1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:07,960 Hey, Big Love Fam, welcome to Super Freak. 2 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:13,360 This is a high vibe podcast, y'all, exploring all things frequencies, how they govern form, 3 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:17,160 shape our realities, and are the key to living from your full potential. 4 00:00:17,160 --> 00:00:21,980 It's non-moo combos about Super Roo shit, unpacking what I call the science of self. 5 00:00:21,980 --> 00:00:26,440 From body and soul literacy to the power of understanding vibration, higher consciousness, 6 00:00:26,440 --> 00:00:31,280 quantum physics, and spiritual psych, let this podcast become a resource for you on your 7 00:00:31,280 --> 00:00:32,800 journey to self mastery. 8 00:00:32,800 --> 00:00:37,960 If you're curious and ready to free your mind, unlock the body, and truly become limitless, 9 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:38,960 then you're in the right place. 10 00:00:38,960 --> 00:00:39,960 I'm your host, Tally. 11 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:42,800 This is Super Freak, awakening for the next gen. 12 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:43,800 Let's go. 13 00:00:43,800 --> 00:00:50,480 Hey, everybody, welcome to this week's episode. 14 00:00:50,480 --> 00:00:57,480 So I'm going to kick off a three-part series called The Trinity Wound, and it's the mother 15 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,520 wound, the father wound, and the sister wound. 16 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:06,960 And it's really rife in session work that I've been doing, particularly working with 17 00:01:06,960 --> 00:01:12,120 the father vacancy a lot, which essentially means that there was an emotionally unavailable 18 00:01:12,120 --> 00:01:14,360 or absent father. 19 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:22,320 This created an unmet need, sometimes it escalated into emotional abuse, criticism, but really 20 00:01:22,320 --> 00:01:29,840 the emotional unavailable father, especially with women, leaves this huge void within us 21 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:35,080 where we are constantly having to seek out our value and other things. 22 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:40,520 People places things, achievements, we outsource it, and we use it as a reference point instead 23 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:46,760 of learning how to internally reference who we are from our own highest intelligence, 24 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:51,960 our highest self, and then really create that esteem from that place. 25 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:59,920 Fathers of course, who grow up without fathers end up perpetuating that same type of dynamic. 26 00:01:59,920 --> 00:02:08,080 So in my own case, my father's father was available and around, but not emotionally, 27 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,280 was quite abusive, and it was tough. 28 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:13,000 It was tough to be able to learn that later on. 29 00:02:13,000 --> 00:02:17,240 So the dynamic for myself was coming from a divorced family. 30 00:02:17,240 --> 00:02:20,240 It was an absent, emotionally unavailable type of dynamic for me. 31 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:23,200 So I had all of these. 32 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:25,000 I have the gamut. 33 00:02:25,000 --> 00:02:31,200 The reason why I came here was to fully learn how to transcend all of these things, to experience 34 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:35,920 full spectrum human and then be able to walk through it and then share it with you guys. 35 00:02:35,920 --> 00:02:40,560 So when we have the emotionally unavailable father, we're going to look to the mother to 36 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:42,320 fulfill a lot of roles. 37 00:02:42,320 --> 00:02:47,560 And eventually or essentially, she will end up running a bit more masculine energy because 38 00:02:47,560 --> 00:02:55,520 she's having to use that same intensity that let's say a masculine figure in traditional 39 00:02:55,520 --> 00:03:00,040 households would use to provide and protect the family, but she also has to show up somehow 40 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:03,920 and nurture and create this container for development. 41 00:03:03,920 --> 00:03:07,880 There's a lot when we're just trying to survive most of the time. 42 00:03:07,880 --> 00:03:16,640 So when we grow up with a parent that's running biological form, but the opposite energy, that's 43 00:03:16,640 --> 00:03:22,080 very confusing for us as children because we are constantly using our mirror neurons 44 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:28,400 and our frequencies and our eyes, the way we decode information through our five senses 45 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:30,240 to try to navigate our environment. 46 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:35,760 We are scanning everyone at frequency level and when we see incongruencies, we begin to 47 00:03:35,760 --> 00:03:39,920 create strategies to keep ourselves safe. 48 00:03:39,920 --> 00:03:46,420 We start to hardwire and hard code that information and those incongruencies as the way that we 49 00:03:46,420 --> 00:03:48,320 need to be able to operate. 50 00:03:48,320 --> 00:03:52,040 Essentially we're telling the quantum computers in our brains, which is what they are, big 51 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:58,080 processors, that these incongruencies are normal and that this is to become the new hardware 52 00:03:58,080 --> 00:04:01,160 for how we navigate our future reality. 53 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:07,360 So if you remember, the brain operates in predictive, qualitative and quantitative information 54 00:04:07,360 --> 00:04:09,020 in addition to patterns. 55 00:04:09,020 --> 00:04:15,040 So in those formidable years, those early years, our brains are learning patterns. 56 00:04:15,040 --> 00:04:19,480 All of this to say that young girls who grow up with a father vacancy, they look to the 57 00:04:19,480 --> 00:04:23,200 mother who's running more masculine energy, she is not going to feel safe in her feminine 58 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:24,200 energy. 59 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:28,080 There are young boys that grow up without a father, they're going to look at the mother 60 00:04:28,080 --> 00:04:31,240 and she's going to run, again, more masculine frequencies. 61 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:35,120 So he's not going to feel necessarily safe with his own masculine energy. 62 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,560 So in part one, I'm going to navigate the mother wound, part two, the father wound, 63 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:39,960 and then part three, the sister wound. 64 00:04:39,960 --> 00:04:40,960 So let's go. 65 00:04:40,960 --> 00:04:42,800 So what is the mother wound? 66 00:04:42,800 --> 00:04:47,040 The mother wound is the pain, wounding and trauma that's carried by a mother and inherited 67 00:04:47,040 --> 00:04:51,800 by her children with daughters facing the brunt of this wound. 68 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,840 Again, everything is transgenerational patterns. 69 00:04:54,840 --> 00:04:59,280 A mother wound is when your mother is absent, hypercritical judgment, emotionally, verbally 70 00:04:59,280 --> 00:05:05,760 or physically abusive seems to hurt your feelings for a living or makes you feel less than. 71 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:09,960 Even if the mother was physically present, having a mother who is not emotionally attuned 72 00:05:09,960 --> 00:05:14,440 and available to you when you or a child can still cause a lot of this pain. 73 00:05:14,440 --> 00:05:19,240 This wound takes on the patterning of general dysfunctional coping strategies for women, 74 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:23,640 sacrificing their needs, for example, denying their power and potential and abandoning their 75 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:25,600 authenticity. 76 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:31,880 You may, for example, see if you can relate to these 15 or 16 things I'm about ready 77 00:05:31,880 --> 00:05:32,880 to say. 78 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:38,880 Feeling pressure to adhere, to strict expectations of womanhood, caretaking others to the point 79 00:05:38,880 --> 00:05:45,040 of resentment and exhaustion, strict adherence to good girl ideologies, never actualizing 80 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:50,280 your full potential in case it threatens others, never actualizing your full potential out 81 00:05:50,280 --> 00:05:57,280 of fear of failure or disapproval, persistent, vague sense that there's something shameful 82 00:05:57,280 --> 00:06:03,360 or wrong about you, feeling pressured to live out the unlived dreams of your mother, even 83 00:06:03,360 --> 00:06:10,040 if it means not being true to yourself, resentment and bitterness at your own children, unconsciously 84 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:14,720 waiting for your mother's permission or approval of your life's choices. 85 00:06:14,720 --> 00:06:20,400 Focusing expectations in a relationship and feeling relentlessly needy with others, feeling 86 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:27,920 unsafe to take up space and express yourself and instead wanting to play small, weak boundaries, 87 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:34,240 an unclear sense of self and or feeling of low self-worth, inability to practice foundational 88 00:06:34,240 --> 00:06:40,160 self-care and ask for and receive support, allowing and accepting poor or abusive treatment 89 00:06:40,160 --> 00:06:45,360 from others, never feeling good enough no matter what you seem to do. 90 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:50,600 Other learned coping mechanisms related to fear of experiencing gender-based violence 91 00:06:50,600 --> 00:06:51,600 or hatred. 92 00:06:51,600 --> 00:06:55,000 I've said this before in the podcast around transhumanism. 93 00:06:55,000 --> 00:07:01,840 This is what I see a lot of the times in the trans community is a complete and total breakdown 94 00:07:01,840 --> 00:07:08,440 of the energies, biological body running the opposite energy or just a breakdown in the 95 00:07:08,440 --> 00:07:14,600 family structure and the father vacancy is rampant, the mother is narcissistic or hovering 96 00:07:14,600 --> 00:07:15,840 and there you have it. 97 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:18,280 You've got major identity issues. 98 00:07:18,280 --> 00:07:24,240 The mother wound absolutely is a transgenerational inherited pain and it's passed down between 99 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:28,840 grandmothers, mothers and daughters whose dysfunctional patterning can look like self-sacrifice, 100 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:35,520 self-denial, self-abandonment with very little access to tools like reparenting for example, 101 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:40,160 but the mother wound you become highly impacted by your own mother's patterns and trauma responses. 102 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:45,000 You learn that connection through trauma bonding early on because you bonded with your own 103 00:07:45,000 --> 00:07:50,040 mother's trauma, her limiting beliefs and coping mechanisms for example. 104 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:55,280 This can look like a mother who is incredibly complimentary of you, but she speaks so negatively 105 00:07:55,280 --> 00:07:59,680 about others and herself that you don't believe her. 106 00:07:59,680 --> 00:08:04,080 So it becomes a way of gaslighting because of her own internal wounding. 107 00:08:04,080 --> 00:08:09,640 These are, she had a really hypercritical mother and never resolved her unmet needs and her 108 00:08:09,640 --> 00:08:14,720 way of bypassing that was to have kids and say, well, I'm not going to raise my kids 109 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:16,160 the way my mother raised me. 110 00:08:16,160 --> 00:08:22,800 Well, if you don't look at this stuff, then your children will scan everything that you 111 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:27,880 say to yourself as truth, not what you necessarily say to them. 112 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:32,560 This is how you can get a kid that will have, let's say, eating disorders later in life 113 00:08:32,560 --> 00:08:37,360 and let's say you're in a therapy session with a family member and I've had clients 114 00:08:37,360 --> 00:08:38,360 like this. 115 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:41,320 She said, you know, I just don't understand. 116 00:08:41,320 --> 00:08:47,600 I always told her XYZ and I would respond back to them, yes, but did you actually believe 117 00:08:47,600 --> 00:08:48,920 it? 118 00:08:48,920 --> 00:08:54,080 And the chances are the daughter or the son didn't because of how the parents spoke about 119 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:55,160 themselves. 120 00:08:55,160 --> 00:08:59,560 So little boys look at their mothers and they worship them and they can't understand how 121 00:08:59,560 --> 00:09:04,040 someone they think is the best thing ever is so critical of themselves. 122 00:09:04,040 --> 00:09:10,880 So it builds a lot of mistrust and they end up, for example, a son would end up reincarnating 123 00:09:10,880 --> 00:09:16,000 that dynamic in his relationships with finding somebody who has a really low self-esteem. 124 00:09:16,000 --> 00:09:19,760 And then women who grow up in that dynamic where they don't believe their mothers will 125 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:23,680 have a lot of resentment later on in life and have a lot of issues with intimacy and 126 00:09:23,680 --> 00:09:25,840 trust, especially with women. 127 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:31,080 Unfortunately in culture, women are taught often to prioritize relationships above everything 128 00:09:31,080 --> 00:09:36,200 else and seeing their mother conforming to these pressures, they too learn to believe 129 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:40,280 that accessing their power will somehow damage their connection with others too. 130 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:44,480 This belief creates a psychic limitation of who they want to be. 131 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:49,320 Our caregiver's jobs are to create and foster a safe place for us to learn how to connect 132 00:09:49,320 --> 00:09:53,800 with others and to make mistakes and essentially learn what it means to be human and perfect 133 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:56,080 and for that to be okay and accepted. 134 00:09:56,080 --> 00:09:58,520 So for fun, I created a few archetypes. 135 00:09:58,520 --> 00:10:01,440 Let's see if you can relate to one of these. 136 00:10:01,440 --> 00:10:04,640 First, let's go to High Achieving Heidi. 137 00:10:04,640 --> 00:10:10,840 She came from a broken home, had the emotionally unavailable father, a single mom who runs more 138 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:12,640 masculine energy. 139 00:10:12,640 --> 00:10:19,400 So now she performs, perfects, achieves, becomes hypervigilant, over responsible and self-critical 140 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:24,680 to the point where she competes for everything in her life, including her siblings in order 141 00:10:24,680 --> 00:10:26,420 to get recognition. 142 00:10:26,420 --> 00:10:31,640 She will have narcissistic tendencies as a result under the guise of being really empathic 143 00:10:31,640 --> 00:10:36,400 and will out earn her normally beta male partner. 144 00:10:36,400 --> 00:10:40,480 So this dynamic will have a partner she can control and have separate bank accounts and 145 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:45,560 shut down emotionally with unprocessed resentment and sit in silence, scorn and rage. 146 00:10:45,560 --> 00:10:46,560 And there it is. 147 00:10:46,560 --> 00:10:47,560 There's Heidi. 148 00:10:47,560 --> 00:10:49,960 A lot of emotion with Heidi. 149 00:10:49,960 --> 00:10:56,880 Eventually she will have something that will catalyze change for her. 150 00:10:56,880 --> 00:11:00,280 The next one is Tinker Bell Tina. 151 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,920 Tinker Bell Tina grew up in a household with privilege. 152 00:11:02,920 --> 00:11:06,760 Her parents are still together, but she didn't receive the leadership she needed to be grounded 153 00:11:06,760 --> 00:11:08,000 in reality. 154 00:11:08,000 --> 00:11:11,280 The mother played favorites and the resentment ensued. 155 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:16,760 There was social standing pressure to uphold good girl rule sets and so much focus on looks 156 00:11:16,760 --> 00:11:23,240 that she is now delusional a bit about her own skill sets. 157 00:11:23,240 --> 00:11:28,080 This type of entitlement and naivety gets her taken advantage of and she is in serial 158 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:33,640 relationships until she can get rescued and taken care of financially so she doesn't really 159 00:11:33,640 --> 00:11:34,640 have to work. 160 00:11:34,640 --> 00:11:40,800 Essentially, you'll look around and those with the mother wound will have soft men. 161 00:11:40,800 --> 00:11:43,720 If they have a mother wound, they've got softer men. 162 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:46,560 Let's move on to hopelessly independent hope. 163 00:11:46,560 --> 00:11:52,800 This archetype can look a lot like the lost child in dysfunctional family systems. 164 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:57,360 She wanted out of her home early and most likely tried to run away from home early if 165 00:11:57,360 --> 00:11:59,400 she didn't leave in her teens. 166 00:11:59,400 --> 00:12:07,040 She avoids her emotions through sports, academics, work, DIYs, projects, and endless life pivots. 167 00:12:07,040 --> 00:12:12,200 She will weave in and out of family life, trying to make it work, and will reincarnate 168 00:12:12,200 --> 00:12:20,960 men who abuse her, control her, or who won't commit because she doesn't know her own value. 169 00:12:20,960 --> 00:12:26,160 Essentially, a hopelessly independent hope has no idea how to receive. 170 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:28,000 So she will do everything herself. 171 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:33,240 If she does partner, she once again will find a softer man who doesn't really have a big 172 00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:39,720 backbone that she can just kind of bowl over, but he's a good companion, so she sticks around. 173 00:12:39,720 --> 00:12:41,480 Then we go on to Rebel Renee. 174 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:46,080 She also grew up with a single mother and an emotionally unavailable father and is the 175 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:49,920 combination of all the lineages issues. 176 00:12:49,920 --> 00:12:51,640 She's essentially the kingpin. 177 00:12:51,640 --> 00:12:57,640 She is a late bloomer, the identified patient, the artist, beatnik, wanderer, and came here 178 00:12:57,640 --> 00:13:00,240 to break all of the patterns for the line. 179 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:05,240 She will be a combination of all the archetypes until she finds herself essentially. 180 00:13:05,240 --> 00:13:08,160 I relate to Rebel Renee a lot. 181 00:13:08,160 --> 00:13:12,880 I feel like I could relate to every single one of these archetypes, but Rebel Renee 182 00:13:12,880 --> 00:13:15,560 will run a fight pattern. 183 00:13:15,560 --> 00:13:19,240 Many of these different archetypes, keep in mind, will have an underlining pattern of 184 00:13:19,240 --> 00:13:21,080 low self-worth non-deserving. 185 00:13:21,080 --> 00:13:22,360 They'll run the fight pattern. 186 00:13:22,360 --> 00:13:24,080 They'll need to have justice. 187 00:13:24,080 --> 00:13:30,520 They'll have silent rage, some victim patterning, self-sacrifice, and martyr frequencies. 188 00:13:30,520 --> 00:13:32,640 So there's a lot of stickiness to move through. 189 00:13:32,640 --> 00:13:34,880 The next one is scapegoat Sarah. 190 00:13:34,880 --> 00:13:39,000 Women or children in general who are scapegoated are often very aware of their role in the 191 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:42,720 family and may feel rejected, unlovable, and isolated. 192 00:13:42,720 --> 00:13:48,280 In families with a parent or parents with narcissistic traits, the child who is a scapegoat 193 00:13:48,280 --> 00:13:51,720 and or the golden child are often pitted against each other. 194 00:13:51,720 --> 00:13:57,120 The scapegoat is cast aside and blamed for problems that may very well have nothing to 195 00:13:57,120 --> 00:13:58,440 do with them. 196 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:05,720 So because scapegoat Sarah was the scapegoat of her family, she will reincarnate a relationship 197 00:14:05,720 --> 00:14:11,360 where she's constantly blamed for things or she will be that person in her work environment, 198 00:14:11,360 --> 00:14:16,680 in her friendship circles, etc. until she transcends those patterns. 199 00:14:16,680 --> 00:14:20,920 This archetype may feel rejected, unlovable, and isolated. 200 00:14:20,920 --> 00:14:26,520 While aware of her role in the family, she will manifest people, places, and things, 201 00:14:26,520 --> 00:14:30,880 situations that devalue her, ignore her, and discard her. 202 00:14:30,880 --> 00:14:35,480 The implications for these archetypes and women and men who grew up with the mother 203 00:14:35,480 --> 00:14:43,320 wound is that as children grow up, they will harbor guilt since they feel conflicted between 204 00:14:43,320 --> 00:14:47,680 wanting to live out their own authentic truth, yet fearing they could lose their mother's 205 00:14:47,680 --> 00:14:53,480 love and approval if it's perceived as a rejection of her own desires. 206 00:14:53,480 --> 00:14:59,320 A lot of times mothers will project what they want for their children into the nervous system 207 00:14:59,320 --> 00:15:04,480 and their children's fields so strongly that it becomes a way that they adapt. 208 00:15:04,480 --> 00:15:08,840 It's an adaptive identity and they take that on without really having a sense of who they 209 00:15:08,840 --> 00:15:12,720 are and that has terrible implications later on in life. 210 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:17,000 I've seen this manifest into the chronic patient, for example, where they're constantly 211 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:18,000 sick. 212 00:15:18,000 --> 00:15:22,960 Yeah, because you're not only having to navigate your own who you are as a person, but you're 213 00:15:22,960 --> 00:15:26,840 taking on all these other patterning to boot. 214 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:34,920 This is akin to unconsciously creating and developing adaptive coping strategies on the 215 00:15:34,920 --> 00:15:39,760 nervous system to secure their mother's love and hopefully receive in return care from 216 00:15:39,760 --> 00:15:40,760 her and others. 217 00:15:40,760 --> 00:15:46,600 Again, people's approval, but contorting yourself to please somebody else, especially 218 00:15:46,600 --> 00:15:48,920 your family, never works out well. 219 00:15:48,920 --> 00:15:55,160 It always ends up to come back and bite you away a little bit later on. 220 00:15:55,160 --> 00:16:01,080 Having heard this reflect on your own life where some of these dynamics are coming to 221 00:16:01,080 --> 00:16:02,080 play. 222 00:16:02,080 --> 00:16:06,320 If you can't identify them in your own life, you can certainly identify them if you watch 223 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:07,320 shows. 224 00:16:07,320 --> 00:16:09,000 I mean, look at the Kardashians, for example. 225 00:16:09,000 --> 00:16:12,760 Holy shit, is it rife with mother issues? 226 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:15,480 You've got the scapegoat and the identified patient at Rob. 227 00:16:15,480 --> 00:16:17,360 You have the golden child with Kim. 228 00:16:17,360 --> 00:16:22,120 You have the lost child with Khloe. 229 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:29,440 And Courtney is fueled, just perpetually fueled by rage and resentment. 230 00:16:29,440 --> 00:16:35,560 So you're going to want to identify what type of mother wound do you really have based on 231 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:41,480 those archetypes and some of the other identification highlighters in the beginning part of this 232 00:16:41,480 --> 00:16:44,520 podcast where I listed off of those 16 things. 233 00:16:44,520 --> 00:16:46,560 Go and identify those. 234 00:16:46,560 --> 00:16:52,720 And then from there, make a small note of the things that you didn't receive when you 235 00:16:52,720 --> 00:16:56,360 were younger that you wish you would have from a maternal figure. 236 00:16:56,360 --> 00:17:01,880 What's the thing that bothers you the most about your relationship with your mother? 237 00:17:01,880 --> 00:17:04,880 And if some of you are in no contact, that's great. 238 00:17:04,880 --> 00:17:06,840 I'm going somewhere with this. 239 00:17:06,840 --> 00:17:12,440 Essentially, we need to re-parent the internal child who got neglected in the first nine 240 00:17:12,440 --> 00:17:14,280 years of her life. 241 00:17:14,280 --> 00:17:18,560 And creating coherence with our internal feminine and internal masculine means that we have 242 00:17:18,560 --> 00:17:21,360 to create the mother relationship first. 243 00:17:21,360 --> 00:17:23,200 We have to prepare that first. 244 00:17:23,200 --> 00:17:27,200 And then we can repair the sister, the sibling energy next. 245 00:17:27,200 --> 00:17:33,920 And then we can cultivate that strength and that trust with our highest self. 246 00:17:33,920 --> 00:17:38,480 Once you're locked in with your highest self, I mean, that's just, you're golden. 247 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:41,440 You've got access and you're becoming more and more whole. 248 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:42,840 And that's what everybody wants. 249 00:17:42,840 --> 00:17:44,280 That's really what self-mastery is. 250 00:17:44,280 --> 00:17:46,200 It's about having access to who you are. 251 00:17:46,200 --> 00:17:51,560 Once you identify all of the traits and kind of issues you have with the relationship that 252 00:17:51,560 --> 00:17:59,720 you have with your mother now, write a wanted ad for your ideal woman or ideal mother. 253 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:02,120 What would she have said to you? 254 00:18:02,120 --> 00:18:06,380 Cultivate a relationship with a version of who this person is. 255 00:18:06,380 --> 00:18:11,240 What would she say to you when you're just in a funk and you just want to go over to 256 00:18:11,240 --> 00:18:16,120 her house and dump some emotional shit on her and she absolutely always has the right 257 00:18:16,120 --> 00:18:17,120 things to say. 258 00:18:17,120 --> 00:18:21,400 If that wasn't your dynamic, create that for yourself internally in meditation and you 259 00:18:21,400 --> 00:18:23,760 will be surprised at how you feel. 260 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:25,320 All right, y'all. 261 00:18:25,320 --> 00:18:28,120 Next week, we get into the father wound. 262 00:18:28,120 --> 00:18:30,600 In the meantime, question everything behind yourself and others. 263 00:18:30,600 --> 00:18:33,120 And I'll see you guys next week. 264 00:18:33,120 --> 00:18:34,440 Thanks so much for listening, you guys. 265 00:18:34,440 --> 00:18:37,960 Please make sure to leave a review and follow the fun on social media because that's how 266 00:18:37,960 --> 00:18:39,400 it works in this world. 267 00:18:39,400 --> 00:18:41,400 In the meantime, get your freak on. 268 00:18:41,400 --> 00:19:10,400 See you next week.