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Welcome to Fit to Be Real. And a little extra. Oh it's very special today. Oh my

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gosh it is. We are having technical difficulties so we're trying to record in

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a brand new way on the fly. And we're pushing through and we're gonna do it

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and it's gonna be fine. Because we're making fun happen. Which is the theme of

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today. Making fun happen. Yes let's get fun. I'm Victoria. Hey guys I'm Carly. Oh

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and we are super ready to tell you how to make fun happen in your busy

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schedule because we are all overly scheduled. Overly scheduled and I know

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for me I always say I just didn't have time. I didn't have time. And all of a

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sudden the summer is almost over according to all the stores I've been

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going in. You're really don't listen to that. I know but it's what pounding you

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in the face is back to school back to school already. And I'm like pounding

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you in the face. It's pounding literally pounding me in the face. And so I feel

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like I'm rushing constantly and I want to get everything in and I want to make

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the summer the best summer ever. And I just feel like I don't have enough time.

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Yeah. And that's what it makes you feel like. But the fact is you do have enough

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time. Some day to day. Day to day. You do have enough time if you make it. It needs

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to be a priority. It's not something for us especially. Fun just doesn't happen.

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Like we have to make it a priority. Well it's like anything. If you want to you

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know I talk to people all the time they're like well I want to go meet

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someone but I'm not going out in the world. Right. Like I want to sit on my couch

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when someone's going to appear. Yeah. So you have to make time for that. You have to

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make time for fun. You have to make time for yourself if you're trying to

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prioritize yourself. I mean it's it's I'm just repeating what you're saying but.

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Well because you're going through life and I feel like this is for us. We work

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so much all day. We're tired by the end of the day and we don't want to do the

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fun things. And life is just like passing us by. But then in the end of the week and

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I'm like oh I've done nothing for myself. I'm just working. Yeah. And then like you

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said mid-July I've done nothing for summer. That's like fun. That's makes you

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feel like you're in a new season. It's just the grind. I know. But there's also

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no time to do that. But there is. There is time to do that. So there are four

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ways to make time in your schedule that doesn't have time for you to make time.

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Love it. The first one is I think the biggest one. And it's to ask yourself

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what you actually want to do. Because when it's broad and when it's

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general of like I want to do something fun but you don't know what it is you're

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not gonna do anything. When it's too vague nothing happens. So you really have to

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ask and you have to be honest of like what you want to do. Not what someone

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else wants to do. Right. You think you should be doing what you actually want

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to do. Even if it's fantasy because there's something that can come from that.

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Well yeah like you can't be like hey I want to go on an African safari. Well I

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didn't plan it. I didn't save for it. So I'm just gonna go to the zoo. Like make it

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more. But also the zoo's a lot of fun. I know but make it feasible. Like that's

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what she means by like yeah sure reach for the stars but then like make it real.

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Right. But you're that's it. The make the safari real is going to the zoo getting

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the beers at the beer garden and having a time of your life. Right. That is your

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tangible way to do the safari. Right. Right. So you lose. Okay. Second one. Then

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you have to actually block the timeout. Yeah. So if it's something small not

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necessarily going to do an event because you do have to like plan to go to the

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zoo but if something small in your day which will get two options of how to do

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daily fun you have to block it out in your schedule just like we've talked

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about a million other times. With the workouts you have to schedule it in. Yeah.

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With your meal plans you got to schedule it in. So just like this you have to

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chunk out a time. No. So the time of no. Make a chunk of time for yourself. Oh my

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god block out a chunk of time. Are you drunk block out a chunk of time. You have

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to block out a chunk of time. Which is what we're doing today for this podcast

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because we had no time this week. So we had to block this little time that we had

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out today. The universe thought it was really cute of us that we only had this

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very small window of just about less than an hour and it was like you know what

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we're gonna need to put updates on your computer and we're gonna make it not work

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while it's updating so have fun with that. So yeah block out a chunk of time. Good

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job. Then three. Try something new. Yeah. Like maybe fun for you is something you

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haven't actually done before. So this one I think is a hit or miss. It's like

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three good ways and a fourth possibility. Like you have to do something new for

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it to be fun. Well you know me. I like routine. I like things that I know. So

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for me I like if I don't have a lot of time and I want to do something fun I'm

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going to something that I know will be fun because that's just me. Right. That's

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who that's how I like to have fun. Like I don't want the possibility of that new

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thing me hating and being like what a waste of time. Is that why I should go

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with therapy. This is like super not helpful. However you do you boo boo. Just go

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for the fun thing. Try something new. Maybe branch off in that thing that you

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are comfortable in. Branch off a little bit. Yeah you can't give that advice.

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Okay. We all know you're not actually gonna do that. Okay. Number four is doable

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for everyone and it is silencing the sound of quote unquote the word should.

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Mm-hmm because it's BS people. Yeah. There's nothing you should do that's

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fun. There's nothing that you should do that other people on Instagram are doing.

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There's nothing that you should be doing as a parent in the summer versus what

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you see other parents doing in the summer. There's nothing that you should do

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for yourself self-care wise that's better than other ways. It's whatever you want

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to do. I also took this as oh I should be doing something else so I can't. Like I

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should be working. I should be working on the website. I should be doing this so I

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don't have the time to do what I want to do. That too. Like the excuses that I can

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make are endless. Yeah. And I should I should literally you should I should

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should be doing a million other things than an hour of fun but put them away.

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No we shouldn't. Right I know I know. So silence the should in all ways. Yeah

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that's a society thing that we are needing to detox from I think as a

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collective of this productivity misconception that if you're not doing

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something that creates profits or something for work whether it's over

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time or in the allotted hours that you have then you're not actually living

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life correctly and I think it's the complete opposite. I think the hustle

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that we are so inbrained in is not actually the way that like life should

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be. I might be making this up like I do a lot of my information but I think in

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Europe don't they have like siestas in the middle of day where they just go

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home. Where is that. It's siesta yeah well siestas what kind what language do you

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think that is. Siesta. Barbie language that's in Spain like siesta time in

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Mexico that's. Or in Italy they go home. In Italy yeah but that's not I know

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that's not a siesta. But it's one I think it's one o'clock to two or three

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there's it's you go home. And enjoy your lunch and you take a nap and then you

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are refreshed. Dean woke up from his nap the other day and he said mom I have

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reenergized my stamina and I am ready for my bike ride. What yeah I mean he

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learned it from Zelda when you reenergize your stamina from Zelda but

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doesn't matter he took a nap he reenergized his stamina and he was

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ready to go and I we definitely don't do that here. We look like Jack the

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pumpkin king eyes like full dark circles and running on fumes. I mean that's

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everybody here in general no I agree. I think London actually just instilled a

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four-day work week. I think that's amazing I don't think that would go over

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here. No because we live on capitalism we live on money and profit and work

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till you drop. Making more money for everyone else yeah. Which we've also

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said if you don't do the work somebody else will so you can go ahead and take

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that four-day work week but somebody else is gonna hustle and drink. So then

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it's up to your priorities of like how what does life mean to you. Right and I

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am realizing more like Melody just turned nine and I was like oh my god how did we

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get here. I'm missing it because I know a lot of parents feel that way but even

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if you're not a parent you get to a certain age and you're like I'm missing

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it I don't remember certain things and I also don't know how we got here because

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my head's in my phone or I'm saying hold on if Dean tells me mom you say hold on

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so much because I'm constantly doing something hold on Dean hold on because

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we're missing it. Yeah and that's not the purpose of life. Right and having fun

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just having fun it's not the purpose of life either but you should be enjoying

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your life. Yeah. And not so much trying to fit in an hour of fun. Like that's not

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the point. No but the more I think if you start utilizing the stuff and doing an

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hour of fun weekly then the whole mindset of it all changes. Yeah. But yeah I'd

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definitely think we're in the wrong country. Yeah you blink and it's like oh

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my god where are we how did we get here. And what have we done. I know what have

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we done. But we've done a lot. We've done a lot. Yeah I like that you're just

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repeating me and a different inflection actually it's the same inflection. So not

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much is changing but that is good you've done that. That's good. I have done that.

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Yeah I want to keep doing it. I'm going to punch you. But it's true it's true and

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I say that all the time. We live on a floating rock in the sky. Like we're

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not meant to wake up do the same thing every day be exhausted not actually live

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life. There's no way that that is the purpose you can't tell me it is. Well

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that brings me to the first thing that we can do to change all that like

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mundane-ness or is that a word mundane-ness. Mundane is a word no yes. Well we have some

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tips for you to help change that mundane-ness. So if I say it again people

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will just think it's real. They stop listening it's yes. Okay yeah. The first

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thing I have is change your morning routine. These little little different fun

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things can actually add up just as everything can. And this I really like

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change your morning routine because I have a certain routine that I do every

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single day but I always look out the window and there's like people walking

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early in the morning just like taking a walk with their dogs. I'm like oh people

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walk their dogs. I have two of them and they never get walked and I always want

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to be that family that's like all right guys we're sitting here doing nothing

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just let's go for a walk. And I for me that I would really enjoy. But you can

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do that. I know. So this is something that I want to do like I want to get up

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and take a walk with my family and my dogs in the morning first thing. Yeah and

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you can do that during the school year. Yeah no definitely. So I think number one

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tip from us would be to change something in your morning. Just change one

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little thing. You're gonna hear that nine times out of ten the options for this

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is to take yourself outside in nature in some way. I was just gonna say one of

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the options is take your breakfast outside. Yeah that's all you need to do. You don't

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have to go for a walk like Carly suggested. Yeah. You can just take your

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coffee and sit on your porch whether it's enclosed with the netting or if it's

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just an open porch. Get outside listen to the birds listen to what like the

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morning sounds like that's not in your phone. You could probably still put your

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phone on but be outside. Be out in nature. Being outside in nature helps ground

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you and helps you feel a sense of gratitude and if you start with gratitude

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every single day it is amazing to see how your life or your mindset which are

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one in the same will change. I like that one from me. Oh very proud of you. Super

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proud of you. With that said people watch. I like this one. I like this one too.

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And it sounds creepy but it's not. It's people watch which again means get out of

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your environment so if you're in a you know an office environment or your

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basement or your basement which could be a home office leave for lunch or take

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your lunch that you've made and go sit out in a public place and just observe.

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Honestly without your phone I think a lot of these are nature and without your

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phone too. I'm making a face but I know I should do that too. Well just I love

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when I lived in New York I loved to people watch on the train. I didn't sit

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with my phone because number one they didn't we didn't really have them then.

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I played Angry Birds. Okay. I read a book or I sat and I just watched because I was

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vigilant first of all. I know I know. It was a little bit safer back in the day.

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That's cute. That's cute that you think that. But just observing like the families

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on the train or the person that's by themselves and what they're doing or you

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know there's no judgment in people watching. It's just observing your

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environment taking ideas just making new ideas. I mean there's so much that comes

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with it. Get an iced coffee and sit outside. I mean yes. Yes or your lunch or

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after getting outside at all and just observing. When you're sitting at a

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red light look around. Don't scroll on your phone. I know isn't that sad that

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you have to say that. Yeah but it's such a it's just so important. But yeah

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people watch except Carly. Don't watch Carly. No I think you'd really enjoy that.

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Next one. Dance like no one's watching. I did like this one too. And I wrote this

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down because we during COVID used to have dance parties in my house with my

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kids and at night after dinner because there was nothing else to do we turned

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the TV off because we pretty much have been watching it all day and we turned

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music on and the kids would dance and we would dance and it was so much fun and

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then we started doing it before work in the morning and we would dance and it

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was so fun and it's interesting like it does this doesn't mean like go to a dance

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class and just like not care people think it means I literally do it in your

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house put on your favorite song and just dance if you need a glass of wine to do

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that get a bottle of wine. I said glass but I'm not bottle. Interesting. And just

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put on your favorite songs and just dance. It's so fun. I totally believe you.

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But honestly these things are not they're free. You don't have to spend money to

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have fun. You really don't. So I'm gonna go with make decluttering fun and I'm a

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weirdo because I do like to clean. Everybody likes cleaning. Everybody likes

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cleaning. Don't even tell me that because you do it all the time. Yeah I do

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unfortunately a lot. Yeah. Everyone likes cleaning but no one likes the chore of

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cleaning but if you just make it fun which is very similar to dance party put

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on a Broadway show that you like to rock out to put on a podcast you like to

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listen to. What was that? Shut up. Put on your favorite album you haven't

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listened to in forever if you have vinyl whatever it is and make it fun because

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if you declutter your house you're gonna declutter your mind. There is so much

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science behind straightening up and not necessarily purging and like getting

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rid of stuff but just making things feel like you're settled. There's nothing

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worse than coming home and being like oh my gosh my house is a mess. It honestly

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gives you anxiety. Yes but if you make it fun it'll happen more often and then

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you can live in that settled environment in your head. I do it all the time. I put

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on a podcast and I honestly if it's an hour long I'm like oh wow I've cleaned

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for an hour. Wow that's awesome like you don't even know. We used to do it as kids

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I know we've talked about this before with our brother. My mom would you know

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say all right guys this is what you're doing you're dusting you're cleaning

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you're doing the bathroom you're cleaning your rooms and she would find us in

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our brother's room with a Michael Jackson CD on dancing and singing. Not

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cleaning. Not cleaning. No but it was so much fun just like rocking out to your

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favorite song. Yeah. All right my last one that is also free but can actually

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turn into being very expensive. Hmm. Yeah. Is drive away with no destination in

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mind. Yes. So immediately when I saw this it was just like get in the car and

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wherever the car takes you like wherever your mind takes you that's where

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you're going. Shocked. I love it because I know it would take me to like Marshalls

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or TJ Maxx. Oh no. No. That's not what it means. I know that's where my mind would

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take me because that's my happy place. I love shopping. It means turn down

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streets that you don't normally turn. So if you normally take a right you're

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gonna take a left. It's not gonna take your Marshalls. That's not what I took it

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as. I took it as get in your car and not think about where you're gonna go and

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just let your body and mind take you and I already know because I've controlled

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my body to take me to the source that I like. There's nothing you're saying

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that's right. But just take some time for yourself get in the car with no plan

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with no plan and let yourself make the plan as you go along. I'm surprised that

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you picked that. I'm more understand now that how you took it but I'm surprised

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that you took it. Because I'm a planner I need to know what's going on before it's

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happening and I like to make things happen. So for me to get in the car and

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be like I don't know what's it gonna be. Yeah. Is not normal for me but I've

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already controlled my body to take me. Oh my gosh. You can't. Alright my last one

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and we're gonna list the whole 29 that are available in this article and

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really all of them are very good. I'm gonna end with challenge yourself because

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that doesn't necessarily feel like fun. Stop rolling your eyes at me. I rolled

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them twice. Challenge it. You don't even read this one. I know you didn't. No.

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You saw it and you were like me. Exactly. 100%. So yes. Challenge yourself. It

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could open up avenues to a lot of things we've already said but it tells this

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article says to ask yourself what do you want to be remembered for and you have

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to sit and you have to think about that. What do you want to be like? Harley what

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do you want to be remembered for? Think about it before you ever talk in public

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again. Okay. And I know you meant right now just like again in public. No no this is

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something that you can't just pull out of wherever you have to like think about

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it. What do you want to be remembered for? And what are the things that will get

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you to that point? If you want to be remembered for helping people and being

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of service then you probably have to volunteer. You have to become someone

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that wants to be in service or you change your job to be in service or

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that's your hobby. But you can't just like anything you can't just manifest I

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want this and in my brain it's gonna happen but not take any action. So you

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have to think about what you want to do and I would venture to say that's going

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to be learning more things which is one of them is that if you want to be a

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master at something you have to learn more. Maybe you'll take an acting class

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maybe it's a ceramic class like those are different ways to be fun and maybe

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that has something to do with like basically your purpose. Yeah. I know this

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is above your... above your level right now Marshalls. But I think this is

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such an important one because there is not a lot forever is not a long time. No

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forever is not a long time. It's not. And I read something it's called you are

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time poor. Oh what's that mean? Well you know how we're really poor? Oh yeah. Well

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guess what also poor we are. We're time poor. We have no time and this episode is

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really like how to make more time how to be rich in time because time is something

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that is fleeting it goes away you never get it back and it's gone once it's

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gone it's gone. Honestly God Victoria is gonna make fun of me but I have a couple

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quotes from really amazing people like Ben Franklin. Oh oh and he said lost time

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is never found and I sat there and I read it and I was like lost time is never

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found and it that hit me with melodies turning nine and I was like all of a

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sudden she's nine and I'm looking at all these videos of when she was two and

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I'm like I'm never gonna get that time back and my head's in my freaking phone

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like or my working working not yeah I'm not like selfie snapping sometimes I am

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but I'm sorry selfie snap that sounds like a cereal but 99% of the time I'm

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working and the other percent it's habit and that really hit me lost time is

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never found and we don't have a lot of time as it is like we're squeezing this

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in today in a very busy day in a very busy week in a very busy month because

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we're poor we don't very busy no no we are time poor but like we have to make

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ourselves time rich and only we can do that isn't this Alice in Wonderland

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time rich it's time rich I think you're saying time poor but that's fun no Alice

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in Wonderland the premise is like time about time yeah and I have to go and

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watch that again because I think I've only seen that movie once well it was a

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story first well my other quote is from William Penn

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I know I love Philly guys it's it's what we want the most but we use the worst

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say it again say it again time it's what we want the most but use the worst yes

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we are a very bad use of time we we waste it we waste it everybody does not

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just us and we don't use it well we work we do not work smarter and harder we

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work too much the work what's not we don't work smarter and harder we work

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summer but if you use one of those tips and if we became an expert on something

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maybe something that we need to know like computers and if we took that little

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bit of extra time to become an expert it would help us you should challenge

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yourself and think about what you want to be remembered for and maybe all of

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that will tie in I'm time pope I don't have time for that ain't nobody got time

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for that okay but those were my two time quotes that I was like everyone says I

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don't have time I don't have time but you really have to think do I not have

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the time are my making excuses for myself or do sometimes you really don't

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have the time but sometimes we're too tired and and we could make the energy

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we could the more time you you give yourself that fun moment the more energy

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you'll have in the long run and then that adds up and builds up instead of

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depletes itself from from burnout which is taking energy from the day in the

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future and time is short yeah we said it in one of the in the lessons episode

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time life goes fast we said something about life going fast life goes fast okay

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and it just does and it's going and it's not gonna stop for us so we have to

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make our own time I love that you pulled this out from your friends Ben and

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will I know you talk about them all the time like your buds like you love them

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Ben Frank yeah will pen Willie pen my buddy Willie pen right the time we're so

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tired I gotta make more time for sleep all right but I'm gonna ask Victoria

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question is it every turn on the spot yeah very good I have no idea if any

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sound effects will get you know episode because we are not experts which we will

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read up more after the fact which is why we were dumber and longer I don't think

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I want to be remembered for that all right what would you do if you were given

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an extra hour of free time every day if you had 25 hours out of the day and

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somebody gave you an extra hour of free time what would you do with it gee do I

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answer this about being productive that's something I could get done that I

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never feel like I can get done within the day or is it something for me and fun

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do something you know what I'm fine because that's a shame that you are not

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thinking about for me and fun first well when you're overworked and underpaid

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that's exactly what you do but that's that's what I mean that's the dilemma

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even of this whole podcast but in any case what do I what do I I don't know

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does money come into play no you can't pick money something for you I mean do I

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need like oh oh my imagination of having it can that be anything you anything you

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want for one hour I didn't realize this is gonna be such a hard question and take

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so long and so much hours out of my day for this one question so this is

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really just about you you're taking a very long time

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honestly something simple like reading a book yeah that's fine myself or on a

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porch and that's fine you know something stupid that's what I would do I would

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not what you know no I wouldn't but I meant like I would pick something for

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myself and be like watch something brainless for an hour that's really

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selfish you have three but if somebody if I did all the things I had to do and

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I still had 17 hours left to do them but like I didn't want to do them and I

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got one free that's a lot of math we're 17 hours to come from I thought it was

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25 but we got an extra hour edit that edit that out I got one extra hour I

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would put something on TV and just I like I would watch Notting Hill that would

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zone out I would zone out to Notting Hill and be the happiest person in the

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world every day for that watch the same hour of Notting Hill I never get to

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finish it I would just watch the same hour just a girl standing in front of a

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boy asking him to love him what asking him to love her

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anyway but yeah no we ask yourself that and give yourself that hour and what

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would you pick I mean hopefully it would be something for you and not like oh I

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could answer these emails that I know I'm not gonna get to because I'm thinking

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clean my house which I haven't done it so long no no no that's stupid this is

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an all-inclusive podcast thank you and guess what we've come to our game are

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you excited no that was just a question you need to learn the difference between

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a question in a game I did talk about some quotes today from my friends Willie

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Pan and Benny Frank and I thought of two other really competent intellectual men

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that have said some really amazing quotes and the game is called geniuses

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at work and I've written down some quotes from Michael Scott and Nick Miller

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yes and Victoria needs to tell me who said it what genius said that it's the

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only game I've ever wanted to play okay Michael Scott from the office or Nick

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Miller from New Girl here we go if you don't know them get out of the cave

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you're living in spend that one hour and you become an expert binge okay I know

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this isn't gonna end well but the middle part is gonna be awesome

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oh Nick Miller Nick Miller okay if we needed to talk about feelings they would

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be called talkings Michael Scott Nick Miller no I'm not gonna do every other

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one defeats the whole purpose it's Brittany bitch Michael Scott is calling

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a girl shorty still cool I like getting older I feel like I'm finally aging into

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my personality Nick Miller he's an old man I bought 10,000 minutes in 1999 and

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I'm still using them I love inside jokes I hope to be part of one someday you

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cheated on me when I specifically asked you not to hate to see you leave but love

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to watch you go because of your butt oh Nick Miller Michael Scott no you can go

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to my funeral but you can't talk my funeral is my time to shine Nick Miller

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you can say a little drunk sorry I'm not superstitious but I'm a little

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stitious Nick Miller Michael Scott gosh I'm getting in my head I am Beyonce

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always Michael Scott Michael Scott stop being so mean to me or I swear to God

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I'm gonna fall in love with you Nick Miller at the wedding shower I live by

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another rule just do it Nike they're trying to make me an escape goat Michael

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Scott tell him to call me ASAP as possible Michael Scott I am the stupidest

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of all the stupid boys Carly man and Nick Miller Nick Miller you treat an

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outside wound with rubbing alcohol you treat an inside wound with drinking

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alcohol Nick Miller you know I don't dance I'm from the town in Footloose

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Nick Miller you know what they say fool me once strike one but fool me twice

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strike three no Michael Scott do I regret it yes would I do it again

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probably Nick Miller Nick Miller last one you give me cookie I gave you cookie

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Nick Miller guess what that was only fun for us but totally worth it listen we

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only had one hour today I chose to spend that one hour having fun being silly

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and doing a game that made us laugh because that's all the time we had

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today and we chose wisely so your real tip of the day your real tip of the day

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is to read this article that we're going to post and take one of the 29 ways to

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add fun into your busy schedule and do one of them for yourself any one of them

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and then you have to go with the four things that we said in the beginning if

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to block out of the time for it you have to all the other things that we said go

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back and re-listen just right down stop things should of what you should or

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shouldn't do and then ask yourself what you actually really want to do yeah that

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is the number one most important thing so read the article pick one and actually

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follow through and now for your real extra tip of the week it's called time

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Po no mo what does time Po no mo mean I'll tell you note the amount of times

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you say I wanted to but I didn't have time in a week like honestly get your

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phone out go to notes and say I said it once twice like write it down how many

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times you say I can't I don't have time yeah and then go back and think did I

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actually not have the time or was that an excuse and if it was an excuse why

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because that is the most important thing like if you really didn't have time

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sure that's one thing but sometimes we say it out of just pure habit and it's

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things we really want to do so make the time don't be time Po no mo no it was

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so good until you until you happened I don't want to be time Po no mo

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get your head out of your phone show have some Joe mo we got it we gotta stop

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we gotta go we got it you should have said go you changed the whole thing ain't

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nobody got time for that oh my gosh all right about to get cancer I was just gonna

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say yeah all right I think I've already canceled

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Siri does not understand Siri just added in our podcast sorry I did not

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understand she said no mo no mo no mo oh well per usual if we've talked about

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nothing else or nothing at all or you've taken no vibe from this other than

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you are always fit to be real and you always have the time to be a little

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extra I like that you switched it up yeah yeah I got time for that yeah oh you're done