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(Auto-generated)Welcome back, you wonderful people who matter so very, very, very much!

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And thanks for coming back once again for another sampling of my tea.

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And here's to hoping that you yourself decide that it's some pretty good tea and serve it

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to others.

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For those of you who have been patiently waiting, in this chapter we solve one of the riddles

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I proposed at the start in a very crucial way.

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See, now we've already got our background on people affecting us in unpredictable ways,

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and the granddaddy fear, the fear of the unknown.

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We know that the interconnection between people is deeper than we can see.

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And we're going to continue with the assumption that everything was not only made by God,

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but made out of God, and that it's been made pretty clear that the most important thing

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of all is to love one another, slash God.

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And notice that that commandment, by the way, was not worship, or believe in, or to respect,

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or obey, but to love.

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It is love itself that will help us find the answer to the riddle of the missing sound.

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And the seconders know this may be a short one, but it's a lovely one.

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So let's get right into it.

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Chapter 5.

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Genuine Lo and behold, I've just handed you the keys

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to as much genuine happiness as you care to convert your time, your energy, or your attention

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into.

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So why the hesitation?

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What is it that keeps us from doing this?

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Well, trust, to be blunt.

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We don't trust each other.

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At least not in a, I've never met you before and my defenses are down kind of way.

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After all, what's to keep people that you do kindness for from taking advantage of your

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generosity?

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Go ahead, think of a few arguments against living like that.

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Go on, I'll wait.

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Now I'd be willing to wager that most of the reasons, if not all of them that you manufactured,

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were provided to you by the big grand daddy of all fear.

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What if they take advantage?

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What if I end up needing what I gave?

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What if, what if, what if?

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It's this type of thinking which leads to such ephemeral happiness and short term love.

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Most of the time when we love, we tend to do it with the fair amount of our defenses

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still up.

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We tend to love with aim.

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We choose to love certain people once we believe we can trust them.

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We fire our love out at certain people from the arrow slits in our defense walls.

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And quite a lot of us are very decisive about who's allowed to breach the gates of our

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castle walls and how far in they're allowed to breach.

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But that is not the only way that we love.

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You've loved without aim before, I hope.

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And it felt amazing.

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When people say and they genuinely mean, we had the best time tonight, I would bet there

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was a fair amount of loving without aim that occurred.

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You see, sometimes we become overwhelmed with joy.

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When this happens, our defenses tend to go down.

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Genuine un-aimed love tends to drop these defenses automatically.

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There are countless things that can trigger this.

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Imagine that you're climbing a hill on a roller coaster that you're excited to ride, or sledding

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down a particularly good hill in the snow, or you're madly in love and you're enjoying

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a stroll on a conversation with that person, or you're headed dinner with a bunch of family

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members that you love dearly, or friends that you haven't seen in far too long.

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In those moments, we're happy.

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Our defenses start coming down, and then seemingly out of nowhere, we start loving without aim.

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We aren't worried about who will take advantage of this vulnerability, nor that trusting will

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lead us off the path that we've chosen for ourselves.

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We just love.

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Just before the roller coaster tips forward, we smile.

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As our feet punch through the snow and we mentally position our body in the sled, while

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the lip of the hill is fast approaching, that smile widens into a grin.

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And as that person you're madly in love with does something on your walk that you just

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find indescribably adorable, where you look around the table at all the loved ones that

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you've missed, and that grin boils over, and you laugh the genuine laugh.

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And how fitting that it should easily be the most pleasant, infectious, musical, and joyful

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sound we make.

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Now earlier, I gave you the riddle of the missing sound.

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What is the nonverbal sound of love?

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And now I've provided the answer.

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It's the genuine laugh.

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It's a riddle by its very structure.

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The answer is always possible in a riddle.

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It's the question that makes it seem impossible.

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In this particular case, when I asked you what the sound of love was, you made the assumption

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that we were referring to the type of love we tend to have the most experience with.

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Love with A. And that's a big part of why the answer was not readily apparent.

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And if you're about to argue that you laugh the genuine laugh while loving with A, I would

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ask you to think back honestly and see if in those moments you didn't drop your defenses

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a bit.

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See if you didn't love a bit more openly in those moments.

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And that's it for me today.

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I know it was a short one, but thank you for coming to my reading.

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Until next episode, try dropping your defenses a little more out there and laugh the genuine

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laugh a bit more.

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I bet you that you'll find there's a lot of love out there that's just gone unclaimed.

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There's so many of them out there fanning away at that ember, just trying to keep it

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from going out, feed their fires, encourage them to act out of love by acting out of love.

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Be the start of the chain reaction and the cacophony.

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The more you do, the more you shape the narrative of this world.

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So get out there, set off some fireworks, be good for them and be good to them and you're

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gonna be great.

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Be sweet.

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Bye everybody.