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Welcome to the Thicc AF Podcast, everyone.

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Hey.

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Hello, we're back.

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My name is Emily.

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And this is Sarah.

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We're so happy to be here today, guys.

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Can't wait to discover some more cool things about everybody.

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So today, you know, we've got that FMK for you.

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Otherwise known as Fuck Mary Kill because Cramsey doesn't like the F word.

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Well, you know, it's just not good.

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So my parents would be not proud.

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I mean, I don't think mine are thrilled either, but it comes with the territory because now we've made it a part of things.

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Yeah, I guess.

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So and then we're going to talk about some, you know, some other things about like living with a boyfriend, girlfriend, partner.

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And then also, like if you've ever created a Finsta and I didn't know what a Finsta was, but we'll get into that in a few minutes.

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So Sarah's going to lead us off on that.

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So anyways, how's it been going?

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Going fantastical.

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Good.

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I'm so happy to be here with you tonight.

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One of my favorite days of the week is hanging out with Sarah to record the podcast.

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It really is.

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It is my favorite day.

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It's my favorite day.

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It's my favorite day.

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And I think that we have like almost highs and lows because oh, no, my drink is so strong.

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You should not look at my reactions.

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I just we just went up and made a drink and we did.

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We put this like we put makers mark and it's like I got a Walmart order a long time ago and they like sent me the wrong order.

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And it had like a hundred of these like liter bottles of peach and peach and orange spritzer drinks.

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And so we were trying to use them because I feel bad throwing away because you know, I'm hoarder ish.

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No, you've tried to give them away a ton of times, but they've actually come in handy example tonight because we like a bourbon like I like water with a slice of orange.

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Yeah. So I mean, it worked out perfectly.

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Anyways, I was the bartender.

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I made her drink a little strong because she lives here and she doesn't have to drive.

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Yeah, but holy moly.

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I took a sip and it's like, whoa, listen, I did not even do two full shots.

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It was it was two full shots.

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I think you put more and you were like, this is yours.

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And then you did yours and it was the same amount.

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And I was like, hold on a second.

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This is not right.

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Okay.

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True.

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Anyways, so all right.

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So let's get into it.

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Yeah. Okay.

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So my fuck, Mary kill of the week is and I really have no idea what your answer is going to be.

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So I'm kind of excited about it, but it's margarita dirty martini in an old fashioned.

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Oh snap.

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Right.

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Oh, you know, okay.

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So I am allergic to agave, according to the doctors, but I can drink like a Montezuma's revenge.

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Martin, I mean, in margarita, you know, you never have more Montezuma.

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No, thank God I have it.

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Montezuma is basically like, correct me if I'm wrong, but even I went to Phil Sandoval's in Huntsville over the weekend and I saw Phil and he was like, oh yeah, you can have some Montezuma.

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And I'm like, yeah, because it's like flavored vodka.

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Basically, it doesn't have any agave in it.

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Tequila.

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Tequila. Yeah, I'm allergic.

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So I'm allergic to the stuff that's inside of it.

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So not technically tequila.

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Anyway, but I love, love margaritas.

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But I will, like, I learned a very hard way that I was allergic to.

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I'm not anaphylactic.

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Anyways, it's a long story on that whole thing, but I'm not supposed to drink agave and freaking love margaritas.

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Love them so much.

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I would, if I wasn't allergic, I wouldn't, I wouldn't, what was the other two?

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Margarita, dirty martini, and old fashioned.

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Oh, so I would, I would marry a margarita if I wasn't allergic to agave.

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I said there's two answers.

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Okay, give your first answer.

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First answer is no agave.

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And so kill agave or margarita.

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Kill margarita.

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Oh no, no, hold on.

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But like, if I'm not allowed to have agave, I would kill it.

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And then I would fuck dirty martini and marry old fashioned.

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Okay.

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And then if I am allowed to have agave or if it's an agave-free margarita, then I would marry margarita, kill, kill dirty martini.

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I don't know, maybe not.

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And, and fuck the old fashioned.

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What do you think?

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I love the hell out of a margarita also.

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I am going to marry a margarita, fuck a dirty martini, and kill an old fashioned.

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And I am a big bourbon girl, but an old fashioned is not my favorite bourbon drink.

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That's why I was like, sorry.

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It's not mine either.

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That's why I was kind of hesitant to say that because I knew it would be a good one because I love bourbon.

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I do. And it's similar.

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So it's similar, but I don't like all the sugar.

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Agreed.

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I do like the sugar and there's something else that they put in there that I'm not a huge fan of, but I do like the makers mark or like a bourbon with soda water, like a fresh with an orange.

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My favorite bourbon drink these days is like a Kentucky mule.

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So like a ginger beer with bourbon.

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Ginger.

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I will do ginger beer with everything.

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Ginger beer with vodka, ginger beer with mezcal.

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Love it.

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Mezcal.

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I don't even know.

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I've heard of that.

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Smoky tequila.

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Oh yeah.

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That's why I don't know.

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Because I'm not allowed.

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I don't know if it has agave or not.

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Probably.

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100% probably.

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I'm pretty sure if it's not, doesn't have agave, it's not really tequila.

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So good.

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Mezcal.

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Yeah, I've seen it.

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I know what it is.

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And then like I hear it, but like I don't think I've ever had it because yeah, I'm not supposed to.

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So all right.

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What's next?

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What you got?

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I will do an off the cuff, fuck, Mary kill.

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All right.

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Let's do it.

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Let's do it.

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Let's do it.

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Love this.

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I am going to do, hang on a second, Ryan Gosling.

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Oh Lord.

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I think that he should have been in that last one.

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Yes.

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I have heard that feedback as well.

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So Ryan Gosling will do Miles Teller.

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Who the hell is that?

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From.

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I'm going to look at him.

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Top one Maverick.

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I'll look him up.

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And, um, Jude Law.

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No, no, no.

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Miles Teller is from something else.

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What is he?

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Oh, I love him.

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Did you hear my last?

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Jude Law.

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Yeah.

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Oh Lord.

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Gosh.

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He was like the best in the holiday.

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Shout out to Melanie.

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She loves that movie and my mom.

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Okay.

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So Jude Law.

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Oh, I can't.

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Why don't you go first?

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Can you go first this time?

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That would be great.

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Thanks.

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I'm just saying like, I don't know.

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I don't know much about these peeps, so I'm going to get some.

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I am going to buck miles.

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Teller.

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Fug miles.

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Teller.

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Mary Ryan Gosling and killed Jude Law.

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Yeah.

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I'm thinking that my might be the same.

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So miles Teller.

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I didn't know.

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I forgot about him.

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What does he end that?

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I love him.

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War dogs.

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War dogs.

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But he's also in what else is he in?

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Two nights.

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The spider head movie with, um, with a freaking.

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Chris Hemsworth.

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It's good.

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It's on Netflix.

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All right.

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So Ryan Gosling, I'm going to marry.

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I think I have the same as you.

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Jude Law.

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I'm going to kill because I don't think he's a drug.

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I don't know why everybody loves him so much.

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He is so good in the holiday.

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But he's a good actor, but he's not that.

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I don't know.

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That's why I killed him.

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And he seems really small too.

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Yeah.

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I don't know.

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And I'm a.

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I'm a pretty big girl.

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Like I'm not a tiny lady.

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Like I hear you.

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I'm short, but I'm thick AF.

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Just saying.

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You don't say.

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You don't say girls.

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So that Brian Gosling, I like a tall.

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I mean, everybody likes tall, but like, honestly, I've dated short guys and I don't hate that.

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I'm not opposed to a short guy.

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Look at you with your big eyes.

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See that's messed up.

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Like, listen.

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Sometimes it just depends.

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It's just not for me.

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So there I have dated some short guys and they like kissing is easier.

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You don't have to stand up.

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You're taller than me though.

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You're a lot taller than me.

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What are you?

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Five seven, five eight.

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What are you?

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Which one?

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My license says five eight.

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OK, but what are you in real life?

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Probably five seven.

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OK, you're a liar.

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My license says five four and I'm five three and a half or something like that.

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Both liars.

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Well, but you know, five three and a half is different than a whole inch.

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I'm probably five seven.

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I'm round.

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I rounded up.

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Yeah, me too.

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No, you didn't.

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You would.

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You did.

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Did you do it with that?

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Did you do it with that bun on the top of your head?

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That two inches?

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I'm allowed to come over here and look ratchet.

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No, I like your butt.

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Oh my God.

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Don't even turn this on me.

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OK, so it is not about that.

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So anyways, but what I'm feeling added an extra inch and a half or two.

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I'm giving my buns some credit, man.

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Thank you.

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Bun, bun, bun, bun, bun, bun.

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Yeah.

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So anyways, yeah, I'm the same as you with that with that one.

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You got any more FM case or are we moving on?

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No, I think we can move along.

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Let's move on.

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You ready?

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Yes.

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All right.

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What you got, girl?

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So we're going to talk about what it's like or what it might be like or would you after

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living alone for so long live with a partner again?

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I think about this a lot, actually.

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And I just it's very hard because and I've lived with other people before and I've had

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roommates.

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So, you know, going from first of all, going from a roommate to no roommate and then trying

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to have a roommate again.

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Right.

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And in general, a roommate, you can't really like get mad like in a relationship and break

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up with your roommate.

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I mean, you can, but like you don't want to.

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So it's different for a roommate and like a like a partner or like a boyfriend, girlfriend,

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that type of thing.

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But like it's still a roommate and you have to get used to their quirks and those things.

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And so and then like, what if they have another animal?

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I have four animals, three dogs and a cat.

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And if they have another animal, that would be freaking crazy.

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Also, whose house would we move to?

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And my thing, I'm very selfish because I love my place, but I do I do want a bigger place.

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But like, I don't want to get rid of my place because I love it so much.

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And I just got it.

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Yeah.

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But it would be nice if it was like a bedroom or two more.

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You know what I mean?

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Yeah.

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And like some more storage or whatever.

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I don't know.

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For me, it's been really easy.

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I've lived in the same place for the last like nine and a half years and it's a one bedroom

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apartment and I have a hard no that nobody is moving into that apartment.

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But I'm also moving out of it into a two bedroom.

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But I'm not about to invite somebody else into that small space.

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But would you move into somebody else's?

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I think it depends on what like where they're living.

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So I feel like it.

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So this is me from the outside to another knowing you and only knowing you as best I

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can.

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Yeah.

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I feel like you would succeed most if they moved in with you.

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One hundred percent.

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You would be like, hell no.

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This is how I live and you need to come into my world and not like, oh no, I'm coming into

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your world.

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If you went into their world, you'd be like, uh, what am I supposed to do?

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I mean, I think that's fair.

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I want to give myself a little credit and say that I would absolutely compromise if

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they came and lived in my space.

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Like I'm not about to be like, oh, in your space, not in their space.

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What about you living in their space?

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So I don't think I would do it.

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I think you're right about that.

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I'm pretty right.

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Yeah, I'm right.

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I mean, I think that's fair, but I do think that I, I don't think that I would be territorial

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enough, excuse me, to.

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To be like, it's my way or the highway.

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No, I wouldn't.

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Well, not my way over the highway, but you would be, I think that you would be like the

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wear in the pants.

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I don't think, no, I don't feel comfortable saying that, that I would wear the pants.

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I think in 10 years ago, absolutely.

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I wanted to wear the pants.

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Oh, 10 years ago, I was not wearing any pants.

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I still don't want like, I didn't listen.

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I didn't wear pants until you got here today.

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I didn't wear any pants.

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I worked like, I wore a tank top and panties all day today.

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When I took the dogs out, I put a robe on.

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You don't like to let me say that I'm bossy.

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Like you try to not let me say that about myself.

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Because I don't want you to, I don't want, because thoughts becomes words and words become

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actions.

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I don't want you to continue to think that you're bossy and then you continue to be bossy

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if you don't want to be.

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No.

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And I have come a long way from being bossy and being a my way or the highway kind of

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person.

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And I was that way in my relationship back in the day and with my friends.

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And I have figured out that I cannot be that way.

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I have to be more conducive to the way that other people do things.

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And I'm okay with that now.

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You're still a little bit like that.

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But I see it with me, like with me a lot.

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Because we haven't known each other as long as some other people that we know.

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And I feel like I know you, the newer you.

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You know what I mean?

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Yes.

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I totally agree with you.

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I think that's completely fair.

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I mean, I've definitely learned how to compromise and I've definitely learned how to pick my

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battles.

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And I think that I am not going to put myself in that kind of situation of living together.

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I did that a long time ago.

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And I think I did it because I thought that it was like the next step in the relationship

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and this was the way that it had to be.

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And I don't feel that way anymore.

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I don't think that I would live with anybody again without a commitment more so than we're

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exclusively dating.

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I see that.

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And I agree with that.

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I played the wife and the partner and whatever and I didn't get anything out of it.

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I mean, it was an okay relationship, but I eventually found it necessary to leave and

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I don't want to do that with the next person.

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I agree with that.

357
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I mean, I think that's great.

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I think that's good.

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And I think that's good that you found that out.

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Well, I'll say this much.

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My stepmom can give a big fat.

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I told you so because when I wanted to move in with that person, she was like, Sarah,

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you haven't even lived by yourself outside of the three semesters that I spent at SUNY

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Cortland when I first went to college.

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And she was like, you have no idea what it's like to live by yourself.

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You need to figure that out first.

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And I was like, I'm going to do this though.

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And I did it and it didn't work out.

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And now I feel the way that she, you know, predicted I would feel, which is I'm going

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to do that with the next person when I'm in a committed relationship beyond we're exclusively

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dating one another.

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Yeah.

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And I feel that kind of pain a little bit because so I was just graduating or like about

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to graduate from undergrad and my rent was so expensive for me at that point.

375
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Yeah.

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And I had not found a job yet.

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Like I was making $10 an hour working at a restaurant and like a fast casual restaurant

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working like eight to five.

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And then I did end up finding a job at like a sports medicine clinic.

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And but I was still making like probably 10, $12 an hour at that point.

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And I couldn't afford like I only could afford my apartment with my loans.

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And so I had to tell my roommate, I was like, Hey, I can't afford it.

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Cause my mom was like, you don't have student loans anymore, you're going to have to pay

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for this.

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And I couldn't afford it.

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So I had to tell my roommate and I feel really bad because she had to get another, I had

387
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to like sublease my place out and like she had to find a roommate and I think she hated

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the girl and I feel, I feel like we kind of like our relationship kind of went downhill

389
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from there.

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But I mean, there was nothing I could do.

391
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So at that point I was dating this guy and I moved in with him and he had a house and

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his parents owned it and the rent was like $300 a month or something.

393
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Why?

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Like it was amazing.

395
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Yeah.

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And I mean, like I couldn't turn that down.

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And so we, I had my own bedroom with all my furniture and I moved all my stuff in, but

398
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you know, we were dating.

399
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So like we, we shared a whole bedroom or whatever, but we ended up breaking up at one point.

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I mean, it was a while after that, but, and I don't know how long it may have been a year,

401
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may have been two years.

402
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I don't know how long when we broke up and I was like, Oh my God, I need to move out

403
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because he was like the next day bringing girls over.

404
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Yeah.

405
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Yes.

406
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Like I was in my bedroom and he would have like girls over in his, in his room and I

407
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could like hear them having sex.

408
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Yeah.

409
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That's hateful.

410
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Yep.

411
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Yeah.

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And so I would sit out in the living room or in the kitchen in the dining room the next

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morning and wait for the, excuse my language to go home.

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And I'd be like, Hey, how's it going?

415
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Like what the hell are you doing here?

416
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But, um, but yeah, it was, it was really awkward.

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And when I moved, I did that because of the money thing and my mom and dad, I don't remember

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them saying much about it, but I do remember my little brother, Daniel, he was so upset

419
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and he was like, you're not supposed to live with anybody before you get married.

420
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And he went on this whole thing about it.

421
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And Daniel, I'm going to tell you right now.

422
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How do you feel?

423
00:18:53,760 --> 00:18:54,760
How you feel now?

424
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How you feel about it now?

425
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I was going to say that.

426
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I was pretty much, I mean, he has his own house.

427
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He's selling it.

428
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So, but yeah, so sorry, Daniel, I'm sorry.

429
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I broke your heart.

430
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He's probably like, well, it was you.

431
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I'm sorry, Daniel, that I broke your heart about that.

432
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But you know, I was poor.

433
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Like I've been like, couldn't afford it.

434
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And I didn't know where to live and rent's expensive.

435
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I didn't want to have to move home.

436
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That's that's my whole thing.

437
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I totally get it.

438
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I was living with a roommate that I met through Jessica and it did not go well.

439
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We did like a seven month lease and it went well for the first seven months.

440
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And then very quickly after we resigned for another 14 months, it went very downhill and

441
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I decided that I was going to move out and I was adamant about it.

442
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And I just said, you can either leave me on this lease and I will not pay a dime.

443
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And if you can't afford it by yourself, then our credit, both of our credit will go to

444
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shit or you can sign a roommate relinquish agreement and let me out of this lease.

445
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And she signed it and I went and found the apartment that I'm still living in today because

446
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it was what I could afford on like a $30,000 salary at the time.

447
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And I've been there ever since and now I'm moving on up to a two bedroom.

448
00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:27,520
Well, I'm just going to tell you right now that I would never move in with you because

449
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you would hate me and we would not be friends ever again.

450
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See, but unless it was me, I would probably be like, Sarah.

451
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But like if you were like, why do you think that I just feel like you would be like mad

452
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at me all the time.

453
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But why?

454
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I don't know because you're you're just the you're Sarah.

455
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I think that like I would never like I don't think that like I just wouldn't want to live

456
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with you.

457
00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:54,400
Melanie says the same thing.

458
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Y'all are breaking my heart.

459
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I just think that you are I don't know if the word is stubborn or oh, I am that for

460
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sure.

461
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Or if it's like stubborn is more more than selfish, I guess, because you're not selfish.

462
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You like are very giving and like you do things for everybody else.

463
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But like maybe a little bit like.

464
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I like things a particular a little bit.

465
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But I am the same way.

466
00:21:21,520 --> 00:21:27,360
But like also, I am not that it's not about to ruin your day, though.

467
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Like it ruined my day.

468
00:21:28,360 --> 00:21:29,360
Yeah.

469
00:21:29,360 --> 00:21:30,360
See, I'm like, oh, whatever.

470
00:21:30,360 --> 00:21:35,180
I was like anxiety and it was why we need Lexapro for all all peeps.

471
00:21:35,180 --> 00:21:36,880
But look, I wasn't like that before.

472
00:21:36,880 --> 00:21:39,240
But like Lexapro saved my life peeps.

473
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Look, honestly, I haven't even I haven't even taken it that long.

474
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But I know the difference.

475
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Like there's a difference.

476
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But but we still had a difference before I took it.

477
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So but yeah, no, I don't I don't know.

478
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I wouldn't want to live with you, but I also wouldn't want to live with a lot of other

479
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people like no, I understand that.

480
00:22:00,560 --> 00:22:04,040
And I I think you wouldn't want to live with me either.

481
00:22:04,040 --> 00:22:07,240
So sorry, I didn't mean it interrupts you, but you wouldn't.

482
00:22:07,240 --> 00:22:12,880
You'd be like, no, we can have two separate wings of a house and come.

483
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Oh, look, if we had that, that would be freaking fun.

484
00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:17,160
For sure.

485
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I want all of our friends to have like like a compound.

486
00:22:20,280 --> 00:22:23,160
Yeah, about it for so long.

487
00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,160
We could be like like the what's that movie?

488
00:22:26,160 --> 00:22:30,480
We're like, is it Sandra Bullock or is it?

489
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:31,480
It's one.

490
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:34,160
It's Jennifer Aniston and somebody and they go out to.

491
00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:35,160
Yeah, I wonder less.

492
00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:37,800
I love that movie and they go out there and like, I don't want to.

493
00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:39,200
But we're not going to do that.

494
00:22:39,200 --> 00:22:43,120
But like we're just we're not going to like have one person that has sex with everyone.

495
00:22:43,120 --> 00:22:48,000
But except for me, just kidding.

496
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Because I don't ever.

497
00:22:49,000 --> 00:22:50,000
I know.

498
00:22:50,000 --> 00:22:51,680
But listen, I don't have sex with anybody.

499
00:22:51,680 --> 00:22:54,680
So I'm just saying it's true.

500
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:56,520
It's the truth.

501
00:22:56,520 --> 00:22:58,920
OK, we'll just clear that up.

502
00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:02,840
I'm just trying to say no, I totally get it.

503
00:23:02,840 --> 00:23:04,120
It's probably the same with that guy.

504
00:23:04,120 --> 00:23:05,440
He never had sex with anybody.

505
00:23:05,440 --> 00:23:09,280
So he was like, I'm going to make a commune and so and tell everybody that I have to have

506
00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:14,560
sex with their wives.

507
00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:19,920
So after old dude that you lived with and broke up with, I don't know how long ago that

508
00:23:19,920 --> 00:23:20,920
was or whatever.

509
00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:26,880
But have you ever created a Finsta fake Instagram account?

510
00:23:26,880 --> 00:23:32,080
No, no, because Instagram, honestly, like that was a long time ago.

511
00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:35,040
I don't think Instagram was around at that point.

512
00:23:35,040 --> 00:23:36,700
If it was, it wasn't.

513
00:23:36,700 --> 00:23:41,080
Have you ever created one, though, since anybody you've ever dated or wherever to like stalk

514
00:23:41,080 --> 00:23:42,080
them or somebody else?

515
00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:46,320
No, but I will tell you a story about this one guy.

516
00:23:46,320 --> 00:23:49,480
And it may be the same guy we're talking about, but it may not be.

517
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:58,840
So I don't know how, but me and my friend, one of my friends decided that he was doing

518
00:23:58,840 --> 00:24:02,600
something bad and we created a fake.

519
00:24:02,600 --> 00:24:04,760
I forgot what it's called.

520
00:24:04,760 --> 00:24:07,800
It's called a shoot.

521
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:12,520
It's like a porn site, but for real people, it's called it's not it's not Madison.

522
00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:14,440
It's not the Holly Madison.

523
00:24:14,440 --> 00:24:15,440
Ashley Madison.

524
00:24:15,440 --> 00:24:16,840
No, it's not Ashley Madison.

525
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:21,720
It's the other one I hang on.

526
00:24:21,720 --> 00:24:27,400
Okay, so it's called adult friend finder dot com or something like that.

527
00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:31,120
And honestly, I can't it's been so long.

528
00:24:31,120 --> 00:24:32,240
It's been like over 10 years.

529
00:24:32,240 --> 00:24:36,200
I think that this happened and I don't know how we figured out that he was on there.

530
00:24:36,200 --> 00:24:42,000
So we found out that he or I did or I don't know if we both did found out that he had

531
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:47,040
an account and one day I got on there and he was on.

532
00:24:47,040 --> 00:24:48,160
Is this your boyfriend?

533
00:24:48,160 --> 00:24:49,160
This was my boyfriend.

534
00:24:49,160 --> 00:24:50,160
Holy shit.

535
00:24:50,160 --> 00:24:51,160
Okay.

536
00:24:51,160 --> 00:24:56,000
And I get on there and I'm going to tell you I'm going to tell you the truth that you're

537
00:24:56,000 --> 00:24:57,720
going to judge me after this.

538
00:24:57,720 --> 00:24:58,720
Okay.

539
00:24:58,720 --> 00:24:59,720
Yes, you will.

540
00:24:59,720 --> 00:25:00,720
You're going to freaking judge me.

541
00:25:00,720 --> 00:25:06,280
Okay, so I got on there and I talked to him and I because I had this fake profile and

542
00:25:06,280 --> 00:25:11,480
I had like whatever picture I put on there and then we got on the webcam and he showed

543
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:18,920
himself jacking himself off and I got on there and I was like, what the hell, dude, did you

544
00:25:18,920 --> 00:25:21,120
put your face on there and you were like, sir, I don't know.

545
00:25:21,120 --> 00:25:22,840
Yeah, I'm pretty sure I was like, what the hell?

546
00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:23,840
Seriously, what are you doing?

547
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:25,560
Like, is this for real?

548
00:25:25,560 --> 00:25:29,680
And this was back when like this was not like a like it was like internet was that much

549
00:25:29,680 --> 00:25:31,400
of a thing I would judge you about?

550
00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:35,400
No, it's because I'm pretty sure we stayed together after that for a little bit.

551
00:25:35,400 --> 00:25:38,720
Yeah, I'm pretty sure.

552
00:25:38,720 --> 00:25:46,280
I'm pretty sure we stayed together after that and but you know, whatever.

553
00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,640
And I got what I got what I was served.

554
00:25:48,640 --> 00:25:51,200
Is this the same guy from Christmas accident?

555
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:52,200
Yep.

556
00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,200
Also the same guy I live with.

557
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:59,360
Oh, we had a lot of things.

558
00:25:59,360 --> 00:26:03,520
We went through a lot together, honestly, though, like and there were some other things

559
00:26:03,520 --> 00:26:06,680
that happen that you don't know about, like that kept us together.

560
00:26:06,680 --> 00:26:10,920
So lessons learned, lessons learned.

561
00:26:10,920 --> 00:26:14,440
I ended up seeing him at like a recently.

562
00:26:14,440 --> 00:26:17,680
I haven't seen him in a long time.

563
00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:18,840
I was with Rose and DJ.

564
00:26:18,840 --> 00:26:20,560
It was like this year, I think.

565
00:26:20,560 --> 00:26:22,040
I live in Birmingham.

566
00:26:22,040 --> 00:26:24,080
Yeah, I think he lives in the same house.

567
00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:25,080
I think his sister lives there.

568
00:26:25,080 --> 00:26:26,080
Maybe now.

569
00:26:26,080 --> 00:26:27,920
I don't know if she's moved out or not.

570
00:26:27,920 --> 00:26:32,240
But I saw him and he had like I didn't recognize him.

571
00:26:32,240 --> 00:26:33,240
He had a ponytail.

572
00:26:33,240 --> 00:26:34,240
Wait, a ponytail?

573
00:26:34,240 --> 00:26:35,240
Yeah, he had a ponytail.

574
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:36,240
It's like, well, maybe it was like a half.

575
00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:41,240
It was like half up half down.

576
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:44,080
OK, my dad just got his haircut.

577
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,080
Oh, yeah.

578
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:49,360
And he is so proud of his haircut, his long hair, the whole thing.

579
00:26:49,360 --> 00:26:59,360
He had not had his haircut since October of 2019 and he got it cut in October of this

580
00:26:59,360 --> 00:27:00,360
year.

581
00:27:00,360 --> 00:27:06,760
So three years he let his hair grow and he donated like I'm going to go.

582
00:27:06,760 --> 00:27:09,080
Listen, don't hold me to it.

583
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:15,560
Either 17, somewhere between 17 and 22 inches of hair to Wigs for Kids.

584
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:16,560
Wigs for Kids.

585
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:17,560
I didn't know that was the thing.

586
00:27:17,560 --> 00:27:18,920
I thought it was locks of love.

587
00:27:18,920 --> 00:27:20,880
Yes, I don't know.

588
00:27:20,880 --> 00:27:28,760
I don't know what made him make that choice, but he looks younger and handsome.

589
00:27:28,760 --> 00:27:34,360
I mean, he's always handsome, my dad, but like he looks so good with his haircut.

590
00:27:34,360 --> 00:27:37,160
It was long and scraggly before.

591
00:27:37,160 --> 00:27:38,400
I saw pictures of it.

592
00:27:38,400 --> 00:27:39,400
I didn't think it looked scraggly.

593
00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:42,560
I thought it looked like really like straight and nice.

594
00:27:42,560 --> 00:27:44,680
Well, yeah, his hair is a little curly.

595
00:27:44,680 --> 00:27:45,680
Is it?

596
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:52,760
He used to keep it in a ponytail and when it was like in the in between stage and he

597
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:53,760
wore it down.

598
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:54,760
Between stage?

599
00:27:54,760 --> 00:27:56,400
Yeah, between stage and he wore it down.

600
00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,920
We told him one time that he looked like the undertaker and he was not happy.

601
00:27:59,920 --> 00:28:01,400
Oh, poor guy.

602
00:28:01,400 --> 00:28:02,960
You got that long hair.

603
00:28:02,960 --> 00:28:03,960
He's like, yeah.

604
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:09,840
I tried to tell him before he went, he went and got his haircut by the same girl, Shelly,

605
00:28:09,840 --> 00:28:13,840
who does my stepmom's hair and my hair.

606
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:15,840
We tried to tell him, I was like, go to the mail room.

607
00:28:15,840 --> 00:28:20,080
I was like, they do like a hot towel on your face with like essential oils.

608
00:28:20,080 --> 00:28:22,880
He was like, I don't want none of that.

609
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:23,880
Oh my God.

610
00:28:23,880 --> 00:28:27,920
I want to go to the mail room and like they don't do this.

611
00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:31,240
The stuff that they do with these men barber shops.

612
00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:33,200
Yeah, they don't do it.

613
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,760
It's like they have like a bunch of women working there.

614
00:28:35,760 --> 00:28:41,000
They're like in Hooters uniforms basically and they like massage you and give you a happy

615
00:28:41,000 --> 00:28:42,000
ending essentially.

616
00:28:42,000 --> 00:28:43,120
I do not think that is correct information.

617
00:28:43,120 --> 00:28:46,320
I wish that that's how it works.

618
00:28:46,320 --> 00:28:50,960
Our place we go and we talk and I'm like, can I just go and like, can I have a man cut

619
00:28:50,960 --> 00:28:51,960
my hair?

620
00:28:51,960 --> 00:28:52,960
That's not gay.

621
00:28:52,960 --> 00:28:56,840
Do you know what I've seen on TikTok lately?

622
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:59,440
You can ask for a silent appointment.

623
00:28:59,440 --> 00:29:06,280
Like if we're like working women or moms or something like that, that just like that's

624
00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:11,360
their time away from either their job or their family or whatever they can go in and they

625
00:29:11,360 --> 00:29:16,200
can ask for a silent appointment because that is just their do they put them in a room by

626
00:29:16,200 --> 00:29:17,200
themselves?

627
00:29:17,200 --> 00:29:20,000
No, but their stylist just doesn't talk to them.

628
00:29:20,000 --> 00:29:22,000
What about the other people in the room?

629
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:26,920
Well, I mean, I hear all their conversations and then I start talking or like what if you

630
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:30,040
have a silent appointment and then you start talking?

631
00:29:30,040 --> 00:29:35,360
Well that's because neither one of us have a problem having a conversation with a stranger.

632
00:29:35,360 --> 00:29:36,360
Oh my God.

633
00:29:36,360 --> 00:29:40,560
I know, but sometimes I don't want to have conversation and then I feel bad.

634
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:44,920
And I'm like, I want to be here and be quiet and it's I'm sure they're okay with it, but

635
00:29:44,920 --> 00:29:48,520
I'm like, I feel bad not talking to them.

636
00:29:48,520 --> 00:29:52,840
That's because you're the ultimate people pleaser.

637
00:29:52,840 --> 00:29:54,720
Not really.

638
00:29:54,720 --> 00:29:56,960
When it comes to feeling bad about talking to strangers.

639
00:29:56,960 --> 00:29:58,600
Yeah, I'd call that people pleasing.

640
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:02,480
I don't feel bad about talking to strangers, but my hair stylist that does my hair every

641
00:30:02,480 --> 00:30:03,480
time.

642
00:30:03,480 --> 00:30:04,480
Yeah.

643
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:07,160
Why do you feel bad?

644
00:30:07,160 --> 00:30:08,160
Do you?

645
00:30:08,160 --> 00:30:09,520
You're paying for your time.

646
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:12,960
Would you not feel bad going to Shelly and not saying a word to her?

647
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,000
No, because me and Shelly are friends.

648
00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:16,000
Exactly.

649
00:30:16,000 --> 00:30:17,000
That I'm friends with my hair stylist.

650
00:30:17,000 --> 00:30:18,360
But I don't need that.

651
00:30:18,360 --> 00:30:21,600
If I needed that, Shelly would give it to me.

652
00:30:21,600 --> 00:30:22,600
Okay.

653
00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:28,080
That sounds like a good plan.

654
00:30:28,080 --> 00:30:30,000
I mean, it's something to think about.

655
00:30:30,000 --> 00:30:31,000
Yeah.

656
00:30:31,000 --> 00:30:33,440
Something to give our listeners to think about.

657
00:30:33,440 --> 00:30:34,440
Yeah.

658
00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:37,040
If they want, if they've never heard of a silent appointment.

659
00:30:37,040 --> 00:30:38,040
Think about it guys.

660
00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:39,600
I need silent appointments.

661
00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,320
Sometimes I need silent friend appointments.

662
00:30:42,320 --> 00:30:45,280
Be here, but don't be here.

663
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:52,280
Listen, I had the same thing that I needed this weekend after I'd been out at my parents'

664
00:30:52,280 --> 00:30:53,280
house.

665
00:30:53,280 --> 00:30:56,600
Brandon and I got back to my house and he was like, all right, you take a shower.

666
00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:57,600
Then I'll take a shower.

667
00:30:57,600 --> 00:30:59,520
Then we'll go around our errands or whatever.

668
00:30:59,520 --> 00:31:05,760
I needed to go to Home Goods and get shower bathroom stuff essentially for my guest bathroom

669
00:31:05,760 --> 00:31:09,600
because I forgot now I have two bathrooms.

670
00:31:09,600 --> 00:31:16,880
I was like, I can't go any, I need to sit down and just be quiet for a little while.

671
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:22,280
We sat down in the living room and he left me alone.

672
00:31:22,280 --> 00:31:26,960
Twenty minutes later, I was like, okay, would you like to watch a movie or something for

673
00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:27,960
right now?

674
00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:30,960
I'm still not ready to get up and get moving.

675
00:31:30,960 --> 00:31:31,960
Yeah.

676
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:35,400
I mean, that's awesome.

677
00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:40,200
I think that's great that you guys have that because in the beginning of a relationship,

678
00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:41,800
it's like, go, go, go, go, go.

679
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:47,680
Let's make everybody, let's just try to entertain the other person and let's be like, I don't

680
00:31:47,680 --> 00:31:50,960
want to lose your interest.

681
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:57,000
Sometimes it's exhausting and it's like, oh my God, you're always here and I need my alone

682
00:31:57,000 --> 00:32:00,320
time and you definitely need your alone time.

683
00:32:00,320 --> 00:32:04,240
Even though she doesn't want her alone time, she doesn't ever want to be alone.

684
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:08,600
She wants something, but she needs her alone time.

685
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:09,600
You know what I mean?

686
00:32:09,600 --> 00:32:10,720
Or silent time too.

687
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:17,160
She wants somebody to be there with your hand on her back, making sure you're there just

688
00:32:17,160 --> 00:32:21,280
in case, but don't say a word and don't do anything.

689
00:32:21,280 --> 00:32:22,280
Don't make any movements.

690
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:28,160
I mean, that was one of my favorite things about my friendship with Melanie when we were,

691
00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:33,000
we are still best friends, but when we were neighbors, when we got together, it didn't

692
00:32:33,000 --> 00:32:37,240
matter if I was at her house or she was at my house or whatever, but the majority of

693
00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:46,280
the time our routine when we spent time together was watching, playing Jeopardy.

694
00:32:46,280 --> 00:32:52,040
We would record Jeopardy and play old episodes of Jeopardy and we were terrible, but it was

695
00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:53,040
fun.

696
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,040
Don't do it out loud.

697
00:32:54,040 --> 00:32:55,040
Yes, absolutely.

698
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,120
And answer the question.

699
00:32:58,120 --> 00:33:00,680
Dumb answers count for something.

700
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:05,040
But yeah, we would play Jeopardy and then we would just sit there on our phones sometimes

701
00:33:05,040 --> 00:33:06,040
and not talk to each other.

702
00:33:06,040 --> 00:33:10,960
We would let a show or a movie or something just play and we wouldn't talk to each other,

703
00:33:10,960 --> 00:33:14,400
but we were still spending quality time together and we wanted to say something, we would say

704
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:15,400
it.

705
00:33:15,400 --> 00:33:16,400
So hold on, hold on, hold on.

706
00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:17,400
Go back to the Jeopardy thing.

707
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,400
You said dumb answers count.

708
00:33:19,400 --> 00:33:20,760
You gave points for dumb answers?

709
00:33:20,760 --> 00:33:22,720
No, no, no points for dumb answers.

710
00:33:22,720 --> 00:33:23,720
Are you sure?

711
00:33:23,720 --> 00:33:26,200
But there was no judgment for a dumb answer.

712
00:33:26,200 --> 00:33:27,200
Oh, oh, oh.

713
00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:28,200
Yeah.

714
00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:29,200
Oh, good.

715
00:33:29,200 --> 00:33:30,200
Yeah.

716
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:31,200
So that's the best way to do it.

717
00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:40,240
Like if you don't have an answer, like you should have an answer even if you don't know

718
00:33:40,240 --> 00:33:41,240
it.

719
00:33:41,240 --> 00:33:44,240
Like if you're just like, I don't know, purple.

720
00:33:44,240 --> 00:33:46,280
Like purple.

721
00:33:46,280 --> 00:33:47,280
What is purple?

722
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:48,280
Yeah.

723
00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:51,240
We didn't even make, we didn't even make each other say what is.

724
00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:52,240
See, that's good.

725
00:33:52,240 --> 00:33:53,240
Yeah.

726
00:33:53,240 --> 00:33:54,240
That's nice.

727
00:33:54,240 --> 00:33:55,240
You shout the answer.

728
00:33:55,240 --> 00:33:56,240
Because you will lose if you don't do it.

729
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:59,440
Oh, I was the biggest loser of all because Melanie is really smart.

730
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:00,880
Yeah, she is pretty smart.

731
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:03,360
And with like literature and history and stuff.

732
00:34:03,360 --> 00:34:04,360
Yes.

733
00:34:04,360 --> 00:34:05,360
Screw you Melanie.

734
00:34:05,360 --> 00:34:12,320
You're pretty and smart and like we don't, we love you, but we don't want to.

735
00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:13,320
She's going to be.

736
00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:16,680
You're hard to love because you're so smart and pretty.

737
00:34:16,680 --> 00:34:17,680
True that.

738
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:18,680
And you have cute glasses.

739
00:34:18,680 --> 00:34:19,680
The cutest glasses.

740
00:34:19,680 --> 00:34:21,720
She's going to be a guest here soon.

741
00:34:21,720 --> 00:34:22,720
Yeah.

742
00:34:22,720 --> 00:34:23,720
What day?

743
00:34:23,720 --> 00:34:24,720
Soon.

744
00:34:24,720 --> 00:34:25,720
This month maybe.

745
00:34:25,720 --> 00:34:27,720
The week before Christmas should be.

746
00:34:27,720 --> 00:34:28,720
Yeah.

747
00:34:28,720 --> 00:34:29,720
Christmas week.

748
00:34:29,720 --> 00:34:30,720
We'll see.

749
00:34:30,720 --> 00:34:31,720
Yeah.

750
00:34:31,720 --> 00:34:32,720
All right.

751
00:34:32,720 --> 00:34:38,960
So, so back to like relationships and all that stuff and like, you know, living with

752
00:34:38,960 --> 00:34:44,200
somebody and, you know, figuring out that it wasn't right for you.

753
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:49,280
What do you think some, were there any red flags for you?

754
00:34:49,280 --> 00:34:53,960
What type of relationship red flags did you have?

755
00:34:53,960 --> 00:34:59,840
I would say as far as like living with somebody, the one person that I did live with and when

756
00:34:59,840 --> 00:35:07,000
it was coming to an end, our relationship red flag was like not having meals together

757
00:35:07,000 --> 00:35:08,000
anymore.

758
00:35:08,000 --> 00:35:12,200
Like when we started doing our own separate thing for dinner, watching our own separate

759
00:35:12,200 --> 00:35:20,740
shows in separate rooms, like we became roommates instead of partners.

760
00:35:20,740 --> 00:35:21,960
So that's not a red flag.

761
00:35:21,960 --> 00:35:23,720
That's like the end of your relationship.

762
00:35:23,720 --> 00:35:28,280
So do you know of anything like that started up front that like, you know?

763
00:35:28,280 --> 00:35:29,280
Yeah.

764
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:33,160
When I found some girl's tits on his phone in the beginning, I'm still stuck around.

765
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:34,160
Oh yeah.

766
00:35:34,160 --> 00:35:35,160
100%.

767
00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:36,160
Like what else?

768
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:39,000
Like, and what about other guys?

769
00:35:39,000 --> 00:35:40,000
Any other guys?

770
00:35:40,000 --> 00:35:41,000
Like big red flags.

771
00:35:41,000 --> 00:35:42,000
Yeah.

772
00:35:42,000 --> 00:35:49,020
I would say having like a relationship and an ex that still calls you and like bitches

773
00:35:49,020 --> 00:35:51,840
at you about things that happened in your relationship.

774
00:35:51,840 --> 00:35:53,280
Why are you talking to her?

775
00:35:53,280 --> 00:35:54,280
You're dating me.

776
00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:55,280
I don't understand that.

777
00:35:55,280 --> 00:35:56,280
It doesn't make sense.

778
00:35:56,280 --> 00:36:02,240
If you're not over it, then figure it out with her.

779
00:36:02,240 --> 00:36:06,440
If you're over it, then quit answering her damn phone calls and text messages.

780
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:08,560
Well, did they have a good response for that?

781
00:36:08,560 --> 00:36:13,160
Because I feel like we have some friends that have some situation like that where they feel

782
00:36:13,160 --> 00:36:18,680
that same way, but there are relationships that may or may not.

783
00:36:18,680 --> 00:36:20,640
They made it be a little different.

784
00:36:20,640 --> 00:36:25,720
I mean, the response was basically also a red flag.

785
00:36:25,720 --> 00:36:30,560
I did her dirty and I'm just trying to be nice to her now.

786
00:36:30,560 --> 00:36:33,640
Oh yeah.

787
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:41,360
Sarah, where was I during this to tell you, hell no, H2O.

788
00:36:41,360 --> 00:36:44,280
Girl, you are no.

789
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:45,280
What?

790
00:36:45,280 --> 00:36:46,280
Yeah.

791
00:36:46,280 --> 00:36:47,280
That is bad, Sarah.

792
00:36:47,280 --> 00:36:48,640
That makes me really upset.

793
00:36:48,640 --> 00:36:51,080
But listen, I've had the same type of stuff.

794
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:54,040
Listen, I don't want to be in that relationship anymore, so I'm glad it happened.

795
00:36:54,040 --> 00:36:56,960
You're not going to be good old Brandon.

796
00:36:56,960 --> 00:37:00,400
At least it's not named Brendan.

797
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:04,880
We're just going to say his name is Brandon and not Brendan.

798
00:37:04,880 --> 00:37:06,440
Do you have any other red flags?

799
00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:08,820
I'm going to think of one.

800
00:37:08,820 --> 00:37:12,560
Maybe that they went to jail would be a red flag.

801
00:37:12,560 --> 00:37:17,400
No, excuse me, prison.

802
00:37:17,400 --> 00:37:19,000
Red flag, excuse me.

803
00:37:19,000 --> 00:37:24,920
It wasn't jail, it was prison.

804
00:37:24,920 --> 00:37:28,680
When their exes have blocked them on social media.

805
00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:29,680
Oh Lord.

806
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:35,360
Oh wait, when their ex is still living in their house and they had to move out, but

807
00:37:35,360 --> 00:37:37,880
they didn't really move out.

808
00:37:37,880 --> 00:37:40,240
They're living in the basement.

809
00:37:40,240 --> 00:37:43,240
And wait, what?

810
00:37:43,240 --> 00:37:44,240
Wait.

811
00:37:44,240 --> 00:37:46,240
It was a whole thing.

812
00:37:46,240 --> 00:37:49,240
Wait, wait, wait, wait, wait.

813
00:37:49,240 --> 00:37:50,240
Hold on.

814
00:37:50,240 --> 00:37:51,240
I'm sorry.

815
00:37:51,240 --> 00:37:52,840
Is this information that is new to me right now?

816
00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:57,920
No, it's not new, but it was technically like all the stuff was moved to the basement,

817
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:04,640
but then he was like living at, I think technically my house.

818
00:38:04,640 --> 00:38:06,640
So bad.

819
00:38:06,640 --> 00:38:10,360
That relationship was basically not quite over that.

820
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:15,520
Or like at the lake house where he, yeah, like, I don't know what the deal was, but

821
00:38:15,520 --> 00:38:17,120
yeah, who knows?

822
00:38:17,120 --> 00:38:23,960
How about if they have five different children from three different baby mamas?

823
00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:28,400
One of the baby mamas ended up, nevermind, we won't talk about that.

824
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:30,360
Yeah, that's a red flag.

825
00:38:30,360 --> 00:38:32,120
No, I'm waiting.

826
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:33,640
You want to hold the whole story?

827
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:37,920
One of the baby mamas sent me, and I won't get into it, but she sent my-

828
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:38,920
Is this the same person?

829
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:39,920
No.

830
00:38:39,920 --> 00:38:40,920
No, no, no, different person.

831
00:38:40,920 --> 00:38:41,920
Okay, that's what I thought.

832
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:42,920
No, different person.

833
00:38:42,920 --> 00:38:44,880
So I thought we were going through all the peeps.

834
00:38:44,880 --> 00:38:45,880
No, we are.

835
00:38:45,880 --> 00:38:46,880
Yeah.

836
00:38:46,880 --> 00:38:47,880
Or just like throwing them out there.

837
00:38:47,880 --> 00:38:48,880
Yeah, yeah.

838
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:52,640
So he, one guy, he was a really nice dude.

839
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:56,440
He had like all these babies from lots of baby mamas.

840
00:38:56,440 --> 00:39:04,560
And one of his baby mamas, his last recent baby mama sent me, well, so excuse me, hold

841
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:05,560
on.

842
00:39:05,560 --> 00:39:11,200
One day I get a phone call from one of my really close friends, Mariella, I love you.

843
00:39:11,200 --> 00:39:17,400
And she's like, hey, Emily, you need to check your Facebook because this girl sent me a

844
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:24,360
text or a message because she knows the girl, Mariella knows this guy that I was dating

845
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:27,640
because we hung out together.

846
00:39:27,640 --> 00:39:32,400
And she's like, you need to check your message because this girl sent me a message saying,

847
00:39:32,400 --> 00:39:35,680
hey, can you please tell Emily to check her messages on Facebook?

848
00:39:35,680 --> 00:39:37,600
Because you know how on Facebook, if you-

849
00:39:37,600 --> 00:39:38,600
You don't-

850
00:39:38,600 --> 00:39:43,480
You don't have to check my Facebook, but second, if you don't get, if you don't, aren't friends

851
00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:45,680
with the person, you get like a follow request or whatever.

852
00:39:45,680 --> 00:39:46,680
Yeah.

853
00:39:46,680 --> 00:39:47,720
And it's like, yeah, so it was way over there.

854
00:39:47,720 --> 00:39:50,200
So I can get that out and read it to you.

855
00:39:50,200 --> 00:39:53,920
It was basically telling you, me, I'm not going to read it.

856
00:39:53,920 --> 00:39:54,920
Should I read it?

857
00:39:54,920 --> 00:39:56,920
You can read it if you want.

858
00:39:56,920 --> 00:39:58,440
Okay, hold on.

859
00:39:58,440 --> 00:39:59,440
Okay.

860
00:39:59,440 --> 00:40:04,920
So she sent me this message that says, hey, exclamation point, not creeping, just wanted

861
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:07,920
to make sure we are both sleeping with.

862
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:13,760
She says no and that you were a one-time thing, but I just wanted to make sure.

863
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:20,480
I don't want to continue having a sexual relationship with him if you or any of the other women

864
00:40:20,480 --> 00:40:21,480
are as well.

865
00:40:21,480 --> 00:40:26,280
I hope you understand and don't think this is a weird message.

866
00:40:26,280 --> 00:40:29,640
It's happened before and I really don't want to fall for it again.

867
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:30,640
Thank you.

868
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:32,040
There's some things in here.

869
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:37,360
It looks like there might've been an emoji, but they were replaced with a square with

870
00:40:37,360 --> 00:40:39,200
a question mark inside.

871
00:40:39,200 --> 00:40:40,200
Oh, yeah.

872
00:40:40,200 --> 00:40:45,240
And it says, please, I can't have him break my heart again, dot, dot, dot.

873
00:40:45,240 --> 00:40:48,600
I won't say anything or that I messaged you.

874
00:40:48,600 --> 00:40:52,240
I just need to know if he's telling me the truth.

875
00:40:52,240 --> 00:40:56,800
And then she sent me another one and said, definitely meant to say, just wanted to make

876
00:40:56,800 --> 00:41:00,320
sure we both are not.

877
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:05,920
And also this was all at like, this isn't 2016, by the way.

878
00:41:05,920 --> 00:41:09,720
It was 2016, so it was six years ago.

879
00:41:09,720 --> 00:41:10,720
Oh my God.

880
00:41:10,720 --> 00:41:15,480
August 15th, 2016 at 5 0 7 a.m. and then 3 30.

881
00:41:15,480 --> 00:41:16,960
Yeah, 3 36.

882
00:41:16,960 --> 00:41:19,200
Well, she has like a hundred fucking kids.

883
00:41:19,200 --> 00:41:21,960
Are they his kids?

884
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:23,120
Some of them are two of them are.

885
00:41:23,120 --> 00:41:25,680
He is like twins with her.

886
00:41:25,680 --> 00:41:28,080
But apparently, I don't know.

887
00:41:28,080 --> 00:41:29,080
Did you reply?

888
00:41:29,080 --> 00:41:30,080
Hell no.

889
00:41:30,080 --> 00:41:31,080
I didn't even.

890
00:41:31,080 --> 00:41:33,880
Is she still in my message requests?

891
00:41:33,880 --> 00:41:35,440
Like, no, I do.

892
00:41:35,440 --> 00:41:38,760
I really liked him and I thought he was a good guy.

893
00:41:38,760 --> 00:41:40,920
But that to me is a red.

894
00:41:40,920 --> 00:41:41,920
That's a red flag.

895
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:45,400
Oh, and I immediately I told I didn't tell him that.

896
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:47,640
And I feel bad doing this now on the Internet.

897
00:41:47,640 --> 00:41:52,200
But like, I didn't tell him that that happened because I didn't want to cause drama between

898
00:41:52,200 --> 00:41:56,120
him because that's his child's mother or his children's mother.

899
00:41:56,120 --> 00:42:00,360
Like, you know, like and I just said, I just told him, hey, it's not going to work out

900
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:01,360
between us.

901
00:42:01,360 --> 00:42:02,360
Let them deal with it.

902
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:04,160
And I'm sorry.

903
00:42:04,160 --> 00:42:06,480
Why do you feel bad?

904
00:42:06,480 --> 00:42:14,240
I don't feel bad for not telling him he was messing around on his baby mama.

905
00:42:14,240 --> 00:42:17,080
He was not messing around on his baby mama.

906
00:42:17,080 --> 00:42:19,160
They were not together.

907
00:42:19,160 --> 00:42:20,160
So what do you think?

908
00:42:20,160 --> 00:42:21,760
You think I should have said something to her?

909
00:42:21,760 --> 00:42:25,440
No, I'm not saying you should have responded to her at all.

910
00:42:25,440 --> 00:42:30,880
What you said to start this, you know, whole last couple seconds of this conversation was

911
00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:35,480
you feel bad that you're saying this right now on the podcast as opposed to giving him

912
00:42:35,480 --> 00:42:37,040
any sort of explanation.

913
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:41,360
The reason that I feel bad is because he has children with this girl, this woman, and I

914
00:42:41,360 --> 00:42:44,920
don't want her their children to hear this.

915
00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:45,920
That's that.

916
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:51,160
And because I don't want their relationship to suffer like if they have a mother father

917
00:42:51,160 --> 00:42:55,440
child relationship, I don't want their children because like if you heard this from your parent

918
00:42:55,440 --> 00:42:58,320
about your parents, I can understand that.

919
00:42:58,320 --> 00:43:00,440
I mean, you don't have to say his name.

920
00:43:00,440 --> 00:43:04,720
Nobody has said any names, but like you never know because people know who I am.

921
00:43:04,720 --> 00:43:06,800
I mean, and those people know who I am.

922
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:08,200
I understand what you're saying.

923
00:43:08,200 --> 00:43:11,520
I misinterpreted what you said about the feel bad.

924
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:15,360
I thought you meant you felt bad that you were saying the reason why for the first time

925
00:43:15,360 --> 00:43:16,360
right now.

926
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:18,960
What do you mean the reason why?

927
00:43:18,960 --> 00:43:20,680
You said you didn't give him a reason.

928
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:23,080
All you said was it's not going to work out.

929
00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:27,880
I thought you meant that you felt bad because you're saying the reason for the very first

930
00:43:27,880 --> 00:43:29,040
time right now.

931
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:36,120
I mean, that's the reason, but all I told him was like it's not going to work out between

932
00:43:36,120 --> 00:43:37,120
us.

933
00:43:37,120 --> 00:43:38,960
And that's all that really mattered at that point.

934
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:42,920
And it's because I didn't want to mess up anything between him and his baby mama.

935
00:43:42,920 --> 00:43:46,240
And it's different when you have children with somebody and I don't know what their

936
00:43:46,240 --> 00:43:48,000
relationship is.

937
00:43:48,000 --> 00:43:52,000
But all I know is that I don't want to be in between all that.

938
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:53,160
I totally agree.

939
00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:56,800
And it doesn't matter if I were to get in between it.

940
00:43:56,800 --> 00:43:57,800
It doesn't matter.

941
00:43:57,800 --> 00:44:00,200
It's not going to change anything.

942
00:44:00,200 --> 00:44:04,920
Usually if I were to say something and get in a fight with them or him or her or try

943
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:07,160
to get in between it, it's just going to turn out crappy.

944
00:44:07,160 --> 00:44:08,160
It's not going to be good.

945
00:44:08,160 --> 00:44:11,400
No, I don't think you mishandled it in any capacity.

946
00:44:11,400 --> 00:44:12,400
Yeah.

947
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:16,920
I just, you know, that's what I felt like was the best situation at the time.

948
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:19,520
I think you handled it correctly.

949
00:44:19,520 --> 00:44:25,200
And he ended up actually, I think, and I don't know if I haven't seen him in a while, but

950
00:44:25,200 --> 00:44:30,480
I think he ended up dating some other girl somewhere else for a little bit.

951
00:44:30,480 --> 00:44:36,560
And then I'm pretty sure he's back with that, with his ex, the baby mama girl that sent

952
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:37,560
me the messages.

953
00:44:37,560 --> 00:44:39,600
Well, sounds like it all worked out.

954
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:40,600
Yeah.

955
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:42,560
Worked out the way I needed to.

956
00:44:42,560 --> 00:44:44,560
So I wish you guys luck.

957
00:44:44,560 --> 00:44:46,560
You're a great guy.

958
00:44:46,560 --> 00:44:48,840
No, onto the next for you.

959
00:44:48,840 --> 00:44:52,320
A, B, C, D, E, F, D. Yes, for sure.

960
00:44:52,320 --> 00:44:53,320
100%.

961
00:44:53,320 --> 00:44:56,760
Onto the next for you though.

962
00:44:56,760 --> 00:44:57,760
Onto the next.

963
00:44:57,760 --> 00:44:58,760
Yeah.

964
00:44:58,760 --> 00:44:59,760
Gotta get on that map, girl.

965
00:44:59,760 --> 00:45:00,760
Honey.

966
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:05,640
I know you don't want to put the time and effort into it and I have totally been there

967
00:45:05,640 --> 00:45:08,520
and I, I, I absolutely get it.

968
00:45:08,520 --> 00:45:09,920
Will you swipe for me?

969
00:45:09,920 --> 00:45:14,280
Like if I give you my account, will you just do it for me and like set up my dates?

970
00:45:14,280 --> 00:45:15,480
Oh my God.

971
00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:17,320
I would love it so much.

972
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:22,240
But they would probably, the thing is that they would, they would want to talk to you

973
00:45:22,240 --> 00:45:23,240
and it wouldn't be me.

974
00:45:23,240 --> 00:45:24,240
Stop it.

975
00:45:24,240 --> 00:45:28,240
And they'd be like, this isn't the right person.

976
00:45:28,240 --> 00:45:29,240
I'd be like.

977
00:45:29,240 --> 00:45:31,520
We have the same sense of humor.

978
00:45:31,520 --> 00:45:34,880
Sort of, but not really.

979
00:45:34,880 --> 00:45:40,040
We're different in certain, in a lot of ways, but we're all so similar.

980
00:45:40,040 --> 00:45:41,240
I don't know.

981
00:45:41,240 --> 00:45:43,120
We can think on it for you.

982
00:45:43,120 --> 00:45:47,000
I wish that you could hire, I could hire somebody to do that for me though.

983
00:45:47,000 --> 00:45:48,000
You probably could.

984
00:45:48,000 --> 00:45:49,000
Let's get on the good ones.

985
00:45:49,000 --> 00:45:51,880
Yeah, but it's probably expensive as hell and I'm not rich.

986
00:45:51,880 --> 00:45:54,280
So all our money is going into the podcast.

987
00:45:54,280 --> 00:45:55,280
Yeah.

988
00:45:55,280 --> 00:45:56,640
I would like to be rich.

989
00:45:56,640 --> 00:46:02,860
Please let me be rich one day or, you know, honestly, I would like to make my own money,

990
00:46:02,860 --> 00:46:07,880
but I wouldn't hate it if I had a sponsor for life.

991
00:46:07,880 --> 00:46:11,000
And by life sponsor, she means sugar daddy.

992
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:14,280
She doesn't have sex with you.

993
00:46:14,280 --> 00:46:15,280
No, I will.

994
00:46:15,280 --> 00:46:20,880
If you're, if we have sexual compatibility and it's like one of those things and we're

995
00:46:20,880 --> 00:46:25,000
like married and things like that, then yes.

996
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:30,280
Also, I would like to have a, if you're married to them.

997
00:46:30,280 --> 00:46:31,280
Yes, they are.

998
00:46:31,280 --> 00:46:33,040
No, they're still like sponsor.

999
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:36,320
If you don't have a job and like they're paying for you.

1000
00:46:36,320 --> 00:46:37,320
Yeah.

1001
00:46:37,320 --> 00:46:38,320
It's not a life sponsor.

1002
00:46:38,320 --> 00:46:39,320
You're married.

1003
00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:40,320
They're your partner.

1004
00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:41,320
It's still a sponsor.

1005
00:46:41,320 --> 00:46:42,320
No, I'm sorry.

1006
00:46:42,320 --> 00:46:48,280
But when you're married, the people will just say that it's just like literally like a person,

1007
00:46:48,280 --> 00:46:51,720
like adopting a child, same as a wife.

1008
00:46:51,720 --> 00:46:52,720
Stop it.

1009
00:46:52,720 --> 00:46:53,720
You're wild.

1010
00:46:53,720 --> 00:46:54,720
I can't with that.

1011
00:46:54,720 --> 00:46:57,720
Oh no, I'm just, I do not co-sign.

1012
00:46:57,720 --> 00:46:58,720
Oh, okay.

1013
00:46:58,720 --> 00:47:09,920
But I don't know why, why is it that like, you know, I can't like expand my circle to

1014
00:47:09,920 --> 00:47:17,960
like a better circle of like money wise, like I need my circle to go up and expand.

1015
00:47:17,960 --> 00:47:23,400
I'm so glad my circle started where it is because if you were like really poor.

1016
00:47:23,400 --> 00:47:26,400
Do you really want to be a socialite of Birmingham or something?

1017
00:47:26,400 --> 00:47:27,400
Hell yes.

1018
00:47:27,400 --> 00:47:28,400
No, God no.

1019
00:47:28,400 --> 00:47:29,400
That would be so fun.

1020
00:47:29,400 --> 00:47:30,400
Absolutely not.

1021
00:47:30,400 --> 00:47:31,400
Oh my God.

1022
00:47:31,400 --> 00:47:38,400
I feel like the socialites of Birmingham are going to like fancy dinners and then.

1023
00:47:38,400 --> 00:47:40,040
Who the hell are they anyways?

1024
00:47:40,040 --> 00:47:41,040
And then to Innisfree.

1025
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:42,040
Orlando?

1026
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:45,040
No, he's not a socialite.

1027
00:47:45,040 --> 00:47:47,400
But I love you.

1028
00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:50,920
I love Orlando too.

1029
00:47:50,920 --> 00:47:52,920
I feel like that's who you were referring to.

1030
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:55,920
Because we call them, they're like all beautiful.

1031
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:59,600
Who the hell are the socialites of Birmingham?

1032
00:47:59,600 --> 00:48:00,600
I don't even know.

1033
00:48:00,600 --> 00:48:01,600
It was just a reference.

1034
00:48:01,600 --> 00:48:02,600
I was like, are there any?

1035
00:48:02,600 --> 00:48:05,600
I don't even know who they are.

1036
00:48:05,600 --> 00:48:10,400
Like, no, you don't want to do that anyways.

1037
00:48:10,400 --> 00:48:14,960
We literally like to wear athleisure and do exactly what we're doing right now.

1038
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:20,800
Yeah, but so do the socialites.

1039
00:48:20,800 --> 00:48:23,720
They like to wear athleisure.

1040
00:48:23,720 --> 00:48:29,200
But more expensive and better quality and feels better.

1041
00:48:29,200 --> 00:48:33,680
And they probably wear a new outfit every day.

1042
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:36,680
I just did like vocal fry.

1043
00:48:36,680 --> 00:48:38,960
Have you ever done that before?

1044
00:48:38,960 --> 00:48:40,960
No, are you done?

1045
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:41,960
No.

1046
00:48:41,960 --> 00:48:42,960
Are you done?

1047
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:43,960
Yeah.

1048
00:48:43,960 --> 00:48:48,000
I'm going to keep going.

1049
00:48:48,000 --> 00:48:50,000
Vocal fry is the worst.

1050
00:48:50,000 --> 00:48:51,240
I hope I don't do it.

1051
00:48:51,240 --> 00:48:52,240
Do I do vocal fry?

1052
00:48:52,240 --> 00:48:54,240
No, you sing a lot during our episodes.

1053
00:48:54,240 --> 00:48:57,080
Oh, I'm so excited.

1054
00:48:57,080 --> 00:49:00,080
Why don't you go ahead and sing your favorite karaoke song?

1055
00:49:00,080 --> 00:49:04,680
Oh, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa.

1056
00:49:04,680 --> 00:49:06,280
All right.

1057
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:12,680
So now that we have talked about red flags, why don't you tell me what you're looking

1058
00:49:12,680 --> 00:49:14,840
for in your next relationship?

1059
00:49:14,840 --> 00:49:18,880
Do you really think that I'm looking for our next relationship?

1060
00:49:18,880 --> 00:49:19,880
Why don't you tell me?

1061
00:49:19,880 --> 00:49:21,880
Well, you've got one, but like, dang it.

1062
00:49:21,880 --> 00:49:22,880
It's on you.

1063
00:49:22,880 --> 00:49:24,100
Why does it have to be?

1064
00:49:24,100 --> 00:49:27,560
So I don't know because I'm not really looking for a next relationship.

1065
00:49:27,560 --> 00:49:28,560
I think that's okay.

1066
00:49:28,560 --> 00:49:32,240
But like if someone were to come along, what are the qualities that you're looking for

1067
00:49:32,240 --> 00:49:33,320
in a partner?

1068
00:49:33,320 --> 00:49:35,440
Somebody that's easy to get along with.

1069
00:49:35,440 --> 00:49:36,440
Easy.

1070
00:49:36,440 --> 00:49:37,440
It's easy.

1071
00:49:37,440 --> 00:49:38,440
Everything's easy.

1072
00:49:38,440 --> 00:49:39,440
I don't have to work.

1073
00:49:39,440 --> 00:49:41,120
I mean, I do want to work.

1074
00:49:41,120 --> 00:49:46,880
I mean, I know I get it that relationships are work, but like I want it to be as easy

1075
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:50,560
as possible and I don't want it to be fights all the time.

1076
00:49:50,560 --> 00:49:54,960
I don't want us to be things that you consider to be easy about a relationship.

1077
00:49:54,960 --> 00:50:00,480
I mean, like how I get along with other people, I feel like I feel like I'm easy going.

1078
00:50:00,480 --> 00:50:03,960
I probably piss people off sometimes, but like, I don't know.

1079
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:09,260
I want it to be easy, like fun, like us to get along and them to be like wanting to do

1080
00:50:09,260 --> 00:50:12,160
the same things I want to do and like us.

1081
00:50:12,160 --> 00:50:13,160
Which are?

1082
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:17,760
Oh, well, you know, like go to Dave Matthews band concerts.

1083
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,080
Just kidding.

1084
00:50:20,080 --> 00:50:22,160
That's not it.

1085
00:50:22,160 --> 00:50:25,440
Drink beer at the bar, drink wine.

1086
00:50:25,440 --> 00:50:31,000
I also like to go to, I like plants.

1087
00:50:31,000 --> 00:50:32,840
I like, I have three dogs and a cat.

1088
00:50:32,840 --> 00:50:38,600
I would prefer, I don't mind if the other person has a dog, but sometimes I look at

1089
00:50:38,600 --> 00:50:43,480
and I think about like if the other person has a big dog and you know, cricket doesn't

1090
00:50:43,480 --> 00:50:47,400
really like, but like it would be fine if they got used to each other, but I would have

1091
00:50:47,400 --> 00:50:53,760
preferred and maybe either no dogs and they want dogs or like somebody that has like a

1092
00:50:53,760 --> 00:50:54,760
small dog.

1093
00:50:54,760 --> 00:50:58,760
Maybe that doesn't, that's not a, that's not a deal breaker.

1094
00:50:58,760 --> 00:50:59,760
Yeah.

1095
00:50:59,760 --> 00:51:02,720
That's not, there's no deal breakers really at this point, except for like, there are

1096
00:51:02,720 --> 00:51:06,280
some do, honestly, at this point, there's no deal breakers.

1097
00:51:06,280 --> 00:51:10,120
There are deal breakers, or some other thing.

1098
00:51:10,120 --> 00:51:14,840
Like there's a, yeah, there's a lot of things that are deal breakers, but they're not like

1099
00:51:14,840 --> 00:51:15,840
that type of deal breaker.

1100
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:16,840
You know what I mean?

1101
00:51:16,840 --> 00:51:18,600
Like it's like a given deal breaker.

1102
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:26,560
So that, and like, I want them to understand that I work from home and although I work

1103
00:51:26,560 --> 00:51:32,020
from home, I, it's not just because I work from home does not mean that I can do things

1104
00:51:32,020 --> 00:51:33,020
for them.

1105
00:51:33,020 --> 00:51:37,920
I can like go run errands during the day and like, I actually have to do my job when I'm

1106
00:51:37,920 --> 00:51:38,920
at home.

1107
00:51:38,920 --> 00:51:42,440
Like there's a lot of people that think, oh, you work from home so you can go, you can

1108
00:51:42,440 --> 00:51:43,880
take care of my kid.

1109
00:51:43,880 --> 00:51:45,880
Like, no, I can't.

1110
00:51:45,880 --> 00:51:47,880
No, that is not a thing.

1111
00:51:47,880 --> 00:51:50,600
Like I'm sorry, I have a job and I have to do it.

1112
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:51,600
Things like that.

1113
00:51:51,600 --> 00:51:53,080
I don't know.

1114
00:51:53,080 --> 00:51:58,080
I would, I would like the person to be smart, like intelligent.

1115
00:51:58,080 --> 00:52:00,220
Hopefully.

1116
00:52:00,220 --> 00:52:02,560
Can carry a conversation with you.

1117
00:52:02,560 --> 00:52:06,920
Can have the hard conversations with you.

1118
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:10,920
Doesn't get offended when I say things that I say.

1119
00:52:10,920 --> 00:52:11,920
Non-reactive.

1120
00:52:11,920 --> 00:52:15,920
Well, they should react a little bit, but like not offended.

1121
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:17,520
Yeah, but not in a negative way.

1122
00:52:17,520 --> 00:52:19,640
Yeah, and they shouldn't like get their, I don't know.

1123
00:52:19,640 --> 00:52:20,640
Yeah.

1124
00:52:20,640 --> 00:52:27,080
Like I am sometimes I say, I say what's on my mind and I just like speak a lot and I

1125
00:52:27,080 --> 00:52:32,560
know my boss like tells me he's like, you just like have a, you're a direct communicator

1126
00:52:32,560 --> 00:52:33,560
or something like that.

1127
00:52:33,560 --> 00:52:37,000
And I'm like, Oh God, I don't know if that's good.

1128
00:52:37,000 --> 00:52:39,400
I mean, I feel like I'm a direct communicator.

1129
00:52:39,400 --> 00:52:45,200
You are like, I don't know how you are with your job, but you are 100% a direct communicator.

1130
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:48,440
You are a whoa, holy crap.

1131
00:52:48,440 --> 00:52:51,760
Like you are going to tell people what you, yeah.

1132
00:52:51,760 --> 00:52:55,960
But I think there's a way to be tactful about it and there's nothing wrong with that.

1133
00:52:55,960 --> 00:52:57,080
I agree.

1134
00:52:57,080 --> 00:53:01,880
I am like that, but I think that within my like personal life, I've tried to be better

1135
00:53:01,880 --> 00:53:07,680
about and, and with my working life, I've tried to be much better about not being a

1136
00:53:07,680 --> 00:53:12,920
unit of BITCH, I guess.

1137
00:53:12,920 --> 00:53:19,080
Anyways, guys, that's all the time that we have for today.

1138
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:21,160
Thank you so much for being here.

1139
00:53:21,160 --> 00:53:22,920
We had a great time.

1140
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:24,320
You know, you can find us anywhere.

1141
00:53:24,320 --> 00:53:28,880
You get your podcasts, you know, give us a little like and a follow.

1142
00:53:28,880 --> 00:53:36,080
You know, if you like us, if not like us anyways, you can also send us an email at thick AF

1143
00:53:36,080 --> 00:53:38,200
podcast at gmail.com.

1144
00:53:38,200 --> 00:53:44,080
You want to send us any comments or tell us what you think we should talk about any ideas,

1145
00:53:44,080 --> 00:53:47,000
suggestions, things like that.

1146
00:53:47,000 --> 00:53:48,120
Thanks again, guys.

1147
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:50,120
See you next time.

1148
00:53:50,120 --> 00:54:07,000
ABCDEFG, I have to go.