Well, hello there.
Welcome back to another episode of Thicc AF.
Hey y'all.
How's it going?
Happy to be back.
Yes, very happy to be back here with you guys today to talk about some cool things.
We have some social media stuff to talk about with you guys today because I love social
media.
I don't.
I hate all social media.
Not my favorite.
But to kick it off, Sarah's got an FMK for us today.
Yeah.
So we're just going to go ahead and, you know, fuck, Mary, kill some forms of social media,
Facebook, Instagram, and the good old TikTok.
I will kill all those and go Snapchat, Snapchat, Snapchat.
That's so true.
You are.
But I'm a Snapchat person also.
And every time I'm with my sister, Jerry, she always is like, you need to move to Instagram.
You need to move to Instagram.
And I'm just like, but it's like so much easier to just get on Snapchat.
Instagram, you have to do all the things, like all that extra stuff.
And like go up to your photo in the corner and press the plus button.
Like it's a whole thing.
Yeah.
And like people are doing these reels and I'm like, I don't even know how to do that.
Like, no, I don't even want to learn.
We have reels on our Instagram.
Snapchat is so much easier.
So we know who does that.
Yeah, I don't do that.
Sarah does that stuff.
I mean, I'm sure I could figure it out, but like I see these people that have like, they'll
have like, I was watching, I was looking at the one where the Tom Brady guy was in his
underwear, his little thirst trap picture or whatever.
The Tom Brady guy?
Yeah, the Tom Brady guy, that guy, you know, whoever he is.
And he's like, some other guy is like commenting on it and he has himself like in the front,
but he's got Tom Brady in the back, like on a green screen.
And I was thinking, I'm like, is he in the background?
Like, does he have an actual green screen behind him or is this like a filter that he,
did he create his own filter to do that?
Like how do you do that?
TikTok has a green screen filter.
So then you can post things like from your phone.
So like, let's just say.
So did he do that?
That was on Instagram.
So did he do it on TikTok?
I mean, there very well could be something like that on Instagram too, but I know that
there's one on TikTok.
So like, let's be hypothetical and say you and I got into like some kind of texting war
or whatever.
If I wanted to post like some video on TikTok or whatever, I could use the green screen
filter and like pull up text messages and be like, here are my receipts.
Yeah.
I've seen that stuff and I'm like, I don't know how they do that.
Yeah.
So it's a whole filter.
Yeah.
I mean, I mean, you could create a filter and sell it to TikTok or like whatever.
Like the filters are created all the time, different kind of, you know, like.
Right.
But then I would have to like learn how to code.
Oh, which they're teaching children of the age of zero.
Like you pop out today and you know how to code.
Like they teach you in the womb.
I think.
Stop.
So anyway, so, but, but if I really had to do the FMK.
Yes.
So let me go back to that.
So I would, I would marry TikTok because, but that's only because I've never been able
to date TikTok and TikTok is like elusive.
Yeah.
It's like, Ooh, TikTok.
So I'm not allowed to have TikTok.
I did have it for like a day.
And then my job was like, because I have like work stuff on my phone and my phone is like
managed by it has like stuff on it.
Anyways, this is a whole thing.
I can't have it because they think that China is going to like hack into our medical records
or something like that.
So I'm not allowed to have.
I think it's crazy because you also have a work cell phone.
Right.
But my work cell phone.
So there's a whole thing with the work cell phone.
I have to have, I didn't want to.
I have to, you have to, for an iPhone to work, you have to put an Apple ID.
So I had to create a separate Apple ID for my work, but you have to put in credit card
information and not putting my personal credit card information for my work phone to be able
to like put apps on my phone.
So I can't put anything on there.
And also I don't carry my work phone everywhere.
I leave my work phone, like unless I'm traveling or like go somewhere and I need to like work
somewhere else, I don't, I leave it at home because I'm, I'm not trying to work when I'm
not working.
So, but if I do need to see my email for my work, I like to have it on my personal phone.
So that's why I do have that.
And so that, and so that is why I can't download Tik Tok because they have created that policy.
But anyway, so it, once they get off of that, I will love Tik Tok, but I will also hate
it'll be a love hate relationship because I will be addicted and I will do nothing but
be on Tik Tok.
And it's all the same stuff though.
The problem is literally the problem is that every video is exactly the same, but you get
addicted to it.
It's literally it's like Chinese.
I don't know if it's because they're trying to, to distract us from what's actually really
happening in the world, which is fine because you know, honestly, I don't really care about
all the other stuff.
As long as I'm not dead and dying and I can like buy eggs for $5 a carton.
But yeah, so literally not true.
But anyway, they are $5 now for 12.
I'm not talking about the eggs.
I'm talking about every video being the same.
They're pretty much the same.
It's like every person is like doing, doing the same dance that somebody else did.
It's literally not even about dances anymore.
I know it's not about dances anymore, but we're gone from there.
Yeah.
But that it's not the dances.
It's all this other stuff that it's like, it's all the same.
It's like somebody having, Oh no, Oh no, Oh no, no, no, no, no, no.
In the background with some buddy popping a pimple or something.
Okay.
But it's like, yes, it is.
It like is, it like is.
Yeah.
Okay.
So, but I would marry Tik Tok because I, it's like elusive.
And then I would kill Facebook because I really hate Facebook because do you know what Facebook
is?
It's a bunch of people.
Excuse me.
It's like, stay at home, Karen's getting on there and maybe they're not staying home and
maybe they're not Karen's.
And I guess I'm not supposed to say Karen anymore because that is like, whatever the
word is, I need to be more woke and not say Karen.
But all they do is they put pictures of their babies and then they write a 17 page dissertation
about like why their child likes to eat peas for breakfast.
And I'm like, I don't care about that.
Like I want you, I want back in the day, remember back in the day when Facebook was, Hey, what
is your, what's your status or what are you doing right now?
Or what was it?
It was like something like that.
And you'd be like, Emily is dot dot dot taking a bath.
And it would be like that simple.
It wasn't like Emily is and 10 paragraphs to read.
And I'm like, I don't have time for this.
Also if you want to, if you want to write a paragraph, just do a voice text, like, so
I don't have to read it.
My eyes are hurting.
So kill Facebook and Instagram.
I would marry, I mean, fuck, fuck Instagram.
Okay.
What about you?
Sorry.
That was a long one, but I have a very, lots of feelings and thoughts about, well, I love
Tik Tok and because you don't have Tik Tok and I do, I totally disagree with everything
you just said.
I don't.
I still, I think Instagram's the same too.
They are quite similar now, but I like Tik Tok a little bit better.
But I mean, your, for you page is what they call it, like kind of what comes up on your
feed.
It's curated by the things that you like.
So basically I like all the same things and that's why I keep seeing the same stuff.
Yeah.
Except for you don't have Tik Tok.
So you're not seeing shit.
Right.
But I see all these Instagram things where people like put their Tik Toks from Tik Tok
on Instagram.
They're all basically the same.
Okay.
Anyway, I'm marrying Tik Tok because I love it.
And then I'm actually probably, I guess I'm probably fucking Instagram too and killing
Facebook.
Like I used to be a big Facebook person and I really liked it a lot.
And I was definitely one of those that like put the statuses out there.
Cause like when your memories come up, you know, it'll say you have a memory with this
person, that person, the other person, you don't ever get on Facebook.
So you don't know this, but you'll have memories pop up and you can go click on it and it'll
scroll.
And then it'll take me back to like 2007, like when I was very first on Facebook and
it'll say, you know, it just, the dumbest stuff.
Like it's so funny.
It was dating.
It was, that was when I like had, well, 2008, the beginning of 2008 was when I like first
moved to Birmingham and started.
And so it'd be like, Sarah is with the boy and our pups for the weekend.
So stupid.
I loved Facebook back then.
It was so much more simple.
Like I don't even think you could put pictures on it.
Like you couldn't do all that.
I mean you could, but like you could put pictures, but it wasn't post so much like writing albums.
Yeah.
And you would be like, it would be like, Emily is going to whatever party.
Yeah.
It was so much more simple back in the day.
And now like not only is it what you said it was about these like people and their children
or whatever, which I mean, if you want to post about your kids, go ahead, you know,
whatever.
Yeah, that's fine.
But like, I don't want to read 20 pages.
I also don't want to read 20 pages of, you know, your baby mama drama or your political
views or you bit being pissed off that Auburn one.
Like go get a journal and journal that.
Go to therapy.
Yes.
Don't put it on the internet.
Yeah, no.
Don't do that.
Yeah.
Like when some, oh man, we used to, I remember a long time ago, I won't say who, but you
probably know who they are.
This guy like that we knew they got married to this girl that we also know.
And I think she or he, one of them cheated.
And then the other one got on Facebook and like wrote all this stuff about the girl being
like a hoe and like, I think like post it all.
And then like everybody saw it.
And then like the next day it was like taken down and we were like, oh snap, we can't believe
you did that.
Like if you were going to get in your feelings, you do not get on social media.
Just don't get on it.
Go call your best friend.
Yes.
And like go to the bar.
It's a work 10 second rule if what you're going to put on Facebook is going to make
you cringe one day, one week, one month, one year later, don't do it.
If it can somehow come back to haunt you in the future because you said something ignorant
or racist or just plain mean about somebody, don't do it.
Yeah.
It's just wait, take a beat, go for a walk.
Or just anything doesn't even have to be ignorant or racist.
Just anything dumb, dumb and ignorant.
I agree with that, but I mean, I don't, you can't fix stupid.
Well, I think you can.
Education, education, education.
Well, sure you can try to do that, but what if somebody doesn't want to be educated, then
you can't fix stupid.
Well, you can, you can try to fix it.
But maybe.
Yeah, I get you.
I feel you.
Okay.
So anyway, so yeah, so back, you know, back in the days of Facebook being like simple
and telling you told people what you were doing at the moment, we didn't have to deal
with like, okay, so hold on, let me go back.
We as children did not have social media.
Correct.
Social media.
So like Facebook, actually, excuse me.
What was first, MySpace?
Well.
Or was Facebook first?
AOL Messenger, AIM Messenger was first.
That is, yeah.
That is legit the first.
That is, yeah.
That was the bomb.
The first because that was where.
But that's not really social media, I guess.
Yeah, it is.
How?
It's like messaging.
Yeah, but you're chatting with other people.
It's like email though.
You're friends with people.
No, it isn't.
It's like chat.
I know, but it was AOL.
It would be if you just had Facebook Messenger.
Yeah, but hear me out.
Do you remember getting in chat rooms?
Yeah, but hear me out on this.
AIM, whatever you want to call it, AOL Instant Messenger, you could, remember you could put
away messages up and that's where people got super emo.
Yes, you could.
After a breakup and put song lyrics in there.
Oh, the song lyrics.
Yeah, I did that too.
Swishy swoopy dashes and stuff.
We would listen to Fallout Boy and stuff.
Yes, Yellow Card.
Oh my gosh, all the emo things.
I'm going down, down in an earlier rail.
Sugar would go.
Oh my God, I'm the worst.
But yeah, but it's so emo, but also it was like the era of like not, you weren't really
trolling people.
You were like cryptically like throwing shade, but with like a song lyric.
So like I could see, let's just say Emily's mad at me and she puts this, you know, away
message up.
It's like the worst anxiety in the world.
And you're like, is that about me?
Is it about so and so?
Because you know, nobody was brave enough back then to like call you out because this
was brand new for us.
And you didn't have the at symbol to like tag people.
Yeah.
You couldn't like tag anybody.
I mean, it was brand new and so nobody really knew what to do with it.
So people just kind of started like the song lyrics.
And then you would be like, ooh, is she like, is she breaking up with so and so?
And this is back in the day when we didn't have anything to do except for go to school
and then come home at three o'clock and you know, go to football games.
Hang out with your friends.
But this was also when like we didn't have cell phones.
So like you're on landlines.
We had to do it on our computers and we didn't really all have laptops.
We had to get on like a desk.
I was on a desktop computer.
My mom put it in the living room.
It was so crazy.
But it was also like when you had like secret three way calling, you know, before like cell
phones and like putting people on speaker existed.
So like there could somebody would call you and be like, Emily, so and so has a crush
on you.
Do you like them?
And you could be like, no, or yeah.
And that person is on the phone with the other one.
Oh, because you're on a landline.
Yeah.
Like star sixty nine and sixty seven.
Yeah.
Lord have mercy.
I do remember that.
So me and my friend, Lindsey Jones, who we were like best friends, we used to stay on
chat rooms is she had in her bedroom.
We there.
Her computer was in her bedroom and we would be on the chat rooms until like four o'clock
in the morning all the time talking to random people like so many random people like we
would and we would pretend, you know, ASL, that's exactly what I was just saying.
Age, sex, location.
And we'd be like 17 female and California.
And we were like, no, really, we're like 12.
We're female and we live in Alabama.
So bad.
Oh, my God.
Oh, man.
This is like, yeah, it is.
But also the beginning of like child predators.
Gross.
Lord.
Yeah, that's true.
It was.
Yeah.
But also, you know, the thing, the problem is that when you're a child, when we when
I was a child, we wanted the attention of older people, so we would be like, oh, we're
going to tell them that we're 17.
And that's a freaking lie.
And so nobody knows that their predator predators are for a predatory.
I don't know.
What do you I don't praying, praying on?
Yes.
Nobody knows that they're praying on a 12 year old like in their house with their parents
sitting next to him in the living room.
Yeah.
I mean, I'm not giving any cushion to any child predators, but.
Yeah.
So so we have the aim.
We have the and we have the chat rooms.
But then like then my space came along.
Right.
And did OK.
So did you have a my space?
Absolutely.
I'm pretty sure my my space is still out there.
And did you change?
So remember when you get so I learned how to like kind of code in the background, all
the stuff.
And I don't know how to do it anymore.
But I had like the little people.
What were they like little girls that were like they had like cute shoes and they like
sparkled and stuff.
I could put them in the background or whatever.
I don't know what they were called.
They were called something.
But like you could do all kinds of stuff.
And I put like my picture back there and all this stuff.
And I was a background all the time.
Same all the time.
I changed my top eight all the time.
This was also back when I had blonde hair, which is a while because and I was really
tan.
So I was like a photo negative.
Like I really white teeth teeth because I bleached my teeth all the time.
I was super tan because I went to the tanning bed like every single day.
Like I was tanorexic.
And then and I'm going to get probably get skin cancer.
That's really sad.
But and then I have like highlighted my hair so much that was so blonde that I literally
looked like a photo negative.
These are the trends from back then.
This is terrible.
Oh, 100 percent.
Like what?
And like the very first clip in hair extensions that like you we didn't know how to blend
those things.
No, I looked.
I didn't know what to put makeup on.
The haircut was like Kristin Cavallari from the OC.
It looked just like that.
Like very like choppy like highlights, you know, that kind of thing.
I did not color my hair until after I finished my freshman year of college.
Oh, that's a really good.
I had very, very long hair when I was in high school.
And after my freshman year of college, I let my one of my best friends, Sarah, through
a pull through cap bleach my hair.
Oh, no.
Was it bad?
No, it wasn't that bad.
It could have been way worse.
I mean, we didn't have those pull through caps.
Give me like anxiety.
It looks like nasty spaghetti when you take the thing off.
It's gross.
But it didn't look that bad.
But at the end of that summer, I cut all of my hair off and it looks so cute.
It's probably about as short as this right now.
But I was skinnier then.
So I think I looked cuter.
Well, everybody.
Now I feel like I'm a 12 year old again.
No, you're not.
I can't even tell that your hair short right now.
So do you remember?
Do you remember a live journal?
Did you ever have a live journal?
No.
Oh, my gosh.
So I had a live journal.
Let me just tell you the story.
Dang, I was emo and it wasn't even like good.
You know, like I think that I can look I'm pretty sure I can look it up like I should
find one later and read it to you guys because it was bad.
And I got in trouble because I think I said I called some people out on my lap.
It was my journal and it was a live journal.
I didn't know anybody else was reading it.
But I said something really means I don't think it was me.
But I said journal.
How do you know that?
How do you literally nobody got on the Internet and nobody had there was like three people
I knew that had a live journal back then because like it was like three people that were it
was like Mary Catherine McAnally, me and like this other girl.
And it was like we were the emo people that wrote in our live journal and I was just dumb.
And so but I got like I think my like somebody said something.
I don't it was like my sorority.
I was in a sorority in high school.
And I think I can't remember exactly what happened.
But I think I said something about like I don't know what I said.
This one girl and I got in trouble for it.
It was not good.
So don't my mom always told me and she told me this before I did this.
Don't ever put anything in writing like if you're going to do something bad, don't do
it in writing.
So like write it, regret it, say it, forget it.
Well, but but yeah.
The live journal was wild.
I'm going to try to find that because I'm pretty sure you can still look it up.
Emily Cramsey Live Journal.
You guys, if you want to read it, it's really bad.
Just just don't judge.
I was like 14.
Oh, Lord have mercy.
So so yeah, that was that was good.
But yeah, we didn't have to deal with like I mean, I guess we did.
But like back in the day, we didn't have like social media when we were children.
So like nowadays, I don't know what age you get a cell phone.
Like I guess it depends on your parents, but we didn't get cell phones until like what
high school.
I did not get my own personal cell phone until three days after I graduated from high school.
But it wasn't a smartphone.
No, I was 18 years old.
And so through the whole entire my high school career, I borrowed my mom's cell phone if
I went somewhere like if she was going to be home, she gave me her phone because we
had a landline to call.
So it used to be so funny because I lived in a town that had two colleges in it.
And then and I mean, she wasn't really given me a phone until like I had my driver's license
and I was like bebopping around on the weekends on my own and stuff like that.
But during this was mostly my senior year of high school.
But during the week when she had her own phone back because it was hers, not mine, she would
get text messages from all your calls.
Yeah.
And you know, she would answer the phone and because I mean, names were in there or whatever.
And she would answer the phone.
She'd be like, Sarah doesn't have the phone right now.
And that's like how it had to happen.
Like, sorry, don't call.
Like, oh, my gosh, that's hilarious.
Well, like that would be embarrassing nowadays.
Like, oh, sorry, Sarah doesn't have her phone.
Like, what?
But that was like the norm back then, though.
And everybody that like I was hanging out with, like they knew what was up.
You're like, it wasn't a secret.
I wasn't trying to act like it was my phone.
There was a lot of people I'm sure that were like that.
Yeah.
I mean, I was like, I'm not sure.
I'm not sure.
I remember getting like cell phones, but we I got this one cell phone.
My dad, like, I don't know, he got me this cell phone and it was like one of the first
ones that could play.
It was like an iPod, but it was like a Samsung or something.
Or I don't know what it was.
And you could like download a ton of music on it and like stream music.
And I was like, this is the best or maybe not streaming download and stream.
I think I don't know if you could stream back then, but the terminology, what is it called?
What do we say?
Semantics.
But it got stolen and I was so pissed.
I was so upset.
But remember, I said we had flip phones and then we had those phones that like kind of
slide up like this and then we have Blackberries.
But you couldn't get on like social media on those.
And we didn't get iPhones until or like smartphones with like the big screens with social media
and all the apps and things until like late college.
Oh yeah, like 2008, nine, ten.
Yeah.
So like, wow, we made it for a long time.
I mean, I think I was probably close to 24 or 25 years old when I had my first iPhone.
I can't remember when I got mine.
And the reason why was because when I got my phone, my dad put me on their plan because
if you're on a family plan, I could talk to them whenever.
Finally, I was like, I want, you know, an iPhone.
And that was they didn't have iPhones back then.
And my dad and Connie.
And so they were like, we're not paying for a data plan for you.
Like, yeah.
Oh my God, I forgot you had to play for a data.
Yeah.
So I had to pay for my own data plan and stuff.
And I got off their plan at that point because I was not willing to wait on them to come
around to do the usage.
I want to just spend like here, like I'll give you 20 bucks.
Oh, I said I was going to do that.
They didn't want to mess with me.
Yeah, I know.
I feel like my parents would have been like, nope, I don't believe you.
Actually, my parents would have been like, OK.
And then I never would have paid them.
And then they would never have said anything.
I may not have been living at home at that point.
And then I would have felt bad about it.
So I may not have been living at home at that point.
So I mean, I understand them saying no to that.
But even now, which I mean, granted, there's not been many times in the last handful of
years that like they've given me like money for anything and I've had to pay them back.
They don't even have cash out.
Then Venmo PayPal, none of it.
They got nothing.
I keep trying to tell them it makes me mad.
I've been my modell.
They go to Costco and my mom like today, my mom sent me pictures of this stuff and I was
like, buy it for me.
And then I like Venmo dad like I've been my mom.
Oh, I've been my mom.
So she's coming down here.
She's staying with me when she's in Birmingham and then she's going to Mobile to my sisters
and they're going to stay in an Airbnb.
So I had to book, I've booked like 7,000 Airbnbs in the last month.
And so as soon as I book it, Dawn Venmos me and she's a good lady like that.
So she knows what's up.
And Charles and Connie would be, I mean, they'd get some money.
You know, I mean, not again, not that they like give us money, but like it would be an
easy way for me to send them money if I needed to.
Yeah, it's so much easier than having to like me.
Like maybe let me go to the bank.
Do you know how long it, I honestly, the bank is just right there, but I'm like, I don't
have time to go to the bank.
Like it takes like however long to get there.
If I'm being honest, I actually probably still owe them like 30 or $40 because I had to get
a tire patched and I'm pretty sure my dad paid for it.
But I forgot because I would have sent you Venmo.
Oh my God.
At this point, I'm probably owe my parents like a quadrillion dollars because they've
paid for so many things and I don't even know.
Well, I like my mom loves, she like, I think she wants to maybe sometimes she doesn't,
but like, you know, she's like, oh, well, let me and my dad will be like, oh, are you
going to let me pay for this?
And I'm like, no, dad, you, he'll like, we'll go to the gas station and I'll be driving
and he'll like get his card out to give to me.
And I'm like, dad, this is my car.
I'm 35 years old.
I will pay for my own gas.
Thank you.
But honestly, I kind of want to take your credit card and pay for the gas because you're
offering, but like I feel bad about it.
Um, I wouldn't.
No, I don't take it.
But like I want to.
I wouldn't feel bad about it.
Oh, you wouldn't feel bad about it?
No, no.
He's paid for it.
Sometimes like if we've gone on like a trip or something, your parents, it's not enough
for it to like add up.
Let your dad pay for gas.
Look, my dad pays for more than enough for me.
He is so generous.
He really is.
And do you know, honestly, he should be happy because he hasn't had to pay for a wedding
for me.
I don't know how expensive those are.
Like I'm like, can I get, can you guys like give me a check for the money that you would
have spent for my wedding?
Because I think we're past that point.
And like that could go towards like my house or like something that I don't know.
That would be so much better.
So hey, mom and dad, can I get some, can you get some cash?
Just kidding.
I'm just kidding, but not really.
No, I'm seriously there.
I don't want like a wedding or any of that.
I just, it's not my thing.
I would much rather have a check for a down payment on a house.
Same.
Yeah.
They got lucky with me.
They didn't have to pay for a wedding.
And like, I mean, they had two boys that got married and whatever.
I don't know what they have to pay for, what they have to pay for with that.
But like, you know, I'm a sheepo.
I mean, they did pay for college, but like, that's a lot.
That is a lot.
Anyway.
Okay.
I just don't understand how like kids today make it with their social media.
So like have trolls and like people telling other people to like kill themselves.
Like I think that's like a, like a thing.
Oh, a hundred percent it is.
And they're like, they'll be like, oh, you should just go ahead and kill yourself.
Because it's happened.
I know it's wild.
It's scary.
It's really scary.
I mean, it's that terrifies me.
Like I'm not super sold on having kids anyways.
But if I were to have a child, that is terrifying to bring a child into the world that it is
today.
But then also know that like, not only do they have to deal with like all the exterior,
like, you know, inter global type stuff, but like the social media is rough.
Kids are mean.
Well, it's already hard enough when you are in school and you have like bullies or like
people that you like, you know, you're trying to keep up with like trends and whatever and
try to be cool or whatever in school, but then you get home and you get online and it's
it doesn't stop.
And it's more people.
Yeah.
It's the entire world on the internet that can like bully you.
It's bad.
I mean, I don't envy kids these days.
You know, I think we all always like as kids heard our parents being like, I had to walk,
you know, up both ways.
My dad said that and he was a liar.
No, he didn't.
He drove to school.
He's a liar.
But you know what I'm saying?
Like that was our parents struggle and our struggle was, you know, we didn't have the
internet and we had to like go to the library and actually write quotations down, you know,
in it for, you know, what do you call it?
When you cite your site, a story or whatever.
Yeah.
You had to like get it.
You had to get your like, yeah, you had to check out your books and you had to do it
while you were there because some of those books are research books that you can't even
get like you can't leave the library with.
But OK, so and now we're at like a catch 22 because everything is at our fingertips now.
But would you have would you have it any other way?
Because I wouldn't.
I would hate to grow up today.
Like take me back to 2000 when I was, you know, almost in high school.
I'm cool with that.
Don't put me in high school right now.
Yeah.
I mean, I don't know, because, you know, they don't nobody knows any better.
We know what we have.
Like you don't like the people today don't know what we had then.
We don't know what our parents had.
So like honestly, I don't know.
Like I liked I didn't have any problem with it, but that's because that's what I was stuck
in.
That's what we had and that's what I knew.
And this is what they know.
But like if I had to do it today, like I don't I would be like I would.
I mean, I'm sure I would be fine because I would know it.
But like it's a lot.
I know.
I just feel like I would if I had kids, I would be like a psycho helicopter parent that wouldn't
let my kids like do anything.
I would be up there, but about everything that's going on.
You're not a lot of kids.
I'll be cool.
Aunt Emily and I'll let them come stay at my house and whenever they get drunk and you'll
be like, I'm going to kill you.
You know what I mean, like I feel like you have to be just so vigilant now.
And that I mean, it kind of sucks.
Like, but you don't I mean, you teach your children what is right and wrong and what
they should listen to when they shouldn't listen to teach your children and they will
be able to make their own choice.
They will be able to make good choices and things like that.
And I don't even think it's about, you know, teach them what to listen to or whatever.
I also think that it's very much so about instilling in them that there's an open line
of communication.
And if you did something that isn't great or whatever, you can still come to me and
we can talk about it and we can figure out exactly solution where, you know, maybe if
something happens, also, they don't think that suicide is the way out.
Right.
Yeah.
I mean, it's wild.
Like there's there's a lot of stuff people and people are like getting like scammed.
I saw something on the news the other day about like kids getting scammed with somebody
getting on like Snapchat and asking for nude pictures.
And then they'm sending it to them and then blackmailing them and saying that they needed
like them to pay eight hundred dollars or they were going to send it to their, you know,
whoever.
And then they started sending it to their parents.
And I'm like, how did first of all, how they get your information and your parents information?
Like that's wild.
But like, I mean, that's so easy.
A girl that I knew, she went to the next high school over from me and she they had a large
family and so she had several older brothers and sisters and one of her older sister's
kids committed suicide because that exact thing happened to him.
Oh my God.
It was wild.
And I can't even imagine.
But I mean, I get random ads on Snapchat all the time.
And if I don't know who they are, then I don't accept it.
Yeah, I don't either.
Why?
Well, and that's the thing is that you need, you know, and you can teach your children
that.
But like there's no in my opinion, there's no need to micromanage and helicopter parent
our children.
We need to have those conversations like you're saying and like teach them right and wrong
and teach them.
And but what is right and wrong?
That's the question.
But like teach them how to handle situations like that and who to go to if they have and
make them not afraid to come talk to you or to like anybody, somebody that can help you.
100 percent anybody.
I mean, it doesn't you know, can you tell your child over and over again that there's
an open line of communication?
You're not going to be upset.
They're not going to be in trouble, you know, whatever.
Yes.
But also, you know, give them the opportunity to reach out to somebody else and you know,
know that that's OK, too.
Yeah.
If it's not you, yeah, they can go talk to Aunt Emily.
Exactly.
So, yeah, so that's that was kind of deep.
But you guys, you know, listen, Sarah and Emily are here for you guys.
I'm talking in the is it third person?
I don't know which person it is.
Yeah, it's I'm a very I'm like 100 years removed from school.
So at this point, I do have a master's degree, but not in English.
So so but so do you remember Napster and like line wire?
Yeah.
I don't know.
The other was another one.
When my parents got divorced, one of the very first like presents, like when it was around
anyways, that my dad got us for Christmas was a Gateway desktop computer.
One of the ones that came out of cow box.
Right.
Yeah.
Do they still have cow boxes?
I don't know.
That's so cool.
I remember that.
Like the big one.
Yeah, we had he created Hotmail email addresses for us.
So you have to have like an entire room for just one computer because it's like a big
box and then the big monitor takes up like two desks.
So it wasn't too terrible, but it was like it was like a big deal.
Yeah, it was like super cool.
But he created emails, email addresses for us so he could talk to us or whatever.
But I'm pretty sure that we murdered that desktop computer with all of our Napster and
line wire bullshit.
Listen, I was the queen of being patient and waiting, waiting for it to download.
Oh my God.
And then burn it to a CD.
Oh my gosh.
So we used to download CDs, like burn a CD like every morning for every night, not usually
in the morning because I was always in a hurry, but like for the day, like just, oh, I need
a new CD because we didn't have our iPhone or we did have iPods at one point.
Yeah.
I don't know.
Yeah.
So we would like burn CDs and like and then we got this like Lexus like sedan and it had
a five disc CD changer in it.
It was like down in the bottom.
Like you had to literally turn the car off and like get inside the center console and
like take the CD.
So you had to pick your five CDs that you want to listen to.
And then if you needed to change them, you had to like stop at a gas station and like
do it, you know?
So oh my gosh.
When, when my parents were still married, my mom drove a Chevy Suburban and they used
to bring a TV and put it on the center console facing the back so my sister and I could watch
movies in the car.
How?
How did they plug it in?
They had like a generator in that thing?
I don't know.
That's hilarious.
I don't know if they had like some converter where it plugged into like the cigarette lighter
or something like that.
Oh yeah.
They had cigarette lighters in cars back then guys.
Just I saw a cigarette lighter thing.
Well, I have, do you really?
Not that will light an actual cigarette.
Oh, that's a little thing.
Yeah.
I don't know if I have one.
I might.
I don't, I don't know.
I do.
But, um, oh yeah, I remember my mom used to use that cigarette lighter because she smoked
all the time.
Dawn, I love you, but she won't get on an airplane.
So what?
She won't.
So was she driving here?
Yes.
No.
Every year.
By herself?
No, Mitch.
Oh, okay.
Yeah.
Mitch is my stepdad.
Yeah.
They've been married for like 20 years.
Yeah.
I didn't know he was coming.
I just thought it was just your mom.
No.
I just thought he was coming.
He's coming.
Um, but.
So is he going to be on the podcast too?
I mean, I think he'll be here, but I don't know that he wants to be on it.
Okay, cool.
Yeah.
Hopefully he won't pull a Karen and be like talk and then, Hey, just saying.
No, we're going to have a serious conversation with them beforehand and be like, if you can't
sit in here and like, if you want to laugh, that's one thing.
Whatever you say is going to be on the internets for all the people to hear.
A hundred thousand percent.
And you can't take it back.
I had that conversation with my mom the other day.
I was like, listen, I was like, we keep talking about having you on the podcast.
If you want to be on it, you can be on it.
I said, but once we record, that's it.
Yeah.
You're done for.
I mean, unless you say something like real stupid, we'll take it out, but you know, so
yeah, but yeah, no, that's so exciting.
I'm excited for them to come.
Yeah.
No, those.
Yeah.
I like burned a CD every, and then, Oh, I did paint pins.
So you put, do paint pins all over your CDs.
I still have some in like a CD thing somewhere in storage, I think where I would do like
all the like colored paint pins and then the paint pins would sit in the sun and like melt
to something and like stick all over the place.
Because I didn't really care about that.
I got a lot with permanent marker on it.
Oh, I was like cheerleader and like had to like make everything pretty, like wrote on
it with the paint pins, made it colorful.
It was like a whole thing.
I don't know how I had enough time to do all that stuff.
I really don't.
And my senior year when I graduated, I was dating a guy who was a year younger than me.
And I still have the burnt, the burn CD that he made me in.
It says 2006, let's get tasseled.
That's cute.
That's so cute.
Oh man.
That makes me back.
Like, I just want to get in some of my emo.
I used to listen to or watch like one tree hill and like all those like emo shows and
do, and like be like, what is this song?
And like, yeah, you couldn't do what's it called?
I think I was thinking, oh, I probably did.
What's that thing?
Shazam.
I probably shazam it.
No, can't shazam it.
You got to like, I don't even know how it like get your big, get on your type four versus
you had to like write it down on a piece of paper while you're watching and then take
it up to your humongous gateway, um, cowl computer desktop.
And like, so funny is that Brandon said this to me last night or the night before he was
like, do you remember when like you had to sit down at a certain day at a certain time
to watch your show?
Yes.
And if you missed any of it or you missed that episode, you were right.
You were behind for like ever and you might get lucky if it comes on a rerun, but it probably
didn't.
Oh yeah.
That's yes.
I remember that you paid like a million dollars for it.
Yeah.
But Tivo didn't come out until later either, but cause like, and you, yeah, Tivo was like,
yeah, yeah.
I remember that's wild.
Like now I don't even, I don't even watch, I don't watch anything.
I did watch the state of the union thing, but like they don't even have the weather
channel on YouTube TV.
So I don't have a YouTube TV.
Like I have to get weather on my, on the phone, my phone, which is like not even cool because
you can't see like, I don't know.
It's like not cool.
The weather channel used to be so much better than it is today.
The weather channel is like now every time I get on the, on the app, it's like, Oh, pay
for an upgrade.
And I'm like, no, I'll get a different app.
You mad at the weather channel?
Yeah.
So like, I'm like, shut up.
So speaking of channels, we've got, how do you, how did you ever do anything without
YouTube tutorials?
I have no idea.
We didn't do anything.
We just, I know called a professional and had to pay for it.
Yeah.
I mean, I just laugh because like, I know how to fishtail braid.
I don't know how to French braid, but I know how to fishtail braid.
That is so much harder, isn't it?
Because I watched a Lauren Conrad YouTube tutorial.
And you, can you do my hair?
Fish fill it?
Yeah.
So I don't know how to do any braids.
Like Pete has to have his hair braided because his hair is longer than mine.
And everybody's like trying to braid his, and I'm like, I don't know how to braid, I'm
not braiding your hair.
And he's like, I can braid, but it doesn't look good.
I was like, my mom, I don't know if I'm-
He needs to quit doing pigtails.
And I think he's just doing it because nobody else is there to braid his hair.
His hair looks so good to fishtail braid.
Because he can't do it once in the back.
Yeah.
He got it done.
Like, and when he sent me a picture of her doing it and it looked like it was a, she
was doing fishtail pigtails.
Yeah.
It kind of looked like that.
I don't know for sure, but he was getting his herded and his beard trimmed.
And he told me he only goes once a year to trim his beard and he doesn't do his own trim.
And I'm like, dude, you're going to have to start going more often.
Like, I can't, I can't with that.
Like, you're going to have to do that.
That's girlfriend stuff right there.
I'm going to have to grow my hair longer.
Like, cause like, this is weird.
Like, I don't know.
I'm going to have to learn how to braid.
I'm not learning how to braid.
Go get your hair did somewhere else.
Oh my gosh, braid that man's hair.
No.
Yes.
No.
It'll take you two seconds.
Oh Lord have mercy.
Okay.
So yeah, no.
Like, what did we do without the tutorials?
I don't know.
Also, how did you get anywhere?
Like before there was like map quest direction.
Oh my God.
No idea.
How did you printed them out?
No idea.
How did you get anywhere?
I have no idea.
Honestly, I don't know how I keep my dogs or my plants alive because like, what would
I do?
Like my dog eats something weird.
Like the other day my dog literally overdosed on heart guard, the heartworm medicine, and
I had to Google it because I was like, Oh my God, my dog ate too much.
I called the vet, of course, first.
That was the first thing I did.
But while I was waiting for them to answer, I like was Googling it because I was like,
Oh my God, is my dog going to die like in five minutes or what?
But yeah, no.
Like what, what did we do without the internets of the world?
It was crazy.
I remember after my freshman year of college, I was going to see your fave, Dave Matthews
for the very first time.
And I was driving to just like outside of, well, we were going to SPAC, which is the
Saratoga Springs Performing Arts Center.
And so I was driving to Albany area in New York and which is like a hot four hours away.
And I had to print my MapQuest directions and just hope that I made it there with those
directions.
Yeah, but you know what?
At least we had MapQuest and we could print it.
But like when my parents were driving back and forth from New York, like when they were
married, and yes, you literally had to have a huge map and you have to have a somebody
in the, in the seat next to you.
You can't drive by yourself to see all that shit.
So but like even when you had the MapQuest, you had to print it out.
That's dangerous.
If you're just one person and you're trying to read the directions on like, but when you
print it out, it's like 10 pages long, especially if it's like a long trip.
Oh, a hundred percent.
And you're like, which page am I on?
Like, and I, I'm like, you had to staple that mug so you could flip the page.
Otherwise you were screwed.
Oh, listen to this.
Okay.
So I was just thinking these children's probably don't even know what, what a stapler is.
But while I was thinking about that is my friend Amanda was at Auburn university.
I think, I don't know what she was doing there, but there was a kid, I don't know if she was
teaching a class or what she was doing.
She like, at this point she might've been like a teacher assistant or a teacher.
Who knows?
She, one of her students or one of these students saw, there was a pencil sharpener on the wall.
Like you know what a pencil sharpener is?
Like the one that you crank.
Yeah.
It was on the wall and she was like, what is this to the guy?
And the guy was like, he had no idea what this was years ago too.
And Amanda, you can back me up on this.
She was like, what is this?
I was a grown college student.
Yes.
A grown college student.
She's like, what is this?
He's like, I have no idea.
He was like guessing random stuff.
She's like, dude, this is a pencil sharpener.
He's like, what is a pencil sharpener?
Because you don't have pencils that you have to start it anymore.
What is that company that makes pencils?
Ticonderoga.
Are they out of business?
Is that what they're called?
Ticonderoga?
Yeah.
I have no idea who that is.
I thought like, hang on.
Like who was a pencil maker?
Like pencils?
Synthsynth?
Yeah, I'm right.
Ticonderoga pencils.
How do you spell that?
T-I-C-O-N-D-E-R-O-G-A.
Okay.
I have no idea who that is.
Where are these ones?
Ticonderoga.
Must be a Northern pencil.
I don't know.
Probably.
They're the ones with the green metal around the top by the eraser.
Those are the worst.
Put in the pink, the really like pinkish red erasers that like leave marks on your paper.
Those are the worst.
Like, oh my gosh, if you get an eraser that's not like one from an, one of the big mechanical
pencils that are white and they leave those like pink marks on your paper, that is the
worst.
Or if you get one of the, an eraser that has been like dried out and you try to use it
and it like leaves like a big-
It just like breaks off.
Yeah, it's like, but it like leaves like the worst like black mark on your paper and you're
like, no, I just ruined this.
Oh, God.
I know.
It's crazy.
So, okay.
So I was also thinking about this one thing.
Um, do you remember when Netflix used to have, you used to have to get DVDs sent to you,
mailed to you in the mail?
I didn't have Netflix back then.
You didn't?
Oh, so you had to like get them, you had to like get on, I don't know if it was on the
internet or if it was like a catalog.
I can't remember.
And you were like-
I remember Redbox.
Oh, Redbox too, but they still have Redboxes.
Who uses those?
Who has DVD players anymore?
I don't have my DVD player hooked up.
I have one, but I don't have it hooked up.
Literally, our computers don't even have disk drives.
My MacBook does, but my MacBook barely works.
So I never even-
I didn't even really think about that, but yeah.
Yeah.
I know.
The times have changed.
No, like Lord, it's like craziest stuff.
Like who has a DVD player?
Cody the other day was like, I have a Blu-ray player.
I'm sure Pete's got one.
I have a Blu-ray player.
That's what my DVD player is.
Yeah.
But I mean, as much social media is just so much at our fingertips.
And I think the thing that people forget is that you can take a break from that and you
can step away.
You can put your account on pause.
You can delete that app.
But can you really is the thing.
So like, okay, so for instance, Facebook, when we have our supper club stuff, it's Facebook
Messenger and like today, I don't use Facebook.
And you were like, hey, we finished all of our stuff for the lake trip.
And I was like, we have?
I was like, really?
I was like, did I miss a message or something?
Like, I don't know.
She's like, well, it's in the invite.
Like if you get off of social media, you don't get invited to stuff anymore.
And that's the problem is people need to go back, in my opinion, if you and if you really
know me, if you're really my friend, you're going to know.
Like I have friends that will be like, hey, Emily, like you, hey, check this.
Because if you're going to invite me to something, you know that and you're really my friend,
you know that I don't get on social media.
I'm never going to check that.
You need to send me a message and be like, hey, Emily, by the way, there's an invite
for you.
But I think that that's an okay thing to do.
Why can't you get off social media and still like even if you have to have a conversation
with like your closest friends to be like, hey, I feel like I need to get off social
media for right now.
Like please, you know, don't forget about me.
It just sucks because it's like only your social, your like closest friends, but like
other friends, what if they like don't invite you to stuff?
And then how do you find it?
Do you even really want to go then?
Like, I don't get it.
Yes.
Yeah, yeah, I do.
Because I have friends that are like out of town and stuff that I like to keep up with.
They're not like super close anymore.
But I'm still like, like I got invited to a baby shower for somebody, which is this
weekend or it was last weekend.
Then I couldn't go.
But like we don't talk every day, but we were really good friends and we're still like,
I still consider her a really good friend, even though she literally has like a 10 year
old and I've never met him.
How did that invite get to you?
By mail.
Okay.
So what?
So there you go.
Which is what people need to start doing.
And like I check my mail.
And I feel like that's what happens though.
Like I mean, that's my personal opinion.
I don't feel like it does.
And like I know that like Erin and Santana and even us, like when we did the shower for
them, we did everything on Facebook as an invite.
We had to because it was last minute.
Well, correct.
But that's what I'm saying.
I don't think that the etiquette has changed to swap over to just like E invites or anything
like that.
I don't.
And I don't think that that's how it should be.
I do not foresee.
I mean, anytime in like the near future anyways, that everything is going digital.
That you know, if we, if you and I got married, our mothers would never let us send out some
E invite for a wedding.
If I told my mom how much money we were going to save, she probably wouldn't let me either.
Yeah, she wouldn't.
No.
So that's what I'm saying.
Not in the near future.
But I'm not getting a marriage.
Well, listen, we're not worried about that right now.
I'm just, you know what I'm saying?
Yeah, I feel you.
But yeah, no, that's like, that's the thing is like, I feel like so and I'm just trying
to you can take a break, but like, can you and like, it's hard for me.
I don't get on it, but I still have it.
I just don't use it.
And I don't, but it's not to help people.
I'm like, I can't with it.
If you mentally need a break from it because that you need to be able to step back and
not just not participate in that because of whatever might be going on in your life.
And broke broken, break breaking from social media for like for the rest of my life.
Like I don't I don't I only time like Instagram's OK for I'll scroll through that and like look
at random stuff or like if I need to look up something like random, I'll look it up.
But I do not.
But you're not really taking a break from it.
You're just not opening the app.
Right.
You understand what I'm saying?
Like I'm talking about deleting the app, pausing, whatever.
Like I know for a fact that you can pause Facebook and just you'll look like you're
deactivated to other people even.
And you can do it indefinitely for a certain number of days.
So whatever, but it doesn't get rid of your account for you.
If you were to take a break from social media, would you have to deactivate or pause or delete
the app in order for you to not do it?
Absolutely.
Really?
Wow.
That's just like a natural thing to me.
I think to you know, I'm also very OCD about like the notifications on my phone.
I hate the red bubbles.
Oh, I don't have notification bubbles.
Like, no.
Well, I can't stand it and I have them.
And so when I see them, like, for example, I'm one of those that doesn't file an email
until I'm done with it.
So like you file your emails.
Yeah.
So I constantly have one email that's sitting in there that I have got to use before August
of 2023, which is a spa gift card.
Why have I waited?
I got this right after Greta died.
My Greta was my old very original, the original dog that I ever had like by myself.
And that was in 2011 or no, I mean, 2021.
I'm sorry.
And it was a long time ago.
It was 2011.
No, no.
It was 2021, but I haven't used that sucker.
And it's so I haven't.
So I will always have at least a number one in my Gmail because of that.
But I don't want to see any of the other bubbles.
So you mean like an unread thing?
Yes.
Oh, girl, my email.
Look, but did you see my email when I pulled it up earlier?
No.
Right now it says one hundred and sixty six on here, but that's because it's my something
else.
But like, I literally have you don't even know.
You don't even know.
I don't.
And I don't because I don't care.
I don't.
I'm not checking.
I'm not reading it though.
That's just I scroll through every day to make sure that I didn't miss something.
And I have the people.
So like my HOA is on like, like I get a notification if it sends it to me.
Like those are the things that I like.
I know for sure that I've got to check for.
But like all that other junk mail, I'm not reading that and I'm not checking on it.
I'm just not opening it.
But I mean, I'm getting rid of it real quick just so it's gone.
Yeah.
So if I did that, I would spend my entire day on my phone and I can't.
And that's how I don't know how you are like not stressed out to the max because of that.
That to me is like, oh, that stresses me out.
I'm like, if I stressed out over the number of emails in my inbox, I would be dead.
I honestly probably subconsciously am.
That is probably part of my anxiety.
Right.
And so like there are times where like if I have something that like I really need to
get done for work, I'll put my watch on, do not disturb, and I will leave my phone in
another room because otherwise, like if I have like a few seconds or whatever in between
or like my attention is diverted, I'm going to pick up my phone and I'm going to look
at it.
Oh, no, I don't have the Apple watch anymore.
I also have like I wear a Fitbit, but like I took it has notifications.
Yeah.
But I took those off because I do not want to be notified every time anything happens.
I want to have my steps and I want to have my time.
And maybe like sometimes I'll like if I go out of town, I'll set it to where like my
ring alarm will it'll buzz on my wrist if the alarm goes off or something like that.
But like, no, I'm sorry.
Like I can't with that.
I need to be able to put my phone in another room.
And if somebody texts me or emails me or calls me, I need to be able to not have to answer
it or look at it because I can't like it's just it's not I shouldn't be we shouldn't
be on devices all day.
Oh, I agree.
And I would never get anything done not to go down this road or anything like that.
But I think like part of it is also like just negative conditioning from like toxic relationships
and like knowing those crazy texts are coming in and like wanting to be like mentally prepared
for that or respond immediately just to like clap back.
And it's gross that I feel that way.
That sucks that you feel that way.
Honestly, if that happened to me, I would feel like the opposite.
And I'd be like, screw you.
I'm not answering anyone because somebody told me because that's how I am.
I'm like I'm like anarchy or something.
I don't know if that's what the word would be.
But I'm like, no, you're not going to tell me what to do.
Sorry.
Yeah, I'm very like, don't tell me what to do.
I mean, tell me like, look, but you can say, I don't know.
It's a whole thing.
That's a different episode.
So but yeah.
So you think that you at any point in the near future might take a break from social
media?
I would say no, not right now, because I'm not experiencing anything negative in my life
by participating in that.
Like there was a point in time after a breakup that I had years ago that something really
bad happened at the end.
And like that caused the breakup.
And I needed to get off social media because I didn't want to deal with it.
And so I did take a break for a little while, but I haven't felt like I've needed to do
that.
So yeah.
So now that you say that, I kind of want to touch on like how social media, like one of
the reasons I don't get on social media and that I that I don't participate, first of
all, it's because it takes up a lot of my time and then I don't get anything done.
Like I need to water my plants and do my laundry.
I need to like take my dogs on walks and take them outside and like be a human being instead
of sitting on my butt that I do all day and looking on my phone.
I would rather do that.
So but another thing is that when I look at social media, this is going to sound really
crazy.
And like not it's going to sound like I'm not happy with myself, but like I see you
see people and they're like doing a trip or they're doing this.
And I'm like, why is this person getting to do that?
And I'm not doing that.
Why is it?
And it makes me feel bad or it's like, and then and it's not necessarily like people
having kids and babies and getting married and stuff like that.
Because I know a lot of people have that like anxiety.
They're like, oh, I see everybody getting married and having kids.
That makes me like not want to do that.
Like like I'm really happy with my choice.
But seeing people and I'm like, this person went on four trips out of the country this
year.
Yeah.
How are they affording that?
Like how is that possible?
Why am I not able to afford to do that?
Yeah.
What am I doing wrong?
It's yeah.
I mean, it can create a lot of like self doubt and envy and negative thoughts about, you know,
yourself and the way that you have chosen to live your life or even, you know, body
image wise too.
I mean, all of it is negative.
It can have major negative effects.
And I think that you have to put the work in yourself to make sure that you don't allow
that negative self talking and have it affect you, you know, and it's easier said than done.
Well, it's not.
And I don't know if it's negative.
It's not saying, hey, this is what it's a competition thing in me.
And I'm like, yeah, why am I not there?
And I'm the same age as this person.
This person did this.
They've done all these things.
And but like, I'm sure that there are people that think the same about me, which is to
me, I'm like, really?
Like, I don't know what you're trying to get.
I don't have a husband on kids.
But like, I, I feel like I've, I am perfect with where I am in my life.
I love my life.
Like, I have no, like, regrets or like anything like that about what I've done with myself.
I mean, it went where it went.
And here I am.
And I'm doing my best to like, do what I can.
But like, honestly, I just am like, how or how is this happening?
Like, yeah, I just it's competition, I think it is.
But I mean, I think there's also something to remember.
And that is the whole like, you know, what they say Instagram versus reality.
You know, there are oftentimes where you'll see photographs that that's not real.
That's not what that person looks like.
There are so many photo editor apps for crying out loud.
Some girl could be posed in front of a green screen.
That's true.
With, you know, Greece behind her.
Who knows?
Like you don't know if that's real anyway.
So what does it matter?
Well, that's true.
But like the people that I know that I'm looking at on social media, I know if they went to
Greece or not, usually.
But yeah, I get what you're saying.
That that makes that I'm just saying overarching.
There is a massive like you have to remember.
And I want to emphasize times a thousand Instagram versus reality.
Whatever is out there on the Internet, on social media is not always reality.
Right.
And maybe that person was on that trip to Greece and they took that picture and they
looked all happy, but like their husband was in a fight with them or something.
100%.
Yeah.
Or maybe they're maxing out their credit cards over and over again just to be able to post
on Instagram.
I mean, you never know.
Yeah, that's wild.
It's a day and age of influencers.
And I think that that has been like such a cool thing to like happen to us because there's
so much more information out there that is oftentimes perceived to be more authentic
than an ad in a commercial.
But because they're real people, you know, but it isn't always, you know, what it's
cracked up to be.
And I think that there are, you know, some people out there that are lucky to be able
to do what they're doing.
And you know, some some of these influences, I think that they work really hard.
I agree.
You know, our content creators.
But do they deserve to be millionaires?
Well, and I do agree with that.
Should the person who's like in your EMT saving in your ambulance saving your life, like the
EMT or whatever, should that person be making $30,000 a year versus somebody that sits and
takes a bunch of pictures of themselves on the Internet and everybody?
And that is so sad.
Yeah, but that's the world that we live in.
And I also think there's a really big movement right now on TikTok, especially that they're
calling like de-influencing people.
So a lot of it is that I've come across is like makeup folks, like influencers that are,
you know, makeup artists and stuff like that.
And which like said, let me just pause you really quick on that.
How many times can you watch somebody like put on their makeup?
Like I'm like, oh, really?
I like like they do.
Like it's like the same thing every time.
OK, sorry.
Oh, I have been influenced by the makeup for sure.
But they're, you know, really working hard to what they're calling de-influenced.
So like they're picking the products that they have bought.
And granted, this is their own personal opinion.
Everybody's skin is different.
You know, all that jazz.
But they're picking the products that they didn't really like.
And they're, you know, giving an honest review of that.
So instead of just picking the products that they like or they're.
Well, that's still an influence.
It's a but it's de-influencing, though.
So it's just saying this is my experience with this product,
and I don't think it's worth the money.
OK. So I mean, I get that they they're calling it de-influencing
because it's like somebody's not like advertising for that.
But like, it's still an influence to to not buy that purchase.
Right. Yeah.
But I mean, I think I don't I don't think that companies,
marketing teams are going to look at it as still being influenced.
I mean, it is a de-influenced don't buy this product because it's shitty. Yeah.
So, I mean, it's been like kind of a cool movement in a way to see,
you know, these people that are typically on here just talking about shit
that they love or that they're paid to love and coming out here and saying,
here's this real product that is not paying me, you know, in any way, shape or form.
And I think it's shitty.
So you, you know, buy it if you want to. But here's my experience with it.
And it wasn't great.
Speaking of products and influencers, I do want to talk about a couple of products
that I got. Emily is going to be an influencer today.
So listen, my I like that is my dream job is to be a freaking influencer.
But I wouldn't I don't even know what I would influence on.
But I do buy a bunch of like random stuff.
So like, honestly, look, I'm telling you right now,
I have not gotten any sponsorships folks.
I've not got any sponsorships.
Nobody's telling me to review this stuff.
I promise, like, like we are not getting paid.
We don't get paid for this podcast.
Hopefully we will in the future.
But like we literally this is just my honest review of a couple of products.
So I recently bought some skims panties.
And I was like really nervous because I was like, I don't know.
But I bought a skim sprawl while back and I was like, oh, I really like this.
Even though you buy it and it kind of looks really small,
like it looks tiny and you put it on, it's like, oh, this actually fits.
I have huge honkers and
and I was like, and I think I ordered like a two X for the bra.
And and I thought I needed like a three X because my boobs are very large.
And I was like, OK, I got it.
And I was like, oh my God, this looks so small.
But I put it on. It's so comfortable. I love it.
So I bought another one of those.
And then I bought did I buy two?
Yeah, I bought one of another one of those.
And then I bought some panties and I bought a smaller size of the same bra.
I bought an extra large and I brought a two X of the same bra.
It's like this curve or it's a I wish I had the names in front of me.
I should have done this.
Maybe I'll do it. I'll like read, like record this.
So it's the every fits everybody like scoop neck.
And it's so comfortable.
But the extra large, what was weird is that the extra large band around
like the band around my weight or not my waist, but like my bra area
is my chest is larger than the two X.
And so it didn't fit right. It was really strange.
It was like too big. The extra large, too big for me.
So the two X works. I love it.
I'm wearing it right now, I think. Oh, no, I'm not.
But and I'm not wearing the skims right now either.
But that's because I like, you know, laundry day.
But I bought some of the skims panties the first time and I bought
some high rise briefs that every fits everybody.
And they are so comfortable.
Like they have like the the fabric is amazing.
Like, oh, my God, you would die if you wore these panties.
Like, I don't know.
And then I also bought some other these like Tanga ones
that are a little bit more cottony.
And I love them. They actually they're kind of cheeky.
Tanga, I think, is what they're called.
And they I thought that my butt like I can't wear cheeky
because my my booty is is is thick.
Yeah. And I can't wear cheeky stuff like that because it basically
turns into a thong while I'm walking.
But these actually worked really good.
And I don't know, like I probably won't wear them with a dress or anything.
And if I'm walking out for a long period of time,
but like I would wear them with pants because they'll stay in place with the pants.
But they were really comfortable.
I want to sleep in one night.
And then I got a thong that was like a high rise thong.
So comfortable. It's like a mesh material.
So comfortable.
So I love those.
I got that. I got like four pairs, four or five pairs that time.
And so then I like them so much that I placed another order for like
six or seven more pairs of panties.
I didn't tell you. Yeah, no, I was I was like, yes, I'm getting some more of these.
She was showing them to me when I was over here last week.
And they're the material is fabulous.
Yeah. And I haven't pulled the trigger on that yet.
And I'm not sure if I'm going to.
But sometimes when I stay the night at Emily's, I forget underpants.
So I feel like I'll have an opportunity to wear them one day.
Well, so I have only had them for like a week or two.
So I'll let you know, like washing and drying, like how long they last and things like that.
Well, well, if it gets worse and I don't like them anymore, I'll let you know.
But then also, OK, so today, so yesterday was it yesterday?
Today, I got the dress yesterday morning.
I woke up and I got an email that there was skims had new outfits or something.
Not skims. Excuse me.
Spanx had new outfit and they had like a jumpsuit.
And so I like woke up and I sent Sarah the screenshot and I'm like,
oh, this jumpsuit is so cute. I want it.
Well, then I start scrolling through the new stuff that they have.
And it may maybe it's not new. And I found this dress and it is like a long sleeve, like like a.
I don't what do you call them? A shift dress.
It's like an A line black dress.
And it was so cute in the picture.
And I was like, I'm ordering this. I ordered it.
It came in today. Like literally, I got it this morning.
I was like, how did that happen? No idea how I got here so fast.
And because we live in Alabama, so there's not like distribution center for Spanx here.
I mean, maybe there is, but I doubt it. You never know.
Yeah. It got here really fast.
And and I tried it on and it is so comfortable.
It has like so it has like thick material.
And it zips up in the back and it has like this long like zipper thing pull
so that you are not like trying to like kill yourself. Yeah. Yeah.
And then it has like this nice like red lining on the inside is kind of cool.
And it has this thick material that's like it's not.
So, you know, Spanx, they like the Spanx leggings and like jeans.
They really suck you in.
This dress is not sucking you in, but it's making sure it's so fit.
Like the materials is like perfectly thick enough to make sure you don't have
like any like rolls or like your belly button hole is not sticking out of your.
You know, and then there's like in the front, instead of the pockets
having like two pockets on the side, there's like one big panel in the front
for the pocket. And it's like it's like a almost like a hoodie sweatshirt.
Yeah. Like you stick your hands in and you can touch your hands together.
But like, I think they did that on purpose because, you know, when you have pockets
in a dress, they stick down and they kind of stick out and and it makes your hips
look bigger. But this way that they did this, it kind of like helps you cover up
that belly button area and like makes it like smoother.
And then also, like you don't have that bigger hip like stuff in the side.
Oh, my God. It's amazing. It's a perfect length.
The art is so comfortable, but like I haven't worn it in public yet.
So I'm going to wear it next week to go to.
Well, I'm supposed to wear scrubs next week.
I might wear this dress next week to work.
So I'll let you know how it goes.
Yeah, I want to know that dress is beautiful.
And, you know, black dresses are my thing.
But I honestly, I if I had to go to work, I would buy that as my uniform.
I'd be like, what's it called?
Steve Jobs.
And I would wear I would have like seven of them and I'd be like, OK, seven of these.
Take them to the dry cleaners or whatever.
Or hopefully you can. I don't know if you can wash or dry.
I'm not I'm not a pro influencer yet.
This was kind of off the cuff.
So next time if I do something, I'll have like all the names of everything for you
and like the size of the sizes and like all that stuff.
We'll we'll we'll train her up, guys.
Don't worry. Yeah, I can't be I can't be like.
Not that I'm an influencer, but I watch them.
I do, too. I watch.
I don't watch TikTok or Instagram.
I do watch YouTube, though.
Like, I really like Hope Scope.
She's really cool.
She's my favorite one.
That's the only one I have notifications for her because she's cute.
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