Welcome to Fit to Be Real and a little extra.
We're talking about all of the extra today.
We have one of our lifelong friends
here to teach us how to be cool,
even though we're in our thirties and we're we try too hard.
We're losing it a little bit.
So we need to, you know, up our game, the TikTok, the social media,
the slang, all the things that really should be left for the 20 years.
She's going to teach us.
Yay.
I'm Victoria. Hey, guys, I'm Carly.
And we are here with my mini me. Yeah.
I don't know if that's insulting or not.
I honestly don't know if she wants to be that.
But she is. Here's the deal.
Here's the deal.
She is a double major at Westchester University,
and I just learned that in early grades and special education
and you are going to be a senior, which is awesome.
And she's minoring in assisting Carly in life and raising Carly's children.
That's her minor.
I mean, that those are lessons you cannot.
You know, get at school.
Oh, no. Oh, no.
I meant to say go life lessons, but I already said lessons and I didn't know
bring it back. That's why I need Julia.
So she's been dancing her whole life.
She still dances.
She assists at Carmella's dance studio.
She was an intern through the program and she better never leave.
I'm not leaving. Julia Barbi, everyone.
Yeah. Hey, guys.
Oh, that was a good one.
That was cool. She just said she didn't even say her name because she's that cool.
She just said, hey, guys, because that's how cool she is.
No name needed. Yeah. Oh, boy.
OK, today's going to be fun for a lot of different reasons.
I have loved Julia's vibe since meeting.
Yes, since meeting her because she's like, I don't even know how to describe it.
So chill. So chill.
So yeah. So so.
Can we say so chill? Is that a cool thing to say? Yeah.
Yeah. OK. Cool.
She's been so chill where like her excitement is like, wow, that's really exciting.
Yes. And that's probably her max.
And that's a really good representation of Julia.
Thank you. Yeah.
I think that's why my kids love her so much is because she doesn't come in.
This is probably not cool to say, but like balls to the wall like, hey, guys,
what's up, let's play. She's like, fake.
Like, hey, fake.
Yes, she'll walk in and be like, yeah, what's up?
Yeah. You know, she's just like very even when the kids are
like upset, she's very even when they're happy.
She's very even. So like the kids really gravitate towards her.
Not only my kids, the studio kids that she teaches, they love her.
And wait, she's one of our Seafit birthday party necessities.
Oh, necessities.
Because she plays all the games after the dancing and the cake and the pizza happens.
And when they're getting rowdy and wild and running all over an open dance floor,
she's like, yeah, no, we're not going to do that.
We too.
We're just going to do that.
Don't do that.
And they don't.
And we would be like, get off the stage.
That's why we have to leave and we leave Julia in charge.
100%.
So the inspiration behind this episode is because really, Karlie, Karlie
really tries too hard. I don't think it's trying too hard.
It's like, I think I'm right.
Like, I think the past episodes, when I look in the mirror, I'm 21.
So to me, I should be fine doing all this.
I am super cool.
Yeah.
I am not that when I look in the mirror and actually do it, I'm like, oh God.
No.
And Julia legit gets embarrassed by me like I'm her mother.
Yes.
And like we get embarrassed by mom.
But I think Mrs. Barbier gets embarrassed of you as well.
So like it's not like a mother thing.
What's up, Jen?
Getting jiggy with it.
She's always getting jiggy with it.
The woman is always getting jiggy with it.
I'm going to ask you a question.
Is it true that less is more for you guys?
Yes.
Like in all ways.
Well, I think so.
Some people don't.
I think you just got to be just like subtle.
Like, oh, like if you want to throw up the peace sign, you can.
You just do it like.
Yeah.
She did it like so calmly and there's me like a Chihuahua.
Yeah.
It's like a little aggressive.
That was very sweet of you to say that's a little aggressive because usually she goes,
oh no, no, no, no.
And she walks away.
Okay.
I have a problem being chill.
I think that I'm chill, but I've been told that I'm not.
Yeah.
Wait, do you know who you are?
I, of course, I cannot think of this character's name in Greece.
I know what you're going to say.
Patty Simcox.
I was thinking about this episode.
It's so weird that you said that.
That's so weird.
I was driving over here thinking about this episode and what I can make it known to everybody,
like how I normally am and how Julia maybe needs to reign me in a little bit.
And I was thinking I'm how what's a good analogy?
I'm the Patty Simcox.
I am not the Rizzo.
Shut up.
I'm not the Jan.
And I was like, I was president of student council.
I was always like, guys, I'm the most like, let's be happy and let's do this.
And let's do that.
I'm Patty Simcox.
And I was thinking about that on the drive over.
Weird.
Rizzo was like super cool.
You're very Rizzo.
Me.
Yeah.
And Victoria is without all the scandal.
And Victoria is more Rizzo.
I'm Jan.
I love Jan.
She loves the toothbrush commercial.
That's me.
I always wanted to be Marty.
But I'm not her.
No, you are not a Marty.
Let's go back.
Do you know the movie Grease?
Are you old enough?
Yeah.
I've never like fully watched it, but I've seen scenes.
I've never sat down and watched the entire thing.
But I also know because of the music and stuff.
Well, that's why we need this episode because the person we have on the podcast doesn't know
the movie Grease.
Here's the thing.
Patty Simcox.
Everybody should be Patty Simcox.
There's nothing wrong with her, right?
In this movie, the cheerleading, pom poms, good girl, student council, all the things,
lots of energy.
But if you're trying to be in a TikTok world today, it's a no for me.
I think everyone of the generation that you are in of what cool versus the main confusion
for me when it comes to all of this is is the word you choose to say.
The slang.
Which we'll get into the slang of it all.
The vibe, I think I get.
Your vibe just needs to change, not change, actually.
You be you, but know that it's not what you want it to be.
I know.
It's not.
I think what I see coming across is not what comes across.
Exactly.
Yeah.
Well, let's get into it then.
You know that I use many words incorrectly.
Yes.
And when I say them, I shouldn't.
Yeah.
Slay.
Am I young enough to say slay?
You could say slay.
Slay in the right time.
So when do you say it?
Here it comes in.
No.
That's when we should be saying slay.
So when do you say slay?
I say slay when you're like, if I do something for you.
I said it the other day in a text.
You said something and I was like, okay, slay.
Julia, you text me in one word full.
You have a whole conversation with me in one word increments.
I'll say slay.
Period.
Yeah.
I'll say queen.
Yeah.
Cool.
Or okay.
Yeah.
I would say more cool than okay.
Like because you can use it in different ways.
Like maybe like slay.
Let's get into the next one.
My favorite one that you've taught all of my kids that say it all the time.
Period.
Oh, oh.
The voice change.
Was that too much?
Yeah, my voice changed.
It was a lot.
Okay.
Just period.
Period.
If you say period, it's just like, yeah.
It just means yeah.
It could be more like mic drop too.
Mic drop.
That makes no sense.
Mic drop is like, you know.
So then why don't you say mic drop?
That's too long.
It's too long.
Period.
Get it?
Period.
End of sentence.
Done.
Period.
If I was like, oh, like do you want to go to the mall?
Just be like period.
Slay.
Period.
Maybe not the slay.
Just be like period on my way.
Period.
Queen.
Period.
Okay.
So if I was like, if you say you pay me, right, for babysitting, I'm like, yes queen, thank
you, because like you're giving me money, you know, you're a queen.
Yeah.
Okay.
She says it so easily.
She just goes like yes queen.
Yeah.
Like yeah queen.
Let's use it in a sentence.
Jewel, do you want to come over today?
I'll give you money.
I'll never do it.
No cap.
So what does no cap mean?
No cap is like, like no caption, like no comment, no comment needed.
No cap.
If you like are telling a story, like you, someone can be like, oh, no cap or like no
filter used to be.
Yeah.
I'd say so.
Or just like, like if you're doing something that like say like you're like teaching and
you're doing something like nobody wants to do.
Okay.
So if somebody just didn't like what I was doing, I could just be like, no, no cap.
I mean like you could, but like it would have to be the right, it would have to like
fit and I, you can't just be like, if someone like says they're in pain, can just be like,
no cap.
Like that's not going to work out.
How does she know you so well?
Carly, because I can just see.
Carly is about no one's injuries or weaknesses.
Like we're in a squad and everybody's moaning that they don't want to get lower and I'm
like, no cap.
See I was told no cap meant like no lie, but like, yeah, it can be used like that too.
Or just like no way.
No cap.
Like no way.
No way.
No cap.
Maybe don't do that.
This one is actually one I feel like I can get behind.
Okay.
Potential.
Oh yeah.
See this one, I don't really know if like a lot of people use it.
Of course.
Cause I like it.
I kind of just like created it.
So yeah, because we don't want to waste time talking.
No.
We want to be there.
The attention span for the whole world.
So just potential.
That's why I say obby and like no props.
Yeah, it's like it's like obby and no props.
Yeah.
It's easier.
Potential.
Now could we get away with saying potential?
Yeah, I think you could.
I think that's that's cool.
Bussin.
Yeah.
You're right.
I've aged out of this.
So because you like pronounce it.
Because I said Bussin.
Yeah.
So what is how do you say it?
Bussin.
Like what does it mean?
It's like it's kind of like, oh, like, yeah, like that's Bussin.
That's awesome.
Oh, that's what it means.
Yeah.
You could say it like that.
I'm making fun of you.
That was not a definition.
Like it means that's cool.
There's just too many ways to say cool.
You could be like, that's awesome.
Or that's cool.
That's Bussin.
So that it means fire.
Fire.
Here's a side note.
It's on fleek.
Not cool anymore.
That's like that's old.
I'm so on point right now.
Oh, can I say on fleek?
Yeah.
Because maybe if you say on fleek, it sounds like you're trying to be like to use slang.
Yeah.
But I don't want to be like I'm trying to use slang.
That's the whole point of this episode.
But like if you said on point, like, oh, I'm so on point right now.
Like just say on fleek, you know?
Yeah.
I've never been in a conversation more where I don't know what's going on.
Salty.
Yeah.
Like if you're salty about something, you're bitter.
It's like, don't be salty about that.
Yeah.
Get over it.
Yeah.
Like she's salty.
Yeah.
She's just annoyed.
Yeah.
She just is.
Mostly I would say she's annoyed.
I would use the proper word.
Flake.
If you're a flake, you're a flake.
Tell the people what you were voted in high school.
Oh, yes.
I was voted biggest flake.
And I take it to heart in a good way because I am a flake, especially in high school.
You are the most reliable person.
Not to you.
I would never flake on you.
Yasqueen.
Slay.
Period.
But if people would ask me to do something and I don't feel like doing it, instead of
just saying no, I'll be like, oh, maybe.
And then I just would never go.
And people called on to it.
So then I was the biggest flake.
Stop.
Flake is a flake.
You're a flake.
Yeah.
You're a flake.
So is BB Bouffet.
She was.
Do you know who that is?
No, I don't.
Oh my God.
Fam.
So if you say like, what up, fam?
Like next time I walk into your house, I'll be like, what up, fam?
It's just like, hey guys.
So I'm going to say, fam, it's Carly.
Don't have to.
Not me.
Hey, fam, it's Carly.
No, she said it means like, hey guys.
So I'm going to be like, fam, it's Carly.
No, no, no.
So it just means like.
My uncle will text me when he wants me to like walk his dog and he'll be like, yo, fam,
you home.
To you.
Just you, solo.
Yeah, it can be to a single person.
I'm very literal.
So if I'm texting the family, I'm calling them family.
If I'm texting you, I say, Julia.
You can call me fam if you want.
Well, you are fam.
Yo fam.
No, I'd be like, yo fam, what's up?
That was good.
But it's so wrong.
But I can also really tell you're trying.
Ready?
I'm going to not try to hate trying.
Yo, yo fam.
Why did your voice change?
Why do you become a character in like a mob movie?
Because it doesn't.
Yo fam.
Shadda gets really low or really high.
It doesn't come naturally to me.
I wouldn't just be like, yo fam, I'm coming over today.
That's a question.
When people walk in to see fit.
No, next time you start class, just be like, what up fam?
No cap.
Period.
Let's slay.
And then everyone will leave.
We about to bust in.
No, we about to bust in.
That's how I know she's really embarrassed.
Her eyes get big.
She puts her finger up and she steps back from me.
That's how I know she's serious.
We about to bust in.
That was bad.
Rent free.
So.
I like it.
You can be like living rent free inside of someone's head.
I see that.
Okay.
I see this on Instagram, Tik Tok where it says this video lives rent free in my mind.
And it's like a funny video.
It just keeps playing.
It's just always up there.
So like I can live rent free in your mind.
You're always thinking about me.
I am always thinking about you.
So I live rent free in your mind.
A sim.
What the heck is that?
If you're being a simp for someone, you're like, it's more like, I guess if you're a simping
for someone, you're like falling for someone.
What does this mean?
It doesn't mean simple?
No.
If you were calling someone a simple minded person, why would a simp ever mean simple?
No.
Like if you're a simp, it's like, yeah, I'm a simp for so and so.
I'm down bad.
I'm down bad for them.
You're down bad.
Down bad is not on this list.
What does that mean?
A simp for someone.
Like I have a crush on you.
I'm a simp for you.
Yeah.
No, you wouldn't say that.
You wouldn't say that.
But like say like my friend is like obsessed with this guy or whatever.
I'd be like, oh, you're a simp.
You're a simping for him.
I can tell.
What does it mean?
You're down bad.
And if you're down bad, you're down bad.
Like you're into it.
You're too into it.
You're like obsessed.
You're obsessed, I guess.
When you're talking about fam and potential and with obvi and no prob, simp is not short
for simple.
No.
It's not really going to use simp.
I'm thinking very hard at as to why.
But I think that's the point is that we shouldn't be wondering why so much.
It just comes naturally.
We have to accept that it doesn't come naturally to us.
So that I might not be able to spill the tea.
Good one.
I did teach her that one a long time ago.
Try it without the eyebrows.
Spilling the tea means getting the gossip.
Yes.
I understand.
Spill the tea.
And if it's really good gossip, you can be like the tea's boiling.
Oh my God.
Yeah.
Different levels.
Some hot tea I got.
I want you to use all of them in one phrase like your cool self.
Okay.
That's dope.
Period.
I'll be there queen.
Slay.
See you soon.
No cap needed.
Period.
That was amazing.
Thank you.
You did that off the top of your head.
I tried.
Yeah.
Okay.
Carly.
Same thing.
Oh my God.
Potench.
That is so rent free.
Can I go with my fam?
Period.
Oh my God.
Slay.
Yes.
Queen.
No cap.
I'm super chill.
Super chill.
I liked everything but can you go with your fam?
Yes.
I don't think you used hay fam.
Right.
Okay.
Victoria.
Oh no, no.
I wasn't.
You made me do it.
Like I'm 100% doing it.
Okay.
I just want to mention that we have lost all of our young followers because they have
not been able to get through this episode.
They turned it off.
Yeah, they turned it off.
It's okay.
It's fine.
They don't need to know this stuff.
They already know it.
You're being a sim.
No, no, no, no, no.
Hay fam.
You're being a sim.
Good.
I'm totally not busing.
Like no cap.
Sleigh.
I hate your sentence.
First of all, and second of all, and third of all, I hate it.
Okay.
So now that's over.
Thank you Julia.
You're welcome.
Julia, she doesn't pay you.
Queen of the cool.
I have to think so hard.
I know.
That's the problem.
I'm thinking so hard.
I can't talk quickly.
It's okay.
It's practice.
There are just so many different ways to say one word.
It's honestly like learning a new language.
Yeah.
So I've decided I'm just not going to.
But she still will and she'll still be trying.
Yes.
We're going to play a little game.
You have to answer the questions as truthfully as you can.
The game is called Sleigh or Nay.
What does Sleigh or Nay mean?
All right.
Basically, it's if you have to tell us if it is still acceptable for us to do or if
it's unacceptable at our young age of 30 years to do.
Okay.
Got it.
All right.
Got it.
Is it okay to think Justin Bieber is still hot?
Sleigh.
Yeah.
That's acceptable.
Yeah.
Is it acceptable to pose with duck lips at our age?
Nay.
Immediate nay.
Damn it.
Okay.
Is it acceptable to pose with a peace sign?
Nay.
Sorry.
I didn't get the sentence out because I just know what it looks like.
I've seen it so many times.
It's just such an aggressive.
Okay.
Noted.
Okay.
Is it acceptable at our age to wear bike shorts?
Sleigh.
Yeah.
Please don't think about that because we're literally in bike shorts.
No, they're in.
That's a Sleigh.
Is it acceptable to post more than once in a day on like Instagram?
Sleigh because who cares, you know?
Because if you don't care, then you're cool.
Yeah.
Just like who cares?
Yeah.
Who cares?
Is it cool at our age to wear sneakers with a dress?
Um.
If you have to think, then nay.
Nay.
It depends.
If you're wearing like workout sneakers with a dress, no, but if you're wearing like
simple sneakers with a dress, I'd say Sleigh.
To clarify, not a simp sneaker.
Not a simp.
Um.
I don't think that exists yet.
I didn't know there were differences in sneakers.
We'll do that on another episode.
Is it acceptable or okay to twerk at our age?
Sleigh.
Yeah.
Because we don't care.
Yeah.
We don't care.
Because we don't care.
Yeah, we don't care.
Is it okay to post a selfie?
Nay.
Well, it depends.
No, no.
You just be honest.
Like, I would say Sleigh.
To Victoria.
Oh.
But I could just, I would think I would say nay to you.
To me.
That's fine.
Why?
Just because I can see it being like.
Aggressive.
A lot.
And I could see Victoria being very like chill, like posting a chill selfie.
Well, from what I've noticed, the selfies that people take are like of a shoe and it's
like thinking about life.
And mine's like my face and I'm like, I'm loving life.
And you know what?
Your selfie would be what people have rent free in their mind.
Yes, it would live rent free in a lot of people's minds.
Thank you guys for putting that all together for me.
Of course.
Does it make sense?
Period.
Okay.
Sleigh or nay.
Is it okay to like Carly more than Victoria?
Do I have to answer that?
You do not have to answer that.
Wait, you're the only one that's going to say yes to this?
It's okay.
But she wouldn't.
No.
Just say yes.
Well, I feel like I'm forced to say yes.
But me and Victoria, like she knows that I feel the same.
She said I feel like I'm forced to say yes.
It's the same love, but I have to say yes.
No, because you are basically my boss in my life.
So she's minoring and Carly.
Right.
So I have to say yes.
Yo, fam, you failed the game.
Oh, sorry.
You won, Julia.
No cap.
You won, you queen.
Thank you, queen.
That was awesome, Joel.
You're the best.
Thank you.
Here's your real tip for our listeners out there who have turned 30 and up finding young
friend.
Have this conversation with them just to understand them or get a little bit more confused by
what they say and how they say it.
It's interesting.
It's fun.
My brain really hurts right now.
But find this conversation.
Connect to the younger generation.
And you know what?
Just still be you.
Don't try to be them, but just understand, you know?
Stay woke.
We didn't talk about that one, Julia.
I like it.
Now for your real extra tip of the week.
It's called do whatever you want.
What does do whatever you want mean?
It means say what you want to say, do what you want to do.
It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks.
Yeah, maybe learn the right descriptions of the words and that's fine to find out.
But honestly, do the peace sign, do the duck lips, do the selfie.
Maybe just don't show Julia or anybody her age.
And you be you.
Do it all.
You will live rent free in all of their minds.
I find that this was a very informative episode for all of us.
This is all stuff that we wanted to know, that I needed to know, some things I didn't
want to know.
I thought it was fun.
Yeah, Julia.
Thank you for bringing your your vibe to the tribe.
You're so welcome.
I hope you've learned how to be cool and be kind and to be kind.
Yeah.
It's her voice.
I think it's the voice.
Chill.
Yeah.
I honestly think the biggest takeaway is that it is the mixture of not caring, but
caring, but caring.
Yes.
Less is more chill vibes.
Sure, get it on a poster, hang it in your room.
My God, look at it every day.
She's so cool.
That's why I keep her around, like around me all the time, because she's so cool and
I feel like she levels me up.
Thank you, Julia.
You're welcome.
Thanks for having me.
Are you free tonight?
Can you baby kiss?
I'll be there.
It's like.
We hope you know you are always fit to be real and always allowed to be a little extra.
Slay.
Period.
Yes, queen.
No cap.
Bussing.
On sleek.
And that's where we finish.
Oh my God.
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Bye.