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All right.

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Welcome to the Thick AF Podcast.

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Welcome back y'all.

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This is Emily.

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And this is Sarah.

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We are so excited to be here today with you guys.

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Happy hump day.

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Happy hump day.

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It's hump day.

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It's hump day every day in our book for the most part.

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I do wish it was Friday though.

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It would be nice.

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I always wish it was Friday.

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Yeah, it would be so good.

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So what's going on with you?

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Well, you just got back from the beach.

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Why don't you tell me how your trip was?

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It was good.

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It was good.

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My niece was there and then my brother came down for a couple days and my parents were

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there of course.

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I was I hung out with my niece for a very long time and I came back and so funny because

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we were thinking of like names for our the episode, the last episode and I couldn't like

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everything that came to mind had to do with kids like TV shows.

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Hotel Pennsylvania like duh.

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That is definitely a kid's show and I don't know.

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I watched.

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You can just give credit to your niece.

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That's all.

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Right.

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We watched my dad has always been like Emily, you should watch Bluey.

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It's so good.

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The little kids show.

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Have you seen Bluey?

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No, I think they're Australian and they're like little dogs and they're cartoons and

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it's so cute.

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I never really watched it before and I was like, oh, my dad's like I was over at his

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house one time and Lola wasn't even no kids were there.

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He was like, you want to want some Bluey?

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And I was like, seriously?

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He's like, yeah, it's so good.

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And I'm like, oh my God, I was just making fun of him.

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And then I over when I went to the beach, we watched Bluey so much.

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It is so good.

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They like teach us.

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It's not like little kids shows that are like dumb and they like run around and do an adventure.

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And then they, you know, now you have to apologize to granddad.

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And it's like funny with the parents.

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Yeah, I know I did.

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I was like, oh my gosh, I didn't realize it was actually this good.

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He's like, I know I've been telling you it's so good.

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And they're like, I think they're Australian.

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And so well, it didn't have anything to do with Bluey.

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But on the way to the beach, I rode with my dad.

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My mom drove my car and my dad and I rode in the car with my niece Lola.

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And so and she, you know, kids get tired and like bored really easily, especially in car

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rides.

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And she like needed stuff to do.

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So I kept like trying to make stuff up for us to do.

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And so at one point we just, I was like, let's speak in British accents the whole time.

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And so we were like, would you like a sport a tea?

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And she is so funny.

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She would like her her British accent, which technically was not obviously not didn't sound

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British.

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She kept like veering off and sounding like she was French.

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She would like, oh, well, I can't do it.

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It's hilarious.

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I wish I had a video of it.

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She also shared an ice cream cone with Butterbean, my dog.

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Like she got and we got her some ice cream from McDonald's on the way there and she was

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licking it and she was like, oh, Butterbean here.

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And she put it down there and he took this huge bite out of it.

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It was hilarious.

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Oh my gosh.

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She loved it.

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I'm glad you had fun.

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I miss you.

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I feel like we didn't talk a whole lot while you were gone.

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And it's been two weeks since I've seen you.

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I know it was, it's hard for me, especially when I'm with my family.

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My it's, I like in high demand when I'm with them and they always, they want me to do stuff.

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And if I get, as soon as I get on my phone, it's like, why are you on your phone?

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You're always on your phone.

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And I'm like, no, I'm not.

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I'm like literally never on my phone.

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And so I don't ever pick up my phone.

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I like leave it in the other room because it's like, oh, God for me.

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I don't touch it.

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And then, you know, I also had to like do most of the babysitting type stuff with Lola

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because my grandparents, not my grandparents, my parents as grandparents, they're good,

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but they're just like, I'm there and they're like, oh, you got this.

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And I'm like, I chose not to have children on purpose.

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I mean, I, you know, I don't have children for a reason.

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So like, why am I getting stuck with the babysitting duties?

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I don't even, I love Lola.

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She's so fun and we have fun together, but like my mom, she gets a little too much.

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She's like anal.

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She wants her, she wants everything to be perfect and this and that.

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She has to have this and she has to do that and she can't eat this.

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And you know, it's just like, come on.

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Yeah, our moms are the same.

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They're literally the same person.

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And then, but she's not going to do it.

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My mom is coming down here at the end of April and we're going to the beach and it's going

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to be the same.

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Like my mom just desperately wants like her visits here to be, you know, great and wonderful.

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Like all the time and she's prepared for literally everything.

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I mean, if the, if an apocalypse were to happen while she was here, she would have everything

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that she needs with her to survive.

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Like a zombie apocalypse?

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Um, no, I don't know what kind of apocalypse.

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Like maybe like a COVID-19 again, another COVID pandemic.

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All the cleaning supplies, soap, her own paper towels, probably some fucking toilet paper.

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I'm like, oh, an apocalypse.

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I don't know.

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What else are you supposed to call it?

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Like, I mean, I don't know, call it like a pandemic is still like a new term.

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I feel like even three years in.

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Well, they did have like the, I don't know, they had that nevermind.

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So yeah.

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What about you?

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Um, I went to Huntsville this past weekend.

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I do have an update.

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Um, are one of our FMKs from last week.

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What, can you remind me what the three things were?

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Do you remember?

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It was Bop It, Skip It, and Light Bright.

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So I think I said that I was going to kill Bop It, but, and Melanie can argue with me

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if she wants.

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She had Bop It at her house this weekend and she played it.

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Why does she have a Bop It?

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Well, she has a niece and a nephew.

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And Charlotte had spent the night with her earlier in the week because they were on spring

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break last week.

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Um, so I, I'm going to assume that's why, Sarah, I'm pretty sure Melanie doesn't sit

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home playing by herself.

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I mean, probably.

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Um, but she played and she was like, you have to play.

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And I was like, no, I really don't want to.

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Thank you though.

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And she was like, no, you're, you're playing.

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And I was like, fine.

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Were you bad at it?

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Huh?

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Were you bad at it?

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No, I beat her.

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I know.

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I figured you'd be good at it.

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This is the same as the present rapping.

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Like present rapping, you stop like telling yourself you're bad at something because

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you're not.

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Usually if you try it, you're going to be good at it.

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Like hello.

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I hate when people are like, oh, oh, I'm not good at that.

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I'm like, yes you are.

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You didn't even try.

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We were texting the other day and I was, I forgot about this, but I was with our friend

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Mason, I think it, I think it was on Sunday and I texted Emily and I was like, oh yeah,

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I forgot to tell you Mason doesn't know how to do a dive into the swimming pool.

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And she was like, we're going to have to go to the swimming pool and have a pool day one

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day so Mason can learn to dive and you can learn to wrap a present.

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Cause I was, I was like a swim instructor.

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I was a lifeguard for many of the years in my younger times.

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And I also like took professional rapping lessons from my mother.

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So Mason and I are going to be in the school of Emily one day.

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Oh yeah.

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One day y'all are going to be better than me.

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Look, I've gotten lazy on that present wrapping stuff.

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Like I still wrap it, but I'm not like trying to be all perfect anymore.

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So let's start off with this FMK or hit it off with the FMK FMK FMK FMK.

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I would be your backup singer if I could, but um, nobody would listen to the podcast

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anymore.

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Nobody wants to listen to me singing either, but I do it anyways.

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Cause it's funny.

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Um, so kind of throwing it back to the, I don't know if these are, I think these are

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nineties, but they might also be eighties and maybe before, I'm not sure, but some movies,

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some kids movies.

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So I'm not a big movie watcher, so I have a fear that I might not have seen when you

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were a kid, you were okay.

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So the brave little toaster.

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Oh my God.

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I love that movie.

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Have you seen it?

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I was afraid.

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I was like, hopefully she's seen it.

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Pippi long stocking.

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I don't think I ever saw it.

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Oh no, it's so good.

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Oh, you haven't seen it.

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She like puts the glue on her shoes and the walks up the side and she has like her hair.

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You've never seen people.

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And then the three ninjas, you remember them?

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Yeah, I do.

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He loves Emily.

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Rocky loves Emily.

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And it's like Rocky, Tom Tom and what's the other one's name?

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Oh man.

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I got it at the tip of my tongue.

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Rocky Tom Tom's the youngest one.

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What's the middle one?

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I can't remember, but I know what you're talking about.

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He's got like a, oh well Tom Tom was so cute.

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He had a little bowl cut with his little.

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Gaff in his teeth.

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He was always eating something.

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Cult.

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Cult.

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Cult.

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Rocky, cult and Tom Tom.

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So let's do like a long stocking so that let's do like, um, yeah, I'm going to kill it.

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Otherwise, let me think of something else.

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So we're switching out, maybe long stopping with lamb before time.

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So you've got, what did I say?

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Brave little toaster, brave little toaster, lamb before time, three ninjas.

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I'm marrying three ninjas for sure.

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Good kid action.

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Maybe these are kind of not all in the same genre, but you know, no.

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And I am going to fuck lamb before time.

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Cause oh my gosh, like just pulls at your heartstrings and I have to kill brave little

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toaster.

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Oh my gosh.

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That's so sad.

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I know.

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I mean, I've seen it, but I'm not like, I was never super enthralled with it as a kid,

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but like I remember watching three ninjas more than one time as well as lamb before

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time.

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But I do love the brave little toaster.

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I think that I'm going to marry brave little toaster because it is kind of an action movie

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along with it's a cartoon, it's an action movie and it's like also sad and happy and

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all the things.

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Yep.

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And then I'm going to fuck the three ninjas because you know what?

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We should look them up and see what they look like nowadays.

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Oh my gosh.

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Three ninjas.

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You're really gonna, you're, you're going to kill lamb before time.

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Yeah.

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And I'm killing lamb before time.

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I like it, but like it wasn't really my favorite.

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Like it was kind of like, I wanted to fall asleep.

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Like if I were to watch it now, I don't really want to watch it anymore.

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Oh man.

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No, I like that one.

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Okay.

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So I'm looking at it.

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Rocky looks like Rocky.

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Oh my God.

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Ooh.

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Let me see.

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It's Michael Traynor.

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He looks familiar.

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Like he's from something else.

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Oh yeah.

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Not bad.

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But look at this picture.

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He kind of looks scary.

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Yeah.

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He's got like a, he kind of looks like a, um, wrestler.

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Yes.

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A UFC boxer guy.

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Fighters.

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Look how cute he was when he was little.

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Like he looks like, uh, Jonathan Taylor Thomas.

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Yeah, he does.

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He is not that cute anymore.

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I wrote to the Jonathan Taylor Thomas fan club.

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Let me tell you, I wrote that letter.

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I was, I kissed the back of that envelope before I sent it in the mail.

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Oh my God.

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That's hilarious.

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That's wild.

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Okay.

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So, all right, let's look at Colt.

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His name is Max Elliott Slade.

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He's a little, uh, he looks the same.

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Didn't age well.

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Well, he just like not my, not my brand.

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Look at that one.

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Nope.

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Yeah.

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And then let's look at Tom Tom.

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Where is he?

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Tom Tom.

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His name is Chad power.

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Oh, he's like a poker player or something.

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Now he's not hot in this picture.

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Oh yeah.

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Um, this other picture, he does not look so hot.

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He's got like this gold, like glittery jacket on, but okay.

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He's a poker player.

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Um, let me see.

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They didn't age too poorly, but nobody's Tom Tom's the best delicious looking.

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All right.

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Now it's time for news and reviews, news and reviews, news and reviews, news and reviews,

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news and reviews, news and reviews, news and reviews.

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Throw one out there.

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Oh, so tonight, um, I just have to brag on home chef for a minute.

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Uh, Brandon cooked dinner tonight and it was one of our, you know, home chef meals or whatever,

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but they have their shit together.

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Their food is delicious is packaged so well.

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Um, I love getting their boxes and I, the Birmingham FedEx center warehouse, whatever

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distribution center had some issues a while back.

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And so I quit getting home chef because I just like, wasn't getting boxes or they were

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super late or whatever.

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Um, but they have since figured their lives out and now I am able to get home chef again

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and it is my favorite box out of all of them.

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What was the one that you were getting when we were making them before?

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Um, well, it depends.

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I had, I was getting, I used to have this, um, thing through work where we would get

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points and we could spend them on things and every plate and hello fresh, which are sister

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companies, um, we could get either one of those boxes.

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So it could have been that, but one time, one time that you had dinner, that curry fish

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that we had, that was Marley spoon.

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That was Martha Stewart.

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Okay, gotcha.

341
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Yeah.

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Cool.

343
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So just to let you know, Sarah's not getting paid for this.

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I'm not getting paid for that.

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No, this is just pure, pure reviews.

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Opinion.

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Yeah.

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Opinion.

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No payment.

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No payment necessary.

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All right.

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What else you got?

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Um, okay.

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So I ordered some summertime clothes from Torrid and I usually have really, really good

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luck with them.

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And I got two things that I knew I was kind of going to be iffy about just based on the

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clothes that I'm comfortable in and you know, the way my body looks right now or whatever.

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And I got these, I love neon colors, especially in the summer.

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Like when I have a tan, like I will wear hot pink, neon, yellow, green, whatever.

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I love all of it.

361
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And so I bought these like neon green linen shorts.

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I was so excited to get them because I was like, I'll wear it.

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Like I'll wear a crop top.

364
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We've talked about this before.

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I do not care.

366
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I will wear a crop top.

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I don't have a problem showing my, my tummy.

368
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Um, and they were dry clean only, which is a major no for me.

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Nobody should make anything dry clean only.

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That was my fault.

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Well, and that was my fault because I didn't look ahead of time.

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It's hard.

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Like, or have like a big ass disclaimer instead of making me go to the product details or

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whatever.

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But the other problem with the shorts is that they were completely like see through not

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to my skin, but like the lining of the pockets in the front and the back you could see.

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So you could just tell everything else was unlined and it looked funny.

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So they just looked weird because I like, I was looking at myself in the mirror and

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I had, you know, underwear on obviously, and it was a little bit darker than like skin

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tone underwear as if I had a tan or something.

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And it just looked so stupid.

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And I was like, I can't imagine what this is going to look like if I tuck a shirt in,

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you know, whatever, like this is going to look so dumb.

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And so those are going back.

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Yeah, I don't understand why like places make those the shorts that they make like that

386
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for summer or double, double layer them or get a different material.

387
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I don't know.

388
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I don't know because the shorts were very cute.

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Like I liked them.

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They were a good length.

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They fit me well.

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I did enjoy that they had pockets, but I just felt like I was going to be super judgmental

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of my own self every time I tried to style them.

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And I was like, I have to stop keeping clothes that I'm like, well, maybe I can figure out

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how to style this.

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So I just said no, and I'm sending those back.

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And the other thing that I got and.

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But I got these overalls and they like tie at the top.

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So they're not like buckle overalls or anything like that.

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They were so stupid looking.

401
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Were they pants overall?

402
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No, they were shorts.

403
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OK, they were long enough.

404
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They had pockets, but I don't know.

405
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I don't know if they thought my back was going to be fatter or something, but they were like

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hanging loose in the back and it wouldn't have mattered how tight I tied them.

407
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You want to know why?

408
00:16:01,280 --> 00:16:03,480
It's because that booty sticks out so far.

409
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I got the same problem, honey, because your booty sticks out more than your back do.

410
00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:12,120
OK, you got a back do.

411
00:16:12,120 --> 00:16:17,160
Your booty stick out more than your back do.

412
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Oh my gosh, it was.

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And I had like a sports bra when I was trying it on, which could have also like, you know,

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given me an idea of what a crop top would look like under there.

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It was so damn stupid looking.

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I was like, I can't with this.

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This is awful.

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And I've had a pair of overalls that I got a long time ago from Forever 21 and I loved

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them.

420
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I was really kind of hoping to have something, you know, just kind of comfortable or whatever.

421
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No, not happening.

422
00:16:46,280 --> 00:16:47,280
Yeah.

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Throwback to the days when I was younger, me and my friend Allie, we had one of our

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parents, I don't know which one, my mom or her mom took us to like Kmart back in the

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day.

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I think it was Kmart.

427
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We had a K. I don't even know if there's a Kmart anymore.

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And they had like Mickey Mouse overalls and we got matching Mickey Mouse overalls and

429
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they they had like all the people on it, like goofy and like everybody.

430
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And I love those.

431
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I wore those out.

432
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We always had matching bathing suits.

433
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We had matching everything.

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Our parents, I don't know, one of them would go out and be like, I bought Allie and Emily

435
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like matching bathing suits and I loved it.

436
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So shout out to Allie.

437
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But I remember those overalls.

438
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I love them.

439
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I wish I still had them, but obviously you can't fit into them anymore.

440
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I really wanted the overalls to wear because I see like all kind of like, you know, Jersey

441
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knit material, like just kind of, you know, pull on either shorts or long overalls, you

442
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know, that you could just wear like a white tank top underneath and be really, you know,

443
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comfy, cozy, whatever.

444
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But I just feel like I would look like I'm in a paper bag.

445
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It's unfortunate.

446
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And I know that that's a me thing.

447
00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:54,960
Like I could wear them and they could be cute.

448
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But I just I don't think I would feel comfortable.

449
00:17:57,120 --> 00:17:58,120
Right.

450
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And if you don't feel comfortable, what's the, you know, like there's no reason to wear.

451
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Yeah.

452
00:18:02,000 --> 00:18:05,320
Like that to me is like comfort, comfort, like physical comfort.

453
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And then like mental comfort is like big, big time.

454
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100%.

455
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And I did get a couple other things.

456
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I got a pair of like cropped black jeans or whatever that are kind of not quite wide leg,

457
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but they're not skinny.

458
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And then I got this it's a cropped t-shirt, but it's not cropped like a straight size

459
00:18:25,120 --> 00:18:28,120
person's cropped t-shirt would look like it's a little bit longer.

460
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So like, so it's like a wider and longer, you know what I mean?

461
00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:33,880
And I am going to keep it kind of.

462
00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:36,880
Yeah, I am going to keep it though, because I put it on with the black shorts and it's

463
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really cute.

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It's like a coral color, kind of like what they call it, like not like acid washed a

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little bit or whatever.

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And it says just hello on the front of it.

467
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And some of the letters are in leopard and was really cute.

468
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All right.

469
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You got any more news or reviews?

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00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:52,800
No, but I think you have one.

471
00:18:52,800 --> 00:18:53,800
Okay, so.

472
00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:59,080
Okay, so I got a couple of these things.

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All right.

474
00:19:00,080 --> 00:19:01,560
So last night was it last night?

475
00:19:01,560 --> 00:19:06,520
Yeah, last night I'm watching the news and I'm like, what's going on on this news?

476
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See this like it looks like police or something.

477
00:19:09,560 --> 00:19:12,800
And there's like a horse and I turn it up and I'm like, what is this?

478
00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:16,400
And they said there's a miniature horse or a pony.

479
00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:17,400
I don't know what the thing.

480
00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:18,400
There's a difference.

481
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I'm not sure somebody can tell us, but on the loose in some neighborhood.

482
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So there's like a little baby horse.

483
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Yes.

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And I'm like, no, this is here.

485
00:19:27,160 --> 00:19:31,320
No, this literally happened in Birmingham somewhere around here.

486
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And I'm like, what in the world?

487
00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:35,260
It took them like hours to catch this horse.

488
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They were trying to lure it in with like snacks.

489
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It's like a baby horse.

490
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It was not like, I don't know if it's like jumping up on people or what.

491
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And I'm like, oh my God, you see this?

492
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And there are police and all the people, the neighbors were out there trying to get it.

493
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They finally took them hours to get this horse.

494
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Okay.

495
00:19:53,960 --> 00:19:56,120
Well they get it and they're like, okay, they finally got that.

496
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They finally caught the horse after so many hours.

497
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They're trying to find the owners.

498
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So I guess nobody knows who the owners are.

499
00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:07,000
So they're like, well, while they keep it, since they don't know the who the owners are,

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they're calling it genuine.

501
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:15,160
Like because you know, genuine has got that song pony.

502
00:20:15,160 --> 00:20:17,680
Oh my God.

503
00:20:17,680 --> 00:20:19,040
I thought it was the funniest thing.

504
00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:23,200
I was like, who came up with some hilarious person came up with that.

505
00:20:23,200 --> 00:20:24,520
I want to meet that person.

506
00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:25,520
They are.

507
00:20:25,520 --> 00:20:27,200
They made me crack up.

508
00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:28,920
So anyways, that's hysterical.

509
00:20:28,920 --> 00:20:29,920
That's my first news.

510
00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:34,000
Uh, second news is that have you heard about pantry porn?

511
00:20:34,000 --> 00:20:35,000
No.

512
00:20:35,000 --> 00:20:36,000
Okay.

513
00:20:36,000 --> 00:20:40,520
Pantry porn apparently is like, so like, you know how like the, I follow the home edit

514
00:20:40,520 --> 00:20:44,360
and you know how they always post stuff about like cleaning out people's pantries and redoing

515
00:20:44,360 --> 00:20:47,960
them and they've got all the cool shelves shelving stuff and all the stuff from the

516
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:48,960
container store.

517
00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:49,960
Yeah.

518
00:20:49,960 --> 00:20:54,160
And they like make it all like a rainbow, you know, colored and everything's organized.

519
00:20:54,160 --> 00:20:57,920
So apparently those pictures of that are called pantry porn.

520
00:20:57,920 --> 00:20:58,920
It's like, Oh yeah.

521
00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:01,320
So like, Oh, you have a really nice pantry.

522
00:21:01,320 --> 00:21:03,720
It's like turning me on or something.

523
00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:04,720
Okay.

524
00:21:04,720 --> 00:21:08,280
Well, according to somebody, I don't know where this came out.

525
00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:15,840
And I, I just heard this that apparently pantry porn is like racist because according to whoever

526
00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:24,040
it's because nice pantries can only be afforded by suburban housewives who like have a lot

527
00:21:24,040 --> 00:21:25,040
of money, I guess.

528
00:21:25,040 --> 00:21:26,520
And like stay at home.

529
00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:27,520
Hmm.

530
00:21:27,520 --> 00:21:28,520
Isn't that interesting?

531
00:21:28,520 --> 00:21:29,520
Yeah.

532
00:21:29,520 --> 00:21:30,520
I was like, huh?

533
00:21:30,520 --> 00:21:31,520
I was like, seriously?

534
00:21:31,520 --> 00:21:33,680
I was like, I mean, I guess that makes sense.

535
00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:39,440
But like, seriously, we're, we're, why are we making pictures of pantries racist now?

536
00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:42,880
Like just because, just because you want to have a nice pantry does not mean that you

537
00:21:42,880 --> 00:21:51,080
are a racist person or that you are like contributing to somebody else not being able to have something.

538
00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:52,080
I mean, you know what I mean?

539
00:21:52,080 --> 00:21:55,200
Like anybody can have an organized pantry, right?

540
00:21:55,200 --> 00:21:58,720
It may just not have the containers and it may not be huge.

541
00:21:58,720 --> 00:21:59,720
Like these walk in closets.

542
00:21:59,720 --> 00:22:00,720
Right.

543
00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:01,720
I get that.

544
00:22:01,720 --> 00:22:04,560
But that doesn't mean, size of a real closet.

545
00:22:04,560 --> 00:22:05,920
I mean, my pantry is tiny.

546
00:22:05,920 --> 00:22:07,280
I don't even have a pantry.

547
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:10,760
I have to use the cabinets in my kitchen for my pantry.

548
00:22:10,760 --> 00:22:11,760
Yeah, you do.

549
00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:12,760
Yeah.

550
00:22:12,760 --> 00:22:13,760
Your pantry is a cupboard.

551
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:14,760
Yeah.

552
00:22:14,760 --> 00:22:15,760
They have no pantry.

553
00:22:15,760 --> 00:22:18,480
So like, look, I just think it's very interesting that somebody brought that.

554
00:22:18,480 --> 00:22:23,360
Like have we gotten to the point where there's, there's not enough to talk about that somebody's

555
00:22:23,360 --> 00:22:25,120
making stuff up about.

556
00:22:25,120 --> 00:22:26,720
I was going to say the same thing.

557
00:22:26,720 --> 00:22:32,120
Is there not enough to worry about and now we have to start calling pantry porn racist?

558
00:22:32,120 --> 00:22:33,120
Yeah.

559
00:22:33,120 --> 00:22:37,440
Like, no, you can't post your pantry online anymore because you might offend somebody.

560
00:22:37,440 --> 00:22:42,160
Speaking of porn, actually, I haven't watched it yet, but I will just make this wreck because

561
00:22:42,160 --> 00:22:44,560
I think it's probably going to be interesting.

562
00:22:44,560 --> 00:22:47,280
There's a new documentary on Netflix about porn hub.

563
00:22:47,280 --> 00:22:48,280
Oh, I saw that.

564
00:22:48,280 --> 00:22:49,280
It's been on there for a minute.

565
00:22:49,280 --> 00:22:51,160
I know I've watched the trailer.

566
00:22:51,160 --> 00:22:54,200
I watched the one about only fans.

567
00:22:54,200 --> 00:22:58,440
I don't know if it was on Hulu or if it was on Netflix, but Melanie and I watched that

568
00:22:58,440 --> 00:22:59,560
one last weekend.

569
00:22:59,560 --> 00:23:00,560
It was interesting.

570
00:23:00,560 --> 00:23:05,480
I mean, I just, I think that it's that industry is very interesting to me.

571
00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:06,480
It is.

572
00:23:06,480 --> 00:23:07,480
Okay.

573
00:23:07,480 --> 00:23:12,760
So I have one more review and I'm, oh, I am late to the party with this stuff.

574
00:23:12,760 --> 00:23:16,520
You probably already know about it, but I'm like super late to the party.

575
00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:20,200
Like I think somebody told me about this a lot, like three years or four years ago or

576
00:23:20,200 --> 00:23:21,860
something, but I just never got it.

577
00:23:21,860 --> 00:23:27,400
And so now I finally got it and because they have it at Publix and I was like, here I am,

578
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,920
which is, I mean, this pretty par for the course for me because I'm pretty late to everything.

579
00:23:30,920 --> 00:23:32,720
You showed me a little while ago.

580
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:33,720
Did I show it to you?

581
00:23:33,720 --> 00:23:34,720
No, I guess not.

582
00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:35,720
Oh, no, no, no, no.

583
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:36,720
Not that Tortolini stuff that I ate tonight.

584
00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:37,720
No, no.

585
00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:38,720
She showed me microwave Tortolini.

586
00:23:38,720 --> 00:23:39,720
Yeah, they have this in my microwave.

587
00:23:39,720 --> 00:23:40,720
We'll talk about that too.

588
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:44,720
Um, microwave Tortolini.

589
00:23:44,720 --> 00:23:49,120
So the Just Bear, lightly breaded chicken breast chunks or like chicken breasts.

590
00:23:49,120 --> 00:23:51,240
I think, I think I got the chicken tenders.

591
00:23:51,240 --> 00:23:52,240
You can get this.

592
00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:53,240
Have you had this before?

593
00:23:53,240 --> 00:23:54,240
It's like a green bag.

594
00:23:54,240 --> 00:23:57,760
They, somebody told me that they had it at Costco, but a parent and I thought chicken.

595
00:23:57,760 --> 00:23:58,760
Yeah, I guess.

596
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:00,680
I mean, I assume it is tastes like it.

597
00:24:00,680 --> 00:24:03,560
No, it says no antibiotics ever.

598
00:24:03,560 --> 00:24:04,560
Blah, blah, blah.

599
00:24:04,560 --> 00:24:05,560
Boneless skinless.

600
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:09,480
And it tastes, it's like a dupe of Chick-fil-A and it is so good.

601
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:10,480
You can put it in the microwave.

602
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:15,120
I mean, you can cook it different ways, but like I just buy the Chick-fil-A sauce and

603
00:24:15,120 --> 00:24:18,400
like some wraps and like put that stuff in the microwave for lunch.

604
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:19,840
It takes like four minutes or something.

605
00:24:19,840 --> 00:24:23,360
And then you've got like a wrap for your, or you can do the same.

606
00:24:23,360 --> 00:24:24,360
You get it at where?

607
00:24:24,360 --> 00:24:25,360
At Publix?

608
00:24:25,360 --> 00:24:26,360
At Publix.

609
00:24:26,360 --> 00:24:27,360
It is like $15 a bag though.

610
00:24:27,360 --> 00:24:28,360
And I think that was on sale.

611
00:24:28,360 --> 00:24:29,360
Yeah.

612
00:24:29,360 --> 00:24:31,000
But I calculated it.

613
00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:35,440
If you, if I were to go to Chick-fil-A every day and buy like the sandwich or whatever,

614
00:24:35,440 --> 00:24:36,440
it's way cheaper.

615
00:24:36,440 --> 00:24:37,440
It's still way cheaper.

616
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:38,440
Okay.

617
00:24:38,440 --> 00:24:42,940
Cause I do have the Chick-fil-A back here and I really like to go there and they send

618
00:24:42,940 --> 00:24:43,940
me like things.

619
00:24:43,940 --> 00:24:46,800
They've sent me free stuff, try to get me to go and I'm like, Hey, hey Joel.

620
00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:47,800
I'm gonna stop.

621
00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:48,800
But um, but yeah.

622
00:24:48,800 --> 00:24:50,440
I'll have to try that.

623
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:51,760
I'm definitely interested in it.

624
00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:52,760
Yeah.

625
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:53,760
It's so good.

626
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:54,760
To have like an easy lunch at home.

627
00:24:54,760 --> 00:24:55,760
And I think it's like better for you.

628
00:24:55,760 --> 00:24:57,040
You can put it in the air fryer if you want.

629
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:58,040
It probably tastes good.

630
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:00,640
I don't have an air fryer, but I think you can do it in the oven too.

631
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:04,000
I don't know, but it's, I mean, it's super easy and it tastes, I was afraid that if you

632
00:25:04,000 --> 00:25:06,280
put it in the microwave, it wouldn't taste as good.

633
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:07,280
It tastes great.

634
00:25:07,280 --> 00:25:08,280
Okay.

635
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:09,280
Yeah.

636
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:10,280
Good to know.

637
00:25:10,280 --> 00:25:11,280
Yep.

638
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:12,280
Cool.

639
00:25:12,280 --> 00:25:13,280
All right.

640
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:15,280
Hey, moving on, moving on, on, moving on, on.

641
00:25:15,280 --> 00:25:16,280
All right.

642
00:25:16,280 --> 00:25:19,360
So yesterday I was watching videos.

643
00:25:19,360 --> 00:25:20,480
I was, you know, whatever.

644
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,960
I was just scrolling through Instagram, trying to figure out what we were going to talk about

645
00:25:23,960 --> 00:25:24,960
on the podcast.

646
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:25,960
She sent me about 4,000 videos.

647
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,880
I know you'll know that I'm on social media when I send a million, cause I'm like, Oh my

648
00:25:29,880 --> 00:25:30,880
gosh, this video is hilarious.

649
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:32,680
And that's why I don't get on social media.

650
00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:34,280
Cause I get tied up in it.

651
00:25:34,280 --> 00:25:35,280
It's real bad.

652
00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:41,400
Um, so I sent Sarah this video of this girl and she's like talking about, she's flipping.

653
00:25:41,400 --> 00:25:43,440
How, how do I say this?

654
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:49,320
Flipping the narrative, I would say, because she's not playing, like not acting like her

655
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,600
husband per se.

656
00:25:51,600 --> 00:25:59,200
She's sort of saying things that like a typical husband and we say typical, like, I mean,

657
00:25:59,200 --> 00:26:05,400
this is supposed to be satirical, but also not, I guess.

658
00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:11,000
I mean, and just kind of flipping the narrative on if, if a mom said this, like, can you imagine?

659
00:26:11,000 --> 00:26:12,000
Yeah.

660
00:26:12,000 --> 00:26:13,000
Can you imagine this?

661
00:26:13,000 --> 00:26:17,920
And she's kind of like, say she's like, Oh my God, my husband, he's like that too.

662
00:26:17,920 --> 00:26:20,760
Every time I go home, he's like, can you make a doctor's appointment?

663
00:26:20,760 --> 00:26:22,720
I'm like, how am I supposed to make a doctor's appointment?

664
00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:25,440
I didn't even know the kids go to the doctor.

665
00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:26,440
Like kids have a doctor.

666
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:31,480
What was like, I mean, how do I know to pick up the kids from school?

667
00:26:31,480 --> 00:26:37,640
Unless, you know, he tells me to tell me, and it's like, we have three kids and you

668
00:26:37,640 --> 00:26:40,700
know, when I go to bed at night, our house is a mess.

669
00:26:40,700 --> 00:26:44,800
And then when I wake up, it's clean and I just tell her she needs to relax because it

670
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:45,800
all gets done.

671
00:26:45,800 --> 00:26:46,800
Yeah.

672
00:26:46,800 --> 00:26:47,800
You need to chill out.

673
00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,200
Like basically like stop yelling at me.

674
00:26:50,200 --> 00:26:51,200
It'll get done.

675
00:26:51,200 --> 00:26:52,200
Yeah.

676
00:26:52,200 --> 00:26:55,360
And, and you know, he complains that I never wake up with the baby.

677
00:26:55,360 --> 00:26:58,200
I don't hear the baby when I'm sleeping.

678
00:26:58,200 --> 00:26:59,200
Yeah.

679
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:05,440
Like, you know, all those kinds of things that are, you know, probably, you know, struggles

680
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:09,840
and frustrations that, you know, most moms have, I would say, I mean, obviously we don't

681
00:27:09,840 --> 00:27:10,840
have that firsthand.

682
00:27:10,840 --> 00:27:16,600
And like even, even somebody that even not a mom, maybe like a wife or somebody that

683
00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:21,280
has to have kids or somebody, a girlfriend, you know, grandma, who knows?

684
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:24,720
Like somebody that is living with somebody that's like, maybe it doesn't have to do with

685
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:26,080
kids necessarily.

686
00:27:26,080 --> 00:27:27,080
Yeah.

687
00:27:27,080 --> 00:27:34,840
So in the spirit of women's history month, Emily sent this to me and I had attended a

688
00:27:34,840 --> 00:27:40,120
forum at work by our diversity, equity and inclusion team.

689
00:27:40,120 --> 00:27:46,280
I'm going to do my best here to relay kind of what we talked about, but it kind of tied

690
00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:51,160
into, you know, what she sent me and basically saying, you know, women are exhausted, you

691
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:52,520
know, all the time.

692
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:59,280
And the premise of what we discussed yesterday in that forum was invisible disabilities and

693
00:27:59,280 --> 00:28:07,480
invisible disabilities are things like cognitive dysfunction, chronic fatigue, sensory processing

694
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:14,440
disorders, autoimmune disorders, depression, diabetes, visual impairments, or any, you

695
00:28:14,440 --> 00:28:16,480
know, trauma that you may have experienced.

696
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:22,520
So these are disabilities that by somebody looking at you, you looking at them, you're

697
00:28:22,520 --> 00:28:26,360
not going to visually be able to see that disability.

698
00:28:26,360 --> 00:28:34,200
But that the invisible disability is going to be something that impacts a person's ability

699
00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:36,680
to learn or work.

700
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:44,200
So I mean, it could be anyone from a child who has, let's say, dyslexia in school or

701
00:28:44,200 --> 00:28:49,680
has, you know, traumatic experiences at home and, you know, they're not participating socially

702
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:53,240
in school and that sort of thing and trying to kind of get down to, you know, the reason

703
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:55,200
behind that.

704
00:28:55,200 --> 00:29:00,120
And the guest speaker that we had yesterday was explaining that women are impacted by

705
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:03,320
this far more than men are.

706
00:29:03,320 --> 00:29:10,960
And I think that video kind of goes to show, you know, why that happens and just the expectations

707
00:29:10,960 --> 00:29:16,920
overall that are put on women and things like chronic fatigue that, you know, doesn't have

708
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:24,120
specific treatment and nor do, you know, we really kind of understand why it happens even

709
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:28,600
when you have, you know, something like a healthy sleep schedule and that sort of thing.

710
00:29:28,600 --> 00:29:32,640
So there's all that, you know, information.

711
00:29:32,640 --> 00:29:38,120
But I think it's something that people, you know, don't really probably know about and

712
00:29:38,120 --> 00:29:39,640
don't really understand.

713
00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:45,120
And I think sometimes it's hard to empathize with that, especially when it's not something

714
00:29:45,120 --> 00:29:46,120
that's visible.

715
00:29:46,120 --> 00:29:47,120
Yeah.

716
00:29:47,120 --> 00:29:51,600
So this, this is something that when you sent it to me and told me about it, I was a little

717
00:29:51,600 --> 00:29:54,520
confused because you said like fatigue and things like that.

718
00:29:54,520 --> 00:29:59,340
And then I'm like, hold on a disability like fatigue, just, just because I'm tired doesn't

719
00:29:59,340 --> 00:30:01,760
mean that I have a disability.

720
00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:07,600
Just because I'm anxious or have anxiety sometimes doesn't mean I have a disability.

721
00:30:07,600 --> 00:30:12,880
But we would say, so you would say like chronic fatigue syndrome or something like that would

722
00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:16,220
probably have be like an invisible disability.

723
00:30:16,220 --> 00:30:19,560
But also I started thinking about it and reading up on this.

724
00:30:19,560 --> 00:30:25,040
And I think that like, for instance, pregnancy when feet, when women are pregnant, that would

725
00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:30,360
be a, like a, an invisible disability because you, especially if you can't, you haven't

726
00:30:30,360 --> 00:30:34,680
told people that you're pregnant yet, you have like, um, morning sickness, you're, you

727
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,600
know, obviously it's nobody knows what you're feeling, you know, when that's happening and

728
00:30:38,600 --> 00:30:40,800
you haven't told anybody yet, that kind of thing.

729
00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:44,000
And you're going through, you know, you're trying to make sure your body is like healthy

730
00:30:44,000 --> 00:30:49,120
and whatever so that you can carry your baby to term, but like, you don't want to tell

731
00:30:49,120 --> 00:30:52,360
anybody yet, especially, you know, that, that goes on for like, you know, at least the first

732
00:30:52,360 --> 00:30:56,280
trimester, usually I don't think people tell, like announce it normally.

733
00:30:56,280 --> 00:30:57,280
Right.

734
00:30:57,280 --> 00:30:58,280
Um, migraines or another thing.

735
00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:02,840
And, you know, I can relate to that having like bad headaches and be not being able to

736
00:31:02,840 --> 00:31:05,440
like go lay down or like be in a dark room.

737
00:31:05,440 --> 00:31:08,040
And when you're at work and that happens and you're like, I need to go home.

738
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:09,640
Like me working from home is nice.

739
00:31:09,640 --> 00:31:13,560
I can just be like, I gotta go lay down for a few minutes and see if this goes away, take

740
00:31:13,560 --> 00:31:16,240
some, you know, etc. or whatever.

741
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:17,800
So like that kind of thing.

742
00:31:17,800 --> 00:31:22,080
But, you know, I was kind of thinking about it and I'm like, okay, they're also saying

743
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:23,280
like anxiety.

744
00:31:23,280 --> 00:31:28,520
So anxiety and depression, I would say, cause I feel like this is kind of controversial

745
00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,520
to me.

746
00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:35,040
It, it, it might be not to everybody, but I think about it and I'm like, okay, well,

747
00:31:35,040 --> 00:31:39,920
I get anxious a lot and I deal with it and I don't tell anybody at work and nobody, nobody

748
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:46,520
is like allowing me to not do my work, not do my job because I have anxiety or because

749
00:31:46,520 --> 00:31:49,740
I have this, I'm depressed or blah, blah, blah.

750
00:31:49,740 --> 00:31:52,500
You have to kind of like leave your stuff at home.

751
00:31:52,500 --> 00:31:56,960
But I guess I started thinking more into it and I was like, you know, I guess the point

752
00:31:56,960 --> 00:32:00,120
of it is that everyone has stuff that they have to deal with.

753
00:32:00,120 --> 00:32:03,040
And like, you know, I don't know anybody that hasn't been like sad or anxious or whatever

754
00:32:03,040 --> 00:32:07,920
at some point, but like the main point to me, and maybe you can agree or disagree is

755
00:32:07,920 --> 00:32:12,000
that just to be aware of other people and what they're going through, cause they may

756
00:32:12,000 --> 00:32:15,240
be going through things at home or in their personal life and you don't even know about

757
00:32:15,240 --> 00:32:20,520
it and they may have, they may have migraines, they may be pregnant, they may have anxiety

758
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:24,400
or depression or like OCD or something like that, that they can't, they don't want to

759
00:32:24,400 --> 00:32:30,720
talk about cause they don't want to feel like they are less than or be judged at work and

760
00:32:30,720 --> 00:32:34,040
just treat them better, treat people better.

761
00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:35,040
Like stop.

762
00:32:35,040 --> 00:32:36,040
Yeah.

763
00:32:36,040 --> 00:32:39,960
I mean, you never know, you know, what somebody else's struggle is until you walk a mile in

764
00:32:39,960 --> 00:32:44,000
their shoes and that may be something that you're never able to do.

765
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:49,000
So the least that you can do is empathize and sympathize with people and step back for

766
00:32:49,000 --> 00:32:54,420
a second and not be so judgmental over what somebody, you know, might be going through.

767
00:32:54,420 --> 00:33:02,600
And I think that as you know, we continue progressing in the corporate world, you know,

768
00:33:02,600 --> 00:33:07,680
unlimited PTO has come into play and that's a big, huge factor, but I think, you know,

769
00:33:07,680 --> 00:33:16,280
longer bereavement and longer maternity paternity leave, those kinds of things are being implemented.

770
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:21,400
But now that's, you know, these invisible disabilities world is being brought to the

771
00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:22,400
forefront.

772
00:33:22,400 --> 00:33:25,720
I think it's something that companies, you know, seriously need to consider.

773
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:34,120
I will never forget at my old job, it was when I lost Greta, my original dog and it

774
00:33:34,120 --> 00:33:41,040
happened on a Sunday and I did not want to go to work on Monday, but I knew that my boss

775
00:33:41,040 --> 00:33:48,600
would not have responded well to that respected, you know, me, my decision to not come to work

776
00:33:48,600 --> 00:33:50,240
or my mental health.

777
00:33:50,240 --> 00:33:53,120
Like it was, it didn't matter.

778
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:58,280
And that is such a crappy feeling to have, you know, in a workplace to just go and sit

779
00:33:58,280 --> 00:34:06,440
there and, you know, be miserable and, and feel like you can't, you know, be sad or take

780
00:34:06,440 --> 00:34:11,680
a beat and, you know, kind of go through that grieving process because it's not going to

781
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:15,240
be respected and it's going to be frowned upon.

782
00:34:15,240 --> 00:34:16,240
Right.

783
00:34:16,240 --> 00:34:20,640
So, and I've also felt like this for stuff, not stuff like that, but not necessarily things

784
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:26,200
like that, like going to a doctor's appointment, things like that, um, being needing to like

785
00:34:26,200 --> 00:34:30,800
take a break and go, go get lunch for an hour at my job.

786
00:34:30,800 --> 00:34:32,840
I feel bad for doing that.

787
00:34:32,840 --> 00:34:39,240
Like, and it's not, it's, it's me mostly, but like, it's a lot of, and I say this, it's

788
00:34:39,240 --> 00:34:43,560
in my, what I feel, how I feel is that I am expected to be available.

789
00:34:43,560 --> 00:34:48,480
They may not necessarily expect me to be available, but like what, maybe what employers and bosses

790
00:34:48,480 --> 00:34:53,840
and things like that could do is like make these things like make these things more acceptable.

791
00:34:53,840 --> 00:34:58,680
So like put on your out of office or tell everybody, Hey, I've got to take it today.

792
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,480
I'm taking a me day today.

793
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,240
I'm taking a, uh, and that should be okay.

794
00:35:03,240 --> 00:35:04,240
Yeah.

795
00:35:04,240 --> 00:35:05,240
A mental health day.

796
00:35:05,240 --> 00:35:06,240
Yeah.

797
00:35:06,240 --> 00:35:10,840
And that's so that, so that you can make that accepted and that other people will be like,

798
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:12,360
Oh, well my boss is doing it.

799
00:35:12,360 --> 00:35:13,360
So now I can do it.

800
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:17,600
Cause you get your, if even if you, I know you have like unlimited PTO, but like you

801
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:22,040
get your time off, you have the time and you should be able to use it as you please.

802
00:35:22,040 --> 00:35:26,800
You shouldn't, and it's sad when we can't tell people why we need to tell, like I don't

803
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:30,600
want to tell people I'm going on vacation because I don't, or, but I don't, I don't

804
00:35:30,600 --> 00:35:33,200
want them to think, Oh, well you're going to have fun when we're working.

805
00:35:33,200 --> 00:35:34,200
Yeah.

806
00:35:34,200 --> 00:35:35,200
Yeah.

807
00:35:35,200 --> 00:35:36,200
Well, and I agree with that.

808
00:35:36,200 --> 00:35:40,520
And I think the other, you know, aspect of it is it's not always anyone's business.

809
00:35:40,520 --> 00:35:42,160
It's what's going on.

810
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,960
And just like you talk about, you know, somebody being pregnant and not ready to tell anybody

811
00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:48,120
yet that's their business.

812
00:35:48,120 --> 00:35:54,960
You should not need to say anything more than, you know, I am not going to be at work today.

813
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:58,980
You know, if I need to be out longer than that, then I will communicate that with you.

814
00:35:58,980 --> 00:36:00,320
And that should be it.

815
00:36:00,320 --> 00:36:04,400
I know that's sad though, but you don't, you feel like if you need to be out, you have

816
00:36:04,400 --> 00:36:09,400
to be like, I'm sick or I had this or I don't know if that's, that's just how I feel.

817
00:36:09,400 --> 00:36:11,760
I feel like I have to tell somebody, Hey, I'm doing this.

818
00:36:11,760 --> 00:36:12,760
Oh, a hundred percent.

819
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:13,760
Yeah.

820
00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:19,840
And I feel, and I've gotten better about it at my new job, but like there were in the

821
00:36:19,840 --> 00:36:23,880
beginning I was like, I'm going to, you know, go grab lunch or I need to go run this errand

822
00:36:23,880 --> 00:36:24,880
on my lunch or whatever.

823
00:36:24,880 --> 00:36:28,080
My boss is finally like, you don't have to tell me these things.

824
00:36:28,080 --> 00:36:31,120
And he's like, you know, thank you for the heads up, but like, you don't have to tell

825
00:36:31,120 --> 00:36:32,320
me what you're doing all the time.

826
00:36:32,320 --> 00:36:33,320
And I was just like, okay.

827
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:39,240
And it was just sort of like a trauma response from my previous job.

828
00:36:39,240 --> 00:36:40,240
Yeah.

829
00:36:40,240 --> 00:36:41,240
And that sucks.

830
00:36:41,240 --> 00:36:46,440
And then another, we had a second guest speaker yesterday and she, you know, talked about

831
00:36:46,440 --> 00:36:52,160
after her second child, she did have some major complications with her pregnancy and

832
00:36:52,160 --> 00:36:58,320
delivery and then, you know, experienced, you know, postpartum afterwards.

833
00:36:58,320 --> 00:37:04,400
And I think that people, you know, don't understand that if like, I know that I can't ever understand

834
00:37:04,400 --> 00:37:06,440
that because I've never been pregnant.

835
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:11,680
I've never had that, you know, rush of hormones afterwards and you know, all that.

836
00:37:11,680 --> 00:37:15,640
So I, I, it's, you know, something that I don't, you know, firsthand understand, but

837
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:20,920
it was very interesting, um, you know, to hear her explain, you know, the difficulties

838
00:37:20,920 --> 00:37:26,080
that she went through after giving birth, because she said, you know, there was a months

839
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:31,040
in and I think she was in the hospital for a while after, um, and you know, she wasn't

840
00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:36,600
bonding with her child and she felt like she, you know, hadn't given birth because of,

841
00:37:36,600 --> 00:37:38,920
you know, the way that her delivery went and that sort of thing.

842
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:44,880
And um, it was, you know, a little bit dissociative from, you know, this baby that she had just

843
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:45,880
birthed.

844
00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:52,880
And finally, you know, decided to, you know, get therapy and, you know, was diagnosed with

845
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:53,880
postpartum.

846
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:57,720
And I mean, that's something that, you know, people don't see, you know, I think, I don't

847
00:37:57,720 --> 00:38:01,440
know if she was quite back to work yet or whatever, but you know, having to put on a

848
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:06,640
brave face, whether it be postpartum or anything else, anxiety, depression, you know, things

849
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:11,240
that you're going through at home, a divorce even, you know, I wouldn't say divorce in

850
00:38:11,240 --> 00:38:15,080
and of itself is an invisible disability, but the emotions that come along with that

851
00:38:15,080 --> 00:38:16,360
can be crippling sometimes.

852
00:38:16,360 --> 00:38:18,800
I mean, a lot of people say divorce is like a death.

853
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:22,800
I mean, it's the death of your marriage and things like that.

854
00:38:22,800 --> 00:38:26,620
And that, you know, is, is hard for people to understand.

855
00:38:26,620 --> 00:38:33,680
And I think for a really long time, it has always been, you know, you show up at work

856
00:38:33,680 --> 00:38:38,800
and you put your, you know, game face on and you do whatever it is that you have to do

857
00:38:38,800 --> 00:38:40,000
to get through it.

858
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:45,440
And I think for a very long time that mental health, you know, was not something that was

859
00:38:45,440 --> 00:38:48,820
acknowledged, recognized.

860
00:38:48,820 --> 00:38:54,840
And I don't think people cared a whole lot, you know, about that side of things.

861
00:38:54,840 --> 00:38:56,380
And they just expected you to come in.

862
00:38:56,380 --> 00:38:59,800
You were getting a paycheck and you were supposed to do the work that you're expected to do.

863
00:38:59,800 --> 00:39:01,520
Well, I agree with that.

864
00:39:01,520 --> 00:39:06,040
Like, I think that people didn't, you know, necessarily talk about mental health and stuff.

865
00:39:06,040 --> 00:39:10,280
And people are, you know, starting, not starting, but we are continuing to talk about mental

866
00:39:10,280 --> 00:39:13,400
health and it's getting better, blah, blah, blah.

867
00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:19,520
But I do believe, I feel that, how do I say this, going back to work and putting on your

868
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:24,080
face like it's a, it's a, it's a way to move on.

869
00:39:24,080 --> 00:39:26,280
So it's kind of like getting up every day, going to work.

870
00:39:26,280 --> 00:39:27,920
You have to do this.

871
00:39:27,920 --> 00:39:30,000
The world keeps turning.

872
00:39:30,000 --> 00:39:34,680
And if you don't have something to help you do that, then you can sit in that dump that

873
00:39:34,680 --> 00:39:39,160
you're in for the rest of your life, or you can get up and you're like, you know what?

874
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:40,360
Nobody cares about this.

875
00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:42,900
I have to get, I have to do what I have to do.

876
00:39:42,900 --> 00:39:43,900
And that's just how it is.

877
00:39:43,900 --> 00:39:49,640
I do think that we, everyone should be kind to each other and know what that, you know,

878
00:39:49,640 --> 00:39:53,000
sometimes people go through things and it's hard, but I don't necessarily think like a

879
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,200
divorce is a disability.

880
00:39:55,200 --> 00:40:00,640
And I don't think you should be like given additional like time off for going through

881
00:40:00,640 --> 00:40:01,640
a divorce.

882
00:40:01,640 --> 00:40:03,800
I do think, well, maybe, I don't know.

883
00:40:03,800 --> 00:40:04,800
I don't know.

884
00:40:04,800 --> 00:40:10,480
I mean, I don't, I will have to say, I just don't agree with you as not a hundred percent

885
00:40:10,480 --> 00:40:11,580
anyways.

886
00:40:11,580 --> 00:40:16,960
Do I understand what you're saying about, you know, just doing the things that you normally

887
00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:22,760
do every day in life to, as to move on as part of a coping mechanism?

888
00:40:22,760 --> 00:40:23,760
Sure.

889
00:40:23,760 --> 00:40:27,680
Do I think that that, you know, just putting a brave face on and saying screw it and trying

890
00:40:27,680 --> 00:40:30,160
to grin and bear it every day is going to get you through something?

891
00:40:30,160 --> 00:40:31,800
No, not always.

892
00:40:31,800 --> 00:40:34,160
And so I don't know how I feel about that.

893
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:35,680
That's what therapy is for.

894
00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,000
Well sure.

895
00:40:37,000 --> 00:40:42,400
And I encourage folks, you know, to seek therapy if they're, you know, going through things.

896
00:40:42,400 --> 00:40:43,400
Absolutely.

897
00:40:43,400 --> 00:40:48,960
I mean, there is somebody out there, you know, to talk to always, I know.

898
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:52,400
But it's, therapy, therapy is also not the only answer.

899
00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:53,920
I don't, I mean, of course.

900
00:40:53,920 --> 00:40:58,720
What do you think that they should do to accommodate somebody who maybe went through a divorce

901
00:40:58,720 --> 00:40:59,720
and is...

902
00:40:59,720 --> 00:41:00,720
Well, I mean, that was just an example.

903
00:41:00,720 --> 00:41:06,160
I think that's something where you should be able to reach out to your manager, your

904
00:41:06,160 --> 00:41:07,640
company, your HR, whatever you need to do.

905
00:41:07,640 --> 00:41:09,240
And that's when you take your mental health days.

906
00:41:09,240 --> 00:41:10,480
Oh, well yeah.

907
00:41:10,480 --> 00:41:13,160
But like, yeah, I get that mental health days, but okay.

908
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:14,160
I'm just, yeah.

909
00:41:14,160 --> 00:41:15,160
Yeah.

910
00:41:15,160 --> 00:41:19,400
No, I'm not, I'm not saying if you get a divorce, you should be given X number of days off.

911
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:20,800
No, it does not work like that.

912
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:23,440
There's going to be ups and downs throughout your divorce process.

913
00:41:23,440 --> 00:41:26,080
And when you need to take those mental health days, you take them.

914
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:27,080
Right.

915
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:28,080
Yeah.

916
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:29,080
But that's, that's all I was getting at.

917
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:32,240
Hopefully nobody's ever saying, oh, well, you've got this time off, but you can't take

918
00:41:32,240 --> 00:41:35,760
it because you're saying that you got a divorce and you're sad, you know.

919
00:41:35,760 --> 00:41:39,440
Again, I don't think it's anybody's business, you know, why you're taking time off.

920
00:41:39,440 --> 00:41:46,120
And I think that the judgment behind, you know, why somebody's taking off, you know,

921
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:49,280
is it, that needs to go away for sure.

922
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:54,640
Unless it becomes something where it's, you know, consistent absenteeism and that sort

923
00:41:54,640 --> 00:41:59,480
of thing, then you need to have a conversation, you know, with your employer or whatever,

924
00:41:59,480 --> 00:42:06,600
because I do understand, you know, if productivity drops as a result of whatever the absenteeism,

925
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:08,040
I understand that.

926
00:42:08,040 --> 00:42:12,320
But I mean, if we're just talking, you know, a day, you know, here or there, then there

927
00:42:12,320 --> 00:42:13,560
should be no questions asked.

928
00:42:13,560 --> 00:42:14,560
Right.

929
00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:15,560
Yeah.

930
00:42:15,560 --> 00:42:16,560
I agree with that.

931
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:20,840
I think it also depends on the type of job, the type of boss, you know, that kind of thing.

932
00:42:20,840 --> 00:42:21,840
Oh, absolutely.

933
00:42:21,840 --> 00:42:22,840
Yeah.

934
00:42:22,840 --> 00:42:29,040
I mean, the way that I, you know, I just, I have such a good working relationship right

935
00:42:29,040 --> 00:42:33,500
now that like, I just, I feel comfortable telling my manager just about everything.

936
00:42:33,500 --> 00:42:38,320
Like I had my one-on-one with him after that forum yesterday and I, you know, told him

937
00:42:38,320 --> 00:42:41,200
because my sister and I work for the same company and I was messaging her while this

938
00:42:41,200 --> 00:42:45,320
was happening and I was like, you know, I feel like I have undiagnosed chronic fatigue.

939
00:42:45,320 --> 00:42:46,440
I'm always tired.

940
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,400
I can't get started in the morning very easily.

941
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:51,400
And I, and she was like, girl, me too.

942
00:42:51,400 --> 00:42:53,600
And I was like, but I'm not like, I'm not joking about this.

943
00:42:53,600 --> 00:42:55,800
Like I'm being serious right now.

944
00:42:55,800 --> 00:42:58,160
And she was like, no, I am, I am too.

945
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,980
Like into today, this morning, she and I, you know, connected.

946
00:43:00,980 --> 00:43:03,200
And I was like, this morning was a much better morning for me.

947
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:06,440
I got up, I, you know, took a shower and put makeup on immediately.

948
00:43:06,440 --> 00:43:08,400
And like, I've had a better morning.

949
00:43:08,400 --> 00:43:12,160
And I mean, that's just something that I have to work through, you know, by myself instead

950
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:17,560
of, you know, snoozing my alarm 75 times and letting myself just, you know, increasingly

951
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:20,280
get more and more exhausted as those alarms go off.

952
00:43:20,280 --> 00:43:22,200
You know, I have to figure that out.

953
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:27,120
But I was telling my boss that and I was saying it, you know, just sort of kind of try to

954
00:43:27,120 --> 00:43:31,960
be funny, but also like just throwing it out there because that's where my head is at

955
00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:32,960
right now.

956
00:43:32,960 --> 00:43:37,040
And I have to figure out, you know, why I'm feeling so tired and things like that.

957
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:40,920
And that's just something that, you know, I've got to work out.

958
00:43:40,920 --> 00:43:41,920
Yeah.

959
00:43:41,920 --> 00:43:45,000
And it's bizarre to me to only be 35 years old.

960
00:43:45,000 --> 00:43:48,920
You know, we talk about ourselves being old and things like that every now and again,

961
00:43:48,920 --> 00:43:51,600
but like we got a long way to go.

962
00:43:51,600 --> 00:43:55,000
And if we're already this tired, like what the hell?

963
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:56,000
Right.

964
00:43:56,000 --> 00:43:57,640
What's 20 years from now going to look like?

965
00:43:57,640 --> 00:43:59,560
I've always kind of been like this.

966
00:43:59,560 --> 00:44:02,400
And my mom was like, like had this same issue.

967
00:44:02,400 --> 00:44:07,120
Like I remember, you know, being younger, my mom, like I would have to wake her up in

968
00:44:07,120 --> 00:44:08,120
the morning to take it.

969
00:44:08,120 --> 00:44:10,960
She would same thing as me sleep through alarms.

970
00:44:10,960 --> 00:44:12,640
She's, she didn't even have an alarm.

971
00:44:12,640 --> 00:44:14,560
I would have to set my own alarm and then wake her up.

972
00:44:14,560 --> 00:44:17,320
And then we would wake her up and she'd be like 10 more minutes.

973
00:44:17,320 --> 00:44:20,120
So we'd have to wake her up like really early.

974
00:44:20,120 --> 00:44:23,640
And then we'd have to, I'd have to, we'd have to go down and make her coffee, stuff like

975
00:44:23,640 --> 00:44:27,000
that, like random stuff to get her to take us to school.

976
00:44:27,000 --> 00:44:31,520
I'm sorry, mom, for telling everybody, but like it's the truth.

977
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:34,160
And I'm sure that there are other moms that had to have the same thing.

978
00:44:34,160 --> 00:44:39,360
So like I see that in me, like, and I think it is a genetic thing.

979
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:43,160
I think there's a factor in that with the sleeping situation.

980
00:44:43,160 --> 00:44:44,160
I know.

981
00:44:44,160 --> 00:44:49,600
I just wonder so much because my mom also has trouble sleeping and, and I do too.

982
00:44:49,600 --> 00:44:55,400
And a lot of it is anxiety for both of us and like just making lists in your head of

983
00:44:55,400 --> 00:44:58,600
the things that need to be done tomorrow, worrying about like what I'm going to wear

984
00:44:58,600 --> 00:45:03,200
to something, which is so stupid, but like these are the things that I cannot shut my

985
00:45:03,200 --> 00:45:05,160
brain off at night and think about.

986
00:45:05,160 --> 00:45:10,720
And you know, I have been sleeping better in over the last, you know, three, four months,

987
00:45:10,720 --> 00:45:15,520
whatever, but it's still not enough to make me not exhausted all the damn time.

988
00:45:15,520 --> 00:45:16,520
Yeah.

989
00:45:16,520 --> 00:45:20,000
I have, I have weird things when I like lay down to go to bed at night.

990
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:21,000
It's so strange.

991
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:26,040
It's like, I don't, it's funny to me that you think about what you're going to wear.

992
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:29,000
That's not, I wish that's what I thought about before I went to bed.

993
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:35,120
Well, I mean, I think about a lot of other stuff too, but like that is definitely, and

994
00:45:35,120 --> 00:45:39,960
I think that's probably like a self-confidence thing for me.

995
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:44,440
Well, you also are very into like making sure you have the perfect outfit all the time.

996
00:45:44,440 --> 00:45:49,760
I am not like, I'm just like, I don't know what I'm wearing something black and hopefully

997
00:45:49,760 --> 00:45:50,760
it looks good.

998
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:54,880
And usually I'll be like screaming, I'll be like, man, I thought this was going to look

999
00:45:54,880 --> 00:45:55,880
good in my head.

1000
00:45:55,880 --> 00:45:58,200
And then I put it on and I'm like, this looks terrible, but like, you know what?

1001
00:45:58,200 --> 00:45:59,200
I'm wearing it anyways.

1002
00:45:59,200 --> 00:46:00,840
But I won't do that.

1003
00:46:00,840 --> 00:46:07,480
If it looks, if I don't feel good in it, then I'm having like a last minute, like not, not

1004
00:46:07,480 --> 00:46:12,360
physical panic attack, but like I'm just overwhelmed with anxiety because I'm not about to walk

1005
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:14,600
out of the house and something that I don't feel confident in.

1006
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:15,600
Well, I don't either.

1007
00:46:15,600 --> 00:46:19,520
I changed clothes like four times and then I'm like, well, you have to, I've done my

1008
00:46:19,520 --> 00:46:20,520
hair and my makeup at that point.

1009
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:21,800
It's bullshit at this point.

1010
00:46:21,800 --> 00:46:25,880
So what I do, what you need to do, maybe this will help.

1011
00:46:25,880 --> 00:46:28,040
Probably won't, but we'll see.

1012
00:46:28,040 --> 00:46:32,920
What I do is I say, okay, I've changed clothes four or five, how many times I've changed

1013
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:33,920
it?

1014
00:46:33,920 --> 00:46:34,920
All my clothes are everywhere.

1015
00:46:34,920 --> 00:46:36,320
And I'm like, oh my gosh, now I'm going to have to come home and clean.

1016
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:40,560
I'll follow my cleanup, everything that I threw all over my bed because I don't have

1017
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:41,560
time to put it up now.

1018
00:46:41,560 --> 00:46:43,000
I'm going to clean as I go.

1019
00:46:43,000 --> 00:46:45,000
I hang that shit back up and put it somewhere.

1020
00:46:45,000 --> 00:46:46,000
Oh, I don't.

1021
00:46:46,000 --> 00:46:47,760
Cause I'm like, oh, I'm going to put this on and then I'll try this on.

1022
00:46:47,760 --> 00:46:50,040
And I'm like, maybe I'll wear this and then I'll, it's like all over my bed.

1023
00:46:50,040 --> 00:46:52,080
And I'm like, oh, what did I do?

1024
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:56,280
So then, but what I do is I'm like, okay, well, Emily, I put it on and I'm like, which

1025
00:46:56,280 --> 00:46:59,260
one looks the best and I'm like, I hate all of them.

1026
00:46:59,260 --> 00:47:00,700
They all suck.

1027
00:47:00,700 --> 00:47:03,020
And then I'm like, well, this is what you have.

1028
00:47:03,020 --> 00:47:04,640
This is the hand you've been dealt.

1029
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:07,680
Basically you have these four things to choose from.

1030
00:47:07,680 --> 00:47:09,240
You have to choose one now.

1031
00:47:09,240 --> 00:47:10,920
You have zero time to do it.

1032
00:47:10,920 --> 00:47:12,480
Do it now, pick it and go.

1033
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:13,920
Because like literally, what are you going to do?

1034
00:47:13,920 --> 00:47:14,920
Go shopping?

1035
00:47:14,920 --> 00:47:16,720
No, like there's nothing to do.

1036
00:47:16,720 --> 00:47:20,240
Like go to an old faithful in the closet that you've already worn.

1037
00:47:20,240 --> 00:47:23,040
I would rather go and have fun.

1038
00:47:23,040 --> 00:47:24,360
And you know what?

1039
00:47:24,360 --> 00:47:29,040
People probably, there are probably some people, I know some people will probably say, they'd

1040
00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:30,920
all be like, what the hell are you wearing?

1041
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:32,920
And I'd be like, I would think, I don't know.

1042
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:34,480
You wouldn't say that?

1043
00:47:34,480 --> 00:47:35,480
I would say it.

1044
00:47:35,480 --> 00:47:40,040
I'd be like, if you can't showed up and you looked homely like I do most of the time,

1045
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:43,640
I would be like Sarah, cause you always look put together.

1046
00:47:43,640 --> 00:47:45,480
You always look put together as well.

1047
00:47:45,480 --> 00:47:46,480
It's always just black.

1048
00:47:46,480 --> 00:47:47,480
Yes you do.

1049
00:47:47,480 --> 00:47:48,480
It doesn't matter if it's black.

1050
00:47:48,480 --> 00:47:49,480
Okay.

1051
00:47:49,480 --> 00:47:50,480
Well, who cares?

1052
00:47:50,480 --> 00:47:51,480
It's your signature color.

1053
00:47:51,480 --> 00:47:52,480
It is my signature color.

1054
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:57,560
And okay, so anyway, what I'm just trying to say is that, what was the point of my story?

1055
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:02,200
Oh, I would rather go and have fun and not care about most of the time, nobody's really

1056
00:48:02,200 --> 00:48:05,360
after once you get there, nobody's really caring about what you're wearing.

1057
00:48:05,360 --> 00:48:06,360
A hundred thousand percent.

1058
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:07,760
And who, except for yourself.

1059
00:48:07,760 --> 00:48:08,760
Exactly.

1060
00:48:08,760 --> 00:48:09,760
And as long as I'm comfortable.

1061
00:48:09,760 --> 00:48:11,360
But I am my hardest critic.

1062
00:48:11,360 --> 00:48:14,320
And that is why I make sure I'm physically comfortable in it.

1063
00:48:14,320 --> 00:48:15,320
Yeah.

1064
00:48:15,320 --> 00:48:16,320
I'm physically comfortable.

1065
00:48:16,320 --> 00:48:18,400
The mental will come and I'll just be like, you know what?

1066
00:48:18,400 --> 00:48:19,940
You have to get there.

1067
00:48:19,940 --> 00:48:22,200
And I would rather do that than stay home and not go.

1068
00:48:22,200 --> 00:48:23,960
Oh, I would never stay home.

1069
00:48:23,960 --> 00:48:28,400
I would go pull an old faithful out of my closet that I may have already been photographed

1070
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:31,560
in or wore to like the similar event.

1071
00:48:31,560 --> 00:48:37,920
I feel like I wish that I had enough clothes to wear and not have be photographed in it

1072
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:38,920
again.

1073
00:48:38,920 --> 00:48:42,360
Like I feel like I need to come shopping in your closets because I'm like, do y'all just

1074
00:48:42,360 --> 00:48:44,240
wear it once and throw it away?

1075
00:48:44,240 --> 00:48:45,240
No, definitely not.

1076
00:48:45,240 --> 00:48:51,880
I mean, I definitely think that like I don't get dressed as often now because I'm not going

1077
00:48:51,880 --> 00:48:53,360
into an office.

1078
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:59,440
So I think part of the reason why I struggle so much now is because I'm not getting dressed

1079
00:48:59,440 --> 00:49:01,160
on a regular basis.

1080
00:49:01,160 --> 00:49:06,040
And so when I it comes time to like putting outfits together, I just am not doing.

1081
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:11,640
I have like the same five shirts and like the same 100 black dresses, which I really

1082
00:49:11,640 --> 00:49:13,440
don't have a hundred of them, but pretty much.

1083
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:17,640
I mean, I have a lot and they all basically say, remember that one time?

1084
00:49:17,640 --> 00:49:19,680
Oh my gosh, Mason, where were we?

1085
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:21,140
We're at the pool.

1086
00:49:21,140 --> 00:49:25,480
And one night, the night before we all went out, that was the night that Erin and Santana

1087
00:49:25,480 --> 00:49:28,880
met, I think we were, I was wearing a black dress.

1088
00:49:28,880 --> 00:49:29,880
Okay.

1089
00:49:29,880 --> 00:49:30,960
And I really liked that dress.

1090
00:49:30,960 --> 00:49:36,040
Well, the next day I go to the pool and I'm wearing a black dress coverup that is not

1091
00:49:36,040 --> 00:49:37,040
the same black dress.

1092
00:49:37,040 --> 00:49:38,720
It looked very similar.

1093
00:49:38,720 --> 00:49:41,240
And Mason's like, were you wearing the same dress from last night?

1094
00:49:41,240 --> 00:49:43,520
And I was like, honey, this is a different dress.

1095
00:49:43,520 --> 00:49:44,520
I have like five of the.

1096
00:49:44,520 --> 00:49:46,520
Like a walk of shame.

1097
00:49:46,520 --> 00:49:50,280
Yeah, it wasn't even like, it wasn't even the same brand.

1098
00:49:50,280 --> 00:49:52,560
Like I just had, I just liked that style of dress.

1099
00:49:52,560 --> 00:49:53,560
It looks good on me.

1100
00:49:53,560 --> 00:49:54,560
I have a bunch of the same black dresses.

1101
00:49:54,560 --> 00:49:55,560
Don't worry.

1102
00:49:55,560 --> 00:50:02,160
Listen, we live in Alabama and I again am, I keep calling myself a big bitch.

1103
00:50:02,160 --> 00:50:06,320
I need to quit, but I got curves and all that jazz.

1104
00:50:06,320 --> 00:50:08,960
And during the summer we'd be sweating.

1105
00:50:08,960 --> 00:50:10,120
You got to wear black.

1106
00:50:10,120 --> 00:50:11,120
Okay.

1107
00:50:11,120 --> 00:50:12,240
So that's how I feel.

1108
00:50:12,240 --> 00:50:14,840
The black helps with no pit stains and things like that.

1109
00:50:14,840 --> 00:50:18,000
It also makes you look slimming or boob sweat.

1110
00:50:18,000 --> 00:50:20,440
People are like, why are you wearing black in the summertime?

1111
00:50:20,440 --> 00:50:21,440
It's too hot to wear black.

1112
00:50:21,440 --> 00:50:24,040
And I'm like, because it looks better.

1113
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:25,040
Like if you wear your.

1114
00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:26,480
Also I don't like to wear shorts.

1115
00:50:26,480 --> 00:50:29,040
Oh no, I don't ever wear shorts.

1116
00:50:29,040 --> 00:50:33,800
I mean, now I'm all about the tennis skirts in the summer and whatever.

1117
00:50:33,800 --> 00:50:35,240
I don't even wear a tennis skirt.

1118
00:50:35,240 --> 00:50:38,000
No, I'll wear a tennis skirt in the summer for sure.

1119
00:50:38,000 --> 00:50:39,520
Dress or pants.

1120
00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:40,520
Not out.

1121
00:50:40,520 --> 00:50:41,520
I mean, not out.

1122
00:50:41,520 --> 00:50:43,440
I'm talking about like my athleisure in the summer.

1123
00:50:43,440 --> 00:50:46,440
It's not going to be like Nike shorts and a tank top.

1124
00:50:46,440 --> 00:50:47,760
No, that's not happening.

1125
00:50:47,760 --> 00:50:52,280
I'm going to wear a tennis skirt or my yoga pants that I wear all the damn time.

1126
00:50:52,280 --> 00:50:55,200
I'm just going to have my Birkenstocks on instead of sneakers.

1127
00:50:55,200 --> 00:50:56,200
There you go.

1128
00:50:56,200 --> 00:50:58,760
See, I don't wear the only shorts that I have nowadays.

1129
00:50:58,760 --> 00:51:00,880
I don't like wearing jeans in the summer.

1130
00:51:00,880 --> 00:51:02,840
No, but I wear.

1131
00:51:02,840 --> 00:51:05,560
Yeah, no, no, I wear a dress.

1132
00:51:05,560 --> 00:51:10,120
I mean, I keep jean shorts at home just in case, but like, no.

1133
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:14,720
I don't own jean shorts and I will never because I don't, I don't buy regular shorts that like

1134
00:51:14,720 --> 00:51:15,720
zip up.

1135
00:51:15,720 --> 00:51:16,840
I don't even buy shorts.

1136
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:19,560
The only shorts that I own, I have like two pairs of shorts.

1137
00:51:19,560 --> 00:51:21,520
Yeah, I have two pairs of shorts.

1138
00:51:21,520 --> 00:51:27,280
I think it might be three that I got from Target on a day that I was about to go kayaking

1139
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:31,960
and was like, I've got to wear some shorts because every, I feel like the people I was

1140
00:51:31,960 --> 00:51:34,960
going with are, I was going to wear a dress because I always do.

1141
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:38,040
I wear a dress when I, and I like it better because when you sit down and you can pull

1142
00:51:38,040 --> 00:51:42,200
it up and if you get your bottom wet, you're not sitting in wet shorts.

1143
00:51:42,200 --> 00:51:45,800
Like I'm sitting, you know, so, but I was like, I got to go get some shorts because

1144
00:51:45,800 --> 00:51:49,700
people are going to think I'm an idiot wearing a dress to kayaking.

1145
00:51:49,700 --> 00:51:51,000
And so I'm like, whatever.

1146
00:51:51,000 --> 00:51:56,840
I go buy some shorts last minute at Target and I get these shorts and I will never wear

1147
00:51:56,840 --> 00:52:01,560
them ever again because I saw a picture of myself and I was like, Oh, what was I thinking?

1148
00:52:01,560 --> 00:52:02,720
But I do wear them.

1149
00:52:02,720 --> 00:52:06,540
The only time I wear them, I kept them because they're very comfortable to wear when I go

1150
00:52:06,540 --> 00:52:10,920
to sleep, but only when no one is here.

1151
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:13,520
No one will ever see me in those shorts.

1152
00:52:13,520 --> 00:52:14,520
They look so bad.

1153
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:16,440
I mean, they're, they're just like regular.

1154
00:52:16,440 --> 00:52:18,560
I just have, I don't like my legs in shorts.

1155
00:52:18,560 --> 00:52:19,800
I just don't like my body in shorts.

1156
00:52:19,800 --> 00:52:20,960
It's just not good.

1157
00:52:20,960 --> 00:52:24,840
Well, I just have the same problem that I have with, you know, jeans or whatever is

1158
00:52:24,840 --> 00:52:30,180
that like, I have to buy them bigger to like fit over my hips and my butt.

1159
00:52:30,180 --> 00:52:32,480
And then they're too big in the waist and I have to wear a belt and it's just like a

1160
00:52:32,480 --> 00:52:33,480
whole thing.

1161
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:38,040
So my, with the shorts, like athletic shorts like that, because they make them so short,

1162
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:44,120
you know, and my butt sticks out so much and my hips are so big.

1163
00:52:44,120 --> 00:52:47,240
The waist, like the elastic waist that goes around it.

1164
00:52:47,240 --> 00:52:50,360
I can't push it down over my hips because it just slides back.

1165
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:55,680
It like, zoop, slides back up and then my butt, my butt cheeks are hanging out the bottom

1166
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:57,280
and I'm like, this is not right.

1167
00:52:57,280 --> 00:53:00,120
So I like wear them and I like take the dogs out in the morning and I'll be like, I hope

1168
00:53:00,120 --> 00:53:01,120
nobody's looking.

1169
00:53:01,120 --> 00:53:03,760
I can get a video from my camera in the back.

1170
00:53:03,760 --> 00:53:04,760
Yeah.

1171
00:53:04,760 --> 00:53:05,760
I need to see what these shorts look like.

1172
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:11,560
So for Valentine's day, um, I can't remember if I talked about this or not, but Brandon

1173
00:53:11,560 --> 00:53:14,600
got me pajamas, like matching pajamas.

1174
00:53:14,600 --> 00:53:17,800
So I think that they came from Amazon.

1175
00:53:17,800 --> 00:53:20,240
The shorts are so short.

1176
00:53:20,240 --> 00:53:22,320
I basically don't even need to have them on.

1177
00:53:22,320 --> 00:53:26,800
Did they give you like a wedgie, like a front wedgie?

1178
00:53:26,800 --> 00:53:28,440
No, no front wedgie.

1179
00:53:28,440 --> 00:53:29,440
They're up.

1180
00:53:29,440 --> 00:53:32,800
Like my butt cheeks are hanging out the bottom and he was like, Ooh, I like those.

1181
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:34,280
And I was like, dude, I am wearing these.

1182
00:53:34,280 --> 00:53:36,720
I'm wearing some panties and that's about it.

1183
00:53:36,720 --> 00:53:37,720
Yeah.

1184
00:53:37,720 --> 00:53:41,760
But I feel like I put them on one time and I'll like, I wear granny panties to bed because

1185
00:53:41,760 --> 00:53:43,120
that's just what's comfortable for me.

1186
00:53:43,120 --> 00:53:45,800
I wear granny panties all the time.

1187
00:53:45,800 --> 00:53:46,800
Granny panties are no panties.

1188
00:53:46,800 --> 00:53:50,960
I have, I own like several thongs and I think that I'm going to wear them.

1189
00:53:50,960 --> 00:53:53,640
And then I put them on and I'm like, Nope.

1190
00:53:53,640 --> 00:53:57,140
And I will bring a change of panties if I go out and I'm like, I'm wearing a thong or

1191
00:53:57,140 --> 00:54:00,440
I will just take them off in the bathroom and be like, I can't wear these anymore.

1192
00:54:00,440 --> 00:54:01,440
Gosh.

1193
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:06,400
Well anyways, I, my underwear was literally hanging out of the bottom of these shorts

1194
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:08,000
because the underwear came down farther.

1195
00:54:08,000 --> 00:54:11,000
It was bigger than the pants and the shorts.

1196
00:54:11,000 --> 00:54:13,000
It's like what the hell?

1197
00:54:13,000 --> 00:54:14,000
Oh Lord.

1198
00:54:14,000 --> 00:54:17,600
I don't see how that's comfortable for your butt cheeks to be hanging out.

1199
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:21,000
Like maybe if my butt cheeks were smaller, but I don't think so.

1200
00:54:21,000 --> 00:54:22,400
I think it would still be the same.

1201
00:54:22,400 --> 00:54:23,400
It's just not comfortable.

1202
00:54:23,400 --> 00:54:24,400
Oh man.

1203
00:54:24,400 --> 00:54:28,240
Don't get me started about when I was at the beach and the people with their bathing suits

1204
00:54:28,240 --> 00:54:32,800
that are not the bathing suits that are cut to be like cheeky, like your butt, like a

1205
00:54:32,800 --> 00:54:33,800
thong.

1206
00:54:33,800 --> 00:54:41,160
But they were like these girls, they pull them up and it's like, girl, do you not have

1207
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:45,420
like poo poo stains on your bright green St. Patrick's day bathing suit?

1208
00:54:45,420 --> 00:54:49,040
Because when you take it off, because that thing is up there.

1209
00:54:49,040 --> 00:54:51,320
They are wiping their bottom good enough.

1210
00:54:51,320 --> 00:54:58,560
I know, but like shoot, like, why, why do they do that?

1211
00:54:58,560 --> 00:55:03,460
There was one girl, oh my God, these girls, this big group of girls came and they sat

1212
00:55:03,460 --> 00:55:04,460
behind us at the beach.

1213
00:55:04,460 --> 00:55:06,560
It was me and my dad and my brother.

1214
00:55:06,560 --> 00:55:08,560
I don't think my mom was down there yet.

1215
00:55:08,560 --> 00:55:09,720
Oh my God.

1216
00:55:09,720 --> 00:55:11,680
This one girl, she came down there.

1217
00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:13,200
She was really pretty and cute.

1218
00:55:13,200 --> 00:55:15,200
She's like real petite little black girl.

1219
00:55:15,200 --> 00:55:17,860
And she comes out as she turns around.

1220
00:55:17,860 --> 00:55:24,640
She has got this tiny, teeny tiny like, um, metallic gray bathing suit.

1221
00:55:24,640 --> 00:55:28,140
She has this like really dark, like chocolate brown skin.

1222
00:55:28,140 --> 00:55:32,280
So you can barely tell that this metallic, dark metallic bathing suit is on her.

1223
00:55:32,280 --> 00:55:37,440
And then she had the bottom was the tiniest G string you have ever.

1224
00:55:37,440 --> 00:55:44,480
And I was just like, and my dad and my brother were like, whoa, she was just like laying

1225
00:55:44,480 --> 00:55:46,480
in the sand right in front of us.

1226
00:55:46,480 --> 00:55:49,760
And we were like, she was doing all, I was like influencers in the wild.

1227
00:55:49,760 --> 00:55:50,760
Oh Jesus.

1228
00:55:50,760 --> 00:55:51,760
What are we going to do?

1229
00:55:51,760 --> 00:55:53,760
Like, why would she, at least she looked good in it though.

1230
00:55:53,760 --> 00:55:58,080
That was the only thing that I was appreciative of because sometimes these people, they wear

1231
00:55:58,080 --> 00:56:01,120
that stuff and they're like, Ooh, I don't know what you've been doing, but you need

1232
00:56:01,120 --> 00:56:02,600
to get a tan or like, I don't know.

1233
00:56:02,600 --> 00:56:04,160
Like sometimes, you know, things don't listen.

1234
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:08,400
I have looked a couple of times at Shein and I was like, I'm going to buy myself a thong

1235
00:56:08,400 --> 00:56:10,040
bathing suit and not give a fuck.

1236
00:56:10,040 --> 00:56:15,440
Maybe not a full on thong, but you know, one that has like a wide strap in the, in the

1237
00:56:15,440 --> 00:56:18,560
back, but like still like, it's kind of like one of those ones that kind of like, it's

1238
00:56:18,560 --> 00:56:19,560
like a very small bikini.

1239
00:56:19,560 --> 00:56:21,960
Yeah, but like very cheeky or whatever.

1240
00:56:21,960 --> 00:56:24,360
My ass would eat that bathing suit.

1241
00:56:24,360 --> 00:56:25,360
It would be a thong.

1242
00:56:25,360 --> 00:56:31,080
Like mine, my regular bathing suits are thongs because they are not like my, uh, two feet

1243
00:56:31,080 --> 00:56:32,600
tall, but like my T.A. what are they called?

1244
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:36,720
You know, what they're T.A. three bathing suits that I love are like, they are high

1245
00:56:36,720 --> 00:56:40,000
cut and they look so freaking good on her and she hates it.

1246
00:56:40,000 --> 00:56:41,000
And I love it.

1247
00:56:41,000 --> 00:56:42,460
Well, I'm afraid to wear it.

1248
00:56:42,460 --> 00:56:46,120
So like I brought it to the beach and I didn't wear it because I was like afraid to wear

1249
00:56:46,120 --> 00:56:47,760
it in front of my family.

1250
00:56:47,760 --> 00:56:52,280
And then like I wore it to one of my friend's family's lake house.

1251
00:56:52,280 --> 00:56:55,760
I like their whole family was there and like a bunch of kids and stuff and everybody.

1252
00:56:55,760 --> 00:57:03,080
And I like was kind of dating her cousin at the time and I, her, his parents were there

1253
00:57:03,080 --> 00:57:04,080
and all this stuff.

1254
00:57:04,080 --> 00:57:06,960
And I'm just like, I put it on and I got out there and he was like, whoa.

1255
00:57:06,960 --> 00:57:09,040
And the it's like real low cut in the front.

1256
00:57:09,040 --> 00:57:12,040
And I was like, I'm so embarrassed that I didn't have another bathing suit.

1257
00:57:12,040 --> 00:57:15,360
And I was kind of like embarrassed to wear it in front of like everybody's.

1258
00:57:15,360 --> 00:57:19,880
But I just like got in the water real quick and I was like, let me get in the water.

1259
00:57:19,880 --> 00:57:21,520
It looks so good on you though.

1260
00:57:21,520 --> 00:57:22,520
I love it.

1261
00:57:22,520 --> 00:57:23,520
Yeah, it's a good thing.

1262
00:57:23,520 --> 00:57:24,520
They're good bathing suits.

1263
00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:25,520
I love those.

1264
00:57:25,520 --> 00:57:27,240
And I got a purple and a green one this year.

1265
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:30,360
I tried them on before I left and they're different.

1266
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:34,200
You know, they've got like, I don't know why one of them has different straps, but like

1267
00:57:34,200 --> 00:57:37,400
the green one is the one that's like regular cut in the bottom.

1268
00:57:37,400 --> 00:57:40,760
And but my skin tone right now is so pale.

1269
00:57:40,760 --> 00:57:41,760
It looks so bad.

1270
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:44,480
I'm like, I've got to, I've got to get a tan before I wear it.

1271
00:57:44,480 --> 00:57:48,920
Listen, tomorrow and Friday, it's going to be warm enough to sit at the pool.

1272
00:57:48,920 --> 00:57:49,920
Sweet.

1273
00:57:49,920 --> 00:57:50,920
Try to go out there as soon as you're done with work.

1274
00:57:50,920 --> 00:57:51,920
Yeah, I might.

1275
00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:55,200
I was thinking about it today, like going and sitting in the sun for like a few minutes

1276
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:57,720
during lunch break or something like, yeah.

1277
00:57:57,720 --> 00:57:58,720
Yeah.

1278
00:57:58,720 --> 00:57:59,720
But okay.

1279
00:57:59,720 --> 00:58:02,000
Well, I want to wrap this day up.

1280
00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:03,240
Yeah, for sure.

1281
00:58:03,240 --> 00:58:05,040
So we're getting towards the end of the month.

1282
00:58:05,040 --> 00:58:08,360
So happy Women's History Month.

1283
00:58:08,360 --> 00:58:10,220
Thanks for joining us today.

1284
00:58:10,220 --> 00:58:17,960
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1285
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:23,960
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1286
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:30,160
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1287
00:58:30,160 --> 00:58:33,120
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1288
00:58:33,120 --> 00:58:34,120
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1289
00:58:34,120 --> 00:58:42,160
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1290
00:58:42,160 --> 00:58:43,160
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1291
00:58:43,160 --> 00:58:44,160
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1292
00:58:44,160 --> 00:58:45,160
Toodle.

1293
00:58:45,160 --> 00:59:03,600
Waffy place I have to go.