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Hey guys, it's WSWalker with the Laughing Matters Podcast, and welcome back everybody.

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We have an interesting one on the board today.

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Now as you guys have probably noticed at this point, I love to give advice, and I'm pretty

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good at it.

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And in the last couple episodes, I've been giving advice to people who haven't asked

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for it.

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Like in my nose and all sorts of places.

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And most likely, the people that ask the questions that I'm giving advice on, they're never going

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to hear the advice on it.

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And I thought to myself, you know, this is not ideal, because A, while you guys are benefiting

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from the advice, the people that are actually asking for the advice aren't really benefiting

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from it.

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It's very unlikely they're hearing this right now.

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But on top of all that, I don't get to really ask any questions or get any further clarification.

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What do you mean by this thing?

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Or how long have you two been seeing each other?

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Or what was it like growing up with your father alone?

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Or, you know, stuff that will help me kind of navigate to the best advice that I can

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give, and the advice that would most help the person in the situation.

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Because as smart as we are, we ourselves tend to be our blind spot.

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And while we may want to think one thing about ourselves, there might be some entirely different

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truth to the matter.

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And so I thought to myself, I gotta figure out a way so that I'm actually giving advice

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to people.

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And I seriously almost went to the college down the road and set up a card table with

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two mics and just, you know, a sign that said free advice.

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And then it hit me.

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There is a way to do this.

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And in a place that I've already got everything set up to record audio, where I'm not going

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to have to edit out the sounds of an entire college behind me, and where there exists

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an almost infinite flow of new people to talk to.

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And it's at this point that we introduce Omegle into the formula.

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A place where at the click of a button, I can be connected to any person.

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That's connected on that website.

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Now at this point in the recording, I have done a couple of recordings on Omegle and

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they've, they've gone pretty well.

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You know, there's been some bombing.

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Not everybody on Omegle is there for help and not everybody on Omegle wants to be helped.

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What's funny is the the biggest troll that I tend to get is somebody that's just basically

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ignoring me or they're just playing their music loud and not acting at all affected

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by my presence.

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Which you know, of course hurts in its own right to have somebody just completely ignore

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you.

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We've all been there, I'm sure.

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But there were several people that seemed to genuinely need some advice.

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And so I was able to do that and I was able to do it for the show.

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I get everybody that's on here.

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I got their permission and I gotta tell you, I absolutely adore this.

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So I'll probably be doing more of these.

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So without any further ado, I introduce to you Will Helps Omegle.

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Connecting in 3, 2, 1, contact.

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No, please.

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No, no, absolutely not.

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Get off my screen.

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Oh, sorry.

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I thought she was saying no to me.

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I was like, I reject you first.

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I can promise you, I will give you some of the best advice you've ever had in your life.

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Anything for free.

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There's one stipulation.

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It has to be about something you genuinely, genuinely care about.

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Okay, I'm going first.

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I have an issue.

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How are you with relationship advice?

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Perfect.

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Okay.

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I'm back with my ex and it's like, it was going okay, but things are starting to get

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rocky again.

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Should I abandon ship or should I stick to it?

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Well, I need some more details here.

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What was it that broke up the relationship the first time?

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I had to break up with him because he was too immature and couldn't express enough affection

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towards me.

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He never cheated.

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He, I don't know, he came back and he was sweet.

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He was nice.

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I know it sounds bad to say he changed, but he did.

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It is slipping back into the habit of being not outwardly affectionate.

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Okay, so quick fix.

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Okay, I would recommend the arm squeeze.

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This woman that posted this advice on some channel and it became a really well-known

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advice.

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You guys were the products of our upbringing.

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You know how they do.

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It's not manly to share, to fix things that are emotional, only things that are physical.

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This therapist, I think I want to say gave him the advice of let him know.

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How long were you guys together?

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We dated for like six months, then we were broken up for like five months.

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So the I love yous have come down.

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And you guys genuinely love each other.

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Let him know that he can squeeze your arm three times or even like leg, whatever, but

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just three squeezes in a row.

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I love you.

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He doesn't have to say it.

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Nobody knows what that three squeezes meant, but you guys.

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It's a special thing.

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And so he's now allowed to say that without that toxic background playing into it at all.

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This is a new version of I love you.

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He does have a very toxic family.

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They're scared.

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Oh my goodness.

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Think about what would happen to him growing up in that family if he was open with his

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emotions and he kind of get a better sense of why he's not.

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So find ways around it.

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Human beings, human beings are fantastic at figuring out ways to express things.

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We find something good.

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Our first instinct is to share it.

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You know, you find a good meme, you send it to somebody you care about.

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And we created a language out of the sounds that we could make with our mouths and the

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air in our lungs.

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And then we figured out how to make that last after somebody was gone and not saying those

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things by creating written language.

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And we just kept going and figuring out new ways to push our thoughts at people.

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It did well until it hit the abstracts like emotions, emotions are.

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But normally there aren't good words for it.

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You know, there's some poets that have figured out some really clever ways of saying things

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that really hit home.

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But we had to turn to more abstracts like art, music, photography, dance.

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Give him an interpretive dance to express my emotions.

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It's not you're not too far off the mark because when it comes to when it comes to great sex,

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like not good sex, what the absolute pinnacle of sex is, is when you are expressing to your

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partner something that you cannot find the words for.

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That is when sex gets that like.

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Those are the people that are just broken after a breakup.

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But like that, that can be another place that he can express those affections.

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If you can kind of help him understand that like this is this is an option to like you

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can sit.

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I just pictured Kevin Hart going, say what's your chest?

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You can put it out there to him that so long as you're constantly encouraging these new

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avenues of expression.

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I think this might be good.

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Find ways to communicate his feelings that aren't the ways that are the traditional.

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Traditional is the ones that got the roadblocks in his emotion.

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I like that.

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Thank you very much.

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It's your turn.

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My question might be a little bit.

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OK, get ready.

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OK, OK.

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So.

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So my father recently passed away and I had to come home from my school.

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I'm studying abroad and I had to come home early and now I'm going back in a week and

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a half and like I have to deal with like all these like people in my school.

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You know, like they're like new, newly 18 and stuff and like they haven't really dealt

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with like these big issues and stuff.

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I mean, like they're going to like treat me like they're little like a person.

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They're going to be like, I'm so sorry.

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So like how I did this at this age, I lost my dad at 16 and he was he was like my he

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was he was just this incredible person.

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So like I was I was very, very hurt.

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Sorry.

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I do.

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Do you want to keep going or do you want me to start into advice and you can kind of guide

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me through the advice?

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Did you ever read Lemony Snicket's series of unfortunate events?

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That's like such a good book series.

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Very big one on that because he nailed nailed it just better than anybody who has ever written

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it that I've seen.

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He nailed what it feels like to lose somebody that big in your life.

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And suddenly, was it suddenly?

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The third mention suddenly got no, no, no, not the kids hers.

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Oh, no, he it was for like a few years and then like, but we thought he was going to

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get better and he did.

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And then suddenly kind of turned for the worse.

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Yeah, it all just and I wasn't even home.

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I was on the plane and I heard.

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Lemony Snicket said that when you lose some money, very important to you out of the blue,

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but you're not expecting it.

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It's like climbing stairs in the dark and stepping through that last one you thought

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was there.

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Only stretched over months and you just you feel flipped upside down.

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You feel like just the whole world turned on you and it's completely different, but

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it's the same.

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But it's not ever going to be the OK same.

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You know, it's going to be a different kind of same.

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That's just not as OK.

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He didn't say all of that.

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I'm not throwing that.

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But I went to school the day going back, I think after four or five days.

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And the first person I saw was the person I was most worried about.

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I was I was at that point working in a recording studio at the school, like after school hours,

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just learning recording studio stuff.

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And there was a I was the roadie for one of the high school bands.

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And the main lead singer was Joe, this gigantic football player, captain of the football team.

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That's the name of my boyfriend.

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I just like to say that's very funny.

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Joe was a guy's guy and I was never much of a guy's guy.

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Like I always went for the creative and intellectual pursuits.

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And so I've always kind of gravitated towards women for friendship.

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But Joe saw me in the parking lot and he was like, hey, man, are you good?

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I was like, you know, like.

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And I just I I just crumbled and he stood there and he held me for like a good two,

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three minutes while I just broke like I could not.

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I can't.

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I there's no it's not OK.

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It's never going to be OK again.

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There's something when faced with raw emotion that people respond to inherently subconsciously.

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It's it's not it's not a pity.

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They genuinely feel bad that this happened to you.

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It's nothing saying that you are less because of it.

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It's saying that they feel more for you because this happened.

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And they're probably going to want to help in some way because that's the other great

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part of us.

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We like to share that which is good and we like to pick up that which is broken.

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That's the longest it doesn't cost us too much.

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That's the cost that most people come to weigh or even to set their automations on because

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there's people out there.

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They're they're like, no, not helping him.

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I've already been through this thought process.

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Not going to help.

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There's somebody that once said that 10 percent of the world is going to inherently do the

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selfish thing.

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And 10 percent of the world is going to do the generous thing.

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And then the rest, the 80 percent be swayed either way.

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So yeah, you're going to have some shitheads.

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You're going to have 30 did have come.

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But you're also going to have some real genuine people.

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And if you're walking in there expecting just one group, then you might end up pushing away

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one of the good groups, the people that are genuinely like, I'm so sorry.

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You know, it's not pity, it's empathy.

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Thank you.

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I'm just trying to pass on good knowledge because I found something that's good and

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I want to share it.

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You did great.

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Yes.

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I could see you on the big screen on TV.

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OK, if I get your names like just first names, we're both Rena.

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Yeah, we have the same name.

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That's amazing.

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That's amazing.

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Oh my God.

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I love it.

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Oh, I'm so happy.

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Finish the heart.

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Finish the heart.

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Oh, and just bring that.

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Thank you.

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We love you.

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We love you, mystery advice man.

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True pleasure, ladies.

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Have a good one.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Thank you.

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Have a great rest of your night.

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You too.

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Or day, yeah.

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That's the plan.

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That's the plan.

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OK.

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Let's go.

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Yeah.

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OK.

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Let's go.

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OK.

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Let's go.

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say it with your chest