What is up everybody? We are back. I am George Mossey. Please say hello to Michael host, Deedee.
This is the George Mossey show. So we're talking about seeking brother husband season one episode
two. So last night we finally got to meet the last piece of the puzzle in this season,
Shara, Patrick and Noble and Shara and Patrick have been married for 13 years and they actually
met because Shara was Patrick's tax person. What do you call a tax was a CPA? I think it's
a CPA. So she did Patrick's taxes and he slid her the number. He winked at her a few times. They
ended up going on a date and that's the rest is history. They are together 13 years together and
for like a while everything was hot and heavy. Things were great and then unfortunately we
learned that Shara got into a bad car accident where she was immobile. She had to learn how to
do things again. She couldn't even really speak and during that process she said that
they lost their fire, their spark and he became more of a caretaker for her and the dynamic of
their relationship changed and instead of them moving forward apart they decided that the best
thing for them to do was to bring in another partner which is an interesting resolution.
Right? Because it's like she said they were in a sexless marriage for almost 10 years and in order
for them to fix that instead of going their separate ways because she said the idea of her
divorcing Patrick made her sick to her stomach. She said that she would never leave him no matter
if it was physical or not in their relationship. The love and the connection and the strength of
that foundation was just too much for her to walk away from which I kind of understand when you
really, really love someone you kind of look past a lot of things. You know you deal with a lot
and just because they had grown apart physically didn't mean that they had grown apart mentally.
Those are two different things. So Noble comes into this relationship and he goes in during the
pandemic and they kind of spend a lot of time together and then it's kind of like the Kenya
and Tiger situation. The physical aspect was happening there with Noble and Shara and Patrick
was kind of doing his own thing. He said he was able to work, he was able to get more things done,
he was able to be relieved of the stresses of the relationship. It's just such an interesting way
that they explain this situation. Like what is your take on this dynamic because we learned that
Noble had moved out of the house due to some awkward silence and some awkward situations
and Patrick actually said Shara kind of contributed to the situation because she didn't do anything.
Like they brought issues to her and she kind of took the silent approach and things kind of erupted
and then Noble ended up leaving. Now Noble wants to come back. So like what do you think about
this situation? Do you think that this was a good match? Do you think that there's a lot? I have a
lot of questions. So I was just wondering where do you land on this? I'm the same way. I have a lot
of questions because I had to like really pay attention you know to how they were interacting
with each other and Shara even stated whenever she went out to eat with him that she was not,
she didn't see him as a fiat anymore, that she didn't have that that connection with him anymore,
that how it all come about went really fast. They met during the pandemic. He moved in the home.
Patrick was not in agreement with it. Noble was living in the basement that he didn't really
realize what was going on and then he was talking about how she was moaning and groaning and hollering.
That's when it got real for him and then he brought up his concerns. He wanted out of it
and she just pretty much you know shrubbed him off and gave him the silent treatment and didn't
at any time during this time sit down and speak with Noble about his concerns or what he wanted
out of the the relationship. She was from what I can see she was being selfish with all of it.
She wanted to do it her way. This is another one not want to take her partner's feelings
into consideration. Yeah I saw that too. I have your cake and eat it too. I know that there's
issues between the two of them but there's no issues between me and them. I don't need to do
anything. I'm happy just the way things are but the guys were not happy just the way things were
and it kind of like erupted and one of them ended up moving out but it actually seemed to work out
in Sharra's favor because at that meeting like you said she sees Noble as a fling situation not a
ring situation and she moves like a single guy and I didn't know what she meant by that. He moves
like a single guy like was he seeing other women or was he dating other women? She didn't really
specify what she meant by that because she's like you don't seem like the type that wants a relationship
but he was also living in their house so it's like that is pretty committed you know because a guy who
moves single he just pops up every now and then and you don't know where he is you know so the idea
that he was living there doesn't make it seem like he was not looking for a relationship but in her
eyes she felt like it was never going to be anything serious and it was a pandemic fling and
unfortunately Noble has feelings and he wants to move back in and he wants to make this work
and it kind of seems like Sharra has moved on like she is looking to explore other options so I feel
like this is going to be a situation where Noble might be replaced out you know switched out with
someone else and then this is going to be another awkward situation like they had before and until
it's addressed and talked about and communicated you know things might get out of hand again but
I know it's going to be impossible to have to move back into the house without permission so it
seemed like Sharra was not open to that but it is hard because when people are in a relationship and
they think that they're in love and they think that they have a connection and then the woman says
oh well no I'm going to move on to someone else that can be very difficult and especially
in a polyandry situation because she can have multiple relationships and multiple connections
with multiple people and I think with us being human we can't always grasp the idea that this
relationship it seems strong but she could wake up one day and decide that her connection with
someone else is stronger and I think as a human being or a guy with feelings or someone in a
relationship that's never going to be something that you can just accept. No I mean that's that
would be that would be you know hard to accept like Noble he is really he's really battling the
fact that he is wanting a relationship with Sharra but Sharra is saying like she doesn't
want a relationship with him. She just seen him as a fling and not only that she her and Patrick
both stated that whenever Noble lived in the home with him he didn't do any chores and that was
another issue that Patrick and Sharra had against him you know that the least little
amount of chores that he had he would always say and he did own but when Patrick went behind him
or Sharra went behind him it was not done so I think they're looking at he's just looking maybe
that's what she's talking about moving like he's single I'm just wanting to go and
you know get business done and move on I don't I don't know I do know that this is going to be a
very interesting couple to follow so. Yes I know because we saw in the previews where she kind of
was telling Noble that she was ending it but it was more sort of replacement he's like I feel like
you're just replacing me with someone else so it's going to be a very interesting couple to follow
speaking of interesting couples I want to talk about Dustin and Kim and Vincent because we've
been following them and Dustin and Vincent have a very strong bond relationship because right now
Vincent and Kim's relationship is kind of up in the air because Vincent doesn't know if he's ready
to be in a relationship with Kim and Dustin and someone else and I mean I don't want to say he's
in a relationship with Dustin he's in a friendship with Dustin would be relationship with Kim he
doesn't know if he's ready to take that step and even though that relationship is up in the air
he's still very close with Dustin they have built this bond and they're kind of just trying to work
it out and we kind of watch Dustin have like a little pep talk with Vincent and tell him like
well what you're feeling right now is what I felt when you were introduced into our relationship
so what you're feeling is normal and maybe I can help you through these feelings but again
Vincent is looking at it like I don't want to feel like I'm inadequate you know I don't want to
feel like I'm second best third best not the first choice and as humans we're very selfish like that
we want to feel like we're the number one choice we want to feel like this is the person that they
chose I want to be that person that the person chose to be with not this person then this person
then me and I feel like if he can't overcome those emotions and especially the fact that he was in
those two filled um relationships where and that's exactly how he felt he felt inadequate he felt
like he wasn't the number one choice so I don't know if this polyandry situation is going to work
for him based on his history in dating because he has emotional damage from feeling like he wasn't
the only person for the woman that he was with and that's a void that he has to feel and sharing
a woman is not something that anybody can do you know I don't I don't want to say no one can because
there are people on the show who seem to be doing fine but I don't know like and put me in their
shoes I just don't know if I could do it I feel like I'm strong mentally but I'm not that strong
yeah um I mean you gotta look at it you know he really he really loves her he really wants to
you know make it work with her and he's not ready to um go to that next level and um sharing her
with someone else um he's still and he keeps repeating it over and over you know he came out
of two failed marriages um and he feels like you know he's not enough so maybe whenever she started
a relationship with him she should keep that in the back of her mind you know whenever you feel
like you're not enough for someone and then they're wanting to bring someone else in I mean that's
just like a that's a blow to the gut like you know why am I not good enough maybe that's what
keeps going on through his head why is he not good enough why does you know each woman that he's been
with why are they wanting to replace him or find you know a different um version of him or the other
the other partner and I can imagine you know and even though um Dustin said that he still fights
his jealousy sometimes struggles with his jealousy you know whenever she's whenever he sees them out
you know it's I don't think that's anything you know that anybody can can sit there and say um no
matter how mentally strong you are that seeing your partner with someone else is if you're really
love if you really love them and if you're really committed to the relationship it's going to bother
you I don't care how mentally strong you are I think that a lot of people say oh monogamy is not
normal it's not natural but neither is polyamory and polyandry like to human nature I don't think
any of it is normal I think that we have uncontrollable emotions and feelings and men and women can
be territorial you know it doesn't matter the gender it's like when you have something and you love it
and you care about it and it you feel like it belongs to even though it doesn't no one belongs
to anyone but when you see that it's a threat that it could be taken away from you you kind of go
into this territorial defensive place and it's like an emotion that we we don't really know how
to get a hold on like no one really can get a hold on it we just know it's there and we try to
control it so I think this relationship especially with um Vincent in this polyandry situation it's
a battle it's an inner battle for him like he's fighting an inner battle with himself because
he loves him he gets along so well with Dustin this is a good situation for him to be in but the
inner battle that he's fighting might be too great to make this last long term yeah maybe you know um
if keam wants him to be a part a part of you know the their future life maybe she needs to
go somewhere just him and her and to make him feel and to make him see that you know he is
important that you know she isn't trying to replace him that would probably be you know something she
could do to help him be able to um excel and be okay with adding another partner because when people
are they they're fighting with their inner emotions especially mentally you know they have to be reassured
constantly you know and maybe that's that's something that's that she has liked on on her side
that's true that's true reassurance is very important all right guys we run out of time so I
am very very excited about this season of seeking brother husband I love seeing the shoe on the other
foot because I've been watching Seeking Sister Wife and it's just nice to see the shoe on the other
foot I feel like women are queens and back in history queens have had multiple husbands for
the century so we know that this is real so watching this show is very intense and interesting
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