WEBVTT 00:00:04.360 --> 00:00:07.219 Being a woman is hard. Whether you're young, 00:00:07.540 --> 00:00:10.859 you're old, or somewhere in between, just being 00:00:10.859 --> 00:00:13.759 is really difficult. And then you add in hormones, 00:00:14.720 --> 00:00:18.179 family, friends, work, and it's just a mess. 00:00:18.500 --> 00:00:22.969 And today I have with me Erin Paredes. who is 00:00:22.969 --> 00:00:26.910 the founder and what would I say? A self -discovery 00:00:26.910 --> 00:00:29.730 coach of the Joy Tribe. Hey Erin, how you doing? 00:00:29.949 --> 00:00:33.729 I'm good. I'm so excited to be here. Oh, I am 00:00:33.729 --> 00:00:39.009 too. Now, what made you decide to be a coach 00:00:39.009 --> 00:00:41.289 for women? A self -discovery coach. Oh my gosh. 00:00:42.070 --> 00:00:46.270 Well, if you were to ask me like years ago if 00:00:46.270 --> 00:00:48.710 I would be a self -discovery coach or a coach 00:00:48.710 --> 00:00:50.969 in general, I probably would have laughed in 00:00:50.969 --> 00:00:56.539 your face. But the reason why I became a coach 00:00:56.539 --> 00:01:00.520 is a little, there are many women who have gone 00:01:00.520 --> 00:01:04.659 through this kind of story, but I had lived my 00:01:04.659 --> 00:01:07.939 life for other people for a really long time. 00:01:07.959 --> 00:01:11.780 I lived with a lot of anxiety. I had OCD, so 00:01:11.780 --> 00:01:15.640 I was just constantly making sure everyone was 00:01:15.640 --> 00:01:19.560 okay, choosing things to keep myself small, keep 00:01:19.560 --> 00:01:26.819 myself quiet. I had lived in a family where school 00:01:26.819 --> 00:01:29.760 was very important, good grades, and I was the 00:01:29.760 --> 00:01:33.760 art kid, so I was kind of doing these, I didn't 00:01:33.760 --> 00:01:37.920 have any huge art shows to showcase my work or 00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:42.099 anything, so yeah, I kind of learned to just 00:01:42.099 --> 00:01:46.500 stay quiet, stayed shy, and didn't really speak 00:01:46.500 --> 00:01:51.859 up or choose things that were right for me. I 00:01:51.859 --> 00:01:55.459 ended up going through university. I ended up 00:01:55.459 --> 00:01:58.319 going to the University of Winter for the visual 00:01:58.319 --> 00:02:00.540 arts program and the communications program. 00:02:01.239 --> 00:02:06.620 And I did all that. I moved to Toronto. And I 00:02:06.620 --> 00:02:10.879 got a job, did all the things, and I ended up 00:02:10.879 --> 00:02:13.719 getting into a relationship with a guy who was, 00:02:13.719 --> 00:02:16.159 you know, everything you'd want on paper, he 00:02:16.159 --> 00:02:20.099 was good looking, he was financially sound, and 00:02:20.099 --> 00:02:23.960 he was someone that, you know, that looked good. 00:02:24.189 --> 00:02:27.409 on paper and looked good as a couple, and I was 00:02:27.409 --> 00:02:32.509 like, okay, I've made it, where we have an okay 00:02:32.509 --> 00:02:36.289 relationship. But when I say okay, it started 00:02:36.289 --> 00:02:41.810 off okay, and then again, it was just a relationship 00:02:41.810 --> 00:02:46.870 that I felt where I had to stay small, and he 00:02:46.870 --> 00:02:50.090 basically ignored me for most of it, and we were 00:02:50.090 --> 00:02:54.020 together for seven years. And I ended up getting 00:02:54.020 --> 00:02:57.639 married, which is crazy to think about now, but 00:02:57.639 --> 00:02:59.919 I digress. This is why I'm sitting here right 00:02:59.919 --> 00:03:04.439 now. But I got to the dress fitting day and I 00:03:04.439 --> 00:03:07.159 was looking in the mirror at myself and I was 00:03:07.159 --> 00:03:10.759 like, this something feels really off. Something 00:03:10.759 --> 00:03:13.719 feels off. And that was when I started questioning 00:03:13.719 --> 00:03:21.210 my choices. But I had been so accustomed to Oh, 00:03:21.310 --> 00:03:24.569 it's nothing, these are just nerves, or this 00:03:24.569 --> 00:03:27.090 is what you should want, this is the life that 00:03:27.090 --> 00:03:31.210 looks like what you're supposed to have. And 00:03:31.210 --> 00:03:37.210 we went through the wedding, and as I was walking 00:03:37.210 --> 00:03:40.370 down the aisle, I was looking for exits, because 00:03:40.370 --> 00:03:41.830 I thought I was going to be sick. You should 00:03:41.830 --> 00:03:45.169 have done Julia Roberts. Honestly, that is what 00:03:45.169 --> 00:03:47.430 my mom compares me to. She's like, you're the 00:03:47.430 --> 00:03:51.800 run of my pride, almost. No. You stayed. I did 00:03:51.800 --> 00:03:56.960 stay. I did stay. So I basically was looking 00:03:56.960 --> 00:03:59.719 for exits the entire time. I got up there. I 00:03:59.719 --> 00:04:04.479 said yes. We danced. We drank. And that was that. 00:04:04.699 --> 00:04:08.759 And then four months later, he said he was no 00:04:08.759 --> 00:04:11.360 longer in love with me. And then we ended our 00:04:11.360 --> 00:04:16.750 relationship. I think from that point on, I won't 00:04:16.750 --> 00:04:19.829 get into the nitty -gritty of it all, but honestly, 00:04:20.629 --> 00:04:23.189 it's not the divorce for me. Obviously, that 00:04:23.189 --> 00:04:28.310 was a crappy thing that happened, but it was 00:04:28.310 --> 00:04:32.189 something that completely woke myself up. Where 00:04:32.189 --> 00:04:35.750 most people, it would put their ass in bed under 00:04:35.750 --> 00:04:38.670 the sheets in a depression. Oh, there was some 00:04:38.670 --> 00:04:41.589 of that. There was some of that. Then you found 00:04:41.589 --> 00:04:47.379 your voice again. Yes, so anyways, I and we ended 00:04:47.379 --> 00:04:50.379 up moving out of our house and I moved downtown 00:04:50.379 --> 00:04:55.939 and This is where the whole Heroin factor came 00:04:55.939 --> 00:05:00.279 in to my world where I have always been like 00:05:00.279 --> 00:05:02.399 I mentioned in our kid But I've always been very 00:05:02.399 --> 00:05:05.680 into fantasy and video games and I was a huge 00:05:05.680 --> 00:05:10.300 fan of Tomb Raider and so the Halloween that 00:05:10.680 --> 00:05:13.319 I was downtown, my friend asked me if I wanted 00:05:13.319 --> 00:05:16.660 to go to this huge Halloween party. And I was 00:05:16.660 --> 00:05:21.480 like, okay, okay. And so I decided randomly that 00:05:21.480 --> 00:05:24.759 I was gonna dress up like Tomb Raider. And so 00:05:24.759 --> 00:05:27.279 I got all, like I got the combat boots, I had 00:05:27.279 --> 00:05:30.959 the guns, I had all the things, and I looked 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:34.819 at myself in the mirror before we left. And I 00:05:34.819 --> 00:05:37.600 was like, oh my gosh, I don't even recognize 00:05:37.600 --> 00:05:41.389 her. But something about her... feels familiar 00:05:41.389 --> 00:05:45.209 and that was the moment that I realized well 00:05:45.209 --> 00:05:48.509 why can't I feel like this all the time and then 00:05:48.509 --> 00:05:51.310 that just kind of opened up the entire world 00:05:51.310 --> 00:05:56.750 where the Joy Tribe started and needing to find 00:05:56.750 --> 00:06:01.810 out who I was and to help people do that themselves. 00:06:02.230 --> 00:06:06.329 Isn't it weird how something so small as a costume 00:06:06.329 --> 00:06:09.149 for a Halloween party can just flip a switch? 00:06:09.449 --> 00:06:13.110 It was crazy because I think back to that moment, 00:06:13.149 --> 00:06:16.290 like you said, it was so small, but it completely 00:06:16.290 --> 00:06:19.769 changed my world. And it allowed me to really 00:06:19.769 --> 00:06:23.970 develop myself, my courage, my bravery. I brought 00:06:23.970 --> 00:06:27.129 this confidence into my work. But yeah, just 00:06:27.129 --> 00:06:33.829 it allowed me to heal faster. It's hard. It's 00:06:33.829 --> 00:06:36.910 a pride thing too, especially after only four 00:06:36.910 --> 00:06:42.480 months. It's faster than Kim Kardashian. It is, 00:06:42.579 --> 00:06:46.819 oh my god! Yeah! But I mean, like, you had your 00:06:46.819 --> 00:06:48.980 doubts, but you still went through with it. You 00:06:48.980 --> 00:06:51.560 weren't expecting him to have the same doubts. 00:06:52.060 --> 00:06:55.800 And that's tough. And for you to pick yourself 00:06:55.800 --> 00:06:59.879 up, kudos. Well, thank you. And I mean, I think 00:06:59.879 --> 00:07:03.220 this is also just a story that a lot of women 00:07:03.220 --> 00:07:08.319 go through. And... And it's not even like divorce. 00:07:08.399 --> 00:07:11.459 You could be going through another life transition 00:07:11.459 --> 00:07:14.899 or you are just completely overwhelmed with life 00:07:14.899 --> 00:07:19.639 in general. Life right now is hard. So I know 00:07:19.639 --> 00:07:23.259 that a lot of people are working for success 00:07:23.259 --> 00:07:26.439 and like what it looks like on social media or 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:28.720 what their friends are doing. It's like keeping 00:07:28.720 --> 00:07:33.079 up with the Joneses. And I mean, I still deal 00:07:33.079 --> 00:07:35.300 with that as well, but I think it's a matter 00:07:35.300 --> 00:07:39.160 of finding your own inner power and your own 00:07:39.160 --> 00:07:42.879 strengths and your own foundation to, you know, 00:07:43.100 --> 00:07:47.879 come back to. How did you end up going from Laura 00:07:47.879 --> 00:07:52.290 Croft to self discovery coach? I did spend a 00:07:52.290 --> 00:07:54.889 couple of years doing my own self -discovery 00:07:54.889 --> 00:07:57.209 process, going through the motions for myself 00:07:57.209 --> 00:08:00.110 in terms of, you know, what do I want to do? 00:08:00.350 --> 00:08:05.009 I was working in events in Toronto and doing 00:08:05.009 --> 00:08:08.610 a lot of, I've done conferences and different 00:08:08.610 --> 00:08:12.949 public events, and I just didn't feel called 00:08:12.949 --> 00:08:16.110 to them. Honestly, with every job that I had, 00:08:16.350 --> 00:08:19.129 I felt like, there was like something in me like 00:08:19.129 --> 00:08:21.670 there's Aaron there's something more I feel like 00:08:21.670 --> 00:08:23.870 we all have that little voice and maybe we quiet 00:08:23.870 --> 00:08:26.689 it down and that's what this whole work is but 00:08:26.689 --> 00:08:30.009 yeah though there was a voice telling me that 00:08:30.009 --> 00:08:32.970 there was something more so I decided to quit 00:08:32.970 --> 00:08:37.860 my job in Toronto right before COVID and start 00:08:37.860 --> 00:08:40.779 mental health events. So it was bringing people 00:08:40.779 --> 00:08:45.220 together to talk about the mental health issues 00:08:45.220 --> 00:08:47.720 that they're going through. It wasn't paid speakers 00:08:47.720 --> 00:08:50.820 or anything. It was really just people that were 00:08:50.820 --> 00:08:53.840 coming forward and wanting to speak. And it was 00:08:53.840 --> 00:08:58.019 incredible. But COVID, as I mentioned, kind of 00:08:58.019 --> 00:09:01.259 kiboshed all of that. And I was like, OK, I just 00:09:01.259 --> 00:09:03.679 quit my job. I don't really know what to do. 00:09:05.100 --> 00:09:09.100 So during this time, I was learning how to build 00:09:09.100 --> 00:09:13.299 my business, taking on skills like that. And 00:09:13.299 --> 00:09:16.940 then I decided to move home to Chatham, which... 00:09:16.960 --> 00:09:19.899 I was a little bit like, oh no, I'm going home 00:09:19.899 --> 00:09:22.879 to Chateau and I'm single and I'm in my 30s and 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:26.779 I don't want to do it. But anyways, I came home 00:09:26.779 --> 00:09:29.639 and I decided that, well, you know, I want to 00:09:29.639 --> 00:09:33.419 continue to help people. I want to continue to 00:09:33.419 --> 00:09:36.539 give people hope in some way or help them find 00:09:36.539 --> 00:09:39.100 themselves. So that's kind of when I did a little 00:09:39.100 --> 00:09:42.120 bit of research and I found a health and life 00:09:42.120 --> 00:09:46.649 coach. And I know that some people have a little 00:09:46.649 --> 00:09:49.210 bit of a stigma around that, but honestly, I 00:09:49.210 --> 00:09:53.070 truly believe that everyone needs a coach in 00:09:53.070 --> 00:09:56.549 some way. Life is hard. Adulting is hard, as 00:09:56.549 --> 00:10:00.990 the kids say. Adulting is hard. Or as I like 00:10:00.990 --> 00:10:06.769 to say, womaning is even worse. 100%. With being 00:10:06.769 --> 00:10:10.149 a woman, you have... So many different roles 00:10:10.149 --> 00:10:13.909 on top of your or hats that you're wearing. And 00:10:13.909 --> 00:10:16.250 you're the mom, you're the sister, you're the 00:10:16.250 --> 00:10:20.370 mother, you're the, you know, the cash register 00:10:20.370 --> 00:10:24.809 or the cashier or the whatever you are for your 00:10:24.809 --> 00:10:27.730 job. And you have all of these other things. 00:10:27.870 --> 00:10:30.409 And then on top of that, you have your own, you 00:10:30.409 --> 00:10:33.149 know, struggles of like who I am, what do I do 00:10:33.149 --> 00:10:35.750 now? You know, what is the next step for me? 00:10:35.809 --> 00:10:40.840 Is this really what I want? So as women, we really 00:10:40.840 --> 00:10:44.659 get lost in that. And I think that a lot of women 00:10:44.659 --> 00:10:48.340 just, and I don't want to say not that they're 00:10:48.340 --> 00:10:52.320 settling, but that they are kind of living with 00:10:52.320 --> 00:10:58.059 this feeling of lack and this unfulfillment that 00:10:58.059 --> 00:11:01.940 I feel like if they just... took a little bit 00:11:01.940 --> 00:11:05.059 of time to cultivate something, and you don't 00:11:05.059 --> 00:11:09.139 even need a lot of time to do this, where you're 00:11:09.139 --> 00:11:13.980 taking 15 minutes maybe in the morning to read 00:11:13.980 --> 00:11:18.799 a book, or you are listening to a podcast, or 00:11:18.799 --> 00:11:21.240 you go for a walk, and it doesn't even need to 00:11:21.240 --> 00:11:23.820 be a long walk, like just a walk around the block, 00:11:24.320 --> 00:11:28.200 taking little moments for yourself. is a way 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:30.759 to connect back to who you are and what you want. 00:11:31.279 --> 00:11:36.539 Well, I find for being a woman in this day and 00:11:36.539 --> 00:11:40.740 age, it's so confusing because we're either settling, 00:11:41.299 --> 00:11:43.899 and I hate to say that, but we do settle. We 00:11:43.899 --> 00:11:47.840 go for the comfort because the world is so crazy 00:11:47.840 --> 00:11:51.720 to begin with, so... And with COVID, we've learned 00:11:51.720 --> 00:11:54.539 that that can all be taken away. So you take 00:11:54.539 --> 00:11:57.019 the job that you can get that'll give you the 00:11:57.019 --> 00:12:00.440 most money. You stay in the relationship. You 00:12:00.440 --> 00:12:04.399 know, you do the best that you can with the idea 00:12:04.399 --> 00:12:09.000 that it may stop at any moment instead of doing 00:12:09.000 --> 00:12:13.720 what you love and your passion and making yourself 00:12:13.720 --> 00:12:18.159 happy. And I love that you said that because 00:12:18.159 --> 00:12:23.779 you You can, I feel, have both. I feel like you 00:12:23.779 --> 00:12:27.659 can have the job and you can still do that, but 00:12:27.659 --> 00:12:30.500 you can also take a little slice of time for 00:12:30.500 --> 00:12:33.419 yourself. Oh, for sure. So you can do it. And 00:12:33.419 --> 00:12:38.059 I think also you might, you know, take walks 00:12:38.059 --> 00:12:39.940 or read books, which is kind of what happened 00:12:39.940 --> 00:12:43.240 to me and was like... Okay, I'm learning these 00:12:43.240 --> 00:12:46.220 new things about myself and oh my gosh I do love 00:12:46.220 --> 00:12:50.000 painting or I do, you know, love books and maybe 00:12:50.000 --> 00:12:53.519 I want to write a book or maybe I want to start 00:12:53.519 --> 00:12:56.740 singing and all these things kind of build out 00:12:56.740 --> 00:13:01.610 your next adventure. Being a self -discovery 00:13:01.610 --> 00:13:05.169 coach. Is that just do you deal with just women 00:13:05.169 --> 00:13:10.110 or women in men? Currently I deal with Just women 00:13:10.110 --> 00:13:13.149 although I feel like everyone needs this. Yeah, 00:13:13.149 --> 00:13:19.049 but But yeah, I I think I work with really women 00:13:19.049 --> 00:13:23.309 who resonate in terms of going through a transition 00:13:23.309 --> 00:13:30.279 or going through divorce or heartbreak and Yeah, 00:13:30.480 --> 00:13:33.000 and as we mentioned before about Tomb Raider 00:13:33.000 --> 00:13:37.460 and I truly believe that like life is like a 00:13:37.460 --> 00:13:40.399 video game where we go through different levels 00:13:40.399 --> 00:13:45.120 and we Pick up all these trinkets and these strengths 00:13:45.120 --> 00:13:49.059 and these these different things and then we 00:13:49.059 --> 00:13:52.419 also have to face our inner demons and our inner 00:13:52.419 --> 00:13:57.000 dragons and then we Go through that and everything 00:13:57.000 --> 00:14:01.220 that we learned and fought against with our inner 00:14:01.220 --> 00:14:05.399 dragons We use that in the next level So everything 00:14:05.399 --> 00:14:09.139 that we go through is a stepping stone and a 00:14:09.139 --> 00:14:13.080 lesson for the next level That is a great analogy 00:14:13.080 --> 00:14:17.519 Yeah, and and so to go back to my love of fantasy. 00:14:17.519 --> 00:14:23.720 This is how I build my coaching and I take my 00:14:24.809 --> 00:14:28.350 the women that I work with through the journey, 00:14:28.549 --> 00:14:31.129 the heroine's journey. So you go through and 00:14:31.129 --> 00:14:34.250 you go through the call and you meet your mentors 00:14:34.250 --> 00:14:39.009 and you face your inner dragons and going through 00:14:39.009 --> 00:14:44.570 all of that with whatever situation that they're 00:14:44.570 --> 00:14:49.070 in. Because like I said, life is like a video 00:14:49.070 --> 00:14:52.590 game. And I think making the healing process 00:14:52.590 --> 00:14:57.090 a little bit more digestible because I think 00:14:57.090 --> 00:15:00.970 when people think of healing which Healing is 00:15:00.970 --> 00:15:03.509 different for everyone and it is not necessarily 00:15:03.509 --> 00:15:07.690 the most fun But if you kind of flip it on its 00:15:07.690 --> 00:15:11.750 head and be like, okay Maybe you know this is 00:15:11.750 --> 00:15:14.570 my little dragon of the day that I need to face 00:15:14.570 --> 00:15:18.809 or listen to or you know Take in then that's 00:15:18.809 --> 00:15:23.360 gonna help me get to the next thing. So Yeah, 00:15:23.860 --> 00:15:29.080 I think that making life a little bit more fun 00:15:29.080 --> 00:15:31.879 through going through healing and looking at 00:15:31.879 --> 00:15:33.799 things differently is really, really helpful. 00:15:34.440 --> 00:15:37.240 Now, do you do your workshops, are they one -on 00:15:37.240 --> 00:15:41.450 -one or a group? So I do one -on -one coaching 00:15:41.450 --> 00:15:45.250 and then I also do group workshops. So I have 00:15:45.250 --> 00:15:49.629 workshops kind of built around the idea of the 00:15:49.629 --> 00:15:55.750 heroine's journey. I have a workshop on finding 00:15:55.750 --> 00:16:00.379 your anchor and finding your strengths. and I 00:16:00.379 --> 00:16:03.100 have one coming up. We're just figuring out the 00:16:03.100 --> 00:16:08.679 date, but basically using a piece of jewelry 00:16:08.679 --> 00:16:16.120 to hone in and focus on your why. Is that with 00:16:16.120 --> 00:16:21.960 Meg? It is with Meg. So we're trying to put together 00:16:21.960 --> 00:16:26.840 the date with another... event so I don't want 00:16:26.840 --> 00:16:29.360 to say too much but it's in the works it's in 00:16:29.360 --> 00:16:32.480 the works there's there's lots in the works um 00:16:32.480 --> 00:16:37.759 so yeah and I also have if anyone would be interested 00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:43.259 in sort of a fantasy journey I have a three day 00:16:43.259 --> 00:16:48.100 uh cinematic meditation uh journey that I have 00:16:48.100 --> 00:16:54.360 created so basically it is a self -guided fantasy 00:16:54.360 --> 00:16:59.519 adventure for your soul basically. Now is that 00:16:59.519 --> 00:17:03.240 in person or online? This is online so basically 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:08.079 it's just a you download an audio and there's 00:17:08.079 --> 00:17:11.259 also a workbook so there's three parts to it 00:17:11.259 --> 00:17:14.799 where you have journal prompts and questions 00:17:14.799 --> 00:17:18.880 that will help you along that journey and it 00:17:19.099 --> 00:17:22.440 It allows you to connect to your inner heroine 00:17:22.440 --> 00:17:26.420 and remind you of your inner power. I don't want 00:17:26.420 --> 00:17:29.660 to give too much. When is that? Pardon? When 00:17:29.660 --> 00:17:32.200 is that? Can they do it anytime? You can do it 00:17:32.200 --> 00:17:35.960 anytime. Oh, I'm signing up for that. Honestly, 00:17:36.339 --> 00:17:38.579 I'm really, really proud of it because I don't 00:17:38.579 --> 00:17:42.200 think I've ever seen this done before. I mean, 00:17:42.819 --> 00:17:46.319 I love meditation, but it is sometimes really 00:17:46.319 --> 00:17:49.910 hard to focus. trying to focus your thoughts 00:17:49.910 --> 00:17:53.109 and trying to clear your mind doesn't work for 00:17:53.109 --> 00:17:55.569 a lot of people. I'm always thinking a million 00:17:55.569 --> 00:17:59.970 thoughts because like you, I have OCD or I fall 00:17:59.970 --> 00:18:04.170 asleep. And then forget journaling. So this would 00:18:04.170 --> 00:18:06.170 force me to get into that because I always have 00:18:06.170 --> 00:18:09.230 those good intentions. Buy the agenda for the 00:18:09.230 --> 00:18:12.009 year or buy a journal and then that works for 00:18:12.009 --> 00:18:15.799 like a week. I agree. I have to say. I will say 00:18:15.799 --> 00:18:17.960 this right now, I'm giving you journal prompts, 00:18:18.000 --> 00:18:20.059 but I'm gonna tell you right now, it is very 00:18:20.059 --> 00:18:22.460 hard to stay committed, but this is the work, 00:18:22.619 --> 00:18:25.759 right? And you can use the journal prompts and 00:18:25.759 --> 00:18:28.599 maybe it's not necessarily journaling. Maybe 00:18:28.599 --> 00:18:31.740 you're drawing or you're going on a walk and 00:18:31.740 --> 00:18:35.720 just reflecting on what you've went through. 00:18:36.160 --> 00:18:38.420 And I don't know if you read Choose Your Own 00:18:38.420 --> 00:18:40.980 Adventure novels when you were younger, but this 00:18:40.980 --> 00:18:44.579 is the feeling that I want people to get. as 00:18:44.579 --> 00:18:48.400 they move through these meditations. And I'm 00:18:48.400 --> 00:18:51.339 building on a seven -day one, I have that in 00:18:51.339 --> 00:18:54.720 the works, and then, I don't know. You have a 00:18:54.720 --> 00:18:58.319 lot going on. I know, I love it. And you've only 00:18:58.319 --> 00:19:02.160 been back in Windsor for, what, a year? I moved 00:19:02.160 --> 00:19:05.279 to Windsor last summer. Wow. And so I was in 00:19:05.279 --> 00:19:09.420 Chatham doing a lot of work there, too, for four 00:19:09.420 --> 00:19:13.839 years. But yeah Windsor for the the last year 00:19:13.839 --> 00:19:17.000 and honestly like so cool to come back after 00:19:17.000 --> 00:19:19.339 all these years So but it's nice because you 00:19:19.339 --> 00:19:22.519 don't have to be in Windsor in order to enjoy 00:19:22.519 --> 00:19:28.180 Your know your work. No, I can Go anywhere be 00:19:28.180 --> 00:19:31.500 anywhere wherever so it's it's great I love that 00:19:31.500 --> 00:19:34.119 now there is something that you do have to be 00:19:34.119 --> 00:19:37.460 in Windsor for and that is your event coming 00:19:37.460 --> 00:19:43.930 up that is dating Yes, so I... I'm not going 00:19:43.930 --> 00:19:48.730 to be there. I'm married. And I am actually in 00:19:48.730 --> 00:19:52.170 a relationship, so I will not... Participate. 00:19:52.569 --> 00:19:57.630 I will not be participating, but the reason why 00:19:57.630 --> 00:20:00.849 I created this event, one, because I'm a hopeless 00:20:00.849 --> 00:20:06.750 romantic, and I love love, and I want other people 00:20:06.750 --> 00:20:10.920 to... experience it. But I think for me, it's 00:20:10.920 --> 00:20:17.380 beyond that because COVID and the world at large 00:20:17.380 --> 00:20:20.680 has really become disconnected with each other. 00:20:21.220 --> 00:20:25.140 And human connection, I feel like it's such a 00:20:25.140 --> 00:20:30.579 struggle for so many people. And for when I was 00:20:30.579 --> 00:20:33.059 dating and when I was going through that after 00:20:33.059 --> 00:20:36.170 my divorce, it was difficult because You know, 00:20:36.170 --> 00:20:40.650 we have the apps, and the apps are, I feel, like 00:20:40.650 --> 00:20:42.609 the game of Hot or Not, where you're judging 00:20:42.609 --> 00:20:50.029 people by pictures, and it is terrible. You go 00:20:50.029 --> 00:20:52.630 through these, you have prompts, or you have 00:20:52.630 --> 00:20:55.950 surface -level conversations, and trying to get 00:20:55.950 --> 00:20:59.769 people on an actual date is very difficult. Or 00:20:59.769 --> 00:21:02.009 to get them to be honest. Or to get them to be 00:21:02.009 --> 00:21:04.809 honest, and that's the thing, is like, actually. 00:21:05.309 --> 00:21:08.849 My boyfriend right now he's he's on his profile. 00:21:08.950 --> 00:21:13.049 He said that he was 511 and he is not 511 I'm 00:21:13.049 --> 00:21:15.529 still dating him but like that's the thing is 00:21:15.529 --> 00:21:21.160 like people are not necessarily truthful in what 00:21:21.160 --> 00:21:24.200 they say. And I think that people now are just 00:21:24.200 --> 00:21:28.859 so jaded by it, and so there's just a lot of 00:21:28.859 --> 00:21:32.500 negativity around it. And I want to bring that 00:21:32.500 --> 00:21:37.099 spark back to dating, the excitement back. And 00:21:37.099 --> 00:21:41.750 this event... You're going to it, but it's not 00:21:41.750 --> 00:21:45.910 like I'm here making you match with someone or 00:21:45.910 --> 00:21:47.930 you're going to find your soulmate. It's not 00:21:47.930 --> 00:21:52.529 the power dating thing. No, it is not speed dating. 00:21:54.329 --> 00:22:00.089 So yes, no speed dating. I really am wanting 00:22:00.089 --> 00:22:03.019 just... just have people make connections. So 00:22:03.019 --> 00:22:06.559 I have curated some questions, so each table 00:22:06.559 --> 00:22:09.920 is gonna have some questions, but it's not like 00:22:09.920 --> 00:22:13.880 you're gonna be forced to sit down with people 00:22:13.880 --> 00:22:18.440 and forced to talk. It's going to be a very free 00:22:18.440 --> 00:22:26.819 -flowing experience. and I'll be doing, I will 00:22:26.819 --> 00:22:30.920 be doing some games. Not the cringe -worthy games, 00:22:31.140 --> 00:22:33.279 but just games to get people involved. I really 00:22:33.279 --> 00:22:36.920 want people just to laugh and have fun because 00:22:36.920 --> 00:22:40.980 life is too serious. This event is for 35 to 00:22:40.980 --> 00:22:46.500 50, but when I was dating in my late 30s, there 00:22:46.500 --> 00:22:50.339 was no single people. There was no, sorry, there 00:22:50.339 --> 00:22:53.660 was no single people in my friend group. So I 00:22:53.660 --> 00:22:56.579 had a hard time, you know, connecting with other 00:22:56.579 --> 00:23:00.160 people, and that's the, you know, information 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:02.960 and feedback I'm getting from other people is 00:23:02.960 --> 00:23:05.839 that, well, I don't have any people in my friend 00:23:05.839 --> 00:23:08.319 group that are single that can go, you know, 00:23:08.319 --> 00:23:11.779 out with me and, like, go to different bars, 00:23:11.960 --> 00:23:14.720 or the friend groups are just, there's a lack 00:23:14.720 --> 00:23:17.839 of that. Well, and that's even hard too. Okay, 00:23:18.279 --> 00:23:22.259 dating online, forget it. I mean, you can, but... 00:23:22.319 --> 00:23:28.259 chances of a match are slim. Going to a bar and 00:23:28.259 --> 00:23:31.700 meeting somebody, that's kind of cringy as well. 00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:37.019 You have to be really outgoing. It's loud and 00:23:37.019 --> 00:23:42.700 there's lots of things going on. It's more so 00:23:42.700 --> 00:23:46.220 just to create a very, very intentional space. 00:23:47.339 --> 00:23:51.309 And I think that... People are people are starving 00:23:51.309 --> 00:23:54.549 for that right now. Oh, I agree. Now. When is 00:23:54.549 --> 00:23:59.289 that going to be so it's October 7th I believe 00:23:59.289 --> 00:24:02.630 that's a Tuesday from 7 until 9 p .m. At wine 00:24:02.630 --> 00:24:05.630 ology the one on walkerville. Oh, okay beautiful 00:24:05.630 --> 00:24:09.970 patio. Oh, it is there Yeah, now, how would they 00:24:09.970 --> 00:24:13.539 be able to get tickets or enroll? Yeah, so they 00:24:13.539 --> 00:24:17.619 can follow me on date on purpose. It's on Eventbrite, 00:24:17.660 --> 00:24:22.470 so you just search date on purpose. Wineology, 00:24:22.549 --> 00:24:26.650 Walkerville, and it is all there. Happy to take 00:24:26.650 --> 00:24:29.130 any questions. I know people have been asking 00:24:29.130 --> 00:24:32.009 that are outside of that age range, so that's 00:24:32.009 --> 00:24:34.529 a good sign. I hopefully will be doing other 00:24:34.529 --> 00:24:39.069 events after this for other age groups, but yeah. 00:24:39.329 --> 00:24:42.970 Yeah, seniors need them too. Honestly, everyone 00:24:42.970 --> 00:24:48.609 needs them. It's true. But I think people just 00:24:48.609 --> 00:24:52.769 need to remember how to connect again. I think 00:24:52.769 --> 00:24:55.809 it would be fun to have one of those words just 00:24:55.809 --> 00:25:00.190 to make friends. That's kind of where I want 00:25:00.190 --> 00:25:04.390 to go with this. It's not said, but if you're 00:25:04.390 --> 00:25:07.869 going to an event with all single people. And 00:25:07.869 --> 00:25:10.769 that's the thing, that's why this is not necessarily 00:25:10.769 --> 00:25:12.990 about finding your soul mate, but you're going 00:25:12.990 --> 00:25:15.549 to find people that are like -minded. So you 00:25:15.549 --> 00:25:19.509 might go and you might not find a date, but you 00:25:19.509 --> 00:25:22.529 might speak to a girl or a guy and be like, oh, 00:25:22.569 --> 00:25:26.289 that person was really cool. You become friends 00:25:26.289 --> 00:25:29.910 and you go do adventures together and have experiences 00:25:29.910 --> 00:25:35.539 and that's how you meet your partner. So it's 00:25:35.539 --> 00:25:40.700 really just about networking and connecting and 00:25:40.700 --> 00:25:45.339 creating relationships and experiences for people. 00:25:45.740 --> 00:25:48.940 Really this is just, I am just facilitating it 00:25:48.940 --> 00:25:52.400 but the rest is up to everyone else who attends. 00:25:53.000 --> 00:25:55.460 Now how much are the tickets? The tickets are 00:25:55.460 --> 00:25:59.130 40 and you get a free drink. So it is, yeah, 00:25:59.170 --> 00:26:01.170 it'll be really, really great. That'll be fun. 00:26:02.170 --> 00:26:06.509 And everybody can follow you on Instagram. And 00:26:06.509 --> 00:26:08.250 are you on Facebook or is it just Instagram? 00:26:09.519 --> 00:26:13.960 I hate Facebook, everyone. Same. So I really 00:26:13.960 --> 00:26:18.779 base my, even I'm terrible at TikTok, but really 00:26:18.779 --> 00:26:21.579 my home base is Instagram. So I have the Joy 00:26:21.579 --> 00:26:25.059 Tribe Co and I have Date On Purpose. So you can 00:26:25.059 --> 00:26:29.400 follow me on either and get updates. And also 00:26:29.400 --> 00:26:32.299 you're on, I was watching some of your YouTube 00:26:32.299 --> 00:26:37.819 videos on Various topics. Yes. Yeah, really good. 00:26:38.079 --> 00:26:41.640 Thank you I that is my little baby that I've 00:26:41.640 --> 00:26:45.539 been trying to nurture and trying not to like 00:26:45.539 --> 00:26:49.420 get caught up in all the algorithm and just speak 00:26:49.420 --> 00:26:54.579 my truth, but yeah, it's it's YouTube is great 00:26:54.579 --> 00:26:59.339 and I love being able to get on camera and Share 00:26:59.339 --> 00:27:02.759 my knowledge and share experiences and help people 00:27:02.759 --> 00:27:08.089 make them laugh and just be myself, so. Now the 00:27:08.089 --> 00:27:12.450 last one you just did, and I mean it was a couple 00:27:12.450 --> 00:27:16.450 weeks ago, but this is the type of self -discovery 00:27:16.450 --> 00:27:19.529 coach that Erin is. There was a podcast, or it 00:27:19.529 --> 00:27:25.369 was an episode of just two little words. I'm 00:27:25.369 --> 00:27:28.809 fine. And what that means when you say that? 00:27:29.049 --> 00:27:33.849 A whole lot. A whole lot, actually. It is the 00:27:33.849 --> 00:27:37.869 worst thing that you can say. It is so dangerous 00:27:37.869 --> 00:27:42.990 because I'm fine could be, oh my gosh, I hate 00:27:42.990 --> 00:27:45.349 you so much. I have so much else going on right 00:27:45.349 --> 00:27:49.309 now, but I'm fine. Like it's just, it's such 00:27:49.309 --> 00:27:53.799 a blanket thing to say. Yeah, I think that when 00:27:53.799 --> 00:27:57.200 you say, I'm fine, it's like blocking connection. 00:27:57.480 --> 00:27:59.900 It's blocking connection not only with yourself, 00:28:00.420 --> 00:28:02.519 but it's blocking connection with your partner 00:28:02.519 --> 00:28:05.799 or whoever you're saying that to. Because you're 00:28:05.799 --> 00:28:09.440 denying your emotions. You're denying your truth. 00:28:09.759 --> 00:28:12.980 So when you say, I'm fine, also you're denying 00:28:12.980 --> 00:28:14.920 that from your partner if you're saying that 00:28:14.920 --> 00:28:17.359 to your partner. Because they're gonna sit in 00:28:17.359 --> 00:28:20.799 the dark. and be like, okay, well, I know something's 00:28:20.799 --> 00:28:23.779 wrong and it's just gonna fester. And it shuts 00:28:23.779 --> 00:28:26.559 communication down. It shuts your... And that's 00:28:26.559 --> 00:28:29.880 what I like you saying. It shuts yourself down. 00:28:29.980 --> 00:28:35.220 And you're not being true to yourself in voicing 00:28:35.220 --> 00:28:38.400 whatever it is. If you want to call it gaslighting 00:28:38.400 --> 00:28:40.700 yourself, there we go. It's gaslighting yourself. 00:28:40.720 --> 00:28:44.140 It's true. So, and that's the thing too, is when 00:28:44.140 --> 00:28:48.140 I was in my... relationship for seven years, 00:28:48.380 --> 00:28:52.579 I constantly said I was fine. I was always, oh 00:28:52.579 --> 00:28:57.900 yeah, this is fine. I don't know, I can't remember 00:28:57.900 --> 00:29:00.380 if I said it in this video, but there was a point 00:29:00.380 --> 00:29:04.680 when I was training for a marathon and I got 00:29:04.680 --> 00:29:09.180 hit by a car. This story. And I was fine, I was 00:29:09.180 --> 00:29:12.609 fine. See, I'm fine, I'm fine. But you were. 00:29:12.789 --> 00:29:15.309 But I was. Like, I didn't have any broken bones. 00:29:16.170 --> 00:29:22.130 And I ended up calling my boyfriend. And he, 00:29:22.410 --> 00:29:26.009 my boyfriend at the time, and he basically said, 00:29:26.069 --> 00:29:29.910 oh, just get a cab. I'll be home soon. And so 00:29:29.910 --> 00:29:33.690 I got, like, the cab came. I was like, oh, yeah, 00:29:33.690 --> 00:29:36.410 this is fine. I got in the cab and then got home. 00:29:36.450 --> 00:29:40.420 And he didn't come home for two hours. And I 00:29:40.420 --> 00:29:43.599 still stayed. I still said I'm fine. And I feel 00:29:43.599 --> 00:29:48.640 like people do this all the time. Because we 00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:50.940 don't want to inconvenience someone. We don't 00:29:50.940 --> 00:29:54.460 want to disappoint anyone. We want to make sure 00:29:54.460 --> 00:29:58.680 that life is just airy and fairy. And we're women. 00:29:58.779 --> 00:30:01.960 We're supposed to be strong. Yeah. There's nothing 00:30:01.960 --> 00:30:05.079 wrong with us. We're perfectly fine. We have 00:30:05.079 --> 00:30:07.680 these big shoulders here. We can hold the weight 00:30:07.680 --> 00:30:13.700 of the world. Yeah. So I think, as women, we 00:30:13.700 --> 00:30:17.059 need to, if you find yourself wanting to say, 00:30:17.279 --> 00:30:21.819 I'm fine, maybe just take a step back and ask 00:30:21.819 --> 00:30:28.460 yourself, why? Why is this fine? And really kind 00:30:28.460 --> 00:30:32.720 of explore what that means for you. And then, 00:30:32.720 --> 00:30:36.420 you know, be able to share that. I know, because 00:30:36.420 --> 00:30:39.910 I was thinking about it when I watched your video 00:30:39.910 --> 00:30:43.609 and I'm thinking, okay, even in really good relationships, 00:30:43.990 --> 00:30:47.910 friendships with family, you're saying I'm fine 00:30:47.910 --> 00:30:50.769 just to stop a discussion, stop an argument, 00:30:51.470 --> 00:30:54.549 stop doing or talking about something that's 00:30:54.549 --> 00:30:57.670 uncomfortable. And you are turning what could 00:30:57.670 --> 00:31:01.539 be a little... a little thing into something 00:31:01.539 --> 00:31:05.660 huge by saying that and stopping it because then 00:31:05.660 --> 00:31:08.240 it's going to fester and it's going to make whatever 00:31:08.240 --> 00:31:12.079 it is. You're going to resent whoever you're 00:31:12.079 --> 00:31:14.619 also going to resent yourself and wishing you 00:31:14.619 --> 00:31:18.339 said something and it's just becoming becomes 00:31:18.339 --> 00:31:24.839 a big mess. So you just need to share your feelings 00:31:24.839 --> 00:31:29.519 and tell people how you feel and that's why it's 00:31:29.519 --> 00:31:35.019 so, so important to build that relationship with 00:31:35.019 --> 00:31:38.119 yourself. And I mean, I sit here today and I 00:31:38.119 --> 00:31:39.740 still struggle with that. I still - Everybody 00:31:39.740 --> 00:31:45.099 does. Yeah. But I think what I've learned from 00:31:45.099 --> 00:31:47.900 my own self -discovery process is taking that 00:31:47.900 --> 00:31:52.400 time to, you know, for me, it's going on walks 00:31:52.400 --> 00:31:56.980 that I can reconnect to myself. and be able to, 00:31:57.220 --> 00:31:59.420 okay, how did I feel during that? What does that 00:31:59.420 --> 00:32:02.700 actually mean for me? And then coming back to 00:32:02.700 --> 00:32:05.700 a situation or whether that's your job or your 00:32:05.700 --> 00:32:08.579 relationship or a conversation with a family 00:32:08.579 --> 00:32:13.680 member. Just so you can be sure of your truth 00:32:13.680 --> 00:32:16.500 and yourself so that you can show up better for 00:32:16.500 --> 00:32:19.099 people in your life and yourself. That's something 00:32:19.099 --> 00:32:22.180 that we are all trained regardless of how old 00:32:22.180 --> 00:32:26.950 you are. from the time you were little is to 00:32:26.950 --> 00:32:31.329 be yourself but also you don't want to rock the 00:32:31.329 --> 00:32:34.690 boat and you don't want to be the drama queen. 00:32:34.890 --> 00:32:38.509 You want to be the self -sufficient one and I'm 00:32:38.509 --> 00:32:43.329 fine and I'm okay. I got this and sometimes we 00:32:43.329 --> 00:32:45.769 need that help whether it's from our partner 00:32:45.769 --> 00:32:50.599 or a self -discovery coach. That is true and 00:32:50.599 --> 00:32:53.700 I think just using curiosity and the other thing 00:32:53.700 --> 00:32:58.339 I will mention because the your imagination because 00:32:58.339 --> 00:33:01.940 as children we are told from a young age that 00:33:01.940 --> 00:33:04.900 you know you need to you know do good in school 00:33:04.900 --> 00:33:07.180 you need to get good grades you need to go to 00:33:07.180 --> 00:33:11.079 university or you know get a great job get a 00:33:11.079 --> 00:33:14.480 great partner get married do all the things Like 00:33:14.480 --> 00:33:18.160 we get so caught up in adulting. We get so caught 00:33:18.160 --> 00:33:21.920 up in being our best and being successful that 00:33:21.920 --> 00:33:26.640 we actually forget that imagination and curiosity 00:33:26.640 --> 00:33:33.140 and joy. Like we forget that. And then that's 00:33:33.140 --> 00:33:36.700 the piece I think that makes life worth living. 00:33:36.779 --> 00:33:39.759 Because if you're constantly working your butt 00:33:39.759 --> 00:33:44.490 off, helping your kids, doing all the things, 00:33:45.029 --> 00:33:49.490 how do you live your life? And so, for me, my 00:33:49.490 --> 00:33:52.230 coaching is not only discovering yourself, but 00:33:52.230 --> 00:33:55.049 it's also discovering that joy and that spark 00:33:55.049 --> 00:33:58.990 that you have, which is why I also focus a lot 00:33:58.990 --> 00:34:02.930 of my coaching on fantasy and the Tomb Raider 00:34:02.930 --> 00:34:06.650 aspect and the heroine's journey. Because I think 00:34:06.650 --> 00:34:10.289 that we forget that our imagination helps us 00:34:10.289 --> 00:34:14.880 build the life that we aspire to and Asking, 00:34:14.960 --> 00:34:18.039 you know the question what if like what if I 00:34:18.039 --> 00:34:21.559 started those art classes or what if I you know 00:34:21.559 --> 00:34:24.980 went for a walk every morning like what What 00:34:24.980 --> 00:34:27.300 would happen? What if I went to a dating event, 00:34:27.519 --> 00:34:30.199 which you should? Definitely, you know, like 00:34:30.199 --> 00:34:34.500 you just don't know Like the good things that 00:34:34.500 --> 00:34:38.630 can happen and like to be able to create and 00:34:38.630 --> 00:34:41.230 use your hands. It actually helps with anxiety. 00:34:41.849 --> 00:34:47.670 There's so many pluses with healing and imagination 00:34:47.670 --> 00:34:51.289 and curiosity and just all around joy. Because 00:34:51.289 --> 00:34:54.889 what the heck is it all worth? And us as women, 00:34:54.889 --> 00:34:59.289 I don't know why, but if we're not taking care 00:34:59.289 --> 00:35:02.050 of whatever family you have, whether it's animals, 00:35:02.289 --> 00:35:05.789 whether it's children, whether it is your... 00:35:05.559 --> 00:35:08.739 Parents grandparents husband spouse of whatever 00:35:08.739 --> 00:35:12.340 kind your work your house if you do anything 00:35:12.340 --> 00:35:16.300 for yourself We always feel guilty. Oh my gosh 00:35:16.300 --> 00:35:20.719 and that's why I definitely think that doing 00:35:20.719 --> 00:35:25.059 your programs and listening to your YouTube's 00:35:25.059 --> 00:35:28.300 and it's giving yourself permission to be happy 00:35:28.300 --> 00:35:32.179 and be healthy and not always be on point for 00:35:32.179 --> 00:35:34.099 everybody else. Because if everyone it's like 00:35:34.099 --> 00:35:36.579 it's like watching people like you're at the 00:35:36.579 --> 00:35:38.519 side of the playground and like watching all 00:35:38.519 --> 00:35:41.739 the other kids play and you don't get to. Why? 00:35:42.500 --> 00:35:46.079 Why? Why do we feel guilty if we do something 00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:48.260 and it's like okay I'm not going to vacuum today 00:35:48.260 --> 00:35:50.940 or we're going to get McDonald's because I want 00:35:50.940 --> 00:35:52.679 to watch this show or I want to read a book. 00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:56.199 Why do I feel guilty for that? It's weird. The 00:35:56.199 --> 00:35:59.269 only person that is providing like making the 00:35:59.269 --> 00:36:03.090 only person that is giving guilt is ourselves. 00:36:03.309 --> 00:36:07.409 Exactly and we need to stop that cycle and learn 00:36:07.409 --> 00:36:10.690 that we are people and we deserve the happiness 00:36:10.690 --> 00:36:13.489 and the joy and the love that everybody else 00:36:13.489 --> 00:36:16.630 has. That's right. And date as well if you're 00:36:16.630 --> 00:36:22.929 single. Yeah honestly and here I'm saying that 00:36:22.929 --> 00:36:25.170 you should come to my dating event but if dating 00:36:25.170 --> 00:36:28.809 is not your thing that's okay like I think the 00:36:28.760 --> 00:36:33.280 The basis of everything that I do is building 00:36:33.280 --> 00:36:35.840 a relationship with yourself, knowing who you 00:36:35.840 --> 00:36:38.400 are, knowing what you want, if that's a partner, 00:36:38.860 --> 00:36:41.320 knowing what you want in a partner and how that 00:36:41.320 --> 00:36:45.079 life looks and living from that. Because if you 00:36:45.079 --> 00:36:47.559 want a partner, all of that's gonna fall into 00:36:47.559 --> 00:36:50.949 place. Oh, for sure. So, and if you want to be 00:36:50.949 --> 00:36:52.889 single and you want to travel the world, all 00:36:52.889 --> 00:36:55.730 of that's going to fall into place. If you know 00:36:55.730 --> 00:37:00.590 who you are and your why and how you want to 00:37:00.590 --> 00:37:03.889 live your life. That's it. Perfect. And thank 00:37:03.889 --> 00:37:07.090 you so much, Erin. This is definitely going to 00:37:07.090 --> 00:37:10.469 be a world of good for me, for anybody else that 00:37:10.469 --> 00:37:14.420 wants to. to join in on any of your workshops. 00:37:14.800 --> 00:37:16.820 Well, thank you so much again, Erin. I really 00:37:16.820 --> 00:37:20.159 do appreciate you being here. Make sure to follow 00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:24.519 Erin on Instagram at date on purpose, date on 00:37:24.519 --> 00:37:28.000 purpose and the Joy Tribe Co. And you can also 00:37:28.000 --> 00:37:31.599 find some of her videos on YouTube at Joy Tribe 00:37:31.599 --> 00:37:36.699 Co. as well and get out there and date or do 00:37:36.699 --> 00:37:39.940 a workshop. get to know Erin and get to know 00:37:39.940 --> 00:37:43.119 yourself because we all deserve a little joy 00:37:43.119 --> 00:37:46.619 in our lives. I love it. Thank you. Yes. Again, 00:37:46.659 --> 00:37:48.820 my name is Tracy Martens and thank you so much 00:37:48.820 --> 00:37:51.559 for joining me for another episode of YQG and 00:37:51.559 --> 00:37:53.420 Bloom. You all have a wonderful day.