:17,420 No one else is pushing you down. 753 00:32:17,420 --> 00:32:18,900 No one else is holding you back. 754 00:32:18,900 --> 00:32:20,820 You are holding yourself back. 755 00:32:20,820 --> 00:32:24,260 And that is the hard truth. 756 00:32:24,260 --> 00:32:28,140 No one wants to hear it, but it's the truth. 757 00:32:28,140 --> 00:32:32,300 And why, why when you hear something you don't want to hear, do we just defend ourselves, 758 00:32:32,300 --> 00:32:35,580 shut down, go into a little hole of like, nah, you're wrong. 759 00:32:35,580 --> 00:32:36,580 I'm right. 760 00:32:36,580 --> 00:32:37,580 You're wrong. 761 00:32:37,580 --> 00:32:38,580 Like, why do we do that? 762 00:32:38,580 --> 00:32:39,580 Because of all these reasons. 763 00:32:39,580 --> 00:32:40,580 Yeah, yeah, you're right. 764 00:32:40,580 --> 00:32:43,180 Like fear being the basis of all 12 of the things we said today. 765 00:32:43,180 --> 00:32:44,180 Yeah. 766 00:32:44,180 --> 00:32:45,900 I mean, that, that is, people are afraid. 767 00:32:45,900 --> 00:32:46,900 Yeah. 768 00:32:46,900 --> 00:32:50,740 And the people that aren't go out and get what they want. 769 00:32:50,740 --> 00:32:55,300 There are people out there that are not afraid and have no fear in themselves. 770 00:32:55,300 --> 00:32:58,060 Not saying they don't have fear out in the world, but they don't have any fear of their 771 00:32:58,060 --> 00:33:03,100 ability, their skills, what they can handle and they go out and they do it. 772 00:33:03,100 --> 00:33:07,860 I enjoyed what we talked about today so much. 773 00:33:07,860 --> 00:33:14,740 And I love Teddy D and Albie and Anna Moose, Mimi that I have put together a little fun 774 00:33:14,740 --> 00:33:18,140 game. 775 00:33:18,140 --> 00:33:21,980 So we're going to play a little game called don't quote me. 776 00:33:21,980 --> 00:33:23,620 Please don't quote us. 777 00:33:23,620 --> 00:33:24,900 Don't quote me. 778 00:33:24,900 --> 00:33:26,420 All right. 779 00:33:26,420 --> 00:33:27,900 Who said this? 780 00:33:27,900 --> 00:33:30,460 Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans. 781 00:33:30,460 --> 00:33:31,460 Yeah. 782 00:33:31,460 --> 00:33:32,460 And give me multiple joys. 783 00:33:32,460 --> 00:33:33,460 No. 784 00:33:33,460 --> 00:33:34,460 Okay. 785 00:33:34,460 --> 00:33:35,460 I'll give you multiple choice. 786 00:33:35,460 --> 00:33:36,460 What? 787 00:33:36,460 --> 00:33:37,460 All right. 788 00:33:37,460 --> 00:33:38,460 Hold on. 789 00:33:38,460 --> 00:33:39,460 All right. 790 00:33:39,460 --> 00:33:40,460 You want multiple choice? 791 00:33:40,460 --> 00:33:41,460 Yoko Ono or John Lennon? 792 00:33:41,460 --> 00:33:42,460 John Lennon. 793 00:33:42,460 --> 00:33:43,460 You are correct. 794 00:33:43,460 --> 00:33:47,500 The future belongs to those who believe in their beauty of their dreams. 795 00:33:47,500 --> 00:33:49,660 Helen Keller or Eleanor Roosevelt? 796 00:33:49,660 --> 00:33:51,660 Helen Keller? 797 00:33:51,660 --> 00:33:52,660 Wrong. 798 00:33:52,660 --> 00:33:53,660 L-E-R. 799 00:33:53,660 --> 00:33:56,820 Tell me and I'll forget. 800 00:33:56,820 --> 00:33:59,100 Teach me and I'll remember. 801 00:33:59,100 --> 00:34:01,540 Involve me and I can learn. 802 00:34:01,540 --> 00:34:04,940 L-E-E or Benjamin Frank E. 803 00:34:04,940 --> 00:34:09,700 I'm going to go Benny Frank. 804 00:34:09,700 --> 00:34:10,700 Benny Frank. 805 00:34:10,700 --> 00:34:13,380 Benny Frank for the win. 806 00:34:13,380 --> 00:34:16,020 In the end, it's not the years in your life that count. 807 00:34:16,020 --> 00:34:17,820 It's the life in your years. 808 00:34:17,820 --> 00:34:20,060 George Washington, Abraham Lincoln. 809 00:34:20,060 --> 00:34:21,060 Blankin. 810 00:34:21,060 --> 00:34:22,060 Abe. 811 00:34:22,060 --> 00:34:23,060 Yes. 812 00:34:23,060 --> 00:34:26,020 You missed 100% of the shots you don't take. 813 00:34:26,020 --> 00:34:27,860 Wayne Gretzky, Michael Scott. 814 00:34:27,860 --> 00:34:28,860 Yes. 815 00:34:28,860 --> 00:34:29,860 Yes. 816 00:34:29,860 --> 00:34:31,860 That was a trick question. 817 00:34:31,860 --> 00:34:34,500 They both said it. 818 00:34:34,500 --> 00:34:39,020 It does not matter how slowly you go as long as you do not stop. 819 00:34:39,020 --> 00:34:40,340 Atticus Finch. 820 00:34:40,340 --> 00:34:41,340 Confucius. 821 00:34:41,340 --> 00:34:42,340 Confucius. 822 00:34:42,340 --> 00:34:43,340 Confucius. 823 00:34:43,340 --> 00:34:50,420 I'm so Confucius. 824 00:34:50,420 --> 00:34:55,620 Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. 825 00:34:55,620 --> 00:34:58,260 Nelson Mandela or the Dalai Lama. 826 00:34:58,260 --> 00:35:00,260 I know. 827 00:35:00,260 --> 00:35:01,260 The Dalai Lama. 828 00:35:01,260 --> 00:35:02,260 Dalai Lama. 829 00:35:02,260 --> 00:35:05,500 I just want to let you know because she made me give her multiple choice on the spot. 830 00:35:05,500 --> 00:35:07,340 I am making these other people up. 831 00:35:07,340 --> 00:35:08,700 They're crushing it. 832 00:35:08,700 --> 00:35:11,620 Dreaming after all is a form of planning. 833 00:35:11,620 --> 00:35:14,260 Gloria Steinem, Hugh Hefner. 834 00:35:14,260 --> 00:35:15,260 Gloria Steinem. 835 00:35:15,260 --> 00:35:18,980 So you could tell I couldn't think of one there. 836 00:35:18,980 --> 00:35:23,580 The only way to do great work is to love what you do. 837 00:35:23,580 --> 00:35:26,260 Steve Jobs, Steve Carell. 838 00:35:26,260 --> 00:35:27,260 Steve Jobs. 839 00:35:27,260 --> 00:35:29,260 Do or do not. 840 00:35:29,260 --> 00:35:30,500 There is no try. 841 00:35:30,500 --> 00:35:31,500 Just in the way I said it. 842 00:35:31,500 --> 00:35:32,740 Do or do not. 843 00:35:32,740 --> 00:35:34,140 There is no try. 844 00:35:34,140 --> 00:35:36,540 How you said it, I'm supposed to know who said it? 845 00:35:36,540 --> 00:35:37,540 God. 846 00:35:37,540 --> 00:35:40,540 God or Yoda? 847 00:35:40,540 --> 00:35:43,540 Yes. 848 00:35:43,540 --> 00:35:45,420 Okay. 849 00:35:45,420 --> 00:35:48,420 These are fun. 850 00:35:48,420 --> 00:35:51,260 You should have said do or do not. 851 00:35:51,260 --> 00:35:52,260 I should have. 852 00:35:52,260 --> 00:35:53,820 I should have said it that way. 853 00:35:53,820 --> 00:35:55,420 I'm not here to be perfect. 854 00:35:55,420 --> 00:35:57,500 I'm just here to be real. 855 00:35:57,500 --> 00:36:00,060 Hank Azaria or Lady Gaga? 856 00:36:00,060 --> 00:36:01,060 Lady Gaga. 857 00:36:01,060 --> 00:36:02,060 Lady Gaga. 858 00:36:02,060 --> 00:36:03,300 Hank Azaria. 859 00:36:03,300 --> 00:36:07,380 The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them. 860 00:36:07,380 --> 00:36:10,780 Ernest Hemingway, Albee Bee. 861 00:36:10,780 --> 00:36:12,780 Ernest Hemingway. 862 00:36:12,780 --> 00:36:13,780 Correct. 863 00:36:13,780 --> 00:36:15,140 All right. 864 00:36:15,140 --> 00:36:16,620 Last one. 865 00:36:16,620 --> 00:36:19,300 Are you ready? 866 00:36:19,300 --> 00:36:24,540 My mother always used to say, the older you get, the better you get unless you're a 867 00:36:24,540 --> 00:36:26,220 banana. 868 00:36:26,220 --> 00:36:29,060 Rose from the Golden Girls or Blanche from the Golden Girls? 869 00:36:29,060 --> 00:36:31,620 I'll leave you guys with this one. 870 00:36:31,620 --> 00:36:32,620 Rose Betty White. 871 00:36:32,620 --> 00:36:33,620 Rose Betty White. 872 00:36:33,620 --> 00:36:34,620 Guess who won, Victoria? 873 00:36:34,620 --> 00:36:35,620 You won. 874 00:36:35,620 --> 00:36:36,620 I won. 875 00:36:36,620 --> 00:36:39,120 I actually did. 876 00:36:39,120 --> 00:36:40,220 Don't quote me. 877 00:36:40,220 --> 00:36:41,220 Don't quote me. 878 00:36:41,220 --> 00:36:43,820 But those are some pretty good quotes to take away from. 879 00:36:43,820 --> 00:36:44,820 Carly on the spot. 880 00:36:44,820 --> 00:36:45,820 Thank you. 881 00:36:45,820 --> 00:36:48,820 Carly, who said this quote? 882 00:36:48,820 --> 00:36:51,340 No, thank you. 883 00:36:51,340 --> 00:36:57,980 This can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light. 884 00:36:57,980 --> 00:36:58,980 Victoria Mayo. 885 00:36:58,980 --> 00:36:59,980 Anonymous. 886 00:36:59,980 --> 00:37:05,180 But what if I said it like an old man with a wizard hat? 887 00:37:05,180 --> 00:37:06,180 Dumbledore. 888 00:37:06,180 --> 00:37:07,180 Dumbledore. 889 00:37:07,180 --> 00:37:08,180 Dumbledore. 890 00:37:08,180 --> 00:37:12,140 Same thing, Victoria Mayo, Dumbledore. 891 00:37:12,140 --> 00:37:18,660 The dream. 892 00:37:18,660 --> 00:37:25,060 Moving into our real tip and our extra tip, even though all of this was a giant tip. 893 00:37:25,060 --> 00:37:26,060 Yes. 894 00:37:26,060 --> 00:37:28,340 I'm calling the real tip, Face It. 895 00:37:28,340 --> 00:37:29,340 But Face Your Fierce. 896 00:37:29,340 --> 00:37:30,420 So grab a notebook. 897 00:37:30,420 --> 00:37:33,060 I would say notebook, not your phone. 898 00:37:33,060 --> 00:37:36,380 Grab a notebook, write it down with a pen and paper. 899 00:37:36,380 --> 00:37:37,980 It makes a difference. 900 00:37:37,980 --> 00:37:39,660 It just does. 901 00:37:39,660 --> 00:37:44,900 And write out your fears from the smallest spider to a career change. 902 00:37:44,900 --> 00:37:46,260 Write them all down. 903 00:37:46,260 --> 00:37:47,380 Just acknowledge them. 904 00:37:47,380 --> 00:37:53,700 I 100% agree with that because when you write something down, it becomes real. 905 00:37:53,700 --> 00:37:56,340 If you just think it, it's in there. 906 00:37:56,340 --> 00:37:57,340 It's trapped. 907 00:37:57,340 --> 00:37:59,420 And on that, I'm going to piggyback off that. 908 00:37:59,420 --> 00:38:02,460 This is called quote me. 909 00:38:02,460 --> 00:38:04,940 What does quote me mean? 910 00:38:04,940 --> 00:38:09,860 Quote me means I literally want you to write down on a post-it note. 911 00:38:09,860 --> 00:38:12,260 I am amazing. 912 00:38:12,260 --> 00:38:14,620 Exclamation point, exclamation point, exclamation point. 913 00:38:14,620 --> 00:38:17,740 I want you to put it on your bathroom mirror. 914 00:38:17,740 --> 00:38:20,060 I want you to say it out loud to yourself. 915 00:38:20,060 --> 00:38:21,580 Do you need to say it one time? 916 00:38:21,580 --> 00:38:23,340 Maybe, two times, maybe. 917 00:38:23,340 --> 00:38:27,700 As many times as you need, every single morning, I want that to be the first thing that you 918 00:38:27,700 --> 00:38:28,940 say to yourself. 919 00:38:28,940 --> 00:38:30,460 Look in the mirror, see the post-it note. 920 00:38:30,460 --> 00:38:32,220 I am awesome. 921 00:38:32,220 --> 00:38:33,220 Say it out loud. 922 00:38:33,220 --> 00:38:34,420 It makes a difference. 923 00:38:34,420 --> 00:38:37,420 And quote me on that. 924 00:38:37,420 --> 00:38:44,500 Just remember, you can face everything and rise because you are always fit to be real. 925 00:38:44,500 --> 00:38:55,820 And always allowed to be a little extra. 926 00:38:55,820 --> 00:38:59,020 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 927 00:38:59,020 --> 00:39:00,820 educational purposes only. 928 00:39:00,820 --> 00:39:03,020 We are not healthcare professionals. 929 00:39:03,020 --> 00:39:07,140 For all of your health, wellness, fitness, and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 930 00:39:07,140 --> 00:39:08,820 professional in your life. 931 00:39:08,820 --> 00:39:13,900 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 932 00:39:13,900 --> 00:39:17,420 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know it too. 933 00:39:17,420 --> 00:39:18,420 Okay? 934 00:39:18,420 --> 00:39:45,260 Okay, bye.