1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:03,600 Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra. 2 00:00:03,600 --> 00:00:08,600 We're talking about life right now in a post-pandemic world. 3 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:14,000 And kind of how we navigated it and how we're navigating it now, 4 00:00:14,000 --> 00:00:16,800 which there's so many good and bad things to all of it. 5 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:19,800 Yeah, we're going to talk the pros and cons of today. 6 00:00:19,800 --> 00:00:22,800 Woohoo! 7 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:28,200 I'm Victoria. 8 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:29,800 Hey guys, I'm Carly. 9 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:31,800 That's post-pandemic. 10 00:00:31,800 --> 00:00:33,800 Only post-pandemic. 11 00:00:33,800 --> 00:00:35,800 That never happened pre-pandemic. 12 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:37,800 I wonder who you would be. 13 00:00:39,800 --> 00:00:41,800 Have we not quarantined? 14 00:00:41,800 --> 00:00:43,800 Well, we did quarantine. 15 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:45,800 We quarantined together. 16 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:46,800 We were in our bubble. 17 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:50,800 Yeah, we had a small bubble because we never stopped working, 18 00:00:50,800 --> 00:00:57,800 which required us to come together and immediately dive into live stream videos 19 00:00:57,800 --> 00:01:03,800 to keep our business afloat, which knock on all the wood we did. 20 00:01:03,800 --> 00:01:07,800 Yeah, honestly, thank you to all of you who watch the live stream, 21 00:01:07,800 --> 00:01:09,800 who continue to watch the live stream. 22 00:01:09,800 --> 00:01:13,800 It was a learning curve that we learned in two days. 23 00:01:13,800 --> 00:01:15,800 We're still learning. 24 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:20,800 But it's something that we had wanted to do for a really long time. 25 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:24,800 But the shutdown on that Saturday that we closed, 26 00:01:24,800 --> 00:01:27,800 and it happened on Monday, like we were up and running on Monday. 27 00:01:27,800 --> 00:01:30,800 I mean, it was a kick in the pants to be like, hey, you have no other choice. 28 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:31,800 Yes, yep. 29 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:32,800 You have to do this now. 30 00:01:32,800 --> 00:01:33,800 Yeah, we ran around. 31 00:01:33,800 --> 00:01:37,800 We were looking for microphones and looking for the right setup 32 00:01:37,800 --> 00:01:42,800 to be able to put the music through the computer so that you could hear it. 33 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:45,800 And then the microphones had to go through the computer 34 00:01:45,800 --> 00:01:50,800 and set up a good system for us to be seen well enough for people to be able to follow, 35 00:01:50,800 --> 00:01:56,800 not even talking about the how to get people to pay for it through a money system online 36 00:01:56,800 --> 00:01:59,800 and how to get these videos on our website. 37 00:01:59,800 --> 00:02:00,800 Oh, my gosh. 38 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:03,800 Like it was a rat race for 48 hours. 39 00:02:03,800 --> 00:02:06,800 I don't even think it was a full 48 to be honest with you. 40 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:08,800 I really don't think it was a full 48, 41 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:10,800 but we couldn't have done it without Andrew. 42 00:02:10,800 --> 00:02:11,800 No, he, yeah. 43 00:02:11,800 --> 00:02:15,800 Andrew is the brains of the operation in connecting the wires. 44 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:17,800 Like we are so, we're good at so many things. 45 00:02:17,800 --> 00:02:21,800 And we are talented in so many different fields and avenues, 46 00:02:21,800 --> 00:02:27,800 but when it comes to technology or any type of like engineering way to use your brain, 47 00:02:27,800 --> 00:02:29,800 that's not in our genetic makeup. 48 00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:31,800 It just isn't the language. 49 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:37,800 There's a barrier and the communication to be able to read something and then put it into action 50 00:02:37,800 --> 00:02:39,800 when it comes to wiring and computers. 51 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:40,800 It's just not there. 52 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:41,800 It's not there. 53 00:02:41,800 --> 00:02:43,800 And we couldn't have done it without him. 54 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:47,800 And then, then the part that was like, Oh, we need to go run and get this at Best Buy, 55 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:50,800 but Best Buy is going to close at five because the world is shutting down. 56 00:02:50,800 --> 00:02:53,800 So like trying to be like, well, this best buys open till eight. 57 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,800 And also everyone was trying to do live streams. 58 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:00,800 So the cameras that we needed or whatever setup that we needed is all out of stock. 59 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:06,800 We're limited because within 48 hours, everybody was trying to figure out how to navigate 60 00:03:06,800 --> 00:03:09,800 keeping whatever they needed to keep alive. 61 00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:11,800 Zoom and like all that stuff. 62 00:03:11,800 --> 00:03:14,800 Zoom was something that I didn't know the name of. 63 00:03:14,800 --> 00:03:17,800 I know that wasn't a part of normal conversation. 64 00:03:17,800 --> 00:03:18,800 People were like, zoom. 65 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:19,800 I was like, what's a zoom? 66 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:21,800 Because we didn't do conference calls. 67 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:25,800 We didn't have to dial in other people and it was face to face. 68 00:03:25,800 --> 00:03:32,800 It was a whirlwind and by the grace of all things, holy goodness, 69 00:03:32,800 --> 00:03:40,800 we made it through and we thrived and we couldn't have done it with out our community. 70 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:41,800 And it was exhausting. 71 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:42,800 Oh yeah. 72 00:03:42,800 --> 00:03:43,800 It was exhausting because we never stopped. 73 00:03:43,800 --> 00:03:44,800 COVID was not a break for us. 74 00:03:44,800 --> 00:03:50,800 COVID was not a break and it was exhausting and it was draining mentally to try to keep things new and fresh 75 00:03:50,800 --> 00:03:53,800 because everyone was getting stir crazy at home. 76 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:54,800 And everybody was doing it. 77 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:58,800 Like everybody was putting out at home workouts now. 78 00:03:58,800 --> 00:03:59,800 Yeah. 79 00:03:59,800 --> 00:04:00,800 Yeah, that's the only way. 80 00:04:00,800 --> 00:04:01,800 That's the only way. 81 00:04:01,800 --> 00:04:02,800 It was the only way. 82 00:04:02,800 --> 00:04:07,800 So it was tiring, but there are so many pieces of it that I miss. 83 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:12,800 It was also, I'm going to add, it was exhausting, but it gave us purpose. 84 00:04:12,800 --> 00:04:16,800 Every single day we woke up, we knew we had a schedule. 85 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:22,800 Like there were net, there was not one day where we were like, oh man, I'm going stir crazy. 86 00:04:22,800 --> 00:04:25,800 It was like we had a schedule and we did not stop. 87 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:26,800 Yeah. 88 00:04:26,800 --> 00:04:30,800 And it gave us purpose to get up every day and go to work. 89 00:04:30,800 --> 00:04:34,800 And that while it's exhausting because it were physically drained. 90 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:38,800 It really helped us pass the time. 91 00:04:38,800 --> 00:04:41,800 And we had an avenue to be able to get up and out. 92 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:42,800 Yes. 93 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:47,800 When so many people and like clients, I was for personal training, I was FaceTiming them workouts. 94 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:52,800 And they would just complain about how bored they were. 95 00:04:52,800 --> 00:04:57,800 And how, you know, a few weeks in at the time we were told we were going to be quarantined for two weeks only. 96 00:04:57,800 --> 00:05:00,800 And it ended up being 10 years. 97 00:05:00,800 --> 00:05:07,800 So at the time where it started to get so crazy when people were like, you know, it's so boring. 98 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:09,800 And I was like, I don't know. 99 00:05:09,800 --> 00:05:11,800 Yeah, no, we would like to be bored. 100 00:05:11,800 --> 00:05:12,800 I would act. 101 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:13,800 I actually don't know. 102 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:16,800 Like I am at the end of the day passing out. 103 00:05:16,800 --> 00:05:17,800 Yeah. 104 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:21,800 But there were so many good factors to it at the same time. 105 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:27,800 So one that I, this is so specific to my situation, but I was living in a condo building. 106 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:33,800 I had owned a condo in Swarthmore, Pennsylvania, and it overlooked 476. 107 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,800 So my balcony, which was awesome. 108 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,800 It just, you had the sound of the highway. 109 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:43,800 So I never kept my doors open, my front doors. 110 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:48,800 And I, if I was going to go out on the balcony, you just knew if there was somebody with you, you had to like yell. 111 00:05:48,800 --> 00:05:49,800 Yeah. 112 00:05:49,800 --> 00:05:50,800 Because it was loud. 113 00:05:50,800 --> 00:05:52,800 But during the pandemic, it was peaceful. 114 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:54,800 I had my windows open. 115 00:05:54,800 --> 00:05:56,800 I could open my doors. 116 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:03,800 I could sit on the balcony and not have that white noise, which ended up being like in the grand scheme of things and not a big deal. 117 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:07,800 But that was such a small piece of like having the windows open in my condo. 118 00:06:07,800 --> 00:06:08,800 Yeah. 119 00:06:08,800 --> 00:06:12,800 Such a nice thing for me that I didn't know I was missing out on. 120 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:14,800 And that is so specific to me. 121 00:06:14,800 --> 00:06:16,800 And that is so small. 122 00:06:16,800 --> 00:06:18,800 But that's something that I, I remember. 123 00:06:18,800 --> 00:06:19,800 Yeah. 124 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:21,800 I just remember that, that piece. 125 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:25,800 And I remember when the cars started coming back and I was like, oh no. 126 00:06:25,800 --> 00:06:26,800 We're getting back to normal. 127 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:28,800 Oh no. 128 00:06:28,800 --> 00:06:37,800 I, one of my pros was my smallest child was six months, six and a half months old when we shut down. 129 00:06:37,800 --> 00:06:38,800 Right. 130 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:45,800 And so Andrew worked a lot out of town with his job that he had at the time in concerts. 131 00:06:45,800 --> 00:06:49,800 He was always in Mexico or what was, you know, Nashville or something. 132 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:50,800 He was always away. 133 00:06:50,800 --> 00:06:54,800 But he had to work from home because there were no concerts happening. 134 00:06:54,800 --> 00:06:55,800 Yeah. 135 00:06:55,800 --> 00:06:58,800 He still had a job, but he was working from the basement. 136 00:06:58,800 --> 00:07:07,800 And it was awesome that he got to spend every day with Dean, who was six and a half months old and got to see him every single day. 137 00:07:07,800 --> 00:07:14,800 Whereas the other two, he was either coming home after they got in bed or, you know, he had been gone for 10 days at some music festival. 138 00:07:14,800 --> 00:07:15,800 Right. 139 00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:18,800 So it was really awesome to have family dinners. 140 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:20,800 And then as I said in a previous one, dance parties. 141 00:07:20,800 --> 00:07:21,800 Yeah. 142 00:07:21,800 --> 00:07:24,800 We would have dance parties every night and Andrew would get to be there. 143 00:07:24,800 --> 00:07:30,800 And because our bubble was Victoria, my mom and my dad, we brought back Sunday dinners. 144 00:07:30,800 --> 00:07:31,800 Right. 145 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:35,800 Which we didn't have since we were little because lives were crazy. 146 00:07:35,800 --> 00:07:39,800 So those Sunday dinners, we would look forward to being like, guys, it's like a party. 147 00:07:39,800 --> 00:07:40,800 Oh my gosh. 148 00:07:40,800 --> 00:07:41,800 And we had like themes. 149 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:42,800 Yeah. 150 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:44,800 We would eat the same thing practically. 151 00:07:44,800 --> 00:07:48,800 Chicken, rice, coconut rice, coconut rice and a salad. 152 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:49,800 Yep. 153 00:07:49,800 --> 00:07:51,800 But it was an event. 154 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:52,800 Yes. 155 00:07:52,800 --> 00:07:53,800 We'd get dressed. 156 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:57,800 And we'd go outside in the backyard, play music and play like lawn games. 157 00:07:57,800 --> 00:07:59,800 And the kids thought it was the best. 158 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:05,800 And we'd watch Dean take his first step and like, because we were still pretty quarantined for most of Dean's life. 159 00:08:05,800 --> 00:08:11,800 So that, that was a big pro for me getting all that time that we have just talked about with time. 160 00:08:11,800 --> 00:08:13,800 Poe, we were not time. 161 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:17,800 Poe, no mouth during, during COVID. 162 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:21,800 And I miss my con is that I miss that time. 163 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:22,800 We don't have it now. 164 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:23,800 Yeah. 165 00:08:23,800 --> 00:08:29,800 Like the, the slowness while our work was busy, our weekends were not. 166 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:30,800 There were no obligations. 167 00:08:30,800 --> 00:08:31,800 There were no parties. 168 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:33,800 There were no events. 169 00:08:33,800 --> 00:08:40,800 And that I miss like the, the not crazy, not hustle dance party Sunday night dinner times. 170 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:43,800 Well, the big parties that we would have would be drive-bys. 171 00:08:43,800 --> 00:08:44,800 Yes. 172 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:52,800 We would all get in a caravan of cars from each, you know, family member or whatever, and go drive by someone's house for their birthday. 173 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:53,800 Yeah. 174 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:58,800 And we would all just stay in the middle of the street with our cars just idling because there were no other cars on the road. 175 00:08:58,800 --> 00:08:59,800 Nobody else was out. 176 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:03,800 And everybody would sing happy birthday from their cars more than six feet away. 177 00:09:03,800 --> 00:09:04,800 I would try to blast. 178 00:09:04,800 --> 00:09:05,800 I had a birthday playlist. 179 00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:07,800 It was called COVID party. 180 00:09:07,800 --> 00:09:14,800 And we would scream happy birthday from our cars and then within what 10, 15 minutes, we'd all be like, all right, bye. 181 00:09:14,800 --> 00:09:15,800 Going back to our house. 182 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:16,800 Yeah. 183 00:09:16,800 --> 00:09:25,800 And there was the same thing if somebody had a baby shower and this was after we learned that you didn't have to wash your groceries. 184 00:09:25,800 --> 00:09:26,800 Oh my God. 185 00:09:26,800 --> 00:09:33,800 So, you know, we all started with maybe we have to wear gloves now or maybe you have to come home and strip your clothes off and put them in the laundry. 186 00:09:33,800 --> 00:09:37,800 And then you have to clean or Lysol wipe your food. 187 00:09:37,800 --> 00:09:44,800 So we learned that all of that was not necessary and people would be like, OK, I'm going to have my drive by baby shower. 188 00:09:44,800 --> 00:09:50,800 So you were safe to buy a gift and give someone else like COVID wasn't going to transfer through the package. 189 00:09:50,800 --> 00:09:51,800 Yeah. 190 00:09:51,800 --> 00:09:54,800 But that was the way to do a baby shower. 191 00:09:54,800 --> 00:09:56,800 And that was the way to do a bridal shower. 192 00:09:56,800 --> 00:10:00,800 Just throw them a gift on the front lawn and be on your way. 193 00:10:00,800 --> 00:10:04,800 Now, somebody having that baby or bridal shower might think differently. 194 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,800 They got gifts. 195 00:10:06,800 --> 00:10:12,800 You got gifts and didn't have to stand on your feet for hours and socialize being nine months pregnant. 196 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:13,800 That's true. 197 00:10:13,800 --> 00:10:14,800 That is amazing. 198 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:15,800 Yeah. 199 00:10:15,800 --> 00:10:17,800 I have no experience in it, but I know for a fact that that's awesome. 200 00:10:17,800 --> 00:10:21,800 She has a lot of experience in planning all of mine. 201 00:10:21,800 --> 00:10:22,800 I mean, it is awesome. 202 00:10:22,800 --> 00:10:25,800 And at the time, it was really great to see people. 203 00:10:25,800 --> 00:10:26,800 Yeah. 204 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:37,800 And I say that because we're so overbooked now, but it was cool to be able to get in your car and put some jeans on and not wear sweatpants and be like, I'm just going to drive by. 205 00:10:37,800 --> 00:10:41,800 And I'm going to still feel safe because we're more than six million feet away. 206 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:48,800 And I just say that's the way to do it because that there's no time anymore and everything's back to the way it was. 207 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:52,800 I will say, I want to go back to what you said about how Dean was six months old. 208 00:10:52,800 --> 00:10:53,800 Yeah. 209 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:55,800 So he was a quarantine baby. 210 00:10:55,800 --> 00:10:56,800 Yeah. 211 00:10:56,800 --> 00:10:57,800 Now, I don't know if this is true. 212 00:10:57,800 --> 00:11:05,800 I think I see it just from being a third party of watching you raise your kids and watching your kids grow up. 213 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:15,800 But there's a difference between a quarantine kid not knowing what it's like to be in a grocery store because your kids would go to the grocery store with you all the time. 214 00:11:15,800 --> 00:11:17,800 The older two, the older two. 215 00:11:17,800 --> 00:11:18,800 Yeah. 216 00:11:18,800 --> 00:11:25,800 And like being out in public and not knowing that your home life isn't actually your outdoor life. 217 00:11:25,800 --> 00:11:26,800 Right. 218 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:28,800 And I don't even know how I want to say that. 219 00:11:28,800 --> 00:11:29,800 No, no, that's true. 220 00:11:29,800 --> 00:11:33,800 It's the socialization of Dean versus Melody and Lewis. 221 00:11:33,800 --> 00:11:41,800 Melody and Lewis were taken out to restaurants at six weeks old and knew how to be in a public place and being like, we are not in our living room. 222 00:11:41,800 --> 00:11:42,800 We are out right now. 223 00:11:42,800 --> 00:11:44,800 You put on your best behavior. 224 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:45,800 Right. 225 00:11:45,800 --> 00:11:47,800 Dean's behavior is one note. 226 00:11:47,800 --> 00:11:48,800 One note, Johnny. 227 00:11:48,800 --> 00:11:50,800 He's like the loudest note. 228 00:11:50,800 --> 00:11:51,800 Yeah, the loudest note. 229 00:11:51,800 --> 00:11:53,800 Now, some of that is his personality. 230 00:11:53,800 --> 00:11:57,800 He's just, he's got a big personality. 231 00:11:57,800 --> 00:12:03,800 But the other part is he doesn't, he didn't know how to go out to a restaurant until he was almost three. 232 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:04,800 Yeah. 233 00:12:04,800 --> 00:12:07,800 That was his first time going out and sitting at a restaurant. 234 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:09,800 I would say that's a condo quarantine. 235 00:12:09,800 --> 00:12:10,800 100%. 236 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:17,800 It's a con for school and socialization and he's not, he's not hitting anybody, but like he doesn't understand. 237 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:18,800 No. 238 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:19,800 Because he never got to go to the park. 239 00:12:19,800 --> 00:12:20,800 He's not a bad kid. 240 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:26,800 No, he just doesn't know that like in a grocery store, you can't run up and down the aisles because it's not your brother and sister's bedroom. 241 00:12:26,800 --> 00:12:27,800 Yeah. 242 00:12:27,800 --> 00:12:28,800 Like you're not right. 243 00:12:28,800 --> 00:12:29,800 It's not yours. 244 00:12:29,800 --> 00:12:30,800 Right. 245 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:31,800 It's like the world is his playground. 246 00:12:31,800 --> 00:12:32,800 Right. 247 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:34,800 And like we didn't get to go out to the park. 248 00:12:34,800 --> 00:12:37,800 So the park was shut down when he was old enough to go to the park. 249 00:12:37,800 --> 00:12:40,800 Now it was actually that's not exactly true. 250 00:12:40,800 --> 00:12:45,800 The park was open by the time he could realize, but he didn't know how to wait his turn. 251 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:46,800 Right. 252 00:12:46,800 --> 00:12:47,800 Because guess what? 253 00:12:47,800 --> 00:12:49,800 There weren't a lot of people at the park when we were there. 254 00:12:49,800 --> 00:12:50,800 Yeah. 255 00:12:50,800 --> 00:12:51,800 So it was his park. 256 00:12:51,800 --> 00:12:55,800 So when there's somebody that is going down the slide, but he wants to go down the slide, he's like, move. 257 00:12:55,800 --> 00:12:56,800 Really? 258 00:12:56,800 --> 00:12:57,800 Yeah. 259 00:12:57,800 --> 00:12:59,800 Because he's not used to being waiting his turn. 260 00:12:59,800 --> 00:13:00,800 Yeah. 261 00:13:00,800 --> 00:13:07,800 I hate calling him a COVID kid because I feel like that gives them a pass for bad behavior and it's not a pass. 262 00:13:07,800 --> 00:13:09,800 It's just, it's what happened. 263 00:13:09,800 --> 00:13:10,800 Yeah. 264 00:13:10,800 --> 00:13:13,800 It's how we're trying to figure out how to like get through it. 265 00:13:13,800 --> 00:13:14,800 Yeah. 266 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:20,800 It's just something to think about when you see any, I would say toddler up to four or five year old. 267 00:13:20,800 --> 00:13:21,800 Yeah. 268 00:13:21,800 --> 00:13:27,800 In public where you have to remember that majority of their formative years was in quarantine 269 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:29,800 and a pandemic world. 270 00:13:29,800 --> 00:13:37,800 And for us, it was awesome because Dean has, is a very lucky boy and had a, has a good life for the kids that had to be home. 271 00:13:37,800 --> 00:13:38,800 Oh my God. 272 00:13:38,800 --> 00:13:39,800 And it was not a good situation. 273 00:13:39,800 --> 00:13:40,800 A home life. 274 00:13:40,800 --> 00:13:44,800 That is horrendous because they needed school, you know, to get out from wherever they were. 275 00:13:44,800 --> 00:13:46,800 Like Dean, Dean is has a good life. 276 00:13:46,800 --> 00:13:47,800 So he's fine. 277 00:13:47,800 --> 00:13:48,800 Yeah. 278 00:13:48,800 --> 00:13:52,800 But that, I always think about that, like all the fun we had. 279 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:57,800 And I talk about that being a pro where a lot of people, that was a big con for sure. 280 00:13:57,800 --> 00:13:59,800 For sure, for sure. It was actually dangerous. 281 00:13:59,800 --> 00:14:00,800 Yeah. 282 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:04,800 Now the pro for all three of them is they were, you know, my oldest was in kindergarten. 283 00:14:04,800 --> 00:14:06,800 They're not going to remember this. 284 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:07,800 You don't think so? 285 00:14:07,800 --> 00:14:08,800 No, I don't. 286 00:14:08,800 --> 00:14:10,800 Do you remember kindergarten? 287 00:14:10,800 --> 00:14:13,800 Do you remember when you were five and younger? 288 00:14:13,800 --> 00:14:14,800 I'm younger. 289 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:21,800 No, I do remember moments of kindergarten, specific moments of kindergarten that I know are not on a VHS that I've seen somewhere. 290 00:14:21,800 --> 00:14:27,800 A VHS is what we used to watch home videos on. 291 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:31,800 It's there are moments like I think Melody will remember wearing a mask. 292 00:14:31,800 --> 00:14:32,800 Oh yeah. 293 00:14:32,800 --> 00:14:33,800 Yeah. 294 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:34,800 Yeah. 295 00:14:34,800 --> 00:14:36,800 And she'll remember we called it the germ. 296 00:14:36,800 --> 00:14:37,800 Yeah. 297 00:14:37,800 --> 00:14:39,800 Like you called it the germ. 298 00:14:39,800 --> 00:14:40,800 Why can't we do that? 299 00:14:40,800 --> 00:14:41,800 Well, the germ is there. 300 00:14:41,800 --> 00:14:45,800 Like how do you explain kids what a pandemic or quarantine or COVID is? 301 00:14:45,800 --> 00:14:47,800 So I think she'll remember that term. 302 00:14:47,800 --> 00:14:55,800 I don't know if she'll remember the fact that she watched kids at the playground who weren't allowed to be on the playground, but the parents didn't care at that point play and she was allowed to go. 303 00:14:55,800 --> 00:14:57,800 I don't think she'll remember that. 304 00:14:57,800 --> 00:14:58,800 Yeah. 305 00:14:58,800 --> 00:14:59,800 But I agree. 306 00:14:59,800 --> 00:15:00,800 All of this is relative. 307 00:15:00,800 --> 00:15:11,800 The pros and cons of what we think COVID at quarantine and the pandemic were are so different than anybody else's pro and cons in situation that they went through. 308 00:15:11,800 --> 00:15:14,800 I've got a pro and con that I think can relate to a lot of people. 309 00:15:14,800 --> 00:15:21,800 My pro is, which I said, Andrew was a was home a lot more, but now he only works from home. 310 00:15:21,800 --> 00:15:24,800 So he never went back to an office since COVID. 311 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:28,800 And for me, I would be like, Hey, I'm going to take a shower. 312 00:15:28,800 --> 00:15:38,800 Dean's right going to sit here and play in the basement while Andrew's working on the computer on a zoom because that's all he does now are zoom meetings because his office is in Vegas pro. 313 00:15:38,800 --> 00:15:43,800 He can work on Vegas shows and live in Philadelphia, which is an amazing pro. 314 00:15:43,800 --> 00:15:47,800 A con is that Andrew doesn't love it. 315 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:53,800 So sometimes I would go and be like, Hey, I just want to run to the grocery store and Dean and Andrew would say, just take Dean with you. 316 00:15:53,800 --> 00:16:02,800 Like, oh, it's just so much faster if I just go by myself, which is another reason he has a hard time going out in public because I do go out more without him. 317 00:16:02,800 --> 00:16:05,800 But he's like, I got a meeting in like 20 minutes. 318 00:16:05,800 --> 00:16:06,800 I'm like, I'll be back. 319 00:16:06,800 --> 00:16:07,800 I'll be back. 320 00:16:07,800 --> 00:16:08,800 I'll be back. 321 00:16:08,800 --> 00:16:10,800 So he's sort of working sort of on dad duty. 322 00:16:10,800 --> 00:16:12,800 There's no like that's up to you. 323 00:16:12,800 --> 00:16:14,800 You could change that. 324 00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:17,800 It's an open door policy. 325 00:16:17,800 --> 00:16:18,800 The door is open. 326 00:16:18,800 --> 00:16:20,800 I can leave a child down there. 327 00:16:20,800 --> 00:16:22,800 But also like, Hey, can you pick up the kids from school today? 328 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:26,800 I get, you know, that kind of stuff where he loves being there to do it. 329 00:16:26,800 --> 00:16:29,800 But at the same time, there's no fine line. 330 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:30,800 Like there's no line. 331 00:16:30,800 --> 00:16:31,800 Yeah, there's a boundary. 332 00:16:31,800 --> 00:16:33,800 Yeah, office and home. 333 00:16:33,800 --> 00:16:35,800 So that's a pro and a con. 334 00:16:35,800 --> 00:16:38,800 Well, you're the one who crosses the boundary. 335 00:16:38,800 --> 00:16:39,800 What? 336 00:16:39,800 --> 00:16:40,800 I would say I'm sorry. 337 00:16:40,800 --> 00:16:41,800 I can't hear you. 338 00:16:41,800 --> 00:16:42,800 I can't speak louder. 339 00:16:42,800 --> 00:16:43,800 I can't hear you. 340 00:16:43,800 --> 00:16:45,800 Oh my God. 341 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:46,800 That's true. 342 00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:47,800 That's true. 343 00:16:47,800 --> 00:16:52,800 And I think a lot of people went remote for their job, which I think was a, I think it's 344 00:16:52,800 --> 00:16:53,800 a pro. 345 00:16:53,800 --> 00:16:57,400 It is a pro that a lot of companies realize that the same amount of work could be productive 346 00:16:57,400 --> 00:16:59,800 from home. 347 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,800 I think there are some situations where that is impossible. 348 00:17:02,800 --> 00:17:03,800 Yeah. 349 00:17:03,800 --> 00:17:09,520 And you have to go into the office, but I've learned with talking to a lot of people that 350 00:17:09,520 --> 00:17:13,120 they prefer maybe more of a hybrid where they can work from home three days a week that 351 00:17:13,120 --> 00:17:14,880 they go in for two. 352 00:17:14,880 --> 00:17:19,760 And so you're still getting that office life and maybe that office focus because there 353 00:17:19,760 --> 00:17:25,760 is nothing else happening around you other than work, but you get to, I don't know, save 354 00:17:25,760 --> 00:17:31,560 on gas from having to commute into the city or just get to relax a little bit more, but 355 00:17:31,560 --> 00:17:35,520 still get the same amount of work done depending on what you do. 356 00:17:35,520 --> 00:17:41,320 I think there's a lot of good that comes with remote environment, companies for people's 357 00:17:41,320 --> 00:17:43,600 mental health. 358 00:17:43,600 --> 00:17:46,800 And nope, that's it. 359 00:17:46,800 --> 00:17:50,080 Well, here's my prone con about that. 360 00:17:50,080 --> 00:17:57,960 I think over the course of COVID, mental health awareness was like in your face because people 361 00:17:57,960 --> 00:17:59,360 were stuck at home. 362 00:17:59,360 --> 00:18:03,600 The con is that people were stuck at home and unable to take care of themselves because 363 00:18:03,600 --> 00:18:04,600 of their mental health. 364 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:05,600 They couldn't get out. 365 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:08,040 That was a depressing time for them. 366 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:11,200 Lots of bad things happen when you're depressed. 367 00:18:11,200 --> 00:18:17,520 And because of that, there was like a boom in mental health awareness, which is a con. 368 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:19,440 I mean, sorry, which is a pro. 369 00:18:19,440 --> 00:18:24,080 The boom in mental health awareness, like every workplace saying, all right, now we're 370 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:28,720 going to set a time for this and set a time for that and contact this person if you're 371 00:18:28,720 --> 00:18:30,220 feeling this way. 372 00:18:30,220 --> 00:18:31,480 That's a huge pro. 373 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:34,160 Or taking mental health days. 374 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:37,600 Like I never actually thought about what a mental health day was. 375 00:18:37,600 --> 00:18:40,400 We would just be like, mom would be like, it's a mental health day. 376 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:41,400 I know. 377 00:18:41,400 --> 00:18:42,400 Like, oh, okay. 378 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:43,520 But I didn't know what it was. 379 00:18:43,520 --> 00:18:47,520 And I think you're so right, the awareness of it all. 380 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:50,200 Where we have people come into class and we're like, oh my gosh, you're not at work today. 381 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:52,440 And they're like, no, I took a mental health day. 382 00:18:52,440 --> 00:18:57,480 I was like, oh my gosh, that literally means to take care of your mental health this day. 383 00:18:57,480 --> 00:18:58,480 You took all from work. 384 00:18:58,480 --> 00:18:59,640 And then I'm like, oh, same. 385 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:00,640 Bye. 386 00:19:00,640 --> 00:19:01,640 Same. 387 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:02,640 Can't teach. 388 00:19:02,640 --> 00:19:03,640 Bye. 389 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:05,800 I would love a mental. 390 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:08,000 But is there a con to that? 391 00:19:08,000 --> 00:19:11,120 The con is mental health skyrocketed. 392 00:19:11,120 --> 00:19:12,120 Yes. 393 00:19:12,120 --> 00:19:14,320 Everything you're saying is backward. 394 00:19:14,320 --> 00:19:15,320 Everything you're saying is wrong. 395 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:16,320 It's so plummeted. 396 00:19:16,320 --> 00:19:19,000 No, mental health skyrocketed. 397 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:22,400 Slow down. 398 00:19:22,400 --> 00:19:26,000 Mental health skyrocketed because people were alone. 399 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:31,120 And when you are alone with your thoughts and you are not well, that's not good. 400 00:19:31,120 --> 00:19:35,720 For your, for, you know, in Andrew's case, he was working triple time because he was 401 00:19:35,720 --> 00:19:38,960 at home and there was no off time. 402 00:19:38,960 --> 00:19:41,560 He was answering emails at 11 p.m. 403 00:19:41,560 --> 00:19:42,760 Now he can handle it. 404 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:44,400 Some people could not. 405 00:19:44,400 --> 00:19:47,600 And I think that was a, you know, that's a huge con, mental health. 406 00:19:47,600 --> 00:19:54,660 I actually don't know if there's a pro to this, but I think a big con of quarantine was everybody's 407 00:19:54,660 --> 00:19:59,480 accessibility slash assumption of accessibility. 408 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:05,200 So just because you're working from home and you see my car in the driveway, doesn't mean 409 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:06,920 I'm twiddling my thumbs on the couch. 410 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:07,920 Right. 411 00:20:07,920 --> 00:20:09,400 Doesn't mean you can text me at 11 p.m. 412 00:20:09,400 --> 00:20:14,600 Doesn't mean that I'm available and ready to contact, correspond, get back to you the 413 00:20:14,600 --> 00:20:17,120 minute you contact me. 414 00:20:17,120 --> 00:20:20,040 That I think was different before quarantine. 415 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:21,040 Yeah. 416 00:20:21,040 --> 00:20:23,440 Because you left the office, you left work. 417 00:20:23,440 --> 00:20:27,400 When you're working from home, you're always home. 418 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:30,440 So yeah, that's definitely a post pandemic. 419 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:35,040 Now everybody, you know, most people like working from home, but that's a con to it. 420 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,720 I remember having a breakdown. 421 00:20:38,720 --> 00:20:40,440 I forget which one. 422 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:42,960 How far in? 423 00:20:42,960 --> 00:20:44,960 I've always been tapped into my mental health. 424 00:20:44,960 --> 00:20:45,960 Thank you very much. 425 00:20:45,960 --> 00:20:46,960 Yes, you have. 426 00:20:46,960 --> 00:20:48,440 You're the one who should be very afraid to sit alone with your thoughts. 427 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:49,440 It's okay. 428 00:20:49,440 --> 00:20:50,440 I had a breakdown yesterday. 429 00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:53,480 I texted Victoria about it and I was like, I had a breakdown, but I'm fine. 430 00:20:53,480 --> 00:20:55,040 She was like, I'm a little late. 431 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:56,040 I'm running late. 432 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:58,040 I'm on my way. 433 00:20:58,040 --> 00:20:59,040 I was fine. 434 00:20:59,040 --> 00:21:01,920 And she walked in the door and I said, oh my God, I just saw this. 435 00:21:01,920 --> 00:21:02,920 You had a breakdown. 436 00:21:02,920 --> 00:21:05,680 She broke down again. 437 00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:10,280 So anyway, grass-loving screener. 438 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:16,840 But yeah, I had a, I remember having a breakdown because number one, we hadn't stopped working. 439 00:21:16,840 --> 00:21:19,880 No, we immediately got on live stream for my clients. 440 00:21:19,880 --> 00:21:23,240 I immediately got on Skype or FaceTime, depending on what they had. 441 00:21:23,240 --> 00:21:25,920 So our hours stayed the same, if not more. 442 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:32,360 But at the same time, and I don't know if you experienced this as much as I did, so 443 00:21:32,360 --> 00:21:36,480 I'm not going to say that you didn't because I know people reached out to you. 444 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:40,680 So on top of me not knowing what a pandemic was and on top of me not knowing how to navigate 445 00:21:40,680 --> 00:21:49,800 it or stay safe and feel safe and keep me okay on top of like helping other people, 446 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:55,280 I was getting phone calls and texts morning, noon and night on their troubles and their 447 00:21:55,280 --> 00:22:01,760 problems and everything that kind of falls under the umbrella of what happens in like 448 00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:08,080 a personal training session you talk, you vent, you get let it all out, it feels so good. 449 00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:12,600 But I also was experiencing the pandemic as a human being too and being really scared. 450 00:22:12,600 --> 00:22:17,800 And I remember breaking down being like, it's 12 p.m. I can't help this person. 451 00:22:17,800 --> 00:22:20,080 Don't text me, it's midnight and I'm... 452 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:21,080 That's 12 a.m. 453 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:22,080 I was 12 a.m. 454 00:22:22,080 --> 00:22:23,080 I'm not well. 455 00:22:23,080 --> 00:22:25,800 I was like, you can't get a text at 12 p.m. 456 00:22:25,800 --> 00:22:26,800 No, it's too late. 457 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:27,800 It's too late. 458 00:22:27,800 --> 00:22:34,200 No, like 12 a.m. I would get texts truly morning, noon, night, middle of the night and wake 459 00:22:34,200 --> 00:22:35,700 up to them. 460 00:22:35,700 --> 00:22:42,080 Of mental health conversation that like I didn't go to school for. 461 00:22:42,080 --> 00:22:45,320 And I also didn't know how to navigate anything either. 462 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:46,760 But I'm a good ear to reach out to. 463 00:22:46,760 --> 00:22:55,760 So it just got to the point, a boiling point where I couldn't handle personal work, pandemic 464 00:22:55,760 --> 00:22:58,560 and other miscellaneous therapy thing wise. 465 00:22:58,560 --> 00:23:00,960 All at the same time, we ended up getting work phones. 466 00:23:00,960 --> 00:23:01,960 We did. 467 00:23:01,960 --> 00:23:08,280 We got work phones because we needed a boundary between see fit and personal lives. 468 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:10,240 Which I guess is the pro to this. 469 00:23:10,240 --> 00:23:15,400 So like what I guess this little tidbit that I'm putting out there, the pro is that quarantine 470 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:20,400 allowed for boundary creating where people realized their barriers of what they could 471 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:22,120 handle and what they couldn't handle. 472 00:23:22,120 --> 00:23:27,040 And it was OK to say no and kind of stop the accessibility. 473 00:23:27,040 --> 00:23:29,760 But then say yes when it was allowed. 474 00:23:29,760 --> 00:23:34,600 So our way of doing that was getting work phone numbers and work phones, separate work phones 475 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:42,000 where work situations happened on this phone and house party happened on the personal. 476 00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:43,960 Love house party. 477 00:23:43,960 --> 00:23:45,280 No one contacted me. 478 00:23:45,280 --> 00:23:46,280 No one. 479 00:23:46,280 --> 00:23:48,960 No one reached out to me. 480 00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,560 I was listening to this being like, I remember this happening to you. 481 00:23:51,560 --> 00:23:53,680 It definitely didn't happen to me. 482 00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:54,680 Yeah. 483 00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:55,680 That's OK. 484 00:23:55,680 --> 00:23:58,280 That's a pro for me. 485 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:02,040 My next pro would be house party. 486 00:24:02,040 --> 00:24:07,000 House party those apps that they created where you could see your family, see your friends 487 00:24:07,000 --> 00:24:08,560 and also play a game. 488 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:12,040 We left till we cried. 489 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:13,040 I don't. 490 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:14,040 We should just do it. 491 00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:15,040 I know. 492 00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:19,480 And I remember being like, OK, we actually stopped drinking during covid. 493 00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:20,480 Yeah. 494 00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:22,440 Victoria and I, that was a pro for us. 495 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:27,680 We lost a lot of weight and stopped drinking and started eating well and launched our fit 496 00:24:27,680 --> 00:24:28,880 coaching program. 497 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,560 So that was a huge pro for us. 498 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,760 So we didn't even sit on house party and like drink. 499 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:38,080 Victoria and I would be working all day together and I'd be like, hurry up, run home because 500 00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:42,480 we're going to do this with Billy and mom and dad and everybody. 501 00:24:42,480 --> 00:24:45,360 And we would get online and house party. 502 00:24:45,360 --> 00:24:46,360 It was so fun. 503 00:24:46,360 --> 00:24:53,760 If you don't know what house party is, it was like playing group games from home with 504 00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:55,360 your phone only. 505 00:24:55,360 --> 00:24:57,160 So like we played heads up. 506 00:24:57,160 --> 00:24:58,160 Pictionary. 507 00:24:58,160 --> 00:24:59,160 Pictionary. 508 00:24:59,160 --> 00:25:00,160 Trivia. 509 00:25:00,160 --> 00:25:01,160 Yeah. 510 00:25:01,160 --> 00:25:02,720 But I'm I'm thinking of the. 511 00:25:02,720 --> 00:25:06,440 Oh, God, there was something that you had to like click the multiple choice question. 512 00:25:06,440 --> 00:25:09,320 But like you had to answer like there were actual games. 513 00:25:09,320 --> 00:25:10,320 Oh, I guess that was trivia trivia. 514 00:25:10,320 --> 00:25:11,960 And you had to pick the right one first. 515 00:25:11,960 --> 00:25:12,960 Before anybody else. 516 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:13,960 Before anybody else. 517 00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:14,960 Yeah, you're right. 518 00:25:14,960 --> 00:25:15,960 You're right. 519 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:17,560 I have a really bad memory, but I'm con. 520 00:25:17,560 --> 00:25:19,800 Oh my gosh, it was so con. 521 00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:22,440 My memory died with COVID. 522 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:27,200 It, uh, it was just you just laughed and there is nothing better than playing house party 523 00:25:27,200 --> 00:25:29,440 with an older generation who doesn't know how to use phones. 524 00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:33,120 Oh my gosh, it is amazing because mom would just go to your house because her internet 525 00:25:33,120 --> 00:25:34,120 was horrible. 526 00:25:34,120 --> 00:25:40,000 So Carly's phone was her and our mom at this in the same screen and she'd be like, wait, 527 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:41,000 what do you know? 528 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:42,360 Wait, why are you doing that? 529 00:25:42,360 --> 00:25:48,120 Like it was, and you know what makes me think of the con of this is that we were very fortunate 530 00:25:48,120 --> 00:25:50,200 enough to be in a bubble with mom and dad. 531 00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:51,520 So we could see another face. 532 00:25:51,520 --> 00:25:56,280 And I remember seeing online all these videos of like, I haven't grandparents who haven't 533 00:25:56,280 --> 00:26:00,080 seen their grandkids and they were born and they're three years old and they're just seeing 534 00:26:00,080 --> 00:26:01,080 them for the first time. 535 00:26:01,080 --> 00:26:07,560 Like we were very lucky to have the situation and we are also very lucky not to be directly 536 00:26:07,560 --> 00:26:14,920 affected by COVID except Victoria had a friend that she lost over COVID. 537 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:19,400 But as a whole, nothing super unfortunate. 538 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:20,880 Yes, we all got it. 539 00:26:20,880 --> 00:26:24,480 Yes, but nothing life altering life. 540 00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:25,480 We didn't lose life. 541 00:26:25,480 --> 00:26:30,760 We didn't lose, you know, we didn't have a lot of devastation, personal devastation and 542 00:26:30,760 --> 00:26:35,240 and grief from it, which was a lot of the norm for a lot of people. 543 00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:38,040 And we also live across the street from each other. 544 00:26:38,040 --> 00:26:39,040 So I'm Victoria. 545 00:26:39,040 --> 00:26:40,040 It was easy. 546 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:41,040 Very close by. 547 00:26:41,040 --> 00:26:46,960 So it was super easy, but that was definitely a pro just laughing. 548 00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:49,160 And here's another pro from me. 549 00:26:49,160 --> 00:26:54,760 I reconnected with my friends who I met with Andrew in 2005. 550 00:26:54,760 --> 00:27:00,360 We spent three awesome summers together and then sort of, you know, did our New York City 551 00:27:00,360 --> 00:27:06,840 thing, we were friends for since 2005, but we haven't seen each other in like 15 years. 552 00:27:06,840 --> 00:27:09,480 We hadn't because we moved all over the country. 553 00:27:09,480 --> 00:27:14,320 So we started zooming once a week and it was awesome. 554 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:19,160 And we have now gone on like a reunion, like we're going to Vegas together and we've reconnected. 555 00:27:19,160 --> 00:27:20,160 And it's been awesome. 556 00:27:20,160 --> 00:27:21,160 And there's 10 of us. 557 00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:27,880 And it's the reconnection over the internet, which was not there pre pandemic, I think 558 00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:28,880 is a huge pro. 559 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:32,440 It is, it is, and that was available to everybody. 560 00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:37,880 Yeah, I didn't reconnect. 561 00:27:37,880 --> 00:27:42,680 But an experience I had that you didn't have, I'm going to raise the roof. 562 00:27:42,680 --> 00:27:46,440 What, what for our nurses and essential workers. 563 00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:47,440 Oh yeah. 564 00:27:47,440 --> 00:27:53,520 If you remember, we all banded together and supported them to the end degree for what 565 00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:59,960 they were going through in this crazy scary time and I'm not a nurse now, but I think 566 00:27:59,960 --> 00:28:00,960 the tables have turned. 567 00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:06,160 I think it's back to normal and nurses and teachers aren't respected the way that we 568 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:10,120 had to really realize the respect for them during the pandemic. 569 00:28:10,120 --> 00:28:11,880 So we need to bring that back. 570 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:17,320 We need to bring back the respect for the essential workers, the bus drivers, the teachers, 571 00:28:17,320 --> 00:28:22,280 the nurses, the doctors, everybody that we needed to survive. 572 00:28:22,280 --> 00:28:27,680 Even the grocery store workers, because we needed, we needed them, we needed them and 573 00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:31,320 we still need them, but life has mindset has changed. 574 00:28:31,320 --> 00:28:37,400 It's going back to the hustle, the sort of jadedness, give me my stuff fast, as fast 575 00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:38,400 as possible. 576 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:39,400 Horrible. 577 00:28:39,400 --> 00:28:40,400 Yeah. 578 00:28:40,400 --> 00:28:41,400 It's really, really horrible what's going on. 579 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:46,160 Even people on the road driving is so frustrating and everybody's angry. 580 00:28:46,160 --> 00:28:48,600 Everyone's trying to get everywhere very quickly. 581 00:28:48,600 --> 00:28:54,880 If you are in their way, well, we've heard about all the horrible road rage stories, 582 00:28:54,880 --> 00:28:57,080 but it's so true. 583 00:28:57,080 --> 00:29:01,560 We craved getting back to quote unquote normal, whatever the heck normal was that we just 584 00:29:01,560 --> 00:29:02,560 wanted to get back to normal. 585 00:29:02,560 --> 00:29:05,360 That was the phrase to say. 586 00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:09,520 And then we got back to normal, but not mentally the same. 587 00:29:09,520 --> 00:29:13,120 Like we got back to normal almost trying to make up for time lost. 588 00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:17,560 So we're rushing and we're fast paced and we're burnt out already. 589 00:29:17,560 --> 00:29:22,600 Yeah, trying to keep up with what we lost, but we didn't lose anything really. 590 00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:26,040 I think we gained some perspective of lost it. 591 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:28,640 We gained the perspective in the moment life opened up again. 592 00:29:28,640 --> 00:29:29,800 We lost it and then we lost it. 593 00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:34,160 We went back to the hustle and bustle of things and we lost the family time. 594 00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:35,280 Oh, connection. 595 00:29:35,280 --> 00:29:38,040 Oh, life doesn't have to be that hard. 596 00:29:38,040 --> 00:29:40,280 We lost all of that. 597 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:44,520 Oh, the essentialness of what we need in life and what we don't need. 598 00:29:44,520 --> 00:29:45,520 Now we need everything. 599 00:29:45,520 --> 00:29:46,520 Yeah. 600 00:29:46,520 --> 00:29:47,520 We need everything. 601 00:29:47,520 --> 00:29:48,960 And we need it all over again. 602 00:29:48,960 --> 00:29:51,280 So it's all about mindset. 603 00:29:51,280 --> 00:29:53,080 We're definitely all tired and angry. 604 00:29:53,080 --> 00:29:54,080 Yeah. 605 00:29:54,080 --> 00:29:55,520 That's what the vibe is, I think. 606 00:29:55,520 --> 00:29:56,520 I know. 607 00:29:56,520 --> 00:30:00,800 And I think what we need to do is remember what made us happy when we were at home with 608 00:30:00,800 --> 00:30:04,400 our families and bring some of that back in. 609 00:30:04,400 --> 00:30:08,000 Like I know you're going to make fun of me because I am, what is it? 610 00:30:08,000 --> 00:30:09,000 I'm a... 611 00:30:09,000 --> 00:30:10,000 Ridiculous. 612 00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:11,000 No. 613 00:30:11,000 --> 00:30:12,000 Yeah. 614 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:15,800 I am, oh my gosh, an ambivert. 615 00:30:15,800 --> 00:30:16,800 Ambivert. 616 00:30:16,800 --> 00:30:18,920 So, I already forgot what I was. 617 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:20,000 I'm an ambivert. 618 00:30:20,000 --> 00:30:24,000 I didn't hate quarantine. 619 00:30:24,000 --> 00:30:28,800 I enjoyed it because, one, I was lucky enough to enjoy the people that I was with, but I 620 00:30:28,800 --> 00:30:29,960 like being home. 621 00:30:29,960 --> 00:30:32,280 I feel safe in my house. 622 00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:36,880 And I also, if you didn't want to do an event, if you didn't want to do something when the 623 00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:42,120 world started opening back up again and you said no, there were no questions asked. 624 00:30:42,120 --> 00:30:43,760 There was no like, oh my gosh, are you kidding? 625 00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:44,760 You're not coming. 626 00:30:44,760 --> 00:30:45,760 It was just like, I totally understand. 627 00:30:45,760 --> 00:30:46,760 Yep. 628 00:30:46,760 --> 00:30:48,480 And we don't have that anymore. 629 00:30:48,480 --> 00:30:54,640 No, you have to tell them all of the horrible reasons why you are unable to go to that 12th 630 00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:58,520 birthday party on a Sunday night at 9 p.m. 631 00:30:58,520 --> 00:31:03,640 I made Victoria come over and sing to Dean last night at 9 p.m. 632 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:05,840 I pulled that tongue. 633 00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:07,280 You know what I mean. 634 00:31:07,280 --> 00:31:08,280 There were no questions asked. 635 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:13,640 If you said no, no meant no because that's what happened and now that is gone and I definitely 636 00:31:13,640 --> 00:31:14,640 missed that. 637 00:31:14,640 --> 00:31:16,120 But you can just do that. 638 00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:17,400 No, I know. 639 00:31:17,400 --> 00:31:19,680 We can just say no. 640 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:21,120 It's harder. 641 00:31:21,120 --> 00:31:22,120 It's harder. 642 00:31:22,120 --> 00:31:26,000 It takes more work and effort on your mental health of it. 643 00:31:26,000 --> 00:31:28,440 But saying no, I'm sorry. 644 00:31:28,440 --> 00:31:30,000 I'll make it the next time. 645 00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:31,000 Is it it's enough? 646 00:31:31,000 --> 00:31:32,000 That's enough. 647 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:33,000 Yeah. 648 00:31:33,000 --> 00:31:34,000 Yeah. 649 00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:36,000 And then the next time doesn't actually have to come. 650 00:31:36,000 --> 00:31:38,200 But just saying no is enough. 651 00:31:38,200 --> 00:31:39,200 It's a full sentence. 652 00:31:39,200 --> 00:31:40,760 We've said it before. 653 00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,840 It's the mindset of where we are right now. 654 00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:49,000 So if you can buckle up and be strong in your boundaries, which is exactly what we were 655 00:31:49,000 --> 00:31:51,320 just talking about, no is a boundary. 656 00:31:51,320 --> 00:31:52,320 Yeah. 657 00:31:52,320 --> 00:31:53,440 You don't need an excuse. 658 00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:58,000 You don't need to give them validation or justification as to why you're too tired or 659 00:31:58,000 --> 00:32:02,560 don't want to or don't have the time and can't prioritize them over yourself. 660 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:03,800 That doesn't have to happen. 661 00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:06,800 She's specifically talking to me right now. 662 00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:08,640 You all are not here. 663 00:32:08,640 --> 00:32:12,200 She is literally lecturing me right now and I get it. 664 00:32:12,200 --> 00:32:13,760 I hear you with everybody else. 665 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:14,760 I think we all need that. 666 00:32:14,760 --> 00:32:15,760 I do too. 667 00:32:15,760 --> 00:32:22,320 There are times that I'm like oversharing as to why I can't do something because you 668 00:32:22,320 --> 00:32:26,120 think that that's the only thing that like you need their validation of like, OK, I 669 00:32:26,120 --> 00:32:27,120 understand. 670 00:32:27,120 --> 00:32:28,120 You don't need that. 671 00:32:28,120 --> 00:32:29,120 It was Jacqueline, I think Jacqueline. 672 00:32:29,120 --> 00:32:30,120 Yeah. 673 00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:31,120 Who said no is a full sentence. 674 00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:32,120 Yeah. 675 00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:33,120 That was a long time ago. 676 00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:34,120 Yeah. 677 00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:35,120 Yeah. 678 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:40,640 I definitely think that is a con these days in the post pandemic world that yes, we all 679 00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:46,720 wanted life to go back and now that it's back, it's like you always want what you don't have. 680 00:32:46,720 --> 00:32:50,240 That is the whole thing here is that you want what you don't have. 681 00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:53,960 You didn't want the pandemic and the quarantine when it was here. 682 00:32:53,960 --> 00:32:56,000 Now that it's over, you want it back. 683 00:32:56,000 --> 00:32:58,640 You know, the pieces of it, pieces of it, not the whole thing. 684 00:32:58,640 --> 00:33:00,360 God, not the whole thing. 685 00:33:00,360 --> 00:33:06,560 But yeah, it's you always the grass is always greener and you got to pick pick your grass. 686 00:33:06,560 --> 00:33:07,720 Pick your grass. 687 00:33:07,720 --> 00:33:08,720 Pick your grass. 688 00:33:08,720 --> 00:33:10,520 Water your own grass. 689 00:33:10,520 --> 00:33:11,520 Yeah. 690 00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:12,520 Okay. 691 00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:15,040 Water your own grass and then you won't want the grass on the other side. 692 00:33:15,040 --> 00:33:16,040 Yep. 693 00:33:16,040 --> 00:33:17,040 That's the truth. 694 00:33:17,040 --> 00:33:19,400 Karlie would have to go outdoors for that. 695 00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:20,400 I kid you not. 696 00:33:20,400 --> 00:33:21,840 My curtains are closed. 697 00:33:21,840 --> 00:33:23,680 I am locked into my house. 698 00:33:23,680 --> 00:33:26,080 I've always felt very safe in my house. 699 00:33:26,080 --> 00:33:32,440 I feel safe in my house and I would rather not be drained by people in big crowds, but 700 00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:33,440 I want my windows open. 701 00:33:33,440 --> 00:33:34,440 I want some plants. 702 00:33:34,440 --> 00:33:35,440 I want some life. 703 00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:36,960 No, I don't like life. 704 00:33:36,960 --> 00:33:43,480 I did see something on the internet recently on the big old internet that said Taylor Swift 705 00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:50,400 is single handedly bringing the world back from a pandemic world because everybody, what's 706 00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:53,480 everybody doing, going out, going to concerts. 707 00:33:53,480 --> 00:33:55,040 Now she is very famous. 708 00:33:55,040 --> 00:34:00,760 She has a big concert, but she is making so much money and making the economy boost again. 709 00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:01,760 The economy. 710 00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:02,760 Yes. 711 00:34:02,760 --> 00:34:05,120 People have jobs just for you to go out. 712 00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:06,120 Yeah. 713 00:34:06,120 --> 00:34:11,040 You have workers that need to be employed for your one ticket to be accepted into the 714 00:34:11,040 --> 00:34:12,960 venue and those tickets are so expensive. 715 00:34:12,960 --> 00:34:14,600 Oh, that's not a problem. 716 00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:15,600 But how about it? 717 00:34:15,600 --> 00:34:20,040 They are saying that she is bringing it back because the economy was getting so bad and 718 00:34:20,040 --> 00:34:21,760 it's coming back now. 719 00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:25,640 When I talk to people, every single person is like, oh, go into this concert this weekend. 720 00:34:25,640 --> 00:34:27,440 I'm going to this concert. 721 00:34:27,440 --> 00:34:28,960 We want to get out and I get that. 722 00:34:28,960 --> 00:34:29,960 And that's awesome. 723 00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:32,160 Down with COVID the next week, but it's fine. 724 00:34:32,160 --> 00:34:33,160 All good. 725 00:34:33,160 --> 00:34:34,160 That's fine. 726 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:39,280 I think a pro from COVID was that I was watching all the concerts from my living room and I 727 00:34:39,280 --> 00:34:40,440 really enjoyed that. 728 00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:41,440 That was cool. 729 00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:47,080 There were so many things televised that were you wouldn't experience otherwise because 730 00:34:47,080 --> 00:34:49,280 you wouldn't pay for the ticket or you couldn't get there. 731 00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:50,280 You couldn't travel. 732 00:34:50,280 --> 00:34:52,360 Couldn't get it to California or so, you know, whatever it was. 733 00:34:52,360 --> 00:34:53,360 Yeah, you're right. 734 00:34:53,360 --> 00:34:54,360 That's so true. 735 00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:55,360 I loved that. 736 00:34:55,360 --> 00:34:58,480 It was like, oh, we're going to do Disney sing along Sunday at seven and you know, everybody 737 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:03,160 was watching the Disney sing along to see what stars were at home and then when they 738 00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:07,280 would have technical difficulties like a star's home would not be able to get the sound 739 00:35:07,280 --> 00:35:08,280 working. 740 00:35:08,280 --> 00:35:09,520 I'm like, yes, it's not just Z fit. 741 00:35:09,520 --> 00:35:13,560 It's not just the normal citizens of the world. 742 00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:20,600 Obviously, as we've said and we'll wrap it up, there were a lot of good things that came 743 00:35:20,600 --> 00:35:22,600 from, I don't want to say COVID. 744 00:35:22,600 --> 00:35:29,400 I want to say that time period of quarantining and slowing life down. 745 00:35:29,400 --> 00:35:33,880 Like we were all forced to slow down, stop really. 746 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:38,640 We were all forced to stop and then slow down and actually picked up the pace. 747 00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:40,400 No, see if it never stopped. 748 00:35:40,400 --> 00:35:48,160 But the mindset of obligations that we've had stopped the obligatory things that we 749 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:49,640 are just supposed to do. 750 00:35:49,640 --> 00:35:50,640 Like that changed. 751 00:35:50,640 --> 00:35:53,080 We're really like, no, I don't want to prioritize this. 752 00:35:53,080 --> 00:35:54,520 So that didn't that stopped. 753 00:35:54,520 --> 00:35:57,200 But I think there was a lot of good that came from it. 754 00:35:57,200 --> 00:36:01,800 I think there was a lot of bad and I think our perspective is different than others. 755 00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:10,600 But if we could all for the real tip of the week, write down or make a list in your head, 756 00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:17,080 whatever it may be of all of the silver linings that you got from your quarantine experience 757 00:36:17,080 --> 00:36:21,640 that you may have forgotten because life got back to normal. 758 00:36:21,640 --> 00:36:27,760 Drop them down, remember them, be aware of all of those little wins that we didn't realize 759 00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,880 were wins until we lost other things. 760 00:36:30,880 --> 00:36:36,280 And now that we're in the hustle and bustle of productivity and making sure the world 761 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:41,560 is working the way that it is and we're all burnout and tired, try to get them back. 762 00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:44,040 But you have to take a moment to do that. 763 00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:49,440 And now for your real extra tip of the week, it's called Crash My Party. 764 00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:50,440 Oh my God. 765 00:36:50,440 --> 00:36:54,040 What does Crash My Party mean? 766 00:36:54,040 --> 00:37:01,760 It means download house party and invite your friends, invite your family and play and laugh. 767 00:37:01,760 --> 00:37:02,880 It is so fun. 768 00:37:02,880 --> 00:37:04,600 It is an app on your phone. 769 00:37:04,600 --> 00:37:09,720 I guarantee you will be laughing out loud with people not at your house. 770 00:37:09,720 --> 00:37:11,840 You can sit at home in bed and do it. 771 00:37:11,840 --> 00:37:13,080 And it's so fun. 772 00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:17,440 So crash somebody else's party on house party. 773 00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:19,520 Make it happen. 774 00:37:19,520 --> 00:37:28,880 As always, if you've got nothing else, remember you're always fit to be real and always allowed 775 00:37:28,880 --> 00:37:38,800 to be a little extra. 776 00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:42,000 For legal reasons, we have to tell you that this podcast is meant for entertainment and 777 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:43,800 educational purposes only. 778 00:37:43,800 --> 00:37:46,000 We are not healthcare professionals. 779 00:37:46,000 --> 00:37:50,120 For all of your health, wellness, fitness and self-care needs, please refer to the medical 780 00:37:50,120 --> 00:37:51,800 professional in your life. 781 00:37:51,800 --> 00:37:56,880 Your primary care physician, your therapist, a certified coach, whoever it may be. 782 00:37:56,880 --> 00:38:00,840 And then let us know what they say because I guarantee we need to know it too. 783 00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:01,840 Okay? 784 00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:17,840 Bye.