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Thank you for listening to this message from Life House Church.

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Turn to somebody right now.

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Tell them I'm so glad you're here.

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Just tell them that.

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Turn to somebody.

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Well, only do it if you mean it.

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But turn to somebody.

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Tell them you're really glad they're here this morning.

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Yeah, it's good to have you here this morning.

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Really just appreciate it here and you worship the King of Kings and the Lord of Lords and just dive into worship.

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I encourage you to do that on a daily basis.

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I know we come here and we do this for corporate worship, but there's something to doing that privately as well.

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And just getting with God on a daily basis and you should start your day.

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I know of devotions we read a word sometimes, but sometimes you just need to get in praise, right?

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Maybe it's in the shower, right?

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How many of you shower singers?

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You all are behind me.

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I couldn't see who all raised their hand, but we want you to do that and engage in that.

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Yeah, it's important.

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It's amazing.

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I'm not going to go there this morning, but I want to give you, I want to start off this message.

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And I know I got told a couple of times this week I need to be on my game because we don't have any movie clips.

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We don't have any snacks for you in the sanctuary this morning.

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So yeah, at the movies is over.

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We'll probably do it again next year, but I'll do my best this morning.

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But I wanted to start off with a message title this morning, which is you only need one in marriage.

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You only need one.

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Now, I know that sounds like a complete contradiction, right?

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That sounds like when you're talking about marriage, you're thinking just the opposite.

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You need more than one for a marriage, right?

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When I talk about marriage, you're thinking about wedding day.

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You're thinking about wedding plans.

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You're thinking about a bride.

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You're thinking about a groom, right?

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My son and his lovely wife, Mara, here, they just got married.

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And I know for Levi, yeah, come on, give me a hand.

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Yep, and they're still in the honeymoon, right?

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And when we talk about weddings, we think plural, right?

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Because if Mara wanted to show it up on wedding day, Levi would have been really bummed out, right?

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He just went home with the cake and that's it.

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That's all he would have had.

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So when I say you only need one in marriage, some might think that sounds kind of contradictory, right?

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That doesn't sound right.

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It sounds a little crazy, but it's true.

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And this is true on multiple levels spiritually.

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For a marriage to thrive, for a marriage to survive, and not to survive, we need one God.

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Say this with me, one God, one principle, and one plan for marriage.

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Okay, I'm going to give you some slices, some things that you want this morning for marriage.

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One God, one principle, one plan.

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And I'm always excited to talk about marriage because I'm passionate about marriages.

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And it breaks my heart when I see marriages fall apart.

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And I know when I say something like this, like one God, one principle, one plan,

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some of you are thinking, well, that sounds way too simple.

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I've been married a while, right?

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That's way too easy.

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You might be thinking, he doesn't know what he's talking about.

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He's just after a three-point message, right?

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He's trying to be dramatic.

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I don't know what you're thinking back there, right?

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He's just looking to get a good sermon out of the whole thing.

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But I've been, a couple of things here.

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I've been married for 33 amazing years to my lovely wife.

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Thank you, thank you.

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She's not here this morning.

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She's at East Shore.

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She's up there taking care of things at East Shore with worship.

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But I've been married for 33 years.

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But number two is that it doesn't matter what I say about marriage.

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It matters what God says about marriage.

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It really does.

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It matters what He says.

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And we need one God, one principle, and one plan.

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And great marriages are some product of adding and subtracting the right things in marriage.

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It's adding the right attitudes.

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It's adding the right words.

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It's adding the right actions.

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It's adding the right attitudes.

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It's all those things, the right mindsets.

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And it's subtracting the wrong ones.

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A good marriage is like solving a math equation.

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It really is.

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How many of you love math out there?

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Raise your hand if you love math.

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One of the kids told me the last two weeks ago, I hate math.

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I hope they're not upset this morning, right?

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But a good marriage is like solving a math equation.

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It's like a math problem.

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It's a math thing.

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And today we're going to focus on solving the problem of marriage.

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Because marriage by nature, by nature is a problem to solve.

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Sorry to crush all the romantic notions in the room.

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All right?

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I'm sorry to come down that way.

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But Paul gives instructions to the Corinthians.

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And he talks about marriage.

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And he's talking about single life.

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And he says this in 1 Corinthians 728.

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He says, but even if you do marry, he's had this discussion,

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his dialogue about marriage, you have not sinned.

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And if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.

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Nevertheless, such will have trouble in the flesh.

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Right?

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So he's talking about marriage, but I would spare you.

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That last little statement is like, I would spare you.

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You could stay single like he was, right?

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But if not, you're going to have trouble in the flesh.

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So when it comes to relationships between a man and a woman

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and marriage, temper your expectations.

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Just assume that you're going to have some trouble in the flesh.

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All right?

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Some of you back there, amen.

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All right?

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Amen.

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Assume if you got married, you just bought into a problem to solve.

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Okay?

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You just bought into a problem.

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And I'm trying to help you this morning.

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I promise you, all right?

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The other person that's there is not to fulfill you.

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I know they, we think that sometimes we get to marry.

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Some of you have been married a long time.

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You're like, yeah, sorry, brother.

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Okay, they're not there to fulfill you.

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That's Jesus' job, right?

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They're not there to guide and direct you in everything life.

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In life, that's the Holy Spirit's job.

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Please don't put that kind of pressure on another flawed human being.

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Right?

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Don't do that.

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As attractive as they are, they're trouble.

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All right?

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So, turn to the person beside you this morning.

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If you're dating, if you were married, look him square in the eye and say, what's up,

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trouble?

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Come on, what's up, trouble?

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What's up, trouble?

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You picked yourself a problem to solve.

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All right?

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It doesn't matter how good looking and sweet they are, how successful they are, right?

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How warm and fuzzy they make you feel.

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You got some trouble.

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You got a problem to solve.

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And so, we're going to do math this morning, all right?

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We're going to solve the problem a little bit or some of the problems maybe in marriage.

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With one God plus one principle, plus one plan, helps you to have a strong marriage.

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Say it with me, one God, one principle, one plan.

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I want you to get this in your spirit.

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And all the factors and add-ins, right, must factor together and come up with the sum of

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a solid marriage.

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And if you're not married here this morning and you're single, well, listen, you might

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be in the dating scene or maybe you're thinking I'm single and I'm loving it.

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And I can tell you right now, just somewhere along the way, God might bring you some trouble,

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okay?

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Somewhere off the long way.

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You might get into some trouble, all right?

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You'll find that person.

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So, listen up.

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If you're single, if you're married this morning, if you're somewhere in between, whether you're

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loving being single or you're single and looking to get married, whatever it is, if you're already

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married.

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The bottom line is it makes all the difference with one.

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One, one, and one.

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So, we're going to add them up.

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So, I'm going to start with one God, all right?

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One God.

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If you're in a relationship with any possibility of marriage on the horizon, singles, listen

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up.

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You can listen with a grin on your face because you're trouble-free right now, right?

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You can do that.

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But listen up.

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If you're thinking of and considering marriage, think about one God.

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If you're a believer or you're an unbeliever or you're married to an unbeliever, think about

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one God.

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If you were married and you wish you were single, think about one God, all right?

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Second Corinthians 614 says this, do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

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For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness and what communion has light with darkness?

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And what accord has Christ with below?

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Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever?

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And what agreement has the temple of God with idols for you or the temple of the living

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God as God has said, I dwell in them and walk among them and I will be their God and they

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will be my people.

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Now the first factor in relationship equation, first thing you got to ask is, is the other

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person following Jesus?

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That's kind of a yes or no thing, right?

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That's an up or down thing.

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Are they following Jesus?

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Now back when I was a youth pastor, that was a long, long time ago, but back when I was

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a youth pastor, the youth group, we would get all the youth group together and I'd ask

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them like, hey, and I still do this with some of the girls in the church.

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I'm like, so are there any men in your life, right?

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Actually I mean boys.

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Are there any boys in your life?

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And they're like, well, yeah.

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And they'd be like, yeah, there is.

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And I'm like, really?

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And they'd be like, my next question was, did they know Jesus?

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And they'd be like, well, well.

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And I'm like, if I see you at the mall, you know I'm going to come ask you if they know,

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right?

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I'm going to come ask them.

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And I literally would tell them that.

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I didn't really do it, but I would go to the mall and no kid, I'd see kids in youth group

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maybe ducking into stores like Zoom.

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They're going this way.

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They're like, you know, you know how you do.

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You hide from somebody in the store when you don't want to talk to them.

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You all do that, don't you?

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I know.

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You're all laughing.

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All right?

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But do they know Jesus, right?

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Are they following Jesus?

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Do they trust in Jesus?

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Not that they just hear about Jesus.

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Not do they just like Jesus, right?

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Not that they just think that Jesus was a great man.

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Not that they're not opposed to Jesus or they could potentially follow Jesus, which is everybody

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in the whole wide world, right?

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The girls used to say that.

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Well, they could potentially follow Jesus.

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I'm like, that qualifies everybody, right?

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Are they following Jesus as Lord and Savior?

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And scripture says, are they, you know, are they sold out?

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And scripture doesn't hit this principle lightly.

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It's not a quick tip here, right?

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It says, do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers.

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And it drives home for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness and what communion

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has light with darkness.

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So it's talking about opposites, right?

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What accord it has, Christ will be allowed, or what part has a believer with an unbeliever,

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and what agreement has the temple of God with idols?

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So what's the idea?

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Well, if you're unequally yoked with an unbeliever, you're running in opposite directions.

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If you're tied together, there's going to be sections or areas of your life that you're

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going to be pulling the opposite way.

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And what you buy yourself is a little more extra trouble, right?

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You're going to be in trouble anyway if you get married, but you're going to have some

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extra trouble.

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And it may even feel impossible at times in certain slices of your life.

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It's going to feel like you're pulling this way and that.

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And understand what God is saying here.

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He's not trying to limit your options.

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I hear that all the time, sometimes from young people, like, well, listen, there's not a

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very big pool to pull from in this church.

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All right?

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I've heard those kind of things, right?

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God's not trying to limit your options, right?

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And I think what God is saying here, David, is because he's designed us body, mind, and

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spirit.

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You got to know that.

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God put us together and you're not just one dimensional.

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Your body, your mind, and your spirit, right?

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Your soul.

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So you got your physical body, you got your mind.

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That's that gray stuff up in your head that you use to think every day.

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And then you got your spirit, which is the eternal part of you.

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And when a man and woman come together in the context of marriage, God wants you to connect

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on all three of those.

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Body, mind, right?

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You can connect bodily.

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We know that, right?

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That's a sexual connotation with things.

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You can connect with your mind.

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You can think the same and like the same things.

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But he wants you to connect spiritually, too, because that's the eternal part of you.

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That's the part that goes on forever.

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And God says, he says these things so that it's healthy for you, so that it brings health

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in your life, and so you got a little less trouble going on.

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So you know, what?

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And you got to understand, this is important because you got to understand that there's

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things that you're going to have to work through, if not, right?

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Because you have different end goals in mind.

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But you know, as Christians, our end goal is to die to us and to live to Christ.

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So it takes Jesus, right?

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We're chasing hard after Jesus for the end goal.

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For an unbeliever, and honestly, a lot of times, like if I say Jesus is first in my life,

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for somebody that doesn't follow Jesus, that's a hard thing for them to understand.

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They're like, why am I not first, right?

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Why aren't the kids first?

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What kind of thing gets tough?

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So the end game is different.

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And how you live might be different, and the things you should participate in.

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So unequally yoked can bring you some extra trouble.

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Just know that because of the connection in spirit is different.

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So scripture tells us, don't be unequally yoked for your own health and well-being.

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Now if you're dating and you're single and loving it, and trouble walks into your life,

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make sure they're walking with Jesus.

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Ask them.

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Ask them about that.

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See where they're at, right?

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You hear me, teenagers?

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All right?

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I promise I won't ask you if I see you out in public.

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My wife used to smack me for doing those kind of things.

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Like, stop it.

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You're embarrassing those kids, all right?

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Now let me talk to you if you're married, all right?

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What if you already bought in to some kind of trouble?

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And what if you got married and you're unequally yoked?

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What if you got married and you got saved and your spouse didn't get saved, right?

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Sometimes that happens.

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They come to Jesus, and one spouse comes to Jesus and the other doesn't.

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And they choose that.

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And I don't want you sitting here thinking, oh man, I'm doomed.

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Like, oh, I got all this extra trouble in my life, right?

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The rest of my life is going to be terrible.

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What does God have to say about that?

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And He says that, first of all, let me tell you something.

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You're never doomed in Christ Jesus.

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Ever.

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Ever.

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Hear me in this.

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Ever.

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We are more than overcomers in Christ.

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Know that, live that, believe that.

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Whatever situation you're in.

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Jesus paid a great price for our victory.

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He went to the cross so you could live as overcomers so that you could come on, strive

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in life.

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He did that.

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Secondly, God changes the hearts, okay?

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God can change the heart.

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I do what I do because I believe God can change the heart.

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I do what I do because God changed my heart and He changed my life.

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He makes all things new, and I believe that.

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So your journey might look a little different if you got a spouse that's an unbeliever,

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but you are not doomed by any stretch.

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As a matter of fact, you just got a little different mission field than some of the rest

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of us.

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That's what the Word of God says.

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I'm going to take you to two scriptures in particular.

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One's in 1 Peter 3 1, and the second one's in 1 Corinthians 7 12.

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The first one's addressing a wife, okay?

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It's husband and wife.

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It's just addressing a wife.

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You got to hear the Word and the scripture here.

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And then the second one's talking about husbands and wives.

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And it says this, wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands that even if some do

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not obey the Word, they without a word may be won by the conduct of their wives.

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When they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear, that's not fear of the husband, that's

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fear of God, right?

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By your fear, do not let your adornment be merely outward, arranging the hair, wearing

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gold and putting on fine apparel.

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Rather let it be the hidden person of the heart with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle

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and quiet spirit, which is a very precious gift to God or in the sight of God, all right?

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So what this scripture is saying, listen, if you're married to an unbeliever, if you're

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unequally yoked in some way, if you got saved and they didn't, the Word of God says that

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as a wife, it's your conduct that's going to begin to affect the other person.

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It's how you handle that other person, that person that doesn't follow Jesus.

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And Paul addresses this, and he gets a lot more specific.

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He says this, but to the rest, I, not the Lord say, if any brother has a wife who does

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not believe and she is willing to live with him, let him not divorce her.

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And a woman who has a husband who does not believe, if he is willing to live with her,

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let her not divorce him.

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For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife.

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And the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband.

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Otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.

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But if the unbeliever departs, let them depart.

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A brother or sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.

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For how do you know, oh wife, whether you will save your husband or how do you know,

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oh husband, whether you will save your wife?

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Let me remind everybody what I said at the beginning.

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The other person is not there to fulfill you, right?

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That's Jesus' job, right?

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They're not there to guide you.

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That's the Holy Spirit job.

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Your job is to show the other person the love of Jesus Christ.

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You're there to model that for that other person, if they're an unbeliever.

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And we're supposed to do that.

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We're on the mission field, right?

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I don't know if you know that or not.

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We're supposed to be going out and winning the loss in our communities, right, in our

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neighborhoods, at our place of work.

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You know these different places.

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You just started home.

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Some of you got relatives, right, who don't know the Lord.

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We love them into the kingdom.

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We show them the love of Christ.

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You know I love somebody.

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I love my wife a lot better because I'm a Christian.

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You know that?

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I learned a lot of things along the way, and I learned how to love my wife a lot better

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because of Jesus.

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And that's exactly what the believer does.

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When there's a believer and an unbeliever in marriage, you love that other person into

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the kingdom.

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You respect them.

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You don't preach at them and Bible beat them and shame them.

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You don't do any of that.

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You love them into the kingdom just like somebody loved you into the kingdom, right?

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It's a mission field.

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It's a place for you to start.

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It's one God, right?

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Paul addresses it.

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He says, just by your conduct, win them.

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Be salt and light to that other person.

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One God in marriage.

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Say it, one God.

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Second factor.

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First factor.

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Say one principle.

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Now this is going to be super easy for you to remember because I named the principle,

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and I made it really easy because I named it oneness.

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One principle, and I named it oneness.

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Now any of you that have done premarital counseling with me or sessions with me, you know where

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I'm going.

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You could probably get up and actually tell this portion of the message.

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But oneness is a principle that is in God's Word.

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And this principle is extracted from Genesis chapter 2 verse 24.

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It actually shows up in Mark 19.5 or Mark 10.8, Matthew 19.5 and Ephesians 5.31 and says

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this in Genesis 2.24, Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined

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to his wife.

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You hear this in weddings all the time, right?

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And they shall become one flesh, one flesh.

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The same principle is reiterated in the Old Testament and in the New Testament.

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It's literally quoted.

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And the idea is this, that the two shall come together and become one flesh.

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Now this idea of one becomes a very deep running idea, especially if you study out Ephesians

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chapter 5.

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It runs deep.

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It goes way under the surface.

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And as you think about this, you've got to think about marriage, you've got to think

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about weddings, you've got to think about two people coming together because when two

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people come together in marriage, they come from two very different backgrounds, right?

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Most of the time they come from very different backgrounds.

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They have different personalities.

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They have different ideas.

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They're different genders.

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They've got different ways of thinking.

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They might do everything different because a lot of times opposites attract and they've

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got to come together and become one.

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And it almost, when you say it like that, it almost sounds like an unreasonable expectation,

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doesn't it?

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You've got these two people who've lived decades apart and lived individually and all

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of a sudden they've got to come together and they've got to be one, right?

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And on this wedding day, this particular day that's called wedding day, that we're going

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to come together, we're going to have a ceremony.

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They say, I do, it's wonderful, we all clap.

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Now you've got to be one.

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You've been different all this time, right?

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You've been individual.

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Now you've got to be one.

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Doesn't even sound reasonable, does it?

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So how do you get there in a practical way of speaking?

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How do you get to this place of oneness?

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What does that look like?

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Because it's not easy.

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It doesn't just naturally happen because you said, I do.

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Anybody ever have a personality clash in your marriage?

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Come on.

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Say amen.

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Help me out here, all right?

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Be honest.

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Come on.

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You had a different idea.

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Anybody have a different idea this morning in marriage, right?

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On the way to church.

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Thank you.

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All right.

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Appreciate the honesty, right?

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You wanted to go to Duncan's?

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You wanted to go to Starbucks?

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You didn't go anywhere because you got in a fight, all right?

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Come on.

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He's grunting at each other the whole way to church.

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I've been married a long time.

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All right.

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Listen.

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How do you get this right without killing each other?

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How do you work this out practically?

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Listen, the Bible, I believe Scripture has to be something that has handlebars.

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You've got to be able to work it out.

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And what does that look like?

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So I'm going to do this very practically.

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I want to give you a little visual this morning.

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So when you get to a disagreement, when you get to a place where you don't agree with

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each other, you got to think about a table of disagreement.

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I'm relabeling this, okay?

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This is a table of disagreement this morning.

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How many of you know what I'm talking about?

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All right.

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You get to the table of disagreement.

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You're on this side.

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She's on that side because there's always sides in a disagreement, right?

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And one's on one side, one's on the other side.

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And you got to come to the table of disagreement and you got to figure out how are we going

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to get into unity?

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How are we going to come to a place of oneness?

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What's that look like?

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So I'm going to make something up here.

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Dixie's not here.

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I'd have her up here.

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But I'd say this, we're going to buy a new car.

494
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Our car broke down this week.

495
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:13,760
It's been stressful week.

496
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:15,200
The car's a piece of junk.

497
00:22:15,200 --> 00:22:16,360
We need to get a new car.

498
00:22:16,360 --> 00:22:19,200
And my wife's over here and she says, well, good, let's go to the Ford dealership and buy

499
00:22:19,200 --> 00:22:20,200
a car.

500
00:22:20,200 --> 00:22:21,520
And I'm like, I hate Ford's.

501
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:25,480
And she's like, well, I've always driven a Ford.

502
00:22:25,480 --> 00:22:26,840
Ford's have never left me down.

503
00:22:26,840 --> 00:22:29,760
My dad has a tattoo of a Ford on his folder.

504
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:30,760
He doesn't, okay?

505
00:22:30,760 --> 00:22:31,760
I'm making this up.

506
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:32,760
All right?

507
00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:34,480
And I've had a Ford forever.

508
00:22:34,480 --> 00:22:35,480
I love Ford's.

509
00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,280
There's no way I'm stepping foot in Chevy.

510
00:22:37,280 --> 00:22:39,280
And I'm like, oh, I've driven Chevy's my whole life.

511
00:22:39,280 --> 00:22:41,280
There ain't no way I'm getting in a Ford.

512
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:42,280
Right?

513
00:22:42,280 --> 00:22:43,280
They're garbage.

514
00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:45,280
And my whole family's a bunch of GM people.

515
00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:46,280
Right?

516
00:22:46,280 --> 00:22:48,640
And you get into this argument and you go back and forth.

517
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:52,320
How do you get to, how do you fix this?

518
00:22:52,320 --> 00:22:56,720
So you take the third seat, which should always be in a Christian marriage, right?

519
00:22:56,720 --> 00:22:58,120
And this is Jesus.

520
00:22:58,120 --> 00:23:00,640
And Jesus should come to the table.

521
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:02,680
And you invite Jesus to the table.

522
00:23:02,680 --> 00:23:06,120
And one of the first things you have to do is say, whatever we're disagreeing about,

523
00:23:06,120 --> 00:23:07,360
is it in Scripture?

524
00:23:07,360 --> 00:23:08,360
Right?

525
00:23:08,360 --> 00:23:09,760
Is this in Scripture?

526
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:16,160
If it is, and you're a Christian couple, you have to say, okay, Jesus said this, that

527
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:17,160
settles it.

528
00:23:17,160 --> 00:23:20,440
Doesn't matter what your opinion is, doesn't matter what my opinion is.

529
00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:22,640
If Jesus said it, it settles it.

530
00:23:22,640 --> 00:23:25,760
If you're unequally yoked, you're going to have to get a little better negotiating.

531
00:23:25,760 --> 00:23:26,760
All right?

532
00:23:26,760 --> 00:23:28,640
You got to sneak Jesus in the conversation.

533
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:29,640
Okay?

534
00:23:29,640 --> 00:23:32,920
You got to give principles and not Bible beat somebody.

535
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:33,920
Right?

536
00:23:33,920 --> 00:23:36,440
But what we got to do, now here's the thing.

537
00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:40,800
So we disagree by a Ford or a Chevy this morning.

538
00:23:40,800 --> 00:23:45,240
And we consult Jesus, Jesus, should we buy a Ford or should we buy a Chevy?

539
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:47,160
Jesus doesn't care if you buy a Ford or a Chevy.

540
00:23:47,160 --> 00:23:48,160
All right?

541
00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:51,200
You can look in Genesis, you can go to Psalms, you can go to Revelation.

542
00:23:51,200 --> 00:23:53,680
You're not going to find Ford or Chevy in the Bible.

543
00:23:53,680 --> 00:23:54,680
Right?

544
00:23:54,680 --> 00:23:57,720
So there's going to be a lot of decisions you're making that Jesus says, you got, I gave you

545
00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:00,600
a brain, I gave you a mind, your body, mind, and spirit.

546
00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:01,600
Right?

547
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:02,600
Use your brain.

548
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:03,600
All right?

549
00:24:03,600 --> 00:24:04,600
You too can work this out.

550
00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:05,600
Commit immunity.

551
00:24:05,600 --> 00:24:06,600
So you're not going to find it.

552
00:24:06,600 --> 00:24:07,600
So Jesus says, I'm out on this.

553
00:24:07,600 --> 00:24:08,600
Peace out.

554
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:09,600
All right?

555
00:24:09,600 --> 00:24:10,600
This is up to you too.

556
00:24:10,600 --> 00:24:13,600
Because there's a lot of things, there's a lot of things you want to find, there's things

557
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:14,960
you're not going to find.

558
00:24:14,960 --> 00:24:17,320
So how do we get to a place of agreement here?

559
00:24:17,320 --> 00:24:20,560
Now you can argue the other person to death, which I'm really good at.

560
00:24:20,560 --> 00:24:21,560
All right?

561
00:24:21,560 --> 00:24:22,560
I can fill a bus to anybody.

562
00:24:22,560 --> 00:24:24,720
Like I can just go and go and go.

563
00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:25,720
Right?

564
00:24:25,720 --> 00:24:26,720
And some people do that.

565
00:24:26,720 --> 00:24:29,160
They'll get married and they'll grind the other person down.

566
00:24:29,160 --> 00:24:32,600
They will wear them out till they say, I don't care anymore.

567
00:24:32,600 --> 00:24:33,600
Just get it.

568
00:24:33,600 --> 00:24:36,200
Can I tell you something about a negotiation?

569
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:39,400
A good negotiation means both people win.

570
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:45,400
If one person walks away from this table of disagreement and they won, you already lost.

571
00:24:45,400 --> 00:24:49,080
Because if this person won, that means this person lost.

572
00:24:49,080 --> 00:24:52,760
If this person lost, that means they've got resentment they're tucking in their pocket.

573
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:53,760
They got frustration.

574
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:56,920
They're packing away, they're like, go ahead, buy a Ford.

575
00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:01,520
I'm going to tell you, I told you so for the next 13 years when that thing breaks.

576
00:25:01,520 --> 00:25:02,520
Right?

577
00:25:02,520 --> 00:25:03,520
That's passive aggressive.

578
00:25:03,520 --> 00:25:04,520
All right?

579
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:08,160
So you can get all this stuff going on.

580
00:25:08,160 --> 00:25:11,640
And if one person lost, you might have won the battle.

581
00:25:11,640 --> 00:25:13,560
You just lost the war.

582
00:25:13,560 --> 00:25:15,240
You're not in unity.

583
00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:17,760
So what you have to do is you have to come to the table.

584
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,000
She wants Ford, you want a Chevy.

585
00:25:20,000 --> 00:25:22,320
And you have to say, you have to realize something in a marriage.

586
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:25,280
To get into unity, neither one of you are going to get exactly what you want.

587
00:25:25,280 --> 00:25:26,880
So you have to come.

588
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:28,040
And you can't come in rude.

589
00:25:28,040 --> 00:25:29,040
You can't come in arrogant.

590
00:25:29,040 --> 00:25:31,400
You can't come in driving the other person into the ground.

591
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:32,840
You can't come in calling names.

592
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:33,840
You can't come in.

593
00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:37,840
This has to be a good negotiation where both people win in the negotiation.

594
00:25:37,840 --> 00:25:39,320
So you know what you start doing?

595
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:41,680
Well, maybe we need to go look at a Subaru.

596
00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:44,120
All right?

597
00:25:44,120 --> 00:25:45,400
You both get into Subaru.

598
00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:46,400
You hate it.

599
00:25:46,400 --> 00:25:47,400
Okay?

600
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:48,400
Let's go look at a Hyundai.

601
00:25:48,400 --> 00:25:49,400
All right?

602
00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:50,400
You get into Hyundai.

603
00:25:50,400 --> 00:25:51,400
That's not bad.

604
00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:53,960
Then you go look at a Toyota.

605
00:25:53,960 --> 00:25:54,960
Whatever.

606
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:55,960
I drive Toyota.

607
00:25:55,960 --> 00:25:56,960
You go look at a Toyota.

608
00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:01,360
And sooner or later you can hit something because you're negotiating, right?

609
00:26:01,360 --> 00:26:02,360
And she goes, you know what?

610
00:26:02,360 --> 00:26:03,360
This isn't bad.

611
00:26:03,360 --> 00:26:04,360
And you go, you know what?

612
00:26:04,360 --> 00:26:06,760
I think this is okay, too.

613
00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,360
Should we do this?

614
00:26:09,360 --> 00:26:11,520
And we make a we decision.

615
00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:14,760
And all of a sudden you lock the arm and arm and you make the decision.

616
00:26:14,760 --> 00:26:16,040
Now it might be a good decision.

617
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:17,840
It might be a bad decision, right?

618
00:26:17,840 --> 00:26:19,320
You might buy a Hyundai.

619
00:26:19,320 --> 00:26:21,880
And two weeks later the engine blows up and it's horrible.

620
00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:24,480
But at least you did it together, right?

621
00:26:24,480 --> 00:26:26,560
You did it in unity and you can laugh about it.

622
00:26:26,560 --> 00:26:31,600
You can say or you can cry about it, but you can say we did it, right?

623
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:34,480
Not see I told you.

624
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:37,200
Right?

625
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:38,520
Come on.

626
00:26:38,520 --> 00:26:40,260
You want to get into unity.

627
00:26:40,260 --> 00:26:42,400
This is what God's talking about becoming one.

628
00:26:42,400 --> 00:26:43,920
It is Jesus first.

629
00:26:43,920 --> 00:26:45,080
You consult Jesus.

630
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,200
If Jesus didn't put it in the Bible, then he left it to you, too.

631
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,400
And you got to step in unity and you say, well, that's just a little thing and it's

632
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:52,400
kind of funny.

633
00:26:52,400 --> 00:26:53,400
But I've watched this.

634
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:57,600
I've worked with so many people that break this principle over and over and over again.

635
00:26:57,600 --> 00:27:01,320
And it's the little things and they build up and they build up and they tuck it away

636
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:04,720
and it's one and then it's two and then it's three and all of a sudden they're carrying

637
00:27:04,720 --> 00:27:09,080
around a bag of a hundred things that they disagreed with and they never got into unity

638
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:13,160
and they're so angry with one another, so frustrated with one another and there's no

639
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:17,480
intimacy mentally, physically in any other way.

640
00:27:17,480 --> 00:27:19,440
And that's when they come to my office.

641
00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:20,440
Right?

642
00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:24,640
And we got to start talking about how to unpack this and how to fix this.

643
00:27:24,640 --> 00:27:25,800
This is unity.

644
00:27:25,800 --> 00:27:27,520
This is oneness.

645
00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:32,840
One God, one principle, one principle, oneness.

646
00:27:32,840 --> 00:27:35,920
Two have to come together and become one.

647
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:37,080
Get good at this.

648
00:27:37,080 --> 00:27:43,120
I've seen people who do not follow Jesus, who are not Jesus followers and they do this

649
00:27:43,120 --> 00:27:44,120
well.

650
00:27:44,120 --> 00:27:45,760
I don't know how they figured it out, but they did.

651
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:50,640
They do this well and I've seen Christians who have lousy marriages because they won't

652
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:51,640
do this.

653
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:55,400
They won't follow what's in Scripture and the unbelievers, they got a great marriage

654
00:27:55,400 --> 00:27:57,600
because they do this and they do well.

655
00:27:57,600 --> 00:27:58,600
Practice it.

656
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:03,920
Listen, if you're dating somebody and try this out on them, start a disagreement.

657
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:04,920
Just do it.

658
00:28:04,920 --> 00:28:05,920
They're just for fun.

659
00:28:05,920 --> 00:28:06,920
Okay?

660
00:28:06,920 --> 00:28:07,920
Seriously.

661
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:11,160
Just start one just for fun and see if they're able to do this.

662
00:28:11,160 --> 00:28:16,080
If they don't, take them back to the curb you found them on, drop them off and let them

663
00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:17,080
there.

664
00:28:17,080 --> 00:28:18,080
Seriously.

665
00:28:18,080 --> 00:28:20,960
I know that sounds harsh, right?

666
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:26,200
But it's true because if they can't do this, you're going to have misery up the line.

667
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,160
Come on, I'm helping you out this morning.

668
00:28:28,160 --> 00:28:31,280
I told you this is about getting past trouble.

669
00:28:31,280 --> 00:28:35,000
I told you this morning, right?

670
00:28:35,000 --> 00:28:37,480
One God, one principle, one plan.

671
00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:43,000
The key to marriage, the key to contentment in marriage, the key to intimacy is being

672
00:28:43,000 --> 00:28:46,960
able to do this and then working the plan.

673
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:51,440
Once you agree to the plan, you walk through this together arm in arm.

674
00:28:51,440 --> 00:28:53,360
You can't back out, right?

675
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:57,000
You don't get to say, hey, here's the plan just to help the other person out, right?

676
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:58,280
Because they'll feel good about it.

677
00:28:58,280 --> 00:29:00,880
And then you change your mind midstream.

678
00:29:00,880 --> 00:29:05,240
You just gave that person permission to call you out and you need to repent and go back

679
00:29:05,240 --> 00:29:06,960
to the plan, right?

680
00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:11,480
If the plan's not working, if all of a sudden the circumstances change in the middle of

681
00:29:11,480 --> 00:29:12,960
the plan, guess what you got to do?

682
00:29:12,960 --> 00:29:14,920
You got to come back to the table of disagreement.

683
00:29:14,920 --> 00:29:17,800
You got to get back into unity again, however long that takes.

684
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:19,280
This does not always happen in 10 minutes.

685
00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:20,960
It doesn't always happen in two days.

686
00:29:20,960 --> 00:29:21,960
You got to come back.

687
00:29:21,960 --> 00:29:25,760
You got to get to the table of unity and you step through again, but you got to stick with

688
00:29:25,760 --> 00:29:26,760
the plan.

689
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,720
You got to guide or give you a vision.

690
00:29:28,720 --> 00:29:32,680
If you consult him, if you talk to him where we're going to go, what we got to do, but

691
00:29:32,680 --> 00:29:36,120
get there and stick with the plan.

692
00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:37,360
Rock arm and arm.

693
00:29:37,360 --> 00:29:39,360
Go through together.

694
00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:44,000
Because if you don't, right, you either got unity or you got division.

695
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,360
Die, which is where you get diverse.

696
00:29:46,360 --> 00:29:47,360
Okay?

697
00:29:47,360 --> 00:29:51,160
You either got unity or you got division.

698
00:29:51,160 --> 00:29:52,880
Get to a place of unity.

699
00:29:52,880 --> 00:29:53,880
Amen?

700
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:56,880
I'm going to ask you to stay.

701
00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:57,880
Stick to the plan.

702
00:29:57,880 --> 00:30:00,000
Can I tell you something else?

703
00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:01,840
Don't be lazy with this.

704
00:30:01,840 --> 00:30:03,880
I talk to a lot of people in marriages.

705
00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:05,640
They're just stinking lazy with it.

706
00:30:05,640 --> 00:30:06,880
They won't do the work.

707
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,040
Get down to get to a place of unity.

708
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:11,200
Can I give you the cycle?

709
00:30:11,200 --> 00:30:12,200
Here's how it works.

710
00:30:12,200 --> 00:30:13,200
This is real life.

711
00:30:13,200 --> 00:30:15,400
I'm preaching real life this morning.

712
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:16,400
Here's how it works.

713
00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:17,400
You get all angry about something.

714
00:30:17,400 --> 00:30:18,400
You disagree about something.

715
00:30:18,400 --> 00:30:19,400
Everything blows up.

716
00:30:19,400 --> 00:30:20,400
Throw something.

717
00:30:20,400 --> 00:30:21,400
Smash, crash, whatever.

718
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:24,920
You have a big old argument.

719
00:30:24,920 --> 00:30:27,160
You say things you really didn't want to say.

720
00:30:27,160 --> 00:30:28,640
And then everybody's mad and tense.

721
00:30:28,640 --> 00:30:30,000
And then what do you do?

722
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:33,760
You let it go for a while.

723
00:30:33,760 --> 00:30:35,080
One day, two days.

724
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:36,640
Three days it finally starts to subside.

725
00:30:36,640 --> 00:30:39,560
You actually get dinner, right, together.

726
00:30:39,560 --> 00:30:42,320
You say a few things about the news.

727
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,160
And after about a week, things start to subside.

728
00:30:45,160 --> 00:30:47,760
The problem is you didn't fix the problem.

729
00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:49,320
You never got into unity.

730
00:30:49,320 --> 00:30:51,480
I assure you it will come back around again.

731
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:57,840
And it will come around worse the second time and the third time and the fourth time.

732
00:30:57,840 --> 00:30:59,960
Don't get lazy with this.

733
00:30:59,960 --> 00:31:03,080
The word of God says be one.

734
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:04,600
Get to the table.

735
00:31:04,600 --> 00:31:06,400
Smash it out.

736
00:31:06,400 --> 00:31:08,680
Talk to Jesus.

737
00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:09,680
Talk to one another.

738
00:31:09,680 --> 00:31:13,040
Get into a place of unity wherever that is.

739
00:31:13,040 --> 00:31:15,920
And lock arm in arm and go forward.

740
00:31:15,920 --> 00:31:18,840
I am sick to death of the devil.

741
00:31:18,840 --> 00:31:19,840
Trash in marriages.

742
00:31:19,840 --> 00:31:24,600
Because people don't understand godly principles of marriage.

743
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,280
It kills me to watch that happen.

744
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:29,880
It kills me.

745
00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:31,760
God wants you whole.

746
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:32,760
He wants you in a place of one.

747
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:35,760
Now I know this isn't a fix all for everything in every slice of marriage.

748
00:31:35,760 --> 00:31:38,760
But it's a great place to start.

749
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:39,760
Huge.

750
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:40,760
Huge.

751
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:42,440
Man, I'm asking you about your heads.

752
00:31:42,440 --> 00:31:44,600
Lord, we come before you today.

753
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:45,600
God, thank you.

754
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God, for each person in the house that's in a relationship.

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God, maybe it's dating.

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Maybe it's marriage.

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God, maybe they're equally yoked.

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Maybe they're unequally yoked.

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Lord, you gave us plans.

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God to have success in marriage.

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God, you gave us a way to walk.

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And God, I pray right now, God, that you would just move in the hearts and lines of every

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marriage in this house.

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God, those who are listening on the east shore, those who are listening online.

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God, I pray that a spirit of unity would come about them.

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God that they would understand how to get to the table of disagreement and come out

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of the other side of unity.

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God, I pray that they would look to you, one God.

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And Lord, if there's a believer who is yoked with an unbeliever, God, I pray for a special

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nobility, God, that you, God, that they would be such salt and light to the other person

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that they would see Jesus shining.

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God that they would love that person with all their heart and all their soul and all their

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mind.

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And just let them see Christ and the one who believes.

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Lord, God, raise them up.

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God, let that one who doesn't believe see you.

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See you.

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Lord, I ask for this.

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God, for the person who's searching and wants to get married.

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Lord, I pray, God, give them eyes to see and ears to hear in all this.

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And Lord, we just give you praise.

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We give you glory.

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God, we're looking for strength in marriage.

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God, we're looking to be able to solve the problem of marriage.

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God is indirect.

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Jesus, name our prayers.

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Thank you for tuning in to this message from LifeHouse Church.

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We pray that you were impacted powerfully by this message.

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