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All right, everybody, welcome to this week's episode of Super Freak.
I am happy to welcome back Neha Oberoi, who not only helps me with Super Freak, but is
a client and the second half of my brain with running everything and helping me stay consistent
and making sure that all the T's are crossed when the eyes are dotted.
Today, I thought we'd do something interesting with this podcast session because there's
just a collective drag happening.
I even feel it with myself.
When I asked Neha what we should talk about today, we had some questions and some ideas
already in the pike, but I was like, nah, not really feeling a hard yes on that, that, or
that.
What I'm feeling from many people right now is this oscillation between doing frequency
work or doing work and then getting this huge boost.
You just get this huge boost and you feel really good and then you get some momentum
and things start happening.
Then you just feel like you hit a wall and you take three steps back in order to go forward.
That happens a lot in the process of this work.
It's totally normal, but Neha, I'm going to jump over to you and maybe just do a live
workshop.
People who are new to the podcast or who've been with me for a while can see what happens
in real time and you can ask questions that I feel are not only a funnel from what we've
seen as feedback on social content, but also what you're going through as well because
I think it's really pertinent to how people are feeling out there.
Jump right in.
How have you been feeling and what's going on?
Basically this episode is going to be around how to get unstuck when you feel like you've
plateaued.
Okay.
Yeah.
Hi, Tally.
Where am I right now?
I feel super stuck.
I know we've been doing a lot of work together since May.
We've been doing sessions every month and I've been part of your yoga and your waking
series and I was feeling such a shift from this.
Then I would say over the last month, it's just like, I don't know if it's plateaued
or I feel like I'm moving backwards.
I went to Canada to visit my family and then I came back and I just, I don't feel like doing
the work.
I feel like I'm going back into my old patterns and there's a part of me that's really pushing
to do my meditations and do this.
There's a big part of me that's like, doesn't want to.
Just wants to, just feels really stuck.
It's like I'm stuck in some thick mud and I don't know how to get out of it.
That's so normal.
I mean, I can just hear and feel people who are listening to this going, yes, what is
this?
It's a combination of a couple of things.
Yes, there's collective stuff going on too.
There is a very big dump going on of density.
You're definitely not alone.
There's collective, it's both and, right?
Collective and individual.
I'll ask you this question.
What did you feel like was the biggest thing that you felt you were up against when you
were visiting your family?
I would say sticking to the work that I was doing before I went there and really not letting
the old thoughts stick in, like being super aware of that.
I was there for three weeks.
I felt like the first two weeks were really good, but that last week just, oh my God,
it was wild for me.
I would say getting the thoughts.
I don't really know if I'm explaining this well, but observing my thoughts and doing
the work, it was very hard to do.
When you say doing the work, and this is where I want people to discern as well.
When you're in a container and you feel really safe in your own house or in your own environment,
you can control and navigate the environment.
There's a prediction element going on.
You feel like you have the energy set.
You know how to navigate your environment really well and you feel really safe there.
When you're embarking on new work, the brain can only take so much newness before, and
spirit too, before something folds because you're trying to hold a new container for
yourself.
I want to talk about the idea of holding your space and what that actually means to hold
your space.
If you imagine that you're encapsulated into a bubble and your arms length around you all
the way, right?
There's a hula hoop that you're grounding toward.
We talk about that in the Awakening series and the meditations in the beginning when
I want to get you guys further into the body space and into the zero point.
Imagine you're encapsulated into a bubble and it's arms length all the way around you.
Holding your space literally means that nothing can get in.
Nothing can interfere with you.
Everything to do when we have children, when we have all these patterns that we want to
have buy in.
As you're deconditioning all of this stuff and working at frequency level to disengage
these patterns and have it ripple through these family lines, if you're surrounded by
a collective agreement that they don't want to change, that's going to affect you.
The mastery is how much can you hold your own knowing and hold your own space inside
of a dynamic that wants to pull all the time from you?
I would say you did a fantastic job being new to this type of work, new-ish.
Even if people who have been in the work for a while, it's always family that ends up being
this thing where it's just tough to navigate.
There's a few things that happen.
When we disrupt the predictability of our environment, we are forced to have ourself
in a different way.
It's interesting because if you were around, let's say, who from your line, if this is
you and you're listening to this and you felt like you've hit a wall, go back and audit
your behavior before, your thought patterns before, and then where they started to go
sideways in this period of time where you felt like, yeah, I was doing great.
I visited my family or I went on vacation or I moved houses or nothing really happened.
I just fell off.
Notice what pattern you felt you were up against the most.
What did you feel you were working on the most right before you left?
Was it like abandonment of self?
Was it feeling like you had to maintain a certain level of perfection, this kind of
thing?
I would say fear, fear of judgment was a really, really big one.
And yes, abandonment of self.
Okay, perfect.
Notice how that was kind of teed up for you perfectly to be able to see how much you can
have yourself in the lion's den.
So if you're getting constantly pulled by children or family or whatever, we're going
to go here and we're going to go there and you have the fear of people pleasing and not
wanting to ruffle feathers and the judgment of others mixed with the abandonment of self,
that's a perfect storm for you to go right into a family dynamic for an extended period
of time to see how much you could hold your space.
Coming back, you finally leave, right?
And there's probably the nervous system probably exhales a bit because you're like, wait.
So now you reenter into your predictive environment.
The brain is starting to readjust to all of this newness.
And where are you now with the stuckness with these patterns?
Yeah, the abandonment of self is very clear.
Like it became super clear after that trip and people pleasing because like doing the
work beforehand obviously really helped like make this super clear for me because going
there and seeing this, like you said, you're right in that it was teed up and I could see
it all around me in the people that I'm around as well.
They were carrying this with them themselves as well.
And then when I came back, these are two of the big ones along with lack, I saw that too,
specifically with money that I've been really working on.
If you can relate to this and you're listening to this, I would have this too.
It was always anxiety with reentering into family dynamics and then leading and then
having to reestablish my baseline, right?
Restabilize in a way to this like kind of new container.
This is when the mastery kind of comes in.
This is what the practice is all about.
So when you find yourself in resistance, you're essentially resisting yourself.
That's really what the resistance is.
So if your pattern is to judge, right?
Your fear of judgment, self-abandoned, and then you run up against lack.
If these are the patterns you're working on right now, contraaction number one.
Where is that in the body space?
Number two.
And then number three, how can I love myself more, forgive myself more, soften?
Where can I actually soften and not push up against that resistance?
So imagine, and then the other mastery is how old is she?
How old is that version of you that feels like she has to do more?
People please, doesn't feel like she's enough.
You kind of can identify that version of you at that age and then re-parent her.
I talk about this a lot on sessions, people who are listening.
For those of you who have downloaded the pattern freebie, I talk a lot about the inventory
and the audit process because it's literally like a life hack to really identify where
your point of reference is coming from, what's your core patterning and based on causes and
conditions.
And then what are you really afraid of?
Right, because that's what's holding on here.
The ego is holding on to illusion and that's really what fear is.
Fear is just the ego holding on to illusion.
So if you don't have anything to fear, there's nothing to fear and you know you have yourself,
then where's the resistance really?
So you're being called to have a deeper trust of self.
You're being called to allow, to soften, let go.
And then track in the body space where those patterns are emerging.
In this session with you right now, just on this podcast, I can feel like it's all in
my collarbones, like it's all up here in the chest.
Yeah, I feel all the tightness here.
All the tightness, yeah.
So you know you're like, okay, this is an anxiety response.
I'm having anxiety in the spot.
So you put your focused awareness on that area and do this, right?
Like I'm up against a lot of resistance.
Okay.
So what's the resistance in the body?
What are you feeling and what story are you telling yourself?
So these are questions you can ask at any time without having the pattern sheet in front
of you.
Just like what's going on with me right now?
What am I feeling?
Where's the tension and the resistance in my body and what story am I telling myself?
What am I afraid to have?
What am I afraid to get?
And what am I afraid to lose?
It's usually one of those things.
And then you could ask that other question that I just went through is how old is that
version of you that's afraid, feeling like she has to do it all on her own.
Like you don't have any support in the matter.
And it's in that state of hyperindependence.
And then this like kind of panic ensues that if you move into the future to try to predict
how all this stuff is going to sort itself out with the money and XYZ, it just shuts
down the possibility of the highest expression of you to come in and sort it out.
This gets loaded, right?
The stuckness is a few things just to track all of this.
Okay.
The stuckness is when you have these big expansions, you're going to actually calibrate, right?
You're going to recalibrate, be met with situations that are going to amplify those
patterns that you have to delete in order to get to the next, the bottom of the next
level.
So let's say you reach the top of level one and you go to your family and to get to level
two, you've got to get past this gremlin with lack.
You got to get past a lack of Gremlin, right?
A self-abandonment Gremlin.
And you're just like trying to like play this video game and your character cannot figure
out how to get past these guys.
And then you recognize, you're like, oh, if I just sit still and pause, like I see another
possibility here.
Oh, I see what I just did there.
I see this.
And then you just, through the awareness, the empowerment, a little patience, self-love,
and of course, obviously the frequency stuff helps too.
You start to see and notice different ways to move through patterns.
You kind of have to soften and allow so you can get more information.
You have more information coming in.
Most people don't know how to sit with discomfort.
They have very little access to sitting with levels of discomfort.
They will push and resist and do and try to do, right?
They'll move into the masculine side of themselves to protect.
So if you know that's a pattern and you know what you're doing, the sooner you can catch
yourself in that and you can step into contrary action, the more these things start to dislodge.
And that dense layer just starts to kind of dissipate a little bit and then you can get
yourself through it and then you pop up into the bottom of the next layer, right?
Let's say you're at the bottom of two in a totally different bandwidth, right?
There's a totally different set of rulesets that apply here.
This process is about, if you imagine a triangle and you've got polarity on either side, the
process is about moving towards the center.
And you move towards the center kind of as you move up the triangle.
Those people are like deeply on either side of the bottom of the triangle as a visual.
The process of awakening is not linear.
It's not like step one, two, three, four, five.
You really will ping up kind of back down and then up and back down again.
And then you'll be in different aspects and references of how you see yourself at any
given moment within that spectrum of polarity.
You can also ask yourself, where can I reconcile this pattern within my body?
Because if you're in an absolute, this always going to be this way, why can't I just maintain
this level and this, this, this, will awful eyes, will tell stories.
And you said yourself, I was really in, I could really notice my thought patterns when
I was with my family.
That's a win.
Imagine the versions of you before who had no access to that, right?
You couldn't tell what kind of patterns you were running.
And then whose thought patterns are those?
Where did you learn that?
And would you say that to your younger self?
No.
So then you can move into the meditation.
You can move into re-listening to super freak stuff, some of the re-parenting stuff that
I talk about a lot and move from there.
You know, it's interesting because it is so easy to be hard on yourself, especially if
you've maintained a level of, you know, your meditations and you're doing the work and
you see yourself excelling and then you just fall back into it.
And it's so hard not to be hard on yourself because it's like, why can't I get back to
that place?
We've been trained to think it's linear because you don't want to necessarily go back to that
place because that place was familiar and you were in control and you knew, you felt
really empowered in that place.
You were really in control and you felt really empowered.
So out of control feeling when you're forced into new territory as quickly as people don't
realize, when you're really doing deep levels of transformative work, you will pick up momentum
and that momentum is going to move you through versions of you that aren't you and you will
constantly be in a state of newness, uncomfortability, newness, dying off versions of yourself, being
unrecognizable to yourself faster than you can say jump.
The mastery is being cool with it is going is how much you can actually go with the flow.
So when you're confronted with the out of control feeling, that's what's really going
on because you don't want to go back to that place where you were a big fish in a small,
this small axis of yourself, right?
Where you had moved in these layers and you were like, fuck yeah, I feel like I am in
my power on top of my shit.
Well, right.
And you were no question.
You have the experience of what that is with this at this level.
Now imagine when you move through these sticky layers, what's available to you in this next
bandwidth, less suffering, more congruency, having different possibilities available for
you, different answers, different way different streams and timelines.
You just have a different level of awareness.
You can see different levels of information.
This doesn't get easy for people who have access to.
As you're talking, there's like a little battle going on in mind because a part of me is like,
how long is this going to take, Tally?
Give me a timeframe.
What am I going to move from this, right?
And then another part of me is like, it doesn't work like that girl.
Calm down.
You know.
So the part that's talking yourself, how old is that version?
Who wants to know who needs to have certainty and control?
How old is she?
The age that pops into my mind is like eight, nine.
Perfect.
So that version of her, if she doesn't know what's going on, she is not well.
She's not comfortable.
She doesn't feel good.
She's on her own.
She's frustrated.
She shuts down.
The hypervigilance goes into overdrive and the meltdowns ensue.
That's where you would want to go back into meditation and really work with her.
And you could do that even in your mind when you close your eyes.
You know there's a version of you that's in panic.
What story is my, am I telling myself what's the narrative right now?
And that's the computer, right?
The hard drive, just producing a whole bunch of previous experiences for you to act on.
The brain thinks in three ways.
Patterns, conditions, predictive and qualitative information.
So it's going to work off of what it's already experienced and create predictive algorithms
for how you need to behave in order to keep itself in a safe known place.
The highest self doesn't have that.
It's constantly in the now.
It's always in the moment, creating in the moment, free falling, waiting for that next
rock to emerge from the water kind of thing in order for you to step on it.
And most people don't know how to navigate that.
It's too much anxiety.
When I tell people how I travel, they just like, I can't breathe, you know?
I was like, there's some days where I book my flight like the day on my way to the airport.
I mean, like, I just know that I need to leave.
And I was like, well, I guess I'll just go here.
Ding, you know?
And you just kind of trust.
But walking you through that exercise, there's an aspect of you that needs to be in control.
She's afraid.
There's a little version of you that's young that needs to be held by a masculine.
So you can kind of go to that intermaskin relationship first.
And then you can go to the other side.
The feminine's like, it doesn't work like that.
And it's right.
I ask those similar questions too.
And while I reach the zero point, no.
That's not, that's not, I mean, you can make a choice and go and start all of this loop
over again if you want.
But just know you're kind of never going to be at the same place that you started.
It takes a minute, especially to move through deeper, deeper layers.
In recovery, we talk a lot about the layers of an onion.
And it's very similar in frequency work and development work and things like that because
you're constantly getting into deeper layers.
Even people who I know who are amazing healers and very good at, they have a lot of self-awareness
and they're really good in tracking it in the body and we will workshop on each other.
And it's, she will be like, I cannot believe what I just like pulled out of my body last
night.
And I was like, you had a deeper layer girl.
Just be thankful that you have the awareness of it, that you can get in there and get it
done.
But we can't do this by ourselves.
And that's a big part of what the community is at Super Freak is to be able to mirror
back to one another what's really going on.
And if this is you and you relate to Neha's story and feeling like you're stuck and you're
kind of in this momentum, definitely normal.
It's super, super normal.
And this is the time to really amplify that self-love because being hypercritical is basically
a perfectionism is a form of abuse.
So of those five that I talk about all the time, the slave patterns, the sacrifice, the
lack, the addiction, abuse, the victim, self-value piece and the epigenetic piece, you can kind
of track back to, I know I'm running this pattern, this pattern, this pattern.
Now I can feel my chest is really, it's here or it's in my hips or it's wherever.
And I feel completely out of control right now and how old is that version?
If you just ask yourself those questions, what's drawing my tell on myself and what's
the truth of the situation?
And then come back into the body space and come back into zero and wait, just wait.
And if you have a resistance to doing any kind of work, see what that resistance is
because chances are it's just the mind trying to revert back to what it knows.
And then start really simple.
One minute, two minutes and just lay down and just see if you can sit in the simplify
things when in doubt.
If you have like a big resistance to two, I have it too.
I mean, there's times when I don't want to show it for two, two shit and I'm not motivated
to do nothing.
Basically I tune in with my highest expression of myself and she'll say if you were really
motivated to do something, what would you want to talk about?
And I'm like, well, I actually feel like I would want to talk about this.
Okay.
So maybe just let that hang out and float in your little sphere.
And then sure enough, three other conversations I will overhear.
People talking about it or someone will ask me about it or I'll get an email about it.
And I was like, okay, there it is.
So I'll talk about that.
Even before we got on this call, I was like, I'm not motivated by that.
I was like, okay, let's just feel into a present moment.
What's going on for you right now and we'll workshop it.
And I think this is going to be really, really helpful for people.
So when you get stuck, when you get stuck, when you came back, what have you been doing
to kind of get yourself kind of, let's say more online?
How are you holding yourself differently?
So when I came back, I wanted to jump right back into it like before I had left.
And I quickly found after like a week of trying that that wasn't going to happen.
So I've just been really trying to just stay present, be observant of my thoughts and do
sort of like a little bit of this timeline work.
And it's so interesting because a few days ago, I saw someone like another account post
something about going back to that younger version of you and telling them that they
don't have to be afraid of being abandoned and that they don't have to do it all alone.
I just find it so interesting that we're talking about this now because obviously this is not
something we had spoken about doing on the podcast earlier.
I feel like the universe is literally like, okay, this is where you need to work on.
Like really, we pointed it.
So yeah, when I came back, I mean, I just drove in like I said, and now I'm trying to
not go backwards, but figure out where I am right now and what I just need right now rather
than forcing myself to sit down and do a meditation, which I'm not feeling like doing.
Yeah.
So I'll offer a couple of reframes too because I hear this law as well with, I don't want
to go back.
Time isn't linear.
It's totally a construct.
The fear, what are you afraid of going back to?
What do you think you're going back to?
Number one is my question.
And then number two would be when you got back into your own space where you felt like
you could take a deep breath and you can navigate your environment with more control.
When you said you've got back into it, what were you getting back into?
Having more control?
There's a failure narrative going on here, feeling like you're going to go back somewhere
and you don't want to return back there, right?
Yeah.
I mean, after I had given birth to my daughter, there was a lot of PPD there.
And so before I started working with you, it was a struggle and that's where I don't
want to end up again, like that mindset struggle that I was going through internally, the mental
stuff.
And so that's what I'm talking about, going back there into that dark zone.
And then in terms of coming back to the work after I visited Canada, in more in terms of
like getting back on track with the meditations, getting back on track with feeling the way
I was feeling before I left, which is like Super Zen in the present moment.
There was a lot of synchronicities.
It was just really beautiful.
Great.
So here's what I can say.
Depression is a past experience.
Depression is experience that is literally, watch the correlation there.
The fear of going back, I don't want to go back.
I want to feel like how I did before.
All of that language is past tense language.
So there's essentially fear of depression, which all lives in the past.
Establish a new baseline for yourself where you want to reconnect.
You want to connect in a different way with your present moment self.
Just see how that feels instead.
Literally you would want to read work on the nervous system.
And I want people to really get this is to understand the language.
So if you're afraid of going back, you're literally putting your mental experience in
the past.
And that's how we recreate simulations.
And then we go over the same thing over and over and over again.
We rewatch that movie.
So check where you are in the present moment.
Just say, I know who I am.
There is no going back.
If there's something else I need to experience in order for me to truly master the post experience
of having a child, of maybe having depressive loops, then I know that I will have myself
and I will navigate that.
It is a deeper trust.
It's like asking yourself to be with yourself in those moments.
That's the big abandonment piece.
So you ban it yourself in the moment, afraid of going right, returning into the past.
And then that loop becomes how you experience yourself.
So a big part of becoming a master collaborator with your mind is understanding like, is it
observing that loop and being like, oh, that's totally in the past.
It's crazy.
Putting yourself and bringing yourself back to the present moment and just being okay
with the unknown and then conditioning your body for that.
Then you'll have more space to how can I connect and live for my full potential even
more?
I'm going to have a deeper expression and experience of who I am in this moment.
Void of all of these things that I'm feeling.
And just sit with that question and see what comes up because you won't feel so alone.
You have to figure it out by yourself and the fear won't take over.
You'll just be in this big state of paralysis.
Trying to think about how have any final thoughts around what to do if you feel unstuck.
If you feel unstuck and you feel like you can get into a loop, this is really powerful
because I think a lot of people fear that they're going to have to go back to a state
of being that was terrible for them.
Like I said, it's the ego's way of holding onto the illusion.
That's what fear is.
And going back and getting back to a version of yourself doesn't even exist.
Just think about you're constantly moving forward.
You're just constantly moving in a now moment spiraling up.
And sometimes it's easy to stay in a concentric circle and not feel like you're going anywhere.
If you're in this circle, slow everything way, way down and get really present to what
you need to move through through those exercises that I talked about in the beginning part
of this podcast.
And that will help you get a boost because you can do it.
How can I live for my full potential even more without sacrifice, lack, control, fear?
What's the truth of this situation?
The truth is I'm okay right now in this moment and have everything that I need.
What I tell myself is I'm always going to struggle with many.
I can never get to the next income earning potential.
Why do I feel like this is so hard?
Why do I feel like I have to do it all on my own?
Just pay attention to what those thoughts are and who they are.
Whose thoughts are those?
Where did you learn that?
Where did that come from?
That's not me.
And then how old is that version?
You start doing some of that stuff and getting into the practice of that and bringing it
back into the body because the body is always present.
You'll feel a lot, lot better.
And then back off the pressure, I'm feeling like you have to do meditations 17 times a
week in order to feel like your aces.
I have had to go through this myself with super freak feeling like if I don't offer
something every month or every week, I'm not producing at a feverish rate that somehow
I'm responsible for all these people that I'm helping.
No, not true.
The body is responsible for their own process and the tools are definitely available for
people.
I feel like that's good.
If you guys want more help with this, I do have the yogas a monthly, I think at this
point and I have the podcasts and the newsletters and if you listen to these podcasts, you shift.
And the telegram channel, I always answer in answering questions on that channel.
People sleep on that channel.
They don't ask me stuff, but I ask people in DMs.
I mean, I answer those questions in DMs.
So feel free to ask questions.
The Awakening series for October is going to be fantastic about reclaiming feminine energy
and moving through the mother wound.
And just know that you're not crazy.
The Awakening process and maintaining momentum specifically in the beginning is going to
be a rocky road at first because you're trying to reconcile the polarity that you've been
living in.
Eventually, you're moving, not only are you narrowing the gap of the bottom of this big
wide triangle, but you're also trying to spiral up as you're doing that.
So when you get more access and you hold higher bandwidth, higher bandwidth of frequency of
you, it requires quicker decision making.
It requires just to heighten a different level of being able to question a witness and see
what it is you're doing and how you're creating your reality because you're oscillating really,
really fast.
So if you burn out at those levels, to start all the way back from the beginning is not
the beginning, but like, let's say to restabilize yourself at the place that you are takes a
lot of momentum to do that.
You can't fuck this up is basically what I'm saying.
You can't fuck it up.
You're not going to fail.
You're not going to go back down to, you know, level one and just be a depressed, epic mess.
You're not going to do that.
Just yourself.
There's plenty of resources around you to help that, to help you.
And essentially like why do what I do.
And if you find yourself tripped up, dig into some re-parenting, dig into the community,
and this is for the community as well.
Don't do this alone.
Don't have to do it all by yourself.
That's the good news.
Yeah.
Amazing.
Thank you, Tally.
That's super helpful.
Lots to work on.
Good for you.
I mean, same with me.
I mean, it's never done.
I mean, we're really, it's infinite, but I will say it gets, it gets a hell of a lot
easier.
What gets crazy is when there's nothing to panic about.
When you feel like shit is really good.
What is that?
What does that feel like?
When shit's just good and you're like, well, I guess everything's just good.
That's where it gets really crazy because your body will want to create something to
fix.
Bless, darling.
You did great.
Thanks for letting me workshop you.
Thank you.
And I hope you guys got something out of this podcast and I'll see you guys in the next
episode.
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In the meantime, get your freak on.
I'll see you in the next session.