Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra. Oh it's very special today. Oh my
gosh it is. We are having technical difficulties so we're trying to record in
a brand new way on the fly. And we're pushing through and we're gonna do it
and it's gonna be fine. Because we're making fun happen. Which is the theme of
today. Making fun happen. Yes let's get fun. I'm Victoria. Hey guys I'm Carly. Oh
and we are super ready to tell you how to make fun happen in your busy
schedule because we are all overly scheduled. Overly scheduled and I know
for me I always say I just didn't have time. I didn't have time. And all of a
sudden the summer is almost over according to all the stores I've been
going in. You're really don't listen to that. I know but it's what pounding you
in the face is back to school back to school already. And I'm like pounding
you in the face. It's pounding literally pounding me in the face. And so I feel
like I'm rushing constantly and I want to get everything in and I want to make
the summer the best summer ever. And I just feel like I don't have enough time.
Yeah. And that's what it makes you feel like. But the fact is you do have enough
time. Some day to day. Day to day. You do have enough time if you make it. It needs
to be a priority. It's not something for us especially. Fun just doesn't happen.
Like we have to make it a priority. Well it's like anything. If you want to you
know I talk to people all the time they're like well I want to go meet
someone but I'm not going out in the world. Right. Like I want to sit on my couch
when someone's going to appear. Yeah. So you have to make time for that. You have to
make time for fun. You have to make time for yourself if you're trying to
prioritize yourself. I mean it's it's I'm just repeating what you're saying but.
Well because you're going through life and I feel like this is for us. We work
so much all day. We're tired by the end of the day and we don't want to do the
fun things. And life is just like passing us by. But then in the end of the week and
I'm like oh I've done nothing for myself. I'm just working. Yeah. And then like you
said mid-July I've done nothing for summer. That's like fun. That's makes you
feel like you're in a new season. It's just the grind. I know. But there's also
no time to do that. But there is. There is time to do that. So there are four
ways to make time in your schedule that doesn't have time for you to make time.
Love it. The first one is I think the biggest one. And it's to ask yourself
what you actually want to do. Because when it's broad and when it's
general of like I want to do something fun but you don't know what it is you're
not gonna do anything. When it's too vague nothing happens. So you really have to
ask and you have to be honest of like what you want to do. Not what someone
else wants to do. Right. You think you should be doing what you actually want
to do. Even if it's fantasy because there's something that can come from that.
Well yeah like you can't be like hey I want to go on an African safari. Well I
didn't plan it. I didn't save for it. So I'm just gonna go to the zoo. Like make it
more. But also the zoo's a lot of fun. I know but make it feasible. Like that's
what she means by like yeah sure reach for the stars but then like make it real.
Right. But you're that's it. The make the safari real is going to the zoo getting
the beers at the beer garden and having a time of your life. Right. That is your
tangible way to do the safari. Right. Right. So you lose. Okay. Second one. Then
you have to actually block the timeout. Yeah. So if it's something small not
necessarily going to do an event because you do have to like plan to go to the
zoo but if something small in your day which will get two options of how to do
daily fun you have to block it out in your schedule just like we've talked
about a million other times. With the workouts you have to schedule it in. Yeah.
With your meal plans you got to schedule it in. So just like this you have to
chunk out a time. No. So the time of no. Make a chunk of time for yourself. Oh my
god block out a chunk of time. Are you drunk block out a chunk of time. You have
to block out a chunk of time. Which is what we're doing today for this podcast
because we had no time this week. So we had to block this little time that we had
out today. The universe thought it was really cute of us that we only had this
very small window of just about less than an hour and it was like you know what
we're gonna need to put updates on your computer and we're gonna make it not work
while it's updating so have fun with that. So yeah block out a chunk of time. Good
job. Then three. Try something new. Yeah. Like maybe fun for you is something you
haven't actually done before. So this one I think is a hit or miss. It's like
three good ways and a fourth possibility. Like you have to do something new for
it to be fun. Well you know me. I like routine. I like things that I know. So
for me I like if I don't have a lot of time and I want to do something fun I'm
going to something that I know will be fun because that's just me. Right. That's
who that's how I like to have fun. Like I don't want the possibility of that new
thing me hating and being like what a waste of time. Is that why I should go
with therapy. This is like super not helpful. However you do you boo boo. Just go
for the fun thing. Try something new. Maybe branch off in that thing that you
are comfortable in. Branch off a little bit. Yeah you can't give that advice.
Okay. We all know you're not actually gonna do that. Okay. Number four is doable
for everyone and it is silencing the sound of quote unquote the word should.
Mm-hmm because it's BS people. Yeah. There's nothing you should do that's
fun. There's nothing that you should do that other people on Instagram are doing.
There's nothing that you should be doing as a parent in the summer versus what
you see other parents doing in the summer. There's nothing that you should do
for yourself self-care wise that's better than other ways. It's whatever you want
to do. I also took this as oh I should be doing something else so I can't. Like I
should be working. I should be working on the website. I should be doing this so I
don't have the time to do what I want to do. That too. Like the excuses that I can
make are endless. Yeah. And I should I should literally you should I should
should be doing a million other things than an hour of fun but put them away.
No we shouldn't. Right I know I know. So silence the should in all ways. Yeah
that's a society thing that we are needing to detox from I think as a
collective of this productivity misconception that if you're not doing
something that creates profits or something for work whether it's over
time or in the allotted hours that you have then you're not actually living
life correctly and I think it's the complete opposite. I think the hustle
that we are so inbrained in is not actually the way that like life should
be. I might be making this up like I do a lot of my information but I think in
Europe don't they have like siestas in the middle of day where they just go
home. Where is that. It's siesta yeah well siestas what kind what language do you
think that is. Siesta. Barbie language that's in Spain like siesta time in
Mexico that's. Or in Italy they go home. In Italy yeah but that's not I know
that's not a siesta. But it's one I think it's one o'clock to two or three
there's it's you go home. And enjoy your lunch and you take a nap and then you
are refreshed. Dean woke up from his nap the other day and he said mom I have
reenergized my stamina and I am ready for my bike ride. What yeah I mean he
learned it from Zelda when you reenergize your stamina from Zelda but
doesn't matter he took a nap he reenergized his stamina and he was
ready to go and I we definitely don't do that here. We look like Jack the
pumpkin king eyes like full dark circles and running on fumes. I mean that's
everybody here in general no I agree. I think London actually just instilled a
four-day work week. I think that's amazing I don't think that would go over
here. No because we live on capitalism we live on money and profit and work
till you drop. Making more money for everyone else yeah. Which we've also
said if you don't do the work somebody else will so you can go ahead and take
that four-day work week but somebody else is gonna hustle and drink. So then
it's up to your priorities of like how what does life mean to you. Right and I
am realizing more like Melody just turned nine and I was like oh my god how did we
get here. I'm missing it because I know a lot of parents feel that way but even
if you're not a parent you get to a certain age and you're like I'm missing
it I don't remember certain things and I also don't know how we got here because
my head's in my phone or I'm saying hold on if Dean tells me mom you say hold on
so much because I'm constantly doing something hold on Dean hold on because
we're missing it. Yeah and that's not the purpose of life. Right and having fun
just having fun it's not the purpose of life either but you should be enjoying
your life. Yeah. And not so much trying to fit in an hour of fun. Like that's not
the point. No but the more I think if you start utilizing the stuff and doing an
hour of fun weekly then the whole mindset of it all changes. Yeah. But yeah I'd
definitely think we're in the wrong country. Yeah you blink and it's like oh
my god where are we how did we get here. And what have we done. I know what have
we done. But we've done a lot. We've done a lot. Yeah I like that you're just
repeating me and a different inflection actually it's the same inflection. So not
much is changing but that is good you've done that. That's good. I have done that.
Yeah I want to keep doing it. I'm going to punch you. But it's true it's true and
I say that all the time. We live on a floating rock in the sky. Like we're
not meant to wake up do the same thing every day be exhausted not actually live
life. There's no way that that is the purpose you can't tell me it is. Well
that brings me to the first thing that we can do to change all that like
mundane-ness or is that a word mundane-ness. Mundane is a word no yes. Well we have some
tips for you to help change that mundane-ness. So if I say it again people
will just think it's real. They stop listening it's yes. Okay yeah. The first
thing I have is change your morning routine. These little little different fun
things can actually add up just as everything can. And this I really like
change your morning routine because I have a certain routine that I do every
single day but I always look out the window and there's like people walking
early in the morning just like taking a walk with their dogs. I'm like oh people
walk their dogs. I have two of them and they never get walked and I always want
to be that family that's like all right guys we're sitting here doing nothing
just let's go for a walk. And I for me that I would really enjoy. But you can
do that. I know. So this is something that I want to do like I want to get up
and take a walk with my family and my dogs in the morning first thing. Yeah and
you can do that during the school year. Yeah no definitely. So I think number one
tip from us would be to change something in your morning. Just change one
little thing. You're gonna hear that nine times out of ten the options for this
is to take yourself outside in nature in some way. I was just gonna say one of
the options is take your breakfast outside. Yeah that's all you need to do. You don't
have to go for a walk like Carly suggested. Yeah. You can just take your
coffee and sit on your porch whether it's enclosed with the netting or if it's
just an open porch. Get outside listen to the birds listen to what like the
morning sounds like that's not in your phone. You could probably still put your
phone on but be outside. Be out in nature. Being outside in nature helps ground
you and helps you feel a sense of gratitude and if you start with gratitude
every single day it is amazing to see how your life or your mindset which are
one in the same will change. I like that one from me. Oh very proud of you. Super
proud of you. With that said people watch. I like this one. I like this one too.
And it sounds creepy but it's not. It's people watch which again means get out of
your environment so if you're in a you know an office environment or your
basement or your basement which could be a home office leave for lunch or take
your lunch that you've made and go sit out in a public place and just observe.
Honestly without your phone I think a lot of these are nature and without your
phone too. I'm making a face but I know I should do that too. Well just I love
when I lived in New York I loved to people watch on the train. I didn't sit
with my phone because number one they didn't we didn't really have them then.
I played Angry Birds. Okay. I read a book or I sat and I just watched because I was
vigilant first of all. I know I know. It was a little bit safer back in the day.
That's cute. That's cute that you think that. But just observing like the families
on the train or the person that's by themselves and what they're doing or you
know there's no judgment in people watching. It's just observing your
environment taking ideas just making new ideas. I mean there's so much that comes
with it. Get an iced coffee and sit outside. I mean yes. Yes or your lunch or
after getting outside at all and just observing. When you're sitting at a
red light look around. Don't scroll on your phone. I know isn't that sad that
you have to say that. Yeah but it's such a it's just so important. But yeah
people watch except Carly. Don't watch Carly. No I think you'd really enjoy that.
Next one. Dance like no one's watching. I did like this one too. And I wrote this
down because we during COVID used to have dance parties in my house with my
kids and at night after dinner because there was nothing else to do we turned
the TV off because we pretty much have been watching it all day and we turned
music on and the kids would dance and we would dance and it was so much fun and
then we started doing it before work in the morning and we would dance and it
was so fun and it's interesting like it does this doesn't mean like go to a dance
class and just like not care people think it means I literally do it in your
house put on your favorite song and just dance if you need a glass of wine to do
that get a bottle of wine. I said glass but I'm not bottle. Interesting. And just
put on your favorite songs and just dance. It's so fun. I totally believe you.
But honestly these things are not they're free. You don't have to spend money to
have fun. You really don't. So I'm gonna go with make decluttering fun and I'm a
weirdo because I do like to clean. Everybody likes cleaning. Everybody likes
cleaning. Don't even tell me that because you do it all the time. Yeah I do
unfortunately a lot. Yeah. Everyone likes cleaning but no one likes the chore of
cleaning but if you just make it fun which is very similar to dance party put
on a Broadway show that you like to rock out to put on a podcast you like to
listen to. What was that? Shut up. Put on your favorite album you haven't
listened to in forever if you have vinyl whatever it is and make it fun because
if you declutter your house you're gonna declutter your mind. There is so much
science behind straightening up and not necessarily purging and like getting
rid of stuff but just making things feel like you're settled. There's nothing
worse than coming home and being like oh my gosh my house is a mess. It honestly
gives you anxiety. Yes but if you make it fun it'll happen more often and then
you can live in that settled environment in your head. I do it all the time. I put
on a podcast and I honestly if it's an hour long I'm like oh wow I've cleaned
for an hour. Wow that's awesome like you don't even know. We used to do it as kids
I know we've talked about this before with our brother. My mom would you know
say all right guys this is what you're doing you're dusting you're cleaning
you're doing the bathroom you're cleaning your rooms and she would find us in
our brother's room with a Michael Jackson CD on dancing and singing. Not
cleaning. Not cleaning. No but it was so much fun just like rocking out to your
favorite song. Yeah. All right my last one that is also free but can actually
turn into being very expensive. Hmm. Yeah. Is drive away with no destination in
mind. Yes. So immediately when I saw this it was just like get in the car and
wherever the car takes you like wherever your mind takes you that's where
you're going. Shocked. I love it because I know it would take me to like Marshalls
or TJ Maxx. Oh no. No. That's not what it means. I know that's where my mind would
take me because that's my happy place. I love shopping. It means turn down
streets that you don't normally turn. So if you normally take a right you're
gonna take a left. It's not gonna take your Marshalls. That's not what I took it
as. I took it as get in your car and not think about where you're gonna go and
just let your body and mind take you and I already know because I've controlled
my body to take me to the source that I like. There's nothing you're saying
that's right. But just take some time for yourself get in the car with no plan
with no plan and let yourself make the plan as you go along. I'm surprised that
you picked that. I'm more understand now that how you took it but I'm surprised
that you took it. Because I'm a planner I need to know what's going on before it's
happening and I like to make things happen. So for me to get in the car and
be like I don't know what's it gonna be. Yeah. Is not normal for me but I've
already controlled my body to take me. Oh my gosh. You can't. Alright my last one
and we're gonna list the whole 29 that are available in this article and
really all of them are very good. I'm gonna end with challenge yourself because
that doesn't necessarily feel like fun. Stop rolling your eyes at me. I rolled
them twice. Challenge it. You don't even read this one. I know you didn't. No.
You saw it and you were like me. Exactly. 100%. So yes. Challenge yourself. It
could open up avenues to a lot of things we've already said but it tells this
article says to ask yourself what do you want to be remembered for and you have
to sit and you have to think about that. What do you want to be like? Harley what
do you want to be remembered for? Think about it before you ever talk in public
again. Okay. And I know you meant right now just like again in public. No no this is
something that you can't just pull out of wherever you have to like think about
it. What do you want to be remembered for? And what are the things that will get
you to that point? If you want to be remembered for helping people and being
of service then you probably have to volunteer. You have to become someone
that wants to be in service or you change your job to be in service or
that's your hobby. But you can't just like anything you can't just manifest I
want this and in my brain it's gonna happen but not take any action. So you
have to think about what you want to do and I would venture to say that's going
to be learning more things which is one of them is that if you want to be a
master at something you have to learn more. Maybe you'll take an acting class
maybe it's a ceramic class like those are different ways to be fun and maybe
that has something to do with like basically your purpose. Yeah. I know this
is above your... above your level right now Marshalls. But I think this is
such an important one because there is not a lot forever is not a long time. No
forever is not a long time. It's not. And I read something it's called you are
time poor. Oh what's that mean? Well you know how we're really poor? Oh yeah. Well
guess what also poor we are. We're time poor. We have no time and this episode is
really like how to make more time how to be rich in time because time is something
that is fleeting it goes away you never get it back and it's gone once it's
gone it's gone. Honestly God Victoria is gonna make fun of me but I have a couple
quotes from really amazing people like Ben Franklin. Oh oh and he said lost time
is never found and I sat there and I read it and I was like lost time is never
found and it that hit me with melodies turning nine and I was like all of a
sudden she's nine and I'm looking at all these videos of when she was two and
I'm like I'm never gonna get that time back and my head's in my freaking phone
like or my working working not yeah I'm not like selfie snapping sometimes I am
but I'm sorry selfie snap that sounds like a cereal but 99% of the time I'm
working and the other percent it's habit and that really hit me lost time is
never found and we don't have a lot of time as it is like we're squeezing this
in today in a very busy day in a very busy week in a very busy month because
we're poor we don't very busy no no we are time poor but like we have to make
ourselves time rich and only we can do that isn't this Alice in Wonderland
time rich it's time rich I think you're saying time poor but that's fun no Alice
in Wonderland the premise is like time about time yeah and I have to go and
watch that again because I think I've only seen that movie once well it was a
story first well my other quote is from William Penn
I know I love Philly guys it's it's what we want the most but we use the worst
say it again say it again time it's what we want the most but use the worst yes
we are a very bad use of time we we waste it we waste it everybody does not
just us and we don't use it well we work we do not work smarter and harder we
work too much the work what's not we don't work smarter and harder we work
summer but if you use one of those tips and if we became an expert on something
maybe something that we need to know like computers and if we took that little
bit of extra time to become an expert it would help us you should challenge
yourself and think about what you want to be remembered for and maybe all of
that will tie in I'm time pope I don't have time for that ain't nobody got time
for that okay but those were my two time quotes that I was like everyone says I
don't have time I don't have time but you really have to think do I not have
the time are my making excuses for myself or do sometimes you really don't
have the time but sometimes we're too tired and and we could make the energy
we could the more time you you give yourself that fun moment the more energy
you'll have in the long run and then that adds up and builds up instead of
depletes itself from from burnout which is taking energy from the day in the
future and time is short yeah we said it in one of the in the lessons episode
time life goes fast we said something about life going fast life goes fast okay
and it just does and it's going and it's not gonna stop for us so we have to
make our own time I love that you pulled this out from your friends Ben and
will I know you talk about them all the time like your buds like you love them
Ben Frank yeah will pen Willie pen my buddy Willie pen right the time we're so
tired I gotta make more time for sleep all right but I'm gonna ask Victoria
question is it every turn on the spot yeah very good I have no idea if any
sound effects will get you know episode because we are not experts which we will
read up more after the fact which is why we were dumber and longer I don't think
I want to be remembered for that all right what would you do if you were given
an extra hour of free time every day if you had 25 hours out of the day and
somebody gave you an extra hour of free time what would you do with it gee do I
answer this about being productive that's something I could get done that I
never feel like I can get done within the day or is it something for me and fun
do something you know what I'm fine because that's a shame that you are not
thinking about for me and fun first well when you're overworked and underpaid
that's exactly what you do but that's that's what I mean that's the dilemma
even of this whole podcast but in any case what do I what do I I don't know
does money come into play no you can't pick money something for you I mean do I
need like oh oh my imagination of having it can that be anything you anything you
want for one hour I didn't realize this is gonna be such a hard question and take
so long and so much hours out of my day for this one question so this is
really just about you you're taking a very long time
honestly something simple like reading a book yeah that's fine myself or on a
porch and that's fine you know something stupid that's what I would do I would
not what you know no I wouldn't but I meant like I would pick something for
myself and be like watch something brainless for an hour that's really
selfish you have three but if somebody if I did all the things I had to do and
I still had 17 hours left to do them but like I didn't want to do them and I
got one free that's a lot of math we're 17 hours to come from I thought it was
25 but we got an extra hour edit that edit that out I got one extra hour I
would put something on TV and just I like I would watch Notting Hill that would
zone out I would zone out to Notting Hill and be the happiest person in the
world every day for that watch the same hour of Notting Hill I never get to
finish it I would just watch the same hour just a girl standing in front of a
boy asking him to love him what asking him to love her
anyway but yeah no we ask yourself that and give yourself that hour and what
would you pick I mean hopefully it would be something for you and not like oh I
could answer these emails that I know I'm not gonna get to because I'm thinking
clean my house which I haven't done it so long no no no that's stupid this is
an all-inclusive podcast thank you and guess what we've come to our game are
you excited no that was just a question you need to learn the difference between
a question in a game I did talk about some quotes today from my friends Willie
Pan and Benny Frank and I thought of two other really competent intellectual men
that have said some really amazing quotes and the game is called geniuses
at work and I've written down some quotes from Michael Scott and Nick Miller
yes and Victoria needs to tell me who said it what genius said that it's the
only game I've ever wanted to play okay Michael Scott from the office or Nick
Miller from New Girl here we go if you don't know them get out of the cave
you're living in spend that one hour and you become an expert binge okay I know
this isn't gonna end well but the middle part is gonna be awesome
oh Nick Miller Nick Miller okay if we needed to talk about feelings they would
be called talkings Michael Scott Nick Miller no I'm not gonna do every other
one defeats the whole purpose it's Brittany bitch Michael Scott is calling
a girl shorty still cool I like getting older I feel like I'm finally aging into
my personality Nick Miller he's an old man I bought 10,000 minutes in 1999 and
I'm still using them I love inside jokes I hope to be part of one someday you
cheated on me when I specifically asked you not to hate to see you leave but love
to watch you go because of your butt oh Nick Miller Michael Scott no you can go
to my funeral but you can't talk my funeral is my time to shine Nick Miller
you can say a little drunk sorry I'm not superstitious but I'm a little
stitious Nick Miller Michael Scott gosh I'm getting in my head I am Beyonce
always Michael Scott Michael Scott stop being so mean to me or I swear to God
I'm gonna fall in love with you Nick Miller at the wedding shower I live by
another rule just do it Nike they're trying to make me an escape goat Michael
Scott tell him to call me ASAP as possible Michael Scott I am the stupidest
of all the stupid boys Carly man and Nick Miller Nick Miller you treat an
outside wound with rubbing alcohol you treat an inside wound with drinking
alcohol Nick Miller you know I don't dance I'm from the town in Footloose
Nick Miller you know what they say fool me once strike one but fool me twice
strike three no Michael Scott do I regret it yes would I do it again
probably Nick Miller Nick Miller last one you give me cookie I gave you cookie
Nick Miller guess what that was only fun for us but totally worth it listen we
only had one hour today I chose to spend that one hour having fun being silly
and doing a game that made us laugh because that's all the time we had
today and we chose wisely so your real tip of the day your real tip of the day
is to read this article that we're going to post and take one of the 29 ways to
add fun into your busy schedule and do one of them for yourself any one of them
and then you have to go with the four things that we said in the beginning if
to block out of the time for it you have to all the other things that we said go
back and re-listen just right down stop things should of what you should or
shouldn't do and then ask yourself what you actually really want to do yeah that
is the number one most important thing so read the article pick one and actually
follow through and now for your real extra tip of the week it's called time
Po no mo what does time Po no mo mean I'll tell you note the amount of times
you say I wanted to but I didn't have time in a week like honestly get your
phone out go to notes and say I said it once twice like write it down how many
times you say I can't I don't have time yeah and then go back and think did I
actually not have the time or was that an excuse and if it was an excuse why
because that is the most important thing like if you really didn't have time
sure that's one thing but sometimes we say it out of just pure habit and it's
things we really want to do so make the time don't be time Po no mo no it was
so good until you until you happened I don't want to be time Po no mo
get your head out of your phone show have some Joe mo we got it we gotta stop
we gotta go we got it you should have said go you changed the whole thing ain't
nobody got time for that oh my gosh all right about to get cancer I was just gonna
say yeah all right I think I've already canceled
Siri does not understand Siri just added in our podcast sorry I did not
understand she said no mo no mo no mo oh well per usual if we've talked about
nothing else or nothing at all or you've taken no vibe from this other than
you are always fit to be real and you always have the time to be a little
extra I like that you switched it up yeah yeah I got time for that yeah oh you're done