1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:05,200 When I met it myself I say sorry me it's episode 43 2 00:00:22,200 --> 00:00:27,440 Hello and welcome back to the rena 100 show a show where I rena 100 talk about a theme 3 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:34,100 Every week that has been on my mind or hasn't maybe I just maybe I just came up with it 4 00:00:34,760 --> 00:00:38,440 Who knows what I do? Do you do I we don't know? 5 00:00:39,400 --> 00:00:44,440 But either way welcome back happier here, and if you've been liking what you've been hearing, please 6 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:47,040 Give it a like follow 7 00:00:47,040 --> 00:00:51,960 reviews five stars on whatever podcast form you're listening to 8 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:55,560 That would be really great 9 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:57,280 for me 10 00:00:57,280 --> 00:00:59,280 So thank you in advance 11 00:01:00,040 --> 00:01:05,400 So down to business the theme this week is us versus them 12 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:14,000 very common thing occurring in human life feels very tribal to me 13 00:01:15,800 --> 00:01:19,920 Sports I feel like all of group sports is founded on this 14 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:24,200 Instinct that human beings have to divide us into groups of us versus them 15 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:27,640 politics as well red versus blue 16 00:01:29,120 --> 00:01:35,840 Toronto versus Montreal no one's gonna relate to that one New York versus Boston. That's how they do it 17 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:41,560 That's not how we do it. These are much more benign examples of something that I think comes from a very 18 00:01:42,800 --> 00:01:44,040 violent 19 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:48,480 Instinct from back in our tribal days although obviously I'm no anthropologist 20 00:01:48,480 --> 00:01:54,240 I've just watched it happen so much in my lifetime, and I've watched people 21 00:01:54,920 --> 00:01:57,560 crave it in the face of ambiguity and 22 00:01:58,720 --> 00:02:04,160 Why why haven't we moved past this oversimplification of groups of people? 23 00:02:05,080 --> 00:02:08,080 Why can't we let a situation? 24 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:13,920 Be complicated and have gray area. Why can't we say? 25 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:16,720 has Donald Trump 26 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:19,960 Horribly said there are good guys on both sides 27 00:02:21,880 --> 00:02:27,200 Why is it so much more complicated or sorry why is it so much more 28 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:29,760 easy 29 00:02:29,760 --> 00:02:33,360 To just be like they're bad. We're good and 30 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:36,280 of story and 31 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:41,240 Instead of doing the hard thing which is being like 32 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,120 Hey 33 00:02:43,120 --> 00:02:46,800 There are people on either side of this issue 34 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:51,880 that are trying to make it better and get together and 35 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:59,320 Maybe we should support that instead of fueling the fire of disagreement between these elements 36 00:02:59,320 --> 00:03:01,640 I'm keeping this very vague because I 37 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:07,960 Have no appetite to get into political discourse in my life ever again 38 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:15,240 for precisely the reason that people tend to their emotions rule as much as they're speaking in intellectual terms 39 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,240 they're coming from an emotional place and 40 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:24,520 and it and it generally leads to more anger and more hate more violence and 41 00:03:25,400 --> 00:03:31,960 Accomplishes exactly the opposite of what they want and I find that really ironic too that and I'm trying to remind myself right now in 42 00:03:31,960 --> 00:03:35,000 the haze of everything that's going on on social media that 43 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:42,520 Deep down people are coming. I hope from a place of just trying to help and just trying to ease pain 44 00:03:43,040 --> 00:03:46,720 and just wanting there to be less pain in the world and so 45 00:03:47,240 --> 00:03:50,840 even if it's translating into a place of oversimplification or 46 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:52,960 rage 47 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,080 Which are both not helpful in my opinion 48 00:03:58,640 --> 00:04:03,000 And some would say that rage is helpful and who am I to say who am I to disagree 49 00:04:03,000 --> 00:04:05,000 Maybe it has been in the past 50 00:04:05,520 --> 00:04:08,960 But to me, it's like if there's a conflict and you're adding rage 51 00:04:08,960 --> 00:04:15,440 I don't see how that does anything other than expand the vibe of conflict generally 52 00:04:16,960 --> 00:04:23,720 Which is the opposite of what we want if we want less people to get hurt, right? I don't know. I don't have any answers 53 00:04:23,720 --> 00:04:25,720 I'm just talking like I do because 54 00:04:26,280 --> 00:04:31,160 That's my podcast and I I'll cry if I want to alright 55 00:04:31,160 --> 00:04:36,600 But I also noticed this in the face of COVID that people just craved someone to blame 56 00:04:37,160 --> 00:04:40,920 When in reality or who knows the real reality 57 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:48,840 But the general accepted reality about COVID is that no one's to blame. It was just a fucking shitty thing that happened to all of us 58 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:53,800 And people wanted to blame. I mean racists wanted to blame 59 00:04:54,360 --> 00:04:58,200 China and a lot of us wanted to blame Donald Trump 60 00:04:58,200 --> 00:05:00,680 You know, but in the end it was a virus 61 00:05:01,400 --> 00:05:09,800 Why am I bringing up Trump so much? I really don't like thinking about that guy. But anyway, he's just he is what he is, you know 62 00:05:10,840 --> 00:05:13,400 He's bigly. Okay, I gotta stop 63 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:15,800 But 64 00:05:15,800 --> 00:05:21,560 You know you want to blame why do we want to blame right away? Well because then 65 00:05:22,600 --> 00:05:25,960 It makes us it assures us. I think it's a good thing 66 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:30,680 It makes us it it assures us I think it gives us a sense of reassurance that we are not responsible 67 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:34,840 That we are not the ones causing the pain as long as they 68 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:39,800 Are bad and we are good then we are not 69 00:05:40,660 --> 00:05:41,960 responsible 70 00:05:41,960 --> 00:05:43,640 for the pain 71 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:45,880 And it's misplaced guilt a lot of the time 72 00:05:46,840 --> 00:05:51,320 When you know that these people halfway around the world have been suffering for a long time and you've done nothing 73 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,960 And suddenly there's a flare-up and for a week. It's very cool to post about it on social media 74 00:05:56,840 --> 00:06:03,000 You need feel the need to post a lot about it because you need to rid yourself of that guilt that you have done 75 00:06:03,560 --> 00:06:08,200 Nothing to help these people that you say you suddenly care so much about 76 00:06:09,880 --> 00:06:14,520 Oh, yeah, I said getting angry isn't helpful and i've already feeling myself 77 00:06:15,320 --> 00:06:18,680 Doing that but that's the easy thing getting angry is easy 78 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:21,720 Actually helping that's what's hard 79 00:06:23,000 --> 00:06:29,640 Actually looking into the face of the abyss into all the gray elements that go into this into the fact that every single person 80 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:34,680 Is a different person from every other person and that they don't just amass 81 00:06:35,240 --> 00:06:37,560 Easily into these groups of evil and good 82 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:43,960 And working with people who are doing the hard thing the people who have actually been 83 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:50,360 Hurt by this and are still trying to work with the other side to build a better future 84 00:06:50,520 --> 00:06:57,000 Those are the people you need to support not the people who want to keep hurting each other. Okay 85 00:06:57,880 --> 00:07:00,440 Ay, ay, ay, I gotta take my own advice about this 86 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:06,440 And yeah, and the people who are shouting the loudest on social media are the ones with the shortest term memory, aren't they? 87 00:07:07,640 --> 00:07:12,440 Right, they're gonna forget about it next week. They're acting like this is their whole life their whole purpose 88 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:14,440 We saw this during blm 89 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,680 That that it's just that their whole 90 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:24,760 Life is about this right now and next week when will smith slaps somebody else. They're not going to give a shit anymore 91 00:07:25,240 --> 00:07:28,200 Because suddenly it's not going to be the story, you know 92 00:07:29,080 --> 00:07:32,040 I mean we saw this with ukraine too. Nobody's talking about it anymore 93 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:37,880 It's whatever the opposite is of fair weather friends when something goes wrong. They're there 94 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:41,560 But they're not really there. It's a social media thing 95 00:07:41,560 --> 00:07:45,960 But so I guess it is fair weather friends. They're there when everybody's searching for it 96 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,560 You're there when when the algorithm is pointing towards it 97 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:57,160 And then suddenly when the algorithm takes its faceless robotic giant cyclops eye away from this issue 98 00:07:57,720 --> 00:07:59,720 So shall you 99 00:08:01,640 --> 00:08:06,460 And I just want I just want people to remember that people are people 100 00:08:06,460 --> 00:08:10,640 That's the whole take take this is a whole 101 00:08:11,260 --> 00:08:14,940 I heard one story on tiktok amid all the bloodshed 102 00:08:15,900 --> 00:08:18,380 And all the pain that has gone on 103 00:08:19,660 --> 00:08:21,660 Where there was one 104 00:08:22,060 --> 00:08:27,980 Person who came into someone else's house and that woman thought her and her children were threatened 105 00:08:29,100 --> 00:08:34,380 And she was scared and he said i'm not going to hurt you and she was immediately relieved 106 00:08:34,380 --> 00:08:37,140 bananas on her counter. 107 00:08:37,140 --> 00:08:40,580 And he asked her, can I have one of the bananas? 108 00:08:40,580 --> 00:08:42,540 And she was like, sure. 109 00:08:42,540 --> 00:08:46,620 Yeah, you can have one of the bananas. 110 00:08:46,620 --> 00:08:48,060 And then that was it. 111 00:08:48,060 --> 00:08:51,980 That was the whole confrontation between them. 112 00:08:51,980 --> 00:08:55,620 And it's just everybody likes bananas. 113 00:08:59,620 --> 00:09:01,860 I don't know. 114 00:09:01,860 --> 00:09:05,780 I just want us to remember that we're all just people right now. 115 00:09:05,780 --> 00:09:08,540 And that the psychopaths are not the majority. 116 00:09:12,460 --> 00:09:16,260 And then there's another story which is deeply disturbing to me. 117 00:09:16,260 --> 00:09:18,420 Well, not deeply, deeply disturbing. 118 00:09:18,420 --> 00:09:19,380 I don't know. 119 00:09:19,380 --> 00:09:22,760 Just the irony of this, that I saw a religious person 120 00:09:22,760 --> 00:09:28,220 on a TikTok who was saying the first three quarters of his video 121 00:09:28,220 --> 00:09:30,500 was so comforting. 122 00:09:30,500 --> 00:09:32,420 He was like, we just need to pray. 123 00:09:32,420 --> 00:09:34,900 Everybody just needs our prayers right now. 124 00:09:34,900 --> 00:09:36,300 We've got to support each other. 125 00:09:36,300 --> 00:09:37,460 We've got to bring the vibes. 126 00:09:37,460 --> 00:09:39,780 And I was like, yes, yes. 127 00:09:39,780 --> 00:09:42,780 And then he was like, and anyone that goes against God 128 00:09:42,780 --> 00:09:46,100 is going to be swallowed by the earth. 129 00:09:46,100 --> 00:09:49,500 And they'll get what's coming to them. 130 00:09:49,500 --> 00:09:52,300 And I was like, what, bro? 131 00:09:52,300 --> 00:09:58,460 You were so chill for so much of this video. 132 00:09:58,460 --> 00:10:00,620 But then that's the yin and the yang. 133 00:10:00,620 --> 00:10:04,060 It's like the whole side is white until that little dot of like, 134 00:10:04,060 --> 00:10:07,060 what the fuck? 135 00:10:07,060 --> 00:10:10,820 So I challenge everybody listening to just sit 136 00:10:10,820 --> 00:10:13,940 in the shit of ambiguity. 137 00:10:13,940 --> 00:10:17,260 Try for the sake of humanity. 138 00:10:17,260 --> 00:10:20,780 If you really want to help, let it be complicated. 139 00:10:20,780 --> 00:10:23,300 Let people be complicated. 140 00:10:23,300 --> 00:10:26,500 And just try to support the vibe. 141 00:10:26,500 --> 00:10:27,740 Try to support the bridge. 142 00:10:27,740 --> 00:10:29,700 Try to support the coming together. 143 00:10:29,700 --> 00:10:32,220 Try to support the people that are actually 144 00:10:32,220 --> 00:10:37,540 affected that are doing the hard work of rapprochement. 145 00:10:37,540 --> 00:10:40,700 Rapprochement. 146 00:10:40,700 --> 00:10:44,620 And just be kind to yourself. 147 00:10:44,620 --> 00:10:46,380 You're not responsible. 148 00:10:46,380 --> 00:10:50,340 And you don't need to take a side to know that. 149 00:10:50,340 --> 00:10:53,380 It's not your fault that all these crazy things are 150 00:10:53,380 --> 00:10:53,900 happening. 151 00:10:56,500 --> 00:10:57,020 All right. 152 00:10:57,020 --> 00:10:58,340 Well, that felt good for me. 153 00:10:58,340 --> 00:11:00,100 I hope it did for you. 154 00:11:00,100 --> 00:11:00,980 Have a good week. 155 00:11:00,980 --> 00:11:27,060 Ah can you hear it?