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Hello, hello, this is Sabrina Amina.

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This is the Feelings Pod.

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And today's episode is a little bit of an experiment

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in showing up messy

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and talking about mixed feelings

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and the kind of

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confusion that comes along with not really knowing

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how you're feeling or the confusion that comes along

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with having one feeling in one moment

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and then having another feeling in another moment,

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not being able to identify where, what your feeling is

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and also just like

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having, excuse me, having two feelings at the same time

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or two or more feelings at the same time,

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they just seem contradictory.

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Okay, sorry for the coughing and the yawning.

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I said it was gonna be messy.

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It's the end of the day.

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I bet I really wanted to talk about this

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because this is what I've been moving through

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and I feel like there might be a nugget of wisdom

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if I talk about it for long enough.

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So if you have the patience to stick around,

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awesome.

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If not, I really, I honor whatever your journey looks like

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in this moment.

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So yeah, today, this weekend was full of excitement

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for me and connection

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and spending time with friends and going to events

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that were just nourishing and fulfilling and adventurous.

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And then kind of coming back to my own home,

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my own space, my own sanctuary of quiet

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and feeling a little bit of a dip in the excitement

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and energy because I notice that

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social time is very exciting for me and it's fun.

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And it, you know,

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I experience a lot of joy when I'm in connection

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with people I love.

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The transition is tricky for me

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because moving from connection to solitude,

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it feels quite dramatic.

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And so I go from feeling really connected

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and having a great time to feeling a little bit lonely,

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but also there's a dip in energy, right?

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Because it took a lot of energy to do all this socializing.

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So what I'm working on tracking is,

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well, how am I feeling in this moment?

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Am I feeling sadness?

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Am I feeling loneliness or am I feeling tired?

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Am I feeling just a need to rest?

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Maybe I'm just feeling hungry

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and I'm not feeling very well resourced.

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Perfect time to record a messy podcast.

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Ha ha ha ha.

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So when I'm feeling a little bit untethered or unmoored,

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I enjoy outward processing.

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So I'll reach out to friends

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or I'll record a messy podcast

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and I'll just try to like make sense of the feeling.

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However, sometimes trying to make sense

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of how you're feeling cognitively

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can just create a little bit more confusion.

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So it's really helpful to just get back into the body

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and really be fully present with the body.

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So this is a tool that I rely on time and again.

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One of the events that I went to this weekend

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was a workshop with Luis Mojica.

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I bring up Luis all the time on my podcast.

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He's by far one of my favorite teachers.

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You can follow him on holistic life navigation on Instagram.

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So this workshop on Friday evening was on being disliked

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and building a capacity for being disliked

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by noticing the way that we fawn.

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And fawning is like, it's a kind of protective strategy

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that is considered one of the trauma responses.

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This is how the body responds to some kind of threat.

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So for example, we do, so if there's a threat,

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we talk about fight, flight, freeze, fawn.

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And I recently learned about fix is the fifth one.

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So this talk was a bit about noticing the bodies,

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the way the body moves to people pleasing in place,

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in order to stay safe, in order to find safety.

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So long pause, just to check in,

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just to kind of track what's present in the body.

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And you can take a deep breath in with me too.

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And just notice where your body is right now.

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Notice the quality of your breath.

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Take a deep breath in and let it go.

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Take a deep breath in, let it go.

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Take a deep breath in and let it go.

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So the breath is like such a magical tool

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because no matter what kind of confusion

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is happening in the mind, like the breath can always

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bring you back into your body.

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The breath can always bring you back into your body.

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And the body just has its own wisdom

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that doesn't really rely on the thinking brain.

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So when you notice that you are feeling a bit like

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ungrounded or confused or just a bit lost

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or generally have this sense of not feeling ease or safety,

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taking a few moments to breathe is your reminder.

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It's like your physical somatic reminder in the body

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that, oh, I can breathe slowly and deeply

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and that sends a message to my nervous system

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that I'm safe.

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Where, especially in a moment where the thoughts

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in your brain are activating

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and making the body feel a bit unsafe.

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So let's do that again.

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I invite you to find an easeful position, restful,

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make yourself as comfortable as possible,

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close the eyes, take a deep breath in,

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and let it go.

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Breathe in and breathe out.

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Breathe in and breathe out.

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Deep breath in.

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Pause at the top of the breath and breathe out.

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And breathe out. Pause. Breathe in.

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Pause. Breathe out. Pause. Breathe in.

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Pause. Breathe in. Pause. And breathe out.

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Follow that pattern of your breath for as long as you wish.

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If you'd like to place a hand on the belly

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as you inhale and exhale,

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you have a physical reminder of how it feels

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to bring breath into the body

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and how it feels to let it go.

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And as you inhale, you feel the belly rise,

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and as you exhale, you feel the belly contract.

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Inhale.

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And exhale.

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Inhale.

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And exhale.

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Inhale.

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And exhale.

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Once again, you wish to continue.

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You can pause the recording here.

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Continue your inhale.

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And exhale.

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Thank you so much for tuning into my messages.

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Thank you so much for tuning into my messy podcast today.

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That was just a real time experience

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of how I find safety with myself

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when things are a little bit stormy in the head,

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stormy in the brain.

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I hope this serves as a reminder

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that you are always able to tune in.

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Notice where you are and offer yourself

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a little bit of care through the power

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of your presence and your breath,

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through the magic of your body

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that has infinite wisdom.

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It's not always accessible by the thinking brain.

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Maybe happy, maybe well,

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maybe free from suffering,

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maybe feel love.

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This is Sabrina Amina with the feelings pod.

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Have a wonderful day.