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Welcome back to another episode of Faith Family Fitness on 100.7 The Word.
Today's topic is going to be on motivation.
We're going to talk about motivation, we're going to talk about desires, and we're going
to talk about the hard questions when it comes to motivations, desires.
What is motivation?
What is, what are our desires?
And how does that relate back to our walk with Christ, to our exercise and fitness journey?
How does that relate back to you and your family and parenting and your children?
So this idea of motivation is so critical because it's a driving force, it's a driving
factor in our decisions that we make every single day, every single week.
And you know, typically I don't necessarily have a plan, you know, laid out for the next
three, four months on this show.
I use life experience, see what's going on with my athletes because there's always the
question of if I have this problem, somebody else has this problem.
And so let's deep dive into it, let's find out, let's find some solutions and let's talk
about what it truly means to be motivated, have desires, the difference between extrinsic
and intrinsic motivation.
All of this stuff is crucial in understanding how the psychology of our brain works in conjunction
with what we do.
And so we're going to take a brief time out when we come back, we are going to talk about
motivation and desires.
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Welcome back to Faith Family Fitness on 100.7 The Word.
Today we are talking about motivation and desires.
And so first we have to define motivation.
And motivation is the desire to act in service of a goal.
And that word desire is a strong wish or want for something.
So motivation can then be described as a desire, that strong will or want to act in service
of a goal.
And we can break down motivation even further and we can break it down into intrinsic motivation
and extrinsic motivation.
And we can break down intrinsic motivation even further because we can talk about autonomy,
which means that we are more likely to engage with activities that we have chosen to do.
So this idea of freedom to choose becomes a motivating factor.
Mastery because we are intrinsically motivated to get better and better at things that matter
to us.
We want to become experts at our task, at our skill, at our sport, at our job.
And then purpose.
We are motivated when our actions are in service of something larger than ourselves.
And so this last weekend we had the El Paso County GOP reorganizational meeting and we
elected officers for every House district, Senate district, county commissioner district
and the county as a whole within the GOP party.
And what we saw, if you look at it from an outsider perspective, you see this intrinsic
motivation of this purpose, this deep desire to act in service of something bigger or greater
than ourselves.
But intrinsic motivation, this idea of we are providing the motivation either because
we want to get better, we want to serve a larger purpose or we want to engage in activities
that we want to do.
That is the whole basis of this idea of motivation.
And then we have this extrinsic motivational source, which is, you know, somebody else
attempting to provide motivation, be it positive or negative feedback.
Right?
And so this idea of extrinsic motivation, our kids are going to behave or act in accordance
to how you want them to act because their motivation is the disappointment or the punishment
that comes when they don't do what they're supposed to do.
And we know that this idea of punishment or this negative feedback is not always the best
long term solution for motivation.
And I think all coaches, all parents fall into this trap or, you know, we get tired,
we get frustrated and we start yelling or we try to use punishment as a tool for motivation.
But it's also hard because kids sometimes they struggle to find that deep desire for
something, that deep desire to say, yes, this is what I want to do and I want to do it really
well to the best of my ability.
And because of that, I'm going to give my all, all in.
And that's a struggle for some teenagers to really figure out.
They don't know what they want to do in life.
They don't know really what they want to do in their sport.
And even adults, even this new generation of 20 to 25 year olds that we're seeing, there's
a lot of the same thing.
But on the flip side, we see a lot of this woke culture in these colleges that have ingrained
and driven this intrinsic motivation of purpose, that actions are in service of something greater
or larger.
And the left is doing it really well.
And this woke culture frame of mind trying to change our communities, trying to change
our family beliefs.
We're figuring it out and we are losing this battle because we have not ingrained this
sense that we need to act in service of something larger, this idea of something larger than
ourselves that is combating the will of the left to change culture, to change and drive
this adoption of this new way of thinking, that all of these sins that we know deep in
our heart are wrong.
This new culture has this driven sense of purpose to try to convince the world that
it's right.
So we can't give up not trying to create a desire of some sort in our athletes, in our
youth of today.
We have to get them passionate and we have to get them passionate about Christ.
We have to get them passionate about the values and espoused values and the freedoms of this
country or we are going to continue to lose the war here on earth.
Now I think strongly that when you are trying to teach somebody or explain to somebody the
desire of the heart, we have to be able to relate it back to the desires that we have
here on earth in human form to then go, that is the same passion.
But we want even more passion, more desire for Christ.
And I think that's why Paul has used so many sports references over and over and over in
the Bible because sports is a wonderful way to relate back to this war, this battle that
we have to go on when it comes to fighting for Christ.
Frudging that race, the race marked out on us with all the hurdles and the obstacles
that are going to be in the way.
It's so easy to quit.
And the only thing that stops us from quitting is this deep desire, this deep passion, this
deep love for Christ, for the mission that he's set out for us.
And so when we talk about motivation, when we talk about desire, I don't have all the
answers.
I know that.
I know that intrinsic motivation beats extrinsic motivation every day of the week.
Promising your kids, promising your athletes money for best times or whatever it is.
Or, you know, if you make the next level, I'll get you the iPhone or hey, if you know,
you can hit a home run in this game, then I'll take you out for ice cream.
That is extrinsic motivation.
It is not passionate.
It is not a deep desire of the heart.
It has to be intrinsic.
And the same goes for our walk with Christ.
If our walk with Christ is completely 100% based on this negative feedback loop of, well,
if I don't follow Christ and I'm going to hell, that is not a deep desire.
That's not a deep passion.
That's not a deep motivation.
That's not a driving force for Christ.
That is an avoidance motivation.
Our relationship with Christ has to be that of a relationship.
It's not this negative feedback of, well, I can't do that because that's a sin, so I'm
not going to do that.
It has to be from a point of, I have such a desire for Christ that I'm not going to
touch that sin.
Not because of whatever negative ideas we have floating through our head from our church
experience, but because we have such a passion, such a love for Christ that we choose to walk
a different path.
So when it comes to your fitness journeys, when it comes to your athletes, whether it
be you or your kids, I've always said that I don't love goal setting.
I've always said I don't like the process of goal setting.
I don't, I don't love goal setting.
And for a long time, I don't think I realized why I didn't like goal setting so much.
And I know that this is a negative, not so accepted viewpoint.
I don't think you hear many trainers or coaches or whatever saying goal setting is not useful
or beneficial, but that's the way that I believed for a long time.
And I think I finally have figured out why.
We take the time, we hand out goal setting sheets, we do the keep it simple, we do the
whole have a time for your goal and all this other stuff, but it's not about the goal.
It's about the motivation.
It's about the desire behind that goal.
And so I think what we need to transition to is this idea of asking the question, why
do you play this sport?
Why do you do what you do?
Why are you trying to become better at whatever it is?
Even if it's a hobby, right?
I love to bowl.
I bowl on a Sunday league late at night.
I love to bowl.
My motivation is it's one of the few activities that I can do that fits in my schedule that
I enjoy the people that I hang out with and I enjoy the competition and I enjoy the fact
that the little bit of detail matters in that sport.
What is my purpose?
I don't have any will or want to be the best in the world.
I want to improve my own game.
And some of you out there are golfers.
It's kind of the same.
We love the experience of golf.
And yes, we want to get better because we don't want to be embarrassed on the course.
I've always said my golf game has moments of greatness greatly overshadowed by the not
so moments of greatness.
And that rings true.
And so we have to ask our athletes, we have to ask our people that walk in the door wanting
to start a fitness routine, not about the goal, but why are you here?
Why have you chosen to do this?
Why have you chosen to get healthier?
What is this deep desire, this deep passion that has brought you in today?
That's the question that we have to ask.
And then we can say, okay, you have this deep desire.
You have this deep passion to obtain something.
Then we can go into what is that something?
And then more importantly than trying to continue to define and shape a goal, we have to get
into the process.
What is the process of getting to that goal?
And then we have to get buy in.
We have to get buy in from our athletes, from that individual, that this is what it's going
to take to achieve that goal.
Because if you don't have buy in, then eventually we're going to have to rely on external motivating
factors to motivate that athlete.
And that is not going to work in the long run.
And if we continue to try to use extrinsic motivating factors to motivate our athletes,
to motivate our youth, to motivate the people of this country to drive towards a goal, it's
not going to be long term.
It's not going to be sustainable and it's not going to see the results that we're looking
to obtain.
So how do we get this deep desire, this deep passion for a purpose, for something larger
than ourselves?
And how do we get people to buy in to that purpose?
Because it seems like once again, the left has figured this out.
The left has figured this out.
We have diversity, equity, inclusion.
We have all of these new drives in our public school system, even in our charter school
system to bring in this idea of white privilege, of DEI, of all of these things that all these
people have had this deep desire, this deep purpose, this intrinsically motivating purpose
to stand by, to back, to fight for these things.
How do we get that on the opposing side is a magic question.
And the answer is, I don't know.
The answer is, I don't know.
But I think that it starts at home.
I think that it starts with today's youth.
I think that it starts with them not being told what that purpose is, because we know
that that DEI stuff is being pushed left and right in an almost brainwashing fashion in
our school system to drive our kids to want to fight for that particular purpose.
And so we have to almost untrain that and train up the other way.
We have to try to really teach our kids why it is so important that we maintain our freedoms
in this country, that we have this deep relationship with Christ, that we have this deep relationship
with the people around us that we are going to serve with, not above, but with in this
fight.
This deep desire to be around people with a common goal, with a common theme, with a
common purpose.
That's what we have to do.
And we haven't done enough of it.
We haven't done enough driving the purpose and this ideas and this fundamental espoused
values that we keep talking about on this show.
These Christian values to our children, to the people around us, and allowing them to
create this motivation, this desire, this purpose that is so much greater than them
and that becomes the motivating factor.
We're going to take a brief timeout when we come back.
We are going to continue talking about motivation and desires.
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This is Faith Family Fitness on 100.7 The Word.
We've been talking today about motivation.
So we've been talking about desires, about the importance to be motivated from within
this deep desire, this passion, that that's what we need to create behavior change, whether
it be sticking to a new exercise program or whether it be trying to improve our sport
or our hobby or our job or this deep desire, this motivation for something greater than
we are, whether that's fighting for this country, for our future generations to fix the issues,
to fight against the DEI and the other stuff that's being taught in our schools.
We need more of that fiery passion, that motivation, but it does come with a warning.
It does come with a warning.
Mark 10 43, yet it shall be so among you, but whoever desires to become great among
you shall be your servant and whoever of you desires to be first shall be slave of all.
It comes with a warning.
There's a warning label on desire because we do have to desire our relationship with
Christ and that has to be first and foremost in all of our fights and all of our battles.
And so to recap today, if we want to truly change our country, if we want to truly have
a deep desire to have a relationship with Christ, we learn some of those desires from
our passions that come from our sports, that come from our hobbies and our jobs and whatever
we have a passion for.
We have to teach youth of this culture, of this society that we have now, what it means
to truly desire and truly chase something, to truly chase that goal that they might have
in their sport and then relate it back to that desire, that burning passion for our
relationship with Christ.
And that means that we as coaches, as leaders, as bosses, even in our jobs, if we have younger
employees, we have to stray away from this extrinsic motivating factor.
If you're an employer, that extrinsic motivating factor is a paycheck and really come back
around and teach this idea of this social economic drive in a business that we are doing
this for the social purpose to better our society, to better our community.
That's just one example.
So we've talked about that and we've talked about goal setting and how if we put goal
setting first without first talking about the passion and the desire, we will lose track
of the goal.
The goal doesn't have meaning.
We need meaning behind the goals that we set.
And then we have to have the buy-in.
We have to have the buy-in of what it takes to make those goals a reality, to chase those
goals and those desires.
And so for all of you that are out there on the front lines still fighting some of this,
this stuff that's coming out in the legislature and we're seeing these losses and we're seeing
the fact that we are not having wins up at the Capitol, that bills that should be passed
that are common sense are being shot down before they even leave committee to be voted
on.
And it is sometimes very hard and depressing to watch that happen.
So remember that the purpose is what motivates us, this larger sense of trying to make and
keep this country great is what drives us.
And so for everybody that's out on the front range or front lines fighting for this freedom,
I know you're listening.
Keep strong, stay strong and keep motivated to get the job done.
Thank you, this has been Faith Family Fitness on 100.7 The Word.
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Thank you, have a great day.
See you next Saturday.
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