WEBVTT 00:00:00.459 --> 00:00:02.839 Conversation was going so well, we had to do 00:00:02.839 --> 00:00:05.200 it again and keep it rolling. Episode two, here 00:00:05.200 --> 00:00:13.380 we go. Charlie, let's roll, baby. You find it 00:00:13.380 --> 00:00:16.300 sometimes hard, or at least when you were initially 00:00:16.300 --> 00:00:18.219 doing that with the kids especially, like setting 00:00:18.219 --> 00:00:20.539 that for yourself anyways, because you put out 00:00:20.539 --> 00:00:23.660 a lot of stuff, a lot of content. Well, it was 00:00:23.660 --> 00:00:25.280 really hard, and I'll tell you this, and this 00:00:25.280 --> 00:00:27.359 was like a turning point for me and my kids too, 00:00:27.480 --> 00:00:29.969 a huge turning point. It was Mother's Day. And 00:00:29.969 --> 00:00:33.289 in our family, in our household, holidays have 00:00:33.289 --> 00:00:35.689 never been a huge deal. Like at birthdays, like 00:00:35.689 --> 00:00:38.149 we don't make it a huge deal. And so Mother's 00:00:38.149 --> 00:00:40.850 Day was never really even a huge deal in our 00:00:40.850 --> 00:00:44.270 house. And it was, I think during COVID, it might've 00:00:44.270 --> 00:00:46.710 been like that first Mother's Day after COVID 00:00:46.710 --> 00:00:49.710 or whatever. All I know is that my kids, I didn't 00:00:49.710 --> 00:00:52.310 get like a happy Mother's Day until like later 00:00:52.310 --> 00:00:54.210 in the day. My daughter did send me the most 00:00:54.210 --> 00:00:56.909 beautiful text. And then they showed up at like 00:00:56.909 --> 00:00:59.789 three o 'clock in the afternoon. You know, like 00:00:59.789 --> 00:01:01.710 they did show up with an orchard, but I was already 00:01:01.710 --> 00:01:03.109 kind of pissed because I'm already scrolling 00:01:03.109 --> 00:01:05.209 through my social media and seeing all the moms 00:01:05.209 --> 00:01:07.390 with the breakfast in bed and the flowers and 00:01:07.390 --> 00:01:09.569 the cards and all this, you know, the brunches. 00:01:09.569 --> 00:01:11.629 And I'm sitting here at home by myself, like 00:01:11.629 --> 00:01:14.230 waiting for my kids to show up, you know, making 00:01:14.230 --> 00:01:17.010 my own breakfast, you know, all that stuff. How 00:01:17.010 --> 00:01:20.150 dare you make a single breakfast. And it happens 00:01:20.150 --> 00:01:22.170 every year and every year I'm always pissed off. 00:01:22.209 --> 00:01:25.900 Right. So I remember my son walks in. And he 00:01:25.900 --> 00:01:27.719 goes, is it going to be another one of those 00:01:27.719 --> 00:01:29.640 Mother's Day mom where you're going to be like 00:01:29.640 --> 00:01:31.280 mad because we didn't like do all this stuff 00:01:31.280 --> 00:01:33.640 for you? And I looked at him and I'm like, you 00:01:33.640 --> 00:01:36.000 know what, bud? No, I'm done with it. He goes, 00:01:36.079 --> 00:01:37.480 yeah, because I don't understand why you have 00:01:37.480 --> 00:01:39.819 to compare us. He goes, we're here, right? We 00:01:39.819 --> 00:01:42.060 love you. Like, who cares about what other people 00:01:42.060 --> 00:01:44.379 think? Like, why does it matter? Like, he always 00:01:44.379 --> 00:01:45.879 said that. He goes, I don't understand why you 00:01:45.879 --> 00:01:47.700 have to post about me. Why does it matter what 00:01:47.700 --> 00:01:50.640 other people think? And and so in that moment, 00:01:50.819 --> 00:01:53.379 and I turn to him, I go, dude, you're right. 00:01:53.659 --> 00:01:56.659 Like. It's my own insecurity. For whatever reason, 00:01:56.760 --> 00:01:59.439 I feel like I'm not a good mom because you guys 00:01:59.439 --> 00:02:01.319 aren't doing like cool things for me. Like for 00:02:01.319 --> 00:02:03.939 some reason, I feel like it's my fault, you know? 00:02:03.939 --> 00:02:06.420 And then I start feeling like crap about it. 00:02:06.480 --> 00:02:09.020 And I was like, no, Amelia wrote me the most 00:02:09.020 --> 00:02:11.400 beautiful text. I'm like, you still show up with 00:02:11.400 --> 00:02:13.340 an orchid and my favorite chocolate cake. You 00:02:13.340 --> 00:02:15.840 guys are here. We're talking, we're having conversation. 00:02:16.159 --> 00:02:18.979 Like it's the three of us together. I was like, 00:02:19.020 --> 00:02:21.159 that's what matters. That's what's important. 00:02:21.909 --> 00:02:25.550 yeah like hello and that was in that and after 00:02:25.550 --> 00:02:29.629 that I was like god I'm such an asshole no because 00:02:29.629 --> 00:02:32.069 you I mean you are just you are in the same boat 00:02:32.069 --> 00:02:34.530 as millions upon millions of people and we can 00:02:34.530 --> 00:02:37.490 go down this rabbit hole of why exactly that 00:02:37.490 --> 00:02:40.310 story you just explained is what is the downside 00:02:40.310 --> 00:02:42.930 of social media yeah it's the constant comparison 00:02:42.930 --> 00:02:45.469 that's what causes people depression that's why 00:02:45.469 --> 00:02:47.169 they're saying you know rates of depression in 00:02:47.169 --> 00:02:49.729 young kids who have you know four or more hours 00:02:49.729 --> 00:02:52.590 of screen time a day is just skyrocketing because 00:02:52.590 --> 00:02:54.770 they are doing exactly that it goes back to the 00:02:54.770 --> 00:02:56.789 filters and everything else it's just constant 00:02:56.789 --> 00:02:59.050 comparison and they don't know how to separate 00:02:59.050 --> 00:03:02.009 that from reality yeah and it's hard because 00:03:02.009 --> 00:03:04.210 as adults once again we don't know how to do 00:03:04.210 --> 00:03:06.229 it either sometimes and if we're trying to set 00:03:06.229 --> 00:03:09.490 an example it's really hard right sometimes it 00:03:09.490 --> 00:03:13.229 does take our kids telling us like uh but yeah 00:03:13.229 --> 00:03:16.340 we're here Yeah. I mean, I, and, and, but they, 00:03:16.379 --> 00:03:18.000 but yeah, but they were right. And it's okay 00:03:18.000 --> 00:03:19.780 to also tell your kids when they're right. Cause 00:03:19.780 --> 00:03:21.340 that's another thing too. I think it doesn't 00:03:21.340 --> 00:03:23.780 diminish your power as a parent or your whatever. 00:03:24.199 --> 00:03:26.800 Not, not at all. Like if anything, I think more 00:03:26.800 --> 00:03:29.379 and more I'm realizing how, like that it's okay 00:03:29.379 --> 00:03:32.000 to do that. And if anything, my kids are respecting 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:34.240 me even more because I'm willing to say when 00:03:34.240 --> 00:03:36.460 I'm wrong or I'm willing to admit when I, you 00:03:36.460 --> 00:03:40.389 know, effed up or kind of, I suck. Yeah, we do 00:03:40.389 --> 00:03:42.229 that now. Like, even though our daughter's just 00:03:42.229 --> 00:03:45.169 about to be 11, there's the moments where, as 00:03:45.169 --> 00:03:47.789 a parent, you're like, hey, my bad. I was wrong. 00:03:47.870 --> 00:03:50.830 You were right. And just, you know, that, I'm 00:03:50.830 --> 00:03:53.370 sure you see it. You can visibly see, like, her 00:03:53.370 --> 00:03:56.150 reaction. Yeah. And just knowing that we can 00:03:56.150 --> 00:03:59.590 be wrong. And we're admitting it. Like, how huge 00:03:59.590 --> 00:04:01.810 that is. Even for her. I'm sure if she gets older, 00:04:01.990 --> 00:04:03.969 there's going to be some times where we're not 00:04:03.969 --> 00:04:06.289 going to want to admit the fault. But it's going 00:04:06.289 --> 00:04:07.569 to have to happen. Because we like to have that 00:04:07.569 --> 00:04:09.710 relationship, too. The open relationship. conversations 00:04:09.710 --> 00:04:12.389 um and then not having to your point not having 00:04:12.389 --> 00:04:14.430 to post everything all the time like and let 00:04:14.430 --> 00:04:16.269 her know that that's okay too like you don't 00:04:16.269 --> 00:04:18.670 have to post every single meal that you had Stop 00:04:18.670 --> 00:04:20.610 doing that. That was another conscious effort 00:04:20.610 --> 00:04:22.389 of mine too during COVID. I was like, okay, if 00:04:22.389 --> 00:04:24.990 I'm talking about mindful social media, I'm like, 00:04:25.029 --> 00:04:27.110 what I'm putting out there, is it making someone 00:04:27.110 --> 00:04:29.370 else feel badly about themselves? If it's making 00:04:29.370 --> 00:04:31.509 them feel like, you know, they don't have something 00:04:31.509 --> 00:04:35.170 that I do. And so I stopped posting alcohol in 00:04:35.170 --> 00:04:38.290 restaurants. Like I did stop doing that because 00:04:38.290 --> 00:04:40.069 I found that I'm like, what am I doing? All it's 00:04:40.069 --> 00:04:42.170 doing is making someone else that might not have 00:04:42.170 --> 00:04:44.250 the opportunity to like go to a restaurant or 00:04:44.250 --> 00:04:46.009 eat like a meal like this. It's going to make 00:04:46.009 --> 00:04:48.529 them feel like shit. I was like, I don't want 00:04:48.529 --> 00:04:53.230 to be that person. So I do try to minimize a 00:04:53.230 --> 00:04:55.930 lot of that. So even like if I met a really nice 00:04:55.930 --> 00:04:59.110 establishment, nice hotel or nice party or something, 00:04:59.209 --> 00:05:01.230 I don't know. Sometimes I don't even post it 00:05:01.230 --> 00:05:03.209 either because I don't want anyone feeling like 00:05:03.209 --> 00:05:06.149 they're missing out on something. And so, yeah, 00:05:06.189 --> 00:05:08.129 that's why, too, with like my trips and stuff 00:05:08.129 --> 00:05:10.170 like that, sometimes I just don't I just don't 00:05:10.170 --> 00:05:12.430 want to feel like I'm also kind of like flaunting 00:05:12.430 --> 00:05:15.050 a certain lifestyle. Not that I have this like 00:05:15.050 --> 00:05:17.819 incredible lifestyle, but it's. it's still way 00:05:17.819 --> 00:05:19.980 better than a lot of people's. And so, and I 00:05:19.980 --> 00:05:22.259 know when I see other people's fancy lifestyles, 00:05:22.259 --> 00:05:25.579 a lot of times I'm like, really? Like there's 00:05:25.579 --> 00:05:29.459 this one person I follow. And she like, literally 00:05:29.459 --> 00:05:32.360 everything is perfection. The Chanel bag, the 00:05:32.360 --> 00:05:34.720 perfect restaurant, the perfect food, the perfect 00:05:34.720 --> 00:05:36.860 everything, the perfect outfit, like everything 00:05:36.860 --> 00:05:40.319 is perfection. And it's like, I know I was thinking, 00:05:40.319 --> 00:05:43.279 oh my God, I must be exhausting. Do you get to 00:05:43.279 --> 00:05:45.519 even enjoy the moment or are you too busy planning 00:05:45.519 --> 00:05:47.699 on how perfect all your pictures versus just 00:05:47.699 --> 00:05:49.879 enjoying the experience? Yeah. And that's another 00:05:49.879 --> 00:05:52.860 thing too, is that with the travel, because I'm 00:05:52.860 --> 00:05:55.180 not posting on purpose, guess what? My phone's 00:05:55.180 --> 00:05:57.120 pretty much put away. Yeah, you're living. it 00:05:57.120 --> 00:06:00.220 you're in the moment and I walk away and sometimes 00:06:00.220 --> 00:06:02.199 I'm like oh I wish I could have shared this moment 00:06:02.199 --> 00:06:04.240 or something I'm gonna go but why like I do have 00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:07.360 to question myself like why do I feel like I 00:06:07.360 --> 00:06:10.120 I should I had to like why is it giving me anxiety 00:06:10.120 --> 00:06:12.319 because I can't post this moment and then I have 00:06:12.319 --> 00:06:14.779 to like think about that I was like what to be 00:06:14.779 --> 00:06:17.920 validated because I got no it's like because 00:06:17.920 --> 00:06:21.779 yeah you realize psychologically like what it 00:06:21.779 --> 00:06:24.680 does to you sometimes. So it's a reminder of 00:06:24.680 --> 00:06:26.720 like Raquel, it's about being present. It's about 00:06:26.720 --> 00:06:28.540 being in the moment. It's about the experience, 00:06:28.740 --> 00:06:32.899 like nothing else. I don't need that dopamine 00:06:32.899 --> 00:06:35.600 hit from the hundreds of likes I can get. But 00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:38.959 like, that's what happens is we realize that 00:06:38.959 --> 00:06:42.620 like, oh man, this picture or this place, oh 00:06:42.620 --> 00:06:45.139 my gosh, it'll get people, everybody talking. 00:06:47.459 --> 00:06:50.819 So when to that point, like. When you're telling 00:06:50.819 --> 00:06:52.839 an LO to go out there and put some content, are 00:06:52.839 --> 00:06:55.040 you just saying like, Hey, post it, forget it 00:06:55.040 --> 00:06:57.160 and just move on with your day. Like, how do 00:06:57.160 --> 00:06:59.279 you, how do you coach them up on that? Well, 00:06:59.319 --> 00:07:01.139 I don't tell them to forget it because you definitely 00:07:01.139 --> 00:07:02.860 forget. You know what I mean? Like you got to 00:07:02.860 --> 00:07:05.600 interact with comments. Stop refreshing. Yeah. 00:07:05.680 --> 00:07:07.540 Yeah. It's like a dopamine hit. Like you're at 00:07:07.540 --> 00:07:10.339 a slot machine hitting refresh. I do that sometimes. 00:07:12.360 --> 00:07:14.540 I'm telling you, like I'm guilty of a lot of 00:07:14.540 --> 00:07:18.779 this stuff too. Um, what, no, with LOs, a lot 00:07:18.779 --> 00:07:21.600 of it, uh, like a lot of them have their outside 00:07:21.600 --> 00:07:23.439 hobbies. Like they're like, I have one LO that 00:07:23.439 --> 00:07:24.980 loves to mountain bike. I'm always like, put 00:07:24.980 --> 00:07:27.720 it, like put the video, like a time -lapse or 00:07:27.720 --> 00:07:30.160 something like on your bike or do like in a cool 00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:32.629 angle. And just do something that you could just 00:07:32.629 --> 00:07:34.850 put some music to it. And there you go. It's 00:07:34.850 --> 00:07:36.970 something that like, at least it's content. It's 00:07:36.970 --> 00:07:38.629 something and people will like, oh my gosh, she's 00:07:38.629 --> 00:07:40.629 a mountain biker. And then you'll gain people 00:07:40.629 --> 00:07:42.670 that have the same kind of interest. Maybe they'll 00:07:42.670 --> 00:07:44.470 carry, you know, start a conversation and then 00:07:44.470 --> 00:07:46.430 it could lead to something. But yeah, I just, 00:07:46.529 --> 00:07:48.910 yeah, I really try to get them not to overthink 00:07:48.910 --> 00:07:51.889 it. But unfortunately we all overthink it. It 00:07:51.889 --> 00:07:53.949 doesn't matter. Like I, like me, I overthink 00:07:53.949 --> 00:07:56.810 it too. And so I do try to have like some compassion 00:07:56.810 --> 00:07:59.410 and empathy for what their, what their struggles 00:07:59.410 --> 00:08:01.819 are. Cause I do under. that for me it is easier 00:08:01.819 --> 00:08:03.819 to get in front of the camera and in front of 00:08:03.819 --> 00:08:06.959 and do video like I enjoy it I love it and so 00:08:06.959 --> 00:08:08.860 I have to remind myself like Raquel remember 00:08:08.860 --> 00:08:11.579 like not everybody enjoys to be in front of the 00:08:11.579 --> 00:08:14.000 camera and be you know a total goofball and do 00:08:14.000 --> 00:08:16.240 these like crazy Instagram reels not everybody 00:08:16.240 --> 00:08:18.939 is destined to be the queen of goofiness I know 00:08:18.939 --> 00:08:23.000 right yeah but but I mean but look at like for 00:08:23.000 --> 00:08:25.579 instance Instagram just started threads right 00:08:25.579 --> 00:08:28.180 so threads just started yesterday well guess 00:08:28.180 --> 00:08:31.220 what even though it already has like, you know, 00:08:31.300 --> 00:08:33.779 15 million users on there as of yesterday. But 00:08:33.779 --> 00:08:36.080 if you're, if you're really good at writing, 00:08:36.279 --> 00:08:39.320 like there are people like I was never on Twitter, 00:08:39.440 --> 00:08:41.039 but you know, you, when you would see tweets, 00:08:41.139 --> 00:08:42.919 cause they would repost it on like different, 00:08:42.960 --> 00:08:45.200 some of these people, I'm like, Oh my God, they 00:08:45.200 --> 00:08:48.620 are so clever. So witty. Like sometimes I'm just 00:08:48.620 --> 00:08:50.399 like, I wish I could come up with this stuff. 00:08:50.500 --> 00:08:53.000 Cause this is so good. So it's the same thing 00:08:53.000 --> 00:08:55.779 for LOs. Like if you have an act for that, or 00:08:55.779 --> 00:08:58.279 you're really good at education, like educating 00:08:58.279 --> 00:09:01.049 people. then do it through that platform. Do 00:09:01.049 --> 00:09:03.070 it through that format where it's more of a written 00:09:03.070 --> 00:09:05.710 word as opposed to the videos. Same thing with 00:09:05.710 --> 00:09:08.289 LinkedIn. Like you could do articles. So there 00:09:08.289 --> 00:09:10.789 are different ways or like I said before, the 00:09:10.789 --> 00:09:13.190 engagement piece of it. It doesn't have, I get 00:09:13.190 --> 00:09:15.370 the videos where it's at, but it doesn't have 00:09:15.370 --> 00:09:17.610 to be video if that's not where you feel comfortable. 00:09:17.850 --> 00:09:21.129 So we've touched on overposting in an indirect 00:09:21.129 --> 00:09:24.230 way quite a bit over the last 20 minutes. My 00:09:24.230 --> 00:09:27.990 biggest example is we all know them. We all love 00:09:27.990 --> 00:09:30.600 them. but sometimes it's a little too much. Realtors, 00:09:30.600 --> 00:09:32.779 I feel like are the most notorious for posting 00:09:32.779 --> 00:09:35.299 on a lot of people's threads. And a lot of it 00:09:35.299 --> 00:09:37.379 is exactly what you said. It's personal life 00:09:37.379 --> 00:09:39.220 stuff on top of their business stuff. And it's 00:09:39.220 --> 00:09:41.299 always them driving their fancy car and this 00:09:41.299 --> 00:09:42.820 is their listing. And now all of a sudden they're 00:09:42.820 --> 00:09:44.799 on the beach, but then they show themselves still 00:09:44.799 --> 00:09:46.419 working on their laptop on the beach because 00:09:46.419 --> 00:09:50.879 work never stops. So how do you coach? the overposting 00:09:50.879 --> 00:09:52.980 whenever you're working with your LOs with people 00:09:52.980 --> 00:09:55.100 who have reached out to you for help. I honestly 00:09:55.100 --> 00:09:57.559 never had an issue with anyone overposting. Oh, 00:09:57.559 --> 00:10:01.200 nice. Awesome. That's good. I have the opposite 00:10:01.200 --> 00:10:05.720 problem. I'm like freaking post something. So 00:10:05.720 --> 00:10:09.019 yeah, that's not a problem. So I feel like we 00:10:09.019 --> 00:10:11.000 did cover it then on like what the fine line 00:10:11.000 --> 00:10:12.980 is, you know, you want to show some of your personal 00:10:12.980 --> 00:10:15.820 life, your personal hobbies. on top of what you're 00:10:15.820 --> 00:10:18.059 doing for work but don't overdo it and cross 00:10:18.059 --> 00:10:21.000 that and show every meal every vacation every 00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:22.539 little thing like that's kind of where you're 00:10:22.539 --> 00:10:24.259 blind yeah i feel like if you were to recommend 00:10:24.259 --> 00:10:27.779 like well because not only that like i see it 00:10:27.779 --> 00:10:30.139 as if they're posting everything that they're 00:10:30.139 --> 00:10:32.360 really they're not appreciating the moment they're 00:10:32.360 --> 00:10:34.759 not like you know what i mean like i also like 00:10:35.279 --> 00:10:38.220 have enough kind of insight and I'm very intuitive 00:10:38.220 --> 00:10:40.519 and like all that self -awareness. So like, I 00:10:40.519 --> 00:10:42.860 think about it in that way of like, if this person's 00:10:42.860 --> 00:10:45.220 constantly like, what is it about their life 00:10:45.220 --> 00:10:47.120 that they, like, they feel like they have to 00:10:47.120 --> 00:10:49.960 do that all the time. Right. So it's like, so 00:10:49.960 --> 00:10:52.340 then it's a reminder for me too, like, Hey, I 00:10:52.340 --> 00:10:54.200 don't want to be that person. I want to be someone 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:58.059 that is actually experiencing the moment. And, 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:01.899 um, You know, I get the food if you're, you know, 00:11:01.899 --> 00:11:04.740 a food blogger or if you're a foodie or that's 00:11:04.740 --> 00:11:06.840 your interest is cooking, doing the food and 00:11:06.840 --> 00:11:09.240 all of that. But like at some, at some time, 00:11:09.240 --> 00:11:12.100 some seriously people can see your half French 00:11:12.100 --> 00:11:14.879 fry on your plate. If it's stories, whatever. 00:11:15.059 --> 00:11:17.779 I mean, that's the thing too, is like with stories, 00:11:17.860 --> 00:11:20.799 cause it is behind the scenes and people do stories 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:23.759 or even. kind of like more relevant than they 00:11:23.759 --> 00:11:26.480 are than the actual post on Instagram. People 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:29.059 are posting a lot of just crap on there because 00:11:29.059 --> 00:11:31.419 it's gone in 24 hours. So I don't want to be 00:11:31.419 --> 00:11:33.840 too like critical about like what you're posting 00:11:33.840 --> 00:11:36.460 on your Instagram stories. But, you know, at 00:11:36.460 --> 00:11:39.000 the end of the day, like you do what you feel 00:11:39.000 --> 00:11:41.679 comfortable with. Like don't do it because you 00:11:41.679 --> 00:11:43.500 think you should be doing it. Like if you're 00:11:43.500 --> 00:11:44.919 someone that's posting all the time because you 00:11:44.919 --> 00:11:46.600 feel like you have to, then there's a problem, 00:11:46.700 --> 00:11:48.259 right? Like there are times where I don't post 00:11:48.259 --> 00:11:51.299 at all. Like if I have nothing to say. And I'm 00:11:51.299 --> 00:11:53.679 a host and I have nothing to say. And there are 00:11:53.679 --> 00:11:57.080 moments. I do have my moments. Are you sure? 00:11:57.399 --> 00:12:00.759 Seriously, I'm like, I haven't. No, I've had 00:12:00.759 --> 00:12:03.460 my funks, you know, where I'm kind of like, ugh. 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:06.600 I did a video about this last week because I 00:12:06.600 --> 00:12:09.120 was out of town and I purposely had my phone 00:12:09.120 --> 00:12:11.259 away. And then to get back on, it was like a 00:12:11.259 --> 00:12:14.059 struggle because I had enjoyed being off of the 00:12:14.059 --> 00:12:16.940 phone for several days. And I was like talking 00:12:16.940 --> 00:12:19.750 about how. It's a real struggle, like wanting 00:12:19.750 --> 00:12:21.970 to get away from your phone, social media, especially 00:12:21.970 --> 00:12:24.049 when it's in my career and I'm on it pretty much 00:12:24.049 --> 00:12:26.570 24 seven, getting off of it. But then coming 00:12:26.570 --> 00:12:29.190 back on, it's like overwhelming. And then you 00:12:29.190 --> 00:12:31.070 feel like you missed out and you're playing catch 00:12:31.070 --> 00:12:35.090 up. And then that feeling sucks. But, you know, 00:12:35.129 --> 00:12:37.350 so it's like that balance. But I had a ton of 00:12:37.350 --> 00:12:39.509 engagement on it because everybody could relate. 00:12:40.000 --> 00:12:42.340 everybody can relate to that absolutely right 00:12:42.340 --> 00:12:44.899 so like so that's the thing is like even though 00:12:44.899 --> 00:12:46.519 I really didn't have anything to say and have 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:49.019 much content I still it was able to turn it into 00:12:49.019 --> 00:12:51.860 content right because I think that's just what 00:12:51.860 --> 00:12:54.100 I do a lot of too it was like really just being 00:12:54.100 --> 00:12:56.679 very like in the moment of like hey this is kind 00:12:56.679 --> 00:12:58.259 of what I'm going through in this moment like 00:12:58.259 --> 00:13:00.799 I did the same thing I was at a gas station a 00:13:00.799 --> 00:13:03.039 couple months ago I was in a real funk I there 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:05.799 was a lot going on in my life um a lot of heaviness 00:13:05.799 --> 00:13:09.019 I had took everything me to get out of bed and 00:13:09.019 --> 00:13:11.019 go to work I rolled out of bed didn't shower 00:13:11.019 --> 00:13:13.299 put on a baseball cap had sweats luckily I can 00:13:13.299 --> 00:13:15.279 walk into work like that I'm at the gas station 00:13:15.279 --> 00:13:18.039 I pulled out the phone and I was like hey I'm 00:13:18.039 --> 00:13:19.539 kind of having one of those moments like I'm 00:13:19.539 --> 00:13:21.720 okay like I was like nobody worry about me like 00:13:21.720 --> 00:13:24.440 I'm good I'm just in a place right now where 00:13:24.440 --> 00:13:26.919 I'm feeling a lot of stuff and I'm trying to 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:28.919 feel you know and I was just like basically it 00:13:28.919 --> 00:13:31.019 was like my therapy session like that's what 00:13:31.019 --> 00:13:33.019 happens too is like when I just talk about it 00:13:33.019 --> 00:13:35.129 and then I share it to the world like that I'm 00:13:35.129 --> 00:13:37.950 good. And it's incredible how much engagement 00:13:37.950 --> 00:13:40.590 I got on that one as well. It's usually when 00:13:40.590 --> 00:13:43.590 I'm like super just in the moment. That's when 00:13:43.590 --> 00:13:47.870 people really like connect with me because I 00:13:47.870 --> 00:13:50.889 am being vulnerable. It's real. Yeah. That's 00:13:50.889 --> 00:13:52.529 the biggest piece. You're, you're being real 00:13:52.529 --> 00:13:56.740 and people recognize it. Yeah, every now and 00:13:56.740 --> 00:13:58.840 again, I'll be like, okay, I'm going to have 00:13:58.840 --> 00:14:01.600 a moment. And I think what happens is because 00:14:01.600 --> 00:14:04.139 I have them rarely, when I do have them, people 00:14:04.139 --> 00:14:06.159 like pay attention. Yeah, if it's once a week, 00:14:06.279 --> 00:14:07.840 people are gonna be like, what's going on? Yeah, 00:14:07.840 --> 00:14:10.460 I don't know. Yeah, it's every couple months 00:14:10.460 --> 00:14:13.899 or maybe not even. But so what I do, it's really 00:14:13.899 --> 00:14:17.080 sweet to how many people reached out to me. and 00:14:17.080 --> 00:14:19.580 they're like hey i know you're okay but like 00:14:19.580 --> 00:14:22.440 if you need anything like yours you give so much 00:14:22.440 --> 00:14:25.500 to us like this was a a pretty common message 00:14:25.500 --> 00:14:27.799 that i got after that video at the gas station 00:14:27.799 --> 00:14:31.100 you give so much to us and so you always make 00:14:31.100 --> 00:14:33.539 us laugh and smile and you give and you give 00:14:33.539 --> 00:14:36.159 it's really important that you are able to receive 00:14:36.159 --> 00:14:38.399 as well and if you need anything i'm here for 00:14:38.399 --> 00:14:41.940 you Or like, you know, appreciate you and everything 00:14:41.940 --> 00:14:43.980 you do. And I understand you have your moments, 00:14:44.059 --> 00:14:46.580 but you got this. Like it was incredible. Like 00:14:46.580 --> 00:14:49.759 it really, that's when you realize that like 00:14:49.759 --> 00:14:51.860 you've created a really awesome community. And 00:14:51.860 --> 00:14:53.440 that's something that I'm very proud of with 00:14:53.440 --> 00:14:56.500 my LinkedIn. Very, very proud of the people in 00:14:56.500 --> 00:14:59.899 my network. And yeah, in my sphere, like it's 00:14:59.899 --> 00:15:01.620 - I feel like LinkedIn, it's a little more, almost 00:15:01.620 --> 00:15:03.919 feels more real. Actually, that's exactly how 00:15:03.919 --> 00:15:06.980 it feels to me anyways. Like versus like a Facebook, 00:15:07.179 --> 00:15:08.899 like someone reaching out on Facebook. Like, 00:15:08.919 --> 00:15:10.480 listen, I haven't talked to you in 20 years. 00:15:10.600 --> 00:15:13.820 Like, I know you don't give a crap. No, I don't 00:15:13.820 --> 00:15:15.740 want life insurance. Yeah, I don't want life 00:15:15.740 --> 00:15:17.000 insurance. Let me tell you, there's a lot of 00:15:17.000 --> 00:15:18.799 life insurance people on LinkedIn hitting me 00:15:18.799 --> 00:15:22.559 up. Yeah, yeah. Well, that's like too, I don't, 00:15:22.559 --> 00:15:25.399 I purposely don't have my, the notification turned 00:15:25.399 --> 00:15:27.779 on. So like when it's my birthday, I have had 00:15:27.779 --> 00:15:29.659 it off for years on LinkedIn. Cause I'm like 00:15:29.659 --> 00:15:31.480 the people that truly know me are going to reach 00:15:31.480 --> 00:15:33.240 out and wish me a happy birthday. Cause I don't 00:15:33.240 --> 00:15:34.879 have Facebook. So nobody's getting notified. 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:38.690 So I purposely do that. Because it's the people 00:15:38.690 --> 00:15:41.710 that remember. I don't need, like, the blanket 00:15:41.710 --> 00:15:44.870 happy birthday crap. Sorry. The canned message 00:15:44.870 --> 00:15:47.610 that LinkedIn provides. Yeah, I don't need that. 00:15:47.730 --> 00:15:51.769 No. But that's another thing for me, like, that's 00:15:51.769 --> 00:15:54.210 really important is just to kind of, like, hey, 00:15:54.730 --> 00:15:56.289 I don't need all of this. I just want to have 00:15:56.289 --> 00:15:59.659 a happy birthday just because, you know? Your 00:15:59.659 --> 00:16:01.419 LinkedIn community is about to take a slight 00:16:01.419 --> 00:16:03.379 hit though, as I'm about to click the follow 00:16:03.379 --> 00:16:08.840 button. It's going to go down a tiny notch. So 00:16:08.840 --> 00:16:11.179 let me ask you this. You put a lot of stuff out 00:16:11.179 --> 00:16:13.019 there and you're kind of inspiring a lot of people, 00:16:13.059 --> 00:16:15.259 but like, who do you follow for like inspiration 00:16:15.259 --> 00:16:18.519 or. Do you like other specific people you do 00:16:18.519 --> 00:16:23.179 or pages? That is a good question. So I do have 00:16:23.179 --> 00:16:25.299 like my social media people that I follow that 00:16:25.299 --> 00:16:28.019 I love that I feel like are really genuine. And 00:16:28.019 --> 00:16:29.980 every time I reach out, they always respond and 00:16:29.980 --> 00:16:31.299 they're really good about supporting me too. 00:16:31.360 --> 00:16:33.940 And that's like Chelsea Pites. A lot of people 00:16:33.940 --> 00:16:35.879 follow her because she's in the industry and 00:16:35.879 --> 00:16:37.580 she does a lot of stuff for real estate. She's 00:16:37.580 --> 00:16:41.370 big on Instagram. Shannon McKinstry, she's on 00:16:41.370 --> 00:16:43.710 Instagram too. She's another one that I love 00:16:43.710 --> 00:16:45.690 like what she does. So there are certain like 00:16:45.690 --> 00:16:47.970 social media influencers that I follow, but I 00:16:47.970 --> 00:16:49.710 love it because they do it in a way that I feel 00:16:49.710 --> 00:16:52.529 like is just very genuine. But as far as like, 00:16:52.649 --> 00:16:55.490 I will tell you this, the accounts that I love 00:16:55.490 --> 00:16:57.970 to follow that really just make me feel good. 00:16:58.009 --> 00:16:59.590 And that's another thing too, is I tell people 00:16:59.590 --> 00:17:02.429 that you have. you can control what you follow 00:17:02.429 --> 00:17:04.569 and what's in your feed, right? Like I like to 00:17:04.569 --> 00:17:07.529 have feel good stuff. So I follow all like Upworthy, 00:17:07.630 --> 00:17:11.670 Good Movement, all the MD Motivator, Johnny Darts, 00:17:11.730 --> 00:17:14.029 all those guys that do those random acts of kindness. 00:17:14.349 --> 00:17:17.029 I mean, I'm like their day, there was one day 00:17:17.029 --> 00:17:19.450 I did a story cause I was bawling and I was like, 00:17:19.549 --> 00:17:22.069 everybody, you gotta follow these accounts. They 00:17:22.069 --> 00:17:24.109 just, the humanity and they just make you feel 00:17:24.109 --> 00:17:27.769 so good. And I'm just like, brr. So, yeah, like 00:17:27.769 --> 00:17:30.109 I just that's the type of content that I like 00:17:30.109 --> 00:17:32.630 to consume is like that every day someone just 00:17:32.630 --> 00:17:35.009 helping somebody else and just showing like that 00:17:35.009 --> 00:17:37.109 there's good people in this world. Like that 00:17:37.109 --> 00:17:40.109 for me is is a motivation or I follow a lot of 00:17:40.109 --> 00:17:42.470 accounts that like there's one called recess 00:17:42.470 --> 00:17:45.170 therapy where it's a guy that talks to kids, 00:17:45.269 --> 00:17:49.589 like ask them the funniest questions. So, yeah, 00:17:49.609 --> 00:17:53.240 like those are the type of. accounts that i like 00:17:53.240 --> 00:17:55.920 on my on my feed and they inspire me in some 00:17:55.920 --> 00:18:00.019 way and uh yeah like i like that you ever follow 00:18:00.019 --> 00:18:03.500 uh people in new york so my wife follows them 00:18:03.500 --> 00:18:05.160 and she keeps she always tells me about these 00:18:05.160 --> 00:18:07.480 stories she reads this guy's a great writer but 00:18:07.480 --> 00:18:10.319 it's the same thing it's about um people people 00:18:10.319 --> 00:18:14.460 helping people um or giving someone's life story 00:18:14.460 --> 00:18:16.779 someone that's now homeless in new york that 00:18:16.779 --> 00:18:20.119 used to be a go -go dancer and all the hard times 00:18:20.119 --> 00:18:21.900 they went through people of new york telling 00:18:21.900 --> 00:18:24.259 all eight million stories okay yeah it's the 00:18:24.259 --> 00:18:27.500 guy's an incredible writer um but that was one 00:18:27.500 --> 00:18:30.259 that like she'll be reading a story just bawling 00:18:30.259 --> 00:18:32.140 her eyes out i'm like what's happening there's 00:18:32.140 --> 00:18:35.259 like three or five pages of text well no and 00:18:35.259 --> 00:18:37.559 that's the thing is like for me if i'm going 00:18:37.559 --> 00:18:40.200 to be on social media i want it to be i want 00:18:40.200 --> 00:18:42.519 to consume content that's going to make me feel 00:18:42.519 --> 00:18:45.000 good about the world and walk away being like, 00:18:45.059 --> 00:18:47.220 okay, keep doing what you're doing, Raquel. You 00:18:47.220 --> 00:18:49.039 can make a difference. Cause yeah, it can be 00:18:49.039 --> 00:18:51.000 daunting and it can be overwhelming. And especially 00:18:51.000 --> 00:18:53.299 someone like myself, who's going to be 48 next 00:18:53.299 --> 00:18:55.680 month. And I'm in, I'm in a space where it's 00:18:55.680 --> 00:18:59.400 when women and men half my age that do what I 00:18:59.400 --> 00:19:02.000 do, you know, social media managers and creating 00:19:02.000 --> 00:19:04.660 content. Like a lot of the stuff that I see of 00:19:04.660 --> 00:19:06.660 theirs, I'm like, oh my gosh, it's so good. And 00:19:06.660 --> 00:19:08.940 look at how the edits and the cuts and the, the 00:19:08.940 --> 00:19:12.059 quality. And then I'm doing it. And but then 00:19:12.059 --> 00:19:14.640 I have to remind myself that I'm also older and 00:19:14.640 --> 00:19:17.980 I have more experience and I have I've lived 00:19:17.980 --> 00:19:20.660 like, you know, there's things that like I have 00:19:20.660 --> 00:19:24.339 to remind myself of that. I the value that I 00:19:24.339 --> 00:19:28.619 provide is different because I can get caught 00:19:28.619 --> 00:19:31.519 up in that competition game, too, and comparing 00:19:31.519 --> 00:19:35.420 myself as well. And yeah, that's just not. I 00:19:35.420 --> 00:19:38.900 think we said this last episode with where. I 00:19:38.900 --> 00:19:40.539 don't think we've hit a due date on a single 00:19:40.539 --> 00:19:42.160 rapid rush request because we always say these 00:19:42.160 --> 00:19:43.980 are quick questions, quick answers, and they 00:19:43.980 --> 00:19:45.500 never end up being quick questions. No, it's 00:19:45.500 --> 00:19:47.400 always extended. But it's still fun to call it 00:19:47.400 --> 00:19:50.619 rapid rush requests. So first one, we ask everybody 00:19:50.619 --> 00:19:54.759 this question. Are you a, does your text message 00:19:54.759 --> 00:19:57.119 show up green or does it show up blue? Android 00:19:57.119 --> 00:20:01.319 or iPhone? iPhone, baby. Yeah. I have a confession 00:20:01.319 --> 00:20:04.480 for Charlie. Charlie has an Android. I do know 00:20:04.480 --> 00:20:07.180 that. Oh, yeah. Everybody knows. I had a dream 00:20:07.180 --> 00:20:09.900 that I had. your flip android phone i had a dream 00:20:09.900 --> 00:20:11.640 that i was using it and it was my phone come 00:20:11.640 --> 00:20:13.599 on over to the dark side bud never gonna happen 00:20:13.599 --> 00:20:17.640 it was is it flip yeah he has that one that the 00:20:17.640 --> 00:20:21.380 fancy flip like it i almost i thought like old 00:20:21.380 --> 00:20:24.339 school flip phone no he's got a razor he's got 00:20:24.339 --> 00:20:26.619 i want the razor because it's probably more durable 00:20:26.619 --> 00:20:29.240 this thing but no this is fun how many of those 00:20:29.240 --> 00:20:32.019 have you broken oh god I'm on lucky number three. 00:20:32.099 --> 00:20:34.440 So this has got to be it. And you get them insured. 00:20:34.460 --> 00:20:36.359 So like you just get it for free. I mean, it's 00:20:36.359 --> 00:20:38.119 a full, it's a folding screen. You know, you're 00:20:38.119 --> 00:20:39.599 getting insurance on that one. All right. So 00:20:39.599 --> 00:20:41.359 question number two, I told you, these are not 00:20:41.359 --> 00:20:43.680 wrapped. We've already missed three due dates. 00:20:44.140 --> 00:20:46.079 Asking for extensions here. Comps, you know, 00:20:46.099 --> 00:20:48.079 comps are a little complicated. I saw you drinking 00:20:48.079 --> 00:20:50.480 hot coffee there. Do you prefer the hot over 00:20:50.480 --> 00:20:52.819 the iced or you know, iced coffee? I actually 00:20:52.819 --> 00:20:55.720 like hot. I drink hot usually in the summer because 00:20:55.720 --> 00:20:57.720 I drink it early enough in the morning where 00:20:57.720 --> 00:21:00.079 I just still like to, you know, with the hot 00:21:00.079 --> 00:21:02.519 coffee, but I'll do, I'll do iced if I'm in like 00:21:02.519 --> 00:21:04.740 later in the day, but I prefer hot. What's the, 00:21:04.740 --> 00:21:07.779 what's the best SoCal burrito? Oh God. You know 00:21:07.779 --> 00:21:10.640 what? I don't know because I just don't, I don't 00:21:10.640 --> 00:21:13.400 do the Mexican like shops here. Like, I mean, 00:21:13.440 --> 00:21:15.180 I just don't do them. I've never been to San 00:21:15.180 --> 00:21:17.819 Diego. I've heard like the taco stands and like. 00:21:18.700 --> 00:21:21.460 Some of the best like street tacos. Yeah, in 00:21:21.460 --> 00:21:25.339 high school, we used to do cotijas in PB in Pacific 00:21:25.339 --> 00:21:30.039 Beach. They had a quesadilla suprema. I mean, 00:21:30.079 --> 00:21:32.259 it was a huge quesadilla with beef. I mean, it 00:21:32.259 --> 00:21:34.119 was like a burrito quesadilla with like the sour 00:21:34.119 --> 00:21:36.099 cream and the lettuce. I mean, it had everything 00:21:36.099 --> 00:21:37.740 on there. So we used to do that in high school. 00:21:37.819 --> 00:21:40.759 But as far as now, I don't hit any of those places 00:21:40.759 --> 00:21:42.720 up. I try to eat really healthy and I try to 00:21:42.720 --> 00:21:44.859 eat at home now that my mom cooks for me every 00:21:44.859 --> 00:21:49.650 time now that I live with her. I do know that 00:21:49.650 --> 00:21:51.849 in La Jolla, there's a place called the Taco 00:21:51.849 --> 00:21:55.180 Stand, and there's always a huge line. And it's 00:21:55.180 --> 00:21:58.240 a little hole in the wall dive in downtown La 00:21:58.240 --> 00:22:00.359 Jolla. And there's always a line, but. I think 00:22:00.359 --> 00:22:02.420 I saw that the last time I was out there. Well, 00:22:02.440 --> 00:22:04.359 yeah, there's a burrito place that I went to 00:22:04.359 --> 00:22:06.819 in Encinitas with Joe Wilson, you know, with 00:22:06.819 --> 00:22:10.819 social coach. We met up halfway and I forget 00:22:10.819 --> 00:22:13.099 what the place was, but they had good burritos 00:22:13.099 --> 00:22:15.759 and it was in, I think it was Encinitas or Carlsbad, 00:22:15.759 --> 00:22:17.700 one of those places. But yeah, I don't frequent, 00:22:17.960 --> 00:22:20.019 especially if I'm a Mexican mother, like what 00:22:20.019 --> 00:22:21.579 am I doing? I mean, you're right. She'd be very 00:22:21.579 --> 00:22:23.180 upset with you. Yeah, I just, it doesn't make 00:22:23.180 --> 00:22:25.460 sense. You can't bring it home because she's 00:22:25.460 --> 00:22:27.079 going to be yelling at you. And then she's going 00:22:27.079 --> 00:22:29.720 to make the food. She'll be like, eat mine. Yeah, 00:22:30.680 --> 00:22:33.119 I get like real authentic, you know, Mexican 00:22:33.119 --> 00:22:35.180 food. So there's no reason for me to do that. 00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:37.160 So sorry. Sorry to disappoint you on that one, 00:22:37.200 --> 00:22:44.240 but I don't know. Do you miss the seasons now 00:22:44.240 --> 00:22:47.279 that you're out there? You know what? I do. Fall. 00:22:48.400 --> 00:22:52.140 That's the only season. fall is fantastic yeah 00:22:52.140 --> 00:22:54.240 and a little bit in spring i will admit i was 00:22:54.240 --> 00:22:56.680 out there it uh beginning of may i flew back 00:22:56.680 --> 00:22:59.460 with my daughter when she completed school and 00:22:59.460 --> 00:23:01.680 everything was just so lush and green and the 00:23:01.680 --> 00:23:03.880 flat the only problem is i have really bad allergies 00:23:03.880 --> 00:23:06.700 and i forgot when i went back out there in may 00:23:06.700 --> 00:23:10.319 it was awful so bad this year so bad it was a 00:23:10.319 --> 00:23:12.160 bad year when i was there i think there was one 00:23:12.160 --> 00:23:15.079 day that i took like antihistamine i took um 00:23:15.079 --> 00:23:19.119 flonase um i drank some wine i took some like 00:23:19.920 --> 00:23:24.380 And I was just like loading up because I forgot 00:23:24.380 --> 00:23:26.839 because I've been here for almost a year now. 00:23:27.460 --> 00:23:31.180 So, yeah, it was it really was beautiful. And 00:23:31.180 --> 00:23:33.380 the weather, oddly enough, was like San Diego 00:23:33.380 --> 00:23:35.259 weather when I was out there in May. It was during 00:23:35.259 --> 00:23:39.950 Mother's Day that. It was like 70, sunny, and 00:23:39.950 --> 00:23:42.930 then here it's been cold. So, yeah, it was perfect. 00:23:43.049 --> 00:23:47.210 But fall, I do miss. Football season. Oh, yeah. 00:23:47.269 --> 00:23:49.609 Those Hokies running out on the field to enter 00:23:49.609 --> 00:23:52.710 Sandman. That crazy intro they do. Their intro 00:23:52.710 --> 00:23:56.369 is pretty solid. It is. It is. And it sucks, 00:23:56.369 --> 00:23:58.609 though, and this is something that I have to 00:23:58.609 --> 00:24:01.390 just respect, too, is that my son, in the four 00:24:01.390 --> 00:24:03.049 years that he's been there, I've never been down 00:24:03.049 --> 00:24:05.950 there. for like any kind of visit I drove him 00:24:05.950 --> 00:24:09.029 down there I picked him up once and I dropped 00:24:09.029 --> 00:24:11.450 him off at one time and both times he's like 00:24:11.450 --> 00:24:16.349 out like he would hang out so like my ex has 00:24:16.349 --> 00:24:19.130 been down there for parents weekend for the dad's 00:24:19.130 --> 00:24:21.170 day for the frat house has gone to like I don't 00:24:21.170 --> 00:24:23.130 know if he's gone to any games but he at least 00:24:23.130 --> 00:24:25.809 gets to go down there me nothing so I feel like 00:24:25.809 --> 00:24:29.009 this weird like disconnect that I never got a 00:24:29.009 --> 00:24:32.210 chance to experience like you know, the Virginia 00:24:32.210 --> 00:24:34.750 tech in any way. Cause my son's like, sorry, 00:24:34.890 --> 00:24:38.069 mom, like you cannot hang out down here. I remember, 00:24:38.130 --> 00:24:40.089 I think the last time my ex was down there was 00:24:40.089 --> 00:24:42.869 dad's day for the frat house. And I guess all 00:24:42.869 --> 00:24:44.829 the girls were hanging out, like all the sorority 00:24:44.829 --> 00:24:46.990 girls. And they're like, Oh, Mr. Boris, like, 00:24:46.990 --> 00:24:48.589 cause he's a good looking guy. And, you know, 00:24:48.609 --> 00:24:54.940 I guess he would be considered a dill. I'm sure 00:24:54.940 --> 00:24:57.380 they referred to him. Yeah. Yeah. And so they're 00:24:57.380 --> 00:24:59.359 like flirting. They're like, oh, Mr. Boris. And 00:24:59.359 --> 00:25:01.720 they're like, Nick, what's your mom like? You 00:25:01.720 --> 00:25:04.019 know, and because my ex is like, well, you know, 00:25:04.039 --> 00:25:06.279 she I was married. He goes, well, we're not married, 00:25:06.319 --> 00:25:08.380 but she is very attractive or something to that 00:25:08.380 --> 00:25:10.700 respect. I was like, it was very sweet that like 00:25:10.700 --> 00:25:13.599 he like complimented me. Then my son goes, yeah, 00:25:13.819 --> 00:25:17.279 girls, you'd be already initiating her in your 00:25:17.279 --> 00:25:19.500 sorority if she were right here now. So that's 00:25:19.500 --> 00:25:21.500 why she's not here. I was going to say that's 00:25:21.500 --> 00:25:22.960 the reason why he's trying to keep the frat boys 00:25:22.960 --> 00:25:25.859 from talking about you. that's why yeah for me 00:25:25.859 --> 00:25:28.579 and then he's like knows that I would be best 00:25:28.579 --> 00:25:30.619 friends with all the girls and he does he likes 00:25:30.619 --> 00:25:33.380 to keep that very much like you know like doesn't 00:25:33.380 --> 00:25:35.619 want his mom to know like who I mean there is 00:25:35.619 --> 00:25:38.180 one girl that I'm allowed to like know about 00:25:38.180 --> 00:25:40.900 and she'll like if he's with her she'll he'll 00:25:40.900 --> 00:25:42.799 send me like a selfie with her she connected 00:25:42.799 --> 00:25:44.799 with me on LinkedIn the other day that was like 00:25:44.799 --> 00:25:49.019 look who connected with me on LinkedIn but as 00:25:49.019 --> 00:25:52.190 far as like that yeah I I'm They all follow me 00:25:52.190 --> 00:25:55.049 on social media too. So he just, he hates that. 00:25:55.210 --> 00:25:57.289 So yeah. You mentioned he was smart. He's trying 00:25:57.289 --> 00:26:00.730 to keep you away. Yeah. Oh, my daughter, the 00:26:00.730 --> 00:26:04.109 other day, she calls me. And once again, I'm 00:26:04.109 --> 00:26:06.009 super transparent. She calls me and I was like, 00:26:06.089 --> 00:26:08.089 oh, I'm going out. I met this guy. Like, and 00:26:08.089 --> 00:26:10.470 she goes, okay, is he age appropriate? And I 00:26:10.470 --> 00:26:12.230 go, yeah, he's older than me. She goes, okay. 00:26:12.349 --> 00:26:14.769 Okay. Cause she's like, cause she calls me a 00:26:14.769 --> 00:26:19.529 cougar. She's like, okay, cougar. Like, here 00:26:19.529 --> 00:26:21.670 we go. I'm like, hey, don't get it twisted. I'm 00:26:21.670 --> 00:26:23.529 like, I still like them younger. And she's like, 00:26:23.670 --> 00:26:26.549 okay, mom. So many things. So many things we 00:26:26.549 --> 00:26:28.509 can open up there, but we're going to leave it. 00:26:29.710 --> 00:26:32.980 But yeah. I don't even know how I asked my last 00:26:32.980 --> 00:26:35.259 rapid rush request after that. We got off the 00:26:35.259 --> 00:26:37.559 rails. You can try and bring it back after that. 00:26:37.700 --> 00:26:39.859 We're talking about dills and cougars and all 00:26:39.859 --> 00:26:42.400 kinds of things. I like to go out with a bang, 00:26:42.500 --> 00:26:45.940 okay? Absolutely. I think that's the way. You 00:26:45.940 --> 00:26:48.460 can't top this. This is the perfect way to end 00:26:48.460 --> 00:26:51.119 it. You're right. Now I really hope that no one 00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:54.920 listens to any of this. We got plenty of listeners 00:26:54.920 --> 00:26:56.660 in Europe. We're going to promote this one more 00:26:56.660 --> 00:26:58.539 than any other one we've promoted. For sure. 00:26:59.980 --> 00:27:02.119 You guys want the tea? 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