1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:02,500 We've all been hurt. 2 00:00:02,500 --> 00:00:04,800 We all carry scars. 3 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:10,400 We can all overcome these things and be healed through a relationship with Jesus Christ. 4 00:00:10,400 --> 00:00:14,080 Let's build that relationship together right here. 5 00:00:14,080 --> 00:00:18,200 Welcome to Healing Scars with Pastor Burton. 6 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:20,420 Hey everybody, welcome back to the sanctuary. 7 00:00:20,420 --> 00:00:22,900 So good to have you with us as always. 8 00:00:22,900 --> 00:00:27,200 And if this is your first time joining us, let me just say welcome. 9 00:00:27,200 --> 00:00:32,680 Now we're going to continue working through the book of Ephesians and this time we'll 10 00:00:32,680 --> 00:00:38,240 be in the last part of chapter five and we're going to go through the first part of chapter 11 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:39,240 six. 12 00:00:39,240 --> 00:00:44,880 Now, Paul has laid out the foundation of what the church is for us as Christians and we've 13 00:00:44,880 --> 00:00:50,880 seen how to start implementing that by being the church and in our day to day living as 14 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:52,880 we interact with others. 15 00:00:52,880 --> 00:01:00,420 Now we're going to see what it means in our own homes, specifically our personal relationships 16 00:01:00,420 --> 00:01:02,560 with loved ones. 17 00:01:02,560 --> 00:01:09,540 And then after that, we're going to see just a little bit of how it carries on into our 18 00:01:09,540 --> 00:01:10,720 work lives as well. 19 00:01:10,720 --> 00:01:14,480 So you know, because let's face it, you know, as adults, we spend a lot of time at work. 20 00:01:14,480 --> 00:01:18,420 In some cases we spend more time at work than we even do at home, right? 21 00:01:18,420 --> 00:01:26,120 So this is important and as we're going to see, this section is one of the most abused 22 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:28,840 parts of the Bible by many. 23 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:33,120 You know, to say it's taken out of context is putting it mildly. 24 00:01:33,120 --> 00:01:36,760 So we're going to go through it and we're going to put it back in the context as we 25 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:40,040 look at it piece by piece, verse by verse. 26 00:01:40,040 --> 00:01:41,040 All right. 27 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:47,860 So join me now in Ephesians five, verse 21. 28 00:01:47,860 --> 00:01:53,320 The Bible says, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. 29 00:01:53,320 --> 00:02:00,000 Now before we go any further, let me tell you, I've already said it once. 30 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:01,000 I'm going to say it. 31 00:02:01,000 --> 00:02:04,020 I'm going to see it several times as we go through here. 32 00:02:04,020 --> 00:02:06,880 We're breaking this down piece by piece. 33 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:14,080 Many of you already know the arguments that come from twisting these, these, these verses. 34 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:15,740 All right. 35 00:02:15,740 --> 00:02:23,340 So let me make one thing clear right here and right now, starting in this verse, submitting 36 00:02:23,340 --> 00:02:31,800 to one another does not mean you are a doormat for anyone to walk on. 37 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:39,080 It does not mean that either party is to just bend over backwards to the wishes of anyone, 38 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:44,320 especially if it goes against God's will. 39 00:02:44,320 --> 00:02:48,320 The thing I want you to keep in mind as we go through the rest of this section is how 40 00:02:48,320 --> 00:02:50,200 Jesus submitted. 41 00:02:50,200 --> 00:02:51,200 All right. 42 00:02:51,200 --> 00:02:57,800 In Philippians two, chapter two, verse 10, the Bible says that at the name of Jesus, 43 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:02,600 every knee should bow in heaven and on earth and under the earth. 44 00:03:02,600 --> 00:03:08,440 We all submit to the will of Jesus and Jesus, I'll remind you submitted to the will of the 45 00:03:08,440 --> 00:03:09,440 father. 46 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:10,900 All right. 47 00:03:10,900 --> 00:03:16,360 And it is his example that we should follow when it comes to how we submit. 48 00:03:16,360 --> 00:03:19,600 Remember the last time we discussed what would Jesus do? 49 00:03:19,600 --> 00:03:23,560 That is the same question that we need to be asking here. 50 00:03:23,560 --> 00:03:29,780 And the fact that we see this first first is important because it's saying that men 51 00:03:29,780 --> 00:03:38,720 and women, both, both of them need to submit to one another, not just one to the other. 52 00:03:38,720 --> 00:03:43,040 All right. 53 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:48,240 Now as we're going into this next part, let me preface with this. 54 00:03:48,240 --> 00:03:53,400 Yes, we're about to talk about wives, but after that, we're also going to talk about 55 00:03:53,400 --> 00:03:54,960 husbands as well. 56 00:03:54,960 --> 00:04:00,920 You know that that piece that people like to forget about, you know, so hold on. 57 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,560 I think we're gonna talk hard here. 58 00:04:03,560 --> 00:04:04,560 Things are gonna get tough. 59 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:09,240 We're also gonna, you know, as we go through this, I want you to notice how the Bible talks 60 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:16,400 about married couples as husband and wife, not husband and husband, not wife and wife, 61 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:19,520 not husband and wives or vice versa. 62 00:04:19,520 --> 00:04:26,100 As in polygamy, marriage is one man and one woman as they were born in God's perfect creation. 63 00:04:26,100 --> 00:04:29,960 And that's the bottom line because his word says so. 64 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:31,920 All right. 65 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:37,080 So off of my rabbit trail here and let's get back into it. 66 00:04:37,080 --> 00:04:38,080 All right. 67 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:46,480 So starting in Ephesians five verses 22 through 24, the Bible says, wives submit yourselves 68 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:51,400 to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 69 00:04:51,400 --> 00:04:57,540 For the Lord is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body of which 70 00:04:57,540 --> 00:04:59,640 he is a savior. 71 00:04:59,640 --> 00:05:05,480 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands and 72 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:06,480 everything. 73 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:10,320 Again, ladies, you are not a doormat. 74 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:12,200 You're not a punching bag. 75 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:16,120 Nobody should be walking over you, especially your husband. 76 00:05:16,120 --> 00:05:20,080 Jesus did not abuse the church. 77 00:05:20,080 --> 00:05:21,280 He didn't do it physically. 78 00:05:21,280 --> 00:05:22,620 He did not do it emotionally. 79 00:05:22,620 --> 00:05:25,600 He did not do it mentally. 80 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:30,240 Nor should any man abuse you, nor should you tolerate it. 81 00:05:30,240 --> 00:05:31,240 All right. 82 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,720 A lot of boys, and that's what they are, they're not men. 83 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:41,000 A lot of boys will twist this up as if they are the end all be all with a license to do 84 00:05:41,000 --> 00:05:44,280 as they wish, which is not the case. 85 00:05:44,280 --> 00:05:45,960 All right. 86 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:51,040 But what we're seeing here, the way it's laid out in the Bible by Paul, this stems from 87 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:56,800 the Roman custom of the head of the family being given the power to make important family 88 00:05:56,800 --> 00:05:58,200 decisions. 89 00:05:58,200 --> 00:06:03,620 So for the wife, this means that she should be following her husband's leadership in 90 00:06:03,620 --> 00:06:07,400 worshiping God. 91 00:06:07,400 --> 00:06:11,880 The husband is the spiritual leader of the household. 92 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:16,960 One of the most important reasons for Christians to marry Christians, because if he's not worshiping 93 00:06:16,960 --> 00:06:21,120 God, then at some point you're going to run into trouble. 94 00:06:21,120 --> 00:06:23,200 It's not if, but when. 95 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:24,200 All right. 96 00:06:24,200 --> 00:06:28,880 And we'll get, we're going to circle back to that a little bit later as well. 97 00:06:28,880 --> 00:06:36,360 But I'll remind you as a Christian, we cannot let anyone or anything come between us and 98 00:06:36,360 --> 00:06:42,080 our relationship with the Lord, not even family. 99 00:06:42,080 --> 00:06:43,080 Okay. 100 00:06:43,080 --> 00:06:44,080 God comes first. 101 00:06:44,080 --> 00:06:50,080 And of course this means that important life decisions that need to be made, they do need 102 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:52,520 to be taken to the husband as well. 103 00:06:52,520 --> 00:06:57,640 You know, a conversation does need to be had, you know, choices need to be reviewed and 104 00:06:57,640 --> 00:06:59,480 then a decision is made. 105 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:04,720 Now when I put it that way, it sounds a bit like a trans business transaction, right? 106 00:07:04,720 --> 00:07:07,160 So where does the submission come into play here? 107 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:13,960 Well, that's actually when we're giving something up for the choice, you know, what, what, what 108 00:07:13,960 --> 00:07:17,400 when we're weighing things out to see what the better option is. 109 00:07:17,400 --> 00:07:22,600 For instance, you know, you're looking to buy a house and you find that one, it hits 110 00:07:22,600 --> 00:07:23,600 all the check marks. 111 00:07:23,600 --> 00:07:25,660 I mean, it's just absolutely perfect. 112 00:07:25,660 --> 00:07:27,040 It's what you've been looking for. 113 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:28,120 It's what you've been hoping for. 114 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:30,960 It's what you've been praying for. 115 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:36,000 The caveat to that though is that you're going to have to commute 50 miles away instead of 116 00:07:36,000 --> 00:07:37,560 the eight miles that you're used to. 117 00:07:37,560 --> 00:07:41,400 You're going to have to fight over an hour of traffic one way and then the other. 118 00:07:41,400 --> 00:07:44,440 At the end of the day, when you're looking to go home, you know, the convenience of a 119 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:49,560 short trip to work or to see friends disappears very quickly. 120 00:07:49,560 --> 00:07:53,160 And you're going to see that price tag go up as you're going to be spending a lot more 121 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:55,320 money on gas, right? 122 00:07:55,320 --> 00:08:03,880 So we submit the sacrifice, you know, you know, of certain things for what we see as 123 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:06,100 the greater choice. 124 00:08:06,100 --> 00:08:10,440 You know, you want this, this absolutely amazing house that is just absolutely perfect for 125 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:14,640 you or do you want something less than just to have some convenience? 126 00:08:14,640 --> 00:08:15,640 Right. 127 00:08:15,640 --> 00:08:19,040 And it's not just that, you know, we see the same thing in pretty much everything, you 128 00:08:19,040 --> 00:08:25,200 know, buying cars, sometimes even eating out, you know, pretty much everywhere you go, you 129 00:08:25,200 --> 00:08:30,440 have options, you have choices, people like choices and it's really just weighing them 130 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:32,880 out to see what the better option is. 131 00:08:32,880 --> 00:08:33,880 Right. 132 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:37,280 You know, what are you going to give up in order to get that better choice? 133 00:08:37,280 --> 00:08:38,760 All right. 134 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:44,160 So back into our reading, Ephesians 5 verses 25 through 27. 135 00:08:44,160 --> 00:08:45,160 Aha. 136 00:08:45,160 --> 00:08:51,280 Now this is the part where we're looking at the husbands. 137 00:08:51,280 --> 00:08:59,640 The Bible says, husbands love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself 138 00:08:59,640 --> 00:09:07,760 up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word 139 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:15,560 and to present her to himself as a radiant church without stain or wrinkle or any other 140 00:09:15,560 --> 00:09:19,200 blemish but holy and blameless. 141 00:09:19,200 --> 00:09:21,560 You know, I love this. 142 00:09:21,560 --> 00:09:22,560 I love this. 143 00:09:22,560 --> 00:09:29,600 So while wives should submit to their husbands, husbands should die for their wives. 144 00:09:29,600 --> 00:09:31,280 Say what? 145 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,700 What did Christ do for the church? 146 00:09:33,700 --> 00:09:35,640 He died for it. 147 00:09:35,640 --> 00:09:44,920 He sacrificed himself for it all while providing the best example for everyone to follow. 148 00:09:44,920 --> 00:09:46,520 He knew he was going to the cross. 149 00:09:46,520 --> 00:09:47,520 And what did he do? 150 00:09:47,520 --> 00:09:49,280 He washed the disciples feet. 151 00:09:49,280 --> 00:09:50,280 Right. 152 00:09:50,280 --> 00:09:54,040 That's what, you know, that's one of the allegories that we're seeing that it's talking 153 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:56,680 about here, washing with water through the word. 154 00:09:56,680 --> 00:10:00,840 Well, you know, he literally washed their feet. 155 00:10:00,840 --> 00:10:02,720 All right. 156 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:08,880 Men, we should be putting ourselves to death daily, not in the literal sense of, you know, 157 00:10:08,880 --> 00:10:11,360 nobody should be out there looking for a way to harm themselves. 158 00:10:11,360 --> 00:10:12,360 No. 159 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:13,360 All right. 160 00:10:13,360 --> 00:10:14,780 But we should be picking up our cross daily. 161 00:10:14,780 --> 00:10:22,200 This means we should be putting our personal wants and desires to the side for our wives. 162 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:26,920 Men are to be the spiritual heads of the family, leading it to Christ. 163 00:10:26,920 --> 00:10:27,920 All right. 164 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:29,240 Let me say that again. 165 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:33,160 Men are to be the spiritual heads of the family, leading the family to Christ. 166 00:10:33,160 --> 00:10:34,160 All right. 167 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:39,760 And just as Christ served the disciples, husbands should be serving their wives and their families. 168 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:43,160 A Christian man doesn't take advantage of his family. 169 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:44,920 He doesn't take advantage of his wife. 170 00:10:44,920 --> 00:10:46,280 He doesn't abuse them. 171 00:10:46,280 --> 00:10:49,120 He doesn't rebuke them for his own desires. 172 00:10:49,120 --> 00:10:56,160 He submits to the service of his wife and family to do what's best for them ahead of 173 00:10:56,160 --> 00:10:57,160 himself. 174 00:10:57,160 --> 00:11:05,720 Remember, you know, within the last couple of weeks, I mentioned joy, J-O-Y, Jesus first, 175 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:08,000 others next, then yourself. 176 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:10,800 Gentlemen, take that to heart. 177 00:11:10,800 --> 00:11:11,800 Literally. 178 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:15,000 That should be something that you should all be remembering. 179 00:11:15,000 --> 00:11:17,800 Jesus first, others next, and then yourself. 180 00:11:17,800 --> 00:11:19,080 All right. 181 00:11:19,080 --> 00:11:21,400 That is what the Bible is saying. 182 00:11:21,400 --> 00:11:23,400 That's what it is to be a servant leader. 183 00:11:23,400 --> 00:11:24,760 All right. 184 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:28,040 That's what it is to be the head of the household, the head of the family. 185 00:11:28,040 --> 00:11:29,840 All right. 186 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:32,480 Just following the example that Jesus gave us. 187 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:39,520 When husbands and wives worship together, when they serve one another, when they love 188 00:11:39,520 --> 00:11:44,640 one another and they respect one another, then marriage becomes much easier. 189 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:45,640 All right. 190 00:11:45,640 --> 00:11:49,080 I'm not going to say it becomes easy because you're always having to work, right? 191 00:11:49,080 --> 00:11:52,080 But it does become easier. 192 00:11:52,080 --> 00:11:56,000 When you look at the book of Amos, chapter three verse three, the Bible says, can two 193 00:11:56,000 --> 00:12:00,240 walk together except they be agreed? 194 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:06,320 You can't walk forward together unless you both agree to submit and move together as 195 00:12:06,320 --> 00:12:07,320 one. 196 00:12:07,320 --> 00:12:08,320 All right. 197 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:11,560 This is the same as, you know, what we refer to as being equally yoked. 198 00:12:11,560 --> 00:12:13,920 You know, we're talking about teamwork here, people. 199 00:12:13,920 --> 00:12:21,400 The husband is the team captain and the team can either succeed or fall apart under his 200 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:23,800 leadership or lack thereof. 201 00:12:23,800 --> 00:12:24,800 Right? 202 00:12:24,800 --> 00:12:29,040 We could get much more deeper into that analogy, but we're not going to. 203 00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:30,040 You know what I'm saying? 204 00:12:30,040 --> 00:12:31,040 All right. 205 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:38,280 So back to Ephesians five verses 28 through 30, the Bible says, in this same way, husbands 206 00:12:38,280 --> 00:12:42,440 ought to love their wives as their own bodies. 207 00:12:42,440 --> 00:12:46,140 He who loves his wife loves himself. 208 00:12:46,140 --> 00:12:52,240 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body just 209 00:12:52,240 --> 00:13:00,280 as Christ does the church for we are all members of his body. 210 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:04,160 All right. 211 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:05,160 Christian marriage. 212 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:11,880 It is the high bar for what marriage is supposed to be in the world. 213 00:13:11,880 --> 00:13:16,440 The top tier, the top shelf, it's all the way up there at the tippy top. 214 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:17,440 All right. 215 00:13:17,440 --> 00:13:21,600 Number one, it is what little girls think of when they're planning out their fairy 216 00:13:21,600 --> 00:13:23,560 tale weddings. 217 00:13:23,560 --> 00:13:29,560 It's what all the great love stories and the shows base theirs off of that image of the 218 00:13:29,560 --> 00:13:34,440 white gown with that perfect music and or scenery. 219 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:40,460 You know, people who love themselves only are selfish, but those who love others first 220 00:13:40,460 --> 00:13:43,320 are selfless. 221 00:13:43,320 --> 00:13:44,320 All right. 222 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:50,720 And are, you know, those who are selfless, they don't abuse others. 223 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:51,720 They don't hurt others. 224 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:58,120 They, you know, those themselves are acts of selfish cowards. 225 00:13:58,120 --> 00:14:07,000 Wives are important and how husbands should treat, love and respect them is important. 226 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:15,040 That is why Paul emphasizes how men should love their wives more than he tells wives 227 00:14:15,040 --> 00:14:16,840 to submit to them. 228 00:14:16,840 --> 00:14:21,440 Man, this is telling you not to abuse your place of power. 229 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:22,440 All right. 230 00:14:22,440 --> 00:14:23,440 He has to emphasize this more. 231 00:14:23,440 --> 00:14:24,440 Why? 232 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:27,880 Because we're the ones who are most likely to mess up. 233 00:14:27,880 --> 00:14:29,880 Plain and simple. 234 00:14:29,880 --> 00:14:32,040 All right. 235 00:14:32,040 --> 00:14:35,440 The whole, you know, Spider-Man thing, you know, great power comes great responsibility. 236 00:14:35,440 --> 00:14:36,920 Well, you know what? 237 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:40,320 That is actually a reality and that's what we're looking at here. 238 00:14:40,320 --> 00:14:42,000 All right. 239 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:48,160 When you are the spiritual head of your family, that has great responsibility, whether you 240 00:14:48,160 --> 00:14:50,320 like it or not. 241 00:14:50,320 --> 00:14:52,400 All right. 242 00:14:52,400 --> 00:14:57,440 Let's look at the last few verses before we move into chapter six, Ephesians five verses 243 00:14:57,440 --> 00:15:00,520 31 through 33. 244 00:15:00,520 --> 00:15:03,960 All right. 245 00:15:03,960 --> 00:15:12,240 The Bible says, for this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united 246 00:15:12,240 --> 00:15:18,160 to his wife and the two will become one flesh. 247 00:15:18,160 --> 00:15:22,760 This is a profound mystery, but I am talking about Christ in the church. 248 00:15:22,760 --> 00:15:28,520 However, each one of you must also love his wife as he loves himself and the wife must 249 00:15:28,520 --> 00:15:32,320 respect her husband. 250 00:15:32,320 --> 00:15:37,480 Marriage is the union of one man and one woman. 251 00:15:37,480 --> 00:15:44,480 And in this union, what affects one affects the other. 252 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:49,520 This right here is what we refer to as oneness of marriage. 253 00:15:49,520 --> 00:15:50,520 All right. 254 00:15:50,520 --> 00:15:53,120 I'm sure a lot of you have heard that term before. 255 00:15:53,120 --> 00:16:02,480 Now, being united, this doesn't take away either person's individuality, their, you 256 00:16:02,480 --> 00:16:05,840 know, their personalities, in other words. 257 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:06,840 All right. 258 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:10,960 However, you do learn, you know, that that give and take, you know, that that push and 259 00:16:10,960 --> 00:16:17,400 pull because as you grow together, you begin to anticipate each other's needs and you help 260 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,800 better one another. 261 00:16:19,800 --> 00:16:22,800 All right. 262 00:16:22,800 --> 00:16:27,920 You know, a good example is, you know, when we're going out, my wife knows, especially 263 00:16:27,920 --> 00:16:32,800 in the morning, you know, a lot of you know, I am not a morning person. 264 00:16:32,800 --> 00:16:37,280 My mom would be one of the first people to tell you I am not a morning person. 265 00:16:37,280 --> 00:16:43,160 Matter of fact, my wife calls me bear because when I wake up, it is grunts and groans and 266 00:16:43,160 --> 00:16:46,720 is, you know, sounding like a Tim Allen show. 267 00:16:46,720 --> 00:16:47,720 Right. 268 00:16:47,720 --> 00:16:49,960 I am not a morning person whatsoever. 269 00:16:49,960 --> 00:16:54,680 The first hour or so it take that I have to get up and start moving. 270 00:16:54,680 --> 00:16:58,640 I just want to be left alone to wake up and just get going into my thing. 271 00:16:58,640 --> 00:17:01,480 My wife knows this very, very well. 272 00:17:01,480 --> 00:17:05,360 So if we have to get up in the morning, you know, early to go out and do something, you 273 00:17:05,360 --> 00:17:09,440 know, start running those errands, that sort of stuff, you know, because on those days 274 00:17:09,440 --> 00:17:13,640 when I don't have work and I don't have time to, you know, or I don't really get up and 275 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:18,960 get myself going before I go out into the world to now start talking to people and everything. 276 00:17:18,960 --> 00:17:23,680 But you know, what happens is I'll wake up, I get cleaned up, I get dressed and we head 277 00:17:23,680 --> 00:17:24,680 right out the door. 278 00:17:24,680 --> 00:17:27,800 I'm still in that process of getting going. 279 00:17:27,800 --> 00:17:34,760 And my wife knows that the best thing for me at that point is to get me some coffee. 280 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:36,080 Right. 281 00:17:36,080 --> 00:17:41,560 Even though we're on the road, some coffee and she'll try not to talk to me too much 282 00:17:41,560 --> 00:17:45,360 because she knows I'm not going to be very good at conversation at this point because 283 00:17:45,360 --> 00:17:49,520 I'm still revving up my, I am very much a swing shift and a night shift kind of guy. 284 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:53,600 I've never been an early day kind of person, unfortunately. 285 00:17:53,600 --> 00:17:57,800 You know, there's even though there's times I, you know, I really wish I was, that's not 286 00:17:57,800 --> 00:17:59,360 the way the Lord built me. 287 00:17:59,360 --> 00:18:00,480 And that's okay. 288 00:18:00,480 --> 00:18:03,520 That's because the Lord has other things in mind for me. 289 00:18:03,520 --> 00:18:04,520 Right. 290 00:18:04,520 --> 00:18:05,520 Just as he does for all of us. 291 00:18:05,520 --> 00:18:12,640 But that's just one example of many, you know, of how you learn to anticipate one another. 292 00:18:12,640 --> 00:18:13,640 Right. 293 00:18:13,640 --> 00:18:18,960 So moving on, you know, I could spend hours talking about the whole husband and wife thing, 294 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:24,640 you know, some people have it's a, we can, we can, we can spend a lot of time on it. 295 00:18:24,640 --> 00:18:27,920 We're going to, we're going to start kind of twisting that or winding that down though, 296 00:18:27,920 --> 00:18:32,440 as we're looking to other aspects of familial, familial life. 297 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:34,480 Say that five times real fast. 298 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:35,480 Familial life. 299 00:18:35,480 --> 00:18:36,480 My goodness. 300 00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:37,480 All right. 301 00:18:37,480 --> 00:18:41,440 So we're going to do that as we move into Ephesians chapter six now. 302 00:18:41,440 --> 00:18:46,840 So starting in Ephesians chapter six, verses one through three, the Bible says children. 303 00:18:46,840 --> 00:18:47,840 Yep. 304 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:48,840 We're looking at the kids now. 305 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:49,840 All right. 306 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:55,680 Children obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. 307 00:18:55,680 --> 00:19:03,280 Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise so that it 308 00:19:03,280 --> 00:19:09,440 may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on earth. 309 00:19:09,440 --> 00:19:15,960 So just as a husband and wife have a responsibility to one another, the same is there between 310 00:19:15,960 --> 00:19:17,800 parents and their children as well. 311 00:19:17,800 --> 00:19:18,800 Yes. 312 00:19:18,800 --> 00:19:22,600 Parents can be demanding and unreasonable and just downright unfair at times. 313 00:19:22,600 --> 00:19:23,600 Right? 314 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:27,240 We all know that we've all had parents, you know, or step parents or foster parents, but 315 00:19:27,240 --> 00:19:29,240 we've all had parents. 316 00:19:29,240 --> 00:19:34,280 However, children, children should still be obedient to their parents and they should 317 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:36,280 still submit to them. 318 00:19:36,280 --> 00:19:37,560 All right. 319 00:19:37,560 --> 00:19:41,760 Because parents, we need to be careful. 320 00:19:41,760 --> 00:19:46,320 We need to take care and we need to look out for our children as well, but we need to make 321 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:48,480 sure that we're doing it in love. 322 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:51,660 When we're angry, anger, you know, we talked about this in the past. 323 00:19:51,660 --> 00:19:54,820 We need to get, make sure that we have control over that so that we're not sinning and we're 324 00:19:54,820 --> 00:19:56,720 not taking things out on our kids. 325 00:19:56,720 --> 00:19:57,800 All right. 326 00:19:57,800 --> 00:20:03,680 Even when they're being disobedient, disrespectful and just an overall pain in the butt. 327 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:05,200 Right? 328 00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:10,160 I saw a meme the other day and as a parents and they were meeting with a teacher and it 329 00:20:10,160 --> 00:20:15,200 said, you know, your children really is my favorite when they aren't here. 330 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:17,320 All right. 331 00:20:17,320 --> 00:20:20,060 Sometimes it's hard to be a parent. 332 00:20:20,060 --> 00:20:21,200 It really is. 333 00:20:21,200 --> 00:20:26,500 However, how you treat and raise your child is how they will treat others when they go 334 00:20:26,500 --> 00:20:28,720 out into the world. 335 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:33,760 Proverbs 22 verse six, the Bible says, train up a child in the way he should go. 336 00:20:33,760 --> 00:20:37,880 And when he was old, he will not depart from parents. 337 00:20:37,880 --> 00:20:42,840 Your children are, are a reflection of you and your household. 338 00:20:42,840 --> 00:20:44,440 All right. 339 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:47,880 And you know, it's a reflection of how you've raised them. 340 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:55,600 So if they're disrespectful, disobedient, you know, little terrors, guess what? 341 00:20:55,600 --> 00:20:57,880 Whose fault is it? 342 00:20:57,880 --> 00:20:58,960 Yours. 343 00:20:58,960 --> 00:21:03,680 It is yours. 344 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:10,960 You know, because you as a parent have control over your, your kid's life. 345 00:21:10,960 --> 00:21:12,840 You know, some of them, Oh, I can't be there. 346 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:13,840 I have to work. 347 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:14,840 You know what? 348 00:21:14,840 --> 00:21:15,840 Guess what? 349 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,120 I spent years as a single parent. 350 00:21:19,120 --> 00:21:20,980 I understand. 351 00:21:20,980 --> 00:21:27,920 And I can also tell you if you're making excuses for your absence, that's just a bigger example 352 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:29,920 of how you are at fault. 353 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:36,120 Only you need to pray on that and look to fix that plan and simple. 354 00:21:36,120 --> 00:21:37,320 All right. 355 00:21:37,320 --> 00:21:43,000 And it's not just how you treat your kids and not, and it's not just how you're there 356 00:21:43,000 --> 00:21:45,080 for your kids. 357 00:21:45,080 --> 00:21:52,040 It is also about how you treat your spouse and how you are there for your spouse as well. 358 00:21:52,040 --> 00:21:53,840 All right. 359 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:59,640 There's a whole lot that goes into this, whether you're present or not, whether you treat people 360 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:01,640 with respect or not. 361 00:22:01,640 --> 00:22:05,160 If you take your anger out on them or you show them love. 362 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:06,560 All right. 363 00:22:06,560 --> 00:22:11,720 There's so many aspects that go into this, but like the Bible says, you train up your 364 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:17,680 kids and that's how they will go as they grow older. 365 00:22:17,680 --> 00:22:19,040 Right? 366 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,280 Whereas if you have wonderful kids, guess what? 367 00:22:21,280 --> 00:22:22,280 Congratulations. 368 00:22:22,280 --> 00:22:23,280 You've done a good job. 369 00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:24,280 You've done what the Lord's told you to do. 370 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:25,280 All right. 371 00:22:25,280 --> 00:22:27,960 Some of you on the other hand are in absolute denial about your kids. 372 00:22:27,960 --> 00:22:33,160 I will tell you this, as being someone who currently works in the public school system, 373 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:39,560 a lot of you are in total denial and you need to actually take a step back and do some evaluations, 374 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:44,920 some honest, sincere evaluation and you need to make some changes. 375 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:47,320 I will share that with you. 376 00:22:47,320 --> 00:22:49,200 Right now I saw it in healthcare. 377 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:53,000 I saw it years ago when I worked in law enforcement. 378 00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,360 There are some parents out there, maybe it's because we were the latch key kids. 379 00:22:56,360 --> 00:23:01,880 I don't know, but some of us really need to take a step back and do some evaluation. 380 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:03,760 Moving on though, rabbit trails here. 381 00:23:03,760 --> 00:23:05,800 All right. 382 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:11,880 All of this together though, if it seems familiar, it should be because it's actually referenced 383 00:23:11,880 --> 00:23:15,640 here at the beginning of chapter six here. 384 00:23:15,640 --> 00:23:17,840 What is it referencing? 385 00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:20,400 Well, quite simple. 386 00:23:20,400 --> 00:23:23,840 Deuteronomy chapter five verse 16. 387 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:27,240 So going all the way back to the 10 commandments, and that's why I'm saying it's the first 388 00:23:27,240 --> 00:23:36,240 commandment with a promise because it says, honor your father and your mother as the Lord 389 00:23:36,240 --> 00:23:42,360 your God has commanded you so that you may live long and that it may go well with you 390 00:23:42,360 --> 00:23:47,720 in the land the Lord your God is giving you. 391 00:23:47,720 --> 00:23:55,920 So this is talking about when the Jews were working their way back through, they're in 392 00:23:55,920 --> 00:23:59,080 the desert and Moses came down with the tablets and everything. 393 00:23:59,080 --> 00:24:02,320 This is one of the 10 commandments and it's the first one that actually had a promise. 394 00:24:02,320 --> 00:24:04,960 It wasn't just don't do this or do this. 395 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:08,560 It was do this so that this will happen. 396 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:09,560 All right. 397 00:24:09,560 --> 00:24:14,960 So it's explaining the importance of it, which as parents, that is a great example for us 398 00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:18,620 to take to heart because we shouldn't just tell our kids do this, don't do that. 399 00:24:18,620 --> 00:24:22,960 We should be explaining to them why they should or should not be doing things, right? 400 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:29,400 As part of being a parent, you know, in honoring and obeying here, you know, as we move along 401 00:24:29,400 --> 00:24:33,400 here, let's take a look at these two words because they are two different things. 402 00:24:33,400 --> 00:24:35,280 They're two very distinct things. 403 00:24:35,280 --> 00:24:40,440 Obeying is to do as one is told and we should all obey God. 404 00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:43,160 You know, that's part of our duty as Christians is to obey God. 405 00:24:43,160 --> 00:24:46,700 If you're a Christian, this is what you do, you know, to honor. 406 00:24:46,700 --> 00:24:53,000 On the other hand, it means to love and to respect, you know, it's to, you know, another 407 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:54,640 way of saying to cherish. 408 00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:56,080 All right. 409 00:24:56,080 --> 00:25:00,520 Children should obey their parents when they're young and still living under their ward. 410 00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:06,680 However, this isn't the case as they grow up and they move out. 411 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:09,860 You know, should they still obey their parents, you know, when their parents are trying to 412 00:25:09,860 --> 00:25:11,160 care for them? 413 00:25:11,160 --> 00:25:12,160 Yes. 414 00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,800 However, when a parent is abusive, guess what? 415 00:25:14,800 --> 00:25:16,800 The book stops there. 416 00:25:16,800 --> 00:25:21,000 When you become an adult, things change as well, don't they? 417 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:22,000 Right? 418 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,160 When you become an adult, things change drastically. 419 00:25:25,160 --> 00:25:32,080 If you look at 1 Corinthians chapter 13 verse 11, that's 1 Corinthians 13, 11, the Bible 420 00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:35,280 says, when I was a child, I spoke as a child. 421 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:36,760 I understood as a child. 422 00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,200 I thought as a child. 423 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:42,280 But when I became a man, I put away childish things. 424 00:25:42,280 --> 00:25:47,080 Meaning when you become an adult, things change and you take on certain responsibilities. 425 00:25:47,080 --> 00:25:48,520 You need to stop being a kid. 426 00:25:48,520 --> 00:25:49,520 You need to grow up. 427 00:25:49,520 --> 00:25:53,480 And let's face it, there's a lot of, you know, adults out there who still act as children 428 00:25:53,480 --> 00:25:56,840 and play with childish things that they need to put away. 429 00:25:56,840 --> 00:25:57,840 Right? 430 00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:02,800 You know, one of the things here is that does need to continue though, is to honor your 431 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:04,360 parents. 432 00:26:04,360 --> 00:26:06,840 To love, respect your parents. 433 00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:09,440 To cherish your parents. 434 00:26:09,440 --> 00:26:13,960 To love and respect them your entire life, even after they're gone. 435 00:26:13,960 --> 00:26:18,640 You still need to love, you still need to respect them. 436 00:26:18,640 --> 00:26:22,660 When they start getting older, you need to care for them when they can no longer care 437 00:26:22,660 --> 00:26:24,480 for themselves. 438 00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:26,760 Right? 439 00:26:26,760 --> 00:26:30,320 I've talked about this before in relation to military service and everything, as well 440 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:32,440 as being a first responder. 441 00:26:32,440 --> 00:26:37,880 Part of the heart of doing that is to be able to be there to serve people when they can't 442 00:26:37,880 --> 00:26:40,040 or will not take care of themselves. 443 00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:42,320 And the same thing comes to our parents. 444 00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:47,520 If you think about it, there are certain cultures where respecting and looking out for your 445 00:26:47,520 --> 00:26:49,960 elders is something of great importance. 446 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:53,920 You know, this is one of their most important things. 447 00:26:53,920 --> 00:26:56,800 All right? 448 00:26:56,800 --> 00:27:00,520 You think about it, you know, it's not like here in the States where a lot of elder people 449 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:05,400 are just tucked away into nursing homes and retirement villages and just kind of forgotten 450 00:27:05,400 --> 00:27:06,400 about. 451 00:27:06,400 --> 00:27:09,920 So let's face it, you know, that happens a lot. 452 00:27:09,920 --> 00:27:14,320 You know, in other countries, you know, and it does not come down to just a matter of 453 00:27:14,320 --> 00:27:15,320 money. 454 00:27:15,320 --> 00:27:18,120 It really doesn't because there are some places where they can afford it. 455 00:27:18,120 --> 00:27:21,720 However, what they do is they view the medical facilities as just that. 456 00:27:21,720 --> 00:27:24,320 They're there for the medical part of it. 457 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:30,280 If somebody doesn't need to be there for their daily living routines and everything, guess 458 00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:31,280 what? 459 00:27:31,280 --> 00:27:37,240 They stay home with the family and the children and the grandchildren take care of their elders. 460 00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:42,160 They're loved and respected to a much higher degree than what we see just here in this 461 00:27:42,160 --> 00:27:47,280 area and in many other countries, especially in Asian cultures. 462 00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:48,560 They love their elders. 463 00:27:48,560 --> 00:27:51,920 They take great care to look out for their elders. 464 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:59,220 And really, when you think about it, this is how Christians should treat everyone. 465 00:27:59,220 --> 00:28:07,400 Because when this happens, let me tell you, having a long life is no longer a curse, but 466 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:08,400 a blessing. 467 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:14,160 And let me tell you, if you're out there, you don't feel loved, you don't feel respected 468 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,160 and cherished. 469 00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:20,480 You know, for some of these people, having a long life is very much a curse. 470 00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:25,920 You know, that whole joke that's out there, you know, it's like, dad, did you forget about 471 00:28:25,920 --> 00:28:26,920 me? 472 00:28:26,920 --> 00:28:28,800 That is very real for some of these people. 473 00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:34,720 You know, very much, I encourage you, when you see your elders, show them respect, let 474 00:28:34,720 --> 00:28:37,360 them know that you see them, that you hear them, that they are loved. 475 00:28:37,360 --> 00:28:41,280 If you have a chance to talk with them, talk with them because they have many wonderful 476 00:28:41,280 --> 00:28:46,240 things to share from a generation that's quickly disappearing. 477 00:28:46,240 --> 00:28:48,760 All right? 478 00:28:48,760 --> 00:28:54,520 So like I said, when Christians treat people with this respect, with this love, when they 479 00:28:54,520 --> 00:29:00,780 honor people as they should, having a long life is not a curse. 480 00:29:00,780 --> 00:29:01,780 It is a blessing. 481 00:29:01,780 --> 00:29:03,780 All right. 482 00:29:03,780 --> 00:29:08,240 Continuing on in Ephesians 6 verse 4. 483 00:29:08,240 --> 00:29:09,240 All right. 484 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,440 And I know we're going to go a little bit longer here today, people. 485 00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,640 Bear with me though, we do need to get through this and I'll try not to go off on any more 486 00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:16,640 rabbit trails. 487 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:17,640 All right. 488 00:29:17,640 --> 00:29:24,320 So Ephesians 6 verse 4, the Bible says, fathers or parents, do not exasperate your children. 489 00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:29,320 Instead, bring them up in training and instruction of the Lord. 490 00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:32,880 These days, people, they seem to take great pride in upsetting others. 491 00:29:32,880 --> 00:29:36,520 The angrier they can make them, the better, especially when you look at social media, 492 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:37,720 it's like, oh, what can I do? 493 00:29:37,720 --> 00:29:41,640 Push your buttons today. 494 00:29:41,640 --> 00:29:44,680 People take great pride like, oh yeah, I ticked this guy off. 495 00:29:44,680 --> 00:29:47,680 Oh boy, they're pissed, right? 496 00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:51,880 You see these posts almost daily anymore. 497 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:57,600 And matter of fact, even to, they go along the lines of literally saying things like, 498 00:29:57,600 --> 00:30:00,280 if I haven't offended you yet, don't worry. 499 00:30:00,280 --> 00:30:02,120 I will. 500 00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:09,320 And that in itself, it's not a good mentality to have, especially when it comes to your 501 00:30:09,320 --> 00:30:11,720 children and vice versa. 502 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:19,320 Everything parents should be doing should be done in loving and empowering manners. 503 00:30:19,320 --> 00:30:25,640 Because you need to be building your children up, not just spiritually, but in how they 504 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,820 live. 505 00:30:28,820 --> 00:30:33,960 We should be setting the example as well. 506 00:30:33,960 --> 00:30:41,640 We should be setting the example for them just as Jesus did for us, all while leading 507 00:30:41,640 --> 00:30:44,080 them to Jesus. 508 00:30:44,080 --> 00:30:46,460 The world has to say, respect is earned. 509 00:30:46,460 --> 00:30:47,800 It's not given. 510 00:30:47,800 --> 00:30:53,920 However, you will never earn respect if you don't give it. 511 00:30:53,920 --> 00:31:00,000 And if you're not respecting anyone, I'm here to tell you, you don't love them as Jesus 512 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:01,000 did. 513 00:31:01,000 --> 00:31:08,840 You're not following one of the greatest commandments that's been put out there. 514 00:31:08,840 --> 00:31:14,480 You need to give respect, even if you don't get it. 515 00:31:14,480 --> 00:31:24,280 Moving on in Ephesians 6 verses 5 through 9, the Bible says, slaves obey your earthly 516 00:31:24,280 --> 00:31:31,240 masters with respect and fear and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. 517 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:38,640 Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but as slaves of Christ, 518 00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:42,200 doing the will of God from your heart. 519 00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:49,400 Serve wholeheartedly as if you were serving the Lord, not people, because you know that 520 00:31:49,400 --> 00:31:57,120 the Lord will reward each one for whatever good they do, whether they are slave or free. 521 00:31:57,120 --> 00:31:59,720 And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. 522 00:31:59,720 --> 00:32:05,700 Do not threaten them since you know that he who is both their master and yours in heaven 523 00:32:05,700 --> 00:32:10,600 and there is no favoritism within him. 524 00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:14,440 So slaves had a tremendous role to play in history. 525 00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,800 We've discussed this in the past. 526 00:32:16,800 --> 00:32:20,360 People would even put themselves in slavery to pay debts. 527 00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:21,360 We've gone on at length. 528 00:32:21,360 --> 00:32:24,480 We don't need to go into that today, especially for time's sake. 529 00:32:24,480 --> 00:32:27,800 However, this does apply to another part of our lives. 530 00:32:27,800 --> 00:32:32,400 When you look at this, it applies to us as employees and employers as well. 531 00:32:32,400 --> 00:32:37,240 Now I do like the way it puts it here, not only to win their favor when their eye is 532 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:38,240 on you. 533 00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,480 So don't be a kiss butt, right? 534 00:32:40,480 --> 00:32:43,800 Don't be a kiss ass, don't be brown nosing or any of that kind of stuff. 535 00:32:43,800 --> 00:32:44,800 You got harsh words. 536 00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:49,120 Remember I told you we're talking hard today, you know, not pulling any punches or anything. 537 00:32:49,120 --> 00:32:58,280 Let me put it in real talk, you know, because let's face it, this is the way we talk, right? 538 00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:01,960 People they like to demand top dollar. 539 00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:08,560 However, they demand that top dollar for poor work and even worse ethics. 540 00:33:08,560 --> 00:33:12,040 People want to be the boss, yet when they're asked to do something extra, they like to 541 00:33:12,040 --> 00:33:13,040 throw things out. 542 00:33:13,040 --> 00:33:16,640 They're like, oh, that's not my scope of work. 543 00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:18,320 That's not what I do. 544 00:33:18,320 --> 00:33:24,520 And yes, there are those managers, supervisors, etc. who are just really poor at their positions. 545 00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:30,160 You know, failing upwards, it is very much a thing in the world that we live in. 546 00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:34,480 You know, it's the whole thing of who you know versus what you know. 547 00:33:34,480 --> 00:33:41,160 And people do get into positions based off of that a lot more than they should, right? 548 00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:46,520 You know, they they do, they network, they play their connections, which it is unfortunate 549 00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:51,040 because unfortunately when that happens, you look at our education system today, I can 550 00:33:51,040 --> 00:33:55,360 actually, you know, well, we won't go to that job. 551 00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,040 You look at our education system today, though, and you can see where a lot of people have 552 00:33:59,040 --> 00:34:02,560 failed upwards, where a lot of people have gotten into positions based off of who they 553 00:34:02,560 --> 00:34:04,600 know, not what they know. 554 00:34:04,600 --> 00:34:10,240 And unfortunately, that has put running down into the ground where we don't see the success 555 00:34:10,240 --> 00:34:15,440 that other states, other countries, you know, do have. 556 00:34:15,440 --> 00:34:16,440 Right. 557 00:34:16,440 --> 00:34:18,840 Because we don't have the right people in the right places. 558 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:19,840 Yeah. 559 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,720 You know, I digress, you know, that's but it's not just there. 560 00:34:22,720 --> 00:34:23,720 We see that everywhere. 561 00:34:23,720 --> 00:34:24,920 We see that in health care. 562 00:34:24,920 --> 00:34:28,680 We see that in business across the board. 563 00:34:28,680 --> 00:34:34,680 You know, you would be hard pressed to find very many organizations out there where something 564 00:34:34,680 --> 00:34:40,480 like this hasn't happened and doesn't continue to happen outside of small business. 565 00:34:40,480 --> 00:34:41,480 Right. 566 00:34:41,480 --> 00:34:47,320 And even small businesses, there are some that are impacted as well. 567 00:34:47,320 --> 00:34:50,640 So failing upwards is very much a thing. 568 00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:56,280 You know, there are people with tremendous resumes, you know, and great recommendations, 569 00:34:56,280 --> 00:35:00,360 and they get passed over for other employees with little to no experience, but they're 570 00:35:00,360 --> 00:35:03,160 friends with, you know, the powers that be. 571 00:35:03,160 --> 00:35:04,160 It happens. 572 00:35:04,160 --> 00:35:10,920 However, as Christians, the way we respond should be higher. 573 00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:14,600 It should be better than what it is. 574 00:35:14,600 --> 00:35:20,740 God has put each of us in a position for a reason and no job is meaningless. 575 00:35:20,740 --> 00:35:22,920 No job should be looked down on. 576 00:35:22,920 --> 00:35:29,560 And the way we approach our jobs and the way we do our work should be as if Jesus was our 577 00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:35,240 manager is that that's who we were directly respond, respond, reporting to at that job. 578 00:35:35,240 --> 00:35:40,200 Because in the scheme of life, if you think about it, he really is and hit and in his 579 00:35:40,200 --> 00:35:43,520 eyes, we are all equal. 580 00:35:43,520 --> 00:35:50,720 Sadly, many of us treat our work like we do the church. 581 00:35:50,720 --> 00:35:52,800 Right. 582 00:35:52,800 --> 00:36:01,440 We show up, we give minimal effort, and then we leave and we put it behind us until we 583 00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:02,440 go back to work. 584 00:36:02,440 --> 00:36:06,160 Unless we're complaining or griping about something. 585 00:36:06,160 --> 00:36:07,160 Yeah. 586 00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:13,320 At the end of it, we demand that great payout at the end is if we are the best employee 587 00:36:13,320 --> 00:36:17,360 that that company has, like they cannot function without us. 588 00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:18,360 Right. 589 00:36:18,360 --> 00:36:23,360 So thinking about that and how we approach work. 590 00:36:23,360 --> 00:36:29,800 Now try to imagine how Jesus views you when you're at work. 591 00:36:29,800 --> 00:36:33,800 Right. 592 00:36:33,800 --> 00:36:40,360 Your work, your income, your coworkers, your customers, clients, patients, et cetera. 593 00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:42,160 They're all blessings. 594 00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:47,020 Yet how do the vast majority of us go through the day? 595 00:36:47,020 --> 00:36:53,260 How do you treat them and how do you talk about them? 596 00:36:53,260 --> 00:36:56,400 Probably not as a Christian should. 597 00:36:56,400 --> 00:36:59,880 You know, your friends sure, but anybody outside of that little circle? 598 00:36:59,880 --> 00:37:02,520 Probably a bit more like a spoiled brat or worse. 599 00:37:02,520 --> 00:37:03,520 Right. 600 00:37:03,520 --> 00:37:04,940 When I was growing up, I had a classmate. 601 00:37:04,940 --> 00:37:07,280 His dad was a prominent doctor in town. 602 00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:08,280 All right. 603 00:37:08,280 --> 00:37:12,620 His parents had divorced, his siblings had moved away with his mom while he stayed behind 604 00:37:12,620 --> 00:37:13,620 with his dad. 605 00:37:13,620 --> 00:37:17,240 There's two of them. 606 00:37:17,240 --> 00:37:25,220 Well graduation was coming up and his dad decided to do something nice for him. 607 00:37:25,220 --> 00:37:26,960 He bought him a brand new car. 608 00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:30,340 He took his truck, traded it in, bought him a brand spanking new car. 609 00:37:30,340 --> 00:37:33,720 Now most of us would be pretty excited about that. 610 00:37:33,720 --> 00:37:34,720 Right. 611 00:37:34,720 --> 00:37:39,600 Even a new used car, you know, is something that we still get excited about, isn't it? 612 00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:42,440 Well my classmate, he didn't want that. 613 00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:47,800 Instead an argument ensued because he did not want the car. 614 00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:55,240 Instead he wanted his truck back that had already been traded in with a new sound system. 615 00:37:55,240 --> 00:38:02,240 He got so heated over this that when his dad was leaving for work, he went to the gun cabinet, 616 00:38:02,240 --> 00:38:11,920 took out a rifle, loaded it and then proceeded to fire it and unload it on his dad as he 617 00:38:11,920 --> 00:38:15,720 was backing out of the driveway to go to work. 618 00:38:15,720 --> 00:38:20,680 The car came to a halt. 619 00:38:20,680 --> 00:38:27,760 Realizing what he did, he called 911, began CPR. 620 00:38:27,760 --> 00:38:30,080 However it was too late. 621 00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,120 His dad was beyond life saving measures. 622 00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:34,640 He was dead. 623 00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:42,520 And my classmate missed out on a bright future and spent time in state prison instead. 624 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:48,640 An act of anger led to an act of sin which took him down an entirely different path. 625 00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:49,640 Why do I tell you this? 626 00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:51,120 Why do I bring this up? 627 00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:52,400 What's the point? 628 00:38:52,400 --> 00:38:54,040 Well I'll tell you. 629 00:38:54,040 --> 00:39:00,440 Every time we take our blessings, no matter how great or how small we see them, every 630 00:39:00,440 --> 00:39:07,360 time we take our blessings and we bash them, we're driving those nails into Jesus. 631 00:39:07,360 --> 00:39:12,040 Every time we act out in hate, we're putting him back up on that cross. 632 00:39:12,040 --> 00:39:17,320 As Christians we are held to a higher standard and we need to see our fellow Christians and 633 00:39:17,320 --> 00:39:21,000 our fellow man as equals and stop looking down on them. 634 00:39:21,000 --> 00:39:23,920 We need to stop talking down on them. 635 00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:29,740 We need to lift one another up and empower one another in Christ. 636 00:39:29,740 --> 00:39:34,280 We need to stop demanding others respect us when we aren't treating each other with the 637 00:39:34,280 --> 00:39:37,160 same respect. 638 00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:39,800 Remember we talked about the golden rule before. 639 00:39:39,800 --> 00:39:47,440 We need to submit to one another in love and in Christ. 640 00:39:47,440 --> 00:39:57,360 And that, that right there is the very heart of the church. 641 00:39:57,360 --> 00:39:58,840 That's our time. 642 00:39:58,840 --> 00:40:01,120 Remember you are loved, you are blessed. 643 00:40:01,120 --> 00:40:03,040 Go and be the church. 644 00:40:03,040 --> 00:40:05,800 We'll catch you next time. 645 00:40:05,800 --> 00:40:10,400 Thank you all for joining us here today at Healing Scars with Pastor Burton. 646 00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:16,080 Please like, subscribe and share our podcast on any platform it is that you tune into us 647 00:40:16,080 --> 00:40:17,220 on. 648 00:40:17,220 --> 00:40:24,560 If you do have any questions, any prayer requests or would like to know more about our ministry, 649 00:40:24,560 --> 00:40:34,680 you can find us on our website at BeTheLightSanctuary.org or on Facebook at BeTheLightSanctuary. 650 00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:39,800 You can also find how to contact us there whether it's direct message or email. 651 00:40:39,800 --> 00:40:42,360 We look forward to hearing from you all. 652 00:40:42,360 --> 00:40:58,000 God bless.