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What is up everybody? We are back. I am George Mossey. Please say hello to Michael host, Deedee.

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This is the George Mossey show. So we're talking about seeking brother husband season one episode

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two. So last night we finally got to meet the last piece of the puzzle in this season,

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Shara, Patrick and Noble and Shara and Patrick have been married for 13 years and they actually

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met because Shara was Patrick's tax person. What do you call a tax was a CPA? I think it's

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a CPA. So she did Patrick's taxes and he slid her the number. He winked at her a few times. They

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ended up going on a date and that's the rest is history. They are together 13 years together and

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for like a while everything was hot and heavy. Things were great and then unfortunately we

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learned that Shara got into a bad car accident where she was immobile. She had to learn how to

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do things again. She couldn't even really speak and during that process she said that

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they lost their fire, their spark and he became more of a caretaker for her and the dynamic of

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their relationship changed and instead of them moving forward apart they decided that the best

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thing for them to do was to bring in another partner which is an interesting resolution.

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Right? Because it's like she said they were in a sexless marriage for almost 10 years and in order

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for them to fix that instead of going their separate ways because she said the idea of her

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divorcing Patrick made her sick to her stomach. She said that she would never leave him no matter

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if it was physical or not in their relationship. The love and the connection and the strength of

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that foundation was just too much for her to walk away from which I kind of understand when you

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really, really love someone you kind of look past a lot of things. You know you deal with a lot

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and just because they had grown apart physically didn't mean that they had grown apart mentally.

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Those are two different things. So Noble comes into this relationship and he goes in during the

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pandemic and they kind of spend a lot of time together and then it's kind of like the Kenya

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and Tiger situation. The physical aspect was happening there with Noble and Shara and Patrick

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was kind of doing his own thing. He said he was able to work, he was able to get more things done,

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he was able to be relieved of the stresses of the relationship. It's just such an interesting way

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that they explain this situation. Like what is your take on this dynamic because we learned that

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Noble had moved out of the house due to some awkward silence and some awkward situations

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and Patrick actually said Shara kind of contributed to the situation because she didn't do anything.

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Like they brought issues to her and she kind of took the silent approach and things kind of erupted

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and then Noble ended up leaving. Now Noble wants to come back. So like what do you think about

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this situation? Do you think that this was a good match? Do you think that there's a lot? I have a

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lot of questions. So I was just wondering where do you land on this? I'm the same way. I have a lot

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of questions because I had to like really pay attention you know to how they were interacting

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with each other and Shara even stated whenever she went out to eat with him that she was not,

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she didn't see him as a fiat anymore, that she didn't have that that connection with him anymore,

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that how it all come about went really fast. They met during the pandemic. He moved in the home.

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Patrick was not in agreement with it. Noble was living in the basement that he didn't really

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realize what was going on and then he was talking about how she was moaning and groaning and hollering.

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That's when it got real for him and then he brought up his concerns. He wanted out of it

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and she just pretty much you know shrubbed him off and gave him the silent treatment and didn't

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at any time during this time sit down and speak with Noble about his concerns or what he wanted

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out of the the relationship. She was from what I can see she was being selfish with all of it.

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She wanted to do it her way. This is another one not want to take her partner's feelings

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into consideration. Yeah I saw that too. I have your cake and eat it too. I know that there's

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issues between the two of them but there's no issues between me and them. I don't need to do

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anything. I'm happy just the way things are but the guys were not happy just the way things were

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and it kind of like erupted and one of them ended up moving out but it actually seemed to work out

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in Sharra's favor because at that meeting like you said she sees Noble as a fling situation not a

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ring situation and she moves like a single guy and I didn't know what she meant by that. He moves

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like a single guy like was he seeing other women or was he dating other women? She didn't really

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specify what she meant by that because she's like you don't seem like the type that wants a relationship

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but he was also living in their house so it's like that is pretty committed you know because a guy who

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moves single he just pops up every now and then and you don't know where he is you know so the idea

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that he was living there doesn't make it seem like he was not looking for a relationship but in her

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eyes she felt like it was never going to be anything serious and it was a pandemic fling and

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unfortunately Noble has feelings and he wants to move back in and he wants to make this work

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and it kind of seems like Sharra has moved on like she is looking to explore other options so I feel

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like this is going to be a situation where Noble might be replaced out you know switched out with

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someone else and then this is going to be another awkward situation like they had before and until

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it's addressed and talked about and communicated you know things might get out of hand again but

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I know it's going to be impossible to have to move back into the house without permission so it

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seemed like Sharra was not open to that but it is hard because when people are in a relationship and

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they think that they're in love and they think that they have a connection and then the woman says

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oh well no I'm going to move on to someone else that can be very difficult and especially

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in a polyandry situation because she can have multiple relationships and multiple connections

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with multiple people and I think with us being human we can't always grasp the idea that this

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relationship it seems strong but she could wake up one day and decide that her connection with

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someone else is stronger and I think as a human being or a guy with feelings or someone in a

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relationship that's never going to be something that you can just accept. No I mean that's that

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would be that would be you know hard to accept like Noble he is really he's really battling the

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fact that he is wanting a relationship with Sharra but Sharra is saying like she doesn't

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want a relationship with him. She just seen him as a fling and not only that she her and Patrick

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both stated that whenever Noble lived in the home with him he didn't do any chores and that was

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another issue that Patrick and Sharra had against him you know that the least little

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amount of chores that he had he would always say and he did own but when Patrick went behind him

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or Sharra went behind him it was not done so I think they're looking at he's just looking maybe

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that's what she's talking about moving like he's single I'm just wanting to go and

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you know get business done and move on I don't I don't know I do know that this is going to be a

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very interesting couple to follow so. Yes I know because we saw in the previews where she kind of

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was telling Noble that she was ending it but it was more sort of replacement he's like I feel like

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you're just replacing me with someone else so it's going to be a very interesting couple to follow

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speaking of interesting couples I want to talk about Dustin and Kim and Vincent because we've

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been following them and Dustin and Vincent have a very strong bond relationship because right now

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Vincent and Kim's relationship is kind of up in the air because Vincent doesn't know if he's ready

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to be in a relationship with Kim and Dustin and someone else and I mean I don't want to say he's

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in a relationship with Dustin he's in a friendship with Dustin would be relationship with Kim he

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doesn't know if he's ready to take that step and even though that relationship is up in the air

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he's still very close with Dustin they have built this bond and they're kind of just trying to work

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it out and we kind of watch Dustin have like a little pep talk with Vincent and tell him like

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well what you're feeling right now is what I felt when you were introduced into our relationship

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so what you're feeling is normal and maybe I can help you through these feelings but again

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Vincent is looking at it like I don't want to feel like I'm inadequate you know I don't want to

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feel like I'm second best third best not the first choice and as humans we're very selfish like that

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we want to feel like we're the number one choice we want to feel like this is the person that they

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chose I want to be that person that the person chose to be with not this person then this person

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then me and I feel like if he can't overcome those emotions and especially the fact that he was in

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those two filled um relationships where and that's exactly how he felt he felt inadequate he felt

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like he wasn't the number one choice so I don't know if this polyandry situation is going to work

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for him based on his history in dating because he has emotional damage from feeling like he wasn't

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the only person for the woman that he was with and that's a void that he has to feel and sharing

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a woman is not something that anybody can do you know I don't I don't want to say no one can because

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there are people on the show who seem to be doing fine but I don't know like and put me in their

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shoes I just don't know if I could do it I feel like I'm strong mentally but I'm not that strong

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yeah um I mean you gotta look at it you know he really he really loves her he really wants to

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you know make it work with her and he's not ready to um go to that next level and um sharing her

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with someone else um he's still and he keeps repeating it over and over you know he came out

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of two failed marriages um and he feels like you know he's not enough so maybe whenever she started

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a relationship with him she should keep that in the back of her mind you know whenever you feel

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like you're not enough for someone and then they're wanting to bring someone else in I mean that's

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just like a that's a blow to the gut like you know why am I not good enough maybe that's what

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keeps going on through his head why is he not good enough why does you know each woman that he's been

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with why are they wanting to replace him or find you know a different um version of him or the other

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the other partner and I can imagine you know and even though um Dustin said that he still fights

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his jealousy sometimes struggles with his jealousy you know whenever she's whenever he sees them out

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you know it's I don't think that's anything you know that anybody can can sit there and say um no

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matter how mentally strong you are that seeing your partner with someone else is if you're really

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love if you really love them and if you're really committed to the relationship it's going to bother

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you I don't care how mentally strong you are I think that a lot of people say oh monogamy is not

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normal it's not natural but neither is polyamory and polyandry like to human nature I don't think

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any of it is normal I think that we have uncontrollable emotions and feelings and men and women can

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be territorial you know it doesn't matter the gender it's like when you have something and you love it

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and you care about it and it you feel like it belongs to even though it doesn't no one belongs

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to anyone but when you see that it's a threat that it could be taken away from you you kind of go

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into this territorial defensive place and it's like an emotion that we we don't really know how

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to get a hold on like no one really can get a hold on it we just know it's there and we try to

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control it so I think this relationship especially with um Vincent in this polyandry situation it's

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a battle it's an inner battle for him like he's fighting an inner battle with himself because

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he loves him he gets along so well with Dustin this is a good situation for him to be in but the

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inner battle that he's fighting might be too great to make this last long term yeah maybe you know um

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if keam wants him to be a part a part of you know the their future life maybe she needs to

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go somewhere just him and her and to make him feel and to make him see that you know he is

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important that you know she isn't trying to replace him that would probably be you know something she

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could do to help him be able to um excel and be okay with adding another partner because when people

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are they they're fighting with their inner emotions especially mentally you know they have to be reassured

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constantly you know and maybe that's that's something that's that she has liked on on her side

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that's true that's true reassurance is very important all right guys we run out of time so I

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am very very excited about this season of seeking brother husband I love seeing the shoe on the other

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foot because I've been watching Seeking Sister Wife and it's just nice to see the shoe on the other

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foot I feel like women are queens and back in history queens have had multiple husbands for

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the century so we know that this is real so watching this show is very intense and interesting

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