Hello, everyone.
Welcome back to another episode of Wholesome Black Girl podcast.
I'm your host, Kayla.
We have a special guest, Miss Tati.
And we have this birthday girl, Kamri.
This is the birthday episode.
Woo, woo, tour season.
Okay, so we can start by doing our first segment that we always do, Life Be Life-ing.
Yep.
You know, just giving us a rundown on what's going on, how y'all been feeling.
Kam, you can start.
So my life has really changed.
Probably like a week before my birthday.
I'm not going to get too into details.
I'm going to say it changed drastically.
I'm not going to talk about it until it glazes over.
But it was like a change of events in my life that really like, surprisingly, I should really be scared.
But I'm more so just like anxious about it.
Also, I had a therapy session today before I came here.
And I don't want to cry.
But like me and my therapist is part ways now.
And it's kind of making me sad because I don't know, you build that connection with your therapist.
It's just like you don't want to go to nobody else because like they already know everything about you.
So you don't want to start over with a whole nother person.
But basically, we part ways because she working in a trauma unit now.
So she really got enough time for like for like private practice.
I think that's what it's called.
Yeah.
Private practice.
She don't got enough time for it.
So yeah, that's what my life has been.
Also, I've been I try and jigs nothing or anything or like ruin anything.
But I've been dating around and I've been.
No, I'm going to shut the fuck up.
Shut the fuck up.
I'm going to shut the fuck up.
But that's really where I'm in life.
I'm about to move soon.
Yeah.
How about y'all?
Go ahead, Tati.
I've been chilling.
Dating life still non-existent.
But you know what?
It's OK because the sex life is there.
OK.
I know that's motherfucking.
But yeah, you know, just trying not to not to end it all.
But it's OK.
It's OK.
I'm still here.
Um.
I'm sick as fuck.
I'm sick as fuck right now.
The way she hit that um.
You know, every time I don't I don't know what I don't know what's going on.
I'm really confused right now.
As always, I'm doing a lot of chaotic stuff.
Who cha?
A lot of chaotic, a lot of chaos that I'm starting because I'm bored.
Um.
Hopefully I ain't fucked nothing up.
But we will see in the foreseeable future.
Damn.
You know, I mean, I mean, I always act like I don't give a fuck because most of the time I don't.
But when it comes to like dating and stuff like that, I really give a fuck way too much.
And there's that.
So, yeah, I feel like I was at that point when I was dating people like I gave a fuck too much and they always just like, I don't care no more.
Yeah, I don't.
Yo, I shouldn't even be saying this.
I've been lying to everything.
Yo, everybody get a different time to you.
A nigga had he I ain't speak to him forever.
Just stop talking or whatever.
He called me. He's like, so you ain't fuck with nobody else?
Nope.
I was there.
Nope.
What if he watched this?
I don't give a fuck.
Whole time I got fucked last night.
Good night.
Yo, me and my day in life, I'll say I've built up my roster again.
So I'm happy about that.
I got like four niggas on my roster.
Summer on the way.
And niggas is just coming.
Put me back in the motherfucking game, coach.
OK, I don't even know what game we playing.
I don't know what game we playing.
You don't want to build up a roster like.
Please don't get me in trouble on this fucking podcast.
I'm like, Cameron.
Please don't get me dragged from point A to point B because I don't have time.
OK.
So wait, let's talk about because we mean you had a conversation about dating creatives, right?
And how the Philly creative scene I've realized is a very fucking small.
You all fuck each other and call each other bro and sis.
It's really insane.
I'm scared.
I can't ever like.
Once I finish with this.
See, this is why you don't date creatives.
I've never.
Tati really don't date them though.
She really don't.
They all fuck each other.
Like literally, they all fuck each other.
You could be in the same room.
Yo, they be yo, they be oh my God, I haven't seen you in so long.
What do you what do you mean?
What do you mean?
And yo, I swear to God, it's so chaotic.
And it's just like as soon as the thing that I hate is that and this is because me and Cam have just got we just got here.
We just got a couple.
We just I mean, we started this like what six, seven months ago, but we just started like popping like the last month or two.
Right.
When they catch new fresh meat, they all they all want it.
And and they say they say the same thing to you every single time.
Like, oh, yeah, you won't be around.
Yeah.
You won't be around.
So I just don't be around where you at.
Yeah, like you won't be around.
And that's what I that's what I really like.
And I just be like, I'll be sitting there like, oh, really?
Oh, thank you.
I really don't like we really low key can we really don't be around.
No, we don't.
We don't be around.
But it's like it seems real predatory sometimes when they say it.
Yeah, it do.
I'm not going to lie to the niggas that said that shit out they mouth to me.
I sighed I sighed at you.
Yeah, I always sighed.
I don't want to sit there like, oh, you don't be around.
Because they give nobody know who you are and you don't know who I'm fucking on.
So we can keep things separate, which is cool.
Like, keep shit separate.
But another thing I don't like about they and creators is y'all have the nerve for y'all to be so slutty.
Y'all have the nerve to be possessive.
Like, they don't want you to fuck nobody, but they can fuck every female photographer, videographer, poet, screenwriter, digital artist, graphic designer.
You, you motherfucking David.
You, guitarist, bassist, rapper, singer, A&R.
You could really do your big one, but I can't do mine.
Yeah, it's really insane to me.
It really is.
Also, I want to talk about like how it's a particular type of creative.
They're very stuck up and they feel like, huh?
Pompous, very pretentious.
Yeah, very.
I was just talking about this with somebody actually.
People who went to CAPA.
Y'all motherfucking suck.
Yeah.
People who went to CAPA and we in KELA, we really just realized this because again, we just got in the scene for real, for real.
They think because maybe you didn't go to CAPA or perform art school period that your opinions or anything is invalid or you don't know what the fuck you're talking about.
And it's really crazy to me.
I was just talking about this with my sister who actually went to CAPA and she's like, yeah, that's why I don't go to creative events no more because people who go to CAPA really think that they're better than you.
They do.
And the shit is really crazy because a lot of them didn't really do that well in school and couldn't even manage to like further their education.
Maybe use some words like nuance and intricacies so they can seem deep.
Y'all get on my fucking nerves.
Oh, and don't let them be a singer.
Oh, bitch.
Inflections.
I swear.
And then I feel like they kind of look down on us sometimes because you know how we're like a sex positive podcast.
We're very sex positive.
Me, I like to say I'm very ghetto fabulous.
I feel like we're both ratchet.
We're both ratchet in our own right.
They look down at us like, oh my God, like what the fuck.
And on top of that, because we podcasters too.
Yeah.
So it's like, bitch, are you mad?
Because my pussy pops so hard.
You're down.
They treating us when we go in these spaces, they literally do look down on us.
They look us up and down.
They do.
And then also it's like what a lot of them, it's like they always wearing designer and shit like that.
And Cam and I really just be on our own shit.
Like whatever I like.
For real.
I like and I'm a fucking wear that shit bitch.
You know what?
It's getting a little personal.
I was about to say something, but I had to like hold it back because I don't want it to get too personal.
I don't want it to get too spicy here.
I've never been a designer type of girl.
Like I pull up everywhere and some leggings and a shirt.
I'll be looking fine as shit in my sheen and my Fashion Nova.
Okay.
Please.
I don't care.
And that's the thing.
Like.
Our ologies is fucking us up.
Oh my God.
Anyway, that's what I get for talking shit.
God don't like ugly.
But y'all are uglier.
Anyway, that's why you'd be struggling to get more than a thousand views on your reels.
Oh, Kella, you really going there?
I just had to get that one.
Yeah, we had to get it out because they for the most part, I'd like to say, I don't want to say that not that all the creatives are like they look down on us.
But there are some that are really supportive of us.
And they really do love us.
And we really do appreciate you.
We really do appreciate y'all.
But we've been in spaces where like the energy is just like standoffish.
Yeah, just because of what we do, just because we're podcasters.
They think we're like messy or I don't know.
I mean, and we do have the tendency to be messy.
But also, this is what I feel.
I feel like you niggas do shit to us and then you expect us not to respond.
Bitch.
And that's the shit that really bothers me.
And then also like that's really what it is.
Like y'all will sit there and treat us like shit.
And I'm not allowed to talk about my experience.
And if I do, it comes across as messy.
But you know what?
Let me shut the fuck up.
A little too personal.
Like y'all like especially when they're older, like the younger the younger Jordans, like they'd be pretty cool.
I'm not going to lie.
Like for sure, it'd be the younger ones is cool as shit.
Excuse me.
Like y'all be cool.
But once you get like 25 and up.
Yep, pretty much.
I had somebody tell me that podcasting is not creative.
Now, I'm like how?
Because you have to literally come up with segments.
That's very creative.
Come up with segments.
Come up with like tag lines.
You got to keep people engaged.
You got to keep people engaged for real.
And you got to also come up with topics that are relevant or topics that other podcasters are not talking about.
So how is that not creative?
Somebody let me know.
But I find it interesting.
And not everybody has a sense of humor.
I'm a funny ass bitch.
Exactly.
I really am funny.
And my funniness, across the board.
Like I can make babies laugh.
She really can.
For real.
I can make babies laugh.
I can make old people laugh.
I can make everybody laugh.
Because I got a joke for everybody.
Yep.
So fuck you bitches.
I just find it interesting.
And I posted about this.
I find it interesting how it's considered creative if you're like, if you're super transparent in your music or even with your art.
But if it's podcasting, it's just like, it's messy.
I can't be transparent in...
If Chris Brown can scream Karushi's name in that fucking song, I'm pretty sure we can give a nigga a fucking nickname.
No, real shit.
And talk about how they fucked us over.
Maybe y'all need to just stop like playing with bitches.
Because if you play with me, I'm going to talk about it.
I don't give a fuck.
And I'm going to put a nickname on it.
Yank.
Just stop.
Just stop with that shit.
Like for real.
But let's get into a different topic.
Can't look.
This is getting a little too personal and spicy up in here.
Fuck it.
I don't know what you want to talk about next.
All right.
So I guess we could do a wholesome talk.
Especially since it is about you.
So I want to know how you have been...
Like how has your self-love journey been going?
Like within your like 24th year around?
The sun.
I feel like I've been doing like a bunch of shadow work.
That's like my favorite fucking phrase, shadow work.
But I've been doing like a bunch of shadow work and just realizing my worth more and what I deserve.
Not only when it comes to dating, but even myself.
Like it'll be days sometimes where I eat once a day.
And I'm like, do you really deserve that bitch to be eating once a day?
And it's like, no, you don't deserve that.
So I've been like changing around like my appetite and stuff like that.
And I've really been incorporating...
And this is going to sound weird to some people, but like I was talking to my therapist about this.
Like masturbation, incorporating masturbation into like your self-love journey.
That's like very important because it's like when you're not getting it from somebody, you got to give it to yourself.
So I don't want to...
I mean, you don't have to, but...
Yeah, you don't have to. You don't have to.
But me, like I'm like, I be horny.
I be very horny.
So I've been using like Rose Kwan.
I don't know.
I just been like just paying attention to me and doing more things for me.
I just like to get myself out on dates and stuff like that.
So that's where I'm at.
Okay.
I mean, how has incorporated masturbation in your self-love journey?
How has that changed the trajectory of like you, how you feel about yourself?
I feel like...
Because we be having a conversation about sex appeal a lot.
And I feel like when you love yourself more, like your sex appeal kind of...
It exudes sometimes in your energy.
Like even it comes through, like your confidence.
And then some pictures and stuff like that.
So I feel like it's kind of helped me with that a little bit.
And I also feel more connected to my body.
I feel way more connected to my body.
I know more of like what I like and what I dislike.
Like I'm figuring that out along the way.
So I would say that.
All right. So my next question is like, what are some things...
What are five things that you learned over the course of like your year?
Not like from January to now, but your personal year.
Oh, 23?
23 to 24.
Okay.
I've learned...
First thing I've learned is if you think that he don't like you, he don't like you.
He fucking don't.
If you think he don't like you, he do not like you.
Even if that's not the case, it's like why is he making you feel that way?
They just mean he not the one for you.
He's...
He don't like you.
Another thing I've learned is sometimes you can tell other people your plans,
but they'll speak fear into it.
Like they'll put fear into it, even if that's not their intentions, for real, for real.
So I've learned to like not share all of my decisions or like my moves.
Because I was just talking about this with my therapist.
Like my mom, sometimes I'll go to her for advice on something like that.
And I'll get her opinion on something and then I'll second guess my opinion
and I'll be scared about my opinion on something that I have or like a decision that I want to make
because she has an opposing view.
But it's like...
It's not her life.
Yeah, it's not her life.
And then I'm grown on top of that.
So that's another thing I've learned.
Three...
Hmm.
What else have I learned?
I'm like forgetting everything I've learned.
Three...
I want to live in a moment more.
Like I just want to live in a moment.
Like I don't always want to like record everything, which I don't think is anything wrong with that personally.
But sometimes I feel like when you're recording everything and taking pictures of everything,
you kind of get like lost in the moment that you're supposed to be in.
So I want to be in a moment more.
But that's one thing I've learned.
And then what else?
Hmm.
This is a tough question, Kella.
Um...
I've learned that two things can be true at once.
It's always a gray area.
It's not always...
Everything is not always so black and white.
So that's another thing.
And then another one.
Five...
Hmm.
I don't know.
I want to have friends who...
Their views.
Not that I want like a mimic of me.
But from this point on, I want all of my friends to...
They have to somewhat make me feel good.
I have to love them as individuals.
They have to also inspire me.
If I don't have that, then it's like, it's no point in a...
That was shade.
No, I'm not even trying to be shady.
I'm really not.
That's just something that like 23 has taught me.
Like if you can't even inspire me in some kind of way or like...
If you're like super clingy, for example, like it's just not going to work.
It's not going to work out.
So I really just want friends who are more...
Like their views are in alignment with mine.
And that's how I feel about y'all two.
And I feel like that's why we still friends.
Because...
He's like, girl, I don't...
Yeah.
So that's...
I would say those are the five things.
I hope I didn't sound like...
That sounded right, right?
Yeah.
Okay.
So what are some sexual experiences that you would like to have in your new year?
In your new...
Okay.
I want to have a MMF threesome.
I want to get a train ran on me.
Because really it shouldn't be called a train.
It should still just be called a threesome.
You can also call it a Devil's Three Way.
Yeah.
Basically, I want to do that.
I want to go...
We were supposed to go to a sex club, but like that didn't work out.
But I still want to go.
We should go.
I want to go to a sex club for sure.
You want to come, Tati?
No.
I want to have another experience with a girl.
The niggas are going to be there and it's not going to be my time.
You don't want to go?
We don't have to have sex.
You don't have to have sex.
You could just watch them have sex.
You could watch niggas have sex.
Unless you...
But like, I know the type of niggas that I want to see are not going to be there.
You never know.
Wait, I'm cracking...
Wait, but, Kelly, she do got a point though.
The type of niggas that Tati like, they're not going to be in the sex club.
They're not.
You think so?
Honestly, I don't think the type of niggas any of us want to be.
You know what?
You're absolutely right.
I just want to go just for the experience.
I just want to watch.
Just to watch.
I'm into voyeurism.
Yeah.
You just go and look at it and you're just going to be like, oh, wow.
Yeah.
You could touch yourself if you wanted to.
I'm like...
Yeah.
So, I want to go to a sex club.
I want to have another experience with a girl.
What else do I want to do?
Oh, I want to experience...
Because some girl I followed, she was talking about like affirmations during sex.
I want to experience that.
Let me tell you something.
I experienced this last night actually.
It's amazing.
It is.
Like, imagine you coming and a nigga is just like, I'm so proud of you.
You really doing it out here.
He was really like, you're so pretty.
You just...
Oh, God.
Come on.
He said, what did he say to me?
He was like, I'm so proud of you.
You deserve everything that you're getting right now.
Yes.
Oh, my God.
Bitch.
Like, I couldn't be on my...
You know, that sounds nice because when I was getting fucked last night, he told me to
shut the fuck up.
You know, maybe I'm fucking the wrong niggas.
Yo, I'm crying.
He was, oh, my God.
You see, Cam, this is why I'm in the predicament that I'm fucking in.
Because he should have never did that shit to me.
I get it.
I said, oh, okay.
I was about to cry.
If he would have kept going, good thing...
Never mind.
I mean, I say it like that.
Okay, so I want to try affirmations or insects.
What else do I want to try?
I think that's about everything.
I think I said everything so far.
I'll probably come up with some more later on.
But that's about everything.
Okay.
All right.
Tati, do you have any questions for me?
Hey, I'm me.
Y'all asking me questions is making me nervous.
I don't know why.
Damn, I know I'm supposed to come up with questions.
Tati, any other time, you have all this stuff to say.
No, real shit, she really do.
I know I'm supposed to come up with questions.
Okay, what was your favorite sexual experience from this year?
I don't want to give this nigga any more attention in our podcast.
So I don't want to...
Bob?
Bob.
Okay, yeah.
His nickname is going to be Bob.
And we're not going to get into details on why that is his nickname.
Okay, I would say Bob because compared to the other guys that I had had sex with,
yeah, it might have been good.
But with him, I just felt like it was very passionate.
And I felt like he was very attentive to what my body really responded to.
So yeah, I would say that would be one of my favorite sexual experiences.
And I really didn't want to answer this question because I don't want to keep talking about him here.
But that was my best experience for me personally.
All right, so what was your worst?
My worst?
Not this year.
I don't think I had any worst ones.
Well, like, okay.
What you got against spitting in their mouths?
I don't like that shit.
That's very nasty.
Do not spit in my mouth.
I will smack the shit out of you.
Do not do that.
I will really smack the shit out of you.
I like that.
It's just nasty.
I like that.
It's just disgusting.
Like somebody spitting in your mouth.
Y'all like that?
Yeah.
Saliva going in your mouth.
Like that is just nasty.
Look.
So yummy.
Yummy?
Do y'all swallow nut?
Yes.
Okay.
I swallow nut too.
That's crazy.
I only said that because when I say I don't like spitting in mouths, people are usually
like, but do you like swallowing nut?
And I'm like, yeah, I do.
But it's different.
I like to look at you when I do it.
I don't know.
It's different for me.
I can't really explain what the difference is.
I just know I don't want saliva in my mouth.
Like I don't want you spitting in my mouth.
What is come?
And them niggas don't even be drinking water.
Oh my God.
Don't get me started.
No.
Niggas really don't be, they don't be drinking water for real, for real.
They really don't be.
I realized I never want to fuck with a nigga who don't drink water.
No.
Yeah.
Cause that shit tastes disgusting when they are.
Oh my.
I've never fucked with a nigga who don't drink water.
But when I did one time, don't judge me.
All right.
I swallowed this nigga nut before.
It's cool.
But it was this one time and that was the last time I ever swallowed y'all.
Cracker.
I'm sitting here like, oh that shit tasted sour.
There was somebody that told me, I'm not going to say who it was, but it was somebody that
told me like she was giving a nigga head and when he came, it was, it was literally like
clumps in her mouth.
I said, oh baby, he must have had a STD.
No, that's um, wait, wait, wait, clumps?
Yeah.
She said it was clumps, like literal clumps.
I love how y'all all got silent.
I don't know what to say.
How did clumps come out of a dick?
He had a yeast infection.
Please y'all.
She said it was clumped like pieces.
Like it was thick.
I'm like, did you swallow it?
He had a yeast infection.
She said she did.
Oh my God.
For you to see that and then swallow it.
Well, if it was already in, in her mouth, you could spit it out.
I would be like, that's what I did when I tasted that sour and I spit that shit right
out.
Oh my God.
You couldn't spit out clumps.
That's disgusting.
Whoever you are, you're nasty.
Yo, that is really crazy.
Yup.
Now I doubt she don't watch this podcast.
It was actually somebody I was cool with a couple of years ago, but yeah, she told me
that.
I was like, wow, that's insane.
I'm clumps bitch.
So what you got for me next, Ketla?
Let me get myself together.
I'm really sitting here still trying to think of my worst sexual experience.
I don't even think I had one within like me turning 23.
I don't think I had one because I literally was, I don't even want to say too much.
Be very, very happy.
Yeah.
I didn't have a bad sexual experience at 23.
I've had them before, but not at 23.
Like I didn't have one because I literally only had two sex partners and they was both
like, whoo.
Yeah, baby.
They was both like really good.
So that whole year I ain't, I have no bad ones.
I didn't.
That's really great.
Yeah.
That's really great.
It's crazy because like people think since we're so sex positive that we be having sex
with everybody.
We don't.
And this is not even to brag about my body count, but I really just don't be having
sex with people like that.
Like I just, I don't.
Cause I latch on.
It's gonna be a waste of time.
For real.
Cause a lot of y'all niggas don't know how to fuck.
I latch on to one person.
Yeah.
There might be a little sprinkle, but if it don't hit, then it's just like, uh, yep.
But usually most of the time I latch on to one person.
And then once I do that, it's just like, all right, I'm not giving this coochie up.
And that's why that's me.
Like once I have sex with somebody, it's like, I only want to have sex with them, especially
if it's good.
But it kind of like, it's ain't that kind of bad though.
Cause like.
Well, we're lover girls.
Like we just, we can't get, we, me and Kim can't get out of the habit of just being so.
And I know these niggas be fucking other bitches too.
Like they be fucking.
I just can't.
Whores.
And I just, I can't.
And then it's, and they be extra, extra whores because we love dating dumb ass creat-
Oh, real shit.
Every time I think about my taste in men, I get stressed.
Girl, me too.
I get so stressed.
Y'all actually just made me realize, well not Tati, cause Tati not in the group chat,
but y'all was making me realize I got tight for musicians.
And I ain't even realized that until a couple of days ago.
I might wait.
I really do always date musicians.
Like that's literally my whole catalog of musicians.
Like, and if not a musician, every now and then I'll dip and dab into somebody, like
some type of creative.
But yeah, that's, I feel like dating a musician is the most traumatizing thing that you can
do to yourself.
Yo.
I be scared cause sometimes I send voice messages to niggas and I'm just like, please do not
put me in no fucking song.
I try my best to only have hard conversations in person.
Yo, I swear to God, cause I've been sent a lot of niggas of voice messages and I'm just
like, please do not put me in a song.
Yo.
Do not do that.
I'm so afraid.
I'm so afraid cause-
And they be sluts.
They do.
And it's like, it's cool, but like, I don't know.
I guess for me, it's just like, I don't want to, even though I'm sex positive and I feel
like you probably feel the same way, like you still don't want to be perceived as a
slut because like people treat you really differently when they feel like you're loose.
No, I get that.
I definitely get that.
And that's, that's, that's like what we was just talking about.
Like when we go into certain spaces, people think that like, not that there is anything
wrong with being a slut, but like the stuff that comes with being perceived as one, it's
just like-
Like the things that people say and the things that people do.
Even the things that some men have said to me, like I remember one nigga actually suggested
a threesome with me and my friend that he had literally just met like a couple of days
prior.
And I'm just like, you thought that was okay to ask me just because, you know, I'm assuming
it's because I'm a very sex positive person and I like to talk about it openly, but it's
just like, it's crazy to me.
The stuff that people would say to us, like, like just random ass shit.
Like you won't even have to be talking about sex, but they'll just say like the most random,
outrageous shit ever.
And I'm just like, you thought that was cool?
Like you talking about, you post a quote on fucking Instagram, you post the fucking random
post and niggas be like, let me eat your ass.
I swear bitch.
They definitely doing that.
And if, and it sucks because like in this scene, especially because we are a sex positive
podcast.
And I think that's one of the, like other than like, like the older ones, like Ler and
Lionel and shout out to y'all.
We love y'all.
We gonna clip this part.
Ler and Lionel, um, East Your Heart Out and like a couple others, like, but they're older
than us.
So like they've lived life more like people are a lot less, um, judgmental at that age.
And because we're young, it's not calling them old, but like they're older.
So they're like 10 years older than us.
Like, like, let's keep it a buck.
Oh wait, they are.
You're right.
Yeah.
Like let's keep it really like a whole stack.
Like they, they are older than us.
So like they've lived life.
It's more accepting.
Yeah.
Because like they understand that that shit like shit like that don't really matter.
Yeah.
But when you're like niggas are 20, between like 18 to probably like 27, I'll give.
Like especially in this scene, especially like when we're, we're bringing on musicians
and all that other stuff, their first instinct is like, they gonna let me fuck.
Can I get a dick suck?
No, real shit.
It's really, and it's like what?
And I guess I never even realized how crazy it is until we started doing this podcast.
Like it's really insane.
Well at first the momentum was real slow.
Exactly.
It was real slow.
So it's like, okay, nobody really knew us.
We was able to chill out.
But like now that people know who we are more and they hear us joking, all that other stuff.
I prompt, it's joke, jokes, jokes.
I be playing.
I be playing bro.
I be playing.
I'm serious right now.
But other like I be joking.
It's just for shock value.
Like this is, this is click baity as fuck.
My nigga, like don't, don't stop trying to get me to touch the private parts.
This is the thing.
A lot of niggas don't understand what sex positive means.
Sex positive is really just normalizing conversations around sex and talking about it.
That does not mean that you don't fuck a whole bunch of niggas, which if you did,
you'd feel nothing wrong with that.
But I'm just trying to clarify that.
It doesn't mean that you fuck the whole bunch of niggas.
Doesn't even mean that you're super experienced.
You could have like one body and be sex positive.
Like I just feel like niggas are just very dense and they don't know what it means.
And that's why I do that.
It doesn't, I just think that they don't want to see women happy.
Yeah.
And I think that they also have their own sexual trauma to, to unpack and understand
because I feel like a lot of them aren't getting pleased either because they're scared to try stuff.
They're scared to talk openly in a more positive manner about sex.
Like even I was watching, I was looking at something and it was like,
there's so much negative talk from men around sex.
Like, like I'm going to beat this pussy up.
Yes, I know what you're talking about.
I'm going to do that.
And it's like, okay, sometimes I like that.
But the language used around sex is like very violent.
Touch the cervix if you can.
And a lot of y'all can't, oh Kayla.
I'm cracking up.
Jesus.
But like that was really crazy to say.
But like if you can't touch the cervix, touch it.
Touch it.
But also it's a time and a place.
Like sometimes I really want to be like admired and yeah, you know, for real.
And niggas can't, niggas just don't have it.
Maybe y'all should beat y'all dick to Sade or something like that.
Not Sade bitch.
Like what?
Beat your dick to Sade.
Yeah, I think they just, I think that men need sex appeal too.
Like in sensuality.
And you know what's crazy?
The main people that beat on women about having like sex appeal, it be men.
But like a lot of them, the same niggas do not even have sex appeal.
They think they can just come up to you and lick their lips and be like.
Real shit.
A lot of y'all niggas don't have sex appeal, but y'all be the main ones trying to criticize women for not having it.
And can we also talk about how every woman doesn't have to be a sex kitten?
Like I feel like a lot of people think that like even when it comes to like.
Hold on.
What the fuck is a sex kitten?
Like a sex kitten.
Like just.
I know Tati was thinking the same thing.
No, okay.
So like a woman that just exudes sex appeal or just sex period.
Like I be seeing that conversation on Twitter a lot like they be like, for example, Angela Simmons or like Aisha Curry.
Like they really be like, they both are very awkward.
No, they are.
And I acknowledge that.
But I'm just saying I don't like the fact that people be trying to count on for not having sex appeal because who said that?
Even Chloe Bailey.
Who said that?
Even Chloe Bailey.
Like people and I'm one of those.
I'm not even going to sit here and try to fraud like I'm not.
Y'all heard me.
But like that is like a lot to live up to because some people just don't have it like that.
Like some people just.
And there's other ways to be mesmerizing too other than having sex appeal.
Like you can be like super intelligent and that can be sexy too.
So I think that.
Can they don't give a fuck about that shit.
Like let's be let's call a spade a spade like.
But I'm saying like overall I'm just saying you can be mesmerizing in so many other ways.
It doesn't have to be sex appeal.
And I hate that people try to force like every woman needs to have it.
Like you don't have to have it.
You don't have it.
It's fine.
And it's hard.
And sex appeal is really.
It's something that's built.
But also like some people just naturally have it.
Yeah.
And also it's garnered in a safe in a safe place like.
There could be one nigga that's just like oh she's just like really weird or awkward.
But there's some niggas that I've done swooned.
OK.
I also kind of feel like sex appeal is subjective.
It is.
I feel like it's subjective because some some niggas they feel like Chloe Bailey has sex appeal and other niggas be like she don't got it.
It ain't there.
So it's subjective to me.
Now Cam it's like 80 percent people are like.
No but I've seen people say that.
I've seen people say.
And 20 percent like.
I don't know what y'all talking about.
I feel like her her she's just trying to find.
Yeah she's still trying to find her.
She's trying to find her pocket.
Yeah.
Like as as I see her progress she's getting better and better.
I just I'm just praying that she.
Like she gets more comfortable because it doesn't necessarily like it's not that it's not sexy because she's beautiful and her body's crazy.
Yeah.
OK.
But like I can like she's just trying to figure herself out.
Yeah.
So that's a part of finding yourself and being sex positive is really finding who you are.
Period.
What sex appeal to you Tati?
A funny nigga.
Oh my God.
OK.
Yo if a nigga can make me laugh.
Ninety nine percent of you can.
I'm cracking up.
I do love a funny nigga.
No listen what if you're funny I don't know you automatically find me.
OK.
So that's sex appeal to Tati.
And and I know y'all don't like them but North niggas.
What about what about what is it?
I don't know.
Please tell us what do you like about dirty niggas.
I don't know.
But I really love North niggas.
Like damn y'all just fine.
What are some traits that they have that you like about them other than being funny.
I don't even want to say it because you know it might be looking wrong but I don't know.
Maybe like they want hood niggas.
I'm from the hood so I love all all them niggas.
So are they like do you like that they're like aggressive?
Yo I love aggressive ass niggas.
I like it in a sense only I feel like I like it when it comes to like sex.
Yeah.
No I love it period.
Period.
Okay.
Now when I say aggressive I don't mean rude.
I mean like just you could be a very nice gentleman but you aggressive as fuck.
I like that.
Okay.
I like that.
That makes sense.
Did you feel like when we went to DC the niggas was like that out there?
Yeah.
Wait.
Let's talk about our DC trip.
Let's talk about it.
We went we sang and we left that's it.
All right.
I kind of want to we're going to glaze over it.
We're not going to give y'all all the deets.
We just going to glaze over it.
Oh my god.
We almost got kidnapped.
No.
We almost got trafficked.
We were almost murdered.
We witnessed a lot of illegal activity.
We witnessed illegal activity.
But he was fine so it was okay.
You thought he was fine?
The one that I was not bitch I was holding on to that seat.
Oh he was cute.
He was cute.
Were we looking at the same niggas?
He wasn't fine but he was cute.
The one I was behind I was holding on to that seat for damn.
Yo and then also.
Wait.
The one with the locks?
Did he have locks?
Yeah.
He had locks.
He was cute.
My eyes must be just moving me.
Side eye.
Bombastic side eye.
Yo DC niggas is cute as hell.
Shout out to everybody that worked at 1865.
Oh we going to tag them.
We going to tag them.
I don't even have their gram.
If we not going to talk about the situation where we almost got trafficked.
Can we please talk about the situation when we went to 1865 and the girl.
Kelly can you please tell the story.
Listen.
I don't have no decorum or cooth but I need them to please.
This is no disrespect to his girl or nothing.
Shout out to her.
I owe you some pussy.
Ay yo.
I owe that man some pussy okay.
Yo I'm dead.
Yo Kelly please tell them the story.
Please tell them the story.
Apparently I don't have no decorum or cooth but I need them to tell you the story.
Okay.
How ready y'all.
Because it wasn't that bad to me but to them it was that bad.
Okay.
What if they watched this because y'all did give them the card.
Fuck it.
Y'all almost fucking killed.
Okay.
Kelly just tell them the story.
Okay so we were coming from the African American Museum right.
You know a wholesome day.
Very wholesome.
By the way to the Caucasians.
We'll talk about that in a couple minutes after she tell the story.
Alright cool so we go to this spot bar who could lounge call 1865.
Don't know where it's at we not from here.
So we walk in and so the hostess is like you want to come in?
The hostess is like you want me to give you a tour?
You fine too girl.
She was so cute.
I'm sorry for the disrespect.
He be too.
So she like you want me to give you a tour?
So she walk us around.
We get upstairs to the bar.
Everybody's ears shut off.
Except my eyes.
I just saw a fine nigga.
That's clearly my type.
We literally sitting like standing here.
So she like y'all want to come in the other room to see.
And everybody was like no.
I'm like we picked the room already.
What is this?
What is going on?
She was trying to show us the other rooms because she was trying to seat us.
And she was trying to show us the other rooms.
But by the time we got to the second floor and we saw that me and Tati our ears shut off.
So she talk and she's like come on, come on, come on.
So we go in whatever.
And they're like so she's talking.
They're not even letting her finish no sentence.
Here go Cam.
Yeah.
Uh huh.
And Tati's like.
And I'm like oh my God.
So she's like all right I feel like y'all just want to sit in here.
We like yeah she's like yeah.
So they sit right in front of the nigga.
Okay.
So we're talking blah blah blah.
She like laughing but peeping.
You know what?
Now that I think about it what if it was her that set us up?
Huh?
Oh bitch.
Tati look lost.
I got it.
Okay.
I was about to whisper in your ear.
Damn.
Anyway.
So you know we talking blah blah blah.
We talking to what's his name?
Her.
Shout out to you.
And so we're talking and then she come back upstairs.
She was like hey Stink Stink.
I was like that's her man.
And she went over to him and they was like oh boo.
I was like girl get off of my man.
I was like oh shit.
And that's when Kayla was like I think that's her man y'all.
And I was like oh shit.
I said I didn't even say I think.
I said that's her man.
And I knew I knew that from context clues.
She was looking at us like we was fucking crazy.
I ain't peep shit.
I pay like.
I seen a fine man.
Brain shut off.
And everything else after that was just like cut off.
Like my sight was.
Coochie was on hard.
I was just like.
That that nigga was fine as hell.
I really wasn't paying attention to nothing.
OK.
Continue Kayla.
Because remember to choo choo.
OK.
So then we like we get our food or whatever.
The food was OK.
It was all right.
I had mashed potatoes.
It was all right.
OK.
Because Tati and her mac and cheese.
There's some fine men that work at 1865.
OK.
So then.
I was like.
I'm going to go.
OK.
So then.
This other.
Very handsome man.
He follows the page now.
No he doesn't.
He DM'd me everything.
Oh.
You lying.
He was like.
Oh, would you like some hookah?
We was like sure.
I'm very against hookah.
I want everybody to know this.
I'm very against hookah.
Y'all know that it contains tobacco.
I'll crack her up bitch.
Think about that.
The next time.
You decide to smoke hookah.
Niggas be smoking backwards.
I'm here for a good time, not a long time.
I want everybody to just stop smoking.
I may ever go and do that now.
That's something I'm not gonna do.
You're not gonna be able to finish this damn story.
So he give us the, he give us, he get our order for the hookah.
He don't even step two steps on the hookah.
I didn't think I was that loud.
And all you hear is Kare say, choo choo.
I was that loud?
Who was loud as shit?
And they told me I don't have no decurals and I don't have no coot.
I said, can we?
He did.
He said, choo, she said, choo choo.
He literally looked back and he did.
I'm so sorry, sir.
I'm so sorry.
I did not know you heard me.
Do you care?
Not really.
We ain't ever gonna see that man again.
We not gonna back?
We just gotta go back this summer.
No I wanna go back today.
Oh, Cricka.
I was just saying, Herb, I owe you some pussy.
And doom.
Let's talk about the African American Museum though.
Because when we was in there, I'm not gonna lie, if y'all go, definitely prepare yourself
mentally because it was some graphic images in there.
And each time I stare at the fucking pictures, I wanted to smack the shit out of one of them
crackers.
I'm sorry.
Stop!
I really did.
Now can!
No!
I really wanted to smack them because I was so mad, the privilege that they have at being
able to look at these images and not feel anything.
It's just like, it's mind boggling to me.
Now, of course we know that not all white people was bad.
It's just in the moment, it was like so heavy.
Like when you go to that museum, it's very, very heavy.
I was angry the whole time.
Tati was too, as was Kella.
Kella and Tati was sitting there laughing in the museum.
But it was funny because I'm thinking like, oh my God, they laughing and they gonna think
we laughing at these images.
But the whole time.
We just got our conversation going on.
Wait, wait, hold up.
Wasn't there a whip?
It was a whip there and it said that it was gifted by Oprah.
Why the fuck would Oprah have a whip?
Why did you own a whip?
I just want to know why you own the whip and why you gifted it to the African American
Museum.
Like what's going on?
They said she was a coon.
I don't know.
Now, Oprah is a...
Is she a coon?
I don't know.
Do you think she's a coon?
I don't have any opinions.
I feel like she owns half of the world or some shit and one day we might get annihilated
because she got so much money.
So there's so much access and power.
Yeah.
I don't know why she owned the whip.
She's on Oprah bad side.
She seemed like she's super...
What's her sign?
She gives invaders energy.
What is her sign?
I'm going to look it up.
Oprah side.
I feel like she's a Virgo.
Oh, she's an Aquarius.
I don't know much about them except that they lie a lot.
I've heard they lie a lot.
I've heard that they have God complexes.
Who?
Aquarius?
They do.
Really?
I've never seen an Aquarius ever in my life.
I don't even think I've ever met one.
My brother is an Aquarius.
That means he's on my nerves.
But y'all, if you go to that museum, just understand that it gets deep.
It gets deep.
You'll be angry.
You'll be sitting at museum looking at the people in other race all mad.
Like, what the hell?
Like, why y'all here?
But it was definitely an experience though.
And besides the slavery exhibit that they had, they had a sports exhibit.
They had one on Afrofuturism.
What else did they have, y'all?
It was sports.
It was Afrofuturism.
They had something dedicated to Trayvon Martin.
I thought that was so beautiful.
Yeah, they did.
They did.
It was also one for Emmett Till.
And I'm still so confused as to why that man still in there.
No, for real.
So confused.
Somebody need to kill him.
Kill him.
I've been saying that for years.
Like, let's be for real.
They also had an exhibit for Emmett Till too.
Like, that was...
Good thing that bitch died.
No, real shit.
Let's talk about that.
Because do y'all feel like that was her karma?
No, it wasn't her karma.
She got to live out her life.
They killed that little boy.
Yeah.
That little boy.
They killed him.
And I seen that he was a Leo.
And that made so much sense to me.
I was like, oh.
Now Kella, you made a connection that actually stuck out to me.
I've been thinking about it ever since.
When we was at the African American Museum, you said, do you feel like because during
slavery times we was exposed to the sun and like, you know, a lot of nature and stuff
like that, that's why we're so connected to like...
What did you say?
I don't want to word you wrong.
Basically I was saying that like...
Because we were talking about...
We were looking at slave shoes and I was like, that's not...
Those don't seem comfortable.
Because they was just like a little like, slide.
I'm like, that doesn't make sense for them to wear.
I feel like they probably wear barefoot.
But I noticed what I said was we always had a really like...
We've always had a really deep connection to the earth.
Like you always notice that most people who have seasonal depression are usually black
people.
Yes.
And when the sun is out, we're always so much happier.
I mean, when you're in like cities like ours, like of course there's still violence happening
and stuff like that.
But we're still more outgoing and willing to be out and free and happy.
And I said that, do you think that because slaves probably were barefoot a lot, if they
were in the house, I mean in the field, that they had a deep connection to earth and were
like a little bit more optimistic because like all the creativity that they had, like
braid patterns to make maps and all the clothes that they used.
Writing poetry and stuff like that too.
Yeah, like all that stuff that they used in order to survive.
Like the conditions in which we were in at the time, well not we, but our ancestors were
in at the time, did not warrant for all the beauty that came out of it.
Like it didn't.
Like there's no...
I don't understand how we made it, but I think that it was directly because their feet were
in on the soil and they were in the sun.
No I agree.
When you said that, I was like, I never thought about it like that.
That actually does make sense.
Like it really touched me.
I've been thinking about that ever since you said it.
I was like, hmm.
I'm like, maybe that is why we so creative and like we're also very like athletic as
well.
And innovative.
And we thrive in like any space that we're in for real, for real.
Like we're always like the best.
Like sports, music, sex, sports, music, fashion.
Like we just thrive.
And I just feel like maybe it's because of that.
Maybe it is a correlation to that.
I don't know.
But I also feel like them being enslaved like that, that's why we so creative because we
had no other choice but to use our brains and to just think outside of the box.
It was a lot of slaves that actually like wrote a lot of poetry and stories that was
just like way ahead of their time, like way ahead of their time.
And again, I feel like that has a lot to do with the fact that we were basically forced
to be creative and be imaginative.
So yeah, that Afrofuturism exhibit that they have in the African American Museum, it really
made me think about a lot, like a lot.
But yeah, you want to talk about anything else, Kyalla?
Let's do Internet Hub.
Okay period.
My favorite segment.
All right.
What has been happening?
Do you see Dr. Umor and Suki?
Oh my god.
Do you see Dr. Umor responded to her?
He was like, oh, we could lead a revolution together if you were ready to reinvent yourself.
I was cracking up.
I said not Dr. Umor, it's you and his shot back at Suki.
Like that shit was so crazy.
But you didn't see what Suki said to him.
Oh shit.
I thought you did.
He was like, oh, I'm going to do that.
I'm going to do that.
No, I didn't.
I didn't.
What's my name?
And follow black girl.