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Hello. Hi. Welcome back. How are you doing? I am well. Good. Yeah. Work's been a little

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bonkers getting ready to go out of town, but like are you taking off work too? Yeah. Yeah.

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We leave very early in the morning next Wednesday to go to New York to visit my mom. Brandon

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and I are flying and then I don't think that Thomas and Jerry, I think we just meet them

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in Syracuse, but Thomas and Jerry are coming, my sister and her boyfriend, and they'll be

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up there with us for like five days, five, six days. Nice. So you're taking off five,

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six days. I'm taking off Wednesday through Monday. We got them a rental car to take to

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the airport themselves on Tuesday because their flight doesn't leave until about 11.

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Fun. Yeah. Yeah. So what are y'all going to do while you're up there? Well, I was thinking

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about this on the way over actually that we recorded an episode about leaf peeping. Oh

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yeah. Leaf peeping. It's been a hot minute since- I know, but it's that time of year

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again. So we will be leaf peeping. We got an Airbnb for two nights, not too far away,

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but just it's on the water and we can go, you know, the six of us and hang out and,

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you know, just be out in nature and cook at home. And they've got a fire pit out there

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and I think like a canoe and maybe a little trolling motorboat or something, but it should

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be fun. Nice. Yeah. I'm trying to be a little bit of a travel girly. So I got on the Amazons

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after scrolling TikTok for a little while to find the best things that you should have

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when you travel. And so I ordered some bags for your shoes, you know, so they are dirty,

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then it won't get the rest of your stuff dirty. What brand are they? Oh, I have no idea. So

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are they like, are they just like plastic? Are they clear? What do they look like? They're

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not clear. They have patterns on them and they have like a handle. They zip down the

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middle. But I learned from you a long time ago that I need to buy things that have lots

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and lots of good reviews. So that's what I did. And then I got this other bag that like

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unzips and it has four different silicone containers in it for like shampoo, conditioner,

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face wash, body wash or whatever. And it had a cute little like oval on the front of it

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where it looks like you should be able to like put a sticker or something, but it didn't

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come with any stickers. So I just wrote on there one letter with permanent marker for

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like face wash, you know, body wash, shampoo and conditioner or whatever. I just put one

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letter on there because I didn't know what else to do. And then I got some compressible

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packing cubes. Yeah. So I can be, you know, packed responsibly. Yeah. You know, so I've

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got those two and I think that they work and I think that they're like, I'm like, oh, I'm

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so organized when I do it. But then when I get there, I'm like, why did I use these packing

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cubes? Everything's everywhere. And I'm trying to like figure out which bag it is. So what

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I did is I got like, you should probably not use duct tape though. Like one time I went

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on a trip and I was when I went to like Vegas for like a whole road trip and I was like

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moving my packing cubes between bags and things like that because we had stuff in the back

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of the trunk of the car and like just random stuff. So I got duct tape and I put like leggings

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on one bag, packing cube and then like, you know, t-shirts or whatever on the other one

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so that, you know, you can see it because most of those cubes are not like see through.

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Like I have some that have like the mesh on the front, but still I literally cannot tell

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what's inside because all my stuff is a black. So it's like, wait, I'm going to stick my

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hand in there. Is this legging material or is this dress material? I don't know. So yeah,

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no, but I have those and they, I think they, they're good. I like them and I still use

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them but, and it is nice to like be able to move your stuff around. Like if you, cause

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I do a lot of, a lot of times I'll have like a carry or something like I can put, I can

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move like this, this little packing cube out of my suitcase and put it here without like

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tearing apart my whole suitcase to try to figure out like an outfit or whatever. That's

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kind of nice. And I do have the shoe bags, but I do, I have like other things that I

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like got for free, like those Stitchix bags. I think you've seen those for the shoe bags.

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And then I also use like small Lululemon bags for shoes. And I use, I have these like, they're

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called IP bags and they're like from a hospital that I used to work at, infection prevention

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bags and we bought them for something and they gave me a bunch of samples. And so I

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had brought like 10 of them home and they're probably all bad now, but like I put my shoes

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in there. I used to put like my brushes in it because like, like a round brush. So now

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I put it in a, like a little makeup bag that you can zip up. So I put the handle sticking

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out of one end and I zip the other end so that it doesn't get all funky. And it, and

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it doesn't ruin my clothes when I put it in my suitcase. That's a good idea. Yeah. Do

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you think for 17 days you could do carry on only? Yes. I'm shocked. I would also probably

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want to bring some laundry detergent and do laundry. I hate. Well, I know. And that's,

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I think that's part of like where my head's at with this. Cause I'm going to be at my

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mom's house. I can do laundry. So I need to not overpack and I have a feeling I'm going

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to fail at that, but I'm going to try really hard. I always overpack even if I'm not like,

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if I'm, if, if you tell me that if, if I was, I don't know if I didn't come tell myself

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I need to do a carry on size suitcase only, then I would way overpack. Like I, I try to

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be a minimalist, but I'm not at heart. I am not, but I mean, kind of, I am because I wear

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all black and like, but I'm not. And I, I want to be the person that doesn't have to

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have like this and this and this to go. But then when I get there, I'm like, why don't

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I have any options? I feel like I need to pack less outfits if you will, because I am

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working while I'm there. Like I'm working three days, one week, and then four days the

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next week. So on those days, I'm not going to wear anything but leggings and a t-shirt.

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And there's not, I mean, we don't have a car while we're up there. You know, I mean, my

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parents do, but like we don't go bebopping around. I don't have that many friends that

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still live there. And if I do most of the time, they come over to my house. I know I'll

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go to my parents' house for the weekend and I'll bring like a whole suitcase full of stuff

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because, and I know I'm not going anywhere, but as far as I, like I'll go up there and

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not have any plans, I'll be like, I'm coming back tomorrow. Yeah. And if I bring an overnight

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bag with a toothbrush and like one outfit, then something's going to pop off. And I'm

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going to be there for the entire four days or something. I'm going to take off work on

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Monday and I'm going to not have any clothes. I know. And, but so then I always end up bringing

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extra stuff. And then I'm like, oh my God, I'm going to get up there. My mom's going

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to be like, you didn't bring your bathing suit. Why didn't I, I've told you your whole

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life. You always, it doesn't matter if you don't pack anything. You pack your bathing

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suit. And like, that's like legit. Like we have that conversation. Really something she

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stands by a hundred percent. Yeah. Why you always have your bathing suit, just in case

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there's a pool at the hotel and you feel like going swimming. Well, there's not a pool in

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my mother's house. My mom loves to swim. It's also going to be cold as fuck there. So that's

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true. But she would tell you to bring it anyways, just in case you're going to go do something

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else. Yeah. Also. So I have this engagement party that I have to go to and I have like,

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I'm bringing three options because I don't, I can't decide. I have this really cute jumpsuit,

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but I can't unzip it by myself. And I feel like it would be a pain in the ass. Is Brandon

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not going? He is, but I, is Jerry going? Yeah. She can't unzip you to the bathroom. I know.

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Okay. So hold on question. Okay. Why can't you unzip it by yourself? Is it because your

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arm doesn't reach? Yes. Okay. They have little things that you can get on Amazon that are

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like little zipper pull things. It's kind of like, okay. So remember my tacky? No. So,

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and I don't know, I'd have to look it up. I'm looking it up right now. They're like little

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like, or you can just tie a ribbon around it. So my Spank stress that I ordered, remember

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that it had like a really long little tiny tab thing. And you can't tell it's not hanging

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there like crazy, but so you can reach down and pull it. And it's like, so nice. You need

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it or you can reach over this way. Do what? It's got one of those little tiny zipper things

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though. So I don't even know if one of these would fit on there. They also have ones, I

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think that you can like, it's like a magnet or something that like you stick in your purse

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and it like just sticks to it and it pulls it down real quick for you. I think they have

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those too. We'll have to look later, but yeah. Yeah. I'm going to have to look into that

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because I really want to wear it, but I don't want to mess with having to go pay eight million

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dollars. Well, let's just get you out like a little tiny, what color is it? Black? Yeah.

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A little tiny black like silk tie thing that will reach, you can reach it when you pull

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around and you won't even be able to tell. They've got some that have like, oh my God,

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what if I walked around with this? What is it? A whole ass stick. Yeah. There's like

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a magnet. Does it like periscope down into so you can put it in your purse? It does go

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in half. How big is your purse going to be though? I don't know. I haven't picked it

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out yet. I don't know. Don't get that. No, but yeah, they have things you can, you can

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figure that out. That is hilarious. Yeah. I'll have to look into that. Thank you for saying

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that. Yeah, of course. Yeah. Zippers are hard. I know. Sometimes I've gotten so used to it

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because I've never had anybody that zips me up or down anymore. And so I'll be like, I'll

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like halfway zip it up and then try to put it on and then like, like contort my body.

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Yeah. There's even a bathing suit that I couldn't get to buckle by myself. And so I just put

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it on as best I could went down to the pool and waited for the first person to get there.

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Like that I knew anyways, they could buckle me in and it was Mason. Well, he would have

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been okay. He would have been happy to do it. That's so funny. Speaking of by the time

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this episode airs, it'll have been his birthday and Melanie's birthday. So happy birthday

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to Mason and Melanie. Happy birthday, Mason and Melanie. What day is Melanie's birthday?

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The 25th. Oh my God. Yeah. Mason's birthday was what? Last Friday? Or is it this? No,

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it's the Saturday. Oh, it's the 23rd. Oh, that's right. It's the same birthday as Lola.

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My wait, no hers is this is tomorrow. I don't know. It's this week. Hers is on the 22nd,

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I think. And then his, so her birthday party. So I'm not going to be here for Saturday.

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I'm going to be in, I'm not going to be here either at Lola's jumpathon birthday party.

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Are you going to jump? Um, well I asked Daniel, I was like, uh, do adults get to go to? And

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he was kind of like, look at me like you really want to do that. And I was like, how does

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he not want to do that? And he was like, I mean, I guess because he probably does it

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all the time. I don't know. Um, so maybe we'll see. I don't know. I'm sure that she will

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drag me out there with her. Be like, come on DM, come on. She doesn't call me on DM,

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but the others do anyways. Um, yeah. So we'll see. And, uh, yeah. So I went to the, uh,

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Jessie Murph concert last weekend. So I didn't know I was going, um, Santana had tickets

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and she couldn't go because, because she was going on her honeymoon the next day and she

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had been, she had told me like the weekend or two weeks before that she had these tickets,

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but I didn't realize it was like the same the next day and I didn't put two and two

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together and she was like, oh yeah, I have these concert tickets that, and I was like,

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she was like, I've got too much stuff to do. I know. I think she was trying desperately

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to go, but, but I mean like, yeah, that's a lot. Yeah. The ass cracker dawn to fly out.

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Exactly. Yeah. And I was like, yeah, she's a good thing. She didn't go, but she spent

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a lot of money on those tickets, I think. And I felt bad for them to go to waste. So

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I did not let them go to waste. I went by myself. I couldn't find anybody else to go

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with me. And I was just like, whatever. I'll go by myself anyways. And I didn't have anything

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else to do to begin with. So I'm like, okay. Um, so I go, it started at six 30 or it was

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supposed to, so they had an opener and I didn't know that, but it was at Avondale. I get there

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at six 30 ish took me like 45 minutes to find a parking spot. Not 45 minutes, like 30 minutes.

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Um, it was really packed over there, which is usually is, but it's not usually that bad.

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Even that new parking lot that they made over there. I haven't seen it yet. They, there

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was nothing in there. That's wild. So, um, anyway, so I get there and it's an interesting

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crowd. It's not like the normal Avondale crowd. What kind of music does she, oh, it's so good.

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So she, I think that people might think she's like country or something, but she is not

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country to me. She's like pop, like she is in my opinion. I think she's a mix between

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like, like a new country artist mixed with Rihanna, Amy Winehouse and Adele. Oh wow.

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And she talented voice. Yes. Very good. She's tiny. She's like, oh really? She's like four

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or five or something like that. She's like a tiny, she's like, she's a tiny little girl.

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Yeah. Um, so, and I had never really, I'd heard some of her music, um, but I didn't

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realize it was her. Santana told me that I've heard it before, but I went out and looked

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for it, but I didn't know what that Cowboys and Angel song. That's like, um, not off the

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top of my head. Cowboys and Angels. I can't do it. I can't, I don't know. Um, I'll let

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you listen to some later. That song and that later, there's a bunch of stuff. She's got

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a bunch of stuff. Um, so anyways, they had a guy, the opener, Henry Varis, I think is

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his name. Yeah. So Henry Varis and I'm sitting there and I'm listening to this opener and

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he, he's not, he doesn't have all the bells and whistles like she does and like all the

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smoke and mirrors and blah, blah, blah. And like the, he's just like singing and he's

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a good singer or whatever. And I'm like chilling cause I don't know who he is either. And I

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go and I sit on, you know, like across from the bar, like, like outside where you go into

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the, go to the bathroom in the inside where you can't go when there's a concert, like

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unless you buy the VIP tickets or whatever, there's like a little wall where they normally

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have food trucks over there. I was sitting on the little brick wall and these people

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came and sat next to me and I'm by myself. Oh, well, hold on. Let me back up. Let me

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back up a second. Okay. So I'm sitting there and I've got this other ticket and I think

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there were like $150 tickets like, or something crazy. I mean, maybe they weren't a hundred

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bucks. Yeah. And so I am like, I have this ticket on my phone and I hate that, but there

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was like not anybody standing outside when I walked in to give it to you. So I was just

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like, whatever. Well, then I see this lady standing outside of the gate. She is all dressed

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up in her like white cowboy boots and her like fringy outfit. She's an older lady. Like

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she's smoking a cigarette and she looks so cute. And I was like, I wonder if she doesn't

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have a ticket. Cause she's standing out there. I was like, I think you might be able to smoke

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in here. I'm not sure. Cause it's outside. It's like an outside venue. I don't know if

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you can smoke in there or not, but surely she didn't walk all the way over there to

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smoke a cigarette and she's just standing there. She's probably just needs a ticket.

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So I went over to her and honestly she could have been lying to me and sold it herself.

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But I walked over to her and I was like, Hey, I was like, do you have a ticket or like,

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are you just, are you just out here smoking or do you need a ticket? And she's like, Oh,

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I don't have a ticket. I'm just going to stand out here. And I was like, Oh my God, I have

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this extra ticket. Can I give it to you? Like I'll give it to you. What's your email? I

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got it from her, her email address and everything. I sent it to her and she got to come in. So

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I know I felt good even if she did sell it. You were exactly at least. So like, I feel

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a little bit better that that ticket didn't go to waste. Yeah. You know. Um, and I told

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Santana, I was like, I gave your ticket to somebody. So hopefully she doesn't feel like

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her tickets went to waste either. But anyway, so now fast forward, I'm sitting on the wall

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and this man and this lady, this couple comes sit next to me and they're like older than

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us. Um, and the guy kind of has an accent, like a Northern accent. And he's like, Oh,

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everybody here is so nice and saying all this stuff and blah. He was like, this is such

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a nice venue. And I was like, yeah. And he was like, uh, have you been here before? I

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was like, yeah. I was like, I live here. I come here all the time. And I was like, well,

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where are you from? Cause obviously they're not from here if they haven't been to Avondale

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before. Like, you know, and, um, or if they don't, you know, they don't know about it.

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And they were like, Oh, we're from Chicago. We're his parents. And he's on the stage saying

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for Henry's and I was like, Oh my God, really? I was like, that's so crazy. And so I talked

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to, they were so nice. They were the nicest people. And I told him, I was like, look,

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you should because apparently he got on like Tik TOK or whatever. He was on Instagram and

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did his music and he has some stuff out there. And she reached out to him and was like, Hey,

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I really like your music. Do you want to tour with me? And so they're following him around

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like on the whole tour. He was like, I'm going to go to like 11 of them and she's going to

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his, the mom is going to go to like eight or something. We have to go taking off work

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to go and they're driving everywhere. It's so sweet. I thought it was so cool. I was

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like, y'all are awesome. They were up there like dancing. Yes. I loved it so much. Like

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I'm getting kind of chills right now. Cause I'm like, you know, and I told him, I was

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like, that's really, I was like, you should be really proud that you have us at like your

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son. I'm sure you're really proud. Yeah. They were like, thank you so much for saying that.

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Cause I was like, you should be super proud because not a lot of he's like 18 or 19. Oh

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wow. Yeah. Not a lot of people get to that experience. You know, that's so awesome. Yeah,

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I know. So yeah, they were super nice. So, and I, I didn't get the man's name, but I

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believe the mom's name she told me was Rita. And so, Hey Rita and, and her hubby, y'all

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are so nice. And I hope you, um, I hope you enjoyed Birmingham. They did. They said they

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went and got some donuts or something and they were like, everybody here. Oh yeah. They were

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like, everybody here is so nice. So nice. And I was like, really? And they were like,

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they were like, cause we're from Chicago. They were like, nobody beeps their horn at

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you at all. It was like everyone in Chicago was like laying on their horn all the time.

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I was like, yeah, well I was like, if somebody honks your horn here, their horn at you here,

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you like know you, you're like, Oh, what did I do wrong? Like I did something wrong. I

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said really bad probably. And they just said that, you know, everybody's nice and blah,

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blah, blah, all that stuff. So, well that was good. Yeah, that was fun. What'd you,

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what else, what did you do over the weekend? Um, yes, I, so I went, I met Brandon and his

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family, um, at his niece's little cheerleading. They were cheering for the little boys football

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or whatever. Yes. So I went to Calera the, they hadn't a way game. So they played in

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Calera and by the way, there is no cell phone service there whatsoever where we went in

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the stadium and there was not enough people there to cause a problem. It was ridiculous.

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And who was doing this? Brandon's nieces. Okay. We're cheering for like little boys

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football. And let me just tell you, those coaches are intense for the football coaches

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or cheerleaders, the football coaches, the football coaches. Yeah. These are like five

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and six year old little boys. And these men are like, get on the line. I mean, it was

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crazy. I was like, I just, I mean, I don't, I played sports even as a kid, but like, I

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don't remember my dad like, and he did coach for me and Jerry softball, but I just don't

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ever remember him like really, you know, getting in our ass like that. We're also girls. So

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probably he didn't, but it was hysterical. The girls were so cute and their little uniforms.

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And so it ended up the bottom fell out. I curled my hair and everything. I was so pissed.

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So it starts sprinkling. I'm like, I'm walking to the car to get an umbrella. So Brandon

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and I go to the car to get an umbrella. It's progressively getting worse as we're walking

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into the car. And so I get my umbrella. It's not a very big umbrella. I got it for $4 at

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the unclaimed baggage store and come to find out it also has a hole in it. Well, that's

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what you get. And how did you, did you drive the unclaimed baggage or did you like order

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to buy it online or something? Oh no, this was years ago. Okay. It was like, like before

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2016, I have you ever used it? Yeah. But I don't think it's a hole in the rain. You know

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what I mean? And so we sat in the rain. I mean, I was soaking wet. Everybody was wet.

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It was crazy. So we were going to go get some dinner afterwards. All of us. And cause they

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played in the rain and you stayed. Yes. I would have been like, I'm gonna send a car.

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Listen, I did for a little while and we, me, Brandon and his aunt did for a little while.

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And finally it kind of led up for a bit and that didn't last long. It lasted long enough

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for us to get to seats, but it was, I mean, comical. So we're going to this Mexican restaurant

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afterwards soaking wet. Yes. I'm just picturing it. Oh, I know. And what'd your hair look

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like at this point? Oh, my curls were like just, it was this regular girl. Yeah. Well,

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that's still cute. Mine would have looked like a wet dog. No, it was not wet dog, thankfully.

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And I had on like a skirt and a white, like cotton linen button down shirt that was completely

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see-through. Thank God I didn't wear that. I usually wear like this white lace unlined

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bra underneath it. Thank God I didn't. And I had like a tan bra on that had like a little

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bit of a lining. Otherwise you would have seen my nipples straight through my shirt

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at a children's game. All right. Emily Radachowski, Kelsky, Kelsky, whatever her last name is.

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Ratatouille. Brandon and I have to drive separate to the restaurant and home. Why? Cause he

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came from work. Oh, gotcha. And so I can't get, my phone is not working and I'm trying

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to get this address from Brandon. And so I'm like, I'm just going to have to follow you.

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Like I can't get this. I can't get, I don't have any service. Like I can't do this by

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myself. So I just have to follow you. So we go to like leave the stadium parking lot or

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whatever. There's a car coming and this dude doesn't even stop at the stop sign and just

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pulls out. I'm like, that defeats the whole entire purpose of me following you. Like what?

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It's raining. It's dark outside. What are you doing? Wait, so Brandon pulled out? Yes.

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And so I couldn't follow him. You couldn't follow him. Why? Because there was one car

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like it. Yeah. I mean it was pouring rain and it was dark outside. So it was hard. You

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didn't know which car was which. So thankfully, no I didn't. So thankfully my GPS was started

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talking to me. Nothing visually came up. So I was just hoping when that bitch said turn,

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I was turning at the right place. So after we go to this Mexican place and of course

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it just takes everybody forever to like gather there. And so, you know, I ate all the chips

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all same case so that my heart desired. So I brought like my most of my meal home. Like

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I had two bites of stuff or no, it wasn't home from that. Actually we had Mexican again

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on fricking Sunday. Didn't we after the pool? This is the good story that I was going to

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tell you. So I got a to go box from Sunday night. Which store are we on? Are we on the

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cheerleading one? No. Okay. This is Sunday after the pool. Yes. That was Brandon left

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me and I had to get there by myself. Okay. Saturday. But then Sunday we went to Mexican

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with some neighbors after the pool and I brought dinner home and they put it in one of those

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like environmentally friendly containers that, you know, it's kind of like papery or whatever.

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Yeah. I'm talking about like those cheapy boxes or whatever. Like I understand that

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they're good for the environment, but like they're not great to go boxes. So I guess

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it was yesterday. Yeah. It was yesterday. Um, I ate part of it on Monday for lunch. So

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then I went to go eat the rest of it yesterday for lunch and it's missing. I had meetings

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all morning. Brandon was meal prepping stuff in there or whatever. And so I just assumed

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that it got like, I don't know, moved to a different spot than where it was. So I'm looking

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and looking and looking and looking for this food to eat for lunch. Cause I had like one

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hour to eat lunch. So I didn't want to cook anything. So I can't find it. I don't know

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what I did, but I went to go put something in the trash. He threw my Mexican away. Why?

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I thought he ate it at first. He threw that bitch away. Why would he do that? I was so

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mad. Would you not have been mad? I would have been pissed. Why would he do that though?

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So I text him and I said, what happened to my Mexican? I think this was before I found

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it in the trash. And then I said, he never answered me. And I said, nevermind. I found

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it. Why did you throw it away? He said, the box was leaking. I said, so put a plate under

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it. Yeah. What the hell? Put it in a new container. We have 7,000 Tupperwares now that you started

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moving your shit into my house. What the fuck? Put it in something else. Put a plate under

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it. I don't understand what's happening. So he owes you Mexican food. Well, that was at

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like one o'clock and that's all the time I had. So then I got done with a meeting about

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2.30 and checked my phone and he had sent me a text said, your lunch is outside. He

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had ordered Mexican food. Chips, like two bags of chips. Did he get you something you

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wanted though? Yeah. It was steak fajita quesadilla, which I love. So it was perfect. But I was

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dying laughing. I know. He felt so bad. He knew I was bad. I feel like anybody that I

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have ever dated or they probably would not have done that. So you have a good one. Oh,

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for sure. Yeah. Or he just is like, I don't want to hear the wrath of Sarah when I get

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home because of my quesadilla. Well, I thought I handled it pretty well though, because like

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in my text, I was like, next time, please at least communicate with me. You can put

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a plate under it. Please just don't throw my food away. Because I am the one who's home.

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Right. Yeah. Late here lately, I can't do shit during the day. I can barely have time

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to eat. So when I do, I don't want to have to cook anything. Right. And it's expensive

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when you... Oh yeah. Well, and then he was like, you can have a BLT. And I went and looked

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at it. There were two pieces of bacon left. There was no bread. I had a BLC with cheese

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on a fricking wrap. And that's all I had at first. And then I was still starving. And

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I was like, I guess I'm gonna have some soup out of a can. That's what I ate yesterday.

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Yeah. I didn't, I haven't had any food. I had to go. I went to Chick-fil-A today. I didn't

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eat breakfast because I was like, I don't really have anything to eat. And I'll just

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like later go. I didn't have any meetings on my calendar today until about 10 30. And

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then I got like 15 meetings put on my calendar for the day. And I was like, seriously? And

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I thought most of them were going to be like 30 minute meetings. No, no, they weren't.

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They were more than an hour. And if they were an hour, they were over an hour. Okay. So

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at like 10 30, then my computer is like doing it's like updates for the third time in the

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past week, like work week days. Well, no, it's not the computer. It's the, the company pushing

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out updates on the VPN or whatever. And so it's like your computer requires a restart.

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And so, and it's like going to force the restart in an hour or whatever. Yeah. And I'm like,

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I couldn't push it out anymore. And so I'm like, are you fricking kidding me? So I was

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just like, let me just close everything out, restart it. I'm going to Chick-fil-A. It was

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like 10 30, 10 45 11. So I went to Chick-fil-A. I got Allison some soup cause she's got COVID

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and I got myself a chicken sandwich meal with a diet lemonade, tall and light ice. Have

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you tried their new pimento cheese? No, I was going to order it, but then I was like,

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you know what? I'm probably not going to like it like the OG set, but Jessica said that

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she tasted it and she and Dale got one and they liked it. I'm about to text Brandon and

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tell him I want that tomorrow for lunch. Yeah. I mean that, that sounds good. Um, it does,

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it looks good. I just, I don't know. It's, it's different for it's kind of like, it sounds

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to me more like a something that they would have it like a Hardee's because I feel like

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Hardee's has always has like very risque sandwiches. Yeah. Yes. Risque. They're like, we're coming

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out with this new sandwich and it's kind of like, we're going to have a sexy commercial.

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It's like the McRib or something. And she's, it's going to be like Kim Kardashian eating

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the burger. Yes. Really sexy. Dripping barbecue sauce down her boobies. Yes. Yeah. So, so

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yeah, but no, I haven't tasted it yet, but if you get it tomorrow, let me know how it

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is. Cause I don't need to be doing Chick-fil-A twice in a week, but um, if it is good, I

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might get it like Friday or something, you know? Yeah. I think I want it without the

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honey on it. No, that's like the best part. I think that they, I know you need to do it.

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Don't do it without the honey. What is wrong with you? I don't know. Cause I kind of want

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it. It's very light. Talk to Jessica first before you order it because I don't think

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it's a lot of honey and talk to Dale too. Cause he said they both had it. I'll consult the

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cordels and Jessica doesn't like Chick-fil-A and she said she liked it. She doesn't like

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Chick-fil-A. I know. Isn't that crazy? I didn't know you didn't know that. She's been talking

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to, she told, she was like, yeah, I don't even like Chick-fil-A and I liked it. You

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want to know what she does like? What? Wendy's. Really? I like Wendy's too, but like I like

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Chick-fil-A forever. I like their Frosties. I like to dip my French fries in it. And I

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don't know what else I like to eat from Wendy's. I'm pretty sure Jessica is the one who taught

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me how to eat French fries with ranch dressing from Wendy's. Oh, their ranch is not good

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though. It's not, but that's where I learned how to have ranch dressing. Fast food restaurants

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need to start having good ranch. Hell yeah. Like homemade. Yeah. I don't know what their

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deal is. These like ranches and the things that taste like hidden Valley, hidden Valley

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ranch, unless it's the packet that they made with buttermilk. I will eat no, nothing with

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my fries or I would rather have like honey mustard. I don't eat ketchup. Do you eat ketchup?

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Not really. I like ketchup. I don't like ketchup with my fries. I don't either. I don't get

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ketchup on a burger. That's disgusting. I do. But if it got to have mayonnaise and ketchup

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and onion as well and cheese, cheese for sure. No, I ain't lettuce, pickles, mayonnaise and

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cheese. That sounds good too, but I'm not a really big like pickles on my burger person.

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I want extra, extra, extra pickles. I like pickle on the side. No extra, extra, extra

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pickle. And then it's like Popeyes has that Mardi Gras mustard. That's like spicy mustard

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and that shit is delicious. I never had that. Yeah. It's good. It's real good. All right.

365
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Speaking of some food and I have some FMKs. So we'll do a couple of these. Okay. So your

366
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choices are going to be popcorn, whiskey and David Beckham. Okay. So, okay. These are,

367
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so I'm fuck, marry and kill David Beckham, popcorn and whiskey. Yes. Killing popcorn.

368
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Marrying whiskey and fucking David Beckham. 100% agree. Yeah. Why? Well, like-

369
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Could not agree more. And I don't know. I kind of have some sort of explanation behind

370
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that. David Beckham, isn't he already married to Posh Spice? Yeah, for sure. Victoria. And

371
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I like her and I would never do that to her. I mean, even though he's loaded and like really

372
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hot, but you know, he's not going to like me. Just bang it out one time, call it a day.

373
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Right. Also, like whiskey is always going to be there for me. Hell yeah. And whiskey,

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what did they say? What's that song? Nevermind. I don't know. But one of those songs that they

375
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say about whiskey. You want to do another one? Yeah. Okay. French fries, brandy and

376
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Channing Tatum. Okay. Well, we're going to kill the brandy, fuck the French fries and

377
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marry Channing Tatum. Oh my God. Channing Tatum, I love him because he's like cute and

378
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funny and he's kind of like, I think he might be smart, but he acts dumb and I like that

379
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about people. Yeah, I agree. And he probably isn't that smart, but I think he might be

380
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because he is where he is. And he's like, he kind of is like all American boy. All American

381
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stripper. Yes, exactly. But also he's funny and he's like in all these, I don't know.

382
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I just like that. And then what was the other one that we said? Brandy. That's disgusting.

383
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I don't even like brandy. So kill that. But I will say that I did when I went to my senior

384
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trip. I might fuck Channing Tatum and marry French fries. Really? No, depends on the French

385
00:33:53,460 --> 00:33:59,460
fries. Oh, for sure. Yeah. But so brandy, I took a wait, are we talking about brandy

386
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the drink or brandy the singer? No, the drink. Okay, just remember it's food, alcohol, men.

387
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Yeah. So brand, my senior trip in 2006, that was a long time ago, almost 20 years ago.

388
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So 2006, we went to Cancun for my senior trip for high school. Yeah, it is wild. And you

389
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can bring back, so every day you get and get like a handle of liquor. And so the girls

390
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that were staying in my room, we all, every day that we stay there, we were there, I don't

391
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know how long we were there. We each got to get one to take home with us. And we put it

392
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in our bag to take home and you could take it through customs. And I, for some reason,

393
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got freaking brandy because I think it was like the one that got there that was like

394
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offered to us. I don't know. And so I had a thing of brandy. I know it's so gross. I

395
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may have had two of them because I remember going through customs and being like so scared.

396
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We drank, I don't remember, I'm sure I did. It was, I was in college and probably, and

397
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I wasn't of age. Yeah. I hate to incriminate myself. I played the fifth, but you already

398
00:35:10,460 --> 00:35:15,820
incriminate yourself. So does it matter now? All right. I'll do one last one. Cause I think

399
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this is a good one. Pizza, beer, and Zac Efron. Kill Zac Efron. I totally agree. Except for

400
00:35:25,020 --> 00:35:31,220
he did, he's got this thing and I cannot make myself watch it. I've tried. I know what you're

401
00:35:31,220 --> 00:35:33,300
talking about. He's got the new thing. It's like a travel thing or something. And it kind

402
00:35:33,300 --> 00:35:38,140
of looks like it might be cool. Yeah. But I just can't get over. I don't know. He's,

403
00:35:38,140 --> 00:35:43,140
I don't know. Yeah. Brandon tried to watch it too and I couldn't get into it. Yeah. And

404
00:35:43,140 --> 00:35:48,980
he's hot and everything. Yeah. Like whatever, but sorry. And what were the other two? I

405
00:35:48,980 --> 00:35:56,020
just beer and pizza. Oh, fuck the pizza and marry the beer. Opposite for me. Marry the

406
00:35:56,020 --> 00:36:01,340
pizza. Fuck the beer. Depends on the beer though. And the pizza, if it's cheese pizza,

407
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I don't know. I think I'm still sticking with my stuff though. That was funny though. Wasn't

408
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it? It was. I like that. So today we are going to talk about decision fatigue, decision fatigue.

409
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Have you ever had some decision fatigue? Yeah. Same. I know. So earlier today I was like,

410
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what if we do, what if we talk about decision fatigue? And Sarah's like, Oh my God, I think

411
00:36:25,060 --> 00:36:28,740
I have that. What is that? I think I need this. We need to talk about this. And I'm

412
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like, yes, you probably do. I do 100%. And I've had this forever. And I think Steve jobs

413
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agrees with all people and that decision fatigue is real. And let me just tell you what it

414
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is. Decision fatigue is apparent. Like I said, it's a phenomenon. It's not like as opposed

415
00:36:51,940 --> 00:36:57,220
to like a medical condition, it's not a medical condition. It's not like a disease. It's not

416
00:36:57,220 --> 00:37:03,940
like something like a thing. It's just, it's a phenomenon. It just happens. It's a situation

417
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where the more decisions a person makes over the course of a day, the more physically, mentally,

418
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and emotionally depleted they become. A person experiencing decision fatigue struggles with

419
00:37:17,140 --> 00:37:23,300
executive functioning, which I think is very interesting. And this can have a bunch of

420
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different types of consequences and things like that, including like impaired judgment.

421
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And so basically they're saying that the more decisions you have to make throughout the day,

422
00:37:35,300 --> 00:37:39,780
you wake up, you have to make a decision on whether or not you're going to hit snooze.

423
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Like that's a decision. There's so many decisions. Decision, do I take my dogs out first or do I get

424
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in the shower first? Do I go pee first before I take the dogs out? I'm like, I'm putting my

425
00:37:51,620 --> 00:37:55,540
own mask on first. I'm going to pee first if I got to really go. But then I'm like, my dogs are

426
00:37:55,540 --> 00:38:00,420
freaking out at me. So that's a decision. I mean, like literally everything you do is a decision.

427
00:38:00,420 --> 00:38:05,780
Yeah. I don't think that we really think about it like that. And I certainly didn't based on,

428
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but I do like what you said to me earlier, which was Steve Jobs, like the thing that he did, at

429
00:38:12,100 --> 00:38:18,020
least part of what he did anyways, to avoid that was his quote unquote uniform for work, which was

430
00:38:18,020 --> 00:38:23,140
a black turtleneck jeans and sneaks. Like he didn't have to make a decision about that. And

431
00:38:23,140 --> 00:38:27,940
I don't think that we, when we think about decisions, I think that we think that somebody

432
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is putting like options in front of us, like at work verbally, you know, that sort of thing.

433
00:38:33,700 --> 00:38:38,420
And we don't think like you just said about snoozing your alarm as that as a decision.

434
00:38:38,420 --> 00:38:42,420
Yeah. And it absolutely is. What are you going to have for lunch? That's a decision.

435
00:38:42,420 --> 00:38:47,380
And I feel like I wear the same clothes to work because it's less of a decision for me.

436
00:38:47,380 --> 00:38:50,980
Well, and that's, I tried to be like Steve Jobs for like a couple of years,

437
00:38:50,980 --> 00:38:58,020
actually for like a year. So I literally got rid of all of my clothes, except for one type of pants

438
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and like these black tank top things. And I was going to wear like black, like pants, dress pants,

439
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black tank top, and a cardigan. I was like, I can wear this. It's like a capsule. I can wear it in

440
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the winter. I can wear it in the summer. Yeah. And I was like, gonna do that. And then

441
00:39:15,380 --> 00:39:22,260
and then life happened. And I realized that that's not me, but I do. I mean, I still do the all black,

442
00:39:22,260 --> 00:39:27,380
which is still kind of helpful with the decision thing, because I know that people are always like,

443
00:39:27,380 --> 00:39:31,380
well, what are you going to wear? I'm like, well, I'm wearing a black dress. I'm wearing a black

444
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something. I ask her that all the time. And for just like, I can't remember that she's allergic

445
00:39:36,340 --> 00:39:41,620
to damn agave. I just feel like I'm going to get a different answer other than a black dress.

446
00:39:41,620 --> 00:39:45,780
Well, but though, but even though I am going to wear like a black dress, I need to know what the

447
00:39:45,780 --> 00:39:49,460
type of black dress I'm going to wear or what type of black outfit I'm going to wear. Like,

448
00:39:49,460 --> 00:39:53,620
are we dressing up? Like I always ask, I'm like, well, what are you wearing? Because I, and I know

449
00:39:53,620 --> 00:39:59,860
I'm going to wear like the same thing. I'm know I'm going to wear pretty much the same thing

450
00:39:59,860 --> 00:40:05,140
because I have everything black essentially, but I need to know the genre of black. Right. So that's

451
00:40:05,140 --> 00:40:10,580
still a decision, but I do, I do kind of wish I liked the Steve Jobs thing. I think his is a

452
00:40:10,580 --> 00:40:15,860
little extreme for like situations for like me, cause he was like an entrepreneur, also a

453
00:40:15,860 --> 00:40:22,180
bajillionaire at one, at some point. So he can wear whatever he wants and get away with it. I can't,

454
00:40:22,980 --> 00:40:28,820
you know, I can't go to work with jeans, like light colored jeans, a black turtleneck and white

455
00:40:30,180 --> 00:40:35,060
sneakers. I think it would stress me out to wear the same thing every day. It would stress you out.

456
00:40:35,060 --> 00:40:43,380
Why though? Because I would feel like people would think I'm like dirty or poor and I'm wearing the

457
00:40:43,380 --> 00:40:48,020
same outfit and like not taking a bath. Is that what y'all think about me? No, no, no. Well then,

458
00:40:48,020 --> 00:40:51,460
see, that's what I've always thought. I was like, people are going to think that, cause they've seen

459
00:40:51,460 --> 00:40:56,100
me in the same outfit, cause I wear it all the time, but it's literally like not the same thing.

460
00:40:56,100 --> 00:41:00,500
Right. But, and so you know what, who cares about what other people are thinking? I know, I know.

461
00:41:00,500 --> 00:41:06,100
That's, but then also you think about, so I went to Catholic school when I was younger and we had

462
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to wear uniforms. Oh yeah. And I think about that and I, I didn't like it then, but I didn't really

463
00:41:11,860 --> 00:41:20,740
understand. Right. I love the uniform idea so much, like have a bunch of things, like the same outfit.

464
00:41:20,740 --> 00:41:26,260
You're completely correct. It takes any decision-making out of the game. It also,

465
00:41:26,260 --> 00:41:30,180
I think would probably be helpful for children and parents because they don't have to worry

466
00:41:30,180 --> 00:41:34,820
about it. They just have to put the clean one on. Exactly. And then no kids are making fun of them

467
00:41:34,820 --> 00:41:39,700
for whatever they're wearing at school, you know, or your child is not going out looking like an

468
00:41:39,700 --> 00:41:44,820
asshole and all mismatched. Right. And even if it's so, listen, even if it's not necessarily

469
00:41:45,860 --> 00:41:51,940
like super clean, like maybe you wore it one day and it wasn't that dirty, you can still put it

470
00:41:51,940 --> 00:41:56,180
back on and nobody knows the difference. Cause it's not the same, it's not the same shirt you

471
00:41:56,180 --> 00:42:00,980
wore twice in a row, but that's supposed to be different, you know? Yeah. That's so true. Just

472
00:42:00,980 --> 00:42:09,220
saying. Like, I mean, it's truth. Like I, I am, man, I hate to say it. And I think that people

473
00:42:09,220 --> 00:42:16,260
should be able to express their whatever, their, you know, fashion, fashionista. What do you say?

474
00:42:16,260 --> 00:42:22,260
Your express your, yourself, express yourself with your outfit. Cool. But seriously, can't you just

475
00:42:22,260 --> 00:42:29,380
use your personality to express yourself? Well, I mean, I don't know if I agree with that necessarily.

476
00:42:29,380 --> 00:42:38,260
I mean, it is self-expression and I think that some people may need that in order to feel more

477
00:42:38,260 --> 00:42:46,820
comfortable in, in maybe in their own body, their own mind, whatever. Um, but, and maybe they don't

478
00:42:46,820 --> 00:42:53,700
have a personality. Well, but also not everybody has the same means to get 100% clothing and things

479
00:42:53,700 --> 00:42:59,140
like that. And so that kind of like, it helps even the, the playing field and people don't get picked

480
00:42:59,140 --> 00:43:03,540
on and things. I mean, they'll still get picked on for other things, but like at that point, it's

481
00:43:03,540 --> 00:43:09,220
like the way the interwebs is then you're weird. I'm just kidding. Oh my God. I'm embracing the

482
00:43:09,220 --> 00:43:13,700
weird. I'm being weird Barbie Barbie for Halloween and I can't fricking wait. Well, that's clothing

483
00:43:13,700 --> 00:43:19,380
though. So, but like if you had to wear a uniform for Halloween and everybody had to wear the same

484
00:43:19,380 --> 00:43:25,220
thing, they could only make fun of you for your personality. That would be the most boring Halloween

485
00:43:25,220 --> 00:43:29,300
ever. It would be awesome. Can you fucking imagine? What if we all dressed up as the same thing for

486
00:43:29,300 --> 00:43:34,900
Halloween? That'd be really funny. No, it would be terrible. Why? It'd be hilarious. It would not

487
00:43:34,900 --> 00:43:41,220
be as hilarious as I've seen on some of these TikToks where like these people go on like couple

488
00:43:41,220 --> 00:43:45,620
strips and they've got like six couples there or whatever. And the girls all buy the husbands,

489
00:43:45,620 --> 00:43:49,300
like the same shirt, but don't tell everybody. And then they make them show up at dinner.

490
00:43:50,260 --> 00:43:56,740
Have you seen, did you see Santana Snapchat of Aaron? She and Aaron are on their honeymoon right

491
00:43:56,740 --> 00:44:02,820
now and they were at dinner. They met two other couples and Aaron and the two dudes were sitting

492
00:44:02,820 --> 00:44:07,220
next to each other and they were all matching and she was like, this wasn't planned. And I was like,

493
00:44:07,220 --> 00:44:11,380
oh my God, that's hilarious. She was like, yeah, they just showed up and they all have the same color

494
00:44:11,380 --> 00:44:20,020
on. But I like the, I think that's funny, but I like the girls like buying, cause they're like

495
00:44:20,020 --> 00:44:25,220
ridiculous Hawaiian shirts and shit like that, but they're all the same and none of them know

496
00:44:25,220 --> 00:44:29,460
that they're all wearing the same shirt. So like the first one that comes out and sees, you know,

497
00:44:29,460 --> 00:44:35,700
that one guy already has it. It's like kind of funny, but then when everybody else, yeah. Then

498
00:44:35,700 --> 00:44:42,100
when everybody else are like, oh, we got got. And it's like, they'll be like, oh, thanks. You don't,

499
00:44:42,100 --> 00:44:47,620
I wonder if they don't want to admit that, oh yeah, my, my wife bought me this or whatever.

500
00:44:47,620 --> 00:44:51,460
They want to be like, yeah, yeah, man, would you get shirt, Tom Bahama or something like that.

501
00:44:52,260 --> 00:44:56,820
Then like everybody else shows up and you're like, oh yeah, okay. This is weird.

502
00:44:59,220 --> 00:45:04,580
Oh, I love it though. That is funny. So decision fatigue. Let's get back to some of these,

503
00:45:04,580 --> 00:45:11,380
these decision fatigue things. Yeah. Oh well, yes. So why do you think decision fatigue happens?

504
00:45:12,740 --> 00:45:19,860
I mean, I, are you, do you have an explanation? Yes, I do. But I'm just curious if you. Yeah.

505
00:45:19,860 --> 00:45:25,620
I mean, I think it happens because our brains can only take so much during the day and,

506
00:45:25,620 --> 00:45:32,340
you know, with work and I mean, just everything in your real life anyways, like it's exhausting

507
00:45:32,340 --> 00:45:37,860
to have to think so much about things. Agreed. So that's, that's one of the things.

508
00:45:37,860 --> 00:45:43,300
So you like, you make a lot of decisions every day and then like, if your decisions

509
00:45:43,860 --> 00:45:50,420
impact other people, that's another like. Oh, different layer to it. Yes. Because that means

510
00:45:50,420 --> 00:45:56,420
that like, oh, it's going to be more stressful. Right. Or you're in the midst of a difficult

511
00:45:56,420 --> 00:46:05,380
life situation. So like, you have to do something for like a funeral. Yeah. Like, or like potentially

512
00:46:05,380 --> 00:46:10,260
a wedding. Right. Like that's not necessarily difficult. That's difficult, I wouldn't say as

513
00:46:10,260 --> 00:46:17,140
the word. It's, it's stressful. Yeah. Can be stressful. I mean, it is. And I'll say this much,

514
00:46:17,140 --> 00:46:22,500
like since you referenced like the wedding or whatever, I finally got a list of places

515
00:46:22,500 --> 00:46:28,020
from my travel agent and I sent them to Brandon and you know, Jerry and I looked at them and

516
00:46:28,020 --> 00:46:34,420
everything and I sent Brandon, this is, you know, what I rank, you know, one through whatever.

517
00:46:34,420 --> 00:46:39,780
And we had to get rid of a couple of them because they were adults only. And these are the places.

518
00:46:39,780 --> 00:46:47,060
Yes. And who are their children coming? Yes. Like his nieces. I have a cousin with a kid and

519
00:46:47,060 --> 00:46:53,380
I don't care, they can come. But also you, if you think about it, like little kid parts of like a

520
00:46:53,380 --> 00:46:59,700
resort, like if they have a slide or something, an adult's going to use it. Are they? We did when we

521
00:46:59,700 --> 00:47:07,060
were at the Phoenix in Orange Beach one time. Oh yeah. We went down the slide a lot. It also had a

522
00:47:07,060 --> 00:47:14,100
lazy river. We went in it a lot. So I wouldn't call that a children's portion. No, but that if

523
00:47:14,100 --> 00:47:19,300
there are children in the lazy river, I'm not getting in it because they're peeing all over it.

524
00:47:19,300 --> 00:47:29,060
It's disgusting. But needless to say, like I picked my top two or whatever, or then I just sent my

525
00:47:29,060 --> 00:47:33,860
ranking to my travel agent and then Brandon did his today and he picked something that was like

526
00:47:33,860 --> 00:47:39,220
fourth down on my list. So it stressed me out a little bit because I was like, really? Like you're

527
00:47:39,220 --> 00:47:45,540
really going to pick the one that's fourth down on the list or whatever? And I was like, do I tell

528
00:47:45,540 --> 00:47:49,700
her? Do I not tell her? I can't cheat him out of that. That's not fair. No, don't do that. No, and

529
00:47:49,700 --> 00:47:53,940
I didn't. I sent it to her immediately and was like, this is the one that he likes the most or

530
00:47:53,940 --> 00:48:00,180
whatever. But I mean, that like is stressful still because like he and I are on the same page. But

531
00:48:00,180 --> 00:48:06,660
it's only stressful because you want your way and you don't want him to have his way, but you also

532
00:48:06,660 --> 00:48:12,740
want him to be happy. Yeah, absolutely. But you're definitely wanting your way. 100%. I mean, who

533
00:48:12,740 --> 00:48:16,260
doesn't want their own way? And so then are you going to go have to like have a conversation with

534
00:48:16,260 --> 00:48:21,700
him about why yours is better? Is that why you're stressed? Well, no. I mean, she's going to price

535
00:48:21,700 --> 00:48:27,060
all three of them for us. Okay. So I mean, it's just going to come down to the more information

536
00:48:27,060 --> 00:48:36,420
we get and whatever pricing looks like. I mean, if his turns out to be the most expensive agent,

537
00:48:36,420 --> 00:48:42,980
and it's not my number one. Did he tell you why he liked it? Yeah, he did. And did did it help sway

538
00:48:42,980 --> 00:48:49,220
you? I think that he did have relevant points. I don't remember exactly what he said. And they

539
00:48:49,220 --> 00:48:54,820
were valid points. And I understand that. But I think I think he and I, and we haven't had like

540
00:48:54,820 --> 00:49:00,020
a face to face conversation about any of this yet. Like what, what are the things that make you

541
00:49:00,020 --> 00:49:09,140
desire whatever resort or and for me, it's more what is the, what are the pools look like? What

542
00:49:09,140 --> 00:49:14,020
restaurants do they have? And because I don't really care about the room that much. We're,

543
00:49:14,020 --> 00:49:21,380
you're not going to be in there that much. Oh, I do. I mean, I think that was, I don't, I don't know.

544
00:49:21,380 --> 00:49:25,940
I do. I want it to be disgusting. Absolutely. Right. Exactly. Like, but like, none of those

545
00:49:25,940 --> 00:49:33,220
places are going to be gross. I mean, you're in there to sleep. Like I, I want it to have a nice pool,

546
00:49:33,220 --> 00:49:38,980
good restaurants and a great beach, you know, situation. And I don't, I think he said something

547
00:49:38,980 --> 00:49:43,700
about like good pools, but then he said, I think his had like a bathtub or something. He's like,

548
00:49:43,700 --> 00:49:49,700
I want to walk around naked in the room and take a bath. No, I don't give a shit. When do you ever take a bath? He doesn't.

549
00:49:50,340 --> 00:49:55,140
Yeah, like no, no, they always have these bathtubs that have like the overlook over the like

550
00:49:55,140 --> 00:50:00,180
whatever you can like, and open the window. And I'm like, the curtains will be closed while I'm

551
00:50:00,180 --> 00:50:07,220
taking a bath. Like, because there are people walking by and no, but like also, I mean, we did.

552
00:50:07,220 --> 00:50:12,580
So when I went to Cancun, I'm thinking about Cancun because I think that's may have been,

553
00:50:13,780 --> 00:50:18,260
it hasn't been the last time I went to an all-inclusive place, but it's the first time I

554
00:50:18,260 --> 00:50:25,300
went to an all-inclusive place. And I do remember we had bath, we had like hot tubs in our rooms and it

555
00:50:25,300 --> 00:50:31,220
wasn't a hot tub, hot tub, but it was like a Jacuzzi. Yeah. I guess is what you would call it. And

556
00:50:32,100 --> 00:50:36,420
I remember we all got in the Jacuzzi one night. Like everybody was in the Jacuzzi's like

557
00:50:37,620 --> 00:50:41,300
in the rooms, not in my room, but like in some people's, some other people's rooms.

558
00:50:41,300 --> 00:50:48,820
We also did like absinthe and stuff like that too. So like, I don't know. That's probably why

559
00:50:48,820 --> 00:50:55,300
we were in the bathtub and we were 18. So, but like now I'm like, Ooh, the bathtub, I don't know,

560
00:50:55,860 --> 00:51:01,300
like cool. It might be nice for you guys because it's like a honeymoon ish too. Yeah. Like that

561
00:51:01,300 --> 00:51:06,180
would be cool to like hang out in the bathtub together if. Yeah. I mean, I think at this point,

562
00:51:06,180 --> 00:51:10,900
like we need to go sit down together, go back through the three places and really talk about

563
00:51:10,900 --> 00:51:14,980
really talk about like what's important to each of us at each place or whatever. And then, you know,

564
00:51:14,980 --> 00:51:19,540
we'll figure it out. I mean, I'm, if his ends up being the place, it's the place and that is what

565
00:51:19,540 --> 00:51:25,300
it is. And I'm fine with that. I want an, I want a report afterwards when you find out, because we

566
00:51:25,300 --> 00:51:34,500
need to know if Sarah got declined. It's going to be sad. She's going to be like, guys, it came back

567
00:51:34,500 --> 00:51:39,780
and Brandon Brandon's place got picked. She's going to be all sad, but it was cheaper and

568
00:51:39,780 --> 00:51:43,780
something, something, something is probably going to be, it's either going to be like way more

569
00:51:43,780 --> 00:51:49,220
expensive or way cheaper. Well, and I did, I've actually stayed at that prop branded property

570
00:51:49,220 --> 00:51:55,700
before in Cancun. It's not that same exact property, but I have stayed at, uh, uh, right.

571
00:51:55,700 --> 00:52:02,740
It's similar. Yeah. Gotcha. So, but no, I mean, back to, yeah, back to the, back to the physician,

572
00:52:02,740 --> 00:52:09,540
physician to fatigue, physician, to teague, decision fatigue is what I mean. Um,

573
00:52:09,540 --> 00:52:17,220
um, so I was saying that these are the things that, why it happens and you're a face with

574
00:52:17,220 --> 00:52:23,220
uncertainty as another one. So like, maybe like COVID's happening and like, you're not really

575
00:52:23,220 --> 00:52:29,380
sure what's going on or something. And you know, stuff like that. And then maybe you have

576
00:52:29,380 --> 00:52:35,220
perfectionist tendencies and you know, if you're, everything is your standard is perfection, which

577
00:52:35,220 --> 00:52:42,500
both of us have that I have let go of a lot of that recently, but you have it 100% for a lot of

578
00:52:42,500 --> 00:52:46,260
things. I feel like, don't you think? I mean, I'm not trying, it's not, I don't think it's a bad

579
00:52:46,260 --> 00:52:51,140
thing. I think it's a great thing. Well, I mean, I've taken into account the previous conversation

580
00:52:51,140 --> 00:52:55,940
that we had about 80, 20 and things like that. So I'm definitely trying to be better, but yeah,

581
00:52:55,940 --> 00:53:03,140
I mean, it, and it comes down to like, you know, when, when do I reply to this email? That's a

582
00:53:03,140 --> 00:53:09,220
decision. You know, how do I reply to this email? That's another decision. I mean, every, every

583
00:53:09,220 --> 00:53:14,260
single day is full of decisions. What is coming out of our mouths right now is a decision. 100%.

584
00:53:14,980 --> 00:53:22,260
But then it's like, what I decide depends on what happens next. So I'm like, if I decide not to

585
00:53:22,260 --> 00:53:26,980
respond to this email, is my boss going to be pissed off at me for not doing it in two seconds?

586
00:53:26,980 --> 00:53:32,340
And so then you have that whole other stressor on top of you of what's going to happen if I don't do

587
00:53:32,340 --> 00:53:37,780
this kind of thing. Or if I do, you know, that's, and so that's, you know, the perfectionist thing,

588
00:53:37,780 --> 00:53:45,700
I think comes down. It's like, it's another stressor. So, you know, so there are signs that

589
00:53:45,700 --> 00:53:54,180
you have decision fatigue. And I think that we, I have it for sure. I get it a lot. Oh, 100%. I mean,

590
00:53:54,180 --> 00:54:00,820
when you just like cannot emotionally take anything anymore, like, and you just don't want

591
00:54:00,820 --> 00:54:07,700
to have to do anything like even down to, you know, turning a show on the TV and not really

592
00:54:07,700 --> 00:54:12,980
feeling like you can even pay attention to it. Oh my God. Yes. That are mindless watches for you

593
00:54:12,980 --> 00:54:18,180
because. Or like you can't decide on what to watch because there's so many to choose. It's like going

594
00:54:18,180 --> 00:54:24,500
to eat at Cheesecake Factory. Oh yeah. Their menu is 40 pages long. Like, no, I have the one thing

595
00:54:24,500 --> 00:54:29,620
that I even know. I don't even know. I've been getting the same thing since college because

596
00:54:29,620 --> 00:54:34,260
my friend Cassie, I was like, this menu is so big. I don't know. She was like, you need to get the

597
00:54:34,260 --> 00:54:40,580
macaroni and cheese balls. And like we, it's an appetizer that, or I think I get like, I've gotten

598
00:54:40,580 --> 00:54:44,500
like the bang bang shrimp. I don't know if she can say it factory though, but I do like when it

599
00:54:44,500 --> 00:54:50,420
comes down to stuff like that, like I will go look at a menu ahead of time if I possibly can to help

600
00:54:50,420 --> 00:54:54,500
me make a decision already and not have to. Yeah, but you're still having to make a decision.

601
00:54:54,500 --> 00:54:59,700
I know I'm not saying it's avoiding making a decision. I'm saying it's avoiding more of like

602
00:54:59,700 --> 00:55:06,020
immediate rush decision or whatever. Cause like when we go to supper club or whatever, I want to

603
00:55:06,020 --> 00:55:09,460
sit there and talk to everybody. I don't want to have to worry about something. So if I come prepared

604
00:55:09,460 --> 00:55:15,540
then I'm good to go. Well, but that I do that too sometimes if I have time, but that will also add

605
00:55:15,540 --> 00:55:21,140
to your decision fatigue. And so this is all, and I just want all my friends to know that this is

606
00:55:21,140 --> 00:55:27,140
another reason that I, there are other reasons, but this is one of the reasons that I ask the server

607
00:55:27,700 --> 00:55:32,740
what their favorite thing is. Okay. Because I don't want to make the decision.

608
00:55:33,780 --> 00:55:38,900
Like, and that, so if it sounds remotely good to you, whatever they say, normally I look and I have

609
00:55:38,900 --> 00:55:43,940
a couple of things in mind that I would probably normally go to, but usually I'll be like, what do

610
00:55:43,940 --> 00:55:49,300
you like? Because they know they eat there every day usually. Yeah. And if they start saying, and

611
00:55:49,300 --> 00:55:54,820
you can tell when somebody's like, well, if they don't have conviction, I'm a vegetarian or I'm this

612
00:55:54,820 --> 00:56:02,020
or I, I would not. And I'll be like, okay, I'm not going to get that because, or I'm not trusting

613
00:56:02,020 --> 00:56:07,620
that person necessarily because maybe they haven't had these other things because like I, just little

614
00:56:07,620 --> 00:56:13,140
things. Like I just, you can tell if, if you should trust that person or not. Oh, like at the place

615
00:56:13,140 --> 00:56:16,580
we went last time for supper club, you should not have trusted him. You probably shouldn't even have

616
00:56:16,580 --> 00:56:25,140
asked him. Oh, wait. Oh, from the, yeah. No, no, no, but his, that one was good. Whatever he said.

617
00:56:25,140 --> 00:56:28,500
I was like, what's your favorite thing? I got that too. I got that and I got, I don't know,

618
00:56:29,300 --> 00:56:33,860
but there was also, it was confusing on how you did stuff. And I was like, too much decision,

619
00:56:33,860 --> 00:56:39,300
literally decision fatigue on this menu. And the menu was literally a placemat size front and back.

620
00:56:39,300 --> 00:56:44,740
That was it. Yeah. It was tiny, but it was like, you had to like choose your type of taco. You had

621
00:56:44,740 --> 00:56:48,260
to choose your type of meat. You had to choose all the different things to put on your stuff.

622
00:56:48,260 --> 00:56:53,140
And I'm just like, can somebody just do this for me? Like I'll just eat it as long as it's good.

623
00:56:53,780 --> 00:56:59,300
You know, that's what I want. And like I, so I have literally sat down to dinner before and I've

624
00:56:59,300 --> 00:57:05,380
been like, I can't decide. I can't, and you know, I used to think I use, and I do get pissed off

625
00:57:05,380 --> 00:57:09,940
sometimes because like when I was a child, I remember my mom would like order my food for me

626
00:57:09,940 --> 00:57:16,260
all the time. And I think about it and I'm like, I used to get really like in my head, like why is

627
00:57:16,260 --> 00:57:20,980
she ordering? Like what if that's not what I want kind of thing? I mean, obviously it was like what

628
00:57:20,980 --> 00:57:25,860
I wanted, but she did that for me for a very long time. Still, sometimes I look at her like,

629
00:57:25,860 --> 00:57:32,580
what should I get? And I feel like that is kind of rolled over into, but also I don't know if it's

630
00:57:33,300 --> 00:57:38,420
that from a childhood or if it's me just being like, I don't want to make a decision because I've

631
00:57:38,420 --> 00:57:41,940
made too many decisions today. And this is my way of getting out of that by asking her. Exactly.

632
00:57:41,940 --> 00:57:46,580
Because you know, she's going to give you an opinion. Oh, one on that. Yes. She's like you

633
00:57:46,580 --> 00:57:51,460
and her with the food, you're like, and like, that's why I'm always like, okay, what are you

634
00:57:51,460 --> 00:57:56,660
going to get? Like, or like if, cause I wouldn't, there are certain people that you just go to for

635
00:57:56,660 --> 00:58:02,420
certain things and food is one thing that my mom normally is like, yeah, you should get that. And

636
00:58:02,420 --> 00:58:06,340
I'm like, okay. Um, or, but sometimes she'll be like, you should get whatever you want. And I'm

637
00:58:06,340 --> 00:58:12,180
like, no, I don't want you to tell me that I'm like, I know I can get whatever I want, but I want you

638
00:58:12,180 --> 00:58:18,260
to tell me what you think I should get. Um, that kind of thing. So anyway, so signs that you have

639
00:58:18,260 --> 00:58:24,180
this is like that you have decision fatigue would be like procrastination or decision avoidance.

640
00:58:24,180 --> 00:58:32,180
So you can like purposefully forget to go to the vet or forget your vet appointment or something

641
00:58:32,180 --> 00:58:39,460
so that you don't have to like, decide to have the surgery for your cat or something, you know

642
00:58:39,460 --> 00:58:43,700
what I mean? Or you might be procrastinating without not, without even realizing it. Like

643
00:58:43,700 --> 00:58:48,340
I'm trying to think of a time where I've done this, where it's like, okay, I'm going to push

644
00:58:48,340 --> 00:58:58,020
this off so I don't have to make a decision. Um, which happens a lot, I think. Yeah, for sure. Um,

645
00:58:58,020 --> 00:59:06,100
um, impulsive, impulsive, impulsivity, impulsivity. I was going to say impulsive is a D

646
00:59:07,380 --> 00:59:15,220
impulsivity. If you've been doing it, which makes complete sense. Yes. If you have been stressed

647
00:59:15,220 --> 00:59:19,780
out about making all kinds of decisions, that one, the straw that breaks the camel's back,

648
00:59:19,780 --> 00:59:25,140
you could just be impulsive about whatever it is and make a potentially terrible. Yeah. You can be

649
00:59:25,140 --> 00:59:28,820
like, Oh my God, I can't make another decision. I'm just going to go to McDonald's real quick and

650
00:59:28,820 --> 00:59:34,900
eat this like Big Mac. And which is so good. Probably sometimes they're good. Sometimes they're

651
00:59:34,900 --> 00:59:42,660
stale depends. Um, what spending too much money online would be an impulse thing. Yeah. Or like,

652
00:59:42,660 --> 00:59:47,220
so I have actually gone, gotten to the point sometimes where I'm like searching for somebody's

653
00:59:47,220 --> 00:59:51,700
like Christmas present, birthday present. And I'm like, I've been searching for a month and I'm just

654
00:59:51,700 --> 01:00:00,260
like, Oh my God, Emily, stop going over and over and over just by something. And I do that. And

655
01:00:00,260 --> 01:00:04,660
then I'm like, Oh my God, that was kind of impulsive. I did the same thing. Yeah. And,

656
01:00:04,660 --> 01:00:12,260
but it wasn't necessarily good giver. So like that decision making is like very stressful. Yeah.

657
01:00:12,260 --> 01:00:20,260
100%. Yeah. Yeah. Yes. For sure. Um, exhaustion. You can do it because you're exhausted. Like

658
01:00:20,260 --> 01:00:27,300
this is, see it is exhausting and emotionally taxed. And I can't talk today. I think that's

659
01:00:27,300 --> 01:00:36,020
the line. Emotionally taxing. Um, you know, I think I have that stressing about what color

660
01:00:36,020 --> 01:00:44,820
my nails are going to be next. This is a long pause on purpose because I'm looking at Sarah like

661
01:00:45,620 --> 01:00:49,460
seriously, I've been on the Google's already trying to figure it out. Why? Because you need

662
01:00:49,460 --> 01:00:53,460
to have the pretty picture with that pretty ring. Let me see that ring again. Let me see.

663
01:00:54,180 --> 01:01:03,300
Blank. Blank. Why would you get it if you don't want people to say it? Blank. Blank. Okay. So

664
01:01:03,300 --> 01:01:12,100
another sign is that you have like brain fog. Um, are you having trouble? Fent the talking?

665
01:01:12,100 --> 01:01:16,260
Are you having trouble? Fatigue. How about what's coming out of your mouth?

666
01:01:16,260 --> 01:01:23,060
Yes. Seriously. We need some outtakes. Yeah. Have you, has your train of thought left your

667
01:01:23,940 --> 01:01:30,420
brain? Just your, have your penguins jumped off the iceberg. Like all of them are gone and there's

668
01:01:30,420 --> 01:01:36,340
all kinds of room for penguins because everybody left because you're too crazy. Oh man. Um,

669
01:01:36,340 --> 01:01:40,100
we talked about the penguins on the iceberg, didn't we? No, we haven't talked about the penguins on the

670
01:01:40,100 --> 01:01:44,820
iceberg. Oh Lord. We're going to put that on the, for the next episode. Hold on. No, talk about it

671
01:01:44,820 --> 01:01:49,060
now. You already mentioned it. Nope. Too much. Too much. It's penguins on the iceberg. We'll do it.

672
01:01:50,820 --> 01:01:57,380
Um, can we talk about how to avoid decision fatigue? Well, we can. Yes. How do you want

673
01:01:57,380 --> 01:02:02,420
to avoid it? Do you want to talk about the rest of the signs first? Oh sure. Irritability of being

674
01:02:02,420 --> 01:02:09,700
overwhelmed, regret and dissatisfaction. I have a list for something. I can't even read what's on

675
01:02:09,700 --> 01:02:15,300
the computer. I just know what she's trying to say. Me either. I haven't had a drink of wine in a very long time

676
01:02:15,300 --> 01:02:22,100
and I've had like almost a whole bottle. Like I think I have like two glasses left and I am a little

677
01:02:22,100 --> 01:02:27,300
tipsy. We had wine when we recorded last week. I know, but it didn't drink that much. No, you didn't.

678
01:02:28,580 --> 01:02:33,620
I didn't know you had more than that before I got here. I had like one glass, but I've been filling

679
01:02:33,620 --> 01:02:38,900
them up tall. It looks like I've only had two or three glasses. But yeah, anyways. Okay. So, and

680
01:02:38,900 --> 01:02:46,420
physical discomfort. So anyways, basically tension headaches, stress, being tired when you go to bed.

681
01:02:46,420 --> 01:02:51,300
Everything that I literally have, feeling overwhelmed. Oh my God. These are you and me. Yes. I

682
01:02:51,300 --> 01:02:56,740
constantly agree. Like we could just like mix all of our issues together and put them right here and

683
01:02:56,740 --> 01:03:03,380
it would be called decision fatigue. I agree. I think the overwhelmed is you sometimes. Yeah. Not

684
01:03:03,380 --> 01:03:09,380
always though. Sometimes you're like, oh, I'm good. And I get overwhelmed a lot, but I feel like if you

685
01:03:09,380 --> 01:03:15,460
get overwhelmed, you're like, it's not good. It's like, it's like, I'm overwhelmed. You cry. I do.

686
01:03:15,460 --> 01:03:21,300
Yeah. Okay. So tell me, tell me how do we prevent it? Is that you said prevent it, right? How to

687
01:03:21,300 --> 01:03:27,060
avoid it. Oh, avoid it. Yeah. Or plan daily decisions the night before, which there's only

688
01:03:27,060 --> 01:03:31,860
so many of those. That's still making decisions. Yeah. I mean, there's only so many things that you

689
01:03:31,860 --> 01:03:39,620
can do. Your outfit. Your outfit, planning your lunch, planning your lunch hour maybe and planning,

690
01:03:39,620 --> 01:03:45,940
you know, and I do this and I've talked about it before, but blocking off time during the day for

691
01:03:45,940 --> 01:03:50,260
designated tasks. So I make sure that those get done. And then I don't have to make a decision

692
01:03:50,260 --> 01:03:56,740
about what I'm doing in that moment because I already have a calendar reminder, you know,

693
01:03:56,740 --> 01:04:01,780
out there. I try to do that too, but then people are like, oh no, we need to have a meeting during

694
01:04:01,780 --> 01:04:06,820
that time. And I'm like, well, I have something I can't be like, so I have recently had this

695
01:04:06,820 --> 01:04:10,900
situation where somebody's like, we need to have a meeting during that time. And I have like

696
01:04:10,900 --> 01:04:17,140
something else planned for that time. And I'm like, I cannot change this. I'm not changing this

697
01:04:17,140 --> 01:04:22,900
because you need to meet at this time. We need to like, I, I do this all the time. I changed my

698
01:04:22,900 --> 01:04:30,660
schedule for everybody else. And then I'm overwhelmed and I need it to be, and I, I need it to not be

699
01:04:30,660 --> 01:04:34,260
that way. Well, yeah. And it's one of those things where it goes back to what is that saying?

700
01:04:34,260 --> 01:04:40,260
A lack of planning on your part doesn't constitute an emergency on mine. Exactly. Yeah. 100%. There

701
01:04:40,260 --> 01:04:45,460
was a guy that we used to work with us who was the best and I wish he came back. His name was Josh

702
01:04:45,460 --> 01:04:56,180
and he had that stuck on his cubicle at work. And yes, that is the best 100%. So what else?

703
01:04:56,180 --> 01:05:02,740
Do the most important things first, which I mean, you and I have been through this when we talked

704
01:05:02,740 --> 01:05:07,940
about. Procrastination. Yeah. Productive procrastination because sometimes the most

705
01:05:07,940 --> 01:05:14,100
important tasks are the most tedious and. Well, what do you do when everything's the most important?

706
01:05:14,100 --> 01:05:19,220
Yeah. I mean, that's fair as well. That happens to me a lot because I work in healthcare. Yeah.

707
01:05:19,220 --> 01:05:27,380
It's like, which person do you want to die today? It's not, that's not, that's not really, but you

708
01:05:27,380 --> 01:05:34,740
know what I mean? Stop making decisions and start making commitments. How do you do that? How does

709
01:05:34,740 --> 01:05:42,660
that help? How does that happen? Okay. Go to the next one. The next one is if you have to, if you

710
01:05:42,660 --> 01:05:47,940
have to make good decisions later in the day, then eat something. I mean, I'm not going to say that

711
01:05:47,940 --> 01:05:54,100
later in the day, then eat something first. Yeah. So you're not hangry, right? Yeah. Is that what

712
01:05:54,100 --> 01:06:00,100
they're, I mean, I'm just assuming that's why. Just feeding, you're feeding your brain and

713
01:06:01,140 --> 01:06:08,580
giving yourself more willpower essentially. Yeah. I mean, so do you think that there's a difference

714
01:06:08,580 --> 01:06:17,300
between decision fatigue and indecisiveness? Yeah. I think for my personal opinion is indecisiveness

715
01:06:17,300 --> 01:06:23,620
is laziness. You don't want to have to deal with it. And so you just let it live. But so when you

716
01:06:23,620 --> 01:06:30,100
were to think about somebody else, so watching me or because I do this a lot and I'll be like

717
01:06:30,100 --> 01:06:36,260
indecisive on things, especially like food and stuff. Do you think that, and maybe it's decision

718
01:06:36,260 --> 01:06:41,860
fatigue, but on from the outside, does it look like I'm lazy because I'm being indecisive? No.

719
01:06:41,860 --> 01:06:47,700
And the only reason why I can say that for you is because I know that you do your due diligence on

720
01:06:47,700 --> 01:06:55,060
things based on other areas of our friendship, including like equipment buying for this podcast.

721
01:06:55,780 --> 01:07:00,980
I let you take as much time as you needed and didn't rush you because I knew that you were

722
01:07:00,980 --> 01:07:05,700
doing the research and you were going to make sure that we got the thing that was going to work best

723
01:07:05,700 --> 01:07:13,700
for us. So no, I think if I didn't know you, maybe, but I do know you. And I know. Yeah.

724
01:07:13,700 --> 01:07:18,980
That's why I have like, and normally, but that's something that people need to think about is don't

725
01:07:18,980 --> 01:07:23,700
look at other people think that if you think that because they're being indecisive that they're

726
01:07:23,700 --> 01:07:29,140
lazy or, I don't know. When I think of somebody being indecisive, I don't necessarily think lazy.

727
01:07:29,140 --> 01:07:35,700
I think it's more like, um, some this, this article over here saying that people have like low

728
01:07:35,700 --> 01:07:41,620
self-confidence. I don't think I have low self-confidence. Sometimes I, I, you know what?

729
01:07:41,620 --> 01:07:47,700
That's true. So low self-confidence. Sometimes I do, if I don't have like the research in that,

730
01:07:47,700 --> 01:07:56,820
I, I can put that back into the food thing. I'll be, I don't have self-confidence in a new place

731
01:07:56,820 --> 01:08:02,020
because I haven't had the food yet, but normally it's just because I can't make a decision. It's

732
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because it might be a mix. It might be a mix of the two. Yeah. I've just been like, I don't,

733
01:08:08,420 --> 01:08:14,100
well, I honestly don't care what I eat. So the last one is simplify and basically saying if,

734
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you know, whatever it is, is not necessarily important to you, then eliminate it from your

735
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life. So you could be doing something still consistently that like choosing clothes.

736
01:08:28,820 --> 01:08:34,420
So stop, stop, eliminate choosing clothes every day and wearing a uniform while you see jobs.

737
01:08:34,420 --> 01:08:37,780
I mean, I would say that, but I mean, it could even come down to like,

738
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for example, for us supper club, there are certain people that don't go to supper club anymore and

739
01:08:46,020 --> 01:08:50,500
then they don't go because it's not important to them. And so they've eliminated it from their

740
01:08:50,500 --> 01:08:57,540
life. That's, I mean, that's how I see it. Yeah. Other things have become more important.

741
01:08:57,540 --> 01:09:00,980
And it may not necessarily be important. I don't mean that in a negative way at all.

742
01:09:00,980 --> 01:09:07,140
Like we, as human beings, they have prioritized other things. Yes. They have to like babies and

743
01:09:07,940 --> 01:09:14,580
marriages, whatever. Yeah, absolutely. And so I mean that they have taken that decision out of

744
01:09:14,580 --> 01:09:18,980
their life. They're just, they're not going. That is the decision now. It's not whether or not,

745
01:09:18,980 --> 01:09:26,020
should I go, should I not go, you know, once a month, you know, it's, I, yeah. What? Oh, nothing.

746
01:09:26,020 --> 01:09:34,660
Oh, nothing. I mean, it's the truth though, that the decision has been made. They're not going.

747
01:09:34,660 --> 01:09:40,500
Right, right. Exactly. And if that's, you know, what they needed to do for themselves, then

748
01:09:40,500 --> 01:09:46,420
completely understand it. Right. Exactly. I mean, life happens and you got to do what's best for you.

749
01:09:46,420 --> 01:09:50,660
Yeah. But just make sure that the decision isn't going to bite you in the butt later.

750
01:09:54,180 --> 01:10:00,020
But that's, that's my thing. And I think that's another reason for my decision fatigue is because

751
01:10:00,020 --> 01:10:06,740
I'm like, if I make this decision today to not do this. So for instance, if I were to say, okay, so

752
01:10:06,740 --> 01:10:13,380
say you invited me somewhere last week, the week before, and I was like, I've got something else.

753
01:10:13,380 --> 01:10:18,420
I can't go, I can't go. People stop inviting you. But if you keep saying no, a hundred thousand,

754
01:10:18,420 --> 01:10:23,060
which I don't think necessarily is the best way to go. If you keep saying no, if you have a, like a

755
01:10:23,060 --> 01:10:28,340
legit reason, like, Hey, I'm sorry, I have plans like, or I would love to come next. I usually try

756
01:10:28,340 --> 01:10:33,140
to sell. I'm so sorry. I've had these plans or whatever. I would love, thank you so much for the

757
01:10:33,140 --> 01:10:37,220
invite. I would love to come again. If somebody's just like, no, I can't come. I have plans, but

758
01:10:37,220 --> 01:10:43,540
like literally don't keep me. I know I've said no for the past two or three times, but like, don't

759
01:10:43,540 --> 01:10:48,740
not invite me the next time. I hate that. I completely went through that with Jessica at one

760
01:10:48,740 --> 01:10:54,500
point, like several, several years ago now. But I, you know, spent a lot of time with Melanie

761
01:10:54,500 --> 01:10:59,060
because we lived, you know, in buildings right next to each other and it was, you know, convenient,

762
01:10:59,060 --> 01:11:03,380
but we also have a lot of fun together. And so we spent a lot of time together and it came down to,

763
01:11:03,380 --> 01:11:09,140
you know, me not getting invited to something eventually to be like, what the fuck Jess? And

764
01:11:09,140 --> 01:11:13,540
she was like, you're not going to come anyways. And it really, like, it made me put things into

765
01:11:13,540 --> 01:11:17,300
perspective and I had to think about the decisions that I was making and I didn't realize how it was

766
01:11:17,300 --> 01:11:24,020
affecting other people. Well, that's exactly. Yes. And that's why I'm always like, no, like when I do

767
01:11:24,020 --> 01:11:29,780
this is if I say no to this, if I don't go to supper club, are they going to be like, you know,

768
01:11:30,820 --> 01:11:35,700
oh, I'm going to come to supper club or yeah, it's not supper club is just an example, but like

769
01:11:35,700 --> 01:11:41,780
really it's like, anytime you do anything, people are, if, especially if you miss multiple chances

770
01:11:41,780 --> 01:11:45,940
to go, they're going to be like, well, she doesn't want to hang out with us. Yeah. So let's not invite

771
01:11:45,940 --> 01:11:51,700
her anymore. Yeah. And which is completely understandable. I think the only, you know, ask

772
01:11:51,700 --> 01:11:56,420
that I, you know, would have had in that moment is like to have a conversation instead of just like,

773
01:11:56,420 --> 01:12:02,660
you know, not sending the invite anymore, but I completely understood why. Right. Well, but like

774
01:12:02,660 --> 01:12:06,740
what kind of conversation would you think that somebody would need to have? Like, I mean, I think

775
01:12:06,740 --> 01:12:10,740
it would have been fair to be like, Hey, just so you know, like folks don't really want to invite

776
01:12:10,740 --> 01:12:14,500
you anymore. Cause you always say no. Really? You would want somebody to have that conversation

777
01:12:14,500 --> 01:12:20,100
with you? Yeah. Why not? I would never do that. I wouldn't be like, I wouldn't be like,

778
01:12:20,100 --> 01:12:24,660
Hey, people aren't inviting you. Cause you always say no. Like I would just be like, obviously

779
01:12:24,660 --> 01:12:31,860
figure, figure it out. Like, then you're assuming that they know and they understand why. Yeah. But

780
01:12:31,860 --> 01:12:37,620
like I, that it's not my, if I were to be like, if somebody were to be like, Hey, why didn't I get

781
01:12:37,620 --> 01:12:41,540
invited? I'd be like, well, because I didn't think you were going to come. If it were something that

782
01:12:41,540 --> 01:12:46,980
I could do the inviting to for something that I was able to invite, like sometimes I get invited

783
01:12:46,980 --> 01:12:51,300
to things and I'm not allowed to invite somebody to that thing. But like, if other people, if you're

784
01:12:51,300 --> 01:12:54,900
not getting invited to somebody else's things, I don't know. That's not, that's nothing to do

785
01:12:54,900 --> 01:13:00,500
with me and that person. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, that was more so in reference to like group things.

786
01:13:00,500 --> 01:13:06,820
Right. Well, I think it depends on how close you are with somebody too. Like, yeah, I don't know.

787
01:13:06,820 --> 01:13:13,780
I would never go to like the person we're talking about, but the supper club and be like, Hey, um,

788
01:13:13,780 --> 01:13:19,380
by the way, nobody wants to invite you into anything because you don't show up to supper club.

789
01:13:21,860 --> 01:13:27,300
You know what I mean? No, I get it. I'm, but I mean, I'm, that's why I'm like Jessica and I were

790
01:13:27,300 --> 01:13:31,060
close enough to have that conversation. Right. I'm not saying that she was in the wrong in any

791
01:13:31,060 --> 01:13:36,500
capacity. Like I'm saying, I wish that it had like happened differently, but I mean, it remedied

792
01:13:36,500 --> 01:13:41,620
itself very quickly. I learned, I had to show the fuck up and not be such an asshole. Like,

793
01:13:41,620 --> 01:13:45,460
only hang out with Melanie. Well, yeah. I mean, like if you want to have friends, you need to

794
01:13:45,460 --> 01:13:52,900
hang out with your friends, you know, that's, that's how it goes though. Yeah. Don't, yeah.

795
01:13:52,900 --> 01:13:59,220
Don't be, I don't know. You can, you can be friends with Melanie too though. And just like

796
01:13:59,220 --> 01:14:03,540
hang out with Melanie, but like, you know, or hang out with everybody. And I hate that. That sucks.

797
01:14:03,540 --> 01:14:09,540
It's like decisions, decisions, decisions. Yeah. Lord have mercy. So what do you got, what do you

798
01:14:09,540 --> 01:14:17,140
got? What kind of decisions do you guys make on a daily basis? Email us and let us know.

799
01:14:18,100 --> 01:14:23,780
Give us some examples and tell us the decisions that you hate making or love making. Who knows?

800
01:14:23,780 --> 01:14:34,500
Whichever one you can find us on Instagram at thick AF podcast podcast podcast at gmail.com. Wait,

801
01:14:34,500 --> 01:14:39,620
no, that was that. That's the Gmail. I'm just kidding. I'm going to shut up and let you,

802
01:14:39,620 --> 01:14:45,220
I'm going to make, I'm going to make a decision here. Like Emily said, you can shoot us an email

803
01:14:45,220 --> 01:15:05,540
at thick AF podcast at gmail.com. Bye. Bye.

804
01:15:15,220 --> 01:15:17,540
Bye.

805
01:15:19,780 --> 01:15:23,540
ABCDEFG, I have to go.

806
01:15:23,540 --> 01:15:41,060
I don't know why it's so good.